Happiness Expert REVEALS The Common Habits DECREASING Your Lifespan! | Dacher Keltner
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When was the last time you felt awe? Perhaps it’s an emotion you notice often, evoked by the trees, clouds, or people around you. Or maybe it’s something you associate with more dramatic, less frequent experiences.
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My definition of "happiness" is the ability to accept life exactly as it happens without having any emotional resistance to it.
Brilliantly said, can you please throw some more light on this
Emotions are the body’s reaction to your mind- Ekkahrt Tolle. May have spelled that wrong
so kind of you for your support us
my definition of happiness is being able to make a living from something i enjoy doing. and since i enjoy to do basically nothing at all happiness for me is financial independence, so i dont have to work at all.
But does it mean that you also not interested in the fact that , you may actually be very good in something
My gran was the happiest person I've ever known, she was never ill, she saw wonder in everything and she loved people. She didn't believe in depression, she used to say people just need to stop thinking about themselves.
Didn't believe in depression lol
That's lovely, I bet she had a healthy diet and there's a proven link between health and happiness 😊
@@susanalwill8335 yes she did 😊
Well many of us have depression. It’s real. Are you a doctor?
@@dragonwithagirltattoo598 she didn't say she was a doctor, or that depression didn't exist. She said, her grandmother didn't believe in depression.
This is amazing 😮. Thank you both so much for your work.
And Rangan, nobody does interview with such a wise and clear heart as you do ❤
Rangan talks over his guest way too much. I wish he would work on letting the other person share their points.
@@willtroy1986 I and probably many others too don't agree. I deeply appreciate Rangans perspective and that he has the ability to step inside the realm of litterly any of his guests expertise with such insight and humility. There are tons of other podcasters out there so I hope that you'll find one you really resonate with and that Rangan continues his work as is, cause his interviews always hit straight to the heart for me.
@@carnegard I like what he gets out of his guests, I’m just stating my preference that I wish he would talk less and for the guest to talk more, sometimes he interrupts them and talks over them. Doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy the podcast overall.
I’m SO glad I found Dr Rangan’s channel/podcast here a few months ago! He is SO genuine, kind and insightful. I really hope more and more people subscribe his channel.
I believe listening to his interviews has extended my life literally and figuratively.
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My definition of "awe" is when sincere attention is emotionally applied to a given moment.
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Profound!
Enough is having a home and enough to pay the essential bills. After that, happiness emerges when you are of service to others... contentment, gratitude, peacefulness, acceptance, health and happiness emerge from this.
There is so much awe in listening to your conversation with an open heart and a "feeling" curiosity. Thank you for this awesome dialogue!
My motto for Hamsa meditation is that Happiness is my birthright. The happiness you seek is the nature of source and the more one accesses the source the greater the abundance. In my experience people confuse happiness with pleasure!
So right ~ happiness isn’t entertainment or pleasure.
Again pseudo science...do yoga every thing will be alright....
Yes! the highlight of my day - apart from going to ballet classes ( I am in my 50's) is going for a looong walk with my 7 dogs!!it is pure delight....THANK YOU SO MUCH for this podcast, Doc!
I love how vulnerable Rangan was during this interview. It was so touching, beautiful, brave and human.
Great conversation - I Think our happyness in life is about the mystery of experience. Experience is no doubt encultured but also at the same time unique and limitless. The key to deep experience is open and yet focused awareness. You must give yourself totally with yourbodyheartmind to be present and become one with the Now - that is a key to experience of boundless effervescence, joy, beauty, aliveness and awe 🌷❤️
Loved this conversation I felt like giving a big Hug to Dr Chaterjee when he got emotional talking about his mom ! You both are so genuinely Beautiful Beautiful souls !!!!!!!!
I grew up in VERY stressful dysfunctional household where happiness was never brought up and when it was brought up it was for other people, not us. I’m 56 now and I’ve finally found a way to seriously love myself and appreciate who I truly am. I know it sounds Corny but when your happy you attract good things in your life. My life has gotten so much better since I’ve realized this.
Dacher’s eyes are awe inspiring!
I like this conversation 👍🏽 to find awe in your everyday 👌🏽❤️
I like the focus on awe - for me its to experience of the basic beauty and awe of Life - the mystery of all Life - each morning to go outdoors, outdoors, if possible out to the sea, and being with the light, the sounds, the smells, and being aware of the wild beauty - the sacredness of all Life and feeling I am part of it and feeling the basic joy of aliveness 🎵💚🎶🍀
Happiness is not a goal, It is one of the choice places to come from. It's all about perspective.
Loved this! Glad I listened!
Beautiful conversation. Thank you. ❤
Wow! This is awe inspiring! Thank you so much for this interview! I will do my best to find awe in my daily life.
Thanks so much to both of you. Your work is awesome and inspiring. Be well!!
Just beautiful. Two hearts and minds sharing with intelligence and tenderness. Thank you, I'm looking for this book right now.
Thank you. Thank you. This appeared at just the right time for me . Your you tube channel, your books, and your amazing guests fill my life and heart and soul with AWE.
This conversation was so meaningful and comforting. Thank you
I would have to say, that this has been one of my all time favorite podcasts Dr. Rangan Chatterjee. This exchange, and heartfelt conversation with Dacher Keltner, truly has been "awesome" and inspiring. Thank you for sharing this incredible moment. You make a difference, always. xoxo
This interview is "awesome" I experience a sense of awe when going for walks and taking photos of what I see. But it is true, it is a very rare photo that captures the essence of what I saw. Thank you for this interview.
I love your conversation on Collective effervescence - understanding it as a concept and maybe even a kind of metaphor of total aliveness, full of life, sparkling, bobbling, jumping, dancing, playfulness 🎶💜🎵🦄
Choral music and orchestra (which I do) is an easy and fun way to be in collective effervescence ! You make one with other musicians thanks to music 😍
Thanks for the song recommendation…. Beautiful song and yes, inspired awe 😢
Thank you for sharing about your mother Dr Chatterjee. We all pray for her getting better 🙏 It was a brilliant podcast (as always). I don’t know if you’re doing conferences in the UK (I’m from France) but i will be very happy to attend one ! 😊
Awesome interview!
Loved listening to this, thank you.
Love the channel. I needed this today. Thank you
Pursuing happiness is never ending. I much rather do meaningful things in life.
Thank you doctor for showcasing the best professionals through your podcasts. Dr Nacher was so humble and felt so happy as he speaks. Touched by the way he would say thank you many times. God bless
What you focus on determines how you feel (emotionally). So if you choose to focus on something that makes you happy, you'll be happy. It's that simple. Easier said than done, of course. But with determination, effort and practice, it becomes easier to change your emotional state instantly, simply by changing your focus.
Happiness is being contented. A simple life brings the greatest happiness one don't need millions to be happy. As long as your needs are met then one should be happy
Exactly. Once your basic needs are met, be of service to others and express gratitude for the lire you are living. Happiness/contentment follows.
Contentment destroys creativity. The contented person stagnates into boredom. They lack motivation to change and grow. They become lazy.
Just a different view. I never see contented people doing anything interesting or innovative. They’re not inspired or inspiring. They’re just bland to me.
@Roscoe I will agree that pesto is good, but it’s not enough.
One of your BEST interviews. I'm happy, peaceful, crying listening to this . Wow thank you both
what a happy, giggly fella!
Enjoy
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Positive responses are Awesome and I enjoy reading all the positive messages, even if they’re adding value to this Podcast 🎉❤please enjoy your being 😊
My role in humanity.
I feed fisherman on the Bering Sea, who feed the world globally. My job matters. I am content. I like what I do. (Minus bad weather)
What a lovely man he is so glad I watch u u I love all your casts thankyou so much xx paulina
Great job
Wonderful , enjoyed this so much . Dr Rangan I love listening to your podcasts and alway come away with something but this was definitely my favourite..
Thank you for this
I had this death experience when i watched my dog, dying.....i am a buddhist, we were taught that for every birth, old age, illness and death will follow.....my mind, replayed the day, i rescued her, when she was a small puppy and the 13 years she had spent with me...as a Buddhist, we believe in rebirth....there will never be an end...but she will then continue to be someone else.....how many of us can actually understand this? I have 15 other surviving pet dogs....i hope to understand it, with practice....
He's got a happy face that's for sure 😍
And I also think that we have internal diapason which make experiences like collective effervescence possible. We have an hidden thermometer inside us and we connect (through love, music, sport, philosophy, care, etc) it directly becomes the same temperature inside for everyone. 🙏
the awe conversation with media was so great. I have been practicing doing one day of the week where i surround myself with media like music or series or video games that remind me of happy times and even sad times for the full spectrum, and its made me so much more appreciative on even the rest of the week.
I have done his course and it has changed the way I look at life ..
Awesome listening from Nairobi Kenya
I felt awe seeing a deer on my hike and having a humpback whale rise in front of my face and then dive straight down
Every moment in our Life is a door into the mystery of experience - into the basic creativity of receiving and giving. Experiencing Life is basically dependent on how you are present. Experience can be a habit, but it is also possible to be present with openness, curiosity and wonder- also in a totally everyday event and it can open into beauty and mystery. Making Music, writing, perferming, gardering, prepairing anything can be done in ways that can open into experiences of awe.
I really loved this episode. Dr. Chatterjee I would LOVE it if you had Rutger Bregman as a guest. I really think you would be able to ask the questions I want ask of him. I experienced awe reading his book. (I searched but couldn't find anything so if you have had him- I am sorry I could not find it.)
This was profound listening, and I am going to buy this book for all my friends and siblings - just awe inspiring :). Rangam the amount of Ads really ruined my experience, though - there was one every 5 or 10 mins. I know more Ads enable the channel, but is there any way to limit them on videos like this? Also, so terribly sorry to hear your mum's not well. I am sure the collective (I am certainly) are wishing her a full recovery x
If you forward the video to the end then back to the beginning again, listen and free 😊
Ad* free 🙂
@@lulug2632 no way - that's genius!
Great interview, Rangan. Truly awe-some. Some of your comments made me me think how wonder-ful it would be if you could interview Wade Davis and Steven Pinker.
Beautiful concept and podcast ❤
I find religious people are happy. Not the religious people who claim to be religious, but aren’t but real religious people.
Religious people naturally never flaunt. I think I understand what you mean. They're people who are always grateful.
Do yoga..u become happy 😊 😃 😀 😄 😁 🤣 😊
Feeling grateful peace of mind happiness listening to you inspiring Thank You
Hey Chatty this transmission is Awesome 👍😃😍😭🤔😂 thank you!!!!
“Hey Chatty” ? OMG! Are you best friends with him? Ok. If you are a random listener…..his name is DOCTOR Rangan Chattergee! Please show some respect.
“CHATTY” feels very disrespectful to me. Doctor Chattergee seems appropriate.
AWsome. I now understand why I always was a little contemplative and found life and Earth so amazing. And THIS moment when the voice is trembling enable even more connection and sincerity of the beautiful thoughts shared in this video. It is important to know why we are so happy and healthy and by knowing we can better preseve this magical state where the excess of happiness splashas and is given to the loved ones. And NOW : I see my family is starting to have more juice, it's wonderful. And by the way : I fell in love with my wife after just one phone call, because I was amazed by her kindness and courage. Now I try to teach people around me to have respect for themselves, respect and humility. You are doing good.
money is ike 90% of the issue if not more. he mentions what he likes to do most of all is to go on hikes with his daughters. if he was poor he would almost never have time or afford to do that. if he was (or is) rich he could do it every day if he wanted to, on new locations every time all over the world with the best equipment.
Just curious about advice for someone in my situation... Almost everything i'm in awe of I can't do. Or experience. The way things are now with me on disability I have about seventy american dollars for my entire month after rent and bills. I am also home bound because of my disability. I have no friends to visit me. Most of my family is busy or dead. And I have absolutely no sense of community. Yes I can find songs that put me in awe and what not. But most of the time I sit here and things like that don't cause all for me anymore as the years tick by with no improvements... Thank you Ahead of time
I completely understand but have no answer.
@@kathleenmahanwilliams7491 I appreciate that you took the time to reach out to me... Thank you
Why come from angst when uou can come from bliss and awe?
When life has given you stress, disadvantages, abuse and non-lifestyle diseases……how do you live in bliss? I am so overwhelmed with pain and sorrow, bliss is just 5 letters on a page.
We had collective effervescence at Woodstock.. the original Woodstock that is
Okay so NOW we're looking for meaning. When have we not looked for meaning?
When people were kinda pissed feeling crunchy When you asked them how they were the Response in a heated sarcastic way was "I'm just Peachy Keen!" I really am beyond peachy keen ! Made me laugh cuz I have been a few years now.. especially the past 2yrs. Wim Hof plus knowing the World is not as officially presented. Moon landing! Lol Spinning Globe? Double LoL
Need chapters if I'm going to spend time listening to such long podcasts.
... watching "Ramana Maharshi Walking" the first time ...
Eating red meat (grass fed steaks) should not be put in the same category as smoking & alcohol.
Who is your guest ?
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Being a fairly well off person, my greatest pleasure stems from enjoying a solitary morning cup of tea, while appreciating the greenery from my terrace.
Many friends don't believe me when I say this!
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This was such a moving and thoughtful interview. Even though I don't know you I really identified with what you said about your mother's health, and I really value your ability to bring so much of your own experiences to each interview.
In ancient Hellenistic astrology, you study the topic of happiness based solely on the birth chart. In fact the Greek word, eudaimonia (happiness), means, literally, to be blessed by a spirit. In other words, from the astrological, that is cosmological, model, not everyone HAS all of the WORKING PARTS in order TO BE pronounced happy. A careful study of the Lot of Fortune, Spirit, Basis & Exaltation, as well as investigating the Trigon Lords of the Sect Light, is essential. I can virtually guarantee you that this gentleman has not studied this; but if he did, he would be blown away by what it predicts. You like to think you're free, don't you That's cute. By the way, it's only within the last twenty years that we've had access to the original Greek material, which actually dates all the way back to the classical period of Greece -- Plato, Aristotle, Eudoxus. The late Robert Schmidt of Project Hindsight was a world class, and peerless, scholar. May the heavens perpetuate your name.
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Уважаемый Дэчер Келтнер. Могу ли я попросить Вас писать ваши книги более простым языком? Я сейчас читаю вашу 3 книгу "Born to be good" и в ней очень сложный английский))))))) Я понимаю, что ваша мама - профессор английского языка. Однако, чем проще язык в книге - тем большему количеству читателей она сможет быть понятна.
С уважением, ваш читатель
I'm so relived to be an Aspie, it's much easier.
Long life = happiness may not be the case. Those of us with very elderly parents know that extreme old age has many difficulties. Bette Davis’s said “old age ain’t for cissies”.
Snoopy is happy, porky pig is happy, bugs bunny is happy. Their happiness spilled over on me, and it stuck. Now I gotta work on Yosemite Sam...
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Come on, man. Just so many ads on your videos now. Kinda ironic, or maybe just disheartening, to see such a crass capitalist bent on a video people are viewing to get away from that and find deeper happiness and understanding of our nature. You need to make something on these but with over 600k subs do you really need the ads dialed up so much? Ram Das covered costs with his work and lived a full life. There's perhaps a lesson there. Your audience's time is their most valuable resource. Please consider that when you consider how much of that time we have to trade away to advertisers to benefit from the info you share.
I just started watching this and that last time found where to leave a comment! Forgive me, there’s not enough oxygen getting to my brain my landlord is actively trying to take me out and it’s not fair to sound psychosis. It’s psychopath behavior towards someone who has never even missed months rent, and besides all that I had to shut you off right at the beginning because I can’t stand another person bragging about their upstanding beautiful Berkeley university experience knowledge. For example, when I really had other duties to do at 16 years old, like be a parent to my mother seven kids, it wasn’t every day in my life. Sometimes they were other people there, but for those seven years it was every fucking day. You can count on it, so it hurts a little bit to hear you to find educated dudes sharing. I think I’ll go take some prednisone and breathe. Have a beautiful day and thank you. I will listen later.
I’m sorry for all my typos. I’m sorry my spellcheck cannot spell. And I guess for fucking second. I’m really pathetic. Forgive me please.🙏♾️❤️♥️💜🦋🧜♀️🪷 1:20
Imagine what you want as end result.
Having anger about unfair past is not, not, not equivalent to being at fault.
Like the other commenter so far said, the thing to think about is how do you want your surroundings, relationships to be A f t e r you express your rage? Do you have a safe person, place to Be honest and express your anger? Please 🥺 be careful so you don't hurt any more years. Maybe find others in a similar experience. 🦒🦋🌞 Signed, I went through extreme anger during past 5+ years and it was huge and powerful and i am sending you good wishes 🐝🧘🧚🏽♂️
Woods and forests are wonderful, yet what have you got in your happiness kit to those of us have only have access to asphalt, concrete, and a single half dead tree. Looks to me like you need a toolkit for those in prison, those spending 10 hours a day underground in a mine. Feels to me there is something lacking here.
The word happiness has become useless. It had (deliberately) been conflated with pleasure by marketing/advertising/consumerism
Too bad that as a scientist he doesn't understand that healthy user bias has tainted how we view red meat as unhealthy.
A carne apodrece dentro do intestino das pessoas...quem come pouca ou nenhuma carne vive mais tempo.
@@Rafas216 Meat does not rot in people's intestines. That is an oft-repeated myth that you should actually try to investigate. By repeating it, you advertise your ignorance. Humans have been eating meat for eons, why would it now be deadly for them?
Please don't take as an ad hominem attack of the guest, but I found his theories unconvincing.
Happiness might not be meaningful.
Certainly, a definition ( of Awe ) which has "mystery" as one of its characteristics is not really a definition. It may as well say it cannot be understood. Certainly the presumption that we mean the same thing when we use the same word is false. And sometimes people will use ambiguity to deliberately mislead.
As for finding meaning in helping others, it begs the question who to help and which cause to support. In a world full of conflict it is not hard to conceive of two people obtaining meaning, purpose and happiness from supporting causes which are in direct opposition.
So "meaningfulness" is just begging further questions and at worse recruiting support for irrational and damaging causes.
We abandon evidence-based rational thought at our peril! We are better off believing nothing than something for which we have no good evidence for, because it is unlikely to be true.
Could being an "expert" make the list? Trying to be right or at least appear brilliant all the time can be draining - depends on if its a passion or a profession perhaps.
Nothing wrong with eating QUALITY red meat!
para um leão sim... para um primata não. Mas se considera gostoso continue comendo..
I thought this was about 'happiness' seems to be about 'awe'. Well another 144 minutes I wont be getting back. Gonna look at a tree now and wait for it to shower me with money.
Money mayters to poor people?.. i hope you mean "poor".people. because there are people in all socal classes to whom it matters .
There are poor people who are bigger givers and others in middle and upper class
This was sounding interesting until your guest equated eating red meat with smoking and drinking vodka. He should educate himself before making erroneous statements. Perhaps he should refer to Drs Ken Berry, Anthony Chaffee, Robert Cyves, Shawn Baker, to name but a few doctors promoting an optimal human diet based on red meat.
Lost him when he said "Policy of Biden administration led to poor people receiving more money". What world does he live in?
I haven't listened to the video yet, I need to listen to another podcast, but did he mean this in the context of the original Build Back Better Plan. That's a strange assertion for him to make.
Stopped at his “we didn’t know about the climate crisis.” That’s all I need to know. He gets a 👎 for being a sheep.
Biden administration kept trying to give people with small children tax credits. Republicans keep squashing it. Biden administration tried to cap insulin at $35/month for everyone. Republicans keep squashing it. Biden tried to forgive student loans because trump gave tax cuts to billionaires.
Republicans squashed it
He is out of reality on puppet joe Biden.
Such a shame Elite Oligarchs as joe Biden are career politicians living as Elites off the USA taxpayers as their peasants. Harmful to world as well.
As the humans on earth want peace.
Obama 3 with puppet joe are devastation and quite expensive.
So Sad. Not Happiness.
We are bunch of sheep's watching two rich people talking about is money important? We are fools!
I'm so strongly agree with that all principal when I look at the sky at night with my Optical equipment or just look at fish on a library in Florida I am blown away with all it makes me high all day long
@ranganchaterjee ❤I Love This Awesome 🤩 interview, and I seem Normal after all 😂 because I have felt lost at times in my life and Awe - my being Aware of AWE in any moment of my life has brought such depth to my being, and lifted me enough out of my ‘funk’ to drag myself back into Life and The Joy/Wonder of Life again… Thank You for this Awe 🫢
And I’m going to join a ‘park-run’ out of longest lockdown in the world - Melbourne Australia
When the best shows I've ever heard and it really impacted me a lot period I do have one severe negative speaking of three bad things for your life he said smoking drinking and eating red meat dum dum dum dum eating red meat is not a bad thing eating junk food is so why wouldn't you just make it simple and say smoking drinking and eating crap why would you bring up a political hot potato like red meat I know people who have healed themselves with red meat only even though I personally don't eat red meat
That shot at red meat made me realize that as smart as he is and as wonderful as his teaching is he is able to be taught to speak like a parrot and say what he's been told which he doesn't know anything about red meat has cured many illnesses the problem Americans have is junk food including sugar should be obvious to any enlightened person
If this guy represents the face of happiness, we're all in for a big letdown. He lost all credibility when he pulled out the old tired and so politically correct phrase "Climate Change". He's not gonna get very far spewing that doomsday crap with a happiness chaser. Get a real job, pal.