This is sad because a lot of kids around the world are probably experiencing this. This type of abuse isn’t talked about as much as physical abuse and that’s not okay because I know firsthand how much it can hurt someone. Edit: I’m so sorry all of you are going through this. You can get through this, I believe in you
And im one of them 🙃 Damn why so many likes?? It's actually sad Ik how each and everyone here feels I've been thru it and still am... TTYL take care yall!!!
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Once my grandpa told me a story of an old friend of him, growing up his dad would write down every single thing he spent on him, once he turned 18 he had to start paying for it, when he got older he got a great job and got to pay everything, when he did he told his dad than from that day on he would not longer be his father and never spoke to him again
Then, they wonder what they even did to their child. Crying, sobbing, not just because you abused them, you broke their heart and left an emotional wound inside.
This really raises awareness, people don’t think that this kind of abuse is as bad as physical abuse but they have no idea how much it hurts and it’s not fair that we have to go through it everyday
Especially when the kid owes nothing, they didn't ask to be born nor raised by the parent. Every child deserves a parent, but not all parents deserve a child.
@@picklelover6576 you can go ahead and say that we are overreacting but we’re not, apparently you didn’t have it as bad as the rest of us and I don’t see why you have to go around saying this for no good reason, it’s not benefiting anyone, maybe it’s because no one has ever taught you to think before you speak.
I don’t think my parents have ever told me or complained to me how much it costs to raise me and I’m happy about that.. I’m so sorry u had to go through that
My dad.. he originally wasn't like this.. but through the years, he began to change. He became a hot headed guy, also yelling and cursing for even smallest things. Then just last week.. we got into a fight and ask me to kill him if I had the guts.. I told.him that I had a future and I wasn't gonna waste that just to go to prison... I said that one day, I will leave.. he then yelled, break and throw my things away.. shouting for me to leave the house.. his house. I have nowhere to live so I compromise and said sorry.. but I wasn't and probably wouldn't be able to forget that day for a thousand of years.
You need to get a safe place to go, I would recommend asking close friends families that you trust if you can stay there. I hope your situation gets better, but know that there is always hope and someone there for you❤
This is just as bad as physical abuse. You are always feeling bad about yourself because the people that should be there to help, love, and comfort you are treating you like the neighbors trash😔
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
I relate to this a lot. I just make a small mistake like dropping my pen on the floor then I get scolded because I did something "very wrong". And my parents just make it all about themselves. They say its my fault and I'm not doing good enough because I get a 92 on my scores sometimes. It hurts and I dont feel comfortable with them anymore. They always treat my sister better because she went with what they wanted. My sister wanted to go to law school but she went with engineering because thats what our parents wanted. Everytime I explain my side, they tell me I'm "talking back" and that they're suffering because I "spend money" even though my sister spends a lot more money that I have ever had. For anyone experiencing this, I'm praying for you. ❤
The same happens with me they treat my sister nicely as she went to study to become doctor n my parents wanted that but I protested n told them I wanted to do art Then one day in the last days of my vacation my parents call me n tell me that they already took admission to study science n all things are done 👍🏻🙂
That’s bad parenting of what I’m hearing from you. You don’t deserve them. You do what you need to do. This is what I tell my friend who is also going through the same thing. Don’t let them be more powerful than you. You will be a strong person and do what’s right for you and follow your dreams. I hate how your parents treat you. If they want you in 5 or 10 years, reject them. Take care of yourself and don’t get into that hole. I believe in you and you do what’s best.
I'm so sorry you have to put up with that I can feel for you because my sister is always treated better than me. Whenever I cry my parents tell me to stop or ask now why are you crying? And whenever it's my sister they are like Omg did I say something I'm so sorry! And my sister is spoiled whenever she goes to the store with my mom she always gets her way and everything she wants but when I ask for something they say no. But I really find it unfair that my dad hit me and never my own sister. He's hit me at least 5 times in all my life and never my sister. And my sister always is trying to invade my personal space and cross my boundaries all my family is. And for about 1 the first 10 years of my life I was not allowed to cry basically. My parents would always tell me to stop and shut up. And I just wanted to have a price of pie but my grandpa fat shamed me and called me selfish because I cut a piece that was too big when my mother cut a piece bigger than me. And later he said sorry and told me that it was a joke.. Its not a joke if your f*cking fat shaming someone and telling them that they are selfish. Also my dad told me when I was 7 that I was getting fat and needed to lose weight. This is why I have problems. Not because of society. Because of my own f*cking family..
@@Thesuperstars.123 I find it ridiculous for a parent telling the child to stop crying and that's infuriating. And your grandpa shouldn't fat shame you. Whether it's a joke or not, he shouldn't say that.
This. This type of abuse is almost never talked about. I have an argument like this with my parents, everyday and now I'm just getting tired. Thanks Val for bringing this topic up ❤
I once argued with them then years later, I'm completely a helpless, silent observer who still gets trash. My narcissistic stepmother lack parenting skills and finds fault in other people, same goes with my narcissistic father. It's shameful and disgusting that grown adults will find ways to blame children that they shape themselves. It's emotionally draining and now I develop triggers along with my brother. I don't know about my sister but what I observe is that she is traumatized as well.
I’m so happy that I’m no the only one that goes though this. Every single day my mom is a narcissist and she scolds me for the most inconvenient things, and one of my friends knows what she does to me and she sees what I’m like with my mom and how I’m like with her and when I’m at school she says I’m so much happier. But the second I get home I have to wipe the smile off my face, don’t talk, and have no emotion. I have to stay in my room and it’s getting old. ❤️ I’m so sorry for anyone else that has to got though this.
Everytime I bring up how I don’t like how I’m being treated, I’ll get a lecture on how my parents put a roof over my head, took my sisters and I on vacations, paid for my education etc. I hate it-I didn’t ask to be born, but I was and I just want love and support, and to be treated like a person worthy of respect.
My father is like this. And this is exactly why I moved to a different state and barely have any contact with him. And now I'm a teacher and every day my goal is to do right by my kids and love them like I wasn't.
Same story here 🤚🏼 being a teacher is what keeps me on this earth because I was raised in a way that makes me think I only deserve to exist as long as I serve others. This will never go away but I'm making the best out of it
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Our relationship isnt as bad.. but its slowly getting there.. and I dont know why. Whats worse is that am the only one amongst my siblings thats like this with my mom. And honestly am trying to be a good daughter.. but its exhausting.
I hate the fact that no one acknowledges emotional abuse as much as physical abuse. I’ve witnessed friends, family, and others be emotionally abused and I didn’t know until I was emotionally abused myself. To everyone who has or is being emotionally abused I want you to know that people are here for you and people love you! You are amazing! I hope this brightens your day❤
Same. I have a friend who has parents like this and physical abuse. I treat her like she’s my sister and giving her moral support. She loves me and I love her.
I wish this abuse was talked about more so more people are aware. Some parents act like they're good parents when really if your gonna complain to me and abuse me like this because you have to legally do it I'd rather have parents who want me and won't abuse me like this then have to deal with abuse. This abuse gets under my skin so much especially since sometimes my mom would bring up "You know I have to legally take care of you but I don't have to love you" And that would make me question her attitude towards me is just an act. Please if you're going through any type of abuse like this call someone or stand up for yourself. I don't care what they say you do not deserve to be abused like this so don't be afraid and do this for you, for me, for everyone who cares for you.
The problem I face with my parents is also this but mine is where if I don’t make a 100 on an assignment I got grounded for a month. Meanwhile my sister got held back and got suspended from getting into fights at many schools. But I am now 11 and realize that I am more than just a little garbage disposal for death threats like I brought you into this world and I can take you out. Everton has a purpose in life. Always remember to love yourself and don’t let anyone get into your head❤
i can understand this. i get emotionally abused and its horrible. i feel so bad for people like me going through this. my parents bring me down and i cry to sleep.
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
The fact that this happens to kids around just makes me so mad, my mom would abuse me this way and I know how much it hurts people.. To anyone who is going through this and has to experience this I’m sorry, and I hope that things will change, and just know that you aren’t alone!! ❤️
This is so fucking true, I went through the same thing it started when I was 6 and my mother would physically abuse me and then when I was 9 it turned to emotionally. Believe it or not, emotionally hurt more by so much and it still continues to this day. I'm a teen now. I was suicidal for quite some time and Im grateful for all my friends who were there.
I relate to this so much. My dad is emotionally abusive every since I was a kid. I took it reallt seriously as a kid, and it's till in my head, but now that I am older, I know that I all of that means nothing to me anymore.
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
"Do you know how much it costs to raise you?" "You got yourself into this. You decided to have me. You still could've put me up for adoption, but you didn't. You have no one to blame but yourself."
Parents say that not because they regret it but because most likely the child in question is wasting everything a parent has done for them. Stop acting like you would have wanted to be placed for adoption or grown up in a foster home or that you would have preferred not to be born. If someone sweats to provide for you, especially when they give you a GOOD life, the least you can do is make them proud or try to be a good child.
@@anastasiaokwuchi4035 just because they provide for you, that doesn't make them a good parent. I was asked "do you know how much your medical bills are costing me?" when I was a young teenager. Just because he put a roof over my head and food on the table, that doesn't mean he was a good father or protector.
@@ME-cd3bs oh, I'm sorry I didn't mean it like that. I mean in the case of good parents. I know where the original clip comes from and the girl wasn't really the best child so that's why her mom said that. I meant when your parents or parent is doing everything right for and then a child just doesn't appreciate it and "wastes" it. In your case for the medical bills I'm sorry about that.
@@anastasiaokwuchi4035 aha that makes sense. Thanks for clarifying. I know a lot of these people on social media paint themselves as the victim when it's the opposite. It's hard to know what's truly going on behind the scenes. I appreciate your concern. I'm just glad I'm an adult now and finally out of the toxic situation!
@anastasiaokwuchi4035 tbh it doesn't matter what the kids does with their life cuz it's theirs- a parent shouldn't provide properly just because they want their kid to pay off like some investment A kid doesn't have to be greatful or thankful their parents did their job- that's like saying wow you fed your kid? Great job- it's the bare minimum If I talk to someone like hey how are you they ask how I am and after I say amazing job not punching me like they shouldn't punch me regardless- bare minimum
Got me thinking you're so awkward to just throw a book at the camera I literally can't be the only one who was laughing so hard when you picture someone watching her throw a book at the camera😂😂😂
Insensitive parents can harm their kids emotionally. Emotional damage is hard to repair as it requires lot of selfless love, which is not easy to find in this world. Forget about trusting anyone for love.😢
thing is, i relate to this so much,i have this happening and then i never get privacy, I don't have a bedroom door, my phone and computer is constantly being checked, i trusted my grandma and she stabbed me in the back and told everyone my deepest secrets that i NEVER wanted out, she said "i wont tell a single soul" and she told millions of souls
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Oh what pain our mothers put us through and somebody be saying no one loves you more than your mother 😢😢. My mom actually said to me today that whoever bewitched her to give birth to me must be dead or gloating somewhere cause I'm a nuisance 😢
This hits really hard. I have a dad like this, but my mom is the complete opposite. It hurts to see how so much people experience the same thing I do..
I’m in the same situation as you.. but I wouldn’t be able to explain just how happy I am that my mom is there for me.. I hope you’re okay, hopefully we’ll make it out someday ❤️
Tbh this was what it was like living with my bio dad and stepmom and emotionally I was drained I’m back at my bio moms now and I’m happier than ever because she has been nothing but loving and kind to me that is what needed the most
This makes me said because after thirteen years of an emotionally abusive dad I could finally leave and he could just look at me and I cry. He destroyed my life and I could finally escape but he would also hit me aswell and I’m 13 currently so Thankyou for making this video it’s sad by helpful for me
This makes my sad because ive been through the same thing and people never look into it as much.. There may not be a mark but the scars are still there.
And hurts even more when they ask you for “apologies” and you know it is meaningless, as soon as possible you will get yelled again and have you heart broken one more time. And it goes on and on, year by year, it’s too hard to hold.
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Parents like that should never have kids in the first place. Its heartbreaking for those kids. May all the kids who deal with that be in a better place later in life when they can care for themselves
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
My grandmother emotionally abuses me. She is probably the only person bedided me that I hate. She physically abused my mother when she was young. She calls me “ so thin the wind will blow you away “ and does things she knows makes me uncomfortable/annoyed like chewing loudly, touching me when shes wet on her hands, etc. Me and my mother have told her many times to stop, but she just won’t, so I’ve kind of accepted it. She is also partially the reason I went to therapy.
And it sucks that there are so many kids going through this, even myself. It’s not okay to torment kids just because you have more power. These kids have to stay in the same house for years, even when their parents tell them that they can leave and go to a boarding school or an orphanage. These kids develop depression and anxiety just from being with their parents, but they can’t even ask someone else for help or support because they are too scared. Scared that a person won’t understand.
I’m so glad we’re talking abt this now physical abuse is the only one that gets attention and we need to fix that bc Ik how much it hurts to be treated like this we need to raise awareness for emotional abuse
Thank you so much for this video. My dad was emotionally/mentally abusive and my mum and dad got a divorce she was sad but he was just abusive towards everyone in my family
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
My dad one day told me "I am the one raising you , giving you food and shelter so never try to disobey me ever again " he was shouting like crazy and almost all my neighbours heard it... He surely does a lot for me but during every fight reminding me the cost of raising me actually hurts a lot ,,, I love the man more than anything in the world and here he is destroying my mental health over n over again
I’ve heard from my mom that a few times.. it feels horrible but every time I just thought I was being too emotional or overreacting. I guess I wasn’t. It’s good to know that people understand your feelings.
I love this pov because one, it spells out exactly what happens to me and other kids experiencing emotionally abusive parents. It also doesn’t only talk about physical abuse and rather brings life to emotional abuse. Thank you Val 💗
Val I absolutely love this video. Many people including myself have to deal with this type of abuse everyday, and tbh you make me want to do this and just never see them again.
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
This happens to me but because they're so manipulative, you think you deserve it, so when they speak to you like that, you think it's the truth. I usually just keep quiet. You speak up, it just makes things worst.
Disguised abuse is so much more detrimental than acknowledged. Abuse that is not obvious physically but creates more trauma than is visible and you suffer silently because nobody helps cause it all looks okay from the outside until it finally bubbles up to be physically visible. Don’t dis validate anything you’re feeling just because it’s not conventional “abuse”. Abuse comes in many different forms.
These were my parents and the sad truth is that I always tried to find a solution for this trauma I carry with me now, I live in a big family so I am usually in such pain to see my younger sister goibg through this now too.
Finally someone speaking out about verbal and emotional abuse. Thank you so much for bringing awareness to the subject.. as someone who suffers from emotional and verbal abuse just thank you
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
It’s sad because a lot off people are experiencing this and it not right! Children should have a right to be safe and happy so to everyone out there who is struggling with child abusers we will fix this soon because our world knows better 😢
I know first hand that sometimes emotional and mental abuse can be a hell lot more scarring than physical abuse. I’ll never be able to trust someone fully again.
I go through this. And its hard to want to keep going. And they just say "Why do you always act like a pig" or "Your such a spoiled brat" I just hope ppl that are going though this type of abuse stay strong and keep going
This is sad because a lot of kids around the world are probably experiencing this. This type of abuse isn’t talked about as much as physical abuse and that’s not okay because I know firsthand how much it can hurt someone.
Edit: I’m so sorry all of you are going through this. You can get through this, I believe in you
And im one of them 🙃
Damn why so many likes?? It's actually sad Ik how each and everyone here feels I've been thru it and still am... TTYL take care yall!!!
Love how u understand 🥲
I agree and I would know because I am one of those abused kids.
From when I can remember to the present day
@@Lhu683they are just saying that they experience that too, they aren’t making it about themselves
@@Lhu683also you spelt yourself wrong🤓
Her face was everything. This was beautiful Val. You made this so relatable to others. If this happens to anyone reading this I’m praying for you ❤
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Aeh
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And for others right?
@@LuanthepranksterOfc! Anyone struggling or unhappy should always be happy ❤ Anyone in life should be happy ❤
“Physical health is just as important as mental health”
-a poster in my school hallway
you mean the other way around?
that's so not true in Asia 😂 I am Asian so Ik 😂
@@hello-lz4xj nope thats exactly what it said
@@iheartramen1 o
Depends on how severe it is for both
Every child deserves parents
But not all parents deserve children
- from a wise person
Once my grandpa told me a story of an old friend of him, growing up his dad would write down every single thing he spent on him, once he turned 18 he had to start paying for it, when he got older he got a great job and got to pay everything, when he did he told his dad than from that day on he would not longer be his father and never spoke to him again
thats so sad abuse is a significant topic 🥲
Mhmm 😤😢😦😧
@@SamriddhiShree-sw7nxI approve of your pfp 😊
@@AdrienAgreste1234 oh
Thanks 😊😊
Yours is also nice
They’ve broken us down again and again and again, but we’re still here ❤️
Yeah 😢
Not for long though
@@They_love_ashu can do this i believe in u there’s still hope
@@They_love_ashi’m here for u okay 💗
Yes and I'm proud of everyone❤
Then, they wonder what they even did to their child. Crying, sobbing, not just because you abused them, you broke their heart and left an emotional wound inside.
Sometimes I don’t think that they ever realize that we are sobbing 😭
I always go to my room to
It hurts even more when this actually happens to you everyday. It’s not talked enough abt compared to physical abuse
So relatable
This really raises awareness, people don’t think that this kind of abuse is as bad as physical abuse but they have no idea how much it hurts and it’s not fair that we have to go through it everyday
Especially when the kid owes nothing, they didn't ask to be born nor raised by the parent. Every child deserves a parent, but not all parents deserve a child.
As someone who's dealt with this its literally not bad lmao. Phys is wayyyyy worse
@@picklelover6576 you can go ahead and say that we are overreacting but we’re not, apparently you didn’t have it as bad as the rest of us and I don’t see why you have to go around saying this for no good reason, it’s not benefiting anyone, maybe it’s because no one has ever taught you to think before you speak.
@@miadomingue9603 guys I think they're a little soft
Emotional pain hurts more than physical ever will. I know that bc from my own experience as well.
The fact that I literally went through this conversation yesterday because of my family 😅
Same 😭
I'm so sorry, but remember, we here appreciate you❤
I don’t think my parents have ever told me or complained to me how much it costs to raise me and I’m happy about that.. I’m so sorry u had to go through that
Yep, same. Most days of my childhood with my father, except he was more violent.
I know your not alone
My dad.. he originally wasn't like this.. but through the years, he began to change. He became a hot headed guy, also yelling and cursing for even smallest things. Then just last week.. we got into a fight and ask me to kill him if I had the guts.. I told.him that I had a future and I wasn't gonna waste that just to go to prison... I said that one day, I will leave.. he then yelled, break and throw my things away.. shouting for me to leave the house.. his house. I have nowhere to live so I compromise and said sorry.. but I wasn't and probably wouldn't be able to forget that day for a thousand of years.
Damn im sorry
Damn bro I'm so sorry..
Damnn that's so sad. I'm so sorry for you 🥺
Hope you could get away with all this 🫶🏻
I bet you could ask a free counselor for help.
They have resources you can use.
You need to get a safe place to go, I would recommend asking close friends families that you trust if you can stay there. I hope your situation gets better, but know that there is always hope and someone there for you❤
This is just as bad as physical abuse. You are always feeling bad about yourself because the people that should be there to help, love, and comfort you are treating you like the neighbors trash😔
And then they ask why I started crying. I still talk back..
But it hurts. It always hurts.
Just use a gun
@@A_nascar_fanbro what
@@A_nascar_fan💀
@@A_nascar_fanno, you don't say that you just do it.
@@A_nascar_fanI don’t think u understand.
I can most definitely relate to this.
I am so sorry. ❤ remember, you will always find people who will care about you, if not already.
I am sorry ❤
Im sorry you went through that, i hope you all are okay.
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Same with me
She just speaks the words that I am holding it for years 😢
every kid should be treated the same and have loving family's.
I relate to this a lot. I just make a small mistake like dropping my pen on the floor then I get scolded because I did something "very wrong". And my parents just make it all about themselves. They say its my fault and I'm not doing good enough because I get a 92 on my scores sometimes. It hurts and I dont feel comfortable with them anymore. They always treat my sister better because she went with what they wanted. My sister wanted to go to law school but she went with engineering because thats what our parents wanted. Everytime I explain my side, they tell me I'm "talking back" and that they're suffering because I "spend money" even though my sister spends a lot more money that I have ever had. For anyone experiencing this, I'm praying for you. ❤
The same happens with me they treat my sister nicely as she went to study to become doctor n my parents wanted that but I protested n told them I wanted to do art
Then one day in the last days of my vacation my parents call me n tell me that they already took admission to study science n all things are done 👍🏻🙂
That’s bad parenting of what I’m hearing from you. You don’t deserve them. You do what you need to do. This is what I tell my friend who is also going through the same thing. Don’t let them be more powerful than you. You will be a strong person and do what’s right for you and follow your dreams. I hate how your parents treat you. If they want you in 5 or 10 years, reject them. Take care of yourself and don’t get into that hole. I believe in you and you do what’s best.
I'm so sorry you have to put up with that I can feel for you because my sister is always treated better than me. Whenever I cry my parents tell me to stop or ask now why are you crying? And whenever it's my sister they are like Omg did I say something I'm so sorry! And my sister is spoiled whenever she goes to the store with my mom she always gets her way and everything she wants but when I ask for something they say no. But I really find it unfair that my dad hit me and never my own sister. He's hit me at least 5 times in all my life and never my sister. And my sister always is trying to invade my personal space and cross my boundaries all my family is. And for about 1 the first 10 years of my life I was not allowed to cry basically. My parents would always tell me to stop and shut up. And I just wanted to have a price of pie but my grandpa fat shamed me and called me selfish because I cut a piece that was too big when my mother cut a piece bigger than me. And later he said sorry and told me that it was a joke.. Its not a joke if your f*cking fat shaming someone and telling them that they are selfish. Also my dad told me when I was 7 that I was getting fat and needed to lose weight. This is why I have problems. Not because of society. Because of my own f*cking family..
@@Thesuperstars.123 I find it ridiculous for a parent telling the child to stop crying and that's infuriating. And your grandpa shouldn't fat shame you. Whether it's a joke or not, he shouldn't say that.
I relate to you
This. This type of abuse is almost never talked about. I have an argument like this with my parents, everyday and now I'm just getting tired.
Thanks Val for bringing this topic up ❤
I hope it’s better now, I feel you x😊
I once argued with them then years later, I'm completely a helpless, silent observer who still gets trash. My narcissistic stepmother lack parenting skills and finds fault in other people, same goes with my narcissistic father. It's shameful and disgusting that grown adults will find ways to blame children that they shape themselves. It's emotionally draining and now I develop triggers along with my brother. I don't know about my sister but what I observe is that she is traumatized as well.
I’m so happy that I’m no the only one that goes though this. Every single day my mom is a narcissist and she scolds me for the most inconvenient things, and one of my friends knows what she does to me and she sees what I’m like with my mom and how I’m like with her and when I’m at school she says I’m so much happier. But the second I get home I have to wipe the smile off my face, don’t talk, and have no emotion. I have to stay in my room and it’s getting old. ❤️ I’m so sorry for anyone else that has to got though this.
When parents tell this to you, it's pure bs, they wanted to have you, you don't owe them anything. You're not an investment. You're a human being.
Everytime I bring up how I don’t like how I’m being treated, I’ll get a lecture on how my parents put a roof over my head, took my sisters and I on vacations, paid for my education etc. I hate it-I didn’t ask to be born, but I was and I just want love and support, and to be treated like a person worthy of respect.
Fr. We know what they do for us that doesn't give them a right to treat us badly or throw it in our faces.
My father is like this. And this is exactly why I moved to a different state and barely have any contact with him. And now I'm a teacher and every day my goal is to do right by my kids and love them like I wasn't.
Im so srry.
I am experiencing the same thing as a male but in the end, I will walk out a better person😌
i hope everything is ok. just have a talk with him and work things out!
Same story here 🤚🏼 being a teacher is what keeps me on this earth because I was raised in a way that makes me think I only deserve to exist as long as I serve others. This will never go away but I'm making the best out of it
MS. BURGE IS THAT U
Girl just described my life and relationship with my mom 😢💔
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
@@SkylarWilson-xc2en thank you, this means a lot more than you think ❤️
@@Alien_92420 Your welcome glad i could help.
Same but with my dad
Our relationship isnt as bad.. but its slowly getting there.. and I dont know why. Whats worse is that am the only one amongst my siblings thats like this with my mom. And honestly am trying to be a good daughter.. but its exhausting.
I hate the fact that no one acknowledges emotional abuse as much as physical abuse. I’ve witnessed friends, family, and others be emotionally abused and I didn’t know until I was emotionally abused myself. To everyone who has or is being emotionally abused I want you to know that people are here for you and people love you! You are amazing! I hope this brightens your day❤
some kids don't deserve parents, but some parent's don't deserve kids.
This hurts a lot... especially if they dont even come to you after this and pretend nothing happened 😢
This makes me glad I have nice, loving, and supportive parents
Same. I have a friend who has parents like this and physical abuse. I treat her like she’s my sister and giving her moral support. She loves me and I love her.
May Allah swt bless you and your families and keep u happy ...
Lucky
You are lucky but people like me are not lucky
I wish this abuse was talked about more so more people are aware. Some parents act like they're good parents when really if your gonna complain to me and abuse me like this because you have to legally do it I'd rather have parents who want me and won't abuse me like this then have to deal with abuse. This abuse gets under my skin so much especially since sometimes my mom would bring up "You know I have to legally take care of you but I don't have to love you" And that would make me question her attitude towards me is just an act. Please if you're going through any type of abuse like this call someone or stand up for yourself. I don't care what they say you do not deserve to be abused like this so don't be afraid and do this for you, for me, for everyone who cares for you.
This made me cry 😢.. The words you said only echoed within me as a child could never speak up...😭
i go through this every day at home in a bunch more contexts 😢
it’s actually really accurate, thanks for spreading awareness of this
Don’t let your parents get to you. You are stronger than them
I wish I was
This is literally what I go through everyday. They don't how hard i try 😭
The problem I face with my parents is also this but mine is where if I don’t make a 100 on an assignment I got grounded for a month. Meanwhile my sister got held back and got suspended from getting into fights at many schools. But I am now 11 and realize that I am more than just a little garbage disposal for death threats like I brought you into this world and I can take you out. Everton has a purpose in life. Always remember to love yourself and don’t let anyone get into your head❤
That is really dumb of what your parents are doing. It’s wrong.
Call the police and tell them so that they can put you on adoption don't get angry just giving the right suggestion
i can understand this. i get emotionally abused and its horrible. i feel so bad for people like me going through this. my parents bring me down and i cry to sleep.
The effort Valerie puts into these shorts shows
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
The fact that this happens to kids around just makes me so mad, my mom would abuse me this way and I know how much it hurts people.. To anyone who is going through this and has to experience this I’m sorry, and I hope that things will change, and just know that you aren’t alone!! ❤️
This is so fucking true, I went through the same thing it started when I was 6 and my mother would physically abuse me and then when I was 9 it turned to emotionally. Believe it or not, emotionally hurt more by so much and it still continues to this day. I'm a teen now. I was suicidal for quite some time and Im grateful for all my friends who were there.
I relate to this so much. My dad is emotionally abusive every since I was a kid. I took it reallt seriously as a kid, and it's till in my head, but now that I am older, I know that I all of that means nothing to me anymore.
I love val! Honestly u should be admitted to a movie ❤❤
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
@@SkylarWilson-xc2en your we,come my love ! I school too 😂. Have a wonder ful time . God bless u 🙏
IKR
@@evinaaa. Thank you
I got abused by this for 15 years and the moment i walked out, i never looked back. And yes i wrote a check and said I’m done
OMG that's so bad!!!!
As someone who went through this during childhood, it warms my heart to see that someone is bringing attention to this type of abuse. ❤
Watching people whose parents have always supported them<
I’d rather stay in my corner.
"Do you know how much it costs to raise you?"
"You got yourself into this. You decided to have me. You still could've put me up for adoption, but you didn't. You have no one to blame but yourself."
Parents say that not because they regret it but because most likely the child in question is wasting everything a parent has done for them. Stop acting like you would have wanted to be placed for adoption or grown up in a foster home or that you would have preferred not to be born. If someone sweats to provide for you, especially when they give you a GOOD life, the least you can do is make them proud or try to be a good child.
@@anastasiaokwuchi4035 just because they provide for you, that doesn't make them a good parent.
I was asked "do you know how much your medical bills are costing me?" when I was a young teenager.
Just because he put a roof over my head and food on the table, that doesn't mean he was a good father or protector.
@@ME-cd3bs oh, I'm sorry I didn't mean it like that. I mean in the case of good parents. I know where the original clip comes from and the girl wasn't really the best child so that's why her mom said that. I meant when your parents or parent is doing everything right for and then a child just doesn't appreciate it and "wastes" it. In your case for the medical bills I'm sorry about that.
@@anastasiaokwuchi4035 aha that makes sense. Thanks for clarifying. I know a lot of these people on social media paint themselves as the victim when it's the opposite. It's hard to know what's truly going on behind the scenes.
I appreciate your concern. I'm just glad I'm an adult now and finally out of the toxic situation!
@anastasiaokwuchi4035 tbh it doesn't matter what the kids does with their life cuz it's theirs- a parent shouldn't provide properly just because they want their kid to pay off like some investment
A kid doesn't have to be greatful or thankful their parents did their job- that's like saying wow you fed your kid? Great job- it's the bare minimum
If I talk to someone like hey how are you they ask how I am and after I say amazing job not punching me like they shouldn't punch me regardless- bare minimum
The way Val yanked out her tears so effortlessly
Got me thinking you're so awkward to just throw a book at the camera I literally can't be the only one who was laughing so hard when you picture someone watching her throw a book at the camera😂😂😂
Insensitive parents can harm their kids emotionally. Emotional damage is hard to repair as it requires lot of selfless love, which is not easy to find in this world. Forget about trusting anyone for love.😢
thing is, i relate to this so much,i have this happening and then i never get privacy, I don't have a bedroom door, my phone and computer is constantly being checked, i trusted my grandma and she stabbed me in the back and told everyone my deepest secrets that i NEVER wanted out, she said "i wont tell a single soul" and she told millions of souls
Oh God I am so so sorry!!!! R u ok? Know that u r amazing and an incredible person! You don't deserve any of that. ❤
@@everything_is_better_with_bows I'm alright I guess, and thank you i really needed/need that
I love Val! ❤
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
@@SkylarWilson-xc2en Them or Val or like who?
All of you.
Oh, okay that's very nice of you!
"You chose to have me. Its not optional to just 'not raise me'. I am your responsibility."
Meet my father. I’m only 13 and I have to go through this on a daily basis.
I'm 16 , but hearing those since a long time
Me too 😭😭😭
@@Hi-zj9st daddy issues check
Oh what pain our mothers put us through and somebody be saying no one loves you more than your mother 😢😢.
My mom actually said to me today that whoever bewitched her to give birth to me must be dead or gloating somewhere cause I'm a nuisance 😢
"All kids deserve parents, not all parents deserve kids"
I love how they forget that we didn't ask to be born.
This hits really hard. I have a dad like this, but my mom is the complete opposite. It hurts to see how so much people experience the same thing I do..
I’m in the same situation as you.. but I wouldn’t be able to explain just how happy I am that my mom is there for me.. I hope you’re okay, hopefully we’ll make it out someday ❤️
@@JustCallMeSweetheart Best wishes ❤️
Tbh this was what it was like living with my bio dad and stepmom and emotionally I was drained I’m back at my bio moms now and I’m happier than ever because she has been nothing but loving and kind to me that is what needed the most
I’m glad you are happy.
this hit really hard. I'm literally in tears😭😭😭
Oh damn I never thought I had abusive parents..
This makes me said because after thirteen years of an emotionally abusive dad I could finally leave and he could just look at me and I cry. He destroyed my life and I could finally escape but he would also hit me aswell and I’m 13 currently so Thankyou for making this video it’s sad by helpful for me
I'm so sorry you have to go through that, I hope you are ok, god bless u and remember, you r appreciated🙏
This makes my sad because ive been through the same thing and people never look into it as much..
There may not be a mark but the scars are still there.
These kinds of parents are 90% of the reason why their kids in future commit suicide. These words hurt more than anything else in the world. 😢😢😢
They should just buy gun I recommend them using the AR 15 semi automatic rifle
Against the parents I mean
It hits more when you have both physical and emotional abusive parents
Same. 💯
Yep.
Wow.. I didn't really know that was emotional abuse tbh. Your emotions were amazing in this though❤
Yup its the constant reminder that they spent their money on you, even though you had no choice to be here or their child.
And hurts even more when they ask you for “apologies” and you know it is meaningless, as soon as possible you will get yelled again and have you heart broken one more time. And it goes on and on, year by year, it’s too hard to hold.
The fact that I go thru this shit evryday and still there’s so long before I can get away from them. I’m so tired.
Wait why does this sound like smth my mom would say😭
Hope you're going to be okay:)❤
Its relatable to me...❤
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Same
Parents like that should never have kids in the first place. Its heartbreaking for those kids. May all the kids who deal with that be in a better place later in life when they can care for themselves
That was personal 😂😂😂
I’m sorry but it’s not funny because some people really experience that
Yah it’s not funny bro it’s mean to the people who experience this and also does anyone know what show or movie this is?
I dont think he meant the person meant it,but somepeople laugh at their pain. I hope you all are okay.
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
Yall sum snowflakes💀
My grandmother emotionally abuses me. She is probably the only person bedided me that I hate. She physically abused my mother when she was young. She calls me “ so thin the wind will blow you away “ and does things she knows makes me uncomfortable/annoyed like chewing loudly, touching me when shes wet on her hands, etc. Me and my mother have told her many times to stop, but she just won’t, so I’ve kind of accepted it. She is also partially the reason I went to therapy.
Tell your mom to cut contacts with her…
There is no compensation against what our parents do for us. No amount can remunerate them.
Yes there is
When you rich
And it sucks that there are so many kids going through this, even myself. It’s not okay to torment kids just because you have more power. These kids have to stay in the same house for years, even when their parents tell them that they can leave and go to a boarding school or an orphanage. These kids develop depression and anxiety just from being with their parents, but they can’t even ask someone else for help or support because they are too scared. Scared that a person won’t understand.
I’m so glad we’re talking abt this now physical abuse is the only one that gets attention and we need to fix that bc Ik how much it hurts to be treated like this we need to raise awareness for emotional abuse
Thank you so much for this video. My dad was emotionally/mentally abusive and my mum and dad got a divorce she was sad but he was just abusive towards everyone in my family
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
My dad one day told me "I am the one raising you , giving you food and shelter so never try to disobey me ever again " he was shouting like crazy and almost all my neighbours heard it... He surely does a lot for me but during every fight reminding me the cost of raising me actually hurts a lot ,,, I love the man more than anything in the world and here he is destroying my mental health over n over again
I’ve heard from my mom that a few times.. it feels horrible but every time I just thought I was being too emotional or overreacting. I guess I wasn’t. It’s good to know that people understand your feelings.
This made me sit back and think for a minute on how much I've thought about doing the same over the years.
I agree, I'm so sorry that you have to go through this, I'm here for you ❤
I love this pov because one, it spells out exactly what happens to me and other kids experiencing emotionally abusive parents. It also doesn’t only talk about physical abuse and rather brings life to emotional abuse. Thank you Val 💗
Val I absolutely love this video. Many people including myself have to deal with this type of abuse everyday, and tbh you make me want to do this and just never see them again.
It's like when ever I mess up one time all of the good deeds go down the drain....
She doesn't need a oscar. The oscar needs her ❤
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
@@SkylarWilson-xc2enTysm ❤
@@xanne.x13 Your welcome
I love your acting! You should really be in a movie
This happens to me but because they're so manipulative, you think you deserve it, so when they speak to you like that, you think it's the truth. I usually just keep quiet. You speak up, it just makes things worst.
Happens too often. Can get quite tunnel visioned and they think you have no goals 😢
this is very relatable and i get yelled at for falling off a horse they will yell at me and abuse me i js love them so much tho
Disguised abuse is so much more detrimental than acknowledged. Abuse that is not obvious physically but creates more trauma than is visible and you suffer silently because nobody helps cause it all looks okay from the outside until it finally bubbles up to be physically visible. Don’t dis validate anything you’re feeling just because it’s not conventional “abuse”. Abuse comes in many different forms.
These were my parents and the sad truth is that I always tried to find a solution for this trauma I carry with me now, I live in a big family so I am usually in such pain to see my younger sister goibg through this now too.
Oh I have been through this and I am still going through this, it makes you stronger honestly 😐
Finally someone speaking out about verbal and emotional abuse. Thank you so much for bringing awareness to the subject.. as someone who suffers from emotional and verbal abuse just thank you
People have *been* speaking out about it
This is so sad. I hate that people are having to go through this. I’m so sorry to anyone to have been through this or is going through this. 😢❤
"do you know how much your medical bills are costing me?"
...
Yeah, that still hurts a decade later...
As a mom, this breaks my heart :(
This is so relatable, thank you Valerie your so amazing ❤️
i hope you are okay now, you can talk to me. I have school but i can make time for you.
God bless you and i love you, i hope you are okay and will always be okay. Im here if you, i will make time for you. I have school so i may not respond in time. Thank you for you.
It’s sad because a lot off people are experiencing this and it not right! Children should have a right to be safe and happy so to everyone out there who is struggling with child abusers we will fix this soon because our world knows better 😢
i love the rummaging to get the notebook, it matched up perfectly
POV: you thought that all parents were like this💀🥲
Parents create a child and then make the child feel guilty for existing. Huh. Ain't that something??
I know first hand that sometimes emotional and mental abuse can be a hell lot more scarring than physical abuse. I’ll never be able to trust someone fully again.
I go through this. And its hard to want to keep going. And they just say "Why do you always act like a pig" or "Your such a spoiled brat" I just hope ppl that are going though this type of abuse stay strong and keep going
This mean is so much to a lot of people, you did it amazing gurl❤
You know, I’ve been told this before, and my response was I never asked you to raise me I can go live somewhere else
Finally at least someone understood, Val is literally my happy place. ❤
i love your videos.your so good at acting