The other part to this equation: you can’t decide for someone else what kind of seeds to plant. If you go into a relationship thinking “I’m going to change this man into something of my choosing,” then you’re only disappointing yourself.
GLORY!!!Jesus paid my rent and loans last night. I was due to sending paperwork to the landlord about the rent. I opened my mail and saw it was a payment of 105,000. 00. Thank you Jesus!!!!
KMichelle said it best U CAN'T RAISE A GROWN MAN...Let alone build one🤷🏽♀️They're not an object. People are who they are, so believe them when they show u who they really are...
You're quoting someone who single and been shared by many Stars, that's who you're following after .........😮 People change daily (even you), so your 'people are who they are' comment is false. But even if it was true, the only time you're going to find someone that was taught to do things the way you do them is if you hooked up with your siblings (because people are raised different). Meaning, if you're to lazy to teach/train/or build the one you care about to be everything you want and need, you'll always be searching for someone else to fill in the gaps (instead of you helping your man grow and feel in those gaps). Let go of your pride and get out your own way, so you can be happy.
None of these was supposed to be taken as more than helpful criticism, but I see after reading it back how it might come off as harsh (so for that I apologize). However, if you believe that helping someone grow to be a better version of themselves is "raising a grown man"; then you and all those others that think the same still have a lot of growing to do yourselves. But I agree with your last statement, please have a good day as well.
Good answer Tripp. Thank you for saying that Black women want to cultivate our men. Black women have always stood strong by our men. But some men in this 21st just do not want it. And I will just walk or run away which ever is needed in the situation.
Tripp always says it right. Perfect explanation. Women you are not a graveyard for broken men. You don't have to build no man. You assist and help and if you having his back doesn't motivative him enough....save ya self. And that's ok
Don't date potential either long term, that's when people fall into a trap of words. Who is your partner TODAY, how do they make YOU feel TODAY, how whole are they TODAY, how are they breathing love into the relationship TODAY, not how much do you love them and want what's best for them. So many times our love for a partner makes us hang on to words and potential. Actions show the truth if you are wasting your time. Not one person on this planet is happy 24/7 it's an illusion, but do they respect you, show love, communicate, do they stagnate or try to move forward alongside you. If you ignore action, you are in for a long road of misery.
I like what you're saying however there are something's I wanted to point out. Let's start with, there should be no such thing as 'dating long term'. If you approach it like they did in the old days and us the word 'Courting' then both parties understand the end goal for y'all spending time together. There's nothing that requires someone to go to the next step with 'dating'. Through our history women have been that catalyst for those they love to do big things, to include things like civil rights movement. Women's biggest role is the ability to provide that spark to that man to give him a belief that he's not in it by himself and he has a "Help mate" that will support him and help get him to his goal; and in return he will give his life for her as Jesus did for us.
"Help mate" is about sharing the divine purpose of dominion & procreation. Why am I planting seeds in a man? How about he be self-sufficient before pursuing a relationship & family?
Help mate carries with it various factors. A man is a human being like a woman. Dont woman have seeds planted in their lives, which then grow? Seeing as you want to be biblical, the bible says the man washes his wife in the word of God, which in turns helps her be sanctified...that happens by the man planting a seed in the women, and it grows by her changing. With that said, the man also will need some seeds planted at some point. As proverbs 31 says, a good wife is a crown to her husband, she will do him well all the days of his life. Yes a man needs to have his stuff together, but a woman planting giid seeds in a man life, is beneficial to her in the long run. As yhe video says, if the seeds you are sowing aint bearing fruit, then leave the man alone.
If you're not planting seeds you're not a helpmate. Wtf do you think being a helpmate means? Oh imma help you but really. Y'all get caught up in semantics. These comments always explain so much.
Christianity has alot of yall in a chokehold to disasterous effect. You write the rules of your relationship no one else. I refuse to let some other man's ideology dictacte the type of partner that I become. I want a partner not a pet. I want someone whose modes and methods make me feel comfortable sharing the burden of leadership. We are a team, we reap and sow with and into each other. We plant seeds with and into each other. We cultivate individually and collectively. Its strange to me that people think that its not their responsibility in a space they are creating; its self destructive. So many people seem trapped in this religious mental cage that's stunting their ability to grow into the partner they want/need to be.
I build where there is "foundations" (independence/compatibilities) to build upon. Anyone that has their foundation (basics), deserves at least an "architect evaluator" 👀. -Bless 🖤.
"Do not build alone, but build with others. Although Rocky was a fictional movie, many of us can say that the training segment wouldn't have been so epic if Adrian hadn't said things like "beat him" or "get him" - I am just paraphrasing. But those small, seed-like words from your spouse are why I believe there is nothing wrong with building together this way."
Some people have the potential to become MORE, but have been met with so much negativity, they eventually lost their "drive". But all it takes sometimes, is for ONE person to 'light a match' under them and they take off!
My wife of 34 years has through a many aches and pains, sweat and years, patience perseverance shaped me and taught me how to be her husband - OUR marriage fruitage from her efforts has produced character strengths like TRUST, CONFIDENCE, DETERMINATION including others that has led me to become a better husband for her to be led by. And I'm still learning from her like a student of the game.
@rasgardenandpoultrypigeons2048 Thank you for recognition, BUT truth be told, I had and still do have lots and lots of growing up to do, and with God's help 😊 I might be a beacon for others in similar situations... Hard work ain't never did anyone wrong!
@hereforit2347 It doesn't matter what I posted sounds like to UOU or to anyone else EYE guarantee it that wherever she goes from our house to any planned destination, whatever she does from grocery shopping to laundry, whoever she meets from our only child to the bank teller at our local bank, SHE'S known as : MRS URBANSIPFLY... So what you got to say about it!!!???!!! (oo ) (oo) ( oo)!!???!!!
I love this. Thank you for sharing & giving your wife the recognition she deserves. I love hearing that you know she did the work & not just, but your marriage, meaning both of you are better because of it. Beautiful. May you two have a wonderfully long, fun, happy marriage ❤
A real man is a man whether he has a woman or not. He will succeed if he has his mind set to succeed. The woman just gets to decide if she will be along for the ride. If she doesn't no problem, the woman behind her will. Ali had 3 or 4 wives and all each had to do was elbow him in the morning to wake him up so he can get ready for the next fight. They didnt run 10 miles a day with him, spar 15 rounds, lift weights or diet. After his fight, if he had scars, bumps or bruises they went back to his mansion fresh as a daisy while he went to the hospital to be checked out.
Can't build a man, he has to want better for himself. He should want to work, get a degree or trade, get married and take care of his family. Good mothers are needed. Too many women out there treat grown men like little boys and wonder why men are no good.
Smh no it’s the other way around. Too many women are looking for a man to build them up and refuse to simply just “assist” a man. He’s doing all the work and you refuse to add value?
It is not a mans or womans job to build the other. Thats like saying one person is responsible for making another happy. I can cheer you on, i can help motivate, but to build you?? No sir, build yourself
Plant seeds for what? FInd a hard working man who dont have babies all over the place, dont have felonies and thats a winner. No seeds, no hints no BS, just live life
These dudes always need so much help. How are they leaders but they need everyone to help them in the leadership? These men rely on us to build them up then that means we are the resource and the leaders.
This is exactly why I cut my “potential boyfriend” off today. I did so in the most non toxic and communicative way I knew how and he understood. This just confirmed I made the right decision.
The issue for a lot of men that have that issue with implementation is bc that's not a part of their teachings. They may not have had proper guidance like a lot of our youth sadly. Primarily from them growing up in single parent households with bitter parents(male or female). Sadly a lot of parents haven't been taught from their elders and that's just been passed down generations. Someone had to break that trend and fail to succeed.
We have to be careful that we don't shoot ourselves in the foot on our way to independence. Because right now, we are in a house that is run by other people. Therefore we must help each other . Otherwise, 100 years from now, we'll still be singing, "we shall overcome someday".
Not your job to built him up but assist and I totally agree with that. But many can't even assist, they'd prefer someone who's already there where they dont have to put much effort
Listen up I'm going to be very real and very transparent for both sides because at the end of the day half the women who are agreeing are not on a square and it goes vice versa.. so as a black community we need to get ourselves together and stand with each other instead of always trying to figure out what's wrong with the next person. This is why we cannot get a head as a community because we are just about the only community that fights against each other instead of building each other
I'm about to start my own tattoo shop. She's unaware that I'm doing so, mostly because I don't want her to worry. I have ambitions beyond being a working stiff. But nothing will really change, even in the event of failure.
Every lasting relationship is structured off of two people that BUILT UP the other person to be the perfect person for them. If you think that you ain't going to have to work on/build up your partner in a relationship, you just identified why your relationships always fail. Stop listening to single people talking about how to be in a long relationship, regardless of how good it sounds you should be looking at those that are actually implementing what they preach (if the person ain't married, understand that their marriage advise is just their opinion, not fact. Because it's not proven/implemented).
🙌 Tripp. Partners need to be open to receiving the help and work together. Receiving guidance or an alternate thought process can be the difference between just living life and leaving a legacy. Sometimes we have to unlearn the poor behaviors and patterns that we picked up from our upbringing, past relationships, traumas,etc. One has to realize there is a problem or disconnect first, then actively put in the work to reach a better version of theirself and a better life
People need to realize this principle is also heavily related to women... if men carry the seed of wisdom and he pours into a woman who is disagreeable, no matter the intention, it will never translate to growth on her part
I am not sure if this is a delusion but what man will build a woman up especially in a dark time.. and plant healthy seeds in her?? Never.. usually the only time you see a man buy something or spend excessive money is to get with her and get s*x from her and he makes a down payment as he thinks and feels entitled to her body and time.. and never ever pours into her mentally, emotionally, spiritually.. it is most a hidden agenda.. for his benefit only and to hook her on materialistic things because thats all he can offer...
Well Ill say hes half right. Its not their job to build a man but assist I agree, but what if the seeds they are trying to plant is only to fit tbe womans agenda and not help the relationshop?
The only man to build up is your son. You can extend to your younger brother. I have. You can extend to your younger cousins. I have but not your boyfriend.
Let me start by saying I'm definitely not looking for sympathy when I share this. Got in a long distance relationship with a man i knew from over 20 years prior... he lived in a different state and was working odds and ends. He moved in my spot a few months later, got a full-time job a couple months after and was paying 75% of my bills. Something in my spirit was off with this man, he was having relations outside of ours. We lasted 2 years and he lost his job a few months later! I went back and he was working labor finders. Within a month of us reconnecting, he got 3 job offers .... lost 1 to a failed drug test, the other went out of business and may still be with the last one...he was also on the same BS! Did I build him up? 🤔
I think most of questions are becoming too silly for me…WTF are we even talking about now. People just want to hear themselves on the mic these days lol. Not just this question but lots of others too. So many gender war scenarios as well lol…people own life don’t even be put together well but they’re telling other people what’s best lol😂
We are supposed to help each other. Trip is insightful. Maybe I just don’t understand him on this one. But I believe we are support to build each other up. We speak life into each other. We help each other grow. We teach each other. We hold each other accountable. There seems to be a war between black men and women. There may even be a war against them. It’s time to heal each other.
You can raise one with a Father and he can have too many feminine traits. Everyone has the potential to be built. You have to have the desire, you have to be able to adapt and you have to be receptive to guidance. How you were raised has nothing to do with that. It's internal.
That's is so off. A man is not producing a feminine man when he raises him by himself. If anything he is raising a man who is not in tune with femininity cause he is not a man. Listening for comprehension versus getting triggered is the key to effective communication. As a man I have taught my girls some things that my lady quickly showed me that my perspective as a man was off when trying to get my daughter on the right track in a few areas. It was the hardest most humbling thing I have endured and she was right and I was flat out wrong. Until we learn to listen to each other perspective without getting defensive we will not advance in a way that is successful. Love is the key. I'm a very strong minded man and I can appreciate a very strong minded feminine lady. It brings balance. Love is patient kind long-suffering does not think of itself etc...id you keas with love you can guide a man with it. You can't fight a bull but you can pull out a cape and direct it by yielding. Our goal should be to work together not just be right..I doing so let's not be so quick to call someone out without seeing first is there truth to what is being said before deflecting. Car crash everyone is dead.. someone has the right of way someone was wrong...but what difference does it make if everybody is dead. Same thing in relationships somebody's going to be right somebody's going to be wrong but what difference does it make if the relationships dies because you were right or if it dies because you were wrong instead of just coming together and working together in love versus a position of right and wrong
You shouldn't build anyone...you should support & motivate
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🎉OKKKKKKK🎉 PPPRRREEEAAACCCHHH
@@charleesummertv6109 your opinion..also this is speaking on the actual person.
I was gonna say, it shouldn’t be a job. We should stand beside our person when they are up and down. Not a work ethic. It’s what love is right??
Nothing but truth 🙌 💯 👏
The other part to this equation: you can’t decide for someone else what kind of seeds to plant. If you go into a relationship thinking “I’m going to change this man into something of my choosing,” then you’re only disappointing yourself.
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Exactly 💯
Disappointing Facts
GLORY!!!Jesus paid my rent and loans last night. I was due to sending paperwork to the landlord about the rent. I opened my mail and saw it was a payment of 105,000. 00. Thank you Jesus!!!!
Glory to God... Hallelujah!!!!🎉
Typical of that eleventh hour miracle 🙌👏👏👏👏👏
I'm staying plugged in on this. I feel this is an opportunity for a major boost. How do you go about this?
How do you earn, what do you do??
Thanks to God, my daughter who introduced me into the digital market. Moreso, thanks to Ms Renee Marie Harrison
KMichelle said it best U CAN'T RAISE A GROWN MAN...Let alone build one🤷🏽♀️They're not an object. People are who they are, so believe them when they show u who they really are...
You're quoting someone who single and been shared by many Stars, that's who you're following after .........😮
People change daily (even you), so your 'people are who they are' comment is false. But even if it was true, the only time you're going to find someone that was taught to do things the way you do them is if you hooked up with your siblings (because people are raised different). Meaning, if you're to lazy to teach/train/or build the one you care about to be everything you want and need, you'll always be searching for someone else to fill in the gaps (instead of you helping your man grow and feel in those gaps).
Let go of your pride and get out your own way, so you can be happy.
@markivy202
Anyone ever tell u "u talk too much?"
@@markivy202 I'm quoting what resignates with many, including myself. Has nothing to do with her being single🙄
@markivy202
BtW I only follow MY GOD!!! U sound foolish. U don't know me Nor anything about me so keep ur OPINIONS of me to YoSelf....Good day ✌🏽
None of these was supposed to be taken as more than helpful criticism, but I see after reading it back how it might come off as harsh (so for that I apologize). However, if you believe that helping someone grow to be a better version of themselves is "raising a grown man"; then you and all those others that think the same still have a lot of growing to do yourselves. But I agree with your last statement, please have a good day as well.
He spoke truth . Assistant not raise. Motivate and respect the process or purpose before moving ahead.
Absolutely..women are supposed to be a help mate to the head of our household..I agree 100% with this 👌🏾
He didn’t say nothing about no head of household. You both are a team, lead in your strengths not your gender.
She's half right @therockneverstops8261. From a biblical standpoint. But helpmate to husband- not a roommate 🤷🏾♀️
@@jasminebrown8651 I was definitely speaking from a biblical standpoint..not shacking up with somebody 🤦🏾♀️
@@therockneverstops8261 don't date broke women abd things should be cool.
We are not helpmeets we are the all in all we are not only here to assist a man that’s not it I’m the head of my household
Good answer Tripp. Thank you for saying that Black women want to cultivate our men. Black women have always stood strong by our men. But some men in this 21st just do not want it. And I will just walk or run away which ever is needed in the situation.
Absolutely. I am a brown woman and the same goes for the women in my community.
He's always dropping gem's
Always!
@@thisnaturalgirlislocd no doubt 💙
Tripp always says it right. Perfect explanation.
Women you are not a graveyard for broken men. You don't have to build no man. You assist and help and if you having his back doesn't motivative him enough....save ya self. And that's ok
Don't date potential either long term, that's when people fall into a trap of words. Who is your partner TODAY, how do they make YOU feel TODAY, how whole are they TODAY, how are they breathing love into the relationship TODAY, not how much do you love them and want what's best for them. So many times our love for a partner makes us hang on to words and potential. Actions show the truth if you are wasting your time. Not one person on this planet is happy 24/7 it's an illusion, but do they respect you, show love, communicate, do they stagnate or try to move forward alongside you. If you ignore action, you are in for a long road of misery.
I like what you're saying however there are something's I wanted to point out. Let's start with, there should be no such thing as 'dating long term'. If you approach it like they did in the old days and us the word 'Courting' then both parties understand the end goal for y'all spending time together. There's nothing that requires someone to go to the next step with 'dating'.
Through our history women have been that catalyst for those they love to do big things, to include things like civil rights movement. Women's biggest role is the ability to provide that spark to that man to give him a belief that he's not in it by himself and he has a "Help mate" that will support him and help get him to his goal; and in return he will give his life for her as Jesus did for us.
I love this man’s takes always calm never aggravated like the others on the pannel
Agreed!!! He’s extremely balanced. You can tell the amount of work he has done on himself.👏🏾🤎
This is preach! I’m glad he didn’t blame the woman for a man’s lack of motivation.
Yesss u can’t build someone who doesn’t want to be helped… The best thing u can do is walk away from a situation like that
PREACHHHHHHHHH INTHE NAME JESUS 🙏🌹🌹
"Help mate" is about sharing the divine purpose of dominion & procreation. Why am I planting seeds in a man? How about he be self-sufficient before pursuing a relationship & family?
Exactly. The Holy Spirit plants the seeds, gives the assignment, and the ability. The man gets to work and the woman helps.
Help mate carries with it various factors. A man is a human being like a woman.
Dont woman have seeds planted in their lives, which then grow?
Seeing as you want to be biblical, the bible says the man washes his wife in the word of God, which in turns helps her be sanctified...that happens by the man planting a seed in the women, and it grows by her changing.
With that said, the man also will need some seeds planted at some point.
As proverbs 31 says, a good wife is a crown to her husband, she will do him well all the days of his life.
Yes a man needs to have his stuff together, but a woman planting giid seeds in a man life, is beneficial to her in the long run. As yhe video says, if the seeds you are sowing aint bearing fruit, then leave the man alone.
If you're not planting seeds you're not a helpmate. Wtf do you think being a helpmate means? Oh imma help you but really. Y'all get caught up in semantics. These comments always explain so much.
@@gundamt437🎯🎯🎯🎯
Christianity has alot of yall in a chokehold to disasterous effect. You write the rules of your relationship no one else. I refuse to let some other man's ideology dictacte the type of partner that I become.
I want a partner not a pet. I want someone whose modes and methods make me feel comfortable sharing the burden of leadership. We are a team, we reap and sow with and into each other. We plant seeds with and into each other. We cultivate individually and collectively. Its strange to me that people think that its not their responsibility in a space they are creating; its self destructive.
So many people seem trapped in this religious mental cage that's stunting their ability to grow into the partner they want/need to be.
I agree 💯 %
“You can’t fix-it-now another person.”
I build where there is "foundations" (independence/compatibilities) to build upon.
Anyone that has their foundation (basics), deserves at least an "architect evaluator" 👀.
-Bless 🖤.
"Do not build alone, but build with others. Although Rocky was a fictional movie, many of us can say that the training segment wouldn't have been so epic if Adrian hadn't said things like "beat him" or "get him" - I am just paraphrasing. But those small, seed-like words from your spouse are why I believe there is nothing wrong with building together this way."
Exactly. Edify your mate and watch them bloom.
This pertains to any relationship not just romantic.
Blessings to All 🙏🏾
Some people have the potential to become MORE, but have been met with so much negativity, they eventually lost their "drive". But all it takes sometimes, is for ONE person to 'light a match' under them and they take off!
Agreed! 💯💯
I’m a first hand witness for sure. And I’ve been the helper and the needy.
I thank God for not throwing me away in the process.
That person needs motivation from family or friends, not a girlfriend.
@@nmhoskins Some people don't have that support system. Blood can just prove the line, but not function as it SHOULD.
#TRIPP ALWAYS COME WITH THAT BEAUTIFUL TEACHABLE KNOWLEDGE 🎯🔥💯🖤
My wife of 34 years has through a many aches and pains, sweat and years, patience perseverance shaped me and taught me how to be her husband - OUR marriage fruitage from her efforts has produced character strengths like TRUST, CONFIDENCE, DETERMINATION including others that has led me to become a better husband for her to be led by.
And I'm still learning from her like a student of the game.
That’s powerful bro. I’m so glad you two have that connection.
@rasgardenandpoultrypigeons2048 Thank you for recognition, BUT truth be told, I had and still do have lots and lots of growing up to do, and with God's help 😊 I might be a beacon for others in similar situations...
Hard work ain't never did anyone wrong!
Sounds to me like SHE’S leading and always has, not you.
@hereforit2347 It doesn't matter what I posted sounds like to UOU or to anyone else EYE guarantee it that wherever she goes from our house to any planned destination, whatever she does from grocery shopping to laundry, whoever she meets from our only child to the bank teller at our local bank, SHE'S known as :
MRS URBANSIPFLY...
So what you got to say about it!!!???!!!
(oo ) (oo) ( oo)!!???!!!
I love this. Thank you for sharing & giving your wife the recognition she deserves. I love hearing that you know she did the work & not just, but your marriage, meaning both of you are better because of it. Beautiful. May you two have a wonderfully long, fun, happy marriage ❤
A real man is a man whether he has a woman or not. He will succeed if he has his mind set to succeed. The woman just gets to decide if she will be along for the ride. If she doesn't no problem, the woman behind her will. Ali had 3 or 4 wives and all each had to do was elbow him in the morning to wake him up so he can get ready for the next fight. They didnt run 10 miles a day with him, spar 15 rounds, lift weights or diet. After his fight, if he had scars, bumps or bruises they went back to his mansion fresh as a daisy while he went to the hospital to be checked out.
OMG, boy You said it best🙏🏾❤
TY ❤
I just love this Man‼️🙌🏽
Can't build a man, he has to want better for himself. He should want to work, get a degree or trade, get married and take care of his family. Good mothers are needed. Too many women out there treat grown men like little boys and wonder why men are no good.
Smh no it’s the other way around. Too many women are looking for a man to build them up and refuse to simply just “assist” a man. He’s doing all the work and you refuse to add value?
@@darriuspeterson9165One reason why they end up with cheaters, abusers and liars.
Point. Blank. PERIOD !
Great point!!
It is not a mans or womans job to build the other. Thats like saying one person is responsible for making another happy. I can cheer you on, i can help motivate, but to build you?? No sir, build yourself
Plant seeds for what? FInd a hard working man who dont have babies all over the place, dont have felonies and thats a winner. No seeds, no hints no BS, just live life
You sound a mess
Find a woman who don’t have 3 kids and isn’t lazy and begging wanting a man to be her daddy
💯 Assist not Build 👏🏽
Thank you ❤This comes from a Young Man of maturity
These dudes always need so much help. How are they leaders but they need everyone to help them in the leadership? These men rely on us to build them up then that means we are the resource and the leaders.
Tripp, a thought-full man. Much respect Sir.
ABSOLUTELY NOT! Once he's built, he will leave his mother like girlfriend for a wife! She just prepped him for someone else..
I’m glad he said it. Cause people think that’s he . 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
He's absolutely right!💯💯💯
Great Advice 👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽
Why am I in love with this man😬
All facts. Very well said.
Amen!!!!!
This Youbg Man is Wise Beyond His Years ❤
Facts, so true
This is exactly why I cut my “potential boyfriend” off today. I did so in the most non toxic and communicative way I knew how and he understood. This just confirmed I made the right decision.
TRIPP!!
The issue for a lot of men that have that issue with implementation is bc that's not a part of their teachings. They may not have had proper guidance like a lot of our youth sadly. Primarily from them growing up in single parent households with bitter parents(male or female). Sadly a lot of parents haven't been taught from their elders and that's just been passed down generations. Someone had to break that trend and fail to succeed.
We have to be careful that we don't shoot ourselves in the foot on our way to independence. Because right now, we are in a house that is run by other people. Therefore we must help each other . Otherwise, 100 years from now, we'll still be singing, "we shall overcome someday".
Not your job to built him up but assist and I totally agree with that. But many can't even assist, they'd prefer someone who's already there where they dont have to put much effort
Listen up I'm going to be very real and very transparent for both sides because at the end of the day half the women who are agreeing are not on a square and it goes vice versa.. so as a black community we need to get ourselves together and stand with each other instead of always trying to figure out what's wrong with the next person. This is why we cannot get a head as a community because we are just about the only community that fights against each other instead of building each other
YES! I Am an ASSISTANT to the Man. A HELP MEET ( Mate). I ❤ Tripp he IS SO WISE🎉🎉🎉
This man spoke facts.
When within recent times has the situation described happened though???
I'm about to start my own tattoo shop. She's unaware that I'm doing so, mostly because I don't want her to worry. I have ambitions beyond being a working stiff.
But nothing will really change, even in the event of failure.
You can't expect fix it now, when you're a work in progress. We don't like to give the grace we expect from others to us.
Thanks for sharing 👍 right ✅️
CULTIVATE!!! That’s a word itself!!!
This doesn’t mean give them money
Every lasting relationship is structured off of two people that BUILT UP the other person to be the perfect person for them. If you think that you ain't going to have to work on/build up your partner in a relationship, you just identified why your relationships always fail.
Stop listening to single people talking about how to be in a long relationship, regardless of how good it sounds you should be looking at those that are actually implementing what they preach (if the person ain't married, understand that their marriage advise is just their opinion, not fact. Because it's not proven/implemented).
You could never build a man.but to be honest you can help them out.
🙌 Tripp. Partners need to be open to receiving the help and work together. Receiving guidance or an alternate thought process can be the difference between just living life and leaving a legacy. Sometimes we have to unlearn the poor behaviors and patterns that we picked up from our upbringing, past relationships, traumas,etc. One has to realize there is a problem or disconnect first, then actively put in the work to reach a better version of theirself and a better life
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People need to realize this principle is also heavily related to women... if men carry the seed of wisdom and he pours into a woman who is disagreeable, no matter the intention, it will never translate to growth on her part
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Been there.
I have never seen a Man build a Woman. They build cities, laws, countries and many inventions. An imprint isn't a build.
I am not sure if this is a delusion but what man will build a woman up especially in a dark time.. and plant healthy seeds in her?? Never.. usually the only time you see a man buy something or spend excessive money is to get with her and get s*x from her and he makes a down payment as he thinks and feels entitled to her body and time.. and never ever pours into her mentally, emotionally, spiritually.. it is most a hidden agenda.. for his benefit only and to hook her on materialistic things because thats all he can offer...
Withdraw 😊
aka self preservation. You draw that line now
Well Ill say hes half right. Its not their job to build a man but assist I agree, but what if the seeds they are trying to plant is only to fit tbe womans agenda and not help the relationshop?
To the question: no.
But to what he explained about planting seeds: yes.
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That goes both ways
Good answer
Speak to me lord
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My exes cultivated, now another chick is eating the fruits and vegetables from the seeds I planted 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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God I really hate when women try to build a man...he's Not a job...he needs to b able to build himself assistance is a help not a disabling
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The only man to build up is your son. You can extend to your younger brother. I have. You can extend to your younger cousins. I have but not your boyfriend.
This clip is too short, no true context from it.
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who are these men that women claim they are building?
they claim they are tired of building men up but no one see who these men are!
Let me start by saying I'm definitely not looking for sympathy when I share this.
Got in a long distance relationship with a man i knew from over 20 years prior... he lived in a different state and was working odds and ends. He moved in my spot a few months later, got a full-time job a couple months after and was paying 75% of my bills.
Something in my spirit was off with this man, he was having relations outside of ours. We lasted 2 years and he lost his job a few months later! I went back and he was working labor finders. Within a month of us reconnecting, he got 3 job offers .... lost 1 to a failed drug test, the other went out of business and may still be with the last one...he was also on the same BS!
Did I build him up? 🤔
@@247iamtamsounds like he felt motivated being around you.
How could a woman build a man when she doesn’t deal with or understand a man’s problems?
Help me go on not build me to be good
Don't turn people into a project.
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I think most of questions are becoming too silly for me…WTF are we even talking about now. People just want to hear themselves on the mic these days lol. Not just this question but lots of others too.
So many gender war scenarios as well lol…people own life don’t even be put together well but they’re telling other people what’s best lol😂
Nah I’m not building up no one come correct or not all
No that's your parents and God's job.
We are supposed to help each other. Trip is insightful. Maybe I just don’t understand him on this one. But I believe we are support to build each other up. We speak life into each other. We help each other grow. We teach each other. We hold each other accountable.
There seems to be a war between black men and women. There may even be a war against them. It’s time to heal each other.
If you raised one without a father its already to late. He can't be built, he has to many women traits already.
Yes, yes and yes, ….
You can raise one with a Father and he can have too many feminine traits.
Everyone has the potential to be built. You have to have the desire, you have to be able to adapt and you have to be receptive to guidance. How you were raised has nothing to do with that. It's internal.
That's is so off. A man is not producing a feminine man when he raises him by himself. If anything he is raising a man who is not in tune with femininity cause he is not a man. Listening for comprehension versus getting triggered is the key to effective communication. As a man I have taught my girls some things that my lady quickly showed me that my perspective as a man was off when trying to get my daughter on the right track in a few areas. It was the hardest most humbling thing I have endured and she was right and I was flat out wrong. Until we learn to listen to each other perspective without getting defensive we will not advance in a way that is successful. Love is the key. I'm a very strong minded man and I can appreciate a very strong minded feminine lady. It brings balance. Love is patient kind long-suffering does not think of itself etc...id you keas with love you can guide a man with it. You can't fight a bull but you can pull out a cape and direct it by yielding. Our goal should be to work together not just be right..I doing so let's not be so quick to call someone out without seeing first is there truth to what is being said before deflecting. Car crash everyone is dead.. someone has the right of way someone was wrong...but what difference does it make if everybody is dead. Same thing in relationships somebody's going to be right somebody's going to be wrong but what difference does it make if the relationships dies because you were right or if it dies because you were wrong instead of just coming together and working together in love versus a position of right and wrong
So... how would he get these supposed "feminine traits" if y'all consider Black women to be "masculine"? HOW???? HANHHHH???
@Heyu7her3 it's the emotions and inability to control them that we consider feminine in males.
BUILD A MAN??? TF???
*WomAn’s job.