I had an epiphany this last year. My mother and mother in law died in December one week apart from each other. And I would like to say if you do anything for your children do not leave a hoarded mess to leave for them, please, please, please. My mother had 3 walk in closets filled to the brim plus jewelry and makeup and hats, purses etc….we just now tamed that situation. And it’s been mentally and emotionally exhausting and sad. So please y’all, have some sense of moderation or if something happens, you’ll leave a mess for whomever comes after you to clear out. Do not put this burden on your kids
No one talks about this enough…I’ve seen this happen with my great grandma, my grandma, I see my mom and 7 aunts doing this and even see my own self doing this and I have no kids. This video and your message have confirmed that unsettled feeling I’ve been having within myself to begin to purge and quit buying so much crap that I won’t use. Thank you for sharing your story because this is truly my epiphany. 🙌🏾
I agree.I use to shop a lot.Now I refuse to add anything to my collection that doesn't matter.In most cases the items just satisfy your ego for a while and then start collect dust .Toom many items brings additional stress.
This is so true. Went through this myself. After my mom's passing my whole perspective changed. I love clothing, shoes, bags etc... but now I am buying with intent. I cleared out a lot of everything. Donated and sold so much stuff. I don't want to put that burden on my children.
I always think about this. I have really tried over the years to organize and own less possessions. There was a time when my closet’s sounded like your mother’s. Something happened in the 50’s and I desired less.
@@CChamp79 it’s a Western mindset. I watch all these bloggers & vloggers basically shopping themselves to death & this has now become a norm- watching people shop & doing the same. To me, it looks crazy. I’m from the Caribbean & we all have a sense of familial & national responsibility. You didn’t raise yourself, so once you’re older you use the money you make to support others in your family, or wider community. Many of us are raised in poverty, so once we make a lil sumn- it’s going towards improving our countries. When I see people pouring all this money on themselves I think, where are your parents? Where are your nieces & nephews. What is happening in your community? It’s a very self centred mindset & from the outside looking in, it looks like pure madness.
Ms. Monroe, I went to my niece's wedding and when we hugged she said "you have smelled the same my whole life." I have worn the same fragrance for 40 years. It is woven into the fabric of my life. I wish you the same contentment, whether with one fragrance or many, in every facet of life. Xoxo 😘
I love your comment! Fragrance is amazing. It brings back thoughts, feelings and memories of special people, places and events of years gone by. When you wear a signature fragrance for that long It becomes part of you. I bet when your niece hugged you she felt extra special on her very special day!
@@juneaskew6871 I totally agree. My mother had a signature scent. Although she's been gone from this life for 28 years, whenever I smell it in a crowd I look for her.
@@tinajoneswilliams4253 thank you. I wish i could have a signature scent. It would make my life so much easier. Every morning it's a struggle to pick out my scent of the Day😅
Back in the 90s I loved Calvin Klein's Eternity and wore it a lot, along with 2 or 3 other fragrances. When my son went away after high school, I paid him a visit a few months later and as he hugged me he said, "Mom! You smell like home!" It's a memory that still brings me joy. Sometimes less is indeed more.
lol girl you said primo and it took me back i used to buy the pastel purple blue and orange can and the can that imitated juicy couture lol and Imari seduction was my Avon go to lol i was too grown lol I’m almost 34
I LOVE this! I’m so sick of the overconsumption especially within our community; always having to have all the designer bags/shoes, all of the niche fragrances, overload of jewelry… 2 or 3 quality bags is enough, a signature summer scent and a signature winter scent is plenty. I use to be a shopaholic/“maximumlist” but have been trying to become a minimalist before the new year
I really needed this video. I have realized that my spending when it comes to fragrances is unnecessary. I am trying to go on a no buy and really find myself again. I am a stay at home mom of 4 so I find myself when I’m feeling overwhelmed or bored I’m searching for my next fragrance. But I recently discovered an old love which is reading and I want to spend more time doing that than browsing websites spending money that could go to more important things. Thank you for this.
This came at a right time. I realized that shopping is more filling an emotional need, than the need to fill my closet. Now when I shop it’s very intentional and I find that the experience is more enriching that way.
This is real growth, Mrs Eva! Unfortunately, we live in a very consumerism environment and these days having an abundance is seen as good while people don't realize the negative effects that come with having unnecessarily too much. Rather best to have the however many items that actually mean something to you than an entire collection just for show, yet you're an unhappy buyer. I have a bit of a clothing and shoe addiction but I try to catch myself before purchasing the item - cos sis has no space in her apartment. Great video and I've missed you, thank you for sharing your wisdom!
Quality over quantity. There are times I have to stop myself from going out of budget to purchase luxury items. We should appreciate quality and the same time make sensible purchases. In addition, we have to put our money into brands that love us ALL. Too often we just make purchases without researching the companies. We shouldn’t be rewarding bad behavior.
When you start a ‘no buy’ I swear everythinggggg goes on sale the next day. It’s like they can tell 😂. The amount of coupons in my email box is out of control.
So happy you’re back. I’ve been feeling the same way lately about spending money on things that don’t bring me joy. I realized I’ve been spending money to fill a void. Right now, I’m trying to find something meaningful to do with my time that doesn’t require me to spend my money frivolously. I’m not sure what that something is. But, I’ve been putting a lot of effort into getting my house in order until I find that “something.” Thanks for sharing your life experiences and dropping gems.
@theYumKitty When I get the urge to shop, I Thrift. It satisfies the urge, a fraction of the cost and good for the environment. Also any time I buy something, I get rid of 2 items. (it's my 1/2 rule) ☺☺
Literally having the same moment. Reassessing my possessions and asking, WHY? I am giving pieces to dear friends, Poshing others and repurposing my favs that don’t fit well. I’m focusing on my passions, art, making jewelry and reading. Happy to see you today!
I loved every minute of this video. I did a swedish death cleaning of our home this year and did away with 75% of what I had. Every time I thrift, whatever comes in, double that goes out. I put aside whatever will be donated every time I clean. I don't want my son or husband to be burdened with things they are not interested in when I leave. It has changed me, cleaning our home is a breeze, my perfume collection is down to 4 bottles, one being an oil I made and I cannot begin to express how freeing this is. I am so happy for you. Now, I must sub, love love love your content and your attitude.
What you did with the fragrances I did with handbags and clothing. I feel my best in dresses so that's what I wear only. I reached for the same 4 handbags, so I kept them. The rest is gone. It's freeing, the simplicity is invigorating. It's common sense living girlfriend. Life is too precious and short to be surrounded by a bunch of stuff you don't need or even want. Designer Imposter Fragrances sprays, A Little Sexy was my jr high signature scent, lol good memories
Hey lady, I missed you! I'm so happy and proud of you. You've come into a new season of your life. As some of us get older and wiser, we come to learn that all of the "stuff" doesn't give us joy because we start to enjoy the little things that we took for granted, such as health, which is the ultimate wealth! We start to realize that all of the expensive bags, clothes, jewelry, shoes, cars, etc. which meant something at one time, means nothing. After all, we only use 20% of what we buy, meaning that we reach for the same things over and over again. Spending time with love ones, taking mental breaks, and self discovery is what becomes our focus. We no longer do things that we thought we needed to do to be happy, such spending and wasting money. We hopefully learn that time is a commodity and there's no need to sweat the small stuff. We learn that being angry has no power and forgiveness is for ourselves! We learn to just BE!!
I agree with you. Most of my clothing is not worn daily except on Sundays because I work in scrubs. So it's better to buy more scrubs so I have enough for a whole week without doing laundry in between and more pjs to sleep in than other fancy clothing for our fantasy glamorous lives lol. I am also selling/donating 80 percent of my current wardrobe. I don't have too many shoes so I will keep most of mine because they wear out fast. I am also selling some accessories. I only have 6 or 7 purses; but, a few are so small they only fit a phone a lotion and lipgloss. I can only use those for a special event so one black one is sufficient for that purpose. I hope you check my channel out. I don't really do hauls on purpose because of the way it would affect me to think I am encouraging people to spend money they may not have to feel better.
By the way, I am not judging the people who took a month to move. I felt like I was looking in a mirror at myself as I move in the future. It made me aware that I will be like that if I don't declutter my clothing, decor knick knacks, beauty items, dishes, furniture, etc
Eva I’m so very pleased to have you back ! I’m a 70 yr old lady from the U.K. and I have always so enjoyed your videos and thought so much about your fashion fragrances and thrift hauls loved them all.Eva. Now I’m so impressed by your return video and can honestly say I’m in complete agreement with you regarding shopping and revaluing our lives our shopping and how we need to rethink how we spend our time. I should retire at my age but I’m not ready to but like you have looked to being more creative and brought my sewing machine out of mothballs and looking to start making my own creations .....I’m not doing too bad so far ! Love my courtyard garden and spending time there . I have even taken myself out of all those social events (covid helped there) but I’d rather be at home with close family and friends nowadays . Maybe it’s my age lol Eva I’m so glad you are back such a lovely warm caring lady So Thankyou xxxxx
Ms. Monroe Ms Monroe. I soooo understand you. I'm 66 I sew, I 'm a plant mom what you are currently experiencing I went through about 3 years ago. Welcome to the world of "enough"
Yes, my perfume collection grew exponentially during Covid lockdowns when I had to give up my occupation and was homeschooling my child (did not go well and I feel I really did a bad job and failed my childl) and had several deaths in the family and had tons of stress and felt really, really bad about myself and had so much grief. I say shopping and collecting perfumes was comforting, and it actually WAS comforting, but then it started turning into something else. I need to look for new coping mechanisms, now. Thanks for the reminder. I'd like to be more like you.
Welcome to the garden enthusiast club. I’ve had a landscape business for over 18 years and finally retired it BEFIRE 45. NOW, in my early 50s, I’m living and loving my own whenever I desire (per the weather). It transforms you, moves, thrills you and satisfies you. My mother was a gardener and my grandmother was a gardener and that made me a gardener and from that my children even learned and have appreciated gardening. So it is definitely what I call “free therapy”. Gardening is God’s earthly gift of serenity; enjoy it. You will never stop loving it. Nothing as satisfying and gratifying as watching a plant grow and flourish and your garden beautify itself in time. All in God’s timing and earth.
This moment....GOD sent...absolute truth! This morning... on this day...all I can say is thank YOU for being the vessel for this message. I'm sure I am not the only one who recognizes this as a gift of a SIGN or CONFIRMATION! Thank YOU!
I agree with you, Eva! We push these brands and they are not loyal to us. I did a clear out as well and I'm like, wait a minute, why am I buying fragrances left/right/center? Some fragrances with notes that I do not even enjoy. I even cleared out my clothes closet! Girl, now my purchases are just what I want to wear and gravitate towards. And if I do "splurge", they have to be things that are worth the price (Beast mode, great projection, sillage) et al. Appreciate your transparency and we need more of these. ❤❤❤❤
This video randomly popped up in my feed with to most perfect timing.You'll never know how much I needed to hear what you had to say. I realized that I've been shopping out of loneliness and just sheer boredom. You're soooo right when you say that you feel those voids with things that edify you positively in a spiritual, emotional, and mental way, you see that it's more gratifying. Thank you for this video, it brought up some things in me, that need to be addressed, so that I can show up in this world as the best version of myself.💌
The timing of this message is perfect with the recession we are facing. Time to be a little more thrifty and find new and meaningful ways to indulge ourselves and cultivate happiness. Peace and blessings!
Eva, I’m afraid I have to agree. There was a time in my life when I had one pair of shoes 👞 and that was the most wonderful time of my life. I wish someone had told me that that time was going to be the best time for me bc I would have enjoyed it more. I’ve learned that less is more. You are absolutely right!!!! I’m so jealous of people who own 5 to 10 fragrances and I wish I didn’t own so many. I love ❤️ simple things and I wish I had less things. Well, I’m still learning but I wish I had known this before!!! Great video.
I’m one of those people that owns 5. 3 of them are just for decoration & was bought for me. 1 I use when going out & one is a “going down the road/everyday scent”. But this is where I am with it, I don’t like smelling like chemicals. I rather smell of essential oils & my own scent, because why am I walking around smelling like a flower? I’m not a flower! I’m a human. I like to smell like myself. So I only use these scents if I’m socialising at some kind of gathering or out somewhere, which is probably once a month. I’m mostly at home resting, working, entertaining or hiking in the woods. Tbh I’m over all this artificialness of life 🤣. Fake hair. Fake lashes. Fake face. Drowning in clothes. Fake scents. It’s tewww much now. I just want to be human, rest in the purity of my humanity & be happy there.
We are very close in age, and honey, you took us to church in this video in the best way! Everything you shared is 100% on point. I have been the ‘broke single mother’ in the past as well, and now that I’ve been married 16 years and we are comfortable, I occupy my time with shopping (which I couldn’t enjoy in the past.). Now sometimes I look around at all my ‘stuff’ and wonder when I’ll have time to truly enjoy it all! Thank you for sharing!
May God continue to bless you and also share some of what God have blessed you with to someone else has he continues to blessed you in abundance 😊peace be unto you
Sooo glad to see you! A niece of mine who I hadn’t seen in over eight years came to see me. We were sitting outside talking and she said Auntie you still smell the same! I said you can smell me? She said yes, every time the wind blows! She remembered the fragrance that I have worn for years, and this was during Covid, that’s why we were out sitting in the backyard spaced from each other. Really enjoyed this video!❤️❤️❤️
Ms. Eva, very sage advise. You hit the nail on the head. When we fill our lives with meaningful activities, the convulsive need to consume dissipates. The obstacle that I still find myself working through is consumerism secondary to racial trauma. The country we occupy is f....ked up right now, especially for black and brown folks. I sometimes find myself buying to soothe the pain of the racial trauma that I feel on a daily basis.
@@deec3561 🤔Would you question a Jew, a fall victim, a domestic abuse victim, like this & say "it's unrealistic" dafuq, DO YOU TELL HOLLYWOOD "they're UNREALISTIC" WAS GEORGE FLOYD UNREALISTIC??? NO, so check yourself... AND GO TAKE A STADIUM OF SEATS!!!!!! 👀💯
Racial trauma? On a daily basis?! There are many black & brown people risking their lives trying to get to the USA. The same black/brown people that face horrendous discriminations, BY THEIR OWN KIND and also by their white counterparts. Yes there are racial challenges here in the US, but I can assure you it does not compare to what others go through in other parts of the world. We are far too blessed here in the US-- if we do not have money, we can get subsidized housing, EBT for food, medicaid, free education, grants for college, etc. These are all things that a person in Africa would only dream of, and they're the ones facing the REAL trauma. This is the exact reason why Africans (Nigerians, Ethiopians, etc.) EXCEL when they come to America-- they see opportunity here and they know what REAL poverty and discrimination looks like. Besides, African Americans face far greater threat from their own kind here in the USA-- and that's a known fact!
This is the first video of yours that I’ve seen. When I tell you that you are God’s mouthpiece for a lot of us…this was a clear message to me about my shopping habit and for that I wanna thank you so much. Seriously a trillion thank yous 😌
Dearest Eva, you have been my therapist today. THANK YOU!!! My husband will thank you too 😜 I understand exactly what you’re saying and was feeling. So on point my sister. 🎯🎯. Thank you for always being so real & authentic ❤️
Hey eva I am glad you found other interest that bring joy to your heart and make you smile from inside out. I look forward to seeing your garden again. 😀
Oh I also love thrifting. I took a old bicycle that my nephew had spray painted it school bus yellow put it in my yard and put flowers around it always wanted to do that. Thank Eva Monroe
Literally the same self awareness talk that I have been giving myself. I have the same fragrance story that you do. I am also 44. I am married with 2 boys. I believe that when you get to a certain level of self awareness, you do want to get back to the simple things. Gardening brings me joy. I've a basic knowledge of sewing but it is on my list to get back into along with traveling, piano and language learning. Thank you for being transparent. I resonated with all of this!! Looking forward to your content.
Godd to see you back! Agree with everything you said about over-shopping! Instead of filling our bags with stuff, we need to fill our time with doing things, and learning about things that fill our spirit and make us happy!
I love this content. I believe more people will wakeup about all this over spending thing. Social media is full of it and I think people is getting tired or it. I just saw that the majority of Americans live paycheck by paycheck and they don't have at least $500 save in their bank account in case of an emergency. That's crazy if we think about how much money we spend in other things.
Hey Eva! I was wondering where you were. Today I'm 64 years old. Said to a friend yesterday that I need to stop shopping. I barely go into the office or anyplace. Retiring at the end of the month so no need to buy anything.
I needed this. I have gotten rather carried away with the niche fragrance buys, clothing and makeup, jewellery etc since I lost my husband last year. I know I am trying to fill a huge blank in my life, but you have helped me to realise I must get off this merry go round and get back to reading, colouring anything but you tube ! I already garden and have bought so many plants there is no room for any more. I would love to see your yard and look forward to more videos. I am now subscribed.
I have been decluttering and downsizing the hell out of my collection. I 100% agree. I only want what I absolutely love. I had so much that was just sitting there collecting dust. It's so freeing, I love the feeling . ❤️
You take breaks and you deserve it! But us true subscribers sit back and wait till you return strong and beautiful as usual! Also sounds like your on your spiritual awakening journey. And one of the major things we do on this journey is detach ourselves from the obsession of material things.
My grandmom who raised me loved gardening and sewing. I’ve been thinking about trying to be like her. I want to buy a sewing machine. And I have a huge back yard for the first time because I just moved to the South and I want to plant some seeds also. I am in that stop shopping mode and very proud and happy of the example you are setting for us.
Thank you for being so transparent and sharing this. I have been just wasting and spending so much on stuff that doesn’t bring me any inspiration or even any peace and I have all of this stuff cluttering my home! Thank you for sharing this very grown and much needed to hear message!!!
Powerful! Sometimes you have to step back and reassess what’s really important. I have been cleaning and getting rid of things that I’m not wearing. I’m only keeping things that spark joy 🤩 and saving money in the process. I’m only 1 month in of no shopping and I honestly don’t miss it, I have been shopping in my closet and that’s bringing me joy😊 Now talking about back in the day… my love started with Sweet Honesty by Avon and Skin So Soft…. Moving up to Loves Baby Soft from the drugstore to my first Designer fragrance Beautiful by Estée Lauder and Cacharel’s Anais Anais those were my signature scents. Love to see you back🌹
Yes, all of those. My fragrance was Chloe, Estée Lauder, Jean Nate and Red and the Giorgios. Now I’m Chanel , Hermès, David Yurman and Marc Jacobs lines. I stay out of the fragrance stores because I know there are perfumes I would try then I’m buying those also. At least I thrift my clothes and shop from my closet. I need to get this house back in order. This Covid thing changed me.
Sis u are correct less is best I always try not to clutter myself with thing I am not going to use make no sense I have not even buy clothes since covid I own about 6 pair of shoes I only have 2 feet am ok I love gardening material things cannot make us happy and I realize this early in life sometimes I see the amount of things people clutter themselves with I have to wonder i don't attach myself with earthly things girl love your truth
I am truly so happy for you Eva. By the way, welcome back! I haven't seen a video from you popping in my feed for a long time... and now I know why. I have confession to make: I also went through some self checking about buying and buying perfumes senseless- ly. I found myself feeling ridiculous. I said to myself: this has got to stop and focus on other more important things. So I am on a no buy period as well and I'm actually selling quite a few fragrances that I find redundant.
Your video is timely and perfectly matches where I’m at as well. I’m in the process of moving from one state to the next, and I’m always amazed, and this time slightly overwhelmed with the amount of stuff that I have accumulated a short period of time. I’ve come to realize that, like you, there are certain things - a select number of things - that I reach for over and over again! I have thoroughly enjoyed downsizing, and upgrading, my wardrobe, home decor, book collection and even… The ingredients I used to cook! Variety is great, and a luxury that every single person should at one point in time explore. However, I’ve come to realize that variety in excess is clutter and all forms… And it’s too much to manage! I’m here for this renewed mindset, and also glad to see that there is a budding community of influencers who are having the same kind of Epiphanies!!
Eva Diva, Welcome to sewing, so you decluttered your mind and know what brings you joy, that is a wonderful thing. My garden is also flourishing this season as well. Continue to do what matters to you and what brings you joy.
Just found your channel, decided to stay and listen, fast forward most of it until you started talking about fragrances. Been on the hunt for something new, well everybody's talking about this or that, so I decided to try 2 new designer labels. (1) MFK delivered, smelled it and my first thought was, umm no, no, no, ok what is wrong with me, everybody is talking about this fragrance, or how everybody stops traffic to run and ask "what are you wearing?" (2) Delina, arrived today, nervously opened it, smelled it...ok I might be able to work with this one, waiting for the dry down and it's getting better as I'm watching you speak on it. This one I'm keeping, she's definitely a keeper.
Such a beautiful and inspiring message. I am just starting my fragrance journey and literally buying perfume every chance I get. Listening to you right now was an eye opener, to just buy perfumes that speaks to me and not get deep into this perfume rabbit hole. Thank you! And OMG you are stunning!
Glad to see you Ms. Monroe !! And this hit the nail on the head for me .. I have close to 500 perfumes .. and a shopping addiction kinda lol.. great advice ! And your subs love you .. we'd watch you no matter what you were doing girl!! Glad your back! ❤️🙏🏼❤️❤️
Hello Eva I have missed your sessions but as I listen to this session today about not purchasing things for seven months it’s as if I was seeing myself you will find out that you have stepped in to a phase of maturity that’s going to take you to levels you’ve not seen before so glad to hear you talk about this many young women need to hear what you’ve just put out and I can’t wait well I can wait and I will wait for the gardening session I don’t speak out often but it’s so nice to see young women realizing what life is all about things and clothes do not a man make. A DIVA OF A MORE MATURE AGE!!🙏🏿. Be blessed
Eva, you are missed. Please come back! Also, I have a sewing machine on my Christmas list so I’m looking forward to more of your sew content. I’m also not spending money like I use to because of your inspiration and real talk. Food alone is too expensive, I just paid $6 for a pack of butter 🙄. Also thinking about selling some of my LV pieces, I’m tired of looking like everybody else. Thank you for being an inspiration. You are my big sis in my head. ❤
Lol girl I remember being in the 4th grade in 1999 wearing Rapture by Victoria’s Secret. I had older sisters in their early and mid 20s that I would get the perfumes from. I also used to wear Avon, Cool Waters and Sweet Pea by Bath and Body works.😅 I’m 32 now but I’ve been subscribed to your channel for about 3-4 years now. Love your content and glad to see you’re back.
Not Rapture in the hearshaped gold bottle? That was the bomb! My mother smelled that on me and made me take her to buy herself a bottle! Fashion fair Zahra was an amazing scent as well. I miss those days.
The original Rapture was the besttttttt Victoria’s Secret perfume in my opinion! It was delicious and it lasted for so long! U could skip the perfume and wear the body cream and u literally smelled amazing all day. Good memories and good vibes. I was a little girl wearing that lol
Girl you have never lied.... Primo!!! Red Door!!! Vanilla fields!!!! Odyssey from Avon!!! White Diamond and I was in high school smelling like an Auntie!!! Favorite was white Musk from Javon!!! OMG So good to see you back!
Black Pearl smell so pretty!! I got that as a Christmas gift back in 1999:) Yes, I've been a "frag head" since age 5..I am 50 now! I've worn so many perfumes...I lost count:) One of my favorites was by Cody....called Pure Joy....smells HEAVENLY!! I feel you on the shopping...I told myself that I don't need anything else...no clothes, shoes, perfume, purses....I am at peace with not buying so much...I am spending some of my money on plants and art....and save more:) You're speaking the truth!!
This was great Eva! I didn't impulse purchase every payday before the lockdown but once that happened most of my shopping became more need based. Working from home, fewer places to go, fewer guests so why waste money? I have started using any extra money to prepare a little for the short term future in how to take of myself and help my family deal with inflation and putting away non perishable foods and learning how to do it properly. This means something to me so Eva you are sooo correct...you look at spending and collecting "things" differently when something more important occupies your time.
I have 25 fragrances and I promised myself I would never go over 30. I’ve probably given away 30 or more fragrances. I went through two bottles of Kilian princess, I finished Delina & Delina exclusif, Grand Soir and some others. I feel like I go through my bottles too quickly lol but I really do try and use everything & make sure I love everything I have.
I absolutely love this video and message I’m 45 now as well. I realized I buy to much stuff that I don’t need. I’m going on the 7 month no buy challenge girl
This is so timely for me! I temporarily stopped checking for your videos because I have been trying to reduce my personal spending, and seeing all of your beautiful acquisitions was too much shopping temptation for me. I enjoy your spirit and your wisdom, and the non-shopping videos actually resonate with me the most. I am on a low-buy challenge, and actively working towards a one-year no-buy challenge.
I relate to this so much. I have always been a fragrance lover since I was young. And just how you described getting up Saturday morning to fragrance shop I related so much to that special occasion. I also found that when I am lonely, working nights, dealing with the rough winters I shop so much more. I told myself no more blind buying because I want to love what I have and use up what I have. My love of fragrance will never go away, but I want to be more conscious of what I buy and recognize if I want something or if I’m chasing that high due tue my current situation being alone.
Yay you’re back ! Yes live a life of meaningful experiences is way more satisfying and joyful. You have a brilliant message and looking great inside and out at the same time Eva! Thanks for brightening my day 😊
Good to see you back and doing well. I miss the days of having a signature scent, but I am working my way back to only having what I love. People better get into the habit of saving instead of spending in this economy because ish is getting real tough and expensive. 👸🏾
Thank you for this message. I had this realization a few months ago and felt so relieved when I shifted from consumption to appreciating what I do have. Now, I have 4 perfumes and do not buy another fragrance until a bottle has finished and once it’s finished I can try something else. That feels reasonable to me and feels like I’m not just purchasing to purchase. Plus, the fragrance gets old after 2 or 3 years so that makes me want to use it up before it gets old and pungent.
You look wonderful and relaxed. Would you consider selling some of your perfumes that you will not be using? I love thrifting. I purchased my only bottle of Hermès from Goodwill. I am asking the same questions. I purchased an elevated planter for my start up plants. I will give it to my grandson to plant butterfly plants. He built a box to catch butterflies but did not catch any. This will be one of his birthday presents. I buy another one for me for veggies 🌶. I need to learn to sew also. I’m retired on a budget. It is real when I blow my money. Give us the details on how to garden. Glad you are content with what you love at this time. I’m enjoying CZcams, fashion and self love improvements. That’s enough for now.
Sis, WELCOME BACK! You were missed. As I am curating my absolute adored fragrances, I've also realized there are 2-3 faves I keep in rotation. Less is definitely Best!
I'm so happy to see your back. I really love your personality. It comes across so genuinely in your videos. That garden video had me cracking up with the 👃 neighbors
😊I agree with your comment. I'm starting to stop shopping for Fragrances/Body Mists/Lotion earlier this month. Over the period of time it's becoming overwhelming and make you so financially broke. I'm learning now to buy what I want or like (your favorite fragrance) not what I need unnecessarily fragrances/Body Mists/Lotions. That's including Clothes and Shoes. Save your money.
I remember Primo in that yellow and white spray can!! 😂😂💯💯 You were missed and this is so sobering. I've felt the same about buying since 2022 came in.
Oh how I love this. I just turned 50 in May and from very young I loved perfumes. I have loads which I don't use. I've bought all the expensive ones which I rarely use. I have some bottles since 1995 as souvenirs. Then I started gardening, that's how I found you. You are amazing, with a very beautiful garden. Am Kenyan but live in Austria and gardening is my passion. I started almost three years ago making my own perfumes. At least last one year I never bought one.
I was never into perfume or watches but I am into clothes and books. We all have our little things that make life joyful. Some of those things become a burden to us. God shows us when it's time to let it go. He will help us to let it go. It's very hard. Sometimes, he gives us a new joy, His mercies are new every morning! It sounds like you are celebrating His new mercies. I am so glad for you. He who began a good work in you shall complete it. Rejoice, my sister! I wish I could sew. I come from a family of horticulturists. I kill plants. There is something in growing things.
Happy, almost birthday Eva 🥳 🎉 So happy that you came to center to treasure only what moves YOU. About a year ago, I told myself, if i smell something and don't 1) say this is beautiful; or 2) curse and start to point my finger because it's so good ....I don't want it.
Eva Monroe, Truly so very happy to see you again! Loved the video of the amazing garden you created so beautifully. Please know that we never forget you. .. We have learned so much from you. .. Wow!! So much is missing from the beautiful room! .. Stay beautiful always Eva!! God Bless You Always, CC
Good evening It’s fantastic to see you back, you are not just a you tuber followers see you as a friend. You have been missed dearly. We all need me time - it’s great to see your smile.
I slow shop now and use a sinking fund to do so. I recently got my first pair of Angela Scott shoes. I caught the pair I wanted on sale for $200 less and I bought them. My focus now is to shop my own closet. I love your new shift. I also enjoy gardening and watching things grow as I nurture them. I also have a sewing machine (my second one) and I need to get busy with sewing. It’s hard to shop for my body type and need things to be tailored to fit. I want to be able to do that myself. I can’t wait to see what you have in store for us.
I had an epiphany this last year. My mother and mother in law died in December one week apart from each other. And I would like to say if you do anything for your children do not leave a hoarded mess to leave for them, please, please, please. My mother had 3 walk in closets filled to the brim plus jewelry and makeup and hats, purses etc….we just now tamed that situation. And it’s been mentally and emotionally exhausting and sad. So please y’all, have some sense of moderation or if something happens, you’ll leave a mess for whomever comes after you to clear out. Do not put this burden on your kids
No one talks about this enough…I’ve seen this happen with my great grandma, my grandma, I see my mom and 7 aunts doing this and even see my own self doing this and I have no kids. This video and your message have confirmed that unsettled feeling I’ve been having within myself to begin to purge and quit buying so much crap that I won’t use. Thank you for sharing your story because this is truly my epiphany. 🙌🏾
I agree.I use to shop a lot.Now I refuse to add anything to my collection that doesn't matter.In most cases the items just satisfy your ego for a while and then start collect dust .Toom many items brings additional stress.
This is so true. Went through this myself. After my mom's passing my whole perspective changed. I love clothing, shoes, bags etc... but now I am buying with intent. I cleared out a lot of everything. Donated and sold so much stuff. I don't want to put that burden on my children.
I always think about this. I have really tried over the years to organize and own less possessions. There was a time when my closet’s sounded like your mother’s. Something happened in the 50’s and I desired less.
@@CChamp79 it’s a Western mindset. I watch all these bloggers & vloggers basically shopping themselves to death & this has now become a norm- watching people shop & doing the same. To me, it looks crazy.
I’m from the Caribbean & we all have a sense of familial & national responsibility. You didn’t raise yourself, so once you’re older you use the money you make to support others in your family, or wider community. Many of us are raised in poverty, so once we make a lil sumn- it’s going towards improving our countries.
When I see people pouring all this money on themselves I think, where are your parents? Where are your nieces & nephews. What is happening in your community? It’s a very self centred mindset & from the outside looking in, it looks like pure madness.
Self awareness . . . the gift that keeps on giving; the throne on which self love is seated.
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Ms. Monroe, I went to my niece's wedding and when we hugged she said "you have smelled the same my whole life." I have worn the same fragrance for 40 years. It is woven into the fabric of my life. I wish you the same contentment, whether with one fragrance or many, in every facet of life. Xoxo 😘
I love your comment! Fragrance is amazing. It brings back thoughts, feelings and memories of special people, places and events of years gone by. When you wear a signature fragrance for that long It becomes part of you.
I bet when your niece hugged you she felt extra special on her very special day!
@@juneaskew6871 I totally agree. My mother had a signature scent. Although she's been gone from this life for 28 years, whenever I smell it in a crowd I look for her.
What's the name of that fragrance? I'm curious🙂
@@renatamercelina5859 "My Sin." Discontinued in the late 80s but could be found until she died in 1994. Xoxo
@@tinajoneswilliams4253 thank you. I wish i could have a signature scent. It would make my life so much easier. Every morning it's a struggle to pick out my scent of the Day😅
Materialism will cloud our basic judgement of what really matters in our life. Love this video.💚🙋🏾♀️
I wish I had you to tell me this everyday. 🥰
@@tamdivas8257 Copy this and use it as your screen cover...🙋🏾♀️
@@Silkyslim48 I am going to do that. This video touched me in such a way that I watched it again with my husband.
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So very true, I love this reflection.
Back in the 90s I loved Calvin Klein's Eternity and wore it a lot, along with 2 or 3 other fragrances. When my son went away after high school, I paid him a visit a few months later and as he hugged me he said, "Mom! You smell like home!" It's a memory that still brings me joy. Sometimes less is indeed more.
lol girl you said primo and it took me back i used to buy the pastel purple blue and orange can and the can that imitated juicy couture lol and Imari seduction was my Avon go to lol i was too grown lol I’m almost 34
I LOVE this! I’m so sick of the overconsumption especially within our community; always having to have all the designer bags/shoes, all of the niche fragrances, overload of jewelry… 2 or 3 quality bags is enough, a signature summer scent and a signature winter scent is plenty.
I use to be a shopaholic/“maximumlist” but have been trying to become a minimalist before the new year
I really needed this video. I have realized that my spending when it comes to fragrances is unnecessary. I am trying to go on a no buy and really find myself again. I am a stay at home mom of 4 so I find myself when I’m feeling overwhelmed or bored I’m searching for my next fragrance. But I recently discovered an old love which is reading and I want to spend more time doing that than browsing websites spending money that could go to more important things. Thank you for this.
This came at a right time. I realized that shopping is more filling an emotional need, than the need to fill my closet. Now when I shop it’s very intentional and I find that the experience is more enriching that way.
This is real growth, Mrs Eva! Unfortunately, we live in a very consumerism environment and these days having an abundance is seen as good while people don't realize the negative effects that come with having unnecessarily too much. Rather best to have the however many items that actually mean something to you than an entire collection just for show, yet you're an unhappy buyer. I have a bit of a clothing and shoe addiction but I try to catch myself before purchasing the item - cos sis has no space in her apartment. Great video and I've missed you, thank you for sharing your wisdom!
Eve, stop leaving us alone for so long!!!
Quality over quantity. There are times I have to stop myself from going out of budget to purchase luxury items. We should appreciate quality and the same time make sensible purchases. In addition, we have to put our money into brands that love us ALL. Too often we just make purchases without researching the companies. We shouldn’t be rewarding bad behavior.
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When you start a ‘no buy’ I swear everythinggggg goes on sale the next day. It’s like they can tell 😂. The amount of coupons in my email box is out of control.
So happy you’re back. I’ve been feeling the same way lately about spending money on things that don’t bring me joy. I realized I’ve been spending money to fill a void. Right now, I’m trying to find something meaningful to do with my time that doesn’t require me to spend my money frivolously. I’m not sure what that something is. But, I’ve been putting a lot of effort into getting my house in order until I find that “something.” Thanks for sharing your life experiences and dropping gems.
Sis, lt Hit Me Just Like YOU Said Too
@theYumKitty When I get the urge to shop, I Thrift. It satisfies the urge, a fraction of the cost and good for the environment. Also any time I buy something, I get rid of 2 items. (it's my 1/2 rule) ☺☺
Reading is a wonderful way to find peace and quiet
Same here
Literally having the same moment. Reassessing my possessions and asking, WHY? I am giving pieces to dear friends, Poshing others and repurposing my favs that don’t fit well. I’m focusing on my passions, art, making jewelry and reading. Happy to see you today!
Me too. It’s just stuff. We’ve been traveling more….
I loved every minute of this video. I did a swedish death cleaning of our home this year and did away with 75% of what I had. Every time I thrift, whatever comes in, double that goes out. I put aside whatever will be donated every time I clean. I don't want my son or husband to be burdened with things they are not interested in when I leave. It has changed me, cleaning our home is a breeze, my perfume collection is down to 4 bottles, one being an oil I made and I cannot begin to express how freeing this is. I am so happy for you. Now, I must sub, love love love your content and your attitude.
What you did with the fragrances I did with handbags and clothing. I feel my best in dresses so that's what I wear only. I reached for the same 4 handbags, so I kept them. The rest is gone. It's freeing, the simplicity is invigorating. It's common sense living girlfriend. Life is too precious and short to be surrounded by a bunch of stuff you don't need or even want. Designer Imposter Fragrances sprays, A Little Sexy was my jr high signature scent, lol good memories
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I missed you!
I'm so happy and proud of you. You've come into a new season of your life. As some of us get older and wiser, we come to learn that all of the "stuff" doesn't give us joy because we start to enjoy the little things that we took for granted, such as health, which is the ultimate wealth! We start to realize that all of the expensive bags, clothes, jewelry, shoes, cars, etc. which meant something at one time, means nothing. After all, we only use 20% of what we buy, meaning that we reach for the same things over and over again. Spending time with love ones, taking mental breaks, and self discovery is what becomes our focus. We no longer do things that we thought we needed to do to be happy, such spending and wasting money. We hopefully learn that time is a commodity and there's no need to sweat the small stuff. We learn that being angry has no power and forgiveness is for ourselves! We learn to just BE!!
Love this! So true 🙌🏽
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I agree with you. Most of my clothing is not worn daily except on Sundays because I work in scrubs. So it's better to buy more scrubs so I have enough for a whole week without doing laundry in between and more pjs to sleep in than other fancy clothing for our fantasy glamorous lives lol. I am also selling/donating 80 percent of my current wardrobe. I don't have too many shoes so I will keep most of mine because they wear out fast. I am also selling some accessories. I only have 6 or 7 purses; but, a few are so small they only fit a phone a lotion and lipgloss. I can only use those for a special event so one black one is sufficient for that purpose. I hope you check my channel out. I don't really do hauls on purpose because of the way it would affect me to think I am encouraging people to spend money they may not have to feel better.
By the way, I am not judging the people who took a month to move. I felt like I was looking in a mirror at myself as I move in the future. It made me aware that I will be like that if I don't declutter my clothing, decor knick knacks, beauty items, dishes, furniture, etc
Eva I’m so very pleased to have you back !
I’m a 70 yr old lady from the U.K. and I have always so enjoyed your videos and thought so much about your fashion fragrances and thrift hauls loved them all.Eva.
Now I’m so impressed by your return video and can honestly say I’m in complete agreement with you regarding shopping and revaluing our lives our shopping and how we need to rethink how we spend our time. I should retire at my age but I’m not ready to but like you have looked to being more creative and brought my sewing machine out of mothballs and looking to start making my own creations .....I’m not doing too bad so far !
Love my courtyard garden and spending time there . I have even taken myself out of all those social events (covid helped there) but I’d rather be at home with close family and friends nowadays . Maybe it’s my age lol Eva I’m so glad you are back such a lovely warm caring lady So Thankyou xxxxx
I’m almost 70 as well! It’s so nice that women of all ages resonate with Miss Eva’s words. Howdy from Colorado. 😊
I'M SO HAPPY TO SEE YOU, EVA! 🥰
Ms. Monroe Ms Monroe. I soooo understand you. I'm 66 I sew, I 'm a plant mom what you are currently experiencing I went through about 3 years ago. Welcome to the world of "enough"
Yes, my perfume collection grew exponentially during Covid lockdowns when I had to give up my occupation and was homeschooling my child (did not go well and I feel I really did a bad job and failed my childl) and had several deaths in the family and had tons of stress and felt really, really bad about myself and had so much grief. I say shopping and collecting perfumes was comforting, and it actually WAS comforting, but then it started turning into something else. I need to look for new coping mechanisms, now. Thanks for the reminder. I'd like to be more like you.
Welcome to the garden enthusiast club. I’ve had a landscape business for over 18 years and finally retired it BEFIRE 45. NOW, in my early 50s, I’m living and loving my own whenever I desire (per the weather). It transforms you, moves, thrills you and satisfies you. My mother was a gardener and my grandmother was a gardener and that made me a gardener and from that my children even learned and have appreciated gardening. So it is definitely what I call “free therapy”. Gardening is God’s earthly gift of serenity; enjoy it. You will never stop loving it. Nothing as satisfying and gratifying as watching a plant grow and flourish and your garden beautify itself in time. All in God’s timing and earth.
This moment....GOD sent...absolute truth! This morning... on this day...all I can say is thank YOU for being the vessel for this message. I'm sure I am not the only one who recognizes this as a gift of a SIGN or CONFIRMATION! Thank YOU!
I agree with you, Eva! We push these brands and they are not loyal to us. I did a clear out as well and I'm like, wait a minute, why am I buying fragrances left/right/center? Some fragrances with notes that I do not even enjoy. I even cleared out my clothes closet! Girl, now my purchases are just what I want to wear and gravitate towards. And if I do "splurge", they have to be things that are worth the price (Beast mode, great projection, sillage) et al. Appreciate your transparency and we need more of these. ❤❤❤❤
This video randomly popped up in my feed with to most perfect timing.You'll never know how much I needed to hear what you had to say. I realized that I've been shopping out of loneliness and just sheer boredom. You're soooo right when you say that you feel those voids with things that edify you positively in a spiritual, emotional, and mental way, you see that it's more gratifying. Thank you for this video, it brought up some things in me, that need to be addressed, so that I can show up in this world as the best version of myself.💌
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The timing of this message is perfect with the recession we are facing. Time to be a little more thrifty and find new and meaningful ways to indulge ourselves and cultivate happiness. Peace and blessings!
Eva, I’m afraid I have to agree. There was a time in my life when I had one pair of shoes 👞 and that was the most wonderful time of my life. I wish someone had told me that that time was going to be the best time for me bc I would have enjoyed it more. I’ve learned that less is more. You are absolutely right!!!! I’m so jealous of people who own 5 to 10 fragrances and I wish I didn’t own so many. I love ❤️ simple things and I wish I had less things. Well, I’m still learning but I wish I had known this before!!! Great video.
I’m one of those people that owns 5. 3 of them are just for decoration & was bought for me. 1 I use when going out & one is a “going down the road/everyday scent”.
But this is where I am with it, I don’t like smelling like chemicals. I rather smell of essential oils & my own scent, because why am I walking around smelling like a flower? I’m not a flower! I’m a human. I like to smell like myself. So I only use these scents if I’m socialising at some kind of gathering or out somewhere, which is probably once a month. I’m mostly at home resting, working, entertaining or hiking in the woods.
Tbh I’m over all this artificialness of life 🤣. Fake hair. Fake lashes. Fake face. Drowning in clothes. Fake scents. It’s tewww much now. I just want to be human, rest in the purity of my humanity & be happy there.
@@yanikeonpurpose I totally agree and I’m over the fake as well. What ever happened to individuality and authenticity???
We are very close in age, and honey, you took us to church in this video in the best way! Everything you shared is 100% on point. I have been the ‘broke single mother’ in the past as well, and now that I’ve been married 16 years and we are comfortable, I occupy my time with shopping (which I couldn’t enjoy in the past.). Now sometimes I look around at all my ‘stuff’ and wonder when I’ll have time to truly enjoy it all! Thank you for sharing!
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May God continue to bless you and also share some of what God have blessed you with to someone else has he continues to blessed you in abundance 😊peace be unto you
"Stop shopping"..... best advice! LOVE!! What a great video!
Sooo glad to see you! A niece of mine who I hadn’t seen in over eight years came to see me. We were sitting outside talking and she said Auntie you still smell the same! I said you can smell me? She said yes, every time the wind blows! She remembered the fragrance that I have worn for years, and this was during Covid, that’s why we were out sitting in the backyard spaced from each other. Really enjoyed this video!❤️❤️❤️
Ms. Eva, very sage advise. You hit the nail on the head. When we fill our lives with meaningful activities, the convulsive need to consume dissipates. The obstacle that I still find myself working through is consumerism secondary to racial trauma. The country we occupy is f....ked up right now, especially for black and brown folks. I sometimes find myself buying to soothe the pain of the racial trauma that I feel on a daily basis.
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In return making rich the very same people that brought u trauma.
What racial trauma do you experience daily? Sounds unrealistic
@@deec3561 🤔Would you question a Jew, a fall victim, a domestic abuse victim, like this & say "it's unrealistic" dafuq, DO YOU TELL HOLLYWOOD "they're UNREALISTIC" WAS GEORGE FLOYD UNREALISTIC??? NO, so check yourself... AND GO TAKE A STADIUM OF SEATS!!!!!! 👀💯
Racial trauma? On a daily basis?!
There are many black & brown people risking their lives trying to get to the USA. The same black/brown people that face horrendous discriminations, BY THEIR OWN KIND and also by their white counterparts.
Yes there are racial challenges here in the US, but I can assure you it does not compare to what others go through in other parts of the world. We are far too blessed here in the US-- if we do not have money, we can get subsidized housing, EBT for food, medicaid, free education, grants for college, etc. These are all things that a person in Africa would only dream of, and they're the ones facing the REAL trauma. This is the exact reason why Africans (Nigerians, Ethiopians, etc.) EXCEL when they come to America-- they see opportunity here and they know what REAL poverty and discrimination looks like.
Besides, African Americans face far greater threat from their own kind here in the USA-- and that's a known fact!
This is the first video of yours that I’ve seen. When I tell you that you are God’s mouthpiece for a lot of us…this was a clear message to me about my shopping habit and for that I wanna thank you so much. Seriously a trillion thank yous 😌
We are ALWAYS checking for you Eva. Welcome back!!!
Side Note 🚨 your braids are buss'in ... they look so good and you are simply glowing 💫
The Eva Monroe you have been missed, so good to see you.
Dearest Eva, you have been my therapist today. THANK YOU!!! My husband will thank you too 😜 I understand exactly what you’re saying and was feeling. So on point my sister. 🎯🎯. Thank you for always being so real & authentic ❤️
Hey eva I am glad you found other interest that bring joy to your heart and make you smile from inside out. I look forward to seeing your garden again. 😀
Oh I also love thrifting. I took a old bicycle that my nephew had spray painted it school bus yellow put it in my yard and put flowers around it always wanted to do that. Thank Eva Monroe
Literally the same self awareness talk that I have been giving myself. I have the same fragrance story that you do. I am also 44. I am married with 2 boys. I believe that when you get to a certain level of self awareness, you do want to get back to the simple things. Gardening brings me joy. I've a basic knowledge of sewing but it is on my list to get back into along with traveling, piano and language learning. Thank you for being transparent. I resonated with all of this!! Looking forward to your content.
Godd to see you back! Agree with everything you said about over-shopping! Instead of filling our bags with stuff, we need to fill our time with doing things, and learning about things that fill our spirit and make us happy!
I love this content. I believe more people will wakeup about all this over spending thing. Social media is full of it and I think people is getting tired or it. I just saw that the majority of Americans live paycheck by paycheck and they don't have at least $500 save in their bank account in case of an emergency. That's crazy if we think about how much money we spend in other things.
I have 3 fragrances only and after listening to this, I will keep it that way. 😊🙂
I am sooooooooooo happy to see your beautiful face!!!!! I miss you! 🤗🤗🤗
Hey Eva! I was wondering where you were. Today I'm 64 years old. Said to a friend yesterday that I need to stop shopping. I barely go into the office or anyplace. Retiring at the end of the month so no need to buy anything.
Happy birthday 🎉
@@mom2suns857 thank you.
I needed this. I have gotten rather carried away with the niche fragrance buys, clothing and makeup, jewellery etc since I lost my husband last year. I know I am trying to fill a huge blank in my life, but you have helped me to realise I must get off this merry go round and get back to reading, colouring anything but you tube ! I already garden and have bought so many plants there is no room for any more. I would love to see your yard and look forward to more videos. I am now subscribed.
I have been decluttering and downsizing the hell out of my collection. I 100% agree. I only want what I absolutely love. I had so much that was just sitting there collecting dust. It's so freeing, I love the feeling . ❤️
You take breaks and you deserve it! But us true subscribers sit back and wait till you return strong and beautiful as usual! Also sounds like your on your spiritual awakening journey. And one of the major things we do on this journey is detach ourselves from the obsession of material things.
It's been a long time. Happy to see you back. Only yesterday, I thought of you.
Hey Eva! I definitely missed your content. I’ve gone through this exact phase of not impulse shopping. Quality over quantity for sure 😊
My grandmom who raised me loved gardening and sewing. I’ve been thinking about trying to be like her. I want to buy a sewing machine. And I have a huge back yard for the first time because I just moved to the South and I want to plant some seeds also. I am in that stop shopping mode and very proud and happy of the example you are setting for us.
Thank you for being so transparent and sharing this. I have been just wasting and spending so much on stuff that doesn’t bring me any inspiration or even any peace and I have all of this stuff cluttering my home! Thank you for sharing this very grown and much needed to hear message!!!
Powerful! Sometimes you have to step back and reassess what’s really important. I have been cleaning and getting rid of things that I’m not wearing. I’m only keeping things that spark joy 🤩 and saving money in the process. I’m only 1 month in of no shopping and I honestly don’t miss it, I have been shopping in my closet and that’s bringing me joy😊
Now talking about back in the day… my love started with Sweet Honesty by Avon and Skin So Soft…. Moving up to Loves Baby Soft from the drugstore to my first Designer fragrance Beautiful by Estée Lauder and Cacharel’s Anais Anais those were my signature scents. Love to see you back🌹
Yes, all of those. My fragrance was Chloe, Estée Lauder, Jean Nate and Red and the Giorgios. Now I’m Chanel , Hermès, David Yurman and Marc Jacobs lines. I stay out of the fragrance stores because I know there are perfumes I would try then I’m buying those also. At least I thrift my clothes and shop from my closet. I need to get this house back in order. This Covid thing changed me.
Sis u are correct less is best I always try not to clutter myself with thing I am not going to use make no sense I have not even buy clothes since covid I own about 6 pair of shoes I only have 2 feet am ok I love gardening material things cannot make us happy and I realize this early in life sometimes I see the amount of things people clutter themselves with I have to wonder i don't attach myself with earthly things girl love your truth
I’m curating, not collecting. That’s what you’re doing Ms. Eva. Great content!
Thanks to Covid, we found the cure for hoarding. Create and curate.
I am truly so happy for you Eva. By the way, welcome back! I haven't seen a video from you popping in my feed for a long time... and now I know why. I have confession to make: I also went through some self checking about buying and buying perfumes senseless- ly. I found myself feeling ridiculous. I said to myself: this has got to stop and focus on other more important things. So I am on a no buy period as well and I'm actually selling quite a few fragrances that I find redundant.
Your video is timely and perfectly matches where I’m at as well. I’m in the process of moving from one state to the next, and I’m always amazed, and this time slightly overwhelmed with the amount of stuff that I have accumulated a short period of time. I’ve come to realize that, like you, there are certain things - a select number of things - that I reach for over and over again! I have thoroughly enjoyed downsizing, and upgrading, my wardrobe, home decor, book collection and even… The ingredients I used to cook! Variety is great, and a luxury that every single person should at one point in time explore. However, I’ve come to realize that variety in excess is clutter and all forms… And it’s too much to manage! I’m here for this renewed mindset, and also glad to see that there is a budding community of influencers who are having the same kind of Epiphanies!!
Well, well, you have been missed. So glad to see you and to hear what you have to say. Please believe that I'm always here for what you are giving. 💕🤩
Eva Diva, Welcome to sewing, so you decluttered your mind and know what brings you joy, that is a wonderful thing. My garden is also flourishing this season as well. Continue to do what matters to you and what brings you joy.
Just found your channel, decided to stay and listen, fast forward most of it until you started talking about fragrances. Been on the hunt for something new, well everybody's talking about this or that, so I decided to try 2 new designer labels. (1) MFK delivered, smelled it and my first thought was, umm no, no, no, ok what is wrong with me, everybody is talking about this fragrance, or how everybody stops traffic to run and ask "what are you wearing?" (2) Delina, arrived today, nervously opened it, smelled it...ok I might be able to work with this one, waiting for the dry down and it's getting better as I'm watching you speak on it. This one I'm keeping, she's definitely a keeper.
Such a beautiful and inspiring message. I am just starting my fragrance journey and literally buying perfume every chance I get. Listening to you right now was an eye opener, to just buy perfumes that speaks to me and not get deep into this perfume rabbit hole. Thank you! And OMG you are stunning!
Glad to see you Ms. Monroe !! And this hit the nail on the head for me .. I have close to 500 perfumes .. and a shopping addiction kinda lol.. great advice ! And your subs love you .. we'd watch you no matter what you were doing girl!! Glad your back! ❤️🙏🏼❤️❤️
Hello Eva I have missed your sessions but as I listen to this session today about not purchasing things for seven months it’s as if I was seeing myself you will find out that you have stepped in to a phase of maturity that’s going to take you to levels you’ve not seen before so glad to hear you talk about this many young women need to hear what you’ve just put out and I can’t wait well I can wait and I will wait for the gardening session I don’t speak out often but it’s so nice to see young women realizing what life is all about things and clothes do not a man make. A DIVA OF A MORE MATURE AGE!!🙏🏿. Be blessed
Awe so happy to see you back on CZcams. I've missed your content.
I’m gonna start back reading. I really miss and enjoyed that and it doesn’t cost as much as blind buying stuff all the time.
Eva, you are missed. Please come back! Also, I have a sewing machine on my Christmas list so I’m looking forward to more of your sew content. I’m also not spending money like I use to because of your inspiration and real talk. Food alone is too expensive, I just paid $6 for a pack of butter 🙄. Also thinking about selling some of my LV pieces, I’m tired of looking like everybody else. Thank you for being an inspiration. You are my big sis in my head. ❤
Lol girl I remember being in the 4th grade in 1999 wearing Rapture by Victoria’s Secret. I had older sisters in their early and mid 20s that I would get the perfumes from. I also used to wear Avon, Cool Waters and Sweet Pea by Bath and Body works.😅
I’m 32 now but I’ve been subscribed to your channel for about 3-4 years now. Love your content and glad to see you’re back.
Not Rapture in the hearshaped gold bottle? That was the bomb! My mother smelled that on me and made me take her to buy herself a bottle! Fashion fair Zahra was an amazing scent as well. I miss those days.
@@RahYisrael99 yep the heart shaped bottle. Lol
The original Rapture was the besttttttt Victoria’s Secret perfume in my opinion! It was delicious and it lasted for so long! U could skip the perfume and wear the body cream and u literally smelled amazing all day. Good memories and good vibes. I was a little girl wearing that lol
Girl you have never lied.... Primo!!! Red Door!!! Vanilla fields!!!! Odyssey from Avon!!! White Diamond and I was in high school smelling like an Auntie!!! Favorite was white Musk from Javon!!! OMG So good to see you back!
Yes. Sweet Honesty.
Black Pearl smell so pretty!! I got that as a Christmas gift back in 1999:) Yes, I've been a "frag head" since age 5..I am 50 now! I've worn so many perfumes...I lost count:) One of my favorites was by Cody....called Pure Joy....smells HEAVENLY!! I feel you on the shopping...I told myself that I don't need anything else...no clothes, shoes, perfume, purses....I am at peace with not buying so much...I am spending some of my money on plants and art....and save more:) You're speaking the truth!!
This was great Eva! I didn't impulse purchase every payday before the lockdown but once that happened most of my shopping became more need based. Working from home, fewer places to go, fewer guests so why waste money? I have started using any extra money to prepare a little for the short term future in how to take of myself and help my family deal with inflation and putting away non perishable foods and learning how to do it properly. This means something to me so Eva you are sooo correct...you look at spending and collecting "things" differently when something more important occupies your time.
Welcome back!!! We missed you!!!❤️
I have 25 fragrances and I promised myself I would never go over 30. I’ve probably given away 30 or more fragrances. I went through two bottles of Kilian princess, I finished Delina & Delina exclusif, Grand Soir and some others. I feel like I go through my bottles too quickly lol but I really do try and use everything & make sure I love everything I have.
I absolutely love this video and message I’m 45 now as well. I realized I buy to much stuff that I don’t need. I’m going on the 7 month no buy challenge girl
This is so timely for me! I temporarily stopped checking for your videos because I have been trying to reduce my personal spending, and seeing all of your beautiful acquisitions was too much shopping temptation for me. I enjoy your spirit and your wisdom, and the non-shopping videos actually resonate with me the most. I am on a low-buy challenge, and actively working towards a one-year no-buy challenge.
I relate to this so much. I have always been a fragrance lover since I was young. And just how you described getting up Saturday morning to fragrance shop I related so much to that special occasion. I also found that when I am lonely, working nights, dealing with the rough winters I shop so much more. I told myself no more blind buying because I want to love what I have and use up what I have. My love of fragrance will never go away, but I want to be more conscious of what I buy and recognize if I want something or if I’m chasing that high due tue my current situation being alone.
Eva, I’m so glad to have you back. I was worried about you.
Yay you’re back ! Yes live a life of meaningful experiences is way more satisfying and joyful. You have a brilliant message and looking great inside and out at the same time Eva! Thanks for brightening my day 😊
Good for you! Life gets better as we grow into our season of life. Celebrate life🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
Good to see you back and doing well. I miss the days of having a signature scent, but I am working my way back to only having what I love.
People better get into the habit of saving instead of spending in this economy because ish is getting real tough and expensive. 👸🏾
Even thrift stores prices have gone up (some have stuff more expensive than brand new) and designer/expensive perfumes have upped their prices.
Thank you for this message. I had this realization a few months ago and felt so relieved when I shifted from consumption to appreciating what I do have. Now, I have 4 perfumes and do not buy another fragrance until a bottle has finished and once it’s finished I can try something else. That feels reasonable to me and feels like I’m not just purchasing to purchase. Plus, the fragrance gets old after 2 or 3 years so that makes me want to use it up before it gets old and pungent.
Oh, the lessons I could share...consumerism is a strong-hold. Plenty doesn't seem enough. We do NOT have that wealth of disposable income. Nope.
You look wonderful and relaxed. Would you consider selling some of your perfumes that you will not be using? I love thrifting. I purchased my only bottle of Hermès from Goodwill. I am asking the same questions. I purchased an elevated planter for my start up plants. I will give it to my grandson to plant butterfly plants. He built a box to catch butterflies but did not catch any. This will be one of his birthday presents. I buy another one for me for veggies 🌶. I need to learn to sew also. I’m retired on a budget. It is real when I blow my money. Give us the details on how to garden. Glad you are content with what you love at this time. I’m enjoying CZcams, fashion and self love improvements. That’s enough for now.
Yes ma'am we all miss u and our grown ladies talk god bless you and your family
I'm so excited for your garden tour. I know it will be amazing. Your channel started me on my garden journey. I absolutely love gardening. 😃🌹🌺🌻🌼🌷
Sis, WELCOME BACK! You were missed. As I am curating my absolute adored fragrances, I've also realized there are 2-3 faves I keep in rotation. Less is definitely Best!
I'm so happy to see your back. I really love your personality. It comes across so genuinely in your videos. That garden video had me cracking up with the 👃 neighbors
😊I agree with your comment. I'm starting to stop shopping for Fragrances/Body Mists/Lotion earlier this month. Over the period of time it's becoming overwhelming and make you so financially broke. I'm learning now to buy what I want or like (your favorite fragrance) not what I need unnecessarily fragrances/Body Mists/Lotions. That's including Clothes and Shoes. Save your money.
Yes! I'm with you on that 💯
This video really shows you off. I can see your bright spirit loving being creative. You look so pretty when your light shines through.
Yes!!! We did miss you Mrs. Eva Monroe., so glad you’re back!!!
Welcome back lovely to see you again. We all missed your blogs. Yes, we missed you
I remember Primo in that yellow and white spray can!! 😂😂💯💯 You were missed and this is so sobering. I've felt the same about buying since 2022 came in.
Oh how I love this. I just turned 50 in May and from very young I loved perfumes. I have loads which I don't use. I've bought all the expensive ones which I rarely use. I have some bottles since 1995 as souvenirs. Then I started gardening, that's how I found you. You are amazing, with a very beautiful garden. Am Kenyan but live in Austria and gardening is my passion. I started almost three years ago making my own perfumes. At least last one year I never bought one.
I kicked the habit this spring. I’m happy with what I got. Since I have less places to go. Glad you wised up too
I was never into perfume or watches but I am into clothes and books. We all have our little things that make life joyful. Some of those things become a burden to us. God shows us when it's time to let it go. He will help us to let it go. It's very hard. Sometimes, he gives us a new joy, His mercies are new every morning! It sounds like you are celebrating His new mercies. I am so glad for you. He who began a good work in you shall complete it. Rejoice, my sister! I wish I could sew. I come from a family of horticulturists. I kill plants. There is something in growing things.
Happy, almost birthday Eva 🥳 🎉 So happy that you came to center to treasure only what moves YOU. About a year ago, I told myself, if i smell something and don't 1) say this is beautiful; or 2) curse and start to point my finger because it's so good ....I don't want it.
Thanks for your truth because I am a over shopper. I am taking a break from spending. I am restoring my yard too.
Eva Monroe, Truly so very happy to see you again! Loved the video of the amazing garden you created so beautifully. Please know that we never forget you. .. We have learned so much from you. .. Wow!! So much is missing from the beautiful room! .. Stay beautiful always Eva!! God Bless You Always, CC
This video is just magical! It really came to me at the perfect moment. Thank you
Good evening
It’s fantastic to see you back, you are not just a you tuber followers see you as a friend.
You have been missed dearly.
We all need me time - it’s great to see your smile.
We miss you Eva. So glad you're back bringing us the great content. Much love ❤
Look at that tan. Stunningly beautiful 👑
I slow shop now and use a sinking fund to do so. I recently got my first pair of Angela Scott shoes. I caught the pair I wanted on sale for $200 less and I bought them. My focus now is to shop my own closet.
I love your new shift. I also enjoy gardening and watching things grow as I nurture them. I also have a sewing machine (my second one) and I need to get busy with sewing. It’s hard to shop for my body type and need things to be tailored to fit. I want to be able to do that myself.
I can’t wait to see what you have in store for us.