Coping with Grief: 9 Tips & Activities from A Therapist
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- čas přidán 16. 06. 2024
- What's Anya Mind, friends?
With everything that's happening in the world right now, unfortunately more people are mourning and grieving losses than we could even fathom. I've been getting asked by many about ways to process grief, and today I am sharing some of the most successful approaches and activities in my practice. Grief is unique to everyone, so please take things at your own pace. There is no right way to grieve. Pay attention to your emotional, mental, and even physical well-being as you work on accepting a new and most likely undesired reality.
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The tips are very helpful! My husband died August 2021 and these tips are great. I've been texting him things the kids are doing and it's comforting.
So sorry to hear of your loss. I’m glad that you’ve found some helpful ways to cope ♥️
@@StephAnya Thank you!!
Sorry darling..its so freash
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@@AuthorCAL Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again after losing your husband?
Years ago one person asked me how long I was going to grieve after losing the loved one.
Now, after so many years the only answer that comes to my mind is that I will grieve for as long as the person I loved will remain dead.
If they come back to me, I will let go.
From my experience, there is no one right timeline for the grieving process. There is no one way of going through it. I once read that grieving is like love with nowhere to go. Maybe this is exactly why it hurts so bad.
I agree, I lost my son suddenly, he was shot and I know I will grieve for as long as I live. A parent should never have to bury their child, but it is reality and I know my reality is now one of loss and grief. And I am tired of people asking me how I am doing.
I lost my oldest son in a tragic car accident 2 year’s ago. I lost a piece of myself that awful day and I will grieve for him until I take my last breathe 🙏🏼
I understand. God bless. Take care.
I hear you it fades for a second and then WHAM
Yep, I still have feelings about a brother who committed suicide 20 + years ago from time to time. Just ride those feelings where they take you.
Yes, so well put..! That's when I will let go too! 💔⚘️
5 stages of grief :
1.Denial
2.Anger
3.Bargaining
4.Depression
5. Acceptance
Tips:
1. Being open with people
2. Seek professional help
3. Sharing memories of that person/find a support group
4. Do something that honours them
5. Find more about them through friends and family
6: Log messages you would tell them
7: Write letters in their name
8: Reply from their perspective
Thanks for taking the time to summarize this ♥️
hi, thanks for the summary! however, i noticed step 3 is missing (find a support group)... even so, i took screenshot of your comment to use as reference for my process 🙏🏽🖤
Correction: "their" (re: #7 and #8).
@@nandep2149 thanks grammar police 🙄
@@Savvy_travelingdiva 🤣 You're welcome.
My mother passed in 2016. It was very unexpected! I wear her ashes in a heart locket necklace. It brings me so much peace to know she’s near me. I’ve also created an altar in my home with her picture & some of her favorite things, like her favorite candy, colors, flowers etc... I honor her on the day she passed each year, as well as on Mother’s Day, her birthday, and her favorite holiday which is Christmas 💙
I love the way that you honor her. I have a video coming on Monday about grieving on Mother’s Day that you may find useful
I'm so sorry for your loss. May you two be reunited one day in heaven ♡
I love it and Is love urging so 😍 love to hang with with
I'm so glad someone else does this besides me, it really helps & is soothing to honor our parent/s.
@@StephAnya last night I lost my girlfriend to cancer we were together for 2 years and best friends for 20 years she was gay she was the love of my life today it hardest I see her top and phone had us has her wallpaper I broke down my mum and and dad hug me they know Megan"s death hit me hard Megan was her name was our friends are helping her mum and stepdad and me out they missing her this weekend would be her 37th birthday what we do on her birthday ????.
I have left the earth,
But I am still about,
I kiss your cheek at night,
When your light is out.
I am the wind,
That blows in your hair,
I am spirit now,
I am near.
I sit on your shoulder,
I see all that you do,
My body is gone,
Still my love is with you.
When times are tough,
I hold your hand,
You are never alone,
Together we stand.
If you are in trouble,
I shall help you out,
I am your instinct
When you doubt.
I am the angel
Assigned to you,
You will never be alone,
For I am next to you.
Thank you
Awesome 👏🏽
Bought tears to my eyes
So helpful 💕
That’s beautiful, thank you for sharing.
Thanks for this. I loss my son a month ago.
A daughter I loss! Thank you so much for sharing! 🙏❤❤
I keep a journal and I always catch my self telling stories about him to anyone and everyone … I lost my boyfriend three weeks before I had our first baby. Being an unexpected single mother is one of the hardest things I’m doing and at the same time losing my love.
That sounds so hard to live with. Knowing the baby and him will never get to meet too, and everything else, I can't even imagine what this is like properly tbh 😣 Sending good wishes your way 🥺
I'm sorry about you loss.
I am going through the same thing and wishing you well 💕
That sounds so difficult for you. I hope you and baby are both doing well.
Prayers ❤️ and hugs
I’ve been feeling like it’s not normal to have such a fear of forgetting. I’m glad I saw this
That was my huge fear when my father died! it was so unexpected... I wrote some things about him, and I felt 'safer' then.
"We don't move on from grief, we move forward with it."
I lost my bf/husband of 20+ yrs. in 2016. I also lost my father, grandmother, & uncle in 2020. The pain and grief can feel like a heart attack!
True hope can only be found in Jesus Christ. He loves you more than you could ever know. I pray my best friend's story will help you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
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@@kelleymcfadden9675 beautiful story and it helped me as I grieve the loss of my beloved father. Thank you for sharing this ❤
Oh my goodness, I’m so very sorry 😢
@@Lindableching thank you 🙏🏼
The pain is so much, my son was shot on 15th October 2021, I just want to die because I cant imagine living with this pain for the rest of my life, he was 28 and he always told me he loved me.
Ooh Sonia, I can't try to explain what you are going through but I know its a heavy load and can feel very helpless. I also know at such a time as this, no logic makes sense and no words will bring him back to you. Having lost my mum in a very short time, I know the pangs of pain that you must be going through. Keep faith that your son is now in the spirit and watching over you, and loving you as he said he did. Don't give up on your life, just know that God still loves you and has a purpose for you. Take one day at time, and grief for your son in your own way. God will give you the strength to overcome this as He is helping me too.... one day at a time.
We lost are son in March, to covit19. I feel the same way. My heart is broken.
@@igachugu thank you, for your kind words
Since my Mum died ,I've watched these videos a lot ,and many commenters say they have looked ahead to future and can't see themselves coping with feeling this pain for so long .This is a normal fear , and I compare this to the Pandemic we're living through.Its been difficult for about two years now,and if we knew from the beginning we would still be struggling with it two years later, it would seem almost impossible to do that.However ,time moves on ,and here we all are two years later.We have managed through perseverance and use of our abilities to cope with unusual and demanding circumstances.Grieving is similarly somewhat unusual and of course very demanding ,but if we take it one moment or day at a time we can do it.Conciously deciding not to look beyond one day /moment is important in allowing ourselves the best chance to succeed and I wish you well in your journey.bye
@@mrshorn5248 this is my best friend's story. I hope it helps you.
Precious Memories- By Sonya Lakey
We had no idea that the evening of September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our oldest son played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for him (which he usually did for himself) for the church hike he was going on the following day.
My mom, who was visiting from out of state, and I got up early with him on Saturday morning to hug him and see him off. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own.
As he pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mom and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw our 16 year old son. He did not make it home that night.
That afternoon, a friend had tried to contact us, leaving a message on the phone to call back due to an emergency, but we really had no clue what was going on. And though we tried several times to return the call, we were not able to make a connection. As I helped prepare supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan and dread filled my heart, and I quietly blinked back tears. I looked out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pulling in, but no.
However, within minutes, a police car DID pull in our driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst, but I went outside to speak with him. He confirmed who I and my husband (who followed me out) were, then hesitantly told us our son had fallen off a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed.... Still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, we have such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son again. You see, even as a young boy, Ethan realized some very important truths from God's Word.
He had sinned against a righteous, holy and just God. The Bible says:
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that his sin separated him from God, and he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.” (Hebrews 10:31)
“For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)
He understood he could not pay the price for his sins.
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan realized that, 'though he could not pay the price for his sins, the price had already been paid in full by the blood of Jesus Christ, the Son of God. Jesus lived a perfectly sinless life. He had no fault of His own. But Jesus was crucified for our sins, and He took on Himself the sins of every person in the whole world. He was beaten, spit on, whipped, mocked, scourged, and nailed to the Cross of Calvary. He shed every drop of His righteous blood - because that was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous God - so we could be made righteous in Him. He suffered all of that so Ethan - and you and I - would not have to spend eternity in the Lake of Fire, but so we could spend eternity in Heaven with HIM! THAT is a great LOVE.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)
Jesus did not stay on the cross, nor did He stay in the tomb where His body was buried. Three days later, Jesus arose triumphant over sin and death and the grave. Ethan believed this with his whole heart, asked Jesus to forgive his sins, and he put his faith in Jesus Christ ALONE to save him from sin and eternal death and to take him to Heaven someday.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus and others. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. We know he is alive in Heaven with Jesus today, and we know we will see him again soon, not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day? Would your family, though grieving, be able to rejoice in the knowledge that they would see you again in Heaven, or would you be burning in Hell today?
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
Have YOU trusted Jesus as YOUR Saviour? Have you repented of your sins? Have you asked Jesus to forgive you so you can go to Heaven & not have to spend eternity in the Lake of Fire? Tomorrow may be too late. As Ethan pulled out of sight that morning, we had no idea we would never see him again in this life. None of us have the promise of tomorrow! Repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus alone - today!
“(For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2)
"Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away." James 4:14
I don't know if you will see this as the video was posted a long while ago. I am going through a breakup, losing a best friend, and two of my close friends passed away in the same week. Earlier this year, I was in a life or death situation where I would have rather passed away than lived through it. Thank you so much for this video. I haven't been able to sleep for about six months without having a nightmare, so seeing grief be put into such simple, scientific words has been helpful. I truly appreciate this.
I hate to hear about all that you’ve endured this year. You’re such a fighter. I’m grateful that you found this helpful ♥️
Dear Hannah, I hear you. Big Hug
Thank you for your video. When my ex-husband passed I would leave a cup of coffee out for him. We were legally divorced, but had been together for a while. I think that I'm in the depression stage. I got sick and hospitalized a week after his death, so haven't completely grieved, because I didn't want my family to see. Now that I'm home, it hits me more. Thanks again
Thanks for sharing this. It helps me. 6 months before my x-husband died, our divorce became final. I have elderly parents I want and need to be near while they are still here. The ONLY reason a divorce took place was because my husband felt the need to move back "home" to the state where he grew up. He wanted me with him but I couldn't be in both places. Both of our hearts were broken. We talked on the phone everyday without fail for the 1 year 1/2 he'd been moved away. I cried and begged him to stay. I think our situation was different than most. We were married for 27 years, no children even though we wanted them desperately. Just wanted you to know your sharing helped. My Daniel's family was so very cruel and toxic at his funeral. My heart was broken over and over again. In the end, I know we both loved each other despite the legal paperwork.
Btw...I keep a journal since Daniel's death as if I'm writing to him. It does help a little.
Much love, light and peace to you, dear. ❤❤
@@jackies6581 thank you! And the same to you as well. ❤️
Thank you for this video.
Sometimes I’ll imagine she’s sitting in the passenger seat when I’m driving. Just talk to her. Sending love
Thank you so much Steph Anya. Im grieving the loss of my beloved husband. We were happily married for over 30 years. Lockdown has increased my loneliness and my grief. I keep in touch with many dear friends. I appreciate your tips. Its a very slow process. 💚💙🙏🙏🙏
I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my son jersey on may 24th 2020 during lockdown on a car accident he just turned 22 on his birthday, got hit by a drunk truck driver, that was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 13yr old daughter is my everything and the reason I keep strong, my late wife passed away 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer.
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I hope you’ve found peace and happiness again Merry?
Angelique - I’m so sorry for your loss. We were married 33 years so like you we were life partners and best friends. My husband passed April 23, 2000 from Lymphoma.
3 years is right around the corner.
I pray you are finding comfort.
I've been watching too many videos on grief these last few weeks. Your words and perspectives and very practical and relatable. It is very helpful to hear advice and ideas that are tangible and applicable. I really appreciate the clarity and authenticity, refreshing to find in times like these
Thank you for this video! Grief can be a lonely place just reading through the comments is helping me to not feel so alone.
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This is phenomenal.
I am a LCSW. My mom transitioned a few weeks ago. I have moments that are really tough. Mainly at night and upon rising in the morning. I identified and found these tips so thoughtful and helpful.
Thanks for sharing! It can be so challenging helping others grieve while we're dealing with our own losses. You've got this.
I just lost my mom I wasn't prepared for it I was just in her hospital room Monday we were talking and laughing she died Dec 15 the the same dayy grandpa was being buried I am up and down I just want to hide from the world right now the pain is unbearable right now
I am so sorry for all of your losses! My prayers are with all of you! I lost my mom December 6 2020 and it is still very hard. ❤️❤️❤️
Same
@@stacymelody1820 I hope you’re doing okay.
We unexpectedly lost our son when I was 36 weeks pregnant. 🥺 I have been finding some comfort in talking to him and journaling all of my memories with him. But I still feel stuck between knowing that we'll be okay, but also not knowing how to live the rest of my life without him.
Take comfort in knowing that your baby is with Jesus. The most important thing you can do is to make sure that you are 100% sure that you are going to heaven when you die. If your belief is based on anything other than complete faith in the finished work of Jesus on the cross, you do not understand God's way to heaven.
The Bible says that we are all sinners. When God created Adam and Eve, He made them perfect without sin, but they chose to disobey God and became sinful in nature. This sin nature was passed down to all humanity.
Romans 5:12 Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:
Our sin separates us from God.
Romans 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
A holy, righteous God cannot allow sin into heaven. Sin must be paid for and God's price for sin is death, but not just a physical death, but a spiritual death which means separation from God forever in hell.
Revelation 21:8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
In the Old Testament when man sinned, God required the sacrifice of a perfectly spotless lamb as a substitute in the place of the sinner. The blood of that lamb was only a temporary payment for their sin and so this had to be done often. Jesus Christ, God's Son took on flesh, was born of a virgin, lived a sinless life and offered Himself as that perfect, spotless Lamb and shed His blood as payment for the sins of the whole world.
John 1:29 The next day John seeth Jesus coming unto him, and saith, Behold the Lamb of God, which taketh away the sin of the world.
Jesus loved us so much He WILLINGLY came and allowed wicked men to spit on Him, mock Him and scourge Him until He was unrecognizable. They stripped him naked, thrust a crown of thorns on His head and nailed His hands and feet to a cross. He hung in agony for hours bleeding, thirsting, struggling for every breath. He died innocently in our place so that we could be saved from going to hell. It was His blood that satisfied the just demands of a holy God. God will not accept anything else.
There is no greater love than that!
John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
The good news is that Jesus didn't stay dead in the grave. He came back to life 3 days later just like He promised and He still lives today!
Matthew 28:5 And the angel answered and said unto the women, Fear not ye: for I know that ye seek Jesus, which was crucified.
6. He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay.
Jesus did all this because He wants to give you the FREE gift of eternal life in heaven with Him!
You cannot do anything to earn your own way into heaven. You can't work for it, be baptized for it, go to church for it or try to be good enough for it. It is a FREE gift that God is offering to anyone who will simply receive it by faith.
Romans 6:23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
9. Not of works, lest any man should boast.
God said there is only one way to get to heaven, but it is not hard. You must repent, change your mind and admit you are a sinner headed for hell. You must believe that Jesus died and paid for your sin with His own blood on the cross, was buried and 3 days later rose from the dead. Then you must simply call on Him and ask Him to save you.
Romans 10:9 that if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
13. For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
None of us deserve God's mercy and grace, but let me warn you that if you reject His FREE gift, you are already condemned and when you die, you will suffer the torment of burning in hell for eternity in a lake of fire where you will be forever separated from God and all that is loving and good.
John 3:18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
Revelation 20:15 And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.
Please don't wait. Don't take the risk of putting it off until another day, repent, turn to Christ NOW wherever you are at because you aren't guaranteed to live another day on this Earth. Believe God's Word, ask Him to save you and He will!
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So sorry for your loss. I lost my son unexpectedly at 41 weeks, 6 years ago. I found it helpful to connect with other moms who have lost babies in a similar way…Hope you can find that.
Hey Momma, I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby. Child loss grief is the hardest grief. I have found that it's so overwhelming when looking to the future of an entire life without my kids. During that overwhelm it really is one breath, one heart beat at a time.I truly hope you have found some ways to cope. Sending hugs
I’m an orphan in my 20s, and my only sibling also passed as well about 12 years ago. Not only am I’m grieving my mother who passed earlier this year but also the last person of my nuclear family. I’ve been suppressing the feelings of sadness and anger down down down. But I think writing a letter to her and my father and sister will truly help get someone these emotions I’ve been keeping in and not wanting to let myself feel and be sad over
Grief around people in my life leaving but still on this planet. Thanks so much.
Hi...Your video is extremely soothing to grieving people like me. I lost my son to a bike accident..since then I ve been grappling with grief watching videos,reading stories on grief etc..your tips are so inspiring Steph..I am glad I align with your tips exactly..thank you..
Jesus is our only hope! This is my best friend's story!
Precious Memories- By Sonya Lakey
We had no idea that the evening of September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our oldest son played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for him (which he usually did for himself) for the church hike he was going on the following day.
My mom, who was visiting from out of state, and I got up early with him on Saturday morning to hug him and see him off. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own.
As he pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mom and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw our 16 year old son. He did not make it home that night.
That afternoon, a friend had tried to contact us, leaving a message on the phone to call back due to an emergency, but we really had no clue what was going on. And though we tried several times to return the call, we were not able to make a connection. As I helped prepare supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan and dread filled my heart, and I quietly blinked back tears. I looked out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pulling in, but no.
However, within minutes, a police car DID pull in our driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst, but I went outside to speak with him. He confirmed who I and my husband (who followed me out) were, then hesitantly told us our son had fallen off a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed.... Still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, we have such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son again. You see, even as a young boy, Ethan realized some very important truths from God's Word.
He had sinned against a righteous, holy and just God. The Bible says:
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that his sin separated him from God, and he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.” (Hebrews 10:31)
“For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)
He understood he could not pay the price for his sins.
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan realized that, 'though he could not pay the price for his sins, the price had already been paid in full by the blood of Jesus Christ, the Son of God. Jesus lived a perfectly sinless life. He had no fault of His own. But Jesus was crucified for our sins, and He took on Himself the sins of every person in the whole world. He was beaten, spit on, whipped, mocked, scourged, and nailed to the Cross of Calvary. He shed every drop of His righteous blood - because that was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous God - so we could be made righteous in Him. He suffered all of that so Ethan - and you and I - would not have to spend eternity in the Lake of Fire, but so we could spend eternity in Heaven with HIM! THAT is a great LOVE.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)
Jesus did not stay on the cross, nor did He stay in the tomb where His body was buried. Three days later, Jesus arose triumphant over sin and death and the grave. Ethan believed this with his whole heart, asked Jesus to forgive his sins, and he put his faith in Jesus Christ ALONE to save him from sin and eternal death and to take him to Heaven someday.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus and others. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. We know he is alive in Heaven with Jesus today, and we know we will see him again soon, not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day? Would your family, though grieving, be able to rejoice in the knowledge that they would see you again in Heaven, or would you be burning in Hell today?
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
Have YOU trusted Jesus as YOUR Saviour? Have you repented of your sins? Have you asked Jesus to forgive you so you can go to Heaven & not have to spend eternity in the Lake of Fire? Tomorrow may be too late. As Ethan pulled out of sight that morning, we had no idea we would never see him again in this life. None of us have the promise of tomorrow! Repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus alone - today!
“(For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2)
"Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away." James 4:14
I recommend this book available on Amazon, "Lessons From a Place of Pain: An Account of God's Healing Power and Restoration after a Great Loss"
This is the only video I've watched that's actually helped me
Thank you so much for this vid. Came across it while doing random searches for podcasts on grief. 🥺 It's now a month and couple of weeks that I lost my Mother. To say I'm okay would be a fat lie. I like your idea of sharing stories of me and her, and laughing about it. But even so - I find it hard. She took her final breath when I wasn't at home, after a struggle with dementia and losing herself. 😭😭 I struggle to think of fun moments cause there hadn't been for such a long time. I lost her a while ago, and grieved her everyday while she was still alive. Her real passing now has me grappling a lot. There aren't good memories, it's all overshadowed by dementia. ☹️😭🥺😭
I'm so sorry honey, I hope you've healed even a little bit since you wrote this. The mother loss is sth unbearable, I relate. I'm sure you can find beautiful moments w your mom before she got sick ? Lean in them, she's probably smiling remembering them too rn!..❤🌸
Thank you so much.
I've thrown the anger away.
In two hours I am saying goodbye to my partner of 20 years she passed away on Wednesday.
Neither of us are religious (where religious) yet in this country, Greece, a church
Jesus is our only hope! This is my best friend's story.
Precious Memories- By Sonya Lakey
We had no idea that the evening of September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our oldest son played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for him (which he usually did for himself) for the church hike he was going on the following day.
My mom, who was visiting from out of state, and I got up early with him on Saturday morning to hug him and see him off. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own.
As he pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mom and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw our 16 year old son. He did not make it home that night.
That afternoon, a friend had tried to contact us, leaving a message on the phone to call back due to an emergency, but we really had no clue what was going on. And though we tried several times to return the call, we were not able to make a connection. As I helped prepare supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan and dread filled my heart, and I quietly blinked back tears. I looked out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pulling in, but no.
However, within minutes, a police car DID pull in our driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst, but I went outside to speak with him. He confirmed who I and my husband (who followed me out) were, then hesitantly told us our son had fallen off a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed.... Still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, we have such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son again. You see, even as a young boy, Ethan realized some very important truths from God's Word.
He had sinned against a righteous, holy and just God. The Bible says:
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that his sin separated him from God, and he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.” (Hebrews 10:31)
“For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)
He understood he could not pay the price for his sins.
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan realized that, 'though he could not pay the price for his sins, the price had already been paid in full by the blood of Jesus Christ, the Son of God. Jesus lived a perfectly sinless life. He had no fault of His own. But Jesus was crucified for our sins, and He took on Himself the sins of every person in the whole world. He was beaten, spit on, whipped, mocked, scourged, and nailed to the Cross of Calvary. He shed every drop of His righteous blood - because that was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous God - so we could be made righteous in Him. He suffered all of that so Ethan - and you and I - would not have to spend eternity in the Lake of Fire, but so we could spend eternity in Heaven with HIM! THAT is a great LOVE.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)
Jesus did not stay on the cross, nor did He stay in the tomb where His body was buried. Three days later, Jesus arose triumphant over sin and death and the grave. Ethan believed this with his whole heart, asked Jesus to forgive his sins, and he put his faith in Jesus Christ ALONE to save him from sin and eternal death and to take him to Heaven someday.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus and others. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. We know he is alive in Heaven with Jesus today, and we know we will see him again soon, not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day? Would your family, though grieving, be able to rejoice in the knowledge that they would see you again in Heaven, or would you be burning in Hell today?
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
Have YOU trusted Jesus as YOUR Saviour? Have you repented of your sins? Have you asked Jesus to forgive you so you can go to Heaven & not have to spend eternity in the Lake of Fire? Tomorrow may be too late. As Ethan pulled out of sight that morning, we had no idea we would never see him again in this life. None of us have the promise of tomorrow! Repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus alone - today!
“(For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2)
"Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away." James 4:14
The five stages were never meant to apply to loss or death, they are to do with accepting diagnosis of a terminal illness. They are not linear and you can go back and forth, but really they were never meant for losing someone to death and have been misapplied for decades.
What system should be used then?
Excellent advice and much appreciated. Peace and love x
Definitely going to try the last two! Thank you so much for sharing this information! ❤️
The way you explain things is amazing. You really speak in a way we all can understand it. I believe as a kid I never really understood or taught how to deal with grief so now like I don’t get fazed by it or I do but unconsciously don’t know it.
These tips made me feel like there is nothing wrong with me when I've been thinking there is! I am in the isolation phase and have cut out so many people because I don't want everyone to be bothered by my grief. I lost my Dad in July 2020 and then my Godmother (my Dad's youngest sister) in May 2021 and I'm still struggling. Not only was I the first born, but my Dad and I were friends. My Aunt was there for me the most helping me get through losing my Dad as she was close with him too. Then when she left I felt like I had no one! I shut myself off, quit going home, and stopped keeping in touch. I hate hearing "you have to move on. They wouldn't want you sad like this." It's easier said than done. I used to keep a diary when I was younger and stopped but I will start again. Thank you for making this video
I lost my dad about 9 years ago I still miss him it gets easier but you will always miss him I hope you find some peace
I so appreciate your video. I currently have a client who is working through the loss of her mother and has had other losses before and after that devastating milestone. Your tips are very relevant and I think will prove helpful. Many thanks🙏
Thank you, Steph, for providing this valuable information about the grieving process! Also, thank you for giving some insight into beneficial coping strategies that help people throughout the process. Excellent work!!! - Jacqueline.
You are wonderful...so kind and wise. Thank you.
This was a great message to be shared. Lost my Grandfather 1/1/2017, Grandmother 11/16/20 and my stepdad 12/5/21. It’s been an tough time, BUT God continues to shine his light on my family. We have mourned but also focused on the LIFE they lived. I miss my baby deeply my Grandparents were truly my core, but working to love and work as they would want in all aspects of life. Thanks again 😍
Wow! I've heard of writing letters TO them (and I have) , but your suggestion to have them write back is such a GREAT idea !!!! I'm already imagining what my Dad, brother, and nephew would write back. And aside from those beautiful humans I've lost, I also REALLY need to do this with the precious doggies we've lost. There's something just a *bit* more painful about losing a beloved dog. Thank you so much----I hope writing letters back from them will help me in my extreme sadness.
Thank you for sharing your tips. My grandmother was killed last month by my younger brother and your video has given me the first, real advice in processing the double loss. I have been trying to find a therapist but my insurance will not cover online visits and most are still doing virtual sessions. Your advice is going to be helpful until I can find a grief group or a therapist. Thanks!
this was so helpful. thank you!! i look forward to incorporating these tips in my life after losing my grandmother
Hi Steph Anya! I really appreciate this video. Especially because It's hard finding grief videos with actual coping tips. Another great video 😊
I’m glad you found it helpful! ♥️
I lost my daughter last month on her birthday...im confused,im always sad,depressed,my wife is depressed and angry,im always staying busy but don't accomplish much,I dont sleep,just pass out...your all loved ,alwaus appreciate and love your family...
I'm so sorry to read this. I remember the intense overwhelming sadness I would feel that drove me to exhaustion as I tried to sleep after a sibling's suicide years ago.
Hey, thank you so much for this video. I appreciate these tips. This video was amazing. You’re the best. Thanks again!
You are so welcome! Thanks for watching!
Thank you for these tips! These are actually very helpful. I lost my dad almost 6 years ago and I had a hard time with it. This is very helpful
This the one! Thank you for the video!
These tips were helpful especially the last one. I lost my grandfather 3 months ago and I still cry everyday.
Just lost my sister 2 yrs younger suddenly 3 weeks ago.. I needed this!!👍🏾
Thank you for this video. My husband passed away a week ago and I am struggling.
Elizabeth Newton
1 year ago
I have left the earth,
But I am still about,
I kiss your cheek at night,
When your light is out.
I am the wind,
That blows in your hair,
I am spirit now,
I am near.
I sit on your shoulder,
I see all that you do,
My body is gone,
Still my love is with you.
When times are tough,
I hold your hand,
You are never alone,
Together we stand.
If you are in trouble,
I shall help you out,
I am your instinct
When you doubt.
I am the angel
Assigned to you,
You will never be alone,
For I am next to you.
I'm grieving too, my Mom died 5/1, are you feeling any better? I'm struggling
Thank you. It is exactly what I needed to know and hear. I lost my husband of 35+ years 13 months ago. I'm the type that is quiet and lacks sharing of how I feel. It has been a very difficult journey; however, I know that I will be able to pass through anything with Christ in my life. I know the norm is yet completely there and that in time I will get there. Again, thank you. I needed to hear that what is transpirimg, the stages you spoke of is normal. GOD Bless you. #onedayatatime
I came here looking for grief tips because I’m mourning a loss which is not death. I decided to just categorize it as death and grief so that I heal as such, and I’m sooo grateful that this is the first video I came across and as if the algorithm knew, you approached the subject as loss through whatever means and that is exactly what I need. Thank you sooooo much for this approach.
I seem to go through all the 5 stages of grief every day after my Mother, who was my house mate for 22 years, died one month ago.
This is so helpful!!! Thank you!
This is so helpful. I've lost so many people in my life and it is a daily struggle to keep going. ❤️
This helped me a lot. I lost the love of my life from an addiction that I didn’t really know about. I’ve wondered if I’m handling things right and this was encouraging for me to keep moving. Thank you.
True hope can only be found in Jesus Christ. He loves you more than you could ever know. I pray my best friend's story will help you.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find the contact info there. God bless!
Tribute to Ethan Lakey
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Thank you! Also, talking about their personality, positive qualities, likes and interests may help. The client who has lost someone can also name and express their own emotions depending on their comfort level, with the help of a professional grief therapist, or create art in art therapy
Some really good and insightful tips! Thank you for sharing these :)
Great tips, saved video so I can watch again.
I’m so glad that you found it helpful ♥️
I miss her so much.. 🕊️9-21-23… I love you Grammy
Thank you that good advice
I see this is an old video but this has given me more help than I can find!!! I can't find a grief group or therapist. I've lost all my family and the last close friend in September 2022. Thanks
Wow very helpful thank you!!
What a great video filled with good ideas! I am doing an internship now in mental health counseling and I feel very drawn to grief and bereavement therapy, so I am doing a lot of research and training right now. Thank you so much for sharing your ideas here. I'm very grateful!
Thank you so much for this kind comment! ♥️
The best thing you can do is to teach people about Jesus Christ. He is our only hope in this world. This is the story of my best friend. I pray it is a help to you in your studies.
Precious Memories-By Sonya Lakey
Family Story
Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
His Story
Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Your Story
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
“Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
“...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
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Thanks for this video. My next course I'm taking in my MFT program is grief
Thank you for your tips. My dad passed away September 9, 2020 from ALS at the age of 65. 😢😢😢
In 2020, I lost my mum the day after we were coming from my Grandmother's burial. The doctor said she was very sad and she thought of the loss of her mum too much so it struck her heart. So she died of a heart attack. Sometimes I forget that they are both gone at the same time, and I would wish to call my mum or my grandma and they are not there. It's so hard
I’m so sorry .. sending so much love & light your way 💜
What I found to be funny today is that I can go through all of this without even realizing that I'm grieving 🤦♀️ because the thing that happened was "less classic", so I didn't really think I was grieving.
Well, at least I'm processing this right! Will have closure. And there's a lot I can do to spare myself any further trauma. Good thing is that when I caught on to this today, I realized I'm close to acceptance! Very very close. I won't feel truly relieved till I know I'm there. I won't do anything to compromise that 😊 Yeah we will not be going back a stage here (And I know one doesn't have to go through all of them, or do it in order).
I gotta do the depression phase now. I'll try to cry and just ... Feel. Feel sorry for myself, that's the only way to process this and then I can move on with my life. 😊
Thank you for this!
Thank you for watching!
I lost my great grandmas when I was 8, and 13 , my friend in 2019 , my grandma in the beginning of 2020, my poppop last August, and my Samoyed last Wednesday
Very useful explanation. Welldone thanks
Thank you!
Thank you for your video. I lost my husband and am struggling with the fact that i no longer have my best friend whom i would talk to everyday. You gave me a great idea to text/journal him. I will start today.
Thank you, this was very helpful. I am definitely STUCK in my grief, and I'm exhausted !!!!! I KNOW I need to see a grief counselor and go to a support group, yet---I haven't (yet).
Great job!
Hello, thank You for this, journaling looks like thing I was looking for rn. My mother died 27 years ago when I was 4 and I probably just repressed it and distracting myself with addiction problems.
My boyfriend’s dad passed away in an unexpected and tragic way. We are taking a break in order for him to focus on his family and himself while grieving. I don’t blame him and I know it is the right thing to do especially since we’re long distance and he won’t be able to see me during such a sad and difficult time. I know we will come back to each other when he’s emotionally ready.
I still want to support him while he is grieving. and to anyone else going through the same thing, I’m so sorry for your loss and I’m praying for you to find peace. I know it doesn’t get any easier, I’m wishing healing for everyone who has lost a loved one. if there’s anything others have done for you that helped support you, feel free to let me know and advise me on how I can best support him. this video is already really helpful 🫶🏻
I could tell that you've experienced grief (in the the form of the death of a loved one) in the first few minutes of your video because of the way you approached the topic. Thank you for talking about this. I lost my mom & it's been 14 years but the pain still feels so fresh & I can't talk about her without fighting tears. Not sure where I am on the stages of grief at this point, I think I'm gearing towards Acceptance maybe? Writing/journaling about it does help. She was the love of my life & my best friend.
I understand, I've lost mine recently and I know I'll never stop grieving/crying. She was for me also what you describe about your mom. I hope they're happy rn and I wish you comfort and to always feel her love, bc she's your devoted angel!..
@@yvonneshanson1525 This brought tears to my eyes. I’m so sorry for your loss. And yes, you’re right, the grieving never really stops. I hope you find strength to cope and find comfort in these times. Sending warmth to you 💛
Lost my youngest daughter 3/1/21 she would've been 21 ...2wks later. I'm having a hard time. 😔💔😥😭
I am so sorry to hear about tour loss. Pay attention to how you’re feeling each day/moment, and don’t rush your process.
So sorry for your loss. God bless you and I'm praying for you.
So sorry for you loss. 🙏❤️🙏
I am sorry for your lost. We lost are son to covit19 in march. My heart is broken.
Jesus is our only hope. This is my best friend's story.
Precious Memories- By Sonya Lakey
We had no idea that the evening of September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our oldest son played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for him (which he usually did for himself) for the church hike he was going on the following day.
My mom, who was visiting from out of state, and I got up early with him on Saturday morning to hug him and see him off. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own.
As he pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mom and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw our 16 year old son. He did not make it home that night.
That afternoon, a friend had tried to contact us, leaving a message on the phone to call back due to an emergency, but we really had no clue what was going on. And though we tried several times to return the call, we were not able to make a connection. As I helped prepare supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan and dread filled my heart, and I quietly blinked back tears. I looked out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pulling in, but no.
However, within minutes, a police car DID pull in our driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst, but I went outside to speak with him. He confirmed who I and my husband (who followed me out) were, then hesitantly told us our son had fallen off a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed.... Still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, we have such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son again. You see, even as a young boy, Ethan realized some very important truths from God's Word.
He had sinned against a righteous, holy and just God. The Bible says:
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that his sin separated him from God, and he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.” (Hebrews 10:31)
“For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)
He understood he could not pay the price for his sins.
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan realized that, 'though he could not pay the price for his sins, the price had already been paid in full by the blood of Jesus Christ, the Son of God. Jesus lived a perfectly sinless life. He had no fault of His own. But Jesus was crucified for our sins, and He took on Himself the sins of every person in the whole world. He was beaten, spit on, whipped, mocked, scourged, and nailed to the Cross of Calvary. He shed every drop of His righteous blood - because that was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous God - so we could be made righteous in Him. He suffered all of that so Ethan - and you and I - would not have to spend eternity in the Lake of Fire, but so we could spend eternity in Heaven with HIM! THAT is a great LOVE.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)
Jesus did not stay on the cross, nor did He stay in the tomb where His body was buried. Three days later, Jesus arose triumphant over sin and death and the grave. Ethan believed this with his whole heart, asked Jesus to forgive his sins, and he put his faith in Jesus Christ ALONE to save him from sin and eternal death and to take him to Heaven someday.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus and others. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. We know he is alive in Heaven with Jesus today, and we know we will see him again soon, not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day? Would your family, though grieving, be able to rejoice in the knowledge that they would see you again in Heaven, or would you be burning in Hell today?
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
Have YOU trusted Jesus as YOUR Saviour? Have you repented of your sins? Have you asked Jesus to forgive you so you can go to Heaven & not have to spend eternity in the Lake of Fire? Tomorrow may be too late. As Ethan pulled out of sight that morning, we had no idea we would never see him again in this life. None of us have the promise of tomorrow! Repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus alone - today!
“(For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2)
"Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away." James 4:14
Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
I lost my husband on 24th March this year. It is soo painful. I am not sure how will I carry on especially when i look at our Boys.
Thank you for this video.
These tips are helpful. I lost my wife July, 2021 at the young age of 49, to breast cancer. I’ve really been struggling. So I’m thankful for any help I can get. A few weeks later, my best friend also died from bone cancer. Making it even worse.
I'm really sorry about what happened to you.
I'm so sorry. I am so glad that you reached out for help.
Thank you
Anya is such a lovely name, means Love goddess in Irish thanks for your helpful video
Thank you. I think your tips are very helpful. I lost my sister very suddenly and unexpectedly to cancer a few months ago, hot on the heels of loss of my father. I feel like my heart has been torn out of my chest I am definitely going to try journalling for both deaths, it should help air and settle my emotions, I hope.
Update: although I don't have an attractive singing voice, I have found singing very helpful to give vent to my feelings.
Thank you for this video, you are valued! I hope you can realize the difference you are making with your videos on this platform and your work.
I have noticed one of the hardest times is upon waking. After hearing that so many others find this to be true I wonder if there is anything you could suggest? (Can be a panicky or dread or anxious "can't get out of bed or put one foot in front of other/ physically nauseous vomiting bile at times" type of feeling )
I have a hard time in the mornings too, I'm grieving the death of my Mom on 5/1 I'm also struggling with depression, I get up way too early, I'm lost
I'm finding this year so hard. It's 10yr anniversary of the death of my dad, mum and grandfather. I'm also grieving the end of long term friendships. I'm also dealing with a family friends cancer diagnosis. I was depressed and anxiety for many many years. I've gone through the stages if grief it's just hard this year with triggers including unemployment, sadness and dissociation. Thanks for video
@Amy_Stanmore I can 100 percent agree with the feelings of losing both of your parents because I just lost mine back-to-back within the same year and it's been hard!
Thank you 😭💔
Thank you for sharing this video I’m a intern clinician and have heard this in my courses yet and I’m already seeing clients. I have been feeling unprepared, this video was very insightful thank you !!
Jesus is our only hope! This is my best friend's story and how her family copes.
Precious Memories- By Sonya Lakey
We had no idea that the evening of September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our oldest son played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for him (which he usually did for himself) for the church hike he was going on the following day.
My mom, who was visiting from out of state, and I got up early with him on Saturday morning to hug him and see him off. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own.
As he pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mom and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw our 16 year old son. He did not make it home that night.
That afternoon, a friend had tried to contact us, leaving a message on the phone to call back due to an emergency, but we really had no clue what was going on. And though we tried several times to return the call, we were not able to make a connection. As I helped prepare supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan and dread filled my heart, and I quietly blinked back tears. I looked out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pulling in, but no.
However, within minutes, a police car DID pull in our driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst, but I went outside to speak with him. He confirmed who I and my husband (who followed me out) were, then hesitantly told us our son had fallen off a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed.... Still are.
Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, we have such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son again. You see, even as a young boy, Ethan realized some very important truths from God's Word.
He had sinned against a righteous, holy and just God. The Bible says:
“For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
He understood that his sin separated him from God, and he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
“It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.” (Hebrews 10:31)
“For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)
He understood he could not pay the price for his sins.
“For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Ethan realized that, 'though he could not pay the price for his sins, the price had already been paid in full by the blood of Jesus Christ, the Son of God. Jesus lived a perfectly sinless life. He had no fault of His own. But Jesus was crucified for our sins, and He took on Himself the sins of every person in the whole world. He was beaten, spit on, whipped, mocked, scourged, and nailed to the Cross of Calvary. He shed every drop of His righteous blood - because that was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous God - so we could be made righteous in Him. He suffered all of that so Ethan - and you and I - would not have to spend eternity in the Lake of Fire, but so we could spend eternity in Heaven with HIM! THAT is a great LOVE.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)
Jesus did not stay on the cross, nor did He stay in the tomb where His body was buried. Three days later, Jesus arose triumphant over sin and death and the grave. Ethan believed this with his whole heart, asked Jesus to forgive his sins, and he put his faith in Jesus Christ ALONE to save him from sin and eternal death and to take him to Heaven someday.
“For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus and others. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. We know he is alive in Heaven with Jesus today, and we know we will see him again soon, not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day? Would your family, though grieving, be able to rejoice in the knowledge that they would see you again in Heaven, or would you be burning in Hell today?
The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
Have YOU trusted Jesus as YOUR Saviour? Have you repented of your sins? Have you asked Jesus to forgive you so you can go to Heaven & not have to spend eternity in the Lake of Fire? Tomorrow may be too late. As Ethan pulled out of sight that morning, we had no idea we would never see him again in this life. None of us have the promise of tomorrow! Repent of your sins and put your faith in Jesus alone - today!
“(For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2)
"Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away." James 4:14
Thank you! This was very helpful. I lost my mom 2 months ago.
I'm grieving the death of my Mom too, on 5/1 I'm so lost and I'm struggling with depression
Thanks for the info help me a lot
Hope you’ve found peace and happiness again?
Very GOOD!!!👍
Thank you for watching! ♥️
Good advice!
The stages of grief that you talk of is actually for people who have had a terminal illness diagnosis. Loss of a loved one stages of grief are loss and trying to get one’s life back.
You are absolutely correct.
That was excellent ❤️
Thank you, honey 😘
thank u very much
Great tips, thanks for covering this topic. ❤️
Thanks for watching ♥️
Sorry for your loss prays going up for you🙏🏾 And thanks for the video I’m grieving the loss of my Sons mental health, he can get angry hit people and he wont take his medications I’m afraid someone will delete him😢 I have co-dependency issues towards my adult kids I’m doing all I can to prepare myself 💜
I take mephanimic acid... Or take whatever non-addictive over the counter pain reliever you have. It helps when your chest feels gripped and broken. In the brain, physical pain is the same as emotional pain so a pain reliever actually helps. At you won't be so incapacitated... Hugs to everyone hurting we'll get through this
A hug might help
This gave me TERRIBLE stomach pain each time I used it. When you look at the effects it tells you it can cause gastrointestinal bleeding and stomach perforation. Such a strong painkiller to begin with. Painkillers are not a good recommendation for emotional pain, even if it’s something you feel works for you.
At the end of 2022 we loss my step sister and niece (her teenage daughter) in a tragic house fire. In Feb 2023 I was compelled to make an 88th birthday party for my grandma ❤ I’m grateful for the spirit guides who prompted me to make that party because it was the last birthday party we had for her - she passed away in September. Unexpectedly my big puppy passed away in early November and my mama also unexpectedly passed away 10 days later 😞 soo much loss in less than 1 year and I’m trying so hard to be present for my graduating daughters. I don’t want to be pitied. I want peace, encouragement and inspiration.
Thank you for this video. I just lost my Mom on, August 29, 2023
Thank u i will write the letter
I just wrote a letter and I feel a lot better
Lost my Grandpa 1/5/12 my Grandma 12/10/12 and my Dad 12/23/12. I was a wreck and never got help. My mom was sick and I've been with her since I was born 11/19/74 till her second stoke on 2.26/22. I brought her home and me and my friend took care of her from 2/27/23 to 3/18/23 when she died. I am beyond crushed over this because I wasn't there for her like I shout have been after she lost her husband. My mom deserved better and her last 10 years wasn't great so that's were my emotions are.
I lost my friendship with a man who I loved because he was my crush about a year and a half ago. I loved him and i miss him so much.
I'm watching this because my dad passed away tuesday, he got an aneurysm last sunday and I don't know what to do, I feel major guilt about the time I didn't spend with him, about the times he asked me to do something for him, like go to the store where I was annoyed, and now I wish I could do that
I literally saw his body at the morgue but it looked like a doll, it didn't look like my dad one bit and I thought it was gonna bring closure to see him there, but I'm still in denial and thinking of ways to talk to him or like "if that wouldn't have happened, he wouldn't xyz and then the aneurysm would've had a different outcome" as if I can haggle to bring him back
to be fair I'm waiting to wake up and run to him and say "you wouldn't believe what nightmare I had!!!!"