Jason Says He Doesn't Really Know Gabby Windey - The Bachelorette
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- čas přidán 5. 09. 2022
- As Bachelorette Gabby Windey and Jason prepare for the Fantasy Suite, Jason explains that the situation and the environment makes it hard for him to feel ready for an engagement -- and feel as though Gabby really knows him, or that he really knows her. So where does that leave their relationship? From 'The Bachelorette' season 19, episode 10, 'Week 10.' Watch 'The Bachelorette' 2022 TUESDAY 8/7c on ABC. Stream on Hulu.
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Gabby said something during her date with Erich that I found interesting "this is our first date without family." Which at first I was like oh yeah their first date had grandpa John and their second date was hometowns. Then I realized wait this is their third date. So theoretically people on this show get engaged after only 4 dates (1 on 1, hometowns, fantasy suites, final 2). This show really needs to stop the whole pressuring people to get engaged. I understand they're trying to create drama and stakes but this is why so many of the relationships fail.
look at my comment above. I absolutely agree.
They did go on less private dates and had private moments there. That the whole premise of the show - it's an expedited process. Some of these couples do work out.
@@funchik93 not many.
@@funchik93 the odds are against them.
@@doglady9334 the odds are against everyone
So he claims to be a realist but came on the show KNOWING the parameters? What was the point?
Literally!. It probably got to real for him yet he wasn't fully prepared and what made it more tough for him was that there are thousands of people watching.
Excatly
Ikr the hypocrisy of him saying he’s a realist but goes on a show that’s unrealistic in terms of finding an actual long-term relationship 🤦🏽♀️🤯
Hm... maybe he got smarter? Maybe when it became all too real, he was hit with a realization that 4 dates are not enough to commit to spending the rest of your life with a person *you don't know?*
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 It didn’t even seem like they had four dates. I would be surprised if they even had two dates 😂😂
I see people haven’t learnt anything from Peter and Rachel’s breakup 🤦🏾♀️…… PLEASE !!!! If u are not ready for marriage, I suggest u don’t sign up for the Bachelorette or the Bachelor 🤦🏾♀️🙄
BOOM! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Amen to that
@@Spanish-lp8wv I 100% agree with what you said. Peter was definitely Rachel’s first choice but he had cold feet about getting engaged so quickly so Rachel chose her second best option which was Brian. I still believe that till this day. Rachel was clearly so heartbroken when Peter decided to go. It was hard to just ignore that.
@@Spanish-lp8wv Peter was never invested in a relationship with Rachel he was a whole fraud. Peter was only there for the Bachelor role and he also had a gf just like Jed. Thank God Rachel made the right choice or her season would have ended pretty much like Hannah Brown.
One can be ready to find their person, but still need more than 4 dates to be sure. I mean c’mon.
So none of these men checked the show they signed up for? None of them didnt know this was ending in an engagement? Steups............
The show is for finding love. Not an engagement. Do you know how many engaged couples on this show find success? And the reason for the majority of the breakups is that it's too fast and they live in a bubble on the show.
I do wish he communicated it earlier though. Cos I guess Gabby was misled. But I don't blame him for feeling this way.
@@piumirajapaksha7620 How long have you been watching? The PREMISE has always been that of an engagement! We get the the occassional odd ball where it does not end that way and the fans arent die hard on getting that. The point I'm making here is that the guys KNOW BEFORE that this is what it is and that it is a high likelyhood of that. So why sign up if an engagemnt is probable and they're not ready? There are other dating shows where an engagement is not end game so there's no need to be mentally ready.
These ladies have more red flags than a Trini Carnival parade.
To be fair, I think the 2-bachelorette cut the already short timeline significantly shorter
This has been the worst season of all time in terms of screening. They are all walking red flags
I’m always amazed how people sign up for the marriage/dating show and then, act surprised when this is what is expected of them. I mean, I get what Jason is coming from, and his doubts are very reasonable. They never were together in the “real” environment, they don’t know if their lifestyles are compatible, if they can make it work outside the bubble, etc. But I mean, if you are not ready for such a crazy adventure with a proposal in the end, don’t come on the show.
My point exactly basically Gabby wasted her time and ours. Its not her fault ok I'm not blaming her but will it be weird if Rachel doesnt accept no one's proposal just because Gabby didn't find love on the show. But as they say don't sign up for something that your unsure or unaware about the circumstances.
Well, realistic endings have happened in the past, with people leaving the show in a committed relationship versus forcing an engagement for the sake of the show/the "moment"/IG followers/image/etc. I have much respect for Jason for staying true to himself.
But all of them, including the bachelors/bachelorettes are in it for those insta jobs and money
@@samtula5946 sure, I agree. I also feel like it's very likely to catch up some real feelings just cause the environment is very fry=uitful for it.
I feel bad for Jason because I honestly feel like he had strong feelings for her, it was just that their wasn't enough time to validate them and his head was probably telling him "this is not real life." I understand why he didn't selfbeliminate earlier, he wanted to explore these feelings and he couldn't predict what level they would get too. I also feel for Gabby because of this, I don't think she imagined their connection, I just think the circumstances weren't right. Its ashame because I really enjoyed their interactions during the seaaon
Yes he was right
No, he is just lost in time and space. After overnight talk with Gabby he realized he don't love her??
@@MarinaMarina-fr8ex He's confused for sure but I don't blame him. I wouldn't trust if my feelings were real or not too. Jason more than likely values honesty above all in a relationship (most people do) and he probably respected her too much to make promises he knew he couldn't keep. I mean he doesn't know what life for them would like outside the bubble. Will there be something she doesn't like about him thats a deal breaker and vice versa? He knew she would be taking a chance on him if she let him stay and I feel like their breakup really had nothing to do with lack of feelings, its just had more to do with pressure to committ to something.
WHY GO ON THE SHOW ?????????
If he is realist, why did he come on the show?
Hm... maybe he got smarter while on it?
Maybe when it became all too real, he was hit with a realization that 4 dates (which is how much he had with her) are not enough to commit to spending the rest of your life with a previously unknown person?
Crushing to see both of them realising the other person beeing on a whole different level. Not so much as of what they're feeling, but what they see as their end goal and what they can accept to give up. It hurt to see Jason being honest and trying to get support from Gabby and it hurt seeing Gabby get so tired, just wanting Jason to try but knowing he already made up his mind...
On one hand, I get what he’s saying. I don’t think someone should feel pressure to propose after six weeks. I also don’t think him claiming to be a realist and still coming on the show makes his argument stronger. If he had felt this way all along, he should have either not come or left a lot sooner.
Claiming that he’s more realistic after so many weeks of investment makes him seem kind of hypocritical.
OK ITS NOT JUST MEEEE
cmon guys. he even told her early on that he considered leaving, that he wasn't comfortable in the setting. They sign contracts, who knows what they say. She, maybe producers, convinced him to stay. He obviously feels something strong for her, but to call it love and say it will last forever.... IF SHE really LOVED him, she would say, ok, lets give it a go and forget trying to be engaged, give it a chance in reality. But these girls are so frigging hyped on getting engaged like its the end all of life, the only thing that will bring them joy or a sense of completeness. Obviously this is what is still taught, and obviously this is the object of the show to milk that. But if you go on the show and look realistically at the outcomes, very few of these relationships last long term. I mean, there are soooo many other people in the world. How can you limit yourself to meeting "the one" from a group of 30 that you yourself didn't even choose? I think this has to be the last season i watch this. Its too disturbing to see what they put these young folks through and how they perpetuate this false narrative about love.
Again I don’t disagree. I’m just saying if he wanted to leave, he could have. No one is holding him hostage. And to say he’s more of a realist when he’s stayed this far is still hypocritical.
I don't know why they went on the fantasy suite ! She should have walked away from him when she was crying !
He looked like a cad the next morning !
Agreed. It's perfectly understandable for him not to feel ready but it really bothers me he didn't say anything about his feelings of being on the show in general until now.
one doesn't choose when love arrives, it shows up anywhere and anytime, one must only be ready for it, have faith
He's right, at this point, they probably spent 3 days together, this show is really bonkers to make people who have normal reactions to getting engaged after 3-4 days the bad guys!
I think Gabby created really safe real relationships with these people, which is why they feel safe to tell her they aren’t ready. Less swept up in each other and more genuine connection and honesty. The guys she chose seem to know themselves and don’t want to be forced into something they aren’t comfy with. Kind of a compliment in her ability to choose, in some ways.
Ok but why did he wait until the final 2 to bring up his feelings about this
They have 2 months of interaction not a couple days. The 2nd month worth of interaction is on par with real world relationships in terms of time spent.
I’m sick of this defense when guys come on this show and act confused. They clearly need to start watching before they sign the contract. This is how the show has worked for 20 something years. Don’t come on if you know there’s a chance you won’t get there. It’s literally the point. And he’s had weeks to realize. She could’ve given the short time they did have to someone more certain but he never even vocalized his doubts till it was too late. Be honest, he wanted some insta followers and screen time. Too bad it was at Gabby’s emotional expense.
Everything happens justifies what Tino's family have confronted. They were tough but so real.
their son is an adult who voluntarily chose to come on the show, if 2 people connect it doesn't take weeks, months to figure it out, one is instantly drawn to the character (quality) of the person and only yearns to learn more, not necessarily how much time has passed
LOL
No shit?
So exactly 4 dates, which is how much Jason had with her, is not enough to be certain you want to spend the rest of your life with a previously unknown person??
Hmmm!
If jason wasnt ready for an engagement & marriage then wtf did he go on the show in the first place? He completely wasted Gabby's time! He was completely reckless with her feelings & her heart!
Why did he join the show, if he does not believe what's his goal?
Between all the of the "like" and "yeah" .... I just can't
People don't even "know" or understand themselves completely and never will let alone another person - but we can know enough. Gabby is as good as it gets and if I guy can't see that he probably isn't too bright.
I feel like this man is pushing her away.
Jason to me has had poker face from the beginning . I never trusted him , always thought he was inconsistent and aloof . Just trying to make it to final 3 to then bail
When you know you know. Be it after 2days or 2years. He’s just using time as an excuse. He knows that Gabs is not the one…
But why?
Poor Gabby. I feel like he took the place of someone who was possibly more sure. I never really liked him for her 😞
Nate
This is not honesty this is I got the most cloud i could from the show now thank you next..
Hugging Rachel, Gabby just heard about Jason and said he doesn't really know her after preparing that event he explains that the situation and the environment that makes it hard for him to feel ready for the engagement. But as he really knows, this is getting out of hand after not announcing about the final rose and the rose ceremony. More on this and announcement on a later date when surprises are reveal. But we know when. Where's The Live taping stage?
Let's be clear here he was there for the fun times. He strung her along. Didn't tell her that he doesn't even love her. Called him self a realist trying to gaslight her. He came on this show for the follower and fame. Yet people are still defending him and attacking gabby bruh!!!!! He said he doesn't even love her
I think I heard his sister nominated him for the show. Plus his instagram was private for about a month into the show- time he could have been gaining followers. I truly think he's just a normal guy who found himself on the show and got in way over his head. Of course post-show actions will be a better indicator, but I don't think we'll see him shelling out instagram ads. I think he couldn't care less about the fame tbh
@@beatricekelly8650 was private he opened it so? Also if he didnt want to come he could
@@kate.3110 I just don’t think there’s any logic in keeping your instagram private for any time length at all if you’re “only there for fame”. Like that’s common sense. Abd yes he could have said no but he might have been truly seeking a relationship and thought he’d give the show a try, and then figured out the format was too rushed for him. So many people who have been on the show have said it’s so different when you’re in it. And so many couples on the show recently have left in relationships rather than engaged so he may have seen that and figured he’d be fine when he realized the timeline wasn’t for him. I don’t know, I don’t support him leading Gabby on but I think the narrative of him being in it for followers and fame is weak at best. He hasn’t shown any of the clear indicators we’ve seen in the past for this kind of behavior. Only time will tell, but I have a feeling I’m right. I mean he clearly didn’t go to paradise and I guarantee you he was offered it.
@@kate.3110 theyre actually contractually obligated to be public once the show starts since all the contestants need to be making post regarding the show
No. That’s not it. He wanted to leave but stayed for her and he’s being honest and real here. Maybe it’s hard for you to recognize when someone’s being genuine.
They supposedly came on the show to get engaged but are really wanting more TV time… other women as Bachelor or Bachelor in non-paradise. Sad.
I just kept screaming Girl he ain't the one, Erich is.
me too!
Yesss me too
This didn’t age well
If Jason was ready to leave then he should have told her and done so. That would have been honest and avoided all this.
Jason is a boy, not a man yet!!
@@litrisiavosloo6111 His behavior tells me that you are right. His behavior is that of an adolescent male.
@@litrisiavosloo6111 There have _never_ been men, in the sense of "grown-ups", on this show, or "The Bachelor". It's literally an impossibility. If they were such, they'd never be on it: they have rational things to pursue and deal only with other grown-ups.
Games! How can you come on a show and he knows there is an proposal. He prob thought he wouldnt make it far. Time waster!!!!!
Boo Jason 🍅🍅🍅
Watching from south Africa 💃💃
No cause this is literally what you signed up for Jason boy bye ✌️ like THATS HOW THE SHOW WORKS
You can tell that these bachelorettes really put importance on ENGAGEMENT instead of finding THE ONE. They value getting a proposal more. How sad.
They value pleasing "the show" and the viewers instead of focusing on a relationship and themselves... Yep.
Because they’re ready for one and they expect the guys to be ready too. They know that’s the endgame that’s while they pick the rings by Neil lane. Ppl become the bachelor/bachelorette in hopes that at the end they’ll be engaged. If you’re not ready don’t join the show and waste someone’s time. Simple as that.
He's right - it's way too fast (it's Marriage Gabby - way too quick) for someone this young and when you have had limited time with someone - this is way too soon - He is RIGHT RIGHT RIGHT it's a Bubble. I love his honesty - makes him more attractive..... now this is where Gabby starts crying..... It's not rejection - it's just him being honest.
He is not young he is 30 😭
BUT he should have talked to her at the hometowns, when he was certain that he would not propose.
I was rather surprised by his ‘coldness’. Something ‘clicked’ in him? The other part is I am not sure Gabby understands who Gabby, which is sad!
Wish Gabby would understand her worth-even if she is ‘messed up’.
He was SO open initially and appreciated sharing the mental health struggles they both experienced. Now he seems SO cold!
Avis - Totally agree. He's the only logical one here, and I love it. Also, 30 IS young, lol.
I’m sorry but this screams red flags to me! Poor Gabby!
how is it a red flag? It’s pretty normal not to want to engaged after 6 weeks (and in reality it’s really a handful of hours over 6 weeks). And he communicated his feelings well and honestly.
He knew he would be in the show for six weeks, and he knew where this was leading to after six weeks, you mean he just realized that he needs to tell her now when it’s one week left for this whole thing to finish?
I really liked Jason but I don’t like that he dragged this thing way too long
I feel really bad for her. The show is about getting engaged at the end. That is what Gabby came for.
They had 4 dates ... Don't call sanity "red flags". Have some decency, fairy-tale lover and bully of realists.
I feel bad for both of them. He shouldn’t have been on the show. She should have had better options that suited her. In the real world I think they would have possibly worked tbh. Wish I could give her a hug. I hope she finds someone who deserves her. Jason AND Erich are NOT it.
Let’s translate the “male speak”: I’m not attracted to you. I don’t want one woman forever.
Let me translate it to you to "somewhat-rational-human speak": _I've had exactly 4 dates with you. I don't feel certain I want you forever._
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 touché hahaha
Your husband will be the one who is 100% ALL in. Adios Jason.
I'm applying for the next season, to be the bachelor or one of the guys at the house, gonna do this properly or at least try to win the championship
I don't get why people come on the show if they are not ready to get Engaged.
I enjoy that is he men are being realistic because people like Juan Pablo and Brad Womack got so much flak and hate for not being ready.
Poor Gabby! Jason knew what he signed up for. Jason knew an engagement was expected. Jason KNEW that he wasn't ready. Why keep accepting roses if he was unsure? He should have been honest LONG before the last date before the engagement. That was really horrible of him, and he seemed emotionless. Gabby dodged a HUGE bullet.
The most realistic and honest guy of the season. Really, the guy you'd like to date in real life: sensitive, smart, careful with his word and his heart... He's a catch!! Not the flashy kind we're used in the Bachelor world. He's not there for the clout, he's not there for the IG followers, he was there because he thought they had something. And what he was really trying to say is: I don't think proposing in a week is realistic (true!!) but I'd like us to date. So basically exactly what we saw Erich say in the preview for next week's episode. The difference is that Jason went about it in a somewhat cryptic manner, trying to be as diplomatic as possible. She didn't read between the lines... and didn't want to have to. She wanted 100% commitment and he wanted to stay realistic and transparent instead of bullshitting her. Everything he says is 1000% valid. Much respect!!!
Good for you Jason honesty is the best medicine
Ah yes, good for him for waiting to be honest until the final 2!
I cannot give any grace to someone that would hurt Gabby.
@@maryfischer875 It's only Gabby that's hurting Gabby.
meeting your family wasn't real? yes it's an unconventional situation, but it's real
If they put average /ugly people they’d get married right away. Most of those people on the show are the A-list type of people who keep lookin for the best to match them, in their mind
He goes on to the the reality show to find love and says he doesn’t feel it real.
I like him for being honest and it’s easy to see real feelings. after an evening of being pressured and manipulated by Gabby “I’ve been lead on” when it’s not going exactly her way that she wants it, then the next morning he “gets clarity”= being railroaded around by this woman doesn’t sound like a fun relationship. If she had let the pressure off she could have had a great relationship with him.
I don't know why but I really wish Nate was there as het final 3
Me too😭
He threw Nate away just because he has a child 🙄
Nate's a player.
Nate look so fake . He know how to talk on TV but I’m scare for the real life with Nate .
Jason look so heartless
He talked way too much. Wah wah wah. Shut up already, wasting even more of her time. Good riddance!
Ooh, baby wants her toy back!
a perfect example of self sabotage
That happens. It's not what you have to cry over Gabby. You should accept his honesty. It's difficult to find love and a partner whom you would get engaged to in 6 weeks in the first place😅
Of course it’s too fast so the show should be cancelled or changed. The show has been the same for decades at this point. You go on, you date and get engaged.
Gabby only wanted Erich after Johnny and Jason wanted out
Im watching it now this scene its heartbreaking. Im glad that she choose Erich cause he really likes her. I feel bad for her to be honest , because the grass isn't always greener on the other side but at the same tome these people our brave to go on a reality show to look for love and they don't end up being with the person.
Gabby just wasted roses 🌹 on him…..
But... basically you picked 2 men - way too young and not ready or available. Forever is a long time.
You are literally the one babying them Jason is f 30!! He ain't young by any means. And she obv was blindsided. Ugh the Karens
Ammm her men are older
She let go of people who were really into her
ATTENTION FANS. I like this show and have since it began. But, the young girlies here are too immature and sound it. READ MY LIPS GABBY........It's also not a theatrical audition for a soap opera YOUNG lady. Don't treat it as one. And above all, EVERY MAN HAS THE RIGHT TO CHANGE HIS MIND as do the ladies.
NO ONE IS REQUIRED to propose on this show. Get over it Gab
She deserves this for dumping Nate
Why did he come on the show he knew how it works damm breaking the girls heart 👎👎👎👎👎
Jason is fine 🥰😍🌹
Gabby seems desperate to me. She gets all caught up in her "feelings" so fast and think she's in love !
He's not interested in her and she's not even interested in him...
Gaby cries like a little girl 👧
That’s probably from childhood trauma. Her mom rejected her.
What would you so if rejected?
@@daisylucy2 cry like woman adult 👩🏻
Just by here walking away - means she's not ready either. to cry over a short term affair - think about it - this show is so not REAL
She feels rejected thats why
I guess you'd be like, YAY he rejected me, next!!!!!
She’s allowed to feel how she feel
@@daisylucy2 Haha good one
Her fake eyelashes are so gross, can literally hear her blink. Take notes ladies
Hahahahah really got her there
They look fine. You’re just rude.
@@Itslauraokay no