When Anxiety Triggers Pop Up ... But You Still Have Choices (Podcast EP 289)
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- čas přidán 9. 04. 2024
- Anxiety triggers and what to do when triggered are hot topics in our community. We all want to know what to do when we get triggered and find ourselves consumed by that flash of fear that can be so hard to describe and so hard to endure.
Many wind up stuck, glued to the insistence that surrender, acceptance, floating, or choosing to willfully tolerate that experience is unthinkable and impossible. They wind up trapped a loop ... arguing against themselves and demanding more steps, techniques, and tricks for HOW to do a think they believe impossible to do.
Sometimes the toughest opponent we have in anxiety recovery is the belief we can't outrun. This episode challenges you to question the certainties that have defined your battle with anxiety. Is the intensity of our emotions a reliable compass? Is our self-knowledge as accurate as we believe? We'll explore the potential for a fleeting moment of power even amidst the storm of fear, and how reassessing our core beliefs can unlock new possibilities. The thought that what was once unthinkable can become thinkable, what felt impossible can indeed become possible. Reflect on the resilience hidden in your stories and perceptions as we navigate through the complexities of anxiety together.
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Yes. Run TOWARDS fear instead of AWAY. Alan Watts said that and also a Buddhist monk. I also agree based on my own experience.
Running away serves a purpose if you look at how that mechanism was designed. But then over time it got misapplied to our own thoughts and sensations in our bodies and problems/challenges that do not warrant running away from. BTW Alan Watts was pretty cool. He literally apologized in one of his books for not getting his Sanskrit translation exactly right in one paragraph. Now THAT is commitment to good writing! LOL
Hi! @japplesin can you link me the alan watts video/text? Id love to hear it/read it
I’ve gotten suckered in by the symptoms again. I don’t know why they are back or why they are SO strong again. I’m still moving around and still going for my morning walk. Having major sleep issues for some reason. I appreciate all you do. I will keep going, it’s just so darn scary to float through some of these things…health anxiety, ugh, who knew it could be this hard to overcome. 🤦🏻♀️
I’m with you. For the past 3 days I haven’t been able to sleep well. I start falling asleep and I’ll get those horrible twitches. Then vision problems and high anxiety comes in. Good luck to you!
The only thing running away does is reinforce that the thing is indeed scary and that you are or attempting to retreat from the danger. Even if it makes no sense, I’ve had feelings to “run away” that were so intense because it was the middle of the night when anxiety can hit me hard whether I’m ruminating on something and/or had a bad dream. It’s so weird, like you should be able to just sit there and think about your problems without an urge to run for it, and you realize just how primitive these feelings are.
"Primitive" is a good word here! :-)
I don't know if I'm in the right place, but I appreciate your work. I have a very real medical condition and an anxiety disorder. That anxiety is making my condition worse and leading me down to a very real, and physically painful path. It's in my head but also my body and letting go is important, but I don't have the luxury of believing that below me is a safe place to land.
I'm so sorry that you are facing a real medical issue. That makes things so much more difficult for sure! But ask yourself if you can see the difference between your thoughts and emotions and anxiety actually being safe (because it is), and trying to convince yourself that your medical condition is safe. Often an anxious person with medical issues winds up getting the two issues tangled up. They are connected of course, but they are also different in important ways. I hope this helps and I do hope you are managing to deal with your challenges!
All these fears go away once you learn to let go. Easier said than done though. My agoraphobia is completely debilitating. Cant get on the subway or the bus or travel alone because i get extremely intense panic attacks, i feel like im losing my mind/control, feel like im dying and feel like im in a dream, all three at the same time. I ordered your book,thanks for the great content.
You're very welcome. Yes, it is difficult. There is no doubt about that. I do hope you find the book helpful or useful in some way.
I've recently come across the idea that my brain, trying to be helpful and protect me, throws up suggestions (thoughts) about what to be worried about. I find that characterisation of my thoughts very helpful because it seems to free me up to disregard those anxious thoughts. They are not 'me.'
Love it! It really helps when we open up to the idea that brains (and minds) are not automatically correct, accurate, or reflective of reality. Good job with this. I'm glad it's helping you. :-)
I get palpitations when i get anxious...checked out ok by Drs but it is really a big ask to go towards it as im scared to get palpitations 😢
It is absolutely a big ask. Honestly, when people ask me why I don't have 100,000 CZcams subscribers ... this is why. Because suggesting that we may have to face what we fear is far less popular than providing "ten surefire hacks for ending panic attacks forever".
Thank you.
My question is what do you do when the anxiety is situational. Mine is caused by having been in an abusive marriage. Now that we are divorced she still depends on me and trys to get money from me. Whenever I engage with her I get triggered. I am financially broken becuase of her …. The money issues have affected my job and I am thin ice. This all started a few years ago and I feel like I cant het better.
Also do benzo’s get in the way of healing ?
Situational anxiety is something virtually all humans face in our lives from time to time. I'm usually directly addressing the specific context in which the focus is on the anxiety itself, not the external factors that might be driving it. Anxiety disorders create that situation where a person is far more concerned with the feelings themselves than the triggers - which means that all of life can become a trigger. This is why I am always so loud when I say that this information is not designed to be applied in cases of abuse or mistreatment or where actual harm is being done to someone. We do not choose to accept that, float through that, surrender to that, or willfully tolerate that.
Hi.. i really need some hope...in ur antidepressant withdrawal podcast u mentioned about disquilibrium or your eyes not catching up.. could u elaborate how did it feel and how long did it take before fading away
These are not questions I tend to answer because my experience tells me that using someone else's meds experience as a comparison point is often more problematic than helpful. For every meds related issue you will find thousands of difference individual experiences and often just as many bits of conflicting advice and guidance. I'd rather not contribute to that chaos.
@@TheAnxiousTruth i appreciate that.. i am at a place where i could use some hope that this will eventually go away as there is no sign of easing even after almost 2 months.. and it is making me question everything whether or not it is withdrawal.. that is y i asked u how did it feel like
Hey i appreciate you. But How do I deal the anxiety symptoms of me making up conversations in my head with people? Do I just let those be or stop them? Because they almost feel automatic
For more on "automatic" things in anxiety, check out episode 70 of the Disordered podcast I do with Josh Fletcher.
disordered.fm/70
Thanks❤
I have question. Do you still have a choice even during medication withdrawal? I ask you because you seem to have experience with that. My experience until now is that Im not sure, It definitely seemed like I didnt have the choice to surrender because I felt overwhelmed. But It might be that it was a self fulffyling prophecy for me, I anticipated to feel worse and I believed that there is nothing I could do about it. Thank you for your thoughts on this topic.
How to help anxiety about medical settings
Does this pertain to any type of anxiety disorder? Do we still need to jump off the same cliff and there will still be a safety net ..regardless of which disorder i have,...which is a bit of everthing ..panic gad and maybe ocd...
Generally speaking ... yes. It's common for people with health anxiety (for instance) to declare that this approach isn't for health anxiety because HEALTH REALLY IS IMPORTANT AND I CAN'T TAKE THAT RISK! People with OCD will often say that they can't risk their intrusive thoughts being true or their fears being realized. People with GAD will often insist that they MUST think, ruminate, and problem solve all day because "I'm just the kind of person that needs to know". Most anxious people can come up with 5-6 reasons why the "kind of anxiety they have" is outside the boundaries of this general principle. I hope this helps!