My Miscarriage story | 16 weeks

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  • čas přidán 28. 04. 2020
  • Update- since making this video last year Nick and I have decided not to continue trying to conceive. I hit my age limit I wanted to get pregnant by and I don’t want to ever go through this loss again. I was going to keep this on private but miscarrying was the reason I started my channel. So I could distract myself from our loss and so I could eventually talk about it and help someone else.
    *Mom I know you watch my videos, this might be a hard one for you to watch*
    I feel like I left details out so if you have questions feel free to ask.
    This video is about my miscarriage at 16 weeks and 5 days in Feb of 2020. I wanted to film this because when I was going through it I turned to CZcams for videos but I didn’t find much on late miscarriages. If this is something your going through I’m sending you tons of hugs and future baby dust.
    If you need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out to me on Instagram- lynette_fillingim trust me when I say, it helps to talk about it. ♥️
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Komentáře • 34

  • @EverydayTidbits
    @EverydayTidbits Před 4 lety

    Hugs 🤗 ❤️❤️. I’m sorry you had to go through this. This took a lot of guts and bravery to share this.

  • @lizellam6760
    @lizellam6760 Před 4 lety

    UGHH my heart aches for you Lynette. You are so brave to tell your story. And I am so so sorry 😞. Nothing I'll say is going to make you feel better about it or make it go away. You are a strong beautiful person. Try to keep your head up and doing your videos and whatever else you need to do to help you heal. And I am so sure your Bff completely understands, so please don't have that weighing heavy on you and thinking she has any hard feelings. I am routing for you and will continue to keep you in my thoughts and send positivity your way and watch your videos. If it means anything at all....I am here for you. 💝

  • @kaylahutton2728
    @kaylahutton2728 Před 4 lety

    I’m so sorry this happened to you :( my heart goes out to you and prayers for a future healthy pregnancy

  • @raquellenorth6348
    @raquellenorth6348 Před 4 lety +2

    I'm so sorry to hear this. I recently went for my first ultrasound at 13 weeks but sadly baby's heart stopped at 11 weeks. It's heartbreaking and I would not wish it on my worst enemy. Wish you all the best for the future, stay strong! xx

    • @lynetteondeyka
      @lynetteondeyka  Před 4 lety

      I’m so sorry for your loss. The days will get easier.. until your due date comes along. That’s what I’m facing now. My due date was this Saturday. Baby dust to you my friend. Lots and lots of baby dust!!

  • @Yazylove193
    @Yazylove193 Před 4 lety

    Sorry for your loss. Sending you positive vibes

  • @cindyjerseyshore6835
    @cindyjerseyshore6835 Před 4 lety

    So sorry you are going though this. Sending love and prayers

  • @TheDialajaber92
    @TheDialajaber92 Před 4 lety +1

    Sorry for your loss I had my miscarriage on April 4th it was the worst pain I’ve ever felt in my life. I hope you are doing well.

    • @lynetteondeyka
      @lynetteondeyka  Před 4 lety +1

      I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s definitely not easy and no one talks about it enough. ♥️

  • @MOM_101
    @MOM_101 Před 4 lety +1

    I definitely related to your story. N cried. I know this was hard for you. Which makes you stronger for sharing💯🧡 I’m also from jersey. I will love to connect with n talk among more. Adding you on ig. Thank you again for sharing😀. I have had 3 miscarriages

  • @shirandmomof3908
    @shirandmomof3908 Před 4 lety

    I will love to see your trying to conceive Journey!

  • @Jaileneejj0121
    @Jaileneejj0121 Před 4 lety

    This is so scary, I’m sorry for your loss no mother should ever have to experience this.

  • @SherryFaith
    @SherryFaith Před 4 lety +2

    I'm so sorry, I can't even imagine and my heart goes out to you and everyone who goes through that terrible experience..just know that some things aren't meant to be understood sometimes and we have to take joy in the things that do work out. Thank you for sharing. I'm from Jersey too and live in PA now :)

    • @lynetteondeyka
      @lynetteondeyka  Před 4 lety

      You’re right, as terrible of a situation as it was I found out about SO many health problems I was having that would eventually kill me if I didn’t figure it out. I hate the term “everything happens for a reason” when it comes to losing a baby but in this case it did. ♥️

  • @KavitayeinKahaaniyaan
    @KavitayeinKahaaniyaan Před 2 lety +1

    When you go through this you check every other video on yt to feel you are not alone and there are people facing the same.
    I had two miscarriages one in 8 weeks other in 14 weeks which was diagnosed at 17 and I dint have any other symptom, it is the worst feeling

    • @lynetteondeyka
      @lynetteondeyka  Před 2 lety

      I’m so sorry for your loss. You are not alone ♥️

  • @lilcricket641
    @lilcricket641 Před 4 lety

    I’m so sorry to hear this happened to you. I have Celiac Disease and Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome (APS) too. I had already had my 4 kids before I was diagnosed with these autoimmune diseases along with Lupus and Sjogrëns Syndrome. My youngest daughter is 28 and she also has Celiac Disease. She had a miscarriage this past October at about 8wks. She is now almost 25wks pregnant with her rainbow baby boy. She takes a baby aspirin every day. We are just praying that everything continues to go smoothly and she carries this baby to term and is able to bring a healthy baby boy home with her this time. I will keep you in my prayers and I am sending lots of love, hugs, and sticky baby dust to you from Maryland! 💕💕

    • @lynetteondeyka
      @lynetteondeyka  Před 4 lety +1

      I think it’s so crazy that the celiac and APS came out so late. That seems to be a normal thing from what I hear from other people too. Did you get your kids tested for celiac? I’m wondering If I should. I have had 2 healthy pregnancies thankfully, I just want one more. I’m glad your daughter is cruising right along in her pregnancy! It’s so hard to feel happy during pregnancy after a loss. I’ll be praying for her also ♥️

    • @lilcricket641
      @lilcricket641 Před 4 lety

      Lynette Fillingim Thank you for your prayers. They are very much appreciated. My kids were all pretty much grown by the time I was diagnosed with celiac. I have a bunch of autoimmune diseases and was actually diagnosed with Lupus and Raynaud’s disease first and then Sjögren’s syndrome and RA. I was diagnosed with APS after I developed blood clots in my abdomen. My spleen ruptured and I nearly died at 37. I’ve had to take Coumadin which is a blood thinner ever since and still have occasional clots and need to be hospitalized. This past October, shortly after my daughter lost the baby I had to be hospitalized for a renal aneurysm. When I got diagnosed with celiac about 10 years ago when I was 46. My daughter who is pregnant now was 18 but had been very ill for 3 years. She had been having terrible diarrhea and bleeding from her rectum. She was losing weight (went down to about 90 lbs. and is 5’6” tall) and having very heavy periods that lasted for 2 weeks. They did colonoscopies and said they thought she had some kind of IBS or non specific colitis. I was so worried about her. However, the second I was diagnosed with celiac and read about all the different symptoms you could have with it, I immediately knew that my daughter must have it too. So I got her in to see my rheumatologist right away and he sent her for the upper endoscopy and we found out that she did have it too. She stopped eating gluten and she improved very quickly. Like within about a week or so she was almost completely better. She was also tested for the genes and she has both genes associated with celiac just like I do.
      My oldest son had him self tested and does not have celiac disease or have either gene.
      My oldest daughter had her self tested and she doesn’t have celiac at this time but does carry one of the genes so she has gone gluten free.
      My younger son who is a year older than my daughter does have some occasional stomach issues but refuses to get tested. I think if he gets sick enough he will get tested. Right now I think it’s just a nuisance to him so he doesn’t want to. His sister (the pregnant one and who he is very close with ) and I have told him it would be a good idea but we don’t hound him about it. He’s nearly 30 and has to make his own decisions. I will continue to pray for you!
      Hugs,
      Cherrie 💕💕

  • @Zoegabyx
    @Zoegabyx Před 2 lety

    Idk why but im 7 weeks now and terrified of miscarrying :( even though I already saw the heartbeat. Im so sorry u went through that momma 💓

  • @JAMakeupLover24
    @JAMakeupLover24 Před 4 lety +1

    I had a miscarriage around a month 26 weeks I understand you ❤️

  • @amymiller1782
    @amymiller1782 Před 4 lety

    Just found out I'm having a miscarage. Found your video. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @meghanvanderpyl3891
    @meghanvanderpyl3891 Před 4 lety

    I completely understand, more than you know. When I couldn’t get pregnant EVERYONE I knew was having babies, and some were not wanted. It broke my heart. Every shower I went to ripped my heart out. Then when I finally got pregnant I lost Timothy’s twin & they couldn’t do a D & C because I was still pregnant. My body had to absorb the baby, it was awful. We should talk sometime ❤️

    • @lynetteondeyka
      @lynetteondeyka  Před 4 lety

      Definitely ♥️ i don’t know how you went to any showers. I decided I will not be going to any baby showers if I’m invited. It’s just to much. I don’t even think I would allow my family to throw me one if I can get pregnant and carry to term. I’d be to scared.

  • @dianasaxophoneplayer388

    I just lost my baby 19 weeks 6 days it’s a really horrible experience, I found his heart had stop and they told me I have to wait form a few days till the blood test will be ready, so I new my baby was dead in my stomach on 20/10/20 and the delivery was on 26/10/20, after he was born they try to remove the placenta many times and in the end still I have some residues, every time they try to remove the residues it was done without any anesthesia so it was very painful my boy born at 11:45 am and the last time they try to remove the residues of the placenta was 9pm same day. Tomorrow I have an appointment with my doctor to decide if I need the operation after all that happens. This is the worst experience I had to pass in my life! My David was buried on 27/10/20 only by his father coz I was still at the hospital. I hope I can have a baby in the future.

  • @jeancapolupo6117
    @jeancapolupo6117 Před 4 lety

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @tiannatalks7391
    @tiannatalks7391 Před 4 lety

    Did you still have pregnancy symptoms at that point? Like from 14weeks on? 🤍

    • @lynetteondeyka
      @lynetteondeyka  Před 4 lety +1

      I did but they were different. Like not as strong. I KNEW something was wrong bc I felt different .. I thought it was because I was out of my first trimester but in my heart I knew something was wrong

  • @misschocoholic82
    @misschocoholic82 Před 4 lety +2

    Gosh, you cant feel your baby at 13 weeks can you? Its not even big enough to feel it .

    • @lynetteondeyka
      @lynetteondeyka  Před 4 lety +1

      I was almost 17 weeks. When you’ve been pregnant more than once you can feel the flutters early sometimes. What I felt when my baby wasn’t alive anymore was much different. And yes I felt it. It was the feeling of like an elbow moving across your body but it was the baby not alive moving all around. That’s why it was so different.

  • @nicolemiro
    @nicolemiro Před 4 lety

    Whats the reason why u miscarriage

    • @lynetteondeyka
      @lynetteondeyka  Před 4 lety

      They didn’t give me a definite answer but when I went to a preconception appointment last month the doctor told me the blood clotting disorder was why it happened most likely.