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Komentáře • 91

  • @tiffanysmit8999
    @tiffanysmit8999 Před 16 dny +15

    I'm 100% remote BUT I go in on Thursdays so people can see my style 😉

  • @carmenlheureux5435
    @carmenlheureux5435 Před 16 dny +34

    Being now retired, I miss it too. Especially the heels! In fact, I don’t wear heels if I don’t have to because of the comfort, but I really miss the look and the feeling.
    You are very good at explaining.

    • @janek9535
      @janek9535 Před 16 dny +6

      Same! I watched Alyssa's 2x2 formula video, matching two smart items with two casual. Had some fun and found some use for a few work separates I thought might not get another outing.

    • @marilyndoering2501
      @marilyndoering2501 Před 16 dny +6

      Me too, and personally I can’t give up wearing blazers, but now I wear them more casually. But I like the structure of a blazer, even with jeans!

    • @wannabe41
      @wannabe41 Před 16 dny +2

      @@marilyndoering2501yes! Blazers are my jam! I think they’re the perfect finisher for almost any outfit and great when you need that extra layer for warmth when the AC is blasting in the office.

    • @carriehodges6566
      @carriehodges6566 Před 16 dny +2

      I love your look. I am a bit more “pointy”-but I always learn something from watching you style your pieces.

  • @desdomeins8892
    @desdomeins8892 Před 16 dny +13

    As a stay at home mom with three little ones (the youngest is 10 weeks), this video is so not for me. But i really enjoyed it. I have a very hatd time putting nice outfits together that are suitable for breastfeeding and runing around at a playground whithout feeling like a mess. You're video gave me the urge to get creative with my closet instead of buying new things. That's why I love your channel. Even the content that isn't tailored towards me, gives me so much inspiration.❤

  • @jeannadesisto8705
    @jeannadesisto8705 Před 6 dny

    I love jackets. And I love the looks in this video. Belts rock! They make an outfit. And of course jewelry. Metal and leather make our basics boom! And not just for work. Cheers.

  • @technoeditorchick
    @technoeditorchick Před 12 dny +2

    This video summarizes why your style tips are so brilliant: proportion, flow and details are everything! Your tips have really helped me sort out and recombine my core wardrobe pieces and sharpen my look. The whole process has been an amazing confidence builder! I think my three words are Classic/Tailored, Sporty, and Relaxed 70s Chic (is there one word for that?). I, too, lean into the Bombshell for those date nights and fancy events. I'm 60, but I'm fit and athletic enough to wear the occasional mini skirt and boots for the right occasion (I keep it classy but my husband loves this look, too.) I've been mixing jewelry metals, mixing clothing and accessory textures, thrifting vintage classics and shopping my closet for years. One of the first people I interviewed for a magazine out of college had an attic full of 1950s ready-to-wear dept. store classics she once wore to cocktail parties in New York. We hit it off. She was headed to a nursing home and noticed we were a similar size, so she filled up three suitcases and gave them to me. I've been hooked ever since. I work from home full time as a film journalist and marketing specialist, and have several public-facing events to attend every month, so I can--and do--wear a mix of casual and dressier outfits every week. Even on days of only Zoom calls, you'll probably find me in a crisp tee and blazer and jewelry brightens my face on camera. Pulling an outfit together in the morning is now fun because I can more easily combine what I've got, and it really is the first creative act of the day. Kudos to you and your channel for helping me modernize and intermix old and sustainable new pieces to avoid the LARPing look you can get when dressing head-to-toe in a single era (or leaning too much into yearly trends). I've shared your videos with friends, and this particular video with my 20-something daughter, who is starting a new hybrid job after working from home throughout the pandemic and after. I'm a huge fan. Keep the videos coming!

  • @eclairtreo
    @eclairtreo Před 16 dny +16

    I miss dressing up, and miss real fashion. Time to rebel and get dressed again!

  • @ellenroberg-askim1779

    Inspired by this I now have four outfits ready for the coming workdays. I often do that while watching you; see an outfit, set on pause, fix an outfit, continue to your next outfit. I am deeply thankful that I found your channel about two years ago, it totally changed how I think about clothes, dressing, and shopping 🤩

  • @gracemulligan459
    @gracemulligan459 Před 16 dny +5

    Alyssa, I am Italian and have the same exact hair type. I have struggled managing my fine but dense hair. Please consider posting a video about your hair care and styling!

  • @terriprosperie233
    @terriprosperie233 Před 16 dny +17

    I seem to be the only one that dresses up in my company

    • @kahartke
      @kahartke Před 16 dny +2

      You stand out! That is great!

  • @samanthascavulli2484
    @samanthascavulli2484 Před 16 dny +5

    I work from home about 70% of the time… and I LOVE those days that I get to get dressed and head to an office. This video was packed full of great looks and ideas! ❤

  • @leashgang1
    @leashgang1 Před 15 dny +3

    Dear Alyssa, I have been following you for a couple of years. From you, one thing I have learned is to elevate any look with a belt. Because I am old school, I like to match belt & shoes. In a chaotic world, you are an inspiration & and comfort.

  • @TemBri3
    @TemBri3 Před 16 dny +7

    I work for a nonprofit that serves youth and young adults, so our business casual is less business than many. Because it’s a team environment and nonprofit, we may be asked to carry boxes or do other more physical work. I also work in a very outdoorsy city, so I really try to blend casual with some polish. I wear a lot of jeans with silk and/or jackets, and I still get comments about being dressed up. I think that juxtaposition is actually my style! Jewelry is absolutely a key accessory for dressing things up when I want or have to.

  • @chantelcassidy4036
    @chantelcassidy4036 Před 16 dny +7

    We have been in a hybrid 1-2 day/week model since covid but have recently been told we will be adjusting to a mandatory 3 days per week in office in the spirit of culture and collaboration.
    Prior to covid denim was only allowed on Fridays - but we have since relaxed our policy to allow denim all the time and no longer have a ‘formal’ dress code, rather - a list of ‘not recommended’ items which are quite reasonable and obvious (athletic wear, distressed/ripped denim, flip flops etc)
    I too tend to lean to a ‘corporate’ look even in my every day life and although I love remote work, I’m also enjoying getting ‘dressed’ more often.

    • @wannabe41
      @wannabe41 Před 16 dny

      Wow, that’s quite a change in your work culture. Have you noticed that since returning to an onsite office setting that it seems like women have forgotten how to dress for a professional environment? When my workplace transitioned from nearly 100% remote to working in the office, it’s been like a free for all with the dress code.

  • @brendaroque2602
    @brendaroque2602 Před 16 dny +5

    I always enjoy your content. Love the structured blazer. Couldn't we convert a more loose blazer more structured by belting it?

  • @bcplano
    @bcplano Před 16 dny +1

    Be careful not to catch that delicate bracelet on something, pulling away, and breaking it. ❤️

  • @ji1285
    @ji1285 Před 16 dny +3

    I attend meetings in government offices and I am usually the only one dressed professionally. Great video!! Thank you.

    • @teresacarle294
      @teresacarle294 Před 16 dny +1

      😊Good for you! Dressing "appropriate" for the circumstances〰️let alone being stylish〰️is truly becoming a lost art.
      😉Plz know that whenever I spy a smartly dressed person in my orbit🚀, esp. when it's wholly in keeping w/whatever the occasion &/or their purpose out in the world🌐, it completely lifts my spirit😁.
      And, if I happen to brush by them more closely, I am quick to give a compliment. They deserve recognition & extra encouragement for their discernment & discipline👍.
      🤦‍♀️I'm sorry〰️but when it comes to any profession (& our promotibility)〰️our choice of dress highly impacts people's perception of our 👩‍💼credibility, authority, & worthiness. Plus, it's also a good indication of our self-respect, upbringing, & our mental state too.
      😬During lockdowns & WFH🏡, I was particularly appalled in the media. How was I to take some so called expert in any field or governmental role on a variety of topics SERIOUSLY when they look sloppy & unkempt? Practically wearing such disreputable clothing that you should only be caught doing your messy household chores or gardening in🙄.
      😵Worse, how about those incredibly cluttered or inappropriate backdrops on those Zoom calls!?
      ❤Love collections as a maximalista, but can we apply 🤏some organization? Surely, they can manage a cleverly curated background. Maybe not for your entire dwelling, but at least orchestrate a simple professional looking vignette directly BEHIND your talking head🗣.
      It was fine if you were listening to audio 📻 of such broadcasts only. With such incongruent visuals, I would 💯% lose sight of what they were trying to communicate. Get fully distracted by how shabby the guest or their environment looked. No one wants a prisonlike backdrop or to become fascinated by your taste in personal decor.
      🤔Think the sophistication of 🎞film & TV📺 has spoiled us. If they want to look capable, people obviously need a little costuming & art direction for their home set-up.
      🧐Maybe I am naive. This dumbing down at EVERY layer of society could be strategic. A ploy to keep us distracted from their actual speech or to overlook what basically amounts to empty word salad. I dunno. Sorry for the conspiratorial rant...
      Grew up w/a SAHM🥰 who freshened her 💄face👄 & wore a pretty house dress & heels for housekeeping. She smartened up even more if she ran errands or attended PTA. She dressed to feel attractive for herself & her husband as well as to honor 🕊God (particularly @ Church⛪️). My level of formality & style is certainly more casual these days, but her values, principles, & training in this direction still resonates strongly within me.
      💚Bridget from Cali☘️
      (using my pal's YT acct)

  • @hibazafran1765
    @hibazafran1765 Před 16 dny +4

    Literally was going to message you today about Monica Vinader! Timing 😊 I have saved up and am ready for a piece for me for Mother’s Day! Thank you xxx

  • @AgataCreatrice
    @AgataCreatrice Před 16 dny +1

    Alyssa, with your vibrant energy and true to the core sense of style you would be a great leader of style-related integration workshops for teams in the so called corporate environment. I can see the participants bursting with unexpected resources of creativity, and you realizing your innate need to dress up in such an organic way :) Be it once a week, be it once a month, but let it be 💙

  • @dorotaazzopardi8718
    @dorotaazzopardi8718 Před 16 dny +6

    Thank you, I appreciate your help with styling 😊- certain age and certain positions do require a more polished look but it does not have to be boring and look dated.

  • @kathysteele3071
    @kathysteele3071 Před 15 dny +1

    I work from our small farm where our cabinet business is. We have two large Aussie doodle puppies who jump, two small dogs and 2 horses but still want to look good though So I almost always wear jeans and keep the dressier items above the waist-jewelry and nice tops. On Wednesdays I run errands and see a few people so I get a chance to add a blazer or leather jacket. Thanks for showing us the importance of proportions.

  • @katem3961
    @katem3961 Před 16 dny +4

    I am not a huge jewellery person but I definitely use earrings to alter my look. I have a small head, so large earrings look ridiculous on me, but there are plenty of smaller ones that pack a punch. I always wear my diamond studs in my second piercing, I just change the first piercing out. Mostly for something that has some movement. Loved this video, Alyssa. Thank you for all of your excellent tips and the hard work putting these videos together ❤️

  • @marilyndoering2501
    @marilyndoering2501 Před 16 dny +4

    Love the striped sweater and skirt with the red heels! Wow, stunning but still comfortable!

  • @sylviarodriguez1644
    @sylviarodriguez1644 Před 16 dny +5

    Perfect timing!. For Mother's Day today (dog mom) I had picked out polka dot black pants & and white flutter shirt. Now, I am going to take your cue and add a simple gold necklace with a single drop pearl & earrings. Thank you.

  • @avivat3010
    @avivat3010 Před 15 dny +1

    Hi Alyssa, your videos are really making a difference in how I dress. I am looking at what I wear more analytically and I'm becoming more aware of the whole statement. Thank you very much for the education that you're providing. Love the links too!

  • @lbeard7661
    @lbeard7661 Před 2 dny

    I work at a factory and wear a paint suit. 😂 This was a fun watch though.

  • @melindaferreira9879
    @melindaferreira9879 Před 16 dny +1

    I don't work in sn office.. never vave but I tend to gravitate towards that buttoned up structured classic vibe. So good!

  • @pennygrimes8425
    @pennygrimes8425 Před 5 dny

    LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this format - and all the inso - thanks Alyssa!

  • @lynnebarren2410
    @lynnebarren2410 Před 16 dny +1

    I think the element of comfort and ease is what made your smarter, "elevated" version of the outfit up to date and very wearable. Im finding blazers flatter my figurre as I age and my silohuette has softened - putting the svelte back into slim. Thank you for another informative video 🤓 ❤️

  • @hillerycrawford1062
    @hillerycrawford1062 Před 16 dny +1

    I've been in banking for nearly 30 years. Since COVID, bankers font dress like traditional bankers anymore. Theres a lot more clean denim and relaxed tops. Jewlery is huge to change up a 'uniform.' Thanks for rhe tips.

  • @jcgnbd7410
    @jcgnbd7410 Před 16 dny +2

    Looking at purchasing that brown belt at the end! Love it!

  • @wrendor9465
    @wrendor9465 Před 15 dny

    I really love your relationship with clothes, style, proportions and layering. The polka dot and pearl is creative and classic. Thank you for sharing!

  • @ohkay2090
    @ohkay2090 Před 16 dny +3

    Thank you! Just in time for my first in-person work trip in 4 years!

  • @Cookie7294
    @Cookie7294 Před 16 dny +2

    Love the looks. Now that I'm retired i don't miss wearing them though. Its casual and boho for me now. ❤

  • @cjack-caldeira3363
    @cjack-caldeira3363 Před 16 dny +2

    Loved this video! So inspiring… and into the closet to shop I go:)

  • @purpleflower121
    @purpleflower121 Před 16 dny

    I love how you styled up these outfits! I'd also love to see a video that shows how to wear these office pieces more casually or for every day wear without it looking like I came straight from the office. I dearly love my blazers, work tops and fancier button downs but feel too corporate when I wear them.

  • @ConserveMore
    @ConserveMore Před 16 dny

    I work in a large corporate environment. Pre-pandemic, women used to wear sleek dresses, blazers, and high heels. Post-pandemic, it is more like casual or smart casual. The last outfit you wore would fit in well. People (including our C-suite) may wear a sweater with trousers. Lately I've been seeing some people wear casual summer dresses, which would have seemed out of place pre-pandemic. So overall more casual but with maybe a slight return back to more polished.

  • @MGL566
    @MGL566 Před 11 dny

    Can you do a video for 5’ tall, short torso. I don’t have a waist and as much as I would love to tuck shirt or sweater and a belt I’m not sure I can pull it off. I always wear a jacked or cardigan to hide but it gets old. Love the look!

  • @karizeid-brandstedt2516
    @karizeid-brandstedt2516 Před 16 dny +2

    Great video! Was really helpful to see the difference la b/w the looks. Love the jewelry tips too. You are such an inspiration as always!!

  • @user-im3tk9ri7e
    @user-im3tk9ri7e Před 16 dny

    I'm in sales, so out and about, in the office and on ZOOM. These looks are perfect for my life. And, the one thing you did that made the most difference for me was the proportion change to shorten the tops and lengthen the bottoms. More pulled together and made all of the difference in the world! Great work Alyssa!

  • @eyecandiiz
    @eyecandiiz Před 14 dny

    THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED ❤❤❤❤

  • @TheZeyre
    @TheZeyre Před 16 dny

    Alyssa! You look great in a real corporate suit! Total Girl Boss!!! Really like that striped sweater and pencil skirt with the red 👠 👠 with that belt! Even the jewellery have such a Bombshell vibe! Yeah! Thx! ❤🎉❤xo J

  • @lydiazipp5667
    @lydiazipp5667 Před 15 dny

    Great video! I am now working 2 days home and 3 days downtown in a pretty casual office. I love putting outfits together and I'm looking forward to wearing something similar to your pencil skirt and blouse outfit. Thank you!

  • @lizs4151
    @lizs4151 Před 15 dny

    Yes, I've been back to the office one day a week for almost a year now in a casual office (Toronto). Lots of women wearing pants, but starting to see dresses and skirts too as the weather is warming up. For shoes, I still see mostly runners, but also ballet flats and loafers as people are commuting via public transit. Not too many heels, but heeled boots in the winter (not much snow this year). Personally, I've been wearing my blazers everywhere, mostly with jeans (work, grocery store, errands, etc.)
    I like your nura earrings! Are they heavy? (I have the nura crossover ring in silver and I love it.)

  • @DrElli-yk6qj
    @DrElli-yk6qj Před 15 dny

    Always love your videos, inspiring and simple at the same time. Also, I don't know if someone told you yet, but you have a European vibe ;)

  • @kristinagrom2270
    @kristinagrom2270 Před 16 dny +1

    I loved all your befores as much as the afters 🙂 I think I am just a minimalist in my soul. But I can see the difference and your explanation is so useful ❤️. And also those Monica Vinader earrings (nura wrap) look gorgeous, already in my wish list, was looking for this kind of earrings ❤

  • @dianecyment1715
    @dianecyment1715 Před 16 dny

    I purchased a pair of stacking rings from Monica Vinader when I came upon their boutique in Soho NYC last year. Love their packaging too. Great classic outfit ideas. I am currently retired, but I still love wearing the classics. In fact, I have a linen gold/white striped button up shirt similar to the one you are wearing. Love your content, Alyssa.

  • @sigriddjernaes
    @sigriddjernaes Před 16 dny

    Thank you for explaining the different looks. Really love the insights ❤ We have been working 3 days in the office since covid and it's not looking like it's going to change. I like a classic relaxed look at the office even though the dress code literally could be "clothes". People are wearing everything from 3-piece suits to sequined shorts to worn jeans and old band t-shirt (IT organisation 🤷‍♀) but I need to be able to take a meeting on behalf of my boss and feel better when I'm well dressed.

  • @InfinitegardenbyBethK
    @InfinitegardenbyBethK Před 16 dny

    Your style is impeccable! I have a corporate job, so I really appreciate this video. Thank you ❤

  • @Anna-Anna53
    @Anna-Anna53 Před 14 dny

    Oh Thankyou thank you 😊 finally someone thinking about us ladies going to work 🧥👍 and need some help inspiration on what to wear. I love it ❤ AWESOME .

  • @norawotton5440
    @norawotton5440 Před 16 dny +1

    Love these looks

  • @beautyamongashes8378
    @beautyamongashes8378 Před 16 dny

    I’m a hairstylist and we have an All-Black dress code. No jeans, no holes business casual…but dressier than most.
    Making all black outfits look interesting daily can be a challenge!

  • @natalliask
    @natalliask Před 16 dny

    Thank you for ideas!

  • @arivlearivle9169
    @arivlearivle9169 Před 16 dny +1

    Very good Ideas! 🤩

  • @melissaelliott5846
    @melissaelliott5846 Před 15 dny

    Love getting office wear tips!

  • @user-so4hg9qm3v
    @user-so4hg9qm3v Před 16 dny +1

    Thank you so much - super helpful tips that will elevate my current style for a medical office. Your tips are always so practical!💙

  • @tuxedoneko9837
    @tuxedoneko9837 Před 15 dny

    Omg, I was recently at the Monica Vinader shop in London 😊

  • @wannabe41
    @wannabe41 Před 16 dny

    Very timely video! I’m always looking for ways to shake up my workwear outfits while still maintaining a professional and polished look.

  • @pchinn4373
    @pchinn4373 Před 16 dny

    These looks are all beautiful. Thank you!

  • @mberube222
    @mberube222 Před 2 dny

    Love your channel! Love the black watch with the blazer look #2. Which watch is it? I'm looking for this exact silhouette - like the Tank :) Many thanks!!!

  • @tuxedoneko9837
    @tuxedoneko9837 Před 15 dny

    Great ideas as usual. I wonder how your pale blue flats would look with your first look.

  • @lesleyc2704
    @lesleyc2704 Před 16 dny +1

    Love these videos. Packed with inspirational ideas to refresh our style

  • @lindagiardini5678
    @lindagiardini5678 Před 16 dny

    I loved this!! I work in an office, so this was really inspiring!! Please do more of these, please 🙏

  • @kristineolsen477
    @kristineolsen477 Před 15 dny

    Wonderful video. Thank you. I understand that I should shop my own closet however my closet does not have those light colored shoes you wore in the last outfit. How can I find those? Thank you again!
    Your friend Kristine

  • @clsch7513
    @clsch7513 Před 16 dny

    I so much enjoy your videos.
    Being light years away from your body type :-), you give so nice ideas on how to dress neatly

  • @jocmtl
    @jocmtl Před 16 dny

    Love all these looks and the jewelry! I changed jobs this year and am having fun reinterpreting workwear in an environment that is hybrid, as well as much less corporate. Making “office pants” part of a more casual outfit, for example, or trying different colour and rexture combos, blending in vintage pieces. I’ve also phased heels completely out of my wardrobe and am now exclusively in flats, and that’s been fun too, getting pants rehemmed and seeing how to style them with flats. I love the look of heels - and Alyssa makes me seriously reconsider them 😂 but they’re just not practical or comfy for a lot of walking and public transit commuting.

    • @JBUHJBUH
      @JBUHJBUH Před 12 dny

      Remember when people would commute to work in boots/ trainers and then change into their heels in the office?

  • @mybagoftheday1722
    @mybagoftheday1722 Před 16 dny

    These tailored and structured outfits suit you so well. I think I have said it before that one of your 3 words could be tailored. Because you always choose a tighter, more fitted option in your coats and jackets and clothes in general. What do you think of the style of Meghan Markle? IRL and also in the series the Suits?

  • @stacythompson3613
    @stacythompson3613 Před 15 dny

    Great video as always! Can you link the blazer?

  • @sunshinesummer2024
    @sunshinesummer2024 Před 16 dny +1

    I love the jeans and black blazer outfit. Do you mind telling us what jeans those are? The cut is great! Love your style. Thank you!

  • @AmethystDeNiro
    @AmethystDeNiro Před 16 dny

    I would love to know the brand of the skirt … that look is exactly my vibe. Thanks!

  • @emilybarker3129
    @emilybarker3129 Před 10 dny

    Can I have the link to the trousers you're wearing at 12:59, please!

  • @fashionismypassiongirl660

    ❤❤❤

  • @user-im3os5xf8i
    @user-im3os5xf8i Před 15 dny

    Am I the only person who liked the original versions much more ?😂

  • @amoxzi
    @amoxzi Před 16 dny +3

    When you say tension, do you not mean contrast?

  • @airstreamer
    @airstreamer Před 8 dny

    Are you saying the bracelet doesn't come off? - Michelle

  • @user-bi4hq9lq3c
    @user-bi4hq9lq3c Před 14 dny

    If you have to have an MRI at the hospital, you can't have a welded on bracelet. They will probably cut it off your arm.

  • @philippamuir332
    @philippamuir332 Před 16 dny +1

    I would not wear any of these outfits I say I not my style but that's ok

  • @heatherburrell8412
    @heatherburrell8412 Před 16 dny +2

    No woman should wear hight heels….. they are horrible for our body, feet, and back…… style is not worth issues later in life

  • @laurambruno
    @laurambruno Před 14 dny +1

    I’ve been following you for years and have loved your content, so I hate to even say this, but I’ve found myself leaving your channel, because of all the sponsored content. It just feels less authentic and more like I’m sitting through a sale pitch. Also clashes with your mission towards less consumption. Just the honest feedback from someone who has been with you for awhile…