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  • čas přidán 16. 08. 2024
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    Welcome to another deep dive where we tackle the riveting reality of China's leftover women. This term may be new to some of you, but China leftover women refer to an emerging group of professional ladies who remain unmarried beyond the conventional age.
    Our exploration takes us deep into the heart of China's cities, suburbs, and rural areas. We delve into the lives and stories of "China single ladies", showcasing their strength, resilience, and determination. Despite societal pressures and the stigma around being part of the China leftover womem, these women continue to redefine their lives in unique ways.
    We've researched heavily, with information pulled from various credible sources to provide you with a well-rounded, factual perspective. This topic, as much as it is about the China single ladies, is also a reflection on the societal structures and norms that feed into the so-called "China marriage market".
    Even though we've done our best to provide comprehensive coverage, the topic of "China leftover women" and "China marriage market" is far more complex than what a single video can cover. That's why we've included additional resources in the description below.
    TIME
    00:00 - Leftover Women China
    00:32 - Why Leftover Women In China?
    01:42 - Deep Roots China Dating
    03:34 - The Reality of Leftover Women
    05:12 - Marriage Market In China
    06:34 - Dating Industry Thrive in China
    07:28 - Future of Chinas Leftover Women
    These will further elaborate on the nuances and micro realities within the larger China single ladies narrative.
    We hope this video helps you understand the unique struggles and triumphs of the China leftover women. The aim is not only to provide an understanding of the China marriage market but also to ignite a conversation that could lead to more societal understanding.
    Sources and additional information:
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    • Marriage Market in Cho...
    • Are Chinese Women REAL...
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    • China Pushes For More ...
    • China's Unmarried 'Lef...
    • China's Leftover Women
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  • @OwlofAsia
    @OwlofAsia  Před 16 dny +1

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  • @MrMooCow199
    @MrMooCow199 Před rokem +3883

    "There is a societal preference in China for younger brides...typically women in their 20's".
    No shit...it's not a Chinese preference. It is a species preference.

    • @JosephCee
      @JosephCee Před rokem +546

      True, but all he was saying is that Chinese men aren't afraid to say it out loud. Unlike in the US where men aren't allowed to have preferences cuz once they do they're "misogynistic" and "creeps".

    • @seymorefact4333
      @seymorefact4333 Před rokem +161

      🤣😂THERES A LOT OF SINGLE WOMEN IN THE USA ....WORSE WITH CHILDREN. MY TEAM of 10 women....7 are single in their 30's. 4 of 7 have 2 kids and SINGLE. MEN IN USA ARE SINGLE TOO.

    • @LucasFernandez-fk8se
      @LucasFernandez-fk8se Před rokem

      @@seymorefact4333it’s less bad in the US because we have a degenerate culture of single motherhood. China they made it illegal to be a single mother so they have an even lower birth rate. In the US many single moms get welfare and child support so they deliberately have children as a “job” and use that to afford living. This raises our birthrate

    • @lancewood1410
      @lancewood1410 Před rokem

      but in western countries their men prefer to wed 4o year old + fat whales :)

    • @francoislechanceux5818
      @francoislechanceux5818 Před rokem +39

      Do you have to be vulgar to make a point?

  • @ITAPTF240
    @ITAPTF240 Před rokem +2938

    You missed a couple things: 1) Chinese women have become more selective and less interested in marriage. 2) Chinese women also hold most of the debt in their country. 3) Chinese parents mostly depend on their children as their retirement plan and a good marriage ensures a good retirement.

    • @earthbind83
      @earthbind83 Před rokem +73

      They didn't miss 3), only 1) and 2).

    • @icosthop9998
      @icosthop9998 Před rokem +9

      ​@@earthbind83 yep

    • @algung2522
      @algung2522 Před rokem +25

      You are right. 🎯🎯🎯 you hit the bull's eyes .

    • @NoirMorter
      @NoirMorter Před rokem +101

      Sound similar to what's happening State side in many ways.

    • @wendyshoowaiching4161
      @wendyshoowaiching4161 Před rokem +34

      Wrongful thinking will made life very hard dependant on childrens for retirement. One must built up own retirement fund not dependant on childrens so irresponsible act will suffered greatly in old age if childrens have their own family to sustain and can't sustain elderly will be a very bad retirement plan

  • @stevegilbert8486
    @stevegilbert8486 Před 11 měsíci +80

    I've read that Japan has a lot of older single women also. The reason is that Japanese culture wants women to quit their jobs after getting married and take care of the husbands parents.
    Duh, lots of successful women said "No thank you" and are choosing to remain single.

    • @maxxomega6599
      @maxxomega6599 Před 10 měsíci +13

      Good for the women. Who wants to be expected to look after kids and sick old people too...

    • @TheQuietOne937
      @TheQuietOne937 Před 4 měsíci +4

      And dying homeless in parks...

    • @Devi_Seona
      @Devi_Seona Před 3 měsíci +3

      I guess you have seen that in red pills channels, because in China or in Japan men are the left over not women….. like everywhere else in the world actually

    • @ayunamatsuda3481
      @ayunamatsuda3481 Před 3 měsíci

      Who's dying in parks?​@@TheQuietOne937

    • @aliendroid1
      @aliendroid1 Před 2 měsíci

      No No no. More feminist propaganda. No. Japanese women want to quit their jobs and become stay at home moms. That is the reality. Not many men want to take on the task of financially supporting a woman and children. So again. No it's not the women empowerment, they have poor options because men there are not able to start a family. Any guy can go to Japan and find a woman, romance her if he treats her nice she will agree to be his girlfriend then offer a ring and support and she will jump on the opportunity.

  • @lisabaltzer4190
    @lisabaltzer4190 Před 10 měsíci +158

    I am a widow who is choosing to remain single. No other man would measure up to my late husband in my eyes and I simply don’t want anybody else. I also don’t want in laws. That was the only complaint I had about being married. A year ago, I “married” 2 basset hound puppies and will leave it at that. I will be reunited with my husband after I die.

    • @MohamedAli-hl8kz
      @MohamedAli-hl8kz Před 9 měsíci +4

      If you really want to be reunited with your husband then consider Islam.

    • @lisabaltzer4190
      @lisabaltzer4190 Před 9 měsíci +29

      @@MohamedAli-hl8kz I am a fundamentalist Christian and plan to stay one, but I know you gave me that advice as a kind gesture.

    • @MohamedAli-hl8kz
      @MohamedAli-hl8kz Před 9 měsíci

      @@lisabaltzer4190I’m glad you got the gesture. each to their own

    • @External2737
      @External2737 Před 9 měsíci +9

      You are a widow. Many remain faithful for life. Kudos to you.

    • @briannadickson2884
      @briannadickson2884 Před 9 měsíci

      ​@MohamedAli-hl8kz go to gell with your islam

  • @leilanigreenwood5064
    @leilanigreenwood5064 Před rokem +3568

    Wait a minute. Didn't they do documentaries about how there was a shortage of marriageable women due to the one child policy years ago?

    • @fkscopes
      @fkscopes Před rokem +624

      Yeah money are just picky, I think there is something like 50 more million men then women in China. The fact that's actually impossible for all the men to have a girlfriend isn't a problem but women being way too choosy is, smh

    • @my_pronoun_is_your_excellency
      @my_pronoun_is_your_excellency Před rokem +401

      A shortage of women in rural areas, a surplus of women in urban cities

    • @Observer168
      @Observer168 Před rokem +274

      This make women very picky. You can’t get married in China without owning property and a good job.

    • @abcxyz6606
      @abcxyz6606 Před rokem +1

      It's Typical Cringe Lame AntiChina Propangda. AntiChina Tools always Lie, Distort, Project, Spin everything to slander China.

    • @johnwxyz3395
      @johnwxyz3395 Před rokem +193

      They want a six foot tall zaddy.

  • @FellTreeZ
    @FellTreeZ Před rokem +4565

    Willing to bet they're holding out for guys far above their level and not wanting to settle

    • @CasaFassa
      @CasaFassa Před rokem +674

      i live in China. I had a tinder match immediately ask my height.

    • @justacutie5201
      @justacutie5201 Před rokem +476

      Good!!! Why should they settle?

    • @CasaFassa
      @CasaFassa Před rokem +933

      @@justacutie5201 Good, no one should settle. Keep looking for something better! It's always waiting just around the corner. You have all the time in the world!

    • @mariahewitt9787
      @mariahewitt9787 Před rokem +98

      Maybe even for Western Men, so they can escape China?

    • @jacobnebel7282
      @jacobnebel7282 Před rokem +650

      @@justacutie5201 Settle means to be realistic in this context. They feel they deserve a sports car when they have the budget for a used sedan. They can either go without a car forever, or "settle" for a car they can afford.

  • @hydrohasspoken6227
    @hydrohasspoken6227 Před 9 měsíci +100

    They are not single. They are independent, stunning and... brave.

    • @BalboaBaggins
      @BalboaBaggins Před 9 měsíci +22

      And cat owners.

    • @shin-ishikiri-no
      @shin-ishikiri-no Před 8 měsíci +2

      lol

    • @bune1035
      @bune1035 Před 7 měsíci +2

      Better than being in a bad relationship.
      Priorities in life: good partner > cat life > job life > bad partner.

    • @sebastiangeorge7714
      @sebastiangeorge7714 Před 5 měsíci +2

      and Single

    • @RA-ms3je
      @RA-ms3je Před 4 měsíci

      ​@@BalboaBagginsbetter a cat than a full grown man for you to serve. Imagine no free domestic labour,child care and sex labour and PEACE.
      PLEASE give me 50 cats

  • @nishantaadi
    @nishantaadi Před 9 měsíci +40

    Same in India, despite I have good job, manner etc I am keep getting rejected by girl and parents due to look, money and status. So finally told my family I want to be single. Now earn for myself, spend on myself and improve myself.

    • @nandini2282
      @nandini2282 Před 9 měsíci +5

      don't worry sir if your good person you will get beautiful kind girl

    • @paysmenot2624
      @paysmenot2624 Před 9 měsíci

      Same here man. Can't keep up with expectations.even Unemployed lower middle class girls are demanding 10 lpa. Might as well convert to the "other" religion at this point.

    • @ScissorN
      @ScissorN Před 9 měsíci +1

      Go to the gym start working out , change your hair work on confidents

    • @nishantaadi
      @nishantaadi Před 9 měsíci +1

      @@ScissorN Appeasing women is not my goal, enjoying myself and feel proud on myself is.

    • @shin-ishikiri-no
      @shin-ishikiri-no Před 8 měsíci +3

      @@nandini2282 Could I get more Cope in my curry please sir?

  • @whenyouknowbetter3451
    @whenyouknowbetter3451 Před rokem +1843

    Why would any man choose a woman that only cares about his money? That is not a wife.

    • @JEFFMAN90
      @JEFFMAN90 Před rokem

      Exactly they're prostitutes

    • @handyearly3653
      @handyearly3653 Před rokem +265

      Like most women🤷🏼‍♂️

    • @map3384
      @map3384 Před rokem +137

      And men know it well.

    • @tshaolin971
      @tshaolin971 Před rokem +144

      They are gold diggers indeed.

    • @dw4956
      @dw4956 Před rokem +64

      #briffaultslaw Its natural law with very few exeptions.

  • @OA9898
    @OA9898 Před rokem +1148

    I am a Chinese, male, 28, at my age, my parents will continuously urge me to find a girlfriend and get married. Although I actually wanted to find a decent girl but my pocket doesn't allow me to do so. Dating, eating out, buying gifts, travelling and all kinds of expenses will drive me crazy. Due to the current troubling economics in China, my business in Shanghai can barely support 2 person's life. Besides my part of the issue, the general social environment is in favour of girls, talking about marriage, as a man, you need to prepare the car, the "cai li" which is bridge price in English, and even the real estate. If I will pay all of these by myself, that means my marriage will = millions of debt for half of my life. This is absolutely not the life I wanted!!! So, keep calm and stay single🐶

    • @lincr.1988
      @lincr.1988 Před rokem +42

      I've heard that your government is desperate to try to fix this situation that they themselves created with that one kid policy. Now your population is getting older and older, and therefore decreasing in an alarming rate, and yet as you said the wound goes much deeper and trying to treat the symptoms won't heal the disease.

    • @GermanTaffer
      @GermanTaffer Před 11 měsíci +55

      Good story. Improve yourself further , and if you are powerful enough you can afford a woman, if you wish. Though, don't expect to have an easier life.
      You have a easier healthier life if you stay alone.

    • @OA9898
      @OA9898 Před 11 měsíci +48

      True, the birth rate is decreasing in an alarming ratio. The primary factor I believe is the cost of living, as I mentioned earlier, marriage, and raising a child will drain parents' savings quickly. Even in the 1st tier cities, the real average wage is still quite low compared with the mortgage price.
      Giving SH as an example, normally I earn 12k a month, housing cost me 3,5K, the loan of my car is about 3.7K, fuel 1.2K, food 2K etc, so at the end of the month, I don't have any savings left. If I have a girlfriend, my cost can only increase dramatically, not to mention to have a baby. About the mortgage price, a 100 square meter apartment in the place where I am living is about 7-10 million RMB, simply unreachable for me. Many young generations are facing the same challenge as mine.
      @@lincr.1988

    • @OA9898
      @OA9898 Před 11 měsíci

      When I was young I always had faith in my future that one day I would be successful. In the end, I was beaten up by the reality, I am no more than an ordinary person.😂 @@GermanTaffer

    • @24434-Allah
      @24434-Allah Před 11 měsíci +24

      How are you able to use CZcams in China?

  • @DanielleGriffith-pi1vs
    @DanielleGriffith-pi1vs Před 11 měsíci +57

    i find it refreshing that this woman first acknowledges the privilege of being perceived as universally attractive when answering the question about how people treat her in both cultures. being perceived as DESIRABLE in multiple regions of the world is HUGE flex.
    I wish i could say the same

    • @spartanx169x
      @spartanx169x Před 9 měsíci +2

      Anybody man or woman can transform into being desirable in this day and age. But it does not come easy and it does not come cheap. But what you DO have to do is make an honest assessment about yourself and then be dedicated to a new goal. IF you are overweight? Get serious about and exercise and diet plan and LOSE Weight. If your teeth are yellow and crooked, you can get that fixed. IF you are a woman with short hair, grow it out. I could go on and on. Don't complain about your situation. Do something about it. Nobody is going to fix yourself but you.

    • @ntal5859
      @ntal5859 Před 9 měsíci

      I am sure there is some eastern European s3x trafficking animals out there that would desire you. Lmao

    • @jahjoeka
      @jahjoeka Před 9 měsíci

      You are

    • @gvis8217
      @gvis8217 Před 7 měsíci

      @@spartanx169x no you can't ass hat, when you are short you cant become taller and you cant beciome a super model with severe burning wounds in your face.

  • @patronus5855
    @patronus5855 Před 11 měsíci +170

    I think this is about to become an issue in the US as well. The dating industry failed, well not only failed but made dating more difficult beyond hook ups in the US. Already starting to see the signs of it and it really falls at the feet of social media.

    • @ma3stro681
      @ma3stro681 Před 11 měsíci +41

      It all began with feminism …

    • @pear-zq1uj
      @pear-zq1uj Před 10 měsíci +37

      no wonder ancient societies restricted women so much, when you give them sexual freedom, the entire system collapses 🤷‍♀

    • @volvodude101
      @volvodude101 Před 10 měsíci +7

      @@ma3stro681 hmmmmmm, I wonder who invented feminism and why?

    • @amy2089
      @amy2089 Před 9 měsíci +28

      Maybe this system sucks and we need to revisit marriage holistically. Human population is doing more than fine. Being a single woman is better than being an unhappy wife - this is a problem

    • @patronus5855
      @patronus5855 Před 9 měsíci

      I dont think youre going to find very many things to watch on youtube and tictoc about wear are all the good women and why dont women want to get married by guys dreaming of becoming married. Marriage doesnt carry any benefits for a guy, none.@@amy2089

  • @livinggood6876
    @livinggood6876 Před rokem +889

    Singlehood is better than low quality marriage, love that!

    • @fredkangethe7497
      @fredkangethe7497 Před rokem +52

      Continue lying to yourself

    • @odelekevictor3895
      @odelekevictor3895 Před rokem +14

      Older wise people will debate other wise. It's troubling that people liked and thought this view sane.
      The bible says it's not good for a man to be alone...and by experience I know the Bible is true.

    • @Benjamin-mx1vf
      @Benjamin-mx1vf Před rokem +8

      True.... for guys

    • @automatic5
      @automatic5 Před rokem +121

      women, dont let men shame you into coupling with them. never settle for trash. get steak, not shrimp.

    • @SuperAnimecity
      @SuperAnimecity Před rokem

      We will 😁@@fredkangethe7497

  • @Guildofarcanelore
    @Guildofarcanelore Před rokem +954

    I lived in China for several years.
    Male foreign teachers had a great deal of interest. Female foreign teachers got no interest and dated other foreign teachers.
    There was A LOT of pressure to get married before 25.

    • @jonihonkala1193
      @jonihonkala1193 Před rokem

      Chinese are well aware of human biology the reason for marriage before 25 is to put babies in the bakery when the oven is still actually working. Unlike the mentally handicapped gymnastic westerners that think they can defy their own body's nature. Above 35 geriatric babies become really an issue.

    • @DIMP11
      @DIMP11 Před rokem

      Maybe Chinese men show "no interest" in foreign women because they know already the feeling is mutual. I live in Bermuda and have lived in the past in Canada and both white and black women say Indian, Chinese and Southeast Asia men have no sex appeal. Even westernized Indian and Chinese women don't like Asian men.

    • @leonardoaguilerahonduras2067
      @leonardoaguilerahonduras2067 Před rokem +73

      It’s incredible but it’s real, Male has less opportunities but whe are finding the way to have a better life without woman, fortunately exist Vietnamese girls who are the most amazing lovers in the world

    • @Guildofarcanelore
      @Guildofarcanelore Před rokem +17

      @@leonardoaguilerahonduras2067 Vietnam is a place I would like to find a teaching position.

    • @MickeyMishra
      @MickeyMishra Před rokem +52

      @@Guildofarcanelore Never heard of THAT position. 😅

  • @TimothyKim1221
    @TimothyKim1221 Před 11 měsíci +199

    Overall, this is a developed world problem. Marriage has lost its worth to individual men and women in developed countries, and individuals benefit quite a bit by staying single. The losers in all this are everyone else (children's parents, daycare industry, education, government, companies etc). It will take a catastrophic event for this thinking to change.

    • @Zincoshine-
      @Zincoshine- Před 9 měsíci +4

      that event is coming in a year.

    • @fisterhr
      @fisterhr Před 9 měsíci +3

      @@Zincoshine- What event?

    • @p.k.5332
      @p.k.5332 Před 9 měsíci +14

      this is everywhere. not just a developed world thing.

    • @soujemn5
      @soujemn5 Před 9 měsíci +20

      Literally everything becomes more affordable with a second source of income in the US. Life becomes insanely better with a partner.
      The problem that has occurred is this strange and sick obsession with trying to make women more successful than men. Anyone who understands how human nature, specifically female psychology, works knows this kills heterosexual relationships. Unfortunately between the willfully ignorant and the malicious actors this problem is continuing to grow.

    • @scottgrohs5940
      @scottgrohs5940 Před 9 měsíci +13

      Well, speaking as a heterosexual modern man, I wouldn’t care if my woman made more money than me as long as it didn’t impact our relationship and mutual respect.

  • @ernestestrada2461
    @ernestestrada2461 Před 9 měsíci +70

    From what I understand, there is very little protection for women against abuse in Chinese society.
    It may be a contributor to why some women do not want to get married losing their voice to a dominating spouse.
    The many Asian couples I know, there is a definite give and take and often the women push the men to be more successful.

    • @BalboaBaggins
      @BalboaBaggins Před 9 měsíci +4

      A lot more protection for women than for men.

    • @ernestestrada2461
      @ernestestrada2461 Před 9 měsíci

      @@BalboaBaggins in China wants a woman is married. They are considered property of their husband.
      Domestic violence is almost never prosecuted even when they're not married and it's just a boyfriend.

    • @KintokiSensei
      @KintokiSensei Před 9 měsíci +17

      Unpopular view, in-law problems are pretty rampant in Chinese society. The eldest son is expected to stay with parents, no such thing as moving out. 妈宝, or the Oedipal son (sorry lack of term) is relatively tolerated. The wife is somewhat of a servant to the husband and his parents in a way. So regarding protection for women against this kind of culture, there’s none.

    • @jackmoore337
      @jackmoore337 Před 7 měsíci

      ​@@BalboaBagginsBullshit. Men are always more protected than women

  • @johnpenn74
    @johnpenn74 Před rokem +565

    Dated a Chinese girl from Beijing for 5 years. At the end of the day she chose her career as a teacher and family over our relationship.

    • @brucesanborn492
      @brucesanborn492 Před rokem +52

      Sorry it didn't work out for you. I can tell you as someone who spend a lot of time in China that another factor being she just didn't want to leave her beloved country and family. I married a gal from Northern China but to her coming to America with me was an opportunity. We have been married for 12 years so situations in life have a lot to do with what they want to do.

    • @Network126
      @Network126 Před rokem +90

      I get rejected by 35 and even 40 year old Chinese women on dating apps just because I'm poor.. 😒

    • @MickeyMishra
      @MickeyMishra Před rokem +51

      You saved yourself a lot of headache. Enjoy being a Bachelor!

    • @D0x1511af
      @D0x1511af Před rokem

      feminism are global virus influenza not only infect American women

    • @psychotic_lovers9281
      @psychotic_lovers9281 Před rokem +63

      Good for her!

  • @Valhalla_Heathen
    @Valhalla_Heathen Před rokem +621

    The problem with these women is that if you’re not rich they won’t look your way.

  • @mikemecklenborg5412
    @mikemecklenborg5412 Před 11 měsíci +19

    We have the same problem in American but we just call them single-mothers!!!

  • @johnballard6725
    @johnballard6725 Před 9 měsíci +17

    It's insulting for the chinese government or anyone else for that matter calling them "leftover women".

  • @Tehstampede
    @Tehstampede Před rokem +433

    I have a very hard time believing that men are refusing to pursue these women; something else is going on here.

    • @dianefleming9765
      @dianefleming9765 Před rokem

      Chinese women only want a man with a property, a car and a job with a specified salary level. Hence left over men and women.

    • @Observer168
      @Observer168 Před rokem

      These women are very picky with very little to offer.

    • @user-bp2fo4be6p
      @user-bp2fo4be6p Před rokem +1

      The Chinese males did it to themselves, they aborted female foetus, now all the women in the world are going after long Chinese dl.çks😂 karma

    • @torstimyle1355
      @torstimyle1355 Před rokem +54

      Leftovers are not always preference. Ain't like we value leftover food that much.

    • @dianefleming9765
      @dianefleming9765 Před rokem +75

      @@torstimyle1355 I LOVE left over foods. The flavours have had time to meld.

  • @tmmckee
    @tmmckee Před rokem +417

    I just lived in China for 3 years due to my husband's job. They had just criminalized domestic violence over there. Husbands beat the shit out of their wives and I knew many women who didn't want to get married at all. DV has only been criminalized for a few years now. I learned that there is a lot of domestic abuse behind closed doors there.

    • @Lrasm13
      @Lrasm13 Před rokem +96

      Yes....and rich men do the same to their house maids....no wonder Chinese women don't want to settle....I've heard horror stories about foreign maids , ra9ed and murdered by han chin

    • @1439315
      @1439315 Před rokem

      in amerika many fee...males beat the hell out of the man via divorce court rape.

    • @Bambisgf77
      @Bambisgf77 Před rokem +53

      Wow! This I did not know! Only recently criminalized? Why would any woman sign up for that? 😮😢

    • @1439315
      @1439315 Před rokem +5

      @@Bambisgf77 martial arts class are important. . .maximin non verbal communication is a priority. . .

    • @churblefurbles
      @churblefurbles Před rokem

      Color purple stories told by the most dysfunctional, don't pretend the past was every woman with a black eye.

  • @Paleorunner2
    @Paleorunner2 Před 9 měsíci +19

    I will never understand why the kids go through with a marriage they don't want.

  • @p0ck3tp3ar
    @p0ck3tp3ar Před 9 měsíci +12

    Long story short, I fell in love with a Chinese girl I met online about 14 years ago. She was beautiful, charming, intelligent, charismatic. The perfect girl. We got engaged. However, it did not end well. She was very insistent that I get a normal job (I was a professional poker player) and when I said no, I did not realize that would be the end. After that I became so disgruntled with dating that I just gave up. It became too much work, too expensive, and I lost a lot of trust. I have been happily single for 14 years and at this point I pretty much avoid girls so I can prevent myself from dating or getting into a relationship. I have found solitude and happiness alone and my finances are much better.

    • @asherslife9400
      @asherslife9400 Před 4 měsíci +4

      that just means you dont have a job and on top of that a gambler. Thats why she left

    • @MatthewLim2019
      @MatthewLim2019 Před měsícem

      Never ever date a 🐶 eater

  • @anthonykeller5120
    @anthonykeller5120 Před rokem +458

    One of the problems very few commentators discuss is the difference between Chinese culture’s dependence on large families versus the current issues caused by China’s population implosion. The current cohort leaving college has no aunts or uncles or cousins. The men in this cohort are the last link to the family name. Once of the current issues China’s parents face is their son telling them they will not marry and the family will die with them.

    • @sarahnachtrose
      @sarahnachtrose Před rokem +52

      Indeed.
      That's probably the reason why the video with the people being threatened by the C.Police: "If you don't do what we say, your children and grandchildren will suffer from it." And the answer to that was, "We're the last generation."
      It's just such a strong statement. Especially in connection with your statement.
      czcams.com/video/gJUmcmKwMcI/video.html

    • @peterkilbridge6523
      @peterkilbridge6523 Před rokem +21

      Advise them to convert to Buddhism. "Everything is impermanent. Don't cling to things which are impermanent." Then, there is no problem. People make problems by thinking.

    • @manfunny917
      @manfunny917 Před rokem

      Thats why government decided to limit gaming, and crack down on extra tuition. Many people still have this kind of thinking but its understandable. Young people are tired, however its not a problem cant be solved. Actually majority of Chinese still prefer have a family. More people actually seeing the problem now and how impossible it is. In the future, they might go to the villages and see how much they have been missing. At least CZcams is banned there, I find most western sites are full of cruel trolls that targeting Chinese just because they are an easy target with noone back them up.

    • @JohnJBrowne11209
      @JohnJBrowne11209 Před rokem +23

      Imagine the devastation a ChiCom invasion of Taiwan would cause for the PRC. Tens of thousands of sons of the one child policy, their parents support network, dying on the beaches of Taiwan

    • @peterkilbridge6523
      @peterkilbridge6523 Před rokem

      @@JohnJBrowne11209 The honorable tea leaves that I read suggest that such an invasion would be more like the Anschluss. I think the Taiwanese are just buying time at this point and will acquiesce to The Inevitable when the last grain of sand runs through their ⏳ hourglass.

  • @lavane6943
    @lavane6943 Před 11 měsíci +134

    For centuries, being wife, mother, housewife was considerated as a second hand citizenship. Women were mistreated, beaten up, and so.
    If society would have appreciate and value women for their great contribution to sustain the most important pilar "FAMILY", this shit would have never happened.

    • @tarablue4472
      @tarablue4472 Před 11 měsíci

      This is what these commenters are not getting, they spew their hate of women here and can you blame women for wanting them.
      Some of us know how our great-grandmothers lived and don't want that. Finally women have an ALTERNATIVE to marriage, careers. With financial independence women are now freed from the shackles of marriage. It's the single men who are taking it hard, no ready access to sex for them. This topic should be more appropriately titled a single men's crisis. Because that's a bigger crisis. Single men are disproportionately the mass murderers.

    • @abhishek0o7
      @abhishek0o7 Před 9 měsíci

      True.. stupid old folks

    • @sweetsoul3169
      @sweetsoul3169 Před 7 měsíci +31

      The reality that a lot of men dont want to face

    • @M3DIT4TE
      @M3DIT4TE Před 7 měsíci

      There's another reality that a lot of women don't want to face. Women are abusive as well. Lets stop pretending that women never instigate abusive situations. In fact, I personally know several women who physically abused their boyfriends when they don't get what they want.

    • @purplepotato8849
      @purplepotato8849 Před 7 měsíci +20

      Exactly. Maybe women want to *shocker* pursue their own interests and careers, instead of being cleaners and baby machines now. It's almost like we're people too.

  • @Hannah-pc7hg
    @Hannah-pc7hg Před 11 měsíci +42

    I would be really angry if my parents put out any of my personal info out in public like that.
    Many of these singles probably don’t even want to get married. Neighter the men nor the women. That doesn’t mean it’s something wrong with them.

  • @kennetharntson5912
    @kennetharntson5912 Před 8 měsíci +5

    First, I am an American, I live in Thailand and my wife is Thai Chinese. What I learned was the Thai Chinese women when married then belongs to her new husbands family kind of like a new daughter to the family since her husband is responsible to his parents and he will also will inherit all of his parents wealth once they die. Second, in Thailand and I am assuming also in China that a Chinese woman that has a college education will not marry a many below her since he will not be able to make the money she does and also the man will still be responsible for his family and if they are poor farmers she will have to support his family also and that may be why there are not many educated Chinese women in the countryside. I noticed here in Thailand that there are many college educated Thai women that are single since they cannot find a college educated Thai man to marry since the man is much like any man, he is more interested in the physical attraction than the educational attraction of a Thai woman.
    Having many years in Asia and working for large companies, college educated and single many of the college educated women that worked for these companies were always happy to see me. I never had any problem dating them, just asked them out with a couple of the women's friends the first couple of time and then the girl showed up alone after that. However, I was not interested in marriage and never went past the dinner date since Thailand was full of working girls that could be a lot of fun with no strings attached. I finally married at 51 to a Thai Chinese women with a college degree in Pharmacy. She was very well paid and she basically dedicated her life to me and our son. Aside from her parents calling and asking for advice on health problems the only money my wife gives her parents is a once a year Chinese New Year present of cash that is about one weeks pay. We see her parents 2 to 3 times a year although we live 1 1/2 hour drive from their home, usually to have dinner with them or on our anniversary (now 25 years). My wife has 2 other daughters that did not get married and they support the parents since they are both also have university degrees.

  • @freemagicfun
    @freemagicfun Před rokem +256

    Men outnumber women, rural men cannot find enough women to marry... yet the unmarried women are referred to as "left over". That really says a lot about the Chinese view of a woman's worth.

    • @cruiseny26
      @cruiseny26 Před rokem +116

      Seriously. If the women are choosing not to marry, then wouldn’t the men be the leftovers? So much misogyny. Even in these comments.

    • @krabbykat9918
      @krabbykat9918 Před 11 měsíci +76

      @@cruiseny26 ayo it's the same everywhere XD women are not interested in low quality dudes and opt out of marriage themselves meanwhile dudes will whine and curse them XD

    • @formepvp
      @formepvp Před 11 měsíci +34

      @@cruiseny26 Yeah those women are not leftovers, they can marry if they want since there is an abundance of single men.

    • @jamesharris6368
      @jamesharris6368 Před 11 měsíci +26

      Yes those women are the leftovers because not even those single men want them. Imagine going to the store to buy oranges and there's a whole pile of them but the people in front start feeling and choosing the best ones and by the time it's your turn you get to choose from the ones they didn't want (bruised and soft) oranges....yes the store owner wants you to buy them so he can make money instead of throwing them away, but why are you going to spend your hard earned money on something most people would throw in the compost?

    • @jamesharris6368
      @jamesharris6368 Před 11 měsíci +37

      @@cruiseny26 They want to marry, it's just that the man they want does not want them...women cope by saying stuff like that to mask their pain.

  • @asolaris6470
    @asolaris6470 Před rokem +457

    This is happening in developed countries like the USA, Japan, South Korea, most of Europe, Australia, etc. Developing countries are catching up too. One reason, almost all women have this high ceiling CONDITIONS (e.g.: 666s) and EXPECTATIONS (e.g.: rich) from all men that reality tells otherwise. These women are CONFUSED between conditions and expectations with STANDARDS. Thus, deluding and depriving themselves of good hardworking men. Of course, most men are AWARE of female nature and STOPPED playing their games.

    • @25Soupy
      @25Soupy Před rokem

      I agree with everything you say and I would add the divorce and family court system in all western countries are complete destruction on men. I'm not a betting man, why would I get married where there is a 50% chance of divorce? Those are horrible odds. Western women are insufferable to be around period.

    • @garyzies3486
      @garyzies3486 Před rokem +23

      We have an opportunity to flip the script!

    • @kingangel3252
      @kingangel3252 Před rokem

      This is the Male renaissance . Also know as the apocalypse. When men Check out of the dating market ruin and collapse is sure to follow

    • @seymorefact4333
      @seymorefact4333 Před rokem +14

      🤣😂THERES A LOT OF SINGLE WOMEN IN THE USA ....WORSE WITH CHILDREN. MY TEAM of 10 women....7 are single in their 30's. 4 of 7 have 2 kids and SINGLE. MEN IN USA ARE SINGLE TOO.

    • @francoislechanceux5818
      @francoislechanceux5818 Před rokem

      The West is catching up with markets where women are "sold" by their parents?

  • @somerandomguyfromtheintern480
    @somerandomguyfromtheintern480 Před 11 měsíci +9

    I don't get it. There's a fuck ton of single men in China, so yeah, these women aren't left over....they priced themselves OUT by being picky.

    • @jeannerogers7085
      @jeannerogers7085 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Yes, too picky to live a life as household and family slave.

    • @somerandomguyfromtheintern480
      @somerandomguyfromtheintern480 Před 4 měsíci

      @jeannerogers7085 that's fine and all, then they shouldn't complain and ask for assistance then when they are proud independent like men.....but they do. They won't shut up about it.

    • @LegioXXI
      @LegioXXI Před 9 dny

      @@jeannerogers7085 But it's ok for men to just being a living wallet?

  • @johnnyjrotten59
    @johnnyjrotten59 Před 11 měsíci +50

    I dated a Chinese girl once. After the date she wanted to see my house not to come in just so see what it was worth. I showed her one of my houses - the small one, a lovely little cottage, that I lived in. I did not show her the other six full sized family houses that I rented out to families... LOL I never saw her again, I think that she though that I was too poor..

    • @user-ep3ck5re4o
      @user-ep3ck5re4o Před 9 měsíci

      Bullshitter

    • @eagleready
      @eagleready Před 9 měsíci +12

      I dont think non Chinese girls are any different

    • @Moodboard39
      @Moodboard39 Před 9 měsíci +5

      Don't matter chinesse, black, white,

    • @none2912
      @none2912 Před 8 měsíci +12

      female nature doesn't change

    • @miroperinich2495
      @miroperinich2495 Před 7 měsíci

      Aurora Avenue Seattle | Interesting Street Scenes EP8
      czcams.com/video/aIP1ZQwbZPg/video.html&ab_channel=StreetWatcher

  • @Jamal-jv8yc
    @Jamal-jv8yc Před rokem +169

    There’s a reason why women aren’t prioritising “family” and pushing on with the 12 hour work days. To get away from their parents for one.

    • @alicelong3613
      @alicelong3613 Před rokem +11

      Agree!!!

    • @manifest2203
      @manifest2203 Před rokem +56

      And to escape husbands and in laws and all the unpaid free labor.

    • @tenuksdnbhd
      @tenuksdnbhd Před rokem +20

      @@manifest2203 and then look for pity from rich men to test their luck

    • @yakzivz1104
      @yakzivz1104 Před rokem

      @@tenuksdnbhd patriarchy is what caused women to look for rich men only- now that ideology is backfiring on men.

    • @rh906
      @rh906 Před rokem

      That and fell for the feminist myth of "equality with none of the responsibilities". Oh no, if you don't want to be a woman, you get to be a wage slave with the men. Now you are equal.

  • @moralesjourneyman
    @moralesjourneyman Před rokem +364

    Screw society and its messed up norms. Do whatever makes you happy. Life is already short as it is.

    • @QueenOfTheCoast
      @QueenOfTheCoast Před rokem +17

      Facts

    • @robi6317
      @robi6317 Před rokem +6

      well, not everyone... or anything. not all norms are messed up.

    • @UniDeathRaven
      @UniDeathRaven Před rokem +6

      facts... human life is too short. Humans should live 150 years most minimum.

    • @pinetworkminer8377
      @pinetworkminer8377 Před 11 měsíci +3

      @@robi6317 But Confucian social norms/values are usually messed up(& too outdated) in modern societies

    • @XYZ-bi9eb
      @XYZ-bi9eb Před 11 měsíci +3

      truer words were never spoken. you might as well ignore all this social norm b/s and go out and have a good time. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @EarthAngel504
    @EarthAngel504 Před 4 měsíci +8

    I don't see a crisis. I see a bunch of strong and independent women. They go this. You go girls.

  • @Brentisimo
    @Brentisimo Před rokem +653

    The greater the scarcity of bachelorettes, the more selective they have become.
    The more selective bachelorettes become, the more they price themselves out of the marriage-market.
    It’s a fertility cycle of self-destruction.

    • @seymorefact4333
      @seymorefact4333 Před rokem +38

      🤣😂THERES A LOT OF SINGLE WOMEN IN THE USA ....WORSE WITH CHILDREN. MY TEAM of 10 women....7 are single in their 30's. 4 of 7 have 2 kids and SINGLE. MEN IN USA ARE SINGLE TOO.

    • @sleipnir694
      @sleipnir694 Před rokem +34

      Not batchorettes!!!! ...its Spinsters! 😅

    • @MickeyMishra
      @MickeyMishra Před rokem +11

      Good. They can't even feed what they got already!

    • @borzix1997
      @borzix1997 Před rokem +42

      So what? Many women do not want to get married at all. I for one surely did not want to. It took my husband almost 3 years to convince me otherwise. We've been married for 26 years, so it was a good decision to say yes, after all.

    • @Godfrey544
      @Godfrey544 Před rokem +31

      @@borzix1997 that's not what he's talking about. but congratulations.

  • @maryfrankmusic7385
    @maryfrankmusic7385 Před rokem +297

    There is a dating crisis worldwide. It's happening in the US too. In different forms around the world, less and less people are entering into relationship.

    • @earlysda
      @earlysda Před rokem +39

      Another sign of end times spoken of in the Holy Bible.

    • @fredkangethe7497
      @fredkangethe7497 Před rokem +7

      You better get married now😂

    • @DarkRipper117
      @DarkRipper117 Před rokem

      Well, in the US the downfall began with the feminist movement, at the lowest point they go rid of the original feminists that came up with the whole thing because they didn't wanted to engage in more radical and borderline misandristic tendencies.....nowadays men resent women because of the hateful points of view modern feminism implanted into the minds of "modern women"....now it's making its way to even the most conservative societies or cultures out there.

    • @konstantinrebrov675
      @konstantinrebrov675 Před 11 měsíci

      I only date genuine human souls. There were many non-human souls incarnated into the Earth during the 20th century, which is the cause of all this bizaare behavior.

    • @LDT7Y
      @LDT7Y Před 11 měsíci +8

      The only solution I see now is technology. Either give everyone an AI/robot partner and let humans just be friends and share sperm/eggs when they want kids. OR give people the ability to easily switch their appearance so they can always be their partner’s ideal and then date based on remaining criteria like personality, interests, values.
      Right now we are all still biologically programmed to find certain traits a turn on/turn off. No one has the answer to change this, despite everyone complaining about it (I'd love the ability to choose who I found attractive). But very few people have the traits that people are attracted to. So dating is failing.

  • @bobbysmith270
    @bobbysmith270 Před 7 měsíci +2

    Single Women are Much More Happier than Desperate Daters

  • @aleh3627
    @aleh3627 Před 6 měsíci +3

    to be honest, nowadays women in their late 20s, early 30s and single are very common in large cities. I don't think it's as much a stigma as before.

  • @goodwork887
    @goodwork887 Před rokem +256

    High quality singlehood over low quality marriage sounds like a rational choice. Not everyone gets to have the fairytale of the high quality marriage. Best to accept your best option within reality and not pretend.

    • @KatWoodland
      @KatWoodland Před rokem +10

      You are wise.

    • @ilysaportax33
      @ilysaportax33 Před rokem +49

      yep. This. And men everywhere are upset because women won't choose poor quality marriages with them over peaceful singlehood. lol

    • @LDT7Y
      @LDT7Y Před 11 měsíci +24

      This! My options were an alcoholic, a guy who wanted me to be his mummy and treat him like a 1 year old, a guy who enjoyed hitting/throwing things at me, a man who turned out to be gay, lots of ‘I’ll date you but never marry you’ types, and men who were unattractive to the point where sex was physically painful. Staying single was my best option. I focused on my career and being my own husband instead. I’m not ugly, just not pretty enough for men to commit to when there is free porn, IG gold-diggers and Only Fan girls on demand. I do understand. If I had the option of an AI/robot husband then I doubt I would have bothered trying to find someone. You choose the best option available to you.

    • @tarablue4472
      @tarablue4472 Před 11 měsíci +23

      @@ilysaportax33 The comments in CZcams says it all. With misogyny being spewed by 80% of the male population and high rates of DV I certainly don't regret my peaceful singlehood.

    • @Mytelefe
      @Mytelefe Před 11 měsíci +1

      @@tarablue4472 you are just blinded by your misandry.

  • @christophertryhorn784
    @christophertryhorn784 Před rokem +306

    Feel like the main problem with matchmaking anywhere is many women want rich men and well most of us aren’t rich we are working ourselves half to death simply trying to keep a roof over our heads and pay rent

    • @bigbanknewyork3655
      @bigbanknewyork3655 Před rokem +55

      They want rich AND TALL. That's .0034 of men.

    • @metallooily7606
      @metallooily7606 Před rokem +10

      naurally, you have daughter, surely I wouldn't want her to suffered & slop for life

    • @YouYou-sm8tf
      @YouYou-sm8tf Před rokem +39

      It's normal; women want marriage that benefit them not make them slave too

    • @anastasiab9506
      @anastasiab9506 Před rokem

      and all men want a gorgeous model that makes twice as much as them, cooks, cleans, never speaks and is a freak in bed. So cry harder.

    • @Network126
      @Network126 Před rokem +14

      Yep. I get rejected by 35 and even 40 year old Chinese women on dating apps just because I'm poor.. 😒

  • @blackpowder4016
    @blackpowder4016 Před 11 měsíci +5

    This seems strange since during the one child policy we were told that Chinese families so favored boys that those that could afford it aborted any girls until they got a boy. That led to a huge surplus of boys and a shortage of girls for brides.

    • @Devi_Seona
      @Devi_Seona Před 3 měsíci

      Yes but this doesn’t fit the « it’s the women fault » narrative they really want to push…..

  • @bluewolf1120
    @bluewolf1120 Před 10 měsíci +6

    This was first experienced by Japan in 2009, followed by Korea in 2024, China in 2025, and the United States and Europe in the 2030s.

  • @edthelazyboy
    @edthelazyboy Před rokem +96

    Here what I think is happening:
    Chinese women in their 20s in the beginning gets a lot of attention from guys. She gets very picky and starts to have unrealistic requirements. "The guy needs to be tall, handsome, rich, drive a Lamborghini, wear expensive name brand clothing, owns a nice house, able to be very romantic, will have our first date at a Michelin star restaurant, will buy me a LV handbag ...." 90% of guys around her are invisible to her. Since she can't find her guy, she focuses on her career and works 996. She barely has time to time about anything besides work. She keeps putting off actively finding a guy. She keeps thinking that once she's successful, she will be entitled to those rich and handsome guys.
    She finally celebrates her 30th birthday and starts to realize that her ability to attract guys attention is diminishing. That rich and handsome guy isn't knocking on her door. She is also facing pressure from her parents to start a family. Her parents start to ask around their own network for guys. However, the parents see that their daughter is so accomplished in her career and education so they won't settle for some average dude. So now, they post ads around parks and start to interview prospective guys. Years go by and no guy suitable for her can be found. Each year that goes by, the parents put more pressure on the daughter and ask her to lower her requirements. She finally goes out to ask guys to go on dates. However, the guys are not interested in her. They are all chasing after the girls in their 20s and don't want a leftover "woman" since it will bring shame to him and his family.

    • @Observer168
      @Observer168 Před rokem +10

      There are more men than women but the basic requirement for a man is owning a house and car.

    • @samfeikema9447
      @samfeikema9447 Před rokem +1

      More men overall but not in their age range who are straight, working, and not married. I wasn't even bringing it down by type of industry, height weight and pure/mixed.

    • @miscbits6399
      @miscbits6399 Před rokem +15

      "She finally celebrates her 30th birthday and starts to realize that her ability to attract guys attention is diminishing."
      That's hardly unique to China. Several single friends of mine discovered the same thing in Western countries. At age 40 they find the ability to "pull" in pubs gets a lot harder and any younger women get all the attention instead

    • @Observer168
      @Observer168 Před rokem +4

      @@samfeikema9447 basically don’t meet their standards. First question they ask what your job, if you own real estate and a car

    • @Observer168
      @Observer168 Před rokem +2

      @@miscbits6399 they get use to treated like princesses and now they are just old princesses

  • @jameshathaway5117
    @jameshathaway5117 Před rokem +340

    It's almost as if in any culture men understand the limitations of biology... if you want a family starting with a woman in her 30s isn't the best choice.

    • @seymorefact4333
      @seymorefact4333 Před rokem +22

      🤣😂THERES A LOT OF SINGLE WOMEN IN THE USA ....WORSE WITH CHILDREN. MY TEAM of 10 women....7 are single in their 30's. 4 of 7 have 2 kids and SINGLE. MEN IN USA ARE SINGLE TOO.

    • @MrRezillo
      @MrRezillo Před rokem +17

      @@seymorefact4333 That may be true - but remember, China has a far worse demographic crisis going on, and the consequences are only going to get worse in the coming years.

    • @seymorefact4333
      @seymorefact4333 Před rokem +24

      @winterxx1555 🇺🇸 I have a few friends (old farts) collecting ss. Went to Asia... got some young pus. Left broke! If you have deep pockets... love lasts a bit longer. Like this in every country. "Me love you long time" "no money, no honey".🤣🤣

    • @jellyrolly
      @jellyrolly Před rokem +37

      As if most men are mature enough to be a good husband and a father by age 30

    • @NorCalMtnBiker86
      @NorCalMtnBiker86 Před rokem +9

      @@seymorefact4333 "Me love you long time" "no money, no honey".🤣🤣 That was seriously HILARIOUS!! 😂😂😂

  • @therealgreg5653
    @therealgreg5653 Před 11 měsíci +6

    "the thing used for filling the gap of the stove" This is oddly specific

  • @SuperNovaRider
    @SuperNovaRider Před 11 měsíci +3

    The parents don't try to get their children married due to societal pressure alone.
    Like most things in China, it's simply out of monetary reasons or plainly put, self-interest.
    In the mind of the older generation parents, if the children (mostly women) don't get married, nobody will provide for the parents in the future.

  • @janpierzchala2004
    @janpierzchala2004 Před rokem +74

    Did you mention that there are 50 million more eligible bachelors than potential brides in China which makes men's not women's situation dramatic and sometimes desperate for wife...

    • @castlebarron1788
      @castlebarron1788 Před rokem

      Pull the other one

    • @castlebarron1788
      @castlebarron1788 Před rokem

      @@janpierzchala2004 or is it the women being chooses gold diggers? That seems far more likely to me. Women are women everywhere you go, and women tend to dig for the most gold they think they can and get themselves stuck even farther in the hole after than cut their losses and take what they can get

    • @MelaniaRose
      @MelaniaRose Před rokem +6

      It’s the previous generations that created this problem in the first place

    • @AyAReI00
      @AyAReI00 Před 11 měsíci +27

      Cuz that don't fir their narrative ... It has to be always the women fault

    • @exvex5108
      @exvex5108 Před 9 měsíci

      Men problem is never spoken out loud... its always Womens problem even if its men one.

  • @stevec3526
    @stevec3526 Před rokem +156

    I have a good friend who is European but he lives in the US. He had to work in China a while back. He created a Tinder account. He hit it off with the first woman he met. She studied medicine in France and speaks very good English.
    They married and now live in the US. 8 weeks ago their daughter was born.

    • @alexvig2369
      @alexvig2369 Před rokem

      That's kind of a red flag, if you ask me. Chinese women willing to "settle" for foreigners means that something about them is wrong by Chinese standards.
      Maybe she's a "leftover" or a divorcee...

    • @macbird-lt8de
      @macbird-lt8de Před rokem

      He sounds like an idiot.

    • @ernestkhalimov748
      @ernestkhalimov748 Před rokem +8

      That's Amazing

    • @paulfri1569
      @paulfri1569 Před rokem +6

      Lucky man. Maybe Red China should import Western men??

    • @betallyoungattractive644
      @betallyoungattractive644 Před rokem +18

      Boy, it's great to be White.

  • @ritagreenwood9397
    @ritagreenwood9397 Před 10 měsíci +3

    No disrespect to a cultural tradition, but if it's holding you back, you have to adapt. Concepts like 'carrying on the family name', are just ghosts of the past, and if men only want to date younger women, same rule applies, you have to adapt. All in all though, having to 'market' your children for marriage without their knowledge is awful.

  • @rider2731
    @rider2731 Před 5 měsíci +2

    "Markets full of single women desperately looking for husbands across China". Wow. You took a micro part of their society and blew it completely out of proportion.

  • @bernie4366
    @bernie4366 Před rokem +110

    Just a few years ago they were talking about how China has a woman shortage. Now they have too many?

    • @Zalen88
      @Zalen88 Před rokem

      i saw a documentary about how they were scamming women from other countries, then holding them hostage to marry their sons.

    • @dolomaticus1180
      @dolomaticus1180 Před rokem +1

      Think about it: China's has an imbalance of over 34 million more men than women, yet there is millions of single women who cant find a husband? How you screw that up? Well considering the CCP is involved heavily I am not suprised.

    • @earthbind83
      @earthbind83 Před rokem +54

      No, this video still says that there are 104.7 men per 100 women, so the women shortage is still there. According to this video it's just that a) chinese men seem to be unwilling to date women that are 27+ and that b) career women prefer a happy single life to a bad married life. So China does have both a lot of single women and a women shortage at the same time even though it sounds contradictory.

    • @berndhenkelmann799
      @berndhenkelmann799 Před rokem +31

      @@earthbind83 That means that even more men will never have a chance to marry a woman. Millions and millions are doomed to stay alone until they die.

    • @earthbind83
      @earthbind83 Před rokem +5

      @@berndhenkelmann799 indeed

  • @johnojinmah8357
    @johnojinmah8357 Před rokem +32

    If their males can choose to be single and satisfied with it why can't women do same. Why complain about everything?

  • @seanelgie
    @seanelgie Před 9 měsíci +14

    I heard theres a massive single male crisis in China also, someone should tell these 2 groups about each other.

    • @eliu868
      @eliu868 Před 9 měsíci +3

      That's just the thing - there's a difference in geographical location. The single male crisis is in rural villages, while single women are more often found in cities. Connecting the two is not so easy as there is often a huge geographical distance, cultural norms that restrict them, and regulations that make it tougher to move in China.

    • @balerd
      @balerd Před 6 měsíci

      better not, who wants 2 billion chinese? the nature is taking care of the earth, it’s the survival instincts on the population level

  • @markcochran6719
    @markcochran6719 Před 11 měsíci +4

    I lived there and this is 1000% true. If you're in the countryside it's 22 years of age.

  • @ronaldnorton9454
    @ronaldnorton9454 Před rokem +40

    That’s because a lot of Chinese women don’t want to be married, they have said themselves they would rather be educated with a good career than be in a low quality marriage.

    • @rmercedes971
      @rmercedes971 Před rokem +17

      Makes sense why it’s parents posting the ads and not the women themselves. The title made it sound as if the women were desperately searching, but that doesn’t seem to be the case

    • @macbird-lt8de
      @macbird-lt8de Před rokem

      they are a ho just like everywhere

    • @lisa6356
      @lisa6356 Před rokem +2

      That's what I thought too

    • @GabrielEddy
      @GabrielEddy Před rokem

      They are closet lesbians.

    • @midi6615
      @midi6615 Před rokem +11

      Exactly the video makes it seem like it’s the women that are desperate but it’s just their parents. If you watch other documentaries and videos interviewing Chinese women you’ll see they don’t want to get married lol

  • @torehaaland6921
    @torehaaland6921 Před rokem +355

    Same issue is rapidly emerging in the west. This is definitely going to bring in effects in the next generation.

    • @ernestkhalimov748
      @ernestkhalimov748 Před rokem

      China and Japan is classified as the west,
      This just shows that developed nations always have it the worst.
      Data always indicate EXTREMELY low birth rates in countries where women make alot of money

    • @dblezi
      @dblezi Před rokem +71

      To be more precise mate, this problem emerged in the west due to certain ist movements. With the internet more females abroad have adopted the modernism western broad mindset.

    • @seth7745
      @seth7745 Před rokem +39

      @@dblezi And its the reasons we are pending population collapse. This is why France increased the retirement age. Women don’t want to commit to a nuclear fammilly, and men have no incentive to have children without that. Unless they hire surrogate mothers. But that’s expensive.

    • @MickeyMishra
      @MickeyMishra Před rokem +67

      Good thing men don't have to worry to much. Nobody cares about us anyways.

    • @ernestkhalimov748
      @ernestkhalimov748 Před rokem +24

      @@MickeyMishra fax

  • @jaimetorres9050
    @jaimetorres9050 Před 9 měsíci +10

    I own 2 homes here in America, I have a very nice retirement savings and plan. I have a very good high paying job with amazing benefits.
    But, after my divorce I felt I would not disclose my “wealth” to any woman I dated . I dated many women of different cultures , but Dating Chinese women was a learning experience, they were very quick to ask what I did , how much I earned, what real estate I had and 100% we not happy with the car I drove. The vehicle was a company vehicle which I paid absolutely nothing to drive.
    CHINESE WOMEN WERE ABSOLUTELY THE WORSE WOMEN I HAVE EVER MET. I married a Vietnamese girl and she is the most amazing woman I have ever met, I even mislead her by telling her I was broke and lost everything in my first divorce.
    Today She is treated like a queen and we are very happy

    • @meibesmurfn3168
      @meibesmurfn3168 Před 9 měsíci

      It’s all about understanding the cultural values. Chinese women have been brainwashed just as much as American women.

  • @LisaG442
    @LisaG442 Před 11 měsíci +2

    They’re simply holding out for a wealthy man, or they don’t give a crap to marry. Marriage is for the sole purpose of rearing children. This goal is out of reach for most paycheques. Rural men don’t stand a chance

  • @upthedown1
    @upthedown1 Před rokem +22

    Don't understand how the country has no retirement plans for the elderly. That's crazy!

    • @davek1943
      @davek1943 Před 9 měsíci +2

      military needs the money to defeat us and they have always left elder care to the kids anyway.

  • @saeedhossain6099
    @saeedhossain6099 Před rokem +184

    the fact that there was so much sex biased births from the 1970's-1990's, which means there are much more boys than girls, so if a girl is single, she is either extremely picky or extremely insufferable. she can get an even semi decent guy is she wants.

    • @samfeikema9447
      @samfeikema9447 Před rokem +15

      My monies on insufferable. This might be something for the casinos in Vegas.

    • @seymorefact4333
      @seymorefact4333 Před rokem +5

      🤣😂THERES A LOT OF SINGLE WOMEN IN THE USA ....WORSE WITH CHILDREN. MY TEAM of 10 women....7 are single in their 30's. 4 of 7 have 2 kids and SINGLE. MEN IN USA ARE SINGLE TOO.

    • @roundpenguin3072
      @roundpenguin3072 Před rokem +18

      China is experiencing a paradox where there are fewer women in the population, but there are significantly more of them in the cities. So most women don't have a guy waiting on every finger, but on the contrary, they face quite tough competition.

    • @Notme-tq4xs
      @Notme-tq4xs Před rokem +5

      @@seymorefact4333 ok

    • @prodyung829
      @prodyung829 Před rokem

      @@seymorefact4333 5th time you copied and pasted that, get a life.

  • @davidbryansteeleestatetrus9817
    @davidbryansteeleestatetrus9817 Před 11 měsíci +2

    This is very sad. Chines women are some of the most beautiful women on earth. Some of us in the west call them a diamond in the rough.

  • @michaellawson6533
    @michaellawson6533 Před 5 měsíci +1

    As a 54 year old bachelor in Belize, a few years ago, the Mennonite women referred to me as a leftover blessing.

  • @anthony23tmmt
    @anthony23tmmt Před rokem +159

    women want rich men - good, men want young women - bad

    • @MarioLopez-si8jb
      @MarioLopez-si8jb Před rokem +15

      😆 🤣 😂 😹 😆

    • @LliamMoore
      @LliamMoore Před rokem +1

      Men's preferences are shamed because it holds useless women to a standard. Only high value women don't mind standards.

    • @JosephCee
      @JosephCee Před rokem

      double standards, its bullshit.

    • @89playstation65
      @89playstation65 Před rokem +19

      And I want no woman at all. No I'm not gay, it's just I finally accepted being content being single.
      On the bright side, it gives more time for myself. Playing video games, movies and working on my side gig.
      Enjoy becoming cat ladies women.

    • @johnle231
      @johnle231 Před rokem +3

      @@89playstation65 look for a female dude

  • @GabrielEddy
    @GabrielEddy Před rokem +54

    It’s happening in North America, too.

    • @rh906
      @rh906 Před rokem +7

      It's global indeed, excessive education is one of the causes. You want a happy medium (maybe only Primary School as mandatory) where people are still have replacement numbers, but the family unit hasn't been destroyed by "western governance models" of high education for all.

    • @ilysaportax33
      @ilysaportax33 Před rokem

      @@rh906 if your plan includes making educationg less accessible to the masses that's a clue that it's a bad plan. Reflect on why you think people need to be less educated in your mind lol

    • @armaanchowdhury1690
      @armaanchowdhury1690 Před 10 měsíci

      @@rh906 excessive education? you just want women to be dumb and controlled by men. what a backwards, stone age mentality.

  • @simonebrooks202
    @simonebrooks202 Před 11 měsíci +5

    Being a leftover woman isnt bad ladies 😂😂😂 choose your hapoiness eveytime we all age and all these men care about is youth and beauty something that is outside of everyone's control and fades with time,yet they get mad when women state what they want

    • @NiteRacer
      @NiteRacer Před 9 měsíci +1

      dating an older woman is like dating a short dude. both can still find love, but it's not the ideal traits we look for in the opposite gender

    • @pastelmoon9118
      @pastelmoon9118 Před 8 měsíci

      after violent family life and pedofile dad who destroyed my first 25y of my life I dont give a single fuck what men wants
      at least my kids will never be raped by their father and dont have to suffer by these gross little vermins called men

  • @NiteRacer
    @NiteRacer Před 9 měsíci +19

    Women get to have their fun at 18 automatically.
    Men generally don't get to have their fun until they're 30+ if they put in the work.
    A cute and nice girl working at McDonald's can attract successful good-looking men.
    Men don't get this privilege as we have to bring way more to the table for a relationship.

    • @daveh4208
      @daveh4208 Před 9 měsíci +8

      I guess you didn't watch the video. These women are educated, contributing 41% to the GDP and are putting their career ahead of marriage. Same think men do. And I don't know if I'd consider being stuck at home, supporting a man who's working, and raising kids as 'fun.'

    • @krodork
      @krodork Před 9 měsíci

      ​@Pizza-Steve if men aren't dating at 18, then who are these women dating? Your logic makes no sense. This is a direct result of the one child policy and the world's hatred towards women and preference for men. Women are being kidnapped from cities and sold into the country side because of this and people still have the audacity to blame them smh

    • @socal2384
      @socal2384 Před 9 měsíci

      ​@Pizza-Steve So true. I remember girls were getting laid left and right at 18 and got to have so much fun in the sheets while guys just watched but got ignored by these girls. Now at 25 to 30 these girls are single, mentally damaged, slept with a bunch of guys n got all the fun out of their system and want a nice successful guy to wife them up. Don't you think that's unfair

    • @shin-ishikiri-no
      @shin-ishikiri-no Před 8 měsíci

      @@daveh4208 Hypergamy means financial and educational "success" is actually failure for women. The more powerful women become, the more they think men are "icky". lol They deserve to be alone, and die alone.

  • @EllieMaes-Grandad
    @EllieMaes-Grandad Před rokem +36

    In "the east" many women no longer wish to be the chattel of a man, a home-based drudge, as so many opportunities exist for them to gain education, good employment and status.
    Several years ago 'The Economist' identified this trend and reported on it.

    • @bogdankovalenko5096
      @bogdankovalenko5096 Před 11 měsíci +4

      sure they can earn enough money for cats and antidepressants 😂

    • @EllieMaes-Grandad
      @EllieMaes-Grandad Před 11 měsíci

      Plenty of cats and can pick and choose blokes to date . . . @@bogdankovalenko5096

    • @MsRioSoul
      @MsRioSoul Před 10 měsíci

      ​@@bogdankovalenko5096 I was more depressed when I was in a relationship with a man than I was single..lol

    • @volvodude101
      @volvodude101 Před 10 měsíci

      why be a 'slave' for your husband who loves you, when you can instead be a strong independent slave for a megacorporation which hates you

    • @purplepotato8849
      @purplepotato8849 Před 7 měsíci +2

      That's basically it, better to choose yourself and a career than be a daughter-in-law serving entitled in-laws and a husband who will take you for granted and berate you for not being good enough. That's just not a good deal any more.

  • @witwisniewski2280
    @witwisniewski2280 Před rokem +78

    Singles are a commodity. So much for love.
    One common characteristic of "dark ages" social norms is that the older generations don't give a hoot about the hearts and souls of their children. Instead, they arrange their lives to protect only the material wealth they garnered themselves.

    • @jeremystonell690
      @jeremystonell690 Před rokem

      Link/Book?

    • @damzey911
      @damzey911 Před rokem +1

      Well said friend,well said.

    • @tomwhone9804
      @tomwhone9804 Před rokem +1

      Sometimes. But wisdom is sometimes best. Often the parents are better at seeing red flags.

    • @00ShaFi00
      @00ShaFi00 Před rokem +3

      Our own parents abandoned us

    • @user-vq6xc6zj5z
      @user-vq6xc6zj5z Před 10 měsíci +2

      This is a dark universe. When I see human parents I sometimes have to think of storch parents: they often kill their weakest child to have less work. We can only pray that we are saved from this evil place and learn to truly love each other.

  • @danbiss87
    @danbiss87 Před 11 měsíci +1

    It's the same for most of the world. Woman are choosing to be independent while men are still seeking the traditional woman...

  • @cubajonesie
    @cubajonesie Před 10 měsíci +3

    "I'm so glad you came home for the weekend. By the way, you're getting married tomorrow to someone I met in the park".

  • @multimossad
    @multimossad Před rokem +30

    What? 30 year old chinese women with college and single ? no tatoos , no trashy talk , no blue hair ? send them to me ASAP !!!

    • @macbird-lt8de
      @macbird-lt8de Před rokem +2

      as long as you don’t have pets...

    • @Network126
      @Network126 Před rokem +3

      I get rejected by 35 and even 40 year old Chinese women on dating apps just because I'm poor.. 😒

    • @castlebarron1788
      @castlebarron1788 Před rokem

      But they have all of that feminist bitchy attitude and can almost garuntee with certainty that the bedroom will be colder than a freezer

    • @GabrielEddy
      @GabrielEddy Před rokem +3

      @@Network126 Yes, if only you had some money to hand over to them as a donation

    • @D-G1N-R8
      @D-G1N-R8 Před rokem

      @@Network126 SHut the hell up, bot.

  • @665Kattt
    @665Kattt Před 11 měsíci +63

    Why do I get the feeling that these "leftover" women just don't want to be married? It sounds like it's the parents who can't seem to accept that societal norms are changing with the times.

    • @bogdankovalenko5096
      @bogdankovalenko5096 Před 11 měsíci

      thats why they are leftovers 😂

    • @fulgatus
      @fulgatus Před 10 měsíci +21

      ​@@bogdankovalenko5096how are they "leftovers" when they dont even want a partner in the first place

    • @universesays1842
      @universesays1842 Před 9 měsíci +5

      leftover = not choosed by a man or by men that she wanted/desired
      it doesn't matter she refused 50 average men in her 20s and 30s if no(upper middle class or rich or super rich) man she desired didn't approached her with intent of dating her with marriage in mind
      if she spent her 20s and a bit of her 30s chasing only rich men and refused often average men,word spreads that she has a "rich man" type and average men won't approach her anumore...she made herself a gold digger reputation
      other women chase career and make their reputation as a workaholic,men will avoid that as men don't like in general to raise babies and change diapers
      don't forget to be feminine as men don't like a masculine woman,it's a man's job to be masculine,not yours

    • @cheeryberrie
      @cheeryberrie Před 9 měsíci +10

      ​@@universesays1842 bro made an essay

    • @aliyahharmon9045
      @aliyahharmon9045 Před 9 měsíci +13

      @@universesays1842What they're saying is these women do not want to be partnered up. Your response is just projection.

  • @marisol033
    @marisol033 Před 10 měsíci +7

    I think even staying single can be dangerous...no one to help you out when you get older...and ...maybe feel lonely. We will not stay young forever. People need to start respecting each other. If we has humanity do not change...we will see soo many more problems.

    • @kingsleyopokuadjei7275
      @kingsleyopokuadjei7275 Před 9 měsíci +1

      Exactly what people are not seeing and women are not valuing. The modern woman thinks of education and forgetting about family till she gets to 40-50 and realise OMG am lonely, no one to share my experiences with, no one to talk to...She comes back from work to meet a pet or an empty house 😢😢😢

    • @kathrynj.hernandez8425
      @kathrynj.hernandez8425 Před 7 měsíci

      @@kingsleyopokuadjei7275 Propaganda. Totally. I love my dread free calendar.

    • @purplepotato8849
      @purplepotato8849 Před 7 měsíci

      Frankly I think earth has an overpopulation issue at the moment, so there really doesn't need to be any more of us.

    • @Devi_Seona
      @Devi_Seona Před 3 měsíci

      It’s already proven that being married is more dangerous for women than being single.

  • @tb4326
    @tb4326 Před 11 měsíci +2

    There’s so many conflicting messages in topics like this. From Japan, South Koran and China there’s messages that the women don’t want to get married or have a partner. THen there’s messages like this where they can’t find someone. Who knows what the truth really is.

  • @son6342
    @son6342 Před rokem +42

    They require men to have at least a property already to be considered marriage material. Chinese men must also gift a decent amount to the women's family during the wedding as per pre agreement.

    • @johnle231
      @johnle231 Před rokem +1

      Only Chinese men are required to gift a certain amount? What about foreign men?

    • @son6342
      @son6342 Před rokem +2

      @@johnle231 The gifting bride's parents is part of chinese culture, if you want to marry a chinese girl, you will have to gift her parents a good sum of money.

    • @johnle231
      @johnle231 Před rokem

      @@son6342 oh I see. I had heard of something like that and even heard of ridiculous amounts that average Chinese men wouldn’t be able to affording depending on location

    • @LliamMoore
      @LliamMoore Před rokem +1

      ​@@johnle231in South africa is called Labola

    • @johnle231
      @johnle231 Před rokem

      @@LliamMoore I looked that up and a whole bunch of stuff about demons came up…. Come on now are you trying to curse me

  • @derekwilliams1066
    @derekwilliams1066 Před rokem +62

    It's the same here in the USA. Virtually ALL of the kids who are considered "good catches" for marriage - healthy, beautiful, athletic, from good families, etc., move away from small towns and rural areas IMMEDIATELY upon graduation. They go to the big colleges and get degrees. They then usually stay near the colleges in the big college towns and tech centers. Those left behind in the small towns without college degrees are often single and have very limited economic prospects. There is a serious dearth of attractive singles over age 18 in small towns and in rural America. So, those who do not go to college and find a spouse, and stay in a small town, usually end up poor and single for most, if not the rest, of their lives. It's sad but that's just the way it is.

    • @thundergun933
      @thundergun933 Před 11 měsíci +6

      yea there's no poor people in cities. ....NOT

    • @DesertFernweh
      @DesertFernweh Před 11 měsíci +1

      Not for much longer, degrees don't mean what they use to. Why go to college and get in debt for the reat of your life when you can go to a trade school and make just as much. Or more when you subtract the debt from your student loans.

    • @thundergun933
      @thundergun933 Před 11 měsíci +2

      @@DesertFernweh TBH if you're some young baddie as the young folk would say as long as you have average intelligence degree no degree your chances of landing a decent job is pretty solid.

    • @wagnersouza4463
      @wagnersouza4463 Před 11 měsíci +7

      Yes, the same here in Brazil. The rural problem is also real in Brazil, many single women are moving to the large urban cities ( a female country music genre begin 'cause that by the way, and most of the songs are about be single and drink a lot ), in contrast to the families of 2, or 3 generations from rural migrants families ( Brazil had a rural exodus in 60s and 70s ) thatare now moving to the country side again because of living cost and strong gentrification. Probably a classic liberal will think gentrification is good, because improves the neighborhood. Well its correct, but the other part is that this is pushing people to the most far away suburbs( poor areas ). São Paulo have neighborhood on the border with +300k habitants.
      It could be a feminism fault, or pill, or whatever, but I thing that I missing point is that the larger the number of single men the society has, the larger will be the social problems. Here in Brazil now there's a lot of grow man, even in the poorest neighborhood of large city and small towns that don't wan't to do anything but popin' a wheelie on their motocycles, drink as much as possible and smoke hookah all day. I'ts a circle problem, this man when get into a relationship, usually will be a shit with woman, if both have a child, if be a boy, problably will grow up thinking thats ok to don't have responsabilities. And the women thinks that's empower to be a single mother ( this is a trend here in Brazil too ).

    • @seriouscat2231
      @seriouscat2231 Před 11 měsíci +2

      @@thundergun933, did he say anywhere that there are no poor people in cities? I think he didn't. So you had no point and your sarcasm was wasted.

  • @ericclark133
    @ericclark133 Před 11 měsíci +4

    If this is what’s happening, China’s demographic problem is going to be much, much worse than predictions suggest. Given there are more men than women, you would think the men would adjust their expectations, but they aren’t, which means that there are a lot of single men and a whole lot more single women - and that means a lot of childless people. Plus, owning a home is almost a prerequisite for a man to marry, and that is much more difficult that it was a decade ago, given they’re so incredibly expensive in China (due to its property bubble, which the dating situation partly contributed to).
    This will mean a crash in young people, which means a dearth of people to staff the military, which Xi needs to fund his aggressive ambitions. It means that China isn’t going to reach the full superpower status it very much desires to reach, and it means it won’t be the economic powerhouse it was predicted it would become.

  • @nancada5435
    @nancada5435 Před 11 měsíci +11

    The sad thing, most arranged marriages wind up in divorce. At least here in America. Why? The parents of the son usually are so unbelievably judgemental/critical of their new daughter in law. They use their sons and or daughters against each other. Like for example, "the first DIL gave us a grandson, do you better give us one too." The societal pressures are abusive to say the least. It's very sad. I speak with soooooo much experience on this. I've watched it so many times over. 😢😢😢😢

    • @maxxomega6599
      @maxxomega6599 Před 10 měsíci

      I knew a white girl who married a chinese guy. It didn't last long. MIL moved right in and treated her like shit. Spineless son did nothing to help his wife. She left pretty quick...

    • @Warsie
      @Warsie Před 10 měsíci

      In India it seems not5iceably different...

    • @ultrasurfs
      @ultrasurfs Před 9 měsíci

      Sorry, but cotrary to your believe it is the opposite. Half of "love" marriage end in divorce while 98% of arranged marriage held till the day they died.

    • @siewbengwee4530
      @siewbengwee4530 Před 8 měsíci

      Problem is the whole society's expectations -- not just one child policy

  • @geckojinn1604
    @geckojinn1604 Před rokem +121

    "Love" as a concept didn't exist throughout most of human history. Marriage was always simply a way for families to combine assets in hopes of expanding future generational wealth. People are obsessed with the idea that something has gone "wrong" with the world resulting in an unhospitable dating market, but the truth is that we're simply settling back into a standard that has been the base reality throughout most of human history. This is what it always was.

    • @Threezi04
      @Threezi04 Před rokem +28

      Love has always existed and if you study history it'd be pretty obvious. It just was taken into consideration far far less if at all

    • @awakeneddrybones7777
      @awakeneddrybones7777 Před rokem

      Also, women were raised to be wives back then. These females are not wives

    • @eleethtahgra7182
      @eleethtahgra7182 Před rokem +5

      In other words, its transactional only and not love.

    • @lavish_1717
      @lavish_1717 Před rokem +8

      @@eleethtahgra7182
      Stop pushing wes tern culture on others. The w e s t is in a sorry state

    • @MrAranton
      @MrAranton Před rokem +12

      Transactional marriages as a means to combine assets don't make sense when there are no assets to combine. And considering that through most of human history most people were slaves, serf or otherwise unfree and propertyless, you're proposing to return to a standards that never was a standard.
      Fact of the matter is: For most of human history when people reached marrying age there were like a dozen potential partners to choose from. Figuring out which of those you like best isn't that hard. But today there are more pontential candidates than anyone can ever hope to evaluate. Which gives people the feeling that someone better might be just around the corner.

  • @rlouis215
    @rlouis215 Před rokem +27

    That’s not just in China if you look many different countries are facing the same thing

    • @upthedown1
      @upthedown1 Před rokem +2

      Not really

    • @andrewevans7992
      @andrewevans7992 Před rokem +1

      Its because most women think they entitled.. its bs

    • @MelaniaRose
      @MelaniaRose Před rokem

      @@andrewevans7992. I it’s economics and government policies.

    • @parvinesm954
      @parvinesm954 Před 5 měsíci

      We have same problem in iran

  • @peterbedford2610
    @peterbedford2610 Před 9 měsíci +4

    This is too funny. 15 years ago "demographers" were stating that China had a severe female shortage that would lead to a huge internal problem. So much for experts😂

  • @ResidualSelfImage
    @ResidualSelfImage Před 11 měsíci +12

    The Golden Ticket concept of a son is not a mindset but a socio-economic reality for many because there is no social security to buffer old age in China and pensions are rare in China so beyond the parent's savings, the parents traditionally depend on a son to take care of them in their last years of life. Traditionally, it is very rare that a daughter could be able to take care of her parents for multiple reasons: Her parent in laws will not cooperate, She is not financially capable, She is not physically capable, or her husband won't cooperate.

    • @Scymet
      @Scymet Před 7 měsíci

      A single daughter would be a genetic dead end, so this behaviour will never be the norm, otherwise there's no one left... Edge cases will NEVER explain traditions @@lolakauffmann

  • @RedAce5236
    @RedAce5236 Před rokem +17

    As a person living in China, their version of TikTok “douyin”, is mostly dance videos and entertainment. No young person uses the app for education. It’s just cap

    • @JohnLaCroixRenaissanceMan
      @JohnLaCroixRenaissanceMan Před rokem +1

      I've heard that children only see STEM related stuff, but the rest - yeah. I heard it's the wild-west and makes our tictok look tranquille.

  • @robertvirnig638
    @robertvirnig638 Před rokem +310

    Regardless of culture, it used to be the case that young people in a town would start matching up with those of similar desirability until everyone who so wanted was matched up. Now with both eligible men and women being advertised widely people only consider the best prospects. This is great for those at the top who will date several at the same time and the rest feel shut out because it never occurs to them that they shook seek someone whose market value is more like their own. The end result is a bunch of single people who are resentful of the opposite sex.

    • @ygp47
      @ygp47 Před rokem +11

      already deep in action

    • @user-yc9ib2he7l
      @user-yc9ib2he7l Před rokem +11

      Hasidic Jews have the shadchan, the professional matchmaker. This is a well developed system. Compare that to the Hinge swipe culture which is a total disaster and does not work. Well, unless you count and endless string of situationships, that lead nowhere.

    • @robertvirnig638
      @robertvirnig638 Před rokem +22

      @@user-yc9ib2he7l I don't know anything about Jewish traditions, but many cultures have arranged marriages that must be considered superior based on the happiness of those involved. In fiction, we see horrible stories where the woman is forced to marry someone absolutely horrible but I don't think this represents reality most of the time. Just don't try marrying off girls when they are 11.

    • @rokko_hates_japan
      @rokko_hates_japan Před rokem +27

      i saw a documentary in some old eastern european culture and they had these yearly meets for the young to find their future husband/wife.
      then all got cell phones and cancerous apps. now when at the large gatherings, all the young people stare at their phone and think they can get some 10 in some far away land, and none of them pair up.
      i don't know the answer. young are stupid, and the old have lost control. such a shame.

    • @ygp47
      @ygp47 Před rokem +5

      @@rokko_hates_japan i agree with you

  • @kenlen8029
    @kenlen8029 Před 11 měsíci +5

    It blows my mind how humans can over complicate everything. It all seems about money and ego. Clearly we've learned nothing.

  • @An_Imperial_Guard.
    @An_Imperial_Guard. Před 8 měsíci +2

    Gets married for desperation and social presure.
    Man files for divorce shortly afterwards and steals your home.
    You get blame for everything falling apart.
    *Why does womans doesn't want to get married?*

  • @SpruceWillis16
    @SpruceWillis16 Před rokem +78

    This will be the case in the west as well. It is projected that by 2030 45% of the women population between the age of 18-35 will be single and childless

    • @MF_DOOMer
      @MF_DOOMer Před rokem +6

      25-40*

    • @sebastienseb919
      @sebastienseb919 Před rokem +16

      I remember that study. Done by one of the leading financial institutions. It was done so they could find the next thing to invest in. Not sure what they chose.
      In my opinion cat food and wine perhaps?
      For the study they conducted to find this is crazy. I'm MGTOW so I could care less really. Life is truly awesome as a lone wolf. Women come and go but my peace is forever. 😌😌😌

    • @macbird-lt8de
      @macbird-lt8de Před rokem +17

      in business news, vibrator sales increasing.

    • @sebastienseb919
      @sebastienseb919 Před rokem +7

      @@macbird-lt8de 🤔 vibrator manufacturing companies to invest in?

    • @castlebarron1788
      @castlebarron1788 Před rokem

      Huzzah,! maybe the idiots of society will realize feminism has always been bad for them hopefully

  • @lepompier132
    @lepompier132 Před rokem +13

    Last I've checked, China is in an economic slump at this moment. So I find that hard they are pushing the wedding when many no longer have a job.

    • @rh906
      @rh906 Před rokem

      Politburo being out of touch with the masses they don't care about again.

  • @lillianbowen7408
    @lillianbowen7408 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Back between 1996-2001 I worked as a nurse at University of Houston campus clinic for students., My understanding is the university recruited heavily from China.and they came.Even back then the shortage of single females in China was an issue. I spoke to 3 male students about the shortage of women in their country and asked if they would consider marrying outside their race . The answer was unanimous NO. I found that interesting, if their bride could not be Chinese they choose to be single and possible end the family legacy .We all know that its not the son or eldest son that cares for his aging parents it's HIS WIFE! At present many aging Chinese are living in government housing because there is no son to care for them . The girls are stepping up to the job. Also many sons move far away and so the ancient tradition is dying .It happened here in parts of the US

  • @samb123078
    @samb123078 Před 9 měsíci +1

    The strangest thing is that men out number women in China. So it should be extremely easy for any young girl to get any guy due to scarcity. And yet, there is a crisis of leftover women. Everything is ass backwards nowadays.

  • @eslnoob191
    @eslnoob191 Před rokem +49

    Another aspect that I haven't noticed anyone mention yet in the comments is that a huge percentage of these 30+ year old single Chinese women are virgins (who never learned about sex education in school either). While that might pique the interest of some guys, it shouldn't. This is the problem with a culture that is overprotective and won't let young people date--sometimes even all the way through college. So these women get out into the world at 22 or even 25 without ever having had a boyfriend before. So yeah, when it comes to dating for these women, they are incredibly unrealistic about what a relationship is like, and they act super weird. I know because I work in China and have many 30+ year old single female colleagues. One colleague, who is actually fairly attractive, has gone on like dozens of first dates and has never gotten past that point... So there is no shortage of interest from men--it's mostly that these women still think that getting married is going to be like a fairy tale, and it's really pretty pathetic to watch.
    Moral of the story: if you're a parent, you need to let your kid grow up to become an adult, and they need to learn how the world actually works. There are far more important things than just getting good grades on math exams...

    • @dantesparda7719
      @dantesparda7719 Před rokem +8

      You want them to ride the CC?

    • @user-vx3wc8yc9v
      @user-vx3wc8yc9v Před rokem

      Lots of male virgins so this is actually good, better than the sloots in the US.

    • @krabbykat9918
      @krabbykat9918 Před 11 měsíci

      so you're suggesting they should sleep around so you can slut shame them later?

    • @LDT7Y
      @LDT7Y Před 11 měsíci

      If men are riding the pussy wagon, then why not?

    • @tarablue4472
      @tarablue4472 Před 11 měsíci +4

      Actually it's women realizing that marriage is not like a fairy tale, and having alternatives to marriage (career), is what is having women turn away from marriage.

  • @johnbrowns6072
    @johnbrowns6072 Před rokem +7

    “ Chinese men are not afraid to admit that they like younger women” … what man on earth doesn’t prefer a younger women?

    • @ELSHELL
      @ELSHELL Před 9 měsíci

      Brainwashed Western men shamed by older women into believing it's predatory.

  • @Langkowski
    @Langkowski Před 10 měsíci +8

    When women suddenly becomes too picky and decided not to marry or have children, it's a cultural problem

  • @Splashstar216
    @Splashstar216 Před 11 měsíci +20

    My mom is indigenous Chinese and she married late. In our culture, she was considered an "old maid." She was a junior in high school at age 17, when she was finally sold off to my dad (the dowry)... 😂 she got married illegally to my dad, who was 24. She went to college & got her degree as a nurse while my dad worked at a factory his whole life (he died early in 2017).

    • @user-vq6xc6zj5z
      @user-vq6xc6zj5z Před 10 měsíci +2

      I am sorry for the loss of your dad. May God give him peace.

    • @siewbengwee4530
      @siewbengwee4530 Před 8 měsíci +2

      how does your story relate to the topic at hand?

  • @darrylcharlebois2956
    @darrylcharlebois2956 Před rokem +64

    Wow. Just wow. I'm a 45 yr old man who just married for the 1st time to my 44 yr old best friend, she and I both have 3 grown children. She and I both have good, stable careers . There's something to be said for maturity. Chinese ppl don't know what they're missing.

    • @joshuagharis9017
      @joshuagharis9017 Před rokem +17

      Amen, I'm 36, but my soon to be wife is 45, definitely happy with her and I

    • @CaiebesPunk
      @CaiebesPunk Před rokem

      You are a joke

    • @justcalm3301
      @justcalm3301 Před rokem

      Your not in the red pill age group who are currently brainwashed and delusional. Their lives are on CZcams 😂

    • @fredmercury1314
      @fredmercury1314 Před rokem +10

      That's great, if you already have kids, or if you're a simp and don't mind wasting your money raising another man's family.
      If you're a young man who wants a family, you need a healthy, fertile young woman who doesn't have kids.

    • @xandror
      @xandror Před rokem +8

      If you could wave a magic wand and make her 24, would you? Of course you would.. we all would.

  • @samuelknight886
    @samuelknight886 Před měsícem

    Man Of Standards here. The real problem is that, people have put more emphasis on material possessions rather than the character of a man. Having money is good but a marriage is more about how the other person sincerely cares for the man or woman. Is he or she faithful and loyal to each other? Are they committed to being honest and trustworthy? Are they an asset to each other or are they a liability?

  • @TheCreedBratton
    @TheCreedBratton Před 11 měsíci +3

    You should do a video on America's leftover men. We are leftover because we don't live a tiktok lifestyle and live in the real world and have jobs

  • @midnull6009
    @midnull6009 Před rokem +20

    I think the commentator forgot to add that these "left over women" that are very well off are also saying screw it and going to fertility clinics. They're starting to just not care.

    • @MelaniaRose
      @MelaniaRose Před rokem +16

      You can’t blame them either. Chinese men are abusive in relationships and who wants to end up in poverty like that ?

    • @krabbykat9918
      @krabbykat9918 Před 11 měsíci +10

      @@MelaniaRose tbh in my country (and I will choose not to name it out of respect), men are equally abusive in marriages. Of course there are good ones too but overall the attitude towards wives is "stay at home. do your kitchen thing". We've seen our moms and grandmothers and women are opting out. I know many attractive 27+ year olds refusing to marry local guys. It's bad here too, but tbh at a core level it's just women's survival instincts kicking in, even if a lot of them personally want a family

    • @bogdankovalenko5096
      @bogdankovalenko5096 Před 11 měsíci

      ​@@tarablue4472lol where government is going to get that much money from? and kids from single parent household are broken psychologically - they are not good citizens so its all women fantasies 😂😂