Oh really is that so? Jedediah got married at 40 years and had a baby in her 40's. She put her career infront of having a family. She found a guy to marry when she was 40 now she is 45 and aging, plus she married a guy is around her age. According to her logic he can leave for a younger woman. This woman is a straight grifter
@@monas she got lucky. most women in her 40s won't be so lucky. look at Lolo Jones crying online about trying to get pregnant with invitro or Eboni Williams searching for random man chowder. sad state for those women.
@@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp Yes but it shows this woman is a hypocrite. And you following a hypocrite. It's not sad for women in their 40's, as every man is not looking for a much younger woman. And not every will get a much younger woman even if he wants one. There are lots of men who are also in their 40's and 50's already had children and do not want anymore. And prefer to grow old with someone around their age. Stop your nonsense about sad state for those women. As long as you have life in your body it's not over. Eboni can get the man she wants, there is someone for everyone.
I wanted to be married so badly when I was 20-25. Now the older I get, the less I want to be married, and even have children. I think I’m this way due to the fact that I can’t find just one example of marriage that is a ideal and truly happy.
OMG same, I wanted to be married 20-25, that love and relationship is like all the movies UNTIL my ex-bf cheated on me....and I started to get into deeper on other people's marriage that I though was a good one, then behind closed door, there were lots of cheatings, lies, manipulation, neglect, abuse......
I was 32 when I met my wife and she was 38 years old. She was hands down the most beautiful woman I had ever seen anywhere. And she was an RN and head of her dept. I pursued her and we got married and our daughter was born two years later when she was 40 years old. She was one of those women who was skinny during pregnancy and still had a waistline and you really had to see her from the side to know she was pregnant. That was 34 years ago and we're still together and I love her more now than I did back then.
You think you are encouraging older women but you’re actually giving them false hope by pointing out the exception to the rule. Life based off of probability and not possibility. You’re not helping women by enabling them to feed into their delusions. Going for that “Feeling good about themselves” momentarily is why they made bad decisions when they’re young to begin with.
Play the field for 15 to 20 years, explore all of your options, pass on all of the good men that just wanted a reliable partner. Now, feel the loneliness men feel every day when we're young.
But men get the privilege of feeling that loneliness and rejection for that extra 10 to 20 years. Remember MEN You should love a WOMAN however NEVER fall in love with a FEMALE
"Explore all of your options," aka. having more rods run through her than a nuclear reactor. These thots will get no simpathy from me, they made their choices.
Older women with education, class, no tattoos, no exotic piercings, no bad debt, no addictions, have a sense of humor, a pleasing personality, a sense of personal style, great relationship with their kids, who have sex appeal and are confidently in their femininity are the hottest women on the planet. They have no competition because they are rare, authentic, and unique.
Yeh, nope. To be a stepfather is already a lost battle, son. Unless you have hit 60 already, have your own kids, you are back on the Market, and those are the women who are attracted to you. If you are in your prime, lets say 30-40's, in a good shape, independent, financially stable etc, why would you settle for a woman with that much baggage? Its just illogical, unless, of course, its love at first sight, then I understand
The best now a days is to stay single till we die in coming ww3 in peace waiting for the nukes in los angeles any month to few yrs now. Chilling zero problems
Buhahha according to recent studies single women are the happiest group on the planet..on the other hand men who are leftovers, chronically involuntarily celibate men or divorced men are more prone to suicide.. ..seems that men are the ones who are reaping what they sowed and can't cope with loneliness, not women. Cheers mfs.. it's Only the begining.. passport bro pseudo solution ain't gonna work for you Because women from 3rd world countries aint used to dead beat dusties.they want provider men .And you will end up with a child bride in your 40s who basically was sold to you by her family... not only a pedo who was unwanted by the sane women his age in his hometown but also a husband of a wife who is with him solely for his money.. congrats.. you 😂😂😏⛏️💰 Besides men over 35 nowadays are also in their decline. Baldness erectile dysfunction , dad bods and usually can't earn more than their partner.. no need to panick over a dusty who's more likely than not beneath me in everything
Nothing much to panic about getting older, we are all heading that direction. What should panic you is being that old and still retain the shitty personality and delusional expectations that keep you single.
@@jimziemer9826 Personally, I would be perfectly happy dating someone 30+ or 40+, but they are just difficult to be with: they are so used to having their way, being alone and not sharing their time, and more selective and closed minded towards people. If their attitude was more open and communicative, it would be fine. Besides, why should be more difficult for women than men? They're the ones that always allow the relationships to happen! They're the ones doing the rejecting! They're so used to a man chasing them that all they need to do is say yes!
@@DonovanAenslaed When women get in their 40s and 50s, men are doing more of the rejecting. Men have more to offer with age (e.g., money, houses, etc.) than women do. Men tend to go after the younger women without children. It’s funny how the tables turn with age and women start pursuing men. It’s not impossible for women to date younger men, it just harder. The difference is menopause.
I dated a lot in my 20's and 30's, could have been married in my 20's more than once but I knew it was the wrong girl. Decided to hold out. Met a girl when I was 35 she was 37. Had two kids without issues and they were born when she was 40 and 43. Ideally we would have had kids earlier but that wasn't in the cards. With that said, ideally do it when you're younger, late 20's early 30's. Having kids is hard! Thankfully I have more energy than almost any teenager I know and so does my wife. I lived in the city and almost every girl I met was superficial. It took me a while to find my unicorn. With that said I was focusing on the wrong things. I was too immature and I focused on having fun. I needed to grow up. I needed to be a man. I did grow up, I found a great women who I could relate to. Never liked girls younger than me as I couldn't relate to them. My advice, if you can't find a women in your current surroundings, change them. Stop looking at the superficial ones. Find one that is God fearing and puts family first!
I was married at 22 and had my son at 24 divorced at 30 due to abuse. I'm so tired of being told because I'm 38 I'm worthless as a woman. This lady has some delusions. Any guy I've dated ALWAYS trys to come back after they learned the girls they are after are so superficial and immature. I literally don't care. I am HAPPY and if someone doesn't eant me based on looks then thank GOD because everyone ages and we're older longer than we are younger.
Patrick, excellent! Personally. I have always been the nice guy. For the first 30 years of my life I have also been shallow and broke. Not a great combination. I worked on myself and broadened my horizons. Slowly I started to attract quality women. I did not meet my wife until I was 45 years old. She was 36 years old. One of the most loving and caring women I have met in my life. I thank god every day for her. Did not think women like her existed. I learned there are many quality women in the city. Even NY Ny. Washington DC. My wife is born and raised in Baltimore. She is such a wonderful sweetheart. The more I love her she returns my love 3 fold.
The only women who panic are the ones that listen to this horse sh-t. Don't listen and don't panic. Live your life happy. Design your own life. period. End of story.
@@hoedemakerbart you can by a house. Downgrade the neighborhood. You don’t need good schools if you don’t have kids. Downgrade your lifestyle. Eat less. Get a better job. Save more of your income. I have not been to a city in the United States where you could not find an affordable home less than 30 miles from where you are standing. The average home in Washington DC is almost 1 million dollars. You can buy a home in Baltimore city 30 miles away for 150 k.
Conversely, as a mid-40s man married to the same woman (early 40s) for just over 20 years, I still see the same woman as I did back then, but also the treasured woman who gave me a family and made my house a home. She is the most beautiful woman in the world to me.
And most of them just need a simp to split the tab with not a partner cuz subconsciously they know that that guy couldn't find a childless woman so he hat to settle and she will end up resenting him.
Lmao I am divorced with one kid and I'm doing great in my income 😂💀 I don't date a man for money. This lady is degrading women basing worth on looks and fertility. News flash, at our age were not looking for men who want babies!
@@BoydofZINJ I think you mean child support. Alimony isn't based on whether there are children and I don't think it's all that common anymore. Even child support is becoming less common, with shared custody becoming more and more the norm. Which is good, IMHO. The continued presence of the father is very important for children.
@orlando7874 to say that is to say you accept what ever ie bad behavior and her bad decisions. Also why should a man take her as she is when they don't accept men the way they are
@@sammorton3987 you right when I said a man love a woman the way they are I meaned when a woman is humbled when a woman her interior is more beautiful than the exterior that how I was thinking sorry for the miss understanding
I hope you got something out of it, for you women it's really very simple MEN are very simple keep your level head stick to your relationship as long as you can minimize the body count by being with your bf longer let your boyfriend know that you stand by him untill he decides to leave you give him peace of mind by that no other man get in your way for him your attention, your body and mind is dedicated to him let him know that do not let any other man be it your friend, neighbor, get close to you in anyway shape or form, you let him know your boundaries of personal space can not be intruded and reserved for only one man and you should ask the same of him let him know that you see him get tired give him a pat in the back or shoulders, offer him a sandwich if you think he might want some simple gestures, grab a can of beer for him rub his back it may sound like you're mothering him but that is the key to any man's heart there I gave you a secret to a man's heart...
I’m unmarried at 45, living my best life, look better than I ever have, and have more men attracted to me now than ever and I don’t even care about them! It doesn’t always go the direction she’s saying people! Eat less, work out more, get good sleep, love your friends and family, forgive people, and start living like the earth is your Adventureland! It’s amazing!
Good for you. If you're going to be happy single forever that's ok. At some point, time and age catch on. 45 is not an old age at all. But you have many years ahead of you. And the day will come when you are going yo look at the mirror and realize the truth. Everyday it would get harder and harder to do everything by yourself. Now you may have options, you said yourself you don't care about them and that sounded so arrogant. Enjoy it while it lasts.
Ladies, it's ok. Don't panic! My mom divorced my dad when she was late 30s, remarried at 50s. Her second husband passed away after 15 years together and she managed to get a boyfriend... Please don't buy into this scarcity mentality. Your value as a person is not tied to your youth and fertile beauty.
The majority of people are looking for just a reliable, sensible and kind partner...and these are hard to find. To be honest, i prefer singledom to the alternative.
Yeah he's probably a simp and he can't get anything better that why he chose you, you think a millionaire hot guy would chose you to marry or a virgin 22 year old?
A lot of these women who are panicking are the same women who spent their prime years getting run through like a marathon, why would any right-thinking man want to commit to them?
No, it's just a sober acknowledgement of reality. Dating proceeds according to rules of supply and demand just like the economy does, and in a very real sense, it's a part of the economy itself. It's not a misnomer to describe it that way; it's just a more technical term.
For some reason, women and blue pilled men seem to think dating is supposed to be this wonderful experience. The truth is that dating is a cold and brutal landscape filled with people who put themselves above those around them. And you know who perpetuates this? Women. We even changed the online dating experience from open messaging to swipe based, because women wanted to discard 80% of men without even giving them a chance to say “hi”. Men learn fast that this is competitive. Like a marketplace. And we have to be better than the rest of the options to win the girl over.
@@123pb Adultery, oppression, bullying is also anti family. I'm a feminist who doesn't support abortion, and I believe men support it no less, if not more. Terminating pregnancies is as anti-woman as you can get, and men like Herschel Walker who pressure women into it are not few. One of the most dangerous times in a womans life is when she's trying to leave a relationship, and when she's pregnant.
@@bluliite You are full of bull. The biggest pushers of abortions are women who don’t want to take any responsibility for their actions and see abortions as an easy way out to live a “free life”. The mental gymnastics you must go through is unreal. Real world class stuff. Whatever happened to my body my choice ? Oh I get it, that suddenly doesn’t apply when a numb skull like you needs to shift the blame away from women, whilst being devoid of any logic somehow making men responsible for women killing their own offspring. And like a true deranged feminist, you take the actions of 1 single man and somehow conveniently extrapolate this notion to somehow completely dump the responsibility of abortions on men, when it isn’t men running to the abortions clinics for one (why would they it isn’t their bodies), and two don’t have the right to force women into getting abortions in first place. Last I checked nobody can force women to get abortions in the western world, but somehow through magic, clueless feminists like yourself need to construct make believe scenarios in which men are the culprits. Like many women, you act like a little chil that must seek the blame anywhere expect at the very place that the blame lies, the women that decide to get abortions of their own free will. Way to go 👏 If you were capable of logical thought you would QUICKLY realise that your assertion makes ZERO SENSE. You have many feminists and pro abortionist women screaming my body my choice all day long, yet somehow according to you abortions are mens fault. You can’t have both. Cause if men are really to blame and women are infantile incapable of making their own decisions , you’d have to pretend that the my body my voice mantra doesn’t exist amongst feminists. I find it amusing that you claim to be an anti abortion feminist and claim that abortion is as anti feminist as it gets, which would suggest that EVERY feminist is anti abortion, which logically isn’t the case. So of course since you can’t make the ridiculous claim that every feminist on the planet is anti abortion (otherwise you’d look quite delusional), you engage in mental gymnastics to shift away the blame away from the very people that are willingly running to abortions clinics just so it fits your distorted world view. NEWFLASH, you are STILL DELUSIONAL!
@@gburn9377 Is pitting feather weight men against a heavy weight equality? Yet they are both treated with respect and paid the same. You don't get to beat on tiny men or not pay them for their work.
The saddest part of my job working in a nursing home is when a resident comes in and they have no friends, no family, no kids. They just sit in their rooms alone with no visitors with no one there to sit beside them when they death comes
That's what they all want! Somebody to take them places. Buy them things. Give them a house, car, clothes. Like my brother always says, "If it flies, floats or f**ks, rent it. Don't buy it."
Well yeah they’ve worked and now want to enjoy travels they can finally afford to pay for or afford to take time out in their own lives for. Dude this is the same thing those have been married want to do at that age! The kids are grown or old enough to stay home now, the mortgage is over halfway done, the world travel savings is ripe for use, let’s goooooo! Duh! Lol!!! And even older you see them going to historical lands and pilgrimages, or heck, buying an RV and traveling the country without a care in the world. You gotta live.
Plus the population control advocates. Feminism is a gift to population control advocates, because it's self perpetrating, given the illusory carrot stick of power, money, and influence in exchange for children.
Yes why not Pearl is a millionaire, single female still. Wonder why, she preaches like this one does about marriage and kids then sits back in her rich life living it up. While the married couple, struggle financially, mentally and emotionally.
@@spinninggood You do know people age, right? She'd age whether she was 45 when she wrote this or 25. You're clearly already old as dirt. Why so bitter?
There is nothing to panic about. Lots of people are divorced by this age, haven’t met that special person yet or just enjoy being single. You know yourself so much more into your thirties and forties that I think that’s a better time to really meet your match and settle down with the right person. I don’t know why we push marriage and commitment so hard on people in their twenties. You’re barely scratching the surface of your self at that point. We all get older so accept that. You shouldn’t want to be a twenty year old your whole life. Embrace aging and growing older. Lots of young people never get that luxury.
Good job they are not listening to the types like Pearl who is single a millionaire and no kids I believe yet pushing marriage and kids down the throat of women. Just laugh and do what you feel is right in your own life.
Agreed! Probably the best comment I've seen on here in awhile! We can try to be in control and plan out our life...but it doesn't always work out as we hoped. You just have to do your best with the hand your dealt and refuse to give in to victim mentality.
Well said. In a world where less and less people actually do self work, delusional standards are everywhere... Divorce rates are sky high... You've got no business settling down and raising a family - subjecting a whole group of people to your BS - until you're actually ready and not trash the first chapter of someone's life
That's not how this game works. You need to put in effort to get what you need and particularly with a relationship. It won't just be like hey it works no problems at all.
Exactly. If had so many men chase me all my life, im looking foward to my forties. I just need one person to chill with...I know women in their almost seventies and they still have several suitors...if u got it u got it any age...only thing i panic about is if something happens to my dog.
There are many women and men who are in a relationship because they don't want to be alone and they don't have any particular expectations of what it will cost them, for example how distorted their personality is. But this requires a stomach, not everyone is able to be with someone out of calculation and interest, and they consider their own mental freedom much more valuable.
May no woman feel this panick. May all of them find family and belongingness. May all women find a husband and a family that dearly love them and care for them always.
There's a thing called, you reap what you sow. You break the rules, you pay the price. So no not every woman will find her happily ever after or have that special day they are all looking forward too. This is life. You break the rules, you pay in blood.
Yes some women due to confidence etc have struggled in the dating pool, But the vast majority have been well and truly too choosing, believing the BS in Hollywood etc, That their RICH knight in shining armour is going to turn up some day. Whilst loneliness is not a good thing, inadvertently many women have chosen it, So I shed no tears for them.
Met my wife when she was 20, myself 24. We have been together almsot 18 years. I still see the same beautiful young woman I married when I look at her all these years later. Married life is life on easy mode when both partners grew up watching successful marriages,
Do we panic? I wasn’t aware of this. Why didn’t the young women send us the memo that we’re supposed to panic because I just did not know. Thank you. Let me now begin panicking. 😆
You may not want to admit it. It may not be true panick, could just be realization, or existential dread. Or you could be the minority that truly doesn’t want children and your biological urges aren’t at the front of your thoughts. But it does happen to many women, like my sister when it hit her at 36-38.
@@jonathanfarley2023 😆😆No love. Maybe YOU panic in singleness. Men and women with an authentic self esteem who don’t see singleness as a bad thing don’t panic. You are projecting.
@@ErinDeNis Men don't panic. But we're not even talking about whether women should panic; the reality is that they do. For some silly reason you want to pretend they don't.
We ALL reap what we sow. If a woman sows the seeds of a career, she shouldnt be surprised later in life that a career is all she will ever have. If women want children, then perhaps they should be sowing another crop rather than careers.
I don’t think in any time of our life we should be panicking, unless you are a very bad person with no social skills. Good, open ppl always find their match. You just have to be abel to adjust, change workplaces, go out to other countries, and you will meet someone is so fit to you, that you know in couple of month that there is nothing to wait for. Embrace this person and enjoy the years left together
Yes, we should not panic. But we do! We shouldn’t feel sad, but we do! We just do because it’s part of being human! We learn to cope with with and accept. If you don’t panic , it’s because you’re just damaged and numb now. Might as well be dead. Stop trying to act tough.
@david lindsay why unfortunately? Isn't it a good thing that we are no longer pressured so much to get to any relationship, even a terrible one? It is ok to live single. This way, relationships should be more cherished if it comes to be.
@@homeofwaxingyeah I was thinking what’s so unfortunate about that? Majority of the guys harping on this subject want us (women) to panic, and a lot of the women copying it are either panicking themselves or have been married for a long time so they don’t even understand single life anymore, or single people. It’s good to see that there’s more diversity, where there are men outside of that hive mind and think for themselves.
People are complex and her "advice" is not cut and dried. If you panic, the odds are high that you will try to bond to a bad guy out of desperation. A recipe for disaster. Stay strong and use your head and heart wisely.
Women will panic if they're delusional, thinking they'll be young forever 🤦♀️ I had a "Oh, its happening" moment...but I didn't panic, because I listened to the women around me when I was young, knew my youth would fade and have worked to age as gracefully as I can
I am still single at age 62. I was brought up in a very traditional East Indian family. We took care of parents while going to college and balancing work-life. I never had a chance to pursue a serious relationship with a decent woman. I have accepted the results of Aging in a graceful way. I am a straight man, I used to be frustrated for not having a relationship with a female companion but now I'm so used to it that I enjoy my single life. I find lots of joy in serving the lord, Jesus Christ. Having friends on my side who at my back means a lot to me at this age. Now my focus is on maintaining my Health, and Living peacefully and joyfully in service to the Lord
Glad to hear about your life in brief. I am sure you have found peace because of your relationship with Jesus Christ. In the end, it's God who matters to us. Everything else is secondary!
I was married to an alcoholic for 19 years and divorced him to raise four children on my own. Worked like crazy for my education and career. Started my own IT consulting firm at 52. I’ve been single for 37 years now, and could never find a man that treated me better than I treated myself. My kids love me, my eight grandkids adore me and I’m extremely happy. Get over NEEDING a man.
You still needed a man for those children. Can’t get pregnant alone. Also, life consequences. Why bang an alcoholic. That’s totally on yourself, not men in general.
And still in lonely denial. You have reached a point where you are in lonely denial. Live off of your children and grandchildren world that they are building for themselves. They no doubt piety you.
Thank God I wasn't on the hunt when I reached that age. I maintained my looks well into my 40s and my friends would always ask me what I did to get asked out on dates all the time. About the time I hit 35 or 40, many of my friends' husbands were cheaters, some of their children were rebellious, drug addicted, pregnant, or in some other bad circumstance. My phone rang off the wall with wailing women telling me how lucky I was to be single and childless. Some confided that they wished they'd never had children. So I guess that's why I never got that panic attack. Any interest I might have had to marry and have children grew fainter and fainter based on what I saw happening around me. I'm also not cuddly. So I'm not sure I understand what point this woman is trying to make. Is she trying to scare women into getting married young? Trust me, whatever choice you make or get in life, you'll be fine. It's all good.
She’s not trying to scare women into marrying young. She’s trying to wake women up from thinking there’s all the time in the world to decide, but time will start removing those choices from them. It’s perfectly fine to not go that path, but it’s far worse when you can’t make that choice yourself.
@@efiniGTX Women aren't stupid. Trust me, women in their 20s and 30s are reminded constantly that their biological timeclocks are ticking. There's peer pressure, family pressure, pressure from all around to get married and have children. Who would be the audience for this woman's barking? Young women locked up in somebody's basement with occasional guarded access to selected rants like this? Or incels who need reassurance that someday they'll nail someone?
@@kegaket6772 If you’re not the target audience, why did you feel the need to respond? Yes you’re correct that women constantly get reminders in their younger years, but those years seem to fly by quickly and then they look up to find a mate and their options aren’t what they were in their younger years. You may not think Jed’s message applies to you and that’s fine, but I have seen the pattern personally of women who choose not to focus on family as the priority and come to regret it. This isn’t telling anyone what they should or shouldn’t do, it’s telling women that perhaps the accepted meta for modern women won’t be fulfilling. I never implied women were stupid, but women are very easily manipulated by group think and social media.
@@efiniGTX she reminded me of madonna the last years just before she hit the wall of sixties and when she started going crazy and making this photos under the best with her ass out lol I think the only person who is hitting the wall is this women. This hormone shit at thirty I don't take its garbage 😒 sorry you dont look bad at this age actually you become more attractive also it depends on the person when you are a beautiful women you don't have this kind of problems you always get Men's attention.
@@maltesseres9563 that’s not what the wall means exactly. Women can still get attention from men, but it’s usually situationships. It’s not saying women are absolutely done or worthless when they hit a certain age, it’s that their peak attractiveness is past them so they end up settling for 2nd best. But many women think that they get better with age and deserve more, when the truth is more the opposite. Yes they become more mature and better people, but that is separate from pure attractiveness.
I am a 40 year old woman and am single since I am 31 years old. I did not hit the wall, I just know I will never give my all again when men can just walk away or cheat. Plus my son is happy, somehow I feel whole.
Wise. Many women have found that there are far more cons than pros to having a husband. Even if he's faithful (rare quality), he'll probably still cause you a lot of stress and work. This is why men have always wanted to keep women out of the workforce. They know their only real value to women is financial. If a woman can support herself financially there is no need for a husband.
Why put this pressure on us? This was exactly the reason I ended up with a narc who was actually dating several other women. Because I was pressured due to my age. Leave us be and stop pressuring women because of our age. After that narc, I realized it was better to be alone.
There are a lot of women who need time to figure out what is healthy, so not all 30-somethings are avoiding marriage, but trying to escape toxicity. It’s a good thing when you don’t settle for dysfunctional, even if you are older when you do.
Those are obvious things..it shouldn't matter if it 16 or 46 u shouldn't date someone who has extreme mental issues ..what she is talkin about is way different..cuz father time is undefeated..n a womans most valuable trait is her looks....the moral of the story is dont b a ho while ur hot n sexy cuz when ur not hot n sexy anymore n ur still single u will most likely end up alone n sad..b happy to give a good man ur youth n treat him right n he will do the same
Toxic ppl are only on uf life if u choose them to b..its ur fault if u keep picking the same type of toxic guys... iv nvr needed to escape a toxic woman cuz they are no where near me..its not hard to see good ppl they stand out..the problem is every girl thinks they should get to check every box for what kind of man they want..when less than 1% of men and women get there perfect partner...
@@r.boss5373 a woman’s most valuable trait is her faithfulness or looks? And no, men will use you up even if you are faithful because a lot of men don’t care that you are invested and that you married them.
My best years were my 50's right after my divorce. Met two wonderful men .. ended up marrying the love of my life now for 14 years. Forget competition is in your head.
Good for you but what's the lesson for a 18 year old woman? Slog it out tik your ,50s and then youll meet someone you love. It's absurd! Women need to start their families by 25! Instead. If being a ho and then getting the leftover men.
@@jackhackman7777 I agree with part of what you said. I agree with the one possibility of them ending up alone. But on the other, it's more likely THEY (the woman) will use some nice guy. They will marry him, pop out a kid or three and then when she's put in enough time (depending on what state they live in) SHE will end it, and get half or more. Then there's alimony, and of course child support.
@TideFan Yankee Stop dating homeless females, that's nice of ya but not really responsible decision to marry them and move them in to your private, already paid house. Accountability TideFan Yankee.
If you get used to be single up to 40, then you're good to go for the rest of the life. No panic about the spouse and children. Just relax and enjoy being alone and give no damn fuck to the whole world
I'm single 60 don't look it don't act 60 very healthy I like a women who is 35 I think she would date if it weren't for the age it's pretty vommon these days that women date older men,for me it's all about the relationship and creating memories together any suggestions,she's a real sweetheart and I have strong feelings for her
Fellas! Read the law before you give someone the power to make you homeless destitute broke and miserable! A woman can divorce you because she got bored and now you sleep on a sidewalk in 13 degrees starved with Hypothermia! Don’t get married!
No need to panic. Just live your life single 😊 you can get old in peace without worrying about other women being more fertile 😅 if you’re still “hunting “ at forty, maybe it isn’t for you.
I'm attracted to women 34 to 48, I'm 53. They're so much more mature and responsible and their bodies are more womanly, not to mention women are working out more than ever before. I'm starting to see that 38 is the new 28 for women. Even then, look at J-Lo at 53, etc. A real woman has more passion and warmth in bed, and knows how to cook. Like most women at any age you just have to let them know who's boss at the start. Let her know you will not tolerate BS disrespect or else she'll treat you as less than a man. Don't spoil them.
I do not compete with anyone. Who is this woman?? She is spewing negativity. If two people find one another and are happy, they will pursue a relationship no matter what their age bracket.
The desperate panic of a woman who gave her youth & purity away to dozens of Chads - soaking up all that male attention, telling decent marriage-minded guys to get lost - is one of the funniest things in life. As it turns out, the women who save themselves for their husband, who invest in their family & children, who don't waste their lives in the corporate world - get the last laugh.
My little sister was taught neither. She was told that her body was not built for a corporation or a man, but for God. She is not to have any intimate relationships with men, but to die pure and holy. She will be the happiest person in the family if she follows that truth. Females should be pure and holy, not dirty like today's generation.
I gave up that hunt about 5 years after my husband died. I tried, but I had no desire to go back into that self-defeating trap, ever again. I was on the hunt all throughout my teens and twenties, and until I met my husband, I was basically invisible. I'm just ME, now. Think, hmmm... conservative, plainJane Tinkerbell... men aren't into tiny women who are just cute. They want sex-bomb models, and I'm too mature, and not into being that. It's okay to be single, ladies. It's okay if men no longer find you attractive on the outside, as long as you stay gold on the inside. They'll be there someday, too. It's their turn to hunt for you and feel too old. You just be YOU!
I can relate to feeling invisible. Never dated much, shy/introverted, view sex as sacred. I take pride in my health and have aged well. Unfortunately, single men my age must be living on fast food and alcohol ...and smell like cheap weed. No thanks
You should be in my shoes then. In 1975 i was 18 and married the love of my life. She was only 15 then. 2 years later, we had our Son then 2 more years later our beautiful Daughter. At 46 1/2 years together,she went to be with God The Father and has left me undone. Trying to find a God fearing Woman to share the rest of my life, seems to be impossible.
The truth hurts.: A woman at 20 plays, at 30 prays, and at 40 pays...sometimes at 50's she gays. Women are with the richest men their looks can attract and men are with the hottest women they can afford. Whenever someone tells me that "Age" is just a mindset. I tell them, "I can see your wrinkles and grey hair... It's NOT working." Let me give you a story: I know a young lady who was drop-dead beautiful at 19. Married a guy because he was working overseas - didn't love the guy but he was pulling down about 20 grand a month. While he was over there she was banging multiple dudes in their house and when he got home - she was playing happy homemaker. Long story short he lost his job and they had NO SAVINGS. Now they are about to get kicked out of their home, car repoed no food etc.. She is relying on her 70-year-old mom to help them out. (she was a trainwreck when she was younger) Now while the money was good they were living the high life. No savings at all She has gained weight and doesn't look as attractive as she did at 19. She wants to divorce him but still wants him to pay all her bills. They have no kids. Why? cause her big ass doesn't want to go to work and at almost 40 who (of value) wants to take care of a high-maintenance OLD female? She played herself and now she's probably going to move in with her mama and bleed off her until she dies.
My ex-husband left me and our two children when I was 33 as he couldn't handle having a child with Autism. At the time, we were based 6 hrs away from home. He packed up and left. I remained in an unknown area for the sake of our daughter. I'm 43 this year. I haven't dated. Never hooked up nor met another man. I've spent the whole time giving my children my whole time and devotion. My son passed all of his GCSE and even won an award for Computer Science. He went off to college for 2yrs and passed all his exams. He is due to start university this September. My daughter went to mainstream school and passed all of her GCSE and is at college studying Animal Care. According to this woman, I'm old and will die lonely. I guess I'll die lonely, but I'll die with a smile imprinted on my heart, knowing I gave my all to my children and pushed them (despite all odds) to succeed in life and be the best of who they are and can be!
And as a broader rule when taking advice on how to advance your life look for people who are where you want to be in 20+ years. The fact they didn't stray from the path or get distracted means they had the right idea about something.
Honey, competition is still there when you found the man and you are married with him. That certificate of marriage doesn't mean you own him! "On the hunt", "hyper aware", "panic"...it is called low self esteem. But I've been married forever ...what do I know?
You seem to have a genuine mindset, and for us guys, we are overwhelmed with stories of women taking us for at least half or more of what we own along with our children if things don't work out for whatever reason. What you are saying is technically true, but as a man, we fall into traps with women and feel like we are a slave to our decision to be with someone we thought wasn't capable of such an extreme vengeance. We are blind to the angel persona that a lot of women put on, and to be fair, that's all they have ever known. It's akin to don't hate the player. I hate the game. I know there are wonderful women out there, but the advantage guy is hypnotized by a charming pretty lady and can't see until it's too late. What she really is deep deep down. Other women are aware of her, but it's like a father meeting a boyfriend. The boy is terrified because men can see right through them and determine their true intentions.
I thought that certificate of marriage did mean that you own" him and he you? As far as fidelity is concerned? Isn't that in the vows or has that changed?
@@nidh1109 sexual faithfulness to a spouse or partner, loyalty and support does not mean that you, he or she is an object you own. Treating a person (your spouse) as a commodity or an object you own is not stipulated in the certificate of marriage nor in the vows.
The worst thing is not being single. The worst thing is being in a destructive relationship with someone who has emotionally fractured your spirit. Look, you ladies are white travel and you will find someone if you are that desperate. Just be a nice white women with good disposition, and you can find someone if you are that desperate to just find a body.
Oh, please! Just stop! This is 2023 and women have choices and options. There are many well known women who are single and are certainly not panicked. That "panic" is a form of self-abuse.
The truth is that a large enough percentage of older single women do feel lonely and have a harder time in life, and do feel a tinge of envy when they see other people starting families and doing regular "animal kingdom" things that people have been doing for hundreds of thousands of years. Of course there are many people who are honestly happy never having a companion who is committed to them, and never leaving a legacy in the form of kids/family - But I think it's a bit dishonest to claim that a huge number of older people don't feel lonely, and it is objectively harder to attract a solid mate after a certain age, especially if you have not achieved certain goals (financially, physically etc .) We are after all, social creatures who increasingly rely on the help of other able-bodied people who care about us as we age.
I agree it's hilarious....it's like we are back to the cave men era . where women are still in the cave waiting. where the reality that most men can't even provide or do squat ...I see it every day ..we need to address the problem on both sides of spectrum...the men in their 40s. I see them at work I want to vomit ..out of shape ..aging ..common now
@ytfeelslikenorthkorea4650 if a woman is still single late in life, thats not a wrong or right decisions that got her there. She made those decisions for whatever reason at the time which she thought then was right and maybe now still thinks was right or maybe now upon reflection thinks was wrong. Whether it was right or wrong is irrelevant. The fact that the decision was made is what need to be accepted and not attributed to anyone other than oneself.
This isn't remotely true in my 41 years. Women in their 40s still have guys lining up desperate to get in a long-term relationship with them. I don't think guys care about age at all.
I’m 40 and my wedding is in 2 months. My fiancé is 38. Do you. Be you. Drop the fear. I lived my life FULLY, not hunting. You are where you are meant to be. And that should not include panic.
Bingo.... I'm in my mid 60s and I could vouch that what you say is factual there are a lot of women out there that are decent looking but they think they're all that in a bag of chips. 🙄
You need to love yourself and be happy by yourself. You can have friends. If the right person comes along at any age them try it. But never get into a relationship and be unhappy.
She usually speaks about those that want to raise a family, that is why she also speaks about fertility in this clip. Thus you are not the target audience. Didnt you understand that?
@@darkfoxjj male fertility also drops by 50% after the age of 35 and older sperm is very responsible for genetic anomalies on the embryo such as autism..We don't want you old-er either. boom
Hon. The tech-based dating culture is SO different from even 20 years ago when you met your second husband. I realize you don't know what you don't know so I won't fault you for that I guess. Still....it's not the same. At. All. And it's a crying shame too.
There are enough men on earth for every woman at any age. Stop limiting yourself. There is no guarantee that when you get married at 18, it’s going to last forever. God is fair. No panic for getting old. Getting old is a blessing from God.
There’s 1.13 women aged 55+ for every 1 man aged 55+ in America, and age gaps tend to increase in the favor of men as we get older. So yeah, statistically speaking, no.
The panic is what is unattractive and pushes us single guys away. Keep stress down, prayer up, eat right, don’t drink, ditch sugar, stay fit and healthy, and get a counselor.
She’s absolutely right. I was newly divorced at 44 and actively dated the pool of women she’s talking about. They “tend to be” as she described…hyper aware and borderline panicked…which unfortunately makes them vulnerable to men playing the field
Those who became addicted to social media attention shot themselves in the foot and lost this option. Gratitude and humility are needed so we stop comparing ourselves to others and find inner peace.
The real culprit was the dating apps that allowed women sexual access to men they never qualified for and believed hooking up with these men would lead to a relationship. It lead to being pumped and dumped.
Age doesnt make any difference. At every age it is the same. A woman can get attractive men only for sex and only unattractive men for marriage. The end result is unhappy marriages, cheating and divorce. Monogamy has already been made obsolete.
You panic when you don't know your worth. A woman at 40 that knows her worth is in no competition with a girl at 25. It is toxic women that see young girls as competition. So I have do expand this comment for the sake of some guys commenting from a narrow point of view. Ok, please guys open up your minds a little bit and understand the comment before jumping in. It is ok for a woman to be at forty and single for very many reasons. At forty knowing her worth includes her acknowledging that her dating pool is smaller and she will not be out there fighting young girls for a man. Knowing her worth includes her acknowledging the odds. There are men genuinely wanting to date that 40 year old woman. Knowing her worth is her being comfortable if the guy is around young girls without her thinking they are there to take the man. Knowing her worth includes her choosing to remain single if no one hits on her. Also knowing her worth in my opinion includes not going around dating boys of 25 years old that should he the age of her own son. Worth includes alot of things but some guys are commenting so narrowly. Just the same way a man at 40 knows his chances of dating a 25 year old are narrower. It doesn't matter if you want her but if she has a choice between a 40 year old guy and a 30 year old, she will choose the 30 year old. The whole point is knowing the odds, acknowledging them and respecting yourself enough not to be desperate.
40 yearold i dated who made bank and had hobbies would go into crazy mode when she saw a young good looking woman come anywhere near us. She was toxic and you are right.
It really doesn't matter what you think your worth is. The market decides. If you are not picked at 40 as a woman, you should rightly panic and reevaluate your perceived worth.
Of course she is projecting her insecurities. This woman spend 22 years of hwr lidw focused on hwr carewr then got married at 40 years old and had a kid in her 40's, now she is 45. Her husband is hwtr age and successful, with her logic he can leave her for a younger woman. This woman is a grifter
Omg! Stop it! Alone is better than settling. Any man preoccupied with younger will be that way even if they are married. Alone is better than being a being an unpaid housekeeper , servant and nanny while they are still looking because "men are visual".Imagine the panic you feel boxed into a life where you cannot compete in the job market because some man got his career opportunities and you held down everything else.
If she didn't want you in her prime, don't take her in her decline.
ABSOLUTELY!!!
Oh really is that so? Jedediah got married at 40 years and had a baby in her 40's. She put her career infront of having a family. She found a guy to marry when she was 40 now she is 45 and aging, plus she married a guy is around her age. According to her logic he can leave for a younger woman. This woman is a straight grifter
@@monas she got lucky. most women in her 40s won't be so lucky. look at Lolo Jones crying online about trying to get pregnant with invitro or Eboni Williams searching for random man chowder. sad state for those women.
@@PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp Yes but it shows this woman is a hypocrite. And you following a hypocrite.
It's not sad for women in their 40's, as every man is not looking for a much younger woman. And not every will get a much younger woman even if he wants one. There are lots of men who are also in their 40's and 50's already had children and do not want anymore. And prefer to grow old with someone around their age.
Stop your nonsense about sad state for those women. As long as you have life in your body it's not over.
Eboni can get the man she wants, there is someone for everyone.
Ha ha, great rhyme
Never resent growing older, many never get the privilege.
Many women do because their beauty and their box is the only thing they have to offer. 😅
@@danwelterweight4137 like so many low value empty-headed pretty mama's boys, ya mean, right?
@@bacjac8072True, and some guys fall apart hard at like 40 and better hope they have money to offer.
More like don't throw away your best years for things you don't value most.
@@danwelterweight4137 What's your BMI?
I wanted to be married so badly when I was 20-25. Now the older I get, the less I want to be married, and even have children. I think I’m this way due to the fact that I can’t find just one example of marriage that is a ideal and truly happy.
OMG same, I wanted to be married 20-25, that love and relationship is like all the movies UNTIL my ex-bf cheated on me....and I started to get into deeper on other people's marriage that I though was a good one, then behind closed door, there were lots of cheatings, lies, manipulation, neglect, abuse......
@@YouYou-sm8tfbelieve me I know exactly what you mean. I am sorry that this happened to you.
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Look at the cooking show with molly yeh and her husband.
Better to be single and looking to get married than married and looking to be single!
Better not to be looking 😂🎉🤠
At least half of all marriages end in divorce in 5 yrs or less, and women do the majority of the filing! Stay single guys!
At least you have kids even though you're divorced. Single people will have no one when they are in their golden years
@@ViolentCabbage-ym7koAll depends how good of a parent you are.
Better stop posting stupid comments on CZcams.
I was 32 when I met my wife and she was 38 years old.
She was hands down the most beautiful woman I had ever seen anywhere. And she was an RN and head of her dept.
I pursued her and we got married and our daughter was born two years later when she was 40 years old.
She was one of those women who was skinny during pregnancy and still had a waistline and you really had to see her from the side to know she was pregnant.
That was 34 years ago and we're still together and I love her more now than I did back then.
@@jocelynbelle2946 : Thanks.
You think you are encouraging older women but you’re actually giving them false hope by pointing out the exception to the rule. Life based off of probability and not possibility. You’re not helping women by enabling them to feed into their delusions. Going for that “Feeling good about themselves” momentarily is why they made bad decisions when they’re young to begin with.
@@manchuriancandidatethe3rd101 :Oh? Is that what I think?
Because I was just sharing my experience.
Nothing more. Nothing less.
Almost my life to a t except she was 25 and I was 27.
Thats amazing
Play the field for 15 to 20 years, explore all of your options, pass on all of the good men that just wanted a reliable partner. Now, feel the loneliness men feel every day when we're young.
But men get the privilege of feeling that loneliness and rejection for that extra 10 to 20 years.
Remember MEN
You should love a WOMAN however NEVER fall in love with a FEMALE
@@stevecook413 Women are incapable, of love.
Exactly right
"Explore all of your options," aka. having more rods run through her than a nuclear reactor. These thots will get no simpathy from me, they made their choices.
brings me satisfaction
Older women with education, class, no tattoos, no exotic piercings, no bad debt, no addictions, have a sense of humor, a pleasing personality, a sense of personal style, great relationship with their kids, who have sex appeal and are confidently in their femininity are the hottest women on the planet. They have no competition because they are rare, authentic, and unique.
A+
Love that.
I have most of the traits you mentioned and I'm still single, plus a virgin.
I'm from Asia though.
AGREED !!!!
Yes!!
Yeh, nope. To be a stepfather is already a lost battle, son. Unless you have hit 60 already, have your own kids, you are back on the Market, and those are the women who are attracted to you. If you are in your prime, lets say 30-40's, in a good shape, independent, financially stable etc, why would you settle for a woman with that much baggage? Its just illogical, unless, of course, its love at first sight, then I understand
You just described 100% of single women over 30 I know... They are desperate as hell
Desperate lol as soon as they realize they still have a functioning vagina, they start to smile again
Women have reaped what they sowed
Lol 😂yup
The best now a days is to stay single till we die in coming ww3 in peace waiting for the nukes in los angeles any month to few yrs now. Chilling zero problems
Buhahha according to recent studies single women are the happiest group on the planet..on the other hand men who are leftovers, chronically involuntarily celibate men or divorced men are more prone to suicide.. ..seems that men are the ones who are reaping what they sowed and can't cope with loneliness, not women. Cheers mfs.. it's Only the begining.. passport bro pseudo solution ain't gonna work for you Because women from 3rd world countries aint used to dead beat dusties.they want provider men .And you will end up with a child bride in your 40s who basically was sold to you by her family... not only a pedo who was unwanted by the sane women his age in his hometown but also a husband of a wife who is with him solely for his money.. congrats.. you 😂😂😏⛏️💰
Besides men over 35 nowadays are also in their decline. Baldness erectile dysfunction , dad bods and usually can't earn more than their partner.. no need to panick over a dusty who's more likely than not beneath me in everything
Nothing much to panic about getting older, we are all heading that direction. What should panic you is being that old and still retain the shitty personality and delusional expectations that keep you single.
Agreed!
Very well said !
It’s different for women. Men can easily date younger. It’s not so easy for women.
@@jimziemer9826 Personally, I would be perfectly happy dating someone 30+ or 40+, but they are just difficult to be with: they are so used to having their way, being alone and not sharing their time, and more selective and closed minded towards people. If their attitude was more open and communicative, it would be fine.
Besides, why should be more difficult for women than men? They're the ones that always allow the relationships to happen! They're the ones doing the rejecting! They're so used to a man chasing them that all they need to do is say yes!
@@DonovanAenslaed When women get in their 40s and 50s, men are doing more of the rejecting. Men have more to offer with age (e.g., money, houses, etc.) than women do. Men tend to go after the younger women without children. It’s funny how the tables turn with age and women start pursuing men. It’s not impossible for women to date younger men, it just harder.
The difference is menopause.
I dated a lot in my 20's and 30's, could have been married in my 20's more than once but I knew it was the wrong girl. Decided to hold out. Met a girl when I was 35 she was 37. Had two kids without issues and they were born when she was 40 and 43. Ideally we would have had kids earlier but that wasn't in the cards. With that said, ideally do it when you're younger, late 20's early 30's. Having kids is hard! Thankfully I have more energy than almost any teenager I know and so does my wife. I lived in the city and almost every girl I met was superficial. It took me a while to find my unicorn. With that said I was focusing on the wrong things. I was too immature and I focused on having fun. I needed to grow up. I needed to be a man. I did grow up, I found a great women who I could relate to. Never liked girls younger than me as I couldn't relate to them. My advice, if you can't find a women in your current surroundings, change them. Stop looking at the superficial ones. Find one that is God fearing and puts family first!
I was married at 22 and had my son at 24 divorced at 30 due to abuse. I'm so tired of being told because I'm 38 I'm worthless as a woman. This lady has some delusions. Any guy I've dated ALWAYS trys to come back after they learned the girls they are after are so superficial and immature. I literally don't care. I am HAPPY and if someone doesn't eant me based on looks then thank GOD because everyone ages and we're older longer than we are younger.
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Patrick, excellent! Personally. I have always been the nice guy. For the first 30 years of my life I have also been shallow and broke. Not a great combination.
I worked on myself and broadened my horizons. Slowly I started to attract quality women. I did not meet my wife until I was 45 years old. She was 36 years old. One of the most loving and caring women I have met in my life. I thank god every day for her. Did not think women like her existed. I learned there are many quality women in the city. Even NY Ny. Washington DC. My wife is born and raised in Baltimore. She is such a wonderful sweetheart. The more I love her she returns my love 3 fold.
Depends if you are looking for youth, fertility and exuberance or maturity and companionship.
Both are nice, but one lasts longer.
Wonderfully said! Thank you for this encouraging post! Much more helpful than this video! God bless!
Lol, married for 13 years. Divorce now, single and happy. My joy is within
Tell women to also accept anything
We men have to take note of this. Women only want a child. Not a husband
I’m sorry that that is your experience with it
Lmao you got it. Many women, if not most, marry for children
Women want money and status. They don’t marry for love. Unless they’re around 20.
The only women who panic are the ones that listen to this horse sh-t. Don't listen and don't panic. Live your life happy. Design your own life. period. End of story.
Yes and some of us didn't get the memo that we were supposed to panic. We are happy instead.
If a woman wants to get married and start a family, there’s a deadline when that can no longer be achieved. But go off queen
Who's panicking? I have no idea who this woman is and who she is talking about but she seems very insecure.
Absolutely, there is nothing wrong with older women as long as they don't complain.
Exactly 💯
Man everyone gets old and ages. If you can’t find someone who accepts you for you just stay single.
Well where i live you can't buy a house if your single or you need to come up with a shitload of money
Wise advice.
@@hoedemakerbart you can by a house. Downgrade the neighborhood. You don’t need good schools if you don’t have kids. Downgrade your lifestyle. Eat less. Get a better job. Save more of your income. I have not been to a city in the United States where you could not find an affordable home less than 30 miles from where you are standing. The average home in Washington DC is almost 1 million dollars. You can buy a home in Baltimore city 30 miles away for 150 k.
@@hoedemakerbart move in with a. Friend. Many women are doing that
@@fatboy19831 i am in the Netherlands. I allready live in a village. Average house here is EUR 350k
Conversely, as a mid-40s man married to the same woman (early 40s) for just over 20 years, I still see the same woman as I did back then, but also the treasured woman who gave me a family and made my house a home. She is the most beautiful woman in the world to me.
She’s very lucky and so are you, stay happy.
cause you got her in her 20s doofus. you would not find her attractive if you got her at 40
Dating, romance, and "being in a commitment" is VERY overrated. Yes, seggs is good. It is not that good though to put up with feemail narcissism.
I suspect a woman that age is divorced with kids and realizes a single income isn't enough.
And most of them just need a simp to split the tab with not a partner cuz subconsciously they know that that guy couldn't find a childless woman so he hat to settle and she will end up resenting him.
Lmao I am divorced with one kid and I'm doing great in my income 😂💀 I don't date a man for money.
This lady is degrading women basing worth on looks and fertility. News flash, at our age were not looking for men who want babies!
If she is divorced she probably is getting alamony, unless your kids are 18+
@@BoydofZINJ I think you mean child support. Alimony isn't based on whether there are children and I don't think it's all that common anymore. Even child support is becoming less common, with shared custody becoming more and more the norm. Which is good, IMHO. The continued presence of the father is very important for children.
Stay away from that
You are assuming all men want to have a kid. That is simply untrue. Many men also feel more secure with a woman that is less that perfectly attractive
Women when a man really love you he will love you just the way you are
False
@@sammorton3987 why you think is false ?
@orlando7874 to say that is to say you accept what ever ie bad behavior and her bad decisions. Also why should a man take her as she is when they don't accept men the way they are
@@sammorton3987 you right when I said a man love a woman the way they are I meaned when a woman is humbled when a woman her interior is more beautiful than the exterior that how I was thinking sorry for the miss understanding
@@orlando7874 🤣🤣🤣you talking about a unicorn
I'm glad I chose to check the comment section before I listen to this entire clip! What a wholesome comment section! Thank you beautiful people! 💛🌻
You're welcome
I’m sorry that you have to go through the wall
Hellow🇵🇭😊
I hope you got something out of it, for you women it's really very simple MEN are very simple keep your level head stick to your relationship as long as you can minimize the body count by being with your bf longer let your boyfriend know that you stand by him untill he decides to leave you give him peace of mind by that no other man get in your way for him your attention, your body and mind is dedicated to him let him know that do not let any other man be it your friend, neighbor, get close to you in anyway shape or form, you let him know your boundaries of personal space can not be intruded and reserved for only one man and you should ask the same of him let him know that you see him get tired give him a pat in the back or shoulders, offer him a sandwich if you think he might want some simple gestures, grab a can of beer for him rub his back it may sound like you're mothering him but that is the key to any man's heart there I gave you a secret to a man's heart...
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I’m unmarried at 45, living my best life, look better than I ever have, and have more men attracted to me now than ever and I don’t even care about them! It doesn’t always go the direction she’s saying people! Eat less, work out more, get good sleep, love your friends and family, forgive people, and start living like the earth is your Adventureland! It’s amazing!
Lol 😆
Hahahah
Good for you. If you're going to be happy single forever that's ok. At some point, time and age catch on. 45 is not an old age at all. But you have many years ahead of you. And the day will come when you are going yo look at the mirror and realize the truth. Everyday it would get harder and harder to do everything by yourself. Now you may have options, you said yourself you don't care about them and that sounded so arrogant. Enjoy it while it lasts.
MissMakeDo: 👌
Circle back at 55-60
When some rando on the internet says “um whatever that hormone is” I know I’m listening to an expert in the field 🤓
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The WALL UNDEFEATED!!!🗣
Ladies, it's ok. Don't panic! My mom divorced my dad when she was late 30s, remarried at 50s. Her second husband passed away after 15 years together and she managed to get a boyfriend... Please don't buy into this scarcity mentality. Your value as a person is not tied to your youth and fertile beauty.
Single women keep women single...
well said, its a mind set issue
Don't bet on it
Nope
@@robertpodbery242 no it’s a reality
The majority of people are looking for just a reliable, sensible and kind partner...and these are hard to find. To be honest, i prefer singledom to the alternative.
I didn’t get married till I was 42 years old.. it’s not impossible to find someone who’s going to treat you well. Just because you’re older
Yeah he's probably a simp and he can't get anything better that why he chose you, you think a millionaire hot guy would chose you to marry or a virgin 22 year old?
Chances are low
Most of my friends got married in their 40s. These podcasts are so lame.
@@collettemclafferty2614 good luck having children.
@@dozegamin8604 maybe having children with the wrong person isn't worth it to us. Children have rights and deserve good parents.
A lot of these women who are panicking are the same women who spent their prime years getting run through like a marathon, why would any right-thinking man want to commit to them?
As long as we are now apparently calling the act of finding love "dating marketplace " we're doomed already.
No, it's just a sober acknowledgement of reality. Dating proceeds according to rules of supply and demand just like the economy does, and in a very real sense, it's a part of the economy itself. It's not a misnomer to describe it that way; it's just a more technical term.
For some reason, women and blue pilled men seem to think dating is supposed to be this wonderful experience. The truth is that dating is a cold and brutal landscape filled with people who put themselves above those around them. And you know who perpetuates this? Women. We even changed the online dating experience from open messaging to swipe based, because women wanted to discard 80% of men without even giving them a chance to say “hi”. Men learn fast that this is competitive. Like a marketplace. And we have to be better than the rest of the options to win the girl over.
Dating is supposed to be a wonderful experience. If it’s not enjoyable and enhancing your life what is the fucking point?
@@selohcin you are so brainwashed OMG
How do you wanna view it ? Emotional???🤣🤣🤣
The hate and judging against women is unreal.
The feminist hate on men everyday pushing anti family values like aborting your children
@@123pb Adultery, oppression, bullying is also anti family. I'm a feminist who doesn't support abortion, and I believe men support it no less, if not more. Terminating pregnancies is as anti-woman as you can get, and men like Herschel Walker who pressure women into it are not few. One of the most dangerous times in a womans life is when she's trying to leave a relationship, and when she's pregnant.
@@bluliite
You are full of bull. The biggest pushers of abortions are women who don’t want to take any responsibility for their actions and see abortions as an easy way out to live a “free life”. The mental gymnastics you must go through is unreal. Real world class stuff. Whatever happened to my body my choice ? Oh I get it, that suddenly doesn’t apply when a numb skull like you needs to shift the blame away from women, whilst being devoid of any logic somehow making men responsible for women killing their own offspring.
And like a true deranged feminist, you take the actions of 1 single man and somehow conveniently extrapolate this notion to somehow completely dump the responsibility of abortions on men, when it isn’t men running to the abortions clinics for one (why would they it isn’t their bodies), and two don’t have the right to force women into getting abortions in first place.
Last I checked nobody can force women to get abortions in the western world, but somehow through magic, clueless feminists like yourself need to construct make believe scenarios in which men are the culprits. Like many women, you act like a little chil that must seek the blame anywhere expect at the very place that the blame lies, the women that decide to get abortions of their own free will. Way to go 👏
If you were capable of logical thought you would QUICKLY realise that your assertion makes ZERO SENSE.
You have many feminists and pro abortionist women screaming my body my choice all day long, yet somehow according to you abortions are mens fault. You can’t have both. Cause if men are really to blame and women are infantile incapable of making their own decisions , you’d have to pretend that the my body my voice mantra doesn’t exist amongst feminists.
I find it amusing that you claim to be an anti abortion feminist and claim that abortion is as anti feminist as it gets, which would suggest that EVERY feminist is anti abortion, which logically isn’t the case. So of course since you can’t make the ridiculous claim that every feminist on the planet is anti abortion (otherwise you’d look quite delusional), you engage in mental gymnastics to shift away the blame away from the very people that are willingly running to abortions clinics just so it fits your distorted world view. NEWFLASH, you are STILL DELUSIONAL!
Welcome to equality.
@@gburn9377 Is pitting feather weight men against a heavy weight equality? Yet they are both treated with respect and paid the same. You don't get to beat on tiny men or not pay them for their work.
There are beautiful women at any age. You can be 25 or 55 and be beautiful. Women need to stop shaming women for aging. It’s a natural part of life.
It's not shaming,it's just a fact and it's why the " ho year's" end up hurting women so much
Can’t start a family at 55. You completely missed the point.
@@thosearentpillows5638 you don't need kids to be happy. A woman can decide not to have them.
@@meletis1980 my point is that no matter your age, you can find love.
The saddest part of my job working in a nursing home is when a resident comes in and they have no friends, no family, no kids. They just sit in their rooms alone with no visitors with no one there to sit beside them when they death comes
I want a woman who is secure, mature. It's mental.
I talked to a woman at 35 for fling
Super demanding. Let's go to vacation, let's go here there. Nightmare to deal with .
Oh yeah dude the older they are the WAY more baggage
Women in the 34-39 year age range are undateable in my city. That 5 year window especially.
The older they are the longer their shit list of requirements is & the harder they are to deal with
That's what they all want! Somebody to take them places. Buy them things. Give them a house, car, clothes. Like my brother always says, "If it flies, floats or f**ks, rent it. Don't buy it."
Well yeah they’ve worked and now want to enjoy travels they can finally afford to pay for or afford to take time out in their own lives for. Dude this is the same thing those have been married want to do at that age! The kids are grown or old enough to stay home now, the mortgage is over halfway done, the world travel savings is ripe for use, let’s goooooo! Duh! Lol!!! And even older you see them going to historical lands and pilgrimages, or heck, buying an RV and traveling the country without a care in the world. You gotta live.
Yup, feminism convinced them to spend their best years on a corporation and a carousel..
Plus the population control advocates. Feminism is a gift to population control advocates, because it's self perpetrating, given the illusory carrot stick of power, money, and influence in exchange for children.
Yes why not Pearl is a millionaire, single female still. Wonder why, she preaches like this one does about marriage and kids then sits back in her rich life living it up. While the married couple, struggle financially, mentally and emotionally.
All those women taking up spots in college wind up out of the marketplace once they get married and become mothers.
@@jx14aby while the banks cash in on their student loan interest payments.
Sorry, but feminism has nothing to do with that.
I'm 45 and the guy I'm dating asked me to be his significant other. Some men value women for other things.
Come back and tell us that 10 years from now lol I bet you’ll tell a different story
@@spinninggood You do know people age, right? She'd age whether she was 45 when she wrote this or 25. You're clearly already old as dirt. Why so bitter?
The Wall is undefeated.
There is nothing to panic about. Lots of people are divorced by this age, haven’t met that special person yet or just enjoy being single. You know yourself so much more into your thirties and forties that I think that’s a better time to really meet your match and settle down with the right person. I don’t know why we push marriage and commitment so hard on people in their twenties. You’re barely scratching the surface of your self at that point. We all get older so accept that. You shouldn’t want to be a twenty year old your whole life. Embrace aging and growing older. Lots of young people never get that luxury.
Good job they are not listening to the types like Pearl who is single a millionaire and no kids I believe yet pushing marriage and kids down the throat of women. Just laugh and do what you feel is right in your own life.
Agreed! Probably the best comment I've seen on here in awhile! We can try to be in control and plan out our life...but it doesn't always work out as we hoped. You just have to do your best with the hand your dealt and refuse to give in to victim mentality.
Well said😊
Well said. In a world where less and less people actually do self work, delusional standards are everywhere... Divorce rates are sky high... You've got no business settling down and raising a family - subjecting a whole group of people to your BS - until you're actually ready and not trash the first chapter of someone's life
Well the stats are cruel and doesn’t sustain your view but maybe you talk about some rare exceptions.
This is all fear based. What’s meant for you will be yours. End of story.
So you mean what is for you will be be for you at 80 years?
That's not how this game works. You need to put in effort to get what you need and particularly with a relationship. It won't just be like hey it works no problems at all.
Coping. Seeing the truth can be scary.
Amor fati … love your fate
Exactly. If had so many men chase me all my life, im looking foward to my forties. I just need one person to chill with...I know women in their almost seventies and they still have several suitors...if u got it u got it any age...only thing i panic about is if something happens to my dog.
There are many women and men who are in a relationship because they don't want to be alone and they don't have any particular expectations of what it will cost them, for example how distorted their personality is. But this requires a stomach, not everyone is able to be with someone out of calculation and interest, and they consider their own mental freedom much more valuable.
Theres no need to panic, just get another cat.
May no woman feel this panick. May all of them find family and belongingness. May all women find a husband and a family that dearly love them and care for them always.
someone isn't from the USA lol
There's a thing called, you reap what you sow. You break the rules, you pay the price. So no not every woman will find her happily ever after or have that special day they are all looking forward too. This is life. You break the rules, you pay in blood.
May there be perpetual PEACE IN THE MIDDLE EAST...
Yes some women due to confidence etc have struggled in the dating pool,
But the vast majority have been well and truly too choosing, believing the BS in Hollywood etc,
That their RICH knight in shining armour is going to turn up some day.
Whilst loneliness is not a good thing, inadvertently many women have chosen it,
So I shed no tears for them.
@@notsureyou as you shouldn't, we all play by nature's rules. You break them, you pay in blood.
Met my wife when she was 20, myself 24.
We have been together almsot 18 years.
I still see the same beautiful young woman I married when I look at her all these years later.
Married life is life on easy mode when both partners grew up watching successful marriages,
Do we panic? I wasn’t aware of this. Why didn’t the young women send us the memo that we’re supposed to panic because I just did not know. Thank you. Let me now begin panicking. 😆
Coping hard eh?
Yes, you do panic.
You may not want to admit it. It may not be true panick, could just be realization, or existential dread. Or you could be the minority that truly doesn’t want children and your biological urges aren’t at the front of your thoughts. But it does happen to many women, like my sister when it hit her at 36-38.
@@jonathanfarley2023 😆😆No love. Maybe YOU panic in singleness. Men and women with an authentic self esteem who don’t see singleness as a bad thing don’t panic. You are projecting.
@@ErinDeNis Men don't panic. But we're not even talking about whether women should panic; the reality is that they do. For some silly reason you want to pretend they don't.
We ALL reap what we sow. If a woman sows the seeds of a career, she shouldnt be surprised later in life that a career is all she will ever have. If women want children, then perhaps they should be sowing another crop rather than careers.
The fact that she uses the term "hit the wall" makes her sound like some male misogynists talking piece.
She is probably influenced by them.
I don’t think in any time of our life we should be panicking, unless you are a very bad person with no social skills. Good, open ppl always find their match. You just have to be abel to adjust, change workplaces, go out to other countries, and you will meet someone is so fit to you, that you know in couple of month that there is nothing to wait for. Embrace this person and enjoy the years left together
Amen 🙏
This is the best answer
Exactly. Why panic about getting older? Everyone who breathrs will get older. Developing oneself throughout life is important.
Yes, we should not panic. But we do!
We shouldn’t feel sad, but we do!
We just do because it’s part of being human!
We learn to cope with with and accept.
If you don’t panic , it’s because you’re just damaged and numb now. Might as well be dead. Stop trying to act tough.
No I'm not panicked. If there is no man for me I would like; I still prefer my solitude.
I, unfortunately, feel the same way about women.
@david lindsay why unfortunately? Isn't it a good thing that we are no longer pressured so much to get to any relationship, even a terrible one? It is ok to live single. This way, relationships should be more cherished if it comes to be.
@@homeofwaxingyeah I was thinking what’s so unfortunate about that? Majority of the guys harping on this subject want us (women) to panic, and a lot of the women copying it are either panicking themselves or have been married for a long time so they don’t even understand single life anymore, or single people. It’s good to see that there’s more diversity, where there are men outside of that hive mind and think for themselves.
@@davidlindsay131 Why is that unfortunate? Enjoy your life bro.
Exactly, you can live your full potential without a man.
People are complex and her "advice" is not cut and dried. If you panic, the odds are high that you will try to bond to a bad guy out of desperation. A recipe for disaster. Stay strong and use your head and heart wisely.
The advice is to find a good man before that point
Thanks @robertparker8716. This is exactly what I’m doing right now - not panicking.
I triggered the entirety of reddit one time by calling a 36-year-old pregnant woman a geriatric pregnancy.
Women will panic if they're delusional, thinking they'll be young forever 🤦♀️
I had a "Oh, its happening" moment...but I didn't panic, because I listened to the women around me when I was young, knew my youth would fade and have worked to age as gracefully as I can
Good on you! That was wise of you.
The women in the comments section have wisdom 🙏🏻
I’m 35 and I don’t care that I’m older why should I have to put up with a man who will beat me cheat on me and leave me when I’m 50.
I am still single at age 62. I was brought up in a very traditional East Indian family. We took care of parents while going to college and balancing work-life. I never had a chance to pursue a serious relationship with a decent woman. I have accepted the results of Aging in a graceful way. I am a straight man, I used to be frustrated for not having a relationship with a female companion but now I'm so used to it that I enjoy my single life. I find lots of joy in serving the lord, Jesus Christ. Having friends on my side who at my back means a lot to me at this age. Now my focus is on maintaining my Health, and Living peacefully and joyfully in service to the Lord
May the Lord Jesus Christ bless you and protect you.
Bobby, you did the right thing by serving our Lord and also taking care of your parents.
Glad you are a believer in Christ. That’s the ultimate thing to have.
Glad to hear about your life in brief. I am sure you have found peace because of your relationship with Jesus Christ. In the end, it's God who matters to us. Everything else is secondary!
@@danielt8998. Amen my brother
Your speaking the truth lady.
I was married to an alcoholic for 19 years and divorced him to raise four children on my own. Worked like crazy for my education and career. Started my own IT consulting firm at 52. I’ve been single for 37 years now, and could never find a man that treated me better than I treated myself. My kids love me, my eight grandkids adore me and I’m extremely happy. Get over NEEDING a man.
Well you needed a sperm donor to have your kids
You still needed a man for those children. Can’t get pregnant alone. Also, life consequences. Why bang an alcoholic. That’s totally on yourself, not men in general.
It’s a 2 way street love. But fair play to you, if your happy why change it. ❤
And still in lonely denial. You have reached a point where you are in lonely denial. Live off of your children and grandchildren world that they are building for themselves. They no doubt piety you.
Your kids needed a father.
Thank God I wasn't on the hunt when I reached that age. I maintained my looks well into my 40s and my friends would always ask me what I did to get asked out on dates all the time. About the time I hit 35 or 40, many of my friends' husbands were cheaters, some of their children were rebellious, drug addicted, pregnant, or in some other bad circumstance. My phone rang off the wall with wailing women telling me how lucky I was to be single and childless. Some confided that they wished they'd never had children. So I guess that's why I never got that panic attack. Any interest I might have had to marry and have children grew fainter and fainter based on what I saw happening around me. I'm also not cuddly. So I'm not sure I understand what point this woman is trying to make. Is she trying to scare women into getting married young? Trust me, whatever choice you make or get in life, you'll be fine. It's all good.
She’s not trying to scare women into marrying young. She’s trying to wake women up from thinking there’s all the time in the world to decide, but time will start removing those choices from them. It’s perfectly fine to not go that path, but it’s far worse when you can’t make that choice yourself.
@@efiniGTX Women aren't stupid. Trust me, women in their 20s and 30s are reminded constantly that their biological timeclocks are ticking. There's peer pressure, family pressure, pressure from all around to get married and have children. Who would be the audience for this woman's barking? Young women locked up in somebody's basement with occasional guarded access to selected rants like this? Or incels who need reassurance that someday they'll nail someone?
@@kegaket6772 If you’re not the target audience, why did you feel the need to respond? Yes you’re correct that women constantly get reminders in their younger years, but those years seem to fly by quickly and then they look up to find a mate and their options aren’t what they were in their younger years. You may not think Jed’s message applies to you and that’s fine, but I have seen the pattern personally of women who choose not to focus on family as the priority and come to regret it. This isn’t telling anyone what they should or shouldn’t do, it’s telling women that perhaps the accepted meta for modern women won’t be fulfilling. I never implied women were stupid, but women are very easily manipulated by group think and social media.
@@efiniGTX she reminded me of madonna the last years just before she hit the wall of sixties and when she started going crazy and making this photos under the best with her ass out lol I think the only person who is hitting the wall is this women. This hormone shit at thirty I don't take its garbage 😒 sorry you dont look bad at this age actually you become more attractive also it depends on the person when you are a beautiful women you don't have this kind of problems you always get Men's attention.
@@maltesseres9563 that’s not what the wall means exactly. Women can still get attention from men, but it’s usually situationships. It’s not saying women are absolutely done or worthless when they hit a certain age, it’s that their peak attractiveness is past them so they end up settling for 2nd best. But many women think that they get better with age and deserve more, when the truth is more the opposite. Yes they become more mature and better people, but that is separate from pure attractiveness.
I am a 40 year old woman and am single since I am 31 years old. I did not hit the wall, I just know I will never give my all again when men can just walk away or cheat. Plus my son is happy, somehow I feel whole.
Wise. Many women have found that there are far more cons than pros to having a husband. Even if he's faithful (rare quality), he'll probably still cause you a lot of stress and work. This is why men have always wanted to keep women out of the workforce. They know their only real value to women is financial. If a woman can support herself financially there is no need for a husband.
Your son will walk away and cheat in his relationships.
@@Raja1938 Why would that be?
@@semvlasveld8799 Because he's male, obviously.
Why put this pressure on us? This was exactly the reason I ended up with a narc who was actually dating several other women. Because I was pressured due to my age. Leave us be and stop pressuring women because of our age. After that narc, I realized it was better to be alone.
Aren't you an adult? Stop blaming others for your bad choices.
Who pic the narc? You did !
😂
@@ronaldchannel the narc is very good at pretending to be a nice person fyi, you won't know until you went through it.
Ah you poor baby.
It's her own fault for wanting a "perfect" man
There are a lot of women who need time to figure out what is healthy, so not all 30-somethings are avoiding marriage, but trying to escape toxicity.
It’s a good thing when you don’t settle for dysfunctional, even if you are older when you do.
Those are obvious things..it shouldn't matter if it 16 or 46 u shouldn't date someone who has extreme mental issues ..what she is talkin about is way different..cuz father time is undefeated..n a womans most valuable trait is her looks....the moral of the story is dont b a ho while ur hot n sexy cuz when ur not hot n sexy anymore n ur still single u will most likely end up alone n sad..b happy to give a good man ur youth n treat him right n he will do the same
Toxic ppl are only on uf life if u choose them to b..its ur fault if u keep picking the same type of toxic guys... iv nvr needed to escape a toxic woman cuz they are no where near me..its not hard to see good ppl they stand out..the problem is every girl thinks they should get to check every box for what kind of man they want..when less than 1% of men and women get there perfect partner...
@@r.boss5373 a woman’s most valuable trait is her faithfulness or looks?
And no, men will use you up even if you are faithful because a lot of men don’t care that you are invested and that you married them.
My best years were my 50's right after my divorce. Met two wonderful men .. ended up marrying the love of my life now for 14 years. Forget competition is in your head.
Thanks for sharing, it’s good to hear. My mum was the same.
From a beauty perspective, there's no way your 50s were better than your 20s..
Good for you but what's the lesson for a 18 year old woman? Slog it out tik your ,50s and then youll meet someone you love. It's absurd! Women need to start their families by 25! Instead. If being a ho and then getting the leftover men.
Wahmen's logic in the commentary space :
"If you don't want me at my worst, you didn't deserve me at my prime anyways".
Facts, but these women have an answer. I will not settle for less, no matter how long it takes.
Exactly right
In the end they will either get nothing or someone that just uses them and walks all over them
@@jackhackman7777 I agree with part of what you said. I agree with the one possibility of them ending up alone. But on the other, it's more likely THEY (the woman) will use some nice guy. They will marry him, pop out a kid or three and then when she's put in enough time (depending on what state they live in) SHE will end it, and get half or more. Then there's alimony, and of course child support.
@TideFan Yankee Stop dating homeless females, that's nice of ya but not really responsible decision to marry them and move them in to your private, already paid house. Accountability TideFan Yankee.
@@memoment431 Woow, where did the homeless discussion come from???...But you have a point there. It might sound cruel but I agree with you.
Remaining single is better than taking a guy who she doesn't even like. Harm for both.
If you get used to be single up to 40, then you're good to go for the rest of the life. No panic about the spouse and children. Just relax and enjoy being alone and give no damn fuck to the whole world
I'm single 60 don't look it don't act 60 very healthy I like a women who is 35 I think she would date if it weren't for the age it's pretty vommon these days that women date older men,for me it's all about the relationship and creating memories together any suggestions,she's a real sweetheart and I have strong feelings for her
@@woodenshuu97 That's too much of age gap. If you have good financial situation and she knows about, be careful not to be used as a sugar daddy
Fellas!
Read the law before you give someone the power to make you homeless destitute broke and miserable! A woman can divorce you because she got bored and now you sleep on a sidewalk in 13 degrees starved with
Hypothermia! Don’t get married!
No need to panic. Just live your life single 😊 you can get old in peace without worrying about other women being more fertile 😅 if you’re still “hunting “ at forty, maybe it isn’t for you.
There is no reason to panic ladies.
I’ll translate your comment
“Misery loves company”
Most old women in nursing homes probably regret not having kids.
I'm attracted to women 34 to 48, I'm 53. They're so much more mature and responsible and their bodies are more womanly, not to mention women are working out more than ever before. I'm starting to see that 38 is the new 28 for women. Even then, look at J-Lo at 53, etc. A real woman has more passion and warmth in bed, and knows how to cook. Like most women at any age you just have to let them know who's boss at the start. Let her know you will not tolerate BS disrespect or else she'll treat you as less than a man. Don't spoil them.
You do you.
They definitely aren’t “working out more than ever before”. Women are more obese than they ever were before though. 💯
@@cookncrook6902 they consider a walk with a latte and Ugs a workout
38 is not the new 28. 38 is 38.
@@machupikachu108538 is 28 to a single 53 year old. 😆
Yeah that’s my sister in law every time me and my wife fight she comes over and they have a pity party together I’m glad she won’t ever find a man !
I do not compete with anyone. Who is this woman?? She is spewing negativity. If two people find one another and are happy, they will pursue a relationship no matter what their age bracket.
The desperate panic of a woman who gave her youth & purity away to dozens of Chads - soaking up all that male attention, telling decent marriage-minded guys to get lost - is one of the funniest things in life.
As it turns out, the women who save themselves for their husband, who invest in their family & children, who don't waste their lives in the corporate world - get the last laugh.
Exactly right
My little sister was taught neither. She was told that her body was not built for a corporation or a man, but for God. She is not to have any intimate relationships with men, but to die pure and holy. She will be the happiest person in the family if she follows that truth. Females should be pure and holy, not dirty like today's generation.
@@wolvesrfun You will never get an argument out of me for remaining pure and holy.
More like you sell that pathetic view because you feel threatened by the female been financially secure.
@@memoment431 Weeeeell, look at Mr. White Knight riding to the rescue, dutifully parroting the feminist line.
I gave up that hunt about 5 years after my husband died. I tried, but I had no desire to go back into that self-defeating trap, ever again. I was on the hunt all throughout my teens and twenties, and until I met my husband, I was basically invisible. I'm just ME, now. Think, hmmm... conservative, plainJane Tinkerbell... men aren't into tiny women who are just cute. They want sex-bomb models, and I'm too mature, and not into being that. It's okay to be single, ladies. It's okay if men no longer find you attractive on the outside, as long as you stay gold on the inside. They'll be there someday, too. It's their turn to hunt for you and feel too old. You just be YOU!
I can relate to feeling invisible. Never dated much, shy/introverted, view sex as sacred. I take pride in my health and have aged well. Unfortunately, single men my age must be living on fast food and alcohol ...and smell like cheap weed. No thanks
Well written 👏
You should be in my shoes then. In 1975 i was 18 and married the love of my life. She was only 15 then. 2 years later, we had our Son then 2 more years later our beautiful Daughter. At 46 1/2 years together,she went to be with God The Father and has left me undone. Trying to find a God fearing Woman to share the rest of my life, seems to be impossible.
Nah. It's YOUR associations. Not the dating market in general.
@@pescatoralpursuit1726 I live in a small rural town and not many fish in the pond so to speak. Definitely not looking for hookups
At 32 I married a man five years younger. At 49 I married a man eight years younger. Don't listen to this BS.
in other countries you will be stoned to death
You definitely chose some high quality men.
You're making the rare exception (you) the rule.
The truth hurts.: A woman at 20 plays, at 30 prays, and at 40 pays...sometimes at 50's she gays. Women are with the richest men their looks can attract and men are with the hottest women they can afford. Whenever someone tells me that "Age" is just a mindset.
I tell them, "I can see your wrinkles and grey hair... It's NOT working."
Let me give you a story: I know a young lady who was drop-dead beautiful at 19. Married a guy because he was working overseas - didn't love the guy but he was pulling down about 20 grand a month. While he was over there she was banging multiple dudes in their house and when he got home - she was playing happy homemaker. Long story short he lost his job and they had NO SAVINGS. Now they are about to get kicked out of their home, car repoed no food etc.. She is relying on her 70-year-old mom to help them out. (she was a trainwreck when she was younger) Now while the money was good they were living the high life. No savings at all She has gained weight and doesn't look as attractive as she did at 19. She wants to divorce him but still wants him to pay all her bills. They have no kids. Why? cause her big ass doesn't want to go to work and at almost 40 who (of value) wants to take care of a high-maintenance OLD female? She played herself and now she's probably going to move in with her mama and bleed off her until she dies.
I used to be married, now single and very happy.
Doesn't sound like you've been single for very long. Enjoy your fun, but know it comes at a cost.
My ex-husband left me and our two children when I was 33 as he couldn't handle having a child with Autism. At the time, we were based 6 hrs away from home. He packed up and left. I remained in an unknown area for the sake of our daughter. I'm 43 this year. I haven't dated. Never hooked up nor met another man. I've spent the whole time giving my children my whole time and devotion.
My son passed all of his GCSE and even won an award for Computer Science. He went off to college for 2yrs and passed all his exams. He is due to start university this September.
My daughter went to mainstream school and passed all of her GCSE and is at college studying Animal Care.
According to this woman, I'm old and will die lonely. I guess I'll die lonely, but I'll die with a smile imprinted on my heart, knowing I gave my all to my children and pushed them (despite all odds) to succeed in life and be the best of who they are and can be!
Never take relationship advice from someone who isn't married.
And as a broader rule when taking advice on how to advance your life look for people who are where you want to be in 20+ years. The fact they didn't stray from the path or get distracted means they had the right idea about something.
She is married
Even if you're being told by that unmarried person to leave a toxic relationship?
Some of the best marital advice comes from divorcees.
She is married
Lmao. Me 32. Single. Laughing my ass off knowing way too well that I’m oh so gonna continue living my life alone till death finds me.
Honey, competition is still there when you found the man and you are married with him. That certificate of marriage doesn't mean you own him!
"On the hunt", "hyper aware", "panic"...it is called low self esteem. But I've been married forever ...what do I know?
Oh my goodness. I'm going to guess this woman is single. This is dreadful advice and a very flawed way of seeing relationships.
That's different though because he's attached to you by then.
You seem to have a genuine mindset, and for us guys, we are overwhelmed with stories of women taking us for at least half or more of what we own along with our children if things don't work out for whatever reason. What you are saying is technically true, but as a man, we fall into traps with women and feel like we are a slave to our decision to be with someone we thought wasn't capable of such an extreme vengeance. We are blind to the angel persona that a lot of women put on, and to be fair, that's all they have ever known. It's akin to don't hate the player. I hate the game. I know there are wonderful women out there, but the advantage guy is hypnotized by a charming pretty lady and can't see until it's too late. What she really is deep deep down. Other women are aware of her, but it's like a father meeting a boyfriend. The boy is terrified because men can see right through them and determine their true intentions.
I thought that certificate of marriage did mean that you own" him and he you? As far as fidelity is concerned? Isn't that in the vows or has that changed?
@@nidh1109 sexual faithfulness to a spouse or partner, loyalty and support does not mean that you, he or she is an object you own. Treating a person (your spouse) as a commodity or an object you own is not stipulated in the certificate of marriage nor in the vows.
The worst thing is not being single. The worst thing is being in a destructive relationship with someone who has emotionally fractured your spirit.
Look, you ladies are white travel and you will find someone if you are that desperate.
Just be a nice white women with good disposition, and you can find someone if you are that desperate to just find a body.
Ladies please don't listen to this message of fear and unworthiness! What is meant for you is yours!
So a man is just going to magically turn up at your door step? 🤣
Cope
What dumb thing to say.
After the panic comes the cynical, negative, whinging phase.
Think they do that anyway, don't they, regardless of age - moreso when they're older
Oh, please! Just stop! This is 2023 and women have choices and options. There are many well known women who are single and are certainly not panicked. That "panic" is a form of self-abuse.
The truth is that a large enough percentage of older single women do feel lonely and have a harder time in life, and do feel a tinge of envy when they see other people starting families and doing regular "animal kingdom" things that people have been doing for hundreds of thousands of years.
Of course there are many people who are honestly happy never having a companion who is committed to them, and never leaving a legacy in the form of kids/family -
But I think it's a bit dishonest to claim that a huge number of older people don't feel lonely, and it is objectively harder to attract a solid mate after a certain age, especially if you have not achieved certain goals (financially, physically etc .)
We are after all, social creatures who increasingly rely on the help of other able-bodied people who care about us as we age.
I agree it's hilarious....it's like we are back to the cave men era .
where women are still in the cave waiting.
where the reality that most men can't even provide or do squat ...I see it every day ..we need to address the problem on both sides of spectrum...the men in their 40s. I see them at work I want to vomit ..out of shape ..aging ..common now
@ytfeelslikenorthkorea4650 if a woman is still single late in life, thats not a wrong or right decisions that got her there. She made those decisions for whatever reason at the time which she thought then was right and maybe now still thinks was right or maybe now upon reflection thinks was wrong. Whether it was right or wrong is irrelevant. The fact that the decision was made is what need to be accepted and not attributed to anyone other than oneself.
Yes, I was wondering what's the point of this video. I think self therapy 🤔 she is analysing the root cause of her panic...
femcel cope
This isn't remotely true in my 41 years. Women in their 40s still have guys lining up desperate to get in a long-term relationship with them. I don't think guys care about age at all.
I’m 40 and my wedding is in 2 months. My fiancé is 38. Do you. Be you. Drop the fear. I lived my life FULLY, not hunting. You are where you are meant to be. And that should not include panic.
Let's see how that turns out
Oh there are plenty of arrogant women in their 50's and 60's that seem to think the wall doesn't apply to them. Once it does hit them, they fall hard.
Bingo.... I'm in my mid 60s and I could vouch that what you say is factual there are a lot of women out there that are decent looking but they think they're all that in a bag of chips. 🙄
Exactly and their delusional
@Kyle Haake Oy, you nailed that one...LOL
That’s when they get a sob story interview about how good men don’t exist anymore.
Someone's gotta say it, so I volunteer....'The Wall remains undefeated' !
You need to love yourself and be happy by yourself. You can have friends. If the right person comes along at any age them try it. But never get into a relationship and be unhappy.
These people love to push this co dependent BS on you so they don’t have to feel bad about their own life decisions.
Agreed!
Good Lord. Stop. I’m 66 and I met my second husband at 49 and he was infinitely better than anyone I met before that.
She usually speaks about those that want to raise a family, that is why she also speaks about fertility in this clip.
Thus you are not the target audience. Didnt you understand that?
@@darkfoxjj male fertility also drops by 50% after the age of 35 and older sperm is very responsible for genetic anomalies on the embryo such as autism..We don't want you old-er either. boom
Hon. The tech-based dating culture is SO different from even 20 years ago when you met your second husband. I realize you don't know what you don't know so I won't fault you for that I guess. Still....it's not the same. At. All. And it's a crying shame too.
Have you had any kids with him?
I don't care. I'm 44, never had men chasing behind me, so nothing has changed.
There are enough men on earth for every woman at any age. Stop limiting yourself. There is no guarantee that when you get married at 18, it’s going to last forever. God is fair. No panic for getting old. Getting old is a blessing from God.
Thats statistically not true but ill let you cope. Sorry for your loss.
There’s 1.13 women aged 55+ for every 1 man aged 55+ in America, and age gaps tend to increase in the favor of men as we get older. So yeah, statistically speaking, no.
There are first world problems. In Latin America, women are desired at any age! It should be a cultural thing in the US that is youth obsessed.
The panic is what is unattractive and pushes us single guys away. Keep stress down, prayer up, eat right, don’t drink, ditch sugar, stay fit and healthy, and get a counselor.
True, but most woman want drama from nature, the easy ones are rare
Haha .. that is what a dude would do. Not so with females because logic and planning escapes them.
@@hoedemakerbart that is your energy that is attracting such women. Change your energy.
She’s absolutely right. I was newly divorced at 44 and actively dated the pool of women she’s talking about. They “tend to be” as she described…hyper aware and borderline panicked…which unfortunately makes them vulnerable to men playing the field
Don’t listen to this nonsense. At 54 my dating life is better than it was in my 20s. Just keep taking good care of your health and fitness.
This is why you learn to be happy in solitude
Those who became addicted to social media attention shot themselves in the foot and lost this option.
Gratitude and humility are needed so we stop comparing ourselves to others and find inner peace.
Does it involve dozens of cats? Lol
@@ViolentCabbage-ym7ko it involves staying away from idiots, which appears to be quite difficult.
@@SoleftendrightAh yes, the classic telltale sign of loneliness.
@ViolentCabbage-ym7ko Ok 👍
The real culprit was the dating apps that allowed women sexual access to men they never qualified for and believed hooking up with these men would lead to a relationship. It lead to being pumped and dumped.
Underrated comment. 👌
That's like blaming a hammer for a shitty construction job
@@squidster3128 Not really. It was really a true statement.
They’re destroying relationships
Or maybe they just wanted a little sausage and not a whole ass pig.
Why do they always bring up fertility as a talking point when women are opting out of motherhood.
Need more wage slaves. Also, postpartum depression is no joke and I'm completely fine with stepping over and avoiding that milestone.
Age doesnt make any difference. At every age it is the same. A woman can get attractive men only for sex and only unattractive men for marriage. The end result is unhappy marriages, cheating and divorce. Monogamy has already been made obsolete.
You panic when you don't know your worth. A woman at 40 that knows her worth is in no competition with a girl at 25. It is toxic women that see young girls as competition.
So I have do expand this comment for the sake of some guys commenting from a narrow point of view.
Ok, please guys open up your minds a little bit and understand the comment before jumping in. It is ok for a woman to be at forty and single for very many reasons. At forty knowing her worth includes her acknowledging that her dating pool is smaller and she will not be out there fighting young girls for a man. Knowing her worth includes her acknowledging the odds. There are men genuinely wanting to date that 40 year old woman. Knowing her worth is her being comfortable if the guy is around young girls without her thinking they are there to take the man. Knowing her worth includes her choosing to remain single if no one hits on her. Also knowing her worth in my opinion includes not going around dating boys of 25 years old that should he the age of her own son. Worth includes alot of things but some guys are commenting so narrowly.
Just the same way a man at 40 knows his chances of dating a 25 year old are narrower. It doesn't matter if you want her but if she has a choice between a 40 year old guy and a 30 year old, she will choose the 30 year old. The whole point is knowing the odds, acknowledging them and respecting yourself enough not to be desperate.
40 yearold i dated who made bank and had hobbies would go into crazy mode when she saw a young good looking woman come anywhere near us. She was toxic and you are right.
Cap
A man who knows his worth does not need lots of money for wymyn will prize him for his values /s
You know what you are worth. That man is not looking for what you know but for what HE WANTS. Abd that is a younger woman. Facts.
It really doesn't matter what you think your worth is. The market decides. If you are not picked at 40 as a woman, you should rightly panic and reevaluate your perceived worth.
I'm 62 years old and I've always been single and I compete with no one
But you have a cat 😅
That’s just sad.
Good for you lol😊
@@TomasRamoskaof course she became the typical older single cat lady
@@TomasRamoska cats are awesome they are the best.
Shallow women panic. Women who are comfortable in their own skin do not.
But they still watch videos like this one, proving the contrary.
Not all "old" women fell like that, me included. There is no need to panic. I think she is just projecting her own insecurities. :(
Of course she is projecting her insecurities. This woman spend 22 years of hwr lidw focused on hwr carewr then got married at 40 years old and had a kid in her 40's, now she is 45. Her husband is hwtr age and successful, with her logic he can leave her for a younger woman. This woman is a grifter
She always seems angry and aggressive to me and not feminine at all which is ironic.
She is married with children.
I met my husband at 37. We had our child three years later. He pursued me.
If you are a good honest stress free women. Good men will find you.
Omg! Stop it! Alone is better than settling. Any man preoccupied with younger will be that way even if they are married. Alone is better than being a being an unpaid housekeeper , servant and nanny while they are still looking because "men are visual".Imagine the panic you feel boxed into a life where you cannot compete in the job market because some man got his career opportunities and you held down everything else.