Addressing the Ache, Emptiness and Discontent in Your Heart
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Mark, you have so much compassion for people and their struggles. So appreciative of you.
The content you share is better than anything on CZcams. You are legit brother…. I pray you have millions of subscribers who will listen to what you have to say. Thank you Jesus
Jesus is rebooting, rebuilding me not on the childhood I had within my family, but new from the beginning with and based on Him. Wading through deep mud right now, this brings new hope, thank you
i love you Mark. You taught my wife to understand what kind of issues i face as a mentally ill person. What you teach about depression, anxiety, OCD, and intrusive thoughts, Jesus taught me as well. It has been so refreshing to hear you speak reason, faith, love and hope in Jesus in the crazy world mental illness.
This makes me wonder how many of us go to churches where many people feel just like us, and yet everyone is afraid to talk about it and so we feel alone.
Sometimes when this happens to me, I feel grief about my lost childhood. That my parents are dead and I wish I could go back and relive those memories.
Oh wow that's how I feel you worded it perfectly
I struggle to that heart connection with Gods Love a lot. I don’t experience peace or nurture in prayer. I feel mistunderstood by God and not really seen… I know about my father and mother wounds and the Influce of my past. But it’s so hard to trust that Gods Love is the best for me when you have a narcissistic father who also Always says: I just want the best for you. And he argues very well but it’s like poison to my soul.
I don’t know hot to connect to God on a different level because „the best for me“ was never the best for me…
And when I pray to God and look after his presence and leading I get often disappointed. So I feel like its all on me. God is not really a help.
It’s not the truth, but it’s hard to connect to a perfect love that you never experienced…
I hear you. You are not alone (if this helps you to be seen).
😢
Yeah I’m like why can’t I just be content in any situation? Nothing is “wrong.” I’m glad to hear someone else describe it. It makes me feel a fear of time not passing, like the day will never end. I definitely can’t stand to be at home when it happens. I also start wondering how other people “bear” their day (especially if they are stuck at home!).
Yes, I can feel so much hurt sometimes over friends’ health problems or difficult lives. It’s like my empathy goes into overdrive.
Yes! This scripture comforts me so much if I get into depression. Darkness is a light to you! I can never escape from your presence! Psalms are so helpful because David suffered so much with mental anguish.
I think those days where we're really going through it are the days we should draw closer to God and ask him to fill those empty places and heal the broken.places that need gods healing,that really only God can heal.god always wants us to come to him first.
your ministry is a breath of fresh air, a slap (in love), and a hug. God bless you, living out your purpose helping us all. 💙
I'm going to start with the Heart Healing Journey! Thank you. Someone understands me. First time in my life. I'm 62
Dude this content has made me feel more seen and more heard than any other content I've ever absorbed. All other content misses the mark. But this really hits home and speaks to me at every level.
Misses the "Mark" Lol
@@radvibes right XD I thought the same thing lolol
A lady I was listening to on CZcams said when we do something to stop the ache/fear, we are reinforcing that behavior we wish we would not do. (In my case running away, eating, trying to run to a person to stop the loneliness I am feeling at that moment). Yes, it’s almost like a panic to make it stop.
Such a lifesaver podcast! So real, thank you🙏🏻🙏🏻
I praise God for you brother! What a blessing you truly are to us as the body of CHRIST..
I can't wait for night to get here, and at night, I can't wait for the morning to come
I am afraid of emotions, the allowance feeling all those things you say I should allow. I don't like quiet because I see all my failures. I'm better with others than I am with myself. You say to "slow down", that's hard to accept because I'm playing catch up. I'm heading towards 70 and more than 40 years of that was in addiction, drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling had too much failure in it and failed very well all by myself. I have a heard time sticking to praying and bible reading. I am not a church person that this information is geared towards, I'm hoping for a beginning point, something I can hold on to. I'm retired and somewhat disabled, this drives me crazy because I'm stuck with me, I guess I can't get out of God's way. I don't understand the hug thing even though I've heard that it's good for you. I've done it in NA and AA but I didn't get any results. I guess I've gotten use to not having nurture, compassion, all those soft things. I don't trust myself to do what is required of me to do, success for my has been very limited,
An achy heart! I think i've found the words to describe my situation! It comes on in the evenings and nights. This heaviness and achyness is gone by morning. But that's how I can identify how heavy the achyness was the night before! It's awful 😢
I have the same experience but only when I wake up(it can be naps too).
Sucks because it seems like all I want to do is sleep but I’m afraid of the feeling I get when I wake up.😪
"it's not what you're feeling, it's how you interpret it."
Great quote
The reality is that sometimes it is just you and God. Nothing should ever usurp your personal walk with God
This really blessed me last night. I had been struggling with an incredible sense of emptiness, fear and those what ifs. Religious scrupulosity is difficult, and I've been a sufferer since I was 5 years old. It comes and goes in cycles, with unique triggers. But the the inability to nuture myself, struck a chord. You're right, I lacked that nurture during childhood, specifically around religious themes. My father was a pastor, and all of the teachings I had absorbed carried frightening images I couldn't escape. All of this I carried secretly.
I listened to a song today and I wanted to share it because it allowed me to nurture myself today. As I walked out nuturing myself, it felt good for a change.
Thank you for putting this episode together. And thank you to the woman who was so articulate and described many of our aches, and challenges.
Look What You've Done
by Tasha Layton
Look what you've done
How could you fall so far
You should be ashamed of yourself
So I was ashamed of myself
The lies I believed
They got some roots that run deep
I let em take a hold of my life
I let em take control of my life
Standing in your presence, Lord
I can feel you diggin' all the roots up
I feel ya healin' all my wounds up
All I can say is hallelujah
Look what you've done
Look what you've done in me
You spoke your truth into the lies I let my heart believe
Look at me now
Look how you made me new
The enemy did everything that he could do
Oh, but look what you've done
Suddenly all the shame is gone
I thought I was too broken, now I see
You were breaking new ground inside of me
Standing in your presence, Lord
I can feel you diggin' all my roots up
I feel ya healin' all my wounds up
All I can say is hallelujah
Look what you've done
Look what you've done in me
You spoke your truth into the lies I let my heart believe
Look at me now
Look how you made me new
The enemy did everything that he could do
Oh, but look what you've done
On the cross, in a grave
With a stone, rolled away
All my debt, it was paid
Look what you've done
In my heart, in my mind
In my soul, in my life
With my hands lifted high
I'm singing
Look what you've done
Look what you've done in me
You spoke your truth into the lies I let my heart believe
Look at me now
Look how you made me new
The enemy did everything that he could do
Oh, but look what you've done
On the cross, in a grave
With a stone, rolled away
All my debt, it was paid
Look what you've done
In my heart, in my mind
In my soul, in my life
With my hands lifted high
I'm singing
Look what you've done
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Thx for sharing the song!!!
MY GOD!!!! ThIs was for me . I have been feeling this ache this distance , this uneasiness .. unsettled spirit between my thoughts and emotions … and ive been trying to busy myself LIVING life not focusing on my thoughts and emotions and it just won’t go away. This was a blessing!!!!!!! My friend just asked me “do you think God could be calling you deeper ?” And I thought she was absolutely crazy when she said it …. Lol 😂 but ! You just said the same thing . Wow
I appreciate your ministry. Definitely relate to getting way too heady with the OCD repentance cycle. Thank you Mark!
I experience authenticity on this channel. Thank you.
I love listening to you Mark
You are a comfort to listen too
I CAN relate! To it All! It's right where I'm at. I walk with the Lord, but feel a constant ache and heaviness in my heart. I can't seem to fix it. I keep saying, what's wrong with me?
I love God so much. BUT I'm not loving me!
It's very disheartening. Thank you Mark, thank you for all you do.
Patrick
There right now. Be still, pain is rising, so is me talking to God.
I have complex post-traumatic stress from being homeless and having chronic pain, living in my truck. I'm definitely a trooper and not a pooper although you can't trust a fart over 40 as I just turned 40 some sage advice lol. But my process for the calling on my life the wilderness behind that has been brutal and growing, the isolation and the loneliness the need to be seen and understood and really comforted by other spirit-filled brethren it's probably the greatest ache in the heart especially with my prophetic tendencies I need someone to understand me and walk with me. But alas the community I'm a part of they really just don't have a grid for it and I think they look at all the external factors of challenges that I deal with and just kind of stand far off from me and avoid me as if I'm responsible for my issues which I'm but where if the LOVE from the believers. It amazes me how people can be aware of what I'm going through on a daily and nobody in church comes up to say hi or ask how I'm doing or offered to pray for me or drop of an encouraging prophetic word on me.
Yes, so true….missing that childhood nurture, even at my age
There is this thing about not ever complaining, complain you remain. Speak as though everything is good and then you are trusting God. Everytime I have a moan about anything I immediately regret it as if 'oh no I've vocalised it now!
I hate feeling not so connected to God, yet I kinda appreciate it. I never knew people have these emotional spiritual issues until it hit me. I pray that God will use me someday to help those spiritually hurt. Now I get it.
Wow this was so timely and spirit led I believe
I can relate so much to the lady who wrote this email. She expressed so well what I couldn't put words to... Hearing her email was so helpful just to be reminded others are experiencing this too. Your input was very very helpful & this is exactly what I needed to hear this morning... Thank you 🙏🥰
Often if I start praying in tongues it will release emotions I didn’t realize I was feeling (I start crying and grieving). Also I am making myself try writing about my feelings more.
Writing is huge….🙏….it really solidifies and frees the soul up quite a bit….i’m just too busy to do it very much.🥲
Thank you! This message really blessed my heart. I am finding crying out to God can start to heal that ache. My controlling perfection mindset comes in and I desire so much to have peace in my heart
Listening to this, I received a revelation about what God is saying to me about "there is nothing new under the sun." It is that the new creation we are to reach and work for is Jesus who is above the sun and all things.
In the same way Jesus says don't work for the bread that parishes. But that our hearts desire is to reach for Him and He is True Love and THE Comforter. We present the ache to Him. Thanks I have a portion of NEW hope in a situation where I see no hope under the sun.
You've literally helped open my heart and I can sense my own vulnerability n humanity for once, thank you! U have no idea
It's interacting with how good God is that brings change.
Another great quote
Thank you so much for the teaching, it is so encouraging you understand 🙏yes the ache is frightening many years of it, just now starting to know His love for me I need to learn love for me, and experience it. Exactly no interaction
Thank you for your talk. You were such a help this evening in encourage me to rest in what the Lord has for me in this moment, this season of life and transition. Some transitions take a lonnnng time.😄 Patience and mercy to myself and others so key. Praying for you!
Thank you, this was such a blessing
I obviously need to re-read your books. A couple of years have passed and I am at a different level of healing now, too. I find attending Celebrate Recovery to be very helpful, especially going through the 12 steps.
For me the emptiness was numbness from all the pain I had to feel and go trough because of a trauma. I think ptsd can leave you with emptiness too or numbness maybe those two things are a bit diffrent (numbness vs emptiness)
I’ve been a widow 18 years and I can’t remember the last time someone hugged me
This is so good! 😊
I feel numb after years of longing for nurture and fulfillment....
I long for connecting with Jesus and God.....I try not to lean on my understanding yes I want eden I want everything to be good and right I want life here and now
Please mark.
I'm ocd, overthinking, hsp, etc. I walk closely to and with God. I relate very much to this.
PLEASE, PLEASE,TELL WHICH IF YOUR BOOKS I SHOULD START WITH!
I have overcome many addictions, but I'm still hanging onto a few others. Please tell me which book.
God Bless you both.
Your brother from another mother,
Patrick ♥️🙏
Journaling is good for bringing out stuff before God a
So good and apropos of the times. I sense that God the Father is prompting me to dig down those roots to reach water. So many of us endured such evil upbringings with an absolute drought of love from parents and from our impression of God. Please make a video for us. Shalom. Great video. I will sow at my first opportunity.
I needed this! Thank you!
Sometimes its such a tangled web we don't know how to begin unweaving it.
I love this image. Yes I feel this. I get so overwhelmed trying to untangle it feels like I make no progress and I’m exhausted.
@@RealNurseJackie Stop. The problem is not the problem!
It’s GOOD Mark!!!! 🙏🏼❤️
2nd time in listening to this. And Amen sister, they help me and make me feel the same way
Thank you dude! God bless you ❤
Thanks Mark
glad I found you
19:59 that is where I am at Mark. I will stay there and let God move…in hope.
Nothingness is a great term for it.
Thank u bro
I feel like I live an empty life and as if I don't really have much value for life b/c I live without a sense of purpose. I have no love, friends, or any sense of support system. God is distant Himself. I feel like with the things I've attempted to persevere in have led to failed expectations on top of already having lived hard life. I've asked to go home, but God didn't answer. I told him that if it wasn't for my concern about hell, I would be gone.
You are loved. your life matters. God doesn’t make junk. Praying for you.
Same here similar journey
I've found really good pastors to disciple seek out those if possible
I feel the ache!
Good topic
Play UPBEAT music n psalms in your house continously as background sound; hang out with UPBEAT PEOPLE not morosy negative types. avoid negative or abusive people including relatives!!
This is what I feel confused about. Should I run to God and just sit there in the pain when it is bad, or am I supposed to run to a person to try to connect to someone?
Maybe both :)
I don’t know but sometimes it helps to have someone who listens or who prays with you. And sometimes we need to get closer to God on our own. I believe that God wants to heal us through relational connection with him and with others. So try Both Julie and don’t give up on your journey :) I am also in a Season where God wants to heal my broken heart and fill those empty places with Love. It’s very difficult sometimes to go through that pain 🙈 But it’s worth it 😄
I run to God first. I go straight to the source. And then I ask him to bring people into my life, and He does.
I found out that alcohol would change how I felt about sadness, loneliness at about 13. Of course the feeling you speak of make no sense to me. I've had physical aches and pains but the rest I did my best to rid myself of. Not feeling good enough has tortured me through it all. Alcoholics Anonymous says I need to let God in and let Him help me, neither of these I have no clue how to do. These concepts don't make sense. My wife get mad at me when I tell her not to do something for me. I don't think she needs to because I can do it myself, then I'm considered selfish. I have no idea how to get pass these things. I have learned that I'm best by myself, that way I have only one person that will be mad at me, that one is me. I had two marriages while under the influence and this one straight, it's still the same. I'm approaching 69 so how do I address these issues? Knowing that nothing gets fixed doesn't help, it just makes me want to dig up Adam and Eve and kick them in their butts.
I hear you and am praying for you. Maybe a Bible based 12 step group could help.🙏🙏💜
@@iw9338 The phrase "it is impossible to please God without faith." Then it dawned on me that I have been focused on me trying to do things rather than focusing on God while I do thing. I know and have known that I couldn't be here with Him. In spite of knowing this basic concept I got it all twisted. I've been looking in the wrong direction.
off-topic - I was actually waiting for fo r the intro song lol haha...enjoyed the video
I was betrayed and left for another woman by my ex husband which I knew for 16 years. It was traumatic because I never expected it. It changed my life. There is a reason for my emptiness. I don’t feel I ever got over that. It’s been 11 years and I have not been able to meet anyone new. My heart is broken and my life is empty. Could you do a teaching on betrayal trauma and reconnecting with God after that trauma. It feels like a punishment.
I feel a lot of emptiness and discontentment in my marriage
The Holyspirirt helps us
Mark, I sensed that she is 28years old and married. Not married for 28 years.
I know people that being kind to doesn't help. They will not get the point. I need to understand what it is and how to doing. Maybe it's because I don't do softness.
It requires vulnerability sometimes
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I felt this feeling very strongly again a few weeks ago and didn’t know what to do with it.
Beng broke doesn't bother me but bill collectors do
Sounds like they found remains in the search for Brian Laundrie
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