Cheating Husband Says Childhood Influenced How He Deals With Relationships
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- čas přidán 18. 09. 2021
- Today, Jenaye comes face-to-face for the first time with the woman her husband, James, slept with on their fifth wedding anniversary. The woman, Chelsey, who is also James’s former hairstylist, tells her side of the story. Why does she say she believes she has done nothing wrong -- and why does she say she believes she, too, is a victim? Will Jenaye believe Chelsey’s claims? (20305)
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Don't blame it on your childhood. It's an excuse. You know the difference between right and wrong. You're no kid at this point anymore.
Exactly!
We all have issues we’ve been dealing with since childhood!
What we do with it is our own choice!
second this!
my childhood wasnt a bed of roses, but i dont treat woman like this !
Exactly! He is an adult and needs to be accountable for his actions. I had a bad childhood but I know how to respect people and don’t do hurtful things to them. I hate when people play the “I had a bad childhood “ card when they did something wrong. That’s not an excuse. We all go through hard things and a lot of us have had bad childhoods.
I'm no therapist but I think what's really going on here is: the husband just isn't in love with the wife and nor does he respect her
Yes!
The wife is just as crazy as him to stay with him
Exactly
I think she enjoys the drama and internet points more than the marriage. This works for her.
Hmm not really. We all have different ways to cope with the situation. She's actually strong for doing this. Its just sad that it had to end with them talking to Dr. Phil and really exposing this to social media.
Jenaye has no right to blame Chelsea as much as she is. Her husband is the cause of all of this
And he's crazy to stay with her also....LOL
The fact that this woman allowed him to stay in her life makes me think that she's insecure! Cut the cord and let him go lady!! He'll never change!
And if he has his own issues, tell him you’re leaving and won’t come back until he’s bettered himself!
There are children involved! They need to start acting like adults!!!!
@@bellerain381 Both parties should be willing to work through this if they want the marriage to work. The husband probably checked out a few years ago. Poor lady, she's holding on to hope that he'll change! The only one who can help him is God!
The wife is taking her anger out on the wrong person. He knew he was married. He knew he was lying. He knew he was hurting his wife and family. He made those choices and lied to both women. And sat back and let the mistress take all the heat. He will 1million percent do it again because nobody is holding him accountable.
Why would the mistress apologize? She’s not married or committed to his wife. It’s not her responsibility to be faithful to her. Wtf dr Phil
It’s easier for her to blame the mistress because then she can justify staying with him :/ She’s insecure. He’s handsome, a total douche canoe, but handsome. I’m sure she doesn’t feel as beautiful and his behavior has only made that worse. Staying with him makes her feel beautiful in some way. I can’t explain but I’ve felt it. I’ve felt like “wow this guy is hot and way out of my league. If he leaves me clearly it’s because I am not pretty and I won’t get better”. It sucks and I feel so awful for her :(
@@breezy1295 I don't think he is handsome at all. And he tries to carry himself as an arrogant cocky gift to women when he really looks and acts like a boy in a man's body. Also, the mistress should be blamed as well because she and the husband discussed where she should park so that his wife wouldn't see her on camera. So she obviously knew the wife lived there. At that point, she should have broken it off with the loser.
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Oh you can bet she's not letting him off the hook! He has to live with her anger (good on her for being so open kinstead of doing the passive-aggressive thing many people would do in this situation. That hairdresser is just rude. She really thinks they are even ..... she couldn't even say "I didn't know he was married, if I had kn own I would never have done it and for that I am sorry. I am as much a victim of his lies but I get why you're angry" Now why wouldnt she just say something like that. Rightly or wrongly the hairdresser did it!
I mean if you did watch the previous vids. The guy said that the hairdresser did knew that he's married.
Sometimes you just never get an apology. All you can do is move on with your life. Period.
She didn’t deserve on the girl didn’t even know that she was married
Accountability my butt. The husband is the one who should be held accountable. She has said numerous times she was told he was separated…she was told by the person she was seeing that they were separated and single what else was she suppose to do a dang background check!!!! Girl get your husband and grow up!
She's still not blameless. She knew.
Exactly!
Not once did he denied that too!! F* the apology, I am glad she said,"NO!"
Not once did he denied that too!! F* the apology, I am glad she said,"NO!"
That still doesn’t make the girl blameless. She knew about him, the mistress played a part in this whole situation, she needs to take accountability for her part.
the way he looked at chelsea when she left 😂😂
💯💯💯💯😂😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀
LMFAOOOOOOOOO
Because he lost another poor woman to manipulate. He’s wife’s a fool. He won’t change
2:56
What ever happened in this childhood may be an explanation, but NEVER an excuse.
I dont see why the "Mistress" should apologize. SHE DID NOT KNOW HE WAS MARRIED🥴
Perhaps she should have checked if he had a partner before opening her legs - just shows her complete lack of accountability and morals!
@@barriewilliams9824 rude
@@barriewilliams9824 people lie. I asked someone I was seeing at the very beginning if they had a girlfriend or were married. He straight up said no. Fast forward a few weeks foud out he was married.
@@emmacantrell1124 too bad
For real tho. Like he cheated not her. In my opinion she's kind of blameless
i don’t understand dr. Phil’s reaction, he’s making her out to be the vilain when she didn’t know he was married
I don't think he believes her. She did say when she ran into him at the bar, she thought one of the women he was with was his wife... she was talking in circles. She can't ask about his wife then claim she didn't know he was married
@@katiepetersen7489 she thought they were separated.
@@bloonsfamguy separated is still married when will people understand that
@@bloonsfamguy If she thought they were separated but out together at a bar, then that would imply separated but still seeing each other. Who in their right mind would want to date a married man that was separated but dating his wife. I have known couples that separated but then dated and got back together. Actually it made their marriage stronger and they re-lite the flame this way. It was actually common to go out a few dates with someone else and then realized they truly loved each other and wanted to spend their lives together.
Watch a bunch of episodes of Dr Phil and u will realize he loves to victim blame
The hairdresser didn’t sleep with her husband. Her husband slept with the hairdresser.
Really, the mistress is 50% to blame as is the husband, it takes two to tango
Dr. Phil was rude to Chelsey. Chelsey asked for them to take down the information. Obviously, smug little wifey is not going to that.
There are three adults who caused damage here; all three need to have accountability for their actions. Dr. Phil was pissed when he couldn't cajole Chelsey into an "apologizing evil mistress" just for his ego and ratings. I have lost some respect for Dr. Phil.
Same tbh. .
Right
Being an adult means taking accountability I don’t think his intention was to bash her he was just stating a fact the wife is definitely wrong and an enabaler to the abuse from her husband. But as a women you KNOW when something doesn’t add up in a relationship red flag would be text messages to avoid the cameras in his home see her clothing hanging up family photos. Sometimes as women we want to believe the lie and fantasy as well & for that she needed to take accountability for. Not for the cheating husband but for the part she played unfortunately.
@@crystalmargarito5426 100% she knew she may be dumb, but she isn't stupid.
I would apologize even if I knew NOTHING.
@@RayveniaelKelAdoria right, I would apologize for my part in the disrespect so I could move on. Then let it go.
Janaye, then needs to focus on her life. Her husband has a problem, what is she going to do go after every woman he cheats on her with?
Who wants to live their life like that.
The mistress owes her nothing.
She's hot
I don’t think the “ mistress “ should apologize if she really didn’t know that he was married but then again it is the humane thing to do . I get why she wouldn’t if she really didn’t know but if I was her I would definitely feel the need to apologize because imagine how she would feel if the roles were reversed. no one wants to be cheated on & it is totally on the husband since he’s the one in a committed relationship but idk, I definitely would’ve apologized even if I didn’t know it’s still pretty horrible ://
She knew he was married. Even if she thought they were separated that's still married. They both owe apologies.
I wouldn’t want to apologize after the wife did that to me. If the wife didn’t humiliate the girl and asked her instead like a respectable human then I would say she should apologize naturally.
She knew he was married
He's still into Chelsey, did you see the way he watched her leave the stage. Leave him Jenaye, he's not going to change.
am i the only one who saw his eyes follow that girl when she left?👀
The wife makes just as many excuses as he does. They truly deserve each other.
He’s going to keep cheating on her. He’s manipulative and the wife is just dumb directing her anger out on the other woman who was manipulated to. I’ll never understand why women get more upset at the mistress rather than the man who vowed to be faithful & committed to you for the rest of ya’lls life.
I don't think he attractive to his wife. He was checking out woman as she was leaving the stage. It shows what type of women he likes totally opposite of his wife. Not saying anything wrong with her.
I thought the same hes giving the other ladies looks but hes still saying he wants to save his marriage. I Think they both need to get rid of him.
Women get big ego's just because some guy looks at them and then they take that as a green light.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
HIS WIFE LOOKS JUST LIKE HIM.
2:56
Blaming this on his childhood is an other manipulation tactic
why the would she apologize? what accountability???? the man LIED and told her that he was single? how on earth does she have to be accountable for ANYTHING? god. idiocy makes me sick
For real.
That’s what she says.
Dr phil was low key trying to encourage the husband to cheat some more.
I agree with you. All three of these adults caused damages to people by their actions. All three need to own their actions, and be accountable.
Yeah that's what she claims. She's not blameless.
If I found out my husband in the future cheated on her I’d take it out on both in the moment but I don’t expect an apology from the woman that didn’t know
@Dian Be then I’d want an apology not to me but to my kid for the emotional distress that it’s going to put on my daughter no one ever thinks about how it’s going to effect the children it’s just about the parents and never the children
@abc123 I’m not married I wrote it stupidly sorry
@abc123 so if I do ever get married and my husband cheated on me I wouldn’t want an apology from the woman that he cheated with if she didn’t know that he was married or had kids because she’s innocent she didn’t know now if she did know that he had a wife and kids then I would want an apology is that better?
@abc123 crunchie💀 you mean cringe😂
@abc123 do you know how old I am?
Hahahahaha.... 02:57 When the mistress walked alway, the "regretful" husband CHECKED her butt out... Hahahahahaha
Of course now he starts to think about his childhood and see these “connections” because he is searching for an excuse. In matters where you look for a way out random connections are made
No accountability, pretty sure if the tiles were reversed he would be trashing her, meanwhile he gets a free pass
Tiles?
Separated is still married
Legally yes but emotionaly no
Yep and that excuse me of words back in the day but in 2021 you think people would be smarter enough to know what separated means probably getting back together a thousand times before they actually divorce
And it's just an excuse to sleep with some one else.
Separated is kind of self defined through the couple. They may want to just separate for a few months and see how it goes. My aunt and uncle have done this. They just needed a “break,” they never intended on getting a divorce. In this Dr. Phil situation (that wasn’t true) it did sound like him and his wife were no longer together, even if they are still legally married.
It is not up to Chelsea to define HIS marriage. It is up to HIM. He stated he didn't want to talk about it at the salon around others ..that they were separated...had been for MONTHS ...she was living in another state... and he's at a bar trying to meet someone. That is NOT a marriage in any way you could possibly conceive of. HE - DEFINED it as INSIGNIFICANT in his words and actions. There was NO talk of taking a break or trying down the road. That description says it was OVER. Very few ppl in this world wait for a finalized divorce to start moving on in life. You can have an opinion, but it doesn't change the reality. There are ppl who also believe that once married, you can't ever divorce. Is that right? That's WHY *personal* opinions and religious beliefs cannot be imposed on others.
Shaming Chelsea is ridiculous. She trusted he was telling the truth. The wife also trusted him. All relationships have an element of blind trust. Did the wife insist he photograph himself at all times, wherever he is at, when he goes out? No. Why not? CAUSE SHE TRUSTED HIM. ...AND - SHE knew him better than Chelsea did and STILL trusted him. Oh but...ONLY the wife can be a victim in her story.
Hes so not into his wife🤣🤣🤣
She should've said "I'm sorry I slept with your lying husband if anything.... Though there was no transparency as to what was going on. If I was aware things would've been different." It's not the nicest thing to say, but it's simple/blunt and to the point. Hard to be nice in a situation with a wife that is ignorant/naive to tolerate his behavior. She's in for only more torment in the future if she stays in her clouded eyes.
His eyes at the mistresses butt as she walks away...disgusting!
WELL SHE WAS DRESSED LIKE AHOOKER.
I wouldn’t apologize either. The best thing I would say is that it wasn’t in my intention and if I knew I wouldn’t have moved forward. But it’s hard to feel bad for someone and apologize when she’s probably dealing with the hurt and shock that her feelings were being manipulated, the wife blasts her online and encourages other people to harass her as well. It’s all too much.
It's not too much? She knows why the wife is bashing her. Apologize first, and the bashing will stop. Don't tell the wife to stop the bashing first so that you will give her an apology?
When people blame their childhood they’re just admitting they’re not strong, smart or self aware enough to overcome their past…I had parents that were bad examples too but I’m still in a healthy relationship today
A link to the entire show would be helpful.
It's on the channel just scroll down on the videos it's 2 parts
It's also on the dr phil Facebook account
That guy brought a 3rd party into their lives and made a great big mess. All 3 will be ghosts in each others lives for the remainder of time.
Wife looks dumb staying with him
Like I told my husband "you said I DO" regardless if the other person knew or not. It starts and end with you.
No sense in her apologizing if she doesn't actually mean it so he's the wife knows and yes it is the husband that should be fully responsible but she'll probably take him back and hate the woman instead
the wife soo wants attention she literally wants everything showed on the internet like her wanting the side girl to apologize on video like girl u obviously want attention from the internet they needa do this in private then move on✌🏽
Agreed, she wants an apology she should do it in private.
They deserve each other. Leave this woman alone
I agree with these comments but I saw another video where the wife states the husband and mistress were texting and the husband was telling the mistress where to park and where to come into the home so his wife wouldnt see her on the cameras. So im assuming the mistress knew he was married at this point. Its hard to tell whos lying or not these days.
@I am Hopeful Oh yea I do remember the other woman.
The husband tried made a special effort to not watch that fine a$$ mistress walk off the stage.
Here's an idea gals: don't fight over a loser!
Did anybody stop listening when he started talking? Or just me?
I will never understand why women always focus all their anger on the mistress. The husbands chose to cheat.
The wife is terrified of losing her husband hence why she's blaming the mistress but the woman should walk away from this guy he's not the one
Chelse is still in the wrong. Egging the house, agreeing to park somewhere else to avoid the camera to cheat. Girl own up
Bullcrap. He doesn't want to be cheated on, so he knows he's wrong he just wants attention from other women and doesn't care who he hurts
I love how people blame their childhood for their behavior as a adult! Once a cheater always a cheater! Stop blaming others for your own actions!
It’s everyone else but me to blame for the way I am!!! 🤦♂️
This guy likes playing the game. Don't believe a word he says. He just tells people what they want to hear.
Only you can make you happy 😊😊😊😊
Weather she knew or not, just still apologize. Her husband owes both of them an apology.
This is exactly what they say to you on psychotherapy... Like dude he is not wrong, every person is moulded by their childhood.
I had a pretty bad childhood myself and ended up with Borderline Personality Disorder. Even with how unstable my relationships are, and even my morals, I still know not to cheat on my partner. I may have issues with them, but I’d never use my mental illness or past as an excuse to betray someone I love.
She didn’t know he was married how is she held accountable.
Did he just blame his childhood on being a sleeze bag? Him and his wife both fit together perfectly.
He did not just say he cheated because of his childhood. Dude are you for real??! I got physically, mentally & emotionally abused as a child and teenager, that doesn't mean i'm entitled to do the same!!
I'm not sure why dr phil is making her apologize I think he's gone off the deep end a little and sometimes he loses sight of what's going on and being said. She has no commitment to them and she didn't know he was married that's not her problem dr phil. You should apologize to her for making her think it was her problem.
I said the same thing
Oh my God woman, leave him!!!
Had to get one last peek at her cheeks as she walked away lol
SHE IS PROLLY COVERED IN CELLULITE.
Him watching her walk away 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 LMFAOOOOOO
That dude is a POS and that wife seems angry at the wrong person, ive been in this situation where a man told me he was single and he wasnt and the wife called me and at first she was hella angry, but once she calmed down, she and I had a very honest good convo. I think that wife was mad at the "mistress" and wanted revenge. plain and simple
Chelsey isn't blameless but James seems to be playing the victim card the most and the wife is just being insecure!!!
The mistress should apologize for the classless egging and her generally cheesy way of dressing!
If the mistress had full knowledge of the wife and relationship then she would need to apologize
Chelsey doesn't owe her anything, her husband lied to her about being married. He said they were separated, so why would she think anything different? The wife and husband are sick in the head. She knows her husband and is willing to stay with him after he's humiliated her, TWICE.... That's on her.
I feel as though the mistress should apologize women to women like I’m sorry for any hurt you feel, he lied to me and I wasn’t aware that you guys were still together. But that is as far as the apology should go with the mistress. Now as far as the husband and wife goes, she refuses to see him as the one who is wrong so he will continue to do what he is doing and she will continue to cry and blame the other women until she GROWS up and walks away. It is easier for her to believe that he had to have been manipulated by the mistress into doing what he did rather than see him for weak person he really is. She doesn’t see her worth, her worth is wrapped up in the TITLE of wife and he knows it. This won’t be the last time he does this!
Did you guys see him check out her butt as she walked off the stage??? Yep….he still wants her & that’s why he’s still contacting her. He’s not into the wifey apparently anymore. She doesn’t have the confidence to leave him because she thinks he’s a prize…..a lying, cheating, deceiving, manipulating prize. But the best “useless” prize. He will never be faithful because he’s still that little boy that doesn’t know to take accountability for his actions.
Why does a single woman who sleeps with a married man thinks she has no accountability in the breakup of a marriage? Yes, the married man was wrong but so is the single woman.
HE IS NOT ALL THAT HE THINKS HE IS!
The husbands mistress has a good point both here. And both of these the women are victims 100% my heart goes out to the kids. And they need to get divorced there’s no doubt about it children should absolutely be protected and permanent divorce/no reconciliation ever that will protect them for sure!!!:)
get out the fiddle! I had a horrific violent, dysfunctional childhood. Who hasn't!
Lots of people haven’t had a bad childhood… and that’s what separates normal from not normal…
You saying that proves you didn’t have a bad childhood
We all have had some issues we have had to deal with since we were children! I think we all can agree on that one!
How we deal with that has shaped us as individuals! Some have had worse than others, but I also believe we all can support each other on that!
Where's the next part of the episode?
Okay but this is not an excuse to be shitty to your s/o ,,
Wtf Dr. Phil had no right with his last comment to Chelsea
Haha she didn’t want to apologize but yet wants her to take the videos down and the reason why it’s chasing her is because it’s karma lmao
The husband also knows he can do this to his wife and she still is desperate and will stay with him.
What ever happen to this married Couple????
The victimisation is revolting, the husband is an adult, regardless of what happened in his childhood, he is responsible now for your own actions.
Tell that Husband to apologize to them both
Can I see a show of hands for anyone who received an apology when they were cheated on?
Seeing this breaks my heart 😔
I'd never take back a cheater they'll get no 2nd chances saw what that did when my mum kept taking them back
Run don’t Walk!!! Trust me.
People like this are the reason why good women don’t be wanting another man even if he has good intentions
The husband needs to appoligize to both women for acting like a loser.
He looks like a grown baby man
He took the vows he made the commitment to his wife.. I can understand the wife being mad at her but ultimately he is at fault
What you do as a adult you can not blame on your childhood. You made a conscious decision
Once trust has been broken it will NEVER be the same when it comes into a marriage or anything for that matter just separate and move on with your life he’s never changing he saw his side chicks butt as she was leaving!!
He needs too take ownership of his life & stop playing the blame game & pointing the finger, it's time too "Grow-Up & Man-Up !! 🤔🤔
I swear men that cheat always do this. Just say ur a liar and a cheater take accountability
He definitely lied and manipulated chelcie and drug her into that nightmare between him and his wife.
It's always better to get rid of an anchor🤔
The wife is crazy anyway.
That woman doesn’t owe the wife Jack! Even the husband is enthralled by all the wife’s drama by saying the woman knew he was with the wife while saying in the same breath he manipulated and lied to the other woman! Also he shows up at a bar with 3 women not his wife so anyone who saw that would think the guy may be married but he’s separated. How many people separate and don’t go back to the wife who actually date until their divorce comes final? Yet the other woman isn’t blamed because both parties are on their way to divorceville. How does this woman owe the low self esteem high school behavior or a wife an apology? Look at the ride when she’s explaining exposing the girl and not really the husband when she’s talking about the egging of her house! I bet no one egged it I’m certain the wife did it herself and blamed the woman just to create more views and sympathy. The wife and husband are both sick people. The other woman needs to get a protective order against both of them change her number and file a civil suit against both of them. She’s got enough admission in texts and on dr Phil to bury these two in court if they continue to harass her
It seems like the wife is just in it for the drama and the victim badge she gets to wear; she doesn't seem interested in resolving the issues she has with her husband.
It’s not her responsibility to be your husband, it’s his.
Attachment is a very real thing and we all are affected by it in one way or another, especially if we’ve had childhood traumas like abandonment
All she ever wanted was an apology from her husband’s lover🤦🏽♀️🤣🤣 and then that fixes it all. This poor lady she’s going to eventually get tired of chasing her husband’s lovers.
He doesn't want to be with his wife. Clearly he doesn't but she keeps threatening and throwing temper tantrums do he caves bc he doesn't wanna lose everything he has.
He's a selfish jerk. The wife is angry with the wrong person.