I can understand why she felt like she had to stay because her family was against the marriage in the first place so if she left after the first time then her family would be right and she would have egg on her face. Then once she forgives him for the first one then he knows he can get away with anything and there is nothing stopping him from doing whatever he wants. I really hope she finds a way out of this situation. When you're with a manipulative partner, they will have you questioning your reality so it will take a long time for her to make sense of her life after this.
People only treat you how you allow them to. How you treat yourself and value yourself as a person will reflect on the relationships you keep. Also don’t rush into relationship your parents are not happy with. The first time you forgave he took that as a green light to continue to cheat. Also if you are not close to your family some men love that to abuse you. Also always work on you within the relationship don’t stay static. Subhannallah i am shocked the first sister continued to have kids knowing he is a cheater and disrespectful. Now she has four kids (yes is a blessing) that solely will rely on her. Listen the burden of kids usually falls to the mother. May Allah guide them with their affairs Ameen Ameen
I really feel for this woman, she probably isn’t financially independent and she has all of the children to look after. I can’t begin to imagine how much of a toll this man has taken on her self confidence too. It isn’t easy to just up and leave. All of those years must have been miserable, she is so brave for speaking up. Just because she has forgiven him 7 times doesn’t mean she has to for an 8th. She deserves so much better 😢
I think there is more to this story, he could possibly be abusive in many ways... which is why she has stayed. She also needs to wake up and smell the coffee as this is toxic and fully haraam. May Allah make it easy for her and her children and keep them safe. Ameen
I feel like I’m in the same position at the moment. It’s not even been a year since i got married and I’ve caught him on dating apps, video chat apps and what not and found shady stuff about his past which he has lied to me about. I have no idea what I should do as my family just doesn’t support the idea of divorce.
Surely in a situation like this they would understand?! How could they possibly think it's okay for you?! You need to go to an unbiased imam and talk to him about your situation.
I’d be honest been in this exact position, same as you before the first year.. forgave as I was having my 1st child, found out in second pregnancy (2yrs into marriage) he was talking to 100+ girls. Still forgave, forgave a 3rd time again multiple girls and then found out 1month before I gave birth to my third child he spoke to hundreds of girls again.. then again found out months later happened again.. now had enough. But I’m alone. No family support (everyone knows) no money. Nothing. Honestly, don’t keep giving a cheater multiple chances. Unfortunately they do not give a sh*t. Be strong and go with your gutn
Speak to your family and get elders involved as if you keep forgiving tomorrow they will say to you no don’t divorce you should have told us first when he was messing around. I’ve seen it happen. Nothing you do is the right way to go about it. Protect yourself
@@muteebshah3581 Life is as good as it can be right now. I look forward to it getting better. I'm enjoying the warm midnight air. I hope you're huddled up and staying warm.
But you are not actually giving her any concrete advise on what to do, like how to handle the the situation? Just going on about how disgusting he is, yes we know..
She should get tested.
Get tested, get your finances together, heal your relationship with your family. Work on you and grow without him. 😊
I can understand why she felt like she had to stay because her family was against the marriage in the first place so if she left after the first time then her family would be right and she would have egg on her face. Then once she forgives him for the first one then he knows he can get away with anything and there is nothing stopping him from doing whatever he wants.
I really hope she finds a way out of this situation. When you're with a manipulative partner, they will have you questioning your reality so it will take a long time for her to make sense of her life after this.
Better to have egg on your face than 4 children with an idiot lol
once a cheater always a cheater.
People only treat you how you allow them to. How you treat yourself and value yourself as a person will reflect on the relationships you keep. Also don’t rush into relationship your parents are not happy with. The first time you forgave he took that as a green light to continue to cheat. Also if you are not close to your family some men love that to abuse you. Also always work on you within the relationship don’t stay static. Subhannallah i am shocked the first sister continued to have kids knowing he is a cheater and disrespectful. Now she has four kids (yes is a blessing) that solely will rely on her. Listen the burden of kids usually falls to the mother. May Allah guide them with their affairs Ameen Ameen
I really feel for this woman, she probably isn’t financially independent and she has all of the children to look after. I can’t begin to imagine how much of a toll this man has taken on her self confidence too. It isn’t easy to just up and leave. All of those years must have been miserable, she is so brave for speaking up. Just because she has forgiven him 7 times doesn’t mean she has to for an 8th. She deserves so much better 😢
I think there is more to this story, he could possibly be abusive in many ways... which is why she has stayed. She also needs to wake up and smell the coffee as this is toxic and fully haraam. May Allah make it easy for her and her children and keep them safe. Ameen
Yes this could b. Various forms of abuse is what makes ppl stay
She should’ve left after the first child or at the very least used protection, she needs to get tested and cut her losses
I feel so bad for her... she's gonna have to continue to deal with this man for the sake of her kids.😪
This is so sad , InshaAllah she has a great support system.
I feel like I’m in the same position at the moment. It’s not even been a year since i got married and I’ve caught him on dating apps, video chat apps and what not and found shady stuff about his past which he has lied to me about. I have no idea what I should do as my family just doesn’t support the idea of divorce.
Surely in a situation like this they would understand?! How could they possibly think it's okay for you?!
You need to go to an unbiased imam and talk to him about your situation.
I’d be honest been in this exact position, same as you before the first year.. forgave as I was having my 1st child, found out in second pregnancy (2yrs into marriage) he was talking to 100+ girls. Still forgave, forgave a 3rd time again multiple girls and then found out 1month before I gave birth to my third child he spoke to hundreds of girls again.. then again found out months later happened again.. now had enough. But I’m alone. No family support (everyone knows) no money. Nothing. Honestly, don’t keep giving a cheater multiple chances. Unfortunately they do not give a sh*t. Be strong and go with your gutn
Speak to your family and get elders involved as if you keep forgiving tomorrow they will say to you no don’t divorce you should have told us first when he was messing around. I’ve seen it happen. Nothing you do is the right way to go about it. Protect yourself
Maybe you should confront him with an imam because I think the family won’t be of any help
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@@kitten_witha_whip how is everything going ..how are you
@@muteebshah3581 I'm great, thanks for asking. How are you?
@@kitten_witha_whip i am also good…how is life going…it’s freezing here🥶🥶too cold
@@muteebshah3581 Life is as good as it can be right now. I look forward to it getting better. I'm enjoying the warm midnight air. I hope you're huddled up and staying warm.
The question will he forgive you ?
Forgive her for what?!
@luluhashim7933 You are an ungifted troll, leave the trolling for people like me.
It’s not men it’s some men.
But you are not actually giving her any concrete advise on what to do, like how to handle the the situation? Just going on about how disgusting he is, yes we know..
I think its quite obvious what to do that's why....
They said give yourself 6 months to 1 year to get your bearings together and leave. Pretty good advice tbh
I finally got to end. Did u end up getting to the end sis? They're giving a whole heap of advice