You nailed it: the maladaptive daydreaming, the endless scrolling, listening to music and videos, get bored with stuff and find things to distract myself instead of studying/taking care of business.
I'm black and autistic. I was diagnosed later in life. What i do is talk to myself FREQUENTLY, i laugh at myself, jump around, daydream, silently scream and so on. I'm also sensitive to sounds which drives me crazy where i want to wear earmuffs (I will someday). I have some, but they're not helping. So I'm going to get me the 3m ones. Right now i can't because i wear glasses. Which I'm going to replace with goggles. So i can wear them.
I have both and I'm undiagnosed for Autism because my family refused testing. They didn't want me on meds because "the devil is a lie" so they just wanted to pray for me. Black family's think that these things are bad and evil. Now I'm 35 and seriously struggling because I'm just now realizing I suffered so much more with no support. Even now my family doesn't want to hear it so I have no support. They say I'm too smart and I'm just eccentric or diffrent. I'm just happy that I know for myself I've taken all the quizzes on the medical sites and they all tell me to find a doctor. So I'm going to find out how I can get a perfessional opinon and get the support I need for myself. I'm tired of hitting burn out and breaking down or exploding because Im overwhelmed in society period.
@glowdoll183 I'm sending you love. I'm 37. I am self diagnosed as of a year ago. My parents are pastors and they told me to not "claim" that my son is autistic...as my marriage is ending, I began to deal with trauma bonding, inner child healing, and other things... and I saw the traits of autism. I took a test and it said... I'm on the spectrum.
I still don’t know if I’m on the spectrum or not even if I do have some similar symptoms. I just have the bi-polar depression/schizoaffective diagnosis, but I do feel a lot of the overwhelming, over thinking, feel pulled one way or another cause of how society affects me. Not saying I want to destroy society, but try to keep improving it no matter how many steps it takes.
Hi! I am an attorney and just recently started considering that I’m autistic after burning out and being off work for the last year. I’m so happy to find this video as I start my journey with healthcare professionals.
Wow this is the first time I’ve ever seen a black woman say she maladaptively daydreams. I’m a black woman too and I maladaptive daydream. I also suspect I have autism. The way you were swaying back and forth while talking is something I do sometimes. Thanks for talking of your experience, I hope you keep doing it!
Maladaptive daydreaming is a response or coping mechanism for high stress and anxiety. It’s not really an autism symptom, but it’s still common for ppl who are neurodivergent, depressed, or have some kind of mental illness or personality disorder tho.
Fellow autistic Black woman youtuber. I didn't get diagnosed until I was 19 and it actually got discovered after I went in for anxiety after getting bullied IN COLLEGE. I know that this video is old, but thank you for being here. I can see myself so much in you. We also have similar hand stims 💖 subscribing for any future content!
I’m self-diagnosed autistic after researching about autism via CZcams and interacting with other autistics on Instagram in 2020. I’m also 32 and a Latina woman; it seems almost impossible to seek and obtain a diagnosis as a marginalized adult :( thank you for making this video
Self diagnosis is extremely valid. I have diagnosed myself, because I received a test for it and I was one point away from receiving the diagnosis and because of that one point I wasn't, but every single traits or symptoms I have read point to that. I'm 26 BTW and found out I had this at 19 in college
''you don't know, you don't fucking know'' .... PREACH!!! preeeaaaaaach!!! that has been my EXACT experience! even just 1:05 in, im already enjoying your personality WAYYYY more than most people ive ever met in my life.... gratz on getting your diagnosis, not only as a woman, but as a black woman... holy SHIT you went through some obstacles to get what you needed..... i got mine in Dec 2021.... getting diagnosed is the best fucking present you'll ever get in your fucking life - no contest!
I'm exactly a week away from my autism assessment. I'm 35. So many things you said resonated, especially "I struggle being a human person everyday." Thank you for being you. I look forward to seeing more from you!
In my late 20s, struggling with school and after getting an ADHD diagnosis from a clinician that honestly has very little care/understanding to recognize ASD. Two years after a few unfulfilling therapy sessions with people I felt didn’t understand me or had the capabilities to recognize how autism presents in Black women. Several months of burnout, self-hate, trying to force myself to be healthy, I realized that after masking, hurting, and feeling unseen by even my loved ones, my needs aren’t being met. It hurt to realize that to cope, I’ve hidden so many parts of me from others and myself. Thank you for putting yourself out there because I’m realizing so many of us are just struggling alone and unseen. I hate that it took me hitting such a low point in my life to realize that. I hope we all can receive the support and love needed to live in a world that does not want us to be seen or heard.
I was not diagnosed until my masking led yo me having seizures. So i was diagnosed with epilepsy but a few years of my own research of my triggers, it was obvious that I have autism . I was in my 30s when everything started coming to a head. I had no verbage for "masking" but I have had to do it my entire life as a black woman.
Amazing- I got diagnosed this year ASD ADHD and it’s been so eye opening. I’ve been unmasking in all the places I can/feel safe and that part about why no one noticed/knew hits so hard. Also the part of handling adversity- I really felt that
Thank you for sharing your experience and for displaying your natural state as well. I've recently finally committed to no longer masking so it's very heartening to see another black woman not masking and being very candid about the parts of autism that nobody sees BECAUSE we mask. Especially because we, as women are socialized to conform to external expectations from birth. I'm not always the most articulate with how I describe and explain ASD to allistics, but videos like yours and other black autistic women creators greatly helps me communicate what I have a hard time explaining well. Please don't stop making this kind of content. It's so desperately needed not only in the US, but in the world! Hopefully one day I'll be able to also create content for autistics and adhders (I have both). Like you, I believe we have a kind of duty to help inform the world and just generally make our life in this world as full of opportunity for all the things just as allistics and other non-minoritized peoples have. Thank you again!
As someone who is on the spectrum, social anxiety was just a byproduct of autistic burnout. Just knowing that I would have to mask would stress me out and cause me to not want to go out
Same…I’ve diagnosed with SAD and severe depression. I’m a Black girl…with a mental health disorder. My grandmother was mentally ill from Daddy’s side of our lineage. My grandmother was diagnosed with Type ll Bipolar and she has been hooked on Anti-Anxiety medications for years and my grandmother…committed suicide due to her severe mental illness and I lost my grandmother.
@@mariamart_0😔 I can only imagine what you go through. And about your grandmother and what happened. I definitely worry about that when I know worrying can make it worse and as I’ve been on meds for years.
I'm a 22 year old black woman and I appreciate you speaking about this so much. I haven't been properly diagnosed for fear that I'll be misdiagnosed but, I relate to everything you spoke on and for the first time I don't feel so isolated. I have done my own research though and have come to the conclusion that I have autism. I related so deeply to when you said you struggle being a human everyday as well. I often feel like I'm being a human all wrong but listening to you makes me feel sane. Especially when you spoke on always keeping yourself occupied woth audio books and youtube videos to not get bored which is something I constantly do or maladaptive daydreaming. I just feel so seen and so heard. Thank you so much🙌🌺
Thanks for linking me over from Tiktok! This shit is important. I'm getting too old to not surround myself with loud neurodiverse people telling the truth/share my truth as well.
I have ADHD but currently been talking with my therapist and she just started the process of trying to dig more into the possibility of autism. It’s hard to get a proper diagnosis or even someone to listen
Girl, I think you must have undiagnosed ADHD too, in addition to autism. I can relate to symptoms like maladaptive daydreaming, getting bored and distracted easily, and other ADHD symptoms and with some autistic ones too! I read an article that said a considerable percentage of autistic people have ADHD as well. I find your video and your experience as a black law school student on the spectrum interesting. Thank you.
Much respect and gratitude for sharing your experience. I have a ton of neurodivergent traits, but as fellow adult female have been forced to mask my whole life. Very thankful to you and others with lived experience, helping me realise my true authentic self. It was a shock to find out that it is only in the last 10 years that women have been diagnosed and that so many tests were designed for children, so it's not a surprise adults get missed. I'm sure your passion and attention to detail will be an asset in your career.
I am so thankful to you for making this video. I just recently discovered I may be high functioning on the spectrum. I'm a lot older than you and you inspire me. I'm glad I ran into your video. I haven't let anyone know about this new discovery. I'm relieved to so much of what you have shared. One day I hope to stand in my truth as you do.
Wow. Thank you for sharing this. It was hard for me to watch at times.. because I felt like I was watching myself and I've been hiding myself. I hope that didn't come off as rude, but it's how I felt. It was very strange but also very empowering. I'm 34 and recently found out that I'm autistic. My brother who committed suicide was probably autistic as well, but no one saw it. Thank you for posting this and starting a channel
This was such an incredible video. I loved the way you expressed yourself and the things you said were so true, I felt so seen. Thank you for this video. I personally would like to see videos any of the topics of childhood trauma, how to have a strong will and not care what others think, intimacy, having and making friends, and I don’t know if you grew up around white people but if you did, the experience of being an autistic black girl at a PWI?
My son is 4 and I am getting him evaluated. He is brilliant but I just noticed a few markers. Their dad was kind of pushing back on testing but I can just sense something as his mom and keep advocating for him. I finally got a pediatrician who agreed on testing.
Can someone advise me on going about being diagnosed with autism, I am a black woman who has seen specialists as a child and I’ve been seeing mental health clinicians for years and have been diagnosed with unknown mood disorders and administered medications by doctors that I don’t even know why I’m taking it for. I’ve come to realize that I have just been deeply depressed due to emotional neglect, bullying from childhood. I’ve been masking for years and I don’t even know how to talk to ppl now that I’ve stopped. I self isolate but I desperately yearn to be a part of society and to be happy and thrive. I want to be seen and I want to feel validated. Please give me advice.
I'm assisting to I didn't find out till later on in my life too but I still understand that artistic people can live a normal life just like anybody else but we're we're special people will we see things more clearly we're extra extra smart people we diagnose things more deeper than average person
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m 20 years old and am just now getting diagnosed. It’s really nice how real and truthful you are. You are amazing.
Thank you for Sharing your story. My son is on the spectrum (26), You speak so well, and that's an issue he has. I would like to ask What's a good way to build up his Social skills? also, How can I help him with his memory. He's high function, love love to talk about sports. I look forward to seeing some more of your videos. Thank You again 👏👏
Hello! I found this video through TikTok, and I’m so excited to see where you take this channel! I am an undiagnosed young adult, but I was wondering if you’d be willing to make a video talking about your experience with unmasking around people for the first time. I’ve been unmasking around my mom for the past few months, but she still struggles to understand why I’m acting so differently. It feels as though she’s rejecting this part of me because she thinks I’m only acting this way because I’m unhappy. (I’m not. I’m just autistic.) Is there any advice you could give, or a story you could share? I would really appreciate it. ❤️ If not, I totally understand. You can count on my support.
Some times I get early confused. I finally figured out a good flow for socializing and like a “target vibe” ( I’m sorry that sounds so creepy :( I wish I didn’t have to initially think of it that way when I was studying it ). But anyway, now that I’m practiced at that flow it feels like the “real me” but then I’m thrown into another new social setting and have to start at square 1 and that analytical side comes out rather than my effortless wise side :( I’m grateful for both sides, and maybe it’s more about letting them play in there own separate safe spaces ?
can u share your experience as an undiagnosed teen i only ever hear ppl talk bout adult hood n bein undiagnosed like i nvr saw a blk wm talk bout it really n i’m undiagnosed n i just wan more info from the experiences of ppl who look like me yk
I finally realized I’m autistic as an 18 year old starting college soon..I love your content and would really appreciate a video on tips and tricks on how to navigate the social game as a new adult in a higher educational setting :/
Hope you're gonna make more videos. I'm an ADHDer suspecting I may also be on the spectrum. I notice you've got headphones on, do you wear them just because like I do?
@@t.terrell7037 I was just thinking bout this comment recently lol. Thanks for bringing me back here. I've since been diagnosed with Autism and sensory issues were identified as well. I've discovered a lot bout myself in the last 2 years.
"I don't wanna say condition"... you just said it. And no, I disagree. You don't necesserely need to be diagnosed for anything. These are just scapegoats for lazy people to about their lives feeling that they have an excuse for being how they are. If you truly are about somethinf you will disregard the fact that you are diagnosed or not with any of these conditions because no matter what will come as an obstacle between you and your goals, you will do all that is in your power to overcome them as opposed to act like "I have this and that, so it is normla I struggle with this and that" and be in your peaceful misery.
You nailed it: the maladaptive daydreaming, the endless scrolling, listening to music and videos, get bored with stuff and find things to distract myself instead of studying/taking care of business.
Oof I'm the same too.
that sounds like ADHD
@@nafeesahassan5469literally sounds like ADHD or even trauma coping or avoidance. Autism is way more specific than those things they listed
It would be sooo interesting to see how many late diagnosed were at one point labeled adhd inattentive?🤔
Struggling with that now
I'm black and autistic. I was diagnosed later in life.
What i do is talk to myself FREQUENTLY, i laugh at myself, jump around, daydream, silently scream and so on. I'm also sensitive to sounds which drives me crazy where i want to wear earmuffs (I will someday). I have some, but they're not helping. So I'm going to get me the 3m ones. Right now i can't because i wear glasses. Which I'm going to replace with goggles. So i can wear them.
"I struggle being human person every day if there's anyone who can handle advertising its me"
U gett it!!❤
I have both and I'm undiagnosed for Autism because my family refused testing. They didn't want me on meds because "the devil is a lie" so they just wanted to pray for me. Black family's think that these things are bad and evil. Now I'm 35 and seriously struggling because I'm just now realizing I suffered so much more with no support. Even now my family doesn't want to hear it so I have no support. They say I'm too smart and I'm just eccentric or diffrent. I'm just happy that I know for myself I've taken all the quizzes on the medical sites and they all tell me to find a doctor. So I'm going to find out how I can get a perfessional opinon and get the support I need for myself. I'm tired of hitting burn out and breaking down or exploding because Im overwhelmed in society period.
@glowdoll183 I'm sending you love. I'm 37. I am self diagnosed as of a year ago. My parents are pastors and they told me to not "claim" that my son is autistic...as my marriage is ending, I began to deal with trauma bonding, inner child healing, and other things... and I saw the traits of autism. I took a test and it said... I'm on the spectrum.
I still don’t know if I’m on the spectrum or not even if I do have some similar symptoms. I just have the bi-polar depression/schizoaffective diagnosis, but I do feel a lot of the overwhelming, over thinking, feel pulled one way or another cause of how society affects me. Not saying I want to destroy society, but try to keep improving it no matter how many steps it takes.
Hi! I am an attorney and just recently started considering that I’m autistic after burning out and being off work for the last year. I’m so happy to find this video as I start my journey with healthcare professionals.
Wow this is the first time I’ve ever seen a black woman say she maladaptively daydreams.
I’m a black woman too and I maladaptive daydream. I also suspect I have autism. The way you were swaying back and forth while talking is something I do sometimes.
Thanks for talking of your experience, I hope you keep doing it!
I do too and they can be very elaborate that's how I get through the day , that's also how I fall asleep background noise and daydreams.
Maladaptive daydreaming is a response or coping mechanism for high stress and anxiety. It’s not really an autism symptom, but it’s still common for ppl who are neurodivergent, depressed, or have some kind of mental illness or personality disorder tho.
Fellow autistic Black woman youtuber. I didn't get diagnosed until I was 19 and it actually got discovered after I went in for anxiety after getting bullied IN COLLEGE. I know that this video is old, but thank you for being here. I can see myself so much in you. We also have similar hand stims 💖 subscribing for any future content!
I’m self-diagnosed autistic after researching about autism via CZcams and interacting with other autistics on Instagram in 2020. I’m also 32 and a Latina woman; it seems almost impossible to seek and obtain a diagnosis as a marginalized adult :( thank you for making this video
Thank you for sharing your experience. ♥️You are not alone!
Self diagnosis is extremely valid. I have diagnosed myself, because I received a test for it and I was one point away from receiving the diagnosis and because of that one point I wasn't, but every single traits or symptoms I have read point to that. I'm 26 BTW and found out I had this at 19 in college
@@poeticjustice144 im waiting for a assessment but I'm self diagnosed too
''you don't know, you don't fucking know'' .... PREACH!!! preeeaaaaaach!!! that has been my EXACT experience! even just 1:05 in, im already enjoying your personality WAYYYY more than most people ive ever met in my life.... gratz on getting your diagnosis, not only as a woman, but as a black woman... holy SHIT you went through some obstacles to get what you needed..... i got mine in Dec 2021.... getting diagnosed is the best fucking present you'll ever get in your fucking life - no contest!
Any advice on getting a proper diagnosis as an adult?
I'm exactly a week away from my autism assessment. I'm 35. So many things you said resonated, especially "I struggle being a human person everyday."
Thank you for being you. I look forward to seeing more from you!
In my late 20s, struggling with school and after getting an ADHD diagnosis from a clinician that honestly has very little care/understanding to recognize ASD. Two years after a few unfulfilling therapy sessions with people I felt didn’t understand me or had the capabilities to recognize how autism presents in Black women.
Several months of burnout, self-hate, trying to force myself to be healthy, I realized that after masking, hurting, and feeling unseen by even my loved ones, my needs aren’t being met. It hurt to realize that to cope, I’ve hidden so many parts of me from others and myself.
Thank you for putting yourself out there because I’m realizing so many of us are just struggling alone and unseen. I hate that it took me hitting such a low point in my life to realize that. I hope we all can receive the support and love needed to live in a world that does not want us to be seen or heard.
I was not diagnosed until my masking led yo me having seizures. So i was diagnosed with epilepsy but a few years of my own research of my triggers, it was obvious that I have autism . I was in my 30s when everything started coming to a head. I had no verbage for "masking" but I have had to do it my entire life as a black woman.
Amazing- I got diagnosed this year ASD ADHD and it’s been so eye opening. I’ve been unmasking in all the places I can/feel safe and that part about why no one noticed/knew hits so hard. Also the part of handling adversity- I really felt that
How do u diagnosis?
Thank you for sharing your experience and for displaying your natural state as well. I've recently finally committed to no longer masking so it's very heartening to see another black woman not masking and being very candid about the parts of autism that nobody sees BECAUSE we mask. Especially because we, as women are socialized to conform to external expectations from birth. I'm not always the most articulate with how I describe and explain ASD to allistics, but videos like yours and other black autistic women creators greatly helps me communicate what I have a hard time explaining well. Please don't stop making this kind of content. It's so desperately needed not only in the US, but in the world! Hopefully one day I'll be able to also create content for autistics and adhders (I have both). Like you, I believe we have a kind of duty to help inform the world and just generally make our life in this world as full of opportunity for all the things just as allistics and other non-minoritized peoples have. Thank you again!
I'm so glad I could help. You could totally make content for the neurodivergent community as well! Good luck, I believe in you.
I think I'm on the spectrum as well. But my diagnosis was social anxiety. I'm definitely going to seek a second opinion.
As someone who is on the spectrum, social anxiety was just a byproduct of autistic burnout. Just knowing that I would have to mask would stress me out and cause me to not want to go out
Same…I’ve diagnosed with SAD and severe depression. I’m a Black girl…with a mental health disorder. My grandmother was mentally ill from Daddy’s side of our lineage. My grandmother was diagnosed with Type ll Bipolar and she has been hooked on Anti-Anxiety medications for years and my grandmother…committed suicide due to her severe mental illness and I lost my grandmother.
Depression, Bipolar, and Schizophrenia runs in my family…in both sides.
@@mariamart_0😔 I can only imagine what you go through. And about your grandmother and what happened. I definitely worry about that when I know worrying can make it worse and as I’ve been on meds for years.
I can't get over how similar yet distinct our stories are, thank you so much for sharing- looking forward to more of your videos
Your an amazing person, please don't stop being who you are
I'm a 22 year old black woman and I appreciate you speaking about this so much. I haven't been properly diagnosed for fear that I'll be misdiagnosed but, I relate to everything you spoke on and for the first time I don't feel so isolated. I have done my own research though and have come to the conclusion that I have autism.
I related so deeply to when you said you struggle being a human everyday as well. I often feel like I'm being a human all wrong but listening to you makes me feel sane. Especially when you spoke on always keeping yourself occupied woth audio books and youtube videos to not get bored which is something I constantly do or maladaptive daydreaming. I just feel so seen and so heard. Thank you so much🙌🌺
Thank you for being a black woman sharing your experience
Thanks for linking me over from Tiktok! This shit is important. I'm getting too old to not surround myself with loud neurodiverse people telling the truth/share my truth as well.
Thank you! Feel so seen 😩🥰
I have ADHD but currently been talking with my therapist and she just started the process of trying to dig more into the possibility of autism.
It’s hard to get a proper diagnosis or even someone to listen
I am also high functioning autistic, and love your story, makes me want to show you love and support ❤️💯
Just an autistic black man here love hearing many different things and places from another side of autism
Girl, I think you must have undiagnosed ADHD too, in addition to autism. I can relate to symptoms like maladaptive daydreaming, getting bored and distracted easily, and other ADHD symptoms and with some autistic ones too! I read an article that said a considerable percentage of autistic people have ADHD as well. I find your video and your experience as a black law school student on the spectrum interesting.
Thank you.
This is a common experience for us..
Much respect and gratitude for sharing your experience. I have a ton of neurodivergent traits, but as fellow adult female have been forced to mask my whole life. Very thankful to you and others with lived experience, helping me realise my true authentic self. It was a shock to find out that it is only in the last 10 years that women have been diagnosed and that so many tests were designed for children, so it's not a surprise adults get missed. I'm sure your passion and attention to detail will be an asset in your career.
Good video Kofi!! Keep the videos coming...more content is needed from black women /people with ASD...
I'm autistic, land have ADHD,
you are a beautiful person & your soul is as well
I’m so excited for your channel!!! I love every minute of this video!
Yay Kofi! Can’t wait for future videos❤️
Thank you for speaking your truth!
Thank you for this ❤️
thank you for sharing your experience 💗
I am so thankful to you for making this video. I just recently discovered I may be high functioning on the spectrum. I'm a lot older than you and you inspire me. I'm glad I ran into your video. I haven't let anyone know about this new discovery. I'm relieved to so much of what you have shared. One day I hope to stand in my truth as you do.
my niece have Autistic, and i love her the way she is, like a true uncle should
Wow. Thank you for sharing this. It was hard for me to watch at times.. because I felt like I was watching myself and I've been hiding myself. I hope that didn't come off as rude, but it's how I felt. It was very strange but also very empowering. I'm 34 and recently found out that I'm autistic. My brother who committed suicide was probably autistic as well, but no one saw it. Thank you for posting this and starting a channel
"I struggle being a human everyday"👏🏾👏🏾
Thanks for this open video. I appreciate it.
I’m glad I found you. Thank you for giving us a space to be seen.
A really good video Kofi very relatable :)
Your videos will help so many people.Thank you 🙏
YOU GO GIRL!! YOU ROCK,!
thank you so much for this video i have just been diagnosed ❤
I struggle with being a person everyday so if anyone can handle adversity its me. I felt this so much
I was recently diagnosed at 36. I feel all of this.
Thank you❤🙏🏼😘 love you
Wow, just wow (you have all my support)
I'd love to hear you talk about each subject you mentioned in this video, please.
This was such an incredible video. I loved the way you expressed yourself and the things you said were so true, I felt so seen. Thank you for this video. I personally would like to see videos any of the topics of childhood trauma, how to have a strong will and not care what others think, intimacy, having and making friends, and I don’t know if you grew up around white people but if you did, the experience of being an autistic black girl at a PWI?
Thanks for sharing I feel better now ❤️🩹
My son is 4 and I am getting him evaluated. He is brilliant but I just noticed a few markers. Their dad was kind of pushing back on testing but I can just sense something as his mom and keep advocating for him. I finally got a pediatrician who agreed on testing.
Snap! I have both, ADHD and PDD
Can someone advise me on going about being diagnosed with autism, I am a black woman who has seen specialists as a child and I’ve been seeing mental health clinicians for years and have been diagnosed with unknown mood disorders and administered medications by doctors that I don’t even know why I’m taking it for. I’ve come to realize that I have just been deeply depressed due to emotional neglect, bullying from childhood. I’ve been masking for years and I don’t even know how to talk to ppl now that I’ve stopped. I self isolate but I desperately yearn to be a part of society and to be happy and thrive. I want to be seen and I want to feel validated. Please give me advice.
Send me a message please
@@labelletlabete1 me you.
I'm assisting to I didn't find out till later on in my life too but I still understand that artistic people can live a normal life just like anybody else but we're we're special people will we see things more clearly we're extra extra smart people we diagnose things more deeper than average person
Didn’t get diagnosed till I was 15 and literally everything just clicked into place
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m 20 years old and am just now getting diagnosed. It’s really nice how real and truthful you are. You are amazing.
Thank you so much 😊 ! I wish you all the best in your journey post diagnosis. ♥️
thank you
Thank you for Sharing your story. My son is on the spectrum (26), You speak so well, and that's an issue he has. I would like to ask What's a good way to build up his Social skills? also, How can I help him with his memory. He's high function, love love to talk about sports. I look forward to seeing some more of your videos. Thank You again 👏👏
Imagine being 35 yo ICU RN and just now realizing you’re probably autistic. I feel sad bc I feel like my life could’ve been so different
u seem cool i like you. don’t have a suggestion tbh, i think ill enjoy any video u put out that youd like to make /pos
Hello! I found this video through TikTok, and I’m so excited to see where you take this channel! I am an undiagnosed young adult, but I was wondering if you’d be willing to make a video talking about your experience with unmasking around people for the first time. I’ve been unmasking around my mom for the past few months, but she still struggles to understand why I’m acting so differently. It feels as though she’s rejecting this part of me because she thinks I’m only acting this way because I’m unhappy. (I’m not. I’m just autistic.)
Is there any advice you could give, or a story you could share? I would really appreciate it. ❤️
If not, I totally understand. You can count on my support.
I made a video about my unmasking experience! Have you ever tried explaining masking and unmasking to her?
@@AutisticallyKofi Yes, and I recently got diagnosed, so my mom has been a lot more supportive.
Maladaptive day dreaming is my childhood
Some times I get early confused. I finally figured out a good flow for socializing and like a “target vibe” ( I’m sorry that sounds so creepy :( I wish I didn’t have to initially think of it that way when I was studying it ). But anyway, now that I’m practiced at that flow it feels like the “real me” but then I’m thrown into another new social setting and have to start at square 1 and that analytical side comes out rather than my effortless wise side :( I’m grateful for both sides, and maybe it’s more about letting them play in there own separate safe spaces ?
I just wanna add that maybe both can play at once and the real issue is not shaming myself for masking because we live in the era that we live :/
AMAZING! You are fucking strong.
can u share your experience as an undiagnosed teen i only ever hear ppl talk bout adult hood n bein undiagnosed like i nvr saw a blk wm talk bout it really n i’m undiagnosed n i just wan more info from the experiences of ppl who look like me yk
literally read me to a t, I’ve always been autistic I just repressed it since I was young
I finally realized I’m autistic as an 18 year old starting college soon..I love your content and would really appreciate a video on tips and tricks on how to navigate the social game as a new adult in a higher educational setting :/
Tells us about your diagnosis journey.
Hope you're gonna make more videos. I'm an ADHDer suspecting I may also be on the spectrum.
I notice you've got headphones on, do you wear them just because like I do?
Probably due to sensory issues
@@t.terrell7037 I was just thinking bout this comment recently lol. Thanks for bringing me back here. I've since been diagnosed with Autism and sensory issues were identified as well. I've discovered a lot bout myself in the last 2 years.
When you have the time it’d be great if you could make a videos about autistic traits women or black people are more likely to have!
Hello how am I just now realizing I’m autistic?
Sex videos get age-restricted. I use euphemisms on my channel like “making romance”.
Certain videos get age-restricted. I use euphemisms on my channel like “making romance”.
That’s fair. This channel is NOT for kids though.
So your Dolores?
Black, woman, autistic *and* ARMY? 😍 what else do we have in common
lol
Ahh! We’re twins! ♥️ Who’s your bias?
@@AutisticallyKofi I double bias Yoongi and Joonie. What about you?
@@awabia Awesome! Definitely Yoongi. I was always obsessed 🤩
Where are you from?
Lafayette, LA
@@AutisticallyKofi that’s dope I always wanted to go to New Orleans how far is Lafayette from there?
@@eastcoastnuke6011 I’ve been to New Orleans a lot. Lafayette is only 2 hours away from it
@@AutisticallyKofi ok cool whenever I come that way imma hit you up🤗
"I don't wanna say condition"... you just said it.
And no, I disagree. You don't necesserely need to be diagnosed for anything.
These are just scapegoats for lazy people to about their lives feeling that they have an excuse for being how they are. If you truly are about somethinf you will disregard the fact that you are diagnosed or not with any of these conditions because no matter what will come as an obstacle between you and your goals, you will do all that is in your power to overcome them as opposed to act like "I have this and that, so it is normla I struggle with this and that" and be in your peaceful misery.
What is your email so we can talk I am Black with Autism too
So am I. I'd always enjoy conversation on this topic.
Are you married I'm autistic
Sorry your prefessor said that to you, she sounds ignorant and cocky.
I was 2 when I was diagnosed with "high-functioning autism". I used to get a reaction out of people due to not knowing the social cues.
Immediate subscribe 🤎🖤
Sex videos get age-restricted. I use euphemisms on my channel like “making romance”.