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As a hospital doctor in the UK myself, I have to say that it's impossible to save 20K by the age of 28 with the current cost of living and with repaying the student loans. The salary of a Junior doctor isn't that big and it comes with long hours, night shifts and it's pathetic and heartless to demand your doctor sibling to give you the money he earned by working so hard. It makes my blood boiling!
Not to mention that you don't owe any family member anything... The story had my blood boiling, especially at the 'they don't want kids' part. Why would they have to pay her wedding though...how rude, I would cut that sibling out.
Exactly! The pressure, the hours and the debt from being a medical student is no way offset by the earnings until they hit the level of consultant at least. I know many juniors and not a single one earns what they deserve 💙
I totally believe you. But let’s pretend that he was actually having the money available, the @sshole bride isn’t entitled to any of it. If you don’t have the money for a grand wedding than don’t have a grand wedding.
medical worker right here!!! YOU'RE SOOO RIGHT! PPL HAVE NO CLUE! YOU HAVE TO BE AN INTERN FOR 2 YEARS, SOMETIMES MORE DEPENDING ON WHAT YOU GET INTO...EXP: SPECIALTY. LITERALLY, YOU GET NOOOOOO SLEEP! THEN THERE'S RESIDENCY, THEN THERE'S ATTENDING... IT TAKES YEARS TO ESTABLISH PEOPLE!!!
The audacity of this girl! It's her wedding, no one's required to give her any money for anything. If she doesn't have the money, she should plan a smaller wedding, that's it
If you need to crowdfund your wedding, it's time to lower your damn expectations. Go to the courthouse, and serve cupcakes and champagne after. Also, if you have children to raise prior to getting married, spending tens of thousands of dollars on a one day party is the height of irresponsibility.
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EXACTLY!
But on the other hand, the woman who lost her house to a hurricane, and was six months pregnant, and whose wedding planner stole all of her wedding money. I think that people would crowd fund that situation. Yes?
@@cadiza315 no it sounded like a pity rant to me.
@@cadiza315 how do we know any of that sob story is actually true, though?
I told my husband, in a very clear manner, that if he shoved cake in my face I would file for divorce. His answer "Why would I do that to my beautiful bride?" A good answer from a Great Man. We celebrate our 23 Anniversary on December 5th. Don't settle ladies!
I will say with the woman who didn’t let her daughter be the flower girl. After my miscarriage I had pretty bad postpartum anxiety and fear of something happening to my daughter would keep me up at night and keep me from leaving. It may be that she was afraid something would happen to her daughter if she was outside her care. I’m not saying I would have done the same, but I do see where she is coming from. Postpartum anxiety is not as widely spoken about or understood as postpartum depression is.
The hormonal drop is real. I had the same. The mom really should have called and spoke to her friend earlier about it since she was avoiding getting together for the flower girl rehearsal. You would think that the bride would have seen some red flags going up when the practice never happened. It is a sad situation on both ends due to miscommunication and an unexpected loss of a baby.
I was looking for a comment like this. We don't know the whole story, and seems like the part of her losing a child went over everyone's head. I am not a mother yet, so I can't say that I understand, but I feel like everyone was too harsh on her. Losing a child and the fear of losing another must be too overwhelming, so I really believe her family should've been more understanding and find a balanced solution for that :(
Exactly. Is it rational? No. Is it understandable and did it probably ease her anxiety? Yes.
Yes. Her anxiety/mental illness stemmed from her miscarriage hence the experience/fear of losing a child was extended to her daughter, obviously not to husband. I don't know why that was hard to realize for some people even Charlotte, or did she immediately forgot about that detail?
I was looking for this. Miscarriage equals paranoia about your kid’s safety. Not rational or healthy but if you haven’t lost a baby you don’t understand how closely you hold your kids. Not getting how they correlate just shows not understanding what that loss feels like. Not what I would do, but I understand.
I agree with the cake smashing thing. I’ve always thought it’s such a strange thing to do at your wedding where the makeup, dress, and cake is so expensive.
forget the cost of things - it's just mean
We did not smash cake.
My husband did dot frosting on my nose and kiss it off, and I thought, and still think, that was adorable. No makeup or dress was ruined as a result. And it was not a glob of frosting, it was a dot, and a kiss, and it was cute.
No cake smash. It’s not cute. You’re not funny. You’re showing me how much contempt you have for your new spouse, though.
@@katefarr2036 that's such a cute gesture 😍
I just recently found out about this and couldn't believe people actually do it, is childish and ruins everything.
@@jessislistless 23 years, still going strong!
To the girl who said "it isn't my fault that I don't have a lot of money" - YES it is exactly YOUR fault. Your brother went through medical school. You got pregnant and had a kid and hooked up with a guy who is supporting you before marrying you. Let's just say "choices were made". You aren't entitled to any of your brother's money.
EXACTLY.
The sister who wants 20k is absurd. She wants to have kids and get married lavishly and dont want to save money and then she obliging his brother to give away 20k. She wants to have sex without thinking of responsibilities in life at an early age get married, can't wait ruin her life more. Why not be responsible instead huh???
Yes......agree.
Right….
The last one killed me. "I got knocked up at 19 and now I'm getting a pointless degree, my brother should pay for my wedding just like my fiancé paid for my kid." No lady no. Plus at 28 he's just out of med school and holy c*** that's a ton of debt. You pay your bills!
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The one with the coffee truck....she could limit the options with the vendor to offer a scaled down menu and give tickets without price limits on them.
Perfect solution. Just like serving only signature cocktails at receptions, have signature coffees, and a plain option.
YES! I have catered many events with drink tickets, not dry but still. We almost always have limits, mostly no mixed drinks or shots on the ticket. Honestly, only people in the industry will not limit the ticket options.
“We have enough money to live comfortably, but saving up money to have our dream wedding would take years.”
Then. Save. Up. YEARS. You answered your own unnecessary question. No one else needs to pay for your wants in life but you.
Or too bad!
Yeah, or live a little *less* comfortably and then it will only take a year or two. Haha
Plenty of people have managed without having dream weddings. The damn things have gotten out of control anyway. Most weddings in the 1940s, for example, were simple affairs with close family, and more of those marriages lasted than they do nowadays.
THIS!
or you know, just have a wedding instead of your "dream" wedding. I was surprised at the brother's generosity by offering her 5000 and then she asks for FOUR TIMES that much?!
We tried to plan a small wedding but we were so young and had a brand new baby, hardly any money and no help from either side. We ran off and eloped and had a totally rad, casual reception a few months later with our friends and family. Over 25 years later and we’re still going strong. Big, expensive, once in a lifetime wedding do not always equal a lifelong, happy marriage.
We opted for a small wedding of about 35 guests and served them soup + a basic cake. Everyone said they had a great time.:) We didn't have any special program, just eating and dancing and being together. I can't understand why people need to make it so complicated? Also I only wore a suit, which I was able to use in my life.
judy macdonald - Exactly. My husband's friends were married around the same time we were. We saved and paid cash for ours and they borrowed heavily and spent more. They were divorced before it was paid for.
I think ‘dream’ weddings are so ridiculous. I’d much rather see the bride & groom put that 25-100,000 dollars towards a down payment on a house. Spending that kind of money on a wedding that has a 65% chance (at best) of not even lasting 5 years is simply insane, particularly if they have to get a bunch of friends/family to fund it.
It’s like, “Hmmmm, live rent-free for 4-10 years, or have months of intense stress for one day of getting to be the focus of everyone’s attention?”
Is this really something a couple would need to consider??
Oh, such decadence and waste of money!!!! Do you realise how quickly new babies lose their value??? GF and I were content with a _used_ baby - one or two dings early on but they buffed out.
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@@immortalsofar5314 😂😜
The bride is a jerk for calling her to SCREAM at her over a flower girl. Talking to her and having empathy, figuring something out would have been the actual course of action. If a friend backed out of my wedding I'd be sad, but I would figure it out and talk to them later
About the mother not letting her daughter participate on the wedding, I believe her fear is of something happening to her daughter. Since she has already lost a child she is fearful of losing another which is completely understandable. I may be wrong but that’s what I got from what she wrote.
Yes but she should get professional help instead. She can't expect her daughter in her sight 24/7.
We all get that.
Still what she done is plain WRONG
Same.
The dry wedding coffee truck: give a voucher to each person, and subsequent drinks they buy themselves. I’ve been to weddings like that: first drink or two paid, the rest you buy yourself and I think that’s a good, workable halfway solution.
Cool, common sense! It's a rare thing these days but it solves many problems.
Or work out a list of drinks with the vendor they could redeem with a ticket? Other menu items would be available for purchase.
It sounds like they're assuming the first drinks would be too expensive but honestly they're forgetting that a lot of people don't drink coffee at all and would probably get something cheap with their ticket like hot chocolate or tea, so it would probably balance out the people who want the works. XD
She wanted to put a limit on that first drink though… that was her issue.
I’ve been to a wedding - probably the most fun wedding I’ve ever gone to - where the food was three different food trucks paid cash (each item like $8) and the couple ordered a few kegs plus a dozen or so bottles of wine and we all brought a bottle of wine or liquor. The couple were young artists in Brooklyn. They did the lights and flowers themselves. Dress was semi formal. A friend was the dj and a friends band played as well. Great party.
Geez, that sister wanting £20,000 from her brother is insane! My husband and I were broke AF when we got married. We had a small wedding in a public city park. A lovely friend of mine offered up his services to officiate (he'd gotten ordained on the internet for fun). I thrifted a cute dress and my husband already had a dapper suit. We had an amazing time and next to nothing was spent. You don't need much to have a fun wedding except for the people you love.
@grriot I completely agree with you! When I saw that you only have 5 likes 👍🏻 right now, I was shocked! I expected that you would have ~ 10K likes!
Agreed. My fiance and I are going to have a very small wedding, less than 30 people and it will be held either at my friend's home or my parents home. I thrifted my dress too, he's gonna hire a suit, my MOH bought hers online with coupons from a site she uses regularly. Got my shoes as a gift and my grandmother offered to help with decor if I need. I don't see the need to ask my family for money for a wedding that I'm deciding to have because it's not their responsibility at all, I don't even expect them to bring any gifts either. I will never understand how others can have that entitled mentality that because it's their wedding, their loved ones are obligated to give them anything or give them money.
So, this is toward the one where the woman had a miscarriage and suffered extreme anxiety from it and didn't allow her daughter to be the flower girl.
I understand where she is coming from, personally. I lost my daughter by miscarriage, and had anxiety ever since then. I'm now a mother to a beautiful baby boy who is 10 months old now. His birth was emergency and even then, he almost didn't make it. I have EXTREME anxiety with the thought of even allowing him go to another county that is 30 minutes away. It's not because i don't want him to leave me, it's because I now have the mindset of "what if he doesn't come home?"
"What if something bad happens, and I can't get there in time?" The anxiety that comes from losing a child is hard to push aside. Although I still allow my son to go to the next county over because I know I can trust my nana and my cousin there. But my point is, after a miscarriage, you're almost constantly scared that your child won't come back because something bad happens.
I've heard of this last story and I have to wonder if CPS was called because clearly this bride did not care one damned bit about the welfare of her infant just hanging out on the back of mommy's dress. Why didn't she just carry the baby or better yet have a loved one hold the child instead? This was just sick and I hope the mom and dad got in big trouble for putting this baby in potential danger. You don't drag a baby anywhere let alone along an isle. Kids are not accessories. They are living breathing human beings and parents are supposed to protect them not treat them like playthings. This woman does not deserve to be a mother if this is how she treats her kids.
Weird that almost no one mentioned this and that people had more to say about “mental illness (anxiety)” than this child abuse
I went through the majority of the comments and this is literally the only one who has mentioned this video. I had to rewatch that part to make sure I saw it correctly. People are losing their minds in the comments over anxiety mom and post-partum anxiety mom and all that.......BUT THIS WOMAN HAS AN INFANT HANGING AROUND IN THE TRAIN OF HER DRESS!!! Can we please address these issues about child abuse as vehemently as we address anxiety or PPA?!? 😓😑😒
I didn't think the baby was there on purpose....I thought it was some weird mistake and the bride didn't notice. It never occurred to me that they'd put the baby there on purpose. So maybe that's why no one is talking about child abuse. I was about to go search the internet for some funny story about how the bride sat next to her baby niece or something and stood up and the baby was in the train
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First story. Separation anxiety is real. I experienced that after a miscarriage with my then 18 month old baby. Not rational but anxiety disorders rarely are.
Yes, thank you. I had a miscarriage before each of my children and let me tell you, the anxiety is REAL. I had horrible anxiety during my pregnancy where I would freak out at every little feeling and then I had horrible PPA afterwards.
Especially with my second son because he ended up in the NICU for two months. I still suffer PPA and freak out at every little thing. Like he has a cold right now but is eating and acting normal. My husband convinced me he did not need the ER, just call the Pedi. Pedi confirmed I was being dramatic
@amy-leacoopertwiggyvonlea8969 no, it said she hadn't had the miscarriage at the time she was ASKED for her daughter to be the flower girl, when she said yes. The miscarriage happened in between her saying yes and the wedding happening, so it had indeed happened by the time her daughter was supposed to be the flower girl
Hell, after any death, there's anxiety about losing your loved ones. My family is still dealing with it after my mom passed coming on two years ago. We're always checking in with each other and telling each other to be safe and take care of ourselves. Loss of a loved one makes you acutely aware of your and the rest of your loved one's mortality. It doesn't some weird shit to the brain. And to add for the OP, she also has a shit load of hormones booming through her body and causing even more stress and issues. Not impressed on Charlotte's take with that one. Anybody with any sense of empathy would realize why she doesn't want to be separated from her child after losing one. It's completely understandable to anybody who pays attention and actually takes what they're reading in to account.
I've never had a miscarriage so I don't think I can understand that degree of separation anxiety, but I do have a small degree of separation anxiety when it comes to my significant other, and that's from almost all my past relationships blowing up in my face and them blaming me for it, so I've been constantly terrified I'd drive my current significant other away and after almost 3 years of us being together I'm just starting to break out of that fear
@@tabortoothtiger7580 exactly! one of the first times i disagree with her. like she JUST had a miscarage like of course she would be anxious letting her child out of her sight. her husband and so called friend are the real asshole. like how could you be so terrible to your wife when she just lost her baby? honestly she should leave that man. and for all those saying the child is missing out on a opportunity, she's a kid, most likey young, so i dont being a flower girl is going to leave that much of an impact on her life, if she even remembers it in the first place.
"It's not my fault I don't have enough money for my dream wedding."
Except it is, because 1) You CHOSE to get pregnant and have the baby at 19, and you CHOSE to keep the baby, and you CHOSE to get married NOW, and not wait the years it would take to save up for it, which you acknowledged was a possibility.
Also, your brother and his wife are doctors, but are young, and probably still paying off the bills from medical school, and are, in fact, in significant debt.
Also, five thousand pounds is a HUGE wedding gift, even from a sibling.
What the heck, OP? YTA.
Absolutely 💯 my commet exactly
Exactly, she's blaming her brother for her stupid decisions in the past that affects her current financial situation.
I also just... She basically wanted the entire cost of an average wedding. Weddings can be lovely without having to cost that much!
I agree that she shouldn't demand money for her wedding, but as a naive sheltered 19 yrs old who did get pregnant and was forced to keep our son AND marry his father with in 2 months, (25 yrs ago) you assume abit much about choice.
I don't regret our shotgun wedding, and keeping our son. I do admit that I hated our wedding for lots of reasons, but most of the people involved never knew and still don't. I was thankful for their effort and never complained.
I do love my husband. We'll be married 25 yrs on March 28, 3 days after our oldest son's wedding to an amazing girl and we are absolutely thrilled. (Not a shotgun wedding)
Golden child meets reality.
I was a groomsmen at a friend's wedding. The officiator was about to start the ceremony and reminded everyone to silent their phones, then called the couple and both parties' parents up to the stage as witnesses. Halfway through the ceremony a phone went off and everyone just looked at each other like OooOOooHHHH.
IT WAS THE GROOM'S MOTHER!!! And instead of hanging up quickly she actually answered the call and was giving directions to a relative on how to reach the wedding venue, the officiator kind of lost patience halfway through and asked someone else in the wedding party to take the call so they could continue the ceremony.
IT WAS HILARIOUS!
For the entitled bride who threw a fit about brother paying for wedding, needs to realize that just because he's a doctor doesn't mean he's getting paid a lot. If he's 28, depending on what specialty he's in, he is right out of medical school, and I've heard from my brother and sister in law, who are physicians, the pay is crap for fresh out of school physicians, plus his student loans and his wife's are probably astronomical.
Also, it's their money. Even if they were loaded no one is required to pay for their sibling's wedding and he even offered £5000! But your point stands too 😉
Isn't it ironic that this woman is demanding sympathy - a break - citing her child (and the expense and difficulties in raising her) as the reason why she is not more successful and/or financially stable? No one forced her to have a child, she CHOSE this and must live with that decision. If the $$$ needed to raise that child reduces the money for her "dream wedding" then that's on her. My dad would call that an SIW (self-inflicted wound).
@@evagengler9666 There are SO many stories on reddit of people with children demanding money from people without children because "I suffer and sacrifice sooo much because of my kids. I deserve your money more than you do! It's not like you're using it anyways!" Last time I checked, your sibling/neighbor/coworker/cousin/whatever didn't get you pregnant nor did they force you to give birth. That's a YOU problem that you brought on yourself. There are so many stories of people demanding entire houses/properties because "what do you need all that space for without kids?" It's insane to me
@@awesomelycuterific You're exactly right.
It doesn't matter how much he's being paid. She isn't entitled to a penny of it.
Entitled sister: "Am I missing something here?"
Yes, reality.
Sometimes anxiety means having irrational fears about something happening to loved ones, and with her losing a pregnancy she might have starting having fears for her living children..
With the miscarriage one, women tend to get an intense fear that something can and will happen to their other children.
I had miscarriages before each child I have. With my first, I would wake up in a whole panic because I was so scared of SIDS. No one was allowed to be with him besides me and my husband, no one was allowed to watch him.
My second born ended up in the NICU for two months with two surgeries and I am still suffering extreme PPA with him.
I get. She's not the asshole.
While I get that she went through a lot, and it's only natural to be fearful for your children, it's cruel to deprive her child of something she was probably really looking forward to because of her own mental illness.
@@josequins9099 I do agree. She should have sat down and talk to husband about him taking the daughter or try to come to some solution. I don't think she's the AH and I do get were her irrationality came from though. I just think she may have needed a bit more understanding from parties involved in her life.
When my son went into the NICU, the psychiatrist they sent it (they do this for all moms and NICU moms) instantly was like "Oh you for sure have PPA. Two loses and now this, you have PPA. That's why you haven't left the NICU in days. You feel like you can't leave him or something will happen." And like yeah! She was right! Even though he was literally being monitored 24/7 and had all these doctors and nurses around, I didn't leave for two weeks.
There were lots of ways she could've went about it to be more respectful to others. If she already knew she had an anxiety disorder, she should've pulled out of the wedding immediately after the miscarriage or at the very least not strung them along until right before the wedding. Then took to reddit and framed them as if she did nothing wrong and they're "entitled." She's still an a hole.
@@jennamarie2481 I don't think you quite understand how irrational anxiety is and can be. Especially anxiety after a loss.
@@JHyde-tv3if I have an anxiety disorder. If I had literally miscarried a child I would've backed out of the wedding bc those things are really expensive and I know it's someone else's big day and I'd actually have anxiety ab messing it up.
5000 pounds isn'tenough? My former colleague set that limit for her wedding and I don't think they went much over that. If you don't have the money, don't have a big wedding. Easy as that.
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My mom and (awesome) step dad got married in our living room. 👍🏻👍🏻 It was perfect!
If people just want to be together, and the relationship is good, they don't need an expensive wedding.
@@Acidfunkish the attention is already on them, it’s their day, I don’t see the need for a luxurious wedding especially if they don’t have the budget for it. I would much prefer a nice little family gathering with the closest friends included, in a nice little environment. Easier to control and more affordable. It can be really pretty and a happy occasion without all that extra money and people involved. Some ppl can’t even have a wedding and there’s this woman crying over not getting a fortune to spend on one night? I’m way too simple minded for this.
@@Acidfunkish my best friend got married in her grandmother's backyard. Her grandma lives on a lake, she her her bridesmaids made decorations by hand and the best man built a wooden arch. Her much younger brother was in the school AV club and borrowed an expensive camera and those pictures with the fairy lights and lake and sunset in the background are some of the prettiest wedding photos I've ever seen.
@@viviennart It was ONLY close family and friends. Really nice! People brought a bottle of wine, or whatever, to contribute. We all had a couple glasses of wine or beer, told stories, laughed, and just enjoyed each other's company.
They were married for near 20 years, and he was a better dad to me than my bio dad had ever been. He was an awesome dude.
They did, however, win a trip to Hawaii, for their honeymoon. They'd rather spend money on travel than a big wedding (or any kind of traditional wedding). They made lots of good memories!
When I had my miscarriage I never took my son anywhere with out me except when he went to school. He was with his dad the rest of the time. At least for me I panicked because I "lost" one child so I didn't want to "lose" another one. For example her daughter could have run off & not told the dad where she was or since it was a wedding the dad could have had alot of alcohol & lost track of what his daughter was doing. I thought I was a horrible mother & I couldn't carry 1 child so how could I possibly take good care of my other one. She was just being extra about her daughter, but it's understandable since she lost a child.
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So sad for this woman getting dubbed the a-hole with so little understanding. Couldn’t really focus through the rest of the video/humor.
Of course it's traumatic. That's completely understandable. The couple can find someone else or go without. But her daughter was looking forward to this and yanking it away at the last second for something she cannot possibly understand is just cruel.
@@arianebolt1575 cruel really is not the right word though for that implies intention that simply was not there
I agree. I was confused on why they said those things when that was a possibility.
Imagine if it turned out the bride with the baby on her dress didn’t even know it was there. As if someone had just put it on the train without her noticing.
Lol. One way to send it up the aisle to get to a different relative 😂😂
That woman asking her brother for 20k is infuriating. If you want a big, stupid expensive wedding, and people are offering any amount of money to help you should be extremely grateful. Because you're the one that wants it, at the end of the day the only people who are going to care how much you spent on your wedding are the debt collectors afterwards because you ruined your finances on one day.
The woman was “ afraid” to let her daughters out of her sight. That was a part of the anxiety.
Came here to say this. The terror that comes with postpartum anxiety, especially after a miscarriage, can be debilitating! And the panic attack often comes with an illogical conviction that something might happen to your living child if they are not specifically with you. Therapy and a little understanding is absolutely needed and I do not believe she is the ahole in that situation.
Plus she just had a miscarriage! So many people on Reddit ignored that large factor.
And she’ll end up creating anxiety issues in the next generations of her family . She should get into counseling.
@@NixyRose72 In the meantime, she is instilling those same feelings in her daughter. I don't think it's okay to sequester your child away with you because YOU can't deal.
@Rachael Klein hence why I said therapy, understanding and guidance could be extremely helpful.
Pointing fingers and casting blame really doesn't solve anything. Therapy, talking to friends, doing self exploration to try and figure the root of the fear and maybe learn how to work through it.
Mom of 3 angel babies and 1 rainbow baby (he's 27😊) plus I was the recipient/victim/survivor (choose whatever word works for you) severe torture bullying, humiliation, other abuses, I'll spare the details and just say etc.
When my beautiful amazing wonderful perfect rainbow baby boy clawed his way from my body into the terrifying surroundings and danger everywhere and everyone was a potential liability and could accidentally/unintentionally hurt my son. My world narrowed considerably and could really have messed him up.
It took my mom and therapy and casual reminders to force myself to let him do his thing and keep him safe, but not locked down. It took so much effort to hold back.
Sorry about the weird edits. Fell asleep while typing and, WOW... never a good idea lol
Re: the flower girl problem. I can kinda see how losing one child to a miscarriage might make you overprotective to your other children. It's sad that she wasn't able to communicate how badly the miscarriage affected her.
Maybe she communicated it and people brushed it off. A lot of people don’t understand the pain of a miscarriage. The woman needs empathy, support and professional help. That’s it.
Also, anxiety doesn't necessarily follow any logical patterns, just like phobias. Sometimes there is no visible reason. She feels uncomfortable with the situation, that should be enough. People invalidating her feelings DOES NOT HELP.
@@Panbaneesha Thank you 🙏🏼
I agree I have had a miscarriage and suffered from postpartum depression after and thought that everyone was going to take my surviving children away and they were in danger. I know that it was an irrational thought now but at the time it was very very real. Also maybe Mom knows that the father was going to just get drunk with the rest of the wedding party and that no one would really be watching her daughter. And save the theres so many people at a wedding who would have an eye on her caz that is how children end up getting touched. You never really know what kind of people are at your wedding.
Exactly! The whole time I was yelling at the screen (and at Charlotte, sorry, Charlotte) like "Because she had a miscarriage!!!!" Jeeez! People can be very insensitive. I don't even have kids nor want to or plan to, and I still commiserate with the pain that that woman must have felt.
Anxiety isn't rational. You can't use logic to argue against how someone with anxiety is feeling. That's what illnesses like generalized anxiety disorder literally are - worrying about things that are illogical. This one was really tough. But she also just lost a child.
Yeah, her anxiety is clearly about losing her baby and that fear was extended to her daughters, I don't know why people didn't get that correlation.
@@Jha0601 literally everyone gets it. We understand. But the line with mental illness comes when you start seriously impacting other people- in this case both the couple and also her daughter, who was probably excited about being a flowergirl and whom no one seems to be taking into consideration. I can already see this poor girl being the one who's never allowed to have sleepovers, not allowed to go on field trips, not allowed to go to school dances or to date... if mom doesn't get help ASAP she's going to ruin her daughter's life.
@@mary-catherineelizabeth7277 not everyone gets it when Charlotte herself wonders why husband can go but daughter can't and many commenters say the mother is treating her daughter an emotional animal when its not the case. Also take into consideration that the miscarriage is recent hence its fresh, I think for the meantime she's entitled mental comfort, help and understanding esp from her family. She can get help, she can heal but we don't know the progress, we don't know how or if it will affect their daughter (sorry I assume her daughter is just 4 yr old and I don't think missing being a flower girl is life-changing). If her anxiety won't subside and affects their daughter the family can seek counseling. Most people these days don't have an ounce of sympathy for people inflicted with mental illness, like yall forcing herself to deal with her own illness like its an ordinary flu and simply assumed a worst future for the daughter that isn't even guaranteed to happen. The family can deal with the problem one at a time, for now the mother should be prioritized.
Can we take a second to appreciate whoever edits these videos? 😂 The editing jokes are almost as good as Charlotte's hilarious reactions lmao like 7:12 such a simple little clip but I laughed so hard.. also I like that they don't just use the same few edits and like the same reaction clips that we see in every other video.. like more obscure clips that they must've had to put a little thought into.
I just want them to know we notice these things and appreciate it 🤗❤️
The brother didn't refuse to contribute to the wedding, he offered £5000! Take it and thank them profusely!
Also....that COULDNT have been a real baby....behind the bride....on the floor....that says a lot 😐
About the baby, it was her new born. The bride went viral for endangering her baby's safety with this ridiculous stunt.
@@abijustbeyourself2UBTRU I. Have. No. Words. 😐
It was. I remember this being reported in the news. The mom thought it was so cool. Everyone else was aghast!
If I were the brother, I'd refuse to attend the wedding even if op backed down. You KNOW that bride is well into bridezilla territory; it would only get worse and peak at the wedding itself.
If I were the brother, if my sister was not satisfied with the 5K, and demanded 20K instead, she would not get anything.
I think some people are more in love with the idea of having some perfect, dream wedding that costs thousands of dollars/pounds that they can’t really afford, than they are in love with the person they are marrying. If you are lucky enough to find your soulmate, you can make it a dream day with any budget, no matter how small.
That is so true and so sad.
It’s all for a piece of paper anyway. You could literally go to a town hall and marry someone for $100, then in the future when you’re more financially comfortable you can celebrate with family and friends.
Exactly. My sister spent £1000 on her whole wedding I think and paid for it all herself and it was a great night
We had a small wedding at my parents house for $8k. My dress was only $800. Happily married 13 years last Aug.
Weighing in on the mom who had a miscarriage and pulled her daughter out of a wedding.
It was fear. I lost my first child when she was 4 months old. I’ve since had another daughter but there is a great deal of fear involved when you have a child after losing one. Your brain goes to crazy places when you lose a child.
I get the mom’s anxiety but don’t agree with the mom not letting her daughter be in the wedding since the dad was there.
Is she truly an a-hole? Not really. She was scared. She absolutely does need to get some help w/ grieving and w/ her anxiety. Otherwise, this is all going to backfire on her living child.
I also think this woman’s husband needs to get a grip and be at least a little supportive. HE is the a-hole.
Agreed!
I was gonna say this! She had a miscarriage & lost a child, that is devastating to some people. It was definitely fear why she stopped her daughter going to that wedding, as she didn’t want to let her weans out of her sight after loosing one. I agree she does need to go to therapy & get help with her grief & anxiety, as smothering her living children will not go well & can end up with them hating her for being controlling. I’ve had 2 miscarriages & an ectopic pregnancy & that really messed me up, therapy helped a lot with me grieving. I still grieve, as most folk do. I don’t have any weans though & decided not to after all of it. But I can undercut why that mum didn’t want to let her weans leave her side, even if they were with their dad. Grief & anxiety really mess with your head & make you do some odd things that others find irrational. I also agree the dad needs to be more supportive towards his wife, it seems like he doesn’t care at all.
I totally agree with you. People never understand till they have to be in the position of that woman
@@amy-leacoopertwiggyvonlea8969 - Since you're replying to year old posts I'll jump in. Watch it again dear. It clearly says you're wrong.
Dad could have gotten drunk and expected others to watch his daughter and since it isn’t a family wedding she wasn’t taking chances and husband is defo the a hole
I'd love to go to a wedding only goes for 2 or 3 hours in the afternoon or evening. Afternoon tea would be perfect! I really hate how weddings seem to be a weekend commitment these days, pretty much all day Saturday followed by the mandatory BBQ all day Sunday!
In the very least, there could be a token point at which the bride and groom "leave" so guests who can't put in the full nine plus hours can leave without appearing rude. I get the bride and groom might want to stay and rock on past midnight but not everyone does or can.
Call me the wedding grinch, that's fine. I'm an introvert and don't enjoy large gatherings especially those that require hours and hours of polite small talk with people I rarely ever see or have never met before.
I know I'm not the only person who feels this way.
"It's not my fault I don't have enough money to afford a wedding"
Uhh... you do.. it's called going down to the courthouse and getting married.. What she means is, she's broke and hasn't saved up any cash and now wants other people savings to use as her own to show off on insta/fb
Anxiety lady maybe thought something bad would happen to her daughter after losing a baby recently. Anxiety isn't logical but this would be the most likely invasive thoughts she was having.
Yeah but she shouldn't have let her anxiety affect her daughter
That’s not a valid excuse at all. She was definitely the asshole. I have anxiety myself and I would never use my child like that or put them in a situation that way
@@breerea9928 it's a huge shame that her daughter missed out and I'll guess that the momma will beat herself up enough about that over the years. This could have been turned into an opportunity to understand how uncontrollable, terrifying and debilitating PTSD, anxiety and panic attacks can be. Things could have been dealt with much more effectively than blame, insults and name calling over a medical condition.
That kind of shit will fuck up the daughter as well. Give her separation anxiety from her mum because all she’s known is mum meltdowning when she goes out without her mum.
Coming from someone who has severe anxiety and has had 2 miscarriages.
@@DystopianOverture yes thank you! I grt that mental health is tricky, and anxiety is not logical, I get it, but if the mother thought a little harder about thr situation, she'd understand that he actions would have affected her daughter as well. Kids pick up things from their parents and learn their behavior. I'm anxious as heck because my mom was super controlling as well I love her to pieces, but I would have been a lot more confident in myself and anxious if she hadn't been breathing doen my neck my entire life and co trolling everything i did just because of HER anxiety.
With the anxiety one - I’m guessing that she was afraid to let her daughter out of her sight because of the miscarriage. She lost one child so she was terrified of losing another. I could be wrong, but that’s my guess. It’s a tough situation all the way around. I see why the bride would be upset about losing her flower girl practically the day of the wedding, but I can also understand why OP felt the way she felt. I hope she was able to get some help and is doing better now ❤️
Even as a kid I thought the cake smashing thing was awful.
If my fiancé did that to me, I’d walk over to the minister, retrieve the as yet unsigned wedding license and rip it up.
I’d then have a great time at the reception, not dancing with that Buffalo I thought I’d loved.
the only thing with the anxiety is maybe she was fearing never seeing her daughter again, that something would happen to her daughter, and that is what caused the anxiety, after having the miscarriage, not saying it was right, just a possibility of why.
I think it was totally justified. She had just lost a child. A wedding isn't that important, I don't understand why people make it into this larger than life issue. Of course she should get therapy, but just saying, anxiety isn't logic, you can't just snap out of it.
That is what I thought it was too
That is definitely a possibility or she could be using her daughter as an anchor, so to speak, and clings to her to make herself feel safe and a crutch to deal with her grief, since it appears that she is not only dealing with anxiety but probably depression as well, both as a result of the miscarriage. I'm not saying the behavior is healthy, but it is another possibility of why she wouldn't let her daughter go. In all honesty, anxiety creates very distorted perceptions of the world, and what may seem perfectly logical and reasonable to the person with the anxiety seems totally odd and possibly delusional to others. I'm actually a little frustrated with her husband's reaction. Sure, it isn't easy dealing with someone who is overcome with anxiety but to lash out and call her a b*tch because the bride had a tantrum and lashed out at him is frankly a d*ck move on his part (so much for being a loving, understanding, compassionate, and empathetic spouse), they ALL need to grow up and OP needs therapy - well, they ALL need therapy but for different reasons!
She specifically mentioned the miscarriage a couple times, so I think the fear was that her daughter would somehow not make it back home. She wasn’t using her as an “emotional support animal”, an accusation I think was very uncalled for, she was just scared to lose her daughter if she was out of her sight. I think a gentler response, at least, would have been better. Definitely not worth calling her a b-word.
I did not know people would agree or at least relate to what I said. I'm surprised
OP: "I can't save money because I have a kid"
Also OP: "it's not my fault I can't save money"
I set up an interview at university for a woman who has 3 kids. She started her PhD with a 3 month old baby. She graduated with her doctorate last year and is interviewing for high end jobs. She sacrificed a lot to get where she is today. One of the panelists in the interview said she had "true grit".
True. I have a kid and I'm pregnant with #2 and because of that I didn't finshed university yet and didn't make much money. But... that was my choice! And the choice from my husband. We knew that getting kids would mean to have less money. I would never expect someone else to pay for my wedding only because they have more money. My husband and I did our wedding with a budget of around 10000€ and it was great. Our parents gave us some money (way under 5000€ in total) and some friends helpt with things like selfmade cake. It is okay to ask for help, but you have to be thankfull for every help people are willing to give. Never expect them to do more.
@@tessaritter5339 10,000 ain’t shabby by any means!! I’ve been to absolutely gorgeous weddings that were like 1,000$ or wayyy less!! What you had was a very nice wedding 👍
@@eveningstar8581 I know. :) It's totaly possible to spend less then 10000€ and have a very nice wedding. We had costumized our dress and suit, rented a white oldtimer car and choose an expensive restaurant near the city center for the reception with around 50 people. We could spend way less money by bying a nice dress and suit off-the-shelf or used ones and by choosing a cheaper venue out of town or a privat garden.
10000€ is a lot of money for a wedding. It's only less then what most people in wedding videos spent (or wish to spend).
My husband and I HATED the tradition of smashing wedding cake in each other’s face. So we just fed each other a bit of cake to each other and that was all the cake we had at our wedding 😂 🤣 It’s crazy how little we ate at our own wedding.
This lady just had a miscarriage and it takes a lot to be open and honest about it. Not letting her daughter go to the wedding could be based on a bad separation anxiety. Many women who experience miscarriages live in constant fear of losing another child. This might sound irrational to people who luckily haven't been in the same situation but it's actually quite common. I agree that she definitely needs therapy to get over the pain and to not burden her daughter and family with it, but she's more than definitely NTA. Sometimes a little bit more compassion goes a long way, especially when it comes to topics that are somehow still taboo subjects in our society (miscarrying and the connected blame that is put on women being one of them).
This! I felt so bad, seemed like everyone was against her. People should've been more understanding, it's not like it happened to them, they don't know how much overwhelmed she might have been :(
@@laylammorais true. This is the only time I really disagreed even with Charlotte's reaction, clearly the mother's anxiety stemmed from her miscarriage and that anxiety/fear of losing a child obviously extended to her daughters, why is it hard to understand?
@@Jha0601 It’s because it’s HER issue alone and shouldn’t be taken out on the child. Kids tend to resent their parents when they are suffering because of their parents problems. She IS subjecting her daughter to her illness whether you people want to admit or not. She needs help instead. Stop making excuses for these people. When people make excuses or rationalize for the behaviors of people instead of addressing the issues and getting help then those people think it’s OK for them to do what they do to those around them. The mom can’t go around and start being a helicopter parent because she personally dealt with an tragedy. My mom suffered a miscarriage as well but us kids were treated as a person who has a life and weren’t subjected to her own issue(not in any way saying it’s her fault btw). We also lost my dad when we were young but she made sure that we didn’t wallow in self pity. She knew we had to continue living. That’s the military in our family. This woman IS the asshole because she’s fine with her husband being in the wedding but not her kid?!?! How can you say that’s logical thinking from her because it’s NOT. Don’t give the excuse well it’s because it’s her child and she lost a child. Her husband is just as big a part of her life as well and would be dealing with the same loss. Like I said, she needs to get help instead of taking it out on the child because she’s afraid for her child. That needs to be addressed. I’m sorry for her loss and feel her pain but like I said, we shouldn’t make it ok for her behavior because she was in the wrong to make her child suffer for something she has NOTHING to do with. Just saying.
@@sarahprince2412 The miscarriage (loss of child) would affect her anxiety with her offspring NOT her husband. A child is way more helpless than a grown man. Sure, she is subjecting her kid to her illness, but she just had the miscarriage and even if she was in therapy, it takes work. Some people spend months or years getting over something like this.
Also, it's not good to perpetuate the idea that you should pretend your feelings aren't there. your family can continue living after a death but it is always better to feel it all and work through processing it. this poor woman went through a traumatic experience. her wellbeing is WAY more important than a party. where is the compassion and understanding?
@@sarahprince2412 she got anxiety, probably postpartum, its not like a flu that easily goes away, the mother clearly doesn't have the capacity to make sense of things and loss affects differently on people so don't compare how great your mom is compared to the mother of the flower girl. Omg at this age many people still don't get mental illness and don't have sympathy for people suffering from it.
Pausing this video to comment on the mom with anxiety situation. As a mother who has also at times struggled with severe anxiety (especially immediately after my daughter’s birth) I completely understand where that woman was coming from.
When my daughter was a baby, I was completely terrified to leave her alone with anyone because my anxiety had me convinced that she would die or somehow disappear if she was out of my sight for even a second.
She’s seven years old now but whenever she goes into a new situation (like her first day of school or spending time with a family member she doesn’t see often) that anxiety comes rushing back. I usually just struggle through it, but I completely understand wanting to be gentle with yourself following a miscarriage and not feeling up to that struggle.
This woman is absolutely not an asshole. That just shows how little understanding people still have when it comes to mental illness. Unless someone is a doctor/psychologist it is certainly not up to them to tell her how to manage her mental health. It is not worth it for her to be sitting at home having a panic attack for several hours, especially for the wedding of this unbelievably selfish person.
11:35 "Did you rent it?" I litarally can not rn 🤣🤣🤣
As someone who has lost a baby I can relate. A year after I lost my baby girl I had a baby boy and I would be terrified when someone held him or took him to a separate room. I was afraid that someone would take him from me. And I don’t have anxiety. My point is Everyone griefs differently let’s just respect that. ☺️
I’ve never personally attended a wedding with cake smushing in the face, but I’ve heard horror stories. I can’t believe that EVER ends well.
As a retired veteran, I’m sure you could pull your fellow brothers and sisters together to find and “persuade” him into coming clean. May or may not have deployed such tactics. 😉
Sounds like it could work😉
I was having the same thoughts!
I feel like the correlation between the miscarriage and OP wanting to keep her daughter close where she would be able to see that she is safe and to know that she is not going to lose another child was completely missed. Sure, it is not a healthy way of coping but she is aware of her illness and is trying to recover
That's still not fair or ok. She needs to get professional help
@@danimotherofchickens479 Yes, surely she needs it. We don't know tho if she is in treatment and treatment is not miraculous as in you start and then it's solved. I am a board certified psychologist and have seen similar cases in which the patient cant part with something or someone due to their anxiety. Whilst they are indeed ill and do need treatment, anxiety is not logical so it cannot be explained or healed with logic, it requires a lot of time and treatment in order to heal it. For the looks of it it's not only anxiety but PTSD, more likely PTSD induced anxiety and the response from OP was actually consistent with that kind of illness and regardless of what we, people without that specific illness, may think, it was a real danger for her and her body.
@@luisaramos6862 what the comments about this has shown me is that we still a lot of work to do to educate the public about Mental Health. The stigma is paralyzing many from seeking help.
Miscarriage can cause ptsd, and what is going on with her sounds like it fits. Yes, she needs therapy, but she also needs her friends and family to support and understand what she is going through. It isn’t that her daughter is her “emotional support animal” it is that PTSD is making her believe her daughter is in danger when she can’t see her and reassure herself. Telling her to get over it and that she is being a b*tch clearly shows that they are making zero attempt to understand and help her through this.
I don't know how people could have missed that it was pretty obvious or at least logical....But people really need to educate themselves about psychiatric disorders because when one of their family member or friend will try to suicide and succeed because they didn't try to understand them or they just criticized them well it will be too late to regret or to help them...And then it will be hard for them to live knowing you played a part in someone's doom...
Wow! Although it doesn’t surprise me, the answers given ( not on CZcams, it seems she has a lot of support and understanding here) for the woman who didn’t let her daughter go and be the flower girl are really horrible. It just shows how people don’t really understand mental issues . She didn’t want her daughter to go because she just had a miscarriage. It seems everyone forgot that part. She was afraid to let her daughter go because she wanted to keep her safe, in her eyes. She was terrified of loosing her too. Everyone deals with losing a baby differently. This is how she dealt with hers. I really don’t understand how people can’t use empathy and look at the big picture here as to what may be going on. No, it may not be the way YOU would handle it, but everyone deals with grief differently. Understand that. You don’t have to agree with it, but understand it. And let it go without shaming them.
The best advice I ever saw about paying for a wedding reception was: Divide your guest list into your budget. If comes out to $1.50 per guest serve milk and cookies.
The best wedding I've been to was my daughter's five years ago. She had bought a house earlier in the year and she and her then fiance invited their families and some friends over for a housewarming. Then a couple of her friends got everyone's attention and unfurled a sign that said "Surprise Your At A Wedding". Their sheltie was the ringbearer.
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Was there a video of this? I’m pretty sure I saw someone else do this same exact thing 🎉
No one is responsible to pay for your wedding. I cooked for my first wedding and will probably do the same if I’m blessed to remarry. I was talking about this with my mom last night and she had no idea how high weddings have increased in price. I’d rather cook myself or only have coffee and dessert and folks enjoy the snacks. My mom and I agreed that a paid photographer was a necessity but not paying or feeding the person was insane. Also, they don’t need to follow us for 12 hours. Just shoot the ceremony and get a few pics after. She was even ok with us eloping as long as she got good pics but I also assured her that would only be if we had a monster in law problem. My family is poor and I’ve seen folks online go crazy. Offering to pay for a wedding often turns into a control issue later. No thanks.
My mom and her friends cooked for our wedding. My aunt helped me make the mints, and I have a burn on my wrist that shows in some of the photos because I baked cookies. My mother-in-law and her friends made and individually wrapped pieces of the groom’s cake (Canadian tradition).
I had the flowers, cake, and photos done professionally because they’re a big deal and, if there was a problem, I wouldn’t want to strain any personal relationships.
I don’t believe the mother with the flower girl daughter was using her daughter as emotional support when not letting her go. I honestly feel that it’s her protective motherly instincts kicking in after the loss of a child. She can’t bare to not have here daughter there because she is scared of losing her too, therefore keeping her close to make sure she is safe. A Miscarriage is an awful thing to go though and having a baby you absolutely love taken from you before you even get to met which it is bad enough, let alone the fear of the same happening to your child that you you have been able to actually have a mutual bond with. I mean the situation is messy and I don’t think either her or the bride are necessarily right but I can understand why she wouldn’t want her daughter to go.
At least you're trying to understand, which is more than what a lot of people did. Too many people were so quick to judge her and make her feel worse about the whole thing.
I agree completely. And the fact that her husband called her a bword really pissed me off. If he’s that sort of husband to not try to understand what his wife is going through maybe that’s why she doesn’t trust him to care for their daughter without her being there.
yeah , that, and it was kinda obvuous and i am shocked how few people picked up on it and where able to sympathise
5:05 - poster had a miscarriage... she didn't want to let her daughter go to the wedding because (due to her anxiety) she was afraid she might lose that child too -- I dub her NTA
In regards to the woman who didn’t want her daughter to be a flower girl in the wedding. I feel it was because she recently lost her baby, and was going through severe grief and anxiety because of her babies death. She projected her anxiety from her lost baby to her daughter, and was fearful of her being out of her sight. She was probably afraid that something would happened to her other baby (daughter). Sometimes you can’t control anxiety and grief when it comes to your children. I’m speaking from someone who lost three babies, and can understand what she was going through at that time.
I lost a child and sometimes it becomes hard to let them out of your sight after the loss because yes there is an irrational fear of something happening to the child and you won't be there. It is horrible. I also have anxiety and it makes it 1000 times harder to deal with. So yeah.
Yes, I feel like that is what is going on as well. The husband can go, but she is traumatized at the thought of losing her children.
For the lady that had a miscarriage, I think a lot of people don't realize how traumatic a miscarriage is. It is literally the death of a pre-born child. To me it makes sense that the lady would want to keep her child close despite agreeing for letting her daughter be the flower girl. The lady should have let her husband take her daughter to the wedding, and the bride was understandably upset. I hope the lady gets the help that she needs for her anxiety and help her heal from the miscarriage.
YES! Thank you for speaking up about that. Losing a child is the worst kind of pain. The fear and anxiety are outwardly shown by overprotecting another child. Others can't grasp this kind of pain and feeling out of control and helpless. Depending where she was in her grief process, I think the husband should have been able to take the child. No doubt that he too would be overprotective while there too. The woman needed to put her trust in someone else's care, even her husband, but maybe she just wasn't far enough in her grief process to do so yet. 😪
Child loss is absolutely awful, but NO mental illness is a valid reason to harm your family. Her young daughter did not need to witness her apparently major panic attack, and I'm sure she did more than witness it, I'm sure she was forced to comfort her through it even though she's a child with an undeveloped frontal lobe. I was parentified by a parent with PTSD and it's not an excuse, it's never an excuse to pass on your trauma. Especially not in 2021, ESPECIALLY if she's telling other people to "read up on mental health". It sounds like she needs to do her own reading up and then move on to finding a psychologist.
Personally I think she's using her anxiety as a crutch, and if it's not handled now it will get worse and the kids will start to resent her as they get older. It's alright to have anxiety and yes it causes a lot of disruptions in daily living but as a mom, she needs to make sure that her problems don't encroach on giving her children a normal healthy life. And also that she will need to understand that as they get older and become more independent it will cause a lot of problems. Especially if she uses her illness to guilt the children into not doing things or going places they want to go. I truly hope she gets the treatment she deserves before it causes more dissention in her family.
@@toracabey93 her miscarriage happened recently, understandably the trauma is still fresh and she's suffering from fear of losing another child. Her daughter is prob 4, and its not sure if she's having major panic attacks that would also traumatize her daughter. She's seeing help but she needs time to heal, the daughter won't be traumatized over missing being a flower girl. If her anxiety affects their child they can re-assess the situation and seek help for it too. That's what a family should do, help each other out.
The husband lost the child too and the daughter is his as well. Sure she's got mental illness and needs major help, but how does she think she makes her husband feel too? She calls their daughter HER daughter and basically saying saying that her husband is not capable of keep THEIR daughter safe and only she can. For all we know, she too was dismissive of the husbands feelings. Making a child takes two. If the child is loss, it is still two.
The Italian Grandpa one is the Best lmfao.
It’s always the one’s that won’t do shit for you or help you in any kind way are the ones always with they’re hand out!!
Smashing cake into your new spouse’s face is NEVER cool or funny. I’ve even seen a video of a husband doing it to his new bride, and her walking out of the reception and the marriage
At a wedding reception, I totally agree. At home, then sure, it's cool.
@@pablodelsegundo9502 no it's not. It's a waste of perfectly good cake and usually embarrassing for the receipient - and hardly ever funny. I've also seen videos where someone's face was smashed into a cake and there were support sticks inside for the next tier. They nearly lost an eye.
It’s just stupid and childish
Honestly, I went to my cousins wedding and they did have a bar. They DID give out drink tickets that had dollar amounts on them, everyone got 2 tickets for 2$ shots/drinks and then every drink after your free ones were $2, or $4 for the more expensive drinks like the wine and heavier liquor.
Nobody complained. Nobody. It was understandable and weddings are expensive, and no single guest should feel entitled to show up to an open bar wedding and run them dry. You can't do it at the bar your friend owns and you can't do that in your mother's liquor cabinet at home, so why would you think you, can drink your friend's pockets dry at their own wedding??
Maybe it's just a Canadian thing, but the $2 bar thing does not bother me in the slightest.. 🤷♀️
The lady who didn’t let her child go be a flower girl… darn that poor lady just needed to know the most precious things to her are safe! It’s hard to understand if you don’t suffer but I completely get it!
As someone who has always dealt with anxiety it is so annoying to have people use it for excuses for so many ridiculous things.
Have a great day/night!~
Dry wedding, just have juice and soda. That coffee truck would be so expensive
I love when mothers refer to kids as "mine" when talking to the kids' fathers. There's only ever been one immaculate conception in the world, to my knowledge.
Dont you just love it when people treat children like their property 🙄
@@hidden_jem_ Or like pets when they leash them...LOL
I really love your videos! They are helping me allot in a messy breakup
As someone who has ended up in the ER because of an anxiety/panic attack, I can understand the fear the mom had about letting her daughter out of her sight. That kind of anxiety is physical, when it ramps up, you can feel like you're dying. There isn't much room for logic and reasoning with that kind of fear, when your brain is basically attacking you with messages of doom, your pulse is racing, you can't catch your breath. Seems to me like she was trying to keep from spinning out that far by controlling what little she could, like making sure her daughter was safe with her. She'd just lost a child. It's not a big leap. She seems to understand that she's struggling, and I hope she's getting help for it, but in that moment, she went for the option that calmed her fears. People are calling her an asshole, so I think she's feeling a little defensive about it, which is what I read in the tone of her post.
Even without anxiety, having a miscarriage causes a lot of trauma… is no one realizing that?! Man both of those together are a tough combo and no one is understanding about if 😭
I think everyone overreacted to that one like I don’t think she’ll stay like that I’m sure she will get better if she’s already acknowledging she has a problem. She just needs time to heal since it just happened and everyone judging her isn’t helping. Anxiety is awful!
@@Twiceuponaday Of course it's a trauma with or without anxiety, but the person who posted the AITA explained what happened in this specific scenario in terms of her anxiety. Both have been discussed, and some people are quite understanding about it, just not enough people. It sucks, but people will always have opinions about things they don't understand. Best anyone can do is try to explain, then go watch another video, ya know?
The fact that her own husband called her a bitch makes my blood boil.
@@nick.p.9328 something like this happened in my family recently.
Sometimes people around you just don't get it despite their best effort.
And sometimes they react like this husband out of fear and concern.
I've had a real hard time showing my family how much damage they were inadvertedly doing on the member suffering from anxiety by lacking the "right" perspective on the problem
Thanos twerking in the background of Charlotte in a veil made me laugh way much more than it should have done.
I too want Thanos at my wedding, but he must be able to twerk.
When my husband and I got married, we hired a wedding coordinator to find a church for us to get married in and have her do a couple photos as well. We didn't have a huge wedding and didn't invite anyone to it, was just us, the pastor and the coordinator. Then after we explored Niagara Falls and made a day of it. I don't know why people want all the stress of planning them and spending money they don't have on it. A wedding should be for you and your partner not the guests .
I was sick with the flu past few days an finally caught up with you videos 💜☺️ love you Charlotte you make my days easier with your sense of humor, I think we’d be great friends 😂
4:30 I can understand. After a miscarriage, aka the loss of a child, her anxiety could be triggered tenfold when she knows her kid is away.
I don't believe there actually is any "bad guy" in this story. The bride was in her right to be mad, but shouldn't get so agressive about it.For her friend who didn't go to the wedding, mental illness is not something you can hide behind all the time. She did fail the bride because of her mental illness. But just brushing it off as "you have to understand, I'm sick" and not even apologize, or call yourself beforehand is to me disrespectful as well.
I feel sorry for that woman having to go through everything she did go through, but she did have some stuff to admit as well in my opinion.
While it is true that she could've handled it better, when she was deep in the throes of that anxiety attack, she couldn't think straight. I don't think she was hiding behind her mental illness or doing anything intentionally hurtful. I also don't believe she was "brushing it off" or not apologizing. I think she may have tried to apologize, but her apologies fell on deaf ears because they assumed she was being an asshole when she wasn't. They may have misread her saying she was sick as her making excuses, which happens A LOT to people with mental illness. I speak from personal experience.
I do agree there really is no "bad guy" in this story, but there are a lot of people who are needlessly giving the mom way too much grief over something she can't do anything about now. It's already happened, there's nothing she can do at this point to "fix it," and maybe she's tired of trying to apologize when all she hears is negativity.
@@mrandisg Yeah I see what you mean. The bride being angry is understandable. But had she been calm and had just talked, her friend most likely would have felt free to speak as well.
I had the feeling the way it was written the friend had kind of dismissed it.
In any case I hope she now knows her fear and feelings were valid, even though she couldn't really voice them in a diplomatic way from the way I read it. And hope her anxiety is getting better.
@@jhepadidaymaypamoa5172 how were her feelings valid? That would mean her daughter was going to be in some kind of danger being a flower girl. Her fears weren't valid at all, it was her anxiety. She needs to get a grip and get herself some help. It's not like she was sending her daughter off with strangers, the child's father was going to be right there.
Agreed. I personally deal with anxiety/severe anxiety as well & can understand how she would be fearful to let her daughter out of her sight(especially considering she just suffered a miscarriage) so yeah I can see how going through a miscarriage would make her feel like she must be watching her child 24/7. But also I can see the brides POV she had spent lots of $$ on her wedding & clearly wanted the daughter to be the flower girl so she has a right to be upset. That being said I agree that neither party in this story is the “bad guy” they both had reasonable feelings. Personally i think a good solution would’ve been let the daughter go to the wedding and then when she was done being a flower girl go back home again.
The anxiety lady one, I have anxiety and had two miscarriages, when you have anxiety and go through something that traumatic, it makes since why she doesn’t want her to be away from her, she not using her a a crutch, honestly I’m not surprised how most people see it as that cause unless you’ve experienced something like that you don’t know, and the talk of miscarriage is often treated like taboo. After I had my first miscarriage, it was a locked in fear of loosing sight of my son, I wanted to know where he was at all time, and if he was okay. It brought instantly anxiety and fear if I didn’t see or hear him playing. My mom wanted to take him at one point to help out when I was going through the lose but I told her, her taking him will only worsen my anxiety. Plus the nightmares that followed after the miscarriages is also a huge triggering factor, I know not everyone has nightmares/dreams. There’s more to it especially if anxiety is playing a part.
Hi ! In regards to the mother with anxiety who didn't let her daughter go at a wedding, it could relate to her miscarriage. She would need to see her children to be sure they are alright. Doesn't negate the fact that the daughter has her own feelings in this and they shouldnt be disregarded even if her mother has anxiety. But I think it could be understandable on the mother's part. Anxiety is not rational so it checks out.
My wedding was a dry wedding, but it was a blast. We had a dollar dance where people give one dollar to dance with the bride and one to dance with the groom. It was a ton of fun. My wife was shocked when I was dancing with two and three women at the same time. I’ll never forget it
My brother earns more before breakfast than I do in month, why didn’t I see the brother/wedding post before I got married seven years ago? Actually he did something far better than give me money, he stood in for our late father at the top tables. Like a lot of true geniuses he is socially awkward and I know how painful it was for him to do this, small talk and my brother are not two things that go together. Some things are far more important than money…like family in many cases.
The anxious mother was so anxious she not only couldn't go to the wedding because of it, but the idea of letting her daughter out of her sight sent her anxiety through the roof and was terrifying to her because she just lost another child. That's how that is corelated. It's not rational but anxiety never is. The strangest things can just set your anxiety into overload when you're in that state, especially after the loss of her child. Anxiety works that way sometimes, the sufferer can't even explain "why" it's happening and has no idea how to rationalize with this irrational mind set. Calling her a bitch and judging her for it will not remedy it at all as I assure you she does not want to feel this way.
Signed, someone with a degree in PSYCH.
Thank you.
I can sympathize with this mama 100%. It is heart breaking to see how many people think she's an asshole for it.
I do think she should have pulled her daughter from the wedding earlier, but I'm guessing from everyone's reactions that she really didn't feel it was an option. She should have been supported.
As someone who has miscarried and has an anxiety disorder I completely agree with you.
Awesome! We need more mental health professionals to weigh in on this! Thank you! 💖
@@krisdiane She should have been supported, yes. But does that mean, people should give in such an irrational wish as not letting the daughter to the wedding with her father? I bet the girl was excited about beeing a flower girl. Most girls are. Maybe this gitl wasn't. We don't know what the daughter wants. But even for the mother herself it's not healthy to give in her fears, I think. Wouldn't it be better to try to give her the experince of a succesfull seperation from her daughter? Maybe her husband could call her a few times from the wedding to tell her everything is okay with their daughter.
@@tessaritter5339 personally I don't think the mother did the right thing (I don't judge except that it was stupid to post on am I the ah) but if I were in that panic state there is no way I'd be able to let my daughter go without me. I'd be more likely to endure the panic attack and go with her to make sure nothing happened to her. Neither are exactly healthy strategies. But I know personally (everyone has their own strategies) that's what I have to do at pools. I'd rather just never let my daughter in a pool but I don't want her to miss out on life experiences so I endure the anxiety the whole time but she isn't allowed in pools without a dedicated set of eyes for watching only her (preferably me). I'm still letting my anxiety control my actions but it's a better middle ground. If someone tried to take her to the pool without me there I'd have a full blown can't breathe having a heart attack level panic attack even considering saying yes to that.
People! This woman just lost a child, so her anxiety made her feel separation anxiety would over take her if her child wasn't close by. Bride should have had an alternate flower girl ready in the wings. What if the flower girl was herself sick and couldn't be in the wedding?? Would the bride have a melt down over that?!
yes, with how bitchy she was about it
As someone that has suffered a miscarriage and then struggled greatly with being over the top when it came to the safety and location of my neice I was helping to raise at the time, I am 1000% on the mother's side. I hope it never does, but until it happens to you you will never understand the impact it has on you and the completely ridiculous, and trivial things that now become big deals and are affected by the closs despite being completely unrelated to it logically. She lost a child so the children she does still have become a source of fear THAT DOES FADE. What I'm about to say is dark and sounds fucked up, but is 100% true. Children are made by you. When you have a child they become EVERYTHING. You'd die so they live. You'll put yourself through hell to stop them from feeling pain. When they're sick you can't eat, breathe, sleep, think, function, or care about anything but them. It's the worst feeling in the world when you can't make everything okay. So when tragedy hits you go into overdrive making sure tragedy wont hit THEM. Here's the dark part. If you lose your spouse you can heal. You can remarry. You can find love again. You can't replace a lost child and when you do lose a child all you can focus on is not ever losing another no matter the cost.
Yes but the more appropriate reaction would be to get professional help instead of expecting her daughter in her sight 24/7. It's not her feelings that are wrong but certain actions she took. Is she never going to let her daughter out of her sight? Plus, if she couldn't handle it, why wait till the wedding day to pull her daughter out? At the very least, she could have pulled her out earlier.
My husband fed me cake so gently and sweetly, not even a playful dab of frosting on my nose. (I absolutely reciprocated!)
Going through a church wedding and reception was a challenge for him, because he is very shy, and he bravely did it for me.
Needless to say, our kids and I treat him like the King he is.
About the women not waning her daughter to go there: She had severe anxiety, so she was probably fearing that somthing could happen to her girl. Anxiety is not rational. That's probably why she didn't want to let her out of her sight.
Came here to say this. She just miscarried. Her baby died. Why would she be comfortable letting her living child out of her sight?
The point still remains that she is using her daughter as an emotional crutch, rational or not. So the question is, who’s livelihood is more important, hers or her daughters?
I agree. She should apologize to the bride & groom and offer to reimburse them if they really incurred any expenses. But a woman who just lost a child could easily be irrational about a surviving child. She needs therapy but it is not the end of the world for a wedding to not have a flower girl.
My only caveat is no one mention how the child felt about missing the wedding. If the child was devastated, then that is a different story.
@@TribuneAquila I'm sick of seeing people like you I really am people who have never had a miscarriage and will never understand the pain that comes with it I'm not trying to be rude but the amount of people who lack empathy is just sickening
@@TribuneAquila you're assuming it's a pattern of behaviour though, it had happened recently and this is one event. The daughter might literally be 2 and have no idea what is going on. This poor person deserves a bit more support and understanding.
Postpartum Anxiety is so unbelievably scary. I had two miscarriages and was over the top protective of my son. I was scared that I would lose him too. She was in a very bad place but she was not an asshole. She was suffering and her hormones coupled with that grief is unbearable. And her husband calling her names isn't going to help her grieve or recover. What losers she has in her life.
Go simple: a simple wedding with the people you love. Less stress, more fun!! I will never understand why people exaggerate for one day, then they complain if drama arises or if things go wrong. Stay simple!
Something tells me that Charlotte will be a beautiful bride and her wedding will be amazing, cute and very funny just like her. ❤️
And the photographer will be treated like a human being, being paid for his/her service ^^
@@imademonistthingy Exactly! They won't be working for exposure.
They'll throw...mashed potato flakes 😄
Can we come?
i dont think the lady with anxiety did anything wrong. a miscarriage can be very traumatic to an individual. i think she may have developed a sense of over possessiveness over her kids due to her loss of her unborn child. but honestly, no one can be the judge here since mental heath conditions manifest differently for each individual.
yeah, she needs to work on it, it is not a longterm solution to keep the kid with her all the time, but shaming someone for being ill and blaming them for acting irrational in a moment of panic? really people?
The only thing I’ll say is that, while i understand being afraid and have to deal with mental illness, she needs to get help otherwise she will end up inadvertainly hurting her daughter. Pulling her out of the wedding calms her own fears, but how did the daughter feel suddenly being told she can’t go? Will this keep happening when kid gets older? Woman needs help and a better support system.
@@arianewinter4266 Honestly I’m not surprised. That site is riddled with child hating freaks, they’d probably think a miscarriage is a blessing.
My angry ramble aside, the callousness of them has really put a damper on my day.
Yes but the more appropriate reaction would be to get professional help instead of expecting her daughter in her sight 24/7. It's not her feelings that are wrong but certain actions she took. If she couldn't handle it, why wait till the wedding day to pull her daughter out? At the very least, she could have pulled her out earlier. And it's definitely not a long term solution to keep her daughter with her 24/7.
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I think the woman kept her child from the wedding because after the miscarriage she was scared to let any of her babies go. It's not about the husband, it's about trying to keep her baby close and away from any potential harm (mental health can spin your mind into a Web of "what it" moments"
I think for the lady with the anxiety, because she lost her baby, she's on high alert about her other children. I could be wrong, but as a mother of two with several losses, I have more nightmares of losing my girls to random freak accidents. It's something I'm working through, but I can KIND OF understand.
I’ve never had a miscarriage. But I have anxiety & depression. & I totally understand.
I'm sure she didn't have a miscarriage A DAY before the wedding. If she was troubled, she could have informed much earlier. A day before is such an a-hole move. Plus her husband was there. Doesn't she trust him?
@@janninmarie8385 Like @Kim Ladoczky , I've never had a miscarriage, but have anxiety and depression. From the perspective of what it can be like trying to function with those illnesses, this is a completely understandable situation. How long the miscarriage was before the wedding is irrelevant: she was experiencing a mental health crisis at that moment and deserved compassion. The only parties potentially at fault here are the government and health care systems, which provide woefully inadequate treatment for mental illness - that is, if they provide any at at all.
@@janninmarie8385 you prob haven't met someone with anxiety disorder then. Its not like a cold that eventually will pass. Its not like jitters that you'll only feel before an exam. Its literally a mental illness that doesn't have an exact time/place when she'll have an attack. So yes maybe she thought she can let her daughter go but on the day she really can't. Also I agree, the whole wedding procession can go without a flower girl, its not worth it getting a mother distressed the whole time her husband and daughter were at a wedding party.
@@Jha0601 i actually have anxiety. It's tough, but I'm not gonna go on about who's had it worse. I'm just the kind that doesn't want to burden anyone else for it or disappoint those I care about especially if it was my daughter. Imagine that little girl all excited to wear her pretty dress and practicing throwing pretty flowers. The thought of adding stress to my friends (bride/groom), my daughter missing out on a fun experience and my husband disappointed would only cause even more anxiety.
"Is it your baby? Did you rent it?". LMAO. Did they even know there was a baby in there?
4:36 Okayyy, so this may be an unpopular opinion, but here it is. I can understand from the mom's POV of removing her daughter from the wedding as a flower girl...and here's why.. anxiety/panic attacks can make us do irrational things. It's unpredictable and it's extremely difficult to control the wave of emotions that overtakes your body and mind. I have anxiety and panic attacks and had to seek help via therapy and medication. It's under control (for the most part) but if the mother already felt a type of way after having a miscarriage, then I can see how her anxiety would lead her to become overprotective of her daughter. If she felt that there was some danger in some way, it would have caused her to remove her daughter from the wedding. It's really hard to explain this kind of thing because unless you've experienced it, or experienced it to a certain degree, then you're not going to understand. The bride is upset and understandably why, but this OP's husband needs to be more supportive and understanding of his wife. In fact, standing by his wife is the number 1 thing he should have done, regardless of the situation. They are partners in this life and he should be there for her. If he could see how not herself she'd been, he should have tried to help her in some way. Maybe talk to her about getting therapy, going together or something. Showing support in some way. I feel like this is a terrible situation for OP and yeah, it sucks for the bride and groom who no longer have a flower girl...but it's not like it ruined the wedding, either. I'll say it again...unless someone has experienced loss and felt anxiety/panic attacks to this degree, they have no right to judge OP for her actions or behavior. She didn't physically cause harm or create any destruction to anyone's property, etc., so they could chill tf out. Especially the husband. He's the a-hole for not being a man and being there for his wife. I'd NEVER choose friends over my husband. Especially if he's dealing with a mental health issue.
The baby on the dress thing happened a few years ago in my current hometown. Yes, it really did happen, the baby was two weeks old, and belonged to the bride. Not the groom, the bride and a previous paramour. It was considered the epitome of bad taste, but par for the course in my ghetto town. (For the record, Jackson TN, 70 miles east of Memphis.)
Well, as a fellow Tennessean I can honestly say that I have seen worse things at a wedding.
@@tiffanyboyce2562 it doesn't look safe though for the baby
It's not, but in Memphis, I hate to say it, I'm not surprised. Safety is not at the forefront of certain peoples minds, and IMO if they don't care about the Safety of their children they shouldn't reproduce. But it is what it is.
@@tiffanyboyce2562 Can you describe some
of the worse things? Sorry for being nosey I’m just interested to hear what could possibly be worse lol
Well, the mother of the bride was making a speech and decided it would be the best time to say that the bride was her biggest disappointment and that the groom made a mistake for not choosing her over the bride when he had the chance. And yes unfortunately this was my own family...
Honeyboo-thang. I had a cheap backyard wedding. Did my own makeup, only slightly put up my hair and changed out of my dress for the cake cutting knowing full well I was gonna get it back after shmashing it in my husband's face. Me, my mother, and my nephew baked it the night before only for it to be up my nose and in my ears the next day. It was the best part of the wedding for the guests. Not everyone drops a car payment on hair and makeup. ❤️
Wedding should be a celebration, small or big, not a fucking oscar's event It should be for the couple and the fam and friends, they should eat drink and party...I love how your weddings sounds. Cheers to that!
Some of these absolutely kill me!! My entire wedding, food, dress for bride, MOH, MOB, flower girl, groom's and best man's a tire, and venue rental we had the ceremony and reception was all less than $1000. My wedding dress was $26 I git it from a store I loved to shop at and it was very pretty. I live in a very small town and I could not imagine the audacity of some of the people in your videos!! I'm not saying it doesn't go on around here but thankfully I've never been invited to any of these weddings
I totally agree. when dealing with Postpartum, A miscarriage or Postpartum Psychosis there is a lot of gray there and often survival instances like "I have a bad feeling about this" or even instinctual premonition kicks in. It can be justified or not but to a neurodivergent mind that is irrelevant, in that moment it makes perfect sense. Case in point I am a horror junkie, International, slasher, post apocalyptic, psychological, you name it I am into it. When my daughter was a new born and I was stuck at home after a hard birth dealing with postpartum and clinical depression, Her dad rented me some DVD's to watch since I was stuck in bed most of the day. One was a zombie flick, the at the time new Dawn of the Dead. If anyone has seen it you know the 1st person you see as a zombie is the like 8 year old neighbor girl. So thank to irrational fear, and literally not being in my right mind, guess who developed a crippeling phobia of the zombie apocalypse? Do I know it is fake, totally. Do I know there is no way on heaven or earth that the dead can be reanimated- for sure. Did it take 3 very large grown men to pry my 3 week old out of my hands from inside a walk in closet cause I knew zombies were going to kill us... Absolutly. That was almost 19 years ago.... I still can't go anywhere there is a zombie run around halloween, I still have nightmares, I still love the horror genre, but every now and again I want to stock pile food and board up my house to keep my kids safe. There really is no explaining irrational out bursts to a neurotypical brain. To us in the moment they are very real and very logical and are going to happen even if the logical part of our mind knows we are full of it.
3:03 isn't it about separation anxiety? The mom had a miscarriage and the way she reacted seems to me as if she fears to lose her daughter as well if she's not near her or their home. I'm glad she noticed her anxiety, but please, if you notice something like this about yourself, search for help instead of dragging others down the road as well. The comment at 4:52 is exactly what I mean.
My mom developed a panic disorder in 2019 and my brother and I (both around 20 years old) had to sleep in the living room with her, because she needed us to be near her. I had to almost FORCE her to finally get some help.
Edit: I didn't mean to judge the mother in the video. Mental illnesses are VERY complicated and can affect the surrounding as well. If you never been affected by mental problems, but encounter someone who has problems, please try to empathize with them and educate yourself. Even though I've wrote "please search for help", it's not easy to look for help. Offer them your help. After I understood my mother's disorder it was "easier" for me to handle it and after we found help, it got better. It might be a tough time, but if you actively try to solve whatever problem, it will get better.
Yeah my mom let her anxiety pop up all over my and my siblings childhood. It only helped us to develop our own anxiety and mental illness. I won't pass it on to my kids
@@breerea9928 “let” her anxiety pop up? If, indeed, you have the same issues now… you should understand that you don’t just “let” it pop up.
Looked like the mom had just recently gone through the miscarriage. And, she should get help with coping. In time, and with therapy, her anxiety should dissipate. But, until she can go through therapy, the people, who supposedly love and care about her, should give her time to come to terms with her loss. The thought that the woman’s mental state is disregarded so that her little girl can throw flowers on the ground seems ridiculous. In reality, most details of your wedding don’t matter when looking back on it. But, disregarding your friends mental health sure does matter to the friend who just got shit on. The bride and the husband are both assholes, honestly.
@@magnoliasunshine5147 this.
@@magnoliasunshine5147 this!!!
Who even takes wedding pics in front of urinals? Lmaoo.
I wonder if there is some story behind this. Perhaps the couple first met when one of them barged in on the other at the urinal?
Is it a Canadian thing to call port-a-potty/mobile toilets urinals? Because they aren't urinals
She was incorrect, they are not urinals...
Those aren't urinals 😂
Those are obviously port-a-pottys. Urinals are inside men"s bathrooms.
The drink thing with the coffee truck etc.: What is wrong with people nowadays? Don't they understand what 'guest' means? You are INVITING your GUESTS to whatever event you are planning! That means YOU are paying for everything! If you don't have the budget for that, then don't throw parties that are out of your league! Do something smaller in your backyard with homecooked meals and iced tea instead of renting the Buckingham Palace or the Guggenheim museum with prestige cuvée champagne and beluga caviar! I will never understand that. Guests are guests and not customers!
For the one about keeping the daughter from the wedding: I assume the reasoning behind it is after having a miscarriage that grief and loss can make it to where you are afraid your other children will be taken from you as well. I don't think she's an asshole, I think she is scared and grieving and should be allowed a little consideration.