Black Women Need To Create Their Own Beauty Standards

Today I will be discussing how black women can create their own beauty standards🤎
Timestamps🤎:
0:00 Intro
Internalized Beauty Standard
1:36 Mindset
4:48 Detox from “isms”
7:08 Replace with Positive Things
9:38 Discover your internalized beauty standard
11:36 Move Like Your Dream Woman
Collective Image of black women
13:58 Your vibe attacts your tribe
14:30 How to deal with haters
15:10 Why I dont police the comments
16:50 Compliment, Uplift and Support Other Black Women
17:34 Purpose of this channel
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[@darylifillifill1677]

As a disabled black man I should take some of this advice
Yall Black women make this life Heaven ❤❤

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@KiKiCarr]

the pictures you share of dark skin unambiguous black women are supreme 👌🏾 you DEFINITELY can not and will not be accused of sharing women who are not cute cuz these pictures are definitely some cuties 😍

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for noticing and I agree they are all supreme beauties for sure🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@mariepearl-harbour2335]

@@KiKiCarr Beautiful AUTHENTIC dark skinned Afro-ethnic women.

[@marajones1828]

My beauty standard is a whimsical magical fairy black Frizzle. I put butterflies and flower clips in my curls. I wear the colorful clips in my twists. I even tried the color wax for my birthday yesterday. I felt the usual temptation to get braids and not wear my natural hair for my birthday. I started to feel that pressure to spend hundreds of dollars on "long birthday hair". But the hair on my scalp is birthday hair! So I got some purple As I am, and for my birthday I rocked a beautiful purple puff with butterflies and two twists in the front wirh gold clips. I felt beautiful and I'm glad I stuck with my natural hair. I always feel happier at the end of the day when I am my own beauty standard 💜

[@thewindsinger7687]

A magical fairy baddie 😊 periodttt

[@CoffeeCuties777]

That is awesome…happy belated birthday 🎉….i really want to try the as I am hair dye in burgundy…how was your experience?

[@marajones1828]

It's been good so far! I'm on day 5 and so far no purple has transfered into my bonnet, no flaking or transfer on clothes. The only time I had massive flaking was when I switched up my style from one puff to two puff and made two twists in the front. Then I looked down at my sink and saw purple flakes everywhere lol but it was easy clean up.
I ended up actually mixing the As I Am with some Mofang only cuz the As I Am wasn't as vibrant I heard. So I used a little Mofang for vibrancy and the As I Am for the moisture and curl definition. I wish there was something that had the benefits of As I am with the vibrancy of Mofang/Crown. I did a wash n go with a leave in and gel and then the color. I diffused and made sure my hair was dry after (I think making sure it fully dried helped with it not transferring). I then made sure all styles after were low maintenance low manipulation so I rocked one puff and two puffs with minor variations. My experience has been so good I'm already planning my next color!!! Hope you try it! 💕

[@PrettyPrincess9609]

My standards are dark skin black women with type 4 hair who are in great shape. Women who look like me.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@AfriPrincess411]

To touch on the "expose yourself to content that uplifts you" be careful regarding certain platforms that claim to be for the empowerment of DSBW yet every video is about what a colorist no name rapper said whom you wouldnt even know existed. Like, we know "isms" exist, why keep rehashing what some unimportant influencer or rapper said when your life would have been better off not even knowing.

[@minniexfairy]

exactly ^^

[@ImaniHospedale]

Exactly!! Ladies be careful of rage baiting! Prioritize the good stuff including vlogs of other women who look like you and support them!
Don’t give those nameless influencers with colorist mindsets a drop of your time or energy.

[@Opinionatedcancer]

Showing up as our best selves, can’t go wrong

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree 🤎🤎🤎

[@BlendedBarbieDoll]

This! Class, elegance, grace, perfection
These images are it!!!!

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thank you for supporting 🤎🤎🤎

[@emptynester547]

The KINKS aren’t in OUR HAIR, It’s in OUR MIND!!

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for commenting and we are on the path to embrace our kinky coils and shift our mindsets as well 🤎🤎

[@lorraine70]

🤔💯

[@janessa-ri5km]

Losing weight is a big step.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree being healthy definitely is important 🤎

[@jacklyneverage3881]

When it comes to dark skin women with 4c hair, the standard should be health.

[@modisedaeswatiniprincess6944]

Speaking of pageants please check out Zozibini, the longest running miss universe queen. Since 2019 she is considered one of the greatest Miss Universe of beauty pageant contestants ever. She is the first dark skin, black woman to win the competition with her short natural hair. Here speech at the end of the competition was so powerful and her message to young black girls is what inspired me to make the decisions I've made this far. She is so empowering, beautiful, well spoken and I love her hair. A lot of people cried listening to her answers because was so genuine and powerful, hear voice is soulful and amazing.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for commenting and I will check her out….thank you 🤎

[@cartercarter2837]

You outdid yourself with this video ♥

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thank you so much 🤎🤎🤎

[@KiKiCarr]

naturally temi and supa natural tammy are stunning and have beautiful hair as well ❤

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree 🤎thanks for watching 🤎

[@addingupto1002]

There was also a black Ms. Philippines that was crowned resently.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I will look into her…thank you 🤎

[@goeatdodo3620]

She is not black but mix, she have Philippines features, cut it out😒

[@maureenwright5670]

Every woman should create her own beauty standard.

[@jacklyneverage3881]

So, what happens when yoy are dark skin, have 4b hair, and stereotypical features and you still don't fit the beauty standard because of bad skin, lack of facial symmetry, a deformaty, etc ...I'm for more about accepting yourself no matter how you look like, throwing out beauty standards, and just celebrating and loving our Black features no matter if we are beautiful or not. Because what's really being attacked is our racial features. We need to love them no matter if we are beautiful or not. Also, we have to emphasize enjoying and celebrating and cultivating our femininity regardless of wjat others think. I just dont want us falling into the beauty trap. I want us to know our value comes from being the Creator having a human experience, our character and life purpose.

[@onesmore-eq4fk]

I agree with you and I was thinking the same thing. Having our own beauty standards sound nice but there will always be people that don't fit the standard. Other races of women have their own beauty standards but there are still women that don't fit them and try to change themselves.
You should be your own beauty standard if that makes sense.

[@FitHitTheShan]

I agree with you 100%. In fact that’s what happened with the natural Hair Care movement in the first place when it got hijacked, and it became more about a curl pattern than us simply enjoying our uniqueness. And I really love when you said that
“ our value comes from the creator having a human experience”. that was deep and so poignant. I’m going to keep that in my heart from now on and I’m always gonna remember that.💜🦋👏🏾🙌🏾

[@MissNolver2]

Well said 🖤🖤🖤

[@AminaPhilosophy]

We have to set the beauty standard high so that it is respected. That is the purpose of a standard. Bad skin or asymmetry are found in any group regardless of race or color.
Even Ms. Piggy was considered the beauty standard simply because she had certain basic features. It’s psychological conditioning.
We have to condition ourselves and others to see Afro hair and brown skin as the beauty standard …this way, anyone with those features overall are seen as attractive. We literally have to counter the thousands of years of brainwashing that has been done to the world via religion and media.
It’s hard to explain but if you look at the kind of women that billionaires marry, you will notice that the women are not beauty queens. They just fit the “standard”. I hope this makes sense.

[@zeedaniels1459]

What's the point of the standard if everyone fits it? There are ugly white women and ugly black women. There are pretty white women and pretty black women. Not every black woman will fit the standard.

[@mb3608]

Hey there, can I as a very white woman just get something here off my chest? You know the first time I talked to a black woman (side note, I was in my mid 20s then, yeah, I know thats sad) she said out loud "Yeah, I know I'm ugly" and I just looked at disbelieve at an amazingly beautiful woman and couldn't believe what I heard. And maybe thats my thing, I find black women beautiful, maybe because I was born as a real life white milk bread impersonating woman, even been teased for my pale skin and you know, you have all the color I chased my whole life, but still...
And as I grew older this pattern of beautiful women of colour thinking of themselfs as unattractive and inferior kept constistent and I just want to cry out: "WTF? Who told you that shit? I think you look stunning what the hell is going on there? Can't see people beauty in all shades?"
I guess it was rassism and I won't change that with my post here, but just let you know you got a fanbase here with me. Love you girls

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thank you for supporting 🤎🤎🤎

[@StephanieNiecey]

@@ThePathOfPeace-w5xBlack women are beautiful and we are the original women.

[@hotchocolategirl1der]

This train is never late....😔

[@mb3608]

@@ThePathOfPeace-w5x Thanks, I can only totally agree. I learned to like my skin color with time, but not without help from other women admiring it :)

[@xXJade_AssassinXx]

This was a very lovely video. I'm a mixed black woman (Italian / Black) with 4a-4b hair, and the effects of the "baddie" black girl image extends to us too. It's really annoying that people expect you to look like some light skinned weaved up BBL girl, and other black women say things like "I wish I had your hair," or "pretty privilege must be nice." Ya'll are so beautiful - I purposefully wear my afro hair out and personally hate the baddie black girl look. Dark skinned afro women are the Mother's of all black aesthetics and I'm sad this world really did everything in its power to try and take that away from ya'll. I owe everything the world says is beautiful on me, to the full black women I inherited it from.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

@@xXJade_AssassinXx 🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@hotchocolategirl1der]

This is great content about self-love, and self acceptance. We're all here on the planet sharing this experience, for better or worse. Make it the best it can be for you. Enough of the world will do and say things to hurt you. Don't do or say anything to hurt yourself.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thank you for supporting 🤎🤎🤎

[@mariepearl-harbour2335]

Beautiful presentation. 😊

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thank you 🤎🤎🤎

[@mariepearl-harbour2335]

@@CoffeeCuties777 You are welcome. I noticed that you used beautiful models who are light skinned, brown skinned and dark skinned. All the beautiful hues. I noticed that some of the light skinned models had East Asian /Fillipine/Khoesian features... A couple of the models who were brown skinned, looked slightly mixed also..
On a different note, do you think their are light skinned mono-ethnic women who have features , hair types and hair textures that are considered to be seen on dark skinned women?Do you think their are brown skinned or dark skinned women who have features, hair types, hair textures that are considered to be seen on light skinned women?

[@CoffeeCuties777]

@@mariepearl-harbour2335 Yes I use black women with all skin tones, features and hair textures on my channel. Although I try my best to only feature monoracial women sometimes I am unaware of the admixture of the women I choose. And yes I believe a light skin woman can have more sharp features and vice versa…we as black women come in all skin tones, features etc🤎

[@mariepearl-harbour2335]

@@CoffeeCuties777 Yes Afro-ethnic women are rather diverse and exotic. Yes I find it is hard to find a real authentic Afro-ethnic women online or on the media, as the majority whether they be light skinned, brown skinned or dark skinned are mixed or MGM/admixtures. Very rare to find the authentic ones.
Peace and Blessings.

[@LI8A__uniqA]

Thank you for the shoutout girl 💕💕
Our coily community is flourishing in our beautiful, natural, black femininity. It’s time to heal.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thank you again and yes we’re growing and glowing 🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@epd0126]

thank you thank you!!!i love the beauty images portrayed ..i love our kinky afro textured hair (rather its real or store bought) this texture really suits us and this is our pretty privilege

[@CoffeeCuties777]

🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@catlady3024]

Everytime I run across another beautiful BW I can’t help but to compliment her 🥰❤

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Awesome 🤎🤎🤎

[@nishatehera1883]

New here. Good Afternoon. I honestly mainly watch channels like this, (and this channel) to look at the exquisite Models or Girls with the even more exciting hair textures and hair styles. I am a Visual Criminal, lol and a fan of all kinds of Female Beauty. I must say though, I do love the title and overall message of this video. I'm tired of seeing videos pop up on my feed of colorist this and texturism that and featurism. What are you doing about it, verses complaining all the time??!! I like that this video is more about solutions and instead of being ugly and negative and focusing on who doesn't like or want you, your focusing on who actually does. Starting with your damn self!! I like that this video is not about waiting or secretly hoping for people to find your look, skin color, features and hair attractive, but finding beauty, actual privilege and attractiveness in these things already and then having everyone else follow suit. "Even the trollz have their Purpose.' I like that too. That's a great way to think.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thank you so much for supporting 🤎🤎🤎

[@ginaturner7755]

A lot of women needed to hear what you are saying. To all you beautiful women out there remember when you walk into a room own it. You need to realize that you are the standard beauty without saying a word. Weather you know it or not the Europeans are copying you not the other way around.

[@ThatShrimpFromSharkTales]

I love 80’s rock and roll ❤

[@rewghob]

Sadly, our (those in the diaspora or US) beauty standards are inextricably tied to white Western beauty standards and will not change while we stay in the West. What I like about YT and Instagram is that as the natural hair movement came in bw were able to expand the parameters of what was black beauty, at least for ourselves. However, are bm on board? Do those who are natural and only date bm see a more open minded type of bm on the dating scene? The bbls, insta baddie, bust downs, bum length braids etc are still very much in vogue, not to mention that colorism, featurism and texturism are not shifting any time soon. Yes, you can create your own bubble, but bubbles are fragile and delicate. The black community as a whole has to redefine beauty. While we're at it, people who are not unambiguously black should no longer be able to define black beauty or be placed on a pedestal by those of us who do not look like them. If you have type 3 hair then it's fine for you to look at similar girls and admire what you see, but if you are 4c then stop pedestalising hair types that don't look like yours. Zendaya and Lori Harvey, Beyonce and Rihanna are not the face of the everyday, regular bw. Some people look closer to the three latter women, but most of us don't.

[@TherissaET]

There was a period in my life where I was struggling with loving my natural hair. Like I didn’t hate the texture but I would secretly wish I could style my hair better. Honestly, I pray for that. And surprisingly not surprised God answered my prayers. I didn’t know that all the things that you listed I was slowly doing for that purpose. I needed to surround and expose my mind with the right exposure. It really change my perspective and patience. Btw, I love your videos they’re really golden.

[@HelyBel]

Love love this it is about time ❤️❤️❤️

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thank you for supporting 🤎🤎🤎

[@abbe1abbe156]

We don't need to create anything. We're already created beautiful. People need to stop reinventing and work on their confidence. Know your history from Africa to the Americas. People who don't know their history are lost.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

Thanks for commenting and I actually stated in the video we need to place ourselves on the pedestal we belong and our hair is literally created like a crown etc 🤎

[@cocobronze7587]

The Bailey sisters aren't that good-looking. But Duckie thot is very beautiful.

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I find all 3 to be beautiful🤎

[@Sinadarling]

🤎🤎🤎

[@hi.goodbye2167]

@Coffee Cuties are you Tatiana White aka @Tatianaclicks?
Y’all sound alike 👀

[@CoffeeCuties777]

lol 😂 no but I love her channel…I’m on my community tab 2 times but I only identify who I am on one of the post lol 😂 but I plan to do on camera content on my membership page soon🤎

[@hi.goodbye2167]

@@CoffeeCuties777 ahhhh ok cool cool sounds good! You two should definitely collab! Would love to see that!

[@CoffeeCuties777]

@@hi.goodbye2167 I would love to collaborate with her…please help me out by going to her comment section and mentioning my page🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@hi.goodbye2167]

@@CoffeeCuties777 omg yeeesss!! Will do!

[@far6311]

There is no universal standard. I might like rock goth fashion, you might like instagram baddie fashion, she might like fairytale princess fashion. Thats what makes the world so much fun, nothing is the same. I might think Sade is beautiful, you might think Angela Bassett is beautiful, she might think Fka twigs is beautiful

[@CoffeeCuties777]

I agree! There is no universal standard that’s why I stated it starts with self then by being your best self that is contributing to the collective image…I encourage black women to explore whatever aesthetic feels best for them 🤎🤎🤎

[@hotchocolategirl1der]

You want to be centered, huh? You saw all these comments of dark skinned women embracing themselves, and saw the dark skinned pics and felt threatened. Even though she said BW period, you felt the need to make an "all lives matter" matter comment.

[@rewghob]

Twigs and Sade are mixed. Americans need to stop conflating the two because you admire the looks of mixed race women. Mixed race women probably say Doja is beautiful, Zendaya is beautiful, Latto is beautiful and any number of their representatives in the celebrity world are beautiful because the black community centres these women and they are given ample room to centre themselves.

[@far6311]

Soooo simply because I'm a dark skinned black woman I'm not allowed to think someone is beautiful? I'm supposed to tell my daughter she's evil simply because she's mixed? Are you sure? You want me to betray my own child simply because she's not black enough to relate to you???? Because that's how it sounds sweetie. Mixed people have nothing to do with how you feel, my daughter is included in that group. Think before you speak.

[@far6311]

@@rewghob soooo you've got trauma with mixed people? Because why are you offended by a mixed person being considered attractive? My daughter is mixed, would it hurt your feelings if I uplift the people who look like my children? I'm dark skinned with type 4 hair, and I still want my kids to know their black family will never abandon them or try to push them into the other side like outcasts. You're doing it out of spite and it's nasty, and then you want to get upset when people like Zendaya try to be proud of black heritage even when you count them as aliens. It's rude and hurtful, when they've shown you they still love their blackness however it presents itself. However someone is born is not their choice honey

[@far6311]

Also if your natural hair doesn't feel beautiful to you, thats completely ok. We need to acknowledge that everyone doesn't like the same thing. There are women who dye their naturally blonde hair to become a redhead because thats what they like, there are people with naturally straight hair who want dreadlocks instead. No one is holding a knife to your throat forcing you to not change your hair. If you prefer afros,if you prefer curls, if you prefer straight hair, if you prefer long hair, short hair, that's nobodys business. No one has the right to force you to do something with your head

[@OrishaLansa]

It's not the point girl , you should always embrace your features before going for what you feel the most comfortable in and beautiful. It's really not that hard

[@Opinionatedcancer]

Why would not liking your own hair be okay?

[@far6311]

Why should we force ourselves to like something we literally don't like???

[@StephanieNiecey]

@@far6311That’s self-hatred.

[@StephanieNiecey]

@@OrishaLansaShe doesn’t understand at all.