What To Do When You Feel Stuck or Behind In Life
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- čas přidán 25. 07. 2024
- Over the last few years, I’ve managed to push beyond this belief that I was behind in life, and I changed many of the habits and thoughts I’ve developed that kept me stuck-not only physically in life-but stuck in this belief as well.
So in this video, I'm sharing the three changes I made that helped me get unstuck and stop feeling behind.
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0:00 Intro
1:07 Feeling Behind vs. Being Ahead
2:37 Change your pace in life
4:51 Change your mindset about life
7:07 Adopt a new way to measure progress
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What part of this conversation resonated the most with you?
The story and your interpretation was great. Changing my mindset resonates with me. I have to constantly refrain my mindset. Thanks for those affirmations.
Hey Ronald, I appreciate your work and dedication, and it shows through in your video! One part of the video that resonated most with me was changing my mindset. I have studied Carol Dweck's work and the idea of having a Growth Mindset. By implementing a Growth Mindset, one can view failure as an opportunity to improve in the future.
All of it! 😅
All of it. I finally stopped comparing myself to people in my life who have achieved greater success than I have. But my path has also changed a few times. I'm no longer in the same industry.
Everything.
I definitely feel behind as a 29 year old who hasn’t gotten things figured out yet but I am where I’m supposed to be. Thank you for the words of encouragement.
I’m 29 as well so I get it! Keep pushing forward on your journey my friend!
Same here 29 self taught designer. Things have slowed down drastically and I’m seeking change but Im constantly learning that this is where I’m supposed to be. It’s hard but it’s good to know a lot of us are in the same battles.
Yea dude don't worry, you are not alone. I'm 28 and I often feel like that. Thanks God there's Ronald that makes me think about it. For example now I'm out in the garden barefoot enjoying the night because rush it's useless, that's absolutely true. We must enjoy more and think less. Peace bro
I'm a 58 year old female from a privileged
background but I have wasted away so many opportunities that life presented me - feeling very lost ATM
You’re right where you’re supposed to be A A, and still have so many more opportunities ahead of you 🙏🏾
"Opportunities favor a prepared mind." This is powerful! I needed this.
My dad would tell my brother and I this all of the time. I’m really glad it resonated with you as well!
I've lost my job right now so I went from being so busy to having so much time on my hands at home but I'm just wasting most of it not being productive. Thanks for this video man. 👍🏼
Same exact position
“Why rush?” This is the part that stuck out to me the most as a young woman finishing up college and about to move on to the next step. I’ve been thinking about this question a lot. I’m in a good place in my life (new job that I enjoy, family life is good, I’m comfortable) and I found myself trying to rush through this phase of life instead of really living in this chapter. This was just solidifying that I need to chill and fully enjoy this chapter of my life.
Also, the social media thing. I have recently (2-3 months) decide to just log off of my Instagram (the only actual social media I have) and not give my time and energy to it, and I have been happier, more productive, and really been enjoying my days. Social media is a distraction, time waster, and a confidence killer a lot of times. Even if you don’t try to feel a way when you see other people your age doing things you want to one day and feeling less than, there’s still a little voice in the back of your mind that compares you to everyone and robs you of confidence and contentment. Also, a lot of things that trend are foolishness and or futile. I rather live my life in the real world instead of trying to be successful on a social media platform.
I am a 65 year old grandmother, have so many blessings but feel as though I have been stuck most of my life, at least stuck in some areas. I have my first appointment with a life coach therapist today and it is timely that I listened to this as your words have given me some great insight and even as considered a senior adult I can make positive changes and have the most quality of life. I am an extreme minimalist with physical objects but maybe I need to more minimal with other areas of my life. Thank you for your wisdom and honesty with your own struggles.
I’m so happy this connected with you Bethanna! First, best of luck in your first appointment. I hope today and the whole time you’re meeting with us person goes well. Second, thank you! I’ve struggled with feeling stuck and behind in life a few different times so I figured the best way to talk about this would be from my own experience. Happy you enjoyed it!
@@RonaldLBanks thank you for personally replying, this means so much. Blessings, Bethanna
Same for this 59 year old nana. I feel very stuck at this point in my life. I think I spend too much time paying attention to others my age who seem to have so much more.
Ron, this video was a good reminder to me that if I don't compare myself to others but am content with what I currently have that I AM right where I'm supposed to be - in the present.
Exactly! I’m happy this served as a good reminder for you Julie! Keep growing and learning on your journey!
Hello, I’m 62 years old. When Covid hit I was displaced out of my apartment, I lost my job at the same time. I’ve had my things Storage since then. I have since 2003 want it to live a minimalist life. A friend of mine sold me his 27 foot travel trailer, and I’ve lived in it since 2001. I absolutely love it. My thing is is that I have so many beautiful things in storage, my mom passed away 2019 and she had a lot of little knickknacks. And also friends have given me over the years little gifts. Because of your videos, I’m able to face the challenge of letting go! I honestly believe that God led me to your videos. I will continue to watch them as long as you put them out. I’ve told my pastor and my family and friends about you. I only started watching you a month ago. I ran across your videos Last year, I watched half of one and didn’t watch it anymore. I know it was because I wasn’t ready. Thank you so much for being so candid. And this is going to sound funny but thank you so much for not having loud music behind you, you are straight into the point and that’s what you mean. Thank you thank you thank you and may God continue to bless you so that you can continue to bless others
The Tolstoy quote, specifically the part, "...to keep going when the going is hard and slow..." caught my eye. It gave me some semblance of relief as I am realizing that all the mistakes I made along the way were just part of my journey to get where I am. At my lowest, I felt like a failure and like I was stuck, but being on the other side of a lot of those struggles has opened my perspective and taught me that we need to be patient when things become "hard and slow" to push beyond to better ourselves. Thank you for the commentary!
You and I are at widely separated stages of life. I’m retired. You are at the prime of your adult life. Yet the struggles are the same. What really matters and how do I measure it? Do I need to measure it? I think of the parable of the little girl and the starfish. A man meets her on the shore. She is throwing beached starfish back into the ocean. “Why do you bother,” said the man. “There are hundreds of starfish. You can’t make much of a difference in their fates.” The girl held up a starfish, threw it in the water and said “ I made a difference to him.” I know I won’t be a world famous singer- songwriter. But I can still sing and write. I can touch a few people. And that’s alright. Peace, my friend. You are making a difference
🙏🏾❤️ love this
Thank you so much for this comment! Truly touched me and it warms my heart knowing that videos like this are reaching the people that need them. I love that parable as well. Thanks for sharing and thank YOU for being apart of this community!
Recently, I've been thinking about this in detail. I was feeling like all the effort and work I was putting in wasn't really yielding much results and then I remembered the seasons metaphor. That in life, just like with the weather, there are seasons and you can't force summer when it's the middle of winter. Each season has it's purpose and you can only be patient with it.
I also realised that the idea that it was all up to me was as bad as believing that all it takes is 'hard work'. By thinking I had all the control, I was driving myself to the ground. Now I've pulled back a bit, basically 'let go and let God'. It's definitely helped to reduce stress levels.
This was such a well put together video. I especially liked the tortoise and the hare analogy. Brought it all together nicely.
Mr. Banks...Im in the process of help my godparents (mid 70s) declutter 50+ yrs of stuff so I introduced them to your channel with the video on sentimental items....YOU WERE A HIT....she found you so cute and he thinks your super smart...they learned so much watching your videos....THANK YOU MR BANKS...your message is being heard loud and clear and really making a difference. :)
"creating unnecessary pressure" this is me. always anxious for no reason.
Yes! “Unnecessary pressure” will look slight different to everyone, but always feeling anxious for no reason is total one of them! I’m happy this resonated with you Trisha!
So crazy how the thoughts of feeling behind aren’t unique. Wow. We all have a journey that is made just for us.
The part that most resonated with me is 6:40 "I refuse to rush through life". This is something I need to keep telling myself. Samuel, you refuse to rush through life.
I loved where you reminded me ' I'm where Im supposed to be'. I've been beating myself up that I'm not moving forward faster. That statement really helped.
I’m sorry and by the way my travel trailer has been converted into a tiny home, and I live on a 55 and older mobile home park, it’s beautiful and I love it here. Thank you so much sorry took up a lot of your time. God bless
I really needed to hear this!
Thanks Ronald 🙏
Definitely resonated!
Thank you brother.
This definitely resonated with me. Thank you for sharing your perspective.
I really REALLY just needed that reminder that the pace I’m at is ok for me. I’m unraveling 50 year old habits and creating new self care new ones and I feel really dismantled right now. Weirdest feeling ever but I know I’m heading in the right way for me I just needed the reminder to stay true to myself 😁 good timing 🧡
Yet another great video Ronald 😊Best wishes from the UK! Ian
Thanks for posting this! I'm a 31 year old single mom who is currently unemployed. I graduated with a bachelor degree 5 years ago and I feel so stuck and behind. I live with my grandparents and have no idea what to do career wise. I originally wanted to be a teacher but I decided I don't want to be with kids all day. I started a business in 2019, but it hasn't really taken off like I hoped.
Thank you for your video. I am no longer on social media and I still feel this way. It’s nice to know I’m not alone though.
Thank you for this. I’ve had relative success through my life but always felt behind. This video reminded me that this is my journey and my journey only.
Patience and gratitude is what we all should practice.
I never comment, but thank you for this video Ronald, I needed to hear this 🧡 You have comforted one lost soul. Greetings from Croatia 🙂
Amazing! Well first, thank you for leaving a comment! I’m very happy this reached you and you decided to watch. Second, “comforting a lost soul” is a comment I don’t think I’ve received before so I’m very happy this this video is helping you on that level. I love it! If you have any questions as you continue to grow on your journey, don’t hesitate to ask!
Wow fantastic video Ronald and much needed in this current time. I`m 56 and know that opportunity never turns it`s back on us. Providing information and insight is one thing but actually living out the process is the greatest measure of both your success and empathy. So glad I found this channel my friend
Thank you so much Ronald for this conversation. More than anything you promote a mindset of looking at struggles with fresh eyes rather than assuming something is wrong with us and it can’t be helped. That in itself can provide renewed energy and motivation.
I really liked your perspective about the tortoise and hare story and how it could be a competition with your own expectations rather than with someone else. That metaphor rings true!
You asked why we should be in so much of a rush. I think this question dovetails well with the minimalism mindset. A lot of the rushing that I do is about trying to keep up with too many things at once.
Love your videos, you really get to the heart of things!
Hi Ron I used to compare myself to others feeling not good enough because of my weight struggles through the years but now I'm comfortable where I'm at now. Thanks for another great video.❤
Great timing for this video especially with everything going on right now, thank you!!
I’m so glad this reached you Tia!
So good! Thank you for your inspiration! Love your channel
Thank you so much Shannon! I love that you’re loving my channel and I’m happy this resonated with you!
This was so important for me to hear. Your words are powerful and I appreciate you sharing this. Thank you. ❤
I’m very happy this reached you my friend!
" I am where I am supposed to be." So simple yet so very reassuring. It helps us live in the moment, so we won't miss today fretting about yesterday or tomorrow. Thank you.
Thank you for the encouragement📿🦋☺
You’re welcome Naomi. I’m happy you enjoyed this!
I'm in my fifties, listening to your wise words, while wishing there had been thinkers like you (and youtube!) 40 years ago!
Paid off two credit cards and recently sold my home for a huge profit! Stay focus your time will come!! Great day everyone positive vibes!!
Love the video always a good reassurance for me
Hey Ron👋🏾, I also had an issue with this and now I am focusing on building my health, learning more about self by spending me time and reflecting. Also I’m starting to do more things alone and getting comfortable with me, all this is helping build self awareness as well. Great video and keep them coming 🙂
I love that, especially what you said about doing more things alone and getting comfortable with you as that helps you build self-awareness. I wrote a poem years ago title silence that carried a similar message about how silence can teach you a lot about you. Thanks for leaving a comment friend! Happy you enjoyed this video!
Entire video resonated with me.
Awesome Ahmad! Glad I had an opportunity to share this with you!
Positive advice keep growing
I’m glad you enjoyed this my friend! Keep growing on your journey!
Comparison is the thief of joy. Patience. This is exactly where I'm supposed to be. Forward is a pace. Why rush through life? Amen!
I have struggled with this for the last 15 years. As I feel I am ten years behind everyone I know mu same age.
As usual amazing content,I really needed to hear this today. Thanks alot for your phenomenal content 👏
I’m happy this reached you Lewis! Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share it with you!
Beautiful video.
But the thing with me is that my progress has been slowed down by people who didn't want me to succeed to say the least. Now I'm back on being productive thank god, but I still feel horrible about all that time that is gone without me having any accomplishments.. so I don't relate when you say "I'm where I'm supposed to be" because if everything was normal I'd be way more successful by now, instead I'm actually late in life and it feels really horrible
I love it
I love that you loved this video! 🙌🏾
Whew I needed this today! I turned 38 last month, divorced, lost my mom last year, and in mountains of debt. I started a new job a few months ago, and although it’s the most money I’ve made, I know it was God sent because I needed that salary to be able to pay my bills. That’s all I’ve been able to do however, I haven’t been able to save, or dig myself out of a debt where I’m able to live. I feel I’m just existing and not living. I’ve tried dating, and don’t even get me started there. I had a convo with one of my best friends about feeling like I should be further along in life especially when it comes to living it. I do feel behind, I had this idea in my 20s that I’d be married and enjoying life with the person God made for me in my 30s. But the part about maybe I’m not ready for what I truly desire is humbling. I have to find a therapist, however, I’m not sure how to pay for that yet. My goal I want to measure include, living life, filling my own cup, stop feeling sorry for myself, figure out how to get out of debt, curb my spending, and heal (working on a blog to document my journey).
This video reaching you was at the perfect time. I believe that and I’m happy it did! Your goals are solid and I’m definitely rooting for you. Also I have a playlist of about 32 videos so far about managing money/personal finance. I paid off $23,000 of debt in 12 months. Making an average salary. Took a lot of sacrifice but I’m glad I did it. This playlist will help you get started: czcams.com/play/PLAlWMJnA9Dcfp3-El1jkH_taRSA-cTQOS.html
Also, if you ever have any questions don’t hesitate to ask. I have a Clutter To Clarity Support Form that goes out to those on my email list every week. Anyone can ask a question at any time and I’ll answer it either in email form or through a video. Consider joining my email list if you aren’t already so you can be apart of that.
Bing things in store for you! I know it! Keep pushing forward!
@@RonaldLBanks how do Join the email list! I would love to join!
Thank you for the words of encouragement I appreciate it. I will surely listen go through the play list you recommended starting with the one you linked once I get off work. Thank you 🙏🏾
That was how I rushed myself into a relationship and space that wasn’t healthy for me in 2017. I’m back to working on myself and giving myself these reminders daily
I love it! Reminders like this on a daily basis definitely help! Keep growing Tiyya! If you ever have any questions don’t hesitate to ask! I have a Clutter To Clarity Support Form that goes out to those on my email list every week. Any one can ask a question they want support on at any time and I’ll answer it either in email form or in a video here on CZcams. Consider joining my email list of your aren’t already so you can be apart of that.
@@RonaldLBanks thank you so much! I definitely will continue towards self growth! Your videos have helped me immensely in cutting out clutter! I so appreciate all that you do!!
I’m 41. I’ve been “stuck” so much, all my shoes have Gorilla Glue in ‘em!😔
I think if Roosevelt was prescient about social media when he said “Comparison is the thief of joy.” The stuff you scroll through is a carefully curated and often an outright false depiction of people’s lives. When I find myself feeling like I’m not measuring up to others who have more money, better health, or whatever, I remind myself that I am enough just as I am. And other folks’ successes or advantages in no way detract from my own life. I’m a big believer in accepting being good enough -I do my best to be a decent parent, wife, friend, therapist - and that’s exactly who I need to be. And honestly, after many surgeries and chemo, I am also deeply grateful to be here and have zero desire to rush through whatever time ahead I might be given.
Well if youre in your 20s thats ok you are still young… im 48…. I feel i am behind.
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I’ll be 28 years old in a few weeks, and man…I thought that I would be somewhere in life making 6 figures and more, with an amazing beautiful wife and maybe 2 kids living somewhere with a great cost of living that I can afford to live financially comfortable and maybe even financially free, but man was I wrong. I’m still trying to find my life, my purpose. These days it’s hard to make a living especially with inflation and high gas prices, high homes and apartments. I don’t want to blame anything but myself. I want it to be over.
Lost my job. Just stuck at home watching time fade away
I don’t want to see you fall into a slump my friend! Let’s get a game plan together to keep you moving forward! Any questions don’t hesitate to ask!
@@RonaldLBanks Any tips on investing? Or making money on the side until I get a new job
@@ISGSAGE look at different skills you have or a service you can offer others. If you can provide value that people need you can create an income. Also don’t be afraid of things like Uber/Lyft or any other service similar to these. Can help you make enough to cover your bills are you search for another job. Lastly, when if comes you managing money. If you don’t have an emergency fund yet, build one as soon as you start creating a consistent income. Save 3-6 months of your monthly expenses in a separate account. This money will sit there in case of an emergency-like the one you’re experiencing now since you lost your job. This money will help you cover your needs until your income starts up again. I have a playlist of about 36 videos so far on personal finances here: czcams.com/play/PLAlWMJnA9Dcfp3-El1jkH_taRSA-cTQOS.html
If you're not taking care of you, you can't do the things you want to do.
I totally stuck in my life
Let’s work to get unstuck my friend! I’m hope this video brought you some encouragement to take the first step.
I’m about to turn 30, and I absolutely feel this pressure.
I’ve been sick my whole life, so I don’t have the same things other people around my age do. In fact, teenagers still at school have ‘achieved’ more than I have.
I’m coming to the realisation that it doesn’t matter. Yes, I might not have those things that everyone wants, but I’ve also had more than a decade of relapse and remission to deal with - and they haven’t.
I’ve just been diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, as well as another brain condition, and that will change the way I can live my life. I have to focus on my health right now, so who knows, when I’m older I might have all of that sorted out and everyone else won’t. Maybe the tables will turn, maybe they won’t, it doesn’t matter. I’m running my race solo, I just need to worry about me.
im an almost 37 year old woman, divorced w no kids. i feel way behind bc most people know have kids.
Clocks ticking
Comparing myself to others is the the #2 reason I kicked other social media platforms. #1 was obnoxious people.
Social media can be obnoxious at times. I agree! I’m happy you broke your ties to it my friend! Keep growing on your journey!