Hi! This is unrelated, but I just bought your book and I love it! I really like how you incorporated humor into it. I feel like a lot of parenting books sound like they were written by a robot, lol!
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Very similar to how I was raised. I appointed myself laundry queen at about 12 during the summer. $1.25 per load (went way further back then) to sort, wash, dry, fold, and distribute laundry. I’d do 2-3 loads a day, mom didn’t touch laundry for 10 weeks, and I’d have money for the dollar movie theater and ice cream shop with friends. At one point a friend of hers with littles heard about it and “borrowed” me for a few days. Lady had an entire guest bedroom full of piles of washed and dried but not folded laundry (not kidding, the queen sized bed had a mountain of socks probably 4ft high, and every other surface in the room was similarly piled, plus an even taller pile on top of a sheet on the floor of the “empty” closet) and a laundry room overflowing with yet to be done laundry. I spent 4 solid days running back to back laundry loads and ironing and folding all the guest bedroom laundry. Ended up with $100. Not even minimum wage then, but at 13 I thought it was pretty awesome.
I was a military kid (with undiagnosed autism) and I would get toys or get taken out for fast food in return for helping with laundry. My mom had several roommates and multiple friends who would do laundry at our apartment and I was the sock god. I would just zone out for hours at like 5 years old just matching and folding socks. After just a year I owned every single littlest pet shop on the market from helping with laundry. Honestly debated saving up to open up a laundromat at one point or put up ads offering to do laundry for cheap for parents who need a break.
I like the idea of not calling them chores. My children helped in the home. There was a division of tasks. They did not get paid to do these duties. They were given an allowance that was not equated to doing chores. I like the idea of the extra duty list with money being assigned.
My mom called them chores just for the clarification that 'it needs done'. We didn't have anything assigned and there was certainly no allowance. When multiple things needed done she'd let us pick, when only one thing needed done, depending on who was home, she simply said " Go do [task] please". The only time we got paid was if we did things for someone outside the household.
We had chores that were family chipping in expectations. We had special chores that were also chipping in expectations. Sometimes, we would get paid. Sometimes, they had to be done. I suspect that sometimes it had to do with how the family finances were looking. We also got allowances that were allegedly tied to doing chorea, but I don't recall being docked more than once. Then again, if mom and dad said to do something, not doing it wasn't really an option.
@@Kidnappingfreezersya that’s how i had it 😅 if i asked and my step mum had the cash i could do extra chores on top for money but i was usually too scared to ask and also didn’t know how to just… help without being instructed…
My mom said everyone who lives in the house helps take care of the house. Saturdays were days we did the big stuff. Once we were done everyone got cleaned up and we went someplace we all liked for dinner. I always helped out with whatever needed doing and was always at the table when we were figuring out how to spend what we had. My mom showed me each of the bills we had and the checkbook balance. When I was little I put the return address labels and stamps on each envelope and we went to the post office to put them in the mail. When we bought insurance for the house the agent asked me what my valuables were that should be listed on the policy. I was six and felt very grown up being involved.
We do family meetings weekly to go over finances (The good and the bad) and plus general household talk. My kids get their own paper and crayons. The oldest (6) will usually draw what he hears us talk about. 4 chips in whenever it's about food. 3 is just happy to be present. We also go over who's done well, made progress, worked hard, been kind etc. No negative to that; just acknowledging peoples achievements or where someone might need more support. We're hoping it helps them normalise household upkeep and finances. We're thinking when oldest turns 7, of giving him a 'job'. He'll get a set of responsibilities (Some team effort, some solo like a real job), and a set wage. We'll go over the split most people have and get him to use some to buy his own snacks/cereal for the week and keep the left-over for whatever. Teach him how to manage his own money and encourage financial freedom without the risk involved in adulthood. So it's comfortable and second nature. :) This comment made me smile, reminded me we aren't crazy for having the littles involved. I was financial manager of the house at 11 because my mother wasn't great with money (And father was removed from the picture.). But with 0 talk or training. Nightmare. 😂
Lol, months ago my husband and I happened to be outside when our neighbor (there's a privacy fence) was telling her kid "it's Wednesday! That's the day we've set for you to clean the dog poo off the patio!" (Said more mom ish, but I'm paraphrasing). Kid did as kids do and whined. But he did the chore. (He's a good kid, mostly). Pretty sure the kid heard us talking. My husband said "I'd have given him 10$" I replied "that's great incentive for a kid, but what about when he grows up. Self motivation is needed. We all have chores." We proceeded to list off our daily vs weekly chores. (No kids, we have cats. We do all the chores and always have). I'm 100% sure the kid heard us. Either they realized that one chore a week wasn't so bad, compared to our lists. Or, they realized that "omg, the neighbors can hear us!" (Doubtful, he's a loud kid). Either way, I haven't heard his mom tell him to do it since. (Yes, he's doing the chore. My upper window looks over their patio. And while I give them their privacy, I appreciate the lack of dog poo smell coming thru my window). 😊
My mother gave me no chores while all my friends had them. Her reasoning is: "you're only a kid once. Someday you'll have chores and there won't be any going back". I love n appreciated her so much !
I LOVE the fact those are not called chorus. This way you will be far more likely to actually make those children feel partially responsible for the shared household. It doesn't sound as much as a chore like this, it sounds like taking care of things which is way nicer.
This a fantastic approach and hopefully helps many families. Doing the laundry is the current household challenge for us. Puberty has created twin 14yr old boys who don't care if they have clean clothes (or bodies) a 17 yr old daughter who'll just wear anyone elses clothes when she runs out of her own plus the need for a new washing machine has put a halt to the young ASD adult washing her clothes until she comes to terms with the change 😅
some folks in the comments arent understanding the point of reframing this. chores are something you get stuck with. sometimes they can even feel unfair and arbitrary. the word itself has a negative connotation. by discussing expectations and contributions you are teaching your kids what goes into maintinaing a home and how to create an equitable division of labor. my 17 yo has always hated doing chores. she is much more receptive to the reality that it's her job to maintian her spaces and pick up after herself and that as a member of a household she shares certain responsibilities with everyone else in the house. it's about what works for you. some kids need a little cheese on thier brocoli
Exactly. My kids are responsible for themselves and the space they interact with. Everything else is called "helping me out." They get a monetary incentive at the beginning of the month to help me out. It's given to them in advance. Everything I ask them to do they already know how to do or are taught to do. There's no lists, so less stress on me to stay on top of their responsibilities.
That chest of drawers with the slices of mirror is just fabulous! Have great respect for all your posts and they are a hoot to watch! Thanks for all the hard work!
This is exactly how I was brought up, and how I want to raise my future children - I never minded helping with laundry/dishes etc because they weren’t these big unwanted chores I’d been assigned to do, they were just what had to be done 🙂
Remember we never got money for chores, like you said, it was an expected part of being in the house and being responsible. But I was on a farm so if we did a particularly long day of work they would hand us some cash.
I still call them chores. Even for myself. It's the same thing, but yeah, I agree. Some thing should be expected and it's also nice to teach kids about money and work.
Couch crack vacuum says it all. Def a family contribution needed there! Another one to add to the list is if you have an upstairs having kids vacuum stairs and wipe floorboards. Easier to reach for kids and tho they won’t get it perfect it will be improved. My mom taught me to do my own laundry around 13 and I always had to help fold, bring in groceries, help with dinner, etc. I learned a lot that way and found out how much other kids didn’t know when I became an adult. I appreciated my mom’s lessons as a result. Next is imparting saving for larger purchases vs small junky things and how to save some and allow themselves to spend some or add to another envelope for saving for a mid priced toy or want. Goal of first savings maybe for Christmas stuff or a seasonal toy or piece of clothing wanted. Or just saving it towards college books and all. Good luck!
My kid only did the bare minimum. She didn't care about earning extra money, especially if it meant more work. I figured, if she stepped a foot into a room, it was up to her to also pitch in to clean it. So we rotated, she dusted, and I vacuumed, or vice versa. No, she didn't have chores either, but she was contributing to living in our home. Needless to say, she moved out as fast as she could, because she didn't want to work, or be told what to do.
Yes! I have always told my kids they can earn money for chores. Things that are above and beyond. The other things, making their beds, picking up after themselves, unloading loading the dishwasher, etc... Those are responsibilities. We all live in exist here, we all contribute to our home's livability. WHY on earth would I pay them to do things strictly for financial gain, but have them not participate in basic tasks they're going to have to do in their own lives? I feel like it helps set them up to be better roommates, partners, just people in general as adults. Also helps them understand that some things just HAVE to happen, without that expectation of compensation.
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I would have loved this. Growing up i never had responsibility/chores and i feel that hurt my growth. I had to learn everything as an adult and it was tough. My body is used to relaxing and it never developed certain muscles to help with cleaning and what not. I learned by watching.
I am currently unstable financially but i have plans to fix that Didn’t even finish watching this before sending it off to my oldest to see if they would be interested in this. Not green light necessarily, but the list. Kid was seven when he dropped the line “I can do that… for money” and damn is experienced in negotiating. I do see this going poorly at their dad’s house though.
My mom did this. Unless there was something I really wanted, I didn't expect to be paid. If I really wanted something, and I knew that she wouldn't be able to purchase it outright, I would "sign up" for jobs, then save money for the purchase.
Similar. Some chores are unrewarded, the ones that are daily living sorts of things laundry, cleaning personal spaces, dishes, etc. And other chores are rewarded (video game time, money, favorite drink at Sonic, etc).
Exactly how I was raised, responsible for picking up after myself and my room etc but no chores. I wasn't offered money in exchange for chores but my sister and I would play house and clean the kitchen for fun 😭😭
So somebody made an app for something I did with my kids 30 years ago. We called it a job jar...slips of paper with "needs done" tasks with monetary values. And it works. I raised 3 financially responsible adults who understood savings and how money works.
We have responsibilities, not chores. We have responsibilities to keep the cat box, our rooms and our community spaces clean. I as a mom have chores however 😂😂😂
Certainly makes a lot of sense. Most chores are just taking care of the household. If you share that household then these tasks should be shared amongst everyone who lives there. It’s weird how logic can just logic so hard sometimes lol.
We do something similar, but for us we call chores anything that we all do to pitch in and help the family. You don’t get paid for chores because that’s just what we all do to help the house run more smoothly. Then each of my kids have a job that they do that earns them money.
That’s how my mom did it sort of. If she had something she wanted done that she didn’t want to do, she’d pay us to, like picking up buckets of walnuts. We got $5 per gallon bucket. 😅 one year we made like $100 each in one afternoon. (The walnut trees had like 3x yield that year)
There is one thing I wish I was taught either at school or by family/parents. I am 37 later this year and financial literacy/management/freedom/stability and saving/investing etc are things I know nothing about. I learnt very hard lessons at 18 when I got a credit card and went stupid, followed by loans and more stupidity. Took me some time to dig out of many holes. Money was never discussed in my house growing up. It was one of the many taboo topics, along with sex, puberty, menstruation and more. I built a VERY solid and very well paying career for myself, starting in my early to mid 20s and had I not needed to spend so much time digging myself out of holes and fixing past financial mistakes; my accountant now says I very well could have been one of those people that retired at age 50.
This is exactly how I do things in my house. Even when my kiddos were super young but able to do easy work I'd still have an amount even if it was a quarter because they knew if they had at least 4 quarters they can get a snack at the corner store, or we would have a special movie night with snacks or something. So it doesn't even have to be money if it's not in your budget. So yes if done right like this it really works and doesn't make them feel overwhelmed or like they are just being told do this now. And I'm a gen x kid this is not even close to any way shape or form how I was raised if ya know you know. I wanted it to be a little different for my kids 😊
My mom did all this but we still called them chores because that’s what they were regardless of what we called them. I got money for extra things that were a huge pain but not for regular expected chores.
I didn't have house chores. I had my chores. I needed to self maintain and am happy about it. Now I feel OK to do a lot of things, even if I never had to take out the trash, which I still did because I offered. Working together became a given, without force. I think, with me approaching 31,maybe my parents did some rudimental form of gentle parenting. My kids won't have chores, either. 🎉
I do something similar with my daughter. Taking care of the house and the household is a group effort but her school is where she earns money for her grades. Every quarter she gets a certain amount based on her letter grade and as she gets older the amount of $$ goes up.
for me and my siblibgs, we took care of our own rooms, cleaned up after our own messes and helped with the washing mashine. My parents later tried introducing money as compensation for completing additional stuff but none of us were really interested in the money and we would do them with or without the pay if we were asked, but never really unasked, because the money wasn't really that great of a motivator, "what would we even use it for?" 😅
This plan reminds me a lot of the guy who said he doesn't 'help' his wife with the household duties because he believes it's his responsibility as her partner and the other parent to their kids to share doing household tasks and attending to the children.
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Hi! This is unrelated, but I just bought your book and I love it! I really like how you incorporated humor into it. I feel like a lot of parenting books sound like they were written by a robot, lol!
Would you mind popping this link in the description so it can be clicked on directly ❤ I'm curious to have a look (but not quite enough to wack out the laptop lol, hence wanting a click through link if possible) 🌻
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So good!
Very similar to how I was raised. I appointed myself laundry queen at about 12 during the summer. $1.25 per load (went way further back then) to sort, wash, dry, fold, and distribute laundry. I’d do 2-3 loads a day, mom didn’t touch laundry for 10 weeks, and I’d have money for the dollar movie theater and ice cream shop with friends.
At one point a friend of hers with littles heard about it and “borrowed” me for a few days. Lady had an entire guest bedroom full of piles of washed and dried but not folded laundry (not kidding, the queen sized bed had a mountain of socks probably 4ft high, and every other surface in the room was similarly piled, plus an even taller pile on top of a sheet on the floor of the “empty” closet) and a laundry room overflowing with yet to be done laundry. I spent 4 solid days running back to back laundry loads and ironing and folding all the guest bedroom laundry. Ended up with $100. Not even minimum wage then, but at 13 I thought it was pretty awesome.
I was a military kid (with undiagnosed autism) and I would get toys or get taken out for fast food in return for helping with laundry. My mom had several roommates and multiple friends who would do laundry at our apartment and I was the sock god. I would just zone out for hours at like 5 years old just matching and folding socks. After just a year I owned every single littlest pet shop on the market from helping with laundry. Honestly debated saving up to open up a laundromat at one point or put up ads offering to do laundry for cheap for parents who need a break.
You guys are awesome for helping out overwhelmed parents. Money aside you probably saved them in ways only parents understand.
I like the idea of not calling them chores. My children helped in the home. There was a division of tasks. They did not get paid to do these duties. They were given an allowance that was not equated to doing chores. I like the idea of the extra duty list with money being assigned.
My mom called them chores just for the clarification that 'it needs done'. We didn't have anything assigned and there was certainly no allowance. When multiple things needed done she'd let us pick, when only one thing needed done, depending on who was home, she simply said " Go do [task] please". The only time we got paid was if we did things for someone outside the household.
We had chores that were family chipping in expectations. We had special chores that were also chipping in expectations. Sometimes, we would get paid. Sometimes, they had to be done. I suspect that sometimes it had to do with how the family finances were looking. We also got allowances that were allegedly tied to doing chorea, but I don't recall being docked more than once. Then again, if mom and dad said to do something, not doing it wasn't really an option.
I mean you can call them whatever you want and framing is important but they are still chores
@@Kidnappingfreezersya that’s how i had it 😅 if i asked and my step mum had the cash i could do extra chores on top for money but i was usually too scared to ask and also didn’t know how to just… help without being instructed…
Chore list nah, guild quest board 😎😎
YAS!
Taking that name for our list. Kids got d20s and haven’t put them down since.
thats an awesome idea! Stealing that !!!!
Now when I need help looking for something I'm adding it as "search for the forgotten relic" on the board. 😂
My mom said everyone who lives in the house helps take care of the house. Saturdays were days we did the big stuff. Once we were done everyone got cleaned up and we went someplace we all liked for dinner. I always helped out with whatever needed doing and was always at the table when we were figuring out how to spend what we had. My mom showed me each of the bills we had and the checkbook balance. When I was little I put the return address labels and stamps on each envelope and we went to the post office to put them in the mail. When we bought insurance for the house the agent asked me what my valuables were that should be listed on the policy. I was six and felt very grown up being involved.
We do family meetings weekly to go over finances (The good and the bad) and plus general household talk. My kids get their own paper and crayons. The oldest (6) will usually draw what he hears us talk about. 4 chips in whenever it's about food. 3 is just happy to be present. We also go over who's done well, made progress, worked hard, been kind etc. No negative to that; just acknowledging peoples achievements or where someone might need more support. We're hoping it helps them normalise household upkeep and finances.
We're thinking when oldest turns 7, of giving him a 'job'. He'll get a set of responsibilities (Some team effort, some solo like a real job), and a set wage. We'll go over the split most people have and get him to use some to buy his own snacks/cereal for the week and keep the left-over for whatever. Teach him how to manage his own money and encourage financial freedom without the risk involved in adulthood. So it's comfortable and second nature. :)
This comment made me smile, reminded me we aren't crazy for having the littles involved. I was financial manager of the house at 11 because my mother wasn't great with money (And father was removed from the picture.). But with 0 talk or training. Nightmare. 😂
@@staceyhunt6769 dude I love the way you do your family meetings, especially how you include your kids!!! such a fantastic idea
This is so cool!
Lol, months ago my husband and I happened to be outside when our neighbor (there's a privacy fence) was telling her kid "it's Wednesday! That's the day we've set for you to clean the dog poo off the patio!" (Said more mom ish, but I'm paraphrasing). Kid did as kids do and whined. But he did the chore. (He's a good kid, mostly).
Pretty sure the kid heard us talking. My husband said "I'd have given him 10$" I replied "that's great incentive for a kid, but what about when he grows up. Self motivation is needed. We all have chores." We proceeded to list off our daily vs weekly chores. (No kids, we have cats. We do all the chores and always have).
I'm 100% sure the kid heard us.
Either they realized that one chore a week wasn't so bad, compared to our lists. Or, they realized that "omg, the neighbors can hear us!" (Doubtful, he's a loud kid).
Either way, I haven't heard his mom tell him to do it since. (Yes, he's doing the chore. My upper window looks over their patio. And while I give them their privacy, I appreciate the lack of dog poo smell coming thru my window). 😊
My mother gave me no chores while all my friends had them. Her reasoning is: "you're only a kid once. Someday you'll have chores and there won't be any going back".
I love n appreciated her so much !
So you never had to help clean?
What happened when you moved out? 😅
I LOVE the fact those are not called chorus. This way you will be far more likely to actually make those children feel partially responsible for the shared household. It doesn't sound as much as a chore like this, it sounds like taking care of things which is way nicer.
🎤🎶🎵 Chorus
Clever. Thanks for sharing. Might give it a try and see how it pans out in our little house of madness 😅
This a fantastic approach and hopefully helps many families. Doing the laundry is the current household challenge for us. Puberty has created twin 14yr old boys who don't care if they have clean clothes (or bodies) a 17 yr old daughter who'll just wear anyone elses clothes when she runs out of her own plus the need for a new washing machine has put a halt to the young ASD adult washing her clothes until she comes to terms with the change 😅
some folks in the comments arent understanding the point of reframing this. chores are something you get stuck with. sometimes they can even feel unfair and arbitrary. the word itself has a negative connotation. by discussing expectations and contributions you are teaching your kids what goes into maintinaing a home and how to create an equitable division of labor. my 17 yo has always hated doing chores. she is much more receptive to the reality that it's her job to maintian her spaces and pick up after herself and that as a member of a household she shares certain responsibilities with everyone else in the house. it's about what works for you. some kids need a little cheese on thier brocoli
Exactly. My kids are responsible for themselves and the space they interact with. Everything else is called "helping me out." They get a monetary incentive at the beginning of the month to help me out. It's given to them in advance. Everything I ask them to do they already know how to do or are taught to do. There's no lists, so less stress on me to stay on top of their responsibilities.
That chest of drawers with the slices of mirror is just fabulous! Have great respect for all your posts and they are a hoot to watch! Thanks for all the hard work!
Now that’s marketing and good advertising! 👌🏼
love this!! having reasonable expectation for your kids and yourself
My dads had me doing Greenlight for years!! Awesome app for saving money and learning to spend
This is exactly how I was brought up, and how I want to raise my future children - I never minded helping with laundry/dishes etc because they weren’t these big unwanted chores I’d been assigned to do, they were just what had to be done 🙂
OMG. my mom did this with me and my siblings back in early 70s. You are such a awsome mother teaching them. Life reality.
Love this. Even if I don't have kids, these are good habits to have to teach myself to be responsible as well 😅
Remember we never got money for chores, like you said, it was an expected part of being in the house and being responsible.
But I was on a farm so if we did a particularly long day of work they would hand us some cash.
Excellent! Thanks momma! Happy early Mother’s Day! You rock!
I taped a twenty to my kids wall once to try and motivate them to keep their room clean, it stayed taped to the wall for a month! I took it back
I still call them chores. Even for myself. It's the same thing, but yeah, I agree. Some thing should be expected and it's also nice to teach kids about money and work.
Yes. “Everyone helps because everyone lives here”, is what I say.
We don’t get any money for our chores we just get in trouble if we don’t do them
Lady bro, you are a genius!!!!
I absolutely love that idea!! Well thought out!!👍
Me and my hubby were just saying this! Kids can and should learn how to take care of themselves and have responsibilities.😊
I've been thinking about implementing something like this with my family!! ❤
Honestly a great ad that actually sounds like a real testimonial.
That's a beautiful system! I love love love this so much
Couch crack vacuum says it all. Def a family contribution needed there! Another one to add to the list is if you have an upstairs having kids vacuum stairs and wipe floorboards. Easier to reach for kids and tho they won’t get it perfect it will be improved. My mom taught me to do my own laundry around 13 and I always had to help fold, bring in groceries, help with dinner, etc. I learned a lot that way and found out how much other kids didn’t know when I became an adult. I appreciated my mom’s lessons as a result. Next is imparting saving for larger purchases vs small junky things and how to save some and allow themselves to spend some or add to another envelope for saving for a mid priced toy or want. Goal of first savings maybe for Christmas stuff or a seasonal toy or piece of clothing wanted. Or just saving it towards college books and all. Good luck!
My kid only did the bare minimum. She didn't care about earning extra money, especially if it meant more work.
I figured, if she stepped a foot into a room, it was up to her to also pitch in to clean it. So we rotated, she dusted, and I vacuumed, or vice versa.
No, she didn't have chores either, but she was contributing to living in our home.
Needless to say, she moved out as fast as she could, because she didn't want to work, or be told what to do.
Are we not gonna talk about crayon retirement? 😅 I love it
Yes! I have always told my kids they can earn money for chores. Things that are above and beyond. The other things, making their beds, picking up after themselves, unloading loading the dishwasher, etc... Those are responsibilities. We all live in exist here, we all contribute to our home's livability. WHY on earth would I pay them to do things strictly for financial gain, but have them not participate in basic tasks they're going to have to do in their own lives? I feel like it helps set them up to be better roommates, partners, just people in general as adults. Also helps them understand that some things just HAVE to happen, without that expectation of compensation.
I love that! I'm not a parent, but I like this a lot.
Gasp!!! Brilliant!!!
We do the needs done list too!
I raised my daughter to be a helpful member of the family, helping where needed.
I use green light myself and it works perfectly!
We call it chores. They live here, they work. I do my chores, they do their chores. We repeatedly offer jobs (which pay), but they never do them.
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Well said
I love this idea. A lot.
Does Addy still do the chaos lunch anymore lol
I would have loved this. Growing up i never had responsibility/chores and i feel that hurt my growth. I had to learn everything as an adult and it was tough. My body is used to relaxing and it never developed certain muscles to help with cleaning and what not.
I learned by watching.
I am currently unstable financially but i have plans to fix that
Didn’t even finish watching this before sending it off to my oldest to see if they would be interested in this.
Not green light necessarily, but the list.
Kid was seven when he dropped the line “I can do that… for money” and damn is experienced in negotiating.
I do see this going poorly at their dad’s house though.
My mom did this. Unless there was something I really wanted, I didn't expect to be paid. If I really wanted something, and I knew that she wouldn't be able to purchase it outright, I would "sign up" for jobs, then save money for the purchase.
Yes!
Excellent idea!
🌹👏🏾 love you gyal! You’re awesome!
Similar. Some chores are unrewarded, the ones that are daily living sorts of things laundry, cleaning personal spaces, dishes, etc. And other chores are rewarded (video game time, money, favorite drink at Sonic, etc).
We have a similar system, you have tasks you do as part of the household and tasks you can get paid for.
Wow wow wow I love this ❤❤
Love this
Great ideas!
Exactly how I was raised, responsible for picking up after myself and my room etc but no chores. I wasn't offered money in exchange for chores but my sister and I would play house and clean the kitchen for fun 😭😭
Love it, perhaps I'll copy-paste it into my household..
Oooo love this!
So somebody made an app for something I did with my kids 30 years ago. We called it a job jar...slips of paper with "needs done" tasks with monetary values. And it works. I raised 3 financially responsible adults who understood savings and how money works.
We use greenlight for our niece. It's amazing. 10/10
That's actually very smart, I might do this when/If I have kids
My house was similar, just no needs done list or payment. My mom did bribe me with a big slice of cake to clean the fridge tho.
I love the couch cracks vaccuum amd. Rayon retirement tasks . Lol. So real w littles
Sounds like chores w/ more steps 😂
I wish Greenlight was available when my kids were young.
You are a rockstar 🌟
Yes! A community works together and shares responsibilities
We have responsibilities, not chores. We have responsibilities to keep the cat box, our rooms and our community spaces clean. I as a mom have chores however 😂😂😂
This is how we've done it for years and kids/ teens volunteer and ask for things to do for the $$, but they have to have responsibilities done first.
Even adults have chores. Changing the name doesnt change the action.
You made a quest board. Cleaning adventurers!
I adore you! ❤
I love to see the different ways other families handle the house maintenance load distribution. ❤
Certainly makes a lot of sense. Most chores are just taking care of the household. If you share that household then these tasks should be shared amongst everyone who lives there. It’s weird how logic can just logic so hard sometimes lol.
What a great idea
That NO. sign 🤣
We NEVER got money for our chores, but my brother would bargain. "If i mow the lawn, can i get this video game?"
We do something similar, but for us we call chores anything that we all do to pitch in and help the family. You don’t get paid for chores because that’s just what we all do to help the house run more smoothly. Then each of my kids have a job that they do that earns them money.
As the oldest AFAB child, all the chores fell on me
Genius!!!!!!!
That’s how my mom did it sort of. If she had something she wanted done that she didn’t want to do, she’d pay us to, like picking up buckets of walnuts. We got $5 per gallon bucket. 😅 one year we made like $100 each in one afternoon. (The walnut trees had like 3x yield that year)
Greeenlight is also helpful if your kid is out of the house and needs money for food. They can request it or text you so they won't go hungry.
There is one thing I wish I was taught either at school or by family/parents.
I am 37 later this year and financial literacy/management/freedom/stability and saving/investing etc are things I know nothing about. I learnt very hard lessons at 18 when I got a credit card and went stupid, followed by loans and more stupidity. Took me some time to dig out of many holes.
Money was never discussed in my house growing up. It was one of the many taboo topics, along with sex, puberty, menstruation and more.
I built a VERY solid and very well paying career for myself, starting in my early to mid 20s and had I not needed to spend so much time digging myself out of holes and fixing past financial mistakes; my accountant now says I very well could have been one of those people that retired at age 50.
Love to c this
That's great, I wish my parents did this😅😂
This is exactly how I do things in my house. Even when my kiddos were super young but able to do easy work I'd still have an amount even if it was a quarter because they knew if they had at least 4 quarters they can get a snack at the corner store, or we would have a special movie night with snacks or something. So it doesn't even have to be money if it's not in your budget. So yes if done right like this it really works and doesn't make them feel overwhelmed or like they are just being told do this now. And I'm a gen x kid this is not even close to any way shape or form how I was raised if ya know you know. I wanted it to be a little different for my kids 😊
My mom did all this but we still called them chores because that’s what they were regardless of what we called them. I got money for extra things that were a huge pain but not for regular expected chores.
Mine tooooo!!! ❤
Your kids will be well prepared for the real world. ❤
You almost lost me on the no chores! I was gonna be so sad lol
I didn't have house chores. I had my chores. I needed to self maintain and am happy about it. Now I feel OK to do a lot of things, even if I never had to take out the trash, which I still did because I offered. Working together became a given, without force. I think, with me approaching 31,maybe my parents did some rudimental form of gentle parenting. My kids won't have chores, either. 🎉
I do something similar with my daughter. Taking care of the house and the household is a group effort but her school is where she earns money for her grades. Every quarter she gets a certain amount based on her letter grade and as she gets older the amount of $$ goes up.
Oh how I tried explaining this to my family. Gets no way.
for me and my siblibgs, we took care of our own rooms, cleaned up after our own messes and helped with the washing mashine. My parents later tried introducing money as compensation for completing additional stuff but none of us were really interested in the money and we would do them with or without the pay if we were asked, but never really unasked, because the money wasn't really that great of a motivator, "what would we even use it for?" 😅
Crayon retirement? Elaborate please! I'm so intrigued! Lol😅😂
This plan reminds me a lot of the guy who said he doesn't 'help' his wife with the household duties because he believes it's his responsibility as her partner and the other parent to their kids to share doing household tasks and attending to the children.
❤❤❤love your ideas 💡
this is genius
You just defined what a ton of people call chores lol