Why Women Fall for Pirates and Vampires - Prof. Jordan Peterson

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  • čas přidán 24. 07. 2017
  • Psychology professor Jordan Peterson refers to the book “A Billion Wicked Thoughts” by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam and explains the fascination many women have with pirates, vampires, werewolves, surgeons and billionaires.
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    This excerpt is part of Dr. Peterson’s lecture “2017 Maps of Meaning 7: Images of Story & MetaStory” at the University of Toronto. You can watch the entire lecture here:
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  • @PsycheMatters
    @PsycheMatters  Před 6 lety +936

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    • @sunk5244
      @sunk5244 Před 6 lety +35

      Psyche Matters
      I love that thumbnail btw.

    • @PsycheMatters
      @PsycheMatters  Před 6 lety +40

      Thank you!

    • @londoncalling7895
      @londoncalling7895 Před 6 lety +43

      the clue is in the words.. 'thoughts' and 'fantasy'.. the werewolf is not a real man. It is the animal energy required for fucking that is the turn on. The nice guy she lives with doesn't make her heart race. Why don't guys ever get this.

    • @halofreekreed3573
      @halofreekreed3573 Před 6 lety +5

      Psyche Matters I love your video's. They are amazing.

    • @spacecat4689
      @spacecat4689 Před 6 lety +7

      Nice for doing good work not just stealing content but promoting and linking everything + explaining gj

  • @FandomChronicle
    @FandomChronicle Před 2 lety +2181

    Vampire: Mysterious masculinity (in the dark, unexpecting, cunning)
    Werewolf: Animalistic masculinity (primal alpha, pack leader, strong, fierce)
    Billionaire: Status masculinity (living the high life, luxury, comfort, assurance)
    Pirate: Adventurous masculinity (fear no danger, break the rules, dream seeker)
    Surgeon: Intellectual masculinity (precise, dependable, trustworthy, between life and death)

    • @ev6564
      @ev6564 Před 2 lety +180

      You summed it up perfectly. I love vampire, werewolf, and billionaire romance and this describes why. It's not so much an ego thing as finding these types of masculinity very attractive.

    • @eulalie8806
      @eulalie8806 Před 9 měsíci +29

      you´re so right

    • @quinnsgumbite2247
      @quinnsgumbite2247 Před 9 měsíci +9

      Pretend is not right😂😂😂😂😂

    • @kPjgp
      @kPjgp Před 9 měsíci

      👏👏👍

    • @shagssss199
      @shagssss199 Před 9 měsíci +90

      Masculinity is the common factor here and I agree. Nothing’s more sexier than a masculine man who is bad to others but cares for her lady.

  • @ariannatkinson6298
    @ariannatkinson6298 Před 3 lety +4701

    One word:
    Wattpad.

    • @cinnamonbun5530
      @cinnamonbun5530 Před 3 lety +152

      Finally! Someone!

    • @robink9577
      @robink9577 Před 3 lety +91

      Thank you I was searching for this and I’ve never been more proud

    • @aceo_o2295
      @aceo_o2295 Před 3 lety +13

      Yep

    • @ishakashyap795
      @ishakashyap795 Před 3 lety +38

      Okay।। I am Wattpad reader too..

    • @roshanigladson9331
      @roshanigladson9331 Před 3 lety +38

      Ooof it's allll from waattpad folks! AAAH that website produces trash content jeesh

  • @BadgerAmongMen
    @BadgerAmongMen Před 2 lety +2607

    I love that billionaires and surgeons are listed among pirates, werewolves, and vampires

    • @deomartinez77
      @deomartinez77 Před 2 lety +1

      Yep. Success and Danger directed at the woman in a positive way is the key to the female fantasy. Billionaires and Surgeons are the epitome of success trait in the minds of many. Who doesn't want to marry a doctor or have a billionaire jet you around the world in the lap of luxury?

    • @assassinzgod
      @assassinzgod Před rokem

      Billionaires are risk takers with disposable income and surgeons are dangerous because they literally hold life in their hands

    • @oilersridersbluejays
      @oilersridersbluejays Před rokem

      That’s the money factor. Women in to varying degrees want fancy and shiny things.
      Women are much more likely to pick the rich, obnoxious, douche canoe man than the one who would actually treat the woman with respect and love.
      Sometimes, women are their own worst enemies.

    • @stephentrash8579
      @stephentrash8579 Před 10 měsíci +127

      Yeah surgeons are one of the leading jobs for sociopaths

    • @Alaskanman
      @Alaskanman Před 10 měsíci +62

      ​@@stephentrash8579I can't blame em. You have to become that to operate... I used to be a cleaner and I tell you, I've cleaned up some nasty shit(literally)

  • @PikaBolaChan
    @PikaBolaChan Před 2 lety +1044

    “you’re actually blushing, that’s very funny” is one of most favourite quotes

    • @ThinWhiteAxe
      @ThinWhiteAxe Před 2 lety +57

      Yes indeed lmaooo
      Imagine the mingled embarrassment and bragging rights you get out of being that one girl in Dr Jordan Peterson's lecture

    • @fafka1445
      @fafka1445 Před 2 lety +5

      And who even quotes that?

    • @fafka1445
      @fafka1445 Před 2 lety +3

      ​@M J Why the heck would such a bot exist? What would be the point of that? To bully people?

    • @rudyNok
      @rudyNok Před 2 lety +1

      @@fafka1445 Yes.

    • @PikaBolaChan
      @PikaBolaChan Před 2 lety

      @@fafka1445 me

  • @mellowfellow6816
    @mellowfellow6816 Před 6 lety +22192

    Hey ladies, I'm a werewolf vampire billionaire pirate surgeon. How you doin?

    • @server333
      @server333 Před 6 lety +1695

      does your pirate hat fall off when you transform into a wolf?
      also does your howling sound like AWRRRRRRRR or more like a traditional wolf?:D

    • @Bopperann
      @Bopperann Před 6 lety +641

      Me panties are so moist now o_o Imma reada sexa boi >;3

    • @r0n1n-
      @r0n1n- Před 6 lety +381

      @bookmarkthis They certainly like humor

    • @boutchie06
      @boutchie06 Před 6 lety +48

      Server 333, that made me cry!

    • @big_petebear8535
      @big_petebear8535 Před 6 lety +35

      Melo Boy
      Genius! 🤣

  • @scrimshaw7470
    @scrimshaw7470 Před 3 lety +9415

    Twilight: one young woman's choice between bestiality and necrophilia

  • @intu1944
    @intu1944 Před 9 měsíci +225

    As an 18 girl, I think there's a lot of relationships where the "I can fix him" mentality can be really detrimental. It's one thing to want to "fix" your partner, and another thing to want what's best for him, you might not always know what that is, but it's important to try and help him to figure that out.
    Though I totally do get the appeal of helping your partner become a better man, but it's important to grow alongside him

    • @choxo.v260
      @choxo.v260 Před 9 měsíci +7

      Agreed. Growing allong side your partner is the healthy way. But through both books, movies and series I notice that the “I can fix him” mentality is literally being pushed onto women. It’s always the guy not being able to behave or is incredibly dangerous to the people around him but only that one special woman can stop him and calm him down. Making girls/woman believe that that is their job (taming the beast) :/
      Btww is that Kieran in your pfp 👀

    • @intu1944
      @intu1944 Před 9 měsíci

      YES haha i love PH, even if the main romance has the exact dynamic that this vid is discussing @@choxo.v260

    • @jaja-wg3si
      @jaja-wg3si Před 9 měsíci +1

      Yeah and in most of the contemporary literary stuff the love interest doesn't actually fix him, the love interest becomes part of the toxic protagonist world and has to navigate the consequences of being with him

    • @jaja-wg3si
      @jaja-wg3si Před 9 měsíci +1

      Is like a hot romance story that always ends badly, like anna karenina for example, it was made to actually lecture women of the time of the dangers of not conforming to societal expectations of the time

    • @Jeffersonian1975
      @Jeffersonian1975 Před 8 měsíci +3

      One thing a man cant stand is a woman who wants to change him. Instant disaster

  • @jakefromspace4659
    @jakefromspace4659 Před 2 lety +812

    As an engineering student, this makes me proud of my kind and hopeful that my studies might actually contribute to society at large!

    • @user-zu6ts5fb6g
      @user-zu6ts5fb6g Před 2 lety +6

      Then you should realise that his interpretation on the given data is false

    • @ismarchew42
      @ismarchew42 Před 2 lety +2

      @@user-zu6ts5fb6g I am curious about how you come to that conclusion?

    • @user-zu6ts5fb6g
      @user-zu6ts5fb6g Před 2 lety +15

      @@ismarchew42 He is essentially looking at a subset of data on a very specific group of women, then goes on to claim that all women crave the same as that specific group

    • @user-zu6ts5fb6g
      @user-zu6ts5fb6g Před 2 lety +13

      @caprice.t Yes, but the title suggests that all women are like that. Not only is the title misleading but looking through the comments people are taking this information as if it is absolutely correct. He generalizes his analysis beyond just this group. The overall message of this video is therefore meaningless.

    • @superdude1255
      @superdude1255 Před 2 lety +6

      @@user-zu6ts5fb6g glad to see someone with a very valid counter point to the video! It's sad seeing all these people resorting to denying facts and namecalling.

  • @phoneheaded
    @phoneheaded Před 3 lety +9445

    Did you know that if you whisper, 'Dominance hierarchy,' into a mirror three times Jordan Peterson will appear and clean your room?

    • @memedumpster3684
      @memedumpster3684 Před 3 lety +97

      lmao

    • @LISA.WANG.
      @LISA.WANG. Před 3 lety +57

      Hahaha 😆

    • @rizu4044
      @rizu4044 Před 3 lety +636

      Close, but what he'll really do is provide a 45 minute explanation for why you ought to clean it your damn self!

    • @memedumpster3684
      @memedumpster3684 Před 3 lety +205

      @@rizu4044 roughly speaking

    • @ZTRCTGuy
      @ZTRCTGuy Před 3 lety +102

      Na, he will probably tell *me* sternly to clean my room through the mirror.

  • @NASkeywest
    @NASkeywest Před 6 lety +9547

    *When you show up to a first date with vampire fangs and an eyepatch on.*

    • @puppyaids6937
      @puppyaids6937 Před 5 lety +96

      The eyepatch thing is ok, cause you can pretend that you are an actual pirate. But the vampire fang thing is not cool, cause everybody knows vampires don't really exist.

    • @joshuhigashikata9201
      @joshuhigashikata9201 Před 4 lety +435

      @@puppyaids6937 or do they

    • @Themoralofthestory.
      @Themoralofthestory. Před 3 lety +34

      Should be a fun halloween costume

    • @gloopgloopglorp
      @gloopgloopglorp Před 3 lety +222

      @@puppyaids6937 that's just what the vampires want you to think...

    • @hawtsauce2471
      @hawtsauce2471 Před 3 lety +73

      @@joshuhigashikata9201vsauce music plays

  • @thedarkevillord1412
    @thedarkevillord1412 Před 8 měsíci +164

    As a lady, for me, its not the being dominated or taming a beast thing...its the world. The adventures, the magic, the danger a world like theirs can give. Normal life is dull for most people. Being in a world with Pirates, vampires, or werewolves is exciting and different. Same thing with elves...not traditionally masculine, beasts to be tamed, or dominating. Lots of ladies just loving the difference of a fantasy world and having a man to be with within that world. You remove the special worlds these men come from or the secret worlds they exist in within our own and you get what? Greg the vampire that works in accounting and only feeds on the weekends...not a lot of ladies, if any, will thirst over that. Even the fantasy of being with a billionaire is fueled by what money like that can open up for you. The fashion, travel, status. Its erotic escapism. We just go from daydreaming about prince charming to something with a bit more edge and sexiness as we get older.

    • @ThaFuzzwood
      @ThaFuzzwood Před 7 měsíci +1

      So women want to live in childlike fantasies and cannot handle the realism actual men give them.

    • @rousinrabble
      @rousinrabble Před 7 měsíci +4

      Being in that world is also filled with drama and b.s. no thanks.

    • @GoodHappyChile
      @GoodHappyChile Před 7 měsíci +12

      Here, here. At last, someone who gets it. It's about the fantasy world these fantasy creatures live in that draws fantasy fiction fans. I've read many of these stories and I can tell you I can't remember one erotic scene, but I remember the world and story the book was actually about. The thing I remember about these imaginary men in these fantasy stories is, they tend to be arseholes and no sane woman would want one in their life in reality.
      If someone offered for me to spice up my life, was to go running barefoot through hell itself to save said arsehole I'd say "Sorry I'm, washing my hair tonight."🤣
      I think Jordan is looking way too much into this. A lot of men are intimidated by romance fantasy fiction...the funny thing is 99% of the authors are women, which female readers are enjoying.🤣

    • @jonneha7
      @jonneha7 Před 7 měsíci +2

      THIS. this it it.

    • @DarkKnight-em7ue
      @DarkKnight-em7ue Před 7 měsíci

      Wait, that's a p*rn?

  • @McKenzieIdeality
    @McKenzieIdeality Před 9 měsíci +80

    As a woman, its definitely true that many women are drawn to the idea of taming monsters. Masculinity at its most extreme is pretty monsterous. Women are drawn to that as it is through nature but we also need to make sure the monster is redeemable to some extent for our own safety, comfort, and fulfillment. Also a monster that is tame only with us is the highest level of protection we could have. It also helps us feel special. Its layered. Basically be a beast but with self control and show your softest sides only to her to trigger her nurture programming and also stroke her vanity...and bam she is hooked for life. 😂 unless you found a really crazy one.

    • @ThaFuzzwood
      @ThaFuzzwood Před 7 měsíci

      I wonder if this is why equestrians like to have a big well-hung stallion between their legs.

  • @imenehariri2139
    @imenehariri2139 Před 3 lety +3968

    Telling someone who's blushing that they're blushing does nothing but make them blush harder

    • @sorrowdusk5068
      @sorrowdusk5068 Před 3 lety +149

      that's half the fun lol also love the channel name!

    • @freezysyahz
      @freezysyahz Před 3 lety +14

      @@sorrowdusk5068 Yours is pretty awesome too

    • @sorrowdusk5068
      @sorrowdusk5068 Před 3 lety +10

      @@freezysyahz thx, I made it for an oc, it's super cringe but now it's just stuck with all my internet stuff, names cool, the reason is just embarrassing.

    • @liri8243
      @liri8243 Před 2 lety +22

      Just one word WATTPAD

    • @fabulousslob3748
      @fabulousslob3748 Před 2 lety +13

      He knows.

  • @littlelagoons
    @littlelagoons Před 2 lety +1938

    We're always told that women want a man they can fix or tame, I'm not sure that's really the draw. The draw is finding a man who has the capacity to be aggressive and dangerous enough so that you know they can protect you and your family, while also knowing they love and admire you enough to never use those powers directly on you.

    • @heyhey439
      @heyhey439 Před 2 lety +129

      Bam. You got it right. But when you're searching for porn, the story has to be a bit more concise lol

    • @HerculesBallsInc
      @HerculesBallsInc Před rokem +80

      Lol. You just described 'taming'. Dangerous, but directed according to your desires.

    • @bleahhhhh
      @bleahhhhh Před rokem +57

      Exactly! What do you mean women wanna tame and fix problems? like i dont want a hobo w drug issues, wtf?

    • @jemperdiller
      @jemperdiller Před rokem

      No. They want animals. They are turned on by animals copulating. There are tens of millions single mothers, they only want an untamed brute, not husband. They want to breed, not to have family. Stop glorifying those animals.

    • @normaforsyth7950
      @normaforsyth7950 Před rokem +36

      True. But that's the lie. If a person is capable of harming one person, they are capable of hurting you in that same way too. And they more than likely, eventually, will bc the newness will end at some point.

  • @whitleypedia
    @whitleypedia Před 2 lety +11

    "There's no fun in taming someone who's already tame ... plus when chaos manifests itself, what makes you think someone tame is going to be good for anything."

  • @TheLoverOfYourMother1
    @TheLoverOfYourMother1 Před 2 lety +77

    My girl definitely "tamed" me, I was going nowhere good in life. Constantly fighting, drugs, alcohol and involvement in crime. She saw the little good that was in me and taught me how to make that who I was, taught me to to be a better person and I am grateful for everything she did for me. I still have my vices but she without a doubt saved me from becoming the worst version of myself

    • @annrosentia
      @annrosentia Před rokem +15

      Most people take it as an insult to be "tamed" because it proves that something is wrong with them, nobody wants to admit thier flaws.
      I think it's a little egoistic to want to tame someone but it's also kind of beautiful, seeing something good in something "bad".

    • @Alaskanman
      @Alaskanman Před 10 měsíci +9

      ​@@annrosentiaCause tame has an almost negative connotation to it. People tend to look at it as emasculating or submission

    • @missrebel634
      @missrebel634 Před 9 měsíci

      New fanfic idea

    • @queenkoi
      @queenkoi Před 9 měsíci +7

      That's a very rare situation, but I'm glad in your case the outcome was a good one.

    • @godandsarah1306
      @godandsarah1306 Před 7 měsíci

      Lord love you and bless you lad. That's tough

  • @emmelinaa
    @emmelinaa Před 3 lety +4407

    One of the terrible side effects of blushing is someone telling you... you're blushing. Oh god.

    • @asaul6718
      @asaul6718 Před 3 lety +184

      But it's soooo cute, for men and women alike

    • @simon6495
      @simon6495 Před 3 lety +225

      A Saul I don’t know, some people only get red cheeks but when you become a big sweaty tomatoe head I don’t think it’s cute anymore lol

    • @9Calavera6
      @9Calavera6 Před 3 lety +155

      @@simon6495 i can get so red that people actually think they need to help me when im just shy and blushing. Thats the worst shit ever i rather get made fun off in the moment than having multiple people being scared for my health 💀

    • @bjornbackman
      @bjornbackman Před 3 lety +22

      Yeah I'm surprised he didn't know that. Or worse, did, yet still put her on the spot

    • @ambersummer2685
      @ambersummer2685 Před 3 lety +55

      Lucky for me my skin is dark enough to hide most of it.😅😂

  • @aniellabandril7900
    @aniellabandril7900 Před 3 lety +2741

    I’m surprised mafia king isn’t one of them

  • @lazygam3r183
    @lazygam3r183 Před 2 lety +197

    I think the whole concept of women wanting to "tame" a man is actually about their egos. Women sleep with players because they want the ego boost of making him settle down and stop sleeping with other women. If a woman can get a hot man who can sleep with anyone he wants to choose only her then that implies that she is better than everyone else. It's all about validation

    • @inspiringer6418
      @inspiringer6418 Před 2 lety +37

      "Want you to make me feel like I'm the only girl in the world" - Rihanna

    • @oneperson5760
      @oneperson5760 Před 2 lety +36

      Not ALL about validation, though that may be part of it. There are serious consequences to a mate sleeping around with other partners. He could bring home diseases to you and the children, he could spend the family's money that is needed for food/housing/medicine wooing someone else, and he could cause a divorce or child support payment to come out of his take home pay. All these are very real threats to a mom who is depending on a partner to help her raise the kids.

    • @purrfection2208
      @purrfection2208 Před 2 lety +12

      Both want dominance.

    • @lazygam3r183
      @lazygam3r183 Před 2 lety +3

      @@purrfection2208 I dont understand what you mean

    • @purrfection2208
      @purrfection2208 Před 2 lety +15

      @@lazygam3r183 if you wish to change someone then you are trying to establish dominance over them. "I tamed the beast".

  • @TheDrownGod1213
    @TheDrownGod1213 Před 2 lety +63

    I just sent this to my girlfriend because it's so spot on. She casually jokes about marrying for money first and love second, she was crying while watching Grey anatomy last night, and we've seen all the twilight movies together. I always talk to her about JP and now she's finally going to witness his brilliance lol

    • @huracan200173
      @huracan200173 Před 9 měsíci +8

      Dude, run away from there. No one "casually jokes" about marrying for money...

    • @aenlainaknoa
      @aenlainaknoa Před 9 měsíci +2

      ​@@huracan200173Of course you can joke about smt you don't think is good or bad.For example I don't want to have a relationship before I have my own money and financial independence but I joke every time about this topic

    • @pussydestroyer69285
      @pussydestroyer69285 Před 9 měsíci

      ​@@huracan200173people joke like that all the time. I don't know why it's such a horrible joke. Men have literally joked about way worse. Also why do so many guys hate that women consider money when dating...money is a huge part of dating and marriage? So ofc a woman wants a man who is financially stable. The same way a man wants a woman who is attractive. Like this is just biology

    • @huracan200173
      @huracan200173 Před 9 měsíci +1

      @@aenlainaknoa you know why we use humor in life? We use to tell uncomfortable truths. There's always some true in what the humorist says, and that's in part why we find it funny. Don't say you weren't warned afterwards...

    • @harkonnen3672
      @harkonnen3672 Před 7 měsíci +4

      Don't listen to the girls in the comments. If your girl comfortably jokes about marrying for money and stuff, your life will be miserable in the future. Every ounce of your energy will be spent on making sure that her demands are met. That's not a good thing. Leave her and find a better class of women.

  • @hilarywyllie2983
    @hilarywyllie2983 Před 3 lety +7765

    I love how Peterson has no problems laughing at people, but its never truly mean spirited

    • @aprilyani7393
      @aprilyani7393 Před 3 lety +311

      I sense some kind of guilt in his laugh, almost like he worried that the girl will be ashamed..

    • @PrimoPete
      @PrimoPete Před 3 lety +216

      That's coz he's approaching the concept with the aim to finding the truth out and not because it could make people offended.
      Being offended at a factual statement is just stupid.

    • @lastigesoma6126
      @lastigesoma6126 Před 3 lety +22

      Primordial Pete so when someone calls you ugly you aren't offended?

    • @PrimoPete
      @PrimoPete Před 3 lety +76

      @@lastigesoma6126 Not if it is the truth and they have a proper empirical reason to call me so.

    • @RatchetandSly
      @RatchetandSly Před 3 lety +29

      @@PrimoPete I don't know. "Stupid" implies some kind of culpability. You can choose how you respond to something, but emotions, generally, are natural. So, for example, you cannot help if someone makes you mad, but you can choose how to respond. Calling someone 'stupid' for being offended seems stupid in itself. No offense.

  • @ishtarmari5160
    @ishtarmari5160 Před 3 lety +2718

    "Of course females are more complicated and thats no wonder because their lives are more complicated". Really intruguing statement, I wish he said more on that.

    • @AlyssMa7rin
      @AlyssMa7rin Před 3 lety +358

      Periods, Pregnancy, Menopause, Cramps... Back pain... Periods...

    • @ishtarmari5160
      @ishtarmari5160 Před 3 lety +79

      @@AlyssMa7rin i think curiosity of female condition is obvious female advantage and disadvantage compared to males, which makes men wanting to use them and control them at worst, and females to manipulate them.

    • @debd7631
      @debd7631 Před 3 lety +444

      Women have to get their lives together sooner on order to create the life that they want. Especially if they have the desire to have a family...we have a time limit that men dont have. Therefore, we have to be educated, find a decent job, find a decent man that we would be willing to have children with, and be financially stable enogh....all before the age if 35.

    • @Ki11P0P1
      @Ki11P0P1 Před 3 lety +335

      Deb D not to mention we have to worry about not being kidnapped, raped or killed just for being a woman.

    • @debd7631
      @debd7631 Před 3 lety +55

      @@Ki11P0P1 yes....everyone has worries about their safety. .the world is most certainly not a safe place. We are our only defense against predator s in the world.

  • @missguttz
    @missguttz Před 9 měsíci +20

    I have always been a fan of a good werewolf or vampire romance and I definitely still get drawn in by the level of masculinity they bring. But honestly has I have gotten older, and I am only early 20s mind you, I have realized how much I personally don't want that sort of relationship. I married a man who did not fit into the "needs to be tamed" category because I discovered I wanted to be with someone who wouldn't induce a heart attack by acting out rashly out of protectiveness or just sheer passion. I married a guy who would act but with more thought to his actions and how they could impact our life together. What I am saying is no matter how attractive men that take care of the problem, or get aggressive can be, I myself am way too independent and practical minded of a female to want that outside of a book lol. My man doesn't need to change for me, we will both adapt as necessary.

    • @moodsofkiwi9285
      @moodsofkiwi9285 Před 7 měsíci

      Did you like twilight? I found that insufferable!

  • @munku121
    @munku121 Před 2 lety +25

    "Hello. My name is Aleister. Originally, I was a man. A man who helped to deliver children into this world. But, one fateful night, in a war ravaged land, my life and existence changed drastically. I was called upon to deliver the child of a soldier who was called to battle. His wife, a young woman of no more than twenty-five, was in labor when I arrived in their small cottage. I tried my best, as any man of medicine would. However, even though the woman survived, as well as the newborn girl, the hemorrhaging had an unforeseen effect. Little did I know, this woman was secretly in love with another being. A being of darkness. One who had set the transformation in motion before the labor began. The vampirism was in her blood. And, by contact with it, I myself became a creature of night. This is my tale.".

  • @dpajc056
    @dpajc056 Před 3 lety +4682

    I love it when he said “Social scientists would never do that but engineers have no issue with it” 😂

    • @0000song0000
      @0000song0000 Před 3 lety +153

      1:58 i didn't catch the comicallity of it until you pointed it out.
      but i am a female engineer 😁
      that's totally the kind of data analysis dissertation a guy would do though. 😂

    • @mickolesmana5899
      @mickolesmana5899 Před 2 lety +467

      Sociologist : NO YOU CAN'T JUST DO THAT IT IS UNETHICAL
      Engineer: I Forgot the part where it is my problem

    • @slippihead3810
      @slippihead3810 Před 2 lety +25

      @@mickolesmana5899 underrated!

    • @amjanwaters6142
      @amjanwaters6142 Před 2 lety +9

      Why?? I'm interested tho' not an engineer.
      Wish I had that algorithm accesss

    • @september1683
      @september1683 Před 2 lety +110

      This is probably the cause, why engineers (and natural-scientists) play a much greater role in the further development of mankind than social scientists. In a world with only social-scientists we would still worship the moon and argue about how many genders there are and which pronouns we have to address them with.

  • @winnietheblair9797
    @winnietheblair9797 Před 2 lety +5284

    As a wattpad veteran, I can confirm.

    • @ssm5708
      @ssm5708 Před 2 lety +292

      Veteran💀

    • @ruum7948
      @ruum7948 Před 2 lety +29

      😂😂

    • @anjuarya7711
      @anjuarya7711 Před 2 lety +88

      You know if I haven't gotten edicted to wattpad stories by myself, I wouldn't have believed it, you know 😏

    • @venuscastrovia5024
      @venuscastrovia5024 Před 2 lety +14

      Yeah for sure 😌

    • @apetit8687
      @apetit8687 Před 2 lety +17

      LOL SAME. Although I'd say tastes have changed!

  • @johndougherty8720
    @johndougherty8720 Před 2 lety +30

    I could listen to this man give lectures for hours and hours.

  • @sanfo2003
    @sanfo2003 Před 2 lety +83

    As a male my fantasy is a government that would just leave me alone with my liberty.

  • @slimmykimmy7774
    @slimmykimmy7774 Před 3 lety +1110

    Leave it to engineers to figure this out. "It's for science I swear"

    • @godshardtruth7488
      @godshardtruth7488 Před 3 lety +12

      We are still all connected!!! In Jesus Christ name!!! AMEN!!!

    • @darkdawnbringer
      @darkdawnbringer Před 3 lety +19

      @@godshardtruth7488 Uh.... what...?
      Also WHAT!!?

    • @simokh6626
      @simokh6626 Před 3 lety +4

      It’s all in the name of science I tell ya!! XDDD

    • @aiyanaela6480
      @aiyanaela6480 Před 3 lety +2

      Madonna is all 5 monsters rolled into 1!

    • @hiro6406
      @hiro6406 Před 3 lety +3

      Im not taking notes i swear

  • @bradforddean1
    @bradforddean1 Před 6 lety +2376

    "there's nothing more sexy than a werewolf, apparently"

    • @stumbling
      @stumbling Před 6 lety +80

      Bradford Dean "roughly speaking", oh god now I'm thinking of erotica written in the style of Petersonisms!

    • @VCYT
      @VCYT Před 6 lety +56

      .....in a dog-eat-dog world.

    • @kippt7931
      @kippt7931 Před 6 lety +26

      Bradford Dean a blood thirsty vampire, who only craves your blood, apparently

    • @damon22441
      @damon22441 Před 6 lety +46

      It's true. A Werewolf Gangbang is the most erotic situation you can be in.

    • @ReasonAboveEverything
      @ReasonAboveEverything Před 6 lety +6

      Vladimir Tepes you are trolling wrong people

  • @prakhar5331
    @prakhar5331 Před 2 lety +19

    Imagine being in one such classroom with him teaching you in this way, i would surely top the class, no wonder why psychologist and neurologists are so well read and different from other people

  • @madisuzymadi
    @madisuzymadi Před 2 lety +4

    I don't think it's about aggression at all, rather it's about power. You get someone powerful on your side, they will protect you and ensure your comfort. All mentioned are just different types of power.

  • @Samdeman90
    @Samdeman90 Před 6 lety +3743

    LOL he called that girl out

  • @hih2430
    @hih2430 Před 3 lety +3318

    it’s a fantasy no one wants in real life but it’s fun to experience it in fiction without being harmed

    • @cookiediangelo8511
      @cookiediangelo8511 Před 3 lety +369

      Yeah. Like getting stabbed in the gut with a sword. Awesome on paper! not so awesome IRL...

    • @hih2430
      @hih2430 Před 3 lety +42

      Cookie Di Angelo my stomach hurts now :(

    • @richardides2035
      @richardides2035 Před 3 lety +121

      yep... no one wants in real life surgeon or bilionar ! xDD

    • @juliana3943
      @juliana3943 Před 3 lety +111

      I definitely do want a vampire bf though

    • @Ghostkar
      @Ghostkar Před 3 lety +13

      real talk.

  • @n.w.414
    @n.w.414 Před 2 lety +14

    I like his last statement: "females are more complicated, and it's no wonder, their lives are more complicated" -- amen!

    • @WeebsArePathetic
      @WeebsArePathetic Před 2 lety +2

      Only because women complicate everything so ofc your life will be more complicated.
      I’m only partially being sarcastic.

  • @ChristGodinyouItrust
    @ChristGodinyouItrust Před 2 lety +23

    It’s cool that he doesn’t just educate but takes time to learn and more over finds instrumental lessons like Google searches (meaning he is curious about the right kinda things in my Opinion:)

  • @jessicabrugmann3591
    @jessicabrugmann3591 Před 2 lety +1676

    I generally think that woman just want to feel special to insure that their partner will stay with them .And if you are the "only person" that can "tame a beast" that makes you feel special.

    • @AishiCheemo
      @AishiCheemo Před 2 lety +30

      Yeah.

    • @burnedpizzacrust1199
      @burnedpizzacrust1199 Před 2 lety +113

      Everyone wants to feel special.

    • @FirstNameLastName-wt5to
      @FirstNameLastName-wt5to Před 2 lety +120

      @َ َ It is. Biologically speaking a woman is programmed to desire protection and stability as its most beneficial to ensuring her DNA successfully continues.

    • @Terron-de-pimienta
      @Terron-de-pimienta Před 2 lety +12

      Who wants to tame a beast, when you can be the beast?

    • @Terron-de-pimienta
      @Terron-de-pimienta Před 2 lety +10

      @@FirstNameLastName-wt5to My DNA says that I search for a sweet soft girl or boy to protect, love and play with, because I'm an alpha tomboy 🐺
      Very sorry, but your "scientific" sources are wrong, Nature spoke aloud when she made me.

  • @amberstark8469
    @amberstark8469 Před 3 lety +839

    When he said, “you’re actually blushing.” I was like... How can he see my face??!!!

    • @jonnejenjonne2894
      @jonnejenjonne2894 Před 3 lety +20

      It was you??

    • @amberstark8469
      @amberstark8469 Před 3 lety +53

      Jonnejen jonne no I was just blushing at the same part that the girl was blushing when he called her out.

    • @SkiSavesLives
      @SkiSavesLives Před 3 lety +21

      May i ask: As a women, what do you think about this video? Do you agree?

    • @amberstark8469
      @amberstark8469 Před 3 lety +37

      Myst Platinum Personally, yes.

    • @berserker1002
      @berserker1002 Před 3 lety +10

      I'm curious on which personality made you blush, I'm guessing it was the vampire or the pirate

  • @briannesinclair8002
    @briannesinclair8002 Před 7 měsíci +5

    I'm 32 and Australian.... I still have some of these explicit romance novels I found as a teenager 😅 thank you for the insight

  • @KylieMalchusArt
    @KylieMalchusArt Před rokem +20

    No one asked, but I'm here to explain the vampire one in more detail. I don't think it's as weird or shallow as it seems on the surface 😅
    It's important to note that women don't typically like *evil* vampires who are actively killing people. Women like *good* vampires. Whether we're talking about Twilight, Buffy, or any of the thousands of other vampire stories out there, women like noble vampires who willingly choose to abstain from human blood.
    I think this is because the bloodlust vampires feel is a thinly veiled metaphor for sexual lust (or possibly any addictive sin). In other words, a vampire who can control his desire to drink blood is a man who can control his sexual desire. A good vampire represents a man who is strong enough to resist temptation and rise above his nature in an effort to protect others.
    In my opinion, this is the primary reason the idea of vampires appeals to women (especially the more traditionally-minded variety). Good vampires are men with morals and values. They have the power to hurt others but they choose against it. They don't give into selfish, carnal pleasures at the expense of others, no matter how powerful the temptation may be.
    Bonus: vampires usually live a long time (because they're immortal), so over the years, they've acquired wisdom, intelligence, and life experience. They're old souls. They're emotionally mature. They're civilized and refined. They typically come from an earlier time when chivalry was the norm. That gentlemanly nature seems to linger within them.
    The bottom line: vampires represent the female desire for men who can control their actions even in the face of strong temptation, have life experience and maturity, and behave like gentlemen. The interesting thing is that these are completely attainable goals for any regular guy (or girl--I'm trying to work on some of these things myself), and I'm thankful to know many real men who exemplify these qualities beautifully.
    In fact, I'm blessed to be dating my very own "noble vampire." 😉

    • @monkeymanwasd1239
      @monkeymanwasd1239 Před rokem

      The abstain from blood bit isnt really right as abstaining kills them often women are ok with becoming vampires in those stories. For example I just checked the girl from twilight became a vampire I don't think I got past the 2nd movie or even the 1st. Many vampires also have castles Can Grant immortality to their partner and are hunted by vampire hunters. With a vampire it's considered good enough if they don't kill those they suck blood from

    • @KylieMalchusArt
      @KylieMalchusArt Před rokem

      @@monkeymanwasd1239 Abstaining from blood doesn't kill them in any of the vampire stories I've heard of. Not in Twilight, Buffy, etc. They live forever regardless of whether they drink blood or not. And yes, in Twilight, Bella becomes a vampire but she never once tastes human blood. She chooses to become a good vampire just like the one she fell in love with. So yes, it still applies.

    • @monkeymanwasd1239
      @monkeymanwasd1239 Před rokem

      @@KylieMalchusArt The vampires I know can survive months or years without drinking blood but that's usually when they're in a coffin dried up into husks before they go off to murder several towns of people

    • @arielquelme
      @arielquelme Před 10 měsíci

      What if i bite ur neck?

    • @Manas-co8wl
      @Manas-co8wl Před 7 měsíci +1

      This is probably one of two or three comments best answers this question. This and the "we just love fantasy, think of elves" rebuttal.
      ... I don't know guys, you can listen to Jordan all you want, but I just don't get why you wouldn't ask women themselves directly if you really wanted to know why.

  • @PinkShoesAreSnazzy
    @PinkShoesAreSnazzy Před 6 lety +2182

    Like watching these videos but would hate to be in that classroom when he's staring into your soul for 20 seconds while talking about sex.

  • @purplepoet6147
    @purplepoet6147 Před 3 lety +683

    For a second I misread the title as "Why Jordan Peterson falls for pirates and vampires" and it intrigued me enough to watch thr video lmao

  • @stevecox7075
    @stevecox7075 Před rokem +16

    Such a brilliant teacher!

  • @dapperdeern1311
    @dapperdeern1311 Před 7 měsíci +3

    When I was like 20~ I loved reading books and I also favoured the 'bad guys', vampires and werewolves. I also questioned why I felt drawn to them and why alot of other women do too. And I think I found an answer that sounds plausible and right to me.
    I think those bad guys represent things that a lot of women dont have. They represent what some women long for, what might bring balance.
    Since young age, I and a lot other girls are taught to behave, be calm, show good manners, be empathetic, be good at school, do this, do that, in fact: be a good girl and you'll get praised. I know so many that grow up this way into adulthood. And if you happen to also be a shy girl, books can be an escape from this situation, this world, in which you feel like everything you are and will be is decided by someone else.
    And then you meet those characters, the bad guys, the vampires, the werewolves. They represent all that: Independence, power, being unapologetic, free, wild, adventurous, special, being egoistical. Thats what (I think) a lot desire about those men. They want what they dont have .

  • @KidMillions
    @KidMillions Před 6 lety +4567

    This must be why girls like horses. A wild beast she can tame and ride around on.

    • @realmichaud
      @realmichaud Před 6 lety +532

      great observation

    • @maxmustermann76
      @maxmustermann76 Před 6 lety +277

      This really makes sense . Thank you for this comment

    • @55mmartin
      @55mmartin Před 6 lety +327

      That may be part of it, but there is also the power issue. Being able to control a horse gives the woman a feeling of power and control, nothing wrong with that. We all want to feel powerful and in control of our lives.

    • @decespugliatorenucleare3780
      @decespugliatorenucleare3780 Před 6 lety +52

      You're enjoingly disturbed

    • @MatthewTraceur
      @MatthewTraceur Před 6 lety +5

      You mean Hoof

  • @TheSteveTheDragon
    @TheSteveTheDragon Před 3 lety +1086

    I'm gonna write a romance between an innocent sweet debutant and a vampire werewolf billionare pirate surgeon. It's gonna make billions!

    • @regularity2556
      @regularity2556 Před 3 lety +57

      You could make him travel through time and be the different forms, but be the same person at heart. Would be an interesting read.

    • @grumpycat6429
      @grumpycat6429 Před 3 lety +15

      @@regularity2556 Gonna be complicated. We all know there’s gotta be at least 12 main characters. Like she’s gonna stick with him when there’s so many other options out there? Pfft now that’s a fantasy.

    • @Christopher._M
      @Christopher._M Před 3 lety +1

      Hahaha smart

    • @okbasto9541
      @okbasto9541 Před 3 lety +1

      Lmao

    • @kikithepupper6774
      @kikithepupper6774 Před 3 lety +10

      its been 6 months. Where is the novel

  • @pacarter7169
    @pacarter7169 Před 7 měsíci +3

    One of the things I have learned of what separates men and women, is the emotional response level:
    Women are far more emotional than men, but the sexual response in aggressive women also becomes more intense…
    Men are more “visual” when it comes to sex… where as women need a man that can communicate with her emotions… then her sensual side, her “dark” side comes out.
    Secretly she wants a man to dominate her… but the man must learn this without her telling him what she wants… nor forcing his way into a physically demanding relation.
    She wants a masculine man that is obedient to her desires.

  • @yatika3081
    @yatika3081 Před 9 měsíci +2

    Me who falls asleep during my lecture watching this like 🙂

  • @daphne-bai
    @daphne-bai Před 2 lety +723

    I love how he pronounces “werewolf” like it’s the past tense of “arewolf”

    • @bjjkickboxing7876
      @bjjkickboxing7876 Před 2 lety +29

      Canadian accent

    • @sakura5sango6
      @sakura5sango6 Před 2 lety +8

      How is it pronounced then?
      I'm Spanish and I think I also pronounce it like that :0

    • @daphne-bai
      @daphne-bai Před 2 lety +9

      @@sakura5sango6 usually you'll hear people pronounce it like "where-wolf"! Interesting, I never thought people would have different regional pronunciations for the word "werewolf"

    • @bjjkickboxing7876
      @bjjkickboxing7876 Před 2 lety

      @@daphne-bai some people dont pronounce the R other dont pronounce the F. Depends on your accent.

    • @sakura5sango6
      @sakura5sango6 Před 2 lety

      @@daphne-bai Me neither, to be honest.
      Though, as I said, it's not like noticed it haha ^^
      Thanks for the info

  • @pengy44
    @pengy44 Před 2 lety +183

    Dont necessarily have to be one of those. Just have the traits displayed by them:
    Surgeon: Caring, compassion
    Vampire: Mysterious, lonesome
    Pirates: adventurous, do whatever they want
    Werewolf: big, hairy, primal
    Billionare: rich, stability

    • @shroomer8294
      @shroomer8294 Před 2 lety +7

      I think for the vampire one it could also be about power, depending on the type of vampire of course. Like if vampires were real and they are basically human+ except they can’t touch daylight, if we had the choice we would rather be the hunter in that scenario than the prey.

    • @user-ft7tc8fy2x
      @user-ft7tc8fy2x Před 9 měsíci

      All of the above: assholes

    • @OneWhoDreamsAwake
      @OneWhoDreamsAwake Před 8 měsíci +4

      I think also…
      surgeon: the best at what he does, highly intelligent, and driven.
      Vampire: powerful, holder of knowledge, able to grant the fantasy of “together forever”
      Werewolf: virility, caring - but in a masculine “I’ll take care of you” way, family-oriented
      And honestly, all of them are meant to be quite intense.

    • @anwylhsm954
      @anwylhsm954 Před 7 měsíci

      How many surgeons have you known?
      A doctor can be caring and compassionate....
      Surgeons are very often ego driven narcissists. Which my dad once said he actually prefers in a surgeon.
      Also, to be able to do what they do they have to be able to separate themselves from their empathy and humanity or they'd break. There's an inherent danger in doing that. Surgeons and first responders and people with those kinds of jobs that are traumatizing are a special breed.

  • @owenhunt
    @owenhunt Před 2 lety +5

    My favourite 5 minutes of stand up anywhere! The Marge Simpson gargle of his voice only adds to the titillation. Then he finally says, "Surgeons, werewolves and vampires", and the punchline connects.
    Guffaw.

  • @timotiusanrez9492
    @timotiusanrez9492 Před 2 lety +12

    My main takeway from his lecture:
    Men of culture bring the advancement of search engine, SEO techniques, and web development.
    🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @ismailhaniya4520
      @ismailhaniya4520 Před rokem

      This made my day buddy 😂 . They bring much more to the civilization

  • @PhantomSavage
    @PhantomSavage Před 3 lety +4583

    Interesting that it includes "surgeon" as one of the 5, but if you think about it, it really makes sense. In order to compete in the medical field at such a high level, and to continue doing so, requires an exemplary degree of effort and complex action, which is an abstract of aggression. But where's the danger? What makes a surgeon as deadly as a vampire or pirate? Well, ultimately... perhaps more so than even a pirate, a surgeon literally has the power of life and death every single day... with one cut, they can save a person's life, or they can end it.

    • @adamnesico
      @adamnesico Před 3 lety +199

      Too psycholgysts says many suegeons hace psychpath tendencies, manty are persons who like to rip people, and chose to earn $ through it.

    • @Shazzyshell
      @Shazzyshell Před 3 lety +52

      I think they just thought than a lady writting "hot surgeon" was looking for her fantasy and not for the actor in a tv series

    • @ogunsoladare2613
      @ogunsoladare2613 Před 3 lety +11

      That is interesting

    • @mehello4913
      @mehello4913 Před 2 lety +14

      How does the billionaire fit in?

    • @lecoureurdesbois86
      @lecoureurdesbois86 Před 2 lety +80

      @@adamnesico Kinda makes sense. Let's face it, it's not really "normal" to go playing in someone's body, we do it for good, obviously, but it's not something everyone could do

  • @boscoblack
    @boscoblack Před 3 lety +609

    That triangle he makes with his hands is perfect. That’s what I took out of this video

  • @ruslpit2615
    @ruslpit2615 Před rokem

    Good content. Always happy with your work

  • @aksharshah8358
    @aksharshah8358 Před 2 lety +30

    Dr. Peterson is the father a lot of us wish we had.

  • @cecilianoda8510
    @cecilianoda8510 Před 2 lety +4698

    "There's nothing sexier than a werewolf... ApPArEntLY"
    it's ok, professor, it's ok.

    • @_reutlinger
      @_reutlinger Před 2 lety +467

      He's just sad that list doesn't have a professor in it lmao jk

    • @cecilianoda8510
      @cecilianoda8510 Před 2 lety +351

      @@_reutlinger Remus Lupin be walking on both sides

    • @_reutlinger
      @_reutlinger Před 2 lety +15

      @@cecilianoda8510 haha yeah

    • @p.s.csdeaky8530
      @p.s.csdeaky8530 Před 2 lety +159

      @@_reutlinger He actually missed that, there's a lot of of Professor and student prohibited romanticism.

    • @_reutlinger
      @_reutlinger Před 2 lety +51

      @@yourmum69_420 werewolves kink are like half furries

  • @laurabliek2474
    @laurabliek2474 Před 2 lety +557

    I think it's more a 'only soft for her' kind of thing. Throughout history, females have not been very dominant, so having power over someone who has a lot of power is kind of, well, empowering. Knowing that you can influence someone to that level, where he didn't listen to anyone before you came along, it makes you feel special.
    Even I consider the idea romantic, even thought I know, rationally speaking, that someone who is only nice to someone just because he's in love with her, is a bad partner to have.

    • @jvjoon4333
      @jvjoon4333 Před 2 lety +3

      Well what makes u think that a powerless being can control a powerful being with lust?? Powerful men know this fact very well and thats what makes them uncontrolable

    • @laurabliek2474
      @laurabliek2474 Před 2 lety +41

      @@jvjoon4333 I don't think that, exactly. But story wise, it makes kind of sense, doesn’t it? It's not about reality here, it's about novels and tropes and the psychological thought behind those tropes. It's where the whole Female Fatale thing partly stems from. Woman do not have power, but they are pretty. Men are strong, but everyone knows they are weak to a pretty face.
      Besides that, isn't the whole idea of love- or at least, the most mainstream love- the idea of doing whatever you can for your partner, lust and seduction put aside?

    • @laurabliek2474
      @laurabliek2474 Před rokem +10

      @MimiBabe Right! Fiction is fiction for a reason. In reality, this is an immense red flag. Not only is your safety and wellbeing directly related to how much they like you- which means he decides enough is enough when you're living togheter or married, you're trapped, cruel people seldom or never see themselves as cruel. They see themselves as right. Which means they can still be in love with you and, in the moment you don't show your boundaries clearly enough, run over them like a freight train.

    • @tkraid2575
      @tkraid2575 Před rokem +11

      This trope of "he's only nice to her but awful to everyone else" is pretty egotistical in itself since it involves the feeling of being "special". It's never genuine love. Moreover real-life relationship dynamics like this always end up in some screwed up situation of a guy so obsessed he'd end up killing the girl because of some petty thing.

    • @flashwashington2735
      @flashwashington2735 Před rokem +2

      @@jvjoon4333 Many powerful men have fallen from grace and standing in their circle for love of a woman.

  • @derekrogers7552
    @derekrogers7552 Před 2 lety

    Although I do so appreciate your work, and value it highly. Would absolutely love to speak at length sometime. Thank you for the work that you do

  • @mhhassan23
    @mhhassan23 Před 2 lety +2

    Yup, Monkey D. Luffy stole my heart ❤️

  • @stumbling
    @stumbling Před 6 lety +1650

    "Literary vampire pirate billionaire surgeons!" - Alex Jones

    • @mandaloin
      @mandaloin Před 6 lety +124

      TURNIN THE FRIGGIN VAMPIRES GAY

    • @VCYT
      @VCYT Před 6 lety +1

      With mr. Jones being the wife-beater type.

    • @CN073
      @CN073 Před 6 lety +4

      I literally just spat out some of my meal. lmao.

    • @julianpolzin4404
      @julianpolzin4404 Před 6 lety +3

      Brilliant, thank you! :D

    • @charles3840
      @charles3840 Před 6 lety +1

      Literary Vampire/Werewolf hybrid, billionaire, pirate, surgeon. FTFY Alex.

  • @MultiPhoenix06
    @MultiPhoenix06 Před 3 lety +504

    "I was reading this book called A Billion Wicked Thots"

  • @sakshitiwari8130
    @sakshitiwari8130 Před 10 měsíci +3

    This is so true!
    Add mafia and ceo on that list as well !!😂
    Vampires, werewolfs are billionaire were all point on but I didn't understand why surgeon and pirot were on the list.. (I haven't watched or read anything related to those two so maybe that's why I couldn't relate...)

  • @spartan.falbion2761
    @spartan.falbion2761 Před 9 měsíci +1

    "Stand and deliver!"

  • @nicolemarieb.7044
    @nicolemarieb.7044 Před 3 lety +3298

    If i can explain from a female perspective, theres something attractive about a male who has the capacity to be scary, tough, sexy (with lots of female options) BUT reigns it all in for you, and chooses you. That a woman would be worth being a better person for.

    • @mikolas4eva
      @mikolas4eva Před 3 lety +535

      Unfortunately today very few women are actually worth it and if they manage to "tame you" you are now boring and they move on. As a male you must always be on edge to keep her interested which is just not worth the effort. As we can see from todays society women are way more easily influenced than men are and this smut has possibly caused irreversible damage to a generation of women.

    • @lonelydogclub
      @lonelydogclub Před 3 lety +232

      @@mikolas4eva Also, she brings nothing but red flags to the table

    • @censoringcensor8433
      @censoringcensor8433 Před 2 lety +142

      yep, some milquetoast who is born soft and stays soft cannot protect you. they can provide sure but I don't want a servant, I want a fighting partner. Like peterson says, you're virtuous when you can bite back but choose to control it; you're just fucking weak if you cannot fight back, there is no virtue in that. It's great to hear him say stuff like that, gets me back in touch with a more realistic view of life that I once had back in East Asia. Western ideas are so god damn skewed and somewhat backwards - only celebrated as forward because it is loudest and widespread just because of economic dominance and its colonial past. And right? the loudest guy isn't necessary the best. Can you imagine how much eldritch knowledge is lost just because those people were not popular enough to be listened to? Just because people were not ready to hear it?

    • @hellenmuka7207
      @hellenmuka7207 Před 2 lety +35

      @@censoringcensor8433 you had me at betacuck 😂

    • @glacialimpala
      @glacialimpala Před 2 lety +138

      It's like an attractive and kind woman that doesn't dress slutty and keeps a distance from other men when she's with you. Awesome. Self control and respect at work

  • @LynetteTheMadScientist
    @LynetteTheMadScientist Před 6 lety +1665

    Dominance and angst. That’s why monsters are sexy.
    In my experience though, “seducing and taming” isn’t so much the focus of such fiction and fanfiction. It’s more about being desired and pursued by someone more powerful (hence the dominance). And it’s about being emotionally supportive to that being (hence the angst).

    • @lilacDaisy111
      @lilacDaisy111 Před 6 lety +188

      You said it best, Lynette. Fictional alpha men who are tamed by a woman to the point of emasculation is not appealing. The point of the taming (when done well) is not just about the woman, it's about bringing happiness to the alpha. The end of Dirty Dancing, Johnny is still macho, even though Baby has tamed him. In fact, he's more emboldened by the end, standing up to the "rich and mean" employers that he grovelled to as a hot-headed Alpha.

    • @Grail_Knight
      @Grail_Knight Před 4 lety +15

      What's attractive about angst?

    • @abominableangel
      @abominableangel Před 3 lety +122

      @@Grail_Knight simple.. the drama. It makes for an interesting life; rather than boy meets girl they buy a semi detached in the countryside

    • @Grail_Knight
      @Grail_Knight Před 3 lety +96

      @@abominableangel Why is it so important to be interesting? And what's so interesting about drama anyway? To me drama is the opposite of interesting cause it's so just repetitive. Why do people make such a fuss over nothing? Do they not feel loved? What's making them so desperate for contact?

    • @Andy-yx2rw
      @Andy-yx2rw Před 3 lety +83

      @@Grail_Knight Peterson pointed that out. You want someone you can work on and someone that can work on you so you both get stronger. The point of an Relationship is to make everyone better and stronger.

  • @robertramos1297
    @robertramos1297 Před 2 lety +8

    Following this train of thought is evident for me why Mma fighters always have gorgeous wives even when their faces are already scared because of their fights

    • @joshuaprince6580
      @joshuaprince6580 Před 2 lety +2

      They got money too lmao

    • @MidnightSommer
      @MidnightSommer Před 2 lety +2

      For a lot of people looks and money just don’t do it for them. I think a lot of those that compete in combat sports have a very good looking wife because it’s something that takes extraordinary discipline and focus. Not to mention the best of the best tend to have the brain functionality/wiring that makes them that better fighter in the ring/octagon. I do competitive combat sports and only the top 1 percent have any semblance of money and most are actually much more attractive than the general public. Discipline to a craft IS absolutely sexy.
      I used to wallow in self pity because I thought I was ugly and un-wanted. When in reality I was lazy and un disciplined and a giant cry baby. For those that think that, dedicate yourself to something, anything, and things like that will find you. It’s kind of like when you lose something and stop looking for it, it tends to show up faster than if you tore your house apart searching for it. That’s just my 2 cents though.

    • @robertramos1297
      @robertramos1297 Před 2 lety

      @@MidnightSommer oss i agre with you man

  • @joannamonique707
    @joannamonique707 Před rokem +2

    Jordan did a video about this tho. Women are attracted to aggressive males because they have the ability to protect them from real danger. The problem is most dudes who are highly aggressive will be aggressive and physical with their women too. What women should be looking for is men who have a strong capacity for aggression but also know how to control it. The thing is that guy is a unicorn as much as a woman who’s self sufficient and can carry her own but can still compromise with a man. Most people fall hard to one side of the the spectrum or the other and the balance that most people desire is extremely rare in both men and women.

  • @nazarickgraveyard9546
    @nazarickgraveyard9546 Před 6 lety +1483

    I wanna marry a Billionaire Werewolf Surgeon

    • @Poetabrasileiro
      @Poetabrasileiro Před 6 lety +61

      What about a Vampire Pirate? :D

    • @somekindofdude1130
      @somekindofdude1130 Před 6 lety +60

      I want a harem of blonde nurses 😂😂😂😂

    • @ArminJohansson
      @ArminJohansson Před 6 lety +10

      That's a good goal.

    • @batman4452
      @batman4452 Před 6 lety +67

      sorry, i'm taken.

    • @bjorlam8201
      @bjorlam8201 Před 6 lety +44

      A billionaire werewolf who is a surgeon, a surgeon who operates only on billionaire werewolves or a surgeon who is a billionaire and only operates on werewolves?
      Commas nigga

  • @srpowell
    @srpowell Před 3 lety +1412

    Jordan Peterson:
    "That aggression is absolutely vital -- absolutely necessary"
    Me:
    So that's why Padmé wasn't turned off when Anakin slaughtered all the sand people

  • @LoveMuffin800
    @LoveMuffin800 Před 2 lety +5

    You can add another one to this - princes. Women love princes as well. If you look at fantasy romances for women audiences the male leads are commonly princes.
    And I can agree with what other comments have said, I like these types of characters because they make you feel special. I also get a strong sense of loyalty, like this person won't cheat on me or betray me, because I am special and they only love me. And of course, I'll only love them and be loyal too, it's like a fantasy of true love and happily ever after.

  • @greatminds1017
    @greatminds1017 Před 9 měsíci +2

    One of the few times i have seen Peterson smile. He should do that much more XD

  • @vivienmartin225
    @vivienmartin225 Před 3 lety +3764

    When will Dr. Peterson realize professor is also one of the fantasies...

    • @KaransherRandhawa
      @KaransherRandhawa Před 3 lety +267

      Hahahahahahahahahhaha

    • @donaldotrumpu2069
      @donaldotrumpu2069 Před 3 lety +34

      Is this actually true? Because i dont think so

    • @FatGouf
      @FatGouf Před 3 lety +613

      Professor, my grades are down and might not pass the course, how can I make it up to ya..*lip bite*

    • @donaldotrumpu2069
      @donaldotrumpu2069 Před 3 lety +35

      @bokudensuduharagmail i know about teachers but thats not Professor! Professor is not sexy at all, you just imagine a old man there

    • @donaldotrumpu2069
      @donaldotrumpu2069 Před 3 lety +14

      @bokudensuduharagmail well now im truly surprised damn, you know to be a real Professor you need many years, means you get pretty old and i tought its a old man fantasy rather then a Professor fantasy

  • @Drarack
    @Drarack Před 3 lety +468

    So, what he's saying is, if you wanna make a relationship seem more fulfilling to a woman, you should initially feign a bunch of character flaws that you later pretend she helped you overcome

    • @jumpinggakflash2313
      @jumpinggakflash2313 Před 2 lety +60

      This made me Lol. It’s kind of a solid plan!

    • @WhisperedShadow123
      @WhisperedShadow123 Před 2 lety +7

      Lollllllll. Too funny 😂

    • @gorgefood9867
      @gorgefood9867 Před 2 lety +99

      Then once she tames you, she'll be like "You've changed. You're not the man I fell in love with."

    • @anuraktisharma3664
      @anuraktisharma3664 Před 2 lety +56

      Spot on! I had a friend, who used to pretend to be deeply flawed in front of girls and then would slowly tell them a fake story about why he has grown so cold (could be how a girl broke his heart or how he has a distant relationship with his father, or things like that and he had to build up a hard shield around himself) but around her he felt comfortable and felt could talk about anything at all! LOL
      I can't believe it worked every time.

    • @darkrangerl
      @darkrangerl Před 2 lety +1

      @@anuraktisharma3664 omg you just discribed the relationship I have with my dad! Started out great at 11 years I stood up to him got the beating of a lifetime at 15 years I was fed and fought back 1 year later he tried making contact and ask me for a chance to meet once again. I told him if he treats and respect my mother I'll meet with you after 2 weeks later he was back to his old ways..He was'nt the best dad but that situation truely did make me financially succesfull as a business owner in life!

  • @PleaseNThankYou
    @PleaseNThankYou Před 2 lety +10

    Thank you Jordan for pointing out my weak spots for Dwarven Kings, which you mistakenly left out, Elven Kings, whom you also forgot about, pirates like Capt Jack, and vampires in the vein of Gary Oldman’s Dracula. I’m laid bare but really have no intention of taming any of them!!

    • @ozguraydn8407
      @ozguraydn8407 Před 2 lety +1

      cause you know you can't

    • @heyhey439
      @heyhey439 Před 2 lety

      @@ozguraydn8407 wym?

    • @Kat-mu8wq
      @Kat-mu8wq Před 9 měsíci +1

      To be fair, Orlando Bloom made a beautiful elf back in the day.. 😂

  • @mbanerjee5889
    @mbanerjee5889 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Makes perfect sense, literature allows your mind to control how graphic a scene is.

  • @wanfu5634
    @wanfu5634 Před 3 lety +215

    "Vampires..." Damn. "Werewolves..." Damn. "Billionaires..." Double Damn. "Pirates..." Oh sweet Jesus. "And surgeons..." I'm screwed.

    • @carmenmerrill8192
      @carmenmerrill8192 Před 3 lety +7

      LOL! GOT AS GOOD LAUGH. SOME OF THIS IS A FACT, HERES TO THE MONSTER/MANLY GENTLEMEN👍

    • @haroong.c8906
      @haroong.c8906 Před 3 lety +3

      😂😂 best comment

    • @Binichmoses2
      @Binichmoses2 Před 3 lety +4

      i was like wait. surgeons? all of this and then surgeons? im screwed!

  • @joelang6126
    @joelang6126 Před 3 lety +705

    The pirate thing is hilarious considering pirates during the golden age were scruffy, filthy, stinking, suffering from a variety of ailments with bad oral hygiene. The smell in sailing vessels of old would make you vomit, these were ships where people shat over the side. Fresh water was also a serious issue.
    Today's East African pirates aren't much better.

    • @michelebroyles6941
      @michelebroyles6941 Před 2 lety +125

      Apparently you've never read the back cover of one of those books. It's the romanticized version of a pirate. Not the real version. All those books are women's fantasies. Reality destroys them

    • @joelang6126
      @joelang6126 Před 2 lety +72

      @@michelebroyles6941 That was my point. It's all fantasy bollocks.

    • @louiss4672
      @louiss4672 Před 2 lety +6

      @@michelebroyles6941 makes your sexuality and romanticism very inauthentic.

    • @virtualmilkers1747
      @virtualmilkers1747 Před 2 lety +57

      @@louiss4672 isn't that why people call it "fantasy" though?

    • @stephanrobert5593
      @stephanrobert5593 Před 2 lety +27

      I think it's more the pirate captain with flowing feathers attached to a glorious hat that women are attracted to, and the whole assertion of dominance when he yells at the crew to man their stations etc
      That's what i think, bc no one wants a partner with rotting teeth

  • @Kuma-Naru
    @Kuma-Naru Před 4 měsíci +1

    I feel so exposed right now... I've just learned something I didn't even know I was doing or why...

  • @slpiazza
    @slpiazza Před 2 lety +1

    At the age of 15 my best friend was obsessed with Jude Devereaux romance novels. She had an entire bookshelf full of them.

  • @julialucas3738
    @julialucas3738 Před 3 lety +2788

    Women want someone strong enough to protect and provide for them but “tame” in her presence as to be caring to her and the kids. PRETTY SIMPLE
    Edit: I’m talking biologically/subconsciously. Of course we should all provide for ourselves

    • @streameant
      @streameant Před 3 lety +62

      Women should provide for themselves

    • @williamschlass4598
      @williamschlass4598 Před 3 lety +18

      @Joann Woolley its not really ignored at all

    • @Raylightsen
      @Raylightsen Před 3 lety +10

      Good try, but don't even you know what you truly want.

    • @ladyladychickchick9133
      @ladyladychickchick9133 Před 3 lety +34

      She should be looking for someone to protect her and the children for these disgusting pedophile priests.

    • @rosedawson3144
      @rosedawson3144 Před 3 lety +50

      @@streameant For millennia and in some countries to this day, men wouldn't and won't let us be completely independent from them. Much less rise as high.

  • @UnAnonKnown
    @UnAnonKnown Před 3 lety +764

    I think the archetype of a woman taming a man comes from a woman’s insecurity. Beauty doesn’t make you special - there are millions of beautiful women out there. But if you can be the one woman who tames a man - who stands by him despite all of the negative things - who makes him see the light - who makes him love you enough to be better - well THAT makes you special. That makes you indispensable to him in a way beauty and sex and even a regular relationship doesn’t. You’ll be the girl who saw the diamond in the coal, the prince in the toad, etc. and when he transforms you’ll have a man that appreciates all that you did for him when no one else would. And if you can make yourself indispensable to a man, then he will never leave you - then you’re safe and he’ll treat you well... At least, that’s what the fantasy is. Reality is often quite different.

    • @kateSullivan3927
      @kateSullivan3927 Před 3 lety +63

      It's a nice fantasy, I agree. But the irony is that an alpha male can only be temporarily "tamed" by any woman. Perhaps 5-10 years at most. If he is desired by many women he will always have options and distractions.

    • @skillo6399
      @skillo6399 Před 3 lety +49

      The fun thing is, it becomes a game between her wanting to tame the man, and the man using push-pull to always portrait the image that he might simply leave at some point. Many call this "Dread". Keeping the dread makes the woman always try to dominate you, because through dread you express exactly the opposite - you are so untaimed that you might go for someone else.
      Some might say it can be borderline unethical to play around such things, as it may easily classified as manipulation, but I would argue that the opposite is also very real and can real to catastrophic failures. A completely tamed man gets boring really quick, and she might as well try to find someone more interesting to start this taming Journey back again.

    • @The_Comedy_Hub
      @The_Comedy_Hub Před 3 lety +16

      Dam man, that's a good explanation! I think Jordan himself would enjoy reading that

    • @alexandratavares6612
      @alexandratavares6612 Před 3 lety +45

      I agree with most of your paragraph, but i disagree when you said women pick agressive men because of insecurity. Women are just naturally attracted to dominance, an Alpha male is makes a suitable mate.

    • @svetlinsofiev6729
      @svetlinsofiev6729 Před 3 lety

      Great comment

  • @jhtsurvival
    @jhtsurvival Před 2 lety +14

    I love the indirect slights he throws out at the social scientists with how engineers actually discover things by "plowing through " without regards to ethical bs

  • @violaberry413
    @violaberry413 Před 2 lety +1

    I literally just got recommended this and I feel extremely called out

  • @DonVal86
    @DonVal86 Před 3 lety +341

    Me: Yarr, give up the booty!
    Her: I’m calling the police!

  • @alsinakiria
    @alsinakiria Před 3 lety +283

    Damn, so engineers have cracked the code on us, huh? Not gonna lie, not the group you think about when you imagine the ones to crack the female code.

    • @masonroyal36
      @masonroyal36 Před 3 lety +40

      Lmao imagine dedicating a good chunk of your life to getting a Master's Degree in Engineering only to be assigned to tasks like this

    • @regular_goof
      @regular_goof Před 3 lety +4

      They did not. But neural networks crunching on big data will or already have. And those are designed by it engineers.

    • @karstenburger9031
      @karstenburger9031 Před 3 lety +1

      And maybe we don' t really need engineers for it to notice, do we? But it's a nice and simple proof
      .

    • @gogojuice2621
      @gogojuice2621 Před 3 lety

      😂😂😂😂

    • @freezysyahz
      @freezysyahz Před 3 lety +7

      @@masonroyal36 You kidding? To a willing or vaguely interested one, "We're gonna investigate this data on female preferences in porn. Why? For science!"

  • @HeavyMetalCowboy90
    @HeavyMetalCowboy90 Před 2 lety

    I’ve only watched a few of his videos, but his Canadian is in overdrive on this one.

  • @MarkHicks326
    @MarkHicks326 Před 2 lety

    Every single Jordan Peterson video is better than the one before. If there is a better professor on CZcams I want to know who it is?

  • @tsopmocful1958
    @tsopmocful1958 Před 6 lety +599

    So I'll grow a beard, wear an eyepatch and a black cape, have cash in one pocket, scapel in the other, go to the club and say 'Aaarrr' a lot and howl at the moon.
    That should do it!

    • @theriocassius4338
      @theriocassius4338 Před 6 lety +10

      tsopmocful Good luck mate

    • @notxvexorr4379
      @notxvexorr4379 Před 3 lety +66

      So a homeless dude but without the cash?

    • @MQXM001
      @MQXM001 Před 3 lety +22

      No, no, no... you need to “Aaarrr” at the moon

    • @xervia3032
      @xervia3032 Před 3 lety +1

      tsopmocful ABSOLUTELY!!!! 🤣🤣🤣☺️☺️☺️

    • @AtomicF0x
      @AtomicF0x Před 3 lety +11

      No, it won't work unless you're a _book_ describing yourself as all those things.

  • @evanescence9041
    @evanescence9041 Před 3 lety +94

    I love how he made it about himself so he does not embarrass her
    That's really smart move

  • @melissacaltabiano4
    @melissacaltabiano4 Před 2 lety +8

    I think it's exciting that the story is dangerous and exciting. I think it's about female curiosity, wanting something interesting and different to average normal life. I think that the individual characters (male and female), for example in vampire diaries, are sexy because they are wellbuilt (actors have gotten fit). The way they talk, the voice quality, is serious and like they're always in that moment of falling in love. Sometimes the smouldering facial expressions make an appearance too.
    I think the interest in supernatural literature as a kind of porn is the mystery of supernatural beings, the danger and excitement of the story, the fact that love with a vampire can really be forever, and the fact that the actors are very attractive and often shirtless.

  • @eclipssezz
    @eclipssezz Před 9 měsíci +2

    It’s not really the specific traits but the situations the books represent that way through the role of the main male lover. Almost all of them dominant, in any way.
    Also let’s face it, it’s interesting how a lot of these options aren’t technically masculine. Like for example car mechanic or some more violent options like some boxer or whatever. It’s somewhere in between and also an interesting group of choices. All of them having something alluring about them that you can build the story about easily. Ps, vampires most likely do look a bit more beautiful than your masculine men.

  • @reginanemo640
    @reginanemo640 Před 3 lety +835

    Men have been simping for mythical women like mermaids, sirens etc for ages.

    • @analothor
      @analothor Před 3 lety +183

      I'm not exactly fond of females that like to cannibalise me after
      I'm not a praying mantis Regina

    • @OrderOfMagnitude1
      @OrderOfMagnitude1 Před 3 lety +79

      Yeah but that comes back to men just wanting the most beautiful woman or female form. A siren is dangerous but the danger isn't sexy. The siren herself is supposed to look good for that whole thing to work. The same thing with a mermaid. That's just an inhuman level of sexiness. Lol

    • @reginanemo640
      @reginanemo640 Před 3 lety +37

      There is no difference between men wanting the most beautiful and women wanting someone they can nourish. While men tend to get distracted by physical beauty more often, women have to form a bond like motherhood so that men can never leave.
      Of course this interpretation is for the sake of fun Freudian conversations.

    • @OrderOfMagnitude1
      @OrderOfMagnitude1 Před 3 lety +84

      @@reginanemo640 well yes... there is. The women are looking for the aggression, the danger. They want to tame the man so he becomes essentially a guard dog, projecting that out into the world and being soft toward the family. Men aren't attracted to any of that. The only reason they might like mythical creatures like mermaids is because they're hot. That's it.

    • @analothor
      @analothor Před 3 lety +26

      @@reginanemo640 implying that women don't always try and go for the most handsome men all the time ...right...

  • @bellabelles655
    @bellabelles655 Před 2 lety +42

    I think it's because a typical girl wants to feel safe in a relationship. Where the agressive guy would be dangerous to everyone else, but protective of her. But she wants to tame him to show she's strong in her own right, but not in a physical way. More on the emotional side of things, where she doesn't cave to the man's principles. It's a dangerous world out there and a girl just wants to feel safe and special through the person she's attracted to.

  • @jayu7141
    @jayu7141 Před 7 měsíci +1

    I'd buy it if these studies were actually done before Hollywood

  • @sparrowsbewertungen6930
    @sparrowsbewertungen6930 Před 2 lety +10

    "Yarr harr fidelly dee, being a pirate is alright to be, do what you want cause a pirate is free, you are a pirate"

    • @Mana_Thief
      @Mana_Thief Před 2 lety +4

      AND SO ARE WE!
      Sorry, it bothered me that it didn't end with a rhyme 😂

  • @humantacos9800
    @humantacos9800 Před 3 lety +670

    This is also why women don't fall for "nice guys." Nice guys is of course a misinterpretation of passive males. You can be nice and have the potential to be threatening at the same time.

    • @TheValdemossa
      @TheValdemossa Před 3 lety +174

      "Nice guys" are those passive males who get anrgy on the internet and complain about how women they were initally white knighting for are horrible and superficial simply because their being a "nice guy" did not get them laid.

    • @harmondraws
      @harmondraws Před 3 lety +23

      Almost all my hook ups were from me playing the nice guy. Before I make a move I ask first. I still get what I want.

    • @kintozero3169
      @kintozero3169 Před 3 lety +46

      @@harmondraws or maybe it's because of your willingness to make a move

    • @meownover1973
      @meownover1973 Před 3 lety +42

      Nice guys always get laid.
      The problem with "nice guys" is that they don't have any social skills other than being nice . Neither are they good at dealing with rejection.

    • @belli9281
      @belli9281 Před 3 lety +53

      Well. Ill put in my two cents. Im very attracted towards kind guys, quiet and seemingly passive guys. I love it even more however when theres confidence within that archetype. They feel stable and have potential for dominence. Overly passive and guys that would do anything for me is a turn off.
      It's not so much be a bad guy but rather be centered and confident in who u are. If someone is too distant however thatll attract many anxious types so beware how cold yall decide to act as well. Just be nice and be interested. (was this too chaotic and rant y? Maybe idk)

  • @BlazRa
    @BlazRa Před 3 lety +82

    Fun fact after he got done with this lecture he went out to the singles bar dressed up as a pirate with fangs...

  • @Saruman5000
    @Saruman5000 Před 2 lety +4

    Because they are portrayed by very handsome males, thats it.
    No woman will fall for a vampire from an old movie called "Nosferatu - Eine Symphonie des Grauens".