TikTok's "Gel Lady" Is In Some Bizarre Drama
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Ashley: dont be financially dependent on anyone
Monique: and i took that personally
👏👏👏👏
Right??
She annoyed the SHIT out of me when she started talking
Right? Basically,
Gel Lady: kids, avoid financial abuse where you can.
Other Lady: **gasp** How very dare you!
Yeah I didn't understand how she took offense to that. Like, you only have daughters... But don't want them to be independent and financially intelligent?
If my husband ever cheated on me and the other woman said I was overreacting about it I think I’d end up in prison
And I would probably consider what you did to get there an under reaction
same, I'd like to hit that Monique girl, and I'm not even affected by her actions.
Swear I'd be in a jumpsuit so fast
Same
Lmfao, I wish I could write what I want to write with out incriminating myself but I FEEL YOU.
Ashley is handling this with grace and that other lady is NUTS. There's nothing wrong with being a powerful, high earning, funny woman. I'm happy she's putting parenting above 'winning' his infidelity.
This explains so much as to why Ashley changed her page/ content and removed her husband from videos posted. She is so sweet and doesn't deserve this at all.
@@ohnonotagain8935I thought it was just he wanted privacy. She is the face of the brand "after all".
🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️ shit happens man, if y'all took a 🔬 over my 10 year relationship I would probably fail in the eyes of public option & my husband may also 🤷🏼♀️ BUT THATS COOL WITH US, NOONES here 24/7 --- 365.
Plus they have children in the home they've been very public that they were gonna raise & do stuff right 💯🤷🏼♀️ I commend them for that 💯👏🏻.
@@ohnonotagain8935I agree so thick. Ashley brought his world something to grow and used it to cheat.
I’m mad you chose brown to represent both black men but chose different colors for the white women 😅 lmaooo
@@mitchellqyra3969You must not be black.
I feel so bad for the gel lady. She was being so smart and mature about this whole situation. Meanwhile Monique was so full of herself and she just aired everyone's dirty laundry without their consent. It's obvious that she has self esteem issues, otherwise she wouldn't have inserted herself so much into the situation
I feel like smart would be not to post anything and handle it with him alone lol
@@beerthief2688she has him in her videos alot, people would ask and push either way
@@beerthief2688it seemed like that was what she was trying to do at first, but people just kept asking her so i feel like she had really no choice but to address it to end speculation around her
@@beerthief2688i
@@beerthief2688sometimes it gets very overwhelming holding it in she’s driving crazy in her head finding out a husband u have 3 kids with isn’t easy to Handel
That Monique lady changed her ig bio to "The Homewrecker" which is already pathetic, but I was surprised to see she uses her ig to promote her sex work accounts while also posting pictures of her child in there? It's like thirst trap, ass shot, baby picture, ass shot again. That shit should be ilegal.
That poor child.
Disgusting.
That’s fuckimg disgusting
I'm sure that's what her clients get off to.... ://
She's branching out to get more fans 🙄
i can’t STOP COMMENTING on the fact this grown ass semi-married woman mother of children (Monique) came out to DEFEND the allegedly cheating husband even though Ashley has NEVER said a SINGLE BAD THING about her husband ever
Its the fact that ashley loves his 'husband' to the point ok just saying that he just doesnt want to appear on the social media anymore, she still have some integrity and respect for the father of her childs
It's just so WEIRD. Like, all the people thinking her husband was Ashlee's, Monique could've just said "that's not him" and left it at that. Such utter brain worms to display such private stuff publicly. I don't get it. Yeah great you get to go TikTok viral for a second. TT's virality is so much quicker and shorter than it used to be.
@@koalbaSeriously. She has so much respect for this cheating man that she defended his ass to the very end and she STILL got shit on by Monique. All the respect to sex workers, but GOOD sex workers would never entertain a cheater or assume a woman supporting herself is bad/ an attack on her, a woman supporting herself. Apologies for the long comment, but I just completely agree
Exactly !!! This is all the husbands fault imo
Pick me vibe.
Just cause Monique is younger doesnt mean shes prettier lmao
I know right? Ashley is gorgeous and it makes me heart hurt that she feels she is lesser than this ratchet swamp goblin
She's not even pretty tbh
lmao@@aIysssa fr
she's got the minecract build
@@meowsquarade PFFT
“My wife doesn’t understand me,” is THE classic cheating husband excuse. What is often the truth is wife is spending time taking care of their children, and running their household instead of catering to hubby’s whims and focusing all her energy on him.
I’m sorry it does not give him the right to cheat because a wife does not want to talk about your whims. That’s what I’m saying because this shit sucks you can say you or put yourself on the platter by admitting that you are a homewrecker yourself and that is what she’s doing. She’s going to get the backlash like crazy from other people and believe me this thing ain’t gonna do her any justice.
@@msfoxylove20 Absolutely. Both parties in a cheating situation are wrong. The only victims are the wife and any children. I was pointing out that that type of husband is usually a selfish jerk who can’t handle not being the center of attention. So he seeks out another woman who may or may not be aware of his marital status who will focus all her attention on him, and boost his ego. If she knows his status and doesn’t care or feels proud because she “stole” someone else’s man then she’s a jerk too. Of course there are also wives who cheat, and they suck too.
Exactly. I told my husband after we had kids that he was last in line. 😂😂
@@oldeskoolnana7543Exactly, my own father who is a man of course taught me that a woman takes care of his children first the man is strong and you should understand that comes last because he should be making money with his two different sources of income to keep him busy enough throughout the day and by the time he gets home in the evening then it's his time after dinner 👏🏽
@@figneutron90 I agree with you, sir, or ma’am, because you know a man that cheats is going to happen to him either way and a woman who doesn’t give a damn who she stealing, and could ruin an impact the victims like this lives behind us. Monique knows damn well that she’s putting her kids in danger and meanwhile, while Ashley is going about this in a modest way and not letting this lady spark her fuel because first of all she’s a businesswoman and Monique is doing nothing more than destroy her business. So so on.
Imagine being mad someone is raising their daughter not to be financially dependent on another person even though financial dependency is how a lot of people get stuck in abusive relationships 💀 It’s actually a good lesson to teach and that condescending speech is yiiiikee
And to think she was coming after her 😭
LIKE!!!!
Even though that’s literally what she’s doing, she has her own income from SW which means she doesn’t completely depend on her husband for the money, so why would she be upset that Ashley has the same mindset
Yeah, maybe she should ask herself why she's so offended over a comment that in no way was directed towards her. She clearly thinks way too highly of herself
She's projecting. She is jealous of Ashley's successful career and wants to destroy her reputation.Its a game of power. A born hater.
Monique is the classic “Other Woman.” Everything she says about “not understanding your husband/ seeing his perspective,” “lacking in aspects at the home,” and just, in general, airing out someone else’s laundry is just so wrong and is done to make herself feel better about her part in seeing a married man, knowing he's married.
She likes drama and attention and will milk this situation even after its dead.
Probably excited about all the new male attention she’ll get too 🙄 that’s how these types roll
I personally feel like it always more of the cheaters fault than the person they cheated with (especially if buying services) but Monique shouldn't be publicizing other ppl's personal life. Like Ashlee obviously didn't want to share that, Monique needs to stfu.
@@n4z1f4but it’s more than just airing it out. It really seems like she’s enjoying being the other woman, giving unsolicited advice and actually blaming the wife for “not being there for her husband.” I think that’s what the og comment meant
Monique Putting her time thought, and effort where it’s not wanted or needed for attention, while ignoring her children. What a disgusting , stupid, immature, P.O.S.
@@kelvisaisawesome I agree. She rubbing it in, and acting cocky af.
Bringing her baby out in a video where she’s needlessly exposing herself as a side chick/cheating partner of a married man is WILD
Wild like this will be on the internet forever 🤦🏾♀️
Her poor daughter. I would never put my young child on the internet ever.
@oldeskoolnana7543 let alone talk about my or anyone else's sex life in front of them. Fucking ew.
I know right 😂 I was just thinking that. Like how shameful of that mother. Ashlee is handling it so well and mature.
@@roxyp7569 Ashley has been a saint through all of this. My anger issues could never 😭
This Monique lady is reeking of pick me energy, sad to minimize and justify disrespecting someone’s boundaries within a relationship
saying she reeks of pick me energy is an understatement
Literally this and attention seeking
It’s all she ever knows how to do- that’s how we get std wh^ s like her that love open relationships cuz they can’t respect a closed one, they can’t handle loving someone instead they want to be a side piece constantly
Yes! Yes! Yes! Like the nerve. As empathetic as anyone can be, how are you justifying being shitty
@@misseselise3864of the century 😅
I don't believe in hating the other woman *IF* she didn't know or is ashmed. It rubes me totally wrong how proud this girl is. She put "internet homewreaker" in her bio. This family has kids and a whole life and she is like "lol ruined their marriage how cute am I" disgusting. If she were my friend and I saw this drama I would lose all respect and trust in her. She's the kinda person who would go for her friends husbands just to prove she can.
She knows what clients are married foh
No way she has friends.
Yeah she’s gross ….
not the internet homewrecker cmonnnn😭
@@patiolunchew bro that’s not at all true, get off incel forums for a fucking second goddamn. Women are people, people are nuanced. No one group are “ALL like this” or “ALL like that”. Grow up.
Monique is really pretending to be a marriage counselor but then turns around and airs out their dirty laundry on tiktok like.... bestie if you're gonna play therapist, at least do it right and dont breech confidentiality laws 😭😭
edit: this is a joke. stop being little freaks about it in my replies. thank you, hugs and kisses!!! :)
@@simoncat 1. i was joking 2. dont shame sex workers please :)
@@starburstds2it’s illegal. Not shaming. Just illegal
@@crystaldenee765yeah it's illegal but they were basically saying sex workers are untrustworthy bc their job is illegal. That's shaming.
@@lolwut6635 I think its more untrustworthy that shes engaging with married men. Yes its the mans fault and shes just doing her job, your moral compass must be off to be okay with sleeping married men, and no one should be taking advice from someone when their morals are off. Its like taking advice from a friend who doesnt have boundaries
@@mangoberry2534this.
But I don’t think that’s what the original reply meant
I'd be concerned why the SW is getting so emotionally involved with her 'clients' that she is getting personally offended by things their spouse says. And talking about this stuff in front of her children... yikes.
There’s a difference between professional sex workers and people getting paid for sex. That being said, even established “professional” workers can be drama causing homewreckers, especially if somehow they come to think they don’t like you anymore for any reason.
Because she wants more tik tok followers
Yeah… kinda sounds like a code of conduct violation if you ask me😭
@carmela_c there's no guidelines bc it's literally illegal lol
Just because you went to a sex worker *DOES NOT* mean that it *Negates* the fact that he cheated. You were in a closed relationship and went to another woman for something. You cheated even if it was just talking about it, and *NO ONE* deserves to have an infidelitous partner. Infidelity is among the worst things you can do to your partner.
That makes it worse even, he's spending their family's money that his wife probably earned to disrespect her with another woman.
what's sadder is that everything is aired out in the internet...
Right if he wanted to talk he could’ve gone to a therapist kmt
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@@zervaniiiWhat's saddest is that he cheated
Just because Monique believes in open relationships does NOT mean everybody else should. She has every right to be upset with her husband. He went behind her back, PAID someone to sleep with him, and God knows what else. Crazy.
It’s only an open relationship if both parties consent to an open relationship
Will A FLESHLIGHT EVER BE ENOUGH!?
Men ☕
As a monogamous, I agree. I can understand open relationship couples. It's none of my business. But I also want to be understand by the rest of the world that I will never do that.
She doesn't believe in open relationships,she only sell herself and take advantage of her "job" being a whore isn't a work,it's way too disturbing to see how people take this as an job.
She taked advantage to have popularity and popularity = views.
the situation itself is bad, but the fact that her whole audience is aware of the husbands infidelity makes it so much worse imo
thank you kim dokja
It’s her children and all their friends and their friends’ parents who are now aware too. Ashley was obviously trying to keep things vague and quiet to protect her kids. But Monique obviously doesn’t understand the concept of a mother protecting her young children on the Internet seeing as how she had her young child front and center in her video discussing topics that are totally inappropriate for kids
this is so sad bc he was very involved in her videos.
I wasn't damn I just saw the video she did about him not wanting to be online anymore
Bro what??? I watch her and I haven’t heard of this. Do you have any more info? I want the tea 😂
I'm a military spouse, and the stuff she's talking about in the initial video is extremely common. Spouses (usually women) have a really hard time establishing careers, because they're moving all the time. So they end up seperated from their family, no career, usually a couple kids. Theyre completely dependant on their active duty spouse. If the AD spouse decides to drop them, they have very few avenues or prospects for recovery.
It's likely she has friends that have gone through that. I do. This just goes to show how little the rest of the world knows about military life.
I'm active duty, the term for spouses and children is "dependent". I'm called the "sponsor". We have numerical prefixes attached to the sponsor's social security number for benefits purposes etc.
@@SandrelineSo is there like a contract of some sort? Like if she wanted to quit, how easy would it be?
The worst part is this wasnt even oddly specific, it happens pretty regularly. Kind of one of the core reasons women wanted the right to work, in addition to having ways out of abuse.
right? she added details like time which made it odd but "don’t depend on a man you never know it might not be forever" is a pretty standard thing to advise young girls
right? it didnt strike me as oddly specific at all. this is something other women have been teaching me since i was young because it's something that happens quite often.
i was JUST about to comment this as well.. this really isnt hyper specific and just a reality for a lot of women.. i know my mum has said what Ashley said to me sooo many times in my life
I don't know how involved Ashley and her husband are with the military currently, but the military still has adultery laws where offenders can face criminal or career penalties if they cheat on their spouse. So on top of wanting her privacy, it's also possible that Ashley wanted to stay quiet about this so that her kids can still receive both their parents'military benefits. Which makes Monique's actions even worse.
This! Also, to protect their kids from their parents being all over the internet too! Imagine that!
That’s not relevant here because he didn’t actually do anything physically with Monique. I don’t think he’s in the military I think only she is, but even if he is was it wouldn’t be a violation of the military’s adultery laws because that requires a physical sexual act to have happened, they don’t consider sexting or anything online to violate military law.
And just in any possible separation, wouldn’t this just be horrible if the person you potentially cheated on your partner with, came out and showed it off to everyone, in a public forum, that can be cited at any point? Like legally, proving you caused the relationship to end.
*edit to not sound like a divorce, I don’t know them or if they’re divorcing.
maybe this is unpopular, but i feel like those laws should extend to all cheaters. the married ones, at least. a marriage is a legally binding contract and cheating is literally abuse. i’m not talking about a one time mistake that a person admits to/takes accountability for. but to maintain an affair, the amount of lying/manipulating they have to do on top of putting their spouse’s health on the line should be punishable in some way.
Wow I had no clue the military makes adultry illegal....AWESOME. hope they go after him. Sounds like Ashley is trying not to air out laundry to protect him....shows shes a good person and hes a dyck
I feel so bad for Ashlee. She seems super sweet and really passionate about what she loves. Nobody ever deserves to get cheated on. I hope she’s super successful in her future endeavors and finds someone who will respect her and love her for the seemingly awesome woman that she is
I hate this for “the gel lady”, I love her reels and she seems very nice. Terrible situation for her family.
I like Ashlee. I hope she'll be OK. I'm going to go watch all of her videos now
HE CHEATED??!
@no1caresss did you even watch the video? But at the same time BARBIE MAGIC OF PEGASUS-
@@Bakesuta i saw this comment first before i got to the point of the video where nick explains everything LOL sorry i was shook 😭 also TASTE
Ashlee made a very polite video about why he husband isn’t on her social media anymore. She said it was because he didn’t want fame or to be recognized out and about. But he cheated??? She’s so sweet!!! Some men have ridiculous amounts of audacity.
The audacity is astounding
She might have been hiding the situation to save herself and her kids from the embarrassment of everyone knowing the father was a cheater. But the internet just couldn't leave it be. They had to dig every detail up and Monique had to publicly make a statement for some fucking reason.
@hannahw7023 I don't blame the internet for digging it up. Monique is a sad case though, she clearly loves it. . .
But I do really agree Ash did a really good job of gently maneuvering the situation, and doesn't seem to be the problem.
this is so embarassing 😂😂😂 why are you PROUD of being the woman that BREAKS UP A MARRIAGE ??? that’s NOT a flex girl … ur bragging about the fact that men cheat on their wives with you???? and that makes you better???
Forreal😂🤣🤣
What they never understand is that the men only go after them because they're EASY. If it wasn't her, it would have definitely been someone else. She isn't special because if she would have turned him down, he would literally just go find someone else who says yes. She thinks she can break up marriages because she's something else. That something else is that she's easy and says yes where other women who actually respect themselves will say no. She's just literal garbage and just nasty as hell.
Dumb people, dumb people are proud of this
I worked with a woman like that she was bragging about it saying the marriage was broken anyways . It's like wow ...
Literally had someone tell me "If it wasn't me then it would've just been somebody else." Like??? Okay but why are you trying so hard to be picked if you just acknowledge that you were a convenience. Lmfao. These types are wild and will talk out of their asses all day long. Lol
SPOILERS!! Gel lady (Ashely) husband is cheating on her with a sex worker named Monique. Gel lady doesnt it bring it to the public and denies it but Monique decides to air it out. Monique is a homewrecker. I feel so bad for Ashely rn.
As a viewer from the other side, it seemed like she treats her husband so sweetly. She deserved better, both Monique and her husband seem awful in this situation
Facts finally, someone says it like how it is.
this
Thanks for the cliffnotes. I love a green moment, but seriously some of these videos are long AF for no reason. 😅
i saw she posted a video saying her husband doesn’t want to be a public figure anymore, this definitely explains why
I'm still confused how that other lady was mad at Ashley for telling her daughter to not give someone complete financial control over your life?
How is that a bad thing to tell someone???
The road to tiktok relevance is paved with stupidity
right? That parts crazy to me, like having that mindset ruined Ashleys life and now shes like "i disagree". Girl, with all due respect, no one cares if you agree, quite frankly that is between ashley and her husband, not for you to say your opinion about in a public tiktok
The only thing I can think of is that she feels called out by that lol
Even if you want to be a stay at home mom, this is still important advice.
She took it weirdly personal, like it was some sort of dig at her. Even though it literally doesn't relate to her or her life at all. All and all she's so self centered that she believes everything is about her, even when it's clearly not.
First of all, I can't believe that Ashley wanting her daughter to be independent is what "triggered" Monique to talk about his infidelity. Why is she so offended that Ashley doesn't want her daughter to depend on a person who could leave her someone else? She has daughters too, she should teach them the same.
Second, I don't understand why she thinks she's entitled to tell Ashley how to feel and react to her husband's infidelity. Lady, it's not your relationship, even if you're the mistress that doesn't give you the right to have an opinion in their relationship.
My exact thoughts. Monique pisses me off so much, they way she’s acting like she has any say in their relationship, or is somehow entitled to give Ashley advice? Or to tell Ashley that she is overreacting and not to leave her husband. Ashley is such a sweet, funny person and I feel so bad that she’s going through this.
If my partner cheated, and the person he cheated with was acting like how Monique is acting, I would fly off the handle so fast, I honestly don’t even know how I would handle/cope with it. She has no empathy or respect whatsoever. It just makes me angry. On top of that, just because “we never met up” or nothing happened in person like Monique said, doesn’t mean it wasn’t cheating. The minute you go to another woman to meet your needs instead of going to your wife, that’s cheating imo. Especially in this day and age with the internet, cheating has become way easier, but people justify it because it wasn’t in person. It’s still cheating.
Sorry to make sure a long reply under your comment, but you phrased it so well and I agree with everything you said.
My ex used the same excuse. Said he didnt feel heard and didnt feel loved so he went out and did what he did. I genuinely feel like it doesnt matter how good you treat a guy or a girl, if they want to cheat then they will. He emotionally abd physically stepped out bjt then blamed it on me as if it were my fault that he completely hurt me. This struck a nerve within me omg
When I don't feel heard and loved in a relationship, I simply leave. I don't cheat. It's such a poor excuse.
I know this happened to me too and I'm feeling so....just fuck. It still hurts.
so condescending. They both deserve each other, and Ashley deserves better.
I like how you worded that and your pfp (:
ugh yes
Give Ashlee the world! She is precious
This woman is classy, an honest woman, she carried his child, she's working in the army, she made her own buisness and was kind enought to include this man is her buisness.
And this is what she gets?
This woman has a lot of audacity. She wants to be the main character so bad.
She'll always just be a side piece 🤣
@@elizabethcastro37true words
I didn't see anything in what she said to confirm Monique's story is true how do we know she's not just using a famous woman's situation to profit? Like she just like said he was one of her clients no proof.
Seriously. Narcissistic vibes from hell.
@@Faucetofstonetrue
Monique reminds me of the woman who my husband cheated on me with. Obviously i was more mad at him and boy we went through it, but the other woman would call and text me with advice to make my husband happy while also rubbing the adultery in. It sucked it hurt. But then i found out the other woman had a husband herself that was currently overseas and well... she had her own marriage to work on once he found out huh? The whole situation sucked but ill take my small victory.
Yasss payback👀rooting for you girl
But your still with him and is still your boo right
You mean your Ex-husband?
The fucking audacity! Omg, big hugs to you. They're both shitty and you deserve the world!
looooooo
If he had no ill intention then he should have spent that money at a licensed therapist and not a sex worker
there is NOTHING wrong with sex work. but putting a couple’s personal details on blast to the world (especially when they clearly don’t want this situation out there in the public for friends, family, strangers, and their kids when they grow up to see) is absolutely disgusting. she needs to leave ashley and the whole family alone.
Yeah and she sounds like she was saying she was being more of a therapist to him? But if that's so direct him to a therapist girl lol and don't try to give advice to the wife about her relationship and children that would have got me heated.
she saw an opportunity for clout and took it...not a girl's girl
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@@asuka-ryoclout demon
@@crystaldenee765real
I feel pretty bad for Monique's daughters. That's crazy to feel so victimized when Ashlee said not to be financially dependent on a man. Monique wanted her 15 minutes and is very much not a girls girl.
Mad cuz that's prolly what she does and teaching her daughters 💀
@@daikonbiss6357 This is exactly what I was thinking. She probably thinks it's fine to teach her girls that mentality and is doing them no favors whatsoever.
i think she thought that it was a veiled insult at her as a sex worker "depending on men" as clients but actually she actually was just talking about financial interpersonal dependence... or at least that it was meant to subtweet her when it wasn't.
No she’s the kind of girl that cares more about a man’s opinion than making girlfriends
@@mychannel8809so she's a pick me girl? That fits
The fact that Ashley’s husband went after this trash of a person, baffles me…you paid/talked to that kind of person, and now look at what you did to your family!! Smh😪 poor gel lady, she deserves better than this
This woman pissed me off because the way I see it is ashlee didn’t divulge anything to the public. She went through whatever she’s going through with him behind closed doors, gave a scenario probably due to that but not fully based on it, removed him from her whole TikTok, and then said her not wearing her wedding ring is private. If I was Ashlee I would absolutely sue this woman because there’s definitely a case here and it is beyond disrespectful and disgusting to oust people’s business like this. I think it’s especially sad because Ashlee is such a lovable woman I think a lot of us who know her love her, so to see this makes you feel really let down and really broken up about it.
As an Ashley whose husband/father of my kids cheated on me, specifically also with sex workers…. It huuurts! Nothing on the workers, do ur thing. But he spent the money we had saved for our kids Christmas on them. My heart still aches. I feel very much for Ashlee
Edit: please don’t come under my comments and bash sex workers for doing their job. Some of them are forced into it as well. I don’t appreciate it
Nah both are in the wrong sex workers know they are ruining marriages
@@Berryationssex workers know that a ton of the guys that see them are married or in a monogamous relationship.
@bryna7 theyre just trying to make money hold the cheating partners accountable for gods sake
@@bryna7
cheating partners need to be held responsible, you can’t just shove it all on the sex worker
Y'all, sex workers are just working. The partner is the one in the wrong, they are choosing to cheat and betray their partner. That has nothing to do with the sex worker.
This *specific* sex worker may be an awful, drama loving asshole, but that's not the case with everyone.
I really hope ashley heals from this, I've always really loved her content and it sucks that since she's a popular creator that all of this is being made public
me too!! i hope she’s okay
Right! Like I am not happy to hear this, I like her as an influencer and she didn’t call this woman out.
same i found her content so wholesome this sucks.
I've seen some of her content but not an active viewer. But I know her from her face, but yeah like this sucks and the fact that it ended up becoming a public discussion where this should've been a private matter.
Yeah I’ve been watching her for a while and she seems like a good person, she doesn’t deserve any of this
I'm shocked that this is what was really going on. Smh, this girl is embarrassing. Ashley tried to keep her family issues private and this chick blew it up?! It wasn't her place to come online and spill their problems. The only people I feel bad for is all the children and Ashley. Girl doesn't realize how embarrassing she is to her own children.
here's the thing... literally no one would have known the details of this drama if monique hadn't come out about it.
like....she blew this WAY out of proportion. Ashley was handling it very well.. but Monique had to try and get her 15 minutes....
I don't know why she didn't just tell Ashley directly in like DMs or something instead of plastering it publicly. Shit is so shameful
For drama and views 😅
Because she wanted views and because she wanted a chance to trash Ashley...
She wanted views and followers so it would boost her and make her money. She’s an opportunist.
She wanted the attention. The only thing she proved is what a shit human she is. I hope her own daughters never have to deal with a version of their mother when they are grown and married.
Views. Sadly.
I feel like this could be bad for her SW business. If you're looking to hire a SW, you're probably looking for discretion and not for someone to publicize your business to millions of people...
Fr, that was my first thought, her clients must be freaking out rn and wondering if she’s going to mess up their lives too
@@bebop2523Good for the wives I hate men and how they give money to dirty harlots
Yepppp. It’s definitely an unspoken code. Which yes, is toxic when it comes to cheating husbands. They’re the ones solely at fault. But this does give SW a bad look and may effects others making their livelihood off of its
Fr. She will still get business, but I wouldn’t blame people for passing her up after this. Ma'am might start drama about them next.
@@bebop2523They deserve it, women aren’t products to be bought
Ashley seems like a genuinely amazing person, I hate that she's going through this. I wish nothing but the best for her and will always follow her. You can tell shes passionate about her company and content creation.
I work in a skrip club(not a dancer) and lots of men come to dancers for basically therapy in the way that gel lady’s man did with this woman. But ALLLLLLLL of the dancers understand what it is and know NOT to get emotionally invested. And Monique does not have those boundaries and if she continues with her SW she’s going to ruin other relationships. Also IMO she has feelings for gel lady’s man
In other words, Moniche has "the protagonist" syndrome, period.
She saw the toxic gossip train and jumped headfirst into the wagon of relevance and virality
The train will never retire for colleen, she'd better have broken her two legs than take that ukulele out lol
toxic gossip trainnnn
ALL ABOARD
Not only that. Monique also has that "pick me bitch" vibes.
Is toxic gossip train now an official term lmao😭
Imagine telling a woman that her partner cheating on her was her fault and then claiming she's not coming at her. I also can't imagine the husband appreciates someone who is supposed to be discreet airing out everything he said in private.
It definitely has to be bad for business.
@@gensai93legit she ain't getting another client again XD
The husband deserves to have his shit aired.
@@Artitude88And by doing that she also aired the lady’s business, didn’t she?
@@Artitude88 Not publicly and also not by someone not in the relationship. And aside from that, the girl telling it is literally defending him.
Monique is the perfect example of MISERY LOVES COMPANY.. Stay prayed up so these distractive men and women dont have a foothold on your life.
Well said ❤
Religion has nothing to do with it
I wouldn’t be taking any advice on parenting and morality from Monique.
oml ashley literally just used a scenario for a tiktok response (whether it corresponds to her life, idk) and then responded to people asking about her husband and wedding ring saying "yeah its fine he just dont wanna be on camera anymore" and then this OTHER girl comes along and starts saying smth about Ashley's husband cheating with HER and REACHING to find ashley shaming her through nothing???? tf???
When Ashley made that response it wasn’t a hypothetical scenario, she mentioned that she experienced it in some capacity. I didn’t think it had anything to do with her current husband but maybe her own mother. Thinking about it now, it could’ve been about her son’s father or something she witnessed in the military.
What Ashley said about teaching her daughters to not rely on a man is common sense. She said nothing that would make me think twice about Her marriage. As a mom, we want OUR children to do better💜
being called “gel lady” is crazy
edit: i’m aware that this is what’s she’s known for, i commented this before i watched the video just bc i found it silly😭
Not really, that’s what she’s known for.
@@girl.anachronism5639 yeah but at least gel army lady cmon
@@girl.anachronism5639"is crazy" is a joke. It's actually slang but it's not really supposed to be taken seriously. Unless it's really something crazy. You have to know.
@@Royalty_girlieomg tell me why I accidentally said “that’s crazy” to an old person..they thought I was insulting them and even after I explained and apologized profusely he was still mad as hell😭😭
Nice name 👍👍
The SW woman really has an intense case of Main Character Syndrome.
As an ex-s*xworker the idea of talking about your clients life or even saying who is your client is totally insane and I would sue her if I was the guy
As someone who has been put in a similar situation in recent months, Monique just flat out pisses me off. She’s not the one getting hurt in this situation, she’s the home wrecker. And the fact that she thinks she has a right to come at gel lady telling her what a relationship is or puts herself in their situation for attention, it’s just fucked up
And on top of that, criticizing her parenting methods as if she's entitled to tell this complete stranger how to parent children that aren't her own.
I had a friend like Monique 🤦🏾♀️.
To be fair the home wrecker is the guy. Monique just has a huge mouth and is a clout chaser who should just stfu. But other than that she doing her thing. The one who broke a home was him.
She’s gonna lose clients and her money, that’s her karma.
@@tlunceford77We’ve all dealt with a Monique at some point in our lives
"You don't want to throw a grenade and it get stuck on your hair strand" Thanks. Will keep this in mind
She’s not in the military district with the bombs lol she’s basically in the IT center 😂
my heart hurts for Ashley :( she is handling this SO well in the public eye, but i can only imagine how she really feels
I had a really bad feeling something was going on when she deleted all the videos of her husband off of CZcams. Obviously I don't know Ashley personally, but it just felt like something was off with her. She seemed very sad. Now that I know what is actually going on, I feel horrible for her. I can't imagine having my marital problems broadcasted to the world like this. I hope she's okay. :(
I saw that video and didn’t think much of it. I’m a casual viewer and missed all of the context of the previous video and controversy. Now that I’m seeing all of this, I feel so sad for her. She was trying so hard to put on a brave face and be respectful of her relationship, when obviously that same respect wasn’t afforded to her.
Ignoring the personal ethics of airing someone else's personal business online, I just don't understand why Monique would think this was a good idea from her own business perspective. Won't potential customers be reticent to contact you if they're worried you won't respect their privacy? Like does she not have a sense of self-preservation?
stupid people seem to love shooting themselves on the foot.
Yeah but I'll bet she doesn't care cuz she thinks she is gonna have a big social media career. Or OF .. if she doesn't have an OF account now, she will.
That Monique lady has no business putting out other peoples marriage on the internet 💀💀💀 like if she really wanted to “help” Ashlee then she would have contacted her privately, not leave the drama out to rot
wait but your cat just chillin BEAUTIFULLY on the chair behind you omg what a gorgeous cat😻😻😻
Stepping into sombody else’s marriage even if you have proof is a big NO. My mom has ALWAYS. Preached that to me. Another thing my mom has always says “there is no pride in being a whore or a home wrecker.”
Not her blaming the wife for this man’s infidelity 💀 “maybe if you didn’t put him in videos he wouldn’t have cheated” is basically what she said. Ew.
She also pretended to care about his "mental health" and told Ashley to keep him off social media, while literally AIRING his cheating scandal in the same platform, ruining his life, his relationships with family and children, and possibly make him serve time in jail if he's still in the military, make it make sense?
they take infidelity that serious in the military? Jail time for cheatinf sounds extreme 😂
@aurianaames7940 they take it very seriously and they'll tap those pockets too
@@aurianaames7940it's more bc he engaged with a SW than the infidelity part
NO ONE gets mad at ashley( unless she did something wrong but judging by the thumbnail I don’t think she did)
yes bro i used to watch her a really long time ago and now she's famous, yo pop of ig
Yeah not the gel lady with the buff ass teddy bear husband 😮
@@ShyknitI had a stroke reading this
I got mad the second I saw her.
@@anabsolutelynormalseraph3599why💀 weirdo
I caught my husband texting another woman not long ago. We've been married 11 yrs I've known him since 3rd grade. I thought we were "best friends" Except you're best friend wouldn't talk bad about you too someone they're cheating with.
Completely shifted my reality in just a few mins
Well s€xting really.
The worse part about it to me was after rolling it around in my mind for days the realization that he'd been talking to her about our personal relationship felt so violating.
Theres no way she would've said what she said to me had he not been talking to her about it.
Then she gonna tell me that i oughta be careful about snooping on his phone when i dont really know what's going on.
This was after i read their nasty little messages back & forth
WTF?
No i know what's going on. And i moved into the spare room in the back of our house. Because i can't afford to move out.
Its a horrible feeling and situation.
I can understand why gel lady wouldn't wanna be in this situation
I hope you will be able to leave soon ❤
These men literally cheat with NOT cute people 😭😭😭 like how was she even worth it at alll .
Especially black men . They are beyond thirsty 😂
Imagine you, as a sex worker, someone who obviously doesn’t put a huge emotional value on sex like some people do, tell someone else that they’re being over dramatic for being upset that they were cheated on, as if your opinion on the value of sex is the only one.
Hey I’d rephrase that because a lot of sex workers do put value on sex with a partner, but people do have to work and make money to survive in life and if that means sex work then it means sex work. So change that then go off
@@VESPERS-LIGHT it shouldn’t have to mean sex work, people are much more important than that, you can have many options before sex work especially as a 18-20yr old, this stuff doesn’t help women whatsoever and fucks shit up for us im tired of people defending it so much, dont hate a sex worker for what they do but such a task shouldnt be as common as it is and its sad
@@VESPERS-LIGHT…or find an actual job instead being a hooker with extra steps. I’ve seen a lot of girl pick sex work/onlyfans because it’s “easy”. I feel like sex work should be Plan Z, not Plan A or B.
@BOYNappi I personally won't go into SW because of my own beliefs and degrees, but it's still a job, regardless of your view on its 'difficulty.' It requires a certain skillset and provides pay. You'd have a point if you said to find a non-sex related line of work.
@@VESPERS-LIGHTSelling crotch is not something people have to do. You can literally work any other job before selling your body. Some women just want to be lazy and lay on their backs instead of gaining & using any actual skill. Social media got y’all brains fried.
A SWer ACTING LIKE THIS?! She should have never exposed her clients private life like that, its honestly so gross. I know, as a fellow SW, sometimes venting it involved, but to put that out there??? This was whole clout chasing, holier than thou, attitude is so annoying. "I want her to know her man loves her" THATS NOT YOUR PLACE. UHG. HE NEEDS TO DO THAT. I hope her client base doesn't trust her after this, this is so messed up!
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Forreal, i bet she is involved with other married men, i hope they see this and take their business elsewhere (or, you know.. stop cheating 💀)
Do you deal with married men???If so why? Do you at least tell the wives pn the other side??
When I did SW I’d tell the gfs/wives w screenshots after they paid me. Lol no respect for men that seek SW
@@imadeyoumad7078Women supporting women, thank you 🙏
Well, she’s also the Gel Queen, because she created and formulated her own brand of gel it’s called “Combat Gel” and supposedly it’s amazing, I don’t use gel, so I wouldn’t know, but the reviews are really good.
This shit scares me and it’s why I choose to stay alone. These married men are the worse with infidelity. There’s one at my job who is always hitting on me and finding any excuse he can to make conversation with me. He’s married with children. It’s developed into an obsession I think , my coworker told me that the guy said that he would “get me pregnant” and mentioned that he would “fuck around and get a divorce” if I ever involved myself with him. It makes me super uncomfortable and it’s cringe asf tbh. I don’t see how some of these women be so proud to mess around with a man who already has someone and a whole family on top of that. At the end of the day you’re hurting the KIDS as well and if that makes you chuckle or feel good then you deserve all bad things coming to you.
I really hope Karma does it’s job because Ashlee comes across as so unproblematic and sweet. She does not deserve this! This is MESSED UP
@@dae6736has she done anything?
@@dae6736 prove me wrong then lol
that second girl's micro expressions are extremely telling. she's so happy about all this.
They weren't even micro expressions, she was straight up smirking. Totally shameless and enjoying the attention from this
@@erika4316 that too lol
She is the definition of a narcissist
Dude, I love Ashley and they both seemed like a cute couple. I can’t believe he cheated on her like that, so disgusting. She’s so sweet and passionate about her stuff! Ashley deserves better and her son too.
I can confirm that buns cause headaches, even when you do them in the least straining style and don’t use any gel.
The way she does her hair is good for people who are military or dancers, but it’s really bad for your scalp and specifically your hairline.
Also, the more hair, the more it hurts
Hey Nick! You’re one of my favorite content creators Ashley (gel girl) is my first cousin. This whole situation has really upset our family as we love Ashley so much. Ashley has been through so much in her life and truly doesn’t deserve this. She is amazing person and an amazing mom to her kids. Thanks for covering and siding with her ❤ she is just as sweet and funny in person as she is online. This Monique girl is disgusting and now has a target on her back for sure. Her husband was a great guy from the outside but we’ve definitley lost respect for him as he is claiming that he “wasn’t being heard” even though he chose to be in her videos, he told her he would keep doing them if she wanted him to, and she declined because she wasn’t about to force her husband to be in videos if they were going through problems.
OH MONIQUE ALSO CLAIMS THAT SHE HAD NO IDEA ASHLEYS HUSBAND WAS “HER” husband and yet claimed to be a follower of Ashley’s for several years like WHAT?! She also blasted my cousins business when Ashley was keeping her stuff private. Monique is disgusting and condescending and not a girls girl by any means. She also has younger children than Ashley does, and Ashley has been married for many years now. Monique is disgusting I can’t say that enough.
Super weird seeing someone you grew up with and were close to having their lives put on blast like this. It’s so heartbreaking because she’s an amazing mother, daughter, sister, cousin, etc. she’s been through so so much in her life and doesn’t deserve this bs.
I’m so sorry that she’s going through this. Ashley is very resilient, and I wish her and her family nothing but the best.
@annieromero145 were all standing here with you and your family. Ashley is one of my favorite creators by far and I always felt safe watching her content if that makes sense? I was a former SW and lemme tell you, I've met a lot of sweet girls doing that job formerly. Many do have morals but there are bad apples like Monique, Monique genuinely disgusts me. Ashley is in my prayers for safety of her children and her well-being
This!! 👏 👏 👏 Ashlee is doing a phenomenal job and handling this publicly so well. I know behind closed doors it’s so much more. He is doing what anyone caught does while that girl is trying to ride on her coattails for her few minutes of fame. Just stick by your family and keep supporting her and her two littles as best as y’all can. ❤
I am so glad to hear that she has a great family supporting her (emotionally) through this drama! Having been through crao myself- I know how important that is. Ashley comes off as a VERY strong and independent woman, much like myself. That can make people feel like she's perfectly fine...because she will act like she is! But she may be falling apart on the inside. I've been there. ❤❤
I a black woman typically follow mostly black content creators, because we as POV heat all the time from European race as well as others that we need to make our own money and stop living off welfare checks, which is a myth, but anyway all other races support their own, so so do I by giving them followers to help get their content money, I say all of this to say, when I found Ashley I saw she was a soldier; which I highly respect and noticed her interracial marriage which i don't totally agree with, but Ashlee's personality made me like her and I'm so sorry she has to go through this because she seems genuinely in love with her husband 😢 I hope she bounces back bigger and better 🙏🏾
with having almost no social media and nick and dev making content on all this drama helps sm i would have no idea what people are talking ab without them
Me too. Nick and Dev help when I'm talking to people with tiktok and insta and stuff
Is CZcams not social media....
@@Royalty_girliethey said that they had almost no social media, but yeah!
@@jacesewell3028 oh I read wrong lol, thanks .
literally same
Imagine getting with a married man 🤮 like yeah, its his fault, he obviously made a conscious decision to cheat, but how tf are you gonna spend any of your time talking to another person who is in an active relationship? It's different if she didn't know, but that's so sad and low of her
the homewreckers self entitlement is wild if she thinks that ashley talking about raising her kids to be independent is some kind of sick dig at the homewrecker. how could ur pride and ego be hurt over something that has nothing to do w u? she clearly just wants the fame of the situation. it's embarrassing how much she loves the attention
if this woman actually wanted to help or give advice, she could have just reached out privately instead of blasting it publicly, like who is buying that this is for anything other than attention
The advice she gave her daughter was spot on though regardless of if it was about something in her life or not. I'm gonna give my own daughter the same advice, I'm also gonna tell her to not join the US Military until she learns about why the US Military is heinously awful.
Ashley joined the military bc she grew up in poverty and it was her only way out. Her story is really common for many enlisted ppl. She works in tech support and has never been in combat. She's talked about it in older videos. If you don't want your kids to join the military, do whatever you can to put them in a position where they have other options.
@@bebop2523
Yeah this isn't a good response when the US Military has committed war crimes in other countries and destabilized a swath of the Global South. Also if you ACTUALLY read my comment it would have read that she would need to educate herself on the crimes our military committed. I'm sorry you had to learn the US Military are well paid bullies via CZcams, but life's quirky like that.
Exactly. At first I was confused as to why people were saying "this is so oddly specific" when referring to her scenario. No, it isn't really specific, it's actually super common. I'm sure most people know an uncle or older man who left their family for a younger woman. Also my grandma had taught me that SAME lesson all my life. She had no choice but to rely on a man bc of where/when she grew up, but I have a great opportunity to be independent so I should take advantage of it. The story didn't even really end up applying to her bc 1) she is a working woman and 2) her husband cheated on her with a sex worker but didn't necessarily leave her as far as we know (although she might dump him as she has a very good reason to).
@bebop2523 my ex joined to escape his abusive family. Not everyone in the military is there out of a passion for war. And America likes it that way.
Ya'll can be so judgemental about people who join the military as if most recruits don't go out and target low income minorities. The military gives huge incentives for joining and the huge lack of options makes it hard to deny such an opportunity. It's also incredibly beneficial for undocumented individuals since the military can help both you and your immediate family members gain legal status within the country.
If you want people (primarly young marginalized high schoolers) to stop joining the military, give them an option that can equally financially and academically sustain them.
Ashley: I deleted videos with my husband because he doesn’t want to be in videos anymore and I want to respect that.
Monique: It’s obvious your husband doesn’t want to be in videos anymore. You should respect that.
"your husband cheating is ok because i dont think cheating is a big deal and anyways its your fault" 🙄
It’s goofy that Monique’s coming after Ashley for saying not to be financially dependent on men. Girl your whole career financially depends on men 😭
i always found this so interesting in general about a lot of sex workers (aside from this situation itself) and their entire talk around how they live an independent and freeing life from men, yet their entire job is literally men paying you to stay alive and make money? make it make sense. if it wasn't for thirsty men, you wouldn't have a dime in your pocket
most people are paid by men lol (just not always exclusively men). waitresses rely on tips from men, people who have state and federal jobs (ie teachers or librarians) rely on taxes paid by men, etc. that’s how economic interdependence works lol if you have a job you are being paid by men unless you work at like an all-female salon or something. sw trade good and services for money just like any other person with a job
I live on a neighborhood base here in Hawaii and Monique has been heavily ostracized since coming out with this video… she’s even bragging about how this isn’t the only marriage she’s ended
Imagine thinking getting with cheaters and trashy men is a flex lmao
Honestly, I hope this situation continues to give her negative experiences like this until she realizes how much of a loser she is. Being a homewrecker isn't something to be proud of. That's one of the most worthless traits one could have. It's wild hearing how little self-awareness she has. Clearly, people find this behavior disgusting, yet she continues to flaunt it like people would be impressed by it. I can't imagine how her kids would take this when they get old enough to understand what this all means. I'd never look or love one of my parents again if I found out they did something like that. I'd contact neither of them if one of em let the other do that. Cheaters and those who help make cheaters don't deserve an ounce of respect or love. If they thinks its okay to destroy it, they should be okay never experiencing it.
Is Monique or her husband also in the military?
@@BlurryNova it’s going to destroy her career too because SW is all about discretion and clients’ privacy, her clients are going to think twice about whether she’s going to put them on blast and ruin their lives if they say the wrong thing
@@bebop2523 Had a feeling something like that could happen. A bunch of people in the comments talk about how important client privacy is for SWs. She really shot herself in the foot for this one
Ashley was my co-worker at Jamba Juice in 2016. She was with the same guy and they were super into motorcycles lol. I worked most shifts with her and she was really cool. We had a lot of fun. I didn't know she had become a popular Tiktok star. Good for her! lol
bro could not have found a more confusing way to explain this if he tried
Simplified version:
Tiktoker's husband cheats
The person he cheated on her with was another tiktoker.
Gel Lady(og tiktoker) vents but doesn't say specifics online
The second tiktoker blasts gel lady online because Monique is a POS for clout.
So: Monique the sex worker/tiktoker is just a bad person who enables and defends cheaters and Gel Lady was just in a very unfortunate situation.
Thank you so much
Oh my gosh this poor woman! She’s probably already feeling devastated and betrayed by her husband OF 20 YEARS going behind her back but then to have the other woman air the whole situation online to strangers and put on a facade that she’s trying to help and act like she knows the husband better than his own wife..absolute madness and snake behavior. If she actually cared about their marriage she would have reached out to Ashlee privately; none of us should know this very private and vulnerable matter. Ugh I feel for Ashlee so much.
Ashley's not even 30 I'm friends with her on Facebook lol. The scenario is made up but with some truthful undertones
Her main thing isn't actually lots of gel, it's that her own gel, is extremely good and the favourite of many people with 4C hair
Honestly I’ve looked at a few of their couple videos and I did not like the husband. I’m sorry. His answers so nonchalant he be talking to her all rough and “oh that’s how we play” I’ve just never accepted that kind of excuse. Such an embarrassing situation to be in I extend my empathy in that sense.
This is wild. This woman gets on TikTok and shares Ashlee’s personal life drama. She is also the one that the husband tried to cheat with, she’s now lecturing online how to be a better mom and wife, and telling Ashlee that she is over reacting. 😮😮
I'm just really glad that there wasn't a lot of pressure on Dev and Nick becoming public with their relationship
we ALL knew tho 😂
We are just here for the videos lady, we don’t care about the relationship
It was so obvious but I’m so happy they’re public now!
I was literally in a subreddit last night and then when I saw the video I called my husband to confirm
What happened to him and Isabelle?? I was confused with Dev I thought he was still with Isabelle and him and Dev were just friends??
Your videos bring those of us that have no other social media so much joy. Now I don't have to download TikTok again to catch on to the drama that goes down so thank you !!!
ill never understand why someone posts a video on social media, addressing one person. just text them dude.
Attention and clout is her only motivation, she don't give a FCK about Ashlee! She just wanted to get her 5 minutes of fame, texting wouldn't do that for her
It's kind of wild that Monique thinks she know intimate details of her client's marriage. Does she get a lot of married clients who walk in and say "My wife is wonderful and really loves me but I'm an asshole so I'm cheating on her,"? I would imagine most of the married men talk about how awful their wife is whether it's true or not. So it's really strange to just take the cheater at his word about how his wife is actually the problem. Really seems like major copium.
I love Ashley and are just really sorry for her. Something is clearly going on and she isn’t ready or able to talk about it yet. Sucks that her audience can’t respect that and just be like ”it’s ok. Take your time. We’ll be here when you’re ready”.
A sex worker in an open relationship does NOT get to give advice on monogamous marriage, lol. That’s like a sugar magnate giving their opinion on obesity.
Monique immediately brings to mind the saying,“throwing stones and hiding your hand.”
Thank you for calling out the ugly behavior of the sex worker. That was so out of pocket. Ashlee better keep shining love that women
man i feel awful for the gel lady… she could’ve taken the “clout-seeking online drama route” and trashed on her husband and this other girl but instead was a reasonable adult and chose to keep her private life private and not use her position of influence to wreck anyone’s life… only for this girl to take that power out of her hands and make the decision for her. how absolutely demoralizing and dehumanizing, i hope the gel lady has a strong support system and is doing ok
Fr I would be with my mom just needing her love. I hope she has someone she can rely on 🥹
Great video-Bambi sleeping in the background was the best part