Every time I watch one of your videos I just wonder how you could put so much truth in so little time. It is like every sentence is right on the spot. Amazing...
Nikolay, I love Teal's videos for the exact same reason as well. She posts about a subject then gets right in to it. No fluff, or B.S. involved. I get more from watching one of Teal's 15+/- minute videos than I do by reading a whole dang book on the subject matter. Just Awesome! I love it.
Wow, I am just in shock. Accepting the thought that "what disappointed me was not actually what I wanted on the first place" helped me heaps. Thanks for that!
0:43 1) expecting disappointment 1:06,2:02,3:03, 4:545:26 fear: belief in powerlessness 5:55 you create your own reality 🎳6:30- does not matter to you, lesser resistance 8:30 worrying and deserving with expecting disappointment 2) what to do when we are disappointed 8:54: 1) express, feel admit to it 2) 9:42 gain some perspective w/o invalidating your emotion of disappointment 3) 10:13 don’t take it personally “did i deserve it?” 4) 11:01 whats the silver lining? lets find approval/positive aspects about it 5)12:03 art of non attachment, practice of trust and allowing the Universe to deliver your desires without an outcome in mind 6) 12:51 make a new plan, whats to change now to get what I want? Nothing wrong switching midstream 7)14:00 whats going right and I am grateful for me now? 8) 14:53 dont take action, take a break. Take time to move through into slightly different vibration before deciding. Take baby steps after 9) 15:48 “When God closes a door, He opens a window” be open to new unforeseen opportunities 10) 16:24 never give up, its a ditch stop towards what you want 17:04😊
Teal, It’s been said so many times by others already, but you’ve changed my way of thinking and my self regard ie my reality has shifted and I don’t know if you’ll receive this message but from the bottom of my heart I want to thank you ❤️
By watching Teals videos we are meeting our own aspects of self. And how good we can feel about ourselves when this aspect is beautiful wise and enlightened. As to many of you her videos came just at the right moment, and I had many breakthroughs until one day it hit me - that was me creating that help for myself - that is my aspect which was talking and making me feel empowered. And that was the most liberating and powerful thought. Think about that. Isn't it fantastic to know that- that you are no less than and no more than Teal. It is you.xxx
I really needed yo hear it! As a kid who had good grades my parents would often tell me i could do “better” my dad would at times make fun of me infront of his relatives or friends and that made me always feel not good enough and focusing on disappointment became a focus instead of what I was brilliant at! I need to re parent myself and focus on the good
When I accept myself completely and, when I do not create expectations in others and I am not attached to outcomes, there is no disappointment. There can not be.
BINGO! I think that's it! I've even said so way back in the past! "Don't get your hopes up too high and you won't have too far to fall." Thank you, Teal! You have great wisdom!
Mind blowing. “Finding approval for what has disappointed” and understanding that things are happening for us not to us. I know I’m a little late to the game, but these two helped a lot with clearing your mind and understanding.
What an excellent video! I listened to it when I felt deeply disappointment and it helped me immediately to move through it and own the situation as my creation. Wonderful. Thank you, Teal
She's so insightful and spot on on every topic. But after listening to a dozen videos, this one just lifted SO MUCH weight off my shoulders, chest, all over my emotional body... I started searching for answers as it got to a point that I cant handle my meltdown in front of happiness anymore, it's just ridiculous! This is the one aspect I didn't expect and I almost skipped this one! We need text books with guidance like this in school, could save a lot of chronicle tragedy!!!!
I live with the relocation mistakes I made especially within the past 8 years. I live with the disappointment of knowing that I blew my opportunities to live where I'd be happy at. Now I must live in this city I feel like I hate for probably several more months. However I know I can't give up because like you said in your video giving up would be even more painful then the misery I'm experiencing now.
NOTES: + express your disappointment without having to change it, face it directly. + gain some perspective and involve other people + don't take it personally!! + remain open to a silver lining of a disappointment. You can't know whether that opportunity/person etc. was actually what you were asking for. Maybe what you were actually asking for is right around the corner. (positive aspects journal) + practice non-attachment + make a new plan. Disappointments are often a sign that something needs to be changed. What can I do differently? + take note of things that are going right for you right now. + don't take action from that vibrational setpoint - take a break. + be open to new and unforeseen opportunities + never stop going in the direction of what you want! Never give up. Don't allow disappointment to stop you.
That was so helpful, thank you! I've just gone through my first big dissapointment in my life I felt helpless and did not know where to start from to heal my self. These steps are perfect.
I hope somebody can answer this or point me in the right direction. Mentally I fully expect life/universe/higher self to deliver and am aware of many occurrences of this. It did come into my awareness that in my pelvis and hip area, I began to notice a sense of negative sensations when it comes to expectations. Since then, I’ve been experiencing a lot of pain and tension in this area. Then out of nowhere the pain and tightness will subside and I feel an incredible sense of peace in this area (brings up some anxiety cause it’s new. It’s as if my ego looks to see if the pain is still there). I enjoy that for a day or two and then boom! A new and different sense of pain and tension. It will then began to radiate throughout my body and I’ll feel pretty gross for a bit. Then back to peace. From what I understand, the only work to be done is to be aware of who I am, allowing what comes up to be known and examined without judgment, then releasing sensation. I feel that to be correct for me, at the same time it’s been happening for several months. I take it to be what is called the dark night of the soul/ego death/emotional purging. If anybody has any insight or wisdom to share in this area, please do. Thank you 🙏🏽 Thanks for all of the wisdom Teal Swan. This all kinda kicked off for me with your video on the pain body. I think at some point I unconsciously decided it was easier to just not feel stuff. I think it was as a child. So this purge just keeps coming. If I sit and breathe and focus on being the witness, I process much faster. I just pray that I’m making progress and not living a loop because I’m mismanaging my emotions 🙏🏽🤞
Disappointment creates APATHY. I feel like I don't want to do anything and everything is pointless. Thanks for knowledge and tips. Will try to get over that feeling of apathy.
I think I feel the feeling of apathy also. I felt like just giving up on where I want to go because I'll start worrying about all of it and I'll say "It's just to hard."
I just discovered you recently & I am really in AWE of your gorgeous spirit intelligence, and courageous spirit to share your experience!! Giving others the self help and "scense of knowing" certain experiences we go through are not alone in this journey! I am an empath sensative so your teachings are helping me alot! Your a wonderful soul Teal .😁💝
Teal, I want to thank you for sharing this video. I’ve been tormented years and years on this-and because of witnessing this from a 3rd person perspective I have begun unraveling the conditioning I’ve taken with me all these years. Thank you and much light to you ✨🌱
When I was younger, I was open and trusting and sure I would achieve the things I wanted to. I had huge disappointments which I never got over. Now I expect disappointment to protect myself from that ever happening again. I didn't expect disappointment when I was younger, and it still happened.. so, what was I doing wrong?
Overcoming disappointment. The first half of this video was a perfect depiction of my life prior to awakening! I'm still trying to heal this part of myself. Since I've begun actually consciously choosing the reality that I want (prior to this I thought both A. Life happens TO me based on whatever God wants to make me experience and B. even if I could create my own reality, that's "not allowed"), I keep running into situations, over and over and over and over, almost daily, that cause disappointment. My higher self undoubtedly REALLY wants me to get this fixed right away - and I think I'm almost there! NON-ATTACHMENT has been the key. My stress and anxiety dissipates so quickly when I just "let go and let God" as the saying goes. My higher self gave me a very stern talking to about this the other day. I was trying waaaay too hard trying to manifest money, because I needed it so desperately. It's been really hard for me to learn how to not be attached to money, or ways of obtaining it, when I really need money right now. I just lost half of my monthly income for the summer, and I was already living paycheck to paycheck! I only recently learned that it's ok to admit that I have needs. I was driving myself into a frenzy trying to suppress my resistance to...resistance. LOL. I'm leaving this long-winded comment in hopes that another person on the path as I am will feel some hope. You're not alone, and you're not the only one who feels disappointed that your manifestations aren't seeming to work. Check this out: A month ago, I lined up with a car accident. I was driving a car that had a ticking time bomb for a transmission, and I was not happy about it. I never prayed, never asked the universe, never (to my knowledge) set a conscious intention to get a new car. It was just a subconscious "knowing" that I needed a new car. BOOM. A pickup truck stopped in front of me, which coincided with me absentmindedly looking down, and when I looked up, it was too late to avoid rear-ending them. I never got my heart rate up, the entire time. The whole thing was as smooth as going to the store to buy some shoes or something. I had this inner peace, as if this was a blessing in disguise, but I didn't even think about that until afterwards. I dove straight into looking for a new car, and found this amazing deal on a Nissan Rogue. It was exactly what I needed and I loved the look of it. I started visualizing and attempting to manifest "my" Rogue using every technique I knew at the time. And they started appearing everywhere! It's a popular car, sure, but I was seeing 4 or 5 of them before I even left my neighbourhood every day. I just "knew" I was going to have that Rogue! It got sold out from under me. I'm going to fast forward to the end of the story: I got this 2012 Honda CR-V, finally, and I absolutely love it. Orders of magnitude better than a Rogue in terms of reliability, I've read. I was showing it to my friend the other day, and I glanced at the vehicle parked beside me and said, wow, is this the same year? It's the same car! Wow! Cool synchronicity! My friend said, no, that's not just like yours. It's a Nissan Rogue. :)
I'm going to focus on angels, because I'm not terribly invested in their existence, but i'd certainly like it if they started manifesting all over the place.. And lampshades. I need some.
In retrospect, two human angels, but no random lampshades : ) i admit i lost my focus, tho, so i'm not taking credit for the "angels'" presence. just grateful they showed up.
I feel like this works a lot better if you do it with something that you actually like but are not attached to. Like a certain flower or animal or even a character trait
Self Fulfilling Prophecy. If a teacher believes a student will fail they might be right. This was how it was presented the first time I heard it. I like the expansion of this concept to show that it belongs to each person and influences the world around them and the responsibility for SFP is your own. Teach wrong and the student fails. Place the wrong question or expectations in place and they will be met but evaluation based on the right questions ends up on them being answered wrong too. Thank you Teal. :-)
absolutely awesome..... I did this exercise, and feel extremely liberated from the emotional pain I was and have been suffering in silence about for years...realizing that disappointment leads you to your true desire is extremely liberating and helps you let go of the emotional baggage you carry around, as if emotional baggage is such a shameful thing, when in reality, it is nothing but accumulated energy that leads you towards your highest good...
The bowling ball example is hilarious -- my dad took me to my first time bowling when I was about 3 or 4 years old. I was scared of the venue because it was loud and open and I didn't know how to play the game. I picked up the ball and it was really too heavy for me to be using, much less playing, and I really didn't want to be doing that activity. It wasn't fun. And it was loud. And I didn't know how. But I was told to aim, and I failed. I was told to throw the ball, it guttered. I was told to roll it, I could never get it far enough down lane. And my dad acted disappointed in me that I couldn't figure it out, and impatient that I was scared, and his tone was... disgusted, maybe? When I tried one last time to do better, I slipped with my bowling shoes and hit the back of my head on the floor. I cried. I was told to "Stop bellyaching." I have never played bowling since, it gives me anxiety. I shied away from sports too, because of performing. And that might be the very moment I became an overachiever, but only at things I feel comfortable doing. And I think, maybe, that that experience and the ingrained anxiety is why I have a hard time moving from role to role in my work, because it is uncomfortable and I feel like a failure before I even begin. Thank you for making this video and helping me realize that memory.
Thank you Teal, You did it again! Just what I needed to hear at the exact moment I needed to hear it most. I hope all is well with you. Thanks again, Dave
Once more, thank u Teal, right on spot with this! helped me a lot understanding the mechanism of disappointment/ I knew all that, yet in the midst of disappointment, Its nice to have someone remind you- and Teal does it best for me.
This is actually very helpful. I have no faith, and I hate everyone telling me to be faithful. I want to be, but I can’t! This video helps with tangible tools to heal that.
Teal I just read some of these comments and I am sad at some them. I really appreciate every thing you have taught me. I have had great success following your teachings. I have healed myself from several diagnoses using your techniques. Thanks again for being there (HERE) for us who need you. Big hug and much LOVE from me!
Watching a teal vid = hours of journaling, pausing, unpausing, pondering 🤔 rewinding. So much information! Thanks for sharing and healing, Teal! You are excellent.
I learnt that Teal is a Reflector in the Human Design system, and since Disappointment is the Not-Self Theme of Reflectors she is the perfect person to talk about this topic :) thank you Teal
Teal is beautiful and smart. She doesn't understand how unattractive people are disappointed by everyone. Ugly people are automatically treated as if they do not deserve anything special. They are supposed to serve the attractive, successful people.
This message speaks for every body every thing even plants panic when they're not watered. I panic if I don't succeed and sometimes feel a need to evolve so I don't stay disappointed.
I was like this most of my life. I know it stemmed from childhood. Over the last few years I've began my journey of changing this emotional state. I have found that "energy flows where attention goes." I've tried this visualization exercise & it is amazing at the results. If we can do this by focusing on something, then we can create our lives, for the better, by focusing on that. And altho' I still struggle with feelings of disappointment I've learned that our thoughts create our lives. Don't allow your thoughts or fears of disappointment to direct how you should feel. Practice the art of non-attachment. While we still desire things, whilst not becoming attached to the outcome. Change your thoughts... change your life. While its always a work in progress, its all about how we perceive things & letting go of things that no longer serve us.
This was me. So use to disappointment I was always miserable and unhappy Not able to fully Live or feel real Joy. I had so much trauma and bad things that happened to me It was hard to get out of feeling this way. Until I did the work and even in bad times I can still have Joy knowing it wont last
I'm amazed at how this lady Teal is so young yet so wise - how does she know so much? I just had another huge disappointment when my plans to relocate out of this city fell through these past no of weeks. Maybe I got the disappointment because I was expecting the disappointment.
Thank you Teal!! I love your videos and you just make so much sense. I watched the "worrying" video yesterday and wanted to write a thank you because it described me so well.. but today this just hit the nail on the head! I want to cry right now because this is what I deal with all my life. Disappointment after disappointment... It is exhausting. I understand about the LOA but now I see how I have been attracting this since I was a little girl. I got bad grades in school and my sister and brother were straight A students. I just learned differently and I was always punished because of it . I would have to stay in my room the whole summer and it just made me hate school even more. I loved reading and learning but now I do it on my own terms.. no-one forcing me or judging me if I get the wrong answer. But now I see how This has played a part my in all parts of my life! My love life, friendships and career. I always feel disappointed and frustrated. Deep down not good enough. I feel like the universe wants to punish me for some reason because I don't like to follow the typical rules. I try to be positive but in the core I feel I can't do it. I can't create my own reality. You described the feeling so perfectly. I can't wait to try these methods! Thank you for all your amazing videos! I am obsessed. :)
You are like my subconscious mind, who just expresses very well. I can't express those but you sure do very well. I found your chanel trought a lady who recomended me to watch you and oh boy where have you been for the past 9 years of my life!!!!!!!!
Thanks again Teal! I still find it amazing how you post the right video at the right time... As in I was recently Disappointed how part of my life didn't go the way i wanted it to go...
When Teal says: life is meaningless if it is not lived for the purpose of happiness and passion. No life is meaningless no matter how you live or feel. Expansion happens every single second of life and you cant get "stuck" because that is an experience as well. We came into this physical existence to experience the bad and the good stuff that's the reason we are here, so there is a meaning with everything.
you have solutions to those situation where i think nothing can be done to get out of this loop. thanks for sharing your wisdom. you are my guide. I love you.
With all due respect, and much appreciation for the guidance, and with wholehearted agreement that our generalized reality is manifested by our minds, I am suspicious of focusing on something we don’t care about causing it to come into reality, but I will give it a try. I will focus on an elephant five minutes a day in my mind and watch for it to come to my reality. I shall report back.
I know I create my own reality, but lately I've been feeling trapped by my own ability to create. I am what I am. If I try to change, I'm just in resistance to what I am. If I try to go toward what feels good, I'm shutting out and blocking out the crying parts of myself, leaving them to be repressed aspects of myself that manifest from my subconscious, increasing my state of disassociated disintegration. If I tell myself positive affirmations that I don't actually believe, I'm lying to myself and feel dishonest, inauthentic and foolish. It is very tricky for me to enhance the aspects of my life I want to get more of. I find it easier to just keep going toward the pain - toward the hurting, screaming parts of me that want attention and love. But I get stuck in this endless spiral where I run from one pain-awareness to another. Worse, when I finally feel that I've addressed enough of my inner woundings to break through into joy, then I get so attached to the joy that I keep doing whatever thing I initially felt inspired to do until I feel burnt out, empty, depressed and and disappointed all over again. It feels like I suffer for two weeks only to get two days of joy at a time. And I AM creating all of it. I feel powerless to MYSELF... Garahahghghhgahhharrr!!!! :(
The first time I listened to this, I wasn't experiencing a disappointment so thought this was just good and made sense. When I listened to it after a disappointment, it was right on! Thank you again for making these videos. They have been very refreshing, uplifting, heartfelt and powerful. :)
I disagree. Every time I get my hopes up, I get socked in the stomach so I think it is best not to get your hopes up & say "whatever will be will be". That statement is golden & priceless.
I expect disappointment and for things to go wrong but what actually happens is most of the times much worse then even my worst pessimistic fantasies... And the worst things in my life has happened at the most unexpected moments where I was happy and positive.
This video was right on time Teal. Thank you. It was actually before it's time (if that makes any since to you.) Yesterday I had a huge dissapointment occur. As I was going through the motions I received a return call from a cousin who told me he didn't pic up earlier because he and his girlfriend had went bowling. HA! While watching the video I had planned to do the exercise you suggested using bowling balls because I don't care about them either. Then I realized that subject had already came up for me before I even watched this video… Furthermore, I shared with my cousin during that conversation that as I walked away from the situation I was thinking that I will take this experience as an opportunity to make me stronger by believing I had not been defeated, but convicted to be determined. That whole disappointing situation was just there to teach me the un-attachment that you discussed. I realized that the silver-lining was to be un-attached and allow the universe to do it's thing as well as I had the whole experience. Teal thank you! People this stuff is real.
I have not been intensely interested in any spirituality until two years ago, when a job lost tied with wrongdoing on my part toward my wife caused a great pain in me. And even now... I just watch videos about spirituality on youtube and I don't really practice anything. And, for the first time, I feel compelled to write my comment. About that "bowling ball exercice" (around 6:10) : I think that on a certain level, I would somewhat freak out if anything manifested - I would be afraid to think, knowing thoughts are so powerful. Thus, I am not completely neutral to that « bowling ball ». And since I ultimately want to manifest and job change and a happier family life, I would tie the success of manifesting something to which I am neutral to that goal for which I am not neutral. I would again find it hard to remain neutral. I look back at my life from that law of attraction perspective, and it makes sense. The circumvoluted series of turns in my life match some thoughts I had in the past. I lived so much rage this december at being stuck in the job I have … I believe I successfully raised my vibration away from rage/powerlessness (mayne not to the level of neutrality). Did I « face my disapointment » at my job loss ? I keep thinking, much less frequently and intensely than 2 years ago, that it was the perfect job. I have gratitude tainted with guilt about the job I now occupy - I came back to my previous job, I used my seniority to kick out someone who actually like that job. I realize I ma about to write down my life in this comment … so I stop here. But, does anyone feel theway I do about visualising something trivial to demonstrate to oneself the existence of the law of attraction ?
Today I found out that I have total blidspot on disappointment and how harmful that have been in my life, because I'm magnet to people who cancel on me in any time they want and I always find excuses for them. So I end up in place where nothing happens in my life. Tips how to make life miserable.
What about if you never saw the disappointment coming? If it was the last thing you expected? When one moment you were on a vibrational high, with everything flowing beautifully and the next you were kicked to the ground and left abandoned and devasted with no explanation? When you felt that finally everything that you hoped for had manifested and you REALLY saw proof of manifestation? What nappened then and how do I come back from tnat?
The universe can have a funny way of giving you what you want. However, that way can feel like a huge detour in your life. Try to see the positives, but don't force anything.
I didn't even realise how disappointed I was till I saw this and basically had my feelings spelt out to me, !!! Thank u teal great work this was spot on for me I just need to remember it all now x x
woaw Teal i just cannot thank you enough for your insights! I can testify that keeping the ball rolling on other areas which have not disappointed us yet while feeling the pain of disappointment in other area/s just makes the hole deeper with each dig. Wish i had seen these videos before and still i am so grateful of having got here. Sometimes we really need to hit rock bottom from ocasionally i guess... thank you!!!
Please talk about the people who believe from the depths of their soul that there is more and there is better and still get disappointed. Please also speak to us who have faith and trust in the universe, and who live in gratitude and with love but still have so many painful disappointments. Is it karma from past life? If I create my reality with my thoughts and beliefs I should have a very different life. Please speak to this also.
I feel so much disappointed now. I was admitted to the university abroad where I desired to study. And after all preparation they just did not receive scholarship funds from the government and it means I can not go and study cos I can not afford it on my own. I was so anticipating it, preparing, dreaming about it and now it's all ruined. However, now I will see if something greater comes to my life. It is always like that. Just so good to keep it in mind.
Every time I watch one of your videos I just wonder how you could put so much truth in so little time. It is like every sentence is right on the spot. Amazing...
It's a 20 minutes video...
Mad Adam And almost every sentence is right on the money. This is very rare. The wisdom density is very high ;)
Nikolay, I love Teal's videos for the exact same reason as well. She posts about a subject then gets right in to it. No fluff, or B.S. involved. I get more from watching one of Teal's 15+/- minute videos than I do by reading a whole dang book on the subject matter. Just Awesome! I love it.
2adonisandbeyond Exactly
Nikolay Nikolov kk
Honestly, sometimes, I cry from the sentiment, and heartfelt messages, her words speak to my heart...and I am so grateful.
Christa Grace me too
I feel you ^^
And that makes you absolutely BEAUTIFUL
Wow, I am just in shock. Accepting the thought that "what disappointed me was not actually what I wanted on the first place" helped me heaps. Thanks for that!
Thank you.
I got over disappointment when I found your channel. Thank you!
lol true! Teal really does gets to the heart of things without oversimplifying like most out there.
I just love Teal.
0:43 1) expecting disappointment 1:06,2:02,3:03, 4:54 5:26 fear: belief in powerlessness 5:55 you create your own reality 🎳6:30- does not matter to you, lesser resistance 8:30 worrying and deserving with expecting disappointment
2) what to do when we are disappointed 8:54: 1) express, feel admit to it 2) 9:42 gain some perspective w/o invalidating your emotion of disappointment 3) 10:13 don’t take it personally “did i deserve it?” 4) 11:01 whats the silver lining? lets find approval/positive aspects about it 5)12:03 art of non attachment, practice of trust and allowing the Universe to deliver your desires without an outcome in mind 6) 12:51 make a new plan, whats to change now to get what I want? Nothing wrong switching midstream 7)14:00 whats going right and I am grateful for me now? 8) 14:53 dont take action, take a break. Take time to move through into slightly different vibration before deciding. Take baby steps after 9) 15:48 “When God closes a door, He opens a window” be open to new unforeseen opportunities 10) 16:24 never give up, its a ditch stop towards what you want 17:04😊
I love you Teal... you are just too good! And the depth of the wisdom you share... is breathtaking :)
Teal, It’s been said so many times by others already, but you’ve changed my way of thinking and my self regard ie my reality has shifted and I don’t know if you’ll receive this message but from the bottom of my heart I want to thank you ❤️
This is why I see Teal as a second mom for me
By watching Teals videos we are meeting our own aspects of self. And how good we can feel about ourselves when this aspect is beautiful wise and enlightened. As to many of you her videos came just at the right moment, and I had many breakthroughs until one day it hit me - that was me creating that help for myself - that is my aspect which was talking and making me feel empowered. And that was the most liberating and powerful thought. Think about that. Isn't it fantastic to know that- that you are no less than and no more than Teal. It is you.xxx
I really needed yo hear it! As a kid who had good grades my parents would often tell me i could do “better” my dad would at times make fun of me infront of his relatives or friends and that made me always feel not good enough and focusing on disappointment became a focus instead of what I was brilliant at! I need to re parent myself and focus on the good
When I accept myself completely and, when I do not create expectations in others and I am not attached to outcomes, there is no disappointment. There can not be.
With inspiration, act so there's no pain.
Live for purpose. Never give up.
BINGO! I think that's it! I've even said so way back in the past! "Don't get your hopes up too high and you won't have too far to fall." Thank you, Teal! You have great wisdom!
Mind blowing. “Finding approval for what has disappointed” and understanding that things are happening for us not to us. I know I’m a little late to the game, but these two helped a lot with clearing your mind and understanding.
What an excellent video! I listened to it when I felt deeply disappointment and it helped me immediately to move through it and own the situation as my creation.
Wonderful. Thank you, Teal
You can tell this lady is highly intelligent
I've been really struggling with a painful disappointment in a relationship for the last two months. Your video really helped me. Thanks
She's so insightful and spot on on every topic. But after listening to a dozen videos, this one just lifted SO MUCH weight off my shoulders, chest, all over my emotional body... I started searching for answers as it got to a point that I cant handle my meltdown in front of happiness anymore, it's just ridiculous! This is the one aspect I didn't expect and I almost skipped this one! We need text books with guidance like this in school, could save a lot of chronicle tragedy!!!!
I live with the relocation mistakes I made especially within the past 8 years. I live with the disappointment of knowing that I blew my opportunities to live where I'd be happy at. Now I must live in this city I feel like I hate for probably several more months. However I know I can't give up because like you said in your video giving up would be even more painful then the misery I'm experiencing now.
NOTES:
+ express your disappointment without having to change it, face it directly.
+ gain some perspective and involve other people
+ don't take it personally!!
+ remain open to a silver lining of a disappointment. You can't know whether that opportunity/person etc. was actually what you were asking for. Maybe what you were actually asking for is right around the corner. (positive aspects journal)
+ practice non-attachment
+ make a new plan. Disappointments are often a sign that something needs to be changed.
What can I do differently?
+ take note of things that are going right for you right now.
+ don't take action from that vibrational setpoint - take a break.
+ be open to new and unforeseen opportunities
+ never stop going in the direction of what you want! Never give up. Don't allow disappointment to stop you.
That was so helpful, thank you! I've just gone through my first big dissapointment in my life I felt helpless and did not know where to start from to heal my self. These steps are perfect.
I hope somebody can answer this or point me in the right direction. Mentally I fully expect life/universe/higher self to deliver and am aware of many occurrences of this. It did come into my awareness that in my pelvis and hip area, I began to notice a sense of negative sensations when it comes to expectations. Since then, I’ve been experiencing a lot of pain and tension in this area. Then out of nowhere the pain and tightness will subside and I feel an incredible sense of peace in this area (brings up some anxiety cause it’s new. It’s as if my ego looks to see if the pain is still there). I enjoy that for a day or two and then boom! A new and different sense of pain and tension. It will then began to radiate throughout my body and I’ll feel pretty gross for a bit. Then back to peace.
From what I understand, the only work to be done is to be aware of who I am, allowing what comes up to be known and examined without judgment, then releasing sensation. I feel that to be correct for me, at the same time it’s been happening for several months. I take it to be what is called the dark night of the soul/ego death/emotional purging.
If anybody has any insight or wisdom to share in this area, please do. Thank you 🙏🏽
Thanks for all of the wisdom Teal Swan. This all kinda kicked off for me with your video on the pain body. I think at some point I unconsciously decided it was easier to just not feel stuff. I think it was as a child. So this purge just keeps coming. If I sit and breathe and focus on being the witness, I process much faster. I just pray that I’m making progress and not living a loop because I’m mismanaging my emotions 🙏🏽🤞
Disappointment creates APATHY. I feel like I don't want to do anything and everything is pointless. Thanks for knowledge and tips. Will try to get over that feeling of apathy.
I think I feel the feeling of apathy also. I felt like just giving up on where I want to go because I'll start worrying about all of it and I'll say "It's just to hard."
she has a video on apathy.!
Thank you! @@oceanias
I just discovered you recently & I am really in AWE of your gorgeous spirit intelligence, and courageous spirit to share your experience!! Giving others the self help and "scense of knowing" certain experiences we go through are not alone in this journey! I am an empath sensative so your teachings are helping me alot! Your a wonderful soul Teal .😁💝
Teal,
I want to thank you for sharing this video.
I’ve been tormented years and years on this-and because of witnessing this from a 3rd person perspective I have begun unraveling the conditioning I’ve taken with me all these years.
Thank you and much light to you ✨🌱
The piece of wisdom given by her is seriously GOLD !! Love the depth of honesty.
When I was younger, I was open and trusting and sure I would achieve the things I wanted to. I had huge disappointments which I never got over. Now I expect disappointment to protect myself from that ever happening again. I didn't expect disappointment when I was younger, and it still happened.. so, what was I doing wrong?
Kerry MacIver same!
Chinamoon awe thank you. This helps a lot
This video could cost $400 dollars and it wouldn't shock me. Honestly. Thank God for your teachings Teal 🙏
Overcoming disappointment. The first half of this video was a perfect depiction of my life prior to awakening! I'm still trying to heal this part of myself. Since I've begun actually consciously choosing the reality that I want (prior to this I thought both A. Life happens TO me based on whatever God wants to make me experience and B. even if I could create my own reality, that's "not allowed"), I keep running into situations, over and over and over and over, almost daily, that cause disappointment. My higher self undoubtedly REALLY wants me to get this fixed right away - and I think I'm almost there!
NON-ATTACHMENT has been the key. My stress and anxiety dissipates so quickly when I just "let go and let God" as the saying goes. My higher self gave me a very stern talking to about this the other day. I was trying waaaay too hard trying to manifest money, because I needed it so desperately. It's been really hard for me to learn how to not be attached to money, or ways of obtaining it, when I really need money right now. I just lost half of my monthly income for the summer, and I was already living paycheck to paycheck! I only recently learned that it's ok to admit that I have needs. I was driving myself into a frenzy trying to suppress my resistance to...resistance. LOL.
I'm leaving this long-winded comment in hopes that another person on the path as I am will feel some hope. You're not alone, and you're not the only one who feels disappointed that your manifestations aren't seeming to work.
Check this out:
A month ago, I lined up with a car accident. I was driving a car that had a ticking time bomb for a transmission, and I was not
happy about it. I never prayed, never asked the universe, never (to my knowledge) set a conscious intention to get a new car.
It was just a subconscious "knowing" that I needed a new car.
BOOM. A pickup truck stopped in front of me, which coincided with me absentmindedly looking down, and when I looked up,
it was too late to avoid rear-ending them. I never got my heart rate up, the entire time. The whole thing was as smooth as going to the store to buy some shoes or something. I had this inner peace, as if this was a blessing in disguise, but I didn't even think about that until afterwards.
I dove straight into looking for a new car, and found this amazing deal on a Nissan Rogue. It was exactly what I needed and I loved the look of it. I started visualizing and attempting to manifest "my" Rogue using every technique I knew at the time. And they started appearing everywhere! It's a popular car, sure, but I was seeing 4 or 5 of them before I even left my neighbourhood every day. I just "knew" I was going to have that Rogue! It got sold out from under me. I'm going to fast forward to the end of the story: I got this 2012 Honda CR-V, finally, and I absolutely love it. Orders of magnitude better than a Rogue in terms of reliability, I've read.
I was showing it to my friend the other day, and I glanced at the vehicle parked beside me and said, wow, is this the same year? It's the same car! Wow! Cool synchronicity! My friend said, no, that's not just like yours. It's a Nissan Rogue. :)
I'm going to focus on angels, because I'm not terribly invested in their existence, but i'd certainly like it if they started manifesting all over the place.. And lampshades. I need some.
+Green Liberation any update?
In retrospect, two human angels, but no random lampshades : ) i admit i lost my focus, tho, so i'm not taking credit for the "angels'" presence. just grateful they showed up.
I feel like this works a lot better if you do it with something that you actually like but are not attached to. Like a certain flower or animal or even a character trait
Self Fulfilling Prophecy. If a teacher believes a student will fail they might be right. This was how it was presented the first time I heard it. I like the expansion of this concept to show that it belongs to each person and influences the world around them and the responsibility for SFP is your own. Teach wrong and the student fails. Place the wrong question or expectations in place and they will be met but evaluation based on the right questions ends up on them being answered wrong too. Thank you Teal. :-)
Expectation disappoinmet is what i have been into my entire whole life,, now i wanna change it and I will because i desserve it
She is so damned wise..
absolutely awesome..... I did this exercise, and feel extremely liberated from the emotional pain I was and have been suffering in silence about for years...realizing that disappointment leads you to your true desire is extremely liberating and helps you let go of the emotional baggage you carry around, as if emotional baggage is such a shameful thing, when in reality, it is nothing but accumulated energy that leads you towards your highest good...
The bowling ball example is hilarious -- my dad took me to my first time bowling when I was about 3 or 4 years old. I was scared of the venue because it was loud and open and I didn't know how to play the game. I picked up the ball and it was really too heavy for me to be using, much less playing, and I really didn't want to be doing that activity. It wasn't fun. And it was loud. And I didn't know how. But I was told to aim, and I failed. I was told to throw the ball, it guttered. I was told to roll it, I could never get it far enough down lane. And my dad acted disappointed in me that I couldn't figure it out, and impatient that I was scared, and his tone was... disgusted, maybe? When I tried one last time to do better, I slipped with my bowling shoes and hit the back of my head on the floor. I cried. I was told to "Stop bellyaching." I have never played bowling since, it gives me anxiety. I shied away from sports too, because of performing. And that might be the very moment I became an overachiever, but only at things I feel comfortable doing. And I think, maybe, that that experience and the ingrained anxiety is why I have a hard time moving from role to role in my work, because it is uncomfortable and I feel like a failure before I even begin. Thank you for making this video and helping me realize that memory.
Thank you Teal,
You did it again! Just what I needed to hear at the exact moment I needed to hear it most.
I hope all is well with you.
Thanks again,
Dave
Once more, thank u Teal, right on spot with this! helped me a lot understanding the mechanism of disappointment/ I knew all that, yet in the midst of disappointment, Its nice to have someone remind you- and Teal does it best for me.
Thank you Teal for all the help and guidance
Sometimes you need to give up. Sometimes things re not working out & it is time to try a new path.
I love you, and your videos... and your energy. Really, you're changing my life right now. I send you love, love and love from me.
This is actually very helpful. I have no faith, and I hate everyone telling me to be faithful. I want to be, but I can’t! This video helps with tangible tools to heal that.
Teal I just read some of these comments and I am sad at some them.
I really appreciate every thing you have taught me. I have had great success following your teachings. I have healed myself from several diagnoses using your techniques. Thanks again for being there (HERE) for us who need you.
Big hug and much LOVE from me!
Another way I have heard this expressed was..whether you think you will fail or you think you will succeed, you are right.Thanks, I love your videos.
I wished that I could have heard this 40 years ago! I could have been a contender, I could have been somebody more than what I am today.
I gotta watch this video a few more times :) Thank you.
Watching a teal vid = hours of journaling, pausing, unpausing, pondering 🤔 rewinding. So much information! Thanks for sharing and healing, Teal! You are excellent.
When one has a hormone related disability that effects mood, living the sadness is a reality as opposed to expectancy.
I learnt that Teal is a Reflector in the Human Design system, and since Disappointment is the Not-Self Theme of Reflectors she is the perfect person to talk about this topic :) thank you Teal
Teal is beautiful and smart. She doesn't understand how unattractive people are disappointed by everyone. Ugly people are automatically treated as if they do not deserve anything special. They are supposed to serve the attractive, successful people.
This message speaks for every body every thing even plants panic when they're not watered. I panic if I don't succeed and sometimes feel a need to evolve so I don't stay disappointed.
I was like this most of my life. I know it stemmed from childhood. Over the last few years I've began my journey of changing this emotional state. I have found that "energy flows where attention goes." I've tried this visualization exercise & it is amazing at the results. If we can do this by focusing on something, then we can create our lives, for the better, by focusing on that. And altho' I still struggle with feelings of disappointment I've learned that our thoughts create our lives. Don't allow your thoughts or fears of disappointment to direct how you should feel. Practice the art of non-attachment. While we still desire things, whilst not becoming attached to the outcome. Change your thoughts... change your life. While its always a work in progress, its all about how we perceive things & letting go of things that no longer serve us.
I have waited to long and I have wanted you for too long to comprehend the value of the gift that is you.
practice the art of non-attachment... desire without attachment to the outcome... a practice of trust
This was me. So use to disappointment I was always miserable and unhappy Not able to fully Live or feel real Joy. I had so much trauma and bad things that happened to me It was hard to get out of feeling this way. Until I did the work and even in bad times I can still have Joy knowing it wont last
I love the sentences : disappiontmen is only temporary
thank you teal for everything. your words/videos are so full of wisdom and up-to-date. they help us to live more fully every day
I cant go one day without watching you videos Teal I so grateful!
Thank you so much, Teal!
Your support came just in time. :)
I'm amazed at how this lady Teal is so young yet so wise - how does she know so much? I just had another huge disappointment when my plans to relocate out of this city fell through these past no of weeks. Maybe I got the disappointment because I was expecting the disappointment.
Lisa S she said dissapointment hasn't come to stay...
Lisa S it has come to pass
Don’t give up you may get what you need at a different point in time
Thank you Teal!! I love your videos and you just make so much sense. I watched the "worrying" video yesterday and wanted to write a thank you because it described me so well.. but today this just hit the nail on the head! I want to cry right now because this is what I deal with all my life. Disappointment after disappointment... It is exhausting. I understand about the LOA but now I see how I have been attracting this since I was a little girl. I got bad grades in school and my sister and brother were straight A students. I just learned differently and I was always punished because of it . I would have to stay in my room the whole summer and it just made me hate school even more. I loved reading and learning but now I do it on my own terms.. no-one forcing me or judging me if I get the wrong answer. But now I see how This has played a part my in all parts of my life! My love life, friendships and career. I always feel disappointed and frustrated. Deep down not good enough. I feel like the universe wants to punish me for some reason because I don't like to follow the typical rules. I try to be positive but in the core I feel I can't do it. I can't create my own reality. You described the feeling so perfectly. I can't wait to try these methods! Thank you for all your amazing videos! I am obsessed. :)
You are like my subconscious mind, who just expresses very well. I can't express those but you sure do very well. I found your chanel trought a lady who recomended me to watch you and oh boy where have you been for the past 9 years of my life!!!!!!!!
Thanks again Teal!
I still find it amazing how you post the right video at the right time... As in I was recently Disappointed how part of my life didn't go the way i wanted it to go...
Thanks Teal... you saved me once again from an emotional downward spiral. I always come back to your videos in troubling times.
Wow! These explanations and suggestions are so clear and grounded. Yes. Thank you very much.
I'm Grateful for this higher self
When Teal says: life is meaningless if it is not lived for the purpose of happiness and passion. No life is meaningless no matter how you live or feel. Expansion happens every single second of life and you cant get "stuck" because that is an experience as well.
We came into this physical existence to experience the bad and the good stuff that's the reason we are here, so there is a meaning with everything.
you have solutions to those situation where i think nothing can be done to get out of this loop. thanks for sharing your wisdom. you are my guide. I love you.
At last a very intelligent female who breaks it down practically. No woo woo here, it makes u trustworthy, thank u for that
good timing for what's going on in my trundling existance on this planet
With all due respect, and much appreciation for the guidance, and with wholehearted agreement that our generalized reality is manifested by our minds, I am suspicious of focusing on something we don’t care about causing it to come into reality, but I will give it a try. I will focus on an elephant five minutes a day in my mind and watch for it to come to my reality. I shall report back.
Thank you Teal for all your hard work. You will never be without a home.
I love you Teal.Great message.
I simply LOVE you. I thank myself for materializing you in my life. You saved me.
I know I create my own reality, but lately I've been feeling trapped by my own ability to create. I am what I am. If I try to change, I'm just in resistance to what I am. If I try to go toward what feels good, I'm shutting out and blocking out the crying parts of myself, leaving them to be repressed aspects of myself that manifest from my subconscious, increasing my state of disassociated disintegration. If I tell myself positive affirmations that I don't actually believe, I'm lying to myself and feel dishonest, inauthentic and foolish. It is very tricky for me to enhance the aspects of my life I want to get more of. I find it easier to just keep going toward the pain - toward the hurting, screaming parts of me that want attention and love. But I get stuck in this endless spiral where I run from one pain-awareness to another. Worse, when I finally feel that I've addressed enough of my inner woundings to break through into joy, then I get so attached to the joy that I keep doing whatever thing I initially felt inspired to do until I feel burnt out, empty, depressed and and disappointed all over again. It feels like I suffer for two weeks only to get two days of joy at a time. And I AM creating all of it. I feel powerless to MYSELF... Garahahghghhgahhharrr!!!! :(
The first time I listened to this, I wasn't experiencing a disappointment so thought this was just good and made sense. When I listened to it after a disappointment, it was right on! Thank you again for making these videos. They have been very refreshing, uplifting, heartfelt and powerful. :)
I disagree. Every time I get my hopes up, I get socked in the stomach so I think it is best not to get your hopes up & say "whatever will be will be". That statement is golden & priceless.
Thank you again Teal... Once again I needed the help and you helped.
I expect disappointment and for things to go wrong but what actually happens is most of the times much worse then even my worst pessimistic fantasies... And the worst things in my life has happened at the most unexpected moments where I was happy and positive.
This video was right on time Teal. Thank you. It was actually before it's time (if that makes any since to you.) Yesterday I had a huge dissapointment occur. As I was going through the motions I received a return call from a cousin who told me he didn't pic up earlier because he and his girlfriend had went bowling. HA! While watching the video I had planned to do the exercise you suggested using bowling balls because I don't care about them either. Then I realized that subject had already came up for me before I even watched this video… Furthermore, I shared with my cousin during that conversation that as I walked away from the situation I was thinking that I will take this experience as an opportunity to make me stronger by believing I had not been defeated, but convicted to be determined. That whole disappointing situation was just there to teach me the un-attachment that you discussed. I realized that the silver-lining was to be un-attached and allow the universe to do it's thing as well as I had the whole experience. Teal thank you! People this stuff is real.
I swear she has described me in this video... I was unaware of myself in this way until this video... Thanks Teal...
I have not been intensely interested in any spirituality until two years ago, when a job lost tied with wrongdoing on my part toward my wife caused a great pain in me. And even now... I just watch videos about spirituality on youtube and I don't really practice anything. And, for the first time, I feel compelled to write my comment. About that "bowling ball exercice" (around 6:10) : I think that on a certain level, I would somewhat freak out if anything manifested - I would be afraid to think, knowing thoughts are so powerful. Thus, I am not completely neutral to that « bowling ball ». And since I ultimately want to manifest and job change and a happier family life, I would tie the success of manifesting something to which I am neutral to that goal for which I am not neutral. I would again find it hard to remain neutral.
I look back at my life from that law of attraction perspective, and it makes sense. The circumvoluted series of turns in my life match some thoughts I had in the past. I lived so much rage this december at being stuck in the job I have … I believe I successfully raised my vibration away from rage/powerlessness (mayne not to the level of neutrality). Did I « face my disapointment » at my job loss ? I keep thinking, much less frequently and intensely than 2 years ago, that it was the perfect job. I have gratitude tainted with guilt about the job I now occupy - I came back to my previous job, I used my seniority to kick out someone who actually like that job. I realize I ma about to write down my life in this comment … so I stop here. But, does anyone feel theway I do about visualising something trivial to demonstrate to oneself the existence of the law of attraction ?
I just discovered you. Good stuff. We must express our own desires.
My lifelong struggle 💀 excited to watch again 🌸
such a wise and old soul....i love ur videos, they have realy started helping me.
Today I found out that I have total blidspot on disappointment and how harmful that have been in my life, because I'm magnet to people who cancel on me in any time they want and I always find excuses for them. So I end up in place where nothing happens in my life. Tips how to make life miserable.
Thank you! This is exactly what I needed in this moment. It has brought me a lot of comfort and some positivity. With gratitude.
What about if you never saw the disappointment coming? If it was the last thing you expected? When one moment you were on a vibrational high, with everything flowing beautifully and the next you were kicked to the ground and left abandoned and devasted with no explanation? When you felt that finally everything that you hoped for had manifested and you REALLY saw proof of manifestation? What nappened then and how do I come back from tnat?
The universe can have a funny way of giving you what you want. However, that way can feel like a huge detour in your life. Try to see the positives, but don't force anything.
The part about the selffulfilling profecy is so accurate!
i cannot belive you just described me in every detail here
thank you so much for this teaching. It has so much to go on .
I didn't even realise how disappointed I was till I saw this and basically had my feelings spelt out to me, !!! Thank u teal great work this was spot on for me I just need to remember it all now x x
No because I'm literally crying tears rn :( thank you Teal
I just don't expect things from people anymore, no more disappointment!
woaw Teal i just cannot thank you enough for your insights! I can testify that keeping the ball rolling on other areas which have not disappointed us yet while feeling the pain of disappointment in other area/s just makes the hole deeper with each dig. Wish i had seen these videos before and still i am so grateful of having got here. Sometimes we really need to hit rock bottom from ocasionally i guess... thank you!!!
The law of casualty: It permits no exceptions.
I also had another question that you answered in this video.. Thanks.
Thank you :) You make so much sense and you explain things in such a simple way that is easy for me to understand and apply it..
Please talk about the people who believe from the depths of their soul that there is more and there is better and still get disappointed. Please also speak to us who have faith and trust in the universe, and who live in gratitude and with love but still have so many painful disappointments. Is it karma from past life? If I create my reality with my thoughts and beliefs I should have a very different life. Please speak to this also.
I feel so much disappointed now. I was admitted to the university abroad where I desired to study. And after all preparation they just did not receive scholarship funds from the government and it means I can not go and study cos I can not afford it on my own. I was so anticipating it, preparing, dreaming about it and now it's all ruined.
However, now I will see if something greater comes to my life. It is always like that. Just so good to keep it in mind.
Good topic! Great advice. Great look too! Love and light to you Teal.