The Secret to Being Enough | Nadine Machkovech | TEDxFondduLac
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- Nadine Machkovech is a certified recovery coach and person in long-term recovery. As an educator on addiction and mental health, she looks to positively disrupt the current landscape for adolescents, especially young women, across the country. Through her unique style of storytelling, Machkovech leaves her audience feeling inspired and motivated; reminding them that they have the choice to utilize their power to help change their world and the world around them. Nadine Machkovech is a certified recovery coach and person in long-term recovery. As an educator on addiction and mental health, she looks to positively disrupt the current landscape for adolescents, especially young women, across the country. Through her unique style of storytelling, Machkovech leaves her audience feeling inspired and motivated; reminding them that they have the choice to utilize their power to help change their world and the world around them.
Machkovech has traveled the country, been featured in Forbes, and is often aspired after for her dynamic peer leadership skills. She has created measurable social change while educating students, teachers, professionals, and peers on topics of substance use and misuse, mental health awareness, leadership, and the development of life skills. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”
― Mark Twain
“Even though I made countless mistakes in my life, I no longer believed that I am one”
GREAT REALIZATION, you reclaimed what you always were, but now you know it!
"Making mistakes, is intelligence having fun, in the process of realization." ~Christopher Arthur Minor.
Without realizing what we are not, we can not know what we are. "The concept that making mistakes is wrong, is like measuring the value of a fish, by its ability to climb a tree." ~Christopher Arthur Minor.
As can be seen by this example, they are absent of thinking, yet we were told these idiots were wise. Now that is funny!
A very courageous young woman. Abundantly enough.
Much love to you xx
Julian Colon and thats what matters
This has truly changed my life. I cannot thank you enough! I am enough!!❤
Most people are way sensitive to almost everything. Feeling not good enough is like a plague that eats you up from within. Sense of self-worth is tremendously important and the way to retain the element of Self-worth is to realise you had better to quit comparing yourself with those around you; to admit you do not have to pretend to be someone you're not. We have no Idea how powerful and strong we can feel once we cease to follow in the footsteps of those who we mistakenly consider perfect. It equips us with extremely positive energy to see and acquiesce ourselves for who we're.
That helped me man, thank you!
Well said
Hey Arshad, David shouting out back in agreement, and what's more is that THE greatest gift anyone can develop daily presenting him or her self with Arshad is true,honest self acceptance.
Thank you
Well said 👏
1) Forgiveness
2) Trust
3) Acceptance
Well done
Thank you. I had to stop this video after the first minute
Childhood trauma that parents have never realised how bad they can cause their own child. Always considered what your child will think or feel. Telling your child with the sentence "it's not your fault" is really important.
so true
They say “ I had to do what was best” but doing that hurt me
Advice about feeling good enough begins at 14:04
Thank you; it was a long time coming.
So sad.
Thank you
Thankyooou
Thanks, shes making such a big drama about her self..nobody cares for her trauma, everybody has its own…
1) forgiveness (forgive yourself for the mistakes youve done, forgive others)
2) trust ( trust in the process, have faith, trust in yourself, trust others)
3) accept your mistakes and focus on your strengths and then ur passion will come through
There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you. Maya Angelou
we're all recovering from something
Yes most of us are 👍🏻
So true , ❤️
So POWERFUL. What a gift your calling is for the rest of us. "We are all recovering from something.." ❤️❤️❤️
So True ...We are all Recovering from something ...
WOW. That's soo true-"we are all recovering from something"
Uh-huh . Recovery is sweet revenge though .
We are so proud of you Nadine. From the very first time you stepped on stage we knew that you were going to do amazing things with your life. Thank you for your constant courage, your bravery, and your ability to be confidently vulnerable. Your service to others is inspiring to our entire team! Together we are stronger! Much love!
Using drugs or alcohol is only a symptom. Finding out why we started using is so important, Mine was a lack of being connected and I would say the majority of could say the same thing. I have also learned that there is a lot of power in forgiveness "Complete Forgiveness" that means no more I forgive you but I won't forget. Again total forgiveness. But forgiving myself was so much harder, My forgiveness came though helping others and working on myself to be the person I wanted to be. And I will never allow myself to quit growing as a person .
David Bowman Beautiful 🙏
I did it for social acceptance. I don’t really regret it. I met brothers from those experiences, they’ve done so much for me. I’m no longer a drug user cause it was not really me that time, I didn’t even like weed or alcohol.
How did you discover which person you wanted to be?
@@SyNcLife There is good and bad in all of us we definitely have a choice on who we want to be. The biggest thing I think is finding out what it iss that gives our lives meaning without it life can beat you down and make you resentful and bitter. I always looked for the next right thing to do.
@@treefrog0826 Just the next right thing to do even if you don't really know whats the greater meaning of your life? Thats pretty simple and may make the search for meaning obsolete...
What a great message!
“Why Not Me! We are all enough!!”
"Leading you to something greater than what you expected or imagined." True. TRUE. TRUE!
Her pain and passion is just found through her speech and movement, absolutely remarkable and worthy to spend time on the video👌
i relate. Growing up, be the proud daughter of my parents, an admirable person to my friends, objectively I achieved a lot.but I am still unhappy and keep feeling worthless and self-loth because I never feel good enough. I always tell myself that you could work harder and you should have done better. Every time I find myself weak at Something, I panic and feel so anxiety. This has to stop
i felt the same, people looked up to us and that gave tremendous pressure that is not healthy for our mental health. It's ok to make mistakes. No one is perfect
I hope you're doing better
Your testimony is phenomenal. Seeing you speak in person at Longfellow middle today was a blessing ! I don't know how many lives you touched today but I promise you that some of those 7th graders heard your words and will now know that they are enough and that there are people that really want to help. Thank you Nadine.
The secret to being enough is knowing you deserve peace of mind at all times and refusing to tolerate what makes you toxic to yourself because what genuinely gives you peace is what is right.
Being 14 1/2 years clean and sober and tell my testimony as much as I can, I'm spook proud of you and the strength you have. You're spook awesome and it comes out in you along with your passion. You're blessed and I love you!!
Wow... I'm good enough..
Thank so much Nadine..
Wow. I see your faith shining through, the story of what God has done!
Hi, Nadine, I felt it's my story too. Thank you for your help. You just made my day beautiful. (Forgiveness, Trust & Acceptance)
That is so amazing to hear!!! Thank you so so much for sharing that with me. I am forever grateful💛
Starting at 5:35, good point, when you're initial worries go away, see if they are being covered or distracted by something that makes you feel good. So, stay focused, it's ok to have worries and issues, find ways to accept those and ways to help them instead of trying to avoid them or find a way to just feel good.
Sis this hit me in the feels
Love this. I can relate to her life story. Keep speaking your truth
You made me cry! It's really touching coz all of us probably feel not enough one way or another. Thank you Nadine :)
I am so grateful my story made an impact on you!! Thank you for sharing!💖
I can relate 100% , you are brave to stand up and not be afraid.
What a courageous woman. God bless her and everyone struggling.
Thank you so much for the kind words.
thank you dear. it took me 12 years to understand the root of my problem, and you help me take the next step to recovery
Thank you very much for this video. I’m doing a project on self-worth and substance abuse, and it was absolutely inspirational. Thank you!
ik this is two years late but can i read about this project somewhere? im really interested and would appreciate any insight!
Nadine, you are so brave. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. Not many people can do that, only those who have heald and found what they realy are inside. That is ENLIGHTENMENT and I am glad that you found the light and now you are enlighten others, ease their pain and show the way. You tought me too: Forgivness, Acceptance and Trust. Thank you!
I hope I’ll have the courage to follow you in accepting myself and forgiving myself, and in trusting the path that I’m on is a good one. I don’t know how I’ll do it but I really hope I, and anyone in need of self-love and inner peace can, one day, accept themselves. Thank-you:)
zain aww nice thanks!
Amen to that. I believe in you!!
Thank you for being a real person up there. Your story rings true for me in different but mainly similar ways. You are a talented speaker who mastered how to connect with others through your words and presence. I hope you’re proud! Best wishes...
That's so great to hear!!! Thank you so much for sharing that with me Tom!
I was depressed two years back and i m still recovering from it . I m still fight with my own negative thoughts
She is very lovely and awesome. I have a situation like her. Now I am motivated
Thank you for sharing your story, and helping so many find the courage to exercise their voice as well.
My high school years were the WORST. I would've loved to have you as a friend. It's crazy how our most toughest darkest times make our identities. How we decide to tell our stories (as victims or as writers) will definitely change this world. Thank you for your energy! Sending you much love! ♥
That's so true!! Thank YOU for sharing! ❤
She is an intelligent girl. She understands a lot of truth.
Forgiveness can help you feel whole.
Much love!
Thank you🙏💕
You are very welcome! You must have so much compassion. I know that sometimes it can be difficult to understand others trials at such a deep level but you are doing an amazing job! Keep smiling through all of it.I know from experience it can be tough. Hopefully you've been able to find a good balance to know you don't have to solve everyone's problems but to offer advice, support, and a listening ear while letting God support you to do it is the best thing I've ever done.What have you done to manage all the things and people you are helping?Much love,Kate
That's a great question, Kate! Yes, it sometimes can be difficult to not bring others problems or situations home with you. For me, I spend time constantly reminding myself that "I can only do so much." -- I show up, I speak truth, I support, I pray, I give advice, I provide resources, and then it's up to them to do the rest. Taking care of myself FIRST, is a must!!
THIS MESSAGE IS TO ALL OF YOU, PRECIOUS YOUNG PEOPLE, FROM YOUR ADOPTED GRANDMA:
I AM TOO MOVED EMOTIONALY BY ALL OF YOU,
SO, TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT: JESUS SAID:
“ LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR,
AS YOURSELF”
ALL OF YOU, ARE L O V E !
I went through an identity crisis at 17. This is normal. We all want to fit in at that age. I did not take drugs, I went to a therapist and she helped me. Hopefully people will ask for help when they get into a bad situation. But culturally speaking, American society doesn't help people as much as it should. Anyway, glad you are still with us in this human world. AND GOOD LUCK to everyone who gets into a bad situation.
I fell in love with your brutal honesty in the intro!💜💜💜💜💜💜 Every sentence hitting my soul. this is what life is about and most importantly what social media is about! Being transparent so that others can have Faith and hope for tomorrow. I loved every second of this speech.
Thank you so much for sharing that!! You made my day. I am so grateful it made an impact on you. 💖
Thank you so much for sharing your story Nadine ...... Today your words changed a life !
Thank you Nadine. You've given me goosebumps with your heartfelt honesty. I needed to hear this today. 💚
So well done, Nadine! It really surprised me to hear the two extremes together...of how well you were doing in school and how awful you were feeling inside. It goes to show how you we never know how another person is feeling judging from the outside.
Sometimes I see people who seem so 'together' and I make the assumption that their life is easier than mine. Trying not to do that anymore.
Thank you for your sharing. I have no doubt whatsoever that you are making others' journeys easier, and helping them find a path to a fulfilling life.
Thank you so much for sharing that. I believe we often portray what we want others to see but decide to hide the truth because the truth is scary. Being vulnerable is scary.
So true
Thank you for your wonderful Ted Talk, glad it worked out best for you! Sharing your story isn’t easy so again thank you!
You are so very welcome! And, your right. It isn't necessarily easy, but so worth it!!!
Very well said! Very inspiring! So proud of this woman and her continued success! I love the saying “instead of saying why me, ask yourself why not”. So insightful...
Aw! Thank you so so much!!!
Brave talk ... World needs strong people like you
"Spoke my truth".....27 years in recovery and I am just now discovering this.....thank you for bringing this message and sharing your strength and wisdom.
Amazing! Thank YOU for sharing that with me.
Nadine, you are an angel... Thank you!
Your sharing will bring the blessing to others.
"Forgiveness, trust, and acceptance" A great life story. We all have something to share. Our stories are lessons for ourselves and others; thus, we all should share our stories.
The other thing is to practice forgiveness we have to practice forget. Every and each one makes mistakes. We make mistakes because of emotion or bad spirits or whatever. So, We should not punish the person; we should not see criminals.
Thank you!
I had seen this ted talk before, but today it hit me harder than before, because this woman"s bravery is amazing, to talk about her dark secrets in front of so many people and not give a f,,,, she is priceless she is making the world a better place. God bless her soul for helping others.
Thank you so so much for your kind words!!!
@@nadine.speaks Your welcome, I also had an addiction so this talk got me in the heart, God bless. I did not know you had your own CZcams channel I just subscribed and I would love it if you could check out mine, I am bilingual and I have videos in Spanish and English.
I want to thank every person for your honesty, it just goes to show us that when someone can be real and authentic with us, we can be authentic ourselves. We get to see them through their transparency and discover ourselves in them, what a blessing.
I couldn't agree with you more! It is through story telling that we can build connections which in turn builds compassion💕
It is through our authentic openness of our hearts, that we find ourselves in each other. Without our hearts directing our lives, we are just conceptual human beings in a carbon based organic computer called the human mind. This is why we have no humanity as a culture, the whole culture is based on concepts, not living breathing human beings, in a magical whole of living beings.
Thank you for your courage.
Thank you💛
Thank you! My parents divorced and I still live with the secret u said.
Google shadow Work and do it daily
Thank you --- Nadine -- leave to learn... And you are a good example
Thankfully i’m not going through any drug issues but this video was soooo touching to me right now. Literal tears falling down my face lol thank you for waking me tf up. ❤️
Thank you for your true story, Nadine. In the past, I were always searching in myself alone, but it was getting worse when I couldn't find anything. I believed it's fate. Forgiveness, Trust & Acceptance. You throw me a light. I'll try to share with others. Thank you again.
Thank you so much for sharing that with me💖
Not only do we share the same name but are stories are so very similar. Much love, thank you for this.
Beautiful name ;) thank you for the kind words!!
EXACTLY WHAT I WAS LOOKING FOR. THANK YOU MY HEAVENLY FATHER!!!🙏🏽🙏🏽💪🏽🥀🌹😁 I'm sending this Alton 27 Alcoholics Anonymous members during the quarantine. Thank you so much.
Thank you for sharing and i hope you'll have a happy and healty life.
Thank you❤
What a powerful message! Thank you for this beautiful reminder that I am enough!
Tnx to the blessing of the social web we no longer have to physically look for a recovery but instead we can now watch from a far on someone with similar thoughts, we can see our actions with in there story, I too share a struggle of not feeling enough, now I can face certain struggles by letting go certain things in my life that helped me fight certain obstacles once again to gain control of my life, it's still hard to face things but I know I am not alone and that were stronger then what we believe is impossible can be made possible by faith we trust.
Taken me 45 years to learn these three truths through experience. Thank you for summing it up through your talk . Self knowledge is freedom . Bless
Omg she describes my life better than I could ever have, if I had sat down and tried to write it down for months
This is sooooooo powerful!!! Please continue sharing your experience, you are so smart and wise !!
Great speech Nadine. Thanks for sharing
excellent speech. thanks for sharing your story
Thank YOU for watching!!!💛
Enlightening,Powerful and inspiring speech. Great Job!!! Keep up the awesome work! you have the ability to change lives.
Thank you so much, Paul!! I really appreciate your support!!💛
Thank you Nadine!
Same . Recovery is sweet .
Bravo. Be the kind of friend that lays down their life for a good community family and every little thing gonna be alright! It'll work out!
Absolutely💛
Thanks so much for sharing. When we feel unworthy, we often make destruction life decisions. I appreciate this video so much!
Wow, this astute comment put things in a whole new light for me! I somehow never made that connection, always assuming I felt like not enough because of bad choices, never considering that it's much easier to make bad choices when one feels like you deserve them.
Out of the ashes rose a beautiful fenix. Thank you Nadine for sharing your story.
Same . She sounds up for the challenge now
What a wonderful and beautiful woman. You truly found good enough!
Yes I did! Thank you💖
@@nadine.speaks I hope you stay there. I'll say prayers for you. It's wonderful.
Finding forgiveness isn't about them it's about you! Thank you - gina in lights
💜What I needed to hear...💜
Beautiful my dear friend...you are a light for all!
Thank you, Ali💖
How amazingly courageous!
Speaking out dark secrets is the hardest of life battles!
Dumping denial is the first step to recovery , but it's not an easy one .
You are amazing Nadine!!!
thanks
Thank you!!🙏
This so beautiful. So brave.
I look up to this Woman for speaking her whole heart ❣
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If you're going through something please seek Help, don't give it another thought just do it
Anyone else pretty much have tears in their eyes, the whole time, watching this?
Inspirational. Thank you.
Something that is my reality right now . Has been a number of months at the very least . But probably years of I really think about it . Being good enough that is 💔
And there is a lady I really like but I've hurt her with some words . I really am sincere and I miss her . Still talk to her but it's distant and she said I will have to gain her trust her again. Miss the closeness we once had . She was one thing / and is one thing that is really good left . I am a Christian . I want a second chance too . God bless you ❤
I hope you get that second chance. Often times we have to work extra flippin hard for it but if it's Gods plan, it will go exactly how He wants it too.❤ I'm glad you got to hear this message.
I was also in age of 17 years seriously I was making a lot of mistakes. Day by day I was becoming impolite with others
Nd one day I decided to be quite. I thought 'it's enough now!'
Nd now I'm 18 years old nd now I'm me what I ought to be that time....😊☺
Thank you for being so brave to stand in front of so many people and reveal the things you did you were not proud of and also for showing the vulnerability to say you were about to take your own life to help others who are going through the same problems but do not have the courage to speak about them openly, God bless your sister who was that helping hand at the right time. You are a true hero, unlike the fake ones in the movies because you are doing what is difficult to help others.
That means the world to me. Thank you💛
@@nadinemachkovech3900 My apologies, I had not seen this comment till today and it says it is 6 months old, sometimes either my computer or CZcams does not notify me, cause trust me if I would have seen your comment, I would have responded right away.
Thank you...! So much..!
hermoso.. i love it.. you are right!!
"Do not assign your self-worth to how you look or what you own."
Absolutely. Really good question
Thank you for sharing! This is very insightful and uplifting
Beautiful and inspired history. Thanks 🙏🏼
Thank you, Carla!🙏💛
Awesome talk. Thank you!!
Thank you.
You amazing, really emotive story !
i enjoy the sympathy of yourlife. i also wanna figure out mylife. I extremely share my story with everybody around the world. I honestly admire your energy. It's motivate for everybody to develop. It positively encouraged me to try working in my life. I find it difficult to express my emotion now. But I think your experience life is extremely worth.
Not good enough Is the main theme of my life , not good enough for my father, or any man I ever dated , at work , it’s just such a self fulfilling prophecy for me
“The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”
― Mark Twain
Forgiveness , Trust , Acceptance
The MIRACLE of Forgiveness!
I have learned there is a lot of power in forgiveness
God's healing and blessings for you and your family...and for us all! Faith Love Peace will not be contained...focus on Joy!
Thankfully I kicked the habit 4 years ago now But I suffer From, at times ,heavy depression. 😥
Good job. Bless you and thank you for helping others with your well earned gifts. "You earned what you learned."
Fantastic talk. Thank you. This one really hits home for me.