The best way to accept a compliment: how to not feel awkward and embarrassed
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For some folks, it's harder to accept a compliment than criticism. In this episode, I'll discuss a trick I use to receive compliments without embarrassment or vanity. Basically, I flexibly shift my perspective to join with the complimenter in appreciation of whatever is being complimented. By doing so, I can share in the experience of appreciation without being a passive receptacle for praise. And this is important because receiving a compliment well can be a gift to the complimenter.
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I've noticed the kindness and thoughtfulness you exhibit when replying to the many complimentary comments below your videos; always sincere and appreciative. You're an excellent role model on how to respond to a compliment! 💕
Thanks, Linda. I'm doing my best!
Look! He's doing it again!
Doc! This is brilliant. I have always accepted compliments with a sincere “thank you”. Since your video, I began implementing your ideas and the results are really cool. Me elaborating on the compliment opens a dialogue a bit more.
Excellent! Glad to hear that it's helping you.
I just say "Thank you very much. I really appreciate it". And smile.
Thanks for making the distinction between flattery and sincerity. I’ll work on flexibility of perspective!
Thanks for watching, Dena. Keep coming back!
Thank you for this video. I was recently complimented on my physique, someone saying that I don't look like someone who have 3 kids. I accepted the compliment as I've been working out and eating healthy. Normally, I would brush compliments off
I have made a point of referencing compliments. I'm a little indifferent to praise but I like it okay so it made sense to me that I should give praise right back. I don't want to devalue anyone especially those that are praising me
I really love the way you explained this! It definitely makes it less uncomfortable to receive a compliment. Thank you!
I'm glad you found it useful :)
This is a super important topic that is seldom addressed. I've mostly received criticism throughout my life, so they are easier to handle since I have practiced receiving them and I'm pretty good at being critical at myself. I am ill-equipped however at receiving compliments, so I usually dismiss them, don't believe them and sometimes, do not actually hear the message. This scratches the surface and is helpful, but I feel I could read an entire book on the subject, if you were to write one, so I can rehabilitate myself on this behavior. Thank you so much for posting this content.
Wow, you say it so natural - as I also believe it should be - "... if you have any grace, you open the gift and show some gratitude"... etc... There is a parenting style that wont teach kids to be grateful for gifts. It's not to force the kid to say "thank you" without feeling it, is to teach them to be grateful for being the object of someone else's kindness; open the gift and carefully notice any detail about it". Very easy to do, yet many are so cold-hearted.
This video has been helpful. I have thought of myself in a grandiose way and in a hateful way. Receiving praise from others is both humiliating and humiliating. I never really thought about the way others perceive me. It must be awesome
Ur content is priceless! I’ve always felt awkward receiving them. After you explained it , it really makes sense
*smashes the like button before even watching the video cuz I know it’s about to be 🔥*
Haha did you watch it tho?
Of course! Every single video 😎
I'm thankful when someone compliment me and I return it with a compliment too . I believe in reciprocity 🤗
Peace and love to All 👍🧡
Wonderful Explanation , Thank You ....
Imagine having Doc as your father, you’d be one of the most advanced kids in your age group 🤣🙈💯💝 Thanks Doc for sharing your knowledge with us for free! ✨You bring value into our lives. 💎
Cool! I have to try this
Most people complement so you can compliment them back or self deprecate. It's crazy how I see more people calling all self deprecation humility
Very well said. I will try to use this.
I love the back handed compliments because I give them right back.
😂
Some people don't understand
a backhanded compliment.
They grow up with criticism
and sarcasm so they don't
understand the offense.
Some people really were trying
to give a compliment.
@@cherylwade264 Nope! Wrong.
@@PharmacyTechLabs
Intentional snide remarks are different.
There is a You Tuber who does
videos of her dance/workout group.
She is a plus sized girl "but" the
girl can really dance.
Our minds are familiar with plus
sized people having a hard time
moving around.
Not someone moving as
gracefully as she does.
Could you please make a video where you explain how flattery is a form of mockery? I don't understand how that works.
Say, you're welcome
Listen up ladies!
Can you go more with flattery / mockery? thank you
I like this and yet im confused about how i feel about objectifying myself in general 😂
So in the movie Batman , Jack Nicholson who plays the joker is fixing his tie while looking in the mirror. The woman he’s with looks over his shoulder and said , you look fine.
Jack turns to her and said , I didn’t ask. Would this be the proper way to accept a compliment? 😃
I just notice that you almost laugh. Hahaha!
As someone on the attractive side, its honestly getting tiring to be called 'Handsome'. Once I hear it either I think ok what now? What if the person who said it i'm not interested in? Fake a response? Ignore? Say thank you then end the convo (also rude). Only attractive people understand the pressure of AGENDA. There's always something needy or dark behind a nice compliment- a unwanted nude photo, pressure to date you. I'm sick of it! I want a compliment AFTER someone gets to know me and not a random first initial message. You don't know me- don't praise my appearance. Stick around and give me some moments so I can earn your compliment. Otherwise it just feels like a drive-by.
If you're handsome, people are going to compliment your appearance. Or, if you're an athlete, your athleticism; or, if you're an author, your writing, etc. When people get complimented, they tend to get complimented in the same ways over and over again. That's just the way it is. In reality, everyone has an agenda. And the more you have what other people want, the more often you will likely have to frustrate those agendas. However unpleasant this might be, it's always preferable to be in a position to turn people down than to accept a suboptimal outcome from lack of optionality.
@@psychacks
Thank you for the interesting video.
Could you address the issue of a man
giving a woman he hardly knows a gift because he is attracted to her and she refuses the gift because of the intent
of the gift
He might feel offended but if she
does not intend to reciprocate his
feelings is she wrong.
Should she politely accept and possibly
lead him to think he is more than
a friend?
Is it offensive if she says , thank you
how much is it I can pay you for it?
This is bad advice. The best way to receive a compliment is to say thank you and follow it up with some humble or even self-deprecating remark.