UNLOCKED Full Episode: Iyanla Fix My Life EP103 ‘Fix My Mistake’ | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN
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- Iyanla helps a mom who left her family for another man. After three years away, she wants to return home. Will her wounded family take her back? (Original air date: September 29, 2012) Watch more of Iyanla: Fix My Life on the Watch OWN app: bit.ly/watchownapp
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UNLOCKED Full Episode: Iyanla Fix My Life EP103 ‘Fix My Mistake’ | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN
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Seventh attempt??! Lady, leave this family alone 🤦🏼♀️
Exactly. I can read through her, she isn’t genuine.
@@sylviafranklin67 Hello Sylvia....My coworker who is married to a woman who left him for another man and had a baby by the other man ....He took his wife back and Raised the other mans baby.....😌
She probably goes back home whenever her man puts her out.
@@bluecollarscholarmelrosepa5673woooow, I reject that kind of "love" away from me
Lolol STG 😂
Rich did not want to embarrass her on camera....he was & been done. He was trying just for his boys to heal
A black woman will heal this world.
I understand the depth of your comment, and I agree.
I pray that your soul is happy, healthy, and well connected to our creator. All my love. X
@@serpilkaddy1609 Ase. 🫂
When her husband sipped the drink whiles Iyanla scolded her was everything for me🤣🤣
Facts
THE SUN FACE WHEN SHE SAID " I NEED TO WORK ON ME" OMG THEY BOTH NEEDED IYANLA TO TELL HER SELF CENTERED AZ SOMETHING 🤦🏽♀️🤣😂
Everything!
Iyanla didn't have to shade the dinner. "Shells and meat sauce" took me out!!!
😂😂😂😂
I was looking for someone else to catch this
😂😂😂😂
😆😆😆😆😆😆
Lol😅😂
The husband has beeeen done he just doing this for the children and I applaud him
When the older son cries, it hurts my heart! His crying is so innocent!
Iyanla was like I know they not just sitting here having dinner like nothing is wrong 🤣🤣
18:10 okay! 🤣🤣🤣 why am I here? 🧏🏽♂️
That’s what you do sometimes when you are hurting… you deny the problem and the pain it causes in an attempt to be okay
That's white people for u. ( this ain't a race thing literally just facts)
The truth: she doesn't want this life.
That's what the back-and-forth is about.
It sounds like the reverse of a selfish married person having affair. They want to stay married to their spouse but also be in a relationship with another person.
@@JLPerryTV Sometimes people have affairs as a way of staying in the primary relationship. If you have a spouse who is great in every arena except, say, the emotional or sexual, an affair can help you get that missing need met and therefore allowing you to stay.
I felt all that pain when Iyanla had to hold another woman’s son and hug him due to the lack of the mother’s broken soul . God Bless you Iyanla for the light you provide
Damn u nice to look at….. jus wantd to tell u tht🤩
@@andrearidgell7350 🤗 thank u
@@andrearidgell7350 he rlly is
@@andrearidgell7350 no
I felt that too…
I could tell that the youngest son saw right through his mother. He didn’t believe her.
Yeah basketball buddy kept rolling his eyes like he just know she all CAPPP
Am I the only who saw him roll his eyes at her..😮
I was hoping someone else saw this. He was completely on emotionally on insufficient funds.
She’s giving “I want my family back but only if they want me here” like she’s guilting them to want her around when she’s the one who had an affair and abandoned her life and kids. I feel like Iyanla was saying that with the cord activity. Leave them alone. Deal with your guilt on your own.
Heaven Johnson u take a lovely photo...yes I like your comment 💯
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I pray Caleb finds a loving wife and loving in laws
She gives the best hugs in the world....thats called a "mama hug"🥰
This episode stuck with me when I saw it almost 10 years ago. I felt for the husband and sons and didn't like her at all. I still feel the same, she only came back because she got dumped and was desperate..
I am sorry, but I don't see her leaving her husband and sons as a "mistake" babes ...that was a CHOICE.
6 times?! Definitely not a mistake
Iyanla went for the whole jugular this episode 😭
Yes.
moral of the story...wherever you go, there you are
OMG You win the internet LOOOOL
This should be pinned at the top!!
My ex always said, “ No matter where you go, you take you with you.”
The Wire ❤
THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH!
He's a very good man. He deserves much, much more💐
This woman should not have gotten married in the first place. It may sound harsh but the husband needed to divorce her. This is too much.
Why does it sound harsh? Because you are speaking about a woman? If it were her husband who cheated and left the family, you probably wouldn't think it was harsh to say that his wife should have left him.
When she hugged Caleb and was like “this baby is so wounded wow” it got me because I wish someone would hold me like that 😢my mother was not affectionate with me
Hi. I wish you love and a healed, whole heart. Sending a big mama hug.❤
@@BroadenYourMindI appreciate that. It’s been a year since this comment and I am still fighting sometimes
Hang in there.
Same here. My mother was not affectionate. However, I did eventually come to understand that she was bi-polar.
I like how the dog just wants to be included especially at 36:22
Yesss, so sweet❤
She always wants from her family and she never ever gives to her family. 😏
Iyanla does God's work.
Yes she does!❤
I hope the dad does not take her back! She made her choices! She can still be a mother to her kids though
Over here binge watching trying to heal. Little pieces from every episode. It's a process. She is so in your face raw, here get it. I don't care if you like it, feel it, process it, deal with it.
Breakthroughs for you. 🙏🏾 ❤
She need to go on about her business. Leave those kids alone.
This is her 7th time coming back... I'm shocked Iyanla is surprised the husband doesn't have warm feelings for her!
The husband is having a normal reaction. Why would anyone have warm feelings towards someone who keeps jerking them around??!!
And they all can sit around eating like its nothing bc it is nothing.. they expect her to leave again.
At the end, it's still give ME a hug, not let me give you a hug. She says this twice, each to the 2 men she hurt most. Husband is there but the look in his eye so very apprehensive. Mom was determined to draw ex back into the old, despite Iyanla's strong contradiction, telling by the way she grabs his hand. Mom returned home for her own need, not really anyone else's, hoping to receive love with nothing real to offer.
I love it when she says "Not On My Watch."❤
Me too 😂😂😂
So many times in my life I've seen that the "grass isn't always greener" on the other side. We have to learn how NOT to covet what belongs to someone else: another man's wife, another woman's husband, your neighbor's big beautiful house, someone else's career, or their luxury boat and cars, etc., etc. We have to learn how to be content with our OWN blessings and not be envious of the blessings that belong to someone else, having nothing to do with us. What we are often not taught/told is that when we covet another person's blessings, we are also unwittingly coveting their curses too; curses that can not be seen from the curbside or with the naked eye looking in from the outside. I do not want another man's CURSE. I want peace to remain in my soul. I don't want anyone else's family. I love and am thankful to God for my own.
WELL SAID! That’s what you call wisdom and that only comes with age, experience, and growth!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 God Bless you 🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽♥️🙏🏽
Powerful!
Wow wow ❤❤❤❤❤❤thank u so much for this🎉❤
I was sexually abused as a child and I know that I have no business being in a relationship until I have healed 😊💓
I’m so sorry that you were abused and I wish you all the best in your healing journey. 💜
I’m sorry.
I hope you get the guidance and support you deserve. Thank you for sharing your story.
Sending ❤️
Facts me too😢😢😢
Man, Iyanla Fix My Life will definitely be missed. I mean the lady surely knows her business. I truly wish Iyanla Vanzant had chosen to continue on with this show. Unfortunately, she decided to not continue with the show. So many families benefited from watching this show, even the families at home. Families still need the professional guidance she gives that assist's them with bringing understanding and healing to their everyday lives.
She discontinued the show because I guess the producers wanted to control how she did her job so she left. She can't help people with interferences.
I don't know why i cried when Caleb starting talking, maybe cuz i really felt how he feels
Not maybe. Truth bowl beloved
The younger son is not with the bs.
I’m glad he realized his worth.. he should have never wanted to get back with a women who cheated and abandoned him..
And her kids!
She came back 6 times and didn’t stay? Ok, I think this woman needs to stop destabilizing her family with her own needs and putting them through the wringer.
Lol we wanna say she’s broken ? She ain’t dumb. She left to be with another man. Now that it didn’t work she wants to come back ! Selfish lady !!!!
So powerful, I wish I could see how they all are doing now
That boy was so brave Iyanla saw right through that lady and called her out on her stuff. The Dad has to raise those boys by himself he was doing that anyway by himself because she was miserable and checked out because of her problems. This show was Amazing.
The look he gave her at the end while saying “sure we can” I almost fell in love ❤️ He’s a good man !!!
This episode is so important for people to understand that knowledge of self is critical for any relationship to have a solid foundation. Like so many people, I went through it myself. I'm grateful for growth. Any less is a recipe for disaster. My heart aches for the healing needed for her sons. 💔
Applause to you! I’ve gone through the same process. This isn’t a judgement but a I wish that they would statement. So many people won’t allow the process of self analyzing and cleansing to take place. And I think with many they just aren’t aware that this is needed for healing,peace and understanding in life. What many people do is think that they can just do certain behaviors. For example people think that they can just “act” like a Christian. They think that they can just start being like Christians by going to Church, Stop doing certain behaviors. And then they end up wrestling with those urges to do all the things that they just tried to stop doing. Because you haven’t been delivered and you haven’t really done the work on self. You just think you can do it because you will yourself to. Nope! It doesn’t work like that.But the work on self is really needed by us ALL. Blessings to you!
Damn. I needed to hear that. Exactly what I’m realizing now as a Christian who’s been “good” on the surface her whole life while hiding her issues and doubts. I’ve never been fully honest and it’s killing me
Accountability with love! This woman is a classic matriarch, she will never die.
I love how Iyanla hugs people 🤎♥️
Wow, what a formidable lady, she's taught herself to survive her own battles and puts it all together to help others with a force of powerful emotions. Brilliant.
I Miss the best life coach ever
When this little boy said " I dont kno if the woman will leave, sp Ive gotta be controlling". I got a cold chill. Wtf yall think most abusers/ killers of woman reasons are ? MOTHER'S! Im afraid for any woman who marries this boy.
Yeah hope he gets counselling
The mother had to fix her self first..
Why do some of these men violate little girls honestly let alone your own child. Then manipulate and possibly passionately hate on such child victims to protect themselves 😡from their evil actions. Died and left someone damaged emotionally!
Sometimes children are so broken from sexual abuse; that they are forever broken.
@@cherolpoole7286 and become narcissist to validate and fill their voids
It is so screwed up.
Disgusting 😭😭
You'd have to go back to times beginning to ask Fathers that question.
Children love THIER mom
No matter what
Poor Caleb omg🥲
Loved how the diversity was on the show in the beginning. It’s interesting seeing how other cultures mask and heal their hurt.
Even the dog doesn’t want you back💅🏾 pathetic how hurt people HURT people
The younger son. Shaking his head while his mom was “ telling her truth “. He was over it.
These parents are setting the boys up for failed relationships. 😢 Mom's narcissist.
That lady ain’t worth it. She married a nice guy who provided her a life that wasn’t being offered by the men she was really attracted to (ie marrying her even though she already had a child). I honestly can’t feel bad for anyone who willingly takes back a cheater. At some point her ex-husband had to accept that she belongs to the streets
At 11:55, The ex-husband says “He married a 20 year old Woman WITH a child already. Ok Where is Caleb’s REAL Father.??? This guy saves her and he’s being painted the villain
???? WTF.
Ikr. It kinda felt she tried too hard to make that woman a victim in this situation.
How is all of her brilliance at the tip of her tongue at all times??!!! I love Iyanla!!!
Because it's her calling.
The exercise Iylana did with the family using the cord was so POWERFUL!!! I hope Amy understood this.
Iylana is amazing!!!
I got goosebumps, sooo AMAZING AND SPIRITUAL IN A POSITIVE WAY!!!
Her dad abusing her didn’t drive her into the arms of another man she needs to prove herself…no taking her back into the house
@ 15:50 there was so much tension and hurt and anger that her husband had that you can almost see it. That really got me feeling emotional on their behalf because it's like they did not want to say or express what was going on inside.
Lady... Be honest... You don't wanna be a wife, mother OR alone. Go on boutcha biz. She keep coming back and he keepn takn her back bc neither want to be alone. She came and went SEVEN times??? Nah.... Glad they decided to call it quits.
With no time
Iyana is bravely trying
To model bring a Mom!!
Amazing lady
Ma'am if you don't gon' about your business and leave those men alone, she doesn't WANT him or those kids.
Iyanla does such a great job at what she does, no wonder she's a lawyer, a healing coach. She fixed many people's lives to see the big picture by showing the truth and not hiding it. After watching this episode, everyone can see the big picture here. She was a young person, single mom, married to a man she wasn't attracted too. She didn't want to live in a small town like that because she has a big city type heart and personality. She wants her life different than the typical small town wife life. So she left, because she needed to find herself in the process because she knew she didn't want life there and with the man. But she wanted to come back into their lives hopping in and out so she doesn't lose them permanently. It's a selfish move and emotional wreck she placed on her and her children but she knows all along she cannot live her life in a small town like that, and she wasn't attracted to him as a husband, and life partner thats why they were divorced. I look at her, she wasn't willing to give up her dream, her lifestyle, her vision, to live a life there.
IAM Blessed with the Knowledge & Wisdom Ms.Ilyana shares in her teaching, episodes of fix my life, Books, Master classes, etc! I miss the wisdom of my Grandmother & Mother.
Why is it that I don’t believe anything this “mom” says even to her kids.
As soon as she opened her mouth I knew she was full of crap. She is for the streets literally.
Its the hair
@@murdahmammiez 😂😂😂 the hair???
SMH this woman is soo selfish!! The fact that she doesn’t even get it… I’m sure she left again
One of the sons allegedly did reply in the comments stating she screwed the dad and kids over financially and some other family members and dipped out again to Italy for vacay but hasn’t been back 😢
@@kimorabeat☹️
@@kimorabeatoh my goodness. Are you serious!!?
WHAT A GREAT MAN THAT FATHER IS.
The NERVE of that chick and I’m being as nice as I possibly can, cause I wanted to call her something totally different 😂💯
Every man that has hugged Iyanla immediately becomes like a little child suckling. They embrace her as if their life depends on it. She indeed is a healer. 😢😢❤❤
she's just selfish. or was. The Dad has done a great job with the boys!
Mannnnn that oldest boy really broke my heart. His pain was palpable. I pray he got some good therapy and is whole now 🙏
Wow, did they stay together after this? While Iyanla is like an angel, but 48 hours is not enough! I can see her pain from her situation growing up with her parents though, not an excuse for other behavior
No. They didn't.
@@mamarha2011 Why? What happened?
@@narrstilburyxoxo4658 At the end of the video it said she moved back in to give the relationship one last try, but it didn't work out. The husband is moving forward with his life with the boys. I don't know the specifics.
@@narrstilburyxoxo4658 if you want specifics lmk 🤠 she came into my life by dating my dad and made a big ole mess along the way
@@_leomartinezplease spill the tea 😭 what she do?
Yeah....I don't like the mom. She just wants a place to stay. They are "safe", but she doesn't care about them.
Ok this one was hard for me to watch. This mother is the most manipulative person I have ever watched! She has these two amazing boys and the husband that she leaves. Only to return to dryly ask for forgiveness and to be let back in to their lives? She is so lacking in emotion and putting on for the cameras. She is incredibly undeserving of their forgiveness and their love and support. I am so angry for her boys and the husband!!!! I would NEVER let her back into the realm of possibility to be able to hurt those boys again. She is a shame. My heart aches for her oldest son.
Guys if you are watching this some family members will disappoint you but I want you to know you can change the cycle when you have a family. Also not all women will do this some of us mothers will lay down our life for our kids. Am glad at least you have your dad.
Family dynamic ~ The family is there for her. I knew this when they all went out to the car to get her, the husband even opening the car door for her. Thinking this is really strange.
How can you not melt for those babies?? I just don’t see how you could leave that love behind
Why was the other son not allowed to speak and get loved on my The Queen Iyanla? Perhaps it was edited out. I can’t get through an episode without tears. I love her!
I know this doesn't have anything to do with this whole thing but I swear the mom reminds me a little of rihanna. I don't know of it's her eyes her mimics.... does anyone else see this or just me lol
How such people end up with good spouses and fumble them will forever be one of the mysteries of this world I've accepted I may never understand.
Iyanla bring out tears....oooh lawd
I'm sorry but she should just leave and move on. Those three guys are great and their father is a good man but he deserves a better woman than her. Her past has made her manipulative and her kids are hurting because of it.
I don't think other
Than my own narcissistic mom
Have I ever seen a more
Selfish human
Iyanna’s hugs would break me down!!!
This woman is about herself she comes first in her world
This is so my mother
No 💜 HEART except for herself
I’m sorry to hear that 💔😔
Damn. Are you and Mom having any kinda relationship? Have you any children? Do they? This has to be the hardest thing to get thru. Is your fam ok?
This woman is lying about everything, including her childhood abuse very likely. I get the strong sense she said that to deceive Iyanla and to paint herself as the victim who ought not be blamed for anything she has done. Pure callous manipulation and narcissism.
I was thinking narcissism as well. The self-centeredness, gaslighting, future faking are classic narcissistic. Traits.
Wow I felt the same way.
Man, I got the same feeling.
I said the same thing she was to forthcoming with that information. That's usually a very difficult pain to tell anyone.
It's hard for me to imagine someone could come up with something like this.
This family is brave. I pray they can see themselves the way God sees them. They all deserve love and are lovable.
33:20 ish point when iylana explains why the mom yells and berates her son, she says "she couldn't give you what she didn't have"... and I feel like I want her to do an entire series on that. It fascinates me to the point that I honestly don't believe it when she says "I didn't realize I was to you the way my mother was to me"... I wish I could say "what did you think? When you punched him, yelled and put him down - what did you honestly think was going on? You were breaking patterns?" I just don't get it. I think ppl do know. They just don't. Because it's hard. It's too simplified to say "you can't give what you've never had" because that's just not true.... I never had the love I give my son today, I had to do SO much self work to get here - giving him unconditional love, a love I never experienced. I know it's hard, because I'm doing it.
Yeah i feel like theres more behind that statement and it would be interesting to see her elaborate on it.
But thats the point she didn't know what she wasn't taught AND never attempted to teach herself so she could be better fkr her kids. Like you are.
Denial is a strong jail for the mind. I am in self healing now but my daughter is 11 my son is 5. And I see patterns from my own mother and not because I wanted to be that way but because I had that learned behavior. I specifically said I wouldn't do things my mom did but here I am. Without that self awareness and desire to change and want to heal, it's pointless. The human mind is just so complicated especially how you are made through your experiences and trauma.
That's exactly the point. You're able to offer your kids love because you worked on yourself and found a new way of being so you're able to offer something different. She couldn't offer something she didn't have. Her cup wasn't empty but it was filled with rage and anger so that's what poured out.
Is it honestly that hard to offer your kids love? Or just, not beat them? It can't be that hard
I strongly believe that along with her amazing mind, it’s the physical embracing that distinguishes Iyanla from other therapists.
i love this beautiful woman. i have binged watched all her shows and can’t get enough. it’s provided me some healing as well. 🌹♥️😢
28:07-28:22 Yet another truth bomb!
I don’t think she knows what she wants. She needs to work on herself, stay in contact with her kids, and find herself. She needs to fix herself. It’s not her kids job to heal her. Dad should move on and find happiness with his boys.
All just because of Selfishness .................
She chose to leave got DUMPED!!!!!!! and now you want to come back she thought the grass was greener on the other side but she got over there and Saw it was a dirty- swamp the man she left for didn't take her seriously because she cheated with him she will cheat on him.
Nikkeei Williams💯🏆🇺🇲 I agree with your comment🌹
Wow... amazing work this lady did. Live in your truth
This baby’s heart took me all the way out! I saw this 10-12 years ago and I just wonder how these young men are?
"She couldn't give you what she didn't have"