What Happened to the Granny After the Cleaning?
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- čas přidán 7. 06. 2024
- Hi I’m Aurikatariina and I deep clean my followers' homes for free! ❤️
This is part two to last weeks video where I started to clean this lovely granny apartment. This apartment was so unbelievably filthy and covered in grease and grime. The granny was over 80 years old and no longer could take care of herself. Unfortunately her family was aware of the situation since they hadn’t visited here. The Grammyn hair was matter into a helmet like shape and she hadn’t showered in 3 years. Today we finally tackle the kitchen which was lovely dirty and now it shines! This story takes a devastating turn so be sure to watch till the end.
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Summary:
00:00 intro
01:19 coming up
01:35 Washing the bathroom floor
02:36 Washing the toilet
03:25 Washing the Washing machine
03:49 finishing touches to the bathroom
05:18 cleaning the fridge
07:14 cleaning the stove
07:30 cleaning the sink
08:47 washing thw stove
10:12 dusting some spider web
10:43 washing the microwave and counter
12:34 Washing a Coffee maker
13:31 Washing a knife block
14:02 dusting
14:25 Washing cabinet doors
15:02 Washing the floor
16:49 before and after pictures
So sorry to hear she passed away before seeing her apartment all clean. You saved the family hours worth of work with that extensive clean. Dorothy is looking down on you with a smile.
I would say weeks of extensive cleaning by the looks of the bad shape everything was. None of the story makes any sense 😢
I bet she is❤❤
Obviously NONE of the family EVER visited with her 🤷♀️ ....and how convienient that the 'family' didnt have to clean up after she died 🤔
Typical cold European "family" : everyone is to himself
I only wish her family would have been there to help her instead of Aurikatarina…😮
What a tragic shame!!! 😢
No elder should have to spend their last years struggling like that. The whole story made me want to cry. Thank you for making things better, Auri and Jonna. I hope anyone who watches this who hasn't checked on older family members will do so now. RIP, Dorothy, you deserved better.
What 101 likes and no replies lemme fix that
My mother is one of three children, the only one living hours away from my grandma, she visit at least once a couple of weeks the last year she was alive ❤ I followed with her whenever I could, and am so glad for it ❤ We were there right before she passed ❤ My sweet sweet grandma ❤
EXACTLY
The family should have been the ones to clean it. They gunna have their hands out!
Would you leave your sons/daughters, husband/wife to live with your mother who has very special needs , who is very controlling and aggressive?
consider that not everyone has money.
Hello Aurii. I am 68 & wife is 72. We are both partially disabled and have been slowing down the last few years. Your vid’s have inspired me to get involved with the house cleaning and learning new techniques. Thank you and keep up the good work.
sending love and strength for times in need of motivation!!!! this comment made me smile :)
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I feel so sorry for this grandma..My grandma also had dementia and sometimes she was so confused about everything.. I cant imagine what this granny felt ,being alone for 2-3 years..The fear,the abandonment,the confusion. I'm really sorry that her last years had to be like this. No one deserves an end like that. Thank you Auri for the work that you do,and for giving us motivation to do better ❤
My late husband had dementia and before he was diagnosed one of the first things he noticed was he lost his sense of smell, so that explains how this lady could live in her apartment with all the rotting food. As for taking showers, when my husband reached stage 7, he wouldn't take a shower no matter how much I asked him to, so I did sponge baths which he didn't mind. He also refused to brush his teeth, but at this stage I have to pick my battles so I didn't try to force him since I knew he would die before his teeth would rot. I can't imagine how this lady lived alone, my husband had to be watched day and night I had to hide sharp objects because he'd hallucinate and see things that weren't there, and I feared he would stab me not recognizing me anymore. I kept my husband home until late stage seven, at that point I was mentally and physically exhausted, his passing was a blessing because I don't know how much longer I could have lasted.
Bless you. I hope you are treating yourself well and enjoying this time. He would want that for you. May he rest in peace and you be happy for all you did for him. I wish you good health and happiness.
I'm so sorry! That must have been exhausting. It's amazing that you took such good care of your husband. ❤❤❤
Please take good care of yourself too!
Thank you for sharing this with us. You are incredibly strong and I hope life rewards you for your big heart.
I can relate to this feeling of exhaustion so much and really wish you all the best in your recovery ❤
babe i'm so sorry you two went through that. being a full time caretaker isn't an easy job. you deserve a long rest.
I’m going through this right now with my husband. It’s so hard. He has no family at all. I have very little family. It all falls on me. Government agencies turn me away because when you have a half decent job they say that you’re making too much money to get any help. I’m trying my best to hold on, but it’s so hard
I don't judge but i am curious how it's posible that the family did not know about the situation
Exactly! It's so sad if they didn't bother with her 😢
Maybe the relationship between them wasn't good.
Yep. They don't care about her. That's how they didn't know
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I hope someone who cares will treat her home for spiders 👀
This episode made me cry after hearing that the lady passed away before she could see the outcome. However, the bittersweet ending is that her family won’t have the overwhelming task of cleaning while they’re getting her affairs in order. It’ll be so much more manageable. You are definitely an earth angel, and so are your crew.
My grandmother passed away in 2017 from a heart condition. At that point, she had refused to let anyone into her house for over 5 years and would scream at and sometimes threaten anyone who tried. As I said she had a heart condition, and people didn't want to stress her out and maybe give her a heart attack, so they decided to wait until she asked for help, though she never did. She also had 2 cats. She was also, unfortunately, a hoarder with terrible untreated mental health problems. I can tell you from experience that even though Dorothy unfortunately never got to see the cleaned apartment, you saved her family so much heartache and trauma. My Mom wouldn't let me into my grandmother's house until they had finished going through everything and cleaning it as much as they could. Even then the smell was almost unbearable from the cats. My Mom still deals with trauma and guilt from that experience. So, thank you for saving another family from this.
Sad to hear of her passing. Sadder that she was living her final years like that, and that the family didn't know. How? Thank you for your work, Audi and your compassion!
Old people are stubborn, is how. Even if they thought she might be in a difficult living space, this doesn't mean she let them intervene and help her.
@@emro164there are ways around that. They might seem extreme but the steps need to be taken. The cops won’t be turned from the door. You can ask for a welfare check.
Deterioration with signs of dementia is complex and hard to track. Not everyone can visit regularly enough to see it, and in phone calls, a person can seem entirely lucid and fine bc the voice isn’t necessarily conflicting with the loss of memory. They could be in regular contact, but unable to detect the deterioration. And since Dorothy had lived alone for many years, it seems she was likely a very independent person, who rarely needed to be checked up on, outside of a phone call and the occasional home visit.
This is actually a surprisingly common situation; a lot of older women who hoard can look absolutely classy outside of the house, and are very clever (and secretly vicious!) about never letting anyone visit because they don't ever ,ever, ever want anyone to see the situation, because it would absolutely destroy them to let anyone see them at such a loss of dignity. What I'm saying is, don't be quick to blame the fam, especially if they live far away or if gramma was visiting *them* and on holidays and not the other way around.
@@justkiddin84 Calling the cops on an elderly person? It's not really the best way to go. You have to remember that they still have autonomy despite being old, they can make their own decisions for their homes and their bodies. It's very unfortunate when people let themselves go and refuse help, no matter the age, but you cannot force help. However - in a case with dementia, it's a disease that can progress very quickly, so I still wouldn't blame the family for not noticing sooner. They noticed, didn't they? That's why we're seeing this video, after all.
Funnily enough, the bedroom is indeed my favorite room to clean. The reason? I used to live in an apartment that you would've loved to clean, among other things due my mental health being truly awful. I had one small spot on the bed for myself, the rest of the room was utter chaos. So nowadays when I clean and tidy my bedroom it feels like a major victory that I'm able to do it, and a joyful reminder that one can indeed get better.
The bedroom is my favorite to clean too. Not just because it's the easiest, but because I love sleeping in a clean environment. It helps ease my mind at night.
That's lovely! All the best to you ❤️❤️
@@rebekahdane5382I totally get that. It's a good day if I fill my pill minder thingie for a whole week.
I'm 68. I pray it's not too late for me.
When my brother died in 2018, I cleaned out his room on my own because I knew it would be too much for my parents- my mum especially.
You saved that lady’s family from the pain and anguish of having to deal with her home.
It’s never easy when you’re dealing with the loss of a loved one.
Which loved one, they didn't care about her. How long does it take to have matted hair? Months, years. They didn't even know she hasn't bathed for 3 years.
@@emivee8627 I can understand why you said that, but they did care enough to ask for help and get her into hospital. Bear in mind 3 years ago we were all dealing with the pandemic which in my opinion did more harm than good 😞.
My great aunt was in a similar situation to Dorothy- minus the mess. She was almost 90 and dealing with dementia and what made it worse was that her daughter and 2 sons (my dad’s cousins) couldn’t visit her in the assisted living home and she deteriorated over time 😔. What infuriated me the most was that they wouldn’t even allow her kids to take her out and live with them during lockdown.
The family should have been the ones to clean it! PERIOD-!!! Bet they all have their hands out wondering what they’re going to get!🤮
Which loved one man! If they would have loved her they would not have left her alone to rot n die. They just got rid of an old person who once took immense care of them in their childhood. That is inhumane.
@@KatieAliceGamerlockdown was 3years ago. 2020 2021 ryt? What bout after that. There is no explanation for the negligence of the ruthless family. They don't deserve any sympathy. They simply never cared. Some asian countries are somewhat better because there is a culture of living with parents so that those who took care of u when u were born can be taken care of when they need help in old age.
Her family neglected her. Point blank, no excuses. An 80 year old woman doesn't live alone like this for years, without a family knowing. They just didn't want to deal with it. Period.
Totally agree - it's inhuman they way they neglected her - I hope they are ashamed of themselves but I somehow doubt it!
I agree, there’s medical neglect also……Because why is a grandmother using menstural pads? She should have entered menopause long agao, and not needed menstural pads after that.
I’m a little confused and suspicious by this whole thing, especially the timing of her passing. Maybe this is me being too cynical but it’s possible the granny already died and they needed someone to clean the apt and didn’t want to do it themselves. That or there never was a granny to begin with. The fact that she passed away right after the cleaning (and also what’s with the menstrual pads?) if she’s 80 why would she need them? Unless they were incontinence pads or something
@@teresahiggs4896Old people have weak bladders. It's not possible to menstruate at that old. It's likely just urination issues
Right ✅ saying they wonder where they can take her to get cleaned up before her dr. appointment threw me for a loop. Like ok, how about YOUR house!
It's truly a shame the elderly occupant, may she RIP, passed away before she could witness the transformation done in her apartment. But at least Aurii had comforted and helped the family with their mother's residence in her memory. You and your cohosts, Aurii, did a phenomenal job degreasing and exfoliating the entire place so effectively. Fabulous job as always, Aurii.
Perhaps the intrusion and insensitivity and shock of being removed and strangers taking over contributed to her dying sooner and in more distress than she might otherwise have done. The brisk and cheery tone of this vid was chilling.
@@Celestial_Rose1999 it's her gain and not her grief.
@@Celestial_Rose1999 poverty and suffering porn is an entertainment genre.
@@Celestial_Rose1999 ohh did this really happen to Auri? i had no clue.... poor gal 😨😥😥
Just wondering, does she clean “for free” if she does not get permission from the beneficiary(ies) to post on SM? If not, than it’s not really “for free”.
I can’t imagine living like this. I am just so grateful that I can take showers, sleep in a bed, cook in my kitchen…image not being able to do those things for YEARS, and her family was oblivious to this situation. Thank you for helping this lady because it would have changed her life ❤❤❤
She died
@@Cancionera40 same
You don't know what their circumstances were. Maybe the granny didn't let them come to her house. Maybe they lived too far away to know what was happening. Even if they knew about this, they might have tried to clean it but not been able to.
If my mom was in her 80s and living alone i would not be okay with not seeing her once in over 3 years.
The only logical reson for this neglect that i can imagine is if the granny didnt have a good relationship with the daughter. Because even if they lived at complete opposite sides of finland it would still only be a 15 hour drive to go visit, but most likely much less.
People that do this for Free need our respect it's encouraging to see her being excited to be cleaning the house
For everybody trashing Dorothy's family I'll tell you a little story. I worked as a nurse in a nursing home. Some of our residents became evil and mean due to brain damage from strokes etc. When I encountered these evil old people I just assumed that they weren't always like that. One day one of my residents was dying and her family was called to say their final goodbyes. When her children arrived I recognized one of her daughters as a nurse from my other job. I commented that I didn't realize this was her mom because I'd never seen her there before. She just looked at me and said "not all mothers deserve to be visited in the nursing home." I'll always remember that. Four daughters gathered around their mother as she was dying. No tears, no sadness. Just obligation to a woman who treated them horribly and died alone when they all left
You are right! I have elderly tenants that never get visitors. I can see why. Luckily they are not allow to not clean their apartment either.
You’re absolutely right. When my mother passed away, I shed very few tears. I have health problems that she never could understand, and even blamed me for. Chronic pain is something that can’t be seen, so it is not often believed. I was the “scapegoat” in the family. Of course when she passed, my sister immediately sent me a copy of her will, to let me know that she basically left me out of it. I just laughed. Little did they know, she gave me the biggest gift of all…..freedom.
True. I worked in a care home and a family didn’t visit nor attend the funeral of their mum. Later I found out she was a neglectful mother. Leaving her children home alone and hungry while she was at the pub getting drunk. And then I hear ‘oh but she’s an old lady now’. Poppy cock. Old age doesn’t suddenly transform you into a saint.
exactly! most woman can give birth to a child but not all woman can become a mother. mine left me to starve while she takes naps, lies and pits people against each other. truly narcissistic. it is infuriating when you're left to tend to them after being robbed from your sanity and freedom.
@@vanessasimmons1175 I wish I could like this comment many times!!
This is why it’s so important to have face to face visits. You need to see for yourself how things are going. In my grandma’s old age she would avoid showers too. There’s something in the brain that says a shower isn’t worth the effort, or they can’t smell anything so it’s okay. You did such a great service for this woman and her family 🧡🧡🧡🧡 Thank you for giving her a clean home 🥰
Yep. People with dementia tend to hide it as long as they are able to, and if your only contact is phone, they will tell you everything is cool. Even people who don't have dementia will tend to hide the mess they're in. My aunt was shocked when I told her how much my mum struggles because she can only speak to her by phone and my mum likes to portray herself as totally in control and with it when she needs help from us in every single aspect of life.
Probably terrified of slipping and falling and being stuck on the floor for days. My grandmother had Alzheimer’s very badly when I was a teenager, it was difficult to watch the woman who helped raise me turn into a baby who needed help with everything. Luckily, our family lived close and were able to make sure she was fed and bathed etc…
@@littleblackpistol Absolutely this! It’s difficult to admit that things aren’t going well. I know there’s deep shame, but when you tell the truth, there’s freedom 🧡🧡
@@jo-eo9ld Family support is so vital 🧡🧡 Thank you for sharing your story
It's nothing "in the brain". It's just a huge effort, and difficult to reach everywhere to wash, and totally exhausting if you are old and frail.
I used to work in palliative care. The family will definitely be experiencing complicated grief. It may take much longer for them to come to terms with her death due to guilt, even if it is misplaced.
What you have done for them is very helpful. It would have been utterly devastating for them to have had to clean it themselves or even contacted you after her death. The guilt would have been enormous. But they did do something before she died, and so did you. Your work is extremely important and very loving. God bless you. You are doing Heaven's work. Thank you for loving what you do and the people you affect. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Well the family only took her to the hospital in her final moments... I don't think it's enough to beat the guilt... Sorry not sorry 🤷🏽♀️
I wouldn't call it "misplaced" guilt. For three years they didn't know their mother hadn't showered. How the heck does that happen if you love your mother?
I agree~
@@katia4197
I just feel this lady should have been in care way before she passed by the state of her place, but i'm not there and i'm not judging the family... sometimes the elderly can be very stubborn and aren't truthful with the medical profession as to their real state of being
@@mrsfoss3368- I think you just described my mother. Was never truthful to her doctors. Refused to follow their instructions. Fought with me and my sister about her health care. 💔💔💔
She was neglected, but we'll never know why... family relationships are hard sometimes. As Auri said, at least she could help the family at such a difficult time losing their family member.
I’m a disabled 70 year old. I’m unable to clean anymore. I have a wonderful woman I pay that comes once a month. When I was able to clean for myself, I got the most satisfaction from cleaning the kitchen and bathroom.
I was sad to hear about Dorothy passing away before getting to see her clean apartment. I’m happy she didn’t suffer. Thanks you for your kindness in helping those that need help
It just breaks my heart that Dorthy would never be able to wear those cute pair of socks Auri bought for her 😞 may her soul rest in peace
It was like she was waiting for someone to come save her so she could rest 😔
Hearing she passed away brought me straight to tears watching the before and after pics. R.I P grandma 💔
This is a good example on why one should visit the elderly often, especially grandma and grandpa
Absolutely, and checking their fridge is a good indicator of how they're doing. Whether there's food there, everything is in date and nothing is left to rot.
Dorothy is free now. No more confusion and suffering. ❤
_What happened to grandma? How is it free from suffering? I sincerely hope she is fine_
@@Juhcoutinho.She passed away in the hospital
My 5 year old daughter is your biggest fan! We watch your videos every week from our home in Alabama!
She said her favorite room to clean is the dining room, because she loves to wipe down the table and chairs and make them shiny. She has *almost* mastered your towel folding technique and practices each time she does the table. 😁
Thank you for being an inspiration to me and my daughter! You have inspired a desire in my daughter to be more helpful and caring. You rock!!! 🎉
That is adorable❤
The Towel foldding technique is supper annoying to me..I just wanna grab it and get over with it!I don't care if it gets dirty with only one wipe😄
That’s so cute 😂❤
Hey neighbor I'm in the FL Panhandle.
My 2 yr old son LOVES CLEANING 😊
My favorite room is the living room… I love dusting all shelves, cleaning my coffee table then vacuuming. I feel complete afterwards and now I sit back in my clean space and turn on my scent diffuser and light my candle!! ❤😊
YES!
That’s so sad, but a good reminder to those with elderly family members to keep a close watch on their loved ones. Keep up the great work 🙏🏼
It's sad because Dorothy never got to see what a fantastic job Auri and Jonna did and how clean her apartment is.
What you do is amazing. I have struggled with mental illness my whole life. I also grew up with a mentally ill mother. Growing up, my house was always very messy. Perhaps not to this extent, not quite as “dirty” but definitely just as messy. And it was hard. It was stressful . I couldn’t have friends over, it cause fights within the family, and it definitely effected me in a lot of unconscious ways I wasn’t always aware of. When I moved out on my own, I struggled with maintaining my health and hygiene and my apartment. There was a time when my own apartment was very bad. Again, perhaps not to this extent. I still had the luxury of sleeping in my bed and showering in my shower even though the sheets were not clean and the shower was dirty, they were still acceptable and accessible enough. But my kitchen was not at all accessible anymore and quite dirty and and messy, I was bad with keeping up with my cats litter box (something I still feel guilty for) and that area of the apartment was terribly messy as well. There were bad smells. Rotten food. Etc. it’s honestly embarrassing to admit and to remember the way I was living. But I was struggling so much to just get through the day, and once it started it snowballed and became so overwhelming that getting out felt impossible. I would have been so grateful to have someone like you in my life at that point to help me without judgement. Thankfully, I can say now that I am doing a lot better. I still have bad days and am not perfect, and my home still is not perfect either, but it is a much cleaner and healthier place, still some mess here and there, but miles from where i once was, an acceptable amount of mess. I’m still working on strengthening habits around self care and chores, but really proud of how far I have come and happy to say that my house is no longer as much of a source of shame and depression. And I know how good that feels. And so I know how what you’re doing really really really does make more of a difference than you will ever know. This is perhaps one of the most amazing gifts you could give someone. Please never forget how amazing you are and how much you impact those you help. Your grace, empathy, and determination is inspiring. You have so much love inside you and it’s so lovely to see you spread and share that love to those who really need it. 💙💙💙💙
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I’m glad you’ve found a way to not only manage but to work your way through some of the harder things. Many blessings to you. 💛
I know firsthand how hard it is to pull yourself out of that state and situation. I wish you had been more helped. You should feel proud of yourself for surviving and getting better, one little bit at a time. Thank you for sharing your story 💜
You’re awesome
Wish you all the best and hope you grow from strength to strength!
I cried when you told us she passed before seeing her apartment, but I’m sure her family told her. Thank goodness they came when they did and were able to say goodbye.
Que tristeza saber que Dorothy no pudo disfrutar de su hogar limpio. Gracias por ayudarla a ella y a su familia, más allá del final. Recuerden visitar a sus abuelos, no es digno para nadie vivir así, menos si son sus últimos años de vida…
Tienes mucha razón, yo ya no tengo abuelos pero siempre iba a visitarlos y a estar con ellos, pasar tiempo de calidad. Echo mucho de menos a mi abuela, que falleció la última, y jamás hicimos que se sintiera sola.
Breathing problems she can’t live there by herself
No se los problemas que tenía esta mujer se ve que muchos mi abuela tenía 83 cuando falleció y nunca dejó de limpiar su casa y la tenía impecable y ya tenía una edad considerable también decir que la edad es un número la que es una puerca es una puerca la edad que tenga eso está clarisimo
Las personas que tienen la casa así suelen tener problemas, como depresión, síndrome de Diógenes, trastorno límite de la personalidad/esquizofrenia sin tratar... Cada persona es un mundo y juzgar a una persona (como estás haciendo, encima reconociendo que no sabes los problemas que tiene) me parece fuera de lugar. Solo Dios juzga, nosotros somos meros testigos, y ayudar es no solo de buen cristiano, sino de personas decentes. @@rociomartinrodriguez4844
Tal cual, como vas a dejar que tu abu viva de esa manera es un horror una pesadilla. Yo ayudaría a auri a limpiar pero no se como hubiese lidiado con los familiares de esta abuela 😢 me rompe el corazón
My neighbor is 84 years old. She lives by herself and her children and grandchildren live far away. She has various medical conditions and is extremely hard headed and can become very rude and she makes me so angry some times 😂 Nevertheless I never stop checking in on her to make sure she is ok. I knew the day would come that something would happen. The day came this past Monday and she had to be rushed to hospital. I was there in a heartbeat. Being there for the elderly is a human responsibility. That family regardless of what the relationship was had a responsibility and now they will be grief stricken with guilt and that is the most powerless and debilitating feeling a person can have with far reaching psychological effects, regardless of what any psychologist say to you. RIP Dorothy, may this story teach us all to care for one another, resolve issues and be there for one another ❤ Thank you Auri, you did more than anyone in 3 years 😢
You did exactly what we should always do and you are amazing!
Poor Dorothy! She must’ve been so lonely and lost! Makes my heart hurt. Bless you Auri! 💞
A lot of the time Auri, helping someone clean is the most helpful thing a person can do for another person. lt is such a dignifying thing to do for someone.
My favorite room to clean is the bathroom! It’s small, usually less cluttered than other spaces, and everything is scrubbable and wipeable. I also love seeing a clean mirror! So sad that Dorothy didn’t get to see her space and enjoy the items she was missing.
I feel the remorse in your voice, Auri, and I'm sorry for the loss of this woman. I know you weren't best friends or anything, but you were trying to help her. I am sorry to her family as well. Imagine not realizing how bad off your mother is living and then not long after you figure it out, she passes away. I'd feel so guilty. I love ya, Auri. Take care!
Yes, I know. Auri was so polite to the family but indirectly has shown her disapproval by talking about her own granny so highly like giving them a little lesson how grannies are an important and valuable part of life,
I think they knew, but everything in covid-times (aurii usually uploads things a bit later) sortof piled up and then once they found out, it was already this bad. She came over to cut her hair, I'm guessing she figured the granny (if they talked on the phone, for example) was doing fine.@@LyraLove1
Auri and her friend did another fantastic cleaning and the end of the story was very sad. I just wish we could drop the narrative that senior citizens are just wrinkled toddlers. They aren't. They can be just as proud, stubborn and ill-tempered as any of us can be. Many want their independence and don't care to be held to the rules and regulations that most senior-citizen communities impose on their residents.
They also tend to know that they're "slipping" and will hide it from their families quite well. The fact that the Grand-daughter felt the need to call outside authorities to assist in getting access to the apartment says a lot about how much "Dorothy" was trying to hide her situation.
I think it was very brave for the family to reach out to Auri and her friend and get their Mother/Grandmother to the doctor as quickly as possible. I would hate to think another family will see the criticism in some of these comments and will hesitate to reach out for help. Thank you and take care! ❤
I Agree thinking the same thing .
This is a very good point. My grandma didn't get into such a state, but refused any help that could have made her life easier, almost to the end.
If the family actually came over and saw how bad it was in there, there's no way granny could hide that! I don't blame the granddaughter for trying to get help. What about the daughter? It could be two that they weren't that close and I totally get that but still!
I love that you were able to find all the items that Dorothy was missing. Now the family have those items to remember her by, knowing that she truly cherished them.
Kitchen. No matter what mess is made baking, or making memories! Cleaning is purely satisfying ❤❤
I haven’t seen my grandma in 7 months. She also has very advanced dementia and a few years ago I cleaned the entire house extensively. I was 20 years old and I am 22 now. Unfortunately, I live in Chicago and my grandma lives in the Dominican Republic. I can only visit her so much but she means the world to me and when I visit I am with her every waking second. Your work is amazing Auri and I would have been extremely lucky to have someone like you help me those years ago. My favorite to clean is the library because you always find things like birth certificates, love letters, pictures, etc. that bring me closer to my family.
That was like gold for your grandma! How sweet you are!
Can you organise home help for your Grandma? Or a trusted cleaner?
Bless your heart!
Hello! So sad to hear about Dorothy, my great-great grandmother was Dorotea Dix and she advocated for and got laws changed to help and protect the mentally ill. Her advocacy also changed the inhumane practices within institutions in New Jersey (USA) My favorite thing to clean are floors--carpeted or not. To me a house no matter the rest of the mess, if the floors are clean, the house is not awful. At the same time, no matter how clean the rest of the house is, if the floors are dirty, the whole place is dirty.
The love and care that overflows from you in these difficult tasks is so inspirational! You are a blessing to these families in so many ways. Sending hugs from the USA! 💝
It is so sad that Dorothy's family neglected her for at least 3 years. Poor Dorothy... Thank you for helping her, even though she never saw the result. You are such a lovely soul, Auri.
Good reminder for all of us with grandparents still living, or just older parents, to check in on them, in person, when able.
My grandma passed away in April.. she was 94 and i really miss her.. here in India it's common for the family to stay with their parents and grandparents.. seeing this grandma's house is really heartbreaking I can only imagine the pain she must have while looking at her house like this.. but i do wonder were was her family these days?
Rest in peace 🕊️
Hats off to you auri ❤️ lots of love to you from India ❤️
I'm glad I'm not the only who questioned where her family members were. The woman had dementia and no one was checking in on her? I would have reported her children for elder abuse. I'll bet you anything if this woman had any kind of inheritance her children were right there for the taking.
@@jonaeflureexactly
It is different in different parts of the world. Here people gets a job a long way from where their parents live and moves to that place. Sometimes you don't see each other for years and it's easy to hide dementia over the phone. The later happend with my grandma where her son living in the same village as she did was conserend but my mother who lived 300km from her missed it for a long time because she kept up the appreance when my mother visited. My othere uncle who lived 1000+km away didn't belive it even after the diagnosis. Of course her house diodn't deteriorat this way.
@karinlindblom2934 Distance should never be an excuse for not checking in on a person with dementia. Especially an elderly person. If a family member isn't near by then, they should make it a point to have a neighbor check in on the person or have a welfare check done. NO EXCUSE! EVER! People with dementia are almost always unaware they have dementia and rarely admit it.
I can not understand how this poor lady was not cared for or visited by her family?
It’s so sad and such neglect l hope they are ashamed!
Auri l think this family has used you and your kindness to clean their mess!
God rest this lady’s soul and yes she knows how you helped her.
True!..... Once again I'm not judging but still c'mon can't anyone pay a visit once in a while to her old mother or grandma,it's such a criminal neglect!!
Watching how you clean relaxes me so much and somehow you telling these stories and your own soul and energy, your voice and positivity soothes my soul, it’s hard to explain 😊 but I always watch these videos when I feel exhausted or tired or sick and they always make me feel better.
This is so sad 😞 that people have to live like this. You are a great person for doing this😊
Yeah R.i.p to the Granny! 😢
Such a bittersweet story behind this clean.
You did an amazing job.
I can’t but feel deep sadness for this lady and why no one visited or checked on her for 3 years. If the family were estranged from her it would be heartbreaking to see that she has been enduring this alone without help when obviously needed it.
And shattered that they were kept from knowing.
If it was neglect on their part that’s just outright awful.
My heart goes out to granny and her family.
The daughter did care. Her mother had undiagnosed dementia per the previous video..
of people truly knew the elderly they wouldn’t judge the kids so much 😢
That dirt was more than 3 years in the making .🙄😢
@JCG. and undiagnosed for MANY MANY years, which means she was not observed at all during that time. Theb woman had NOTHING clean. Food, water, personal hygiene.
Even though I understand what you mean, if you can't visit granny because of covid and during phonecalls she seems disorganised but fine and assures you that she's eaten or that she had a good day, for example, I wouldn't think something was wrong either.
And if you then meet her in a café to drink tea, you wouldn't really know.@@trishf2184
Terve! I love your kindness! I used to visit a woman a couple of years ago. She suffered from pain, depression and other things. She didn’t clean and there could be dishes on the floor. I helped her once or twice a week with cleaning and doing the dishes and laundry. I know the feeling you get when you do something good for other people. I have also worked with elderly with dementia and it was such an incredible job. I found it hard that Dorothy didn’t get any help when she had dementia and that she was living alone at home. May she rest in peace ❤️ So kiitos you are amazing!! Love from Sweden
You are amazing. I wish i had the same energy to clean my house. Of course I do, but over several days because I also live alone, am 74 years old and have problems with my heart. But it is done so that I can be familiar with receiving guests without having to be embarrassed by dust and other unpleasantness that has been overlooked. Your video has given me inspiration to follow the hooks and what else can be overlooked in everyday life. Thanks for a great video!
my office room, i spend the most time here and i have it set up where everything makes me happy and motivational. whenever i get to deep clean it i'm able to sit down and clean my collectables and get reacquainted with other items. Of course afterwards it feels really good sitting in a nice clean room.
This is such a tragedy. Seems like her family members didn't have a lot to do with her if she presented as you described. You do an amazing and important service for such people. xx
I want to thank you Auri because you not only help the people whose homes you clean,but also us viewers. I suffer from Ankylosing Spondyloarthritis, Behcet disease ans Fibromyalgia. The past few years have been a nightmare for me and i have mobility issues. I wasn't even able to brush my teeth from the pain i was feeling. Currently im under treatment and doing better, and your videos have helped me so much mentally and give me motivation!! Every time i start watching your videos i pause immediately and get up and clean something!!!Then come back to continue the video. You have helped me more than you could ever imagine!! ❤
Oh dear. Bless you and healing prayers for her family.
My oldest daughter and I clean together and we've had to tackle my nieces home. We really enjoy the time together plus the great before and after pictures.
I deeply feel this story, as I experienced similar thing with my grandmother and grandfather. They were caring for each other and everything seemed normal until they reached the ages of about 80, but after the grandfather died, grandmother became crazy. She destroyed all the furniture and ID-cards, credit cards, clothes, and from a haute couture lady went to unrecognizable creature. Neighbors called the police many times as she was screaming, but as there was nothing they could do. Police would call us as we left our numbers on the door, so we had to come every time. She put stuff around her so she could not be touched, and she was afraid of every sound. She was throwing out stuff from the apartment on the very busy street in city center. My family came to clean the apartment and bring food on daily basis but she threw food on me and physically attacked me. We were in some kind of war - I would come there, enter quietly, try to take out as much trash I could and clean the toilet but after she heard me I had to run away. She didn't recognize me anymore as her grandchild, nor anyone from my family. We were just intruders. As elderly-caring institutions do not function in my country we were living like this for a year until she died. The apartment condition was very bad, but we as a family finally got to clean it. I am glad my grandfather died without knowing all this tragedy, and remembers the lady my grandmother was.
This stuff makes me really question why we try to extend life so much instead of quality of life. I would rather die five years too early than five too late and become a squalid thing useless to myself, unable to function in society at all. I really think as well as research into treatments for dementia etc we need to accept that human bodies have a natural lifespan and pushing them beyond it is just pointless cruelty.
@@littleblackpistol I agree. I do not want to be forced to live with advanced dementia. And I think it should be my choice to make while I'm still sound of mind.
YES! what we do for our beloved animal companions we would not even think about for our most beloved relatives. This should be a choice as it is in some countries and states an the US. There is a clear process that is a legal decision and not taken lightly.@@sheelfjohnson I would never ever want to become a shell shuffling around in filth or a screaming, frightened, violent person. Surely this is no way to live. Surely there must be a way to accept this as a greater whole in society. :*(
@@jamiejoygatto Yes. I watched our poor old dog get taken over by dementia and it was the most horrifying thing I've seen. I wish we had let her go earlier but my husband and I didn't agree, and it took the vet explaining just how bad it was for her for him to agree. :'(
I have had to let a few go over the years. It's always so hard, but when they are suffering mercy is the only way to show you love them truly. I had a cat who developed a seizure disorder and injured herself constantly. I had another who had stomach cancer. One just had very old age and was in the process of dying. When she stopped eating, then stopped drinking water that was the next day appt. Why let a shell of a dear soul live. Especially if they are in great pain.@@sheelfjohnson
God bless you, Auri and all your helpers! God bless Granny. People with dementia do not ask for help, because they don't realize they need help. Imagine an adult with a 2-year old's abilities and emotions. Also, water usually feels awful to them, hence the lack of bathing. Please check in on your elders and be with them if possible. Caring for the helpless is totally rewarding.💖
I stumbled across the first part to this video and had to subscribe. What you do for these people is absolutely amazing. I know the feeling I get after I clean my house or even just tidy up a room, it’s immediate weight lifted off my shoulders. I can only imagine how people feel after you deep clean their home.
I have watched your videos randomly, but I am now subbed; your kindness is truly endearing and so uplifting. These videos are amazing but your mentality is so wonderful. I am in awe
What is the most heartbreaking is the fact that the family weren’t aware, which indicates they didn’t see Granny. Very sad and distressing situation. Thank you Aurikatrina for your amazing work 💗💗💗💗💗💗
Absolutely amazing job! It breaks my heart that no one had checked on her, so heartbreaking to know that someone lived like this. So sorry that she never got to see it and bless you for everything you do♥️🙏♥️
Your enthusiasm for this work is precious and contagious. Thank you for what you do for people.
YOU ARE AMAZING. YOUR PATIENCE, LOVE, KINDNESS FOR PEOPLE who need it so desperately is sadly rare. I hope you inspire others to be as kind.
Where was her daughter for 3 years?
Auri, I love how positive you are even in sad situations. You are a blessing 🌻
You are absolutely amazing! You are the world's best cleaner! The compassion to do this is unprecedented. This situation is heartbreaking! Thank you for your joy!
I love these cleans and have started doing them in the middle of Australia. Thanks for the inspo❤
It would be amazing if someone would team up with you to paint, repair and replace items in homes like these.
I'd also love to see the reactions of the people when they return to see these transformations. Of course their faces should be blurred to protect their identities.
Thank you for all you do. You are truly an angel on Earth.
I’m normally quiet when it comes to these stories. However my questions begins, how often do you visit or check on your Mom? What do you mean where we can clean her up before going to the doctor? YOUR HOUSE speaking to the grandmothers daughter! What took her family so long to help. Its so sad to see how a family could allow a parent or relative to live this way and not help! Thank God for you!!! ❤❤❤
Yeah, but it could be one of those situations where they moved far away and only seldom see her. Maybe she only now just reached out for help after claiming things were "fine" for years so her kids wouldn't worry. You just never know.
The daughter couldn't even touch her own mum 😢
@@LyraLove1 that is sad.
You would think with 2 generations of the family, one could have visited once every three months, unless she had been a really appalling mother.
@@crystalh450 moved so far away you haven’t seen your MOM in years ok
You are a very special person to do your job. Very kind and respectful. It was a delight to watch your video and listen to your cheerful words. ❤
I like watching you clean bathrooms the most because of the amazing transformations, and because I'm jealous of your bathrooms having those water sprayers!
My favorite room to clean myself is the kitchen. It's also because of the amazing transformation that happens! I love that I can clean and organize, and make life nicer and easier for me and my partner. And our cats.
Children/Grandchildren "unaware" of the situation....OBVIOUSLY they NEVER visited her!!!!
Thank you for helping this family
Thinking about how much you preserved her dignity❤️ Dementia is so tough, you did her so much justice by preserving the families memory of her as she was before and not exposing them to her worst. Bless you!
What a sad story, poor Dorothy, neglected for years.
Auri, you are fantastic!!
I love what you do and I love what motivates you to do it. Your understanding of why people’s homes get like this is teaching me. I’m 57, with 4 adult children, a father in law who is sadly probably going to end up in a similar situation to some of your clients. He refuses to let us help. He’s so old fashioned, and a little proud. And it’s watching this situation unfold that helps me see how easy these situations can happen. You are also motivating others to take up similar work to help these poor people out. Well done. Also, I’m glad they haven’t invented smellevision yet …. Love you
They accept help or a home care plan to keep them as independent and in their home for as long as possible or they have to go into care.
You have to tell the elders this early on so they accept the help that they need.
Or they can have a fall.
Break their hip.
Go to hospital.
Contract pneumonia...
...an die.
It isn't rocket science.
Your friend has the prettiest color hair I think I’ve ever seen in my WHOLE life!!!!!! She’s so beautiful, and so are you, inside and out!!!!!! You girls did an AMAZING job at cleaning and helping this woman!!!!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😍😍😍🩷🩷🩷💜💜💜
It’s like she knew once you were there to help she was okay to pass and her family wouldn’t have to worry. Thank you Auri. I’m devastated to hear she passed, but I’m so glad you were there to help
I cannot understand how the family didn't know that Dorothy was living in such terrible conditions. The daughter went to cut her hair, but it was all matted??? well that doesn't happen overnight!! This poor lady was living with dementia, without any help from anyone??? She must have been so lonely and confused. I nursed my dad through until the end, he had vascular dementia at the same time my mum was in hospital due to a brain tumour...both were dying and yet I still managed to keep both parents clean and tidy, and they lived with dignity. I'm sorry, but leaving an old lady alone like this, was unforgiveable. May her beautiful soul now rest in peace...the family now have to live with the knowledge of how their relative suffered.
Amen, sister. I felt bad commenting negatively on this video, but it’s absolutely deplorable that this family let this woman live like this without checking on her. It’s sickening to think that folks neglect their elderly parents to this extent. This is only one story…I can’t ever imagine allowing my parents to live in this sort of environment.
@@jasminecameron4026 Thank you😊I did consider not posting my comment...we are all supposed to be so politically correct these days...happy clappy and positive...but the real world isn't like that, and my heart went out to Dorothy bless her heart. Auri will know that she has our full support for all the wonderful hard work she does for people in need, and she'll also know that any negativity in our comments is not aimed at her. Looking after elderly, sick relatives is not an easy thing to do, and for sure some people just cannot cope with it, I can understand that...but help should be provided by someone who can cope and under the close supervision of the relatives.
If you dont want to nurse them yourself or you just cant you need to look for nursing home or a nurse who comes home helping them. But just lookin away? In my surroundings this would not happen, we look after our older people.
Keep doing what you do. Just watching you fills me with happiness and I'm smiling when my day isnt good. It just gives me a little faith in humanity back. 😢❤
AURIKATARIINA YOU REALLY ARE THE WORLDS BEST CLEANER!!!!!! I LOVE HOW PASSIONATE YOU ARE and how you get excited to see mold and stuff and when there is no mold u get disappointed its very fun to watch and your videos are so motivational! It helped me get my apartment cleaned and organized and you give the best cleaning tips!!! And you help so many people!! You are a real super hero!!!!!
Amazing job, Auri, I’m sorry to hear she wasn’t able to see her home clean, but I am glad she is at peace.
The kitchen is my favorite room to clean. I always feel accomplished when it is sparkling clean. Plus, I love the happy colors I chose to paint that particular room in my home.🤗
I'm so sorry to know granny passed away. I hope the family is coping as well as possible. Also, Aurii, a million times thank you for what you do. I wish more people were like you❤❤❤
Sorry for the family's loss. You helped them a lot with this wonderful cleaning, Auri! Also, I must tell you that Jonna is a pro at cleaning the floor! She has great and effective technic! :) My favorite place to clean is my child's room. I like the shape and furnishing of that room, and it is effortless to clean. :)
This had to be one of my fav cleanings of yours. Great work, and you’re so sweet. Praying for Dorothy and her family🤍
I am so inspired by your compassion and your enthusiasm to help others! My mother had dementia, and I took care of her the last six years of her life.
This is so sad! But what a blessing for the family to have had your help so it's one less thing for them to worry about after her passing. Blessings to Dorothy and her family. RIP.
What a clean. How sad that she never saw it cleaned. You have made such a massive difference to the family’s lives though. ❤️❤️❤️
Bless you Aurikatariina for the work you do.
You're truly amazing! To do this with love and from your heart. So many blessings will and have come to you... Awesome job of being present in our human experience ❤😢 this is love!
Oh how sad. Prayers for the family. What an amazing transformation.
Where was the daughter and granddaughter for 3 years??
I love your attitude and can feel how much you love doing this for people ❤
You are an amazing person! I enjoy cleaning my kitchen. When it is clean and sanitized I love to cook my favorite meals. Makes me feel happy.
Your videos inspire me to keep my little home beautifully clean ❤
Aww what a sad ending. Poor Dorothy never even saw her home all clean. You did such an amazing job as usual too. xx
Hi auri,I'm new to the channel. I'm Paula, I'm 13 years old, and I love cleaning. It is the thing I love the most in my life. I like to clean the most dirty things, but only I can clean my room, and it is all the time clean, and for this reason, at times I go to my room and destroy it all and rearrange it again. I love cleaning very much. I am glad to know your channel
I enjoyed these 2 videos. I definitely wasn't expecting what happened at the end. You seem like such a lovely, joy-filled, caring lady, and I see you love what you do. I hope her family appreciated what you did, and I hope if they have any other elderly relatives that they have learned from this and stay in better contact with those relatives. May God bless you and your very special apostolate!
Sorry she passed away before seeing her apartment. She would have been so happy to see her apartment clean again.❤