My dad was a psychiatrist who couldn’t counsel on the spiritual working for the state, but if he suspected the problem was spiritual, he invited them into our home while we were banished to our bedrooms. There are many who have told me he saved their lives and brought them into the Church. I loved that about him.
Would love to have him speak on ADHD. I got myself diagnosed... a third time... as an adult and I now understand that it makes life unbelievably difficult. Between the working memory issues, the tension in relationships and my brain just not getting in gear for things like prayer, I search daily for some useful information and there's just nothing available for ADHD from a Catholic perspective.
I would also love to hear what he has to say about it. My sister was recently diagnosed as an adult, along with PTSD. I’m not sure where to go to look for ways to help her and understand what she’s going through.
I spent time with a Catholic therapist after my husband died suddenly and traumatically. The therapist was *amazing*... I felt he truly understood how my faith applied to my turmoil. Wish there were more like him, readily available. Also went through the miscarriage dystopia. Thank you.
I'd like to preface this comment that as a mum of 13 kids, I've never tracked my kids as is described here. But I've ALWAYS tried to teach my children how important it is for teens and adults to develop the habit of ALWAYS letting their roommates know where they are going and expected time of return. Sonif living at home the same goes. Tell Mum n Dad where you are going to be (more or less) and expected time of return. I've done this for reasons of safety. There is a known incident here in NC where college roommates knew when one of the roommates did not return - she had broken her routine, and she was reported missing. This saved her life. So I'm afraid I must respectfully disagree with Dr B about teens telling parents after the fact where they have been. Tell your parents, your spouse, your roommates where you are going, and more or less when to expect you back. It might save your life. They don't need every gritty detail, but expected time of return is very important. GREAT SHOW already shared it with a friend.
I'm currently in school to be a counselor and I've often wondered how I was going to reconcile my Catholic faith and my profession. This is my introduction to Dr. Breuninger, but listening to him talk to Matt gives me hope that someday I can work in a less purely secular context while staying in the mental health field. Excellent conversation.
My husband and I just discovered I am pregnant a week ago. We are very happy, but I'm having a hard time fully embracing joy because I have this underlying fear of miscarriage. I'm afraid to get attached to the baby because I know it's possible I'll lose the baby... I just keep praying about it.
This is absolutely normal. My heart goes out to you. I felt the same way throughout my next pregnancy. I was surprised to find out that anxiety stayed with me a bit until he was about 4 months old. Then I felt I could finally breathe again. Hugs.
Thank God for you both and this show. I miscarried our first child at 9 weeks. It was missed, so I didn’t know our baby had died until we went in for our first ultrasound hoping to hear a heartbeat that wasn’t there. My husband was much like you, Matt, in that it didn’t really affect him. I did feel alone but couldn’t fault him. So glad this was discussed!!!
I needed this today! My 6 year old won't stop sniffing (it's become something of a tick, Lord help me) and my 14 month old is having A DAY. This helps keep things in perspective and keeps me hopeful instead of pessimistic about my parenting. Thank you!
Thank you for these discussions on parenting as Catholics. It was very helpful! There is a great need for discussions on family life, marriage and parenting in a Catholic sense. Please do more! God bless
This is such a great discussion! The reminder about disciplining small children is so helpful as I help to raise my grandson. God bless the young mother with her busy son. It goes by quickly!
Everything this man says speaks truth over my life. He’s so amazing! Thank you Dr. Breuninger for answering the call to serve us at the seek conference!
I hate when episodes with Dr. Matt B end. saddest part of my day. Amazing episode as always, need like 17 more hours to be fully healed of my traumas. :) thanks for having him back, he's my fav guest of PwA
I absolutely love this guy. Thanks be to God for him and his work. Thank you Dr. for all of your wisdom and insight. Much of what you have said has helped me in my journey to healing and freedom.
Re: all we need is confession: Therapy might also be what I need but I can't afford it. So God has allowed me to heal and grow through frequent confession. Praise be to God!
Dr. Breuninger you were awesome at SEEK! Mine and my friends favorite talk. Thank you! Also about the priests who were tonsured, I went up to one and told him I loved his hair because I thought it was awesome…lol
This was such a helpful and beautiful talk! I immediately bought dr. Breuningers book. That pilgrimage sounds like such a beautiful and healing idea! ❤
Have to admit, the interview started off a little slow and I had to come back to it a few days later. But so glad I did! After that sudden break around 30 minutes in the whole dynamic changed, especially when you guys started talking about parenting. I think maybe starting with the more relatable, common topics at the beginning would've warmed him up a little before going straight into the hard topics of spiritual attacks, gender dysphoria, and miscarriage right off the bat. Great interview Matt!
If I am talking to bereaved parents, I will never ever say, "If there is anything I can do, just let me know." When one is in grief, while those offers are well-meaning, a more concrete action plan is deeply needed and appreciated. After our son was stillborn, a friend came over and took ALL our family laundry, washed/dried/folded it, and brought it back to us. Love in action right there. Another idea: make dinner once a week for a month for the family. Or, take the kids every week for three hours so Mom/Dad can rest and process and be still in their grieving. There are SO many ways to respond that are more helpful than "Let me know how I can help." Figure out a way to help and then do that. Also recommend naming baby, no matter how long/short the pregnancy. When interacting with bereaved parents, using baby’s name is valued as is remembering a due date, deathversary date, etc. Enjoyed your talk at SEEK23, Dr. B, and I look forward to digging in to your book!
Hey, glad you enjoyed the talk and hope you enjoy the book. Thanks for your thoughts and your shared experience. I think there can be more certainly be more helpful responses, but in my experience and numerous conversations with folks who are grieving, the process is so varied and unique to the person, and couple that people sometimes feel resentful, impressed upon, or rushed if you decide how to help them, for them. I find that the question I mentioned gives the couple autonomy and time, while still showing care and interest. But, I think your ultimate point is right. Love is a concrete action, not a mere sentiment or thought. We should be ready to do real work to support those who are grieving (if and when they desire it).
Great talk both Matt’s! Really appreciate for hosting and particularly discerning the mental and spiritual issues. Im going to bring this to our men’s group, God bless your work.
Please speak on Fr. Chad Ripperger’s Introductions to the Science of Mental Health. Would love to hear both of your thoughts on his important points from the literature!
Could you do an episode on what is considered to be a ‘grave’ enough reason to postpone or avoid pregnancy? I love your content. Especially your episodes that have to do with healing, psychology and mental health. I’m a young(ish) Catholic mom (converted 2 years ago) and was recently diagnosed with Bipolar 2 disorder. I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety since I was 12. My mood swings became severe during pregnancy and amplified even more postpartum. I suffer a lot in pregnancy and postpartum due to my disorder. I just began medication and am feeling much better, however, sleep deprivation can trigger episodes for me. As you know, sleep deprivation is very common for parents of young kids/babies. I accept the Church’s teaching on contraception and practice NFP. However, I am very nervous to conceive again anytime soon. I worry that my mental health will take another giant hit. Bipolar women are much more likely to be hospitalized during the postpartum phase. In general, we have a high percentage of and are at greater risk of suicide compared to the rest of the population. Does God expect me to suffer in this way for the rest of my childbearing years? Should I trust that He will give me the grace to birth and care for more children? Or, am I to be prudent and limit the number of children I have for the sake of mg mental health and the wellbeing of my family?
Prayers for your difficult situation 🙏🏻 perhaps it would be wise for you to seek out a therapist or someone who has the credentials to be a professional form of support in your life, after speaking to a good spiritual director about the moral implications of wanting to postpone pregnancy in your situation, who can help you create a plan for when you do want to get pregnant again. I think in your situation it is not a sin to be wanting to postpone, because it is sufficiently grave (don’t take my word for it though, find a good priest to talk to), but if you would like to continue having children eventually it might be useful to discuss with a professional what measures could be taken to make the experience more conducive to your mental health in the future. For example, realistically discussing budgets and saving up money to be able to afford a “postpartum doula” or some kind of support person who could help you with night feedings, and waiting until you can financially afford help before having another child. Or perhaps seeing how much your husband could help at night and maybe investing in a large freezer to store pre-cooked meals. Basically get creative and see what it would take to make things more comfortable for you and then seeing how much time it would take to be able to put such measures in place so you can safely have more children. And of course having someone to follow up with you on your mental health throughout the pregnancy and postpartum. Definitely also would help to discuss details and expectations with your husband in terms of mutual support etc.
Thanks for your your kind and thoughtful response 😊 I just started therapy again and will be getting spiritual direction for the first time this month. I would definitely need a lot of support if we do have another child (right now we have 2). I don’t think we could afford a PP doula as we’re living off of 1 income and are still paying off debt. The sleep deprivation is the toughest part for me. I love breastfeeding but it has taken a huge toll on my sleep. I want my babies to have all of the benefits of breastfeeding but it makes it really tough to get sleep at night for the first few months. We do have meal trains set up for us which is great. My biggest issue is just getting sleep. I know fed is best but I also love the bonding experience of breastfeeding.
@@alexmallet8162 unless you have a robust support system in place then I think what you described is a valid reason for child spacing. Remember that NFP is not "never". It's a cycle by cycle discussion of the circumstances. As for the nervousness, make sure you have an instructor for your method of NFP that you can speak with when you have questions. NFP done by the seat of ones pants, so to speak, is much more likely to create strife bc you aren't sure of the parameters and green or red days. I have a condition in pregnancy that hospitalizes me and makes me unable to function for 6+ months - and it would be imprudent for me to basically leave my children without their mother for that period, on top of the physical toll on my body from this condition. So we use NFP and carry that cross of limiting our family size. It is a cross for many of us, and it's okay to say that.
I am curious - were you on birth control prior at all? Before I was Catholic (~ 2018) I was on birth control and it caused terrible depression, mood swings and anxiety. It took many years (literally just last year) for my hormones to balance out again. I’m wondering if your body has hormonal imbalance and pregnancy is even harder on it. I’m just speculating but maybe look into balancing your hormones. There are natural supplements to take and foods to avoid that help greatly.. continue to pray on it ❤
We as Catholics are generally about first using the "normal means" when it comes to healing. What Dr. B. mentions about what (little) we know about the brain showing new ways we can help each other heal seems simply to be God making new "normal means" available to us thru the search for Truth proper to the scientific method. Behold, He's doing a new thing.
Thursday killing it! Yeah this guest was good ... but that commercial in the middle! Come on wow! Stuff like that is even more reason I'll be frequenting Pints.
The place of therapy within the Catholic tradition needs careful articulation. Therapy has largely been designed to replace priests and confession. But I believe there is a place for Catholic therapists if they are in harmony with Church teachings.
What to do when spiritual directors and faith don't work. This happened to me. I found out I wss spiritualizing something "normal". Moreover,I suggest if you could talk about spiritual bypassing".
@mattfradd Off topic but recently NSW State Premier Dom Perottet (Opus Dei Catholic) said he abolished vaccine mandates for fire fighters in NSW but understands these covid vaccine mandates need to be in place for health workers. Now, the situation in NSW is ALL health workers must have at least 2 jabs and the third jab they say is not "mandated" however if you apply for a job in healthcare without the third jab then you'll be the least preferred applicant, basically won't get a job without the 3rd jab. Patients can be unvaccinated, up to 5 visitors can visit a patient in hospital at a time(regardless of vaccine status). Potentially on a 20 bed ward. There could be 120 unvaccinated people there which begs the question why can't unvaccinated health workers cannot work there. This is against God's people. Men who wish to provide for their families are not able to work due to mandates. Can you please organize a debate on this matter. Possibly the most impactful issue in the western world this decade. How can we continue as if nothing happened when those who chose to not take a medication remain out of work and unable to work in their profession they dedicated years to. Imagine if 10% of priests were fired due to vaccine mandates it would be scandalous. This has happened to the fathers of the home the St. Josephs of the domestic church yet we carry on as if nothing happened. Please use your platform to challenge these ideas and have open dialogue regarding this issue. Your show is the best at presenting opposing ideas and giving the people food for thought. St. Joseph, Ora pro nobis. Immaculate mother ora pro nobis. Christus Jesu Miserere nobis.
Thank you both for this video, I really appreciate it. However, I have to respectfully say that i thought it could have been explained better how to determine if demonic attacks are the cause of a problem, especially since Matt has had Exorcist Fr. Lampert on. If a mental health professional isn't familiar with identifying the differences, then they to be educated by an Exorcist. Msgr. Rossetti is both a Psychologist and an Exorcist, and after several decade's has become proficient at determining which cause is the root of the problem.
I have tried to listen to a few episodes of your channel, I always switch off as the intro is just too long. If you just cut your the chase and get into it, it would be a lot more engaging from the beginning.
Therapist are overwhelmed and it’s very hard to find one and them to even see you once a week. And that’s Catholic therapy! Finding one in your city that is Catholic as well is difficult. You are only in OH. My daughter is on year 2 and 3 therapist later. And as always it’s the parents fault 🙄
They with ears to hear, let them hear: Through the Holy Spirit, God has put it on me to preach to those lost in the devil's deceit! Hear me when I say, ye that are Catholic have been deceived and know not God. Ye worship Mary, praying to her; when God tells his to worship none other than him. It is idolatry. Catholicism has its own Bible and teachings, which are blasphemous to the word of God: the Holy Bible. As ye follow the teachings of man and not God; ye hear the pope, but not Jesus, yet ye claim to be his disciples! These are but a few things I named ye dwell within; there are many more. I tell you now to repent of your sins, accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, and you'll receive the gift of the Holy Spirit upon asking the Father! There are *NO* sub-divisions of Christianity. You're either a disciple of Christ or not. A Christian is someone who follows God's word, not a religion. Who obey the Father and follow his will; not man's nor their own heart's. Unless you keep Jesus' commandments, think not the Holy Spirit will dwell within you! They who heed this message and did what was stated with an open heart to God... Read the Holy Bible (KJV) daily and every time before you read, pray to the Father and ask: "Lord I ask that you give me understanding of your word, that I interpret it the way you want me to, and none of my own. I ask you in Jesus' name, amen." Revelation 22:8-9 KJV 8 And I John saw these things, and heard them. And when I had heard and seen, I fell down to worship before the feet of the angel which shewed me these things. 9 Then saith he unto me, See thou do it not: for I am thy fellowservant, and of thy brethren the prophets, and of them which keep the sayings of this book: worship God. Acts 2:38 KJV 38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost. Luke 11:13 KJV 13 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him? John 14:21-24 KJV 21 *He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.* 22 Judas saith unto him, not Iscariot, Lord, how is it that thou wilt manifest thyself unto us, and not unto the world? 23 Jesus answered and said unto him, *If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.* 24 He that loveth me not keepeth not my sayings: and *the word which ye hear is not mine, but the Father's which sent me.* 3 John 1:11 KJV 11 Beloved, follow not that which is evil, but that which is good. *He that doeth good is of God: but he that doeth evil hath not seen God.* 1 John 3:6-10 KJV 6 *Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him.* 7 Little children, let no man deceive you: *he that doeth righteousness is righteous, even as he is righteous.* 8 He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil. 9 *Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.* 10 *In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God,* neither he that loveth not his brother.
I second this idea of a religious order that offers faith-based therapy. I have nothing to contribute whatsoever besides my enthusiasm and prayers.
Name it the Congregation of Stella Maris, because our Lady helps us to navigate these dangerous seas of life.
Such a good idea!!!❤
My dad was a psychiatrist who couldn’t counsel on the spiritual working for the state, but if he suspected the problem was spiritual, he invited them into our home while we were banished to our bedrooms. There are many who have told me he saved their lives and brought them into the Church. I loved that about him.
Would love to have him speak on ADHD. I got myself diagnosed... a third time... as an adult and I now understand that it makes life unbelievably difficult.
Between the working memory issues, the tension in relationships and my brain just not getting in gear for things like prayer, I search daily for some useful information and there's just nothing available for ADHD from a Catholic perspective.
I would also love to hear what he has to say about it. My sister was recently diagnosed as an adult, along with PTSD. I’m not sure where to go to look for ways to help her and understand what she’s going through.
I spent time with a Catholic therapist after my husband died suddenly and traumatically. The therapist was *amazing*... I felt he truly understood how my faith applied to my turmoil. Wish there were more like him, readily available.
Also went through the miscarriage dystopia. Thank you.
An order of priests, sisters, or other religious devoted to healing and therapy would be an enormous blessing to the Church🙏
Totally
I'd like to preface this comment that as a mum of 13 kids, I've never tracked my kids as is described here. But I've ALWAYS tried to teach my children how important it is for teens and adults to develop the habit of ALWAYS letting their roommates know where they are going and expected time of return. Sonif living at home the same goes. Tell Mum n Dad where you are going to be (more or less) and expected time of return. I've done this for reasons of safety. There is a known incident here in NC where college roommates knew when one of the roommates did not return - she had broken her routine, and she was reported missing. This saved her life.
So I'm afraid I must respectfully disagree with Dr B about teens telling parents after the fact where they have been. Tell your parents, your spouse, your roommates where you are going, and more or less when to expect you back. It might save your life. They don't need every gritty detail, but expected time of return is very important. GREAT SHOW already shared it with a friend.
His barber should get a raise, my man lined it up with a ruler
I'm currently in school to be a counselor and I've often wondered how I was going to reconcile my Catholic faith and my profession. This is my introduction to Dr. Breuninger, but listening to him talk to Matt gives me hope that someday I can work in a less purely secular context while staying in the mental health field. Excellent conversation.
My husband and I just discovered I am pregnant a week ago. We are very happy, but I'm having a hard time fully embracing joy because I have this underlying fear of miscarriage. I'm afraid to get attached to the baby because I know it's possible I'll lose the baby... I just keep praying about it.
May Mother Mary intercede for you, that you may have peace of mind. Amen
This is absolutely normal. My heart goes out to you. I felt the same way throughout my next pregnancy. I was surprised to find out that anxiety stayed with me a bit until he was about 4 months old. Then I felt I could finally breathe again. Hugs.
Good gracious the patience and wisdom this man imbues is simply inspirational
As a toddler teacher I very much appreciate the segment on toddlers 😊❤️
Thank God for you both and this show. I miscarried our first child at 9 weeks. It was missed, so I didn’t know our baby had died until we went in for our first ultrasound hoping to hear a heartbeat that wasn’t there. My husband was much like you, Matt, in that it didn’t really affect him. I did feel alone but couldn’t fault him. So glad this was discussed!!!
I needed this today! My 6 year old won't stop sniffing (it's become something of a tick, Lord help me) and my 14 month old is having A DAY. This helps keep things in perspective and keeps me hopeful instead of pessimistic about my parenting. Thank you!
I love Dr. Breuninger! I will watch every future episode of Pints featuring him. High quality guest!
He has such a calming voice. 😌
He is devoid of any genuine affect. Very artificially constricted.
@@johntobey1558 Why do you say that? 🤔
@@johntobey1558 Ouch (said in a constricted way devoid of feeling). But seriously, come on my pilgrimage and I’ll cry in front of you.
Thank you for these discussions on parenting as Catholics. It was very helpful!
There is a great need for discussions on family life, marriage and parenting in a Catholic sense.
Please do more!
God bless
This is such a great discussion! The reminder about disciplining small children is so helpful as I help to raise my grandson. God bless the young mother with her busy son. It goes by quickly!
It was great to see you at SEEK dr B! You too Matt, we met briefly in the dome right before Fr. Mikes talk on work
Gosh, you could only have Dr Breuninger on as a guest and no one else!! So amazing!
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 months now and I’m gonna try to get her to listen to this as much as I do 😄
Everything this man says speaks truth over my life. He’s so amazing! Thank you Dr. Breuninger for answering the call to serve us at the seek conference!
I hate when episodes with Dr. Matt B end. saddest part of my day. Amazing episode as always, need like 17 more hours to be fully healed of my traumas. :) thanks for having him back, he's my fav guest of PwA
I absolutely love this guy. Thanks be to God for him and his work. Thank you Dr. for all of your wisdom and insight. Much of what you have said has helped me in my journey to healing and freedom.
What a great conversation. PWA is an absolute blessing
Re: all we need is confession:
Therapy might also be what I need but I can't afford it. So God has allowed me to heal and grow through frequent confession. Praise be to God!
Oh You Guys are speaking truth! God bless!!!
Fantastic! God bless you Dr Breuniger & Matt, we need more of this, it's sooo good & helpful in Christ & with Him.
Dr. Breuninger you were awesome at SEEK! Mine and my friends favorite talk. Thank you! Also about the priests who were tonsured, I went up to one and told him I loved his hair because I thought it was awesome…lol
This was such a helpful and beautiful talk! I immediately bought dr. Breuningers book. That pilgrimage sounds like such a beautiful and healing idea! ❤
Have to admit, the interview started off a little slow and I had to come back to it a few days later. But so glad I did! After that sudden break around 30 minutes in the whole dynamic changed, especially when you guys started talking about parenting. I think maybe starting with the more relatable, common topics at the beginning would've warmed him up a little before going straight into the hard topics of spiritual attacks, gender dysphoria, and miscarriage right off the bat. Great interview Matt!
Can we make these a regular thing? Like monthly or bimonthly? Such a fan of Dr. Breuninger and his wisdom!
The 40 mins- 1 hour chat was amazing!
If I am talking to bereaved parents, I will never ever say, "If there is anything I can do, just let me know." When one is in grief, while those offers are well-meaning, a more concrete action plan is deeply needed and appreciated. After our son was stillborn, a friend came over and took ALL our family laundry, washed/dried/folded it, and brought it back to us. Love in action right there.
Another idea: make dinner once a week for a month for the family. Or, take the kids every week for three hours so Mom/Dad can rest and process and be still in their grieving.
There are SO many ways to respond that are more helpful than "Let me know how I can help."
Figure out a way to help and then do that.
Also recommend naming baby, no matter how long/short the pregnancy.
When interacting with bereaved parents, using baby’s name is valued as is remembering a due date, deathversary date, etc.
Enjoyed your talk at SEEK23, Dr. B, and I look forward to digging in to your book!
Hey, glad you enjoyed the talk and hope you enjoy the book. Thanks for your thoughts and your shared experience. I think there can be more certainly be more helpful responses, but in my experience and numerous conversations with folks who are grieving, the process is so varied and unique to the person, and couple that people sometimes feel resentful, impressed upon, or rushed if you decide how to help them, for them. I find that the question I mentioned gives the couple autonomy and time, while still showing care and interest. But, I think your ultimate point is right. Love is a concrete action, not a mere sentiment or thought. We should be ready to do real work to support those who are grieving (if and when they desire it).
Such good advice!!!❤
Those last 15 minutes were so great to hear, been dealing with boundaries with an inlaw that refuses to respect them
i love Mr. Dr. Matt Breuninger!
Great talk both Matt’s! Really appreciate for hosting and particularly discerning the mental and spiritual issues. Im going to bring this to our men’s group, God bless your work.
I Love It when Dr Matthew Brueinger
Comes on he's my Favourite
listening to Mr Brueninger reminds me of being hugged by a loved one
Please speak on Fr. Chad Ripperger’s Introductions to the Science of Mental Health. Would love to hear both of your thoughts on his important points from the literature!
Could you do an episode on what is considered to be a ‘grave’ enough reason to postpone or avoid pregnancy? I love your content. Especially your episodes that have to do with healing, psychology and mental health. I’m a young(ish) Catholic mom (converted 2 years ago) and was recently diagnosed with Bipolar 2 disorder. I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety since I was 12. My mood swings became severe during pregnancy and amplified even more postpartum.
I suffer a lot in pregnancy and postpartum due to my disorder. I just began medication and am feeling much better, however, sleep deprivation can trigger episodes for me. As you know, sleep deprivation is very common for parents of young kids/babies. I accept the Church’s teaching on contraception and practice NFP. However, I am very nervous to conceive again anytime soon. I worry that my mental health will take another giant hit. Bipolar women are much more likely to be hospitalized during the postpartum phase. In general, we have a high percentage of and are at greater risk of suicide compared to the rest of the population.
Does God expect me to suffer in this way for the rest of my childbearing years? Should I trust that He will give me the grace to birth and care for more children? Or, am I to be prudent and limit the number of children I have for the sake of mg mental health and the wellbeing of my family?
Prayers for your difficult situation 🙏🏻 perhaps it would be wise for you to seek out a therapist or someone who has the credentials to be a professional form of support in your life, after speaking to a good spiritual director about the moral implications of wanting to postpone pregnancy in your situation, who can help you create a plan for when you do want to get pregnant again. I think in your situation it is not a sin to be wanting to postpone, because it is sufficiently grave (don’t take my word for it though, find a good priest to talk to), but if you would like to continue having children eventually it might be useful to discuss with a professional what measures could be taken to make the experience more conducive to your mental health in the future. For example, realistically discussing budgets and saving up money to be able to afford a “postpartum doula” or some kind of support person who could help you with night feedings, and waiting until you can financially afford help before having another child. Or perhaps seeing how much your husband could help at night and maybe investing in a large freezer to store pre-cooked meals. Basically get creative and see what it would take to make things more comfortable for you and then seeing how much time it would take to be able to put such measures in place so you can safely have more children. And of course having someone to follow up with you on your mental health throughout the pregnancy and postpartum. Definitely also would help to discuss details and expectations with your husband in terms of mutual support etc.
I understand these measures are expensive. I don’t think I could afford them myself. 🫤
Thanks for your your kind and thoughtful response 😊 I just started therapy again and will be getting spiritual direction for the first time this month. I would definitely need a lot of support if we do have another child (right now we have 2). I don’t think we could afford a PP doula as we’re living off of 1 income and are still paying off debt. The sleep deprivation is the toughest part for me. I love breastfeeding but it has taken a huge toll on my sleep. I want my babies to have all of the benefits of breastfeeding but it makes it really tough to get sleep at night for the first few months. We do have meal trains set up for us which is great. My biggest issue is just getting sleep. I know fed is best but I also love the bonding experience of breastfeeding.
@@alexmallet8162 unless you have a robust support system in place then I think what you described is a valid reason for child spacing. Remember that NFP is not "never". It's a cycle by cycle discussion of the circumstances. As for the nervousness, make sure you have an instructor for your method of NFP that you can speak with when you have questions. NFP done by the seat of ones pants, so to speak, is much more likely to create strife bc you aren't sure of the parameters and green or red days.
I have a condition in pregnancy that hospitalizes me and makes me unable to function for 6+ months - and it would be imprudent for me to basically leave my children without their mother for that period, on top of the physical toll on my body from this condition. So we use NFP and carry that cross of limiting our family size. It is a cross for many of us, and it's okay to say that.
I am curious - were you on birth control prior at all? Before I was Catholic (~ 2018) I was on birth control and it caused terrible depression, mood swings and anxiety. It took many years (literally just last year) for my hormones to balance out again. I’m wondering if your body has hormonal imbalance and pregnancy is even harder on it. I’m just speculating but maybe look into balancing your hormones. There are natural supplements to take and foods to avoid that help greatly.. continue to pray on it ❤
And yes guage your parenting and caregiving on your showing up and a daily examination of conscience. So good
We as Catholics are generally about first using the "normal means" when it comes to healing. What Dr. B. mentions about what (little) we know about the brain showing new ways we can help each other heal seems simply to be God making new "normal means" available to us thru the search for Truth proper to the scientific method. Behold, He's doing a new thing.
Please more episodes with Dr. Matt!!
Great job!!
looking forward to this. your other conversations with him were really helpful
He sorta looks like Thiery Henry, love this guy so much, he should have a regular feature!!
Watching from Nova Scotia, Canada!
I just watched an interview of your wife and a therapist and now I'm watching an interview of you and a therapist.
So they've reached the 6minute mark without "a hundred %"
Now I can calm down and enjoy the rest of it😂
As a three-year-old, I approve this message.
Sending love from Pennsylvania!!
I expected a lot of "HUNDRED PERCENT" and I was not disappointed ;)
Thursday killing it!
Yeah this guest was good ... but that commercial in the middle! Come on wow!
Stuff like that is even more reason I'll be frequenting Pints.
Matt, what you said about Theophostic[sp?] Prayer sounds exactly like Inner Healing.
Would Dr Breuninger rather fight 100 duck-sized Matt Fradd's, or 1 Matt Fradd-sized duck?
The place of therapy within the Catholic tradition needs careful articulation. Therapy has largely been designed to replace priests and confession. But I believe there is a place for Catholic therapists if they are in harmony with Church teachings.
What to do when spiritual directors and faith don't work.
This happened to me.
I found out I wss spiritualizing something "normal".
Moreover,I suggest if you could talk about spiritual bypassing".
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Off topic but recently NSW State Premier Dom Perottet (Opus Dei Catholic) said he abolished vaccine mandates for fire fighters in NSW but understands these covid vaccine mandates need to be in place for health workers.
Now, the situation in NSW is ALL health workers must have at least 2 jabs and the third jab they say is not "mandated" however if you apply for a job in healthcare without the third jab then you'll be the least preferred applicant, basically won't get a job without the 3rd jab.
Patients can be unvaccinated, up to 5 visitors can visit a patient in hospital at a time(regardless of vaccine status). Potentially on a 20 bed ward. There could be 120 unvaccinated people there which begs the question why can't unvaccinated health workers cannot work there.
This is against God's people. Men who wish to provide for their families are not able to work due to mandates. Can you please organize a debate on this matter. Possibly the most impactful issue in the western world this decade. How can we continue as if nothing happened when those who chose to not take a medication remain out of work and unable to work in their profession they dedicated years to.
Imagine if 10% of priests were fired due to vaccine mandates it would be scandalous. This has happened to the fathers of the home the St. Josephs of the domestic church yet we carry on as if nothing happened.
Please use your platform to challenge these ideas and have open dialogue regarding this issue. Your show is the best at presenting opposing ideas and giving the people food for thought.
St. Joseph, Ora pro nobis.
Immaculate mother ora pro nobis.
Christus Jesu Miserere nobis.
We are the only parents that we know who don't track their kids. We never did, even in high school, it's always been creepy to me.
Thank you both for this video, I really appreciate it. However, I have to respectfully say that i thought it could have been explained better how to determine if demonic attacks are the cause of a problem, especially since Matt has had Exorcist Fr. Lampert on. If a mental health professional isn't familiar with identifying the differences, then they to be educated by an Exorcist. Msgr. Rossetti is both a Psychologist and an Exorcist, and after several decade's has become proficient at determining which cause is the root of the problem.
Thought it was Thierry Henry for a moment....
26:25 this is not an uncut conversation. Interesting. I deluded myself.
There is a cut in the episode it's not there 🤣🤣
Edit: kinda funny tho
Matt needs to address the issues with the church's cover-ups and and for a fun topic his thoughts on the 112 pope prophecy
Technology is ok to give to kids if you just make thescreensaver of the sacred heart 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
If I can behind a human sized duck I feel like I would be alright.... I am not sure he considered poo as a weapon.
I have tried to listen to a few episodes of your channel, I always switch off as the intro is just too long. If you just cut your the chase and get into it, it would be a lot more engaging from the beginning.
Therapist are overwhelmed and it’s very hard to find one and them to even see you once a week. And that’s Catholic therapy! Finding one in your city that is Catholic as well is difficult. You are only in OH. My daughter is on year 2 and 3 therapist later. And as always it’s the parents fault 🙄
They with ears to hear, let them hear:
Through the Holy Spirit, God has put it on me to preach to those lost in the devil's deceit!
Hear me when I say, ye that are Catholic have been deceived and know not God. Ye worship Mary, praying to her; when God tells his to worship none other than him. It is idolatry.
Catholicism has its own Bible and teachings, which are blasphemous to the word of God: the Holy Bible. As ye follow the teachings of man and not God; ye hear the pope, but not Jesus, yet ye claim to be his disciples!
These are but a few things I named ye dwell within; there are many more. I tell you now to repent of your sins, accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, and you'll receive the gift of the Holy Spirit upon asking the Father!
There are *NO* sub-divisions of Christianity. You're either a disciple of Christ or not. A Christian is someone who follows God's word, not a religion. Who obey the Father and follow his will; not man's nor their own heart's. Unless you keep Jesus' commandments, think not the Holy Spirit will dwell within you!
They who heed this message and did what was stated with an open heart to God...
Read the Holy Bible (KJV) daily and every time before you read, pray to the Father and ask:
"Lord I ask that you give me understanding of your word, that I interpret it the way you want me to, and none of my own. I ask you in Jesus' name, amen."
Revelation 22:8-9 KJV
8 And I John saw these things, and heard them. And when I had heard and seen, I fell down to worship before the feet of the angel which shewed me these things.
9 Then saith he unto me, See thou do it not: for I am thy fellowservant, and of thy brethren the prophets, and of them which keep the sayings of this book: worship God.
Acts 2:38 KJV
38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.
Luke 11:13 KJV
13 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?
John 14:21-24 KJV
21 *He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.*
22 Judas saith unto him, not Iscariot, Lord, how is it that thou wilt manifest thyself unto us, and not unto the world?
23 Jesus answered and said unto him, *If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.*
24 He that loveth me not keepeth not my sayings: and *the word which ye hear is not mine, but the Father's which sent me.*
3 John 1:11 KJV
11 Beloved, follow not that which is evil, but that which is good. *He that doeth good is of God: but he that doeth evil hath not seen God.*
1 John 3:6-10 KJV
6 *Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him.*
7 Little children, let no man deceive you: *he that doeth righteousness is righteous, even as he is righteous.*
8 He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil.
9 *Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.*
10 *In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God,* neither he that loveth not his brother.
Hi thanks for stopping by, the book “The Protestants dilemma” might interest you. God bless
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