INFP Relationships, Dating, and Friendship Advice
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- čas přidán 3. 07. 2024
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When it comes to any relationship, whether dating or friendship, learning to be honest and express yourself is going to be key to maintaining your sanity (and healthy relationships!).
INFPs are a rare introverted, idealist type that is gifted with a complex inner world. If you’re an INFP, you may struggle with expressing yourself authentically in your friendships, dating or business relationships.
Luckily, there are some steps you can take to better communicate your needs and develop more fulfilling relationships. Following this should help you feel more energized and free in your social life.
So, why not take a couple minutes, lay back, and take in some INFP dating advice that is also going to help with your friendships and everything else!
0:00 INFP Relationships - Intro
1:05 Accept yourself, the good and the bad
2:05 INFPs - Connecting with people, empathy, alone time
2:50 Being honest with yourself and your friends
3:40 Do not make asumptions, no one has the crystal ball
4:41 Should you open up more as an INFP?
7:04 Outro
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Also, do any other infp feels that they're thinking about something all the time. Just can't put the brain on rest
Edit: I randomly reached here again, after a year and saw my comment. My brain does rest a lot now, I don't get any weird dreams anymore, having a schedule and tiring myself out has helped.
like all the time...especially when I am nervous about something...hello insomnia my old friend...
My mind is blank most of the time. It’s not hard for me to stop thinking about stuff.
V S my brain breaks during sleep zzz otherwise I’m going through “analysis paralysis” always 😂
i can't not think of anything for some reason
Even in the middle of class discussions
I'm so complicated to love I came with a tutorial lmao
damn that’s crazy.... but it’s true 😔
Hahaha same
Me too hahahaha
Relatable
Mood
I like to be around people that know me (my best friends), but no matter how much i love them i can't/don't want to be with them for too long bc i feel so tired and drained. But when i'm alone in my room, i'd feel kinda lonely and miss interaction with them. But i like that feeling (it's kinda hard to explain). Idk, but it's like i love feeling something bittersweet (brokenhearted feelings)
Only other INFP understand~
Thankyou for describing what I usually feel. A mixture of feelings between loneliness and being in the company of loved ones. Bittersweet feelings such as missing someone who I loved is so addictive to me.
Note- I found out I'm INFP yesterday and uptil now, I'm understanding things about myself I never knew existed for a reason. It feels so good to know myself better.
Perfectly represents how I feel.
I completely understand this :/
yes, we'll described. you're not alone in these experiences.
I usually expect things that I consider to be common sense from people and tend to forget that not everyone think like me.
Laurie-Anne Gagnon same!
I definitely experience this
omg sammme
I can't focus in anything I do, it's like I'm thinking six things at the same time everyday. Most of the time I'm starting to wonder if I'm developing schizophrenia. Good thing that it's normal for INFP-T
Im INFP woman. I wanna be in a relationship, but than i don't. Its like i think that i wouldn't be good enough for the partner or i would disappoint him.
(sorry for my english)
This✨ I feel the same
Follow your dreams and do what he said in the video, practice learning to under yourself and how you think. Then communicate that to whomever your dating prospect is. I can be alone easily as well. It is kinda work for me to talk to people that I like even.
Our empathy and integrity can be exploited by narcissistic people so watch out and look for support in different places.
Agreed
I learned that one the hard way
Oh no. I had been in a relationship with 2 ex narcs in the past. The worst was the last one. Ugh never again..
@@annabellelubouski9438 Same!
This is so true
Every evening i go on top of my building, play music for a couple of hours, think about everything and come back home. I really need that everyday, been doing it fot years.
That sounds like a scene from a movie... I wish my building had a roof
@@enfp it's weird, half of the time i think I'm in a movie playing the lead xD
@@vs-gj4cp yes bruh I do be thinking I’m the main character when the headphones go into my ears.
@@djboo7779 YESSS true!
I think I have finally accepted my self
Glad for you... I am still trying
Not speaking out my mind and being overly adaptable and at the same time being suddenly aloof and distanced is what has killed many a relationships for me; personal, professional and casual alike.
Thanks Dan, for helping me know myself better, one video at a time.
I'm INFP-A and I need to utilize my energy and overwhelming hyperactive mind into something constructive. Sometimes I go on roof top of my house and sing or sometimes I dance like crazy like nobody's watching and it makes me feel better n I come back in room.
Tell others what you think and feel. Others don’t know what you want unless you speak up.
He seems to know what he's talking about. I took a paid test, they said I was an INFP.
But seems hard to meet people I'm compatible with.
It seems I'm always way out there compared to other people, I feel/think a lot more deeply, and they don't understand :-)
Us INFP are not understood. We are only 5% of the population!
As I am learning more about INFP, I realize others don't always get a perception I have. Now I know it's not me. That changes a lot for me.
As an INFP I feel the same way.
Mozambitch male INFPs are even rarer
Upon feeling and thinking a lot more deeply, I feel like I’m too idealistic to ever date.
I’m an infp.... literally I don’t find anyone to date... and by now I don’t give a fak
I have also never found someone to date☹️
facts, i stopped. it was too painful. even when i knew i was messing it up.
Same over here and i don't know why people around me cares a lot about it
I don't even wanna get married
I’m on the brink of giving up. I’m so romantic but my imagination is always better than real life. It feels impossible to ever date even though I’d like to.
"Make up some excuse to leave, Or you just kinda go" ... Totally me.
The thing is the immense FOMO when you need time alone. I'm afraid of missing something that will be a joke forever or thinking I will miss something I was truly supposed to be there for (like missing out on fate or something)
I'm INFP with a laundry list of issues, in a relationship with an ENFP. It is a gloriously frustrating dance of love and light
Thanks for the insight!
Be blessed y'all 🙏
Woah woahhhh the mind-reading part is so on-point. I’m miscommunicating with one of my friends right now, so this video was super helpful ❤️
Glad to hear it helped
Yes I had some workmates who thought I didn´t want to be with them because I preferred to read instead of doing small talk all day :D
I’m an INFP and I just started dating an INFJ so I came here for some extra help. Thanks for the advice!
i’m scared that if i don’t meet up with a group of friends they’ll “connect” more and i won’t get their inside jokes or stuff that happened when they were together and we’ll grow apart
I'm in love with the coment section XD
Never read something so relatable before.
It's great right?
Infp9 here. Great input. Great advice for Infps because it is so easy to talk myself out of sharing that stuff...
I'm sooo in love for your videos omg I'm an infp and you said everything
Thank you so much. Helped a lot
Well said. As an INFP, this is so helpful.
Thank u sooo much sir.... ❣️❣️❣️😍😘 This is really interesting...
i just discovered this guy and damn he might just be the person to be able to help me become a better me
Yeah, I’ve become more sociable and less isolated as I’ve grown up, which doesn’t say much, but whatever. I’ve achieved this in steps by learning that you shouldn’t tell people what you’re thinking or how you’re feeling. The thicker your filter, the more people will like you. This advice sounds like self sabotage.
I have almost no filter, share almost all my thoughts, and have a wide and rich social circle...
for 25 years of my life, I have never dated. I used to not care. But these last 2 years, I have been very concerned about it. More because I don't know if I will ever find a partner that can listen to me well and respect my personal space (I need a lot of this which makes me concerned about myself lol). And I tend to stay back in a place with a bunch of people, and will never start a conversation first, would rather observe the crowd (and mom always says "how could people know you if you just sit back and not doing any effort???")
yeah. sometimes I don't give a fuck about my love life, but also sometimes I feel lonely because I need someone to share my daily life with.
Food, Water, Wine, and Dating. Don't compromise on the essentials.
Also, listen to my upcoming podcast episode where I address your comment in more detail: www.dreamsaroundtheworld.com/podcast/
@@enfp thanks Dan! looking forward for it!
Infp with a group of extroverted friends is really rare!!
Can't i just be alone for the rest of my life. One of my friends is an Istj and omg i low-key want to smack sense in to her but idc anymore time to just ignore her and let her go.
I really always thought that everybody feels as i do, especially also that energy/extroverts thing, i always had extroverted girlfriends and after some time they gave me the feeling you are wrong, why cant you just chat with someone at that party.... and stuff like that. Havent figured out something that works for me and already early 50s now. Also never met introverts like me. Even therapists and coaches told me "to be more extroverted" instead of help me find my way.
It's always disturbing to learn professionals can give such poor advice
Obrigado.
Right !.... I am infp 😊
Hey man, I really like what you do, I kind of wonder if there's a way I can get involved!
Write me via my website with a bit about yourself.
Lol I’m just so glad I’m not the only one that acts like this. I swear I want friends but i feel like I only attract the very clingy people that don’t understand how to give me the space I need.
@2:38 friends: "..oh, you just need some time alone, it's cool! we'll see you in a few days"
infp: "wh-what, a few DAYS..?? So soon??"
True! I
There are just two people that I can be with for long periods of time And feel charged. Got to get them take the test. Unfortunately my hubby (who I adore) is not one of them😂😂
Time apart is the secret to your happy marriage? :)
@@enfp yesssss.. Luckily he understands if i shut myself away or leave to be by myself 😅
hubby?
Origin and history of consciousness in the breakdown of the bicameral mind!
I find this weird, maybe it has to do how deep the connection is? I have some good friends and we indeed after a while I feel drained, however with my bff its not like that at all, I can spend the whole day with her and feel energized.
i feel that except w my family. like i can be around my brother all day long and be fine and i think part of it has to do with the fact that i can just be there in there presence and i’m not always having to have small talk which can drain my energy really fast
I am an INFP who has relocated to another state. It has been a little difficult for me to connect with the people where I am now. I think maybe communicating who i am will help me to understand me better.
I am an ENFJ and have been told that INFP has compatible traits for me. I am new to all of this .. What is your ENFJ/INFP relationships like?
I'm INFP. I have a (best)friend who's an INFP. And I have a ENFJ best friend. They're both great because we're all intuitive, aka mindreaders, which is really important to all of us.
As an infp. I definitely need a lot of alone time :)
Not an INFP but just have to say that the thumbnail looks like it says “INFP: Dating Partner’s Friends” as in INFP’s date their partner’s friends.
Why not? You already know them well. Could spice things up a bit
🤣 this is funny! As this is something an INFP could never be okay with... fantasize about yeah maybe! But we can see all the ways this would get too messy emotionally! But I love this comment and Dan’s response 👏🏻🤣❤️
😂😂😂😂
I find it hard to be in the moment as an infp. I always daydream or worry about the future. I feel like it comes off as rude or i may seen uninterested to other people
I don't know why but YTubers that are NF types except for Frank James have very soothing voice.
So I connected to an INFP as a INFJ. And we had a lot of common ground and dated for 3 weeks but he cut me off due on his words....no romantic connection after three weeks....I was appalled...I'm still appalled because it made me realized he was never into anything and I was there on my own.....Today I swallowing this sour pill. Note the lack of communication coming from him....bummer!😩😭 no hints no way to get to know each other... So dissapointed.😞
My question is what is the most ideal personality type for an INFP and why.
Notes:
Needs to communicate and push back
I spend a lot of time just thinking/meditating while listening to some lofi and cuddling my cat so my girlfriend will have to be ok with that. I think I’ll be fine :)
I don't give a crap about boyfriend's or dating. But I wanna fall in love and get married and have kids. But then I remember...
It's not as beautiful as it sounds. And my energy just drains :
i don't feel tired or drained with people, tho its difficult for me to approach and spend time where i am left out. but i always like the company of the people i know and spend endless time with them. so is it like an INFP?
How does cyclothymia affect INFP's?
Out of my home with people I am ESTJ(especially during work) and at home by myself I am authentically INFP. I didn't intend to but made my fake social self in order to fit in. So far relationships were not fulfilled or fun but just empty of themselves. One of my challenges is to make and stay in relationships as a real true me of INFP. I want to effortlessly be me in people both business, friendship and romance wise. It is a long journey to me but I have faith that I will make it. I wish all the best luck to all of INFPs who have same struggles like me.
You look like a younger David Plouffe.
Ok. Mm
Okay, I have to listen to the professor... 30 seconds later ... shit, I wasn't listening!
I have taken test and got 55% introvert and 58 percent feeling
So I am INFP but i asked people and they Said i think a lot! And That I’m very very logical...
Can someone make sense of that ?
Try ennegram. They are subtypes.
I have two. Type five the investigator wing six. And type 9 the peacemaker type 1 wing
Tasha g I could also just try undefinable. Which would be true for everyone😉
Maybe they think you are logical because you may think things through before answering and give them diff perspectives that make sense that they never thought of.
How much do you know about ennegrams?
I took to different types of that test. The first I was given type five wing 6. The investigator but balanced.
Then type nine and wing 1. The peacemaker.
Also took a chakra test. It was way too accurate. Lol
Tasha g, what kind of chakra test? ...curious to take it too.
@@tmckmusic8584 www.eclecticenergies.com/chakras/
Tasha g, Thank you! 🌼
@@tmckmusic8584 your welcome
This is really not about infp at all, rather a quick guide for introverts need to communicate.
So how do I reconnect with myself and accept myself? Is there something I can do to enable this?
George Gently, what creative thing do you like to do (or secretly want to do) to express yourself? start there.
@T McK - Thank you. Writing (whatever ideas and feelings I think about).
What I’ve done was writing letters to myself (I’m right-handed so I wrote the letters to me with right hand) asking how do I feel, what are my regrets, fears, what makes me happy, what makes me sad, drained, what energizes me, etc. I replied myself writing with my left hand (to activate right side of the brain; emotions , feelings, etc). I noticed that all emotions in the past which I never could express, or felt like people misunderstood me, just came out. I accepted those feelings and be more aware of them. How they existed, embrace the fears, the regrets and forgive myself for it. It worked amazingly with me I become more aware of my being and can do lots more than I thought I could. If you would try and let me know if it works for you too, I’ll appreciate that. We have to love ourselves and understand ourselves first in order to heal us and others around us. “We are the true healers”
What if he wants to be vulnerable with other friends but he doesnt want to be vulnerable with her GF.
:(
Damn this is just going to be tough for you. 👋🏽 i am an intp male in a relationship with an infp. Can I ask for an advice?
You look like you cried, you wanna cry or like you will cry after the video. Everything alright there?
Who dafuq getting strapped to the wall...
Thumbnail shows ISFP and ESTP.
Have you met them?
@@enfp Have you?
@@enfp Actually I do believe Johnny is INFP now.
Am I the only one who feels irritated becoz of these kinda video. And those are better where they show graphical representation. Where a background voice narrates everything
Yes you are
Yes, social thing drains me a lot.I even thinking of cancelling dates lol.I like this extrovert guy.Im pushing him away but he choose to stay.