How To Let Go of Mistakes - Teal Swan
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- čas přidán 6. 09. 2024
- In a perfect world, there would be absolutely no connection between self worth and mistakes. It is important to step back and realize that at the time that we make a mistake, we are convinced that we are in fact making the best decision. It is only upon reflection that we can see that our decision may not have been the best one.
In a perfect world, there would be absolutely no connection between self worth and mistakes. When we make mistakes as children, we are corrected for these mistakes in often unloving ways. The conclusion we draw when we are corrected, is that when we make mistakes, we are bad. This conclusion follows us into adulthood and we internalize the role of the "corrections officer". When we internalize the role of the corrections officer, we criticize, blame and condemn ourselves for our mistakes.
It is important to step back and realize that at the time that we make a mistake, we are convinced that we are in fact making the best decision. We are doing what makes sense and what seems reasonable to us at the time. We always choose the action that seems the most likely to meet our needs in a given moment. It is only upon reflection that we can see that our decision may not have been the best one.
This is why saying that something is a "mistake" is only something that we can say in retrospect. We make decisions based on our level of awareness. Our level of awareness changes, so we can only say that something is a mistake after our awareness changes. Every single person does what they think is right in the moment. If we judge ourselves and our worth based on that retrospection, what we are doing, is judging our past selves based on today's expanded perspective.
Talk about unfair. How fair is it to yourself to expect yourself to know what you did not know at the time?
If you didn't think something was the best thing to do at the time, you would not have done it. We make a lot of these choices that we think are best, but that turn out to be mistakes, but the truth still remains that we only make mistakes because we are not aware that they are mistakes at the time.
The key to loving yourself even when you make a mistake is to change your perspective about the mistake that you have made; in other words, to reframe the mistake. In order to reframe our mistakes, we must change our point of view and therefore our interpretation of the mistake that we have made. We have to look for the value hidden in the mistake and then find thoughts that enable us to let go of the self blame, self criticism and self condemnation we feel for having made the mistake. When you are reframing a mistake, you are looking to give the mistake positive meaning instead of negative meaning.
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Beginning Song:
Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel
www.sacreddream.com
MISTAKES ARE A GIFT.
LEARN YOUR LESSON
DONT DO IT AGAIN.
Heinrich Otterman and be kind to others when they falter.
There are some grave mistakes that I will never see as gifts. Mistakes like taking a life or making someone suffer for long. Sometimes those grave mistakes are from not learning some very basic lessons, which makes them too pricey for what they're worth. The saying "I can't do this for the life of me" applies here, but that can be overcome too.
Self-cultivation is valuable, so much so that by doing it you can save lives you might've taken otherwise, and save people from suffering you'd had caused them otherwise. To allow them live more fulfilling lives.
I can't see my mistakes as a gift - some opportunities never come again. E.g. I regret that I didn't travel in my youth when I had time and stamina and before covid and the vaccines. Now I'm older and tired, and just started a family and who knows if we can ever travel again in this covid world!
We are struggling to get by, and I'm homeschooling so there is no income left over for travel anyway. Plus, my husband's job conditions have become SO bad that he has to look for another but he's only started a new career path and may not be able to find work...and I don't know if I can ever travel and by the time I can, that I can do cliff-diving, scuba diving, water-raft or dance with the wolves or climb a mountain or anything that requires youth. Even lately we get tired after 2 hours being out at a leisurely event! Plus, we don't want to take that experimental covid vaccine...
Sometimes I wish my mistakes could go away and I don't think that those are gifts. BUT mostly they are gifts
@@GlobalResonanceDance maybe these regrets are not made for this life, but the next life. We learn through anything still, even if we can’t make it right in this life…
To me the most crucial thing would be redefining the term "mistake". There are no mistakes only decisions that led to an outcome that was not in alignment with our true self. Thus they are valuable lessons. There's no reason to "let go" of these experiences. On the contrary: we should appreciate and incorporate them as important phases of discovering more of who we are.
Ok, except for when we have hurt others. I don't care about my career choices, and bad money habits, etc.
A mistake is simply a miss-take.
To dis-cover who you are is the stripping away of who/what you're really not.
What if the mistake is one that we made believing that it was in alignment with our highest self? I felt genuinely that i was being a force of good, and that I was standing in my power. But instead, I was a force of destruction. Its caused me to doubt my self, my intuition, and my heart.
33+ years of being angry at myself and your words may actually help me get past it. Thank you!
I still feel deep anxiety of a mistake I've done 4 years ago. This video offered fresh perspectives. I just hope I can get back to my normal life of feeling okay.
You will when you are ready. Take good care.
Listen to what Charlie Munger say about mistakes and regrets (Warren Buffet partner)
11 yrs on her video is still saving my life. Thank you Teal ❤!
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I'm so tired of despising myself: (
Love and blessings to you
*Warm hugs*
This looks great but its very expensive!
Kimberly Zousoumas me also
What is so difficult about mistakes is the conclusion we make of it
How do you feel today?
This message is so straightforward and detailed. The information may seem obvious at first, but I've found that going over this and really internalizing it, has helped me profoundly. Thank you, Teal.
Like you said imperfection is perfection. Mistakes are part of learning.
This video resonated so well with me today. I haven't been able to sleep for few nights now because of remembering the things I did long time ago. The feeling of regret is truly painful and it effects your state in so many levels: Thank you truly for this video, somehow it feels like 100kilos have been lifted of my shoulders!
I tried this and realized that I would have made the same decision because at the time, I thought it was the best thing to do. It will definitely be helpful to think of my actions as beneficial/detrimental instead of good/bad.
I just got to the point where I have been like “every time I made a mistake growing up I was beat, yelled at, and cursed out so why am I surprised I feel so much shame and guilt?” I let go of that belief This video came at a perfect time! Amazing and a top 10 lesson from you!!! “people do the best they can with what they have” my late Aunt would always say that when people hurt me this is the first time that saying makes sense
This is great advice. Just realize that the desicion was the best you knew at the time. So it was a choice not a mistake.
How could someone so young be so wise. Good lesson.
Similar to, how could someone be soo old, yet be unwise?🤔
I feel like I've really disappointed myself throughout lack of self love I never had.
It's ok. You can always start finding ways to love yourself in this moment.
+Andres K Thank you :) much love
My pleasure. :)
Allison Danielle, you are not alone. I m the biggest self hater.
Well, I love you, fellow human! Hate yourself not. You are beautiful and worthy.
does everyone feel like they're in love with Teal?
haha
emQism I know right?
emQism
When I read your comment I totally understood where you were coming from!
(She has helped me so much! I don't want to say I wouldn't still be here without her help...but I know I wouldn't be as far along in my healing without her perspective!)
But at the same time, while agreeing with your comment, I was thinking, oh no, open invitation for the haters!
I will never understand how people can have such negative emotions about things they don't understand!
There are groups and individuals I don't get but how do people get so extreme? It's pretty sad.
Yes.
I hope she can feel the energy that love creates too.💟
Me no
I find it so loving that she always feels moved, I can feel her holding back tears in most of her videos, this makes me feel that all she talks about is real...
Every time I think of my mistakes, I come back here to listen to this video. It helps me a lot!!!!
Teal, you are half my age but I find your wisdom and eloquence very honest and thoughtful, and worth my time. Thanks for making these videos available.
Age got nothing to do with wisdom.
I feel a million pounds lighter, thanks!
Perfect explanation to ease my regret for a mistake I made recently. This mistake has been tormenting me for a week - I became extremely moody and anxious which affected my family too. I wish the mistake did not happen but as you also mentioned, I made it because of my desire at that moment. However, from this mistake, i have gained a new perspective on people and what I should be focusing on in my life in the future. Also, even if I haven't made this "mistake", I believe I would have made it someday in the future anyway because temptation is everywhere ~ I trust this experience will do me good in the long-term. Thanks again, Teal. 2 years ago I had depression and I watched your videos to feel better. please make more on topics such as facing criticisms, stress, low-self esteem, being betrayed, letting go, heartbreaks, etc. Really appreciate. You are an angel.
So I went to counseling yesterday and during my session I showed her the parts of your video that helped me.
She said, "Hey! What ever works to get you to that point. It's great she was able to help you get past it so you can move forward." I'm not yet quite there but on my way. Again, thank you!
The mistake was getting into an explosive argument with my ex that led to our break up. I had so much regret but this video and amongst other soul searching work I have done changed me to be a better person now. You are absolutely right Teal. I did not know what I didn’t know. I must forgive that version of me who had so much pride and anxiety that led to what I thought was the best at that time. I leaned so much since. Thank you Teal if you ever see this comment.
This video changed my whole perspective on mistakes! I now see them as teachers and I am grateful for them. Thank you Teal Swan. I did everything you told me in the video and it does make a change, if you are willing to change your perspective. One day ago I was obsessively thinking of a past mistake and felt so bad and so much regret and now I just don't view it that way. I just see it as positive. I am so thankful and grateful.
Hi Teal. Could you please do a video on forgiving others or letting go of the need for justice? I'm finding things distressing at the moment in terms of world events (war, etc). At the same time, i'm finding myself looking for justice for all of the hurt that was done to me as a child. I have watched this video but I would like more guidance on how to let go of having to receive justice for what i've been through. I hope this is clear. Thanks for reading and my deepest gratitude to you for all that you do. x
Sorry.. That you have been hurt. Justice is difficult... If people make you sad and have hurt you. They can not make it better. What kind of justice.
I hope that you believe... that you deserve the best.. Love, peace.. and happiness... I wish you the best..Hope it's going to be better.. And you feel less pain. .
I made the best decision I could have with the skills and knowledge I had at the time.
I will remember the lesson and let go of the details and emotions.
Thank you for this, I needed it. I am all too often a perfectionist in my mindset but I have learned that this mode of thinking is self-defeating and only hurts me. If I am a perfectionist, I will "always" fail because I will never be perfect. No one is. Again, thanks, Teal! :-)
Depends on your definition of perfection. Look at all the animals in the forest, and the plants and the trees... they don't need to be more than they already are, and they take care of each other in the cycle of life. Do you need more than that?
This is a life saver, regret is such a powerful emotion for me. Thanks for this content.
"Every mistake tells you what you need to correct"...good words!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. It validated my belief that there are no mistakes only lessons learned . I listened to most of your videos and It gave more clarity in my spiritual journey.
We set very high standards for ourselves. Making it so that we are not supposed to make mistakes, we don't have the luxury to fail. By doing so we make it mandatory to be nothing but righteous.
And beat ourself up when we realise our fault somewhere. And we carry this burden which even time doesnt heal.
Thank you Teal for lightening the burden.
❤️❤️❤️❤️
😭😭😭😭 emotional release. Just realized I'm trying to hard to be perfect which caused so much emotional build up. This one stuck a nerve.
For Christians I think it starts by being told we are all born 'full of sin'.
Absolutely. Being told about original sin doesn't help.
I just wish I could somehow thank her in person. She's has helped fo much.
Great points. I'm sure this will help a lot of people carrying a lot of needless and futile baggage.
Thank you so much, Teal. I don't know what I would do without your guidance... keep experiencing joy, always.
the correction officer in me is just too active.. thanks.. wonderful 😊😊😊
that reminds me of a saying, "I've learned so much from my mistakes, I think I gonna make a view more" :')
THANK YOU TEAL. I APPRECIATE ALL YOUR GUIDANCE
Why didn't I watch this before!
Wait a minute...
Lol I tell myself that every day
This is so beautiful! Thank you so much Teal.. I used to follow you before but I was too young to understand your knowledge. I finally put a distance between us to finally come back to you years later and find that I now understand you in so many different ways. You are the real thing. Thank you again from Canada!
Yes very helpful. I did a psych degree and had lots of thetapy but Teal sees straight to the heart of things. My mother was a bit like this too. She has unpopular views but has turned out to be more helpful about lots of things.
There was somethimg i read in Thomas Hardys " a pair of blue eyes" where he says that there are women who understand just through intuition, a whole field of knowledge much better than men. Very true.
I don't need a correction officer I have my mother and sister to make me feel bad.
+sandra martin I know that feeling!
Love and blessings to you
*Warm hugs*
+sandra martin Mothers are often best loved from a distance. Mine has never realized how hurtful she has been my whole life.
+Yingdi Han I was hurtful to my child without realizing it and he suffered terribly and then died from it I am so sorry now. I hope your mother figures it iut
hey!. talk to me!. it seems you need to! feel free to message me!. :) i am in a place were if i dont stop doing this, i could lose someone i love.
Beautiful eyes and a beautiful voice....!!!!
Teal thank you so much!!! You just helped to move me out of 17 years of being stuck in a mistake that wasn't my fault! Thank you so much in that I can now move on and out of that going nowhere stuck feeling. I can breathe. I can see, I can feel my heart my smile and my joy again. God bless you. You are awesome and I am so grateful to you. I send you a great big spirit hug of thanks and love in appreciation for your help. ;) Be happy Teal, be well, you are loved. Peace.
As you can see I had to watch it again and this time I heard and got it. :) (It's hard to be stuck!) But I am moving on... Thank you. :)
oh my god! i thought i was the only one that had a corrections officer. my mind is completely blown, i didnt even have a name for it i jst called it a voice that wants me to do right. this is why i love teal swan she knows me without ever even meeting me!
wow who ever thought to refraime the mistakes and the mistakes are the one that leads to better work - mistakes are amazing -thank you TAEL SWAN 💝💖
It makes sense, in a perfect world wouldn't be a real world!
Thank you!!!
Beating ourselves up for a mistake is also a mistake by the way.
Strange loops 👍🏻
School made me feel extra bad about my mistakes, now I am unlearnig this.. and your wise words helps me a lot, thank you ❤
What I love about your videos, is that every week they answer the question's I'd recently been asking about myself! Thanks so much for your teaching!
For myself intention is my guide for making creative use from my mistakes. If my choice is out of ignorance of the result, then I have learned that result from that choice, given similar situations. If I see that my mistake was from a selfish desire that I don't want to see within myself, then I am able to it bring forth, if I have the courage to do so. In this way I am able to correct any mistake in a honest way. This gets my true essence of the hook and keeps my ego in check. Result: growth.
Yes, you are totally right. There are not mistakes in life only lessons .. Love and peace. :)
I feel like I find these videos exactly when I need them!
Cannot tell you how free this video makes me feel. Self judgement is one of the hardest to let go of, your perspective is so appreciated Teal! 👌❤️🕉️
Without this woman I don't know where I'd be. Thank you Teal, you have helped me so much.
😭😭😭 I needed this and broke down in tears. I think they were healing tears. Thank you, Teal. 💕
At all times, all is happening in perfect alignment.
Thank you so much Teal, I feel so much lighter right now. ❤
When she said I hope you have a good week this week. I will see you next week it was so great
The best spiritual teacher ever. Combining beauty with brains
Every mistake in life is a road to perfection. Very good Teal :-):-):-)
Thank you so much Teal. Even though ive reached conclusions on my own, it helps so much to hear you say it. I made the same mistake twice in my life and I’ve been beating myself up about it for years. I let it go for a while and now I’m ready to let it go again. Thank you.
Thank you teal for helping me changing my life ❤️
I really have to stop wanting to be perfect all the time! Great video! I´s one of my favourites now.
Thank you so much for this video. I wrote down this advice and long with my own tips/guide answering questions like "What valuable thing did this experience teach me that I would not have known otherwise about myself, another person, or the world?" (loved this question, great idea :D). It really helped my release all of my negativity, guilt, shame, etc. I feel amazing now :) thank you!
This is a great video. Not because you are saying something I didn’t know, but by the way you go about delivering the information and putting all the pieces
together. Thank you.
im crying inside right now. thank you teal
Thank you teal.
negative thinking is a habit - It does nothing but perpetuate negative thinking - easier said then done, yes - I will give all my attention towards developing positive think from this moment on :-) - Thank you young lady for your positive guidance -
I really, really need to hear these words, thank you so so much for saying this.🙏🏻 Teal, People like you inspires me to share kindness and forgiveness to the world. Thanks again.
Watch your videos makes me feel better every single time that I watch them. Thank you so much.
This is so true, this video has been a breakthrough in helping me deal with and move on from my PTS and past disappointments. Thank you so much Teal.
I needed this to help me letting go off my ex girlfriend/best friend. I now know that it was what I thought was best for me back then. Your video has released some stress and worries also hatred. I've only watched 3 of your videos and they have already made me feel better. Thanks! Haha x 😊
This was helpful! Thank you because I quite my job last week and now I’m beating myself up for it thinking that I made a horrible decision but a part of me also knew that it was time to leave that place so this internal battle is killings me while one Part says it was time and the other part saying you fucked up. 😢
This was just so helpful. I remembered a time I was on vacation with my parents and we were walking toward a pier. And i saw a big smooth grassy area spread out before me so I separated from my parents and started running to allow my self the fun of...running along a natural clearing. After the first couple of strides I found myself ankle deep in water. I was so disappointed. I didn't want my sandels to get all wet. I looked back at my mom and her expression was one that I took on as "you blew it". I felt so shamed for making this mistake. But Teal's video here made me realize that I abandoned my desire, to run through the field of green to try and be perfect so my mom would want me more. (That energy is a different story). This video helped me see an aspect of me I really enjoyed, a desire that I hope to rekindle in me.
Holy! So what you're saying is mistakes happen in times of limited awareness, or in other words, in darkness. This is the concept of dark and light people need to be aware of. Even if they're not in perfect light, it's good to acknowledge darkness where it resides. It allows us to forgive those who act in darkness much easier.
''it is because of that old self that you know what you know now, so you should be extending gratitude towards the wisdom that has come, as a result of the mistakes laid out by the previous you ...'' Teal , thank you for your wisdom it is very helpful, I was always embarrassed to be contradictory to the way I used to be, but it is the old me.
Thank you Teal....I've been hanging on to self loathing over the past mistakes I had made and it has taken me years to begin forgiving myself. You have verified what I was slowly beginning to see. You are my catalyst. Bless you for what you give us.
Thank you for this.
Every single word is a gold !!!!!!!!!
Wisdom comes from experience. Opportunities are plentiful and mistakes are a blessing. Making decisions whether rightly or wrongly will provide you with experience....
I found you through Jordan David and see that you are part of a wonderful community I am waking up to.....
May the Lord give you peace and guidance to continue your efforts to be the catalyst and help change the lives of those you encounter for the better
Having church up in here tonight with Teal!!! Thank you!!!
I had a mental breakdown just now about my past mistakes and I opened the CZcams and this video poped up😳 like wow. Universe surprises me everytime 🙏
Teal i love u thank you for sharing your wisdom, you lighten the world.
I love the introductory music: I am humming along. My true self reveals , gains strength every time I hear your thoughts.
Thank you for these videos...they help me everyday! Thank you, Thank You!!!!
You are an angel, Teal Swan!!! Thank you for your words!!!
Love.. youre "mistake's...".. its good.. So you learn.. Yesterday... made you a lithel better.. for today.. That makes me smile..
Teal, I thank you for these moments, every weekend, that you give. They are so grounding, self-affirming, and so healing for me. I love this channel! ~~~~~Blessings to All!!
Thanks Teal so much. The universe gave me exactly what I needed at this point of time.
oh i love Teal Swan. the vids are very helpful in my life.
Teal you are the goddess of my world! Thank you so much for your videos!
I Appreciate The Tears You Have Brought ME.
Thank U.
This was the best video as yet to hit home( as they all are) but THIS ONE..so much so..I had to keep pausing to reflect through each few minutes of what you were saying.. to relate in my personal experiences...that it took me close to an hour and a half to get through this 15 video to complete it..that's how profound this was to me and what you were saying...wow!...and I'm not done taking it all in yet!..
It is all about the piscean age (duality) we are conditioned to think good, bad, suffering etc, it's just part of the era. We are moving into the aquarian age which is age of enlightenment. Mistakes? Or is that we needed the experience that we call a mistake? We are all having this crazy experience of being a spirit in human form.
It's tricky business :D
Thank you Teal for shining your love~light
Teal knows shes beautiful Wearing make up is a part of expressing your feminine nature, i stopped wearing makeup and kept seeing Teals videos but not watchin them because i didnt take long haired, pretty, make up face girls seriously. then i watched her episode on parenting, and felt stupid.
Teal teaches that wearing make up isnt wrong at all, embracing the traditions of this culture wefind ourselves is another way of expressing source. if it feels good or is fun do it. make up can be very fun
Great helpful video. Thanks very much Teal.
Thank you, this cheered me up. I made a horrible mistake yesterday that will negatively impact my life. :( but yeah, now I know better, hopefully I still get the chance to make it right.
Thank You Teal..
Thank you
so true we do not when we make the mistake we know after e make the mistake ... we learn from our mistake ... GOD help us it is not a big one ... thank you so much sister ... i love your post ...