PARENTING WITHOUT YELLING | HOW TO GET YOUR KIDS TO LISTEN & BEHAVE
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- Parenting without yelling. Here are some tips on How to get your kids to listen and behave without yelling at them (or at least trying my hardest to be mindful of yelling). I hope you like this video - thank you so much as always for watching x
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I also wanted to say that my eyebrows are not normally this dark - I've just had microblading (which is like a little tattoo) so they will now heal and fade to my normal colour.
I also have a new microphone camera and it seems to have changed my voice a bit, which is so odd.
One more thing, at 3.31 there is a typo, should be 'Set clear boundaries', I left off a 't'. I hope no-one unsubscribes due to this hugely offensive in-correct use of the English language... xx
Emily Norris haha! Still looking gorgeous but I thought they seem to be a bit dark compared to your hair😃 thanks for the amazing video! Lot to learn here as I loose my temper easily🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ defo will consider your advise xxx
So glad you left this disclaimer. Lol luckily you only have to deal with it super dark for a short time!
So amazed by some comments about your eyebrows. Not to say that some people do that to hurt you, but why comment about it? In 'real' life you wouldn't say those things while that person is talking to you about important things. Why do people find the need to say something about someone's looks . Why are looks soooo important and what somebody does or not do with their looks is their bussines. Sorry for this 'rant', but I feel the need to mention this.
Lat Teach I love Emily! Also feel like she is my virtual friend - sounds weird! I am sure she does not mind!! 🥰 she is gorgeous with or without eyebrows 😄
@@laurakatona8850 haha I know what you mean. For me it is kind of unnecessary ;-). Like a mentioned before, I don't think that everybody meant it in a bad or mean way. I am a bit sensitive on this subject :-).
I’ve been waiting for a video like this! I’m not going to lie I do shout a lot, I really don’t want to I feel so guilty every time I do but sometimes I just can’t help it! Great tips Emily! Thank you! I’m definitely going to try and be a calmer mum!
Charlotte Giddins I would say its just much easier to have respect for people who do not want to ride their scooter in public transport, for people who dont scream and lie on the supermarket floors, for people who dont kick you in the head and split your lip while going nuts in your bed even though you have told them about million times not to jump on you or people who dont try to touch your hot cooker or eat frozen food directly from the freezer 😅 seriously, dont blame yourself, ever. For what mums have to deal with, I wonder how we dont end up in a psychiatric ward 🤣 A good yell before they trap their fingers in the patio door is even necessary!! 😃 I yell coz I still care. But as they grow, I am hoping to lose that 😁👍
I agree & great tips. I need to start a chart x
Ah you're not the first and won't be the last to shout at their kids! I hope the tips help. Thank you so much for watching Charlotte xx
I shout so much that my abdomen hurts whenever I shout
@@luciemarama7923 "yell coz i still care" I completely agree with you!!
I never comment on anything on social media but you are probably the only person who i consider a true influencer! Thank you for the constant reminders of the beauty of parenthood i have so much respect for you
I feel the same. Emily is the only influencer I feel like commenting on. She's so modest and sincere. Love her
This video came after one of that hard days when my 2yr old simply doesn't want to cooperate with me (and of course I yell at him and now I'm sorry). Thank you! You really made my day.
Maria Matei me too I really needed this video today.x
Same!! The last few days have been harder than most because my oldest just turned 2 and I think she’s go omg through a sleep regression so she’s extra angry and whiny at nap/bed time
Ah I hope it helps Maria! Thank you so much for watching xx
I also have a 2 year old. Its not easy!
Way better than Super Nanny! You can tell everything you said comes from love and not anger and that’s what kiddos need.
For the past few years since my teen got a diagnosis of PDA/Autism, we’ve been having to use ‘zero demands’ parenting. So tricky to start with but once we got the hang of not making anything a demand, we got him to comply more willingly with everyday tasks like dressing and eating.
I know it’s not quite the same as for non-autistic children but simply by changing the way you talk to them, it really does make such a huge difference.x
Great points! Especially the timing of the day and talking them through their solutions. As a teacher and mom I always recite that it's significant to 'share your calm, not join their chaos'. As a teacher I also have to correct "*you're out" lol
Glad you like it! Thank you so much for watching xx
What a great video. My mum always shouted at us and so naturally I’ve grown up thinking that’s ok but you are right I don’t want to be that kind of parent. Such good advice!
Why yell if there are other ways?
This came at the BEST time - I'm dealing with this right now with my 2.5 year old. Thanks for the reminder that yelling doesn't really work!
I hope it helps Elizabeth! Thank you so much for watching xx
And now its my turn! My daughter turning 2.5 years now in march. And she is testing me! I just started to google and remember I saw this video awhile ago. Thank you Emily!
Same here! My 3 year old and I both agreed we dont like being yelled at 🤣 now my 2 year old is yelling in her sleep 😅
@@yawnamousaj7856 I have two and three year old girls. I needed this video. I know my neighbors think I’m a crazy lady with all of my yelling😂
Just rewatched and I can say owning up to and apologizing for yelling has helped both me and my toddler get our emotions under control. We hold each other accountable to take deep breaths! Love the advice about how our voice becomes their inner voice. Also heard this recently - there are condiments in your fridge that have more world experience than your toddler - cut them some slack!
Thank you Emily for these tips! Having just had my first child 3 months ago, I've just been binge-watching your motherhood videos. My mom's not a patient person and would yell at me sometimes but more specifically yell at my little brother - we have a 14 year age difference, so mom was already older and her patience just wasn't the same as when she had me, I guess. My brother is very temperamental but I think he grew into it, with my mom and his dad (my stepdad) yelling at him so often, he learned that that's how you communicate, unfortunately. I've tried being calm and patient as opposed to how his parents act.
Now, as my mom is a grandparent, I've noticed she doesn't have patience for basic baby behavior like a little crying - all babies cry, come on! instead, she wants to medicate for anything that could cause that crying, be it a tummy ache, etc, immediately. I'm kind of shocked, to be honest and I definitely don't want to continue her behavior. I want to break the cycle and be a calm, collected, patient and loving mom. Like you mentioned reading somewhere that the way parents talk to us becomes our own inner voice - that got to me very deeply and I realized why I'm so self-depricating/self-loathing - especially as a vulnerable teen I was talked to like nothing I ever did was right or good enough. It would break my heart if my own daughter would have such a low image of herself and I actively want to show her how enough and wonderful she is. Sorry, traumatic rant over!
Wow Beautiful comment! Wish you the best ❤️
Coming from someone who yelled bit too much I'm really finding these types of videos inspiring, thanks you are a beauty
I confess that I yell at my children when I m stressed. I do apologize to them later. And yes, I did pull over my car when my kids fought in the car and it irritated me to hell. I totally agree that kids do need clear boundaries. Great video
I have read highly acclaimed parenting books, been to parenting lectures, done courses.
But your video has helped me more then any other option.
From a mummy in New Zealand...THANK-YOU THANK-YOU
Bless the people who are trying to become better.
I think it’s quite difficult not to yell especially on days when you’re exhausted but it’s worth trying. I’ll try applying this once my baby gets older.
JENNY LIVING take a deep breath and count to ten!
You should apply this sooner than later. The younger your child is, the more emotional they are and also they have little understanding of manipulation. Setting foundation is better sooner than later but you can do it! You got all the way here so you definitely can!
There’s a children’s book by Mem Fox ‘Harriet you’ll drive me wild’, a Mum who doesn’t like to yell but after a lot of things going wrong, the Mum starts to yell, is then sorry apologies and the child and Mum end up laughing as they help each other pick up the mess. Nobody’s perfect,!
My daughters name is harriet and that book was given to us as a gift. I have memories reading this to her and thinking this is me and her haha. Very true. I also apologize if I flip out when I'm tired.
I struggle so bad with my 2.5 year old. I’d love to see a boundary video and some examples. Like if they do this, this happens. You are an amazing mother. ❤️
Need this. My girls tend to get under my skin alot being a single mom of two does have its challenges. But after watching this video I am going to try all these tips:)
Great stuff here. Have 3 kids all adults now. We yelled. We are raising our granddaughter (5) completely different now. Breathe first, talk about about why and settle on how to fix and make changes if need be. We never yell and never hit. We tell her she gets to make choices, but there are consequences for everything. Sometimes good, sometimes bad so you need to understand if you do something bad, not nice then you pay the consequence. We also are accountable when we make mistakes. She needs to see that. We don’t do 3 strikes, but we do give a warning and then yes we would leave a party, restaurant etc....we understand she’s a kid and sometimes get carried away and that’s what the warning is for. We are not perfect and I’m sure we are screwing up somehow, but all we can do is our better and get better as we grow.
I have just rewatched this video and I’m in tears. I recently gave birth and I have been losing patience with my elder child so much lately. I almost hate myself right now. Your parenting videos always remind me that I need to do better.
Appreciate this video I’ve recognized that when I yell, I don’t like the way I feel and how it throws me off. Need to breathe and realize that my son is dealing with things and he is having trouble expressing how he feels. Thank you so much!
Really Good tips, thank you Emily
1. Find your serious voice.
2. Put yourself (PARENTS/GUARDIAN) in time - out.
3. Set clear boundaries.
4. Three strikes and you're out rule.
5. Think about "how difficult it is being a child ".
6. Talk to the child and give them choices.
7. What are your tricky times? (Times you most likely to yell).
8. Own up to your mistakes and apologize.
About a year ago having my second child I was having a hard time parenting and getting through change I came across your channel it was my first mom channel and omg things changed and I still struggle as everyone does but it has gotten better and I just wanted you to know I love your channel thank you so much for sharing.
Your kids are so lucky to have you as their mom..
It's absolutely not cheesy. I definitely agree with all your saying. You seen like a great mommy and should be very proud.
This video made me teared up. I am a yeller, and I really don't like it when I yell at my children, but parenting is just so hard sometimes. Thank you for sharing these tips. The story about your step dad really moved me. I certainly don't want my children carrying a mental image of me as the firy dragon mum all the time. XX from Malaysia
I've just listened to an audiobook How to talk so little kids will listen and these are literally the same principles. It's a great book and I agree so much with what you're saying. I thought I wanted to be authoritative as a parent but now I just have such a soft heart towards my kids that I want them to have a lovely experience growing up. I'm glad it hasn't been long enough to make huge mistakes as my son is 2 and I'm expecting the number 2. Thank you for this great video Emily and it just shows who you really are. You are just a wonderful mum down to how you even talk to your kids!!!
I have to say I am from very passionate and noisy family. Since I have a child I realised I am like my mum and dad in some situations. You are completely right. I always try to be better but sometimes you make mistakes and nobody was born like a parent. Agree with everything and thank you for your positivity and helpful videos🙂.
I’m always looking for ways to become a better parent, these tips are great. Thank you!
Oh my god, I'm in floods of tears. I feel so much guilt of i yell at my son. He tired 2 last week and he is pushing the boundaries with me so much. These are great tips that I'm going to start using right away. There are always triggers for tantrums but a sleep deprived mama (I've a 5mnth old too) doesn't always see the issue. Thank you for sharing this post, so needed to hear this.
Oh and that quote about their inner voice.... 😭Never forgetting that one
Great points and if I shout I always tell my son that I'm sorry that I love her m and that I never want him not to trust me. I tell him it's mummy's stuff when she shouts and I don't want him to think I wouldn't listen to him. Fingers crossed it sinks in. Parenting is so hard but videos like this make it so much easier. Thanks for sharing and again great tips. Xxx
Im a reformed yeller. I used to yell lots but i was put on medication for my anxiety. What a difference its made because I'm a way better momma now that i can model more calm behavior
The advice to actually follow through with the punishment is spot on! On another note, you sound different in the video, hope you are well and not coming down with something
Ha thanks Swati, I have a new microphone and it has deepened my voice! Thank you so much for watching xx
Parenting junkie is an amazing channel.each person should watch its all about mindduland peaceful parenting
Thanks Emily , super video! Loved all the advice ! Since I’m mum of two and going through tough time in my marriage I became more shouty towards my 3 year old! I don’t do that often but when I do I cry at the end of the day. She’s my everything and as you said I need to be her positive model ❤️❤️❤️ great tips x I think I’ll rewatch and rewatch it xxx
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You’re real and that’s what we love about you. Thank you from one mama to another 💕
I absolutely love how you made it a point to respect our children. Like you said, it's tough being little and not understanding things. Thank you for the tips!!
Hi I'm from South Korea and a mom to 2 kids and a big fan of you. I love this video, thanks Emily to let me remind what I did this evening. My two kids had a fight over a very minor issue and I ended up saying " go out of your house and play if you are gonna keep fighting" And my oldest daughter said almost crying " You promised to me you are not gonna say the word "go out" but you just break the promise." So I became speechless and felt guilty about me yelling at her. I will apologize for my mistake and try to follow what you suggest to us. The way you said is so gentle enough to guess how you react to your kids. Thanks a lot I love you and respect you.
This video is so helpful, my LO is 17months and he is at that stage that he is testing his boundaries.
So i'm so glad you shared your tips, thank you xxx
So helpful - thank you! I also had one parent that yelled and one who remained calm, and I definitely respected and was closer to my calm parent. So I appreciate your tips and the reminder that I want to be calm with my 3-year old, who is definitely pushing boundaries right now! Love you!
Thank you so much for your honest and wise advice Emily! You are so right that people who yell do not get our respect, I had the same experience with my dad who yelled every day even for little things, I gradually lost respect for him and as an adult now I do not value what he has to say, it is like he lost my trust a long time ago. Now that I am a parent I get to appreciate how precious it is that kids are born to trust us and value us, we do not want to lose that trust along the way.
I love this so much I added it to my favorites so I can watch it again when I need a reminder. I'm trying so hard to be mindful when redirecting my toddler. It is especially hard when I'm tired and he never runs out of energy. I will be putting myself in time out! ❤thank you Emily.
Mum goals, you’re an inspiration ♥️
Ah thanks Katie. Thank you so much for watching xx
Brilliant advice Emily. When I see parent shouting and swearing at their kids in the supermarket it just makes me sad, it's not acceptable to swear at little ones. You are SO right that it almost gives the kids permission to shout back, then it's a shooting match with tempers escalating.
You're right we should respect our kids and teach them by example even when they have driven us to distraction. We HAVE to be the voice of reason and fairness. However, no one said it was easy that's for sure. Thanks again Emily , you are a star xxx
I loved hearing the real-life stories!! Thanks for sharing these tips.. I needed these about 21 years ago.. but now, finally after my 3rd child, I’ve got the hang of being more patient and much less yelling😬
I absolutely love this! I am an elementary school music teacher, Kindergarten-5th grade, and that means in a given week, I teach over 900 children in my music classroom. I am so, so passionate about treating children with respect, the same way adults (should) treat each other with respect. When we have to correct a behavior, I say the following: "I love you, and nothing can change that. Now, let's work on (keeping hands and feet ourselves, kind words, following instructions) together, you and me." Behavior in children is not personal, they are not sophisticated enough for that. It's a sign that some need is not being met. Emily, thank you for this, it is such a true, from the heart video!
Thank you for the tips and your points towards the end about why not to yell made ALL the sense in the world. Favorite tips: Serious voice, Mom time outs, pulling over. Very simple and smart! Thank you!
Love this - thank you. So true about making sure their basic needs are met - we have tightened up on bedtime and has made so much difference - and the inner voice idea - so lovely 😍😍
Great stuff Georgina. Thank you so much for watching xx
Thanks for sharing, Emily! Totally agree with you and it’s a great reminder for the moments when I lose my patience. A self imposed time-out often does the trick.
This was so needed! Thank you for sharing! I’ve been struggling with this with my 4 year old who has become quite strong-willed lately. Great words of encouragement for this momma!
Thank you Emily, I really liked this and would love more videos like this. I find it so hard not to snap and shout when my little ones are just not listening and doing as they're told, but you're so right about why we shouldn't yell, and these tips are genuinely helpful or encouraging actual loving discipline that's for their benefit, instead of my angry outbursts that just leave us all feeling negative
Love this Jasmine, I am so glad I mad this video now. Thank you so much for watching xx
I love what you’ve said about respecting your child, their feelings, their emotions, their perception of life. My mom & dad did a wonderful job raising my brothers & I with respect, I can only hope I am remembering this as I raise my little guy! This video was a great reminder and I will certainly refer to it in the future when my little guy comes upon the challenging years! Also, I like what you said about how you talk to them becomes their inner voice!! Great video! I love learning from you!
This came to me at the right time, I'm having such a hard time with my 2 year old and little patience etc since I recently had his little sister, dealing with a toddler and newborn is hard and sometimes I think I forget how he feels if I'm in protective mom mode of my little girl etc, but I realise getting mad and lashing out is not gonna help. Will definitely try to implement some of these tips with him x
Thank you so much for this! I am starting to put us all in timeout. Everyone takes 10 minutes to sit with books quietly and individually then we usually are reset.
Love this Erin! Thank you so much for watching xx
Thank you so much! My son just became one year and he's starting to make me lose my temper more these days. Thank you for the ideas and reminder to be a calm parent!
I'm the anxious mom over here and I've got four kiddos....ages 18 years down to 18 months. Thank you so much for sharing, Emily, really puts things into perspective ❤
Great advice, thank you! I struggle with this as a mom I always feels so guilty afterwards. Thank you for talking about something mamas are afraid to talk about for fear of being judged.
Thank you Emily, really need this today 😩. It’s nice to know us parents are all in this together !!. I always try & be the water to the flame not the fuel . I always apologize to them if I react and try and show them the respect they deserve & explain mammy makes mistakes too !!!. 😉.xx
We are definitely in this together Olivia! Sounds like you know what you're doing! Thank you so much for watching xx
I absolutely agree with EVEYRTHING you said in this video. Especially about doing everything you can to de-stress those stressful times, I always have a stock of meals in the freezer for my daughters two nursery days, because boy is she challenging after nursery! She spends all day on her best behaviour and when I pick her up, unfortunately I get the tired, grumpy raw end of the deal. At least I don't have to cook on these days now which makes such a difference to my stress levels. I pretty much manage to cope in a calm manner and remind myself 'it'll soon be bed time' lol . Lovely video xxx
Thank you for this video. I noticed that the few times I used some of your tips for my teenage child it actually worked but kept going back to yelling. Thanks for the rest of the tips am really going to use them and am going to work hard at it. You're a life saver indeed. Thanks a million.
Love these tips Emily; it’s so hard sometimes but totally get what you’re saying about future proofing the relationship! Xxxxx
Ah glad you liked it SJ. I hope you're well xxxx
Great video. I just read a book about this topic. I love that quote at the end " the voice we use to talk to our children, becomes their inner voice".
Powerful.
Your a lovely person abd casting mum xxx
This was really amazing to watch, i myself grew up with my step dad being a horrible person, but also my mother being a very stressful shouty person, and i could never understand anything, until i had kids...my eldest is 7 and she mostly grew up in the shouting and violence i had to endure , because i had her at a very young age, but my my other 2 youngest did not, and the difference is so major...i use to shout at my eldest all the time, because that's what i was use to...and had to teach myself new methods to not shout...today i struggle a lot with her because she was use to all that abuse..but slowly we are getting to where we want to be..thank you for this video..you are a major inspiration to me.
I can't believe that you've posted this tonight. This is just what I needed tonight xx
Thank you so much Emily!! I am a yeller sadly. I do apologize often to my kids. I tell them being a parent is not that easy and I do tell them I love them the most even though I lose my cool more often.
Emily this video is great! I was shouted at (and smacked) regularly by both my mother and step-father and promised myself that I wouldn't raise my children the same way. Their parenting style taught me fear and I learnt to tread on eggshells to try and keep the peace. I've never used physical discipline with my own children and
can probably count on one hand the amount of times that I have shouted at them. Parenting is hard at times but I do feel that if we talk to our children with the same respect that we would speak to anyone else (and apologise when we do slip up), then they will talk to others kindly too and apologise when they get it wrong. Your boys are lucky to have you. ❤
Hi Emily, I find your videos so authentic! Thank you for sharing how to raise little humans without yelling. I can relate to your household growing up and while I don't have children of my own- yet, I absolutely will not be yelling when I do.
Thanks once again Emily - I’m not a shouty parent either. I’ve very loosely followed the ‘gentle parenting’ technique by Sarah Ockwell Smith - which has really helped me stay calm but also discipline my children. Your principal is very similar and it’s one that I believe really works! I was listening to Jeremy Vine on radio 2 last week and he had a discussion about the banning of smacking children in Scotland. The comments made by people calling into the programme were absolutely shocking and left me reeling. So the fact that your massage is all about respecting our children is very reassuring. I always knew you were an amazing mum and this video just cements what I already knew xxx
Thank you Emily. I try not to yell, often I shout if the kids are being so loud they can't hear me! Then quickly use my calm down serious voice because we shouldn't have to yell. Thank you for sharing about your stepdad. My dad was the drill sergeant of our house so if my bed wasn't made perfect he'd take off the sheets and make me redo it, or vacuum my whole room over for one crumb of dust. It always just made me feel bad and I try to make sure my kids always hear "Good job!" Like 70 times a day😁
Thank you for this video! These are great tips! I’m a yeller in recovery, trying to make my way to a calm mom, so these practical tips really help, thank you! I have a very similar story about my own stepdad, and I remember thinking how immature he was that he couldn’t control his own emotions and I really don’t want my own kids to think that about me!
Thank you for making this video Emily!! 💜💜💜💜 My parents were on complete opposite ends of the discipline spectrum so now as a mom I try my best to be kind to my babies and do the right thing even though I never had a good example to learn from. I really appreciate this!!
I love your sit down videos about parenting - they are a perfect combination of inspirational and helpful. Thank you for breaking things down into such practical tips. And I agree with you Emily, being respectful and calm is a huge part of my approach to parenting too, thank you for sharing that with us.
My pleasure Malavika. Thank you so much for watching xx
Well said Emily ! I am myself coming from a home when my dad was screaming and shouting all the time and most of the times I was just scared... it worst of all it’s the reason why I suffer from anxiety and depression. So please be kind and respectful to our children. God knows I lose it sometimes but then I am feeling so guiltily it eats me.
@Emily Norris thank you for the wonderful tips.."the voice that you speak to your children with becomes their inner voice". Got that! I am really trying to be a calm mum...everyday getting better.... no mum is perfect!
Thank you much for sharing both how you speak with your children and how you were spoken to. It’s so incredibly helpful and empowering to hear your journey. And so appreciated!!
I keep coming back to listen to this video as the need arises...this is how great and important each and every tip you gave in this video. Thank you so so much for sharing such concrete contents to lonely parents out there. Love you and your lovely family.
May God bless you all.
These are all tips I’ve thought of and tried before. My problem is sticking to them. Making myself be accountable. It’s time to fix this problem in myself to help my children (and in turn it will help my whole family). Thank you for this today. I needed it.
Emily I completely agree with everything thing you've touched upon & I do my very best to follow this way of thinking. Brilliant video xx
There's a serious chance I'll jump back to this video every now and again when I feel stressed out. Cus ok, i do try most of these (not old enough to reason with), but I still find myself yelling sometimes and out of frustration, when i've been trying and nothing seems to work.... And this video on it's own is so calming and reassuring! So I might just use it when it comes to feeling helpless and frustrated 🤗😅😅
Thank you for making this. My boyfriend and I struggle to do and say the right things with our children and it always feels like one of us is yelling. We both grew up with unstable parents and I don't want our children to grow up the same way. This really helps ❤
I needed this today! 🥰
My son has behavioural difficulties and so often I fine myself wanting to just tell at him.
Thank you
Hannah Spencer well done you. parenting is so hard and then when you through things like behavioural issues on top of it ... that's next level sending you loved
You are my favourite CZcams mum! Loved your advice. Your boys are very blessed to have you as their mummy ☺️
Emily, you should feel so proud of this video! It’s wonderful!! I discovered your channel when I was pregnant with my first in 2018. I went back and watched every single video you have uploaded in reverse order 🤣🤣🤣🤣
You are such a calm and a sweet person I really wish to be like that with my children I was really motivated by this video thanks.. .. love your channel ♥️ ..
Ah glad you like it Randa! Thank you so much for watching xx
Thanks Emily! I've got a 7-month-old boy (my first) and I'm so grateful for this as I had a similar upbringing as you and I want to be prepared within myself. Thank you again xx
Thank you so much for this, as a mum of two, three and four months, who is currently dealing with my eldest misbehaving as his dad has gone to work away until February. This honestly has made me think more about my responses to him and how hard it is for us both. Certainly going to try and put all of this into practice.
Thank you Emily. Sometimes my kid just has a bad few days in a row. Always starts with *I'm not playing with you, I'm serious, it's time for X". "If you don't do X you can't have Y" and my kid laughs at me and stirs me up MORE until I picked him up and micro manage him into the car / into the shower / into his shoes. I chuck him over my shoulder so he can't slap me in the face. By day 2-3 I'm super tempted to start yelling!
First you made me a better housewife and now you are making me a better person 😌.... We are so lucky to know you Emily ❤️❤️❤️
I always admired your patience and love for your kids, you are a great mom and a good example! Loved the tips! I do really struggle with this, I am that crazy mom that always yells at her kids, and I always feel bad about it, and I try really hard not to, but my personality gets in the way. So I'm on this journey to change myself and my way of thinking and reacting. My kids are my world for me, so it will be worth every minute of it ❤️
It's very important how we talk to our kids and also how we talk to other people in front of them...I grew up in house where people fought and yelled almost everyday and I can't even have argument (normal argument without yelling) with my husband without starting to cry... that's how much our parents affect us...thanks for this video..I have 10 month old and your videos helped so much 😍
Yasssss, girl! I haven't had a chance to watch this video yet, but I love it already base on the title. :) Loving the videos lately that are a little bit different than the usual.
I hope it lives up to your expectations Jaclyn! Thank you so much for watching xx
Such a nice video Emily. Sometimes I freak out as a mum (every of us as a moment like this), but as years go by, I tried to apply several of the tips you talk on this video (positive parenting) and they really make the difference. In fact the kids respect you more than if you scream.
These are so good Emily.
Once I yelled at our 3 year old to warn her not to touch something hot . She demanded an apology for shouting at her 🤣. I apologised. It's so much easier to teach them how to talk to people respectfully when you speak to them respectfully
This has helped me a lot to have another view on things and situations and also forgive myself for some difficult moments. Thank you.
I love this soo much. These tips are all solid gold!
Emily, thank you for this video and tips! It really helps to know that it isn’t only you that yells at the kids after a stressful day... it is so hard sometimes to keep it together, to be the smiling mom who can handle everything but in fact it all the other way around.. the tips are great but for me it is a comfort that i know that i am not the only one who reacts this way when the little ones go full mental :))) have a lovely day ❤️❤️
You are in fact an expert ... I’ve learned so much from you over the course of the past 2 years. You are awesome
I love the message in this video. I have been really feeling bad about yelling when my kids test my patience. I always feel guilty afterwards because I know it's not an effective way of communicating the important things I want them to do.
The voice you speak to your children in becomes their inner voice...Good reminder!
This video is amazing but it's made me realise I do that anyway and that I am doing right by my daughter, everyone keeps telling me that she won't learn unless she's shouted at and I don't believe that, I'm not a shouting person anyway and you have just backed my whole theory, thank you so much Emily for this video, you always leave me feeling great, happy and confident about motherhood and that's so rare to come across these days, thank you for being you xxx