There is $h!t in the dating pool!
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- čas přidán 9. 07. 2024
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In this video I speak about how challenging it is to find someone to date who knows who they are and what they want out of life. We live in a society where nothing is built to last, everything is instant, disposable, and replaceable.
Unfortunately, people are losing the will power & drive to build something of integrity, and this makes dating that much harder.
I shared about how in the past I would try and blame myself because if I am the problem, then I can fix it. The older that I get the more that I recognize that I am a high value woman with so much to offer and that I must start honoring that worth and remove myself from the dating pool - because I don't want to swim in $h!t.
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I can speak from experience. After my divorce 20 years ago ( in my 40's ), I decided that was it. I dated a couple times after that, early on, and found that it was no longer worth it. I had no interest in getting married again. What I found is that women of my age, wanted marriage, or travel, and of course, someone with lots of money. I'm a homebody, my kids came first, and still do, and I hate traveling. So, I decided long ago, to remain single for the rest of my years.
Thank you for sharing ✨
Society is not healthy, so eliminating all the ones who aren't suitable leaves you with nearly zero!
I think you are correct about everything you're saying. In the big picture, technology (and in turn, the economy) has advanced to a point in which most people are no longer dependent upon one another.
Most people can survive independently of others. This was not the case for all of human history preceding the current era.
This being the case, relationships have become somewhat of a novelty.
Even 100 years ago, over 70% of the population lived and worked in agriculture. This would typically mean you needed husbands, uncles, sons and grandfather to work in the fields, while moms, aunts, daughters, and grandmother tended to the care of children, and tasks closer to the house. Even the children were given jobs to do at an early age.
This is how it was around the world, since the dawn of the agricultural age.
It's also why homesteads were consisted of extended families...grandparents, aunts/uncles, etc...all living in the same house. It's because they had to, to survive.
Today, technology has allowed us to live independent of one another. We send our grandparents to homes when they get old, and due to social media, dating has become a boutique pastime.
The dating pool has become TOO large. If you're old enough to remember a time before cable tv, you'll remember that you'd just settle on a channel, watch it, and let it play out.
Whereas today, you have half a million channels, and you end up surfing the guide, and never actually watching anything. That is what is happening in the dating world today...and it's probably going to cause much more serious effects than we are currently aware of....world changing stuff.
Your comment is a breath of fresh air on this video. Thank you for recognizing that I’m speaking about society and not just men.
You made excellent points and I appreciate you taking the time to share them
Absolutely, in the past, not too long ago marriages lasted as there was financial dependency, and women stayed at home or had part time jobs so they could take care of the kids. A man that is a leader and have high value job, cannot marry a woman leader with a high value job, because both are career oriented, and none will quit that goal to do a sacrifice for the other. A man with a masculine woman won't work, a man with a feminine woman chances it will work. A leader woman with a submissive man won't work, unless he is gay.....lol. Nature of men is to go out and hunt to provide, is the nature, the instinct. .
I just don’t believe it’s as cut and dry and black and white as that.
I believe that men and women are to support and complement each other in building a life. I believe women are responsible for the health of the family by preparing the nourishment the husband provides.
We also live in a much different day and age where many men simply cannot afford to take care of the whole family on his own.
For me, as a woman that has had to work very hard just to stay alive in this world as I was thrown to the wolves upon my arrival, I’d love to soften into my feminine, which I do as I care for and nurture my partner via food, love, support in his endeavors, etc. and it’s been challenging to find a man willing to step into his masculine truly and with integrity and I need that to feel safe, secure, and provided for, as most women do.
@@iamcameronjewell This is very true -- for as much as men complain about women, the real problem is that a lot of men are no longer willing to be men. That means stepping away from the blue 💊and willing to work hard, stop being weak, and stop being emotionally vulnerable by running to reddit for advice about the things they need to do but won't do it because of fear.
Great channel... just subscribed! You're a great speaker and motivational/positive message! Thanks!
Thank you so much! 🤩
Best of luck. It is better to be alone than in a bad relationship. As I have become ancient , I do not believe you will find what you’re looking for on any social media. Someone, will recognize your a one in a million.
Thank you ✨🫂
WOMEN ARE LIKE PARKING SPACES. THE GOOD ONES ARE TAKEN & WHAT'S LEFT ARE HANDICAPPED !!!!!! 😂
Oh my god 😂 I’m not handicapped 😂😂😂
Statistically there are more healthy women availble than there are healthy available men.
❤❤❤ so much truth to all this!
Thank you for watching!!
Safety first, regardless of the stories that I may tell myself - if I have an underlying sense of not feeling 'safe' I prefer the safety and solace and immense peace of my own company.
Emotions are contagious, a healthy relationship between two adults requires that they both put in the work on themselves.
Relationships are built one day at a time, I find it exhausting to meet someone that has a long term agenda, and is constantly comparing reality to their imagined fairy tale.
All the best
Thanks for sharing! I’m curious, do you think that goals are equivalent to a long term agenda?
@@iamcameronjewell Yes, in this case a goal or agenda for another person.
I respect your personal preference. Many people out there are goal oriented and want to come together with someone and achieve / create a vision / goals.
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There is some confusion around the definition of high value to the opposite sex. Try to be curious what they want and you will find out whether you actually are high value
exactly. men determine what a high value woman is. women determine what a high value man is. this woman is a far cry from "high value"
Please tell me more about how far from high value I am. I am curious.
Thank you 😃
@@iamcameronjewell Depends on what you're talking about. In terms of accomplishments, YOU determine if you are high value or not. Are you were you want to be? Have you accomplishing what you want to accomplish? Yes? Then that's high value in terms of success.
In terms of dating, the outside world determines that. Not you. You dont have the type of man you want and men that YOU consider high value are not exactly breaking doors down to get your attention. So in terms of dating you're not high value.
@@iamcameronjewell Hey, I don't feel like I know you well enough and I don't want to write about your appearance in public. There are some guys who discuss this honestly, like this guy. czcams.com/video/lL13EeEhgag/video.html
Don’t disagree that there is a lot of difficulties. But you are not exactly laying out what you want. Dating? If your looking for a life time relationship only go out for interview date. Zero sex. Look for someone with same ideals, same goals, that you think you have a meeting of the mind & are willing to make the commitment. Become one with someone and you will have success.
I did not intend to find a partner in this video.
I communicate clearly when I am speaking with anyone, especially a man who wants to date me.
This video was freestyled to get a dialogue rolling, and it’s CZcams so I needed a catchy title 😂 I have learned a lot, I asked many men on my Facebook and Instagram to share with me what they are looking for in a partner and will be asking women the same soon. I am gathering data and will be making a new video soon!
Your suggestions here are sound and what I practice and I appreciate you sharing them with me.
Thank you so much for your time 🫂
Sounds like you are falling for the internet stuff...i bet u cant go a whole week without the internet@@iamcameronjewell
Tell me more about how you could be so sure of that, that you would be willing to bet on it! I’m curious 😃
@@iamcameronjewell ask a man in the real world..not on social media
I’ve spoken to many. Any other suggestions?
Maybe you got in the cess poll instead of the dating pool?
Oh man you might be right 😂
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Listen,
We men are simple creatures. We dont want problems, lists or long conversations about complicated issues.
Just share our interests or at the very least "entertain them", help make life easy. Be that place or person we can go to to escape from daily stress.
No psycho-analyzing or 10 point plans. Just be "cool" and we will get along just fine.....possibly forever.
A long time ago I met this girl who while out on a date, pulled out a piece of paper and said "this is just a list of 20 questions That I ask everyone Im dating, if you could just fill this out".
I looked at her and said "are you serious" she said yes. I asked "why cant you just interact with me and observe the answers organically?
She said she preferred to do it that way. I got up and left.
Dont make it complicated....or weird. Just try and enjoy yourself and stop looking for meaning in tea leaves.
When you bring all that anxiety and those expectations to a relationship, we feel it and like a thunderstorm to a stable of horses, its gonna spook us.
Just calm down please.
Does the woman’s needs or wants matter?
Conversations are very important to women, does that mean get over it and not have them?
Just be cool. Don’t ask questions and everything will be fine 😅
Do you think men should return the same? Share or entertain the interests of the woman?
I’m genuinely curious and I appreciate your feedback.
I think she's annoying. You're a right
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There are toxic women, just like there are toxic men, but it sounds like you want a robot, not a human being. You could get an AI girlfriend.
@bonfiredancer what makes it sound like I want a robot?
Good job
Thank you for watching!
Its a Baby Ruth bar ;)
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I'm guessing you made this video for women, but maybe I can help with a male perspective. I'm not gonna say you are the problem because I don't know you at all, but if you have consistently bad results, it's probably a good idea to do some self reflection and ask yourself if you're doing anything to put off the kind of men you want, rather than just say the dating market is shit and that you're just going to wait and wait until Mr Right comes along without doing anything to work on yourself. You asserted that you are a high value woman. Perhaps you are, I don't know. What I do know is that all the things you listed came across a little bit masculine. Men aren't really turned on by women who are doing tons of things and building companies or who have their own house etc. etc. There's nothing wrong with it, but it doesn't really make a woman "high value" to most men. If anything it makes you come across as someone to compete with, which is kind of the opposite of what a lot of men want. It might be a good idea to ask yourself what is high value to a man, rather than high value in your own eyes, and try and work on those things. If I can offer my own two cents, a high value woman to me is someone who is physically attractive (duh), has a positive/happy personality (approachable), is easy going (doesn't want to cause chaos, but be a source of peace)), has a sense of humour (fun to hang out with) and who is helpful/useful to me and my mission in life. I don't have a problem with women who have their own mission in life, so long as it's compatible with mine. All that said, I agree that there are a lot of crappy men out there, so don't misunderstand me. But if you want to stand out to the good ones, you want to have as many good qualities (to the male gaze) as you can.
I did not make this video for women. If you scroll through my videos you’ll find I have made videos speaking up for and thanking men.
Many men watch and appreciate my content.
Most of what you said here are your opinions and preferences, and I do not think for a second it reflects all men, and I respect your opinions and preferences. Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment ✨🫂
I didn't need to say it. I will say it bluntly and not nice. Us men want a woman to have babies with, stay at home, take care of the crib, and we are going to work for you. A "boss bitch" is extremely unattractive to most men. Men DO NOT WANT a woman who is doing stuff the man should be doing. We want a normal traditional feminine woman.
Where are those men who will work and care for a family? That want to have children? Because they seem to be rare. Most people can’t even commit to a dog let alone a family. Nothing about this video screams boss bitch, maybe that’s my energy signature 😎 but the moment I mention children and a home shit gets weird.
@@iamcameronjewell You're not finding them because the way you carry yourself, hell this whole video is why you only find "losers". Thank god it's not my life.
😂 thanks for sharing. I hope you feel better now 😘
You are both partners and already have it all. Poop.
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I think I speak for many men in the west. The w-m-n here are just not worth the hassle. And the system is so one sided it is a huge risk for men. Guys, work at being the best version of yourself. Then book a flight out of the U.S. to a country where you are valued and you can meet w-m-n that have value. I worked hard to get wealthy then realized there are very few single w-m-n in the U.S. I would want to even date.
It sounds like someone really hurt you my guy ✨🫂
@@iamcameronjewell See? Now you're showing a very typical response. That shows you have some typical views on men and the same tired, automatic, kneejerk reactions to what men tell each other. A man tells men to just stop the cat and mouse game with women, quit on western women become the best man he can be and go overseas for more feminine women. Your response is to mock the fact he's been hurt by past women. Why? Would you mock a woman who's damaged, withdrawn and trying to heal from past abuse at the hands of men? I doubt you would.
That's why even though you really come off as quite a catch, once you start talking you show that being with you comes with the same tired ass pitfalls that come with a lot of women today. Like I said in another post, good men are done, they've tapped out of the dating scene and are leaving the trash behind. That's why the dating pool is fool of trash and sewage these days. The males in today's dating pool are the desperate, the weak and the obsessed. Everyone else is taking a well deserved break and healing from women like you who mock male suffering and emotional scars.
hes right. over 73% of american women are overweight or obese. DQ from me right there out of the gates. over seas women are so much higher quality, its not even comparable
Why are you assuming that my comment was mocking? That’s very interesting to me.
It feels like many of you are definitely wounded and sensitive and I’m basing that observation off of the responses I’m getting from you and how everything I say is being twisted to prove some point - which is women suck? American women suck? Which is it? Nothing in this video targeted men - I spoke about society and the issues with it and I call women out on their bullshit often.
To judge an entire country of women based off of your experiences with a few of them seems wild to me and I would think it comes from a very wounded place.
Thanks for commenting.
@@iamcameronjewell No one hurt me they taught me. Just because I don't like something does not mean I hate it. I don't like cold weather so I moved to a warmer place. But there are still people living in that cold place because they have no choice or they don't mind cold weather. I was beginning to think I did not like w-m-n then I took trip to another country and realized I really like w-m-n, I just don't like what passes for w-m-n in the U.S. And yes I am generalizing. But it is generally very true.
high value woman.... hahaha
Very much so 😃 thanks for watching and be sure to check out part two
You can over say things and still dont know what you want in life. To me you don't know what you want in life.
Well that tells me that you have no idea who I am.
Very high value woman. Lol yea right
I don't think you understand what men consider high value in a woman.
Since the making of this video, I have asked and gotten the responses of over 50 men and what they said does not reflect what most of the “men” who have left comments on here say.
@@iamcameronjewell Not sure what your point is.
LOL…she lost me at “high value woman”…
And she doesn’t care 😂
agreed. hilarous
Thanks for taking the time to comment on my video 😃 I appreciate it!