THIS is how you handle MONEY and MARRIAGE in the PHILIPPINES!
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I’ve been watching CZcamsrs about the Philippines for about a year and Mike is standup guy seems to have a good grasp on how things work.
A stand-up guy who was dating college girls when he was 68, that sounds more like a pedophile
Im a US expat living Philippines now 17 years, your the only volgger I've subscribed to on the first visit. I may know it all, but I still like to hear other expats views with common sense.
I did the same thing with Princess. Her "allowance" was 10,000 a month. 5000 was for her private, single signer savings account, not to be touched. 5000 was for her sisters, i.e. family. I covered everythiong else, including clothes and "make-ups." After awhile she had built up $3000 usd. Then, "poof", they talked her into sneaky blowing every penny on a stupid "multi-cab" for one relative. They have no concept of savings or investment for future.
Lol some have no idea but I would say ..they have huge pressure piled on them by disingenuous gritters.
The first wad of cash I ever had, I blew too. The second time around you know better.
@@riffraff521 Ya live and learn ..
"they have no concept for savings or investment for the future". Sounds like they would fit right in here in the US.
Filipinos known to take advantage of items on sale.
Good day. I recently married a province girl , I agree with a lot that you gentleman have said in respect to giving your wife and her family money. Helping to support your wife’s family is a given. You can fight it all you want, it will never end well. I give my wife 20,000 peso a month. She can do whatever she wants with it and that includes helping her family. I made it very clear that this is HER budget and I expect her to live within that budget. I know sometimes there are things my wife will want that are “ not in the budget”. We discuss these things when they arise. Some might say that I give my wife more than she needs to live comfortably. , However, in my wife’s 33 years she has worked hard for near nothing, has helped to support her family and is an absolutely wonderful person and wife. I am happy to make her life better as that is exactly what she does for mine.
Your brain and your heart are in the right places...
if they want more then budget for that month, deduct it from the next months payment
What gets me is I always hear foreigners say it’s part of their culture. Why isn’t it part of their culture when they’re married to local men?
The Filipino man was considered the Poor Man of Asia.
The culture itself many times to excuse the boys from assuming responsibility and independence.
And they many times can be temperamental and very aggressive with foreign women, and likewise see foreign women as future sources of income.
Likewise Filipinos, men and women, like extravagance.
if i was old and ugly id be glad if a pretty filipina had a transactional relationship with me lol
I’ve made this comment on Mike’s channel before; I think that he has done this the right way (despite some of the jerks that disagreed with me). When you come into the Philippines and ‘disrupt’ the life of a young woman that is working and contributing to their family - you have a responsibility to help her replace her income if YOU ‘require’ her to quit working - especially if she has been supporting other family members. However, if your budget doesn’t allow for this - then, you must be clear with her at the outset, and let her make her own decision.
It may not be wholly necessary to replace all of her income (since, presumably, you will be covering all of her living expenses as part of the arrangement), but it is simply wrong to cut her off from any access to money (especially when her situation is as outlined above).
Thanks Mike for being a good example of what we as American ex-pats should be in the Philippines.
Let me also add that you must act with respect to her ability to budget - many Filipinas have never learned to ‘save’ money - especially since they haven’t ever had much of it. Remember that even though we (as Americans) are accustomed to paying our bills as monthly bills - I believe that it is wise to provide her ‘allowance’ by the week, because that is how she is used to managing her money.
*and - preemptively, to anyone who chooses to argue about this with me - I won’t engage with self-centered, selfish, unreasonable, bottom-feeding users, which you surely are if you cannot see legitimacy in this decent approach to dealing with a woman in the Philippines.
In helping the family, it isn't your "fair share." I promise you, women who has an foreigner as a bf, especially foreigners who are legally married (not shacking up with a girl), your wife is expected to provide more than their "fair share." Slice and dice it anyway you want but that are the facts.
What is expected if the Filipina marries a local guy
Listen they got stop thinking them young ladies is in love with Grandpa they poor and they need help that's it
@curtisake7431 That's not true, if you have found a good filipina, her and her siblings, all contribute to take care of the parents and the parents home, met my wife and brought her to the states, and she has never asked me for money for her family. When we do retire in the Philippines in a few years, its only reasonable if I want my wife to quit working to retire in the Philippines, its only right I commit to replacing some of her income to help contribute to the families care as she has always done with her siblings, or else I should not ask her to leave employment in the USA to go to the Philippines where there are not any jobs that she can help support her family with. Have an understanding about money before you marry or move in with a girl, just as Mike said. My wifes family has never expected more from her because she is married to a foreigner. My wife has been the one that has decided how much she can give and it has always been like that with her.
^ @curtisake7431 ^ This ^ He is 100% right.
This old man is a simp and a nutcase.
Don't let this BS "boomer" con you on befalf of the women here that Grandpa wants to bed.
Just because you can live on your "pension" and it is "no big deal", for some of us IT IS and we don't want them to swindle us out of what they already have.
Maybe if you are a dirty old man and expect it, than somewhere between morality and your depravity this is "ok"...but for the rest of us? Not a chance man.
No one, I repeat no one, wants to be in love with the illusion of parting with your cash as if it is some kind of "boomer magic". It's just gross, and it will continue to be gross, and you can look at the camera with your coffee and your "side eye" and take that to the bank dude.
Pragmatic, straightforward, info I can use. More useful than the previous 20 dating Filipinas videos I have seen combined. Thanks
My girlfriend worked at the call center in Manila. She was making $11/day and just worked weekdays. My girlfriend did have a 4 year Bachelor's Degree though. One of my buddies dated a province girl Filipina that was 19 with no college education and she was making $6/day working as a Nanny in a house. That is what you should expect to pay them if you want them to quit their job. Hope this helps.
Bargain
"pay them" that's weird!
@@walkerskiilol hell I had to pay my ex wife hundreds of thousands after she quit!
Didn't realize how much I owed her after 25 years thank God the family court was there to put numbers to it and enforce the collection 😮
Ps my kids were grown that was all in her pocket! Now that's weird!!!
I'm paying 24K/month for my GF until she becomes full time instructor here in Cebu University, that's how much she will be earning with master degree.
Great advice guys thank you astralia
Paying a girl to like you is just as satisfying as paying her to laugh at your jokes.
Mike has only been here a very few years he seems grounded but not proven
Money is the relationship.
If you cant fathom this, you're lost. Close the bank and see what happens.
Thing is though, money is the relationship here in the west as well. If one has a trad wite/gf he better be expected to pay/provide for at least her and her immediate family (kids and mom/dad). Everybody else should be on their own and make their own way.
@@MrHeart1 no way I pay for anyone's family but mine.
Always bought cars and covered shortfalls for my wife’s mom and granny here in US, was proud to do it.
You are right, but it is also based on his control over her. He could have stayed home and met a retired woman with her own money to go travel with but chose to be in a relationship where he controls all the money. If they get married wait until she wants to go the states.
My wife was not impressed with the US.
Great advice as usual . Thank you for sharing
Fantastic interview, Fantastic honesty.
Thank you
Let me make it easy for you. Think of it as tip to a waiter. The range is 10% for acceptable service 20% for great service, up to 25% for exceptional service.
It is the percentage of your total monthly budget.
You spend $2000/months, you have your dream girl you give her 450$/mo.
She is just acceptable, you give $200/month.
She is terrible, give her zero.
Thank me later.
Hey Chad, great channel! Just discovered you, and I just watched 6-7 of your videos. I like your easy going style. Keep up the great vlogs, and you will be big in no time!
He sounds like an ATM machine
he is a fool.
You and the people who give you thumbs up are cheap, heartless bastards. $200 USD per month to support someone who contributes to your life in many ways is the bargain of a lifetime. Shame on you for your selfish inhumane attitude
@@ddn517-sc4bs You should watch a few vids on his YT channel. He’s way happier than he’d ever be in the US. Filipina women know how to treat their man. I know, I have one for a wife. So what if he helps support her family. He’s happy and so is she, it’s a win/win.
Great conversation.
I agree with the man in blue. Family is next to God for us. We are willing to give up everything even our happiness to see our family happy. An example of that is Filipinos working abroad, if you ask them if is it okay for them to be away from their country and family to work, most of them will say no, but for the opportunity we have in Ph most of the Filipinos need to leave to give their family a better life,. And at the same time, it is part of our culture to honor our family by helping them. For us, how could we enjoy life while our parents are starving? If you cannot accept that culture then think twice.
Well put.
Hey Chad! Great information and the camera quality looks great! Did you get a new one? If so what kind?
Great interview
Very Helpful Information, Thank You Kindly Janet, Mike, Chad,
Thank you. Great vid
Great info very accurate and informative
Another Philippines CZcamser!! There are so many they have to interview each other! It’s funny how the veterans are so confident and cocky!! HAHAHA!!
These guys are garbage.
It is ridiculous, isn't it? These vloggers use to provide useful information, but it just seems like they are grasping at anything and everything they can, just to pump out content
@@doninbaras Thought the content in this video was actually very good. First video that I have watched of Chads and plan on watching many more, he seems to be a real confident youtuber, I like that
Hey good to meet ya in person yesterday
You may as well just pay for sex. No family drama and with a huge age gap you're merely an ATM anyway!🤔
You are on to something. Some guys are simps and can’t handle living by themselves
You may have a point. I mean, the west shows exactly how much women love their men and are so traditional these days. They NEVER want to leave a good marriage in which they have so much. They don't like to listen to their single female friends and never want to have "girls nights out". No, men are not considered ATM's in the west either, right?
If you just pay for sex you might find yourself sharing her body with the 7th Fleet
Family drama can come in any marriage. If a good and beautiful woman makes it her life to take care of you, it's not much of a sacrifice to give her some money and let her do with it what she wants.
I’m used to helping my own mom so I feel I’m more like Filipinos when it comes to that. She’s disabled and doesn’t collect much from SS and her pension from state of Indiana from being a state employee. A friend of mine once asked why I help her and it sort of made me hurt for him. I don’t put myself out financially I just have her on my phone plan, I pay her medication copays, and she is on my car insurance. When you love someone you step up for them as she raised me with love and respect and when I first started out on my own she helped me too. I guess every situation is different and you have to access it as such. I have a sister I never offer help or help her if she asks because she makes plenty of money, but her husband refuses to work. I am not doing for her what her husband won’t. 🤷
I traveled to Thailand 30 times between 2005-2018 for work and also did compassion trips to the northwestern mountain border. I’ve been caring for my 89 y/o mother in Georgia since 2015 when she was first diagnosed with mild Alzheimer’s and eventually, I had to retire in 2018 as her needs increased. In 2022, her needs outgrew my abilities and she’s now in memory care. I am also caring for my 90 y/o 2nd cousin in Alabama who lost his wife in 2022. His mind is sharp as a tack and lives by himself. Although I cherish my remaining time with them, I will certainly be headed back to SE Asia once my responsibilities end. We are an anomaly, men caring for moms, but I agree…care for those you love. Hang in there.
@donrainesoh good to hear your story. That's what a family should be, helping a family specially parent(s) in need. It's just a good and admirable thing to do.
you are a good person. 🙂
That's called being a good son, care for your mother
Yes indeed. Why subsidize her husband's laziness. Respect for caring for others with real needs
Thanks for this great site.Great info .Looking forward to visiting there in 2024
this is a good interview
The happiness of every Filipino culture is in the family and they sacrifice everything to maintain that family ties together
No, that's nonsense. That's what they portrait to the public. Poverty forces them to live together, share everything together. They are no different than you and I or Irene.. Filipino people treat family members real bad. And a lot goes on in Filipino families that are horrific. Don't ever live with her Filipino family. It's not safe for you; especially if she values her parents advice over yours all the time and is easily influenced by them.
Good practical advice. It is something that puts me off , supporting the whole family. But this makes good sense
They don’t have infrastructure and social security and benefits.
Older people in America have families who all must work outside the home.
Very Good Interview - Mike is a real man
Mike will pay whatever janet demands
thanks for being a great uncle
Great advice….don’t try to impress her or her family at the beginning and give them more than they ever had at one moment….if you do, they’ll become spoiled and take advantage of you
Also, others who are very well off have a tendency to mess things up for all foreigners. I know a gentleman who was a military man from the U.S. (career) which he did for 20 years. Got his pension, got a private sector job retired from that. So he has two pensions and his filipina wife worked as well. Three pensions. So when they come to PI to spend time with family they spend some dollars as retirees. Now, all foreigner family members are viewed as having money and would be expected to take the entire family out on excursions such as vacations or dinners (with at least 30 people).
@@MrHeart1 Yeah this kind of bothers me, was hoping to bring some nice 'paso lobo' gifts when I finally retire there and it sounds like this may not be a good idea?
@@jsully4064 It's not. Boomers brag about this and drink their coffee as they kick the ladder out from everyone and watch them fall. Even here with this...
So true.
I married Filipino man in America. Life here is hard, weather and climate you prepare fo, and everything costs.
His uncle was governor and for our wedding, he wanted us go out and - gift him with a most expensive tennis racket.
Culture shock.
2 in general rules. Borrowing doesn't exist no matter what it is and never gives more than you can afford to lose. You have a budget that is all-inclusive, and whatever is left over is for incidental items . I agree that if there are siblings , any expenses should be divided equally unless the sibling is incapacitated .
I need an orphan. Heard too many horror stories about the extended family.
Don't live with the extended family, simple as that. If your woman is constantly getting calls from all these different family members then let her deal with it. Your responsibility is to your wife, HER responsibility would be to her family and hopefully she might see some as the leeches they might be
thanks for good advice
In america(i mean north, central, south and the Caribbean) if you ask your girlfriend/fiance/wife to stop working, you will have to pickup the tab too, no surprise on that
"America" means USA. North America and South America are continents.
Great video, have already talked to my filipina about giving her some support money for her family when we retire in the Philippines. Thank you Chad, new subscriber here, will check out some of your videos....Jim
❤❤❤❤ wow good job.know how to handle money..good idea
Excellent interview, I love Mike and Janet, they're a great example for us all
Are you nuts? They are not!
Once married your family becomes my family. This is true wherever you are. Once married the social and financials change. That doesn't mean you hand out money, but concider the situation differently. There is a big difference if my girlfriend's sister's roof leaks, or if my (now) sisters roof leaks. You might just need to climb up and hammer a few nails, put some coating on, all the way to replace the entire thing. It is up to you (now both of you) to decide what ahould be handeled by you. Maybe nothing, maybe everything.
Great video Chad ! Mike and Janet are some of my favorite CZcamsrs in the Philippines, Mike is a great guy But Janet is still the brains of the outfit 😊
Thanks! Haha I think Mike would agree 😆
@@ChadFosterExplores Janet told me to agree with you
😊
Grady Gordon you sound like a needy beta simp, you don't need to compliment her and such weirdo way
Hey Chad, like your videos. Straight to the point. Why on earth would any man want to be with a Filipina. Stick with your own kind if you ask me. I'm an American women. I'm worth millions of dollars in real estate, Timber, and Bitcoin, cash. Completely self made, and no family to answer to, or having to pay off. Plus real honest excellent intellectal conversation. We are out there. Just need to be found.
I wish I can meet women like you. I am professional American man. Making six figures. But always meeting womens who always need some help.
Face reality, a young beautiful Filipina isn’t dreaming about growing up and becoming the wife of a disabled old retired foreigner and becoming his caregiver in her 30’s. That young Filipina is poor and comes from a poor family. When she’s old enough to realize that she has very little opportunity to have a stable high paying career or doing anything more than her poor aunts and uncles who live a very minimal lifestyle and probably have never left the Philippines. So this young girl see’s or knows other girls that found a retired foreigner that was willing to support her. She will expect this foreigner to help her family because she is always appreciative of how poor her parents are and how they still managed to provide her with a home and food.
That foreigner should wake up and know that it’s expected for him to help out his young poor gf’s family.
If he doesn’t want to or can’t afford to do this then I guess he should go find a young college age Filipina that is from a rich or upper class family and has a career or in a prestigious school. Good luck with that, especially if you are old and retired.
They have a class system and have deep racial sentiments, and irregardless see white people as superior.
@@user-je8wi5we1b we see old people as a class of people who are soon going to be dependent on care and put into a nursing home. There they can get neglected by that Filipina that made it to America on a working visa.
Hi Chad,
I just wanted to reach out and let you know how much I appreciate your CZcams videos. I've been watching all of them, and they've been a huge source of encouragement for me. Your content has inspired me to make the leap and travel to the Philippines. Thanks for sharing your experiences and insights - they've made a real impact on my plans and excitement!
If you can make it out of the the Berg so can I!
hey sorry about the $2 lol. I thought it said $ 20 :)
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Thanks!
Thank you!! That's my first super-chat donation ... really appreciate it!
I was giving P10k a month. The family kept borrowing. By the beginning of the last week of the mth there was zero.
After a couple mths of that l gave p1500 wk for food and paid the bills myself.
My brother inlaw borrowed P5k in sept. He has not made any attempt at paying me back. I stopped paying the electric. Somehow the family has found away to pay that ... hahaha.
It is NOT your responsibility to support her family. I would not even support my family so why would I support hers? If you do that you might as well pay a prostitute and then you get variety to play with
6:40. 😂😂😂😂 I loved that "Nahhhhh"
Philippines do not have social security, but the families are very devoted to caring and supporting each other.
Great video ! This is the best advice I have seen yet in 3 years of learning about the Philippines and foreigner dating a Filipina. I am a 73 year old American in Hawaii on SS and want to come visit Cebu some time. Salamat for the video ❤
No money no Honey is so apropo.
Overall great video thank you 🙏. The question was about how guys don’t want it to feel like a transaction….it never got answered. Blew right past it 😢.
It’s a source of guilt for me. I’ve been a financial overachiever my entire life. My Filipina would think she died and went to heaven if she knew my net worth. She has three younger siblings, a deceased father, and a mother that doesn’t work. Her BPO job pays $300 a month. Karma.
I think I will just buy some coochie once in a while and stay single and free to travel and enjoy my retirement ! 🤣 great interview Mike
You are a wise man
💯 percent
I do the same, we are brilliant 😄
Sometimes you get more than what you paid for 😮 Better have a medical reserve
Ive been here for 12 years have a wife and kids now and that's the best plan you can have.
How much I have or don't have is NOBODY'S business.
Their financial problems are NONE of my business.
@VENEMPASTOR, then you have no free pussy, no free washing of your clothes, no free cooking for your food , no free no-worry visa, no protection from community , no house cleaning, no dish washing, no run errand for you, no free tour guide , how old are you? and you want 18 year Filipina, all these freebees will cause you $10k per month in USA. In Phils. every child is an asset to parents because there is no social security there, the parents saving are being used to education for children, so when they are old they have no money, it is the children that should pay back.
When you.dont give anything, nothing will be given to you also.
I agree 100%! My finances/assets/wealth is no one else’s business including that of my significant other. I’ve witnessed many men in SE Asia claiming to be wealthy for the sole purpose of attracting women. That’s pure foolishness because you CANNOT buy true loyalty. As far as providing for a Filipina’s family, everyone should do what they feel is appropriate for their own situation. Personally, that’s not “my cup of tea”. Start helping the family financially & see what happens if you decide to stop later. Good luck to all!
@@pheebsdazon3469
What the heck does that mean???
And what the hell are you talking about???
My wallet and understanding are simply CLOSED to people who, in short, are NOT my F*cking responsibility!!!
ENOUGH with this nonsense ALREADY!!!
People are in control of their lives and make their choices.
DO NOT MAKE INNOCENT BYSTANDERS LIVE WITH THE CONSEQUENCES and PAY THE PRICE!!!
F*CK YOUR FEELINGS!!!
IMAGINE A WORLD where EVERYONE is FINANCIALLY qualified in order to have children AND carry their OWN WEIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If two people do NOT have money for FOOD, EDUCATION and HEALTHCARE,
They're NOT qualified to have kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PERIOD!!!!!!!!!!!
It’s none of their business as well when something bad happens to you as well, that’s how it works
Why do all these conversations revolve around money, while denying these relationships are transactional - Rather simply ask… How much will it cost a 68 yo man to lure a young girl and her child out of poverty in the provinces to become a wife and personal support worker in my failing health. Mike basically retired (bought) his girlfriend for $90.00 USD per month with $36.00 going to the family.
How much did it cost the doctor who brought you into the world and how much did it cost your parents to feed and cloth you? It's all transactional dufus.
@@David53DIt’s quite clear that you don’t understand the distinction between a romantic relationship and a transactional one.
Your comparisons are silly.
I guess that is why all the Duma CZcamsrs have their wives start a channel of their own. Only way they can make it if they have to give the family money
All relationships are transactional. Stop paying your wife’s bills in the US, and see how long she stays.
@@riffraff521 All relationships are NOT transactional. Genuine friendships, parent and child bonds, and romantic partnerships are all non-transactional…where the relationship itself is the “reward”, not an immediate exchange of one thing for another. Honor, sacrifice, commitment, filial piety, selflessness are all non-transactional traits.
Daghang salamat guys
The solution is find a girl without a family.
@warrpedd lol...good luck, its hard to find a filipina without children!
My fiancé was making 21k per month at her job. I had her quit her job. We have a house together and I will replace part of her salary minus her rent and bills (different town). Each children pays 500 pesos to her mom I helped two brothers who don’t do as well by paying 300 each to her mom. The mom gave me a big hug after I prepaid the amount for 8 months.
Completely disagree with this mentality. When you guys were dating woman in the US did you build your girlfriends houses? Did you give your girlfriends allowances? Did you support these woman’s parents? Did you support all her sisters and brothers? No you didn’t because you could barely support yourselves. These woman and her family are not entitled to your assets.
Don’t kid yourselves. You are stating you are not throwing money at these woman and her family but in truth you are. And if you didn’t some other expat will.
I think your guest is selfish. What did he say in the beginning of this interview? I want a woman who doesn’t work. I want a woman who will be around all day. I want a full time girlfriend. Me me me me me. What about her? What about her future?
You should send these woman to college so when you are gone they can be self sufficient. Or support them in their jobs so they might move up and have a career. If all you are doing is replacing their salary then they are not getting ahead they are merely treading water.
Bingo!
No they are getting ahead. He is still paying bills, he said that the money in her account is her money that she can't touch until he is gone. THAT is for her future and you might be surprised how quickly that money adds up. She will be alright for sure but I have to agree with you about the college thing, always great to have that education under your belt to help you for the future and not necessarily to go work for someone.
You sound confused. Do you honestly think he is trying to help her? He is exploiting her.
If she weren't poor, had an education, a career, and money, she would not be his live-in caretaker/servant. @@MrHeart1
@@MrHeart1it sounds like you agree with the latter and now to the former.
He stated he would replace her salary so for round numbers let’s say $200.00 a month. Could be more could be less. Let’s not argue over semantics. If he is merely replacing her salary it is a zero sum gain. In fact, he could be short changing her because of possible raises and promotions are not factored in. Also consider this. Since she is out of the labor market every year as more Philippine citizens graduate high school and turn age appropriate to work she is falling further and further behind her peers. Work markets are competitive. So now what is she to do if this gentleman is out of the picture by any means?
And yes I get that he pays the bills so that money gets banked but anyone with an understanding of the Philippines knows that they live in a communal society. When he is gone so are the checks and balances which keep that money secure. He is broadcasting that she has money and the people close to her will be coming after that money. Inevitably, this person in her family needs medicine, this person in her family needs a new roof on their house, this person needs tuition for school and on and on and on. Using simple math she will only be able to sustain herself for an equal amount of time which he has been setting aside money for her. Hence, if they are together for 5 years, conversely she will be able to get by for that equal amount of time.
@@MrHeart1 I appreciate your response and would like to leave one final thought. By my observations I believe, with all living expenses taken into consideration, it cost 10X the amount of money to live in the US as it costs in the Philippines. I have friends who work in the insurance and financial industries and they stated to me between your house, which should be paid off by the time you retire, and your savings, which should be $500,000.00 to live off of, together you need a million dollars of assets to live comfortably. You might agree you might not. Using those parameters she really needs $100,000.00 to live her life and she is not even close to that.
Why would he admit to paying a girl to be with him?
Because he's honest 😮
Because it is what it is
That's a gross misrepresentation of what he said. He was with her while she was working and he explained he wanted a partner he didn't want to have to split time with between her work and him. When you make that kind of demand on your partner you have to compensate them for giving up their career. You know it's the same concept in the US right? In situations where a man marries a woman and demands she be a stay at home wife but then later they divorce.....the courts take that into consideration and may make the man pay alimony to the woman for giving up her career. Did the western man pay his western wife to be with him as you say?
He is 70, let him be happy
If you don't allow them to work ..it's kinda expected.
How much did you have to pay for your motorbike? Do you think that a 110cc Honda is big enough, or do you think a 125cc is a better option?
it’s going to cost you a lot more if you break up back home 🤔
* WOW * - - - I see Mike has a good life and a well thought out plan for a budget. -- As a single guy who is alone & used to frugal and/or thrifty living already retired in the US - it looks very doable on the $1500 he suggests. > In reality I expect my simple studio rent to be $100/mo. and full time AC another $100/mo. A food bill of maybe $400 includes eating out some. Transportation = buy a used Honda Click 125. All else for another $300 = $900/mo in recurring expenses. > All within my $1500 SS income alone w/o touching savings most months. (( ? )) Never been there yet but numerous budget videos seems to indicate my planned budget might be very close to my 'anticipated' budget - having - ''never been there'' ?!? 🤔 To me it appears all about how '''extravagant''' you get with the rent over there ? + Cook @ home 'some' at least ? 🤗
Chad is a goodman.i wish u can find a good woman..U respect the cultures and values👍
we miss Rosie
I still don't understand this foreigner/prospective partner giving money to the family of the Filipino girl they date. Is that what it is nowadays? When my husband and I dated we didn't have that issue at all even though my family is poor. The only thing I ask of him was money for our wedding as in the Philippines it's the groom who will foot the bill for the wedding. Of course this was 36 years ago, a lot has changed since then.
Every situation is different! Be grateful for what you have!
The foreigner doesn't have to give anything to anyone other than his wife. She can give to the family.
Totally agree. This guy is like a Walking ATM mentality. Back in my country no way do couples operate like this old guy's ways.
Hey Chad. Joy and I will be in Davao and Dumagate in February and March. I'd love to try to meet you and include you into one of our vlogs if possible. Let me know if that would be something you would like to try to set up. :)
Janet is a winner. I bet Mike gets the “Can I meet her sister?” Question a lot. Lol
I’m experiencing that now. My girl is still at home so I’m expected,and do send some support for her family now. When we get married I’m expected to buy land and build a home . That’s jyst how it is in the phillipienes. Foreigners are all rich 😂😂😂in their eyes
Well I supported mine while the visa process until she was here in the USA with her green card
Now her 1st job she with a high school diploma she made over $50k USD (what a great country) she sets aside 50k php for budget and construction projects for family in the Philippines
Saves/invests 50%(for land and our "vacation home")and covers all the food and supplies at our house in the USA
No complaints here fellas bring them here let them work teach them to budget and plan for a future that US citizenship we all take for granted is Priceless 😮
A pragmatic approach to living with a Filipina and her family.
Mike said Janet has children…I believe she has one child, a boy. I don’t care much for this dude.
@Hybridflip-eg5hg Asi I said earlier, they don't have birth control in the Philippines, nor sex education, its not easy to find a filipina without children.
The real deal is for Western men to have a shared life and not having to go self endulgment or getting personal pleasure. Note partners ideally need patrners of almost of same age for a more heslthy relationships. Ifvyou are a senior citizen that is a disadvantage to your partners. Think also of building her life and not just feeding her to feed you.
Can you have a savings account or a checking account in the Phillipines? Or shouls you use American international banks?
It's a triple system. I have the same situation in Swaziland.
I agree with most of what your saying but some families truly believe
its the expat husbands responsibilty to pay for everything for the family. If your the average retired expat you cannot do for everyone all the time or soon you will be broke.
I been married to a filipina now for 30yrs...we send money every now and then, not monthly. But we do take care of Bdays and Holidays so they eat very well. Not sure how everybody else is that marries a filipina.
My neighbor's Filipina wife built a house in the Philippines and lets her family stay there while she lives and works in the U.S.A. I don't think that there is much of a reason to send money if they are getting free rent. Tons of call center jobs in the Philippines.
From my long experience, boundaries are good so you dont get taken advantage of (because it can happen fast), just my opinion. Don't spoil them too much so they still want to do something with their life, go to school, work etc. Got to draw that line in the dirt and dont cross it. @@MyLifeThai371
I totally agree, Mike. Who wants their GF working 5-6 days a week and likely for very little money. It would be much more difficult if she worked at a call center to ask her to quit her job. What you did is already what I plan on doing when I get there.
Brigitte L Jones. When a man finds a woman that seems compatabile, where they seem to share genuine feelings of liking and respect for each other, he needs to check if the woman is ammenable to the kind of relationship he is willing to offer. A man must have worked out what he can provide for a wife, as well as covering her past financial family obligations and be clear in his expectations of his wife as a partner. Assuming the Filipina views his prospective offer as being fair and likes him, they are off to a very promising marriage. These were the relationships that I saw work out well amongst friends.
Here's a slight twist... Been with my province girl for 6 years... The last year we have been living in Australia and now she works to look after her family. I supported her and her family for 5 years, but more she does... Never been happier... I am retired btw. Had dinner moments along the way where I questioned out relationship but wouldn't change any of it now...
Sometimes people live like a rat and die like a king and some live like a king and die like a rat
Chad, loved your video. Mike you a pro in what you want/needs. Communication is the key to a great team!😂 13:59
Sorry Chad off subject new subscriber here but is it true need new US bills can't even fold them
hahaha,,,,yeah right,,,,i have many filipina friends who are married or live in bf,,,,None of them make their husbands or bfs give money to family each month,,,,,,,Filipinos do not do that,,,,only foreigners
Family value of Filipino culture is different in foreign culture helping and more happier in Filipino culture even they live poor tha n foreign culture even they are rich and there secret on that culture
No safety net programs. In Philippines, the foreigner is the safety net, lol
True, there are a lot of social safety net programs in the US, but not so in the Philippines. When there is a problem in the Philippines, if its a good family, all will pitch in to help the family member who needs help, especially the elderly parents. You have to remember, there is no birth control in the Philippines, most families have multiple siblings. Yes the guys there do tend to get lazy, but not all. Good thing daughters are are more frequently born in the Philippines then sons...lol
It's amazing the contortions that these foreign fools will go through to convince themselves that it's all about love. Remember: IT'S NEVER ENOUGH.
I have respect for Mike. He is such a hard worker. He worked until he was like 67. America has become so kushy, that Americans seem to view work as the enemy, rather than appreciate that if you work hard enough and save every penny, your dreams can come true. Too many people with the victim mentality out there.
Unload trucks for a living, ain't nothing cushy about that.. I'll be 62 in 6 yrs, but ill quit working when I'm 59.. fuc those remaining 3..😂
@@RONALD...... That's awesome if you can afford it. Both of my grandpa's worked full time at their jobs until they were 80 and they didn't complain about it either to make people feel sorry for them. They worked manual labor jobs too. Keep working towards your dream dude and make it happen!
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@@MyLifeThai371
Bro. no grandfather complained and they all worked till the were 80.. so did grand mothers.. but wtf is working like that nowadays??..let the robots do it... I'm out..
Wow lucky family to have allowance every month hahahha
My Filipina was pulling in 30k a month with bonuses, and on the side tech help, so when I asked her to quit her job, I had to take over the 10k a month that she would give to her mother!
And he's paying for someone else's son too?
I'd like to know his dating history.
The smartest men who worked (average working joe) are the men who live within their means. I personally know of a bunch of people here in the U.S. are PAID! Lots of money in retirement but they spend well within their means EVEN with traveling and enjoying certain "amenities" every once in a while. Now, admittedly the people I am talking about are Union members and they put in 30 plus years of work PLUS they get S.S. but still don't go all willy nilly with spending money. If one lives their lives like they just have enough to get some living in, most likely they will live well.
No money = no honey
Doesn’t matter the country.
Hallo guys if you marry pinay you chioce a rich pinay ,you only picked up a poor pinay later on you have Problem your money. Most of them are poor, that's filipino helped family tradistion .hope guys you don't have Depression.
Most westerners are older and will not be able to get the “wanted” Filipina ..they are looking for younger guys. Basically more modern affluent men.