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- Men get domesticated in long term relationships. That's why women lose attraction for them. In the beginning they were masculine and independent, highly attractive traits. As time goes on, men lose that confidence and become clingy and needy.
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One of the biggest issues is not only becoming domesticated but domesticated by low quality women.
Ben Hur
There really are very few left in the US, Australia, UK, NZ, and Canada. Go to Asia or Eastern Europe. Latin America and Africa are also preferable. Really, just get out of the Five Eyes countries, they’re the worst for men, simply abysmal.
Ben Hur If you want to meet higher quality women, I would think it’s best to meet women in person and not online. I realize that’s harder and harder today, but online seems so superficial. Getting to know someone in class, at work, through a hobby, through family/friends....just seems like it would be more genuine and more organic.
@@anneb889 exactly. i got off dating website's. its like its forced. when u just meet some1 in real life it works out. all the gf's ive had every single 1 i met in real life, not online. im 34 and thats since 20yrs old. I think ive had like 6 gf's and again all i met right in front of me not on a digital interface
@@concerta56 The point of a man is to develop goals, keep growing and live a fullfilling life without caring about women. Once you put yourself first and start increasing your social status through your efforts, the women will naturally appear after which you can choose the one who fits your interests best. Make woman chase you and not the opposite.
My brother is married to a hoe no joke
I concur - stop trying to please women and good things will happen.
It's like they don't want to be happy
I never lie to please anybody in general, trust me it helped me lot with women too, I never felt that I am lesser than her.
@The Zee it's definitely a good thing.
@The Zee until women haven't figured out exactly what they want and what's there role in the modern society, they will be all trouble. I hope I find someday a descent partner who is a real friend above all, but until then I am not wasting my time...we should focus on developing ourselves first and foremost, and a partner should help in this, not be a burden.
👌
Exactly what happened to a family I knew. She was a CEO and he was a detective, they were happily married for like 10 years, all that time she insisted that he would quit his job, cause it was actually dangerous. When he finally did, she lost an attraction to him and started a divorce.
Hope he finds better
@Al B okay
spqr1945 I know girls like to roll the dice like so... but Yisus Christ all that is as if coming out from a deeeeeeeep retarded "being" so bad
Nice destroyed his career then dumped him
Yes, because this have been another long period test which he eventually have failed on. Listen to what a woman says and do the opposite! That's the secret to Women! You should also ignore the drama because they have the intention to create it in first place. They kinda need this in order to feel themselves emotionalized. 🤣
you know as a man, at one point you just want to chill out.
Are you telling me you don’t want a girlfriend!?!?
* surprised pikachu face *
Jk, I hear ya. No personal experience with that here, but from what I hear a lot of people agree.
Yeah, but trust me, unless she's above 30 she'll get bored if you lose ambition
I get bored if I stop for even a week, and I'm in my thirties. I made the exact mistake covered in this video with a LTR; focused on her and stopped moving forward for a sense of "stability". What ended up happening: I became depressed and she couldn't be bothered with me anymore. I couldn't be bothered with myself either anyway so can't blame her. If you "want to chill out" as a man, and you aren't in your sixties, you might be depressed, or you haven't found your drive.
True.
Max That depends where you want to go. I am 31, I already arrived where I wanted to be in my profession. I am no top-tier alpha with 7 figure-salary, no, I do my job, between 50-60 hours a week and just cracked 6 figures. It allows me to travel multiple times a year (except for this year) and see places others cannot even be bothered with.
some females I am close to questioned my „ambition“ because I don‘t want to go further on the carreer latter, on the contrary: I am working towards being able to work less for the same money. I am a doctor btw, still working in a hospital but in about two years, I‘ll be far enough to leave.
Already now, I don‘t spend the money I earn, I save about a third of it every month and still live nicely. Climbing the ladder would mean way more bureaucracy and more working hours. For what? For more money I do not spend? For a family? I don‘t have one and I don‘t see myself having one, what I see is male colleagues getting trapped in loans to buy houses for their families and than being divorced, so they can work to pay off these loans and to pay alimony. Sure, if I had a family, I had a pretty good reason to go way further in order to provide them a good life. But as things are, chances of family life working out are low. I wanted children, but I don‘t want them raised in a single mother household and resenting me for not being there enough or whatever reason their mother would tell them. I saw my own mother badmouthing my father who worked his ass off only to get divorced. Only established a healthy relationship to him after I moved out the house after graduating from school.
Ambition is only attractive to women as long as it‘s not fulfilled. As soon as you arrive where you want to be, they‘ll see you as lazy, as unmanly.
Every time I've been in a relationship I've lost personal drive and motivation... And when it ends I get that motivation back. Something about regular sex and chilling with a girl can seriously dilute a mans drive
Can relate, I want to work to not have such a draining dynamic in the future
Rollo Tomassi said it best. A woman should be a welcome addition to your life, not the focus of your life.
@rvhron08 we all have choices. If a certain woman is not a person you would welcome into your life, then find a more suitable woman. Like all these CZcams guys say - you are the prize, not them.
Yes
These days its hard to find a woman at all unless you dedicate your life to finding one.
Women compliment a mans life. Excellence and God’s favor should be a mans focus.
@@RootzRockBand Spelling police here: Compliment is when you say something nice. Complement is a good fit- as in this tie complements the suit. Or, the woman I am seeing takes care of me. She complements my life.
Women aren't dishonest, they just don't know what they want. That sounds like foolishness to me.
They are dishonest though...
wise words indeed. women are adults with a child mentality. once you see that for what it is, it becomes easier dealing with them.
seekernot lost I know what I want, guessing that now I am a man...
It’s a matter of semantics changing the meaning
@@Gizziiusa moste men too...
I remember back in college, I was in a band, and things were fine till we added a new member, a female vocalist, and that was probably the worse thing you could do to a young thirsty all male group. Everyone was all over her, guys started getting feelings, causing stress to some of the members because she was pulling away from them and guys arguing with each other. But in the end she wound up with one of the members... ME... Why? She told me because I wasn’t doing what the others were doing, I seemed like I didn’t care.. Which I naturally did, I naturally knew how to build tension, but didn’t realize it.
We didn’t last a year, I’ve failed her tests, I became domesticated. I still had a few things to learn.
The first valuable lesson of many I’ve learned about relationships.
You live and you learn..
If your not learning you’re dying.
It's all about manipulating and lying to them tbh.
Great, what do you play?
Daniel Bologna I played lead guitar but that was ages ago..
@@cjpatz
Ah, pretty cool. Bass is still my fave but I also enjoy the guitar.
@mikebalko Most want to be dominated and never bored! If you're tired of her then don't do these things! Women always have been and always will be children! Treat them as so!
When I was younger, I started dating my current wife. and at one point she questioned me and complained that I was going out with my friends and not giving the proper attention she wanted.
I told her to sit down and listen:
Do not dispute me with my friends or you will lose!
Our relationship has been going well ever since.
also 1 more doubt. Does women deep down want a man who abuses her which shows his masculinity as there are many cases I see where women are attracted to these type of men or are they attracted to men who are rude and abuses other except the girl he likes and is only nice and sweet to her and acts like a nice guy only to her but is like an alpha male to other people expect her???
@@Rohit-rx5rz you have to mirror their behavior, if they are good you can be good, if they act up you are gone
This is confusing 😵😵😵 It seems men are much better off living single rather than trying to find a solution to an impossible puzzle especially when the stakes are so high (your car, your house, your pension, your inheritance, your kids, your money, etc).
Yep.
If you're with the wrong woman (and the chances of that are higher than being with the right woman), yes. So yes, the odds are definitely stacked against you when it comes to getting involved with a woman.
100%, speaking from experience
You can have everything, including the girl. You should never mary.
not related to this video but please stop interviewing Women in groups.. Most times they just agree with each other
Probably also taking into account theit age and their profession as well. Would be interesting to hear something different from someone that is older and has life experience and can offer up some wisdom and common sense. Chicks in their 20s are still holding onto their high school type mentality and normally dont mature until theyre 26 or 27.
@@nicktubara Sadly it's closer to eighteen for women, twenty seven for men. That's why we constantly hear how quickly girls 'mature'. And believe me their delusions are even greater in the Forties as too what they will 'settle for' !!
@@modernistmatt2658 lol them mature at 18? It could vary from gal to gal but the ones id come across from when i was seeking out some 'company' they dont have a fkn clue what they want and are easily enamoured by chad's n brads lol. Now i just do my thing n not GAF about these bimbos. As i get older my time n energy become more important n im not gonna waste any of it on some Becky or Jennifer.
haha yup immature girls "yea what she said, yea totally". LISTEN TO THIS GUY Ash 5681, hes right!!! no more group interviews!!!
Ash 5681 this
Excellent video. I think often why men become domesticated is because of their emotional need. They enter a relationship, get a taste of feeling loved and they NEED more of it like an addiction, and they will compromise to get it. Unfortunately I speak from experience - I behaved in this way until I faced the demons of my dysfunctional upbringing which left me a deeply wounded and needy person. This allowed me to transcend that need. All men and women want love, which is healthy and good, but if you need it so badly that you will compromise the traits that originally made you a happy man - and attractive to her - to keep it, you will not keep it and you will not keep your self respect. It is a lose-lose proposition.
Very eloquently put
*"There is no point in reading a book, when you already know how it ends."*
That's like saying there is no point in living life when you already know you're going to the grave.
nah nah it’s like saying not to go down that road because it’s a dead end
@@hoseasanchez4569 Like life 😂 that's why people off themselves. The process is more important. The end justifies the means.
@Jotaro Kujo So you've never reread a book? Many of us enjoy experiencing something more than once, because even though the story stays the same, you change. Taking the time to see how your perception of the same story has changed can be a wonderful opportunity for self-reflection.
These women of today just are not worth it.
I’ve been guilty of doing this in the past and it always backfired. To be honest in relationships I’ve had I’ve always had to sacrifice time and a lot of money that would have gone for personal goals, work goals, or hobbies that would help me and it stressed me out. Tried the stupid logical approach of explaining which was never listened to. Painful lesson.
These days I focus on my work, finances, health, goals, and am quickly making progress because it’s important to me and my personal fulfillment. The way I look at women now is if she somehow fits in or compliments my life and direction I might consider her. I don’t see many women out there that are worth my time or energy Unfortunately women are good chameleons and fake their interests, etc. Stay on your path. If she’s not into it she can leave (and her beta orbiters and “so called friends?” Can fill her void/needs)
But then when with a girl, a girl will leave bc you (ie anyone) spends too much time on theirselves. It's just funny how it all works out
@@kingkang6877 cant win either way
I love your term 'High-Quality Women" and with the two girls you interviewed in this video, I personally don't see that quality here. The one in the white top is pretty and bubbly, but that is a basic trait millions of women have. I get the vibe that both of them are single and unsure of what they really want. I've read many of the comments and other viewers think the same.
It's very TRUE.
Here is my story:
Last year I was very focused on myself and goals until I met this girl at concert. She was interested in me and asked me to visit her sometimes. After first date she became very attracted to me.
I could say I wasn't even thinking about her that much but she kept calling me everyday and wanted to see me often. To me she was a friend with benefit but she admired me and said how much she loves me and how I changed her life for better. It was like this for a few months but I fell for the trap and told myself: "maybe I should be more emotionally close to her because it seems like she doesn't have anybody else. She said she loves me and the right thing to do is to give back the love"
I started sending her flowers and love letters and told her that I love her too and put my guard down. I started to answer her calls and send her good morning texts everyday.
Few days later she stoped calling me and after I called her to see what's up she said she wants to break up! Then I tried to be more compassionate and understanding toward her by showing her my emotions and concerns. Few days later she slept with random guy and she stopped talking to me at all!
I felt I got emotionally abused but that's the way it is!
Emotional Tampon. Clean yourself up bro and focus on you, cuz you da prize!
Never I repeat NEVER let a woman chase you. Only damaged women chase men, women on they right mind don't do that.
im sorry. thats sad. ive been through it too.
A lot of females equate emotional males with weakness. Stay on your purpose and make sure the female is the cherry on the cake. Goals > hoes.
@SLKZ Sup dude
Wow didn't fully relieze the impact of how psycho women can end up.
@Heywood Jablowme #not all women
They can be pretty psycho. They ride emotions all time but not all women
Complacency is beaten into men's heads, because "you have to please a lady to like you."
- Desire is not a choice, it happens instantly but the more he tries to please her, the more he falls off from her radar
so are you saying try not to please her too much because she'll lose interest?
@@sharrybaythompson1935 I would say live a pleasant life for yourself and if she finds it joyful, she'll join you. "Pleasing" her is putting her on a pedestal. She needs to be a compliment to you, not the centre of attention.
@@osse1n ahh I see..but if she finds your life or lifestyle joyful, wouldn't that mean she's only with you because of your lifestyle? or is it possible that she could like both the lifestyle and you?
@@sharrybaythompson1935 YOU create the lifestyle, you are the source of it. If you are truthful with yourself at all times, INTEGRITY is the word you are looking for, you will be acting only according your priority list. Guess who is first on that list. Yourself. When the truth is your drive, you will recognise her intentions. That's why they say "real recognises real". If she enjoys you, fine. If not, the door is over there. Your happiness is your own doing.
@@osse1n yea that makes sense, thanks
This is absolutely TRUE!
Infact, this is the reason why I am not married anymore. I changed my ways for what I thought was going to help the relationship. Boy was l wrong....
What a woman wants, and what a woman says she wants are two entirely different things.
Alex is right, just do you, and don’t go changing.
I can verify I made slot of these mistakes over a 10 year marriage and it killed it.
Everything you say I would support
I remember that my friend's granpa once told me when we talked as i waited for my friend on his porch, he teased me about if i have girls and that kind of thing, and i remember him saying,
"Don't listen what women say, observe how they behave" Something like that, i think i translated it good enough, I'm Croatian.
Alexander grace is one of my favourite you tubers for the great and honest advice he gives.
I know that this is what most men need to hear and know in their late teens or early 20's, A.S.A.P.!!! I never had this and so much heart-break could've been avoided...but very few people care about the truth(defined as "how things work with humans"), men need to know, understand and accept the counter-intuitive nature of women if we are ever to be happy with them, again, after what F-eminism has done...thank you very much, Alexander Grace!
Next time you should say: there's a difference with what a woman wants, what she says she wants AND what she knows she wants.
And what they respond best to.
I don't understand the 'what she knows she wants' part. Can somebody explain, please?
@@CosminPerisan women say they want a caring,loving person but what they want is someone who treats them poorly
@@CosminPerisan those are the open demands they freely state without hesitation.... Like...". No short men"... Niw if he is worth a billion dollars... She'll be placing a short man on a platform build out of that billions
@@CosminPerisan "think" instead of "know". I.e. What she thinks she wants. Or: she says one thing, thinks another thing, but really wants a third.
Sounds rather derogative. But many of us have had our experiences....
As a divorced man, I can tell you that you are absolutely spot on! Keep up the good work!
Alexander is like the pure source of information when it's about women, this video helped really well.
This is absolutely truth. It’s incredibly confusing, but true. The best way I can translate it is that the woman thinks that if she can control you that easily and get you to change for her, them everyone else can influence you that easily as well. This, in turn, means another woman can influence you to cheat on her, neglect your children, sabotage your job, etc. All that takes away the sense of security she had in the relationship.
Bless you Bro! Such an honest truth. Yes true, if she can easily control and manipulate you, then life and other women, even very very low quality women can easily do so as well. Life is a call for backbone...
What you’re failing to address in this video is that the type of woman you describe is not the kind that a self-respecting man should tolerate in his life.
If she is testing you, it could be your failing your own masculinity, not her low quality.
@@alexandergrace5350 it also could be that the woman is very insecured, which is a sign a low quality.
High quality women don't test too much, they spot good traits in a man and support him in his path. Usually those women have had a healthy relationship with their mother and their father which were good examples in the family. Low quality women, on the contrary, will, due to their insecurities and lack of good parental role figures, constantly create drama, a.k.a. "test", by projecting those insecurities onto a man and the relationship. She can't help herself because she never learnt something else.
@@DDoonniiXX True, insecure women are going to test like crazy and create an unreasonable amount of drama. It's like they have a psychological issue going on that makes them do it.
Every time I have decided to not be a doormat, they break up with me too. That's why this is good advice. Keep your eyes on what you want to make your life. That way, either a woman who believes in you and will support you will come or you'll at least arrive where you intended to drive in the first place.
USSResolute yes and not being afraid of them just being a revolving door, if they come... fine, welcome. You go now? Ok there is the door bye.
Yeah… I don't need someone in ny life who will test me like that. Talk about insecure.
Every women tests you wether she is high or low quality.
As long as you never get “oneitis” even if she leaves you won’t care.
The moment a woman try to test me with something as stupid as proving my masculinity or my sense of independence, that's the end of it, im the one losing interest and I will leave that relationship, I don't have to prove my worth for a petty unconscious defense mechanism, I hate that, I dislike to a point that has basically no return, it doesn't matter who she is, I don't get into a relationship to be tested, I get into a relationship because I enjoy being with that person, because it enriches my life
If she tests you, drop her. You should'nt deal with baggage she has yet to unpack consciously
Lmao. They all will test you. It is natural like breathing.
Most of your videos released a lot of my stress and this is one of them. I shouldn't make someone a hurdle to my success.
Your videos also made me understand why women do some things that was very nonsensical bs to me before but now I can put myself in they shoes and understand their limitations and advantages and it all made sense.
Thank you for making these videos 👍
Well I am 8/10 guy that never had a relationship, why? I am poor and I like to be free.
If you have the freedom you desire, then you're the richest a man can be.
@salaa23 Lol wtf you honestly believe 80% has never been with a girl.?
@@vladkostin7557 It's not a mirage, it's just all you've got (for now, and I also speak for myself). Go get it, build build build. I'd be happy see us do that.
"I am 8/10 guy"
yeah....
@@ahmadsqalli3904 you do realize 8/10 guys do actually exist right ?
Truth! This happened to me- Domesticated me-I become unhappy => relationship destroyed...do whatever you desire, if you are a quality man, it will grow you, but if you listen to her and do what she wants, you lose yourself and her.
What I like about your videos is they are short and you get straight to the point when explaining things. Unlike some channels that take more than 10 mins to go around one theme
It saddens me to see that the world is like this. Countless men with countless stories and these women aren't held accountable
So true
Talking at work my buddies and I nicknamed this the "motor cycle conundrum". Girl dates guy with a motorcycle,
which represents his masculinity and all that made him exciting, and over time they get married, move in together,
have kids, ect, so he sells the motorcycle. Girl no longer finds him interesting, and it is a "low quality" or less
intelligent woman who rather sees the connection and encourages him to live life to the fullest again, just
figures she can find someone else.
All things in life have a price, have give and take, and domestic life is no exception. JT
I totally agree with your points and the premise of not changing and becoming less masculine once you enter a relationship, but I'd also like to point out an idea that might also be playing a part in relationships falling apart in this manner.
I believe this is an idea I heard from watching a Jordan Peterson lecture that made a lot of sense to me. He said something along the lines of: When you fall in love with someone, you aren't falling in love with that specific person, because you don't really know them yet, you only know a few minor details about them. You're really falling in love with the idea of perfection in the other person. But the problem is that nobody is perfect, everyone has flaws, and you can never actually have a relationship with that ideal person. The sacrifice of a relationship is that as you learn more about the other person, they become less like the perfect image you had of them, and more like their real individual self. Although this doesn't sound great, it's inevitable because there is no such thing as the ideal woman/man. While this doesn't sound great, the benefit that you then get from the relationship is that you then have someone you can trust and be your full true self around, and them the same.
I have a feeling this idea can explain some of the "dying relationship" phenomena on top of what was brought up in the video. While yes, people may change when they find the security of a relationship, I think a lot of young people haven't fully grasped the fact that when you begin a relationship with "Mr Perfect" you aren't actually in a relationship with the prefect guy, only the image of him in your head. Then once you get to know him more, because that's how relationships work, you realize he wasn't the perfect image you had in your head, so you break up with him. This of course doesn't work over time because you will never find mr perfect.
Now obviously this isn't the case in all scenarios, some guys really do become complacent or lazy or aren't who you thought. There are clearly exceptions to this I'm not trying to explain every break up, and this works for both guys and girls. But I think this definitely explains part of the typical young relationship dying quick when it started out very good.
thank you for this, my psychologist was leading me on to understand this but I ignored it. I was blinded by love and my emotions. Now that I've heard it from you and other videos I hope that it will finally be hardwired into my brain.
Your channel is the best kind of information i've ever came across regarding female nature. It's as if women knew this and want to hide it deliberatedly. The more oblivious we are towards female nature, the less energy they have to spend in their acting...
Golden advice. Advice which saves headache. Thank you Alexander. We appreciate your work.
Spitting truth right there bro.. When i look at things into retrospective
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3:15 but its pretty dishonest if she says something she wants , when in reality she wants the opposite.
Its the old source of why we cant take them seriously...
You hit the nail on the head right there. Unfortunately, Grace thinks men should outsmart these female mind games instead of saying GTFO to such women.
It's because women react to feelings more, they dont intend to be dishonest all the time.
Mircea Ciocoiu That’s not an argument, it’s an excuse.
@@darrylsloan it's a fact, so you need to act based on that as if it's something they can't control.
Mircea Ciocoiu You’re basically saying that women are incapable of overcoming base impulse. That’s like a woman claiming that all men are incapable of governing their aggression.
Thanks for this Alex!
So... Its a trap? 😂😂
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If the woman does not understand what she wants the usefulness and basis of a honest relationship falls apart. I think something that is 100% attraction is not a relationship, it's some kind of trick that a guy can pull off for a short period of time.
Exactly
It's not always that a man stays wild and free and doesn't get dumped, Alexander. That's why my last woman dumped me: I wouldn't BE domesticated, and we had had what i thought was a good thing going. I had a sick mother, and responsibilities to her, full load of classes at college, a part-time job, and when I had free time i loved to spend it with my girlfriend. And she knew all these things. Not to mention that we lived a couple cities away from each other. So I was holding up my end of the relationship. I think that she had another guy and just cut me loose for a domesticated man. Her loss.
Take care of yourself and your mother!
At the end of the day the only surefire thing is YOU
@@CosminPerisan Thank you, CP. My mother passed in our home in 2017. I hope that you are faring well.
I have a new GF now and we are doing well.
ALL THE BEST!
@@larrymasterspowerbuildingc4477 Sorry to hear that, man. All the best to you too!
You only need to be:
Ambitious
Masculine
Don't follow orders
Follow orders
Don't show emotions
Show emotions
Don't be rich
Be rich
Be among the top 98% in looks
But not TOO good looking
Dating is simple!!
I think Alexander has been studying at the University of Patrice O'Neal.
What i hate most is that he Interviews women in groups not realising is their in herd mode.
John Whipple
This is right out the black Philip show, almost verbatim, simply worded differently.
@@initialparody2521 Another Black Phillipian I think Patrice is the only weapon a modern man needs.
@mikebalko I've isolated some Huns and they do have the same herd like mentality but difference is when alone they can admit that they don't know why they think such,and that it's the Vagina mafia forcing such thoughts into them.
@mikebalko They don't overtly admit it😂😂you beat them down with Logic and they admit that they don't know.
Thank you for sharing this knowledge my friend, I wish you an amazing day and all the best. Cheers mate.
Excelent video, Alexander!
I am glad we have you on this planet.
WHERE WERE YOU THE LAST YEAR? 😂😂 jeez. I really needed to understand this. Thank you
There’s what they want, then there’s what they think they want and then finally there’s what they need. Unfortunately we are not evolved enough to understand what we need so we try and make life about the other 2 options and it ends up in a high divorce rate.
What do they need?
Debojit Dutta That is a good question. We are not at the point of understanding what each individual needs, we are still in the phase of generalizing what we should all need and since most people are not ready to look into things deeper than our opinions we aren’t going to make much progress and relationships are going to remain difficult.
I won’t say much more because usually this is the point most people want to leave the discussion because beyond this point we have too look at ourselves and see how much work is there is to do.
@@richvail7551 Maybe that is the key word, "individual".. Each woman will be different. But one good giveaway of what they need may be to focus more on the non-verbal statements, reactions and gestures they unconsciously make rather than the verbal ones. It will be a trial and error process before we start having even a slight understanding. Anyways, thanks for the reply.
Spot on! Nailed it
Great stuff mate
Awesome advice. Thank you so much.
Very insightful! Thanks!
Love this channel
Great video, thanks!
It’s true. Before I got married I was the ‘bad boy’ a few years into the marriage things had changed. But it’s difficult once you both live together and know everything about each other.
Also she knows she is your sole access to sex so competition anxiety is gone ie she does not need to keep banging you to hold your attention as you are ‘locked in’ to the mortgage/marriage . Women fall in ‘love’ with an idea. In this way they have the mind of a child.
I agree, when a man is trying to hard to please me that's a NO!!! Don't do it. If I can "manipulate" you into what I want, I lose interest and respect too! Agreed with Alexander on this 100%!
Good for you.
That's the 1st step.. Admitting that you have a problem.
Have you sought out professional help fod your condition yet?...
@@robkitchen5344 What is my problem exactly? Yours is not being able to comprehend written text as I can see.
Great stuff!
This confirms my theory. If you want to keep a woman wet, get other women to want you. Make her see it. Make her feel it when she's the only one with you. Make her know that as soon as she stops thinking about you, another woman can take you away from her.
You are absolutely right.
Thank you, this is insightful.
It's a catch 22. If you're fulfilling your purpose a woman from the outside will find that attractive but your GF or wife at a certain point might lose attraction for not giving her enough attention.
@@TenableVegan you're aware techlead is a satire channel, right?
@@MrFram He was being serious when his wife left him. And he actually did make that much money.
I don't think it's specifically working a lot that made her leave. Techlead has a unique sense of humor that not a lot of women can vibe with. He isn't masculine/dominant in the slightest either. He is a smart guy though in programming, but smart guys that aren't aware of the sexual dynamic men & women play, get used as ATMs.
It’s a balance. Yes, women want hard working men, but if you can’t devote even one night a week, or carve out some time to spend together, you are roommates, you’re not really in a relationship. When men act like it’s a chore to spend time with the wife/gf, the message they are getting is he doesn’t care if I’m around or not....he’d rather be working....or if it’s playing video games, out with his friends, watching sports, his hobbies, etc. I don’t think women need to/or should demand every moment, we all need our space, I’d like to think setting aside one night a week, or one night on the weekend that is carved out for you to spend time together, is even enough. It doesn’t have to be spending money. Take a walk at a park and hold hands and talk. Catch up on a show or movie you wanted to watch together and discuss it, watch a comedian and laugh, whatever. One night a week knowing she has your undivided attention, can go a long way. It signals to her that she matters to you, and that you care about her.
@@anneb889 Nice to read this depth of info from a women's perspective. Thank you!
mikebalko Idk, the first movie I saw with my husband in the theater was Legends of the Fall. It was so depressing, and we talked about it for a while as we had dinner afterwards. And when we have watched the Sopranos, and more recently The Americans, we would sometimes discuss them. We are older, we are not thinking of the feminist, lgbt, or racists agendas, etc. I actually got annoyed he didn’t watch breaking bad because I wanted to discuss it with him. Some of these shows have a lot to unpack, lol. He’s well read, very perceptive, and insightful, I always look forward to his interpretations. We were raised Catholic, but I can see you point about Jews, they probably sit around analyzing shows/movies the most, lol.
Learned this the hard way but totally true
I wish I can afford to give you all my money lol you're content is amazing brother
This is so true !!!
One of the best on youtube.
Right, however how many women who claim they want an ambitious man actually chooses him when he arrives? The idea is attractive, but in reality the effort needed to keep said ambitious man is beyond the ability for the average woman to achieve.
Alexander, just thank you for this advice so usefull for men.
Very wise words.
100% Correct Bro! I hope more men listen to you. I've been married for 15 years now.
She's not testing you; its her insecurities getting the better of her.. She'll also try to dress you to make you less attractive to other women.. insecurity again.
This video made me realize why my GF broke up with me.
When we met.
I was sad, alone, broken, and just, not the type of guy that people would date
She and i were good friends, really good friends. She helped me with my problems, and I became confident, cared less, and just became, so much more masculine.
After about 6 months of knowing her, she asked me out (incredible, I know)
And we dated for, some months.
But when I got mor affectionate, and softer, she started losing interest,and I never knew why she would just leave me.
But after watching this video, I realized,being too affectionate won't be good in a relationship (atleast from my experiences)
Edit: spelling
Bro but 1 doubt. She fell for you when you were broke, depressed and sad and when you had all those sort of things right then only you became confident and all but she broke up again when you were more affectionate and were like softer?? How tho. Like what type of things did you do to make her feel you were showing too much affection to her
also 1 more doubt. Does women deep down want a man who abuses her which shows his masculinity as there are many cases I see where women are attracted to these type of men or are they attracted to men who are rude and abuses other except the girl he likes and is only nice and sweet to her and acts like a nice guy only to her but is like an alpha male to other people expect her???
@@Rohit-rx5rz I was being clingy and not "myself" anymore, if that makes sense.
I couldn't keep my affection in and that was too much for her, which made her leave
@@Rohit-rx5rz and I started dating her When I was confident, not before, we were just best friends before all that
@@stoony1745 so she eventually developed feelings for you when you were confident but didnt have feelings for you before that?
100% facts!
Spot on!
100% right!! When I look back at my last LTR this is where I went wrong.
Why exactly happened?..
True facts!
Will you or your overseas mates ever interview classy girls? I struggle to take your chicks seriously, wouldn't give them a second look.
U right about that bro he should interview high class women because he always goes on about them.
@@asifvirk953
Indeed. Low grade girls he constantly presents as someone we allegedly are interested in.
Not so.
Your best video so far.
Wow great advice :-)
Excellent 😎👍👌
Brilliant 👌
Wow everything you said is exactly what happen to me. When women get what they want the just don’t want it anymore.
When men call women crazy... This is it, right here. Want one thing do or say another.
When married, dating phase passes...you work & raise the kids and plan for future using time off for emergencies and family vacation. If both parents are working it makes it difficult to teach children good behavior, morals, ethics of sort. But can be a financial struggle, although a 2nd job only increases taxes, car maintenance/gas costs and childcare costs since you need someone to watch them.
Women like to spend and travel a lot, not exactly ideal to becoming successful. If you invest & save first, plan for children in advance things can work.
Alexander this alone is THE #1 way to get and keep a woman, hands down! I see it all the time.
I'm a living sample off this, I always had my exes working their way to be with me, I always felt like they loved me more then me, but I had one that I loved so much, I felt like I had to change and then I gradually lost her interest, but I knew the reason why. Forgive my english.
@Alexander Grace, mate you have to put more inputs from multiple women. Not just one stating "Ambition"
Basically, don't lose your sense of self after entering a relationship, got it
But to keep this up into your later years too...always playing this game...it just sounds exhausting.
I blame societal standards and lack of personal male figures
RIP RICH PIANA
The solution is to live your life on your own you don't need a girl.
You don't need her, you're right but you want her! That's the reality!
This is 💯
A busy man pursuing his ambitions is truly the most attractive man.