Co-Parenting as Allies, not Adversaries | Ebony Roberts & Shaka Senghor | TEDxDetroit

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  • čas přidán 14. 01. 2020
  • Shaka Senghor and Ebony Roberts, who met and fell in love while Shaka was in prison, struggled to navigate their new relationship as co-parents after their breakup. In spite of their hurt, they agreed to parent their son Sekou as allies not adversaries. Their relationship is challenging the popular narrative that parents can’t get along after a love affair ends. In this talk, they share how they show up for their son, and each other.
    Ebony Roberts is the principal/founder of QualOne Research, a qualitative research firm based in Los Angeles. She is a native Detroiter who has worked in the food justice and prison abolition movements for nearly 20 years. Her book “The Love Prison Made and Unmade” (Amistad/HarperCollins) is a national bestseller and was named a Notable Memoir by The New York Times. Ebony holds a BA in social relations and psychology and a PhD in educational psychology, both from Michigan State University.
    Shaka Senghor is the President of Shaka Senghor, Inc. His memoir, Writing My Wrongs: Life, Death and Redemption in an American Prison, debuted on The New York Times and The Washington Post Best Seller Lists. Shaka was recently recognized by the Oprah Winfrey Network as a “Soul Igniter” in the inaugural class of the SuperSoul 100. His 2014 TED Talk was featured in their “Year in Ideas” roundup and has over 1.5 million views. Today, Shaka’s priority is shifting societal narratives by creating content with deep social impact and high entertainment value. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Komentáře • 44

  • @repssrepps
    @repssrepps Před 2 lety +16

    I am Great, I am Awsome , I am Amazing, I am Thoughtful, I am kind, I am loving, I am caring, I am funny, I am smart, I’m a big boy, I’m a soldier, I’m a warrior, I am Me

  • @coparentingcollective
    @coparentingcollective Před 4 lety +25

    Awesome! Our children, regardless of their parent's relationship status, want just five things: love, acknowledgment, inclusion, joy, & opportunities. Should it really be that hard to get out of our feelings to let them feel like their life matters too? After divorce, nothing tells our kids they are still important like truly great co-parenting.

  • @alexandriaobong6753
    @alexandriaobong6753 Před 3 lety +8

    I could feel the love they have for each other. You could tell their breakup took a lot. Thank you so much for this.

  • @_Renee2
    @_Renee2 Před 9 měsíci +1

    "fostering trust to coexist as parents" this takes maturity from both sides.

  • @goncanouenochbisd56
    @goncanouenochbisd56 Před 4 lety +21

    How in the world this doesn't have a million views🤷‍♂️

  • @Allergictocatstoo
    @Allergictocatstoo Před 4 lety +9

    Screaming from my roof top, love is capable of so much good.

  • @leahvann7328
    @leahvann7328 Před rokem +5

    The first three minutes hit me hard. This whole time I’m blaming him but really, I’m the one to blame because I’m acting off of a hurt mentality and not love.

    • @shawnashamir
      @shawnashamir Před 3 měsíci +1

      watching in 2024 and girl I agree with you 100 percent I have been living and acting out of hurt which has breaded nothing but hurt. Its time to LOVE!

  • @perfettomusic1
    @perfettomusic1 Před 3 lety +8

    So beautiful. I cried through the entire talk. Thank you for doing this.

  • @daneedelmar4716
    @daneedelmar4716 Před rokem +1

    I'm working overnight shift and crying at work. I commend your honor for your family and the love you want to extend to your son❤

  • @sarahdean3082
    @sarahdean3082 Před 2 lety +1

    Made me cry, thank you, beautiful

  • @coreyneil8763
    @coreyneil8763 Před 2 lety +2

    I cry every time I watch this.

  • @perfettomusic1
    @perfettomusic1 Před 3 lety +2

    Well done, both of you.

  • @Co-ParentingCompass
    @Co-ParentingCompass Před rokem

    Wow, this video by Ebony Roberts and Shaka Senghor is so inspiring! It's incredible to see how they were able to put their differences aside and prioritize their child's well-being as co-parents, even after their breakup. Their approach of being allies instead of adversaries is a game-changer for those struggling with co-parenting. Their story is a testament to the power of forgiveness and the importance of putting our children first. Watching this talk is a must for anyone seeking guidance on how to co-parent successfully after a breakup.

  • @djgospelslimwtyj97.7fm6
    @djgospelslimwtyj97.7fm6 Před 3 lety +5

    Her book brought me here. I admire both of them.

  • @henrydavisjr1361
    @henrydavisjr1361 Před 3 lety +1

    Awesome!!!

  • @BETHJUAN86
    @BETHJUAN86 Před 4 lety +14

    This is good. Acknowledging the love that once was and allowing it to fuel the love for a shared child. It's aspiring. Thanks for sharing. Me and my daughter's father are in a good space now and it is nice to see other people who are in that same good space.

  • @goddessthairapy2838
    @goddessthairapy2838 Před 4 lety +2

    Love is the greatest SUPERPOWER!

  • @barbdf2
    @barbdf2 Před 4 lety +5

    Love is your SuperPower!

  • @sarahmoodle6076
    @sarahmoodle6076 Před 3 lety +1

    Loved it

  • @user-eq6to1rg7c
    @user-eq6to1rg7c Před rokem

    Good job 👏 👏👏

  • @harrisonmorin616
    @harrisonmorin616 Před 4 lety +3

    Beautiful

  • @gosegomakone3523
    @gosegomakone3523 Před 3 lety +1

    I love this

  • @couponemail1425
    @couponemail1425 Před rokem

    This brought tears to my eyes. Goodness, I have work to do.

  • @modestgoddess_1245
    @modestgoddess_1245 Před 2 lety +2

    This is my cousin💗💗💗

  • @nwad76
    @nwad76 Před 4 lety +8

    They are still in love with each other. But, this is beautiful.

  • @jamilahaforrest2058
    @jamilahaforrest2058 Před 3 lety +1

    Yass

  • @sammim6229
    @sammim6229 Před rokem

    How beautiful 😍

  • @sriwatisri7538
    @sriwatisri7538 Před 2 lety

    NET.

  • @fabco7
    @fabco7 Před 2 lety +6

    Horrible marriage, wonderfull co-parents. I don't know if I should be happy or not, because your son will still grow up in a broken home, no matter how good of a co-parent you are. At the end of the day, I hope it will work out for your son.

  • @jacobwooten6893
    @jacobwooten6893 Před 3 lety +5

    I honestly have no clue what the point of this Ted talk is. It was just stories with some exposition all followed by meaningless call and response. They barely touch on love and coparenting at all. They’re both there for him and talk every night. Ok...?

  • @nicknack8459
    @nicknack8459 Před 4 lety +14

    So she corresponded with a man in prison for murder, then started a family with him? She has a PhD. She could have done so much better and her family would still be intact to this day if she made better choices in her men.

    • @amandamqanda5225
      @amandamqanda5225 Před 4 lety +5

      Okay Mr Perfect!!

    • @charicemanor8045
      @charicemanor8045 Před 3 lety +6

      Don’t judge

    • @baiibeeNor
      @baiibeeNor Před 3 lety +4

      Wow that’s what you picked up

    • @trinajay2202
      @trinajay2202 Před 3 lety +4

      But wait... how do you know the latter of your comment?! 🙄🙄🙄

    • @fabco7
      @fabco7 Před 2 lety +3

      She probably would agreed on what you said. Unfortunately time can't get winded back to reconsider choices. Probably she won't make the same choice as she did I'm guessing