INFP Love & Dating Advice
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- čas přidán 19. 09. 2018
- What partner is best for an INFP? The ENFJ? The ESTJ? Or maybe another INFP? I believe love is a complex equation that combines what we are attracted to in other people... as well as what we need from our partner or in a relationship. A person that we are attracted to but who does not give us what we need is a flame. A person that we are not attracted to, but who helps nurture and support our needs, is a friend. A person who we find both attractive and who gives us our needs, is our ideal match. To know this, we need to know both our MBTI type, and our Enneagram type. These are some of my thoughts on INFP Love & Dating and what you can do to have better relationships with other people.
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What turns me off everytime as an INFP are the emotional immature and narrow-minded people, if you're that you're completely out immediately.
That is an incredibly linear response. You miss out on those that are not.
Can you expand on what you mean emotiomally immature? Just because everyone has a different opinion it seems like
Narrow- minded makes me think you're referring to Christians mainly
@@basedneeble7350 I guess not caring about how your actions can affect other people emotionally
@@chahjya yeah theres definitely a balance you need with caring about other peoples emotions
I just realised that the entire point of MBTI is to master all of the functions in your stack, to become more like the opposite type without losing sight of your growth as the original.
I'm beginning to feel the same way
I'm an infp and what I find that is the biggest turn off being superficial and having bad pride where the person is not humble or transparent. What I do find attractive is passion in constantly Learning, being attentive, wanting to do similar activities that I like. A caring person. And a person that can say something that helps me stay calm when I get nervous. I want a person that has a personal perspective on life that is lead by love. A person that can have faith but that can also think independently would be nice but not sure if its realistic.
I'm pretty much the same, outside of the personal perspective lead by love thing (I'm a jaded INFP 6w5). I don't value love as much, I value wisdom more. Also faith in what? I'm a gnostic atheist, so I don't necessarily believe in any one god, but I believe that there is a higher power out there. That's definitely realistic anyway - many of the world's greatest intellectuals were religious, even though one would be quick to pin them with secularism.
Exactly! I keep meeting guys who only want to send pictures that I don't want to see or beg me to take pictures of my breast so I have to block them, where are all of the men with depth?
@@angeladenzer7781 Uhhh idk. I mean I can't say that they don't exist...because, well...I exist. But at the same time I think it's a matter of rarity. I can't find a single girl who would remotely give me the time of day. Granted, i'm not perfect, no one is.
INFP 4w5 guy here. Thx for verbalising your needs, hits right home.
That love exists!!! Just you havent found out it yet ;)
as an INFP I am very attracted to nurturing and affectionate people
me too
Yes!
Infp married to an ENTP for 22 years and counting! He’s toughened me up and I’ve softened him up over the years. We’re in a very good place in our marriage.
That is beautiful Cheri.
That’s so good to know!! Entp here :) There’s hope for us then
@@TODOMATIO Definitely. Most of both my character and real life crushes have been ENTPs
...In real life, it's mostly been because they often ended up in situations where they argued against the whole class, but were the only ones giving arguments while people threw opinions at them. Very relatable :'( It's crazy hard in our society to explore various ideas without getting shouted at (you can't argue against an opinion, for goodness sake! Only against arguments! And if people don't give you arguments to argue against... It's like talking to a wall)
...I might want to be careful not to idealize too much, if I do end up dating an ENTP somehow (INFP problems lol)
Wow. I'm jealous :D A lot of my crushes have been ENTPs. I love them but I feel I would be too boring for them in the long run 😄
INFP married to an INTJ for almost 11 years and 10/10 would recommend this personality pairing. We are so compatible and balance each other so well. Our relationship is so deep and satisfying, yet we can be silly and playful with each other too. We help each other to grow, and I feel like we've both become so much better because of what we have learned from each other. He's my best friend in the whole world, and I can't imagine a better match for me. I love him so much and can't imagine life without him. He makes me so happy, and I just feel at home around him. INTJ's love to make things more efficient which is soooo nice and helpful. So for single INFP's, take a chance on an INTJ! Just remember they keep their true selves and emotions inside until you can earn their trust, but once you do you are in for an amazing journey. INTJ's are fascinating people, and I admire them so much
Thank you Sara and congratulations on the happy marriage :)
I'm an ENFP with an INFP it's an insane connection..I've learnt so much from him & vice versa
How is your place? Is it organized or messy? Just curious.
Yeah... Can you illustrate us?
Very overly emotional, intense, all over the place but very deep and satisfying Abd you both think very alike . The enfp can blow things out of proportion sometimes and feel like while the infp might feel like they need alone time a lot
@@karenr1643 I do agree..very emotional, very intense & very deep. I do tend as the enfp to blow things out of proportion but he usually gets it & helps me sort through it. Also because he's Fi comes first, he helps make it easier & possible for me to talk about my feelings, when it's the one thing Enfps aren't great at. On the alone time thing. Well I think that's subjective. I'm an Enfp who enjoys individualism, so I appreciate it quite alot when my partner is also independent & has time to focus his time on himself & vice versa. It serves us both quite well when we each get our own time to ourselves & then when he's done, we come back to enjoy & share in each other's company.
@@angelicatrino2498 well, he's more messy, I'm actually quite organized. I like when the space is usually neat. When it comes to chores well, we divide labour & when it's the mundane daily ones, we get a cleaner, who comes once a week. Works quite well🤗
I love feeling understood by INFP and ENFP
I love feeling appreciated and attended to by ENFJ
I love the endearing nature of INFJ but some really like to rag on INFPs lol
I love the surprisingly similar mind structure to INTPs, and that we can come to similar conclusions but through different means
Wow. I'm an INFP 4w5 dating an INTP 9w1. I was really surprisedto hear you say that the best match for an INFP type 4 or just an INFP trying to grow and better themselves would be an INTP. I was under the impression that in theory these 2 types wouldn't be compatible, though my bf and I work extremely well together, maybe too well, as we barely ever fight, our focus on open and efficient communication makes us work out any issues very quickly. What helps a lot is that we've both worked on ourselves enough to be quite outgoing in social situations. So I totally agree with you. If both people are striving to better themselves this can be a very fulfilling relationship.
Thank you so much for your input, it was very valuable :)
Hey me too
I'm glad you brought up the INTJ. INFPs and INTJs have a special and wonderful connection along with great chemistry that seems to go un-discussed formally online but it abounds in INFP and INTJ romantic relationships and in forum discussions! I myself, an INTJ was married to an INFP (it was a good relationship - and we are still friends) and I have been with a second INFP for 7 years now, very happily.
I noticed that about forums, too. It seems that INTJs tend to be most attracted to N-doms, but also seemingly almost as often break up with N-doms. INFPs were brought up less, but proportionately had a lot less discussion on breakups and more discussion on long term successes.
Married for over 20 years to an INTJ. We balance each other nicely. He is the love of my life. He always is respectful to me, and as long as I can focus on believing he loves me, then I can look at his actions in the proper way.
It was the most important thing I learned was to veiw our relationship through the lens of love even when there is conflict.
@@carrikartes1403 YES! This was a game changer for my INTJ husband and I as well. Always assume the best of your partner instead of the worst. Assume that they didn't mean to hurt your feelings and then ask them to clarify what they meant. What I've learned is it's ALWAYS a miscommunication/misunderstanding. Assume they are a little bit snippy because they are tired/hungry/stressed and not that they are angry with you. I know as an INFP, I'm overly sensitive, so this change in mindset has made such a difference. Instead of reacting emotionally, I pause and say in a calm and neutral tone, "Hey that comment hurt my feelings a little bit. What did you mean by that exactly?" This de-escalates everything and allows us to talk about the conflict and resolve it without anyone getting defensive or upset.
I believe that we have the ability to match with pretty much any type so long as there is reciprocated respect, understanding, and shared values. I recently broke up with my ENTP boyfriend because we had several big value clashes. What we both DID have was respect for each other and we could encourage one another in our strengths.
On the other hand, he could be so harsh and tactless with the way he spoke, which made him seem insensitive. He didn’t like giving to the panhandlers (I always feel terrible if I don’t) and this bothered me, yet his reasoning was very logical and yes, it did make sense. Cold logic is something I’m not so good at handling; my brain doesn’t work that way!
Then again, I admired him so much for his ability to work hard and hit his major goals and for his leadership skills. He constantly encouraged me to break away from my comfort zone and told me I “don’t have to hide” from the world.
I wish we could have worked out, but there were too many differences. We balanced each other out in many ways, but we clashed in many ways - too many ways - as well.
I’ve noticed that I tend to break fairly easily from relationships because I’ve always been kind of a lone wolf. I don’t *need* to be in a relationship to feel fulfilled. I enjoy my own company quite a bit. Sometimes maybe too much.
I fantasize wayyy too much about what my next partner will be like as well. In fact, I fantasized even while I was still together with my ex. I know this is unrealistic, but I can’t help it.
Anyway... this was a very long response and I didn’t mean for it to go in so many directions! But I think INFPs have the ability to be in a relationship even with their opposites because of this innate ability to understand people, or at least to want (and attempt) to understand people. There is so much beauty in different ways of thinking and seeing the world. Everyone has something good to offer!
I just want to thank you for such an honest talk. I have been looking for a clip that brings up especially the different angles on the definition of love and needs of love, but haven't found it anywhere else (without sugarcoating and selling an idea of the ideal love which so many channels do). These different angles that you're able to include within the discussion is such a great strength of yours. I myself am an INFP, also Swedish - which might be why I relate so well. Keep it going, sending you tons of positive energy and support!
INFP with an INTJ here, together for 15 years now and still happy however have overcome a great deal of adversity and periods of unhappiness to get here. . Have an ENFJ best friend since 2008 and we are closer than ever in 2019.
INFP girl dating an ISTJ boy, we are almost opposites in our approach to life, but we want the same thing ( love, honesty, stability and success in our fields/ dreams). It takes communication, but he gives me a structure, organisation and a way to rationally deal with things and I give him spontaneity, whimsy and a way to deal emotionally with things he would rather just ignore feeling.
I think INFJ would work perfectly with INFP😊
It does. I"m an INFP and my lass is an INFJ. It's a match made in heaven.....or Valhalla from her perspective, lol.
My cousin is an infj and he's my best buddy I just love talking to him, he his so comforting to me as an infp
I want safety AND connection with respect and support. Attraction helps. Too bad it often fades.
Perfect match is a dog!
What MBTI is your dog??
Erik!! I appreciate you helping us with relationship advice!!! I am an Infp and you mentioned some sound tips.
I have never watched an MBTI more accurate. Thank you ( :
ESTJ is the worst for INFPs
What do you think about intj's?
@@basedneeble7350 the two entjs i know are controlling manipulative people, its awful to be around them
@@basedneeble7350 INFP here married for almost 11 years to an INTJ. 10/10 would recommend. He is absolutely fascinating to me and apparently I am fascinating to him. We have learned so much from each other, and we are both better people because of our relationship. I admire him so much, and we have the most interesting conversations about every topic you can imagine. We love to dream together and although we are different we actually see the world very similarly. He is kind, loyal, and extremely loving. He has extremely deep emotions and feelings, but INTJ's don't show that side of themselves to people unless they have earned it. I personally believe INTJ's and INFP's are an extremely compatible match.
I am INFP and my girlfriend is ENFP we love each other very much. Our love is intense!
Very intense..I'm also a female Enfp with a male infp boyfriend...he's amazing...like our connection is just something else😊
@@annemarrie3895
Wow you have a nice relationship.
Now we broke up beacose my father wasnt agree with our relationship beacose is have other religion... so with all the pain we broke up....
@@annemarrie3895
Btw my father is ESTJ
@@mariob616 if he's ESTJ, it makes sense why he would think of religion as a requirement..the 's' types are very much into tradition & ensuring social set precepts remain the same...we however are very open minded & very fluid...for me & my infp we decided to do what feels best for us & ignore what everyone outside of ourselves thinks..it's how we make our relationship work & we're very non traditional
I'm sorry about that..I hope you're doing better now emotionally?
@@annemarrie3895
Yes i am ok now my value/emotion (Fi) sistem is alright.
And my ex Girlfriend have now a boyfriend and i am again alone..
But i am fine 😊
Wow, I really enjoyed this bit of insight. I love your videos.
Great video
INFP here, and madly in love with an ENFJ. I've confessed my feelings for her multiple times with her giving me weird mixed answers. It's killing me
INFP here, recently engaged with INFP. :)
timorii Congratulations!
@@Jlkiss707 Thanks :)
This is the best combination for me at least. Im INFP male and I can only work with another INFP or INFJ perhaps. Where did you meet your partner, if I may ask, because INFP woman seem so difficult to find.
Art & Illustration We’re just very rare in general. But if it makes you any better, I am an INFP woman. I think that we have standards and that is why we do not settle for less. But also, for me recently, I just know that the guy i like has a personality that is not compatible with mine. That and he likes someone else. Ugh.
@@angel_cat
Wow, thanks for answering. I guess There are INFP woman out there after all :) I always wonder how would it feel like to be in a relationship with one of the same tribe. I think it would be really cool:)
I'm not opposed to a partnership but I am happy alone. If a perfect partner happens, beautiful! But I am equally beautiful all by myself.
I like that attitude. Keep doing you.
I love your heart😍 Love listening to you... Where are the 50 year old men that have this type of heart mind and soul 🌍🌎🌏🌈 Well done
Hugs to you, love. I know he's out there, because I spent twelve years looking for my lass, and she ended up finding me a couple of weeks ago. I lift my tea and drink to your future love life.
#Authenticity & Honesty.
I think of dating another INFP as a horrible thing. Just think about it: "Oh, you didn't clean up, so it's my right now to not clean up as well." - "Oh, in that case, I won't clean up tomorrow, neither." (double Se Trickster)
Or: "Can't you see I'm feeling xyz?" - "Can't you see that I am feeling abc?" (double Fi Hero)
Or: "I am not sure if I should do a, b or c, there are so many options!" - "You could also do d, e or f, by the way." (double Ne auxilliary)
On the INFP-ENFJ-side of things:
"I've cleaned up the last two times. Now it's your turn." (Se Child and Fe Hero dealing with Se Devil by calling on Si Child and Fi Hero)
Or: "Xyz really sucks, I'm so annoyed by it." - "I totally feel you." (Fi and Fe Hero)
Or: "I could do a, b or c. So many options and possibilities of failure." - "It doesn't matter which one you chose, we'll find a way through." (Ne Auxilliary and Ni Critic meeting Ni Auxilliary)
Totally agree. INFP with INFP is just asking for trouble. I wonder when people say that they are with another INFP, one of them just might be an INFJ mistyped.
Can confirm, dated another INFPs, too much drama (if I didn't speak to her on a daily basis, she'll say I ignored her on purpose) (I wanted time for myself, was it too much?)
you are wrong
Fr I honestly fear being in a relationship with someone like me we wouldn't get anything done I need someone who's more structured or Outgoing either
Me a quiet shy infp thinking I'm attracted to ENTP
Completely accurate. INFP here that has gotten along with and been attracted to ESTJs (my best friend is one), ENTJs (definitely has happened with 2 guys), ISFPs (the 2 biggest crushes I've ever had were on them), and INFPs (can name 2 other male INFPs I've been into). The others besides those were...one probably was an ISTJ. But if it wasn't an ISTJ, then it was any of the above 100%. Only one I've never gotten along with are ESFJs hahaha I've only known one male and every other girl friend ESFJ I have not liked.
Great video though. I loved what you said about expressing one's self and one's personality honestly and how that is what makes someone attractive. Knowing who you are and what you want is attractive. Good points.
INFP is one of the most introverted. I with E is difficult at the best of times, INFP with E would be very hard work. I decided aged 12 that there was no point in romance for me. 38 years later, I am even more sure of it, but if I were looking for love, it would not be with someone shallow who needs constant adoration from everyone around them or with someone who would think my quiet nature is some flaw that needs to be fixed.
Well said Erik. I AM married to An ESFP man. A lot of contradictions. But I guess this is better than 2 INF types who are too much in their mind. And fail to start anything.......
Great content!
_INFP
INTJ: Challenge accepted. I will be all 3 for my bae. 😆😍
I'm INFP 495, but from an emotionally neglectful home and for a long time thought I was an INTJ. As I've come to understand my upbringing and how it's affected my adulthood and maybe why all my friends have been FPs, I wouldn't be surprised I'd feel best with a fellow F type. Ultimately, probably an N type with good emotional intelligence. I haven't known many Ns (most in my family and their friends are ST), so probably an N understanding would be just as fulfilling. I have noticed though that I can be around someone more assertive and I'll become more assertive (which is otherwise hard to maintain).
Sorry you went through that. INFP hug.
I'm an INFP and I've been single for 14 years although I've dated here and there but I wasn't ever serious and I pushed them away, am I just that comfortable being alone or am I just afraid that no one will understand me, I was married to a narcissist and he destroyed my heart and soul when he stole my children and a few years later I found myself in another relationship with another narcissist, I've really educated myself but I don't trust myself
Wow! I feel this, I was raised by a narcissistic dad and often get so confused on my true feelings. I’ve been gaining insight from others and their perspectives on narcissistic relationships. I hope trust will blossom from the growth you’re doing/have done 🌷
Im INFP struggling with my ISFJ love interest. Its at the point where I think its better to not share anything meaningful about myself because he will only interpret it as me trying to come off as special or as a victim, when really Im trying to share my hopes, dreams, fears, insights. Ive come to realize we are speaking very different languages even when having what should be a straightforward conversation, nevermind the deeper soulful kinds of talks (those end in tears for me because of how he interprets what Im saying and because of how I interpret his reactions as rejections. I run in proverbial circles trying to find new ways to communicate my inner world to him). Its exhausting and kind of heartbreaking to realize that no matter what you do, some people's minds will never be able to gel with yours, regardless of how much love is present.
C S Joseph said Isfj and Infp relationships don't work because they both are canvasses and want someone to paint on them. Someone needs to be more dominant and take the role of the painter. That's why Isfjs do well with Estj, Entj and Estp partners because they want an alpha who's not interested in pointless rambles (according to them) and more into getting shit done.
@@SS-bu8ez Interesting. That definitely fits the experience Im having with him.
@@ellisajankowski7890 I don't agree with everything C Joseph says but his lectures on compatibility are quite congruent with what I've observed.
@@SS-bu8ez THIS IS SPOT ON!! Especially the pointless rambles part... ISFJ and INFP will NEVER work out. trust me on this. I tried to the very very end.
@@SS-bu8ez Do you have any online platform? I wish you'd share more of your knowledge..
I'm trying to teach my ISTP bf about my emotions and how much power he has over them, it's hard, but he's starting to get it. The most important is that he rlly wants to understand me
Perfect match!
Myself!
The lass who just picked me up (read as: hit on and decided I was worthy to work with) isn't what people would call "sexy", but the way she talks to me, how she connects with me, how she can calm me down when I'm angry or irritated like a wet towel on a kitchen grease fire, how she lets me be vulnerable with my emotions, and how her voice leaves me with this 'yandere looking at their senpai" expression. She is the one I want for sure. I just have to be patient until we can be together. Oh, and she's an INFJ, which I'm not. I'm an INFP with INFJ tendencies.
I really don’t understand the difference between INFP and INJJ! I am relating to both !
you really have a beautiful eyes
entj infp isfp enfj esfj lovely I'm have to learn more about these types
There's a friend who is an INFJ and we just keep going around the other everytime, help xD
I think I really like ISFJ and INFP ❤️
I agree!! I'm an INFP and the men that I've liked the most who I thought would make great life partners were ISFJs. I just need to find one who will actually like me back. :'(
Do you think female ISFJs would like a male INFP?🥺
Narcissistic ENTJ or ESTJs scare the hell out of me. They are nice at first and then bam! A lot say that an ENFP would be good.
Try ENFJs too, ENFPs and INFPs are great but with some communication issues and misunderstandings on sharing vs processing, together vs alone.
I am infj and I believe infj or p would be perfect match for me unfortunately I don't think I'll ever meet a infj or p woman so single is the out come
You will! I'm an INFJ and my husband is an INFP
What personality type would you suggest for an INFP 6w5?
I think a whole lot depends on childhood questions that a person (of whatever type) has that they still want answers to. If the people going into a relationship have central or a lot of small seemingly unrelated unresolved matters, then this will often likely cause disruptions in the relationship. That is what I have seen happen in my own life and that of many others.
And then what people are acclimated to (whether they are comfortable with that acclimation or whether it is posing a discomfort, either way) could create an odd mismatch even between types who ordinarily might get along very well. And this is because at least one person in the relationship has assimilated norms that are not normal for their type. Like me: I was raised by two TJs (ENTJ and ISTJ). So while there are some uncomfy things about TJ still, I have honed some skills for communicating well with TJs. I don't require a TJ but for me it would not be a bad idea, however since I am so introverted an INFP, and since I married an ESFJ which (for a bunch of different reasons) turned out badly (not least because I did not have the FJ lingo down) I have a pretty good idea that probably the biggest differences for us were Fe/Fi and right next to that difference came the E/I difference, which for some INFPs would not be such a big leap as it was for me to match an almost totally 100% E mate. On top of that were other differences. And this turned out to be too different. And having similar backgrounds (very very similar!) did not help. Even our similarities resulted in such different outcomes and responses, both positive and negative.
I do think that INFPs need to develop their selfhood a lot longer than many other types since as a whole we are a type that is less realistic and more in need of experience than a lot of other types. That's the one thing that I think would help most INFPs to be ready for relationships. Not necessarily diving into sexual relationships (maybe) but relating to all kinds of other people and understanding who others really are instead of relying on our fantastic ability to imagine what others are like. Which we are soooo good at!
Can you have several perfect careers? Or soulmates? Do you think you have one mission in the universe or on the contrary several periods?
I love your flowing thought process. Erik, what do you think about INFP's dating ENFPs? I'm an INFP dating a younger ENFP. I love her communication skills, creativity, and curiosity. It feels like we can connect deeply on an emotional level. As an introverted type, I'm realizing that it is important for me to be with a more extroverted type. It seems to create a much more dynamic and engaging relationship than dating another introverted type.
An INFP and ENFP will experience one another as inspirational/demotivating & collaborative/competitive matchup. Common dynamics:
* Pushing and setting goals and challenges for one another to overcome
* Teaching boundaries and helping you develop personal identity
* Supporting or competing with each others in areas where you are similar
@@ErikThor would you say that those polarities are expressions of healthy versus unhealthy relationships?
@@brandonorhii, i am an younger ENFP having crush on an older INFP. I think if we get into a relationship, it will be so wonderful and healthy. I am sure, in ur case, both of u can relate in lots of way and can understand each other. U both can see your partner as a reflection of you. In my case, each day i am getting more relatable and understanding how perfect we are together. To enfp, Infps are such pure, innocent, feeling people, which we would like to cherish in our lives.
I am sorry for my bad English. But trust me, infp-enfp relationship can be awesome. U will get a very good friend and partner.
I am a INFP with another INFP
Is it possible to have the wow element and the safety together?
i think i want to date another infp cuz i really fall in love with an infp person
I only want an ENFJ spouse. - INFP
I like for an extrovert to get me to get out.
I just want joy, cuddles and painting/writing together with a caring girlfriend. Why is it so hard ? Like the only ones that are interested in me are very "brutal", assuming the worst of me all the time so I just avoid them
I’m an INFP male in his early 20s, I’m mainly attracted to a persons intelligence & how they express themselves (don’t get me wrong, looks are important too). Most people find me to be quite attractive, had a lot of women admit crushes to me in my highschool days but I rarely dated because I felt I never “clicked” with any of them. As an INFP, am I just so damn picky or is it right for me to find someone I can be on the same “vibe” with?
Same, I learned this about myself in high school. I remember having a crush on a guy from one of my classes. He would tell me the same joke everyday. It stopped being funny.
What about INFP and ISTP??The only guy I ever shared real affection with was my first 'boyfriend' at 17. Never dated before or after that. We just talked, everything was sweet. He was chilled, sporty, fit, and handsome (in my eyes), and worked at a car workshop in a small town. Easy to get along with and a great listener. Could he have been an ISTP?? I think that has been the only time I actually liked someone and got close to them. Most of the time, I just develop crushes and later forget about it because I get busy and have 0 flirting skills. BTW, he wasn't that loyal and unfortunately, there always seemed to be a lot of girls trying to pursue him. Last I heard, he had a child out of wedlock and is now with a new girlfriend. Thanks for reading, sorry if it sounded like a biography.
Don't apologize, I am an istp girl and many people would say we are not loyal, i don't agree but guys could be worse , i am so sorry for what happened, be strong , someone will for sure love that little heart inside you
so i am enfp 44 years french based on the test but i'm not quite sure because i'don't no i'feel inftp, i am 2w3 in énéagramm and my love life actually is a mess i'veput in this a great part of my energy,all perhaps and it feel that it make me loose my garden joy, it's just like theses expériences had ostracised my magical inner world and i'm really confused in all of this now, perhaps have you got an insight to share for me
INFP a good friend of mine is an ESTJ. She
All my friends swear by Enneagram as the only right system. I did test this week and it’s SO OFF BASE. Like, opposite my INFP personality. Maybe I did a dud test. (My 2nd number was ok, and 3rd number was kinda accurate).
Im in so in love for an intp but I'm trying forget about that, and then you come with that kkkk whyy
How about INFJ INFP?
I guess just dont date narcisstic Estj's 😆
ESTJ's need their asses kicked.
Hahahahah exactly
How do INFPs fare with INFJs, and vice-versa? :) Pros and cons?
I am an INFJ married to an INFP. I think INFJ may come off at times as a little closed and judgmental to an INFP. If an INFP really loves an INFJ, they will take the time to let you lower your walls to let them in. INFPs are also very attentive and notice if the INFJ is stressed and will jump in to help. The problem may occur when the INFJ or INFP is depressed. Both are sensitive to what the other is feeling which can lead to both of you being depressed. This is a sticky situation.
@@ibanez856 you are so right. Lol!! I am only crazy or goofy with those I am REALLY close to. Even in a group of ppl I live with, 2 out of 8 may be the only ones to see that side. You were dead on when you said "rigid" lol ... Hmm the longer you know this INFJ the more layers you will see. And let me tell you, there are a lot. You think you know them and then bam! Something new! (This can be good or bad) my INFP probably would have liked to see all the layers in the beginning....
As a female INFP with a male INFJ best friend, I can attest that an extremely strong bond is very possible. We are both generally gentle listeners and understand each other's feelings and specifically, our hyper-sensitivity. It's so nice. The one downside is we are both very emotional and on the bad days it can be a bit much, trying to deal with both of our strong emotions. The pros definitely outweigh this though. Easily the deepest friendship I've ever been in.
Idk why, but I really felt that “love being secondary” narrative. What I find most attractive in a person is odd.
My ambitions lay in traveling the world, and I want a woman who wants to travel the world with me. At the same time though, I really want someone who is more on the introverted end, and enjoys speaking on philosophical topics as well as other abstract ideas.
Bzzt! correct answer was INTJ
Hehe yes I cheered for the eventual mention of us under self-improvement 😀 (INTJ)!
Bethany Lowe Oops! Didn't manage to stay that long. When I heard that idealistic stuff about starting a new career at 50 I checked out. Has no idea of the amount of age discrimination my fiftysomething friends are experiencing. If people on concentrating on their careers in their 20s and 30s that's good and sensible; don't dissuade them from this wise path.
I agree, for a different reason - I'm 46 and lacking the energy, motivation, and conviction to start a new career! People do but not everybody can. Mid-life issues are something I hope Erik will consider at some point.
@@rhoheta5243 yeah his advice was very impractical at some points. I'd agree more if he said balance relationship and career. It's hard but it can be done.
Hi Erik, what would be the best match for an Entp 6w5 ? I have noticed that I were often attracted by Infp's they are so cute ahah 😂
I am not Erik but if you can find an INFJ/INTJ 4 wing 5 it will change your life for the better.
INFP 6w5 type..who are they compatible with?
I am an INFP and I have a crush on ENFP.
Abhiraj Singh don’t do it
@@Lilysnflwr why?
why?
Just because I had a bad experience with one ha. It’s probably okay for you to date one as long as you make sure you’re going to be them for the rest of your life before you let them use the label girlfriend or boyfriend on you. I was in a two month relationship with one and I tried breaking up with him which he didn’t let happen right away even though I had distanced myself the first 4 weeks in. I had to not kiss him back the next time I saw him so he would be forced to break up with me. Even then he apologized to me and said he didn’t want to break up. After breaking up he got angry at me and said he did everything for me (things I never asked for-he’s an enneagram 2) and he said he used to love me but I broke that and I was like okay you loved me after a two month relationship? Didn’t seem authentic to me which I couldn’t stand. We got into a relationship after only a week of knowing each other and dating because he asked me and I had been single for 3 years so I made a mistake. He was gunny and a nice person but I realized I didn’t like him romantically
He always had to try so hard to make everyone in the room like him. I couldn’t stand it. He was so emotionally immature even though he’s 39 and he kept saying he didn’t love me anymore but would try to act like we were still in a relationship when we were supposed to just be friends. I wouldn’t have stayed friends with an ex right after but he was the most persistent person in the world and can talk people into anything. I kept saying okay but we’re just friends and he would say I know I’m over you but I knew there were always going to be expectations of us getting back together and there were. I didn’t want him saying I was stringing him along (and he said I wasn’t) so I stopped talking to him. The last time I talked to him in person I said it seems like you still like me and I don’t want to get your hopes up and he said I don’t like you like that and then proceeded to say that he thinks I still have feelings for him because of the way I look at him. Wth I’m an INFP 9 of course I make everyone feel special but it doesn’t mean I want to be in a relationship with just anyone. He also said he was hoping to eventually turn hanging out into dating and this was in the same conversation in which he said he didn’t have feelings for me...I think he’s just an ENFP with issues
What about infj with intp?
How can I find out what personality type someone has?
Angela Denzer i always ask that person to do the test but its not always acuraat
Just for curiosity sake whats a good match for infp 9s?
Enfj
yes Enfj for sure.
I am an INFP. Is it possible to fall in love with ENFP ????? Or am i mistaken ?? I really need some advice !!!!
haha ofc it is enfps are completely irresistable
@@ErikThor 😂😂😂 thank you !!! I am realizing just how IRRESISTIBLE they really are 😅😅
@@zeshprize7358 hows it going with the ENFP? I'm an info dating a ENFP woman right now. She's provably too young for me but so irresistible!
You still live in the netherlands?
Yes! :)
Can INFP and ISFP work ? Anyone in this type of relationship?
I am INFP and wife of 13 years is ISFP. Like any relationship they have challenges, but overall we got through them and still married. The Sensor vs Intuitive difference is biggest challenge. It is difficult but anything can be done if love is there. If i was to be single again I would remain single, but if I was to get with someone new I guess would need to be an INFP,INTJ,INTP who is atheist and a critical thinker or it would be a real challenge for me.
@@deadmanwalking1930 Do you think a male INFP and female ISFJ could work too?🥺
What do you think about a female INFP and a make ISFJ?
Im in that situation right now (please see my comment above). Not going well for me, I hope you have a better experience!
@@ellisajankowski7890 hahaha a very bad experience. He cheated after 2 years :D he is not a grounded person, like too willing to go along with whatever crowd, secretive and selfish... I hope yours turns around and is a lot better.
Tip: you might both be quite conflict avoidant people, both tending to brush everything under the carpet and not discuss the tougher issues. If so, please find the courage to speak up (as gently as you like) and make sure any issues are addressed. Wishing you all the best xx
@@justlovemusic8182 Sorry to hear 😣 Hope you can find a better match soon. Thanks so much for the insightful tip, I appreciate it!
Terrible match for relationships but they make good friends
@@justlovemusic8182 Do you think it would be any different with a male INFP and female ISFJ?🥺
have you decided which one are you?... infp or infj...imho - u're an infp.
He does not seem INFJ to me, seems extremely INFP in his body movements to me.
Oh my god you are so cute a
haha thanks
NTJs too boring, NFJs argumentative, STJ/Ps too insensitive and boring again. All have some weaknesses
Prachi Arora I was kind of implying that nobody is compatible, whether or not I’m the problem, or they are
what about NTPs?
H I I would probably get along with NTPs, I haven’t met that many....also i found out Im an assertive INFP so maybe that could be why I’m incompatible with certain types m
Lol I love to look at our lives and see who was the boring one sir lol❤️- an INTJ
What about infp + entj ?
😊The ideal “golden pair” for an INFP is ENFJ with INFJ being the second-best match. The following are the most to least compatible types for INFP:
ENFJ- The Harmonious Leader
INFJ- The Empathetic Guru
INTJ- The Visionary Strategist
ENTJ- The Rational Boss
ESTP- The Realistic Alpha
ISTP- The Tactical Rebel
ENFP- The Imaginative Explorer
INFP- The Introspective Soul
ESFP- The Dynamic Star
ISFP- The Artistic Free Spirit
ENTP- The Curious Inventor
INTP- The Logical Theorist
ESFJ- The Supportive Ally
ISFJ- The Unbreakable Loyalist
ISTJ- The Diligent Investigator
ESTJ- The Head Honcho
@@ginamichelle4466 Isfp and Intp should be above Esfp. I've clashed with every Esfp I've met. Usually it's them thinking introversion is a mental illness.
Erik names all the types that fit the INFP. mfw I'm dating an ISTP.
ISTP is fine, it works well especially if you're a more physically active and sports-involved INFP, if you enjoy being outdoors, etc etc. ISTPs can help keep you active and alert and can get you out of your own head once in a while. Dating an ISTP also suggests you need a lot of control and balance in your life, and ISTPs can really provide that person you can lean on when you need. Just trust your own feelings on this stuff. Focus on what you can give each others and what you like about each others. The six I mentioned are just the most common options I see.
I'm in an INFP too, married to an ISTP! :)
Thanks for the advice, Erik. Nature really calms me, and it's fun to watch my boyfriend show off his survival skills and finding beautiful, hidden places with him in forests.
I am also an info female with a ist male. We are engaged and are doing very well. For the most part we understand each other and when we do not are willing to find out what to do to succeed in our relationship. He is also a Virgo and I am an Aqua. Opposites attract. Loving the ride.
Sorry for auto correct Infp female and Istp male
No, the perfect matches for INFPs are: NFJs, STPs and NTJs in that order
C.: Why?
@@futureplanet6910 because of the comparability of their cognitive functions.
@@cadencecaddie5551 thanks; i will study about it. I am INFP, and i know an ISTP.
Why Erik in the video tells different?
Where can i read about it?
Greetings from Germany!
@@futureplanet6910 Not everyone has the same opinion. There's a lot of weird infos about it on the internet. Google "personality types cognitive functions" or something like that, and you'll finde something. INFP and ISTP are a fine match, not the best but good!
Grüße aus Österreich!
I think it really comes down to what you want as an infp. I know quite some infps and the socially less skilled or more passive ones love enfjs or entjs cause it gives them that component, the more confident ones will go for infj or intj for the intellectual deepness and then some love istp or estp probably for not comprehending them ever (absolute opposite attracts)
Outside of that I don‘t think it‘s a classic combo
Your eyes made me uncomfortable.
haha oh no
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