Caitlin Moran: “Now I’m Dead, Here’s My Letter Of Advice For You"

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  • čas přidán 13. 05. 2024
  • British journalist Caitlin Moran wrote this letter to her eldest daughter Lizzie in 2013, explaining at the time:
    “My daughter is about to turn 13 and I’ve been smoking a lot recently, and so - in the wee small hours, when my lungs feel like there’s a small mouse inside them, scratching to get out - I’ve thought about writing her one of those “Now I’m Dead, Here’s My Letter Of Advice For You To Consult As You Continue Your Now Motherless Life” letters. Here’s the first draft. Might tweak it a bit later. When I’ve had another fag.”
    Here's Caitlin herself to read it - originally performed at the Freemason's Hall, London.
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Komentáře • 235

  • @Florkl
    @Florkl Před 9 měsíci +149

    “You always look beautiful in them. You always look beautiful.” It’s a tragedy not everyone gets to hear those words.

  • @chrsd2536
    @chrsd2536 Před 2 lety +736

    Can you imagine how much you'd miss a mom who was like this? 😥

    • @joisagirlsname
      @joisagirlsname Před 2 lety +27

      Yes. My dad was like this, and I still miss him every day.

    • @ericthompson3982
      @ericthompson3982 Před 2 lety +3

      Right?

    • @ericthompson3982
      @ericthompson3982 Před 2 lety +43

      @@WhiskeyGulf71 You... lead a bit of a sad life, don't you? Please find some good friends that you can speak with.

    • @Elizabeth-rq1vi
      @Elizabeth-rq1vi Před rokem +22

      @@WhiskeyGulf71 she sounds like a wonderful person, she was giving advice to her 13yo daughter! George Bernard Shaw said “you don’t stop playing when you grow old, you grow old when you stop playing”. She didn’t want her daughter to loose that joy of life as she grew up plus she had very sound advice that is relatable on this side of the pond.

    • @MSYNGWIE12
      @MSYNGWIE12 Před rokem +4

      My therapist would love to show this to my late mother, who missed the boat, sadly...She was so cut off from her own emotional turmoil, she might not get this. Pure heartfelt, sense, warm and wise...

  • @Saezimmerman
    @Saezimmerman Před rokem +121

    "You probably aren't having a nervous breakdown. You just need a cup of tea and a biscuit."

    • @Doooooooooooood
      @Doooooooooooood Před rokem +8

      That should be plastered all over every home page, every profile, every post on every social media platform!

    • @judycroteau482
      @judycroteau482 Před 3 měsíci +3

      And “buy a big biscuit tin”. 😂

  • @ER-uy7ct
    @ER-uy7ct Před 2 měsíci +22

    So, I'm sitting in my family room crying. My mom has stage 3, moving to stage 4 lung cancer. And she has not lost her sense of humor like this mother. Thinking about my life without her and her humor and wit has been so hard.
    This letter reminds me to think of the great stories have with her as the center of them all. Family trips, walking down the Champs-Élysées getting so thirsty and buy 2 large glasses of diet coke for 20 francs (this was 2002).
    I have to remember the fun we had.

  • @LM-he7eb
    @LM-he7eb Před 5 měsíci +87

    She sounds like such an awesome mom. I know the letter was not meant for me. But, I took it, I took it, I took the advice. It is filled with fun, wisdom, care, awareness & LOVE.

    • @lilmissjoodypoody
      @lilmissjoodypoody Před 3 měsíci +2

      Same. Feels like a type of vicarious experience of motherly love

    • @jk013x
      @jk013x Před měsícem +1

      Wisdom and love are meant for everyone. I'm sure the woman who wrote that would be overjoyed to know how many people she was able to touch with her words.

  • @StefanTravis
    @StefanTravis Před 2 lety +418

    "Never love someone who you think you need to mend."
    Yep. It's 25 years too late for me, but it's good advice anyway.

    • @elainepayne7047
      @elainepayne7047 Před 2 lety +15

      And for me? 60 years too late!!!!

    • @Px828
      @Px828 Před 2 lety +7

      @@elainepayne7047 40 for me.

    • @HimonoOnna90
      @HimonoOnna90 Před 2 lety +23

      As long as you are alive and you got the message, it's not too late. You're still here and you're still able to make the best of that advice.

    • @gentianvandewerken929
      @gentianvandewerken929 Před 2 lety +15

      Hope you got out /I did after 30 years, best thing I ever did!

    • @katyjudd1061
      @katyjudd1061 Před 2 lety +6

      @@Px828 Same.

  • @jwvandegronden
    @jwvandegronden Před rokem +236

    That teared me up, the end was the final blow…. What a great mother!! And how important to have supportive parents, this way or anyway as long as it comes from the heart. Like this.
    I just fell into this well of letters, never heard of it until today and I’m hooked. Straightaway!! Thank you to the people who came up with this brilliant idea!!

    • @ellejuniperfilms
      @ellejuniperfilms Před rokem +7

      Agreed ! It's an amazing rabbit hole to get down into. Hilarious and moving.

    • @beckyg2604
      @beckyg2604 Před rokem +11

      I'm so glad I'm not the only one who recently discovered Letters Live! The hilarious ones are great fun, but the occasional touching letter is great, too. This one managed to hit both notes.

    • @SarahJLBriggs
      @SarahJLBriggs Před 9 měsíci +2

      Me too! They started popping up and they're ace.

    • @LM-he7eb
      @LM-he7eb Před 5 měsíci +2

      OMG. Thank God I'm not the only one. I thought I was weird. I teared up too

    • @johnhilton4348
      @johnhilton4348 Před 5 měsíci +1

      You've written my feelings perfectly. (I'm still mopping my face.)

  • @aeneas-sails
    @aeneas-sails Před 4 měsíci +9

    The whole series is pretty excellent, but this one in particular shines brightly.

  • @yehuditcollins6783
    @yehuditcollins6783 Před 10 měsíci +16

    I'm nearly 87. When things go wrong, and they do, i ask myself, "If this was happening to someone else, would I laugh?" So i end up laughing not crying.

    • @gretebremseth1622
      @gretebremseth1622 Před 9 měsíci +2

      Very good advice! Wish you a happy birthday! Long distance hug from Norway! ❤ 💙

  • @ToriLand78
    @ToriLand78 Před rokem +117

    I'm so sorry this woman has passed away. She seems like someone who I would have loved to have known and called a friend. What a wonderful combination of laughter through tears. A brilliant final letter from a brilliant woman.

    • @binghobson7122
      @binghobson7122 Před rokem +40

      She hasn’t! The woman reading it wrote it!

    • @ToriLand78
      @ToriLand78 Před rokem +12

      Yes, I realized that a little too late.

    • @cxzact9204
      @cxzact9204 Před 10 měsíci +9

      Your comment just reduced me to tears, god damnit.

    • @penelopeboythorn
      @penelopeboythorn Před měsícem

      A prime dinner party guest

  • @doberman1ism
    @doberman1ism Před 4 měsíci +9

    I am 70 years young and I greatly appreciate mums letter. I wish I could have known her. I know we would have gotten along famously. I know she is resting in peace. What a wonderful free spirit!

    • @AenesidemusOZ
      @AenesidemusOZ Před 4 měsíci +3

      The letter's author was the woman reading it. This is one time where an amazing piece of pathos is actually worthy of joy rather than sadness.

    • @sweetpotatofries99
      @sweetpotatofries99 Před 2 měsíci

      ​@AenesidemusOZ the letter's author was the woman reading it? What?

    • @AenesidemusOZ
      @AenesidemusOZ Před 2 měsíci +1

      @sweetpotatofries99 Caitlin Moran, the woman reading the letter, wrote the letter to her daughter, Lizzie, in 2013.

  • @jeremiahgabriel5709
    @jeremiahgabriel5709 Před 2 lety +132

    This is a useful, delightful, irreverent in the best way, letter. Also, a human body described as "meat clockwork" is awesome.

  • @k.m.2625
    @k.m.2625 Před 10 měsíci +48

    Wish my mom had given me advice like that. Bless you, Caitlin Moran. Your daughter is going to have a brilliant life.

  • @andrewc.2952
    @andrewc.2952 Před 2 lety +150

    Wow. Just wow. I'm honestly very deeply touched by this life changing letter. God bless her memory.

    • @al201103
      @al201103 Před 2 lety +41

      She's still with us - the speaker is the author, very much alive and well and still writing.

    • @FasterFaster196
      @FasterFaster196 Před 2 lety +3

      @@al201103 I was wondering who the writer was.

    • @celticlass8573
      @celticlass8573 Před rokem +8

      @@FasterFaster196 The writer is Caitlin Moran, who is the one reading the letter. It confused me for a moment too, since I didn't know who she was. :)

    • @victoria7t
      @victoria7t Před 8 měsíci +2

      ​@@FasterFaster196you could have easily found out on your own. Read the description of what the videos about before you watch the video

  • @chonkymonster671
    @chonkymonster671 Před 7 měsíci +11

    What a wonderful gift that she left for her daughter. And how heartbreaking it must have been for her as she was fading away knowing that she won't be there with her. I'm gonna go call my mom.

    • @Soren015
      @Soren015 Před 5 měsíci +4

      The woman reading is the author - so don't be heartbroken; she's alive and well!

  • @martinwetzel892
    @martinwetzel892 Před rokem +79

    This was incredibly wholesome and heartbreaking at the same time. What a wonderful piece of advice to pass on.

  • @hobistinyheartbag
    @hobistinyheartbag Před rokem +25

    I’m so glad she is here and sharing her own letter 💜

  • @bainslayer
    @bainslayer Před rokem +4

    immediately taking notes, this is how you say goodbye.

  • @ApocalypseofMichael
    @ApocalypseofMichael Před 4 měsíci +3

    What an incredible letter; written by an incredible woman❤

  • @blackbutterfly1517
    @blackbutterfly1517 Před 2 lety +85

    Brilliant and funny. This letter is a treasure. ⭐️

  • @mikes5637
    @mikes5637 Před 2 lety +33

    "Get a big biscuit tin".
    Advice to live by.

  • @grannypeacock
    @grannypeacock Před rokem +15

    I have officially adopted this woman as my mother

  • @berulan8463
    @berulan8463 Před 2 lety +42

    'Don't stop me now"
    is such a great soundtrack for life, death and ever after.

    • @MrBizteck
      @MrBizteck Před rokem +2

      Ive requested that Banjo song ..
      ' no more fucks to give' to be played at mine.

  • @joealtmaier9271
    @joealtmaier9271 Před rokem +19

    I told my kids this all the time. It's not a waste if you get a story out of it!

  • @pamlou4330
    @pamlou4330 Před 2 lety +50

    One of the best letter I heard in my life !

  • @garyb2392
    @garyb2392 Před rokem +12

    This was an amazing gift to her daughter…and that we get a chance to hear it! TY

  • @eleanor.shadow
    @eleanor.shadow Před 2 lety +41

    Love this! If I ever need to leave someone a letter, I hope I can dole out such sound advice in such a funny way 😆

  • @WhiteCamry
    @WhiteCamry Před 2 lety +48

    It's not every Mum who lives to read her posthumous letter of advice to her daughter and get laughs.

    • @judycroteau482
      @judycroteau482 Před 3 měsíci

      I believe that it is someone else’s letter - not the narrator. Just a great letter that needed to be heard by many people.

    • @judycroteau482
      @judycroteau482 Před 3 měsíci

      I stand corrected. I just read the description and the narrator DID write this letter to her daughter one day when she felt like she was dying. I love this woman! What an amazing letter! ❤

  • @helenmartin8051
    @helenmartin8051 Před 10 měsíci +6

    Brilliantly written !!!! 😊

  • @matthewotto8322
    @matthewotto8322 Před rokem +14

    For the record, as he hung on his cross, Christ was making plans to hang out later, with his new friend on the cross next to him.

  • @RHLW
    @RHLW Před 5 měsíci +3

    "Never start smoking"...
    Can confirm.

  • @ladyhawke1357
    @ladyhawke1357 Před 2 lety +30

    What priceless words and so beautifully read.

  • @glenmcfarlane
    @glenmcfarlane Před 9 měsíci +2

    I’ve just shared this with my 3 daughters. How glorious.

  • @KaritKtana
    @KaritKtana Před 2 lety +9

    The thumbnail alone makes her look like a fun witch. Brilliant! 👏✨

  • @carabiner7999
    @carabiner7999 Před 2 lety +8

    Just so brilliant!

  • @dsatt57
    @dsatt57 Před 2 lety +12

    This is brilliant advice, every word.

  • @arxaaron
    @arxaaron Před 2 lety +9

    Brilliant. Lovely. I needed this in so many ways!

  • @lonniekropf808
    @lonniekropf808 Před rokem +5

    One of the best letters I’ve heard so far.

  • @kalachulip
    @kalachulip Před rokem +3

    Thank you. Dropped by this channel when I needed to hear ~the-right-words. Thanks a lot. 🥺

  • @gilesmcdowall8860
    @gilesmcdowall8860 Před rokem +12

    Why can’t all mothers be like this? Loads of advice and a sense of humour 🤣

  • @alenemarie1726
    @alenemarie1726 Před 5 měsíci +2

    I miss my dad so much. This hits so hard when he isn’t here to tell me he loves me.

  • @caigner
    @caigner Před rokem +2

    THAT was a brilliant presentation!

  • @lisca2866
    @lisca2866 Před 2 lety +5

    Amazing!! Very talented

  • @user-zj7cs2bc2i
    @user-zj7cs2bc2i Před 2 lety +6

    Amazing! 👏👏👏👏

  • @chandana___
    @chandana___ Před 2 lety +3

    Wow.. Wow... Loved this so much..

  • @Locklear33
    @Locklear33 Před 5 měsíci +1

    That is one hell of a mum❤

  • @fariesz6786
    @fariesz6786 Před 2 lety +13

    i can say out of experience that not all horrid experiences make for amazing anecdotes.
    then again i have long decided to live my f•••ed up life as if they did. must not be _my_ problem if people don't _like_ hearing some things if it's important for me to tell those stories.
    this mum was a blessing like mine fortunately still is. an aspiration. a hero.

    • @celticlass8573
      @celticlass8573 Před rokem

      She's still alive, fortunately. :)

    • @primrosedahlia9466
      @primrosedahlia9466 Před 8 měsíci

      Yeah I agree, but I think she was referring more to the times you totally screw up and make a fool out of yourself, than stories of abuse.

  • @rosieHolliday5887
    @rosieHolliday5887 Před 4 měsíci

    That might have been the best I've heard so far. What an absolutely diamond mum. I bet she was a pleasure to know. RIP fantastic lady x

  • @elainepayne7047
    @elainepayne7047 Před 2 lety +4

    The very best advice ever!

  • @lightningwingdragon973
    @lightningwingdragon973 Před rokem +4

    This restored my faith in humanity

  • @claytonskids6764
    @claytonskids6764 Před rokem

    YES! REAL life lessons !…… Thank You 💕🤗👍

  • @johnrowland3105
    @johnrowland3105 Před rokem +4

    Awesome.
    Love the idea of a crem full of folk wearing plastic moustaches singing along to Don't stop me now, laughing out loud as the song progresses.

  • @kristykienitz3061
    @kristykienitz3061 Před 2 lety +1

    Love this!!!

  • @mariannegeraud6318
    @mariannegeraud6318 Před 2 lety +40

    Only a mum can give such
    realistic, graphic,down to earth and so easy to understand advice!!!

    • @grahamyates2490
      @grahamyates2490 Před 2 lety +4

      Try reading Rudyard Kipling's poem "If". It might give you an idea of the type of advice a father can give.

    • @mariannegeraud6318
      @mariannegeraud6318 Před 2 lety +3

      @@grahamyates2490 I have read it and I loved it...some moving advice on how to be a better person and live life to the fullest!

  • @madderhat5852
    @madderhat5852 Před 2 lety +25

    Can something pierce your mind, heart and gut at the same time?

  • @busayoogunsola3458
    @busayoogunsola3458 Před rokem

    That was brilliant!!!

  • @watcherintherye1111
    @watcherintherye1111 Před 2 lety

    This one is surely my favourite of all these...

  • @annathy
    @annathy Před 2 lety +8

    Best advice ever.

  • @elh141
    @elh141 Před 2 lety +8

    Thank you from mind, heart and lovely soft body. Patting leg as I type. 💚

  • @antonellahuron496
    @antonellahuron496 Před 8 měsíci

    this is wonderful advice :)

  • @hanyabi-habib8226
    @hanyabi-habib8226 Před měsícem

    Awwwww, this one is so sweet. 😿

  • @writtenwordsschoolofenglish
    @writtenwordsschoolofenglish Před 9 měsíci +1

    What a brilliant letter! I must show this to my own daughter.

  • @Carolmaizy
    @Carolmaizy Před rokem +1

    Perfect!

  • @denisemcdougal6445
    @denisemcdougal6445 Před rokem

    I love this mother her letter of ❤

  • @LindaNelOlivier
    @LindaNelOlivier Před 2 lety

    This is just the best in every way.

  • @rushiaskinnerwallace6175
    @rushiaskinnerwallace6175 Před 2 lety +1

    I adore this

  • @Anil18834
    @Anil18834 Před rokem

    What a WONDERFUL letter!

  • @DavidDel88
    @DavidDel88 Před 2 lety +26

    What a woman! Love her!

  • @Kobe29261
    @Kobe29261 Před rokem +5

    Louise Brealeys performance of her How to Build a Girl is in my top 10 audio books of all time!

  • @christinearmington
    @christinearmington Před rokem

    Marvelous! ❤

  • @hwway4488
    @hwway4488 Před rokem

    So much joy 😊

  • @patrickhicks9880
    @patrickhicks9880 Před 2 lety +2

    i love this channel

  • @brolly414
    @brolly414 Před 9 měsíci

    How lovely

  • @johnmunro4952
    @johnmunro4952 Před 2 lety +2

    Oh that's beautiful

  • @chanjessiet
    @chanjessiet Před 9 měsíci

    I have tears in my hear when I feel her love

  • @Falbala146
    @Falbala146 Před 2 lety +5

    this is so beautiful.

  • @Misstressofdons
    @Misstressofdons Před 10 měsíci

    What a beautiful letter

  • @tomjahnes7811
    @tomjahnes7811 Před rokem

    my favorite so far

  • @citygirlphotos.tutonelyles4386

    Wonderful👏

  • @mrketteringhan
    @mrketteringhan Před 5 měsíci

    What a fantastic letter, and can think of no one better to have read it. Wonderful.

    • @iwantmyoperahouse
      @iwantmyoperahouse Před 5 měsíci

      Yes, because she herself is the author, right? Just thought I’d point it out because it’s my second time listening to this and only just now realised that Caitlin Moran wrote this. I was now browsing the comments to see if anyone else got it 😊

  • @AshtonArcher
    @AshtonArcher Před rokem +3

    Astonished by how much she sounds like Victoria Coren Mitchell!

  • @jennyfulcher8035
    @jennyfulcher8035 Před 8 měsíci

    Hilariously and touching sound advice from Mummy!

  • @MysteryMommy1
    @MysteryMommy1 Před rokem

    Thank you

  • @NaughtyNecro
    @NaughtyNecro Před 2 měsíci

    As a smoker with self image issues, I needed this.

  • @annmc8392
    @annmc8392 Před 2 lety +1

    Good advice, hope young people take note.

  • @MelissaThompson432
    @MelissaThompson432 Před 2 lety +19

    I want her to be my new friend.... I need to be told occasionally to have a cup of tea and a biscuit, and I want her to preplan my funeral.

  • @yoeshelkarma1494
    @yoeshelkarma1494 Před rokem

    This is the best letter to be read

  • @kattoneycliffe6715
    @kattoneycliffe6715 Před rokem

    Very good advice there!!

  • @lmg7503
    @lmg7503 Před 2 lety +5

    Life, and a letter we should be handed before we walk it's path.😁

  • @wisbrington1559
    @wisbrington1559 Před rokem

    how adorable

  • @sandjune2753
    @sandjune2753 Před 9 měsíci

    What a great mum

  • @arlenehutchinson9259
    @arlenehutchinson9259 Před 5 měsíci

    Thanks mum ❤

  • @is.this.really.important
    @is.this.really.important Před 2 lety +47

    I wish I had known this woman. I wish she had been my mother. Rest in peace.

    • @sarahsagar2129
      @sarahsagar2129 Před 2 lety +24

      🤣 she's very much alive... after all, you are watching her right now!

    • @nikiTricoteuse
      @nikiTricoteuse Před 2 lety +13

      The woman reading the letter IS the woman who wrote it. She wrote it to give to her daughter.

    • @CLL9262
      @CLL9262 Před 2 lety

      @@nikiTricoteuse Are you sure ?
      How can/do you know this?

    • @nikiTricoteuse
      @nikiTricoteuse Před 2 lety +10

      @@CLL9262 It says in the drop down description. (Click on the down arrow to the right of the title.) The woman's name is Caitlin Moran and it's the first draft of a letter she wrote in 2013, to her eldest daughter who was about to turn 13, in case she died before her daughter grew up.

    • @CLL9262
      @CLL9262 Před 2 lety +5

      @@nikiTricoteuse Thank you for this info.
      What a stunning idea to do this. I wonder what effect such a lettre had on her daughter..

  • @shadowjack8
    @shadowjack8 Před rokem +3

    So relatable. My daughter keeps picking guys that she thinks she can fix. Then she married on of them, at her baby shower.

  • @ryfors
    @ryfors Před rokem

    Holy shit this was amazing.

  • @kevincaldwell4707
    @kevincaldwell4707 Před rokem +6

    This letter should be used in universities to explain how life should be lived

  • @Gradhmhor27
    @Gradhmhor27 Před 9 měsíci +2

    2:36 -2:57 100%, but it’s not a joke. Great advice❤

    • @LM-he7eb
      @LM-he7eb Před 24 dny

      True, silent soul suckers, whose work happens in the shadows really exist. Narcissist, whose primary hobby is crushing people's self esteem really exist

  • @judymaphenduka1614
    @judymaphenduka1614 Před 2 lety

    🥺❤️

  • @rachell4417
    @rachell4417 Před 7 měsíci

    Great mum

  • @carabiner7999
    @carabiner7999 Před 2 lety +10

    The Jesus bit slayed me.