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you are crying false tears totally missing the point bio parents feel much deeper pain than you did in tis situation. You seem to believe fosters are always innocent and bios always guilty. You need to mature and grow up more before you take in any more kidnapped kids. Maybe get a real job or something
A false allegation was made against me about my own child, by a neighbour trying to cause chaos and emotional pain. I temporarily lost custody of my child and three foster kids for weeks before it was sorted. I felt gutted. I did leave the system.
I had a friend who was fostering to adopt a child. She was placed with her as an infant. She had really bad baby excema and my friend was working with a doctor to get it resolved. She had a "friend" babysit for her and the "friend" reported her. This child and another foster child she was just fostering not planning to adopt were removed due to these false allegations. She tried to get her little girl back and went through a lawyer, but it didn't work. She had a breakdown from the grief. It was horrific, and my heart still breaks for her. She has no idea where that baby is. And that baby lost the only mom she had ever known who loved her more than anything. All because of a false report of baby eczema!
Oh my goodness 😭😭 That is horrendous and should never happen. I'm sure she did all the things too. In that situation, I recommend taking pictures of the excema regularly and sending that plus doctor visit notes to the caseworker. But if it's a new caseworker and the previous one didn't pass on the notes, then what? Ugh. I CC the CASA on a lot of that kind of paperwork I send to the caseworker too. That is just terrible and makes no sense. My heart is heavy for your friend.
Wow what a crazy nasty insane woman…Eczema is very common in babies and hard to handle…it looks very bad but won’t kill anybody and is definitely never contagious. That’s so discouraging and scary to know…Eczema gets best treated with fewer baths…lotions and oil afterwards and lotion everyday. Best products for it is a Aveeno baby lotion and aquaphor…Give them probiotic drops, baby fish oil… Never report anyone unless you are 100% absolutely certain without any doubt and have 100% proof never assumed, never project your paranoia fears…ask questions…🤦🏼
I don't think it was that friends fault. It sounds like the caseworker didn't do a good investigation before removing the baby. A good caseworker would already know the baby had excema and request the doctors notes and visit to verify. No reason to stress out the foster parent with false allegations or remove the kids unnecessarily.
Could you imagine a biological parent and having your children removed due to false allegations? Watch Nancy Schaefer blowing the whistle on CPS " on CZcams.
I know a women who loved her foster kids and they loved her. She was falsely accused of neglect by some unknown person. The women and the kids were separated and kids separated from each other.....it took years before it was determined false.....she spent thousands to fight her case and to get her kids back......due to stress and depression because of the situation, she died of a broken heart and never saw the kids again. It's been over 18 years now....the kids were between 2 to 6 years old.....they are adults now but no telling how they lives are today......they were never found. I pray they are well and that they found each other.
My family was just licensed this week to foster. Today coming to your channel not only did I learn about possibilities in fostering, I was poured into. This really fed my soul today. Apart from your answer to the kingdom to foster, you are sharing and spreading the gospel to the viewers...God bless you...❤️❤️❤️ Praying you will be grounded in His Grace and Mercy all your days under the Sun.
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement! Get ready to lean on God like you’ve never before and watch Him work in your life, the kids’ lives and their parents lives ♥️
I participated in a local group dealing with false child abuse accusations. This lead to being an observer of a group of maybe fifteen foster parents who had been accused of abuse by foster children. This was usually the result of an older foster child having a beef over some house rule or discipline. The kids quickly learn in group homes that if they make an abuse claim against a foster parent, they will most likely be immediately transferred to another location. Some kids have done this multiple times with multiple foster parents. Few things are worse than dealing with baseless false allegations, especially around child abuse and child sexual abuse. Many foster parents have had to hire attorneys for tens of thousands of dollars and have lost their home over such false allegations. The foster agencies don’t adequately warn foster parents about the risk they are assuming. Personally, I think agencies should cover the legal costs if the accusations are not proven true. All this is on top of the obvious emotional devastation.
Oh wow! That is really crazy there was enough people in the area who had false accusations to form a group - definitely having support going through that is great.
Your strength of faith during such a hard situation is wonderful. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing your experience to help others.
Thank you for sharing that! I've also experienced false allegations and it's HARD to keep it together when it happens. So glad you've made it to the other side and can now heal. It's hard not to come away from it without feeling discouraged but I was once told that if you're a foster parent, it's not a question of whether, it's a question of when.
We made it 18.5 months without one, but yeah it does sound common unfortunately, but I'm thankful they have the processes set up to hear all sides and that truth prevailed ☺️
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I am however glad that it made you stronger as a foster parent as a person and as a partner. I'm impressed by both of your parenting skills You're amazing! Thank goodness you had a good team that knows you so well. 😊💓🙏💯
My husband and I had a similar situation and having documentation of EVERYTHING helped us tremendously! We had the allegations presented to us 1 hour after we had just adopted our first child so it was the best/worst day of our life! Being a foster parent you really have to have the heart the patience and the Lord to succeed in truly helping these children bc we as the foster parents go through things that no other parent has to worry about of think about and it is very important that you have the love patience and care and do not get Angry with the kids during the hard times. You are amazing and I'm so glad you decided to keep fostering
@Happy Hoppe yea we adopted our son we had been waiting for 3 years to adopt and my caseworker got the report while we were in the courtroom! Our family left ecstatic and we went out to eat to celebrate and right as we was finishing our meal I got the phone call. I had no idea If my son I just adopted was about to already be took from me because of false allegations with foster child. But our court day shirts was Jeremiah 29:11 and I live by that verse and everything worked out.
I'm not disputing what you said, but regular parents have to go through these things as well. When our son was born he was in the NICU, and because of a medication found in his system that was legally prescribed, it somehow did not get documented. Our son was removed from our custody, and we were interrogated and accused of being drug addicts, alcoholics and being abusive. When 2 case workers came to our home after he was removed from our care. He was still in the NICU, however, these 2 case workers that came with 2 police thought he was in the home with us. They were determaned to remove him from our custody. They had no idea that he was still in the hospital, 3 hours away. They brought police with them because they thought the police would have to arrest us for taking our child. We lost custody of him the Friday before Mother's Day weekend, and it was my wife's first child. Thankfully, due to paperwork, it ist not being an illegal medication, having all the documentation, the doctor in court and everything, things were settled within a week. However, we will never forget the mother's day where we could not see our 2 week old son. We treasure every moment because we know, at any minute, somebody could see things that they don't believe are right, that they are misconcepting, and we could go through this all over again. Anyone that is involved with a child can go through this a parent, a guardian, a foster parent, a group home. Anyone in contact with a child can go through this, not just foster parents.
we listened to this during our foster training. Made me sad but glad it worked out. I'm sure there are some who didn't have a good outcome. Keep trusting in God. We are about to adopt our 2 girls. Fostering is life changing
My gosh. You are so strong. We just got licensed (today actually). I have been so happy that I came across your channel about a month ago. Please keep sharing your journey....so uplifting ❤
I'm sure you are jumping every time your phone rings ☺️ praying for a great first placement experience and for your hearts, the kiddos hearts and their parents hearts. It's a weird spot to be in the waiting. Thanks for your comment.
Wow Lisa! I cannot believe all you both went through! That is just unimaginable to me that anyone would make an allegation against you both! It honestly made go through every emotion with you as I watched this. You both are amazing people and foster parents...that is just craziness to me that anyone would think anything less of you both. I can't even imagine how scared you were for yourselves and the kids in the situation. That is so unfair to even think that someone would risk putting those poor kids through more trauma by possibly having them taken away from a place they feel safe. That is heartbreaking to me! I am so glad that didn't happen and that God brought you through this and made you stronger along the way. I'm proud of you both for standing so strong in your faith...you both inspire me so much! Keep doing what you do!😊💜
As a Foster Mom I had been in your shoes. It’s hard but God will help you. One day I received a one week old girl after 18 months the adoption was completed. But the TPR broke my heart too.
@@YoshiXO Some children are given up wellingly and have no problem signing away. They're rights, not all children are removed from their parents forcefully.
I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through this. I have friends that went through false accusations while fostering and it was very upsetting. My husband and I didn't experience this but we had other challenges with our first foster placement. You expressed the things that helped you very well. Thank you for sharing this, I'm sure it will help someone going through a similar situation.
I'm sorry your friends went through something similar and glad you never had to, but yes each placement offers unique challenges, I'm sure. Thanks for your comment ☺️
Your video...wow! Thank you for sharing not just the facts but how God played such a role in the journey. As a foster mom I wonder how anyone would get through this without God. I lean heavily into him on the daily and like you, I have so many "God moments " that just help remind me in His plan. Your testimony is encouraging and I pray God continues to reveal his beautiful plan for your lives.
I'm going through this right now. Been fostering my 2 little granddaughters for 3 months. Son been trying to undermine and destabilize the placement. He accused me of something awful but completely unfounded. Not seen my grandkids for a week and I have extreme severe anxiety. In shock I told social worker i can no longer foster them but now changed my mind. Praying they will come back to me
😞 yes, it’s definitely a shock when it happens. It’s good you had a little break to clear your head - hope the kids come back to you ❤️ In the future, you can ask for respite care - licensed foster parents who temporarily watch kids when foster parents need a break.
@@lisafenn4238 prayers 🙏 fostering is hard and you kind of got thrown into it. Proud of you for stepping up for those precious 2 girls when they needed it most 💕
Hey. I'm watching your video. Your so young and good hearted. Adults usually do these kinds of accusations when they are jealous of your life. A majority of the times its an authority figure because they have access to phones , there's Cameras everywhere, even in Birds the Bible Mentions...Someone that has access to these monitors is possibly jealous of you and they are trying to throw trials your way on purpose. Maybe they had it bad growing up and they looked at all your life and they see that you may haven't suffered as much as them or their friends so they send people to give you trials..Don't give the d-vil what he wants . Don't give up on foster ..Protect the fatherless because the Priests and nuns did a bad job of it for like hundreds of years...Don't quit. I was in the system from 14-18...
Your last sentence made your comment stand out and be that much more encouraging ❤️ thanks for taking the time to write this! I’m sorry life’s circumstances led you to be in foster care. Thank you for your kind words
You are very welcome. If you need any advice about how to handle the kids, I could put myself in their shoes from my youth and try to help you . Let me know..
I’m crying. Thanks for share your journey. It’s so inspired for me. I’m a foster Mom and sometimes it so hard but Jesus call us to this. It's a privilege.
It's just a matter of when...it's going to happen..that's what we were told. 😢😢😢I do understand not wanting to foster anymore afterwards...but no good deed goes unpunished 😢
We went through investigation last year and it was devastating for us as well. Praise God I documenting everything to everyone or it would have been so much worse. Remaining calm in that situation is just REALLY hard! They called us and said everyone had 20 minutes to be home or they would call the police. Even our bio children had to be interviewed. We through every one of those emotions too it isn't dramatic at all. God really does give manna, he is so good!
Thanks for sharing! I'm so sorry you experienced something similar - it sounds like yours was even more intense! Wow, what would they have done if you had been at an event 30 minutes away? That doesn't even make sense. So glad you are in the other side of it now and yes God is good and our trials help point us to Him ❤️
@@HappyHoppe I have no idea, I wish I would have kept my wits a bit more but I was so freaked out I just came home asap. My foster daughter was literally in the middle of an appointment. It was crazy! It was also on a Friday but thankfully they were able to stay with us and not go to a temporary placement. We ended up having the girls for another year after before they went back home. We were able to form a good relationship with their parents and the caseworker but it took alot of time, prayer, love and forgiveness. For the most part I only communicate though email or text with anyone on the care team. Obviously we talk but "news or updates" I get in writing. And all medical/therapy notes I keep as well. The allegations really opened my eyes and made us all so much stronger and smarter. We lost alot of our naivety.
Cooperate with the investigating office. The worst thing people can do is be oppositional. It can prolong the investigation and you tend to lose credibility.
Thank you for sharing this experience with us. I know it was hard for you and it would have been easier not to say anything in a video. I am so glad that you were able to find peace with God and rest in Him during this entire ordeal! God never fails us. He never has and He won’t start now. My husband and I are currently working on getting licensed to become foster parents. Looking like we will be licensed after Thanksgiving! We both very much enjoy your content!
Yes, it would've been easy to not share, but I also want to help other foster parents and I couldn't find another video like this. For anyone else who may unfortunately have to go through something similar, I wanted to know they are not alone. How exciting that you may soon be foster parents! It is the best, hardest thing we've ever done! We love it!
There should be consequences for people who make completely false allegations. You may want to see if your department differentiates between unsubstantiated and unfounded. Unfounded is the better outcome as it indicates allegations were false. Unsubstantiated means no evidence found which isn't quite the same as it didn't happen. Your agency obviously knew what they were doing when they came to you. To not give you notice that you would need to spend several hours with them (even w/out revealing cause) wasn't cool. Your entire day was disrupted with no notice as so often is the case in foster care. You were more worried about getting the investigation over to try and avoid having the kids removed than really considering what was happening and whether you needed an attorney. Yes, you can be innocent. But, in the foster care world that doesn't mean truth = right outcome will happen. Yes, some agencies are great but some aren't and some can twist things. Hope people consider an attorney if they are investigated.
Yeah, it was not fun for the day to be disrupted, but it was something that needed immediate investigation, so no one had a heads up. That is good to know, they never talked about the difference of unfounded and unsubstantiated.
There actually are consequences for false allegations, but there has to be proof that there was intention to deceive. You don't need to know that something is actually true to report. Mandated reporters are required to report even if they are not sure. They are trained that it isn't their job to determine if something is really happening (or happened) because then abuse can be missed.
@@deniseweber1339 Have you ever seen bio family receive consequences for making false allegations? There is a huge difference between reporting when you feel something is off and letting CWS sort it out versus blatant lies of things you know didn't happen. But, they just get swept under the rug b/c of mental illness or whatever challenges the bio family is facing. Meanwhile, foster family world is turned upside down. Training needs to be improved for people saying they didn't know this could happen. Our training said not 'if' but 'when'...it's bound to happen. People have fantasies that if they report the foster family, they will be returned to them faster (vice being moved to another family).
_"Hope people consider an attorney if they are investigated."_ Yes! And not just for foster parents. While certainly not the majority, there are plenty of kids who end up in foster care in the _first place_ because of these sorts of situations. (On occasion it's even an older child making the accusation with an understanding that it's "punishment" for parents, but without a _full_ understanding of what's about to happen. And once the train starts rolling, they're surprised --and horrified -- to find out you can't just get off.)
One more thing. The kids need more guidance. I wasn't given opportunities to go to church until weeks before aging out of the system. If there was more opportunities I would have liked to attend. I was given other opportunities in the system being that I did not have an addiction problem such as volunteering at nursing homes, YMCA aerobic in the water for the elders when I was a teen. It kept me grounded and aware from the booze and drugs the other kids got involved with. I also helped with filing paperwork at the YMCA when I wasn't doing water aerobics instructor at 15 years old . I would rather volunteer any chance that I got verses to going to alcohol/drug meetings that the other kids had to attend .Hope this helps.
My heart hurts for you.Doing what we do is the work of God and it takes a village to raise these children and I totally understand what you went through it seems like all foster families go threw this at one time or another. Please don't let this stop you.You two do amazing work and you are loved and will get through this. Would love to tlk to you personally to let you know keep going you got this
Crazy nobody is acknowledging that false reports are how yall kidnap these babies in the first place...No sympathy, but maybe you have a lil more for people whos kids you help in stealing now
I love this, my husband and i are thinking of becoming foster parents for boystown. I hope we get approved, it is my dream to reach children and lost souls in the name of jesus. Love this, thank you for the inspiration and your work in the name of jesus of nazareth. Our God is greater.
We just finished our last home study. I’m scared for this to happen. I am very emotional Also, who knows how I would handle this. I am so exited to be a foster parent, but so scared at the same time. Thank you for this video, it’s something I never thought about.
So excited for you to step into this. Yeah we NEVER expected anything like this. It's not something to worry about because it could never even happen and not worth the energy to worry. BUT definitely document everything and share with caseworker and whoever else would need to know if something comes up (CASA, therapist). Emails are my favorite because I can search through them later if needed to refer to something.
You should be scared it can literally rip your life apart. I know someone that lost their house, other job - unfounded. Once everything was fully investigated it was too late. I got a call today about our first child made an allegation from 4 years ago. I’m scared for what might happen.
It all caught us so off guard. Can’t believe this was almost a year ago. The enemy meant this for evil, but this situation rocked our faith and made our resolve to do foster care stronger.
@@HappyHoppe it's just so bizarre that they expected you to just drive off with Peter and kids in the house and have Peter be like "Whatever". It's almost comical.
What about bio parents who get false allegations and get their kids removed from them? I have seen it happen many times and then there are parents who actually ab*** there kids and get to keep them. Make that one make sense.
God. Has u please don't give up I'm a foster kid there needs to be more prehistoric amazin adult human beans like u guys I'm in a group home cuz I was in a foster placement that they were in the wrong and now I'm in a group home god has your back jerimah 29 the hole chapter gives me peace gods got your back
Wow, thank you for taking the time to write this comment ❤️ Yes Jeremiah 29:11 is one of my favorite verses. God knows the plan for our life (even when we have no clue) and He longs to give us hope and a purpose as we turn to Him ❤️ I'm sorry you had been in a bad foster placement :/
Thankz I know God hasn't made bad things happen it happens but I'm stronger for it but thank I always say when stuff happens it could be worse or think of others someone out there it is worse and I pray
It's probably not helpful or necessary to try and guess who it was, especially when your first guess is a child who is (most likely since they are in foster care) already suffering and dealing with issues from previous trauma. They don't need grown adults making accusations about them (true or otherwise) online, and OP and her husband don't need to see it about their kids (cuz when you foster, they are and will always be YOUR KIDS, even if they are only with you for a little while).
@@GinnyDragon54 Sorry your right. I thought maybe it was her as she was troubled, and said things before like we don't get snacks. Anyway, Iam sorry, and sorry they had to go through this such a beautiful couple.
Oh snap, that took a LONG time! 😲 Not a fun thing to live through. I was pleasantly surprised ours took less time than they said for the assessment to be complete.
The evil that men do .... i am heartbroken to see you like this 😪. Your love and happiness that you show is beautiful ... somewhere out there someone who is unhappy and jealous has turned onto the wrong path to hurt you.... i am sorry for you guys, truly i am, and for the sad person who stirred this up, may they look in the mirror in shame. Sending you love and courage 😍🤗😍🤗😍🤗😍🤗😍🤗
Not sure what the situation was here, but what advice would you give if it was a child in your care that made a false allegation? I have a friend who decided to stop fostering because one of the children they fostered was a pathological liar and my friend was worried the child (female) would make false accusations about her husband and/or son(s). She was already seeing patterns of lying and blaming things on the other kids (male and female, bio and foster) that they didn't do, so it was only a matter of time before she tried to tell a bigger lie that could get her, her husband, or her sons in serious trouble. At the time, I was like "Yeah, how would you even fight that if it did happen? Like kids get abused in foster care all the time, so if a kid makes a claim, it's gonna get taken seriously, and unless you have 24/7 cameras on you and the children (which is also abusive behavior), its your word against theirs."
Yeah, lies can pose a big threat and unfortunately it can be a way of life for kids who have seen that pattern modeled for them. Kids claims should be taken seriously, so that is a tricky situation when it is a completely made up story. For us, we have had many kids we have cared for lie. We always have a good communication with their team and tell about small and big things that come up and that has really helped. If a foster family really doesn’t feel like they can help a particular child, I wouldn’t give up fostering all together because of it, but may ask for that child to be moved to another foster home.
@@HappyHoppe That is good advice. If I ever decide to foster I'll be sure to keep that in mind. IDK how I got on the Foster Care side of CZcams, but its fascinating to learn about, so I think I'll stick around a while! 🥰
What a heart wrenching video omgosh terrible extremely unfair…May God keep giving you strength and reassurance plus healing ❤️🩹 a terrible trauma…I would try to contact a lawyer and see if you could sue this person for defamation and extreme duress of distress; it’s Christian to stand up for injustice and unfairnesses. I’m so sorry 😢
Love the way you say " everyone on that team is for the child" smh really? Cps and most ( but not all) foster parents are there for the title 4 funding and adoption incentives!! Do you think this system would even be there without the funding?
So sorry you went through this. I know what it is to be accused of things. I'm happy that you seem to have such a wonderful life. If I ever have kids, I'll do my best to get them to Heaven. It's all that really matters.
How dare I run my mouth at God when even Jesus was falsely accused ? He was even killed for all His goodness. May the Lord use this to bring me to my next level and bring glory to His holy name. Lord Jesus, please let this work out for my good. Amen
It’s impossible to judge or give opinion without details what the allegations was about and based on. However the life is not easy and brings various challenges for all people. Allegations can be raised even against non-foster parents. And it’s not a right solution to be hysterical about that and making a tragedy out of it. Mainly if you have clean conscious. The only thing I can conclude from a video is that the lady is very emotional and labile. Getting the news that a child has a deadly disease is a tragedy. Someone raising a false complaint is just unpleasant life experience, not a tragedy.
Lisa, you're crazy. Let me take a time out while I'm crying (😥😢😭)....to tell you about these """"alle....gations"""". You're crazy. There is a reason why they said what they said.
Lol yeah she comes across a little off. I can’t believe foster parents think it’s ok to monetize content consisting of their foster children (blurred out or not). This is a difficult time in those kids lives and they don’t appear to have a say or control over the fact the world can watch them in these sensitive moments.
She's opening up to a sensitive topic that she didn't have to share, but she did for the viewers that care about the foster journey and potentially want to help children in the future. What are you doing to help the system? I commend her for helping and showing us raw and true emotions.
I will never understand why really religious people have such strange language. I mean, yeah, it's certainly no secret secret that I don't understand how anyone believes in anything religious - but what really gets me is the language. Why do y'all all use that "we walked through this" language. You can't just say "we experienced"? Or "we went through something" - the whole "we walked through this" is just so strange and it feels like people have become deeply brainwashed when you hear people using language like that. It's so strange that it's so pervasive,I always feel like I'm listening to a hostage talking when I hear people using that churched-up language to explain completely mundane crap that happened.
She is talking about her husband and herself? I wonder if you weren't behind a screen name you would be more forth coming like you were here? Also, technology won't hide you forever.
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you are crying false tears totally missing the point bio parents feel much deeper pain than you did in tis situation. You seem to believe fosters are always innocent and bios always guilty. You need to mature and grow up more before you take in any more kidnapped kids. Maybe get a real job or something
A false allegation was made against me about my own child, by a neighbour trying to cause chaos and emotional pain. I temporarily lost custody of my child and three foster kids for weeks before it was sorted. I felt gutted. I did leave the system.
Oh wow. I’m so sorry you & your kids experienced that. How awful.
The you sue the neighbor?
Is it illegal to install cameras when fostering?
I would've sued
I had a friend who was fostering to adopt a child. She was placed with her as an infant. She had really bad baby excema and my friend was working with a doctor to get it resolved. She had a "friend" babysit for her and the "friend" reported her. This child and another foster child she was just fostering not planning to adopt were removed due to these false allegations. She tried to get her little girl back and went through a lawyer, but it didn't work. She had a breakdown from the grief. It was horrific, and my heart still breaks for her. She has no idea where that baby is. And that baby lost the only mom she had ever known who loved her more than anything. All because of a false report of baby eczema!
Oh my goodness 😭😭 That is horrendous and should never happen.
I'm sure she did all the things too.
In that situation, I recommend taking pictures of the excema regularly and sending that plus doctor visit notes to the caseworker. But if it's a new caseworker and the previous one didn't pass on the notes, then what?
Ugh. I CC the CASA on a lot of that kind of paperwork I send to the caseworker too.
That is just terrible and makes no sense. My heart is heavy for your friend.
Wow what a crazy nasty insane woman…Eczema is very common in babies and hard to handle…it looks very bad but won’t kill anybody and is definitely never contagious. That’s so discouraging and scary to know…Eczema gets best treated with fewer baths…lotions and oil afterwards and lotion everyday. Best products for it is a Aveeno baby lotion and aquaphor…Give them probiotic drops, baby fish oil…
Never report anyone unless you are 100% absolutely certain without any doubt and have 100% proof never assumed, never project your paranoia fears…ask questions…🤦🏼
I don't think it was that friends fault. It sounds like the caseworker didn't do a good investigation before removing the baby. A good caseworker would already know the baby had excema and request the doctors notes and visit to verify. No reason to stress out the foster parent with false allegations or remove the kids unnecessarily.
Could you imagine a biological parent and having your children removed due to false allegations? Watch Nancy Schaefer blowing the whistle on CPS " on CZcams.
I always made sure I had a good relationship with my paediatrician, which I had to call on during our false allegation
I know a women who loved her foster kids and they loved her. She was falsely accused of neglect by some unknown person. The women and the kids were separated and kids separated from each other.....it took years before it was determined false.....she spent thousands to fight her case and to get her kids back......due to stress and depression because of the situation, she died of a broken heart and never saw the kids again. It's been over 18 years now....the kids were between 2 to 6 years old.....they are adults now but no telling how they lives are today......they were never found. I pray they are well and that they found each other.
Wow, That’s so sad 😞
My family was just licensed this week to foster. Today coming to your channel not only did I learn about possibilities in fostering, I was poured into. This really fed my soul today. Apart from your answer to the kingdom to foster, you are sharing and spreading the gospel to the viewers...God bless you...❤️❤️❤️ Praying you will be grounded in His Grace and Mercy all your days under the Sun.
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement! Get ready to lean on God like you’ve never before and watch Him work in your life, the kids’ lives and their parents lives ♥️
I participated in a local group dealing with false child abuse accusations. This lead to being an observer of a group of maybe fifteen foster parents who had been accused of abuse by foster children. This was usually the result of an older foster child having a beef over some house rule or discipline. The kids quickly learn in group homes that if they make an abuse claim against a foster parent, they will most likely be immediately transferred to another location. Some kids have done this multiple times with multiple foster parents.
Few things are worse than dealing with baseless false allegations, especially around child abuse and child sexual abuse. Many foster parents have had to hire attorneys for tens of thousands of dollars and have lost their home over such false allegations. The foster agencies don’t adequately warn foster parents about the risk they are assuming. Personally, I think agencies should cover the legal costs if the accusations are not proven true. All this is on top of the obvious emotional devastation.
Oh wow! That is really crazy there was enough people in the area who had false accusations to form a group - definitely having support going through that is great.
This is insane. I know these kids have gone through some stuff and they are not fully aware of the consequences of their actions but this is not ok.
Your strength of faith during such a hard situation is wonderful. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing your experience to help others.
PEOPLE WHO CALL CPS AND LIE NEED TO BE PROSECUTED THE WAY SOMEONE CALL ABOUT
Thank you for sharing that! I've also experienced false allegations and it's HARD to keep it together when it happens. So glad you've made it to the other side and can now heal. It's hard not to come away from it without feeling discouraged but I was once told that if you're a foster parent, it's not a question of whether, it's a question of when.
We made it 18.5 months without one, but yeah it does sound common unfortunately, but I'm thankful they have the processes set up to hear all sides and that truth prevailed ☺️
And I'm sorry that you to have had to walk through this and that it's plural allegations 😢
I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I am however glad that it made you stronger as a foster parent as a person and as a partner. I'm impressed by both of your parenting skills You're amazing! Thank goodness you had a good team that knows you so well. 😊💓🙏💯
Yes God has used this for good despite it all 👏🙌❤️
My husband and I had a similar situation and having documentation of EVERYTHING helped us tremendously! We had the allegations presented to us 1 hour after we had just adopted our first child so it was the best/worst day of our life! Being a foster parent you really have to have the heart the patience and the Lord to succeed in truly helping these children bc we as the foster parents go through things that no other parent has to worry about of think about and it is very important that you have the love patience and care and do not get Angry with the kids during the hard times. You are amazing and I'm so glad you decided to keep fostering
Oh my goodness - that's crazy the allegation came on the same day as adoption! Talk about a rollercoaster of emotions in just and hour time.
@Happy Hoppe yea we adopted our son we had been waiting for 3 years to adopt and my caseworker got the report while we were in the courtroom! Our family left ecstatic and we went out to eat to celebrate and right as we was finishing our meal I got the phone call. I had no idea If my son I just adopted was about to already be took from me because of false allegations with foster child. But our court day shirts was Jeremiah 29:11 and I live by that verse and everything worked out.
I'm not disputing what you said, but regular parents have to go through these things as well. When our son was born he was in the NICU, and because of a medication found in his system that was legally prescribed, it somehow did not get documented. Our son was removed from our custody, and we were interrogated and accused of being drug addicts, alcoholics and being abusive.
When 2 case workers came to our home after he was removed from our care. He was still in the NICU, however, these 2 case workers that came with 2 police thought he was in the home with us. They were determaned to remove him from our custody. They had no idea that he was still in the hospital, 3 hours away. They brought police with them because they thought the police would have to arrest us for taking our child.
We lost custody of him the Friday before Mother's Day weekend, and it was my wife's first child. Thankfully, due to paperwork, it ist not being an illegal medication, having all the documentation, the doctor in court and everything, things were settled within a week. However, we will never forget the mother's day where we could not see our 2 week old son. We treasure every moment because we know, at any minute, somebody could see things that they don't believe are right, that they are misconcepting, and we could go through this all over again. Anyone that is involved with a child can go through this a parent, a guardian, a foster parent, a group home. Anyone in contact with a child can go through this, not just foster parents.
we listened to this during our foster training. Made me sad but glad it worked out. I'm sure there are some who didn't have a good outcome. Keep trusting in God. We are about to adopt our 2 girls. Fostering is life changing
My gosh. You are so strong. We just got licensed (today actually). I have been so happy that I came across your channel about a month ago. Please keep sharing your journey....so uplifting ❤
I'm sure you are jumping every time your phone rings ☺️ praying for a great first placement experience and for your hearts, the kiddos hearts and their parents hearts.
It's a weird spot to be in the waiting.
Thanks for your comment.
Wow Lisa! I cannot believe all you both went through! That is just unimaginable to me that anyone would make an allegation against you both! It honestly made go through every emotion with you as I watched this. You both are amazing people and foster parents...that is just craziness to me that anyone would think anything less of you both. I can't even imagine how scared you were for yourselves and the kids in the situation. That is so unfair to even think that someone would risk putting those poor kids through more trauma by possibly having them taken away from a place they feel safe. That is heartbreaking to me! I am so glad that didn't happen and that God brought you through this and made you stronger along the way. I'm proud of you both for standing so strong in your faith...you both inspire me so much! Keep doing what you do!😊💜
Thank you for your kind and uplifting comment ❤️
Glad you came out stronger... those 3 really need you:)
😭😭 this made me tear up
@@HappyHoppe I cried and ate marshmellows through your entire video:)
@@chrissys8474 the marshmallow part sounds enjoyable -haha
As a Foster Mom I had been in your shoes. It’s hard but God will help you.
One day I received a one week old girl after 18 months the adoption was completed. But the TPR broke my heart too.
Thank you for your encouragement ❤️ yes foster care is messy no matter what permanency happens for a child.
It should break your heart that’s not your kid
What is TPR?
@@alyceanawilson2588Termination of parental rights in case you haven't found that out yet.
@@YoshiXO Some children are given up wellingly and have no problem signing away. They're rights, not all children are removed from their parents forcefully.
I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through this. I have friends that went through false accusations while fostering and it was very upsetting. My husband and I didn't experience this but we had other challenges with our first foster placement. You expressed the things that helped you very well. Thank you for sharing this, I'm sure it will help someone going through a similar situation.
I'm sorry your friends went through something similar and glad you never had to, but yes each placement offers unique challenges, I'm sure.
Thanks for your comment ☺️
Your video...wow! Thank you for sharing not just the facts but how God played such a role in the journey. As a foster mom I wonder how anyone would get through this without God. I lean heavily into him on the daily and like you, I have so many "God moments " that just help remind me in His plan. Your testimony is encouraging and I pray God continues to reveal his beautiful plan for your lives.
Thank you for your kind comment. Yes God is good!
The truth will set you free🙏💞
I'm going through this right now. Been fostering my 2 little granddaughters for 3 months. Son been trying to undermine and destabilize the placement. He accused me of something awful but completely unfounded. Not seen my grandkids for a week and I have extreme severe anxiety. In shock I told social worker i can no longer foster them but now changed my mind. Praying they will come back to me
😞 yes, it’s definitely a shock when it happens. It’s good you had a little break to clear your head - hope the kids come back to you ❤️
In the future, you can ask for respite care - licensed foster parents who temporarily watch kids when foster parents need a break.
@@HappyHoppe Thank you so much. I'mso worried. please pray for us xxxx
@@lisafenn4238 prayers 🙏 fostering is hard and you kind of got thrown into it. Proud of you for stepping up for those precious 2 girls when they needed it most 💕
@@HappyHoppe Thank you.. and God Bless xxx
You can tell that pure goodness pours from you ❤
Hey. I'm watching your video. Your so young and good hearted. Adults usually do these kinds of accusations when they are jealous of your life. A majority of the times its an authority figure because they have access to phones , there's Cameras everywhere, even in Birds the Bible Mentions...Someone that has access to these monitors is possibly jealous of you and they are trying to throw trials your way on purpose. Maybe they had it bad growing up and they looked at all your life and they see that you may haven't suffered as much as them or their friends so they send people to give you trials..Don't give the d-vil what he wants . Don't give up on foster ..Protect the fatherless because the Priests and nuns did a bad job of it for like hundreds of years...Don't quit. I was in the system from 14-18...
Your last sentence made your comment stand out and be that much more encouraging ❤️ thanks for taking the time to write this! I’m sorry life’s circumstances led you to be in foster care.
Thank you for your kind words
You are very welcome. If you need any advice about how to handle the kids, I could put myself in their shoes from my youth and try to help you . Let me know..
I’m crying. Thanks for share your journey. It’s so inspired for me. I’m a foster Mom and sometimes it so hard but Jesus call us to this. It's a privilege.
So thankful that sharing this was inspiring despite the hard ❤️
It's just a matter of when...it's going to happen..that's what we were told. 😢😢😢I do understand not wanting to foster anymore afterwards...but no good deed goes unpunished 😢
praise God in how this turned out allegations against fosters are really rough, so many horror stories.
I’m scared now to even try and foster 😅
We went through investigation last year and it was devastating for us as well. Praise God I documenting everything to everyone or it would have been so much worse. Remaining calm in that situation is just REALLY hard! They called us and said everyone had 20 minutes to be home or they would call the police. Even our bio children had to be interviewed. We through every one of those emotions too it isn't dramatic at all. God really does give manna, he is so good!
Thanks for sharing! I'm so sorry you experienced something similar - it sounds like yours was even more intense! Wow, what would they have done if you had been at an event 30 minutes away? That doesn't even make sense. So glad you are in the other side of it now and yes God is good and our trials help point us to Him ❤️
@@HappyHoppe I have no idea, I wish I would have kept my wits a bit more but I was so freaked out I just came home asap. My foster daughter was literally in the middle of an appointment. It was crazy! It was also on a Friday but thankfully they were able to stay with us and not go to a temporary placement. We ended up having the girls for another year after before they went back home. We were able to form a good relationship with their parents and the caseworker but it took alot of time, prayer, love and forgiveness. For the most part I only communicate though email or text with anyone on the care team. Obviously we talk but "news or updates" I get in writing. And all medical/therapy notes I keep as well. The allegations really opened my eyes and made us all so much stronger and smarter. We lost alot of our naivety.
Cooperate with the investigating office. The worst thing people can do is be oppositional. It can prolong the investigation and you tend to lose credibility.
Thank you for sharing this experience with us. I know it was hard for you and it would have been easier not to say anything in a video.
I am so glad that you were able to find peace with God and rest in Him during this entire ordeal! God never fails us. He never has and He won’t start now.
My husband and I are currently working on getting licensed to become foster parents. Looking like we will be licensed after Thanksgiving!
We both very much enjoy your content!
Yes, it would've been easy to not share, but I also want to help other foster parents and I couldn't find another video like this.
For anyone else who may unfortunately have to go through something similar, I wanted to know they are not alone.
How exciting that you may soon be foster parents! It is the best, hardest thing we've ever done! We love it!
There should be consequences for people who make completely false allegations. You may want to see if your department differentiates between unsubstantiated and unfounded. Unfounded is the better outcome as it indicates allegations were false. Unsubstantiated means no evidence found which isn't quite the same as it didn't happen. Your agency obviously knew what they were doing when they came to you. To not give you notice that you would need to spend several hours with them (even w/out revealing cause) wasn't cool. Your entire day was disrupted with no notice as so often is the case in foster care. You were more worried about getting the investigation over to try and avoid having the kids removed than really considering what was happening and whether you needed an attorney. Yes, you can be innocent. But, in the foster care world that doesn't mean truth = right outcome will happen. Yes, some agencies are great but some aren't and some can twist things. Hope people consider an attorney if they are investigated.
Yeah, it was not fun for the day to be disrupted, but it was something that needed immediate investigation, so no one had a heads up.
That is good to know, they never talked about the difference of unfounded and unsubstantiated.
There actually are consequences for false allegations, but there has to be proof that there was intention to deceive. You don't need to know that something is actually true to report. Mandated reporters are required to report even if they are not sure. They are trained that it isn't their job to determine if something is really happening (or happened) because then abuse can be missed.
@@deniseweber1339 Have you ever seen bio family receive consequences for making false allegations? There is a huge difference between reporting when you feel something is off and letting CWS sort it out versus blatant lies of things you know didn't happen. But, they just get swept under the rug b/c of mental illness or whatever challenges the bio family is facing. Meanwhile, foster family world is turned upside down. Training needs to be improved for people saying they didn't know this could happen. Our training said not 'if' but 'when'...it's bound to happen. People have fantasies that if they report the foster family, they will be returned to them faster (vice being moved to another family).
_"Hope people consider an attorney if they are investigated."_
Yes! And not just for foster parents. While certainly not the majority, there are plenty of kids who end up in foster care in the _first place_ because of these sorts of situations. (On occasion it's even an older child making the accusation with an understanding that it's "punishment" for parents, but without a _full_ understanding of what's about to happen. And once the train starts rolling, they're surprised --and horrified -- to find out you can't just get off.)
Its hard to Foster kids. I am praying for you. Let God take control. Keep your head up and remember God got this. Love and hugs.
His Eye is on the Sparrow is one of my favorite songs 🎵
Such a great song!
One more thing. The kids need more guidance. I wasn't given opportunities to go to church until weeks before aging out of the system. If there was more opportunities I would have liked to attend. I was given other opportunities in the system being that I did not have an addiction problem such as volunteering at nursing homes, YMCA aerobic in the water for the elders when I was a teen. It kept me grounded and aware from the booze and drugs the other kids got involved with. I also helped with filing paperwork at the YMCA when I wasn't doing water aerobics instructor at 15 years old . I would rather volunteer any chance that I got verses to going to alcohol/drug meetings that the other kids had to attend .Hope this helps.
Yep. It happens sadly.
Please keep forstercare these kids need you guys
I am going through thay right now. 😢😢😢😢It is difficult when false accusations are made by people who know nothing about the children or your family.
I’m so sorry you are facing this now Jessica 😢
My heart hurts for you.Doing what we do is the work of God and it takes a village to raise these children and I totally understand what you went through it seems like all foster families go threw this at one time or another. Please don't let this stop you.You two do amazing work and you are loved and will get through this. Would love to tlk to you personally to let you know keep going you got this
Aww, thank you so much for your positive and encouraging comment today ❤️
Crazy nobody is acknowledging that false reports are how yall kidnap these babies in the first place...No sympathy, but maybe you have a lil more for people whos kids you help in stealing now
I love this, my husband and i are thinking of becoming foster parents for boystown. I hope we get approved, it is my dream to reach children and lost souls in the name of jesus. Love this, thank you for the inspiration and your work in the name of jesus of nazareth. Our God is greater.
We just finished our last home study. I’m scared for this to happen. I am very emotional Also, who knows how I would handle this. I am so exited to be a foster parent, but so scared at the same time. Thank you for this video, it’s something I never thought about.
So excited for you to step into this. Yeah we NEVER expected anything like this. It's not something to worry about because it could never even happen and not worth the energy to worry.
BUT definitely document everything and share with caseworker and whoever else would need to know if something comes up (CASA, therapist).
Emails are my favorite because I can search through them later if needed to refer to something.
You should be scared it can literally rip your life apart. I know someone that lost their house, other job - unfounded. Once everything was fully investigated it was too late. I got a call today about our first child made an allegation from 4 years ago. I’m scared for what might happen.
8:27 Watching this because you mentioned this in your video today. It's so weird that it sounds like they REALLY didn't want you to tell Peter.
It all caught us so off guard. Can’t believe this was almost a year ago.
The enemy meant this for evil, but this situation rocked our faith and made our resolve to do foster care stronger.
@@HappyHoppe it's just so bizarre that they expected you to just drive off with Peter and kids in the house and have Peter be like "Whatever". It's almost comical.
What about bio parents who get false allegations and get their kids removed from them? I have seen it happen many times and then there are parents who actually ab*** there kids and get to keep them. Make that one make sense.
I have friends who are foster parents, and false allegations here in Australia, seem to be a common hazard of fostering.
God. Has u please don't give up I'm a foster kid there needs to be more prehistoric amazin adult human beans like u guys I'm in a group home cuz I was in a foster placement that they were in the wrong and now I'm in a group home god has your back jerimah 29 the hole chapter gives me peace gods got your back
Wow, thank you for taking the time to write this comment ❤️ Yes Jeremiah 29:11 is one of my favorite verses.
God knows the plan for our life (even when we have no clue) and He longs to give us hope and a purpose as we turn to Him ❤️
I'm sorry you had been in a bad foster placement :/
Thankz I know God hasn't made bad things happen it happens but I'm stronger for it but thank I always say when stuff happens it could be worse or think of others someone out there it is worse and I pray
Wow if this is a true story it's refreshing for foster placement to actually see feel the pain of what false allegations can cause
I bet it was the troubled daughter the 7 year old. Iam so sorry you had to go through this. God sure was with you, and protected you.
It's probably not helpful or necessary to try and guess who it was, especially when your first guess is a child who is (most likely since they are in foster care) already suffering and dealing with issues from previous trauma. They don't need grown adults making accusations about them (true or otherwise) online, and OP and her husband don't need to see it about their kids (cuz when you foster, they are and will always be YOUR KIDS, even if they are only with you for a little while).
@@GinnyDragon54 Sorry your right. I thought maybe it was her as she was troubled, and said things before like we don't get snacks. Anyway, Iam sorry, and sorry they had to go through this such a beautiful couple.
Unfortunately similar to the situation with abuse by aggressive toxic bureaucratic CPS in the US facing single dads dealing with the lies of ex-wives.
What is the accusations
Ours was July 6th got our “unfounded“ letter October 29th. It sucks!!!!!! great video!
Oh snap, that took a LONG time! 😲 Not a fun thing to live through.
I was pleasantly surprised ours took less time than they said for the assessment to be complete.
How you can totally miss the real lesson in all this makes me question if youre telling the truth. I personally dont think you are fit to foster
The evil that men do .... i am heartbroken to see you like this 😪. Your love and happiness that you show is beautiful ... somewhere out there someone who is unhappy and jealous has turned onto the wrong path to hurt you.... i am sorry for you guys, truly i am, and for the sad person who stirred this up, may they look in the mirror in shame. Sending you love and courage 😍🤗😍🤗😍🤗😍🤗😍🤗
Not sure what the situation was here, but what advice would you give if it was a child in your care that made a false allegation? I have a friend who decided to stop fostering because one of the children they fostered was a pathological liar and my friend was worried the child (female) would make false accusations about her husband and/or son(s). She was already seeing patterns of lying and blaming things on the other kids (male and female, bio and foster) that they didn't do, so it was only a matter of time before she tried to tell a bigger lie that could get her, her husband, or her sons in serious trouble. At the time, I was like "Yeah, how would you even fight that if it did happen? Like kids get abused in foster care all the time, so if a kid makes a claim, it's gonna get taken seriously, and unless you have 24/7 cameras on you and the children (which is also abusive behavior), its your word against theirs."
Yeah, lies can pose a big threat and unfortunately it can be a way of life for kids who have seen that pattern modeled for them.
Kids claims should be taken seriously, so that is a tricky situation when it is a completely made up story.
For us, we have had many kids we have cared for lie. We always have a good communication with their team and tell about small and big things that come up and that has really helped.
If a foster family really doesn’t feel like they can help a particular child, I wouldn’t give up fostering all together because of it, but may ask for that child to be moved to another foster home.
@@HappyHoppe That is good advice. If I ever decide to foster I'll be sure to keep that in mind. IDK how I got on the Foster Care side of CZcams, but its fascinating to learn about, so I think I'll stick around a while! 🥰
What were you charged with?
No charges since it was found to be unsubstantiated 👍
Yep.. they did this to me on a friday and took them from the school. 😢😢😢😢
Sounds like a bit of spiritual warfare going on. Great that you have prayer support!!
💯% yes, it has been one thing after the other since March. What I share is only scratching the surface. So very thankful for prayer 🙏❤️
What a heart wrenching video omgosh terrible extremely unfair…May God keep giving you strength and reassurance plus healing ❤️🩹 a terrible trauma…I would try to contact a lawyer and see if you could sue this person for defamation and extreme duress of distress; it’s Christian to stand up for injustice and unfairnesses. I’m so sorry 😢
Too many people are too quick to believe any accusation against foster parents, that is what I see on CZcams.
Buy cameras peetect you at all cost !
Love the way you say " everyone on that team is for the child" smh really? Cps and most ( but not all) foster parents are there for the title 4 funding and adoption incentives!! Do you think this system would even be there without the funding?
So sorry you went through this. I know what it is to be accused of things. I'm happy that you seem to have such a wonderful life. If I ever have kids, I'll do my best to get them to Heaven. It's all that really matters.
Remember Joseph
Was falsely accused
Now you know how parents and grandparents who cps take their children due to false allegations feel!! The huge majority are that way!!
How dare I run my mouth at God when even Jesus was falsely accused ? He was even killed for all His goodness. May the Lord use this to bring me to my next level and bring glory to His holy name. Lord Jesus, please let this work out for my good. Amen
Just get to the point. I mean.....you talk about everything but the clip aubject for goda sake
She gives me bad vibes
The weird crying with no tears and just overall emotional instability vibes. The need for attention by broadcasting her drama on CZcams.
Same
Something is definitely off. And she completely misses that shes getting a glimpse of what happens to bio parents. Shes in denial
It’s impossible to judge or give opinion without details what the allegations was about and based on.
However the life is not easy and brings various challenges for all people. Allegations can be raised even against non-foster parents. And it’s not a right solution to be hysterical about that and making a tragedy out of it. Mainly if you have clean conscious.
The only thing I can conclude from a video is that the lady is very emotional and labile.
Getting the news that a child has a deadly disease is a tragedy. Someone raising a false complaint is just unpleasant life experience, not a tragedy.
Lisa, you're crazy. Let me take a time out while I'm crying (😥😢😭)....to tell you about these """"alle....gations"""". You're crazy. There is a reason why they said what they said.
💯 it’s clear this woman has a personality disorder
Lol yeah she comes across a little off. I can’t believe foster parents think it’s ok to monetize content consisting of their foster children (blurred out or not). This is a difficult time in those kids lives and they don’t appear to have a say or control over the fact the world can watch them in these sensitive moments.
She's opening up to a sensitive topic that she didn't have to share, but she did for the viewers that care about the foster journey and potentially want to help children in the future. What are you doing to help the system? I commend her for helping and showing us raw and true emotions.
These video's are fruitless (clickbait) without actual specifics .
I will never understand why really religious people have such strange language. I mean, yeah, it's certainly no secret secret that I don't understand how anyone believes in anything religious - but what really gets me is the language. Why do y'all all use that "we walked through this" language. You can't just say "we experienced"? Or "we went through something" - the whole "we walked through this" is just so strange and it feels like people have become deeply brainwashed when you hear people using language like that. It's so strange that it's so pervasive,I always feel like I'm listening to a hostage talking when I hear people using that churched-up language to explain completely mundane crap that happened.
She is talking about her husband and herself? I wonder if you weren't behind a screen name you would be more forth coming like you were here? Also, technology won't hide you forever.
I went over fifteen minutes in, no clue what the accusations were. Grt to the point and dial back the self promoting crap.
But you sat here and watched.
@@BrookeJ-fh9mo doesn't change the facts does it? Is that the best you got?