Well, my boyfriend is French and in the beginning of our relationship he was living with his parents, then one year in dorm and finally again sometime with his parents till we moved in together in our apartment. What can I see, these two years of relationship till we moved in, I was not doing most of my laundry myself, because I have no washing machine in my flat, so his mother told me that I can bring my clothes here for the laundry. So yes, during the first two years of my relationship with a Frenchman, my laundry was done by his mom.😅
All of this is so true. I was studying in Paris in 2007-2008, and I had a French boyfriend. His family was so welcoming and generous, but I was so surprised by the amount of stuff they did for their adult child. Every two months or so, they would drive from Dijon to Paris with a carload of prepared meals, groceries, toilet paper, etc. They included items for myself as well. Then they would take us to a nice lunch at a restaurant. I love your videos, they make me miss living in France. I am an American living in Québec now, and I love being able to speak French everyday!
Love that mentality - don't lose your life just because you have a child. Yes, there are modifications you have to make, but the child is coming into your life, not the other way around.
I was raised the french way and im French Canadian. Indeed, laidback childhood where we were free to explore and not scheduled to a million activities. And i went to university near by and stayed home until i was 27. :) so you’re explanation is pretty accurate id say
Also observe french children in restaurants if you get a chance. Compared to North America it's very impressive. Nice, clean clothes, no screaming at the table and not a tablet or mom snacks in sight. I envy how french parents able to do this very much
I am an American with two baby toddlers that we are raising in the North of France. I find all of these stereotypes to be very true! My brother in law lived at home until he was around 25 years old. My MIL takes up a lot of space but she is extremely helpful and we are lucky to have her nearby to help out! However, the rules are super strict and they are very disciplined, especially around the table at meal time! Spaghetti all over the kids faces and on the floor IS NOT CUTE! Dirt on the kids clothes? Change them immediately! hahaha!
I am an American mom of 1st grade twins, living in Germany. My parenting style is definitely influenced a lot by both cultures. This video was very interesting to me. 👍👍
We have some kind of weird hybrid Canadian-French household. Lol. My husband is French and we live in the south east of France. Life here is pretty laidback. We have a 6 year old and a 3 year old. They have always been on a schedule when it comes to meal times and bed times. That’s something that was important to me and my husband. They definitely go to sleep earlier than other French kids we know because we think that everything runs smoother when they are well rested. Almost all of my 6year old’s friends don’t have a set bedtime on the weekends or on holidays. When she sleeps at their houses, she is wrecked without enough sleep! Lol. We still cosleep with both of them. That’s definitely not the French way but very common from the parents I know in Canada. And my French mother law does not hover at all! She never wants to intrude in our family or overstep boundaries in any way. But she is always there when we need anything. She is one of the best people I have ever met.
Loved the video. I noticed on the bus when I lived in Rennes, moms would really interact with their kids. It was the odd mom with cell phone out and her kid in a stroller. We did boot the kid out after university as that was when we moved to France and he could not come on my husband’s visa like me-he was an adult. He now lives with my mom, helping out as she is newly widowed.
We also have a weird hybrid French- French Canadian/Indigenous family...sort of tribal but with French rules, even though we live in Canada (until covid travel restrictions are relaxed) LOL! 3 of my 4 adult children live at home and even plan to move with us when we return to France.
You should do more topics like that ! Is your baby girl speaking French or English ? Both ? Is she going in a "Crèche" in September ? Are you on a 14 or 27 months waiting list ?
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Lorsque mon premier enfant est né je l'ai emmené partout même nourrisson (quelques jours) au restaurant, chez des amis, même au cinéma! pour ma fille 9 ans après, ce fut pareil. Je n'aime pas ces parents qui vous demandent lorsque vous êtes chez eux de parler bas parce que bébé dort. Ce que je n'aime pas non plus ce sont ces enfants qui prennent le pouvoir dans leur famille, de vrais tyrans qui hurlent à chaque frustration et ces mères qui se mettent à leur hauteur même lorsqu'ils se roulent par terre. J'ai toujours parlé à mes enfants debout de telle sorte qu'ils devaient lever les yeux vers moi ,je leur expliquais ainsi que devenir grand c'était aussi regarder plus haut que soi.
I left home at 27 when I got my first CDI (contrat à durée indéterminée), it’s hard to sign a lease when you don’t have a stable job and I use my savings to b a car and all the apartment equipment.
This is all so true. haha I live with my French mother-in-law, and I'd have to say she is sooo cool about having her kids live with her even at age 25. In the U.S. my parents are not so keen on this. hahaha
although she said late 20's and to me it still a bit weird to see people stay that long at their parent's. until 25 is completely normal (it is even in the tax system: you can declare having your kid at home but after that he has to declare his own taxes) but after 25 it's becoming more like "hope he's on the go"
I don't think I ever had an idea of what a French mother is like even in terms of stereotypes. Not sure why but I drew a blank. So, I was open to everything in this video, more so than usual, as a result.
In France we are one of the countries where we leave the earliest from our parents in Europe after the Nordic countries. On average at 23 years old, against 30 years in Italy, see even later in the Balkans. Me, it was 19 years old because of studies.
Une petite information , la fête des mères a été instauré par Philippe Pétain le 25 Mai 1941 pour récompenser les mères Française , à cette occasion les enfants offrent un cadeau à leurs mères .
I cannot imagine being that age and living with my parents. I had already started my own family at 27 so definitely would not want to be living with my parents while trying to raise my own family.
I'm french and in my family we stayed a long time at our parents house (27 for me). I'm from an university city so we lived at our parents house while going to university and renting an apartment isn't that easy when you're not professionally stable (high price rents in cities, car, insurances, administrations etc...). My parents prefers to let us stay a little longer to be sure that if we fly away from the nest we do it definitively, by finding stability and without difficulties.
Living with your parents until your mid-twenties is fairly well accepted in France, but that does not mean that all French people do it. I left my parents at the age of 18, when I was a student because I absolutely wanted my independence (and I still have very good relations with them). Fortunately, I quickly found a side job to be able to pay my rent, but it is often the difficult side for young adults that obliges them to continue living with their parents.
Really interesting. North American middle and upper middle class parents seem to compete with other parents by taking their child to every class available: swimming, music, karate, baseball, language classes....
Dans la vie on prend des claques, tout le monde il est pas beau tout le monde il est pas gentil contrairement à ce que disait Jean YANNE. Il ne sert à rien d'hyper protéger les enfants, un jour ou l'autre il devront se confronter au monde réel. Peut-être qu'en France les mères préfèrent que cela se passe quand ils sont jeunes, à un moment où l'on peut facilement changer et s'adapter à la réalité. Mais si c'était simple d'élever des enfants ça se saurait. Les mères font ce qu'elles peuvent. in life we take slaps, everyone is not beautiful everyone he is not nice contrary to what Jean YANNE said. There is no point in overprotecting children, one day or another they will have to face the real world. Maybe in France mothers prefer it to happen when they are young, at a time when we can easily change and adapt to reality. But if it was easy to raise children it would know. Mothers do what they can.
Love, love, love this video! It reminds me of the book by Pamela Druckerman, “Bringing up Bebe!” Although I’m not French, I lived in France for a year and it made me into a true Francophile. I have a deep appreciation/respect for the language and culture. I also notice a lot of parallels in the way the French raise children and the way my “old school” Midwest parents raised my siblings and I. Most Americans I know that studied abroad in France really struggled at first but I never really had that period of adjustment- I often felt more at home there than I did back in the U.S. b/c things have become so casual here. Also, loved the jewelry! I’ve been looking for some affordable but high quality everyday pieces and went straight to the website to order.
Hi Kate, Hello from Chicago with my 18 month bebe girl and her Frenchie daddy! I love watching your videos as they transport me back to our time in France. I found it really interesting about what you said for moms of les adolescents. Honestly think my hubby might have been traumatized (bon) from these high expectations and strict framework. He found it absolutely fascinating and fantastic that you could study ancient history in university and still get a job in finance - to a certain extent but very much doable in the States vs France for example. In any case, love love the videos and can't wait to watch the next!
I studied French for years and didn't even know the "French mum" stereotypes till watching this. Americans on the other hand have a definitive word for stereotypical entitled mothers: Karens. 😛
What happened to « Les enfants » (age 6-13 y/o)?!? Lol :) you went from « les bébés » (babies) to « les adolescents » (teenagers)... and then to young adults
I’ be spent a lot of time around french kids and parent, having friends there and also a few exchange daughters from France. I love French children! However, while I know you want sponsors for your videos, I notice a whole third of your video was devoted to the jewelry line. Seems rather excessive, but maybe that’s what they expect. It’s a bit of a turn off, to be honest. Otherwise, your videos are quite interesting!
I love your earrings! Very cute video. I’m in university kid age group. Lol! At 49, I’m really glad I’m in this phase cuz I’m running out of energy! And enjoy my freedom😊
Seems like they are more relaxed and not so necrotic. Focus on the family and not the child. Focus on education instead of nothing but sports. Sounds like a better system plus they speak french!
I kind of recognized the cliches about young adults in your video for having seen it around me. But as everything, it concerns only a small percentage. Generally, I've seen it from people who lives in big university cities or from affluent families who can afford to give their children tuition money and a personal car...For my point of view, I had the same the trajectory as you: I moved out at 19. Lived in dorms during my university days. Found a job and moved in my first apppartment... Sometimes, I also saw people moving back in their parents' home (after finding a job nearby) so that they can raise money to buy a first home/apartment( their long time plan) ...But it depends on the kind of relationship you built with your parents. I have friends who would never consider this option, never in a million years....
Interesting video, thanks for posting! In your view, how much does the "frame" you mentioned for what is socialized into or expected of children in Paris different from what you observed in the Midwest?
Salut, c’est assez normal parce que les cours a l’université c’est un job en soit. Généralement 30h de cours par semaine ( en tout cas en scientifique) plus autant en travail personnel. Dure de travailler en même temps que les cours. Donc pas d’argent, les loyers sont cher et pas les mêmes structures de logements dans les universités en france vs usa….
I think it's not a problem if our children leave home at 18 for university or for a job and it's not a problem if they stay home because they need it. We're kind of neutral.
Moins de place pour être unique à l'adolescence. Bah oui, ça a été fait avant... 😅 Et c'est l'age des grosses bêtises donc on est plus stricte. Logique ! 😉
all the stuff I've heard about the French culture and how they go about daily life I swear if I went there they could only tell I'm American by the fact I can't speak much French and don't know where to go lol
I can't comment on the US vs France but I can tell you there are MANY differences between the UK and France... I think one thing that stands out for me is how there are much more ridged rules in France about how to do things and people generally follow the set rules given by their family and drs and it's all generally the same, whereas in the UK mums are always trying the new things, for example: baby led weaning... this concept just doesn't exist in France, and there are many other things that don't exist in France. I put this down to the French having a much more traditional way of living, where they hold on to their culture/tradition and don't want it to change.
I can't say for Paris and other cities in France, but here in the countryside, many if not the majority of Mom's are stay at home Mom's. I think it is because houses are affordable on one income.
Only the US has weird adult kids culture by expecting them or kicking them out at 18. The rest of the world keep their adult kids with them until they get married which i love.
Even the verb "to parent" has no equivalent in French, we just talk about raising children...
Well, my boyfriend is French and in the beginning of our relationship he was living with his parents, then one year in dorm and finally again sometime with his parents till we moved in together in our apartment. What can I see, these two years of relationship till we moved in, I was not doing most of my laundry myself, because I have no washing machine in my flat, so his mother told me that I can bring my clothes here for the laundry. So yes, during the first two years of my relationship with a Frenchman, my laundry was done by his mom.😅
Hahahah, French moms :)
All of this is so true. I was studying in Paris in 2007-2008, and I had a French boyfriend. His family was so welcoming and generous, but I was so surprised by the amount of stuff they did for their adult child. Every two months or so, they would drive from Dijon to Paris with a carload of prepared meals, groceries, toilet paper, etc. They included items for myself as well. Then they would take us to a nice lunch at a restaurant. I love your videos, they make me miss living in France. I am an American living in Québec now, and I love being able to speak French everyday!
Announcing mother's day for this week, some french watchers must have had cold sweat 😂
I don’t totally understand, but for some reason reason it makes me smile
Love that mentality - don't lose your life just because you have a child. Yes, there are modifications you have to make, but the child is coming into your life, not the other way around.
The video actually starts at 4:20
I was raised the french way and im French Canadian. Indeed, laidback childhood where we were free to explore and not scheduled to a million activities. And i went to university near by and stayed home until i was 27. :) so you’re explanation is pretty accurate id say
Also observe french children in restaurants if you get a chance. Compared to North America it's very impressive. Nice, clean clothes, no screaming at the table and not a tablet or mom snacks in sight. I envy how french parents able to do this very much
I am an American with two baby toddlers that we are raising in the North of France. I find all of these stereotypes to be very true! My brother in law lived at home until he was around 25 years old. My MIL takes up a lot of space but she is extremely helpful and we are lucky to have her nearby to help out! However, the rules are super strict and they are very disciplined, especially around the table at meal time! Spaghetti all over the kids faces and on the floor IS NOT CUTE! Dirt on the kids clothes? Change them immediately! hahaha!
I am an American mom of 1st grade twins, living in Germany. My parenting style is definitely influenced a lot by both cultures. This video was very interesting to me. 👍👍
We have some kind of weird hybrid Canadian-French household. Lol. My husband is French and we live in the south east of France. Life here is pretty laidback. We have a 6 year old and a 3 year old. They have always been on a schedule when it comes to meal times and bed times. That’s something that was important to me and my husband. They definitely go to sleep earlier than other French kids we know because we think that everything runs smoother when they are well rested. Almost all of my 6year old’s friends don’t have a set bedtime on the weekends or on holidays. When she sleeps at their houses, she is wrecked without enough sleep! Lol. We still cosleep with both of them. That’s definitely not the French way but very common from the parents I know in Canada. And my French mother law does not hover at all! She never wants to intrude in our family or overstep boundaries in any way. But she is always there when we need anything. She is one of the best people I have ever met.
Loved the video. I noticed on the bus when I lived in Rennes, moms would really interact with their kids. It was the odd mom with cell phone out and her kid in a stroller. We did boot the kid out after university as that was when we moved to France and he could not come on my husband’s visa like me-he was an adult. He now lives with my mom, helping out as she is newly widowed.
We also have a weird hybrid French- French Canadian/Indigenous family...sort of tribal but with French rules, even though we live in Canada (until covid travel restrictions are relaxed) LOL! 3 of my 4 adult children live at home and even plan to move with us when we return to France.
You should do more topics like that ! Is your baby girl speaking French or English ? Both ? Is she going in a "Crèche" in September ? Are you on a 14 or 27 months waiting list ?
Lorsque mon premier enfant est né je l'ai emmené partout même nourrisson (quelques jours) au restaurant, chez des amis, même au cinéma! pour ma fille 9 ans après, ce fut pareil. Je n'aime pas ces parents qui vous demandent lorsque vous êtes chez eux de parler bas parce que bébé dort. Ce que je n'aime pas non plus ce sont ces enfants qui prennent le pouvoir dans leur famille, de vrais tyrans qui hurlent à chaque frustration et ces mères qui se mettent à leur hauteur même lorsqu'ils se roulent par terre. J'ai toujours parlé à mes enfants debout de telle sorte qu'ils devaient lever les yeux vers moi ,je leur expliquais ainsi que devenir grand c'était aussi regarder plus haut que soi.
I was raised by a French mother and Belgian father in London and then Geneva so very interesting to hear these stereotypes!
Im french and i leave my parents home at the end of my university studies... At 28 years old 😎
L'équipe des Tanguy en puissance elle est où ? 🙋
I left home at 27 when I got my first CDI (contrat à durée indéterminée), it’s hard to sign a lease when you don’t have a stable job and I use my savings to b a car and all the apartment equipment.
This is all so true. haha I live with my French mother-in-law, and I'd have to say she is sooo cool about having her kids live with her even at age 25. In the U.S. my parents are not so keen on this. hahaha
In Southern European countries like Italy, Spain, Portugal, it’s accepted and quite common for 30-35 year olds to be living with their parents.
although she said late 20's and to me it still a bit weird to see people stay that long at their parent's. until 25 is completely normal (it is even in the tax system: you can declare having your kid at home but after that he has to declare his own taxes) but after 25 it's becoming more like "hope he's on the go"
I don't think I ever had an idea of what a French mother is like even in terms of stereotypes. Not sure why but I drew a blank. So, I was open to everything in this video, more so than usual, as a result.
In France we are one of the countries where we leave the earliest from our parents in Europe after the Nordic countries.
On average at 23 years old, against 30 years in Italy, see even later in the Balkans.
Me, it was 19 years old because of studies.
Une petite information , la fête des mères a été instauré par Philippe Pétain le 25 Mai 1941 pour récompenser les mères Française , à cette occasion les enfants offrent un cadeau à leurs mères .
There is a book on Les Bebes I read that was an extension of this information. It was very interesting reading comparisons of the two cultures.
This video was super interesting, thank youuuu :)
I cannot imagine being that age and living with my parents. I had already started my own family at 27 so definitely would not want to be living with my parents while trying to raise my own family.
I'm french and in my family we stayed a long time at our parents house (27 for me). I'm from an university city so we lived at our parents house while going to university and renting an apartment isn't that easy when you're not professionally stable (high price rents in cities, car, insurances, administrations etc...). My parents prefers to let us stay a little longer to be sure that if we fly away from the nest we do it definitively, by finding stability and without difficulties.
Living with your parents until your mid-twenties is fairly well accepted in France, but that does not mean that all French people do it. I left my parents at the age of 18, when I was a student because I absolutely wanted my independence (and I still have very good relations with them). Fortunately, I quickly found a side job to be able to pay my rent, but it is often the difficult side for young adults that obliges them to continue living with their parents.
Really interesting. North American middle and upper middle class parents seem to compete with other parents by taking their child to every class available: swimming, music, karate, baseball, language classes....
Also for "adolescent" it is important to mention that the french school system is kind of competitive around 16-18
Dans la vie on prend des claques, tout le monde il est pas beau tout le monde il est pas gentil contrairement à ce que disait Jean YANNE. Il ne sert à rien d'hyper protéger les enfants, un jour ou l'autre il devront se confronter au monde réel. Peut-être qu'en France les mères préfèrent que cela se passe quand ils sont jeunes, à un moment où l'on peut facilement changer et s'adapter à la réalité. Mais si c'était simple d'élever des enfants ça se saurait. Les mères font ce qu'elles peuvent.
in life we take slaps, everyone is not beautiful everyone he is not nice contrary to what Jean YANNE said. There is no point in overprotecting children, one day or another they will have to face the real world. Maybe in France mothers prefer it to happen when they are young, at a time when we can easily change and adapt to reality. But if it was easy to raise children it would know. Mothers do what they can.
Love, love, love this video! It reminds me of the book by Pamela Druckerman, “Bringing up Bebe!” Although I’m not French, I lived in France for a year and it made me into a true Francophile. I have a deep appreciation/respect for the language and culture. I also notice a lot of parallels in the way the French raise children and the way my “old school” Midwest parents raised my siblings and I. Most Americans I know that studied abroad in France really struggled at first but I never really had that period of adjustment- I often felt more at home there than I did back in the U.S. b/c things have become so casual here.
Also, loved the jewelry! I’ve been looking for some affordable but high quality everyday pieces and went straight to the website to order.
Just found your channel with this video! Thank you for a great video. Is there a video on parenting with young adult children?
C'est vrai, well done!! 👏👏👏
Hello, I 'm French and it' s true, good observation 😁
Starts at 4:12, loves💕
Hi Kate, Hello from Chicago with my 18 month bebe girl and her Frenchie daddy! I love watching your videos as they transport me back to our time in France. I found it really interesting about what you said for moms of les adolescents. Honestly think my hubby might have been traumatized (bon) from these high expectations and strict framework. He found it absolutely fascinating and fantastic that you could study ancient history in university and still get a job in finance - to a certain extent but very much doable in the States vs France for example. In any case, love love the videos and can't wait to watch the next!
I studied French for years and didn't even know the "French mum" stereotypes till watching this. Americans on the other hand have a definitive word for stereotypical entitled mothers: Karens. 😛
Bonjour.
Je vous conseille les livres d'Emmanuel Todd sur les différentes structures familiales.
Cordialement.
Très bonne lecture en effet
What happened to « Les enfants » (age 6-13 y/o)?!? Lol :) you went from « les bébés » (babies) to « les adolescents » (teenagers)... and then to young adults
My guess is les enfants are similar to les bebes with being more on the relaxed side.
Yes! I was wondering the same!
Dans le coeur des mères françaises, nous restons éternellement leur enfant.
I’ be spent a lot of time around french kids and parent, having friends there and also a few exchange daughters from France. I love French children! However, while I know you want sponsors for your videos, I notice a whole third of your video was devoted to the jewelry line. Seems rather excessive, but maybe that’s what they expect. It’s a bit of a turn off, to be honest. Otherwise, your videos are quite interesting!
I’m an American who’s about to have my first daughter. I want to raise her as the French do. 😎
Pray for me lol
I love your earrings! Very cute video. I’m in university kid age group. Lol! At 49, I’m really glad I’m in this phase cuz I’m running out of energy! And enjoy my freedom😊
Seems like they are more relaxed and not so necrotic. Focus on the family and not the child. Focus on education instead of nothing but sports. Sounds like a better system plus they speak french!
I kind of recognized the cliches about young adults in your video for having seen it around me. But as everything, it concerns only a small percentage. Generally, I've seen it from people who lives in big university cities or from affluent families who can afford to give their children tuition money and a personal car...For my point of view, I had the same the trajectory as you: I moved out at 19. Lived in dorms during my university days. Found a job and moved in my first apppartment...
Sometimes, I also saw people moving back in their parents' home (after finding a job nearby) so that they can raise money to buy a first home/apartment( their long time plan) ...But it depends on the kind of relationship you built with your parents. I have friends who would never consider this option, never in a million years....
Interesting video, thanks for posting! In your view, how much does the "frame" you mentioned for what is socialized into or expected of children in Paris different from what you observed in the Midwest?
Completely off-topic but your hair is PERFECTION :)
P.s. and I really enjoy your content!
@@curiositybits12 Merci !
What about styles in discipline?
Salut, c’est assez normal parce que les cours a l’université c’est un job en soit. Généralement 30h de cours par semaine ( en tout cas en scientifique) plus autant en travail personnel. Dure de travailler en même temps que les cours. Donc pas d’argent, les loyers sont cher et pas les mêmes structures de logements dans les universités en france vs usa….
J'adore vos vidéos 🤗🇨🇵
I think it's not a problem if our children leave home at 18 for university or for a job and it's not a problem if they stay home because they need it. We're kind of neutral.
Its Intresting........
Moins de place pour être unique à l'adolescence.
Bah oui, ça a été fait avant... 😅
Et c'est l'age des grosses bêtises donc on est plus stricte.
Logique ! 😉
all the stuff I've heard about the French culture and how they go about daily life I swear if I went there they could only tell I'm American by the fact I can't speak much French and don't know where to go lol
Can you recommend some affordable aand high-quality French jewelry brands? Like non tarnish jewelry
Ma mere is French. She was an awful parent because she was SO unFickin happy here in the American South.
Really interesting and plutôt vrai! Merci !
I can't comment on the US vs France but I can tell you there are MANY differences between the UK and France... I think one thing that stands out for me is how there are much more ridged rules in France about how to do things and people generally follow the set rules given by their family and drs and it's all generally the same, whereas in the UK mums are always trying the new things, for example: baby led weaning... this concept just doesn't exist in France, and there are many other things that don't exist in France. I put this down to the French having a much more traditional way of living, where they hold on to their culture/tradition and don't want it to change.
Pretty much similar to Brazil
About stay
Very interesting. But, wow! You're talking too fast for a poor french guy like me 😅
I can't say for Paris and other cities in France, but here in the countryside, many if not the majority of Mom's are stay at home Mom's. I think it is because houses are affordable on one income.
That’s interesting. I never knew that. I wonder how that works
@@janeann3331 Hi Jane Ann. Not certain I understand by what you mean 'I wonder how it works'?
maybe where you live but it's not at all a generality
Wow really most French moms I know work, not just because they have to but because they want to.
@@surlespasdondine Similar here. Those who want to work do. The lovely thing is that they have a choice.
😘🙏🙏🙏🙏
Only the US has weird adult kids culture by expecting them or kicking them out at 18.
The rest of the world keep their adult kids with them until they get married which i love.
Coucou
Pourrais-tu sous - titrer tes vidéos en français , vois-tu, tu parles trop vite pour moi . 😀
Can't be bothered with this. One glorified advert.
You can just fast forward through that part
@@veronicataylor9831 No desire to.
4 minutes on product placement. a bit too long.
Terrible de voir ton ignorance de la France !
What is your perspective?
Pourquoi ? Développe
Exact