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SOLUTIONS FOR PROBLEM 1. Parents should stop discussing their marital life with children. They Should show respect & love to their spouse in front of childern. 2. Girls should search responsible money earner lifetime father for her upcoming children. 3. Losser boys should work upon their hygiene, looks, carrer, should be understanding support girls, yet be diplomatic in life. 4. So called charming boys one day will reach in their 50s with no stable carrer , no money, no looks, eventually no girls for hookups. Becoz they have spend their youth in these things, so eventually in long term they will be unsuccessful, they were not focused in young age , so it will eventually impact their life and career . KARMA will hit them for sure.
@@antanwar1 usually parents search good income boys for their girls, in that cases before marriage they are no hookups. Girls are into hookups becoz of good looks of boys. If a boy is rich &average looking , she will never hookup before wedding, she will only marry him and settle down. These charecterless boys will never get beautiful young girls, becoz these girls are for successful men. Such boys in most cases are unsuccsful and after age will get average homely or may not be homely girls. Becoz this category of boys marry in 40s or 50s, in that age usually they won't get youthful 25 age girl
Iska solution ek hi hai, Sir. Show youngsters what a healthy long term relationship looks like… teach them the benefits of such a relationship/marriage. And as a society, we need to start showcasing and idolising people who are happy in their marriages/relationships. Because, youngsters don’t have any examples to learn from, whether it’s in their own family, peer group or movies and society… Once they realise that marriage/long term relationships are good, then the criteria with which boys and girls evaluate their partners will change. Short term relationships, having multiple partners aur dating apps ko “cool” banana bandh kar do. Healthy long term relationships ko “cool” banao.
Most parents of Gen Z and Millennials spent their life complaining about their spouse towards their kids. Aise bacchon ne long term relationship toh dekh liya magar yeh bhi dekha ki maa - baap sirf un bacchon ke waaste divorce nahin le rahe. Agar jam nahi rahi aur phir bhi divorce nahin lete while also continuing to talk trash about marriage - aise parents honge to obviously kon chahega mummy papa ki tarah arrange marriage karna? Aisa environment sirf ladkiyon ko nahi, ladko ko bhi shadi se nafrat karwane lagata hai. It's so hard to do anything when all the mental damage has already been done before the kids even reach the age of marriage.
Sir… amazing topic🙏🏼 A template solution for all A, B n C :- (Disclaimer: simple but not easy) 1. Self control 2. Acceptance and respect for the others 3. channelizing energies in other creative stuffs
Problem : movies and social media. Everything from live-in, to infidelity to double- timing to nudity to elopement to pre marital pregnancy- every damn vice is so bloody glamourised it seems cool to do all this.
Absolutely correct, concept of alpha male and toxic feminism is killing the relationship. What we saw in west till now, it already here and more lethal. Parents or elderly don't even have idea of these concepts so can't take the blame for this.
The best solution i can think is dont badmouth ur partner in front of kids. Warna overcorrection k chakkar mein kids will choose complete opposite. Aur wo bhi galat hi nikalta hai. Be content in your relationship
Self control is one of the most important attitude that every individual today have to develop within. Kyuki without you, your dicision your life will be all mash
Thank you for bringing this matter to public attention and showing the bigger picture. I have been thinking about this for very long time and observing children of all ages. This topic needs a series of videos. You are doing great work. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Sir yr great! Mai apki fan ban gai hu. Aise topics pe ap bolte hain Jo samaaj ko ainaa dikhate Hain. Thanks sir bhagwaanji apko or famous banaye or apki Baat Har ghar tak pahunche.
As a girl, I'm proud of myself as i have always been in my limit (not being in any sort of relationship) even though my friend told me that "you never know if your future husband* was in any relationship (physical) , why don't you give it a try and enjoy " I didn't and i am happy with my decision😌😁
Whatever you said is absolutely true Women should not loose that value at all and should invest only in long term relationship and also focus on financial independence. You can't move forward by depending on someone
The way hookup culture is portrayed with positivity and glamorised in web series and SM. Without showing the aftermath of it. Could be one factor. A solution could be sensible movie or series which shows chemistry between an average male and female. How it might look boring from outside but its sustainable and healthy in long run. That might make at least some youth aware of the reality.
Solutions : 1) Good strong close knit parents and children relationship 2) parents giving their children open atmosphere to talk and discuss any topic or problems at home (removing parental fear) 3) our Indian culture- Marry boys & girls giving them choices at a correct age so that hormonal needs are taken care of in a healthy sound legal relationship of man-women 4) Girls need to remember to not be easily available to any or every man for looking cool or getting benefits like promotions or gifts. Women have let their character so lose- forgetting that women are creators & nurturer of this world 🙏🏻
Guys need to step up in marriage, they can't live the way their parents lived with their partner. Girls are overwhelmed and exhausted by taking everything on their head and still being critized by boy and his family. First of all, boys should leave from umbrella of their parents the way girl is leaving to start a new family. Then they should contribute equally to household and finances . Even working girls are still burdened like a house wife and guy is enjoying news , tv after coming home. and still complaining to wife if 56 bhog is not ready for him. they are not even polite and thankful to what a girl is doing.
You are a true product of feminism (see who george soros is). Society practices are result of past experiences. For example child marriage - If you see US (that is where modernity supposedly lies and that is the culture we are supposed to follow, aren't we ?), there are teenage pregnancies, then what was the need for abolishing child marriage ? At least in older systems the woman and the child were protected by marriage and family. In the US culture, the girl becomes a single mother and is unable to get decent step father for their child, she keeps prostituting herself. The child grows without a father and has development issues, increasing criminality etc and society is degenerating. Kudos to our women who are trying to replicate US culture here. If we go head like this, not so far ahead in future will threesomes be normal, there will be nude beaches around, single mothers, teenage pregnancies, girls doing pornography, gun shootouts, drugs, criminality will all be normal. All thanks to our ever progressing society. It will not be quick but we are definitely getting there. My questions to all females is why should a male leave his parents ? That is the only safety net most parents have in India with majority of them having no pension. In US they have social security, but in India what is the security that the parents have ? Do you think your husband will like you for forcing him to leave his parents for you. Once he sees his parents struggling (and parents now are living longer) with health and finances your life will never be normal. Having said that even girls parents need to be taken care of if she is the only daughter or where no male is present. Her parents have equal right to be taken care of, may not be legally but morally for sure. And this culture, girls it is your responsibility as a mother to imbibe in both your male and female children. Cooking, cleaning etc is not gender role, it is a lifeskill. It is as much required for a girl to learn driving, cooking, swimming, cleaning, earning money as much it is required for a boy and vice versa. A guy will hold a woman in extreme respect who treats his parents very well. If the saas is bitter, just ignore the caustic talks, there are only 2 people (his/her parents) whose remarks you have to ignore. Just do it and see how well your husband treats you and how happiness reverts in your family. A family where parents are unhappy will never prosper. And remember you will not stay young forever. Your time too will come in next 20 25 years. Instead of aping the west with its crooked ideologies, we should start the movement of going back to our culture where family as a unit was there to protect everyone. It is in everyones interest. Sadly no one talks these things nowadays. The parents have no voice. Everyone wants nuclear families and suffer in silence in old age. Did not understand - checkout what happens to older generation in germany. They are shipped out of the country to a foriegn destination where they are fed and medically taken care of till they die - sophisticated prison isnt it. At least they get the dignity, In India due to no social security net, the old suffer in silence. Ever seen temples, railway stations, you can find lots of such older couples crying and begging. My heart bleeds when I see them. All because someone couldnt digest some caustic talks and couldnt adjust. And that is not the womans fault totally. She is doing what the society is brainwashing her to do. It is the parents who could not imbibe that learning in the children. Ladies - you are mothers - you can change the world. First understand that you have been taken for a ride, and a failed philosophy has been thrust upon you in the guise of modernity.
I think making the people aware of this situation is the first part of the solution. Like any other ongoing processes of social evolution, the rest will follow its natural course based on how each one of us exercises one's free will in life. I am glad you did your bit by creating this video. Thank you for that.
I would completely agree with you, I fall under the loser category avg looking, tall dark, good pay 1L+, don't drink, smoke, never had any relationship thus my expectations would be same I would not want to settle with a girl with too many baggages since once a cheater always a cheater. Clueless here.
Sango, I think you've missed one category, just like boys are A and B category, girls are too. This is mostly happening to B category girls, basically average looking girls, who try to get into relationships with A category guys. B category males already know that the A category girls are above their status.
Absolutely on point !! Very well said, want to add one more thing is that Cat B boys or even Cat C boys number is way way higher then available Cat B girls or Cat C girls and the way things are in India presently any Cat B or Cat C boy will take any girl B/C/D he gets - Instagram and social media and overall new way of life is such.
Namashkar Sangwan Ji. The problem is we as so called modern society want to adopt all the progressive ideologies & act upon them without giving up on traditional (conservative) outcomes. If you want a progressive society with all its freedom w.r.t women rights, trans rights, abortion rights, adoption & surrogacy rights for transgenders, grooming rights & every other right possible under the sun without any accountability, then marriage as as social/legal construct is already dead.
Meditation can be a good fix..and not trying to promote anyone but yes it definitely limits your desires and brings more clarity and discernment. All the Best for the youth to take conscious steps and not get flattered...what seems to be appealing to senses may not be their right serving. God Bless All..अपने स्व के विवेक को जागृत करें, ध्यान करें🙏🙏
But somewhere this is helpful for female population in getting the lesson as well ; that not all that shines is Gold . Both genders gets this lesson that there is more to the human than the beauty and the body & you won't get this lesson until you get interaction with such a type of crowd. Otherwise you will forever be in this disney world of handsome prince ( a preset beauty standard ). Same for male section who desire princess in one preset beauty standard. Slowly people are getting educated & they are accepting all skin types , Body types , body issues . This problem is only faced by young teenagers but once they get it , they get the value of Life !!
To be honest boys dont care how much girls earns , even if girls are earning , she has attitude that her money is her money and husband moneys should be use to run the house and retirement plan , some are treating men just as a wallet and ATM ... husband should help equally in house chores and pay more as he earns more ,every girls want super rich prince charming .... women are using law as a weapon to achieve this mean ... after marriage they are filing 498 , domestic violence and finally maintenance .... note: skin colour of girl does not matter here
One solution is- Since India has less females than males and since nature dictates polygamy as well as hypergamy, Indian men should expand their options and date women from foreign countries as well. Do not be limited to India. Basically the same thing that Haryanvis did/do to account for lack of women.
It gives sooo much peace for me to listen these logical points from a guy who is of a father status. If only all parents can think like you, then there will be no issues. God bless you sirji.
If we recall our memories of recent past, we had availability of good resources in plenty as well. Only difference was that we had go get it, like books from library, money from Bank etc. Today life is easiest then ever before, accessibility of those resources are available within the comfort of your bed, some have seen struggles of older gen but most younger gen guys and gals believes that this ease always existed in past the way it is now. Resulting in lack of having hobbies that involve manual effort such as art and craft, spots, DIY and basic house hold work.
This is indeed a real problem. It's only making people more resentful of each other for a long term. This is the reason why there's a 4th category: girls and boys who are lazer focused on career and are not even participating in dating and marriage market.
To be honest bro, such girls are easy target for me. Let me break it to you. Such girls don't waste their time. But if you are lucky and attractive enough. You just be there. In the end they're humans too. They will tell you how frustrating their work is and all you just make them laugh and you can have them anytime sooner.
@@Indianmogger Baccha ye YT bandh karke padh le warna agle saal bhi NEET ke liye drop dena padega. Ye Law of Attraction wagera nahi work karegi jo tune playlist bana rakhi hai.
@@nothanks0009 NEET Nahi Hua Didi , But Law Of Attraction Se Different chize achi Hui. But Through ICAR. Studying In Best Agricultural College of India. Which is enough with the looks I have.
Society needs to work on it's ethnic and moral values. Everyone has to try to increase their own standard (both girls and so called losser boys) and coming to alpha males they should be checked by their family members and people around them to taught about ethical and moral values.
Sach h guru ji. Ladkiya bhi ab chooser ho gai h. Ve bhi equally educated h. More earning capacity h aur vo bhi handsome sathi chahti h jaise ladke beautiful girls chahte h. More over vo samj chuki h ki unhe bhi ye bahumulya manav jiwan apne progress apni aspirations aur dream poore karne ke liye mila h na ki jivan bhar seva ya dasi ban kar jine ke liye
Females tends to go for highest quality and men tend to go for highest quantity . Its survival of the fittest at best . Solution to this problem was marriage They forcefully pair one male and one female ,whether you like it or not Marriage is a compromise between men and women where men sacrifice quantity and women sacrifice quality. Marriage is a also a compromise between high quality men(small numbers) and poor quality men(large numbers) ,otherwise they would kill each other . Today you cant kill others easily so everyone is just bitter and sad . In extreme cases, loser men will eventually go towards prostitution(incel type) while used women's will themselves become prostitutes (onlyfans type). Its sad a very sad ending . Only solution right now is active discrimination of both men and women of such nature . Or better women should discriminate against women of such disposition and men against men of such disposition . Fathers should tell there side of stories as well because mothers are giving wrong and biased picture to children . For girls. ... please look for sustainable men not the rich,handsome in demand For Boys .. choose one and be loyal . Sab apni aukat mai raho warna bhaad mai jaao
In short...today's education system... Starting from home and then after turning that on other parameters... Lack of knowledge in the true sense of the term and less of interest to turn that knowledge into wisdom...this the actual scenario of current youth... 1/3 don't know why how what they do...another 1/3 r dipped into drugs...and rest 1/3 r studying but not in that way it should be as you told those girls classmates batchmates r not putting grass...hence they don't get that interest to turn their regular knowledge into wisdom...Yes politics is involved as education system comes under this... This EDUCATION SYSTEM got disturbed very badly being mingled with many other things... This is the actual problemS to solve and what you addressed here Sir that part will automatically get balanced... More than this I need not to elaborate...You r the better Judge Sir to understand my untold words
With all due respect sir, this is not a new problem at all. Women always choose the best, the difference is now that they are independent to make a decision. Nowadays average girls sleep with the best men thinking they will end up in the long term. When thrown away by the Alpha they start hating all men. And at the age of 30, they realize their mistake and settle with the average boy like them. And such women destroy her and the boy's life too. Women with such a past can never become a good wife. The solution is to never marry a woman with past relationships. It's harsh for many but this is the long-term solution, which even you cannot come up with now. A huge population of lonely miserable women will be a lesson for young girls to make the right choices.
I guess the root cause of this situation is expecting for ready-made socially savvy grooms and brides, it is this fixed mindset which is causing the problem....a true marriage is all about growing and glowing together...with love and respect for each other, and by adopting a growth mindset both can fulfill each others needs and desires.
Solution can be achieved by asking 1 question " WHY" this kind of situation was not prevailing or was prevailing to a controable extent at the time of our Parents or Grand Parents : Ans :1) Pre-Maratial sex was almost non existent 2) Arranged Marriage were made before the hormones kicked in . However early marriage is not advisable in these times but at least youth can try and refrain pre-maritial sex--> this could be the main reason for marriages falling apart 3) Dont get impressed by the western movies / social media which promotes this kind of practice 4) Most Impiortant : CLEARLY DIFFERENTIATE BETWEEN LOVE & LUST & "GIVE HIGHEST REGARDS & VALUE TO LOVE "
Solution is the previous generation should shun/give away their ego of wisdom and Sanskar they have and discuss this topic with this generation.the previous generation is not willing to accept the problem and just wants to blame this should be avoided instead they should accept the reality & empower youth they should accept the interplay of hormones of both the gender rather than stereotyping and rendering it bad. If you r in a relationship it should not be kept secret as someone else can point u d red flags atleast relationships me rehne is not bad and should be normalised by previous generation aapni na chalaye
1. Education system waste youth time its should decrease from 16(total years of education) to 14 2. Solution already exists sir in your time period that needs to follow now, right time marriage or early engagement....
Girls have the power to change the attitude of boys. Boys are heavily controlled by the family. Everybody expects them to provide. Not everyone can handle the pressure. Girls have to be strength of boys . Stop criticism and and inspire them to be better. Boys will do anything once they sure that they are loved. Boys are born achievers. It's the family who wants them to be submissive and loosers .most fathers don't want their son to be successful. They bring toxicity in boys life. I have seen many times fathers destroying sons future for their own selfish reasons. Girls have to make sure that boys see a future with them. We live in a Indian society heavily controlled by others. Once boys have clarity them wouldn't shy from achieving success.
Government must introduce more social behavioral topics in school which are essential in this consumer oriented society. 1. Love and relationships 2. Financial discipline 3. Sex education and pros and cons of pre marital sex 4. How market oriented economy is leading to a consumerist society where envy and comparison is the basic human behavior Let the school reduce syllabus for all othet subjects and add 3 periods per week on above topics with discussions on case studies as done in MBA. So the more awareness right from age of 14 to 15 will help children grow with more focused and definitive goals in life rather than experimenting aimlessly.
Social media bohot trigger kar raha hai insecurity in girls and boys... Now you have the previlige to compare your life with someone who you hardly know....
It's not the girl's issue that they are not settling for mediocrity. We boys need to focus on ourselves! Hit the gym, become financially sufficient, be disciplined...
Very well pointed problem sir, I myself has encountered the same during my partner search and have deeply analysed exactly the same way, which you did in this video...and I totally agree with this...but the issue is we all aware of this problem (all classes of society) but unfortunately there is no materialistic solution to this....its a "shift in the mindset" of both girls/boys and their respective families/gaurdians which is required but the issue is...."shift" toh tab aayegi na...jb koi isspe humare tarh deep analysis kre....
I think we have a solution. boys who have average looks, and low salary are the ones who claim to have a good heart and wants to get into a long-term serious relationship. If they really want that to happen then be an alpha man first and then use your pure intention (of getting into a long-term relationship) to have a good girl in your life. Go to the gym, make the body, start earning a good amount of money, and don't let a small ratio of men attract N number of girls. make a balance between demand and supply.
Financial issues gaya tel lene, bhai har koi fit and handsome nehi ban sakta, facial structure change k lie plastic surgery lagti he uske lie paisa lagta he, tum lower middle class hoke surgery nahi kara sakte. Maa baap young age me padhai padhai karte rehte he unko kya bolke jim jaoge?? Ghar pe kar sakte ho but jim nehi jaa sakte boss. Practically possible nehi he demand and supply
Thank you very much for bringing this topic, sorry for my language but you need balls of Steel to bring this on public platform. This is a big topic, solution is not simple. It will be done in phases. For coming generation as sex education and good touch bad touch is included in daily curriculum. A subject how to live life. Should be introduced. As it used to be in past in Gurukuls, where when a person attains age of 13. Is fully mature to take his decisions. He's been trained in all aspects of life, political economical etc.
I sincerely think all schools MUST include Bhagvadgeeta's teachings in their curriculum. It must be made mandatory ASAP or else there is little hope from the future generations.
The best solution is to change the diet to avoid hormonal imbalance, it plays major role in perceiving the world .Like alcohol shows immediate effect ,but junk foods and fast foods are far worst than alcohol they are slow poison
You've addressed a real problem that our society is facing. The older generation must be responsible in exemplifying the beauty in the institution of marriage rather than playing the victim card
But jab tak bachelor parties, boys holidays and office incentive trips all go to places like bangkok..then how will people learn to value and nurture long term relationship?
Boys go to Thailand and Girls go to Pondicherry, both wrong 🙏 Boys and Girls should go together, not for drug parties in Goa but with family for a pilgrimage instead.
sure , 30 aatee hi sab samajh aa jati hai . Aur india me Payer chat ne wale larko vi kam nahi hai ... Foreign countries me jo 30 reach karne ke bad unko achhe kamane wale beta simp milti nahi ... but india me simp ki kami nahi hai .
Yes society ka patan ho raha ha 😢 divorce rate are increasing very high in India late marriage phir baccho wali parents ka divorce. Child custody female ke pass men are free again
I'm still single and doing a job but I don't know whether I'll be the first love of my future spouse or not because nowadays even in my college the majority of Girls were engaged in relationships.
Only solution is instead of focusing on what your partner can do for you, focus what you can do for your partner. Do this and you will attract the right ppl. This is for both men and women. Men instead of waiting for a decent girl to pick you, work on your career & fitness. girls instead of wanted a rich man, work on being rich yourself. If both genders focus on improving themselves instead of expect a decent partner, the no. of decent men and women in the marriage market will improve and so will the quality of relationships
Solution Hai Knowledge and wisdom... Understand the concept of Runanubandha in Yogic terms. The body has memories and remembers touches. Karmic energies are transferred at a very intense level in the act of SEX. Touching another person transfer energy to that at person. In SEX especially there is intense intermingling of Karmic streams of the persons... In if there are multiple partners then inevitably karmic streams of those also get intermingled within your stream. This is not a joke. it may be a "concept" explained in Yogic terms , but even in scientific terms it shows the same effect. Solution to youngsters is --Change the phrase "My body, my choice" to "My body, My responsibility!"
Both men and women should go for long term relationship.. otherwise it is better to remain single..live in casual hookups may give you short term pleasure but marriage will give you long term happiness and satisfaction in life..do marriage otherwise become bramhachari😂
Unfortunately, there are many well known famous CZcamsrs who promote dating apps, date in your early 20's, trying out different people...we should be rather focussing on career in early 20's
@@sakshi_bairagi don't you think that is damaging too.. dating several people gives you the delusion of choice.. no man/women is perfect but with time you realise different people fulfilled different needs... Hard to get a complete package.. then we just end up with resentment.. I think the solution is more conscious decesion making
I think the solution has to be collaborative : losing men need work on themselves on parameters they can control like Hygiene, better job, lowering the expectations from wife about doing "Ji hazori" and "parents ki sewa" will work and women also need to have realistic expectations from the husband.
I wrote realistic expectations for women because I have seen 2 cases in my family: case 1: The girl is decent looking, she is a gold medalist in economics but do not wish to work after marriage. she rejects a salaried person stating low package(60k -70k who is now promoted with a bigger package of around 1lakh) and selected a business man with a good inflow who is good looking, also a gym guy. They have house help but she is unhappy as she needs to cook food for the family and it was a family business so the husband gets a share or sometimes need to ask his father for money. case 2: Girl is average looking aged 32. Her expectations, the guy should have a big package in a MNC so that she can use him as a referral to get a good job. she is a CA which took her 10 years to complete and for that she spent her 20s studying therefore wants the guy to love travelling and of course no baggage of guy's parents. She herself does not travel, works in a ok job(around 40k and 6 days a week) but does not have to confidence to change her job own her own.
Amit ji a strong root will born a strong plant and a tree hence a big responsibility on parents to ensure children are responsible. Jabh aap baccho ko saari baat tathyoo ke saath bataoge woh samajhenge. I am of the strong opinion that parents have to be good friends and a great guide to there children and should always keep the 3rd eye open at all times noticing children's behaviour. In the end as a parent if the child is on the wrong path Sam daam dand bhed sabh ka istmaal karke usko line pe leke aana chahiye. Too much exchange of physical body energy within partners have negative impact of both body and mental psychology. It has long term repercussions and one can easily get in a vicious cycle of mental depression and other addictions. One should be responsible towards there self and there body it's the only thing a human has that belongs to them and should be treated with utmost respect from food hygiene to everything else. This is the first step and parents should talk about this to there children at every stage. My mother is my friend and my guide and I have respect and lots of fear of the ferocious tigress that she can be. Best of both worlds to be honest.😂😂😂
Solution is that one whole generation (or maybe two generations) will have to suffer, because of what has been already done with so much effort by previous generation (ultimately broken men and women will die and next generation may understand what happened before and then try out better ways)
This problem is going on sonce long. Not all girls go for physical intimacy at any point of time in their relationship (gf/bf relationship). They are not getting good match even when they are sanskaari. Not all mothers rant about their toxic marriage before their daughters. Girls observe all the women around them including mothers, aunts, grandmothers etc. and witness how much toxic a marriage can get. No doubt old generation men are responsible for this. Nobody wants to marry a maa da laadla and a pitrabhakt. Marriage with such boys definitely results in divorce coz girls are financially independent. Only way out is educate boys how to make their girls feel secure in a marriage.
best video ever on channel. unfortunately with no solution but actual thing and problem in society. my solution for this got to be, we need to call a spade a spade . stick or carrot policy got to be work best everywhere , should work here also. since the choice here lies with the ladies, they are accountable for the same and instead of glorifying a free will sexual persuaded life , we need to appreciate a strong girl who works on herself , control herself and it should be clear enough to society and girls that you will be treated as per your choice , no one to hide your mistakes , no sympathy and no victim cards. you get what you choose raw and rough. sex, polyandry, materialistic pleasure juice in youth or respect ,integrity, regret free , prosperous bounded life . since partial choice of selection goes for fuck boys category too, same lies for them, but as society we also need to change practical standards like preferring committed, loyal person over a casanova.
B-category girl ditches her B-cat bf for A-cat guy... later she gets ditched by that A-cat guy and does vidhwa vilaap. 31-32 ki age me to jethlal me apna prince charming nzr ane lgta.😂
I have a solution. But it will take long time to show results. We have to change education system to Vedic education system. Make seperate school for girls and boys. Make sure children graduate from school and college in teenage years. We have to remove dating culture . And as soon as children hit age 20, children along with parents should meet other children and their parent of opposite gender(kind of family dating). Marry them early. Men and women are sexually active from late teens till 30 yrs. Once their sex is controlled, they can focus on career and making children. As girls would get 7-8 yrs after marriage and still be fertile.
Boys at age 16-21 -> studies, have no money, loves his tuition mate unconditionally and some 25 year old guy steal that girl. Men at 25 years age -> With a well settled job, a good body after years of workout, steals a young girl as one of his girlfriends. Girls at any age - Wow that guy is so rich, so confident and looks so damn perfect and I think I can somehow manage him to love me and marry me, who cares of who loves me currently, he's not even that perfect. 🤑🤑 Moral - they are not different men and women, they are same. By the age, they change. Specially men change drastically when they see society is valuing them on the basis of their current achievements and not their moral values or ethics. I have seen most of friends suffering from loneliness but they have excellent moral values, good jobs, and decent personality. But somehow girls are attracted to "badboys" only. I don't know how does this thing happen. But I myself am enjoying watching this show with a bucket of pop corn.
Sir one thing that I think may work is that we should make them realise what could be the outcome in the coming years if they're with wrong partner. Spirituality can a be a solution. When a person realises what it means to be a human being, s(he) can turn things around.
well said...Actually the problem is not the past relationship or being physical but the person and way of thinking becomes after going through these short term casual relationships whether male/female. These people generally fail to control there sudden urges and encounters these activities after marriages too. And there are many other things also.
First of all , I am amazed that a person your age knows what's going on in the current dating market of 18-24. It's absolutely true , Good looking men are rare, there's science to back it up. Men are polygamous and females are hypergamous. Good looking guys (chads) are having the time of their life while bottom 80% men are watching their crushes getting used by these men. Eventually growing bitter of both these good looking men and women in general. These men then dive into the manosphere, some go mgtow , some go blackpill. Some buy courses from dating coaches, some become extreme misygynist. Honestly, I have experienced life as a bottom 80% male and even as a top male. The only solution I see is , women should not give into sex that easily cause that's the point these good looking men start loosing interest. Nevertheless, nature was always like this. Winner gets all, looser gets none
If Modi ji talks about this , he will be called conservative, orthodox, Manuvadi. Not progressive. Also, youth will say, what does he know about the relationship. Very difficult situation.
Insightful , huge concern , highly disturbing , however this has a direct connect with homes, parenting , & education system I my years of dealing with youth their aspirations , & communication gap that’s widening in every section of society One sure way is involving corporates and develop this mindset to face the rapidly changing world A proven way is to give a tool that can help audit individuals lives every 6 months and set minds
Solution is young boys and girls, especially girls should make meditation and some form of spiritual practice part of their lives. This raises their good vibration and consciousness. From this comes good judgment, self control and in the end has a high chance of attracting like minded good people into their lives. I said "high chance" because some stuff is karmic that has to be endured to some extent.
Solutions as per me: 1. Girls vs boys should be stopped. Girls and boys are supposed to compliment each other and be part of each other. 2. parents should become friends of their kids, especially in teenage and should provide knowledge about sex before marriage, greed and attraction towards the opp gender. 3. early marriage can also be a solution.
You are so true. The average Indian man needs to look at himself and needs to pull himself up.. Take care of their health and bodies and their communication skills , education/professional skills and mostly be humble and kind
Ye ek bhaut badi problem hai definitely..... Ismein humare parents ki galti hai jaisa apne btaya sir...... Attraction love ki age hoti hai ye...par parents ko lagta hai nahi humare bacchon ko kuch esa dopamine release hota hi nahi..... Jis age mein humare parents ko attraction hoti thi us age mein unhe ek rishte mein bandh diya jata tha ....unhe need nahi thi..... Ab ladkiya isiliye settle hon chahti hai career mein taki apni pasand ke ladke se shaadi kar sake jab tak nahi hoti tab tak yahi btana hota hai gharpe ki ..nahi esa kuch nahi hai i am studying....
Average bhai logo Solution ek hi hai apne aap ko upgrade karalo bhai Nhi to koi ni milegi aur agar mil bhi gayi to bahut buri zindagi jio ge .... Physical emotional fit Bano..
Sir, as you had said in one of your videos- whatever pains/gains one has to get in relationship/marriage, they will get, no matter who they decide to be with. If youth accepts this concept, it would be easier for them to choose their life partner. Additionally, treating their role as a husband/wife as a lifelong duty rather than source of enjoyment will keep the marriage going smoothly. So, Girls can select lifepartner on the basis of nature rather than temporary looks; unattractive boys should work on themselves rather than complaining; and more attractive group of males should focus on marrying to one because that would keep them more stable and senses more controlled. P.S.-Acceptance of whatever lifepartner one has is the key
Sirji, ye trend last 10 years se chal raha he. Mere khudke female frnds na jaane ladko ko kitne filters se Chhan lete he. Aur handsome ladke (not all, a significant number although) charitra ka dhajjiya uda diye he. Ye problem John Nash (the beautiful mind) movie mein bhi dikha diya tha ek scene mein.
@Kushal Dear Kushal... Hope you have noticed I have mentioned the aspect of "farmayeshi" programs of the girls too. I am not saying that it is happening without consent. I am saying that it has been a trend, that people (who have the charisma to explore this option) are exploring this particular lifestyle. "Charitra" or character should not be assessed by whether with the true intent of marriage (or a longer term serious relationship) in heart you have ended up sleeping with more than one individuals and later found that they were not the correct person. Happens quite often in the lives of serious people in the western world too. It is a sign of bad character when one starts a relationship on the pretense of the promise of marriage and then after sleeping with them one ditchs them. I am certain you are younger than me. In my known circle only I have witnessed 6 individuals of such "Charitra" unfortunately 4 of them belonging to states of northern india. I am just saying that it is a trend that started a while ago. Secondly, it is practiced "unfortunately" a lot more in the northern states of India, as the boys have often been brought up with a sense of false entitlement as Amit ji has often talked about.
For ..This important relevant issue .. any few lines in comments section will not justify towards solution.. as there are multiple dimensions added to this entangled mesh.. yes he is right that on individual level some solution or way out can be suggested with limited scope but to make a template acceptable at socitial level addressing for all stake holders.. is a chapter of life manual which can address the dynamics of changing times. If I get the positive remarks here, will post to guruji..my solution oriented research of past 5 years. Or I can leave my email id. This issue and similar other related.. affecting the basic fabric of our relations.. will make things irreversible causing psychosomatic and no one will be able to understand each other's point of view..
Sir...boys lack personality....they are just focussed on career without overall development unable to touch girls heart,...where a player take advantage of it..
That top 10% men you are talking about are not emotionally available and you will end up alone if you keep living in this delusion that there is better and much better profile out there. Social media and dating apps has made people think that options are unlimited but reality we are only compatible and have chemistry with very few and rare people. Not all people you meet with will have the chemistry and compatibility to form long-term relationship and become partners. Social media has ruined society.
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SOLUTIONS FOR PROBLEM
1. Parents should stop discussing their marital life with children. They Should show respect & love to their spouse in front of childern.
2. Girls should search responsible money earner lifetime father for her upcoming children.
3. Losser boys should work upon their hygiene, looks, carrer, should be understanding support girls, yet be diplomatic in life.
4. So called charming boys one day will reach in their 50s with no stable carrer , no money, no looks, eventually no girls for hookups.
Becoz they have spend their youth in these things, so eventually in long term they will be unsuccessful, they were not focused in young age , so it will eventually impact their life and career . KARMA will hit them for sure.
Well said
@@antanwar1 usually parents search good income boys for their girls, in that cases before marriage they are no hookups. Girls are into hookups becoz of good looks of boys. If a boy is rich &average looking , she will never hookup before wedding, she will only marry him and settle down.
These charecterless boys will never get beautiful young girls, becoz these girls are for successful men. Such boys in most cases are unsuccsful and after age will get average homely or may not be homely girls. Becoz this category of boys marry in 40s or 50s, in that age usually they won't get youthful 25 age girl
@@antanwar1 yes you are right.
Girls should also improve their social skills.
@@antanwar1 indeed
♂️ A female wants a male with a future and a male wants a female with no past that's the essence of the whole thing. ♂️
Well said
♀️= female
♂️= male
@@KIIXI That symbol denotes my gender.
Well said..
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Iska solution ek hi hai, Sir. Show youngsters what a healthy long term relationship looks like… teach them the benefits of such a relationship/marriage. And as a society, we need to start showcasing and idolising people who are happy in their marriages/relationships. Because, youngsters don’t have any examples to learn from, whether it’s in their own family, peer group or movies and society…
Once they realise that marriage/long term relationships are good, then the criteria with which boys and girls evaluate their partners will change. Short term relationships, having multiple partners aur dating apps ko “cool” banana bandh kar do. Healthy long term relationships ko “cool” banao.
@@sandeepkrishnan3043 I agree with you fully
Agree 💯
There aren't Advantages for me.
Jiski shaddi acchi chal Rahi hai wo society me dhindhora to pitne se raha jinki nahi chal Rahi uska tamasha sab log maje se dekhte hai
Most parents of Gen Z and Millennials spent their life complaining about their spouse towards their kids. Aise bacchon ne long term relationship toh dekh liya magar yeh bhi dekha ki maa - baap sirf un bacchon ke waaste divorce nahin le rahe. Agar jam nahi rahi aur phir bhi divorce nahin lete while also continuing to talk trash about marriage - aise parents honge to obviously kon chahega mummy papa ki tarah arrange marriage karna? Aisa environment sirf ladkiyon ko nahi, ladko ko bhi shadi se nafrat karwane lagata hai. It's so hard to do anything when all the mental damage has already been done before the kids even reach the age of marriage.
Sir… amazing topic🙏🏼
A template solution for all A, B n C :-
(Disclaimer: simple but not easy)
1. Self control
2. Acceptance and respect for the others
3. channelizing energies in other creative stuffs
Problem : movies and social media.
Everything from live-in, to infidelity to double- timing to nudity to elopement to pre marital pregnancy- every damn vice is so bloody glamourised it seems cool to do all this.
Absolutely correct, concept of alpha male and toxic feminism is killing the relationship. What we saw in west till now, it already here and more lethal. Parents or elderly don't even have idea of these concepts so can't take the blame for this.
And the fall of patriarchy.
The best solution i can think is dont badmouth ur partner in front of kids. Warna overcorrection k chakkar mein kids will choose complete opposite. Aur wo bhi galat hi nikalta hai. Be content in your relationship
Sahi.
Yes, how children see their parents relationship affects their perspective of their own partner
You keep Shaking the conscience of Indian Society Every Week... God Bless You
Self control is one of the most important attitude that every individual today have to develop within. Kyuki without you, your dicision your life will be all mash
Thank you for bringing this matter to public attention and showing the bigger picture. I have been thinking about this for very long time and observing children of all ages. This topic needs a series of videos. You are doing great work. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Sir yr great! Mai apki fan ban gai hu. Aise topics pe ap bolte hain Jo samaaj ko ainaa dikhate
Hain. Thanks sir bhagwaanji apko or famous banaye or apki
Baat Har ghar tak pahunche.
As a girl, I'm proud of myself as i have always been in my limit (not being in any sort of relationship) even though my friend told me that "you never know if your future husband* was in any relationship (physical) , why don't you give it a try and enjoy " I didn't and i am happy with my decision😌😁
Right decision yrr 😊
Good decision.
girls like you exist today?😮😮😮damn
Good decision. But did you get a good partner ultimately?
I m in love with your thought
Whatever you said is absolutely true
Women should not loose that value at all and should invest only in long term relationship and also focus on financial independence.
You can't move forward by depending on someone
मोदी जी और राहुल जी खुद शादी नही की, वो किस मुंह से समझाएंगे समाज को😂
Modi ji ki shadi ho chuki hai
No comment sir.... U r man with guts and revolutionary kind of like bhagat singh ji to say what is right for the nation
Tu apna mu band kr
@@non-senseredefined7288 ok bhai age se dhyn rkhunga..... AaJ aaj maf krna
@@munishsehrawat7608 😂😂😂 Bach Gaya Aaj to ...hum to Darr Gaye 😅😅
@@sushmalakra9176 sushma di ye hmara muh band krwadena pls silent
If society is based on materialistic pleasures and money, it's bound to happen
The way hookup culture is portrayed with positivity and glamorised in web series and SM. Without showing the aftermath of it. Could be one factor. A solution could be sensible movie or series which shows chemistry between an average male and female. How it might look boring from outside but its sustainable and healthy in long run. That might make at least some youth aware of the reality.
Solutions :
1) Good strong close knit parents and children relationship
2) parents giving their children open atmosphere to talk and discuss any topic or problems at home (removing parental fear)
3) our Indian culture- Marry boys & girls giving them choices at a correct age so that hormonal needs are taken care of in a healthy sound legal relationship of man-women
4) Girls need to remember to not be easily available to any or every man for looking cool or getting benefits like promotions or gifts.
Women have let their character so lose- forgetting that women are creators & nurturer of this world 🙏🏻
Guys need to step up in marriage, they can't live the way their parents lived with their partner. Girls are overwhelmed and exhausted by taking everything on their head and still being critized by boy and his family. First of all, boys should leave from umbrella of their parents the way girl is leaving to start a new family. Then they should contribute equally to household and finances . Even working girls are still burdened like a house wife and guy is enjoying news , tv after coming home. and still complaining to wife if 56 bhog is not ready for him. they are not even polite and thankful to what a girl is doing.
You are a true product of feminism (see who george soros is). Society practices are result of past experiences. For example child marriage - If you see US (that is where modernity supposedly lies and that is the culture we are supposed to follow, aren't we ?), there are teenage pregnancies, then what was the need for abolishing child marriage ? At least in older systems the woman and the child were protected by marriage and family. In the US culture, the girl becomes a single mother and is unable to get decent step father for their child, she keeps prostituting herself. The child grows without a father and has development issues, increasing criminality etc and society is degenerating. Kudos to our women who are trying to replicate US culture here. If we go head like this, not so far ahead in future will threesomes be normal, there will be nude beaches around, single mothers, teenage pregnancies, girls doing pornography, gun shootouts, drugs, criminality will all be normal. All thanks to our ever progressing society. It will not be quick but we are definitely getting there.
My questions to all females is why should a male leave his parents ? That is the only safety net most parents have in India with majority of them having no pension. In US they have social security, but in India what is the security that the parents have ? Do you think your husband will like you for forcing him to leave his parents for you. Once he sees his parents struggling (and parents now are living longer) with health and finances your life will never be normal. Having said that even girls parents need to be taken care of if she is the only daughter or where no male is present. Her parents have equal right to be taken care of, may not be legally but morally for sure.
And this culture, girls it is your responsibility as a mother to imbibe in both your male and female children. Cooking, cleaning etc is not gender role, it is a lifeskill. It is as much required for a girl to learn driving, cooking, swimming, cleaning, earning money as much it is required for a boy and vice versa.
A guy will hold a woman in extreme respect who treats his parents very well. If the saas is bitter, just ignore the caustic talks, there are only 2 people (his/her parents) whose remarks you have to ignore. Just do it and see how well your husband treats you and how happiness reverts in your family. A family where parents are unhappy will never prosper. And remember you will not stay young forever. Your time too will come in next 20 25 years.
Instead of aping the west with its crooked ideologies, we should start the movement of going back to our culture where family as a unit was there to protect everyone. It is in everyones interest.
Sadly no one talks these things nowadays. The parents have no voice. Everyone wants nuclear families and suffer in silence in old age. Did not understand - checkout what happens to older generation in germany. They are shipped out of the country to a foriegn destination where they are fed and medically taken care of till they die - sophisticated prison isnt it. At least they get the dignity, In India due to no social security net, the old suffer in silence. Ever seen temples, railway stations, you can find lots of such older couples crying and begging. My heart bleeds when I see them. All because someone couldnt digest some caustic talks and couldnt adjust. And that is not the womans fault totally. She is doing what the society is brainwashing her to do. It is the parents who could not imbibe that learning in the children. Ladies - you are mothers - you can change the world. First understand that you have been taken for a ride, and a failed philosophy has been thrust upon you in the guise of modernity.
I think making the people aware of this situation is the first part of the solution. Like any other ongoing processes of social evolution, the rest will follow its natural course based on how each one of us exercises one's free will in life. I am glad you did your bit by creating this video. Thank you for that.
Every bs isn't come under evolution. It's a thousands of years process.
Time has gone
I would completely agree with you, I fall under the loser category avg looking, tall dark, good pay 1L+, don't drink, smoke, never had any relationship thus my expectations would be same I would not want to settle with a girl with too many baggages since once a cheater always a cheater. Clueless here.
I am a girl, looking for a same life partner earning only 37 k per month😊. But from ur name it seems u r a Brahmin so we have no chance 💔
@@friendshiprocks8673 chint mat karo apko acha ladka mil jayega
@@friendshiprocks8673 why so biased because of his surname, and then people blame UC for discrimination
@@friendshiprocks8673
Arey china math kaaro...
Ladka mil jaega ..
Waise apko chaiye konse type ka ladka ????
As a parent am now concerned. Good that you informed us about the trend
Sango, I think you've missed one category, just like boys are A and B category, girls are too. This is mostly happening to B category girls, basically average looking girls, who try to get into relationships with A category guys. B category males already know that the A category girls are above their status.
U r absolutely right sir
And the A category girls look out for A Plus category boys
Absolutely on point !!
Very well said, want to add one more thing is that Cat B boys or even Cat C boys number is way way higher then available Cat B girls or Cat C girls and the way things are in India presently any Cat B or Cat C boy will take any girl B/C/D he gets - Instagram and social media and overall new way of life is such.
@@jda7499
These desperate men who'd accept any woman are also part of the problem.
@@manjular3678 😂😂😂😂😂
Namashkar Sangwan Ji. The problem is we as so called modern society want to adopt all the progressive ideologies & act upon them without giving up on traditional (conservative) outcomes. If you want a progressive society with all its freedom w.r.t women rights, trans rights, abortion rights, adoption & surrogacy rights for transgenders, grooming rights & every other right possible under the sun without any accountability, then marriage as as social/legal construct is already dead.
Meditation can be a good fix..and not trying to promote anyone but yes it definitely limits your desires and brings more clarity and discernment. All the Best for the youth to take conscious steps and not get flattered...what seems to be appealing to senses may not be their right serving. God Bless All..अपने स्व के विवेक को जागृत करें, ध्यान करें🙏🙏
But somewhere this is helpful for female population in getting the lesson as well ; that not all that shines is Gold . Both genders gets this lesson that there is more to the human than the beauty and the body & you won't get this lesson until you get interaction with such a type of crowd. Otherwise you will forever be in this disney world of handsome prince ( a preset beauty standard ). Same for male section who desire princess in one preset beauty standard. Slowly people are getting educated & they are accepting all skin types , Body types , body issues . This problem is only faced by young teenagers but once they get it , they get the value of Life !!
Prapti you’re not connecting with right families. Brown is the least worry when comes to adjustment and understanding
To be honest boys dont care how much girls earns , even if girls are earning , she has attitude that her money is her money and husband moneys should be use to run the house and retirement plan , some are treating men just as a wallet and ATM ... husband should help equally in house chores and pay more as he earns more ,every girls want super rich prince charming .... women are using law as a weapon to achieve this mean ... after marriage they are filing 498 , domestic violence and finally maintenance .... note: skin colour of girl does not matter here
@Prapti maheshwari
3 k men seriously!!!!!!
I'm a gen-z male, and this may not sound good but according to me, this is the nature's way of containing overpopulation in the modern era.
One solution is- Since India has less females than males and since nature dictates polygamy as well as hypergamy,
Indian men should expand their options and date women from foreign countries as well. Do not be limited to India. Basically the same thing that Haryanvis did/do to account for lack of women.
Haryanvis were sharing and exploiting women like an object to use and pass on. Is that what you are suggesting ?
@@scifigal1 every is exploiting women not only haryanvi.
@@subhamsarangi2090women are exploiting men not the other way around.
Great sir..... Great sir ...Great sir ...
आपने बहुत सामयिक विषय उठाने की बहुत शालीनता और कठोरता से हिम्मत की है इसे 1 अभियान बनाने की जरूरत है.
It gives sooo much peace for me to listen these logical points from a guy who is of a father status. If only all parents can think like you, then there will be no issues. God bless you sirji.
If we recall our memories of recent past, we had availability of good resources in plenty as well. Only difference was that we had go get it, like books from library, money from Bank etc. Today life is easiest then ever before, accessibility of those resources are available within the comfort of your bed, some have seen struggles of older gen but most younger gen guys and gals believes that this ease always existed in past the way it is now. Resulting in lack of having hobbies that involve manual effort such as art and craft, spots, DIY and basic house hold work.
Social media has a lot of influence on the generation...we see and desire a lot of things
This is indeed a real problem. It's only making people more resentful of each other for a long term. This is the reason why there's a 4th category: girls and boys who are lazer focused on career and are not even participating in dating and marriage market.
will form majority
I am from this category
To be honest bro, such girls are easy target for me. Let me break it to you. Such girls don't waste their time. But if you are lucky and attractive enough. You just be there. In the end they're humans too. They will tell you how frustrating their work is and all you just make them laugh and you can have them anytime sooner.
@@Indianmogger Baccha ye YT bandh karke padh le warna agle saal bhi NEET ke liye drop dena padega. Ye Law of Attraction wagera nahi work karegi jo tune playlist bana rakhi hai.
@@nothanks0009 NEET Nahi Hua Didi , But Law Of Attraction Se Different chize achi Hui. But Through ICAR. Studying In Best Agricultural College of India. Which is enough with the looks I have.
Society needs to work on it's ethnic and moral values.
Everyone has to try to increase their own standard (both girls and so called losser boys) and coming to alpha males they should be checked by their family members and people around them to taught about ethical and moral values.
Sach h guru ji. Ladkiya bhi ab chooser ho gai h. Ve bhi equally educated h. More earning capacity h aur vo bhi handsome sathi chahti h jaise ladke beautiful girls chahte h. More over vo samj chuki h ki unhe bhi ye bahumulya manav jiwan apne progress apni aspirations aur dream poore karne ke liye mila h na ki jivan bhar seva ya dasi ban kar jine ke liye
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Very nice video, holistic approach towards society, so many factors are at play
Females tends to go for highest quality and men tend to go for highest quantity .
Its survival of the fittest at best .
Solution to this problem was marriage
They forcefully pair one male and one female ,whether you like it or not
Marriage is a compromise between men and women where men sacrifice quantity and women sacrifice quality.
Marriage is a also a compromise between high quality men(small numbers) and poor quality men(large numbers) ,otherwise they would kill each other .
Today you cant kill others easily so everyone is just bitter and sad .
In extreme cases, loser men will eventually go towards prostitution(incel type) while used women's will themselves become prostitutes (onlyfans type).
Its sad a very sad ending .
Only solution right now is active discrimination of both men and women of such nature .
Or better women should discriminate against women of such disposition and men against men of such disposition .
Fathers should tell there side of stories as well because mothers are giving wrong and biased picture to children .
For girls. ... please look for sustainable men not the rich,handsome in demand
For Boys .. choose one and be loyal .
Sab apni aukat mai raho warna bhaad mai jaao
In short...today's education system... Starting from home and then after turning that on other parameters... Lack of knowledge in the true sense of the term and less of interest to turn that knowledge into wisdom...this the actual scenario of current youth... 1/3 don't know why how what they do...another 1/3 r dipped into drugs...and rest 1/3 r studying but not in that way it should be as you told those girls classmates batchmates r not putting grass...hence they don't get that interest to turn their regular knowledge into wisdom...Yes politics is involved as education system comes under this... This EDUCATION SYSTEM got disturbed very badly being mingled with many other things... This is the actual problemS to solve and what you addressed here Sir that part will automatically get balanced... More than this I need not to elaborate...You r the better Judge Sir to understand my untold words
With all due respect sir, this is not a new problem at all. Women always choose the best, the difference is now that they are independent to make a decision.
Nowadays average girls sleep with the best men thinking they will end up in the long term. When thrown away by the Alpha they start hating all men.
And at the age of 30, they realize their mistake and settle with the average boy like them. And such women destroy her and the boy's life too. Women with such a past can never become a good wife.
The solution is to never marry a woman with past relationships. It's harsh for many but this is the long-term solution, which even you cannot come up with now.
A huge population of lonely miserable women will be a lesson for young girls to make the right choices.
@Prapti maheshwari guide us what single men must do to become attractive
This is exactly what is happening predominantly in the West, now spreading in India.
I guess the root cause of this situation is expecting for ready-made socially savvy grooms and brides, it is this fixed mindset which is causing the problem....a true marriage is all about growing and glowing together...with love and respect for each other, and by adopting a growth mindset both can fulfill each others needs and desires.
You said it❤
Solution can be achieved by asking 1 question " WHY" this kind of situation was not prevailing or was prevailing to a controable extent at the time of our Parents or Grand Parents : Ans :1) Pre-Maratial sex was almost non existent 2) Arranged Marriage were made before the hormones kicked in . However early marriage is not advisable in these times but at least youth can try and refrain pre-maritial sex--> this could be the main reason for marriages falling apart 3) Dont get impressed by the western movies / social media which promotes this kind of practice 4) Most Impiortant : CLEARLY DIFFERENTIATE BETWEEN LOVE & LUST & "GIVE HIGHEST REGARDS & VALUE TO LOVE "
Solution is the previous generation should shun/give away their ego of wisdom and Sanskar they have and discuss this topic with this generation.the previous generation is not willing to accept the problem and just wants to blame this should be avoided instead they should accept the reality & empower youth they should accept the interplay of hormones of both the gender rather than stereotyping and rendering it bad. If you r in a relationship it should not be kept secret as someone else can point u d red flags atleast relationships me rehne is not bad and should be normalised by previous generation aapni na chalaye
1. Education system waste youth time its should decrease from 16(total years of education) to 14
2. Solution already exists sir in your time period that needs to follow now, right time marriage or early engagement....
Girls have the power to change the attitude of boys. Boys are heavily controlled by the family. Everybody expects them to provide. Not everyone can handle the pressure. Girls have to be strength of boys . Stop criticism and and inspire them to be better. Boys will do anything once they sure that they are loved. Boys are born achievers. It's the family who wants them to be submissive and loosers .most fathers don't want their son to be successful. They bring toxicity in boys life. I have seen many times fathers destroying sons future for their own selfish reasons. Girls have to make sure that boys see a future with them. We live in a Indian society heavily controlled by others. Once boys have clarity them wouldn't shy from achieving success.
Government must introduce more social behavioral topics in school which are essential in this consumer oriented society.
1. Love and relationships
2. Financial discipline
3. Sex education and pros and cons of pre marital sex
4. How market oriented economy is leading to a consumerist society where envy and comparison is the basic human behavior
Let the school reduce syllabus for all othet subjects and add 3 periods per week on above topics with discussions on case studies as done in MBA.
So the more awareness right from age of 14 to 15 will help children grow with more focused and definitive goals in life rather than experimenting aimlessly.
Social media bohot trigger kar raha hai insecurity in girls and boys... Now you have the previlige to compare your life with someone who you hardly know....
It's not the girl's issue that they are not settling for mediocrity. We boys need to focus on ourselves! Hit the gym, become financially sufficient, be disciplined...
jo ladka etni mehnat krega.. vo sirf ek ladki pe ku rukega..vo b kafi flavors taste krega... to find the best one.
@@Lavanyachawla55 and the reality is.. girls alwz fall for such guys(playboys), ignoring decent guys.
@@Stt1351exactly and just kachra must be dumped out
High value girls kisi aur culture se dhundh lenge hamara kuch nahi ja raha
Very well pointed problem sir, I myself has encountered the same during my partner search and have deeply analysed exactly the same way, which you did in this video...and I totally agree with this...but the issue is we all aware of this problem (all classes of society) but unfortunately there is no materialistic solution to this....its a "shift in the mindset" of both girls/boys and their respective families/gaurdians which is required but the issue is...."shift" toh tab aayegi na...jb koi isspe humare tarh deep analysis kre....
I think we have a solution. boys who have average looks, and low salary are the ones who claim to have a good heart and wants to get into a long-term serious relationship. If they really want that to happen then be an alpha man first and then use your pure intention (of getting into a long-term relationship) to have a good girl in your life. Go to the gym, make the body, start earning a good amount of money, and don't let a small ratio of men attract N number of girls.
make a balance between demand and supply.
Financial issues gaya tel lene, bhai har koi fit and handsome nehi ban sakta, facial structure change k lie plastic surgery lagti he uske lie paisa lagta he, tum lower middle class hoke surgery nahi kara sakte. Maa baap young age me padhai padhai karte rehte he unko kya bolke jim jaoge?? Ghar pe kar sakte ho but jim nehi jaa sakte boss. Practically possible nehi he demand and supply
It will take one entire life time to do all those you have mentioned
and what will girl bring to the table , if everything boys will only do
kya yr.. damaged products k liye etni mehnat... not worth it🙄🤦♂️.
Category-A guys have biological advantages .. other guys can't compete with them.
Yeh badi achi baath kahi hai apne
The day boys get a job they become charming if they start taking care of themselves.
Thank you very much for bringing this topic, sorry for my language but you need balls of Steel to bring this on public platform. This is a big topic, solution is not simple. It will be done in phases. For coming generation as sex education and good touch bad touch is included in daily curriculum. A subject how to live life. Should be introduced. As it used to be in past in Gurukuls, where when a person attains age of 13. Is fully mature to take his decisions. He's been trained in all aspects of life, political economical etc.
Thanks for input. Pls do share this video with friends
I sincerely think all schools MUST include Bhagvadgeeta's teachings in their curriculum. It must be made mandatory ASAP or else there is little hope from the future generations.
The best solution is to change the diet to avoid hormonal imbalance, it plays major role in perceiving the world .Like alcohol shows immediate effect ,but junk foods and fast foods are far worst than alcohol they are slow poison
You've addressed a real problem that our society is facing. The older generation must be responsible in exemplifying the beauty in the institution of marriage rather than playing the victim card
But jab tak bachelor parties, boys holidays and office incentive trips all go to places like bangkok..then how will people learn to value and nurture long term relationship?
Boys go to Thailand and Girls go to Pondicherry, both wrong 🙏 Boys and Girls should go together, not for drug parties in Goa but with family for a pilgrimage instead.
sure , 30 aatee hi sab samajh aa jati hai . Aur india me Payer chat ne wale larko vi kam nahi hai ...
Foreign countries me jo 30 reach karne ke bad unko achhe kamane wale beta simp milti nahi ... but india me simp ki kami nahi hai .
Yes society ka patan ho raha ha 😢 divorce rate are increasing very high in India late marriage phir baccho wali parents ka divorce. Child custody female ke pass men are free again
Alimony also
I am in now 20 s but understand long term relationship not college relationship only time waste think logically take decision long term 🙏
I'm still single and doing a job but I don't know whether I'll be the first love of my future spouse or not because nowadays even in my college the majority of Girls were engaged in relationships.
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Yeaaah u are r8
Sir i love your videos, plz make a video on whether " God exist or not " . Going through lots of issues in life thank you tc God bless
Only solution is instead of focusing on what your partner can do for you, focus what you can do for your partner. Do this and you will attract the right ppl. This is for both men and women. Men instead of waiting for a decent girl to pick you, work on your career & fitness. girls instead of wanted a rich man, work on being rich yourself. If both genders focus on improving themselves instead of expect a decent partner, the no. of decent men and women in the marriage market will improve and so will the quality of relationships
Lack of patience in making things work and giving effort in a relationship. So we fix blame instead of the problem and that is a band aid fix.
Solution Hai Knowledge and wisdom...
Understand the concept of Runanubandha in Yogic terms.
The body has memories and remembers touches. Karmic energies are transferred at a very intense level in the act of SEX. Touching another person transfer energy to that at person.
In SEX especially there is intense intermingling of Karmic streams of the persons...
In if there are multiple partners then inevitably karmic streams of those also get intermingled within your stream. This is not a joke. it may be a "concept" explained in Yogic terms , but even in scientific terms it shows the same effect.
Solution to youngsters is --Change the phrase "My body, my choice" to "My body, My responsibility!"
Both men and women should go for long term relationship.. otherwise it is better to remain single..live in casual hookups may give you short term pleasure but marriage will give you long term happiness and satisfaction in life..do marriage otherwise become bramhachari😂
Both men and women should not marry. Marriage is a bondage and it's always give you loss.
Even if you marry although don't give birth
I feel the guys who give fake promises aur stuff are not that attractive in the first place.
Unfortunately, there are many well known famous CZcamsrs who promote dating apps, date in your early 20's, trying out different people...we should be rather focussing on career in early 20's
@@sakshi_bairagi don't you think that is damaging too.. dating several people gives you the delusion of choice.. no man/women is perfect but with time you realise different people fulfilled different needs... Hard to get a complete package.. then we just end up with resentment.. I think the solution is more conscious decesion making
I think the solution has to be collaborative : losing men need work on themselves on parameters they can control like Hygiene, better job, lowering the expectations from wife about doing "Ji hazori" and "parents ki sewa" will work and women also need to have realistic expectations from the husband.
I wrote realistic expectations for women because I have seen 2 cases in my family:
case 1: The girl is decent looking, she is a gold medalist in economics but do not wish to work after marriage. she rejects a salaried person stating low package(60k -70k who is now promoted with a bigger package of around 1lakh) and selected a business man with a good inflow who is good looking, also a gym guy. They have house help but she is unhappy as she needs to cook food for the family and it was a family business so the husband gets a share or sometimes need to ask his father for money.
case 2: Girl is average looking aged 32. Her expectations, the guy should have a big package in a MNC so that she can use him as a referral to get a good job. she is a CA which took her 10 years to complete and for that she spent her 20s studying therefore wants the guy to love travelling and of course no baggage of guy's parents. She herself does not travel, works in a ok job(around 40k and 6 days a week) but does not have to confidence to change her job own her own.
Esi reality based talks sunkar maja ajata hr sir
Amit ji a strong root will born a strong plant and a tree hence a big responsibility on parents to ensure children are responsible. Jabh aap baccho ko saari baat tathyoo ke saath bataoge woh samajhenge. I am of the strong opinion that parents have to be good friends and a great guide to there children and should always keep the 3rd eye open at all times noticing children's behaviour. In the end as a parent if the child is on the wrong path Sam daam dand bhed sabh ka istmaal karke usko line pe leke aana chahiye. Too much exchange of physical body energy within partners have negative impact of both body and mental psychology. It has long term repercussions and one can easily get in a vicious cycle of mental depression and other addictions. One should be responsible towards there self and there body it's the only thing a human has that belongs to them and should be treated with utmost respect from food hygiene to everything else. This is the first step and parents should talk about this to there children at every stage.
My mother is my friend and my guide and I have respect and lots of fear of the ferocious tigress that she can be. Best of both worlds to be honest.😂😂😂
What an Realistic Video Sir ! 100% true !!
Solution is that one whole generation (or maybe two generations) will have to suffer, because of what has been already done with so much effort by previous generation (ultimately broken men and women will die and next generation may understand what happened before and then try out better ways)
Guru ki mai to depression me Jane Wala tha rishtedaro ke chkrr me apke video dekh ke life ko aim mil gya sir🙏🙏🙏
This problem is going on sonce long. Not all girls go for physical intimacy at any point of time in their relationship (gf/bf relationship). They are not getting good match even when they are sanskaari. Not all mothers rant about their toxic marriage before their daughters. Girls observe all the women around them including mothers, aunts, grandmothers etc. and witness how much toxic a marriage can get. No doubt old generation men are responsible for this. Nobody wants to marry a maa da laadla and a pitrabhakt. Marriage with such boys definitely results in divorce coz girls are financially independent. Only way out is educate boys how to make their girls feel secure in a marriage.
Also educate girls to respect their own relationship with partner
Not all girls are good looking
best video ever on channel. unfortunately with no solution but actual thing and problem in society.
my solution for this got to be, we need to call a spade a spade . stick or carrot policy got to be work best everywhere , should work here also.
since the choice here lies with the ladies, they are accountable for the same and instead of glorifying a free will sexual persuaded life , we need to appreciate a strong girl who works on herself , control herself and it should be clear enough to society and girls that you will be treated as per your choice , no one to hide your mistakes , no sympathy and no victim cards. you get what you choose raw and rough. sex, polyandry, materialistic pleasure juice in youth or respect ,integrity, regret free , prosperous bounded life .
since partial choice of selection goes for fuck boys category too, same lies for them, but as society we also need to change practical standards like preferring committed, loyal person over a casanova.
B-category girl ditches her B-cat bf for A-cat guy... later she gets ditched by that A-cat guy and does vidhwa vilaap.
31-32 ki age me to jethlal me apna prince charming nzr ane lgta.😂
@@antanwar1 bro boys me b bht chutiye bhare pade h.. pura market hi khrab krke rakh diya h.
I have a solution. But it will take long time to show results. We have to change education system to Vedic education system. Make seperate school for girls and boys. Make sure children graduate from school and college in teenage years. We have to remove dating culture . And as soon as children hit age 20, children along with parents should meet other children and their parent of opposite gender(kind of family dating). Marry them early. Men and women are sexually active from late teens till 30 yrs. Once their sex is controlled, they can focus on career and making children. As girls would get 7-8 yrs after marriage and still be fertile.
Women should focus only on education and financial independence
Boys at age 16-21 -> studies, have no money, loves his tuition mate unconditionally and some 25 year old guy steal that girl.
Men at 25 years age -> With a well settled job, a good body after years of workout, steals a young girl as one of his girlfriends.
Girls at any age - Wow that guy is so rich, so confident and looks so damn perfect and I think I can somehow manage him to love me and marry me, who cares of who loves me currently, he's not even that perfect. 🤑🤑
Moral - they are not different men and women, they are same. By the age, they change.
Specially men change drastically when they see society is valuing them on the basis of their current achievements and not their moral values or ethics.
I have seen most of friends suffering from loneliness but they have excellent moral values, good jobs, and decent personality. But somehow girls are attracted to "badboys" only.
I don't know how does this thing happen. But I myself am enjoying watching this show with a bucket of pop corn.
same league bro..
Sir one thing that I think may work is that we should make them realise what could be the outcome in the coming years if they're with wrong partner. Spirituality can a be a solution. When a person realises what it means to be a human being, s(he) can turn things around.
God bless you Sir! 😇🙏
well said...Actually the problem is not the past relationship or being physical but the person and way of thinking becomes after going through these short term casual relationships whether male/female. These people generally fail to control there sudden urges and encounters these activities after marriages too. And there are many other things also.
You are right Amit ji, elders apne haath easily jhad lete hai instead face the situation & struggle to make youths understand the reality.
Solution for women : Your Body, Your Responsibility
Be mindful of whom you're sharing your heart and your body with.
Respect your own self first!
How to deal with toxic parents.. please help guruji 🙏
First of all , I am amazed that a person your age knows what's going on in the current dating market of 18-24. It's absolutely true , Good looking men are rare, there's science to back it up. Men are polygamous and females are hypergamous. Good looking guys (chads) are having the time of their life while bottom 80% men are watching their crushes getting used by these men. Eventually growing bitter of both these good looking men and women in general.
These men then dive into the manosphere, some go mgtow , some go blackpill. Some buy courses from dating coaches, some become extreme misygynist.
Honestly, I have experienced life as a bottom 80% male and even as a top male.
The only solution I see is , women should not give into sex that easily cause that's the point these good looking men start loosing interest.
Nevertheless, nature was always like this. Winner gets all, looser gets none
I don’t think this is a new trend or phenomenon. This must have happened in past generations as well...
If Modi ji talks about this , he will be called conservative, orthodox, Manuvadi. Not progressive. Also, youth will say, what does he know about the relationship. Very difficult situation.
Insightful , huge concern , highly disturbing , however this has a direct connect with homes, parenting , & education system
I my years of dealing with youth their aspirations , & communication gap that’s widening in every section of society
One sure way is involving corporates and develop this mindset to face the rapidly changing world
A proven way is to give a tool that can help audit individuals lives every 6 months and set minds
Solution is young boys and girls, especially girls should make meditation and some form of spiritual practice part of their lives. This raises their good vibration and consciousness. From this comes good judgment, self control and in the end has a high chance of attracting like minded good people into their lives. I said "high chance" because some stuff is karmic that has to be endured to some extent.
Solutions as per me:
1. Girls vs boys should be stopped.
Girls and boys are supposed to compliment each other and be part of each other.
2. parents should become friends of their kids, especially in teenage and should provide knowledge about sex before marriage, greed and attraction towards the opp gender.
3. early marriage can also be a solution.
You are so true. The average Indian man needs to look at himself and needs to pull himself up.. Take care of their health and bodies and their communication skills , education/professional skills and mostly be humble and kind
Not all girls are good looking and have personality that they deserve good men
Ye ek bhaut badi problem hai definitely.....
Ismein humare parents ki galti hai jaisa apne btaya sir......
Attraction love ki age hoti hai ye...par parents ko lagta hai nahi humare bacchon ko kuch esa dopamine release hota hi nahi.....
Jis age mein humare parents ko attraction hoti thi us age mein unhe ek rishte mein bandh diya jata tha ....unhe need nahi thi.....
Ab ladkiya isiliye settle hon chahti hai career mein taki apni pasand ke ladke se shaadi kar sake jab tak nahi hoti tab tak yahi btana hota hai gharpe ki ..nahi esa kuch nahi hai i am studying....
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Solution ek hi hai apne aap ko upgrade karalo bhai
Nhi to koi ni milegi aur agar mil bhi gayi to bahut buri zindagi jio ge ....
Physical emotional fit Bano..
Sir, as you had said in one of your videos- whatever pains/gains one has to get in relationship/marriage, they will get, no matter who they decide to be with. If youth accepts this concept, it would be easier for them to choose their life partner. Additionally, treating their role as a husband/wife as a lifelong duty rather than source of enjoyment will keep the marriage going smoothly.
So, Girls can select lifepartner on the basis of nature rather than temporary looks; unattractive boys should work on themselves rather than complaining; and more attractive group of males should focus on marrying to one because that would keep them more stable and senses more controlled.
P.S.-Acceptance of whatever lifepartner one has is the key
More interaction needed among parents. And schools and colleges need to provide classes for Ethics and Moral Sciences
Sirji, ye trend last 10 years se chal raha he. Mere khudke female frnds na jaane ladko ko kitne filters se Chhan lete he. Aur handsome ladke (not all, a significant number although) charitra ka dhajjiya uda diye he. Ye problem John Nash (the beautiful mind) movie mein bhi dikha diya tha ek scene mein.
1-2 generation lagege. abhi middle & rich class mae hai so itna matter nhi kar tha.
Dhajiya Nahi Uda Rahe sir, Ladki ki consent se hota h, aur ladkiyan ko band kamre m kitni izzat milti h woh bhi janta hun
@@Indianmogger tum kisi ladki ko touch tak nahi kar sakte agar uski consent naho,per her koi boys ko blame karne ke liye tayar hai
@Kushal Dear Kushal... Hope you have noticed I have mentioned the aspect of "farmayeshi" programs of the girls too. I am not saying that it is happening without consent. I am saying that it has been a trend, that people (who have the charisma to explore this option) are exploring this particular lifestyle. "Charitra" or character should not be assessed by whether with the true intent of marriage (or a longer term serious relationship) in heart you have ended up sleeping with more than one individuals and later found that they were not the correct person. Happens quite often in the lives of serious people in the western world too. It is a sign of bad character when one starts a relationship on the pretense of the promise of marriage and then after sleeping with them one ditchs them. I am certain you are younger than me. In my known circle only I have witnessed 6 individuals of such "Charitra" unfortunately 4 of them belonging to states of northern india. I am just saying that it is a trend that started a while ago. Secondly, it is practiced "unfortunately" a lot more in the northern states of India, as the boys have often been brought up with a sense of false entitlement as Amit ji has often talked about.
@@freedom4813 yeh bhi satya baat hai
Very
relevant
For ..This important relevant issue .. any few lines in comments section will not justify towards solution.. as there are multiple dimensions added to this entangled mesh.. yes he is right that on individual level some solution or way out can be suggested with limited scope but to make a template acceptable at socitial level addressing for all stake holders.. is a chapter of life manual which can address the dynamics of changing times. If I get the positive remarks here, will post to guruji..my solution oriented research of past 5 years. Or I can leave my email id. This issue and similar other related.. affecting the basic fabric of our relations.. will make things irreversible causing psychosomatic and no one will be able to understand each other's point of view..
Hey! I want to read your thoughts about the research you've done
Oye hoye. Maza aa gaya Sirji. Mere Mann ki dabee awaaz Jo pichhle 15-20 saal se andar ubaal kha rahi thii aaj aapne saaf saaf bol diya
Sir your all content are orignal and an eye opener, Jisper koi aur baat nhi kr rha apke alawa.. Superb sir..
One solution could be to reignite
Yadhopavi Sanskar culture of our sanatan dharma.
I want to celebrate this trend. Amit, nature is balancing itself out. You can let it happen
Sir...boys lack personality....they are just focussed on career without overall development unable to touch girls heart,...where a player take advantage of it..
Kya sabhi girls good looking hoti hai
That top 10% men you are talking about are not emotionally available and you will end up alone if you keep living in this delusion that there is better and much better profile out there. Social media and dating apps has made people think that options are unlimited but reality we are only compatible and have chemistry with very few and rare people. Not all people you meet with will have the chemistry and compatibility to form long-term relationship and become partners. Social media has ruined society.
Yeaaah
Video Liked for your sheer honesty in the discussion
Amazing topic......Sir