To Anyone Going Through A Breakup (for boys only)

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  • čas přidán 30. 06. 2024
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    Breakups may end relationships, but they also create new ones.
    Let’s talk about it.
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    0:00 Intro
    0:56 Men vs Breakup
    2:19 Let me explain
    3:06 Let's talk breakups
    5:15 The sad fact
    6:00 My final advice to men

Komentáře • 886

  • @trajan15
    @trajan15 Před 2 měsíci +300

    I met her in my darkest place, we both grew so much together, and now it’s over. It’s hard to think the woman who saved me is gone

    • @alfiere2078
      @alfiere2078 Před 29 dny +14

      i can feel this a lot, man..

    • @ffjake4762
      @ffjake4762 Před 27 dny +2

      Felt

    • @zacharypecora5339
      @zacharypecora5339 Před 25 dny +5

      I fully feel that man, the same thing happened to me. She got me to finally stop getting pinned and actually “Wrestle the Giant” and then she left

    • @hunterelliott4858
      @hunterelliott4858 Před 24 dny +5

      That’s the problem brother. You gotta get out of the dark place before you meet the one. Gotta have some self worth and value before you get serious. Then you’re just relying on her to give you value

    • @worldrecordmethod7119
      @worldrecordmethod7119 Před 20 dny +4

      wtf me too man, chick literally pulled me out of the gutter and turned me into a great man. I know it feels like you’re back in the gutter now that she’s gone but you’re not. I’m currently 55 days in and it’s not easy, but it definitely feels possible

  • @ianfranco4686
    @ianfranco4686 Před 5 měsíci +666

    That hug part damn! Yeah i really need that so bad. To all us men going through these phases sending y'all hugs bros! We fucking got this!

    • @tbm4557
      @tbm4557 Před 5 měsíci +12

      I completley agree with you. It is really hard for me now bro. And all I can think about is that hug from her. But in the day when I am with my friends it is a lot esier, but the evenigs, damn they hit hard, I am alone and cant stop thinging about how it was. But I am trying. Hope you are too!

    • @regan420
      @regan420 Před 3 měsíci +4

      ⁠@@tbm4557 I am thinking the exact same thing. I can’t remember the last time I hugging someone that wasn’t her. You’re literally alone with your thoughts contemplating things you should’ve done to make her want you but you didn’t so you just blame yourself and it hurts so much.

    • @nlegault1218
      @nlegault1218 Před 2 měsíci +1

      i literally choked up when he said that

    • @anthonyesposito4344
      @anthonyesposito4344 Před 14 dny

      @@nlegault1218same

  • @joeykidney
    @joeykidney  Před 5 měsíci +692

    boys, as cheesy as it seems - you are not alone.

    • @lukebouwman6843
      @lukebouwman6843 Před 4 měsíci +5

      You've just helped me more than you can even imagine Mr joey.... Thank you

    • @Privileged_Slave
      @Privileged_Slave Před 4 měsíci +5

      I’m grateful for your video and advice . It helped me calm down and have a different perspective on my situation .

    • @LucasRiley-ig1gf
      @LucasRiley-ig1gf Před 4 měsíci +2

      Thanks Joey

    • @SmorezCx
      @SmorezCx Před 4 měsíci +4

      You just helped save someones life, me. I love you for that! ❤

    • @shanevrins8470
      @shanevrins8470 Před 4 měsíci +1

      Why does it feel like the complete opposite then? 😪

  • @SamuelLee-kc3rh
    @SamuelLee-kc3rh Před měsícem +422

    Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her

    • @SamuelLee-kc3rh
      @SamuelLee-kc3rh Před měsícem

      wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

    • @SamuelLee-kc3rh
      @SamuelLee-kc3rh Před měsícem

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

    • @andregonzalez2086
      @andregonzalez2086 Před měsícem +6

      hey man im going thru something smilar i wasn't married but i felt like she was the one... hold on there brother there is always someone that loves you enough to share the pain you are bearing rn either be friends or family

    • @royalclub148
      @royalclub148 Před měsícem +5

      My advice is don't fight your thoughts, because its show that you dont have self love and authenticy. I understand that you dont want to think about here, because we want to move on. But thats how our system works, the harder we will try, the harder it will return. And i know its hard, we splitt parties 2 months ago and it still hurts. But what i experienced is to welcome your thoughts.

    • @pixeljoker8759
      @pixeljoker8759 Před 24 dny

      It will pass you just have to feel your feelings and just let go ok its hard but you can do it I promise

  • @cocoa_ar
    @cocoa_ar Před 5 měsíci +231

    Why did I tear up after he said "When was the last time you felt a hug?"?

    • @Crusader930
      @Crusader930 Před 4 měsíci +4

      no bur fr i started crying

    • @regan420
      @regan420 Před 3 měsíci +2

      I came close to crying bc I couldn’t think of the last time someone other than my ex hugged me

    • @AKrieger94
      @AKrieger94 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Same.. I literally cannot remember

    • @McSalty087
      @McSalty087 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Idk

    • @anirbantm8824
      @anirbantm8824 Před 2 měsíci +1

      25th march 2023 last time she hugged me unexpectly from my back❤‍🩹

  • @SpyOnDeck
    @SpyOnDeck Před měsícem +90

    7 years ended last week. I've been through heartbreak before, but this one hurts more than any of them combined.
    Trusting in God for brighter days ahead. Praying for all my boys feeling the same hurt. We got this Kings. Stay strong 👊

    • @jordy9313
      @jordy9313 Před měsícem +4

      Hope you are Allright. Same thing happend to me last week. After 7 years, she left me. And moved back to her home town, 200 kilometers away. Stay strong and positive

    • @SpyOnDeck
      @SpyOnDeck Před měsícem

      @@jordy9313 🙏 sorry to hear. My relationship has turned into long distance. It's still tough to deal with. Hang in there 👊

    • @oliverislost
      @oliverislost Před 25 dny +1

      dude, me too
      I feel like shit and I'm the one who broke up with her

    • @worldrecordmethod7119
      @worldrecordmethod7119 Před 20 dny +1

      7 years is insane man. honestly I would look into Okbaby break up reaction videos, it’s been my form of therapy and it’s pretty funny. She ended a 7 year relationship with her bf and married his friend later. Bro was absolutely wrecked for a whole year then suddenly got a girlfriend from heaven. Gorgeous beyond words and his ex got fat and ugly. Content about their break up has literally been getting me through the heartbreak one chuckle at a time

    • @stefanandersson1263
      @stefanandersson1263 Před 19 dny +1

      hope youre doing okay brother

  • @lordstone57
    @lordstone57 Před 4 měsíci +263

    I’m in college and my girlfriend of 10 months who is still back home just broke up with me. I’ve had horrible relationships in the past, but she was the first one to ever really love me and show me that she loved me. She wrote me handwritten notes every day and I’d write her letters, she took the time to text me and remind me to have some food in between classes and she would call me every night and would rant about work and then eventually we would fall asleep on the phone together. I honestly saw the rest of my life with her. She took me out of such a horrible place and was the first person I was able to cry in front of in years. She honestly was the first person who made me feel safe enough to cry at all. She’s back home though and long distance is hard. We both love eachother but can’t say it. I truly believe she is my soulmate and the one I’m meant to be with, and I’m not planning on looking around at other girls anytime soon. I hate the idea of “dating just to date”, I only date if I genuinely see a long term/possible future with someone. I’ve only been in 3 relationships and those were because I saw a future with each of them, the first two were honestly middle school and then high school relationships and I would hardly call them relationships looking back at them, tbh I never kissed either of them because I didn’t feel comfortable with doing so and I wanted my first kiss to be special; this girl that just left me was my first, and was the first person I truly felt I was meant to be with. I wanted to make every memory by her side. I saw us starting a family someday and growing old together. She told me to stop texting her because I was asking about why we were breaking up, so I wrote her a letter and mailed it telling her one last time that I do love and care about her and that I’d be here for her whether it’s 10 months or 10 years that we don’t talk with one another. I finished it off with “And hopefully, if fate wills it, I will See You Again

    • @redo3390
      @redo3390 Před 4 měsíci +10

      im in the same boat brother, best wishes

    • @obsidian8018
      @obsidian8018 Před 4 měsíci +22

      brother, i want to say that im also in the same boat as you but she was my first girlfriend, we spent so much time together everyday, video calls and in class together but then everything just broke apart (not related to cheating). our relationship is also 10months and i gave away everything for her, i had friends before i met her but then one of the friends betrayed my trust so i just gave up on friends as a whole and gave everything for her and it still wasnt enough. now that we are done, i realize that im not alone and i owe my friends an apology.(some of ‘y friends changed schools becus im in highschool). i cant understand the intensity of your pain but i do understand your type of pain. we, as men or “boys” dont get to open up and talk about emotions a lot but at the end of the day, we are all human and we cant stop our feelings. i never comment on videos but seeing your emotion, pain and suffering in the form of this post makes me want to speak up and say that you arent alone and we can get through this. i hate to admit that even im tearing up abit. (ironic how my pfp is obsidian and there is an item called crying obsidian and im only making this joke to lighten up the mood abit and you also have a minecraft pfp, i hope my form of joking it dont show my age) good luck man, we can get through this, from a random person on the internet to another random person on the internet

    • @thatonedudethatplaysroblox3137
      @thatonedudethatplaysroblox3137 Před 4 měsíci +7

      I'm sorry man, the same thing happened to me. One man to another, hopefully we all get though this. Prayers your way friend.

    • @S.Drift.1
      @S.Drift.1 Před 3 měsíci +6

      Ik how you feel emotionally. I was in a relationship of almost 3 yrs. Today she called it quits after saying that she’s tired of trying and telling me what to do. Moments later I got in my car and broke down, I’ve never broke down like this before especially in a relationship. I’ve ofc tried to reason with her but she keeps saying “I’m sorry but no”. I’ll keep trying since we decided to continue the convo tomorrow but she said nothing will change her mind, hopefully I can bc I don’t want to lose all of this progress and start over.

    • @MM-py9st
      @MM-py9st Před 3 měsíci +1

      Broke up with my first girlfriend two weeks ago, we were together for almost 13 months and then she suddenly became cold and wanted to take a break even though we hadn’t seen each other in 5 months. She wouldn’t really talk to me and her main reasoning was because of where both of us were in life relative to each other. We both graduated college but she makes WAY more than me and despite giving her everything I could with what little I had, it wasn’t enough. I don’t want to get into too much detail but she was the first girl I ever connected with so deeply. I used to think we could’ve been soulmates but things started to change and in the end it didn’t work out. I also don’t normally date unless it’s with someone I’m serious about having a future with which is why my first relationship/kiss was at the age of 22. Anyways, it was tough. Just wanted to say I appreciate all the effort put into this video and to anyone going through a breakup, I want you to know everything will be okay. You deserve to be happy and you will find that happiness one day, just focus on enjoying the journey until you meet the right one.

  • @Somusicais
    @Somusicais Před 20 dny +168

    I suffered severe depression several years ago. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd.
    Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.

    • @user-nh5ze8hq5e
      @user-nh5ze8hq5e Před 20 dny

      Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

    • @ToniMonteroroman
      @ToniMonteroroman Před 20 dny

      Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @HAMZAPINE
      @HAMZAPINE Před 20 dny

      I wish they were readily available in my place.
      Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
      He's constantly talking about killing someone.
      He's violent. Anyone reading this
      Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

    • @user-nh5ze8hq5e
      @user-nh5ze8hq5e Před 20 dny

      Is he on instagram?

    • @ToniMonteroroman
      @ToniMonteroroman Před 20 dny

      😊Yes he is dr.porassss.

  • @mdcmdc1
    @mdcmdc1 Před 3 měsíci +48

    And they think men don't care...it's really difficult to be with someone and then suddenly it's gone. You can have friends, parents or whatever, but its your partner you build a life with. The emptiness is real.

    • @pook304
      @pook304 Před 20 dny +1

      It sure is cause I'm completely empty and she doesn't even care one goddamn bit about it.

    • @Satsusss
      @Satsusss Před 17 dny

      ​@@pook304she does trust me

  • @aidanlund3767
    @aidanlund3767 Před 4 měsíci +133

    Just gotten broken up with by my girlfriend of a year and 4 months. I was too attached to her and she needed some space and independence. After losing her a few days ago, I have felt so empty. I have no motivation to do anything and I’m constantly wanting to text her back and fix everything, even though I know she wants to move on. I hate this feeling so much
    Edit: Thank you guys for all of the support. While it is sad to know other people are experiencing what I’m feeling, it does help me to understand that I’m not alone. This feeling still sucks, but time does heal. We got this boys. Sending love to all of you❤️

    • @iwanther17
      @iwanther17 Před 4 měsíci +10

      Im on the same boat as you she just broke up with me and i feel so empty.

    • @christianstone8570
      @christianstone8570 Před 4 měsíci +3

      Same here!! 1 year and 4 months! we were perfect

    • @christianstone8570
      @christianstone8570 Před 4 měsíci +2

      I hate this man

    • @TevitaSwann
      @TevitaSwann Před 2 měsíci +3

      Same boat right now bro. It's really hard man.

    • @toxicty6595
      @toxicty6595 Před 2 měsíci +2

      How's everyone doing

  • @issa_adventures
    @issa_adventures Před 4 měsíci +136

    I’m crying watching this video, it hurts so much. But thank you for making it. It was something I needed to see.

  • @Valhalla2008
    @Valhalla2008 Před 3 měsíci +110

    My girlfriend left me on my birthday, right after I got home from the Walter reed military hospital, because my dad was in a helicopter crash. I've been so depressed from that and to the things I saw in the hospital. I'm struggling man, I've been needing something like this. Especially when we live in a society where Men can't show their feelings. Where men just need to go suck it up and keep working. I'm just, struggling. Struggling with my faith, Struggling with depression, struggling with the will to live. I needed this. Thank you.

    • @KVuong-rv2hs
      @KVuong-rv2hs Před 3 měsíci +5

      Let tears water the seeds of your future's happiness.

    • @jimg5797
      @jimg5797 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Me too brother..

    • @AKrieger94
      @AKrieger94 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Sending love for you brother! Keep fighting. It shall pass 🙏

    • @gakorothyt9768
      @gakorothyt9768 Před 2 měsíci +6

      Bro, I am truly for your loss. Especially for you dad. It must really be hard for you to just keep living. I know what you're going through. My mom's gonna have surgery, I have me end Semester exams, and my woman whom I thought to be my emotional anchor left me. So my whole life is just crumbling apart bro. And I can't show that to anybody else. I can cry and grieve in solace. That's the best I can do right now. Everyday it's hard to put on a I'm happy and fine face and live my day as usual
      So you're not alone brother. We are there for each other.

    • @jonburnett2207
      @jonburnett2207 Před měsícem

      stay strong my bro (:

  • @Scallopedpotatocat
    @Scallopedpotatocat Před 5 měsíci +64

    This is really sweet more men need to know it’s okay be emotional and express themselves. You’re a great example of a man to look up to. Thank you for everything joey. You’ve changed my life and I’m in a much better and healthier spot

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  Před 5 měsíci +7

      appreciate you

    • @mk0759
      @mk0759 Před 2 měsíci +1

      It'd be nice if that were true. Usually, a man is wise to keep his guard up and his vulnerable emotions hidden. Most people will turn it against him sooner or later if he lets them that close (I've seen it too many times). There's no social stigma or consequence for emotionally attacking men, even when it's blatant and out of pure spite. A lucky few may have a male friend who's been in that painful situation too, can truly empathise and be trusted to confide in. That's still only a lucky FEW from my observations.

  • @noahseip4420
    @noahseip4420 Před 3 měsíci +20

    Thank you. The hardest part is letting go of the meaning you attached to them, and the vision you had for you guys and for the future. Looking back at pictures, from when things were great, looking back at a letter she wrote you telling how much she loved you. Now all of a sudden she is moved on and does not have feelings for you anymore. The pain of her moving on, and wanting to see other people the pain of all the memories, and the pain that she is excited to be moving forewared without you is a pain like nothing else.

  • @TheThinkFirst
    @TheThinkFirst Před 5 měsíci +25

    This really does describe all the emotions that I’ve felt so far with my recent breakup. I’m still moving towards the 3rd and 4th step in the first part. Keep doing great things because mental health is extremely important.

  • @harmmx2923
    @harmmx2923 Před 5 měsíci +24

    When you started about the "'hug" i broke down, perfect words.
    Thank you Joey

  • @ryan_clutch35
    @ryan_clutch35 Před 5 měsíci +88

    Although its been 6 months since my 2.5 year relationship ended, this video just saved me from a lifetime of unhealthy thoughts and all I can say is thank you. To everyone else who may read this, take this from someone who made mistakes (even with the right intentions) and had to get over the depths of self-blame. YOU. ARE. NOT. ALONE.
    Love yourself and forgive yourself for any mistakes you may have made. Nothing moves linear so let the lessons be lessons and move forward with your new perspective, because one day you'll realize how strong you truly are. You are the author of your own life story. Some chapters may be your favorite and some you might choose to skip, but realize that you hold the pen. So write the story you want! Go out and try something you've always wanted to do, tell your loved ones you appreciate them, and let the next time you smile be the evidence that you deserve to be happy.
    Thank you for being on this Earth with me, I can't wait to read the story you write!

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  Před 5 měsíci +12

      love this

    • @parashar.s
      @parashar.s Před 4 měsíci +2

      thanks man I can relate to the things you said I hope everything will be fine

    • @ryan_clutch35
      @ryan_clutch35 Před 4 měsíci +2

      @@parashar.s You'll be okay and everything will be fine, as long as you make yourself your biggest cheerleader. You may not like who you see in the mirror today, but that's the crazy part. It doesn't reflect who we'll be in the future. So keep moving forward and keep the momentum! You have my complete support!

  • @joaomacedo7279
    @joaomacedo7279 Před 3 měsíci +4

    You are one of the few that actually says what it's need to be heard. It has been over a year now and I guess I am at the last stage, I've accepted it and moving forward but still with pain in my heart but I don't ignore my feelings anymore. That hug thing at the end it's so true, everyone needs a tight hug from time to time!

  • @PheonxGlare
    @PheonxGlare Před měsícem +4

    Coming back to your videos in my 2nd heartbreak feels like popping a drink with my older brother and talking about it all.
    I still remember sending in a video 4 years ago sharing with you and your viewers that i was afraid of love- it was my biggest anxiety. The cause of panic attacks, and despite all of that, it was the reason i got up every morning.
    That girl built me back up over those four years, but found a way to convince herself to leave despite everything i did for her. Now, its my turn to build myself up, separate from loving her.
    Thank you, Joey. Your videos are something every guy whos ever been hurt like this should see.

  • @user-wd8gm7vg5h
    @user-wd8gm7vg5h Před 5 měsíci +6

    thanks a lot, it’s the seemingly cringy things that are always what we need to hear especially about something like this. Keep doing what you are doing it’s helping me and i’m sure it’s helping a lot of other people too. Thanks

  • @D-A-N-
    @D-A-N- Před 4 měsíci +13

    The fact almost everyone went thru this and is going thru it makes u feel better that what happened to u is really not that special, it’s just part of the game.

  • @Somusicais
    @Somusicais Před měsícem +128

    Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

    • @user-nh5ze8hq5e
      @user-nh5ze8hq5e Před měsícem

      Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

    • @ToniMonteroroman
      @ToniMonteroroman Před měsícem

      Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @HAMZAPINE
      @HAMZAPINE Před měsícem

      I wish they were readily available in my place.
      Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
      He's constantly talking about killing someone.
      He's violent. Anyone reading this
      Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

    • @user-nh5ze8hq5e
      @user-nh5ze8hq5e Před měsícem

      Is he on instagram?

    • @ToniMonteroroman
      @ToniMonteroroman Před měsícem

      Yes he is dr.porass.

  • @romanfude2938
    @romanfude2938 Před 5 měsíci +8

    Hey Joey, I wanted to say thank you for all that you do. I’m currently reading your books working backwards and appreciating every word that’s in them. Keep up the good work can’t wait for what’s ahead!

  • @henrichomette831
    @henrichomette831 Před 3 měsíci +4

    I cried watching this, your so genuine and real. Thank you

  • @areebjaved0022
    @areebjaved0022 Před 4 měsíci +4

    Thanks for this. She just left me yesterday and her mom was trying to comfort me, it's been really hard even though it's been a day. I will still be there for her and support her as she has more problems than me

  • @Syndor12
    @Syndor12 Před 4 měsíci +7

    Thank you. I'm 28, been in only one serious long distance relationship for the last 4 years. We'd broken up three times before, but we'd always get back together. I finally ended it again, two weeks ago. She was my best friend, my safe place, but logistically we just couldn't be together. Neither of us fell out of love, we just knew we wouldn't be able to get married. No one really tells you how to handle those breakups where both people are still in love but have to break up for reasons out of their control. Still, this video helped me.

  • @nlegault1218
    @nlegault1218 Před 2 měsíci +3

    i love everything in this video, but you really got me when you said i need to hug someone. i started choking up

  • @rasmusjaskari5976
    @rasmusjaskari5976 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Thank you bro. Going through all of this right now, this is what i needed

  • @sayonarasakura
    @sayonarasakura Před 3 měsíci +1

    very good heartfelt video. been a year and still getting over it. thanks for caring when most don't

  • @TheWaunfawr
    @TheWaunfawr Před 4 měsíci +97

    Day 77 after a 6 year relationship

    • @retroaspects729
      @retroaspects729 Před 3 měsíci +5

      Same we’ll get through it brother

    • @captainrich0222
      @captainrich0222 Před 3 měsíci +6

      I’m on day 7 after a 3.5 year one. Does it get easier?

    • @TheWaunfawr
      @TheWaunfawr Před 3 měsíci

      @@captainrich0222 it does mate.
      You go from being in pain and upset into a stage of being confused and not knowing what’s next for you in life. You just have to grind the pain out mate. Feel your emotions and let them out, no shame in it. Stay active, get closer to your friends and family and set some big goals in your life! My 2 goals this year is to go to the Amazon and do ayahuasca then later on climb up Mount Kilimanjaro! It’s something to look forward to and to prepare for!

    • @anzorthewolf5558
      @anzorthewolf5558 Před 3 měsíci

      ​@@captainrich0222
      Hello brother! I hope you're doing well❤️
      I know it's so hard to deal with especially if it wasn't you who decided to break up
      I have been in an online relationship for over 8 years
      And today she just decided to break up just like that... No reason at all... 8 years.... 8 years gone from my life the memories, the feelings, the emotions... They meant nothing to her...
      She were just manipulating me all the time... I tried everything to make her stay... My feelings were so true and pure towards her
      She was my everything my love my soul my motivation to keep going and to never give up
      I thought that she was the one for me... I gave her everything.....
      Yet I meant nothing to her...
      I rejected many girls in real life for her, it was so hard for me but I did it anyway just for her
      And now after all of these years together.....after 8 years she just left me like it was nothing
      Just simply saying: "I think we should break up I'm sorry but we can't be together" nothing more and nothing less
      She just left like it was nothing
      It's so hard to deal with, so much pain in my heart, so much memories that won't fade away
      Stand strong brother! You deserve better than that! You'll get up from this
      It's ok if you fall down but remember no one will hold you back up but yourself
      Take your time to heal and let it all go away
      Don't chase a silhouette that's long gone
      She's gone forever and she'll never return
      Stay strong brother❤️ I hope you the best in your life!

    • @nelsonleung613
      @nelsonleung613 Před 3 měsíci

      @@captainrich0222Day 1 for me from a 3 year relationship

  • @mikelgutmut
    @mikelgutmut Před 3 měsíci +2

    This is just so good, thank you brother. Almost a year since I took the decision to break up with my ex-girlfriend. It has been a super healthy breakup, full of respect and love, but also, of course, so much pain. Your words are just so accurate and true. Thank you. Keep moving forward guys and strive to become better men in the process.

  • @skeley1167
    @skeley1167 Před 11 dny +1

    That hug part really got me man. Wish me luck boys. sending love to all of you, lets get through this ❤

  • @itsmesoleh06
    @itsmesoleh06 Před 4 měsíci +4

    I have released my ego and asked him for the second chance but he didnt want me to come back. Thanks for it, helps me a lot.

  • @brandon360white8
    @brandon360white8 Před 3 měsíci +2

    I needed this channel badly, just got out of a fantastic 1 year relationship and it ended because of anxiety and we both were going down mentally and we had to accept we had to end things, now I'm starting a new job and my life feels so confused and unmotivated, it's been hard to move on and accept everything that happened, it's weird trying to find myself again, thank you for the advice

  • @AquaInferno
    @AquaInferno Před 5 měsíci +7

    Love you so much big bro!! Been with you along this journey of life for years now. So thankful I your wisdom found me you always bring me back to a humble and emotionally vulnerable state of mind. I hope we get closer one day and get closer because I genuinely have seen you over the years as an older brother. Sending you love forever!!! Stay positive twin

  • @ankurmukherjee2302
    @ankurmukherjee2302 Před 4 měsíci +5

    Thank you so much Joey..... You don't know how much I needed this❤❤..... Lots of love my guy❤❤❤

  • @718QNZKID
    @718QNZKID Před měsícem +3

    I got discarded a month and half ago, everyday I cry for her. Our time together was full of love and laughter, we never argued and than when our first rough patch hit, she ran and left me behind... Kings, brothers we are strong and we are enough. Please talk to someone. I've started seeing a therapist to help get all my emotions in check. If you've got healthcare coverage, I encourage you deeply to look into and find mental help. Please brothers, we can't keep up the stigma of appearing weak for needing help! It could very much help you understand and make sense of what goes where in life. Stay strong kings!

  • @robertg78
    @robertg78 Před 3 měsíci +3

    Thank you, Joey.
    In my case, the part that hurt the most was that I was trying to feel valued through my GF because I didn't feel valued at my job. That said, I was dumped. Couple of months later she is going out with a new guy and gets in a new relationship. I actually did not care much about it -kinda happy for her actually- but the ego, man. Ego took a serious low blow, reinforcing my low-self esteem and value issues.
    I believe that when your ego gets hurt like this, you need to acknowledge it, try to understand where it comes from, and work on yourself; be kind to yourself. Men are shaped under the heat of the forge and by the weight of the hammer. Work on yourself with purpose.
    Even though I still have my setbacks, I feel blessed whenever I feel excited to know what partner the future will bring. I don't know any of you guys, but I love you still.

  • @shaunfontaine8687
    @shaunfontaine8687 Před měsícem

    I really love you my friend, thank you for being a light during these dark times Joey. I've been watching a lot of different youtubers and their breakup advice and although there's a lot to learn. I found yours the most heartfelt and compassionate.

  • @matthewmeyers5387
    @matthewmeyers5387 Před 5 měsíci +2

    This made me cry, thank you so much for these videos. They keep me going

  • @lilshroom
    @lilshroom Před 29 dny +3

    dawg i still miss her and can’t stop thinking about her. it’s been almost 3 months and i watched this right after we broke up and nothings changed. i only want her.

  • @joshfriggle7977
    @joshfriggle7977 Před 5 měsíci +3

    dude these videos are accually amazing like i dont even understan how u get me so well like what thank you

    • @joeykidney
      @joeykidney  Před 5 měsíci

      I really appreciate that and I’m glad they hit the spot!

  • @braedendabney3934
    @braedendabney3934 Před 4 měsíci +19

    Just figured out 2 hours ago my girlfriend was talking and started a relationship with someone else. She gaslighted me but i knew in my gut feeling something was wrong. 2 years wasted.

    • @calumtorn1340
      @calumtorn1340 Před 4 měsíci +1

      I'm sorry bro... I've been there and I'm still hurting and broken over it
      .. but not as bad as I was. Time will heal you bro just feel as much as you can and get through each day. Much love bro you deserve better just let yourself cry

    • @ottosneider7233
      @ottosneider7233 Před 4 měsíci

      @@calumtorn1340åå😊å😊åpppååå😊😊😊😊😊😊å😊

    • @CheeseyMilkshakes
      @CheeseyMilkshakes Před 3 měsíci +2

      Look at it this way, it wasn't wasted. You still had two years of beautiful memories with this person, and half of those memories are you. That feeling you have for her, all of that love, it's YOU that did that. Your brain made the chemicals that made you feel that way, your brain generated that love. Your brain will make those chemicals again, it'll be hard but they will. My partner left me two months ago, I was absolutely devastated and in many ways I still am (hell I'm watching this video now lmao), but I feel so much better than I did even a month ago. Put yourself out there , join new groups, start a new hobby, READ (get off your phone). Take this time to build yourself up into a person that you would be envious of. I'm sorry you're going through this man, the pain is atrocious.

    • @huangbusiness
      @huangbusiness Před 2 měsíci

      just happened to me recently. nearly 3 years gone for some random fella

  • @999plays
    @999plays Před měsícem +1

    Damnnn I didn't think of it at first but the thing you said... You don't feel it when it happens but the more time passes, the worse it gets

  • @ConnorBrowneller
    @ConnorBrowneller Před 4 měsíci +2

    Thank you so much. As a teenager who just went through a break up I needed this sooo much. Thank you for being a good human bieng

    • @CrazyPancake-or7vq
      @CrazyPancake-or7vq Před 4 měsíci +1

      I hope everything gets better for you, friend. You’re not alone, don’t you ever forget that.

  • @EnZoel02
    @EnZoel02 Před 4 měsíci +2

    Thanks man, u help me alot i just brokeup with my ex couples days ago and i have trust issued before getting into this relationship but she betrayed me. Not cheat or anything just she pull the trigger and leave me at the sidewalk. And this video come up on my fyp. Its help alot and motivated to doing better for my self. Sometimes i remember what Arthur Morgan said "when the times come you have run and dont look back this is over" i try to do the new thing like learning Japanese language now for make my mind didn't think too much about past.

  • @augustaspaulauskas91
    @augustaspaulauskas91 Před 3 měsíci

    I AM SO THANKFUL FOR THIS VIDEO, THANK YOU JOEY...

  • @visheshkasturia4246
    @visheshkasturia4246 Před 5 měsíci

    Thanks bud! Really needed that today. Getting back to the dating phase and I felt all the same feelings but I'm just swimming and hoping it will work out.

  • @aditdeshmukh3431
    @aditdeshmukh3431 Před 4 měsíci +6

    You’re doing a great job,its been 3 months but still trying to fight it.

  • @austeam
    @austeam Před 4 měsíci +2

    Thank you so much for this. My relationship with her lasted 10 months and she broke it off without giving an actual reason. All she did was just texting me saying that this will end in "good terms". Later I found out she was cheating on me for a while and was hinting it a few times. Its been 4 months and although it doesnt bother me as much, my thoughts still run wild from time to time. Now I realize I really am not alone, and perhaps this breakup might be good for me after all. Everyone, you're all worth it and you deserve to experience so much more. Don't let a breakup control your emotions and remember sadness is as important as hapiness in life. ❤

  • @crichtonsaurus.
    @crichtonsaurus. Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you so much Joey. I needed closure. I really love your videos and content and it helps me a lot. Can you upload regularly? It doesn’t have to be daily, but a couple of times a week. It helps me.

  • @ZZZZZZZaaaart
    @ZZZZZZZaaaart Před 3 měsíci

    You got me into tears man, thank you.

  • @Lbf81769
    @Lbf81769 Před dnem

    Very powerful message here "You deserve too see what tomorrow is like"

  • @user-walnut909
    @user-walnut909 Před 5 měsíci +3

    Its okay for guys to vent !! Its okay to cry and talk about how you feel !! That's what friends and family are for ,to listen to you amd be there for you and make you feel better 🫶And if that doesn't work, therapy is there for everyone as well !! Every broken heart needs proper treatment,male or female ❤️

  • @kylerayner1619
    @kylerayner1619 Před 21 dnem

    I just went through a terrible one too ! And she moved on so fast, I felt really devastated. thanks for your videos Joey ! To all my brothers here, send you hugs guys, we got this, see you all in glory ;)

  • @Emmyowoe
    @Emmyowoe Před měsícem +1

    She ended our short relationship moment. But, I'm thankful for everything that she did. I hope i did good enough for her.

  • @barvinmyrne8968
    @barvinmyrne8968 Před 2 měsíci

    I love this video!
    It’s so important for us as men to acknowledge our feelings, cause otherwise they won’t disappear. Excited to see what content you’ve got apart from this! ❤

  • @Ericmbecerra
    @Ericmbecerra Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you so much man, you can’t imagine how this helped me.

  • @mayankmalik8972
    @mayankmalik8972 Před 4 měsíci

    this was very much needed! Thanks a ton

  • @neo304
    @neo304 Před 3 měsíci +2

    really appreciate this video, she left me yesterday and ever since nothing feels right

  • @nidhithakker5911
    @nidhithakker5911 Před 5 měsíci +8

    Thank you so much needed this badly
    I'm a woman, never been in a relationship but still somehow needed this badly especially right now ❤

  • @ILast1Sec
    @ILast1Sec Před 14 dny

    literally cried at the last part thank you

  • @junioremmanuel5874
    @junioremmanuel5874 Před 5 měsíci +1

    Thank you for this master piece joey now I know I Don't have to do what other guy's do after a breakup which is going to the gym I'll learn to understand my feeling and feel what I'm feeling you're great Joey thank you ❤

  • @joshuwa6036
    @joshuwa6036 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Guys, it does get better, I’ve been in your position. Shit hurts and it’ll hurt for a while. but learn to love yourself; figure out what you like, hobbies n all that. Also learn to appreciate time, like, I appreciate for a moment in time she was in my life and it was everything. I was happy. Those memories make me happy and I’m thankful for that. The best thing you can do is learn to wish someone the best and go do what’s best for you.

  • @sal8082
    @sal8082 Před 3 měsíci

    brother, this video is amazing! Thanks so much!

  • @DrAtomics
    @DrAtomics Před 3 měsíci

    Thanks for the video man, just had a bad breakup (yesterday) and looking for wisdom on how to heal and grow from it.

  • @CustodiaeCrucis
    @CustodiaeCrucis Před 20 dny

    Honestly man, this helped me realize a lot of things. I haven’t had a genuine, long lasting hug in months, maybe a year or two.. I lost it.

  • @mattconner2583
    @mattconner2583 Před 3 měsíci

    Things I needed to hear. Thank you man

  • @GOW-EDITZZZ
    @GOW-EDITZZZ Před 4 měsíci +4

    I had a breakup today this video really helped me gather my thoughts thank you Joey ❤ :)

  • @erizcrafter4660
    @erizcrafter4660 Před 12 dny

    Im literally in tears man, thanks…❤

  • @arocien8009
    @arocien8009 Před 2 měsíci

    To whoever is going through the same situation as me. I've lost my highschool sweetheart of 4 years a week ago. It may seem hard and each day, you want to just stay in your covers and sleep the day away. But know that I'm rooting for you. We all are, and you're gonna do great things. Hang in there, one day you'll look back and see how far you've come.

  • @blinkerx2307
    @blinkerx2307 Před 23 dny

    You just saved my life .
    I'm about to KMY but you make me think that not only me that have a painful break up.
    Thank you ❤️

  • @kennwin7
    @kennwin7 Před 3 měsíci

    Thank you. I really needed to hear some of this. My girlfriend of 2.5 years recently broke up with me and immediately after slept with the guy I was told not to worry about. I felt cheated and deceived because I felt her slipping away prior to that and yet she told me everything was okay. After I found out, the breakup went from the most amicable one I’ve had to the hardest one. I confronted her, fights ensued, and she told me she meant to break up a long time ago. That hurt me so much. I’ve never seen a girl get along with my siblings so well, my friends, or even do all of the activities I’ve values in my life as my partner. She saw me grow up throughout college, through the thick and the thin. I struggled to understand self worth after this. It made me question why I put 110% into loving her and giving her my all, only to not be enough. The gym/anger portion of the video is spot on. Thank you.

    • @skyflyer5157
      @skyflyer5157 Před 3 měsíci +1

      I hope the future brings you lots of peace and happiness brother everything will be okay 🙏.

  • @farolo25
    @farolo25 Před 4 měsíci

    Dude, I couldn´t even cry, i was feeling so bad, but honestly, this video helped a lot, i wish i could last longer, I miss her so much, but I know, letting her go, was the best thing to do

  • @hudsonmenezesdev
    @hudsonmenezesdev Před 20 dny

    thanks bro for that video, i needed.

  • @36200
    @36200 Před 9 dny +1

    Many girls hitted on me but i was so depressed i didn't even care. Then she came. Not the most beautiful, not the most sane, not the most stable. But there was something in her i couldn't explain in words. I still didn't show interest, but she was the one making the first move, and i went for it. It was magical, every second with her. I forgot my depression, forgot every bad thing that happened to me. And then she just left. No explanation, no reason, nothing. The worst part - i see her everyday at work, acting like nothing happened...

  • @DeLaIslaCalisthenics
    @DeLaIslaCalisthenics Před měsícem

    Great video. Two years after a very serious, seven year relationship.
    Currently stage four. That summary of it hit hard.

  • @SirChapuU
    @SirChapuU Před 5 dny

    This is like a pretty good advise for what we are going to feel and sorta like a guide to not be lost in the process.

  • @YanniEconomos
    @YanniEconomos Před 4 měsíci

    What a powerful and different video that was much needed

  • @jameslove3860
    @jameslove3860 Před 2 měsíci

    I broke up a few days ago. Been really depressed, did that brain dumping, I'm just tryna get over it now. Tryna do me, chill and relax. Get my mind right, focus on work. Ty for talking about it man, it's not gonna make anything change rn but it's nice to hear something about it I guess.

  • @rockybiscuit1003
    @rockybiscuit1003 Před 2 měsíci

    man that hurts, after the breakup i just went through and hearing you say when last did you get a hug, when there is no one I could go to for one. Just wish this suffering would end

  • @Osvie01-uc8go
    @Osvie01-uc8go Před 2 měsíci

    Thank you for this. Broke up with my dream girl because she wanted to move on, happened just over a month ago. I stepped to the side because I want her to be happy but it tore me up. I've been thinking if only I tried to make her see that no one will love her like I do, but she obviously didn't feel the same for me. Now, I'm left with the burden of having to go through a heart break that I wouldn't wish on anyone. From the comments I'm glad I'm not the only one who has gone through this. We have to accept that part of life is experiencing pain, just wish it wasn't too painful.

  • @crimsonking1011
    @crimsonking1011 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Thank you for your videos man, it gives me hope.

  • @telusur_waktu
    @telusur_waktu Před 13 dny

    Suddenly this video has passing bye. Swooosshhhhh. It is like tornado in my head, thinking about her. It is goddamn the right time for watching this video.
    Argghh, i had a lovely relationship with my ex about 1 year ago. We ended up because i need to go back from studying in her country. Separated by time and distance,. At first, it felt easy for me to move on but not for her. Then after one year has passed, it struck me so so hard. I felt lost her like never before. I miss her and love her so much. I should treat her way way better. Then, knowing that she has moved on, i am dying now. Arghhh, i will try to move forward but not get over it. Thanks man, youre giving me an inspiration like a dim light in the end of the tunnel

  • @123fiv
    @123fiv Před 19 dny

    Thank you so much for this video. I needed this..

  • @Jenna-vj2ju
    @Jenna-vj2ju Před 4 měsíci +5

    I am not a boy but I appreciate this. Wishing all the best to anyone going through a rough time rn💖

  • @dietwater4910
    @dietwater4910 Před měsícem

    I was in my first relationship just 8 months ago. It was all new to me and I felt that because it's been so long that it makes me weird or wrong in a way that I still love the person and that it still hurts that I think about it. This video helped a lot in making me realize that it is more normal to be stuck on it

  • @MrNurch
    @MrNurch Před 3 měsíci

    After 6months of break up. I went home hug my parents. I have no word to say/share. Just hug. It something. Thank you sir.

  • @mvpfireant5188
    @mvpfireant5188 Před 3 měsíci +1

    Respect peace and love to everyone. But I’m gonna get her back and I won’t lose her twice. I spent 2023 in a deep depression that left me unable to give or receive love in a healthy way, but the breakup was a wakeup call.
    I’m working overtime on myself. Over the past 2 months I’ve been more vulnerable and had a better relationship with my parents than ever before, I’m going to therapy, I do things every day to be the healthiest version of myself. When her and I first got together, she brought out this incredible version of me I didn’t know existed. But it wasn’t sustainable because I hadn’t done the work for emotional stability, and things faded. When I get back to that place of “seeing the world in color” on my own, I will be ready for a beautiful and healthy relationship whether its with her or someone else. But my loyalty and commitment remains as of right now

  • @DanyBoi05
    @DanyBoi05 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Spot on, this video helped

  • @SpartanA054Moose
    @SpartanA054Moose Před 21 dnem

    I miss her so much, she was gone in an instant. Thanks for the help Joey, it makes all the difference.
    -Joe

  • @alexjohn9581
    @alexjohn9581 Před 5 měsíci

    this really helped, thank you so much!

  • @thakrad2196
    @thakrad2196 Před 21 dnem

    Thank you bro. I needed this.

  • @Cyrus-iv3tw
    @Cyrus-iv3tw Před 26 dny

    You helped me so much thank you and bless all you guys going through tis

  • @Rinsisu
    @Rinsisu Před 5 měsíci

    this is super funny i just got broken up with yesterday and watched you other video. thanks mate

  • @jackskelton6501
    @jackskelton6501 Před 21 dnem

    Thanks joey, I’ve just been dumped after 2 years. She said she ran out of love and I just started balling my eyes out, I’m 3 days in or something and I’m still in the emotional stage, I was driving home after she dumped me and I had some suicidal thoughts, I’m so glad I wasn’t stupid enough to do it, I’m hoping I can move on to the bettering myself stage tomorrow.
    I’m trying to keep my self occupied so I’ve booked a climbing wall to have a bit of fun on then gym afterwards.
    I’m going home to see my family on Tuesday night so I don’t need to live with my ex.
    Once again thank you for the video, this has given me some real hope 🎉

  • @chill_ryan
    @chill_ryan Před 3 měsíci

    At the time of this comment, I am absolutely broken but I know that'll get better. The most painful part isn't about breaking up, it is the memories that will still follow you after the breakup. If I could give every person a hug watching this video I would. I would wish anyone the uttermost best in their life because I know you're on the right path. At the time of this video, this youtuber has 777k subscribers, maybe just coincidence but this number represents how YOU are still on the right path and divine connection with yourself. Keep pushing.

  • @leviotten
    @leviotten Před 2 měsíci +1

    14 years of love is over. Depression caused her to to turn inward, and it was 4 years of decline at the tail end that caused her to open up and tell me she cant see a future with me anymore. She can barely see tomorrow, let alone feel anything but anxiety about our love. She said the suicidal ideation hasnt left her alone for years now. She needs to focus entirely on recovery.
    She is still alive. She is still the woman of my dreams and the love of my life so far. I have to somehow cope with her needing to move on and deal with her depression in earnest. I have to move on as well.
    Nothing could have prepared me for this outcome. Be kind to yourselves. The grief is total and it is the very definition of pain. I dont see a way out yet, but one day I hope too.
    I love you more than life itself gaby. I dont how to deal with being alone.

  • @AndreiOng
    @AndreiOng Před 4 měsíci

    Thank you for this video 😭

  • @wizzl5559
    @wizzl5559 Před 4 měsíci

    Love of my life just broke up 2 days ago and its just pure sadness, no anger or regret at all, only sadness about the things that got lost. I still want to show the girl how much i love her but i cant bc i also want to respect her decision. I dont know how long it will take to fall out of live but im very sure that she will always have a special place in my heart