Women Alone - The R Spot Episode 22

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  • čas přidán 3. 04. 2017
  • The R Spot episodes is where Iyanla shares messages, stories, and ideas to develop healthy relationships, and mend the ones that are broken. If you want to send Iyanla questions or share relationship issues; send correspondence to: www.IyanlasFixins@gmail.com
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Komentáře • 291

  • @Wilson-vx6ty
    @Wilson-vx6ty Před 7 lety +317

    I love the last part where she says "he's looking for you just as hard as you're looking for him". That made me smile. Ok future husband, I'm getting ready for you. I'm not there yet so wait on me. I promise you I'll be worth the wait.

  • @amsrbuttefly345
    @amsrbuttefly345 Před 7 lety +33

    COME ON HERE MS. IYANLA! He's not gay, he's not in jail & he's not married! THE VERY BEST STATEMENT I'VE HEARD ALL DAY!

  • @appleflower4532
    @appleflower4532 Před 7 lety +61

    thank god !!! this women exists on this planet!! shes the great gift. wise, beautiful, charismatic lovely... shes like warming loving mother to me that I had not in my life when i needed at most..

  • @amandastephanie3584
    @amandastephanie3584 Před 5 lety +13

    My husband, mmmh...he is 6 feet tall, dark haired, with green eyes. An engineer, spiritually enlightened, and of good character. I know this because we will meet in the summer of 2020. And the universe says...AMEN!

    • @kennzcast
      @kennzcast Před 4 lety +5

      Amanda stephanie have you met him yet?

  • @crismeloearth
    @crismeloearth Před 6 lety +41

    I have been that woman, afraid to be alone. What did I do? I stayed in 2 LONG painful relationships. I don't understand why we stay in hell but we do when we never knew heaven; these relationships hurt more than being alone! In my case, I never knew my worth. I was seeking the love, acceptance and validation I didn't have from my father. So I found men that were equally selfish, self-focused and non-committing. That way, I was "left" daily, while with them. Now I am finally alone and learning to love myself. All I would give to a man I will now give ME.

    • @happylindsay4475
      @happylindsay4475 Před 5 lety

      Melo Earth- been there too many times...I am now commited to being self partnered, get clear and focused on what I deserve and practice that for and to my Self. Hope you are finding blessings and owning your worth on your journey.
      Peace, love, and light.

  • @TL-kt2ye
    @TL-kt2ye Před 7 lety +75

    I HAVE NOOOOOOOOOOO WORDS FOR THIS VIDEO.... SLOW CLAPS.... STANDING OVATION.

  • @tammylee3681
    @tammylee3681 Před 7 lety +57

    You are such an amazing and gifted woman. I am so happy God allowed me to come across your videos in the nic-of-time. My husband left me (Oct 2016) while I was pregnant with our first child. I am still healing from the hurt. Your videos are helping me in ways you wouldn't imagine. Thank you and God bless!

    • @beelarehman5992
      @beelarehman5992 Před 7 lety +4

      Tammy Mitchell he's a dummy x

    • @lilibirregah3002
      @lilibirregah3002 Před 7 lety +5

      You are beautiful and you will find anotherone when the time is right.

    • @brittanynicole4370
      @brittanynicole4370 Před 7 lety +9

      Tammy Mitchell I hope you are doing better Tammy!! A detour could just be re-routing you to where you'll be celebrated and not tolerated. The best is yet to come!

    • @tiffanycobo
      @tiffanycobo Před 6 lety +2

      Tammy Mitchell stay strong sister!

  • @kazao4403
    @kazao4403 Před 7 lety +24

    As a woman alone I found that inspiring and continue to do the work.... bless you Ivanya xx

  • @rhsb553
    @rhsb553 Před 6 lety +12

    I'm alone because I finally learned that I'm better off alone than with someone who doesn't value me.
    Sadly, so many women feel that "anybody" is better than "nobody". I was in that group for a long time, but I realized I'd had enough. I wouldn't put up with someone treating my best friend like crap, so why would I put up with someone treating me that way.

  • @starlawinter
    @starlawinter Před 7 lety +17

    I don't do any of those things and I'm still alone. I hardly meet anyone and when I do they don't make the cut

  • @bernitapennick4685
    @bernitapennick4685 Před 6 lety +1

    I've been alone for 57 years and still alone don't know why just existing alone

  • @karydiaz74
    @karydiaz74 Před 7 lety +16

    Awwww this just made me giggle! So much truth 💗 "the universe will not supply unless a request has been made" wow just wow 😍

  • @naturallydope6971
    @naturallydope6971 Před 7 lety +12

    What a message! I am 38yrs never been married. I am getting to the point of being OK by myself.

    • @capricorns1st
      @capricorns1st Před 6 lety +2

      T Over The most peaceful feeling ❤️

    • @brandypeay5350
      @brandypeay5350 Před 6 lety +1

      T Over yes me too didn’t think that anyone would say this. It’s ok to be alone doesn’t mean that your lonely.

    • @brandypeay5350
      @brandypeay5350 Před 6 lety

      capricorns1st yes very peaceful esp when you are ok with being alone 100%

  • @karenhiggins5237
    @karenhiggins5237 Před 7 lety +7

    what manner of woman is this, I could listen to Iyamla all day. Thank you for your words of wisdom. God Bless you.

  • @nicoletteorayn2903
    @nicoletteorayn2903 Před 7 lety +23

    I dont get tired of listening to u Iyanla, u blew the wind outta my sails everytime. I could do this all day loooong, drawing from ur wisdom. Thank you 🙆❤

  • @44Stephieb
    @44Stephieb Před 7 lety +7

    Whew so many reasons I was glad when you came with suggestion at the end. I am doing the work and know my complement with appear at the divinely right time!

  • @MelaninMonarchy
    @MelaninMonarchy Před 7 lety +20

    What an excellent R Spot. Need to listen to this a couple few times.

  • @boundsgarneff5157
    @boundsgarneff5157 Před 7 lety +10

    i was waiting for ur videos 🙌🙌🙌 thank u

  • @evelynj.amponsah8417
    @evelynj.amponsah8417 Před 7 lety +3

    Amen i receive it. Thxs for the uplifting message. Your a Gem.

  • @Wtf_jus_happened
    @Wtf_jus_happened Před 7 lety +13

    sound like me✋! most women like me just get tired of the same mess.

  • @tonyaSINGSjones
    @tonyaSINGSjones Před 6 lety +2

    Thank you Iyanla! I really needed to hear this!

  • @misheleclipper5545
    @misheleclipper5545 Před 7 lety +24

    Working this out. My biggest problem is making room for him. I am used to being alone. I am asking the Universe for mine 😉. Giving myself the best I've got!

    • @fah232
      @fah232 Před 6 lety +3

      I really enjoy being alone, I have a issue with sharing my space with someone ALL the time.

  • @texashottie23
    @texashottie23 Před 7 lety +6

    Mother.... god continue 2 bless her

  • @sosioh
    @sosioh Před 7 lety +1

    Your words sowed a good seed and touched a very broken part of me that needed healing and mending. Thank you for using your wonderful gifts to help woman like myself.

  • @arydelossantos6762
    @arydelossantos6762 Před 7 lety +5

    thank you sooo much miss Iyanla I'm going to have this on replay until I learn my lesson and practice loving myself enjoy myself and realize what it is that I want in a relationship

  • @jthomas9023
    @jthomas9023 Před 6 lety

    Thank you..i needed this...especially that last part

  • @raincruz5489
    @raincruz5489 Před 7 lety +2

    wow thank you so much Ms Iyanla, I love the way you put things into perspective with an eloquent and profound turn of a phrase.. and always with compassion. I will be looking at what stories I tell myself.
    with much gratitude and love💜

  • @shashunrwagner9544
    @shashunrwagner9544 Před 7 lety

    Thank you for your advice. I needed that.

  • @StartheCreoleQueen
    @StartheCreoleQueen Před 6 lety +3

    Many valuable points made I appreciate this video. 5'6 and 180, had me cracking up I love your personality

  • @KB0808
    @KB0808 Před 7 lety +8

    Wow. As always Ms. Iyanla brings so much wisdom, light, and truth and in a way that is clear, heartfelt, and just simply touchable. I can feel her words inside me breaking stuff up lol in a good way. After being married for 20 years and experiencing betrayal and a horrible divorce, the scariest part to rebuilding my new life has been men. Honestly, they simply scare me. I'm not afraid of men, I feel strong and confident as a single woman again, but I definitely have trust issues and as much as I "know" good men exist, I feel unable to connect with the right man for me. I will apply the tools you shared Ms. Iyanla...working on being healed and whole because I do desire a loving partner who desires me too. Thank you

  • @lionesslamb7049
    @lionesslamb7049 Před 5 lety +2

    "Learn from the experience over what u did not what he did" 🙇🏽‍♀️.

  • @Solemei2010
    @Solemei2010 Před 7 lety +6

    Thank you Iyanla!
    I will make application of this valuable information in my life. I choose to do "the work" in my current situation as well as throughout my life on a daily basis.

  • @rusmiradious1258
    @rusmiradious1258 Před 7 lety

    all your video is so inspiring. its give me light to a dark tunnel of a relationship with my men.
    love you so much! and thank you for the bottom of my heart

  • @variennecloete3962
    @variennecloete3962 Před 6 lety +3

    Wow great vid. There is someone out there for me !!! I gave up on love such a long time ago but this has certainly sparked me to believe I deserve a good man.thank you

  • @MrsRens-LionessofJudah
    @MrsRens-LionessofJudah Před 7 lety +15

    God bless you woman of wisdom.

  • @lisaharris1469
    @lisaharris1469 Před 7 lety

    What an AWESOME message which spoke dearly to my heart. Thank you so much for sharing this message. I will truly take heed and do my homework to ensure I find the love I desire.

  • @karziflora
    @karziflora Před 7 lety +3

    Love you Iyanla, thanks for these valuable lessons, God Bless!

  • @bdyer33
    @bdyer33 Před 6 lety

    I needed to hear this message today! Thank you Ms. Iyanla for your wonderful ministry.

  • @swim610
    @swim610 Před 5 lety

    Thank you for these videos

  • @kaseysharp7197
    @kaseysharp7197 Před 3 lety

    Amen Mother Iyanla. I so needed this

  • @sulalubin
    @sulalubin Před 7 lety +1

    I thank you for this message. I receive it. I welcome the healing and the necessary work I must do.

  • @lashandraarmour7240
    @lashandraarmour7240 Před 6 lety +1

    This made me cry, especially when she said the love you seek is seeking you touched my heart, I have been single for some time now, and I needed to hear this at this moment of my life, I am doing my self work and will continue. Thank you beloved for all you do. Love you Iyanla

  • @cocoadiva33
    @cocoadiva33 Před 7 lety +6

    I wholeheartedly received this message. I can relate to alot of this and because of that I have put up a shell for years that has now pretty much become a part of who I am and now I find it difficult to put let this shell go because it has become a security blanket of sorts. Sometimes I wonder if its even worth it because the men I meet are so not worth the effort. But I have realized that I have some serious soul searching to do within myself If I truly want to consider being vulnerable(that word alone makes me cringe) to looking for love.

  • @Bsweet7
    @Bsweet7 Před 6 lety

    Thank you sistah! I am a proud subby (subscriber) lol and I love the part when you said "...he will not break your heart!" I can deal with relationship ups and downs but the breaking my heart is a deal breaker. Pray for me.

  • @rebaharris7608
    @rebaharris7608 Před 3 lety

    Awesome Advice& Thnx 💘!!!!

  • @KWells-gq1ol
    @KWells-gq1ol Před 7 lety +8

    This is SOOOO good 😊 I'm sharing this with all of my girlfriends 💅🏾

  • @MsFitKitty
    @MsFitKitty Před 7 lety +47

    This snatched my edges straight but very reassuring that I've grown in my thought pattern towards dating. I agree with her 100%

    • @dovetales3
      @dovetales3 Před 7 lety +8

      MsFitKitty not the edges!! LOL I put JAM on mine LOL

    • @IyanlaVanzant
      @IyanlaVanzant  Před 7 lety +44

      OMG! I love that your "edges" are involved. That means we are getting through! Yes!

    • @courtney02161980
      @courtney02161980 Před 7 lety +1

      😂😂😂 when she said edges straight

    • @happylindsay4475
      @happylindsay4475 Před 5 lety +1

      @@IyanlaVanzant You are so very blessed,powerful, intelligent, beautiful and appreciated. Keep growing and speaking your truth. You are helping so many of us on our journey...
      Thank you, thank you and thank you Sister Mother Vanzant.

    • @shannonfoote6223
      @shannonfoote6223 Před rokem

      🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @tanachke
    @tanachke Před 5 lety

    Yes!! Please keep making these videos. They are GOLD! ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏

  • @jenowens9990
    @jenowens9990 Před 7 lety

    Iyanla you are so wise and gifted! Thanks for sharing! 💜 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @jeanenefrancis2111
    @jeanenefrancis2111 Před 7 lety

    you are soooo right!! you were dancing on my toes on this issue. I am struggling to be open to a relationship and not lose myself.EVERYTHING you stated is something I am working on.This is a struggle. :(

  • @tsholofelomeje7022
    @tsholofelomeje7022 Před 6 lety +1

    Before listening to this I was a mess.. Thank you so much this video brought me to my senses....

  • @ottrovgeisha2150
    @ottrovgeisha2150 Před 7 lety +2

    Bravo Miss Iyanla! You have the gift of logic in psychology, which WAY much more than SO many "experts" online claim to have. Deep compliments from a humble heart!

  • @ntokozojiyane3415
    @ntokozojiyane3415 Před 3 lety +1

    Wow. This is so soothing, so healing. I really needed to hear that. It's truth told in love. God bless you Mam. Your God sent.

  • @joannemonu8872
    @joannemonu8872 Před 7 lety

    thanks so much am really learning much from ur videos

  • @mariaaastarr3032
    @mariaaastarr3032 Před 7 lety +1

    this was TRULY a beautiful segment. everything she said is the truth...I enjoyed every word she spoke. thank you. Lyanla.👍💝

  • @Supermarketqueen
    @Supermarketqueen Před 7 lety +2

    Wow! That was amazing, thank you Iyanla ❤️

  • @mangomania7321
    @mangomania7321 Před 6 lety

    That last part made me my tears fall uncontrollably!

  • @Johnitacc
    @Johnitacc Před 7 lety +4

    This is so on point for me.

  • @andreawindrim8235
    @andreawindrim8235 Před 4 lety +1

    Thank you for all your wisdom. You look so beautiful and with such vitality. Blessings.

  • @juicesandberries1
    @juicesandberries1 Před 7 lety

    I love this video! Do the work. My aunt told me the same thing years ago. I didn't really understand what that meant until now. I'm getting my journal today. I have some healing to do. Thank you Iyanla!!

  • @bubblegun34
    @bubblegun34 Před 2 lety

    Love this video so much!!!!!

  • @shermoniciaburton1731
    @shermoniciaburton1731 Před 7 lety +37

    Amazing!! Amazing!! God knows what to send at the right time!!

  • @georgiaj5301
    @georgiaj5301 Před 6 lety +1

    WOW! Iyanla what a message.

  • @veex48
    @veex48 Před 2 lety +1

    I love you, Iyanla. Thank you so much for the work you do.

  • @chilloften
    @chilloften Před 7 lety

    Really good topic, thanks for sharing your insight.

  • @shupinyaneng100
    @shupinyaneng100 Před 7 lety +1

    thank you miss iyanla for the r spot.... they help me get by... dont stop...

  • @daineearias575
    @daineearias575 Před 7 lety

    This is my favorite episode ever!!

  • @latoyadobson4560
    @latoyadobson4560 Před 7 lety +3

    She is so dope n raw!

  • @avalonmist254
    @avalonmist254 Před 4 lety +4

    I've been dating for 10 years. I know there is a partner for me I haven't met him yet. I'm 60 and love men. Personally I prefer honest, friendly, people that want a relationship vs cheaters , liars, and beaters of any kind. I feel these are healthy characteristics.

  • @geem882
    @geem882 Před 7 lety +1

    Amen ! Thanks Iyanla

  • @khendraKriley
    @khendraKriley Před 7 lety +3

    Thank you for that Ms. Iyanla. I have been a long time fan of you and love the work you do. To no surprise this was much needed and so profound please continue to enrich us with your wisdom.

    • @deidremunn6367
      @deidremunn6367 Před 7 lety

      Ms. Iyanla is blessing so many of all walks of life. I thank God for her- I look forward to hearing from her. Thank you for the much-needed help. I'm doing the work! Not seeking perfection but working to be better.

  • @lioncococ8366
    @lioncococ8366 Před 7 lety +1

    I am so doing my homework!! thank you for following ur passion Ms. Iyanla. I had benefit and learned so much as I go true my journey. I am thankful and grateful to The Creator for you in my life. May Yah keep you n bless u!

  • @dovetales3
    @dovetales3 Před 7 lety +3

    YES SHE LOVES US JUST THIS MUCH!!! LOVE YOU RIGHT BACK MS IYANLA!

  • @g.bullard3254
    @g.bullard3254 Před 6 lety +3

    I love this woman! Iyanla never ceases to give me hope - in myself - in the Universe - and in the process of the growth that sets before me. I will do my work. Thank you so very much Iyanla, God bless you.

  • @cuteintellect3691
    @cuteintellect3691 Před 7 lety +2

    im learning self reflection is a powerful action.

  • @kenyajohnson542
    @kenyajohnson542 Před 6 lety +3

    Sadden me because I never wanted to be alone it just fell in my lap. I always wanted someone to love me too. I am human and still have interest in men.

  • @FeliciaRedmondlishar91
    @FeliciaRedmondlishar91 Před 7 lety +2

    Thank you! I really needed this!

  • @ladileelee1
    @ladileelee1 Před 7 lety +1

    Yess Auntie Iylana! You fix my life one video at a time! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and empowerment with us! I hope to meet you some day! God Bless.

  • @Momo_20248
    @Momo_20248 Před 3 lety

    Love this statement:The love you seek will find you!

  • @NETTY283
    @NETTY283 Před 7 lety

    Wow. ....now I know where I've been going wrong. Rewind ...need to write some of this down. Feeling hopeful now. Thank you Ms lyanla Vanzant. God bless you. x

  • @loveystar78cloud46
    @loveystar78cloud46 Před 7 lety +1

    Nothing but pure truth. More women need to hear good solid advice like this. Thank you for you wisdom, Iyanla.

  • @machunga78
    @machunga78 Před 7 lety +2

    Wonderful, wonderful, wonderful!

  • @singerspeak1
    @singerspeak1 Před 6 lety

    Wow....I've never heard anyone explain this better than she. What an eye-opening blessing this video has been! She just put into words everything I've felt deep down within at some point. I've been working on myself and I will be ready for my king when he comes. Thank you Iyanla Vanzant.

  • @BeautyInCherylsWorld
    @BeautyInCherylsWorld Před 7 lety

    I needed this!!! Thank you so much Iyanla, you are truly God sent! Now if only I can apply these tools to my life consistently and diligently I'll be alright!!!! I chose to be the love that I seek💖

  • @shellyortiz1977
    @shellyortiz1977 Před 6 lety

    Thank you do much as i listen to you im rethinking my life the women im my failure in dating....just overall everything. ..life changing wish i would have know this before.

  • @nikshante3598
    @nikshante3598 Před 6 lety +1

    The universe will not produce a supply until the demand is made!! So nice I had to run it back twice.
    I legit hollered!!!❤️❤️🙌🏽🙌🏽
    Thank you Mother Iyanla your irreplaceable!

  • @vmcptvmcpt9669
    @vmcptvmcpt9669 Před 7 lety +8

    I am officially scared of engaging with another man, need to change my thinking however I think I gave up.

  • @petercord4300
    @petercord4300 Před 7 lety +1

    thank you miss iyanla for always inspiring and allowing us inside a beautiful spiritual expierience.

  • @juanitajean70
    @juanitajean70 Před 7 lety

    I just found your channel and subscribed, I am looking forward to more and getting caught up on the ones here.

  • @Anitsirc25
    @Anitsirc25 Před 6 lety

    Wow...amazing video, to be listened to over and over again. Thank you Iyanla

  • @Esi153
    @Esi153 Před 7 lety +2

    First of all Iyanla is looking radiant and gorgeous. Secondly, I 100% agree that it's about the beliefs we hold. It's taken a while but I know that I'm ready.

  • @ceiamyatt157
    @ceiamyatt157 Před měsícem

    Yes Thank you

  • @felicialockett9693
    @felicialockett9693 Před 3 lety

    True story I love Iyanla

  • @normabarros3124
    @normabarros3124 Před 6 lety

    Amen and yes ma'am.....you called my fear out thank you

  • @LaShawnJen
    @LaShawnJen Před 5 lety

    ❤️🙏🏽praying for him daily

  • @teeamar
    @teeamar Před 7 lety +1

    thnk you sista Iyanls love ur words of wisdom everything u said was right in time #thetruth I will listen to this vedio again later & jot down some notes theres a powerful message in the info u share I identify with alot of wht was said but I have to do my work my husband is out there somewhere & I have to get my right, let go of pass hurt from pass relationship so I can attract him. not ment to b alone

  • @2011nafissa
    @2011nafissa Před 7 lety +1

    loVe it!👑💓and thank U!

  • @kathysilva5391
    @kathysilva5391 Před 3 lety

    Not sure how I missed this one ..... thank you Ms. Iyanla 🥰🌺

  • @ritaking11
    @ritaking11 Před 4 lety

    Thank you for those words of advice they will speak to me may God continue to bless you to continue doing what you doing

  • @OLatreil
    @OLatreil Před 7 lety +3

    Thank you!