Best 3 Tips on Worry, Anxiety and Turning Down the Stress Response - Anxiety Workshop w Nick Wignall
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Let's talk about anxiety- Nick Wignall, psychologist and writer, super great cognitive therapist and friend shares his top three tips on how to decrease anxiety, and - no surprise here - it has to do with how we worry, setting boundaries on your worrying, and accepting worry thoughts.
0:00 introduction
1:39 Learn the difference between stress, anxiety and worry the mind body aspect of anxiety
9:36 Learn the difference between a worry and worrying
13:54 Stop resisting or avoiding anxiety
18:01 Understanding how small forms of avoidance contribute to anxiety
20:09 Schedule your worry, set boundaries on it
24:46 Take physical action to create safety, set boundaries, take action
30:26 Do mindfulness the right way, as a training exercise not a coping skill for anxiety
36:04 "I have the worst anxiety in the mornings. Is there a clue there that could help me feel better?"
38:08 "How do we manage the physical side of anxiety, especially if we experience it more strongly than the mental aspects."
41:31 in the age of self-care, how much acceptance do we need for a condition and where can we expect effort from the affected person?
44:24 I wake up feeling anxious. , would it be best to do scheduled worry time when I'm calm later in the day or in the morning when worries are popping into my head?
45:30 would the bottom-up approaches of physical relaxation techniques qualify as coping techniques for anxiety?
47:33 is there something else that's better to do in the moment to address the anxiety burst outside of the longer term techniques discussed today?
51:53 The connection between chronic pain and anxiety and worry about coping
55:14 if excitement and anxiety look the same, why does anxiety cause health related issues
55:59 I have anxiety whenever I try to talk to my past, whenever I try to talk about my past trauma with my psychologist
1:01:47 what if I feel too anxious to actually address the issue? Like, I'm too overwhelmed and I'm unable to make decisions
01:03:19 where can I find a resource for willingness?
01:05:48 does the EMDR work with just a single event or does it work well with long sustained, painful events?
01:07:30 blushing when speaking in public
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When I'm at peace, my mind would ask me,why are you relaxed? You are supposed to worry about something, then it starts creating scenarios of what might be wrong or go wrong.. that's pain!! i pray 🛐 for healing to everyone
This is so true, is there an episode that talks about this concept? I get the same feeling, it'd be nice to learn how to address this feeling. If I'm not worrying I feel like I'm neglecting my safety, but I know that's absurd
You should be able to use the methods they are talking about (which I believe they are talking about Meta Cognitive Therapy). You can not control that original thought, but you can control if you get entangled in a spiraling thought process. The reason you are so concerned about starting to worry about something is because until now, whenever that happens, it drags you into a worrying session. I would recommend looking into MCT to see if it helps.
My way of reducing anxiety is to look around me. Make eye contact with what I'm anxious or fearful about. When I avoid or look down, i dont give my brain the data it needs to realize that no one is as fearful or judgmental as the thoughts make it out to be. When I look around, I actually see that other people don't even care or aren't even looking at me. When I look around, the scary monster isn't so scary for me
That’s pretty good
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This is by far the most effective that I use. Well said.
This is great advice! Thanks. 🧡 I mat try to look more into my therapists eyes now. 😅
I don’t mean to be dramatic, your videos saved my life. I have never been suicidal and I’ve been through a lot of things. An abusive marriage, 4 years in prison, etc, and through all that I’ve never been suicidal. In my most recent relationship I’ve somehow got to the point of contemplating self harm at least 3 times. I was there, I was about ready to take action, I came across your videos and you brought me back to reality. I cannot thank you deeply enough. You saved my life.
I would argue you saved your own life, with a little help on the side
This video has literally decreased the anxiety. I’m going to rewatch it to let it sink in some more ❤😊 thanks 🙏🏽
I am an anxiety avoider. Almost every real problem I have ever had has been caused by my avoidance. Can’t open a certain piece of mail, even though I KNOW it’s time sensitive and for sure, whatever consequence will be worsened by my delay. Or maybe it won’t actually be worsened, but I will convince myself of that in a few days so I can become even more fearful. So not only do I continue to worry about it, but I worsen the actual problem itself, sometimes.
It’s a terrible place to be where you know you are hurting yourself but you still keep doing it. I’ll say “it’s Friday. I don’t want to ruin my weekend by looking at that paper. I’ll wait until Monday”. Then Monday comes and I think, well the house will be empty tomorrow so if I get really upset, nobody will be home, so tomorrow is better. Tomorrow comes and I think well, why shouldn’t I enjoy my day off?
I absolutely hate that I willingly do this to myself. It’s self inflicted abuse, really.
@alyross2850 I feel such compassion for what you're experiencing as well as many others here are. I think my brother suffers from similar issues as you've described. Recently I heard Mel Robbins talk about her anxiety in a training and she talked about a "5-second rule" that kind of came to her in a desperate attempt to move forward in a very extra-depressing time in her life. She said that little rule changed her life and she moved out of her depression and eventually stopped having panic attacks and became incredibly productive in her life in a way she had never been able to be before. I have found her simple rule can launch me forward as well, and it kind of builds this momentum so I can keep moving forward productively when I'm faithful about using it (which I admit that I lapse and realize I need to start up again). I have no idea if that would help you or others, but she's got lots of videos here on CZcams where she talks about the rule and about her life before/after. I realized that I burn so much energy with the mental/emotional avoidance and guilt of putting things off and off and off, that it was sort of liberating to try this silly little rule. It helps quickly bypass all those excuses why you can't do something before they start filling your head. I use it to launch out of bed every morning (which was how she first used it). The rule is basically this: you have a thought that you need to do something-like open your mail-and you immediately count off like a rocket launch sequence "5-4-3-2-1. Go!" You just do the thing you don't want to do. No excuses. I heard one guy say he counts 5-4-3 because those extra two seconds start his brain with excuses if he allows 5 seconds. You might try it! Sounds ridiculous, but it really was super helpful.
@@imlistening2Love Mel and almost forgot her 5 second rule, going to keep it handy in the toolbox, thanks for sharing!
You described exactly one of the things that I do. And mental breakdowns almost every day. Started about a year ago. The health care provider I’ve been seeing is no help. Put me on medicine told me if I thought it was making me worse to quit medicine 😳Left me with no idea what to do. And my procrastination with these breakdowns together I can’t make decisions. It’s like my brain stops working ☹️
WHY IS THIS NOT GOING VIRALLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOUUUUUUUUU
Scheduled worry made an immediate impact and reduced the anxiety significantly! I noticed the difference with 1 week! Thank you so much!
I called in for a sick day to my boss and informed him I was experiencing a severe panic attack (severe shaking that can spiral into a seizure, hyperventilating, speech issues, temporary impairment to drive) (I am diagnosed with CPTSD) and he proceeded to yell at me, fired me and literally called my "unreliable". THAT is a reality scenario MOST people are worried about experiencing. I have learned now how to disrupt panic attacks. Videos like this have made more of a positive, truly effective, impact on my life than wasting money at any therapist or messing up my body with any psych meds. Those people just care about money rather than helping people. I feel safer watching helpful videos like this rather than risking my life from a "licensed therapist" that has the legal power to kidnap you against your will and make more money off you through insurance claims by forcing you for long periods in a mental health facility/psych ward and forcing meds on you that may or may not work, or do permanent damage to your brain and nervous system. The true test of anxiety is letting go of the fear of death.
What I have been understanding more and more about my anxiety (social anxiety in particular) is that becoming more and more self-aware in general and particularly so while being in the grip of anxiety and understanding the whole thing more and more deeply and clearly is what makes the real difference. Call it mindfulness, acceptance, or whatever. The basis is - not fighting it, not avoiding it but simply relaxing in it, going through it, accepting it, and understanding it. And add to it the understanding that it is there for the only reason of making us more self-aware. That helps change the perception towards it. Life is all about understanding ourselves. And anxiety is nothing but a part of us. So understanding anxiety is part of understanding ourselves.
God bless you, Emma. Your videos are highly educational and very helpful.
We are so lucky to live in a time where we can get invaluable advice from professionals!
Emma, I found you a year ago when my anxiety stoped me from eating any food that causes anxiety... Like one day I woke up and poof eating disorder! Ever time I eat I feal like I can't breath... The doctors say it's mental... My therapist says it's physical I get no answer and feal like I'm going crazy. You are a tiny light in my darkness to help handle what's going on thank you so much!!!
Or try magnesium citrate if you have acid reflux. It really helped me when I had anxiety from eating because of acid reflux (it was hard for me to breathe and I felt like my throat was closing up on me because of the reflux) You could also try some magnesium glycinate to help with the breathing and relaxing. Also watch what you are eating. You might be having sensitivity to certain foods. Mine was yogurt, cheese, artificial flavors and colorings. So I stuck to natural foods I cooked and avoided canned and boxed foods.
@alicedowntherabbithole I just wanted to say you're not alone - I'm going through the same and it's so hard! I have to believe we will get through it in time, it's just our brains misinterpreting food as danger when we're on high alert. Hope you're doing OK. X
@@KW-fb3pd I'm doing ok slowly recovering but sometimes it's like I never even started... Three step forward one back. How do you handle the hard times?
I find conversations like this very insightful. It's amazing the kind of information available now that even 10 years ago would have been inaccessible. Thank you for the content
This was so good! It’s necessary to teach on this granular level so we can UNDERSTAND anxiety. We damask the boogie monster.
This is truly the absolute best video I’ve ever seen on anxiety - on a mental AND physiological level. Includes all the tips I’ve heard on the internet and even from my therapists. Thank you for sharing this with me and others ❤
I'd love a video on chronic anxiety after a massive nervous breakdown and ways to recover. Had a massive and my first panic attack + nervous breakdown. I was frozen for a full week could barely talk, only conciois breathing all day everyday and just sit in my garden. Now 1,5 month further and have so much anxiety (i never had before) going to inside spaces (the mall, supermarket, gym, or having to talk to people). I cant work, also suffer from CPTSD, depression and now also anxiety. Cant do anything anymore or feel joy when doing hobbys. I am doing exposure (daily) but for some reason the anxiety goes up and down and still havent managed to feel truly safe (in supermarket, gym etc)
What you've described happened to me about 3 years ago. It was horrific.
I had a breakdown. Alot of things happened to me at once over a period of time and my body had had enough. Resulting in a pinnacle type event - a panic attack. I thought I was dying and was taken to ER by ambulance. All I remember was not wanting to die!
Loads of tests. I was ok. But then had to recover from the breakdown. Drs tried me in antidepressants. They didn't help me. I had a lovely helpful doctor who told me that our brain is like another organ, if when hurt, requires healing. Time to heal. And it's important to give ourselves time. How long that'll be, no one can say. For me it's been 3 years and 3 months. I feel I'm making headway and I do alot of research. Heaps. Learning about how the body works. It takes the unknown away, which sort of helps anxiety to dissipate. It hasn't gone away completely but it's alot better and I'm so thankful for Therapy in a nutshell and Dr Claire Weekes (RIP) two beautiful calm people who totally get it.
Just know you are not an anxious person. That's a label which only perpetuates anxiety. Rather, you have anxious times.
Research brain neuroplasticity. It's very interesting and the above vid is what it's all about. The Vegus Nerve, things we can do to sooth our body.
Emma is so calming and helpful. She had so many vids which are helpful.
Just know, it's a journey. Healing takes time. You are not broken. You are hurt and need time to heal. You can heal.
I had this happen to me in 2021, I had a full blown anxiety panic attack in Mexico City, even went to the hospital and when I came back I had panic and anxiety every day for 3 weeks. I couldn’t go to the gym, restaurants and or drive. I was scared of my own breathing and even falling asleep. The only thing that HELPED Me was meditation.
When I would get anxiety I had to sit down and listen to it, mentally go into the part of my body where I feel the anxiety coming from physically. Stop thinking because I couldn’t cure anxiety with words. I was already thinking a milling things and adding more words wouldn’t work for me. Neither was the breathing thing. I needed to sit and dive into my anxiety and it would slowly go away. I would close my eyes, and visualize going inside my anxiety and thinking oh wow this is okay. I’m okay, and it would go away.
Try yin yoga. It’s meditative and helps keep you calm and still.
This was incredible to watch, thank you so much!!! Emma your videos have helped me more than almost any other mental health professional (and I've seen quite a few at this point) with my panic & anxiety disorders, and even when I'm sliding backwards you put out this STELLAR content that makes me feel like I can keep going and will get through this. Thank you thank you thank you from the bottom of my heart!
This video makes me cry like a baby... it "set free" my morning anxiety TOTALLY just focus on the anxiety-advice in this video. SImply mind blowing for me.
A talk that is held within and through a calm nervous system from both safe space holders. I truly appreciate the energy, knowledge, insights and flow of attunement that is outpoured here. So much healing in one talk. Thank you from my heart!
I’ve been using the “designated worry time” technique for the past few days based on the recommendations in your video, and so far, so good!
At the end of my ten minutes, I’ve been adding three things I’m grateful for…
The gratitude practice is brilliant! I know that it’s beneficial already, but adding it to the end of your worry time probably helps you transition out of worry mode.
Here is what I tell myself about anxiety. I imagine a jar of jelly is sitting on the shelf in the grocery store, and I see it there as I head up the aisle. This jar is like a worry that comes into my mind. I do not want to own the jelly, so I walk on by.
Thank you for your video. I did the exercise regarding writing everything down that I am anxious about. I finally called the Dr. for my knee that I was so worried about.
I am so afraid they are going to tell me I will need a new knee and I will never have that much money to get one.
I tried to get workman's comp to help but they were useless.
I did not go soon enough because I was not in pain right away.
So now I am having to figure this out on my own. It has caused me so much worry and anxiety.
Thank you Emma.
This was so insightful! Thank you both so much for speaking on this. I will be sharing this with friends and talking with my therapist about it.
Emma's vids and Nick's newsletters are truly lifesavers! Thank you both.
Thank you so much for this! Absolutely fantastic talk, so much info shared, and so much value shared. Thank you so so much!!
Thanks you two, long time viewer, always good to just see helpers!
Absolutely love this and thank you for this insightful video!
This is so extremely helpful. Thank you for this. I have been struggling lately and even though I have learned most of these steps before, it is soooo beneficial to be reminded and to have this video on hand to watch anytime ❤❤ you guys brought up so many good points and things that blew my mind
Thank you for this very helpful information! Thank you Emma for all that you do! Your hard work is very much appreciated!
This was soooo helpful. Thank you both!
Thank you! This is so helpful!
This video is fantastic!! I love all those tipps
Thank you 🙏🏻 for all the tips
Excellent idea about taking the time to worry and write down all of them. Thank you.
Great video! Very informative! ❤ I’m going to try all of the tips! Sometimes my anxiety and worrying is so high that I’m afraid I’m getting out of control or dying but videos like this gives me hope and confidence. ❤ Thanks to both!
Emma, I just want to thank you for helping me learn a bunch about my mental health, as well as giving me the comfort to seek out actual therapy as well. Your videos have been a great resource for me in understanding how anxiety and stress were (and still are to a lesser extent) affecting my body. Thank you.
I have GAD and OCD so my intrusive thinking is so extreme sometimes I have intrusive thoughts that interrupt intrusive thoughts already going on in my head and I'll say a lot of your strategies work for me. It takes practice and it can take years to actually manage your anxiety, worry, and stress this way but it works. You just have to trust the process and definitely write it down. Writing things down makes a world of a difference. This won't work without writing it down because thoughts and feelings are always just in passing and fading so you won't be able to implement these healthy managing skills if you don't write it down.
Emma, these techniques are so helpful. I will practice these. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
This is definitely a save worthy episode, thank you both so much!!
❤🙏 thank you this is excellent! Will be trying all of these tools!
Loved this tutorial and discussion/Q&A. It is really difficult to get people to make time to check in with themselves - their thoughts/feelings/sensations but you've given some good ways to frame things which may help people understand the importance of this. You've given great advice as to how to work with/through these. Thank you both!
As a mental health provider, you are both doing an excellent job of providing concise incredibly well curated information…your content is helpful for professionals too…. Well done!
This live stream made so much sense. I was just re visiting the panic attack come down video, and this popped up. I’m really gonna try these approaches out. Having a lot of anxiety and panic attacks, they’re not fun. HRT I think is a big factor as is the menopause. Thank you for a brilliant, helpful, proactive, and positive live stream guys ❤
Very informative! Thanks for sharing
You guys are my 'Life saver' Thank you very much!
This was awesome! I’ve taken plenty of notes. Thanks.
Thank you Emma, I've been pulling out the hair on my scalp since I was 11. It's 100% a way to feel relief when feeling tense. As well 100% feels like a form of grooming. It's caused me emense shame in myself, and thr shame has caused me to hold myself back in so many ways. I appreciate you bringing awareness to healing and therapy ❤️
Thank you for this conversation! My partner deals with long term chronic anxiety, and this has helped me to better understand how to translate all the information out there into practical action.
I’m currently experiencing postpartum anxiety and wake up extremely anxious and lots of intrusive thoughts. It’s hard to face when it deals with fears on your child but I am going to try and accept it and not just cope. Thank you for this. I am going to try and apply more long term solutions.
Postpartum anxiety is generally hormone related.
It's important to address this.i went through it. I needed to get the hormones corrected.
You might be different. But get it checked. It's been a couple of months since your comment and I'm hoping you are doing ok.
I love that about the worry and worrying!!
This is so helpful! Thank you!
Great video. Thank you!
This was so helpful! Thank you!
I really like these ideas and plan to implement a couple. But I did want to add my two cents to one thing I disagree with vehemently. The idea that anxiety and excitement feel the same and have similar responses in the body is absolutely not true for me. When I’m excited I get “bouncy” and my whole system is up for fun. When I feel anxiety I’m completely tense and tight and my gut goes into full-on fight or flight and I get sick. Depending on the level of anxiety determines how long I’m sick for but my stomach goes into flight mode and it’s so horrible to be sick like that. I’ve had months where it’s every single day, and I’ve had times where it’s only when the anxiety goes way up, but either way my body doesn’t do that AT ALL when I’m excited. And since the top trigger for IBS attacks is stress, that’s a ginormous way that the feelings and body reactions are stark opposites from anxiety to excitement. Just needed to point that out.
I'm sorry you have to go through that. You're strong, I wish for the pain to lessen but I'm sure you can overcome whatever's on your path and become the person you want to be ❤
I thought of when I was little, and trips would make me a little nervous and a little excited. They both felt very similar: I had butterflies in my stomach, higher heart rate and just wouldn't breathe slowly. And I think if there's little excitement and little nervousness the comparison kind of works. But when it becomes a severe or chronic state, it just puts strain on the body and isn't fun anymore. I think it works both for excitement and nervousness; I think if I was excited for hours, days, months straight I'd feel sick too, wouldn't be able to eat and sleep and think properly. So, I agree, it wasn't specified well, you're right. And I'm also pleasantly happy to see how you did your research and, thus, shared some proper knowledge.. cheers for that!
Thank you for this great video
This video helped me so much. I only break the constant stress by scheduling stress time and learning to accept how I feel. Thank you so much for this. I look forward to stress time at 10am every morning. Honestly, learning to accept and practising mindfullness is the hardest thing ive done in my life but it works. Im getting beter at it and i can feel my anxiety getting better.
I found this video to be very helpful. I’ll have to listen a few time to remember more of it. Thanks 🙏🏽 😊
Wow. What a great video. I learned a lot!!
This is so helpful. Thank you 🙏🏼
Scheduled worrying feels like it saved me. I was really struggling with a particular disappointment... one I had zero power to fix... and it was intruding on every second of my time. I couldn't get solid, restorative sleep. It was a problem. Then I heard one of Emma's videos where she said to schedule time for the worry and give yourself permission to feel the fear, disappointment and hurt just in those moments. It WAS transformative!! Now I've got to add the writing part and I'm gonna rock this so awesome. Thanks for this presentation. It's crazy helpful🎉😊
I appreciate your videos, very helpful.
This was reeeeeally good, love bought of you🙏
so great...thanx a lot Emma
Thank you both . So usefull . Atm going through chemo , Bells Palsy . Hearing loss and tinnitus . Watching and learning from yoh and others had helped me alot ,
So excited to try all those tips ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I am so doing this course this guy is great 👍
Really informative especially the worry difference between worrying really needvto work on that
Mrs Mcadam thank you for all your hard work.
Thanks for watching!
🙏❤️Thinking about you on a daily basis
This woman is brilliant! I’m getting more from this channel than from my in person therapist.
Aw shucks, thanks...There is a difference between education and therapy, and sometimes we need a little of both. some therapists are also very much about just listening, and others are more about education. You could ask if your therapist is able to be more directive/educational and it may help...but I'm grateful this is helpful for you :)
This is the most helpful video I've found on CZcams for what I struggle with. Everything from distinguishing what a "worry" and what "worrying" is, the threat detection system true/false threats to the puppy pooping on the Matt analogy. The problem with me is I can't seem to be able to assign 10mins of the day to let all my worries out, because my mind is always anxious.... at home, at work, during sleep 😢 and the most frustrating part is I don't know what I'm worrying or anxious about... it's like it's all in my subconscious locked up🔒and I can't access it. The unknown worrying/anxiousness affects my conscious mind also on normal day to day activities... 🤷🏻♂️
Super helpful! Thankful for all you do❣️ 🙏
Very important topic.
Dude. Literally thank you
I Used to have Stress No I am not scared now but I love your videos please put more
Very valuable thanks
Hi Emma, thanks for sharing the practical help. Mum told me how l was abused from day 2 (pillow over the face to stifle my cries of hunger) When those l idolised treated me like crap l believed l was. I've been actively dealing with fears for 40+ years. What l'd like to know is, do we re-experience the trauma on its way out also? Every thought l have is accompanied by an electric shock to the solar-plexus. I like your practical approach and it puts you apart from all the other online therapists! I'm going for a walk to try to tread my nervous energy out of my body. ❤
This video is pure gold for someone like me who suffers from constant panic attacks
You are not alone as I suffer from severe anxiousness. Its just age talking back at us. I encourage you to keep on going but make a small change per month to keep your brain strong so to speak.
Thank you❤
Body based approach....I like this.
Loved this info
Thanks!
Very helpful. Thank you. The idea of not letting your focus be to get rid of the anxiety is a game changer.
Tip 1 : INCREDIBLE!!!!!!!
Deeply appreciate this valuable content 💙
Thank you!
@@TherapyinaNutshell So I was misdiagnosed and basically left to die. I found out finally what has been wreaking so much havoc, but the anxiety is still there. Please I need some help getting through it and moving on?
There are so many valuable insights in this video! I work as a therapist specializing in addiction and have really noticed how clients (and I think people generally nowadays) are looking for a mental health drug to make their uncomfortable feelings go away. I was just saying in a group yesterday how this reinforces the addictive mentality of I have to fix this feeling. We unfortunately have pathologized human emotions to the point that rather than seeing them as a signal that there's a situation that needs to be dealt with, we see them in themselves as the problem that we need to make go away.
I am a recovering addict who desperately needs to see a therapist. Your comment jumped out at me because I literally just spoke with my doctor last month about needing something for my anxiety. I've dealt with my depression but the anxiety has been debilitating. He offered benzos but I know my personality is highly addictive so I asked for buspar and he agreed. Yesterday I told my sister that I have changed my mind and was going to ask for a benzo next month. Deep down I know I don't need to go that route because I have the potential to abuse them. After watching several of Emma's videos I have realized my anxiety stems from avoiding and distracting myself constantly. I have let little situations build and build without addressing the anxiety they brought until the weight of them all has become crushing. I think I'm going to try the steps and suggestions I've learned from her videos first instead of masking my feelings with a pill. Thank you for your comment because it flipped a switch in my brain that needed to be flipped. ❤️
@@VictoriaMarch13 awww thank you so much for saying that ❤ I wish you the best of luck! The Therapy In a Nutshell channel has excellent ideas on this as well.
Thank you for your work🤩
You’re welcome 😊
I love the way you look at the issues of our mind , I resonate with almost everything your saying . you say things that are useable in a function of the day .that makes it something that you can do anytime or just when you need it , it is ever changing and most times unexpected but you show us how to deal
Thanks so much
thanks I'm going to learn myself from today put on paper km going to work on my self first
Making one good decision was my manta and helped relieve acute anxiety years ago…. build a life rather than ruminate about it…. and remember decisions don’t have to be perfect. Anxiety can be very immobilizing but decisions get you moving…(ties in with points about sustainability…..). Changing your external reality can change your internal world.
This was amazing.
Lived it a lot. Lot of history. It's the fear of something that has not occurred yet, not knowing if it will or if it will not.
THis is a life changing video
How do I work through constant severe anxiety without using these coping skills and function throughout my day? My anxiety literally shuts me down: don’t eat, emotional, couch potato, calling off work, etc.
Epic n intriguing video
Wow that is so interesting about not doing coping exercises during anxiety. I was taught the opposite but makes so Much sense.
Wow I'm sorta shocked too ..
needed this.
To everyone: Me too, I hear you. Sometimes all we can do is reach out to family and friends and talk about it. Sometimes it helps me to share my fears, pain and anxiety with them. They help me look at it through their eyes...it helps a bit. Only positive actions will help. Compound on the positive. Again and again and again. Good luck.
Thanks❤
Thank you Emma! You're bottom-up approach really works for me. Everything else l've tried just has too many words. My memory, or lack of, probably plays a large part in my attitude. ❤
I just don’t get how anxiety’s supposed to help you but makes you feel awful it just doesn’t make any sense it’s so frustrating
Like how some say to embrace the feelings. Make friends with them. Ummm….when they make you feel aweful??
You cant
@@FFPM371 haha exactly and your not supposed to do anything about all the symptoms the sweating,shakiness,dizziness your supposed to walk around all day feeling like this and do nothing about it I don’t get it that’s like ignoring a headache 🤷♂️🤦♂️
@@thecreativegramgram8592 you can’t what ?
It does sound crazy. Feels uncomfortable. I’m just counting on them knowing what they are talking about and trying it. And, it won’t happen overnight. It’s all about retraining the brain. Best wishes to all of us.