How losing someone you love can change your life forever (I talk about GRIEF) | Rica Peralejo
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- Once grief strikes, life will never be the same again. How do we move forward then? I hope this video will help us all.
Thankfully our generous guest, Feliz Lucas, also shared with us some materials and coaches we can tap if we want to help ourselves through grief.
1. Cathy Babao is a grief counselor and we don’t have her contact details but you may follow her here: ...
2. MGC: www.mygriefcar...
3. Feliz Lucas, End of Life Coach, courageandgrief@gmail.com
4. Dr.Don Eisenhauer, MCC: coachingatendo...
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I recently lost my boyfriend from suicide. We broke up a day before that. And ever since I knew that he was gone, I feel stressed and anxious all the time. After watching this vlog for the second time, I learned that it was normal to feel that way after someone's death. I feel my emotions and thoughts (even the ideations) are validated upon knowing that others have gone through the same thing. I tried to rationalize and learn everything I can about this grief but at the end of the day, all I can do is cry and feel the pain. I'm thankful for this vlog as well. I hope everyone's doing okay and coping well.
I hadn't realized that there were many things I lost that I didn't grieve properly. This vlog is so enlightening.
Rica has so much wisdom and has inspired so many people.
This video is so healing in many ways. Although grief is not only limited to losing our loved ones, we can also grieve the life we hoped for but couldn’t have in this lifetime. As a Christian there will always be this head knowledge that God can answer in different ways, “yes, no or maybe” but somehow our hearts just can’t seem to get a good grasp when He says no especially when it is something we deeply hoped for.
When I was diagnosed with cancer last February at the age of 25, I felt like my life was “robbed” from me. It was my first time being hospitalized but so many things happened in between, I had major operation, they kept going back and forth to figure out what was going on to being diagnosed with cancer. Maybe “robbed” is a very self-centered word but it was very healing also to just cry out all of my emotions to God, after all He said that we can lay down our burden to Him.
Thank you for the reminder that just like seasons change, our grief comes in waves too. When it comes knocking at our door, we can welcome it, sit with it and cry with it, then let it go.
❤ all the love. Praying for you. It is ok to cry woth God, thankfully.
Thank you miss Rica ❤
So timely. We lost our dad last November 2022. We move forward, but when grief creeps in, there's no holding back those tears from falling. Grief is a price we pay for love. 🥺❤
This video speaks to you po...
Youre heart will be healed in time.. Just let it grief as long as it needs to.
May the holy spirit give you wisdom and guidance towards comfort and peace. Recieve it po.. 🙏🏻
Me too. 😢
Some of us who are wise (mature) enough that experienced grief thru some kind of loss (loss of wealth, loss of loved ones, loss of hope) often ask, 'What is the meaning of life?'. We were born in this world. We go to school. Get married and build a family. Raise children. Work for 30, 40 years or more. Go to church every sunday. Experience so many things. Accumulated so many things. Pursue success and happiness. Avoid pain. Fear death. Fight with others. Suffer. Hope for heaven. Then die!
Most of us were conditioned to see or call those things as 'That's Life'. We never question and doubt those 'World's Traditions'. We are like a prisoner who doesn't know that he is in prison.
Find out if there is or there is no meaning to life. Observe your daily life. Be open all the time to life. Just observe your daily existence. Don't focus on the answer because what if there's no right answer to that question? Don't invent any answers or try to get any answers from anybody. This is your life! This is your own discovery. Your own adventure. Then maybe, wisdom comes to you. Wisdom that nobody can ever give to you.
God has a reason for everything, it is a matter of acceptance, mahirap pero will ni God🥺🙏
Nakakaiyak, ung faith mo nlng tlga ky Jesus ung mgpplakas sau at mgbibigay ng pag asa pra mkpg move on without Jesus wala tlga di naten kya malagpasan ung pain at mga pgsubok😢
This is probably the most genuine and uncensored vlog / discussion about grief. I was just crying the entire time, nung intro palang may tissue na ako sa mata hahaha. Today I just had a surprise grief visit and this resonated in all levels. Thank you because this gives me relief that I am not a hopeless case and that I am not alone.
Hindi ko kinaya tapusin , bsta saludo ako sa guest ni Ms Rica at kinaya nya 🙏🙏🙏🥺
This is. a blessing
Im a papa’s girl and I lost him when I was 13 yr old. I cant say I’ve truly recovered. I feel like life lost its meaning (he was the glue of the fam) and I didnt have direction and guidance growing up. Im 29 now but I still feel abandoned :( since then, I dont allow myself to be vulnerable to people.
Journalize your grief. This is what i did and it helped me transfer the negative thoughts into a medium. When I lost my husband to covid in 2021, I had a lot of questions and I somehow skipped the process because I had to be strong for our 4kids, my youngest a special child. To process my grief, I tried to podcast my questions. Me recording my voice, it was as if I am channelling my not so good energy into space and find myself still being productive. I would cry on episodes, shout, and whatever release I can do through it. Anyway it's not to monetize it so I can be real. Podcast became very therapeutic to me, especially that at times when you really need someone you cannot just demand time from people around you because they too have their own lives to live and battles to win. With podcasting, it's as if there are invisible people out there who would listen to me. ❤️
Wow! 😢🙏
I lost my father 2013, it was painful. But we moved on kasi andun pa si mama. Then, last year my mama left us. Theres no words. Yung sakit na walang katumbas na salita. And Ive felt like hindi na ko magiging masaya, yung genuine na masaya kasi wala na sila. There were days na makikita m na lang ung sarili mong naiyak. Maybe because i cant accept the fact that both my parents were gone.
Grieving for the loss of my mother, just a few days ago. Thank God that when I realized to move on and find others who went through the process of grieving I found this video. Thank you for sharing your journey. I know that I will also overcome.
Thank you to Felize also, her openness was a big help for me too.
God bless your channel Rica!
And yet again I cried... watching Ms Rica's vlog and remembering what I went through reminded me that moving on has no timeline---that grief could be in any form; like hearing a loved ones favorite song, seeing their favorite stuff, or eating their favorite food. It is a constant reminder that love and pain can coexist.And in most cases, it is where our most vulnerable emotions defy all kinds of logical reasoning. Thank you Ms. Rica. It gives me comfort knowing that each journey is unique. Indeed, it is true that when you're grieving, the slightest smile is considered a big progress. ❤ thank you for sharing your journey with us. ❤❤❤
This video explained what I am feeling for the entire 4 years, but despite of my healing process I'll still do my best to be used by Him.
Root hurt… root growth… feelings of importance…. Wow! Thank you for this!!! ❤🙏🏻
thank you Ms Rica and Felise, my husband died this Feb. Nabigyan nyo po ako ng idea how to handle my grief. At ganun din sa akin anak. Its all my God's amazing Grace we can move forward. Death is not Final. Thank you Jesus you are our Hope and Peace. Dalangain ko po na marami pang mga tao na magiging pagpapala ang mga content nyo. God bless you po Ms Rica.
i also lost my dear husband suddenly last year of January...thats why i dont have closure with my husband because we were bestfriends too😭😭😭 thats why its sooooo hard to accept his sudden death...everyday i have soooo many question to God that of all people why my husband😭😭😭..but little did i know that was also the time when i came to know Jesus every thing about Jesus through Pastor Bong Saquing that eventually led me to CCF and finally accepted right away Jesus as my Lord and my personal...all of my questions were answered by reading the bible everyday and soaking into His words..its like how God answered me..He has purpose with this pain
How beautiful and encouraging intelligent and wise Christians articulate about how they feel especially emotional wounds. Very clear and comforting. Kaya when I saw Ms Feliz and family in a mall 1 time, gusto ko syang yakapin!
I've cried a lot introduction pa lang 💔 My baby just died last feb 01, 2023 and it's not an easy journey as new parents. We have to grief until now for losing our baby 😢 and i find comfort whenever i read the holy bible. Thanks, Ms. Rica and Ms. Feliz ❤
I still believe in soul contract.
Everyone of us has a time to be born and a time to leave. But the soul continues on its own 😊
Isa talaga to sa mga sinubaybayan ko noon, courageous Caitie 🙏💖 ngayong vlog mo Miss Rica nakurot na naman ang puso ko, sakit maalala ng grief journey ni Miss Feliz. Pero sabi nga nila God is good all the time 🙏🙌🙌 All the time, God is good!! ❤ more power to you Miss Rica and thank you for doing this. I think i will never get over my grief journey, will always miss my Dad! Hope when my time ends magkita kami sa paradise 😭🙏💖
This is very timely. The other vlog wherein Rica opened up about her mental health journey and losing his dad few years ago led me to this today. This episode made me cry the whole time, when Rica shared about her grief journey down to Feliz'. Lost my dad more than a month ago and just like Feliz, I was wrestling with God on when to let go of my dad who had been suffering from his illness for 6 years. I cried most the actual day he left and burst it out on his interment. There were days I just cry suddenly and on most days, I was just controlling myself coz I don't want my family to feel it again after he was buried. Only to find out that it led me to physical manifestation just before his 40th day- I was sent to ER coz I was having hypoxia that I even thought I would die too at that time. I've been asked if I have had trauma during early years when I had my 2dEcho yesterday, and said I have none, but kinda thought that maybe, what happened that day was indeed a physical manifestation of grief that I tried to wrestle with this whole time. Thank you for this episode, just in time when I needed it.
Inuulit ulit ko din yun vlog ni Miss Rica, dito din sa balara content house with pastor/podcast... grabe impact sa kin nung vlog na yun 🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤
Thank you Ms. Rica for this valuable and enlightening content.
I just realized that I haven't grieved properly in a lot of phases in my life.
How I wish soon I can release all of the heavy feelings
CRYING WHILE WATCHING THIS AT ALMOST 2 IN THE MORNING. I REALIZED I WANTED TO LIVE WITH THIS GRIEF AS I DON'T WANT TO FORGET ABOUT MY DAD AND WHAT HE HAS DONE FOR ME. GREAT VIDEO.
"Grief is not a sickness..It is an amputation"
i really love this vlog, grabe yung luha ko😭 bigla ko naalala yung Mama ko😭❤️
I lost my sister 4years ago and my husband 3years ago. Still grieving but now I understand more the process. Thank you.
Thank you sa content mo Ms. Rica it will help alot of people ❤ sana magkaron pa ng other content na kagaya ng ganito.
This vlog make sense 😢 since my Lola pass away during pandemic I think about the other side of life
I feel how you felt with your sister's passing. My older sister died on Feb 2,2023 birthday pa yun ng mama namin. Pero nung partner ko yung namatay dun ako hirap na hirap we've been together for 10 years, She died April 4,2023. Sobrang hirap and it's not easy for me since tumanda kaming mag kasama. I know time will heal hindi man agad-agad pero soon. She was my constant, protector,confidant and everything. She died due to diabetes. Thank you for sharing this.
I could not finish this video. Midway pa lang balde balde na luha ko. Praying for you and for everyone like me grieving a loss
This episode saved my soul from grieving today. The best way to reach me. Thank you Ms. Rica and Felize.
Thank you for this vlog Ms. Rica! 🥹 Everyday nag momove-on sa pagkawala ng sister ko. Pero tuloy pa din ang buhay, pahalagahan ang mga taong kasama ngayon.
Mahigpit na yakap para sa mga nangungulila! 💕
Same tayo ng pakiramdam. Grabe na takot ko simula nawala asawa ko. Until now di makampante ang utak ko. Lagi akong kinakabahan. Im still in a process of moving on. Very hard until now. This is very inspiring vlog. Thanks Rica. More power to you.🙏
Tinapos ko talaga. Huhu. Grieving as parang pigsa, need to push it out.
I lost my sister in 2013, my Tatay in 2020. This helped me Miss Rica! ❤
Love this content, I specifically like when you said that grief sort of uncovers your root problem, its always good to be able to understand why you act a certain way, feel a certain way because of things that happened in your life that you were not able to process.
Thank you for talking about this topic. Thanks for validating that my questions are normal. And for giving the term "grief visit" and for giving that perspective of being an amputee for life, but in the process of identifying and strengthening myself. 😢😢😢
Prayers for all who are grieving. Lets stay strong. I have to pause as I felt the pain in every words. Hope to finish watching this vlog some other time…
This is so powerful. Discovering so much about my emotional and thought process thru your conversation. So much important insights in this video. Thank you. Looking forward to more content like this. 🙏🖤
Same here, I want more discussions like this. ❤
Later ko na papanuorin pag nag papahinga na ako para naman wala akong mapalagpas na topic na matutunan ko❤ Thank you Miss Rica. ❤ Sana dumami pa yung mga kagaya mong nakakatulong sa mental health especially nowadays.
I learned so much from the vlog in every forms of different types of grieving. Thank you Rica
Thanks for another inspirational content ❤😢 sometimes even if it's too painful it's surrendering everything to God is the answer🙏
You both are strong and genuine women. This worthy content will inspire a lot of people and heal grieving souls, thank you for this episode! ❤️
I lost my daughter last year May 2022. Congestive heart failure. She was diagnosed December 2021 with severed MVD with conhestive heart failure. Her death changed me, until now I still cry and miss her so much.
I lost my mama last 2020 and my husband last 2021 , thank you for this Ms. Rica badly need it
Blessed with your vlog, Ms. Rica. So timely. My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 ca recently, and I grieved the healthy person he was and the plans that did not materialize because of this tragedy. Ganun pala yun, we also grieve other things we lose, not just death. I was crying the whole time and couldn’t say anything.
This is one of my favorite episode. Nakarelate po ako sayo Ms. Rica my dad passed away in 2017 umiyak naman ako after a week parang wala na. But when my Mom passed away last year 2022 April 1 yr na pero ung pain parang kahapon lang.
This is exactly what I needed to hear/ watch right now, thank you so much for this.
So much tears but also very healing to me.🙏❤😭
This made me cry but thank you, people need contents like this
Thank you for this! It made me reminisce my grief journey and thinking about it still makes me cry pala. It gets easier day by day just as long as you learn to process it properly.
Appreciate this video.. 😢😢 i also felt phsical manifestation where i feel that my heart is phsically heavy.. i have a 3pm alarm on my phone which i set during the novena . I never took it out. I felt i dont want to forget..
Such a valuable content. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. ❤
grave follower din ako ng fam ni mis feliz lalo nung moment na lumalaban sila sa battle ng anak nila ni caitie❤
This was soooo good! Glory to God!!!🙌🏻
This really helps me a lot right now. sobrang dami ko natutunan. and i know now na valid naman pala talaga yung mga symptoms ko and lahat ng nararamdaman at nangyayari sakin. I followed etong naging journey nila feliz at jayjay with caitlyn sobrang painful and i never thought this could also happen to me. hopefully will someone also help me to understand and to found myself to do better for myself. 😢
Cried so many times during this video 😅 thank you for this!
Thank you for this po Ms Rica! I have another person now to follow in soc media, so grateful to Ms Feliz as well ❤️
We lost our mama last year due to leukemia and it is her first birthday in heaven on April 27. I might visit this again and 'prepare' for a different kind of grief wave next week
"I have found myself to be sorry for not being a better daughter to him and also forgiving him for not being a better dad to me".
Learned so much from this vlog! I want to thank you both for being so vulnerable and real with your pain. I've just been recently trying to deal with different kinds of grief instead of burying the feelings or avoiding it--and this has just affirmed how healthy it is to go through the mess. :)
I cried. 😢😢😢😢 thanks for this content.
Relate much to you Rica.😢😢😢😢😢
This episode is really timing just this week I got emotional I miss my bf for 14 years l Lost him last year due to heart attack I cry heavy 💔💔💔💔 subra bgat.
I love your God-given wisdom and knowledge❤️ Thank you so much for your content🥹🤗
It was amazing. Lost my dad last sept of 2021 due to covid. Like you we don’t have an ideal father and daughter relationship so I said to myself grieving was not an option kasi hindi naman kmi close so bakit ako malulungkot. Life must go on na parang walang nangyari. I also have to step up for my family being the bread winner and to be strong for them kasi pag hindi ako naging matapang at matatag what will happen to us. So parang nalimutan ung grief for awhile and wlaa talaga akong planong bisitahin sya at all. But I was wrong, grief will show up anytime and it will hit you hard. And tama kayo grief will make you re-examine your faith. I have my hang ups with my dad and all. I have also issues in my life so nagsunod-sunod sya. So just like waves it will come hard and sometimes it will not. ❤❤❤
I can read myself on your words Ma'am 💞 I can see myself too thru your words. Wish to have more discussion like this. ❤️ 🙏
@@sharingoutlovesol1663 ngayon I am bit okay na. Although early stage plg But getting there
@@denisey0908 glad to hear Ma'am 💖🙏
Good and god true love
GOD WORKS! AMEN. 🤍🤍
Crying! I lost my husband last year May 18 from aneurysm. It was soo quick.
He fell down around 2:15am. At 3:15 the doctor told me he has less than an other to live and call my family. By 5/6am Alex passed the critical time. God gave me 7 hours with him before he died. I begged God. One more hour Lord one more hour.
I brought him home at 3pm.
The following day I have to cremate him. In Japan it’s legal to have the dead body for 24 hours only.
I miss soo much my loving husband. Gosh! My problem na din Ako sa eye sight ako. Lord help me and my kids!
😭😭😭 i am so so sorry…
I want to talk more about this Ms. Rica please thanks alot. I am sharing too this video you have since I saw many are grieving too like me.
But, I don't know maybe I have kind of realization. I think we do felt something missing on some part of our body to fill up those missing thru God's Love 💕😘 🙏
Wow! I really wish to hear something like this and here it pop up in my wall Ms. Rica thank You God so much for your guest. I lost my son 2016 it's actually pre mature right after he was born we lost him. I really don't know if I am pass I guess I did. It is maybe because I can laugh loud na or really I don't know. Then, my father passed away Feb 1 lang and what you are saying or what you've shared Ms. Rica about what your father it seems like we're the same relationship towards our Father. I want to hear about this more if you can share it more. I don't know if there we're wrong or mistakes on my part or I don't know again. But thank you so much for this. 🙏❤
Nakakainspire..napakaganda Ng message❤
Grieving is a gift from God. Jesus wept when Lazarus died. Abraham mourn and wept when he lost Sarah. It’s ok to grieve and take your time. That’s between you and God. I lost my son three months ago and I know that he’s in heaven because he’s saved and that brings me comfort knowing that I will see him again.
Thank youuuu soooo much for this Ms. Rica Peralejo! 😢❤
Ang ganda naman, processing everything about this video ❤ Grief is something we should really allow our hearts, mind and body to feel. I met feliz one time at a bazaar and I can really see her courage and surrender to God, kakaiba and ang cute paano niyo ginawa in our language yung language ni Jesus 😂
Thank you for this Ms. Rica
This is very encouraging and helpful. ❤️
It's been over 40 days na since my father passed away. Losing someone you love napakasakit. Until now ang hirap magmove forward. Feeling ko nasa isa akong box na Hindi makamove. 😢😢
Reading to all concerned comments here in somehow I get some to learn too and yes I did. But, most probably I will look forward po Ms. Rica to talk more about this if it is okay for you. I shared too this..❤❤❤ somehow it can help to others too.
May part 2 po ba to? Ang sarap nyong pakinggan. Thank you, Ms. Feliz and Ms. Carla! ❤❤
Hahahaha grabe how i wish hindi na matapos kaso baka maging overnight na
I will grief forever i lost my father and mother god knew his plan😢😢😢
Naiyak ako I can relate the feeling about grief. I lost my mom and now my husband. Parang namatay na din ang kalahati ng katawan ko and I will never be the same. I will be forever miserable and lonely😢💔
My father died on 2021 until now I still grieving
Thank you for this po
I needed to grieve the possibility of never being able to be a mom ever😢
This is so much information about griefing. Thank you! For tackle this. 😢❤😂😅😊
Thanks for sharing ❤❤
Bagong fan ni Miss Rica! ❤
I hope that one day, I will be able to realize that I have other parts of my body that I can use and not focus on what I lost. I am still grieving and still have a lot of unanswered questions. I'm still hurt that I cannot even go back to the day the loss happened. It was too painful to even think about it. But somehow, I realized that, maybe all I need is to go back to that same day I lost the people I truly love. And maybe only then, I can be able to address the pain and somehow move on from this. Thank you, Miss Rica for making this content. I will keep watching this until I learn the process. All along, I've been treating my grief like "pigsa". Di ko siya hinahawakan dahil masakit, not realizing that I need to push it out.
I actually learned a lot, I love how you open up topics that should be put into light in order for us to heal and grow. Thank you, Ate Rica.🩷
First 3mins pa lang naiiyak na ko 😢
Kung kayo ay nalulungkot at naiiyak...pabayaan myo ang sarili nyo na umiyak hanggang maubusan kayo ng luha.
Hindi lahat na naintubate namamatay, dito sa ireland that is not the case. I hope that will change the thinking of people.
Thank you for this, we learnt a lot towards this vlog. Hopefully there will be more learning vlogs like this. Thank you for such quality content. God bless to you and your family, Ms.Rica🥰😍😘
Because of this, I feel like it digs deeper about my past traumas and experiences which enables me to acknowledge how i feel about it (which eventually is the reason why we react on things) but the good thing is it helps us to be aware of it.
Because of this as well, it helps me understand other people on how they act or even react towards things and that it comes from a root.
I cannot finish watching it.. 😭
Thanks for this ❤
lodi shararawt ja jaja 🤣🎉🎉🎉 more power and godbless us all 🙏🇵🇭🇵🇭
I feel the pain because I lost the love of my life . Sometimes you feel if medical people really did their Best or they’re just after the money they’ll get seeing that their patient can afford - one Dr even asked what if my love will be in ICU would there be issue for money .. I said do everything there’s no problem .. up to now I’m asking if Drs. Really did the right thing 😭😭 after the death I want to talk to them but they want me to go to their clinic .. how can I do that, I cannot even look up to now the hospital nor visit my Dr there.. do they have compassion ? Up to now I still want to talk to them .. I just want to ask them on what stage really when they’re starting medications . These Drs who attended don’t have a Heart they’re just after the money😢😭😭😭
I lost my brother last Feb 2023, until now grabe umiiyak parin Ako every morning,💔💔💔
Im not evem sure if I could watch this. It’s very painful just to think about the lost.
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