30'S AND THE [NY] CITY: turning 35, dating life, oversharing, solo dates (living alone in nyc)
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- let's spend a (very realistic) days in my life living alone in nyc!!! In this "my 30s and the new york city vlog", we go on some last minute solo adventures (massage, solo dinners, try to go for roller skating, rainy day in Bryant Park) and have heart to heart conversation about turning 35, dealing with aging, past relationships, dating life, kids and trying to accept all the changes that comes with getting older :)) . tbh 30s have been the best so far and I am so excited for whats come to come!!!
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Thank you so so much for 19K subscribers! Appreciate each one of you and your support ❤❤❤.
Hope you enjoyed this vlog and our heart-to-heart talk about life and relationships.
P.S: if you follow me on instagram, you probably know jhaape has been sick for the past week (diarrhea and vomiting). Hoping he feels better soon 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽
Were you able to get the Grub Hub order canceled before it left the restaurant?
I hope jhaape is ok.
I'm sorry to hear Jhaape has been sick. I hope he is feeling better.
So hard when your baby isn’t feeling well. Feel better Jasper🥰
Oh No. Not that sweet baby. I pray that he gets better very very soon. That's a lot of work for you. My 66lb Lab got paralyzed. I was traumatized by the exhaustion. I pray the Vet makes him all better. I love that little baby. 🐕🌈🐾🌈🐶🌈
I will be 50 in August! I have no idea what I’m doing…. I just quit my job, I had a health scare and I’m looking to find something less stressful and a lot more fun! I’m definitely trying to live a happier and more fun life. I don’t have kids, never wanted them… I do have a cat! I like other people’s kids… anyway, take it day by day… it’ll all sort itself out. I think it’s a good idea to harvest your eggs! Wishing you all the best! ❤ I really enjoy your videos!
I am 52 going through a divorce and two major surgeries in December 2022 and 2023. I am getting back in shape mentally and physically. I change professions at 42 and have been a nurse for 10 years. I hope for better life to come. Hope the same for you!!
Wish you both good thoughts and positive outcome:) I’m older and wanting to change careers as well😊
I’m 66 and still don’t know - I am now retired and doing things to suit me, especially travelling and whatever takes my fancy. A great idea to freeze your eggs. I myself had my daughter at the age of 46 she’s now 21 and graduating in July which I am so proud of her.
Omg every CZcamsrs I see all they think about turning 30 plus, get on with live things will sort it’s self out
Thank you so so much for sharing ❤
I'm older than you but I, too, reached a certain age being single with no children. I dedicated my life to my career up to that point (and traveling). Then one day, I said to myself - I'm financially stable and I think I could be a good role model to a child. I enjoyed my single existence and I wasn't trying to fill any "hole" by having a child. I was too old to conceive so I adopted the most beautiful, incredibly bright little girl from China. She's now a Sophomore in high school and nearly 5ft 7inches!! What a blessing this has been to be able to mold and "mentor" a child. She has brought joy and happiness to my life in ways I can't even describe. On the other hand, I've never regretted not marrying. Many married women I know aren't happy and seem very lonely.
Love this!! Thank you for sharing ❤
I’m 37 & decided in the last few years that I didn’t want kids after raising my 6 year old niece solo for a year. I realized how much emotional capacity is required, the lack of solo time, the amount of time my brain has to be “on” & basically planning out everything in someone else’s day, the lack of flexibility after work hours b/c I was trying to maintain her routine…it was a lot for me. She still stays with me for 2 months every summer & it’s the highlight of my year, but I’m equally excited to get my free time back when I send her home lol. Plus lots of my friends have kids that I love to take care of & be around, but I think for my own mental capacity I’m better off just me & my pup.
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I bawled like a baby at 30,( married with three kids) but celebrated by throwing my own party at 60,( newly divorced; my four kids all raised), with a new boyfriend. Now I’m single again besides my amazing dog and navigating life in a new city. There really is no time frame for anyone person. I loved this vlog,( especially just you sharing your thoughts).
Thank you for sharing ❤
I think women get caught up in the whole "wedding" thing and then find out that being married is not quite different than they thought it would be. Sometimes getting married later in life is okay too - if you don't want kids. If I had it to do over I would never have married. I enjoy being alone - truly truly enjoy it.
Me too! I truly do ❤
Same.
Same here. I’m 59, never married with 1 child. I’ve lived with my bf for the past 2 years. My BF has been married 3 times, no kids. I tell my family I love him but I’m okay with never marrying. This works out perfect for us. He’s always so busy that I vacation with my family or alone.
Hello Tisha. Nice to see you again. Sorry about Jhaape. Hope he’s feeling better.
I’ve been single since 1999. I love living alone. I have a guy in a different state but I do not want to get married or live with him or anyone.
A lot of ladies don’t want kids. Dont listen to anyone telling you that dating is for you. You do what you want. I never put any Botox or anything.😂. I’ve earned this face and all its lines☺️. I don’t judge anyone on what they want to do.
Glad you took time for you to relax and reflect. I hope your week is as amazing as you are. Give yourself grace💜
Hi Linda, it is always nice to see you here! Thank you for sharing your experiences and advices. Take care ❤
I’m a woman of 72 now. It pained me to listen to all of your concerns and I remember your age very well. I don’t like some of my body changes: wrinkles, weight, loss of muscle tone, but I love my inner self and confidence. No more questions in my mind about child bearing, career, relationships. Treat others as more important than yourself and love God with your whole heart, body, mind and strength. Everything else will fall into place.
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽🫶🏼
When I was dating I looked at it as going out and having fun doing hiking , sking, concerts. And in doing so got to know each other. Did not look at it like a job interview. When it became a long term thing, and did not work out I always learned something about myself. Look we are both here today we survived. Have fun!
You are a lovely warm woman listen to your heart and you will be fine.
Love how your phrased it ❤
@@lorrieflaherty5134thank you 🙏🏽
I didn't get married until 38 yrs old & didn't have my daughter until 40! It's okay..... things happen when they are supposed to - - I know that I, personally, was not willing to settle, but also wanted to take my time & find the right guy, who I found at the very tender age of 35. 😉 For now, just keep working on taking care of yourself & doing what makes you happiest. The rest will fall in to place as it should. As I told myself, and really do believe, the universe will provide.... and, it knows when we are ready. 💜
Thank you for sharing Ann ❤
Millions of single adults living in NYC. Take your time and date again when you're comfortable doing so. Don't let other people pressure you into being in an intimate relationship. Celebacy is such a cleansing purifying way of life. Hang in there and FYI, I enjoy watching your vlogs.
Thank you so much ❤
I had a baby at 30 and during PPD I regretted becoming a mom but now I absolutely love it. I was not fully aware of the sacrifices that I would have to make and if I did more research I don’t think I would have. Freedom is amazing but that unconditional love from a tiny human you made is everything. When you are ready yes…society could **** themselves. Love your channel! I’m a quiet subby.
Thank you so much ❤
I'll be 60 in December and I haven't got it all figured out. However, I take a lot better care of myself and I focus on what I eat, what I drink. How much I sleep. I'm divorced long time. Been in a couple relationships since but don't want to anymore. I have three grown kids 34, 29 and 21. They're my proudest achievements. Love them so much! I have two sweet dogs. I've had a lot of health scares been through a lot physically. However, I like to say I'm tough as nails and I'm really focusing on enjoying life. Super love your videos. Always look forward to them. I found you two months ago and I'm addicted. Lol
I love how openly you talk about your feelings and point of view!
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It's crazy how I can relate to this omg! I'm 32 and all my friends are married with kids but I don't feel the urge to do this myself lol. Thought something was wrong with me because everyone keeps asking me why I'm not dating and they try set me up with dates lol. Dating is alot to deal with and I've been hurt before. I think it's important that we don't feel pressured to dating and finding someone just because everyone else thinks so. Because I think alot of women fall into that trap and wish they hadn't rushed it. Know within yourself what you truly want because at the end of the day it's your life. Just take your time and enjoy your single life Tisha❤
Thank you so much! we both living life in our own terms❤
As a 25 year old, I definitely relate to this. I know I don’t want my own kids, but have wanted to foster adopt teens since they are so neglected. I had my first kiss literally last year 😂. Relationships have never been on my mind. Now I feel like life is starting as I finally move out and start my career. No clue where this life is taking us, but I am super glad you are thinking about your next big shift. Whatever you decide, I hope it makes you happy and content.
This reminds me I need a massage ready badly too
Thank you so much sharing! We will figure it out as we go and in our own terms ❤. I hope you ended up getting that massage
Tisha I had a lovely time visiting with you, do more of these. I am sure a lot of young people feel the same way. Just hearing someone else sharing so calmly and honestly will help them so much in their journey 😉😌
Thank you so much ❤ did you enjoy the chatty part or the activities in the city?
@@TishaShrestha Growing up in N Y and now living in Las Vegas for 40 years, I loved the sites new and the sites old memories that I loved. I also loved the chatty part as well, it helps to let people know you have choices and you don’t have to make them all at once. We change and grow and especially young women today have far more options and opportunities. Learning about you is a wonderful experience and makes you a better partner when and if you find your special person!
🤗welcome back and thank you for another great vlog and your lovely soul. I am 34 and i have 3 kids, my little son is 5 and he has childhood dementia and is deadly sick, sometimes is this really sad for me and his sisters, but every life is a journey and you will be a great mom. Don't be to hard to yourself, 35 is not old, is just a number, not the end. I wish you a good time, very good moments and have fun with dating.
Thank you 🤗❤ sending all the love to you and your family
Thank you for taking care of yourself.
Stress completely destroyed my health
I do not want that to happen to you.
🌹🌈 Roses and rainbows🌹🌈
Please take care of yourself ❤
Roses and rainbow to you too ✨🌈
Hell today. Advice from an ole lady. Please don't let society pressure you into doing anything. Give yourself time. Search your soul. I let my church pressure me into marrying an abuser. He got worse. I got divorced. My life has been a whole book of horrible experiences.
So Stay safe Stay humble Stay grateful I believe those traits will carry you very far. Many of your subscribers are comforted by your voice your tenacity your perseverance and we LOVE Jhaape too.
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That is Hello today. I should have checked. Hello not the other word🤦🤦🤦💙🌈🐶
My favourite NYC lady's posted 😍 New York is so beautiful
Fr she’s my favorite
Thank you ❤️
Thank you 🥹🙏🏽
It’s so important to listen to yourself; never mind what society thinks and expects of you-trust me, if you listen to anyone but your own self you will be unhappy. I listened to every one but me and now I’ve been in an unhappy marriage for close to 30 years. I left my job to have my kids and now at 60 I am not qualified to really do anything and feel stuck. Take the time and really get to know yourself and listen. It’s a journey, but it’ll be worth it in the end.
Thank you so much for sharing ❤. It is never too late to start. Sending you all the love & well wishes ✨✨✨✨
Hi Tisha, Thank you for sharing. Maybe you are not open to suggestions, but as a senior who has been through a lot I want to also share some of my experiences and life knowledge with others. There are several things I want to say about what you mentioned. 1. If you are not ready for the next step, don't rush it. You will regret it and be uncomfortable under your own skin. Children are a Blessing from God. They deserve the very best we can give them. They require 100% of us and then some. People need to know thst they have to be ready 100% for them and nothing less. You are right, we come first. If we don't take care of ourselves to the best of our ability, that includes body, mind, and soul. You do take good care of your body for the most part. How about your mind? Are you where you want to be in your future? If not, then thst needs to be taken care of. Financial stability, are you where you would like to be? If not, getting married and having children will complicate things and you will not be happy, when we are not happy, we cannot share that happiness with others. Many people marry to feel complete, thst is a big mistake people make. We have to be complete as a whole and not depend on others to complete us. That is not the way things work. That is one of the reasons many people end up in divorce, relationships break because the partner they chose did not meet their expectations. Marriage is sharing one another sharing their personal happiness, not expecting their partner to make them happy. First things first, take care of everything you would like to do as single without anyone. Make a to do list and check off things you have done, things you would like to accomplish while single and if the list is too long, if you happen to meet the right guy, know that he will want for you to fulfill everything you wish for together with him. If he doesn't want your happiness first, then he is not for you or anyone else for thst matter. A good relationship is helping or allowing their partner to be the best they can be no matter what st a ge of life they are in. Once you have accomplished your to do list or met someone who will walk with you in all of your achievements and or failures, then and only then, you won't be afraid of getting your heart broken. It's part of life. Even in the bests of marriages our he a rts get to be broken by the loss of a loved one, change of social and / or financial estability, health anything could happen thst would break our hearts. Even after we have done and said everything. When we get married, have a family, children grow and are on their own. Some of them especially in America forget their family and loose touch with them which is also heart breaking. It is also a part of life. Our children are loaned from God. He Blesses us with them, Entrusts us to take good care of them, and then, when they are adults, they are in His Loving hands for Him to take care of us. Which comes to the last and most important thing in our lives, values, believes. We need to establish that if we haven't so we can find our significant other who also shares our same values and believes. That is the core of any relationship. Same values, same believes if we want to have harmony in our everyday life with them. One thing is friends, acquaintances thst we accept them no matter what they believe in. We don't live with them 24/7. Family and a partner are different. We inherit our family and we put up with each other and share things with each other through thick and thin. I've said enough for now. I wish I had this advice when I was in your present situation. I lived and learned. Now I share with others.
Hi Gina, thank you for sharing 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Life is about learning and learning means different lessons for different people. - No pressure - your life is as beautiful as you are. Mothering, nurturing can take so many different avenues. This is your journey. Thanks for sharing!
Such beautiful and true words...We are here to learn, earth is a big classroom...We are spiritual beings living and learning in a material existence - thats my belief! So true as well that mothering & nurturing can also take the form of being a dog mom ❤ That has been my journey and how I came to be a mom ❤ Thank you so much for your wise words ❤
Thank you so so much! Loved how you said it ❤
@@sophieschoices9663dog moms ❤❤❤❤
Opened my CZcams app to watch a Tisha Vlog, and surprise - uploaded a new one 30 mins earlier! Your vlogs are inspiring and getting better every time! ✨
Thank you so much ✨✨✨
Nice vlog…thanks for sharing…so open and honest!!! I am turning 33 this year so much of what you said I feel…I am married and thought I would have kids, but not so sure now!!! 🤷🏾♀️
slowly everything will fall into place… exactly how it was supposed to be ❤
I'm 36 & I've changed jobs 3 times in the last 3 years. I'm currently not using my degree. I'm unsure about having kids as well mainly because of the cost, although everyone tells me I'd make a great Mom. Your hair is soooo thick! I think you should start dating again. Don't compare yourself to others. My sister is 8 years younger just bought her 2nd house & has a 1 yr old. Everyone's journey is different. Whenever I get massages I don't wear any makeup, because it gets all smashed. After i get a message I want to take a shower right away because I feel greasy/ dirty.
I was told you should soak after a massage to sooth the muscles.
@@saauniquemy masseuse suggested to take a hot bath after the massage 💆♀️
Agreed!! All of our journeys are different
hey Tisha, honestly when it comes to vlogs, i really do appreciate the day-to-day life type of vlogs because you get to see a portion of what someone else's life is really like and i enjoy that.
Heyy, thank you 🙏🏽 🫶🏼
@@TishaShrestha you're welcome. i got a question for you: when you look up at the stars in the night sky, do you ever feel like you're looking at a work of art? like you're seeing a painted masterpiece, handcrafted to the finest detail? because you are. Almighty God, the God of the Bible, made all of creation. He made the universe and everything in it. let me know if you want to hear more about it
Things I notice in New York that’s different than any other place is the unique places to eat. Lots of small business restaurants, not like where I live mostly fast food franchises, or the small places are hard to spot when driving. In California everyone has a car.
one of the reasons I love living here 🙌🏼
Happy you had some time to reset ❤ That rain was no joke & I also love riding the ferry whenever I can in the summertime!
Thank you Gail ❤
I am 1 year older than you and I know what you mean when you say you've never had maternal instincts. Once i hit 30, I started thinking about it more, but one person told me very clearly that I should not depend on whatever patriarchal conservative beliefs I carry because of the country i came from. I have to do what I like and I feel is right. Look up stats, not many women have children. yes, we are in a financial crisis, but it happened way earlier. Women have a choice today whereas in the past they didn't. Please don't feel weird for this. You are not a minority anymore. I think it is at least a half of all women now. It is really an internal choice. :)
thats the statistic for the US? Interesting...
We are very privileged to have this choice here 🙏🏽
Jhaape🥰…I love chair massages! I realized how therapeutic it is and how important self care is. I look up to women that are confident to enjoy their own company. I just love spending time with my furbaby over acquaintances. But now that it’s summer, I do more quick solo activities by myself. The only thing I don’t enjoy is eating out solo. It’s boring😅. The older I get, I prefer picking up my food and relaxing at home. You’re a catch! I think the best way to meet a partner is putting yourself out there but never settling on core values.
34 year old single woman here with the exact same thoughts & feelings..all the power to you for sharing 🥰, greetings from Germany
Thank you ❤ 🇩🇪
Thank you for opening yourself and I what you’re going through and thinking of is all very normal and what we’re all thinking. We have to decide what WE want, and writing it all down really helps so keep a diary. Live life healthy doing what you love and great things will happen to you. If we worry about many things, we miss out on life. You’re doing great, just live and love your life!
Thank you is much ❤
I turn 34 in October, and I felt like I truly starting enjoying my life at age 32. I am single and child free, and I am 85% sure I do not want children. I think about it from time to time and I hear you on the biological clock ticking. I’m also a 4-legged mama and, I get excited over animals, especially dogs, over children.
I’ve been single and abstinent for two years, and I appreciate choosing this decision so I can focus on my discernment and healing. Solo date are my favorite activity. While I want to be happily married one day in the future, I am grateful for these past few years of being intentionally unavailable for a relationship. Yes, I dated in between, and I paid attention to the red flags and act d on it with respect.
I hope you give yourself all of the grace and patience.
Next year, I plan on moving to center city Philly, my hometown, and enjoy the city life my childhood self dreamed of living one day. ☺️
Welcome back 😊 life is life one journey at a time 💕 you are very blessed ❤
Thank you ❤️❤️
I think egg freezing is a great idea, bc it’s a gift to your future self (it’s just giving you more choices in the future)
Hey girlfriend - great video this week. Glad your neck is better! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us about dating, children, marriage, etc. From one woman to another, I can tell you that you are right where you should be emotionally. When we women reach our 30s, we start to seriously think about marriage, children, career and what direction we want our life to go in. This is the time we usually pick a direction. If you are seriously thinking about children, talk with your Ob/Gyn about having children between the ages of 30-40 years old, and what it would mean to freeze your eggs. Talk about the risks and the benefits so that you can make an informed decision about your future. Best of luck girlfriend - sending positive vibes your way!
Thank you so much ❤ sending you postive vibes as well ✨
12:28 I think you’re actually very mature about your thoughts ❤ and wish more ppl thought through bf having kids since I too many times seen kids being neglected and treated poorly by adults that didn’t really wanted to become parents but gave in of the pressures from society.
Recently I've watched only your vlogs, I don't know why, just feel comfy and on the same page with you. Many things and thoughts relate to yours, and I guess currently many of us feel the same in our 30s. Just do not forget how much you did by yourself, you look pretty and much younger, to be honest, you've got a pet, you've found a pretty living place in ny and many many other things you may mention.
And about love... I believe in spontaneous chance meetings, but probably your cultural and traditional option also may work out. Wish you only the best, girl ✨💪🏼
Tisha!!! I suggest to do a blood test and specific thyroid to make sure about the hair and feeling tired. About love life, i feel like you need to de-programe your vision with men, the next guy u see its JUST a guy dont put intentions beforehand, let it be and go with the flow.
Hi Tisha 👋 I was just reading through the comments- look at this wonderful community you’ve built up! All sharing and supportive - there’s so much love here ❤ 🤗 Sorry your neck is hurting, but what a great day you gave yourself anyway 😊 When I get a stiff neck, it’s usually a viral thing which goes with after a few days of rest and self-care. Love your honesty and thoughts on dating, family etc. You’re just a couple of months older than my daughter, and while she dates, she is content to live alone and doesn’t want to have children. She has a health condition and has adapted her diet and lifestyle to best support a return to good health. My best tip: see a kinesiologist to find out whether you have any imbalances in your body. This has helped me and my health tremendously. And try to get 8 hours sleep each night. Not always easy! Anyway, that’s enough for now. Take care, lovely to see you again 😊🇬🇧
Thank you so much sharing ❤ i am really happy to hear that your daughter has built the life in her own terms. I love the community we have built. Sleep is for some reason is the hardest part for me. See you soon 🇬🇧 ❤
You looked stunning in the opening clip (you always look great, but especially great then)!
Jhape (spelling wrong I'm sure, lol) is so cute and sweet! Love seeing him!
I love that umbrella, great choice!
Thank you so much ❤ everyone gets his spelling incorrect haha. No worries.. It is Jhaape
Hey Tisha!
I love the honesty. Listen, I am not even 30 yet and I get married next year and I still feel behind. I am like okay get married, then get a house, then kids it’s like my head is spinning 😵💫. I have to stop myself from being overwhelmed. But honestly, the best advice I can give (which I am giving myself as well) is yourself grace and take things day by day.
You look SO pretty with that purple dress! Like a princess day out. And I feel that fear of heartbreak and the redundancy of dating.
Also, with your energy changes, this year has been insane with all the apartment drama so I wouldn’t say it’s because of your age, you just went through some awful situation and are still adjusting ❤
Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for letting many people know they’re not alone :)
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I just want to point out how positive you are when things didn’t go as planned! And I again can relate to the dating thing, it feels like going back to level one in a video game after getting so far. Great vlog as always 🫶🏽
You are a truly beautiful person both inside and outside I never write comments never ever but you inspired me I had to tell you how wonderful I think you are💕
I'm turning 29 in a few months and I have no idea what I'm doing with my life 😃 I feel this societal pressure and I have no idea how to approach it and I'm freaking out tbh.... But it feels good knowing I'm not alone in this 😅 Wishing you and everyone else the best ❤ I hope we just live our lives and accept that is ok not to always know everything and not having everything figured out
Love the sit-down chat and just how much I align with your values and views on life. I just turned 30 and never felt pressured by society to settle down and have kids; I have been surrounded by very toxic relationships and miserable marriages all my life, so I was always happy to be alone rather than risk being in a bad relationship/marriage. I'm now in a beautiful long-term relationship but we both only want to get married in 5 years.
Even though I love spending time with kids (I'm very very close to my nephew and niece to the point where I feel like I co-parented them haha), I have always had an intense fear of pregnancy, childbirth, and just being a mom in general. Like you, it's never something I wanted to be. I feel like so many mothers, including my own biological mom and my stepmom and my sisters and my friends, had to give up their happiness and dreams to raise children. I think I'm too selfish for that lol!
I also feel like I have a vision of what I want my life to be like for myself and my family IF I do want children eventually, but right now I'm not there yet (especially financially). Maybe it'll change, and hopefully it does when I still can get pregnant and all that, but I also know it's not the end of the world if it doesn't happen!
Don't worry so much about a boyfriend, when you don't look for it, it happens :) relax and live life 🥰
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Thank u Tisha for sharing! Just the impact it has in the comments, other people sharing, it's so amazing! Knowing that I'm not the only one not having my life figured out... Love your vlogs, thank you!
I think you are wise in that you are thinking things through and not making quick decisions to regret later. I know you see yourself getting older but you still have lots of time for the big and small things of life.
Love the video for its openness and honesty. I am 30 and literally just live day to hoping for the best 💗 . Thanks for sharing!
Thank you ❤ hoping the best for both of us
life in my 30s - slept funky and now I can't move- relatable content. It's so refreshing to hear a content creator keeping it real, cause we all know a lot of 'em make it all look so easy and magical, and life in general, but especially dating, is tough!
Thank you ❤
Tisha, I don’t think you talked too much. I enjoyed getting to know you. I chose to live childless and I’m happy. Do what you feel is right, not what others think you should do. Thank you for sharing your weekend with us.
It was so interesting to hear about your love life and experiences, I'm single since 2014 and I'm always like - NO, it's not gonna work, even before I meet the person.
I guess we both are putting ourselves out there in 2024 😊
Hi Tisha, been a watcher for a while and suscribed recently when you mentioned it at the end of a vlog lol (keep doing that call to action!). I'm close to you in age (I'm turning 36 next month) and resonated with your thoughts about having children, I used to say I did not want them at all, but the truth is I'm not sure and I feel similar to you. I also understand and share your thoughts about how dating can be exhausting and being scared of heartbreak. And also resonated with your conclusions about putting yourself out there. Thank you so much for sharing, it felt like catching up with a friend and kind of reflecting together. 💕
Hi Tisha! Hope your neck is better now! If it's not, please go see an osteopath or a chiropractor, muscle strain like this kind tends to 'set' in the body (as I have experienced) and is difficult to get rid of. It's kind of a vicious circle too because you can't be 100% mobile and flexible and have to adjust (like barely being able to turn your neck). Congrats on the 19K btw!! WOOP WOOP!
Oh man. Your feelings are all so relatable, i'm on the same boat. I turn 33 soon - the last time i felt this 'panic' was when I was turning 30. Panic maybe too strong a word and probably self imposed but seeing how everyone is moving with life - people have partners, kids and houses. I'm single, I too have no maternal instinct and dont think I want kids - yet wanting to look into how egg freezing may work. Came across a suggestion on reading 'The Panic Years' - will be doing that soon. Dont even get me to dating, its hard, so hard and really that fear of what if it wont work out, do I want to put my energy into this. Sigh.
Its the irony of having choices and the world being your oyster which leads to having to look harder inwards, wondering what do I even want in life (if it makes sense 😅)
Not the easiest to put these thoughts out for the world to see but thank you for doing it - makes you feel like you aren't the only one 💝
Hi Tisha! Im hoping Jhaape is feeling better and on the mend. ❤ as for the dating, to look at it in a more positive light, you survived those break ups and came out stronger. Best case scenario is you meeting the one. Worst case scenario is it doesnt work out - but the silver lining is even there if it doesnt work out as you mentioned! So the pros outweigh the cons. And who knows, you can make a new friend out of it!
Thank you ❤
I want to see you decorate!!❤
Love the umbrella choice❤
Tisha i love you and it was such a nice video!! I completely understand you on the dating life, kids, take your time and love yourself so much that everyone else you meet wont be able to not love you too hihi ❤
Loving the vlogs sis, keep it coming 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Hi Tisha, according to ancient wisdom, putting one's home in order helps bring about mental clarity. This always works for me so maybe it's time for you to finish unpacking and organizing. Decorating can come later when you're in the mood, after you get through this time of uncertainty.
Love your positive perspective on life and minor disappointments - wise woman!
Happy 19K & what a nice lifestyle vlog in NYC, Tish! ❤❤❤
Enjoyed listening and watching you think out loud. 👍🤗🌹💕💕
Thank you! 🤗💗🫶🏼✨
This might be my favorite video. I love seeing the city while you do things outside. Thank you for sharing.
I totally get what you are saying, I turned 29 in March and I felt like a piece of shit😮💨 my life is a mess, I’ve never been in a relationship, I live in the tiniest apartment, all I do is work and I’m still broke😂😂😂 it helps a lot to take life day by day and not overthink everything. At the end of the day the worries won’t solve the problem. I stopped comparing myself to my successful friends because there is never a single positive outcome in comparison. About Botox I think it’s temporary so if you feel like trying it will only last 6 months and you can let it go if you don’t like it
Heating pad helps
Just put yourself first .Your Beautiful we all age I'm 66 been married 3 times 3 children. Divorce is beyond painful. Take your time and don't settle just to have a guy. I love being by myself now that hasn't always been the case . Life itself is a teacher , it will happen when you least expect it. You have a very good job your living in Manhattan your doing great at your age. Enjoy slow down Anxiety was slow too then. 😊
I could totally relate when you said you struggle to find time for yourself that isnt work related, going to the store, making/editing these videos, etc.I have Mom guilt & im not even a Mom yet. 😂 I keep busy & sometimes i think i have ADHD because i have a hard time sitting still. I need to just look at the laundry in the basket & say: "it can wait to be folded tomorrow, relaxing doing absolutely nothing can't" but im so OCD
Tisha Today you are looking too too pretty and I am always always looking forward to your vlogs so so much and I wish you have a adorable weekend🤗🤗♥️♥️♥️
Thank you so much 😊❤️. Hope you have a great week ahead!
I am the same age and I feel the same way about kids. I kept hoping the "maternal instinct" will kick in but it has not happened. It's okay to feel that way :)
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Take your time my sweet girl ❤
Congratulations on 19k subscriber's ❤
Hey Tisha! I truly enjoy watching your videos. I am currently on the same boat as you in terms of the "kid situation." I have decided to freeze my eggs. The pressure by society, can get a bit overwhelming. My career has also been an issue in terms of "when" to conceive. Then, the importance of choosing the right partner becomes a GREATER deal. I wish that society could accept more career driven women who want to wait to have children and also want to prioritize choosing the "most" compatible partner, rather than expecting women to have "your Life together," at a certain age. Dating and risking falling in love is definitely another issue. However, this "single time," is allowing me to get to love myself more and get to know the small things that make me feel whole. Loving my own company is essential, especially if I want to let someone else in. I hope that you don't wait though too long....because I think that you could potentially love your company sooooo much that it may be harder to let someone in as more time passes. Whatever you decide to do, do not let the pressure of society force you! Also, dating can be "fun" if you don't put so much pressure on "finding the right one."
Loved the purple pink lighting💗💜
Loved it!
Loved that Ramen place you went to. When I lived in Japan they had lots of places like that where it was a single booth, and I went to as many different ones as possible in my city. I never had bad ramen in Japan, was always delicious!
Thought it was so cool too, had never seen anything like it! So practical for a quick solo meal!!
I would love to visit Japan one day 🫶🏼
@@TishaShrestha I lived there for a year quite a while ago. Did lots of travelling around. Loved it, was so different from anything I had experienced before. The food was amazing!!!
You are young and beautiful young lady. Do your best everyday and yes plan your future and aim for that goal. It good to talk things out but at the end of the day where you pleased, happy, content, that accomplishments, etc. So my dear its one day at a time and along the way try to smell the roses. Blessings
Enjoyed this vlog Tisha and your self care day out. Hope Jhaape is on the mend❣️
🌷🦋🪷👩🎤you are a lovely soul bringing joyful energy to the world. And you are the most nurturing doggie mom. Big hugs. Loved the vlog especially ferry rides !! Big hugs. 🕯️🎵👁️🦋🌷
I just got a new place and live alone and have no friends so this is soothing.. nyc is boring for me lol i hate being from here w no friends
There will be an adjustment period in the beginning. I hope you upcoming months will be better once you all settle in ❤
Lovely vlog as always. I think the best advice I can give on all the subjects you spoke about is to go with your gut feeling on everything. As you said, we're all different and deep down inside we know what we really want. Beauty comes from within, so carry on being the lovely person you are. xx
Love the views of NY, that ramen looked delicious. Enjoy life and do what feels natural to you and makes you happy, society has placed too many staples!
Loveeee your videos❤
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Another great vlog..
Poor Jhaape home alone!!! He needs a nice walk time!!! 🐾🐾❤️✝️. So sorry he’s not feeling well, hope he will be ok soon!!
We went for walks :) I didn’t include it in the vlog. Thank you for the well wishes. He is finally doing better 🐶🐶🐶
Dear tisha didi !! I saw your vlog for the first time and i instantly subscribed. I also binge watched some of your old vlogs and fell in love with the way you speak. You sound like my elder didi giving guides... Im so in love with your vlogs❤. Keep shining.
Much love from nepal ❤❤❤
I’m 47 now. When I turned 45 I completely freaked out. My life has not gone to ‘plan’ but who makes these rules anyway? Why do we have to get married, have kids, buy a house? My life is not perfect in societies eyes but I love it and I’m happy. As long as you’re happy then that’s the main thing.
You can get an appointment with an esthetician for skin care. Also online mental health like BetterHelp online, for someone help you brainstorm something n Screen is your best friend, sun damages your skin more than anything. Protect you face, hands, arms and neck. Take it from someone who’s 75. ❤️Sunscreen. ❤️
Thank you for all the tips ❤. I always forget about the sunscreen. For therapy, I have been going to a therapist (virtual session) for past two years.
I love that ramen restaurant! ❤❤perfect for solo dining❤❤
I would definitely go back again ❤❤❤
It’s okay to not be sure about some things and I think when it comes to the dating aspect, you’re probably overthinking it a bit which is natural
Most probably I am ❤
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Love the dress 💜
You are beautiful and embrace yourself! Coming from someone old enough to be your mother. I’m turning 52 in November. I took myself/ health for granted, didn’t use skincare or sunscreen. My oldest daughter is your age and I seen her destroy herself with filler because she is trying to keep up with her MIL and SIL they all look the same instead of unique and themselves. She had a beautiful heart shaped face and unfortunately filler migrates and now her face is more round even though they say it dissolves. Just be careful with Botox and filler if that’s what you decide to do, research side effects and long term effects. As for children I agree you should look into freezing your egg’s because if you do decide you want a child later you have that option without risk of aging eggs. If you decide you do want to get married and your partner and you both decide to have a child you at least have a better chance. Children are a lot of work but once you see your child and you bond with them there is nothing like it. Life is ever changing and it really does go by too fast so stay true to yourself! I wish you all the best in everything you do! ❤
Hi Tisha how are you happy Sunday afternoon and happy summer day and this was amazing video I enjoy your channel and you are amazing supporter
So nice to see you Tisha everything will work out I hope your baby feels better soon Tisha have you ever heard of speed dating they have one in NY I think at the Brewery it's where you go in and talk to someone for 15 minutes then move on to the next table with that you just may meet someone who is very interesting and take a friend and both of you do it if you don't feel comfortable by your self but you enjoy your days off❤❤❤
I always wanted to try it out. Maybe this is the sign ❤
Your talking part was very reassuring for me. I’m 28 and am having the same if not similar thoughts as you.