Uncoupled -- Dealing with the Death of a Spouse

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  • čas přidán 16. 06. 2014
  • This video is helpful for the bereaved who have experienced the death of a partner or spouse. You will meet four bereaved spouses have experienced their grief, what has helped them and ways they honor and keep connections with the memories of their spouses.
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  • @yodi101010
    @yodi101010 Před 3 lety +276

    10 months ago, I went to bed early. My wife kissed me and said that she'd be back after she took a bath. I woke up the next morning and could hear the shower still running. An instant heart attack had taken her away from me forever. She was 56 years old. We were together for 26 years, but we'd been friends since we were little. We didn't have children. I am now 60 and I live every day knowing that I'll be alone for the rest of my life. People around me have no idea. I seem fine at work and around friends. I am anything but fine. I am very sad and I am so alone. I didn't see it coming.

    • @WeepingWidowSueAna
      @WeepingWidowSueAna Před rokem +19

      I am so sorry Jerry. This breaks my heart. I feel the same though - every day is the constant miserable reminder that I will be alone the rest of my life. It's awful. Just awful. Just checking on you... how are you now? I know it is still hard but just wanted to see how you're doing after a year. I lost my beloved husband 3 months ago and we had no children either. It's beyond difficult. I didn't see his death coming in a million years!

    • @sandrawilde6088
      @sandrawilde6088 Před rokem +7

      Same with myself!

    • @savannahleggett5603
      @savannahleggett5603 Před rokem +10

      1 day ago I lost my step dad from a heart attack he was 56 loved animals so now I have to do his job and take care of the dog .but it just doesn’t feel real the house feels empty my mom is really sad but he is in a better place but it hurts

    • @COSkywatch
      @COSkywatch Před rokem +18

      Just lost my wife of 26 years of an apparent heart attack. Awaiting coroner. It is so so painful.

    • @ThomasSmith-hh8fp
      @ThomasSmith-hh8fp Před rokem +24

      I am 59, and lost my Alice 4 years ago, may 16th, 2019. I can't get over my pain, and no one knows. I put on my fake smile, and carry on 363 days of each year. I take 2 days to myself and vanish-.i don't want anyone to see the Real me inner destroyed.. I can't help it. I miss my Alice, and refuse tolet go, and date again.

  • @novotony1234
    @novotony1234 Před rokem +79

    No one understands unless you go through it. You are forever changed. My heart is forever broken.

    • @kayjones6147
      @kayjones6147 Před 11 měsíci +8

      Absolutely true. There's no way anyone could possibly understand what one experiences when you lose your beloved. It is as though one has walked through a door that closes behind you, locked tightly and you will never again go back through that door.

    • @petervankauwenbergh3375
      @petervankauwenbergh3375 Před 7 dny

      God bless you both with peace and healing.

  • @petelovesbevsills
    @petelovesbevsills Před rokem +75

    When the love between you and your spouse/partner has been so incredibly deep and meaningful it is the survivor who pays the ultimate price. They leave the biggest hole imaginable in your life and the only way forward is to try to glue the shattered pieces back together, albeit unrecognisable, and slowly learn to live around that hole which will never ever be filled again.

    • @kayjones6147
      @kayjones6147 Před 11 měsíci +9

      I agree 100%. But I have often said that the loss of my beloved husband and best friend had only one positive. It was that he went first, not me.
      I would never ever wanted him to experience this deep depression and loss if I had died first.

    • @petelovesbevsills
      @petelovesbevsills Před 11 měsíci +5

      @@kayjones6147 I couldn't agree with you more. Their suffering mercifully ended and ours started. It will only end when we are no longer but thank goodness there will always be incomparably wonderful memories to recall.

    • @jeffmykytiuk5642
      @jeffmykytiuk5642 Před 9 měsíci +7

      You said that beautifully. It is the survivor who pays the ultimate price. My wife and I met in freshman year of high school. We married two years later. We were together a total of 45 years. It's been a year and a half since she passed. That hole will never be filled and no one understands AT ALL unless they've been through it.

    • @patriciahowellstegall8800
      @patriciahowellstegall8800 Před 8 měsíci +4

      Your reflection of being ‘the survivor’ describes my life. Lost my husband 2 years ago (Covid pneumonia) .. diagnosed with Covid 19 on a Friday and I lost him 4 days later. I miss him dearly.
      I treasure every memory of our life as ‘one’.

    • @bellamarie3209
      @bellamarie3209 Před 7 měsíci

      ​@@kayjones6147I feel you. I just lost my husband of 16 yrs. last Oct. 11th '23. It was cardiac arrest. He was 11 yrs. older. Knowing him as a quiet person I was kinda praying to God not to take me first. Because I just didn't want him to be sad and take it all to himself. I love him so much. I gave it all. I supported him in everything he wanted to do. I'm just sad God took him way too soon. I painfully miss him. I decided to keep his ashes with me. That way I get to hug him anytime especially when I miss.him so badly.

  • @tranquility9325
    @tranquility9325 Před 6 lety +224

    Good bless everyone in here who has had a loss. May you feel peace you never thought you would find.

    • @patrickgallagher3859
      @patrickgallagher3859 Před 2 lety +1

      Thank you I lost my wife to cancer it's been over 5 years and I still have many problems from it

    • @angiesandovalzuniga7220
      @angiesandovalzuniga7220 Před 2 lety +1

      Thank you I recently lost my husband on 6/2/22. I’m looking for help in dealing with this

    • @prophetesslisasmithministr2725
      @prophetesslisasmithministr2725 Před rokem +2

      @@angiesandovalzuniga7220 I loss mine husband the 6/5/2022 it hurts so bad. I've been praying kids are taking it hard too.

    • @angiesandovalzuniga7220
      @angiesandovalzuniga7220 Před rokem +1

      @@prophetesslisasmithministr2725 oh my goodness so close. We still have 3 younger kids. I can say I know what you all are going through. A million questions, a million wishes to do things over, and it still does not seem true. The only thing holding me up are the prayers of others and me trying to call on Jesus. And of course my kids, they make me smile. I’ll be praying for you 🤍

    • @prophetesslisasmithministr2725
      @prophetesslisasmithministr2725 Před rokem +2

      @@angiesandovalzuniga7220 Amen same here.Jesus is it.

  • @decaalv
    @decaalv Před 6 lety +469

    I am 35. I lost my 36 year old wife las 12 of January 2018 of cardiac arrest after she went to swimming lessons. Today is the first day that I don't cry like a baby in the shower or while making breakfast. I relate a lot with the young fellow on this video. On her last day she was upset with me because I had worked until the wee hours of the morning instead of going to bed with her. We have a 4 year old kid. She was planning his birthday party. One of the hardest things to do has been to pick up that where she left. I searched for a video like this because the silence at home is eating me alive.

    • @noahmartinez5078
      @noahmartinez5078 Před 5 lety +40

      My heart hurts for you mate. I don't know if you're a religious man but may God watch over you and your son.

    • @SpaceCadet4Jesus
      @SpaceCadet4Jesus Před 5 lety +34

      I lost my wife yesterday and have the same devastation and crying as you had. In order to regain my life I'm starting to be busy at home, listening to grief resolution videos, exercising, getting out of the house and praying to God for help. Like the weather, there will be rain, thunderstorms and lightning, but they will eventually not predominate my life and when the clouds start to break, I will experience the sunshine and warm weather.

    • @jassupremido5378
      @jassupremido5378 Před 5 lety +46

      My wife just died last August 7 after our 8th year anniversarry last August 5. True the silence is eating us alive. I've been drunk almost everyday since the day she left. My wife is the only Love of my life. I want her back.

    • @SpaceCadet4Jesus
      @SpaceCadet4Jesus Před 5 lety +40

      @@jassupremido5378 Please honor your wife with sobriety. Two wrongs won't make one right. You can't fix one problem by introducing another problem. You know that.

    • @snncantu
      @snncantu Před 5 lety +23

      I understand you. I'm 31, he was 33, one month ago. He was my everything. Got married 2 years ago, after a 9 year relationship. We loved each other so much. Our one month old baby boy help me keep going, but is been so hard, his death was so sudden I don't know if I will be able yo overcome and feel peace.

  • @sectortech12b8
    @sectortech12b8 Před 7 měsíci +21

    I recently lost my wife of 46 years, she was in home hospice for a year and I cared for her, the grief can be overwhelming, I loved her so much, I miss her terribly

    • @joanneschultz5876
      @joanneschultz5876 Před 5 měsíci +1

      I lost my husband 2 weeks ago and I don't know how to do this

    • @user-zp8ee8oy7m
      @user-zp8ee8oy7m Před 2 měsíci +1

      DEATH IS NOT THE END THE SOUL KEEPS ON LIVING GOD BLESS YOU, SHE WOULD WANT YOU TO CONTINUE THIS JOURNEY DOING YOUR BEST .

    • @sabrinaclarus6290
      @sabrinaclarus6290 Před měsícem

      @@joanneschultz5876 I am so sorry for your loss... try to be strong...I lost the love of my life, my dear husband 1 week ago and I don't know how to do this either....I miss him so much

  • @pamatkinson6466
    @pamatkinson6466 Před 3 lety +135

    I lost my husband 21 days ago - we were married for 40 years. I cry so unexpectedly and at such odd times. Amazing how the word "Uncoupled" captures everything.

    • @chrisjohnson2246
      @chrisjohnson2246 Před 3 lety

      I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

    • @christianpulisic7784
      @christianpulisic7784 Před 3 lety

      Pam Atkinson,I'm so sorry dear 🙏🙏🙏

    • @Mranstedsf
      @Mranstedsf Před rokem +6

      I'm coming up on the one year anniversary . I don't want to face that I haven't seen him for a year.I was in the hospital with Covid and he was walking to the hospital, mugged and killed. I never saw him again, only ashes. I ever saw a casket or funeral.I ask him in my nightly.prayerabout specific things and the answer always comes in a dream or some other way. I have some of his beautiful hair in a velvet pouch I keep by my pillow I said goodbye as they put me in an ambulance and never saw him again.So that makes the reality hard. I can't listen to music we shared.Music was a huge part of our lives. His picture is always in my pocket or near my pillow but I cry when I see it. We planned to travel but not alone. He would be so sad if he was here and saw what the effects of COVID have been I try to make him proud of me

    • @cyndimoring9389
      @cyndimoring9389 Před rokem +6

      @@Mranstedsf beautiful. Yes they want the best for us and are around us. I lost my love 6 months ago and he's come in dreams to tell me he's with me. I cry almost daily with little to no warning. I think of grief as a rollercoaster and I'm a captive on it, just waiting.

    • @exbritishforcespatriotscha7723
      @exbritishforcespatriotscha7723 Před 10 měsíci +1

      It does get easier,For days after I used to get two cups out of the cupboard to make a cuppa and the little things bring back memories,3 years now but still sometimes feel sad.

  • @bessiejones5432
    @bessiejones5432 Před rokem +21

    I'm going to always have nobody at my back, he was the air in my lungs my protection in this cold unforgiving world.

    • @donnapittman2650
      @donnapittman2650 Před 3 měsíci +3

      I totally understand your pain. I lost my husband of 35 yrs 7 mos ago. He was my everything. My husband, friend, brother, father. I am lost and scared without him. The feeling of homesickness. He was my home. Prayers for courage and strength to everyone that has to endure this heartbreaking chapter in our lives.

  • @fryaxoof2521
    @fryaxoof2521 Před 11 měsíci +19

    It has been a long time since my husband died. I still love and miss him but after all of this time I find that I’m alone. Don’t isolate yourself, try to go forward. I’m 72 without a companion to share these senior years with. Don’t make my mistake, move forward with your life. There is someone out there that needs you.

  • @rickshouseofbeauty
    @rickshouseofbeauty Před 2 lety +70

    We lost my wife almost 7 months ago to a drunk driver. It hurts me so much. She was a perfect wife and we had 2 perfect kids together. Life was never better. I just hurts... all day

    • @saharafriesen3927
      @saharafriesen3927 Před 2 měsíci +1

      So sorry for all those who have lost their partner.😢

  • @aprilevett5364
    @aprilevett5364 Před 5 lety +66

    posting this from my fiancee's account, she and i were together for seven years. She passed away 4 days ago now from a terrible car accident on the way home from work. i had no intention of sharing but after seeing so many people share i feel i need to show people we aren't all alone. i'm sorry everyone. i'm so sorry.

    • @SpaceCadet4Jesus
      @SpaceCadet4Jesus Před 5 lety +3

      Your feelings are understood and deeply shared among all of us as we grieve over our loved ones. I thought today would be a good day, but its been dissolved in tears, loud crying and calling her name over a text I just read informing people of her passing (nearly three months ago) . So so difficult. I had to watch this video again to get some composure. So sorry for your loss, it hits deep.

    • @lindybean2225
      @lindybean2225 Před 4 lety

      I'm so sorry!

  • @BORNHairProducts
    @BORNHairProducts Před 7 lety +191

    Thank you for this video. I lost my sweet husband of 10 years only 3 months ago due to a drunk driver killing him in an accident and I understand every single story. No one who has not lost a spouse that they truly love can understand the raw pain of losing your soulmate. Only Jesus Christ can help me through this pain. God bless you all.

    • @hask2112
      @hask2112 Před 6 lety +9

      I agree..I lost my wife 6 months ago ..I am lost without her.. I hope you are ok

    • @jessicabreedlove4273
      @jessicabreedlove4273 Před 5 lety +5

      I lost mine 5 days ago. I feel for you all..

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 5 lety +7

      how are you doing now? hope you are ok.

    • @RedBeardTattoo
      @RedBeardTattoo Před 5 lety +6

      I lost my wife less then a month ago, I'm totally lost without her, I hold onto my Faith for strength. I'll be praying for you to find strength & understanding.

    • @deannverma4295
      @deannverma4295 Před 4 lety +3

      I lost my husband.becuse he didn't have insurance

  • @TheLuckyBooy
    @TheLuckyBooy Před 5 lety +39

    I lost my 27 years old husband to cancer few months ago... it doesn’t get easier with time , I wish if I could die just to be with him

    • @mightymouse2098
      @mightymouse2098 Před rokem

      Danial R the grieving process seems to be long and that is what it is all about. Our love never leaves us for our partners. I do not want a boyfriend or husband I married for life, one love one life.

  • @user-zj1ig9ni3r
    @user-zj1ig9ni3r Před rokem +14

    I can so relate to these People after losing my beloved husband 3 months ago. It still doesn’t feel real. He was my best friend of 26 years together. I will love him forever. I miss him so much.

    • @kayjones6147
      @kayjones6147 Před 11 měsíci +1

      As to your expression that it doesn't feel real, I said almost the same to my daughter not long after my husband, her Dad had passed away and she said back to me " Mother I think the best word to describe what you are feeling is the word surreal."
      And that was it exactly.

  • @JillLalande
    @JillLalande Před 3 lety +20

    Twenty years ago this November I lost my husband unexpectedly in a pedestrian/car accident. I found myself 35 and widowed with an eight, eleven, and thirteen year old. Because I was so busy being worried about the children, his loss didn’t fully hit ME until the second year. You grieve in your own time. You never “get over it” but learn to live with it. Twenty years and typing this still brings tears to my eyes. You’re never the same once you’ve lost the one that you love. Everyone in this video is right - no one really knows what to say unless they’ve lived it themselves. Even then, all they know is their own experience, which may not be your own. I offer a big silent hug to everyone here who has shared their own pain.

    • @SpaceCadet4Jesus
      @SpaceCadet4Jesus Před 3 lety

      So true, Jill. You never get over it, you just adapt. Losing a deeply embedded loved one is not like losing a favorite toy or belonging. It's much more profoundly life changing and the grieving process differs in time and amplitude for all of us. I do feel it's good to cry though, to let out the pent up emotions and not to run away. Healing comes as we express our mourning and grief as you have been doing. Sorry for your loss Jill.

  • @BlueMoon-xh9vu
    @BlueMoon-xh9vu Před 4 lety +30

    No words can describe these feelings of loss and pain ...feeling so alone 😭😭

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 4 lety +2

      how are you...know that we are here. when youre down pls know that you are not alone. my heart goes out to you. im ready to listen. take care of yourself.

  • @fshafly2
    @fshafly2 Před rokem +43

    My wife of 51 years is nearing her end. She has incurable lung cancer, tough because she (nor I) never smoked. I watch these grieving videos hoping to find out how I can better cope and understand my feelings when she is no longer with me. We don't have children. I've always been comfortable being alone when she was off with her sister and friends (alone but not lonely). But in the back of my mind I knew she was always there... We knew our wonderful ride would not last forever.

    • @fjb6631
      @fjb6631 Před rokem +2

      Coping is the hardest part

    • @fshafly2
      @fshafly2 Před rokem +4

      @@fjb6631 It's been 6 months since my wife passed away. I don't cry much anymore, but tears are coming down as I type. I still get triggered when I come across long-ago friends who ask how "we" are doing. The stress overwhelmed me as evidenced by abnormal blood work (normal all my life) 5 months ago. Recent tests showed that I don't have cancer or disease and that it was likely stress-related. It's been tough coping, but I am going to get through this...

    • @elizabethdavidson6589
      @elizabethdavidson6589 Před rokem +3

      @@fshafly2 Prayers are with you. Lost my husband three years ago and it gets easier but always a difficult time. I dont think you ever really get over it. I discuss it a lot with God.

    • @jacruick
      @jacruick Před rokem +3

      Sending you prayers…. My husband succumbed to his illness 5 months ago, after 42 years together. A new chapter has begun for me, it still so very hard ….

    • @RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper
      @RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper Před rokem +1

      ​@@fshafly2 I'm sorry she died... I will keep you in my prayers.

  • @donnastone727
    @donnastone727 Před 3 lety +9

    My Darling and cherished husband of more than 41 years passed away suddenly at home on the Sunday morning of 18 April 2021 - my efforts to save him failed. I am in so much pain I don’t know how I’m going to survive without him in my world. I know he’s not here but I can’t accept his absence. I have children and grandchildren who love me and who are doing everything they can to comfort and support me, yet all I want is to be with my Darling. I keep desperately searching for a way to cope, and hearing these personal stories lets me know that my experience is sadly, not unique.

    • @Good-DaySunshine
      @Good-DaySunshine Před 2 lety +1

      I'm so sorry Donna. 😥 It will be 4 yrs in Dec for me and in a way it doesn't feel that long...but sometimes I'm glad time is going so fast (or my perception of it) because each tick of the clock puts me closer to him.

    • @donnastone727
      @donnastone727 Před 2 lety

      @@Good-DaySunshine I totally agree ❤️

    • @donnastone727
      @donnastone727 Před 2 lety

      @Morgan Chase thank you for your concern. I’m still here so I guess that says something. It’s a long journey to the other side and I don’t know when my time will come to cross over, but for now I feel my Darling is here with me in Spirit, giving me strength to last another day until the universe lets us reunite 💞

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday!!!

  • @maryannedebono4772
    @maryannedebono4772 Před 3 lety +40

    I lost my husband, my rock, my soulmate and the love of my life a week ago today! At this very moment, I’m in a state of speechlessness. I can’t talk! My days are a roller coaster! I’m scared of the life I have to face on my own. I’m scared of the pain, loneliness and sadness! I don’t know how I’m going to cope! I just wish that I could go, too!

    • @nessaparris581
      @nessaparris581 Před 2 lety +3

      I lost my beautiful wife friend and soulmate 23 days ago there is not a day that goes by that i dont think about you i love u unconditionally my love i was always by ur side until u felt asleep the last name u called was mines that was to prove ur love to me dont worry my love god would reunite us to finish what we started everyday suicidal thoughts does be in my head but that wouldnt be the best solution we have a son and u left me here to be with him i would try to be strong for him i love u kimberly then now and forever till we meet again in heaven

    • @geraldine3177
      @geraldine3177 Před 2 lety +1

      I’m so sorry for your loss. My husbands funeral was on Saturday so 4 days ago. I’m heartbroken lost and don’t know what to do or say

  • @loribecchi8819
    @loribecchi8819 Před 9 lety +152

    Hearing what these people have said at least makes you feel that all these feelings are normal after a spouse passes and that you are not crazy or alone in these feelings.Thank you for that..

    • @thomsonsmith95
      @thomsonsmith95 Před rokem

      Hello Lori

    • @cyndimoring9389
      @cyndimoring9389 Před rokem +1

      yes, it's important to feel the feelings as they come or they will make you ill. I think of it as ocean waves that I just have to bend with.

  • @Rooster1508
    @Rooster1508 Před 5 lety +82

    I lost my wife this morning, December 7, 2018. We were a team for 53 years. She was my "help mate" We did everything together. We worked on cars together. We ran a small electronics business together. She died from a sudden an unexpected heart attack. At this point I do no want to move on. I just want to continue to love her for what she was. A kind an helpful person to everyone. When I die it will be, in part, from a broken heart.

    • @user-mc6zk8tc8c
      @user-mc6zk8tc8c Před 5 lety +1

      I hope you're doing well

    • @Rooster1508
      @Rooster1508 Před 5 lety +4

      @@user-mc6zk8tc8c I am a little better. Sleeping better, eating better. Family members in the area have been a lot of help. I also attended a church goop that is working with people who have lost loved ones. They were very helpful. She was my near consent companion. We worked together and played together, she was my "help mate" and best friend. This may seem a little odd. But, it may be best that she left this earth before me. Because, as much as I loved her, I think she loved me more and my death first would have been very, very hard on her.

    • @user-mc6zk8tc8c
      @user-mc6zk8tc8c Před 5 lety +2

      @@Rooster1508 Well, we all have to go oneday. That's what I tell myself when I'm sad about my boyfriend. We've only been together for 2 years. That still doesn't make the pain any less. Don't know if I'll ever love someone again. Everybody keeps telling me how young and pretty I am, how I have time and I'll meet someone, those words just make me sick.
      I hope we both get better over time and the pain truely get easier as people say it would. That's what I'm waiting for. Goodluck with everything

    • @Rooster1508
      @Rooster1508 Před 5 lety +4

      @@user-mc6zk8tc8c I am a little better. One of the things that has helped me had been my reflections on her life. She was true to herself, in that she loved her family and worked tirelessly in support of them. Further help for me is when I look at photos of her with our children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. I can remember how happy she was being with them. I think things will get better as we build new memories, adjusted to the new reality.
      It is very hard for people to help without the experience themselves.

    • @SpaceCadet4Jesus
      @SpaceCadet4Jesus Před 5 lety +4

      @@Rooster1508 Could we have been married to the same woman? :-) Description fits well. All I can say is we are in the same boat of grief. So here.. Take this paddle, I'll take the other one and start rowing… Let's get out of here. (Seriously, we've had so many life threatening medical problems over 30 years that if we didn't have a sense of humor, we would of gone crazy.)

  • @ry491
    @ry491 Před rokem +5

    Two years ago I lost my wonderful wife to cancer . We were married for 56 glorious years . She eas my world , my everything. We were hardly ever apart . Now I am feel lost , insecure and fear for the future . I will always be married to her . Nothing and no one could ever tske her place . My darling Janet , wait for me . I pray that finally we can spend eternity together ... I love you xx

  • @larryalexander2642
    @larryalexander2642 Před 3 lety +24

    I lost my wife last Tuesday night. Just five days but the longest saddest days in my life. I can’t sleep or eat. I just wish I had woken her up to say how much I loved her. She was in declining health but the night she passed was like most every night before that night. She passed away in her sleep and I know she’s in Gods embrace but I can’t stop crying. I will never get over this.

    • @SpaceCadet4Jesus
      @SpaceCadet4Jesus Před 3 lety +4

      😥😥 Reminds me too much of myself and the same loss over one year ago. Sitting silently and tearfully beside you in grief! 😞

    • @chrisjohnson2246
      @chrisjohnson2246 Před 3 lety

      @KnVsMom I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

  • @misstbikini
    @misstbikini Před 3 měsíci +5

    The grief is unbearable and the financial and stuff mess makes it hard to grieve, im beyond words. I lost him Tuesday 💔

  • @commsofficial3226
    @commsofficial3226 Před 4 lety +46

    My husband died 3 weeks and 3 days ago. I can never stop loving him

    • @chrisjohnson2246
      @chrisjohnson2246 Před 3 lety +1

      I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

    • @margaretcole8728
      @margaretcole8728 Před 3 lety

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    • @margaretcole8728
      @margaretcole8728 Před 3 lety

      P

    • @margaretcole8728
      @margaretcole8728 Před 3 lety

      Lpll

    • @diannsellers7038
      @diannsellers7038 Před 3 lety +2

      The good news is you don’t have to stop loving him.

  • @bruin2112
    @bruin2112 Před 6 lety +71

    I lost my wife and best friend on 11/12/13. I saw a bit of myself in all four people in the video. People who haven't been through such a loss can never understand. The lady who said she got a dog really stuck with me. I think it's time for a german shepherd new best friend. Rescue of course. I miss you Jessica.

    • @irenefeltham8984
      @irenefeltham8984 Před 3 lety +3

      You will be so healed to find a rescue German Shepherd. I don’t know where you are, but here The German Shepherd Club also have a Rescue side, I hope you will find a new Friend to fill just a little space in your Heart✨🌹💕🦴🦋👄🐾🐾

    • @shadowwoman7605
      @shadowwoman7605 Před 8 měsíci +1

      I’m sorry for your loss, my anniversary was this past September. I also struggle with depression and been having suicidal thoughts but to do this to my husband of 29 years hurts more and I try to ignore them but it’s hard. I have two daughters and one son. All grown and out the house. I struggle with them thoughts. I’m sorry your loss 🥺

  • @resaboutb.9566
    @resaboutb.9566 Před 8 lety +64

    "Until death do you part" is so real; during my wedding vows on December 31, 1980, I spoke those words and never realized the truth of them. I lost my husband to a heart attack in July 2014; he was hospitalized four weeks and until the moment he passed, I always believed he'd come home. I still have moments of unrelenting grief. It does get easier, but then I feel guilty that it's gotten easier -- is that common? I don't know.

    • @2explore1
      @2explore1 Před 5 lety +7

      It is so true what the Bible says: "The two will become one" And the pain and grief from losing a mate is the worse pain of all.

    • @mugsysmom62
      @mugsysmom62 Před rokem +1

      It’s a new normal but it doesn’t get easier for me anyway 9-7-61 sunrise sunset 4-8-2011

    • @nuttynora182
      @nuttynora182 Před 11 měsíci

      Yes it is normal. It's like one step forward and wham...guilt...dont let it take u in.... guilt can rear its ugly head anytime for anything...losing someone who is an enormous presence in your life is a roller coaster ride...ups and downs....hang on!

    • @PerpetuaFraser-tx9tc
      @PerpetuaFraser-tx9tc Před 9 měsíci

      God is Our Refuge and Strength. He is Always there to comfort Us. He knows Our feelings. I too have lost my husband, the comfort that I get is knowing we will meet again in the sweet bye and bye. Live for that day, all is not lost, especially if they were suffering. Be comforted, one day if you're true and faithful, you'll see them again. Live for that day. God bless everyone. Our Heavenly Father is always with us, He will Never leave Us alone. Thank You Father God.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏👍👍

  • @julieredman1950
    @julieredman1950 Před 6 lety +54

    My husband died in 15 days he will be gone for 15 months since my best friend my everything gone still so lost love my husband as much as I did when i kissed him good bye in casket im so tired of people telling me to get over it same ones who still have they're spouse. They have no idea how just how hard it is friends you had you do not have any more couples dont want you around and singles have no clue. for me still waking up feeling for him and waiting for him after work and even though i know he is not coming home. the only ones know what i am going through or even close is ones who lost they're spouse as well

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 5 lety +2

      sorry for your loss. how are you doing Julie?

    • @jeanettep5077
      @jeanettep5077 Před 4 lety +2

      I can relate. I stay away from people who don't understand.

    • @gailrubin9029
      @gailrubin9029 Před 4 lety

      I lost my 13 year old son. I dedicated my you tube channel to him to talk about loss and love
      czcams.com/video/nm3k3Q60STU/video.html

    • @catherinemea4816
      @catherinemea4816 Před 3 lety

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    • @nemo7782
      @nemo7782 Před 2 lety

      "singles have no clue."
      Sorry, but some of us do have a clue about death and dying. We have watched a loved one die from all manner of disease or age, been exposed to heartache, and have had to recover- often without married folks not even caring. Or thinking that singles and their feelings/emotions are somehow inferior to anything those married endure.
      Please do not broad brush a whole segment of people and relegate them to obscurity because of 'no clue'. We do understand. Just not in the way you are dealing with your loss.

  • @eileenprobus7545
    @eileenprobus7545 Před 7 lety +117

    Being around other couples is difficult for me.

    • @jeanettep5077
      @jeanettep5077 Před 4 lety +2

      I feel the same way.

    • @gailrubin9029
      @gailrubin9029 Před 4 lety +2

      I lost my 13 year old son. I dedicated my you tube channel to him to talk about loss and love
      czcams.com/video/nm3k3Q60STU/video.html

    • @trevordoug9597
      @trevordoug9597 Před 4 lety

      @@jeanettep5077 Hi can we be friends?

    • @trevordoug9597
      @trevordoug9597 Před 4 lety

      Hi can we be friends?

    • @lindybean2225
      @lindybean2225 Před 4 lety

      Very much so😢

  • @telfermpreston9828
    @telfermpreston9828 Před 5 lety +21

    My wife of 40 years died yesterday at the age of 59, thank you for this video

    • @raywindred5419
      @raywindred5419 Před 3 lety +2

      I feel for you - I lost my wife after 40 years of marriage, 6 days after her 60th birthday in 2016. Still miss her dearly. 🦋

    • @sues7743
      @sues7743 Před 2 lety +2

      I lost my husband of 43 years 3 months ago. Its like the rug was pulled out from under me. I know I have to go on but its hard. Hang in there.

  • @jazmynbrown6820
    @jazmynbrown6820 Před 5 lety +26

    My grandfather lost my grandmother and never married another woman. He died single. When you love someone, that's it. It's real.

  • @noahmartinez5078
    @noahmartinez5078 Před 5 lety +36

    My mother lost her husband of 20 years yesterday. She's completely heartbroken. I relate most to the last woman who said they were married for 20 years but friends for 25. Just like my mom and her husband.
    On Sunday he and her spent all day at the casino watching football and having fun. All day. And on Monday he had a heart attack... And that was it. We watched as the hospital did everything for 3 hours until they could do no more and my mother looked at me and said "He wouldn't want to live on machines". And he never told her but he always told me growing up that if he was to go, I'd have to help my mom make that decision and to tell her he would want to go.
    In that moment I realised the love and connection they had for one another.
    Rest easy Hawaiian 🤙🏽

  • @Jeremy-4037
    @Jeremy-4037 Před 3 lety +28

    I lost my husband on Dec 23 to COVID. His passing was very sudden which made it devastating. It completely destroyed me emotionally. I didn't get to say goodbye which has been tough at times. I didn't know a human could cry so much. I would wake and cry or crying would wake me. I'm in a better place now but this seems like something I will need to learn to live with for the rest of my life.
    -Till we meet again Leo stay close.
    Your loving husband
    Jeremy Hernandez

    • @RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper
      @RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper Před rokem +2

      Jeremy, I'm sure this must be unbearable at times. I feel Leo is waiting for you or will be when your time comes but it's going to be awhile and you have much to accomplish still on earth. But I feel like your husband is watching over you from heaven and he is with someone like an abuela but she's related to you more likely than him just they both worry about how you are doing and both love you ...

    • @patriciabroussard9871
      @patriciabroussard9871 Před rokem

      I lost my husband to covid in January 2021. I feel your pain. Only the last 2 days was I allowed to visit and then just for one hour then next day I was allowed to stay until his last breath. I have cried every day but I try not to because my body hurts when I cry. I am trying to survive.

    • @Jeremy-4037
      @Jeremy-4037 Před rokem +1

      @@patriciabroussard9871 Sorry for your loss Patricia. I hope you give yourself permission to grief...sometimes that means literally pulling off the HWY.

  • @WhiteLotusOm
    @WhiteLotusOm Před rokem +15

    I lost my husband Feb 13th 2014 when he had a massive heart attack after getting into his car with my Valentines Day flowers and each year these 2 days are still the most painful in my life to get through. What each of these beautiful souls say here in these videos is totally true, the things people say afterwards that time will heal etc is because society does not talk about this enough so people don’t know what to say and your grief makes them so uncomfortable. I no longer sit in the deep heavy grief but the loss and missing him is there each and everyday, comes up out of the blue when you least expect it whether a song, a scent, a movie or a memory that just pops into your head. What people don’t understand that have never lost a spouse is that you don’t just lose your partner, your soulmate, your lover but you lose your everyday routine, you lose everything that was familiar in your life. You never get over the loss you just learn to live with it and journey on without them keeping their memory in your heart! In loving memory of my husband and soulmate Happy Valentines Day ♥️🌹🕊 02/13/2014

    • @jimmaier233
      @jimmaier233 Před rokem +3

      I'm very sorry for your loss. I lost my wife, age 38, just 3 months ago (cancer), 2 kids left behind. She died exactly on our 21st anniversary. I share your pain, I'm still crying a lot, comes in waves. If your spouse was your best friend, it nearly kills you, that's how it felt to me. You put it really well, concerning the effect of loss. People really can't understand, if they didn't go through it. In loving memory of my wife, my angel and soulmate ♥12/20/2022
      Keep hope in your heart !

    • @RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper
      @RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper Před rokem +1

      ​@@jimmaier233 oh I'm so sorry. How old are your kids? I'll pray for u.

    • @jimmaier233
      @jimmaier233 Před rokem +1

      @@RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper Thank you. 2 Boys, now 8 and 16 years.

  • @bornagain1589
    @bornagain1589 Před 5 lety +18

    Lost the love of my life 11 days ago and I fully understand , "planless and dreamless.

    • @christianpulisic7784
      @christianpulisic7784 Před 3 lety

      Born Again,Your story touched my heart 💓,I think you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏

  • @BrickNewton
    @BrickNewton Před 4 lety +41

    I lost my partner of 10 years, 7 months ago to cancer, she was only 38 and have been really struggling with my grief and emotions. This is the first video that I have watched and it hit home so hard. There were times I could pretty much predict what they were going to say as I had already thought that.
    Its so hard to not just lose a partner but your best friend, he people that have shared their stories have made me feel better about how I am feeling at the moment.
    Also I couldn't stop crying from when it started to when it finished, but I felt better for watching this.

  • @PhilMyBod41
    @PhilMyBod41 Před 7 lety +80

    I lost my beautiful wife of 26yrs 8 hrs ago I'm so lost and feel the world isn't as good as I thought.

    • @amykyoung590
      @amykyoung590 Před 5 lety +7

      If we could just hear from them. But not a word. Not a word.

    • @deplorabledixie2834
      @deplorabledixie2834 Před 4 lety +2

      I hope you are doing better Phil, you will get through this. Your dear wife would want you to make the most of the rest of your life until she can hold you in her arms again. Sending much love support and care.

    • @jeanettep5077
      @jeanettep5077 Před 4 lety +2

      I too lost my husband last year and just know both our spouses are looking down at us from heaven.

    • @samuelmichael2449
      @samuelmichael2449 Před 3 lety

      @@jeanettep5077 I'm so sorry for your loss, such is life we've all lost our loved ones in death, but life goes on, I lost my partner 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇

    • @user-ko2tu3ss3o
      @user-ko2tu3ss3o Před 3 lety

      It is good Phil. It really and truly is. Just step outside and talk to everyone. People are good and kind. Sadly, many feel lost like you. Talk to people and you will be surprised when they are as delighted to talk to you as you are to them. Wishing you peace and happiness Phil. And, pick up that pen, and write down your memories. Write a love letter to your wife. It will help heal, but not mend, your broken heart. You are not alone. Best wishes.

  • @pamtime22
    @pamtime22 Před 8 lety +60

    I can relate so much to this video. My husband and my buddy of 12 years passed October 14, 2013. I no longer have that unique support and companionship that he gave me. I also experience the alienation from others whether it's intentional or not. I still believe he's around me in his own dimension which keeps me going. Only I know how irreplaceable he will always be. I could go on and on and still love him.

    • @chrisjohnson2246
      @chrisjohnson2246 Před 3 lety

      I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

    • @mightymouse2098
      @mightymouse2098 Před rokem +3

      Pam Mercury45 Well put I feel the same. I miss my husband daily and just being around him was all I needed

    • @Mranstedsf
      @Mranstedsf Před rokem +1

      I know how you feel It will be one year on March 16th.I called him my buddy and baby doll. We went out a lot . I can even visualize entering anywhere without him
      He visits me in dreams . I see others who have passed also
      The next world is different than typical heaven
      I keep trying to join him. The last dream I had he was in the kitchen of a lovely farm house . He was sitting by a huge window the sun was shining on him as he read a book.He loved to read
      A woman I had worked for 50 years ago was cooking the best looking potatoes.I asked if I could have some. Her back was to me She said NO.There was a beautiful garden out front and a man was there I saw a cup and when the lady wasn't looking I put some potatoes in the cup.Then I thought I better not take them she had told me no . So I put them under a tea towel and left them.I was told the man in the garden was waiting for me. I looked over at my husband he.shrugged as he glanced at m I went outside to the garden. The man in the garden looked tired
      He said to me , Do you know how tired I am of taking you back. Quit trying until it's your time. I believe with all my heart we will be together again. I ask him every night to visit me
      He doesn't always ,but I often see signs he has been here. I tell him I know he had to go but it's so lonely without him. If I went shopping he always went. He'd go have lunch or a drink some place where there was music He'd always be waiting for me. I believe he's exploring the Universe and will be waiting for me when it's my time. There is something left for me to do It's just so darn lonely.

    • @RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper
      @RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper Před rokem

      ​@@Mranstedsf I believe he's absolutely waiting for you and visiting you to the best of his abilities to visit you.. in dreams. ❤❤❤

  • @patriciawagstaff6302
    @patriciawagstaff6302 Před 2 lety +24

    The nights are the worst. I miss feeling him next to me...
    I never wanted to be a Widow at a 72. We were married 47 years..
    I didn't know how to watch other couples eat together at a restaurant. Would I ever be able to happy again. ?..
    I am still working on this because the pain is still so raw and I still feel so much grief
    Richard I love you so much .You will always be my man.

    • @patriciawagstaff6302
      @patriciawagstaff6302 Před 2 lety

      .

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday!!!!

  • @garychynne1377
    @garychynne1377 Před 7 lety +42

    boy i never thought i'd be watching a show like this. it helps. thank you

  • @20Enterprise
    @20Enterprise Před rokem +14

    I am 31 and lost my partner of 14 years together in March and I feel lost he was my everything he died at the age of 39. Its still so raw it hurts to my soul.

    • @jimmaier233
      @jimmaier233 Před rokem

      I'm very sorry for your loss. I lost my wife, age 38, just 3 months ago (cancer), 2 kids left behind. She died on our 21st anniversary. I share your pain, I'm still crying a lot, comes in waves. If your spouse was your best friend, it nearly kills you, that's how it felt to me. And she suffered so much, that was even worse. A good friend can help, just a single good person that you trust and like, who points towards the sun and says "look, there's hope, there's still good out there". The only reason, why this fate didn't kill me, is Jesus. I prayed through all that, like I had never before. I got sort of an answer in my heart, that it had been decided a long time ago already, that she needed go move on from this world. I'm angry, frustrated and my heart is still bleeding, but I feel the comfort of God over my life, since I reached out to him. It IS real, I can attest to that. I feel a light in my heart, right next to the pain, which makes it somewhat bearable. So I recommend to you, look for a friend, who has the capacity to convey hope, and most important, pray to Jesus Christ, he IS real, this is not an empty platitude. It's the best advise I can offer. You will still carry some weight, but there can be relief, which makes a difference. I still look at the last photo of my wife in the hospital, looking at me with her soft eyes, and I break down and cry every time. People who didn't live throught that, can't possibly understand. You have to keep that in mind to. They will never really understand, and we can't expect them to. Keep hope in your heart ! You're not alone !

    • @lollipop65
      @lollipop65 Před rokem +1

      So sorry. Much too young.

  • @laurenjones8080
    @laurenjones8080 Před 6 lety +33

    I wasn't ever married but I lost my highschool sweetheart of 3 years suddenly to a drink driver when we were 16 and 17...Although we weren't married the grief, alienation, no one that could understand..oh and bc of my age everyone expected me to just move on...grief never stops, the pain comes and goes but nearly 16 years later and somedays it's just like the day he left this earth.

  • @vickiearnold9756
    @vickiearnold9756 Před 8 lety +139

    My husband died a month ago, and I have no children. It's hard.

    • @frightenedfemale985
      @frightenedfemale985 Před 6 lety +21

      vickie Arnold I just wanted to tell you how much God loves you. I love you. Your husband is with you everyday and he will be there when you return back to him. When we look back after we have passed, life on Earth is rather silly and it soon shall pass. I hope you're doing well. I just lost my father unexpectedly last week and my mother has lost her soulmate....I'm still in a fog. But when all comes to fruition, it will seem as a breeze through the trees as we are quickly in the arms of our loved ones once again. Stay strong, smile, and keep God close to your heart.

    • @Rooster1508
      @Rooster1508 Před 5 lety +12

      I would sit with you an hold your hand.
      We could cry together. There is no need to speak.

    • @karenbryant3652
      @karenbryant3652 Před 5 lety +6

      vickie Arnold praying for you, I lost my husband 15 months ago.

    • @robertjohnson7895
      @robertjohnson7895 Před 5 lety +7

      My Soulmate and Real true love passed away, it’s has been a life changing event I never expected, been 2 years ago now and I feel useless ✌️❣️

    • @arnabjana6426
      @arnabjana6426 Před 5 lety +8

      i lost my wife two months pain is too much .my son 20 years for not being round as i was in gulf is angry.i donot know what to do nobody share my grief

  • @ferdinandmendoza3621
    @ferdinandmendoza3621 Před 7 lety +29

    My wife passed away 8 months ago. I can fully relate to all the things that have been said. I found my strength in my faith in God. Thank you for sharing this video...it somehow reminded me that I am not alone in this journey. God bless.

  • @PepePupas
    @PepePupas Před 6 lety +50

    So beautiful , thank you.
    My love, my wife, passed away from cancer a month ago and everything these lovely folks talk about fully resonates with me.
    I hope to find some peace as they did.
    Thank you.

    • @jeanettep5077
      @jeanettep5077 Před 4 lety +2

      You will find peace and comfort. God loves you so much.

    • @gailrubin9029
      @gailrubin9029 Před 4 lety +1

      I lost my 13 year old son. I dedicated my you tube channel to him to talk about loss and love
      czcams.com/video/nm3k3Q60STU/video.html

    • @JR-xi8wy
      @JR-xi8wy Před 3 lety +1

      Same here.
      Breast cancer.

  • @adelekelly5333
    @adelekelly5333 Před 8 lety +34

    My husband of 37 years passed away 9 months ago at age 69. I still can't believe I can't go to the hospital or see him like I always did. I feel sad, hopeless, empty, and like I already have one foot in the grave, but you would never know it to see me because I can't show my grief to others and make them feel uncomfortable and bring them down. If they ask, I just let them know it's the worse thing I have ever had to go through but I'm ok and then they would remind me of something funny my husband did or said and that's what I love the most. I've been rehashing over and over things I could have done differently. Now I just remember how wonderful the whole 81/2 months went in treating his Leukemia--all the doctors, nurses, and techs couldn't have been any better, he was always making everyone laugh and had very little pain. I'm also thankful that he doesn't have to go through what i'm going through without him. Listening to all of you has helped me so much. I don't feel so alone.

    • @chrisjohnson2246
      @chrisjohnson2246 Před 3 lety

      I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a terrible heart disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054

    • @susanvan1672
      @susanvan1672 Před 3 lety

      You made me think of something I haven't thought of before. You said you were glad that he didn't have to go through what you're going through. That really makes me stop and think. I lost my husband six years ago. He was my soulmate. The love of my life and still is. But I have never thought about being grateful that he didn't go through what I'm going through. That's a big thing to think about. I'm glad you said it. It's going to take me awhile to process it, but I do believe that it will be a helpful thought for me also. Thank you so very much.❤

    • @adelekelly5333
      @adelekelly5333 Před 2 lety

      Susan Van Thank you for your kind words. I still have that thought today when I miss my husband and it pulls me out of my slump every time. I know it was a gift from God I so needed!

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Před rokem

      @@susanvan1672 I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on CZcams. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 Před rokem

      @@adelekelly5333 I came across your comment at the grief of love ones post here on CZcams. ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I truly understand how you feel cos I’ve felt same hard and terrible experiences before but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will always want to see us happy again wherever they’re okay. I loss my oldest daughter Annabel February 24th 2020 in a crucial car accident, and she just turned 22 on her last birthday before she got knocked down by a moving vehicle 🚗 and so unlucky for me that horrible day the driver was drunk. That was the worst and most lamenting day of my whole life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 17 years old son Clark and my 4 legged 🐶 families are my everything and the reason I still keep strong, and keep going! My late wife passed away three years ago from a shocking disease, I felt devastated with grief, and I was so heartbroken 💔 but God and time are indeed the best healers. Hope you’ve found peace, comfort and happiness again?

  • @tedsterrett7204
    @tedsterrett7204 Před 3 lety +21

    When you lose someone that was your first love and they become a part of you, you are never the same again. I lost my wife in 2016 after 30 years of marriage and knowing each other for over 40 years nothing is ever the same it changes who you are, and only God can give you solace!

    • @gordonsmom3861
      @gordonsmom3861 Před 3 lety +3

      @Ted Sterrett I can so relate to what you said. I have been widowed 4 years now but I no idea how to move forward. I don't want to be alone forever, but I don't know how to go about meeting anyone else. How do you replace that person you loved so much. I just want a friend I can talk to, to find someone who I can be comfortable with. This experience truly does change you. I wish you well.

    • @gordonsmom3861
      @gordonsmom3861 Před 3 lety +1

      Question... does anyone else still struggle with sleeping? I haven't slept a night through in 4 years.

    • @celinasantana1815
      @celinasantana1815 Před 2 lety

      I’m sorry for your loss! How are you today? She was your other half.

    • @cantstanditanymore
      @cantstanditanymore Před rokem

      Amen!🙌🙏Jesus Christ saved my life after my husband passed suddenlu.. 46 y.o. active healthy man. He was my soulmate and the only one who truly knew me... I found out who my friends were too...
      23 years married 3 young children....😢💔

  • @s.o.l.6106
    @s.o.l.6106 Před rokem +6

    I suddenly lost my beautiful wife of 20 years and I miss her so much! Only time will easy my heartache and this has been a very slow recovery.

  • @aussie0770
    @aussie0770 Před 5 lety +14

    I lost my wife and twins on March 30th this year. 7 months pregnant and my whole life seems broken.
    Thank you to these people for telling their stories. 🙏
    I hope I can heal with time...

    • @mkross9214
      @mkross9214 Před 4 lety +2

      i wish you strength. please stay strong.

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 4 lety +3

      how are you...know that we are here. when youre down pls know that you are not alone. my heart goes out to you. we are here to listen. take care of yourself.

    • @maryfrandina3487
      @maryfrandina3487 Před 3 lety +2

      I’m so sorry for your devastating loss. Please take good care of yourself.

  • @LouiseDavey
    @LouiseDavey Před 7 lety +35

    Thank you for this. I lost my husband, best friend, lover approximately 10 months ago and at times it still doesn't feel real. It's good to connect with others who are going through the loss of a spouse. No one understands unless they've been through this.

    • @samuelmichael2449
      @samuelmichael2449 Před 3 lety

      I'm so sorry for your loss, such is life we've all lost our loved ones in death, but life goes on, I lost my partner 3yrs ago, I understand how you feel, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, it'd be nice if you just say hi here is my number +1206-237-2054 😇

    • @christianpulisic7784
      @christianpulisic7784 Před 3 lety

      Louise Davey,So sorry dear🙏🙏🙏

    • @ursulascherdin5705
      @ursulascherdin5705 Před 2 lety +1

      I'm sorry for your lost. I'll lost my soulmate 😭 a month ago. My husband passed away on Nov 30 2021. He was my best friend.

  • @AmerijamAcres
    @AmerijamAcres Před 7 lety +90

    it's hard to watch this. my wife died a little over 2 months ago. only 17 days after giving birth to our son. I'm still lost without her. Raising a newbron a 3 year old and a 16 year old. I still cry myself to sleep sometimes.

    • @jimmytaaffe
      @jimmytaaffe Před 7 lety +5

      My wife died two months ago, too.

    • @AmerijamAcres
      @AmerijamAcres Před 7 lety +4

      +LimelightImages NYC I'm so sorry to hear that. I have turned my CZcams channel into a vlog as i move on to the next stage. if you want someone to talk to or communicate with please feel free to send me a private message. it's very difficult to deal with others who do not understand the loss. I'd be more than happy to correspond if you need someone to talk to.

    • @safariqueen4811
      @safariqueen4811 Před 7 lety +5

      My husband died 4 weeks ago. He was diagnosed with Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis 5 weeks ago. It is so hard, I miss him so much. We had been together almost 25 years, the day before our daughter's graduation, he was admitted into hospital, so he never got to see her graduate.

    • @AmerijamAcres
      @AmerijamAcres Před 7 lety +6

      +Safari Queen I'm so sorry to hear that. My oldest daughter graduated 2nd in her class a week and a half after my wife died. I had my entire family here and we made a big deal out of it. as much as we tried it was really devestating to not have her at the graduation. I have the baby to keep me busy but at night when everyobe is asleep it gets very lonely. it truly is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. I miss her every day. almost 3 months later and I'm not much better than I was. I justfocus on my children. I have this little youtube channel to keep me busy at night. doesn't help all the time but it does help some of the times. I'm saddened by your loss and pray for your family. God Bless

    • @safariqueen4811
      @safariqueen4811 Před 7 lety +4

      Dear Amerijam, I am sorry for your loss too. I have no other children, and my family is not around me at this time, I have many friends here though who have been a tremendous strength to me.
      My husband died in the UK, that is where our daughter is now, and I am now back in Slovenia where we lived for the past 10 years. Now, the house seems so big and empty, and I am thinking of selling it, but I need to give myself time to think about my next steps, I would hate to make a mistake and sell it too soon.
      There is so much to think about, and I have been occupying my time with house work. My life has been totally turned upside down.
      I did join a couple of sites for grief or for widows, but I left them, because there was no activity.
      I was luck to have found this video on YT, I think it helps.
      I will pray for you and your family also.
      Thank you for your message and God bless you too.

  • @phillipdavies6535
    @phillipdavies6535 Před 11 měsíci +8

    I lost my wife in 6 hours to brain bleed , I didn't want to live, it was a car crash and I was the only one to survive just thinking about her drains my life blood away, we where married 46 years and I love her to bits, beautiful lady.

  • @EydieStumpfPersonal
    @EydieStumpfPersonal Před 2 lety +14

    I’m a Grief Coach as well as a two time widow - this is the best video on grief I’ve ever seen, or book/article I’ve read.

  • @Rooster1508
    @Rooster1508 Před 5 lety +72

    I feel dead inside. Nothing I have, nothing I do means anything anymore.
    Without her to share it with whats the point?

    • @andrewmason4101
      @andrewmason4101 Před 3 lety +5

      I just lost my amazing wonderful husband.
      I feel like you.
      Do you feel the same after 2 years

    • @Rooster1508
      @Rooster1508 Před 3 lety +6

      @@andrewmason4101 -- I am better. This week has been hard on me. Monday was the antislavery of her death and I miss her so much. We we married for a long time and when our children were off, on their own we became best friends. We did everything together. I have been dating some. But, that too is hard. I guess I am looking for someone in the same spot as me so we can cry together. Thanks for your comment. I needed to talk.

    • @tonynealis1165
      @tonynealis1165 Před 3 lety +1

      I know the loss of a 28 year life taken by cardiac arrest, so while we aren't the same, we are on a similar branch. May you know the comfort as I have of my loved ones passing- I felt him go by me on the day they took him from the kitchen and while I still have a long way to go, it did give me some peace at the time and going fwd.
      May your life be filled with comfort and gladness and the memories always fill you ;)

    • @Rooster1508
      @Rooster1508 Před 3 lety +1

      @@tonynealis1165 -- thanks

    • @tonynealis1165
      @tonynealis1165 Před 3 lety

      @@Rooster1508 :-)

  • @prepperchicntexas
    @prepperchicntexas Před 11 měsíci +3

    My husband and I had Covid together December 2020. He was in the hospital for almost two weeks, had a heart attack and two strokes.And was just determined to be home for Christmas. He just begged the Dr to release him. The Dr finally agreed and I was so happy as they weren't doing anything for him anyway. He should not been able to talk or walk but he had little damage. He was home three days and doing great. Christmas morning I was up early to prepare for Christmas. He came and told me Merry Christmas and how much he loved me. He hugged me do tight that it actually hurt. Said he was going to lay down for another hour. But came back and told me he loved me again and Merry Christmas. He loved Christmas. He went to bed. I took him coffee an hour later and he was gone. We were married 33 yrs. My heart is just shattered. I don't think I'll ever be able to move on. Its been 19 months now. I am empty just hollow. I don't even know how I've made it this far.
    My Condolences For Everyone that's Lost Your Loved One. I truly know your pain. May we all find Peace and Calm One Day. Until that day comes. We can make it One Day at A Time. God Bless!

  • @mattdietzler6101
    @mattdietzler6101 Před 8 lety +34

    I'm so glad I found this video. My wife died a week ago from colon and liver cancer. She was 43 and we were married for 22 years. In watching this, it gave me comfort to know that some of the things I'm going through seem to be a common thread by survivors/grievers. During the long weeks in the hospital, I received countless texts. But most of them stated the generic, "Let me know if you need anything." Those came to be useless comments, which I eventually took as the other person writing to appease their conscience that they had "reached out" to someone in a dire circumstance. I cry at unusual times, and I've never been a crier. I had to go grocery shopping yesterday evening for the first time since she died. After the third or fourth aisle, I began to cry in the store. I shocked myself because it was spontaneous and I couldn't stop it for awhile. I was thinking how I missed her cooking, how I missed getting sent to the store at inconvenient times for one or two items only to complete an ingredient list for a recipe. I was thinking how difficult it was having to change my many years of shopping and knowing quantities, now downsizing to just one person (me).Many times, like now, the true tests of the status of my healing comes at night. I still can't sleep and I'm supposed to go back to work soon.I was also very disappointed on how people at our church and my work responded, or rather failed to respond. I've been told they weren't sure how to or they wanted to respect your privacy. I repeatedly told anyone who'd listen that my wife and I want to have people around us during this.I see from the video and the other comments that there are similarities with all of our stories. You would think that there'd be some type of preemptive entity in hospitals, churches, or wherever to say based on grievers' experiences in the past we suggest you do these X steps and prepare yourself for Y type responses.My prayers for the other posters below mine. God bless you all.

    • @adelekelly5333
      @adelekelly5333 Před 8 lety +5

      So very sorry Matt! She was so young. I was avoiding God the first couple of months after my husband died and whenever I was crying I was screaming at God in my mind, "what good could ever come out of this"? But I started remembering all the miracles God has done for us and our kids and grandkids the 37 yrs. we were together and I've come to realize God did what was best for my husband and I will understand when I go to be with him. I believe my husband is with God--(the bible says, "absent from the body, present with the Lord", so The closer I am with God by reading the bible and talking with Him, the more I will feel my husband with me and I do. I just get so angry every time I hear someone died at the age of 88 or 98 and my husband had to leave so soon.

    • @mattdietzler6101
      @mattdietzler6101 Před 8 lety +7

      +Adele Kelly Thank you for your kind words Adele. It's now been almost 5 weeks since she passed and I'm still struggling. I, too, agree it was God's perfect judgment for my wife to be with him. I also agree absent from the body, present with the Lord. So, my grieving is really for my loss, because she has gained to be with the Lord.

    • @waynesmith1704
      @waynesmith1704 Před 5 lety +1

      I'm so sorry Matt.

    • @SpaceCadet4Jesus
      @SpaceCadet4Jesus Před 5 lety +1

      Hey Matt, what you said is so true. Where you reading my mind? I was partly crying and then laughing with the entire post. This happened to me almost exactly, the first shopping trip, oh my gosh, I was so stunned I didn't know how to shop anymore. It's only been one month since my loss though. Please, tell me, how does the rest of my future look? Any tips?

    • @DZtoUSA
      @DZtoUSA Před 4 lety +1

      God bless you all, for the first time in my life, i lost someone i loved so much and we were in a crazy love for the last 2 years, i was in another state when he couldn’t send a goodnight message for the first time ever, i contacted his friends and many other entities to check on him but they told me not to worry. After talking to the police, the paramedics called me that they announced his passing due to a heart attack. It was the first time in my life i didn’t see me living after that, i didn’t even know what grief was, and far away. I was hiding my tears for the whole way back even on the plane, i called my sisters crying like a baby till they were extremely worried about me ( and they were in a whole different continent than where i am ), i was so scared going to sleep feeling the physical pain in my heart, i realy don’t know how to move forward especially that he made me the happiest person i ever experienced. I start asking everyone who lost someone: -how did you do it? I’m guessing i will never be recovered from what happened.

  • @pauljordan4452
    @pauljordan4452 Před rokem +4

    A former neighbour lost her beloved husband to diabetes after 51 years of marriage. She was his carer for the 13 years after they retired. She said you get used to being alone, although I respected him like a grandfather and was very upset. Stay strong. God bless.

  • @jesusrots
    @jesusrots Před 7 lety +29

    thank you to everybody involved who made this video. this comment is for my princess melanie who passed 5 months and 3 days ago. the grief sinks down but the loneliness is indescribable and seems to just worsen. i wish i had people who wanted to spend time with me. she was my everything. - t

    • @mightymouse2098
      @mightymouse2098 Před rokem +1

      peoplewholoveyou I agree with you 100%. It is the loneliness and daily rituals that are missing, conversation, laughter all missing. I sometimes don't think I can stand it. But I do love life, our pets, and not looking for any replacement. Everyone just thinks after month you need to move on not that easy.

    • @Mranstedsf
      @Mranstedsf Před rokem +2

      I fell the same way I have to accept he is gone
      I believe we will be together again but it is so unbearably lonely that is hard. It hasn't been a year. I can't imagine going out alone. We used to go out so much dinner music and we loved museums. We went to the Wine country and Sonoma Coast every weekend in the summer and fall I'm lost.

  • @waynemurphy4210
    @waynemurphy4210 Před rokem +7

    I am 63 and just lost my wife who was 65 and lost her 2 and a half months ago. we were together 25 years and she was my rock, she was sick for last 6 months and she died in hospital in my arms, I have been to many funerals in my life short life, I thought I was prepared for her death, I was very very wrong. I understand how on this video share. I have not outlet, all her friends did say reach and I have but no answer, so grieving alone ain't good, her kids Love me but they just want me to reach out to find help, so I leave it alone. oh I so miss her and I know its a very very very long haul and its only the start. When she died in my arms I was lucky and unlucky as I saw the end and I was glad she had me to hold her when she died, but yeah it effects me, When she died, she took half of me with her. I had to remove jewlelly and stuff and the hospital staff and doctors said stay, but I needed to get home, I need to cry and cry. Then do the call at 1 am in the morning, Even after funeral I call but no one answers, I have contact with step kids, but yeah, so I know how its feels, This video shows I am not alone, Thank you.

  • @kellypierce4762
    @kellypierce4762 Před 2 lety +9

    My ring tone is his voice. My lock screen is a video of him. In my purse there are 4 things. 2 broken phones I had went through prior to his death that still have messages from him. A broken charger that was his and 1 red sock..I accidentally took of his last time I stayed the night with him. Out of everything in there...the debit cards, my ssc, my license and money...them 4 things I first mentioned are the most important things that I carry. Dimitrious was the best person I ever knew. 1 of very few people who ik without a doubt whose life mattered more than mine. I'll love him forever and then some

  • @lynnscruggs8105
    @lynnscruggs8105 Před rokem +6

    Grief never ends, it will always be with me 😪

  • @ann25751
    @ann25751 Před 8 lety +19

    i loss my husband by a cancer... its gonna be a year now on 30th of March 2016, its so hard... my dream to have my own family is shatered... we supposed to be a happy family.. i get pregnant but i loss it by miscarriage then after 2 years my husband diagnosed with colon cancer and its was been spread to his internal parts... i loss him too.. :( so hard this life happen to us.. i know im not alone everyone have their own cross to bring... it was not easy but i have to pull up my self again..if theres still a life we still have hope... but losing someone we love its not easy to cary on... i miss my husband so much... :(

    • @SophieJackson1993
      @SophieJackson1993 Před 8 lety

      I'm so sorry. I know that isn't much but I really hope that you can find some happiness in your life.

    • @jeanettep5077
      @jeanettep5077 Před 4 lety +1

      You'll get through this. May God wrap his arms around you and give you the love and peace you deserve.

    • @JR-xi8wy
      @JR-xi8wy Před 3 lety

      I just lost my wife a month ago to a cancer. She had the most agresive breast cancer you can possibly imagine, and was gone in a year. Im 35 and she was about to turn 36. 12 years of marriage and 17 years of relationship ❤️ 2 beautiful kids. She was my best friend, my soulmate. Im devastated. Crying every morning.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday......

  • @michaelbest7872
    @michaelbest7872 Před 8 lety +17

    This video has it right! Don't give things or say things in which are just consoling messages to another, unless you are actually willing and caring enough to give unconditionally. Also, there is NO closure! The loss of a loved one will still hurt !

  • @6XstringXsamurai
    @6XstringXsamurai Před 8 lety +43

    Thank you very much to the people that had the strength to tell their stories to help all of us that are scared to death of facing this inevitable situation. I hope you've found peace and love since these difficult times and know that even those who don't know you share the burden of your grief.

    • @cambo6911
      @cambo6911 Před 4 lety +5

      Such a kind thing to say, I'm here trying to understand what the love of my life went through when she lost her husband. I'm sure it's different for everybody but this has been enlightening but so incredibly sad to read everybody's testimonials. My heart goes out to everyone as well. I pray that their hearts heal and that they find happiness in life after such a hurtful loss.

  • @dorcasmutinda8245
    @dorcasmutinda8245 Před rokem +8

    The pain of losing a spouse is too much

    • @marysalamone8067
      @marysalamone8067 Před 3 měsíci

      I wouldn't wish the pain of losing a spouse on my worst enemy. I had no idea just how deep and awful it was and what it would be before I crawled out of it.

  • @sbowers5652
    @sbowers5652 Před 7 lety +14

    Thank you for this video. My wife passed about 4 months ago, after a long fight with cancer. We were married for over 25 years, together for 30. The descriptions in this video are very much like what I have been going through. The empty shell that life seems now. The disconnect from people, even though I had many supporting early on. The inability to do anything with my wife's things. I think this video helped me because it really made me realize what I am feeling, and going through, is not as unique to me as it was beginning to seem. My heart goes out to all who have been through anything like this.

  • @overcspurs8027
    @overcspurs8027 Před 3 lety +10

    Lost my wife a year ago after 30 years of marriage but she still sometimes present in my dreams as though we were still a couple together. Only when I wake up that I realise she no longer with me and a sense of lost/ sadness arise. Have been watching many NDE videos on CZcams and given hope that our souls survive bodily death. Praying that we will meet again.

    • @boston10886
      @boston10886 Před rokem +1

      Lost my husband 15 years ago from a brain tumor at age 49. I sometimes see him in my dreams and I treasure when that happens but still usually cry. Just had a dream about him two days ago. Dreamed I knew he had died but no one else knew yet. I was trying to tell his mother when suddenly I looked and saw him coming from a distance. I was so excited and surprised to think “ You’re NOT dead!!” And as I ran to him I saw he looked young again, like around 30 years old. I was so happy to see him but still cried a lot that day. I still miss him so much.

    • @shirley3427
      @shirley3427 Před 11 měsíci

      You will absolutely meet again The Bible states quite clearly at John 5:28 “Do not be amazed that this ! the time is coming when all those in the memorial teams will hear His voice and come out”

  • @davidmenke7552
    @davidmenke7552 Před 3 lety +12

    Boy I really relate to the woman whose friend said "You can call me anytime". Grief can be so much less painful when friends seek you out in your darkness. That means something huge.

    • @happympotokoane5416
      @happympotokoane5416 Před 2 lety +1

      Thanks so much about this video. I lost my husband six months ago due to car accident and it is hard for me to let go.

  • @widowerscorner
    @widowerscorner Před rokem +5

    I am 51. I lost my wife, my queen of 26 yrs 3 months ago to cardiac arrest. After watching this video, I feel I am not losing my mind. EVERYTHING each person has said, I agree and have done the same thing. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us all. I also want to pray that the Lord keep you and bless you. I know God is good to us all but I still feel lost and scared. thank you so much for this

    • @jimmaier233
      @jimmaier233 Před rokem +1

      I'm very sorry for your loss. I lost my wife, age 38, just 3 months ago (cancer), 2 kids left behind. She died on our 21st anniversary. I share your pain, I'm still crying a lot, comes in waves. If your spouse was your best friend, it nearly kills you, that's how it felt to me. And she suffered so much, that was even worse. A good friend can help, just a single good person that you trust and like, who points towards the sun and says "look, there's hope, there's still good out there". The only reason, why this fate didn't kill me, is Jesus. I prayed through all that, like I had never before. I got sort of an answer in my heart, that it had been decided a long time ago already, that she needed go move on from this world. I'm angry, frustrated and my heart is still bleeding, but I feel the comfort of God over my life, since I reached out to him. It IS real, I can attest to that. I feel a light in my heart, right next to the pain, which makes it somewhat bearable. So I recommend to you, look for a friend, who has the capacity to convey hope, and most important, pray to Jesus Christ, he IS real, this is not an empty platitude. It's the best advise I can offer. You will still carry some weight, but there can be relief, which makes a difference. I still look at the last photo of my wife in the hospital, looking at me with her soft eyes, and I break down and cry every time. People who didn't live throught that, can't possibly understand. You have to keep that in mind to. They will never really understand, and we can't expect them to. Keep hope in your heart ! You're not alone !

  • @mkblack5934
    @mkblack5934 Před 7 lety +33

    I have gone through so much of this........I was touched when you say, you still talk to them, especially when making a decision. I though I was going crazy. Talking to my Joe makes me feel happy for a minute although I break down after I realize he is not physically there. I decided to live one day at a time, although some of those days are really dark and painful, like today. You video has been helpful.

  • @2explore1
    @2explore1 Před 5 lety +29

    First thank you everyone for sharing your painful stories. I lost my best friend, partner, and faithful loving companion Cindy November, 2017. We just celebrating our 26th Anniversary October 5th. Last year November 25th was the worse day of my life losing Cindy. My wife suffered physical pain for many years from MS and other medical complications, but seldom complained. Cindy is the capable wife described in Proverbs 3:12 and how my heart is broken even as I'm typing these thoughts and memories now. I do believe in a resurrection hope, but my loss and pain still hurts deeply. Just this month, JW have an article in their Nov. Awake #3 issue for those grieving as we are/do now. I find the Bible's promise that one is not suffering in death. And the comfort and hope to see Cindy again. I hope this helps a few others here even as I know the real pain of grieving.

  • @cherylwittmann1160
    @cherylwittmann1160 Před 2 lety +7

    Thank you for sharing this video! I’ve been with my husband for 22 years. I’ve spent my whole adult life alongside him and I loved this man with all my heart! I lost him a few months ago and suddenly as a result of COVID! We have two young children together. This is our first holiday season without him! He was my security and my motivator. He was everything I’m not and that’s what made our relationship and parenting so great! How do you do it alone!? I’m scared, uncertain, heartbroken, worry about our two young boys, I worry about finances and building my confidence as a single parent. I don’t know what to do. It’s finally starting to hit me hard and it’s terrifying! I loved him so much. How do you cope with this?
    To everyone here who’s going through the same thing….my heart is with you! I’m so sorry!!! I know this is hard!

  • @funkyguy0
    @funkyguy0 Před 7 lety +14

    I just lost my wife today. She suffered a stroke a month ago. She was recovering well, but today she is gone. I am absolutely broken. I havent eaten all day. She was my best friend, I shared a lot with her and now I feel like I have lost everything. I have no close friends. Typically when I feel this down she is the one I would turn to and now I simply don't know what to do and how to proceed. Watching this video has helped though to know that there are others who have/are going through something similar

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 5 lety +2

      sorry for your loss Jeremy.
      sorry for your loss.... ive watched this many times. i find comfort here knowing that im not alone. i feel like i belong here too...
      how are you now?

    • @funkyguy0
      @funkyguy0 Před 4 lety +1

      @@Marie-cp4yf Thanks for your reply Marie. I don't know how I have survived this long, but I somehow have managed by the grace of God

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 4 lety +2

      @@funkyguy0My husband died of stroke too last year. It is such an imaginable painful experience. God bless you too...my faith in Jesus Christ is the one that is sustaining me. Through this emptiness and sorrow i learn about God all the more and His faithfullness to His word. In Him i found peace and security and hope and joy. i pray that youll find yours too. please come back to this channel when your down. dont deal with it alone cause you are not alone. God is there to help you just call upon Him. And im here to listen if there is no one else. God bless you.

    • @monisview4516
      @monisview4516 Před 4 lety

      After recovered what happened to her?

    • @monisview4516
      @monisview4516 Před 4 lety

      @@funkyguy0 after recovered what happened to her

  • @taporihero464
    @taporihero464 Před 4 lety +9

    I just lost my 32 year old wife in a car crash 2 weeks ago .... we had a whole life infront of us but god had other plans. I dont know how i will survive this.

  • @kimberlypieniadz6048
    @kimberlypieniadz6048 Před 6 lety +5

    So glad I found this video. I lost my boyfriend of 11 years to pneumonia after a lifetime of health issues including heart transplant, skin cancer, knee replacements, kidney failure and dialysis.. on and on. I still feel many of these emotions, but I'm trying to move on. One day at a time.

    • @richardmorgan6739
      @richardmorgan6739 Před 6 lety

      This has helped more than I know. My heart my life my soul feels like its gone. I hppe it don't feel this way until I see her .

    • @christianpulisic7784
      @christianpulisic7784 Před 3 lety

      Kimberly Pieniadz,Be strong my dearest 🌹🌷🌷💪💪💪

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday.....

  • @amykyoung590
    @amykyoung590 Před 5 lety +24

    It's so painful. I hardly have interest in living.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday.....

  • @exhibit-a8636
    @exhibit-a8636 Před 7 lety +24

    2 months ago I lost my wife due to a medical condition. She was only my 30 years old and we were married for 3 years. It's so difficult to deal with. We were so attached, she was my pillar of strength in so many ways. She was my best friend. I miss her so deeply and my world has turned upside down. Life is lonely and dysfunctional. It's so cruel that her life had to be taken so young and our future together was cut short. I lost my Dad just 2 years ago and my wife was really my biggest support & strength throughout my grieve, but now she is also gone. Life is so unfair. It helps to see video clips like this because nobody in my circle really relates and understands the feeling of losing a spouse. Not really sure how to manage. God bless.

    • @funkyguy0
      @funkyguy0 Před 7 lety +1

      Hey man I'm so sorry for your loss. Deeply sorry. I just lost my spouse today, she was in hospital for about a month, and a lot of what you mention I feel too. I'm not sure how to proceed because she was my best friend as well. My prayers are with you

    • @7472875
      @7472875 Před 4 lety

      I feel you pain :( how are you doing now? Is it easier?

    • @perlindasinatao583
      @perlindasinatao583 Před rokem

      Your not alone sir, me i lost my fiance last year..
      Still on the process of healing.. God is always there for us.. Because he loves us..

  • @gmaent1
    @gmaent1 Před 8 lety +19

    I lost my high school sweet heart. We met when we were thirteen and dated until we married in 1974 I knew her all my life I we grew up as children into adult hood. This video hit on so many things that I have and am going through. Thank you for putting it together it does help, but one will never get over the loss of a loved one. A day doesn't go by without thinking of her. People mean well but unless they have gone through this they don't have any idea and I don't with this on anyone. I don't like the pain and wish for just one day of peace, true peace as I knew with her. Will it ever come? Praying and reading the scriptures and turning to God does help, but the longing doesn't go away. Again thank you for posting.

    • @cantstanditanymore
      @cantstanditanymore Před rokem

      Jesus Christ saved my life from such grief that I could not get out of after the loss of my husband....ONLY JESUS.. Give your heart to him and sincerely ask him to help you.
      Pray with your whole heart in Jesus's name🙌🙏🙌🙌🙌🙌

  • @makyeebon
    @makyeebon Před 4 lety +11

    Spouse / partner of 31 years died unexpectedly in July. Still trying to make sense of how it happened and how to move forward. Before this, I had no clue what it was like to lose a spouse, it's beyond anything I had comprehended. Thank you for this video, it helped.

  • @amvxxx8991
    @amvxxx8991 Před 4 lety +11

    This video makes me appreciate my gf so much , and to cherish every second I’m with her

  • @laram5104
    @laram5104 Před 4 lety +5

    This lady is so right about saying that people expect the griever to reach them .. people who never deal with kind of grief do not understand us ..

    • @christianpulisic7784
      @christianpulisic7784 Před 3 lety

      Lara M,how are you now dear🌹🌷🌹?

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday......

  • @waynesmith1704
    @waynesmith1704 Před 5 lety +6

    I'm really glad I found this video. I lost my wife Chris unexpectedly almost 35 months ago ( December 23rd 2015) to a Pulmonary Embolism / Cardiac Arrest, she was 41.
    I have "good" days and then there are the rest of the days. No one calls, or comes by. Our friends all vaporized.

    • @waynesmith1704
      @waynesmith1704 Před 5 lety +2

      Hour after Chris passed, there was a none stop line of people bringing food. Most of them told me that if I needed anything to call. I can't call, what do I do?? They still have their wives.
      They don't get it. Chris was everything to me. I was a cop for 18 yrs. She made this world make sense. When she passed, it was like getting knocked down and getting both legs broken. Everyone standin around telling me to get up !!!! get up !!!!
      I DON'T KNOW HOW !!!!!
      JESUS tell me !!! What do I do now !!!

    • @SpaceCadet4Jesus
      @SpaceCadet4Jesus Před 5 lety +1

      Wow… I feel you brother. I wonder the same thing about other people. Now when or if they should call, I say Thank you for calling me and checking up, I could of been dead. Losing your best friend, wife and companion is the worst thing in the world, it robs you of strength, life and hope. Were it not for God and people who keep up with me I don't know where I'd be. I'm so sorry about Chris, she did so much for you and was/is embedded in you, its who you are. I think about it as my wife has taken a trip, far away, yes, but a trip nonetheless. She is in Heaven with family and friends representing US and I'm on the Earth representing US. Eventually, I've got to prepare our stuff to sell or give away so I can travel to be with her and we both will forever never to part. I just haven't left yet, that's all.
      This works for me, except when I'm sobbing or calling out to her. :-)

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 5 lety

      @@waynesmith1704 sorry for your loss. my heart goes out to you. you can reach out to people here if there is no one to talk to. i hope youre doing OK...
      cant even count how may times ive watched this video. i feel comforted knowing that im not alone.
      im 37 and Lost my 40 year old husband last year due to a stroke. its hard...know that you are not alone. im praying for you my brother in Christ.

  • @jacruick
    @jacruick Před rokem +2

    My husband of 42 years passed 5 months ago….. I didn’t want to see or talk to anyone, the following weeks….not even my children. I’m getting through days now without crying… still have moments, though. I miss coffee talks in the morning, hugging … kisses. my pets have saved me, as I know I have to get out of bed and take care if them; I hated the first time I had to say I was a widow. I’m so blessed to have very good friends and neighbors who get me out… who check on me often. I have joined many groups…. Which has helped. I pray for anyone who is going through this…. So very hard.

    • @kayjones6147
      @kayjones6147 Před 11 měsíci

      It literally took me years before I could even say the word "died."
      It was always with me saying passed away, lost, etc. The word died just hurt far too much

  • @BarbProsser
    @BarbProsser Před 9 měsíci +3

    I lost my husband 6 years ago to cancer and almost a year ago I lost my son to a homicide. I do know what grief is. My heart goes out to all of you. I can relate to your pain and all the things you guys had to say about your love and loss. God be with each one of you into your travels back into a different world. ❤

    • @DomenicZappia-xj2lt
      @DomenicZappia-xj2lt Před 5 měsíci

      From the bottom of my heart, I'm.sorry for your loss may Ur angel R.I.P

  • @annasmith5380
    @annasmith5380 Před rokem +5

    My ex-husband and I were together over 20 years, we had been divorced 7 years. He was my 1st love and best friend, trying to accept and help my children cope with the loss. The worst part is we never knew he was batteling such sadness and he was trying to get sober before we lost him and no one was able to say good bye.

  • @sharonjackson1035
    @sharonjackson1035 Před 2 lety +8

    Thank you for sharing this. It's been 5 months since my husband unexpectedly passed. These are situations only a grieving person can understand. Helps to know I'm not alone in this.

  • @buff2947
    @buff2947 Před 7 lety +13

    This video helped me so much and I am grateful to those who shared their stories. It helps to know that these feelings are normal. Although I lost my husband two months ago, I still can't get rid of his clothes and his things, I still want to be alone when I know its not the best thing, and my family as much as they try to be supportive, don't have any idea the feeling of loneliness that I feel after 43 years of marriage. I am so glad to have seen this video.

  • @GS-br2ym
    @GS-br2ym Před 9 lety +7

    These people are stronger than I. If my partner of 9 years passed I could not go on. There is strength I realize now. It's just within yourself and your close friends.

  • @tylerthomas6566
    @tylerthomas6566 Před 5 lety +15

    I lost my wife and soulmate Easter Sunday ending a long battle with ovarian cancer. This video helps. I am going through much the same. My emotions are fragile. I have difficulty sleeping. Staying close to kids and grandchildren helps. Difficult to imagine moving forward with my life. I day at a time, I guess.

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 4 lety

      how are you...know that we are here. when youre down pls know that you are not alone. my heart goes out to you. we are here to listen. take care of yourself. just like me. i always go back to this channel to find comfort and support. it helps praying for you. for strength. God bless you.

  • @fitmis50
    @fitmis50 Před 4 lety +5

    Thank you for this. I lost my husband just over 4 months ago and he was only 53. There will never be closure but we turn a page and go on writing the rest of the book of our life.

  • @eileenprobus7545
    @eileenprobus7545 Před 7 lety +36

    That's the thing. They don't understand.

    • @sameerijaz7690
      @sameerijaz7690 Před 4 lety +1

      Miss my love wife so much

    • @gailrubin9029
      @gailrubin9029 Před 4 lety

      I lost my 13 year old son. I dedicated my you tube channel to him to talk about loss and love
      czcams.com/video/nm3k3Q60STU/video.html@@sameerijaz7690

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..

  • @elizabethdelaplane3089
    @elizabethdelaplane3089 Před 3 lety +8

    Maurice was my best friend my confident. He died at 41 years old and I was 34 at that time with 5kids. that very day of ascension day may 29th 2003 at 7.30pm at our new home..Today after 19years, I thank God with all of my heart for being my strength love courage joy and always faithful until now..I encourage you all to allow God and Jesus to guide you amen.God bless you all..much love

    • @karenjohnston7342
      @karenjohnston7342 Před rokem

      Amen. Thank you Elizabeth. There is power in His name. I call Him Jesus. He is the Comforter, He is the Healer, He is the Waymaker. His love knows no limits and is completely and totally everlasting. He forgives us the moment we ask (infact, he already showed us his forgiveness by bearing the cross, dying for our sins and resurrecting), and he teaches us to forgive ourselves. May Jesus touch the hearts, minds and lives of all who are grieving and help heal and strengthen these connections. Thank you for helping me to remember this. My niece lost her husband/life partner/best friend a few days ago. They are young and with children. My heart aches for them and what they are going through. Jesus truly is my Salvation, even in these times.

  • @evemarie9785
    @evemarie9785 Před 5 lety +14

    i lost my soulmate to suicide three days ago, i cannot stop crying. i miss him so much. but i know no amount of crying is going to bring him back. i’m trying to live my life. he was my best friend. i’m in pieces x

    • @7472875
      @7472875 Před 4 lety

      eve marie why did he do it?

    • @yvonnerahui8729
      @yvonnerahui8729 Před 4 lety

      Shock & trauma! Find someone who can listen well. Find Jesus Christ most of all!

    • @jimvarga3903
      @jimvarga3903 Před 3 lety

      First thing to do is not blame yourself.

    • @beautyRest1
      @beautyRest1 Před 3 lety

      How are you today? Are you alright? That’s terrible, I hope you are feeling a little better and found some happiness in your life once again

    • @sharonwells-ly7vz
      @sharonwells-ly7vz Před rokem

      Eve Marie I am so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, I too understand this type of loss. My partner died the same way in 2018. We had been together 16 and half years. I lost my home and our beloved pet 6 months later. It's still so raw. x

  • @jazzyfelicity6230
    @jazzyfelicity6230 Před 5 lety +7

    I was not prepared so I am having hard time coping up... Thanks for this video... It's like I belong in here...

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 5 lety

      sorry for your loss...how are you? hope all is well. ive watched this many times. i find comfort here knowing that im not alone. i feel like i belong here too...
      how are you now?

  • @ShaunaCheungBoSaanWOGO
    @ShaunaCheungBoSaanWOGO Před 7 lety +17

    Every word of their description if how they feel, the misunderstanding and alienation of others, etc. resonates with me on such a visceral level. My husband passed away a year ago and I am still going through all of this. I would also add that when people say "just don't think about the pain. Think about the amazing love you had that most people search their lives for but settle for something else" and other similar statements. It is appreciated but it is just not helpful. Those nice words don't lessen the pain.

    • @rhondathompson6942
      @rhondathompson6942 Před 6 lety +1

      no it doesnt

    • @nealperry5258
      @nealperry5258 Před 6 lety +1

      I have been separated from my wife of 17 years.She had an addiction problem I loved her anyway.But in the late 2 years we were together she was physically abusive.The last time I had to travel to my home state because I had no money for the moment and I found shortly I was I'll.I learned yesterday thru sheer chance that she died last week on my birthday.My stepson nor any of her so-called friends will even tell me how or why she died.I was good to see of them and especially my stepson when I had a business and money earlier in the marriage.I have no idea why they are angry at me they knew she had physically attacked me before and I forgave her for all that but I was too I'll and frankly afraid of another drug fueled attack.I don't know what made her turn violent I had thought all day on my birthday to call her but didn't.Now I'm left to grieve with no answers and no way to even begin to get any comfort for lack of what happened.I know in my heart I didn't do anything to deserve this and I'm 65 years old and I could neer love anyone else anyway when I still love her.She was for 15 of the 17 years my best friend and we always said we were SOULMATES.I just pray now that she was right with God I can't bear the thought of her everlasting suffering.All I can do is Grieve I can't do anything else.

  • @domais68
    @domais68 Před 6 lety +10

    I lost my mother to cancer and my wife, less than two months apart, several months ago. We knew my mother would die when her treatment stopped helping her. My wife's death was from a freak infection that was not supposed to be life-threatening. To say I'm traumatized and heart-broken over my losses is a vast understatement. Clips that remind me I'm not alone in deep grief make me feel better. This clip was helpful. God bless all of you.

    • @jeanettep5077
      @jeanettep5077 Před 4 lety +1

      I completely understand. My father in law died of kidney failure, my mother in law died of a stroke a month later and my husband was diagnosed with cancer and died of sepsis approximately 4 months later. My sister in law had a nervous breakdown and calls me for support. I feel the pain but I oddly feel my husband's presence. May God comfort you and I pray that you will find peace.

  • @ritadougherty271
    @ritadougherty271 Před 8 lety +16

    Its because of these stories you people share so I know I'm not alone in this journey is how I'm able to slowly make steps forward... I am trying to make steps forward but I can't and probably never will be able to get past my past... You people are the ones I know who understand... Thank you for this video and what you shared... It helps others like us.. Thank you

  • @estherrenee55
    @estherrenee55 Před 5 lety +5

    I lost my heart June 1, 2018. It is July 28, 2018. I am so sorry for all who have lost a spouse they still loved deeply. The pain can be excruciating. Sometimes I ask God to please let my next breath be my last. But, I have children and grandchildren whom I love as much. I couldn't bear to put them through yet another loss and I am the last connection to their cherished grandpa. Thank you to the participants for such a heartfelt documentary. I will think of you often on my journey.

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 5 lety

      sorry for your loss...how are you now Esther? lost my husband too.

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 2 lety

      @Morgan Chase hello Morgan. Thank you for your message.
      It took me 33 months before I finally able to move forward. It was a rough journey but it was only Jesus who helped me make it through that great storm. I am now happy and at peace because of Christ. God has filled all the void and He has given me hope.
      How are you Morgan? Hope you are well. How can I pray for you?

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 2 lety

      @Morgan Chase
      czcams.com/video/pRzRrc7XEjs/video.html

    • @Marie-cp4yf
      @Marie-cp4yf Před 2 lety

      @Morgan Chase i will pray for you Morgan.

    • @richardbradshaw7830
      @richardbradshaw7830 Před 2 lety

      @@Marie-cp4yf i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday......

  • @sand0077
    @sand0077 Před 3 lety +5

    My wife of 24 years, together 26, passed Nov 9, 2020 due to heart issues. The videos on grieving have been very helpful in dealing with my loss and recognize I must go through with experiencing those feelings and not suppress them however difficult they may be. Thank goodness for CZcams and email during this time.

  • @annagober8509
    @annagober8509 Před 8 lety +18

    almost 3 weeks ago my boyfriend of only a little over a year died of an asthma attack..I'm almost 9 months pregnant. I don't know how these people feel or get through the days because i wasnt there nearly as long and Its already so terrible...

    • @carlos23mex
      @carlos23mex Před 6 lety

      With all due respect, I doubt that the amount of time we spent with our loved one is equal to the pain we feel when they're gone. I lost my mother at age 21 and at age 27 I lost my boyfriend with whom I spent 2 years together only. The pain and time grieving his lost has been more difficult.
      Btw, congrats on your pregnancy.