I would rather stay single for the rest of my life than "settle" for someone just for the sake of having a bf/gf/partner/spouse. Do I want someone? Yes. Do I need someone? No.
I got pissed when people said "I got married when I was your age" or "I already have several children when I was your age". Do I supposed to live your kind of life? I'd rather not.
Oh my grandma... "I was already engaged and I was working when I was your age!" Yes because you left school early and because you were a stereotypical naive woman. Don't want to be like that.
They probably gave up so much and feel miserable and stuck, so their only joy left in life is bothering other people, pressuring them to make the same mistakes they did. So we can all be miserable together..in the same miserable boat.
Me too. I just say random shit i hear on the television and from what common sense i have and tell them exactly how i feel (about their situation) they should handle whatever the fuck is the problem lol 😂😂
don't assume I'm desperate to find someone just because I'm single! I'm single BECAUSE I'm NOT desperate. The lonliest people I've ever seen, the most desperate people I've ever met, they were all in relationships.
I think my issue with people offering me relationship/life advice on the basis that I'm single is that there's an assumption there that they are more successful than me BECAUSE they're in a relationship. They may very well be more successful than me, but it has nothing to do with their relationship! Besides, just because you're in one doesn't mean you know everything about them. You may very well be single again one day.
One they didn't include that I get a lot is "You don't want to end up alone, do you?" Like, are you really scared of being single when you die? Hell even people who do find the love of their life much of the time end up dying alone: the other person dies first, the love was short-lived, etc. I guess it's sort of similar to the "you need to lower your standards". God I hate that one. I'm totally happy being single, so why would I want to settle for a relationship I know I won't be happy with? I'm not looking to "fix" anybody -- I like who I am, and I don't have any desire to try to mold another human being into the person I want them to be. Either they're someone I already like or they aren't, and if they aren't I'm not wasting my time. Also, I don't want anyone trying to "fix" me, so why would I do that to another person?
Tell me about it. When I turned 17, I just allowed them to think what they wanted to. If it makes them feel better, that I'm not dating them than so be it.
"awww, you'll find someone soon" Um, I am aromantic and asexual, why can't people understand that I AM HAPPILY SINGLE! I AM COMPLETE IN MYSELF, in fact I can't imagine anything more horrific than dating. I am as committed to being single as most people are to long term relationships, just leave me alone!
Or we just don't like it? Not speaking for all aromantics, but I'm too bored to keep up with a relationship. I don't see where being "afraid" comes into this.
Yep, I am not afraid of relationships any more than I am afraid of jigsaw puzzles, however I find them both boring and not something worth spending my time on. I appreciate others enjoy them, but I don't. From where I am standing it looks more like everyone else is terrified of being alone, and incapable of feeling complete and happy on their own. But the actual truth is that everyone is different, and that is fine, some people need relationships, some want relationships, some are happy either way, and some really and truly don't want a relationship
+Aries L How come you don't get bored with relationships of other nature, such as friendship or family relationships. Do you also get a call from your mother and say: Sorry, mom, got bored of you, bye.
@@Stick_and_stone I think in this context it's more of a joke. And some people really want to be single for life because they don't need whatever relationships can bring to them. And that is fine.
@@mojiokedara365 No one needs a relationship, but it's better to be with someone then being alone when you're strugging with loss, boredom or anything for that matter.
Yeah I had low expectations and got abused...so I think I'll keep them high. If there isnt anyone compatible with me then I would rather be single forever than allow myself to be hurt like that again. I'm not bitter, Im not broken hearted, I'm strong as fuck and smart too. Also @BBCThree you need to do with divorcees.
You know you've got to that age when you're dad has stopped saying "you can't date boys" to saying "have you not got a boyfriend yet? Or a girlfriend, you know we don't mind..." yeah like thanks dad, still single though
Kate Murphy my Mum is like 'focus on your studies not boys! Never get married!!' then when I'm 25 she'll be asking me where her grandkids are -_- I'll focus on my studies of course, me and my friends laugh about it because their parents are the same
Kate Murphy My dad is kinda on the fence about what he wants to say to my sister and I, my mom on the other hand. She was adamant that we should be at least 16 before we started dating, that we shouldn't have sex young like she did, blah, blah, blah. My sister is only 23 now and my mom has decided that she's probably never going to have grandchildren because we don't date enough. Parents are so weird.
😄 when all you can do is stop cringing outwardly because your mom and dad are asking if you're not trying to "just hook up" with somebody, like geez please tell me you're NOT thinking about THAT!!! 😵 Topic of NONEYA
It's such a silly idea that single people MUST be bummed out by Valentine's day. Of course some will be, and that's fine, but it really can just be about spending time with someone you love! I had a lovely Valentine's with one of my closest friends when I was single :)
fizzbangwhizzpop It's about being conned in to believing you have to shower woman with gifts and expensive luxuries in order to keep her happy. If you're bummed out because you're desperate for human contact because of one day they need to get a grip lol
I was bummed out by Valentine's day because of the "pressure" society puts on people. I'm not a romantic person AT ALL and I don't like to have to do and buy stuff because everyone is doing it. Only time I was mildly excited about is was with my first boyfriend and then he went on to buy me a block of clay...
fizzbangwhizzpop I spend most Valentine's Days alone, I'm not that old but still, I've always loved it. I just have this thing about holidays, and seeing all the love and happiness is enough for me. And yet every year someone goes, oh that's too bad, I'm sorry you're going to be alone.
Nothing insults me more than the "lower your expectations" one. Why? Are you feeling preemptively rejected or something? Your lack of self-confidence is your problem not mine. I won't be sad and pathetic with someone I can't stand just to stroke your ego.
Can somebody bring me back to the age of around eight when nobody pressured me into having a girlfriend, heck girls were gross back then, why all of a sudden now I'm in the puberty years do you expect me to be with somebody? And why am I uncool if I'm not?
I'm not single but I can tell you that it's good not to be desperate to be with somebody. Just let it come naturally. I hate the idea of dating sites because they're so serious and people have expectations on there. I found my boyfriend on an MMORPG!
Look at it this way. It's YOUR life, not theirs...Do what you want with it. Love, will come to you eventually...Right now, I'm just interested in trying to get more money. Love can wait another day. lmao
shiverfawkes Over the last 10 months you've gotten lovely advice and support so I'm just here to answer your question. The reason that your peers think you need to be dating is because they are trying to be adults. All of some people's teen years are spent attempting to act like someone older, it's silly but that's what it is. Also, as far as being cool, I haven't been that since people still brought backup clothes in case of "accidents" so I can only give you a guess. I suppose the reason you are uncool if you don't date is because your friends are intimidated by someone comfortable with acting their age so they have to cut you down by calling you uncool. Well that's all I've got for you. Have a good day, a wonderful life, and always do what feels right for you. 🤗
Pros of being single 1. Not sharing food w/ someone 2. The couch is all mine 3. Basically just not having to share sh*t w/ someone 'cause I don't want to
I'm 18 and being in a relationship where I live is seen to be a bit like "wtf, why you wasting your time when you could be chatting to all these fit people on nights out" #singlelife
"Valentine's day must be miserable for you." Hahaha! CANDY IS 50% OFF!!!! I'mma get snacks and watch a shit ton of movies with my cats. Also, I won't ever sleep around. I'm asexual! 😂
One thing they left out is people assuming that because you are single you have no life, so they think that you are always available to do favors for them--ESPECIALLY babysitting for some reason. I really believe they have told themselves they're "helping you" in some way,( I guess it's because they think you're dying of loneliness?),but they're actually helping themselves because you're doing favors for them. Then if you say no to them, they really have the attitude of "How dare you say no because what have you got to do that's better!?" Just because I'm single does not mean that I want to chase your children around my house all day. No. That's YOUR job.
Why do people assume that if you don't have an significant other, your whole life is sad? Significant others aren't your whole life. There's a WHOLE lot more to life than that. You know what, they probably think that because ever since they got a gf or bf that's all they ever think about or pay attention to. They lose their personality. Mhm yeah you know who you are.
Things I love to do: Read, take naps, fix tasty meals with my high-end cookware, shop on Amazon, webcam with young Indian men, then read half the night. Things I hate: nagging, arguments, criticism, complaints, money going towards cheating/loans to friends, HOLIDAYS, and #1 HOUSEGUESTS. (When he cheats, it's always with a young dum-dum. And she always CALLS YOU to tell you off! Yeeech!)
"Sweetie, you'd be a beautiful housewife. Why don't I set you up with one of the nice boys at church. If you like him, you could be married and pregnant by this time next year!" -My grandma, 1 year ago. I ain't pregnant and im still happily single.
Actually as a single girl myself, I would appreciate it if one of my friends would set me up with someone nice, but no one offers, and yes, Valentine's is sad, and yes I do get lonely, but at the same time I'm independent and get to avoid all the drama and heartbreak
yup...it has its pros and its cons. I'm single but there's nothing to stop me from going out for a meal with my mates or have a film night in and we get pizza. And I don't need a man to buy me chocolates when I have my own income :) It can be nice to have someone to slob with on a Sunday, but it's not the be all and end all to have a bf or husband :)
Oh yeah, same concept happened to me but with Netflix and chill. I thought it was literally chilling at someone's place watching Netflix but I found out (in a CZcams comments section of all places) that it meant having sex.
"You need to lower your expectations" Why? So you can be with someone who drives you crazy simply for the sake of having someone? I mean, if you have unrealistic expectations like, "I'll only choose someone who's Scarlett Johansson" then yeah, lower them a bit. But there's nothing wrong with having standards.
I'd love to see one of people on people who aren't married and don't plan on being married and have committed to their partner for life. People who are perfectly comfortable staying with their partner without getting married. I mean you hear awful stuff. "Is there something wrong with you/them?" "Oh you/they are afraid of commitment" "they must not really love you if they won't marry you" "don't you care your kids a bastard?" "Well of course they won't marry you, why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free".
My time as a single woman was amazing. Sure, I did occasionally miss loving cuddles, but that was a negligible side effect. I had all my freedom, my time was my own and it really helped me define my true identity and personality, what I really thought and wanted rather than what others expected or assumed. I'm engaged now but I know that being happy with being single helped me to NOT "settle" or make compromises just so that I wouldn't be "alone". I'm a hopeless romantic but I truly believe everyone should learn to be happy as a single person before even considering a relationship with anyone else, and for some people being single is just the more natural state! It's all good as long as you're serene and happy.
I'm Near 30 (27th Oct), virgin and single...... IDGAF!! Why should you be proud to be a virgin you ask?? That means you're not easy! You've bag-loads of self-respect!
I had a wedding I had to go to last Saturday and Sunday. On those weddings there were no less than three people who just came up to me, put a hand on my shoulder and said, "Your time will come." And for the life of me I thought they meant my time to die and I remember thinking, "Well that's just rude." It occurred to me later that they meant my time to marry but that's like basically the same thing 🤷🏽♀️
The worst thing about being gay to me are my friends. They are mostly like: "WE HAVE TO HOOK YOU UP WITH SOMEONE. I KNOW THIS GUY, HE'S GAY AS WELL.", as it turns out, this guy is feminine. No, sorry, there's a specific reason why I'm gay, I love masculine characteristics.
***** Well, I am not. I know that people are different and we can be attracted to lots of different stuff, but I love biological male characteristics, thus why I am gay.
Waldemar Konstantin Snow how would you know thOugh if someones camp you assume they are gay but if they are not you assumevthey are straight, there are a lot of fem yeah but people always fail to see the others
Idk about you guys but ive hated always being told "you just havent met THE ONE yet" ...like, i don't believe there's a destined person for all of us, and some people CHOOSE to be single their whole lives. Being in a relationship is a big responsibility, and personally i don't think i'm ever gonna be prepared to be in one.
It's like when you get to the end of a fairy tale story and it says, "And they all lived happily ever after" after the Prince and Princess get married. Look, you can live happily ever after WITHOUT having to find your Prince or Princess. It's so ingrained in society for us to grow up, get married and have kids that people can't handle the fact that I'm single because I WANT TO BE. And I also want to add, everybody I went to school with, all now have children of their own and are struggling because they're in their early 20s working in a minimum wage job with mouths to feed and bills to pay. I'm just not ready for kids right now, and staying single is helping a lot with that! xD I'm also a hardcore introvert. Being in a relationship would just be a chore.
EXACTLY 👏👏👏 All I aspire for is a decent career, nice apartment/small house, a cat and the freedom to travel the world and do what I want to do on my own terms. Like you, I'm also an introvert, and I wouldn't have the energy nor the willingness to commit to a relationship. My happily ever after would be having freedom, and marriage & kids is exact opposite of that.
OMG, I used to cop so much of this. And the anger from people when you don't want to date them, have sex with them or be their partner is just hilarious. When I decided that I wanted a partner, I went and got myself one and he is not one of the ones that got angry with me back when I didn't want anything more than a FWB lol. I don't regret the time I spent single and I don't regret the time I have with my partner. I was definitely not going to drop my standards to be with a drop kick lol.
damprye gothica I don't understand why people get angry when you politely reject them. It's as if they think it's a given that you should date them, just because you're single and they're interested.
Being single doesn't make me unhappy, but my environment does. My sister said about someone else "Well he is 30 and still single so there must be something wrong with him". I'm 28 and I just looked at her for a minute but I guess it didn't click that she is also offending me with her comments. You'd think that a psychologist would be more open-minded but I guess educated or not, many women do feel superior than others because they have a hubby and kiddos. I mean it is an accomplishment of course, but does it give you the right to judge others and tell them that there's something wrong with them? Who made you the judge and the jury? What if your husband divorces you, does that mean you're worthless? After meetings with her I feel down and unhappy even when I had no problems with my status before. The one good thing is that my parents have grandchildren thanks to her so I'm off the hook on that one.
A while after I broke up with my 3rd gf, my aunt rudely asked my mom "Is Jason... gay?" She thought that because I didn't have a girlfriend afterwards for a while. Excuse me for taking time off from dating AND being too off-kilter for the majority of women's interests. Now... what if I preferred being single? Still illogically make me gay?
I actually wish someone would try to set me up with someone. I'm 20 and have never fallen in love, no one has ever shown interest in me either and I just want someone to cuddle with.
The real questions “Why are you so uncomfortable with me being single?” IM DEAD Oml I need to ask this to all of my friends that question why I’m single
Lol when I was single, my friend was like oh dude let me set you up with my coworker shes great. Nine months later, I'm celebrating my first valentines day as someone in a relationship. I mean if they're just setting you up with any random joe blow then yeah that's stupid but I don't see what is wrong with being like hey I think you would be compatible with someone I know, especially if you're not very social
I'm single by choice because I feel tied down in a relationship and it feels like too much of a commitment. When I'm single I'm happiest and that's okay ☺️
The one comment I used to hear a lot when I was single and unattached was at weddings "you're next". Then I met somebody and got married so now I have the upper hand.
"if you were able to hold a boyfriend, valentines day wouldn't be so bad." "My boyfriend has a brother." "my girlfriend has a sister." "You should meet my friend." "Are you picky?"
I just hate that people assume that you want a relationship because you're single. I have been single for 3 years and I'm very happy about it. I have so much time for myself and I enjoy every moment of it at the moment.
I remember my students once asked if I had a husband. I told them no. "Oh 😃 Do you have a wife?" Love how they were cool with the idea of me being gay 😹 Sadly, I don't have one of those either. It always blows a little kid's mind when you're a single adult 😏
I would rather stay single for the rest of my life than "settle" for someone just for the sake of having a bf/gf/partner/spouse. Do I want someone? Yes. Do I need someone? No.
That was very well said.
So true!
Wise words.
@Orange Blossom and there's nothing wrong with that, I'm the same
mme.lolabelle exactly! It's about time people realised this.
I got pissed when people said "I got married when I was your age" or "I already have several children when I was your age". Do I supposed to live your kind of life? I'd rather not.
My Mum and Dad were on kid number 2 by my age, but that was the norm 30+ years ago. It doesn't really equate these days.
Oh my grandma... "I was already engaged and I was working when I was your age!" Yes because you left school early and because you were a stereotypical naive woman. Don't want to be like that.
Yeah life isn't a linear progression. You're not on a schedule
They were more broke at your age, they gave up more freedom at your age, oh oops did they forget to mention those bits??
They probably gave up so much and feel miserable and stuck, so their only joy left in life is bothering other people, pressuring them to make the same mistakes they did. So we can all be miserable together..in the same miserable boat.
aren't most people single tho
marriage is in decline. its a good and a bad thing.
you can still be single and have sex with people.
It's moreso if you have friends or people around who aren't single and try to f o r c e you to date. Like stop pls.
Jasmine Johnson Well hey
Jasmine Johnson yup yup
"I'm just trying to eliminate the weak ones" PREACH, GIRL
Yes!
Indeedo!
Leave Mike from accounts out of this, he's a good guy.
His suit is quite nice actually...
Yeah what did Mike ever do to them? He's such a great guy.
Mark, not mike
Nick H She said Mark 😂😂 that's how unloved Mike is...Oops sorry I meant Mark
😂 I love Mark from accounts.
Never had a s/o,
yet im always the friend anyone comes to for relation ship advice or if something goes wrong.
same and top |-/
Me too. I just say random shit i hear on the television and from what common sense i have and tell them exactly how i feel (about their situation) they should handle whatever the fuck is the problem lol 😂😂
Migraine lmao same
sameee😂
Migraine same!
don't assume I'm desperate to find someone just because I'm single! I'm single BECAUSE I'm NOT desperate. The lonliest people I've ever seen, the most desperate people I've ever met, they were all in relationships.
This.
"I'm single BECAUSE I'm NOT desperate."
SO TRUE
"I can't get any lower I'm nearly
touching the floor" had me dying 😂😂😂
Aaliyah Sims fr I’m dead😂😂😂
I will never lower expectations for anyone
I like what the gay guy said about lowering his expectations,that he is already touching the floor LMAO.
"Who broke your heart?"
**looks directly into the camera**
"Heavy metal broke my **slams hand on table twice** HEART!"
Andrew YOU WILL REMEMBER MEEEE, REMEMBER MEE FOR CENTURIEEES
Ahhhohhhahhhaaaa
I think my issue with people offering me relationship/life advice on the basis that I'm single is that there's an assumption there that they are more successful than me BECAUSE they're in a relationship. They may very well be more successful than me, but it has nothing to do with their relationship! Besides, just because you're in one doesn't mean you know everything about them. You may very well be single again one day.
I would like to see a video on "Things not to say to people with depression"
and things like "oh its just a phase/implying you can control it"
Oh, yes please!
"You need to get out"
"Your life isn't even that bad"
"You seem fine to me"
"You're in charge of your emotions"
"cheer up"
"Happiness is a choice"
One they didn't include that I get a lot is "You don't want to end up alone, do you?" Like, are you really scared of being single when you die? Hell even people who do find the love of their life much of the time end up dying alone: the other person dies first, the love was short-lived, etc. I guess it's sort of similar to the "you need to lower your standards". God I hate that one. I'm totally happy being single, so why would I want to settle for a relationship I know I won't be happy with? I'm not looking to "fix" anybody -- I like who I am, and I don't have any desire to try to mold another human being into the person I want them to be. Either they're someone I already like or they aren't, and if they aren't I'm not wasting my time. Also, I don't want anyone trying to "fix" me, so why would I do that to another person?
every lady in this video has such awesome hair
RIGHT?!! so pretty!!
I'm single and trying to figure out how to be an adult, how would I have the time and mental capacity for something like a relationship
ThechosenMeike ...it work...if the person you get with is still chilled out mentally
lol same
ThechosenMeike Same!!
Amen to that.
You do you boo 😘✌ people are always getting involved in others business, just ask them why are you so nosy??? None ya! Lol
*Things Not To Say To A Virgin* :-)
are these offers? :-D
I'm a virgin...!!!
Don't you want kids...
the loveable muslim weirdo I can't believe u never had six in your life ?!
do u hat guys that's why u still a virgin?
Hanna Moha ...I'm a guy...and I'm a virgin by choice ☺
Me single and never dated, kissed, or hold hands with a guy:
People: Ohh so you're lesbian?
WTF?!
Kpop_ kdrama and anime 4Life Yaoi 😂😂😂
Yeah people said that to me. They were like "but you don't date boys..." And I'm like "yeah well I don't date girls either so that makes no sense"
My life
You’ve either dated/date a girl, or you’re gay. Some people’s minds are fascinating
Tell me about it. When I turned 17, I just allowed them to think what they wanted to.
If it makes them feel better, that I'm not dating them than so be it.
"awww, you'll find someone soon"
Um, I am aromantic and asexual, why can't people understand that I AM HAPPILY SINGLE! I AM COMPLETE IN MYSELF, in fact I can't imagine anything more horrific than dating. I am as committed to being single as most people are to long term relationships, just leave me alone!
Susan Williams My thoughts exactly!!
It's called being afraid of commitment.
Or we just don't like it? Not speaking for all aromantics, but I'm too bored to keep up with a relationship. I don't see where being "afraid" comes into this.
Yep, I am not afraid of relationships any more than I am afraid of jigsaw puzzles, however I find them both boring and not something worth spending my time on. I appreciate others enjoy them, but I don't.
From where I am standing it looks more like everyone else is terrified of being alone, and incapable of feeling complete and happy on their own. But the actual truth is that everyone is different, and that is fine, some people need relationships, some want relationships, some are happy either way, and some really and truly don't want a relationship
+Aries L
How come you don't get bored with relationships of other nature, such as friendship or family relationships. Do you also get a call from your mother and say: Sorry, mom, got bored of you, bye.
I shut down anyone who tries to give me grief about being single. I love myself and I have the love of community, and that's all I need!
I love the girl with the long crimped looking hair, she's so pretty!
Panini Chowder No she isn't..
Panini Chowder She's beautiful, and someone who feels the need to put someone down on youtube is ugly on the inside.
Panini Chowder imagine urself spending years to love urself to have a nasty troll ruin it words do hurt 🙄
Panini Chowder and i hope u do begin to love urself and accept urself but bringing others down is not going to help
Panini Chowder good.
*“Or because im brown and there brown it doesn’t work all the time”*
Why am I laughing so hard at this #singleforlife
Why would you be single for life? Don't care if this is offensive I have to know.
@@Stick_and_stone I think in this context it's more of a joke. And some people really want to be single for life because they don't need whatever relationships can bring to them. And that is fine.
@@mojiokedara365 No one needs a relationship, but it's better to be with someone then being alone when you're strugging with loss, boredom or anything for that matter.
*their
@@TheNon91 they're*
Yeah I had low expectations and got abused...so I think I'll keep them high. If there isnt anyone compatible with me then I would rather be single forever than allow myself to be hurt like that again. I'm not bitter, Im not broken hearted, I'm strong as fuck and smart too. Also @BBCThree you need to do with divorcees.
Fierce Fatties I'm strong as fuQ BOI
I was also abused when I lowered my expectations. Not always great advice....
Same here! We love ourselves! We are freaking strong cuz we are survivors and we're damn proud of that
You know you've got to that age when you're dad has stopped saying "you can't date boys" to saying "have you not got a boyfriend yet? Or a girlfriend, you know we don't mind..." yeah like thanks dad, still single though
Kate Murphy my Mum is like 'focus on your studies not boys! Never get married!!' then when I'm 25 she'll be asking me where her grandkids are -_- I'll focus on my studies of course, me and my friends laugh about it because their parents are the same
Kate Murphy My dad is kinda on the fence about what he wants to say to my sister and I, my mom on the other hand. She was adamant that we should be at least 16 before we started dating, that we shouldn't have sex young like she did, blah, blah, blah. My sister is only 23 now and my mom has decided that she's probably never going to have grandchildren because we don't date enough. Parents are so weird.
Fictional Chaos In China it's the same. Like don't you realize it sounds funny?
My dad still doesn't want me to have a boyfriend but he says he'd be supportive of a girlfriend lmao (I'm female)
😄 when all you can do is stop cringing outwardly because your mom and dad are asking if you're not trying to "just hook up" with somebody, like geez please tell me you're NOT thinking about THAT!!! 😵 Topic of NONEYA
Love how this video was uploaded on Valentines Day 😂😂💔 #singleladies
Richard Phillips well judging by you're comment, Richard, you sound like a child and don't understand Valentine's Day.
It's such a silly idea that single people MUST be bummed out by Valentine's day. Of course some will be, and that's fine, but it really can just be about spending time with someone you love! I had a lovely Valentine's with one of my closest friends when I was single :)
fizzbangwhizzpop It's about being conned in to believing you have to shower woman with gifts and expensive luxuries in order to keep her happy. If you're bummed out because you're desperate for human contact because of one day they need to get a grip lol
I was bummed out by Valentine's day because of the "pressure" society puts on people. I'm not a romantic person AT ALL and I don't like to have to do and buy stuff because everyone is doing it.
Only time I was mildly excited about is was with my first boyfriend and then he went on to buy me a block of clay...
My mum and I would spend valentines together :)
At the moment she has a partner, but still, she doesn't forget to do something with me.
Are you dating them now?
fizzbangwhizzpop I spend most Valentine's Days alone, I'm not that old but still, I've always loved it. I just have this thing about holidays, and seeing all the love and happiness is enough for me. And yet every year someone goes, oh that's too bad, I'm sorry you're going to be alone.
Nothing insults me more than the "lower your expectations" one. Why? Are you feeling preemptively rejected or something? Your lack of self-confidence is your problem not mine. I won't be sad and pathetic with someone I can't stand just to stroke your ego.
Can somebody bring me back to the age of around eight when nobody pressured me into having a girlfriend, heck girls were gross back then, why all of a sudden now I'm in the puberty years do you expect me to be with somebody? And why am I uncool if I'm not?
I'm not single but I can tell you that it's good not to be desperate to be with somebody. Just let it come naturally. I hate the idea of dating sites because they're so serious and people have expectations on there. I found my boyfriend on an MMORPG!
Look at it this way. It's YOUR life, not theirs...Do what you want with it. Love, will come to you eventually...Right now, I'm just interested in trying to get more money. Love can wait another day. lmao
shiverfawkes I know right! Those were the good old days
Ikr? 15 and never had a boyfriend. Perfectly okay.
shiverfawkes Over the last 10 months you've gotten lovely advice and support so I'm just here to answer your question. The reason that your peers think you need to be dating is because they are trying to be adults. All of some people's teen years are spent attempting to act like someone older, it's silly but that's what it is. Also, as far as being cool, I haven't been that since people still brought backup clothes in case of "accidents" so I can only give you a guess. I suppose the reason you are uncool if you don't date is because your friends are intimidated by someone comfortable with acting their age so they have to cut you down by calling you uncool.
Well that's all I've got for you. Have a good day, a wonderful life, and always do what feels right for you. 🤗
If somebody says "what's wrong with you?" you could reply with, "nothing, it's everybody else." Only use this if they have a sense of humour.
Pros of being single
1. Not sharing food w/ someone
2. The couch is all mine
3. Basically just not having to share sh*t w/ someone 'cause I don't want to
And wonderful oh so wonderful PEACE!
I'm 18 and being in a relationship where I live is seen to be a bit like "wtf, why you wasting your time when you could be chatting to all these fit people on nights out" #singlelife
"Valentine's day must be miserable for you." Hahaha! CANDY IS 50% OFF!!!! I'mma get snacks and watch a shit ton of movies with my cats. Also, I won't ever sleep around. I'm asexual! 😂
YES! I'm ace too and I totally relate
Yay for asexuals! I'm happy watching horror movies with my hamster.
One thing they left out is people assuming that because you are single you have no life, so they think that you are always available to do favors for them--ESPECIALLY babysitting for some reason. I really believe they have told themselves they're "helping you" in some way,( I guess it's because they think you're dying of loneliness?),but they're actually helping themselves because you're doing favors for them.
Then if you say no to them, they really have the attitude of "How dare you say no because what have you got to do that's better!?"
Just because I'm single does not mean that I want to chase your children around my house all day. No. That's YOUR job.
Just tell them if they ask "Yeah, I do have something better to do, actually. Only a career, and whatever else I want to do."
I hate being single, but that's no reason to compromise your values
Yeah! Or you're standards of attractiveness!
"You don't have a boyfriend yet? Why?" I hate that one!
Why do people assume that if you don't have an significant other, your whole life is sad? Significant others aren't your whole life. There's a WHOLE lot more to life than that. You know what, they probably think that because ever since they got a gf or bf that's all they ever think about or pay attention to. They lose their personality. Mhm yeah you know who you are.
Things I love to do: Read, take naps, fix tasty meals with my high-end cookware, shop on Amazon, webcam with young Indian men, then read half the night. Things I hate: nagging, arguments, criticism, complaints, money going towards cheating/loans to friends, HOLIDAYS, and #1 HOUSEGUESTS. (When he cheats, it's always with a young dum-dum. And she always CALLS YOU to tell you off! Yeeech!)
But in front of you, they act like wanna be feminists. 🙄
People who have a problem with singles are empty and just can't imagine being complete on their own
I seriously respect the girl in the dark purple shirt
She's got agency. She knows what she wants. Thumbs up.
I always get "are you married?" "no." "do you have a boyfriend?" "nope." "why???" I mean, why do I have to? 🤔
I've been single all my life yet I am happier than all my friends who are in relationship
"Sweetie, you'd be a beautiful housewife. Why don't I set you up with one of the nice boys at church. If you like him, you could be married and pregnant by this time next year!" -My grandma, 1 year ago.
I ain't pregnant and im still happily single.
Oh my gosh. That's such a messed up thing to say. I know how you feel though, my gran is determined for me to date and have like 12 kids
Actually as a single girl myself, I would appreciate it if one of my friends would set me up with someone nice, but no one offers, and yes, Valentine's is sad, and yes I do get lonely, but at the same time I'm independent and get to avoid all the drama and heartbreak
yup...it has its pros and its cons. I'm single but there's nothing to stop me from going out for a meal with my mates or have a film night in and we get pizza. And I don't need a man to buy me chocolates when I have my own income :) It can be nice to have someone to slob with on a Sunday, but it's not the be all and end all to have a bf or husband :)
Me too. I would love to have someone intimate but before I find someone truly compatible, I'm fine to wait
Yeah! Some of us would LOVE someone to set us up with someone nice!
I sometime wish one of my friends would try to help me out. So then I can enjoy going out on double dates and such. Lol, I hear ya
I actually thought sleeping around means literally sleeping in the bed. but it means having sex. my mind is too innocent
Snow Pearl loool I thought that too but had to think it again
Snow Pearl I hibernate
Oh yeah, same concept happened to me but with Netflix and chill. I thought it was literally chilling at someone's place watching Netflix but I found out (in a CZcams comments section of all places) that it meant having sex.
Same.
@@this_username_is_taken7004 I didn't know that it meant that,are you sure?
I'm single and have been for years, it's awesome 🤗 you do what you want to do when you want to do it.
THE GIRL WITH THE LONG HAIR IS SO GORGEOUS F U C K
IVE GOT THE BIGGEST CRUSH ON HER IM SO GAY
Which one?
"You need to lower your expectations"
Why? So you can be with someone who drives you crazy simply for the sake of having someone? I mean, if you have unrealistic expectations like, "I'll only choose someone who's Scarlett Johansson" then yeah, lower them a bit. But there's nothing wrong with having standards.
NO such damn thing as being "too" picky either! 😀
I wanna grow to be 40, single, live with a cat and have a pool/trampoline/swing set and game system. That cat and me being single are non negotiable.
You should do 'Things People With OCD Are Tired Of Hearing'!
Rugs Rule they did one and it was very nice, you should go watch it ^^
It's a very universal thing to be single.
"Don't you get lonely?" Uhhh no.......
that's what cats are for😂
I'd love to see one of people on people who aren't married and don't plan on being married and have committed to their partner for life. People who are perfectly comfortable staying with their partner without getting married. I mean you hear awful stuff. "Is there something wrong with you/them?" "Oh you/they are afraid of commitment" "they must not really love you if they won't marry you" "don't you care your kids a bastard?" "Well of course they won't marry you, why buy the cow when you're getting the milk for free".
“Lower your expectations”
Excuse me?
I'd rather be alone than have that shit on my sofa 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
‘Look at his shit Burton suit’ 😂😂
people don't even try to set me up with someone . :)
Saad Hassan ..I'm sure your parents have
ok same
Same here, Saad Hassan, same here.
@@abdullahb3870 my parents actually don't, they're happy for me. It's just a few friends and my gran
My time as a single woman was amazing. Sure, I did occasionally miss loving cuddles, but that was a negligible side effect. I had all my freedom, my time was my own and it really helped me define my true identity and personality, what I really thought and wanted rather than what others expected or assumed. I'm engaged now but I know that being happy with being single helped me to NOT "settle" or make compromises just so that I wouldn't be "alone". I'm a hopeless romantic but I truly believe everyone should learn to be happy as a single person before even considering a relationship with anyone else, and for some people being single is just the more natural state! It's all good as long as you're serene and happy.
"You need to lower your expectations"
"Can't get any lower- I'm nearly touching the floor"
Fat mood
you need to lower your expectations
*"can't get any lower, i'm nearly touching the floor"* 😂😂😂
Things not to say to a shy person or someone with social anxiety.
I'm Near 30 (27th Oct), virgin and single......
IDGAF!!
Why should you be proud to be a virgin you ask??
That means you're not easy! You've bag-loads of self-respect!
God Bless! You should be happy being single and a virgin. It really does show how much respect you have and how much you love yourself.
I had a wedding I had to go to last Saturday and Sunday. On those weddings there were no less than three people who just came up to me, put a hand on my shoulder and said, "Your time will come."
And for the life of me I thought they meant my time to die and I remember thinking, "Well that's just rude."
It occurred to me later that they meant my time to marry but that's like basically the same thing 🤷🏽♀️
You should also do 'what not to say to people with partners in different countries'
1. Less drama.
2. No abuse.
3. No one controlling you.
4. You can have sex with who you like when you like and you don't have to share anything.
Jazzy J Wow, who hurt you?
Erin Miller Everyone that I’ve ever dated or entered a relationship with.
A happy single person makes smug marrieds uncomfortable, and I love it!
“i can’t get any lower i’m nearly touching the floor” 😂😂😭😭😭💔
The worst thing about being gay to me are my friends. They are mostly like: "WE HAVE TO HOOK YOU UP WITH SOMEONE. I KNOW THIS GUY, HE'S GAY AS WELL.", as it turns out, this guy is feminine. No, sorry, there's a specific reason why I'm gay, I love masculine characteristics.
Steve Abnormal Rogers you can be gay and still be into feminine characteristics
***** Well, I am not. I know that people are different and we can be attracted to lots of different stuff, but I love biological male characteristics, thus why I am gay.
There is not many homosexuals who are masculine though.
Waldemar Konstantin Snow
how would you know thOugh if someones camp you assume they are gay but if they are not you assumevthey are straight, there are a lot of fem yeah but people always fail to see the others
High pitched voices, perfect nails, makeup etc. It's not hard to hunt a homosexual I mean find one
Idk about you guys but ive hated always being told "you just havent met THE ONE yet" ...like, i don't believe there's a destined person for all of us, and some people CHOOSE to be single their whole lives. Being in a relationship is a big responsibility, and personally i don't think i'm ever gonna be prepared to be in one.
"You need to lower your expectations" noooo god no😒😒😒🤦♀️
I don't need help XD I've got set up and I'm just like=I DONT NEED A BOYFRIEND OR GIRLFRIEND IM NOT INTERESTED IN DATING PEOPLE
I'M SINGLE AND I FKING LOVE IT❤
#PROUDSINGLE
“You need to lower your expectation”
“Can’t get any lower I am touching the floor”
🤣🤣🤣🤣
It's like when you get to the end of a fairy tale story and it says, "And they all lived happily ever after" after the Prince and Princess get married. Look, you can live happily ever after WITHOUT having to find your Prince or Princess. It's so ingrained in society for us to grow up, get married and have kids that people can't handle the fact that I'm single because I WANT TO BE.
And I also want to add, everybody I went to school with, all now have children of their own and are struggling because they're in their early 20s working in a minimum wage job with mouths to feed and bills to pay. I'm just not ready for kids right now, and staying single is helping a lot with that! xD I'm also a hardcore introvert. Being in a relationship would just be a chore.
EXACTLY 👏👏👏
All I aspire for is a decent career, nice apartment/small house, a cat and the freedom to travel the world and do what I want to do on my own terms. Like you, I'm also an introvert, and I wouldn't have the energy nor the willingness to commit to a relationship. My happily ever after would be having freedom, and marriage & kids is exact opposite of that.
I feel weird being single in my 20s. Never been in a relationship. Have a fear of rejection, anyone else been through this?
OMG, I used to cop so much of this. And the anger from people when you don't want to date them, have sex with them or be their partner is just hilarious. When I decided that I wanted a partner, I went and got myself one and he is not one of the ones that got angry with me back when I didn't want anything more than a FWB lol. I don't regret the time I spent single and I don't regret the time I have with my partner. I was definitely not going to drop my standards to be with a drop kick lol.
damprye gothica I don't understand why people get angry when you politely reject them. It's as if they think it's a given that you should date them, just because you're single and they're interested.
Being single doesn't make me unhappy, but my environment does. My sister said about someone else "Well he is 30 and still single so there must be something wrong with him". I'm 28 and I just looked at her for a minute but I guess it didn't click that she is also offending me with her comments. You'd think that a psychologist would be more open-minded but I guess educated or not, many women do feel superior than others because they have a hubby and kiddos. I mean it is an accomplishment of course, but does it give you the right to judge others and tell them that there's something wrong with them? Who made you the judge and the jury? What if your husband divorces you, does that mean you're worthless? After meetings with her I feel down and unhappy even when I had no problems with my status before. The one good thing is that my parents have grandchildren thanks to her so I'm off the hook on that one.
Single people are the most chill people ever
sans drama
“You need to lower your expectations”
“Like you did, Janet?
single and ready to *talk about my depression and my addiction to DANK MEMES*
A while after I broke up with my 3rd gf, my aunt rudely asked my mom "Is Jason... gay?" She thought that because I didn't have a girlfriend afterwards for a while. Excuse me for taking time off from dating AND being too off-kilter for the majority of women's interests. Now... what if I preferred being single? Still illogically make me gay?
Valentines Day isn't miserable for me because its meh birthday 😛
I think YOU just won Valentine's day!!
I actually wish someone would try to set me up with someone. I'm 20 and have never fallen in love, no one has ever shown interest in me either and I just want someone to cuddle with.
“I should set you up with someone” Bish it better be someone who has donated to charity at least 4 times or I ain’t interested. I’m also a pansexual.
*you need to lower your expectations*
“Can’t get any lower, I’m nearly touching the floor..”
I DIED😂
okay but things not to say to an asexual person
people say this is why im single but asexuality is so not the reason
Tii Ruff what does that mean?
They should make one, omg I know someone who's so perfectly awesome who is and he hears so much shit from weird people trying to "fix" him
Yes!
The real questions
“Why are you so uncomfortable with me being single?”
IM DEAD Oml I need to ask this to all of my friends that question why I’m single
Lol when I was single, my friend was like oh dude let me set you up with my coworker shes great. Nine months later, I'm celebrating my first valentines day as someone in a relationship. I mean if they're just setting you up with any random joe blow then yeah that's stupid but I don't see what is wrong with being like hey I think you would be compatible with someone I know, especially if you're not very social
Yeah there's a difference between a good-hearted setting up and setting up for the sake of single tho
They've got such a good positive vibe about it. Got to get me some of that attitude 🙌🏻
can you do one about people who are in between genders such as gender fluid/agender/bigender and such?
"Oh, don't worry, you are going to find someone for you... *eventually* "
I'm single by choice because I feel tied down in a relationship and it feels like too much of a commitment. When I'm single I'm happiest and that's okay ☺️
The one comment I used to hear a lot when I was single and unattached was at weddings "you're next". Then I met somebody and got married so now I have the upper hand.
"if you were able to hold a boyfriend, valentines day wouldn't be so bad." "My boyfriend has a brother." "my girlfriend has a sister." "You should meet my friend." "Are you picky?"
The worst line is ‘you must be doing something wrong’ ref. seeking a partner but daring not going to plan
Im single and Valentine's day isn't miserable for me because it's my birthday!
I just hate that people assume that you want a relationship because you're single. I have been single for 3 years and I'm very happy about it. I have so much time for myself and I enjoy every moment of it at the moment.
I agree with you about valentines day! I never carried about it when I was single and now I'm engaged we still don't do it! Its a scam!
I remember my students once asked if I had a husband. I told them no.
"Oh 😃 Do you have a wife?"
Love how they were cool with the idea of me being gay 😹 Sadly, I don't have one of those either.
It always blows a little kid's mind when you're a single adult 😏
I'm 37 and still unkissed and a virgin and i totally agree with what they said
"I'm eliminating the weak ones" lol me!
next "Things not to say to virgins"
Uggh I get this all the time:
-Why are you single?
-I just haven't found the right person
-Are you sure it's not because you're too intense?
😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑