3 Strategies To Interrupt A Never-Ending Talker
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- čas přidán 30. 03. 2024
- If you're in a conversation where someone won't stop talking and you want to get a word in, here's 3 things I would progressively do in order to interrupt them.
1. Visual indicator
2. Visual & auditory indicator
3. Create your own space
Keep in mind if you're talking to me, I love to talk, so you'll probably have to use strategy 3 on me 😅
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If you get passed the 3rd grade and you haven't learned how to take turns when you talk it's just effing rude.
Two people talking is a conversation. One person talking is a lecture.
Yup! At the point I know I'm being disregarded as a participant, I walk away. I married a guy who is the Speech and Debate Coach for the high school where he also teaches math/science. Not only can you not get a word in, he 'discusses' to win, not to find common ground. If we didn't share a special needs son, I'd have walked all the way out long ago. Someday.....cus yeah, if someone is that in love with their own voice to the point they have the self-regulation of a 3yo, then it's not worth my time to try to talk. That would be pearls before swine.
my dad is like that and when i start talking he looks in his phone 🤦♂️
@@kaja5271 Wow! That's tough. Condolences.
Or you are autistic.
@@kaja5271 I'm so sorry.
None of this would have worked on my Nana. My friend tried to get up and leave while my Nana was talking to ME and she physically grabbed him by the arm and sat him back down. We were there for at least another 45 minutes. You just can’t understand the inescapable gravity of her monologues. To this day, I still can’t comprehend her ability to continuously string words and thoughts together while providing literally zero on ramp for her captives to interject. It was stunning.
my grandpa is like this, i think he's just lonely and enjoys our company
That's sooo funny!
I have met a couple of people who will just talk louder if you try to get a word in. It is so annoying.
Someone grabbing me by the arm and trying to seat me wouldn't have ended well with me. Not that I would have done anything to her, but I'd have stood up again and tell her firmly that if she doesn't let me go, I'll have to use self defence on her. Being old doesn't give a pass at being a narcissist
BenToalson: I’ve had a friend for decades (who I’m avoiding more and more) who matches your penultimate sentence. I LOVE your description of “continuously stringing words and thoughts together while providing literally zero on ramp for her captives to interject.” It’s exhausting,annoying and incredulous,all at the same time!😖😬🙄😵💫
What if I don't have anything to say. I just want them to stop talking. 😢
😆 Excellent question!
Hm...well if you're in a situation where you can get away from the talker (as in, not on a bus or plane or whatever), suddenly say something alarming like, "What was that sound!?" Then walk away pretending to hunt down the sound :D
You really can ask for them to be quiet. I've had to do it with a couple of people, and I think it's all in HOW you say it. It's worked well in both cases when I've said something along the lines of, "Hey, can you do me a favor? I just need some quiet time for (half hour or so/tonight/until we get to the store/whatever it is). I'm trying to think through something/need to chill a bit because I'm a little stressed and it helps me/again, whatever seems good). If they're not a toxic person, it should work out. I was amazed, actually, to find it goes absolutely fine. Then I just follow up with a "Thanks. That's all I need/OK, great," etc.
Walk away. 🦉
I put in earbud if none my earlier strategies work
The best way to deal with people who talk over you and dont stop is simply turn your back on them and walk away thats all you have to do sooner or later they might just get the message... It works for me
I know someone who was this bad and out of the corner of my eye I saw he just rotated his body to face the next closest person to him and didn't even skip a beat.
What if they follow you?
It's psychotic energy, sweet little girl me was too polite and programmed to set boundaries but now? I just walk away. I owe nothing to someone like that.
@@4saken404 😄
I usually say something like, “before I forget” because most people understand forgetting about what you wanted to say.
I have one friend with whom none of this works. At times I've been SEVERAL sentences into talking over her and she was still going strong. Eventually I run out of words to say and give up. I love her for other reasons but I really hate this. Literally the only escape is to say (over her), "I'm so sorry, I really have to go. Have a great day!" and then just walk away. I generally repeat variations of that a few times as I'm leaving to be sure she actually hears it, and that's the end of it. So frustrating.
Hahahaha that's crazy. XD
Yeah sadly I am in much the same boat. The person who does this to me the most is one of my best friends.
Have you…..told them?
@@quenyasansel That's an excellent question. I thought about addressing it in my original comment but it was already too long. Yes, I've told her. She's always apologetic but doesn't seem to grasp how severe the problem is. In fact, she generally just starts talking about it and then gets on a roll and before you know it she's doing the very thing she's talking about not doing.
I think she really is unaware. I think she gets in her own head and just doesn't even register that I'm saying anything until I'm walking away. And it's not just me. She's evidently been steamrolling people in this way (including her husband and son, though her daughter is also a talker and they pretty much just talk simultaneously all the time) for something like 60 years, so... 🤷🏻♀🤷🏻♀🤷🏻♀ 😕
@@theoriginaledi It must be so hard loving a person like this. Probably also hard being them and driving people away, maybe not actually realizing why…
The third option is to walk away, if the first two don't work they'd rather be listening to themselves anyway.
I think walking away is the only thing that really works
My boss is like this and it drives me up the wall. He will go on these endless unwanted monologues of random stories, leaving nobody a chance to get a word in. To make it better, he'll tell the same stories about a dozen times. But if others try to initiate a conversation, he will ignore them. Communication with this man is purely one directional and it's so exhausting to be trapped in the same room with him.
Sounds like we had the same boss. 😂
I'd guess it's autism. Sure sounds like it.
I love that this video was recommended in my feed just above another thumbnail with Neil DeGrasse Tyson.
That’s effing gold
That makes sense 😂😂
What do you say to a buffalo with sore knees?
Kneel on de grass bison
I needed this last Wednesday.
I was in the middle of the uncles talk and figured that this uncle was saying nonsense, and he kept ignoring my voice, so I found another uncle next to me and started a small talk with him about the mistakes that are happening.
Even though the group definitely didn't care about my space, I decided to pick a smaller win.
I think that’s a better approach, because even if you had successfully interrupted and got your turn to speak, they would jump right back in after 20 seconds.
I have a good friend who was nicknamed 'the world according to' decades ago and it stuck for good reason.
There was one time in the pub with a few of us and he was on his soap box again and i did something spontaneous which worked so well and got a few laughs .
I was staring straight in his eyes as he was sounding off and I started tilting my head as if to sigh but I carried on tilting my head right over to my shoulder and this really distracted him, he stopped talking and said what are you doing?
I simply said I'm trying to get a word in edgeways mate 😉
He's one of my best mates but boy can he talk for England😂
That's a good one
I got a guy I'm gonna try this on! Thank you.
I call bullshit on these "strategies". Not to mention that these visual ques have no affect when you're stuck with one of these folks on the phone. I've known several long talkers. You can make excuses by pretending that they're just passionate or whatever other excuse you want to use. What these people are is completely UN-self aware.
Yep, It is amazing the extremes I go through to avoid talkie neighbors, like doing yard work at 6AM in the morning, Or rarely answering the phone from certain people because they won't stop talking.
@@Rambleon444 Same here in a village in Germany... The neighbors are so nice but they can talk to you for 30 min or an hour and you just stand there and can't escape while they bring their photo albums to show you. Or you're on your way to work in the garden carrying heavy watering cans when they stop you and invite you to their garden get together. Then you're stuck there for an hour with people you don't know and food that you're allergic to. When you escape it's already cold and dark.
@@Dispatern LOL! So it's a global phenomenon, I feel your pain, I always think these people need to find each other so they can hang out and talk all day. I am assuming most like to talk more than listen.
Exactly. Doesn’t work for Teams/Zoom meetings either, where we’ve all disabled our cameras to save bandwidth. Although in that case I can just leave the room and come back 10 min later and not miss anything.
@@Rambleon444 You're absolutely right, it'd be best if they found like minded friends to talk to. Yes, they usually talk more than they listen. There's one neighbor that looks at you confused for a second when you have the audacity to say something. Then he continues with his monologue.
I avoid walking around the village in summer because everyone is in their gardens or out on the street. I also think of routes that include less talkative neighbors' houses. Sometimes I'm being stopped three times during a 6 minute walk when I'm going from the house to the garden (which is on different street).
My interesting dynamic at work...
#1. Since I'm quiet I often feel like people talk over me, and usually I just keep quiet, but when I clumsily jump in and push through with my point they tell me I'm rude because I'm interrupting them.
#2. On top of that I'm super frustrated with the state of the project and lack of management, and I feel like nobody hears me, so now I'm even more rude and interrupting people even more often to try and get through to them. Unfortunately they still don't get me, except now they are also annoyed with me.
The current solution? I'm looking for a new job. I'm tired of silently checking out.
Sounds like you’d be great at management: turn your frustration into a better outcome : best✌🏽
As someone who doesn't talk much, I have used these strategies to get words into a conversation. It works. The one thing I have found though is for people who don't string sentences together quickly we will get interrupted before our thought is fully formed and communicated even if it is a 1 min thought, sometimes we just need space to pause and then continue till conclusion. So my question for @askvinh is how do you hold the space that you claimed to communicate your thought knowing you will only be taking a min or two to speak?
I don’t know that this will work with strangers, but my dude and I (especially him, lol) have long pauses like that while we try to gather our thoughts a bit. We were interrupting each other a ton. So now if we know we really have something to say and will take a bit to get it out, we raise our hand and keep it up until we’re done. 😆 It’s not something we always do with just everyday conversation, but if one of us REALLY has a thought to get out during an actual discussion, it helps massively.
I'm that way. I get anxiety when speaking. The anxiety makes it difficult for me to form thoughts into sentences. Knowing the other person is waiting for me to finish and knowing that I can get interrupted at any moment makes it worse.
or the constant interjector. "I was at the park yesterday.." ooh ohh yeah, the park. mmmmhmmm yes ok yep alright mhmmmm "please shut up" lol
I only communicate through writing now 😂😂😂
Talk faster, if you take too long with pauses and/or to connect your thoughts, why are you even talking in first place?
I struggle with this dynamic constantly. Thank you for making this video.
I've found that you have to ask questions to throw an excessive talker off their train of thought. Don't ask about what they are talking about, just ask about anything else and when they start again, ask another question about anything else. It takes practice but it works.
Tell them they have something stuck in their teeth (whether they actually do or not). They get self-conscious and shut down.
I'm going to have to try this. Thanks for the input👍🏽.
There are some people nothing will ever work on. It's usually due to a brain disorder, mainly the ones that limit empathy. (Autism, narcissism, sociopathy, etc.) They don't want to hear you. They want you to hear them. That's the goal, and THEY are happy with it. Your feelings and interests aren't on their map and won't ever be.
I was married to that person for 25 years. Had to leave for space and peace and quiet. He's now 82 and still hasn't taken a breath. Not kidding.
Non stop speakers have no respect for the space of others when it comes to conversations, it feels as they have a need to be met and will not stop until it has been met.. the question is, where does it end?
It doesn't.
Knew someone in highschool who would just start coughing like she was choking. I knew she couldn't hear me so I stopped. It took a long time (years) before I realized she wasn't really coughing. 🤣 I never talked a lot, but if there was something I thought was interesting I dind't stop apparently. and then looking back I realized that was her way to deal.
One extra auditory signal: the quick short breath in. It's more subtle and works pretty well in my experience.
"Can't even grow a mustache" is now my go-to solution.
Thanks, Vinh!
often if someone gets on my nerves too much I will say "you talk too much"
ofcourse there are people who talk the same amount or more but actually listen to feedback!
You know, a lot of the people who talk too much really do seem to need things just that blunt, because generally, they're so thickheaded that anything less rolls off their back.
'I'm sorry I really need to use the bathroom', if necessary, take a small bottle of water and a spare pair of trousers. That should either shut 'em up or force a change of subject
Now that's thinking outside the box!
I have a friend who never stops talking. Repeating the same situation for like 5 times consecutively. I just say “uh huh” and stop listening
Dont even say uh-huh, see how that works.
What the heck are they doing 😅
@@chrismccaffrey8256 go to sleep and see how that works lol
or putting headphones on and blasting the maximal volume XD
@zakae6hdt7 I meant more like lying down and closing your eyes even if you dont actually sleep
@zakae6hdt7 ofcourse depending on the place, not everytime that person starts talking lol
The best way to avoid a discussion with that guy is to never start one. Just keep walking.
does this work on our mothers 😂
Lmfaoooo 😂
😂😂😂😂
and fathers...
Damn I was too late you beat me to it😂
If you want “the look”…
I have found that the best option is to say thank you and turn around and leave. No matter the subject at hand. They can enjoy the sound of their own voice all by themselves.
I just walk away lol
I got followed by my coworker who didn’t pick up on that 😅
These are purely dependent on the person you’re dealing with.
I had to attend another meeting and I said “ ok I get what you’re saying let’s pick this up when we all have time, it’s been 45mins, I have another important meeting.
I love Vihn's energy!
Oh! I am with you. I get pationate about things and get become a runaway truck. I try to be more concisous about looking for visual cues from people to let me know when I have gone too long. Thank you for all your great content.
I have a friend that could bang on for 3 hours straight before I got a legitimate word in. When I try to interject, I practically have to talk over her in which case she hasn’t heard a word I’ve said because she’s still too busy talking.
Generally I choose the times when I will actually even pick the phone up if it’s her.
In the instances of her leaning into a rant of some kind that just jolts and drains my energy, I have literally had to YELL her name at her about 5 times to get her attention and tell her “THAT’S ENOUGH!”
She does not know how to “read the room” at all, so being on the phone is worse, hence I make sure I have the energy to engage in the first place 😂
Yeah, I find walking away works amazing. Nothing says STFU more than that. I would hate to interrupt their monologue and quite frankly the person is rarely interesting enough to force a conversation. This hostage has left the building.
The idea of “creating space for yourself” gives me flashbacks to watching cable news channels where two opposing sides are being interviewed, and no one will let the other side talk. So unpleasant.
Extremely practical advice.
Fantastic advice!! Thank you!
Thanks, I needed this! 😂
i just leave or stop trying because it's too much effort 🌻 i'd rather think of something nice or do my stuff elsewhere. my life's too short for wasting the precious time
I have colleagues who are experts at hijacking conversations, which is I guess the opposite of the situation you address.
It shows that they dont really listen and respect the current speaker who has something to say and share.
What I have tried and what seems to work is to raise my voice and speak over them.
Granted it might not be the best "diplomatic" approach but it was interesting to try and see how it played out.
Sometimes Ive also tried to let them finish their "rant" (said with a smile), and then proceeded with what I was addressing. Which have worked ok depending on the other person in the room (the hijacker).
But as you described, some of them can just be relentless and never stop ranting on.
This is where I usually make a tactical withdrawal and focus on other important matters and tasks to fulfill.
And then return at a later time to continue my topic if I deem it important and necessary.
A common scenario when someone hijacks is that they start talking about more or less the same thing, which develops to their life story. At that point its not always easy to cut them off lol...
Full commit! hahahah I love this I'm always being talked over and I struggle. Do you even hear me? Am I really here, can you see me? Ahhhh
Amazing recommendations, Vinh. Greetings from Canada. Would be great to see you here very soon!
😂 fantastic, Vinh!
Good video, thanks again boss...
Surprisingly funny video 😂 and helpful
THANK YOU AND God bless you Vinh😇😇😇😎
This Dude turn into a main character☝️
This is one of your funniest videos 😂😂😂
I am the you need to create hour own space person😂 i respect the heck out of you when you do!
In my work I get this on the telephone all the time. I have a strategy that works all the time. I simply let them run on and am absolutely silent, no yes, nothing. Then after a few minutes I hear the "Are you there?" and I respond with Yes I am just letting you finish. Sometimes that is enough and sometimes they go again but after a second bout and they ask again "are you there" they let me have my say but I start with "now that you have had your full say, I need to comment." this works always.
🤣🤣🤣 Brilliant!
He just kept TalkingInOneLongIncrediblyUnbrokenSentenceMovingFromTopicToTopicSoThatNoOneHadTheChanceToInterruptItWasReallyQuiteHypnotic
Thank you for this, now can you do a video on how to stop being a non stop talker 😂😂😂😂 I noticed that after a lot of abuse and being silenced I talk and talk once I get the chance. Once I notice it, I stop but I have a lot to learn on how to have proper conversations and not interrupt as well. Talking to people feels like it’s in slow motion, I usually have good conversations with fast talkers but normal or slow talkers are the excruciating to listen to for me. I even speed up videos and audio books to feel normal.
I would like a video like this too! I talk too much as well and don’t notice when the friend is bored. My husband is really sick of it
I struggle with that sometimes too. What has helped me is setting a mental goal of learning one new thing about the person I’m conversing with, even if it’s mundane. It causes me to slow down my thought process and to ask more questions.
I have this "verbosity" too. For some people, it's a sign of ADHD. Everything they say reminds them of something else they want to say... then something else... and something else! The worst combination is when you get two people with ADHD talking to each other, constantly trying to interrupt each other, because the other person just reminded them of something ELSE they need to say, and they know they will forget if they don't say it straight away! The ones that don't take your first two hints aren't worth talking to, as they're just plain RUDE, so I step away, and make Goodbye gestures. I can't be bothered trying to compete.
I have a friend like that. I'm telling them something and before I'm done, they interject and go on tangent after tangent after tangent. Then after a while when I get to say something I return back to the original subject.
Also if they are excitedly talking about something I don't give a shit about, I just listen patiently (until I lose focus, then I just space out for a short while). They don't return the favor for even a second and roll their eyes and start looking around restlessly.
@@t0k3p0k3 Yeah those guys are hard work. They are only interested in themselves, and have not yet learned how to be less selfish in a conversation. If you send them a link to this video, the chances are, they'll go: "Aww I HATE people like that!" 😂
@@Amperzand Not really. We (those of us with ADHD) know we have this problem, we're very conscious of it and often ashamed about it and get a lifetime of people hating on us for it. It takes a lot of concentration not to slip into this which can be done but it's going to take me so much effort to focus on this I won't be able to follow your conversation as much as I'm trying to.
This guy has such a deep voice. Good ideas for a person like me who tends to go straight to the "shut the F--- up" stage- honest but alittle too blunt. 🤑
When someone talks without listening to the others his words are worthless.
I have this rule, if I try to say something and someone else talks over me and it happens twice, I don’t try again and I disengage from the conversation. Ppl usually clue in that I’m not really paying a bit of attention to what they’re saying and they usually end up saying “oh, were you trying to say someting?” 😂
I have the same rule! Once may have been unintentional, but twice is not. Three times and I walk out.
This is one reason I prefer messaging online. At least then people can visually see my point, and it's out of my head so I don't miss the timing. It's on them whether they read it or not, but at least I got it out
Awesome 👍🏻👍🏻
I have someone like this in my life. Don't get me wrong: he's well-meaning, and I love him to death, but he can literally talk for an hour or more with no breaks (I've watched the clock). What I don't get about it is that I, myself, have trouble talking for more than five to ten minutes at a time, even with the conversation being a back-and-forth (i.e. I don't have to come up with all the content of the conversation). Like, where does it all even come from??? But, yes, I've learned that if I wait for a break to interject or leave the conversation, that break literally may not come. I will see if maybe these tips work...
I'm a very quiet person by nature and I've said many times that I don't understand how talkers even come up with all those words without stopping to think for a while. It's actually amazing to me.
Our brains literally never stop. Internally we can carry on a dozen conversations at once and keep track of it. It's a very noisy internal head space. I can't understand people who don't have this constant motor running.
This is why I’m glad that no one at the gym talks to me, because some of those folks do waaay too much chitchatting and not nearly enough actual working out (and they have poor results as a result of it). 🚫
I have very good gym results. 😑
He seems very proud of his own opinions.
A gest or a sound, wow never thought of that
Thanks for this video Vinh. I have this so-called friend who never stops talking. It's always about her!! Your suggestion, holding up your palm should work; otherwise, it pays to never get together with this person too often. No one should think they're the center of the universe 🎉.
An airhorn also works!
I was one till my thyroid surgery. Now, its lots better.
But I have friends who do it, so I just let them talk and I basically zone out. Especially on the telephone. I let them talk, and I surf facebook, and just “yep, mhmmmm” and have completely checked out.
I'm such a long talker...it pains me to think back on the friends and family sucked into the conversations over the decades. Thankfully, I am becoming more self-aware. Baby steps!
It's frustrating, I get this from most of the people that I love; so I interact with them very very rarely; and I'm starting to make new balanced friends.… It's not that they are not interesting, but it it's very hard to interject, much less have some pauses., And that's what I look for in People now. Monologues here and there and over talking is fine, and even normal, but when it's a one-way conversation, I feel flat at the end.
When’s they see my back view getting smaller and smaller…they stop talking!
I'm one who gets lost in my thoughts and rambles. I have lots to say and my train of thought can go on. These are all great pieces of advice, as many of us, I think, just lose focus. It's not that we *don't* want to hear your opinions. I'm working on it, as it isn't ideal of course, allowing more back and forth is. But these are great tips for the work in progress after you make someone aware of it.
My advice if a friend is one of the nonstop talkers, have a conversation where you let them know it does bother you. If they're your friend, they'll care. But it's gonna take time to establish the mental restraint for them, as I said, we get lost in our own thoughts explaining our stances. But giving them these queues, and a great one is you say "before I forget," as mentioned in another comment, it helps to make progress until a healthier back and forth is established.
Also I will say, if your friend group is a regular gathering of like 4 or more people, expect competing to talk as a norm honestly. You have 4 brains active and it is just the nature of that circumstance. But don't just resign and clam up.
Remember! In a conversation, if you talk for more than 60 seconds in a row, your conversation has mutated into monologue.
I am so guilty of this, especially with clients, and I always feel so bad when I realize I do it. It never comes from a place of wanting to dominate any conversation. It comes from a place of wanting to convey as much useful information as possible.
Not sure if this helps, but I've worked with a lot of people, and I learned that what they generally want above all else is to be listened to, so they usually see that as being the MOST useful. I bet you anything if you shifted your default focus from 'maximum info' to 'high-listening' mode, you'd have drastically different conversations and get whole new results. It can transform the quality of your exchanges overnight. Nobody listens deeply anymore, and we all need it so much! It's a rare gift for people to be listened to, and it matters an immense amount to people -- especially customers, students, clients, etc.
Ask clients lots of questions, ask for the whys behind their answers, tell them when you get what they mean, ask them to say more about their reasons, etc. It's got a powerful effect that has never, ever failed me. Your clients will absolutely LOVE you for doing it and prefer to work with you, because they know they're going to be well considered and well understood. I can't recommend it enough!
Sometimes I want to add some input into the conversation, but I haven't rehearsed what specific thing I'm going to say beforehand, so I just end up doing the thing you demonstrated, where I start talking and don't finish because someone else is still going. It's difficult because I can't focus on what else to say beyond the first part of my sentence.
I should send this to my friends so they can manage me better lmaoooo
These people get offended and will probably say, you interrupt me, after minutes of monologue. My 4th recommendation is, turn around and walk away without saying anything. Politely. 5th and simplest, just don't initiate conversation with them. Simple.
Narcs holding court aren't worth talking to. But thanks for the tips anyways. Might work well with well-meaning teens learning to listen.
A colleague does this and not only that, any opinion you have (even if it's the SAME as theirs) is taken as an argument. It's annoying and they always seek me out to talk (at not with). I've learned to just be Cillian Murphy and they get the hint.... 🤭
Most people talk so much shit that i don’t even bother trying to interject, i just nod and smile.
I'm autistic, so I just raise my voice and say "Stop talking!".
So helpful! I have a lovely co worker who didn’t understand when I started walking away (to end conversation, bc gotta work) and just followed me and talked so am going to try a clearer indicator like the Hand! See if that works. 😂
Great.
I laughed at “monsters that monsters are scared of.” Lol
Got a buddy that is the .000001% will not stfu!
I got injured bad a few years ago, been having hard time finding work. After a 1½ year of no work. I got a job. Was excited like a teenager getting first job.
He came over and the moment he walked through the door he started talking. I bet at least 20 minutes of him talking. Me trting several times to get a word in.
I finally straight out told him to stfu!
His mouth locked up quicker then a straight guys bum in a gay bar!
I raise my hand like a student
I just turn my head and walk away.😂
I got this guy that comes by my shop, and he's talking before he even gets out of his vehicle. Then he'll make a bee line for me and get right up close to me in my personal space, ratchet jawing the whole time, asking me questions that he won't let me answer. I think it's kind of funny, but when I've had enough, I have to literally get rude and say " You have to leave now, you're driving me nuts!" And then he'll head back to his truck, make a few steps, turn back to me making another attempt to talk more, and I'll have to say "Git! Go on!". I'm an extremely polite person, and I hate to have to be like that, but that's what it takes to get him to leave. It doesn't seem to offend him though, and he'll still be talking to himself while he get's in his truck and drives off.
It probably doesn't offend him because he hears it all day wherever he goes! LOL
A couple of points...
When in an on-line meeting, sometimes (depending on the Company policies and settings, and the app) you can simply move your mouse cursor to their microphone and mute them.
Also, some people will be using technology that mutes their speakers when they're talking. It's simplex, not full-duplex. They can't hear you when they're talking. It's like Push-To-Talk (PTT). I've had a corporate lady-boss on the phone yabbering away, and I was banging my desk telephone handset on my desk (BANG!! BANG!! BANG!!) and she even didn't hear it (she was in PTT mode).
Yes, and use their name
Is it miracle or whatever but yesterday I met my cousin nd she's one these ppl keep talking endlessly.. I wanted to keep my opinions too but she won't let me talk so it was irritating plus she was self absorbed I hate tht
Well nd suddenly this video popped up at my homepage really needed it❤
Ok I’ll see if this works with my mother 😂
"Allllllllrighty there, Talky McTalkerson!"
I need to give this one a “go” when dealing with my brother who is a lawyer🙄❤’em but feel as if my words don’t mean “squat”😮
" the worst of us " 😅
I find touching the person on the elbow or side of their forearm works. The touch causes a pattern interrupt. They stop talking to look at the source of the touch. This is where I jump in.
I need this, I always get stuck with people talking at me forever cause I have no idea to stop them
I need this. 1.5 yrs working with my manager and boy……oh……boy. He just GOES, no pause. He’ll even talk over you, he’ll even cut you off, he’ll even bounce from topic to topic and I’ve had meeting end up being 30mins to 2 hours with him just GOING ON. You have to just leave the meeting to end it. I’ll try the visual indicator first…..
Just hold your finger up act like your about to sneeze, then say what you want to say instead of sneezing. 😎 Haven’t tried it but I think it’d be hilarious
I avoid those people like the plague. I also just walk away while they're talking. Return rude for rude.
4th approach is to just walk away
I just leave the room. Problem solved
I had a moment recently where I was volunteering and was standing where I needed to stand. Another volunteer kept telling long-winded stories and I couldn’t go anywhere nor did I have anything to say, so I just had to suffer through it 😅
Take out your smartphone and watch some CZcams videos!
I like the idea of taking off your sock and hand it to the non-stop talker. See if that works.
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That lets you get one word in, but how do you stop someone who then takes whatever you just said and turns it into the start of their next ramble?
Okay - Now how do you do this over the telephone?
Say “hold on one second, I need to say something” haha
Could it be that these nonstop talkers just really have a deep need to be heard? My mom talked like this, and she had deep seated insecurities. Maybe some compassion is needed.❤ The best, kindest interruption method I learned from Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication... I have used this successfully many times in my Meetup groups. Simply say, "I going to interrupt you now..." then let the person know the reason (we need to move on) or how you feel. Just a thought... 😊❤