Big Egos vs. Strong Egos: How To Spot A Weak One
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- čas přidán 8. 02. 2022
- What does it mean to have a weak ego? What is the difference between having a strong and weak one? In this video, I share what the difference is between big egos and strong egos, as well as provide some helpful tips for strengthening your own ego.
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I appreciate how informative and short your videos are, I never walk away empty. Meanwhile other videos go on for minutes to hours explaining only to walk away with a headache and no clear understanding 😅😅
Thanks Nina. I probably err on the side of not setting things up enough sometimes. But I also like watching/listening to content that jumps right in.
So true!
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Agreed, wholeheartedly!
I believe weak ego can also lead us into abusive or insatisfying relationships - if someone doesn’t have boundaries and/or afraid to be alone, they will stay with someone for the wrong reasons. And won’t leave, bc they will be telling themselves well, everyone is imperfect, I won’t find anyone better etc etc but in the long term in can de damaging for them…
You are correct! A person with a weak ego is easy prey for manipulators/narcisists.
Ego is I’m better than you… confidence is I am better than who I was 🙏🏽🙏🏽!
we meet again mr buzz
That's a great affirmation!
I have a weak ego. I'm going to need a ton of work but thanks for laying out some tips.
Me too
I definitely had a very weak ego from the painful things I went through and it was very difficult to begin to strengthen my ego to a higher level of confidence 🙏🏽! Those life lessons made me realise what I needed to work on and served me long term… my past biggest ‘weaknesses’ are now my biggest strengths 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️
You don't need to have an ego to have bare confidence in your abilities. You can still be humble yet competent but I guess you've never seen that before? Self esteem is way different from ego
Love that last part! “My past biggest ‘weaknesses’ are now my biggest strengths”.
@@Yisharahzaryah it’s the truth! I used to suffer with really bad anxiety and now I enjoy talking infront of people… it’s become my job hahaa
@@Maxhindle That is amazing! I'm so happy for you :)
@@augustaseptemberova5664 Thankyou! I appreciate you ❤️❤️
Ever since I was a child, I was characterised by a weak ego, I’d say. In my teenage years the whole thing only worsened. Now, as a young adult, I’m still in a bad place. Even though I now live alone, I struggle a lot to feel assertive even in the stupidest things. I set boundaries and I feel super guilty and bad about myself afterwards, that I end up saying sorry. I feel the whole world dislikes me, so I try to please people. But no matter the pleasing, I still think many people dislike or even hate me. I don’t think I’m worth of saying my opinion or dressing nicely. I avoid speaking up. I also feel ridiculous every time I open my mouth. I think I sound stupid and I kind of remind myself of my father, who is not the kind of person I’d want to be. So I try to not be like him at all but I end up repressing some natural characteristics I have, even the good ones (for example good sense of humour and bubbly personality when happy - it reminds me of him and I hate that. I try to be serious all the time). The result is that I never become the exact opposite because it is just not me and I feel even unhappier and unworthy. Sorry for the rant, I just wanted to let these things out. You see, I prefer writing anonymous CZcams comments rather than journaling. There is no need for anyone to read it and sorry if I wasted your time.
You're not alone on this, dude/dudette. I grew up with split parents, and early on, before my mom did some growing of her own, let her bias and personal issues affect my relationship with him. I grew up as a single child even though I have siblings. I always felt dumb just for seeing things the way I see it because I'll look to my left and see someone doing it in a way that makes more sense. My experiences with impatient teachers or mentors alike were mostly just me not getting it initially and then they'd take over completely. Devoiding me of a chance of redemption or learning. Whenever I'd encounter that, it just left the thought that I was so bad at learning that there wasn't much hope in teaching me. And any praise along the way would get overshadowed by the reminders of those times in a way that says "yeah right. If you think I'M good, you don't know what you're talking about." I also moved around alot as a kid so I got used to the idea of nobody sticking around as much I'd want them to. Only enough to think that pleasing them was the only means. I always felt out of place because no one knew the real me, (on the account of my constant people-pleasing) but wouldn't ever have the courage to look in the mirror and say "I am who I am, so let's figure that out. And try to be proud of it. I procrastinated on that talk with myself for so long, I don't even know if I love doing my hobbies anymore. I'll find myself wanting to give up just because sometimes i get so pressed about not knowing. And it's weird because I like to learn stuff. But "not knowing" in itself discourages me to the point I think "why bother?" For one reason or another. It's hard. But at least we're trying now, right?
Please don’t apologize for expressing your thoughts! I have a shitty older sister and I also struggle with not wanting to be like her at all (down to style) even if some of what I learned from her suits me naturally. It’s a shame how negative relationships can affect our sense of selves :(
Please don’t apologize hun your so valid I promise! It doesn’t hurt me or others when you express yourself, it’s inspiring and you should be proud! I hope you have a good day.
I used to have a really weak one. Now, it’s just weak. Working now on increasing my insight. It’s hard doing so not having a stable sense of my core self.
"Another sign is having a fragile sense of self"
As someone diagnosed with schizotypal disorder, this is really what gets at me. Feeling like a construct able to change rather than feeling like a well-rounded person with strong convictions and a sense of self, a firm identity so to say, is literal hell. Constantly questioning your own identity and sense of self to the point you start to feel hollow inside.
I don’t have schizotypal disorder but what you described is literally me. Is it a typical symptom of schizotypal disorder?
@@myrtila No it's not the most common symptom of schizotypal disorder. It's more likely a consequence of depersonalization that some might experience. A feeling of being robotic, not really in touch with your emotions, like looking at yourself from an outside perspective and not really "be there" in the moment. A feeling of being outside your body and mind and not really grasping what is going on there. A feeling of having no strong identity to cling to. Feeling all empty inside and having to "perform" or "act" to show others sign of an identity within you.
My ego used to be weak, then I seeker help for my mental health problems and with that help it seemed to help my ego as well, then as I went further into my career that helped as well.
Oh that's great to hear Nikolaus. I'm glad the therapy was helpful for you and you've been able to progress in your career. 👍🏽
@@DrTraceyMarks hard work Nd dedication is key to any progress
Your weak ego description described me to a T, but instead of feeling defeated by it I’m encouraged to keep doing the work I’ve started! Thanks as always Dr. Marks!
I've been journaling for more than a half century. It's always been my lifeline to sanity, as well as a creative outlet. Keeps my psychic house in order.
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Dr. Tracey is just too good
Totally agree
This is what I needed today. I try to maintain a healthy ego and try not to become egotistical. It's hard to find the middle ground.
True it is. But aiming for the middle is a good way to go 😊
@@DrTraceyMarks Could you do a video on if mental health disorders differ based on cultural surroundings? Such as 1st world countries versus 3rd world countries? Is depression for example the same or does it vary based on surrounding environment?
@@DrTraceyMarks yes I agree please do a video about cultural differences with mental illness. For example people with schizophrenia in eastern cultures have more positive hallucinations, and western has more negative. Thank you for sharing your knowledge in video for the world to learn
This is a distinction that is such a foundation for almost all human endeavor and interaction, but its hardly explained so simply and efficiently
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I remember doing this in psychology 101
I GOT CALLED OUT SO BADLY. DAMN. But thank you for the video. Really needed it
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From Pima Chodron, I learned that discomfort is an opportunity to learn, and that pain is a passport to compassion. This, as well as learning about neuroplasticity, has helped me immensely in recovering from the trauma I’ve experienced. I have CPTSD, and even though learning Cognitive Behavioral Therapy helped a lot, I still need to keep doing the work.
Your videos are so helpful, and your pragmatic, science-based approach has helped me deal with triggers and flashbacks during a very stressful time. Thank you!
Thank you! As someone who was receny diagnosed as bipolar, this is useful to try to keep my mania in check and strengthening the ego
Speaking from experience: the 1st few years are the hardest, there will be times when you think you don’t need your meds anymore but I wouldn’t recommend stopping them. It can take a while to find the right med(s), but once you do you can live a pretty normal life. Good luck. 😁
@@ADAJ3KINGANGEL I love being medicated, I didn't know how miserable I was until I got on some meds and what a difference. To stay that way, I always try to remember being out of control, and the arguments I _used_ to have. Some days it just feels like why take my mania meds, but I just remind myself that I'm much happier on them, even if I don't feel like a million dollar super woman.
Let's stay medicated everyone!
@@wareforcoin5780 agreed, thx for sharing!
I have the same diagnosis and I found it helpful, too. I just got diagnosed correctly a few years ago, and I have regained more control of my behavior than I ever thought possible.
@@wareforcoin5780 this gives me hope for my brother. thank yall
i liked the point about adaptiveness and flexibility. i think it might be true that i had an injured or overcompensating ego… and what i want is to build one with more resiliency.
I need the same.
I know these videos are for a general audience of people with mental illness so some things aren't going to apply to me perfectly but even knowing that I still can't help but get a little defensive whenever any mental health video says, "Make sure you have a consistent bed time and make going to sleep a priority!" Cause I just can't. Something is majorly wrong with my circadian rhythm because I cannot sleep for 30-36 hours and then I pass out from pure exhaustion for anywhere from 5-12 hours before being awake for another 30-36 hours, rinse and repeat. I'd LOVE to have a consistent bed time and sleep like a normal human being. But if I try, I just lie there awake for HOURS until I finally get bored and give up or get up to start my day. I really wish it was as simple as, "Your body COULD sleep if you wanted it to but you just stay up instead." It sometimes feels like my brain WANTS me to suffer.
Freudian psychoanalytic theory explains the core of personality development as you so effectively articulate. This is an important video because too many therapists are unclear on these concepts, thus are often less effective in their efforts to assist others in growing. Less likely to help others with unhealthy personality development, when you lack understanding of how healthy personality develops. I am a little jealous of you because you have access to practice your profession and do it well, something I have never had. Nevertheless, great job!
Wow! Congratulations on reaching 1 million subscribers! I’m so happy for you, Dr. Marks! 😊
I’ve got neither 👍 I know I’m psychologically at my limit after decades of trauma and I don’t need to exert power I know I don’t have, to avoid confronting that. If anything, I help encourage other people so they don’t feel as worthless and depleted as I do.
Congratulations on your 1 millionth subscriber. May you be blessed for the blessings you give. Thank you.
Definitely strong ego... I love learning 👍🏿
That's awesome. Keep learning. 👍🏽😊
I couldn't dodge these at all. Thank you for this enlightening video!
I hope I don't cause too many problems for the people around me. :(((
I was incredibly pleased to find that my weak ego a from a few years ago is almost completely gone, as I had been doing the things to strengthen it subconsciously. I am just glad these past few rough mouths have been worth it and there is improvement. Thank you for your videos, they mean way more than you could ever imagine. ❤
How did your strengthen it?
The clarity I’ve found in this video… thanks
i finally understand about ID, EGO & SUPER EGO - excellent video! Thank U, Dr Marks =)
You're welcome, I'm glad it was helpful!
00:45 👌👌👌
2:15 Strength & Function
4:30 Weak Ego
To hear that everything I did and do to become my own person again are listed in this video and even if not needed, it is nice to have affirmation
This got recommended to me at the right time. I am one to have a weak ego as I do a lot of the things you described here, and I have finally fully realized that I have a problem with my ego as I had an outburst with my family recently for very unreasonable reasons.
Wow, I feel like you totally read through me!! I definitely have a weak ego. It’s good to know that there are ways to work on it. Thanks for the tips and suggestions!
Omg every single thing you said about weak ego fits me! And now i understand I'm the one breaking up my current relationship. It was not the other person, it was me!!!! What do i do now? I suddenly feel panicky. I know you gave some suggestions, but i feel i need more than that to fix all those issues
:((((( what do i do? If i tell them, won't my value drop even more than i feel it already has??? I knew i had a very low self esteem because of my past but this has opened my eyes more. I'm going to write this list down now and see if i can get some help from your other videos you suggested at the end :/ i feel very sad, i was sexually, physically, emotionally abused in the past by my own parents and my ex husband and now i think I'm broken beyond repair and I'll just keep messing up anyone who comes close enough to me. Should I just resign to a single life rather than hurt other people?
Hey, I just wanted to say that you should not stay single for a life. You don’t deserve something you don’t want. You just need to make peace with yourself, before entering a new relationship. But please don’t panic. If self-work is too much for you to handle right now, and you don’t know where to begin, I’d suggest seeing a therapist. It is completely normal to seek guidance when you feel lost and even at the bottom. I was at a similar place a couple of months ago: no self esteem, fragile relationships etc. I felt I was at the bottom. It was really tragic, I would feel so unwanted and broken inside that I would wake up crying. After much thought and fear, I finally made an appointment and saw a therapist. It is a regular thing for me now. It has helped me a lot to not feel like my whole existence is full of shame and that I deserve nothing but hatred. I’m still healing and getting better but I know that without a person by my side, who is qualified exactly for that, for guiding people through healing, I would still be at the bottom. Please please remember that you’re not permanently broken. There is a silver lining and people there to help you reach that. I’m sending you all the love ❤️
@@myrtila thank you 💕💕
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I benefit so much personally from your channel, but I also recommend it and specific videos to others so that they can be helped, too.
Wow wow wow. I needed to see this more than i realized. The conversation on sleeping at a good time and self regulation is something i struggle with deeply. This video gave me so much insight. Thank you!!
As always, quality content! Thank you, Dr. Tracey!
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Yay!! You hit a million!!!!
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Thank you so much, I have been going through all these phases lately... This video is just what I needed
Thank You Dr. Marks. I have such a better understanding of these concepts with each video I listen to....I also think the wrong people received my student loans 😂💜💜
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Extremely helpful. Thank you Dr. Marks
No matter how many times I refresh YT this always stays in my recommended.
My name is Tammie and I have a weak ego. This issue developed when I chose to engage in a relationship where I felt I had to OVER give myself for his love.
We are in separation now because of these behaviors and am looking to begin therapy sometime in the next week.
It has been SO HARD finding affordable therapy.... that would be a great resource if you can provide.
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My sleep has been, is and will always be my top priority. I can’t function without it. Thank you for this awesome video
Thanks for the direct input on how to help heal the ego, not "just" explaining it 🤗
This was very interesting. I appreciate.
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Discovering this channel has made a huge impact on my life in a very short amount of time. Thank you for all of your content!
You have helped me tremendously.
Hi, your channel has helped me a lot to polish and review some ideas of mine and also to change my perspective. I love it that they are short and you add some sort of humour, the kind I like, into them!
Thank you for this. The insight bit was interesting and it will hopefully be useful for me, especially since I enjoy writing.
What an eye opening piece.
Thank you so much for these videos Dr. Marks, you are the best! 👏🏼 would love to see more videos on insomnia, I only get a few (3 or so) hours of sleep a night usually & that’s taking the max trazadone. I don’t know what else to do! I wear blue light glasses 2 hours before bed too as I’ve seen you recommend doing
Great video!
Really needed to hear this. Thank you for your videos!
I'm glad this was right on time Kelsey. 😊
Based on this, I have a very weak ego. I'm working on being a better person
Thanks so much for assisting people with your knowledge. You explain things so well and these aspects of personality are things we really need to know. With the knowledge you present on your channel, especially as you are a psychiatrist, you are helping to make the world a better place. ❤️❤️❤️
I haven't been told information like this about ego at all, very interesting.
I am very grateful for your viewpoint it is refreshingly no nonsense, non-judgmental and with no glimmer of superiority, which is rare in the field, sadly, I think it is counterproductive to a person's ability to accept themselves, heal and grow. It is a condition, not a condemnation, when you explore and explain. No sign of psyche-bashing.
There is a need for the insightful exploration of comparative conditions and I have been in tears of recognition and relief. I cannot tell you the release and release you bring, I have struggled my whole life, my life now depends on implementing healthy changes, especially psychologically- the precipitation of the life limiting conditions I have- Complex Regional Pain Syndrome, neurological injury and clotting disorders.
Thank you 🙏
I don't know if it is because I am in the uk but when you point to video links "here and here", I don't have the thumbnails to click.
Positively it means I have to look them up and that has led to me finding other treasures.
Ms. Lady I’ve watched 3 of your videos now in a row and I love you
Well deserved, 1 million subscribers 🎉
Great insights! Thank you for sharing.
This is sooo important thank u u just summed up my whole issue w bpd we gotta grow some balls !
Thank you, Dr. Marks. Your video is very insightful. I will pay attention to some of your tips to strengthen ego and see how it goes.
I love your channel you’re so knowledgeable!!! Thankyou so much
Loved this video!
Thank you 🙏🏽
Wow this is amazing information
This question just popped up in my brain the other day thanks
Omg this explains so much whene i am with some ppl i feel like i have a big ego znd stand my ground but normally i am not unless i am not feeling good so now i know that I don’t feel safe enough to show my real ego
One of the most important videos that everyone should watch again and again
Thank you so much
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Thanks for another super interesting video Dr. Marks! I really enjoy your videos and find myself looking forward for the next one.
Awesome, thank you!😊
With this age presenting a pandemic of dissatisfactory interpersonal experiences it's great to know why.
This explains difficult people and the experiences that one can expect pursuant to their underdeveloped selves.
Yes indeed. Great point.
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Funny you do this topic today! I was just telling someone yesterday that I gained weight, and they looked at me kind of funny. I said "I gained weight in my ego" and they started laughing like I wanted :)
Gawd I love your videos!! Super informative to me.
Damb I have a weak ego 😣
thank you for this video
Thank you very much !! 🕊✨🤍
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Hi Dr Tracey Marks, I love your content and all that you're doing for the mental health community! I was wondering if you could do a video on Long-Acting Injections (antipsychotics). I'm currently speaking with my psychiatrist about switching from oral to injections, and I don't know much about them.