How to know if you're being selfish (and whether or not that's bad) - Mark Hopwood
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- Explore a classic philosophical debate and decide: is it human nature to be selfish? And if so, is it possible to overcome it?
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The question of whether or not humans are inherently selfish is one of philosophy’s oldest debates. The idea that we only act out of self-interest is an extreme stance that few philosophers would endorse. However, the idea that all humans have a deep selfish streak is something many philosophers would agree with. So, are we innately selfish? Mark Hopwood explores this classic conundrum.
Lesson by Mark Hopwood, directed by Avi Ofer.
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Ye brother I'm greedy
Most everything is hypocrisy as value hierarchy coping or in other words posing.
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It didn't answer the question how to know if you are selfish.
People who ask themselves if they are selfish are probably not selfish. And people who are selfish probably will not watch this video.
Making this realization a while ago really helped my mental health. Bad people don't worry about if they're bad people, but only being perceived as bad, and only you know your true intentions.
@@Komischer That's true for many things. Good people, good families, good societies are those who can say they are not good enough.
Ridiculous. Everyone is selfish. EVERYONE.
@@Myview246 Selfish: Caring only about what you want or need without any thought for the needs or wishes of other people.
- Cambridge Dictionary
People often reflect on their own needs, but not everyone translates that self-awareness into selfish actions.
@@ordinarryalien but if you help someone, it's because you want to help them. Because it gives *you* pleasure. Isn't it selfishness?
Love is "the extremely difficult realization that something other than oneself is real [too]."...Iris Murdoch
I've learnt a new thing today ❤
What does that exactly mean?
@@MarkyMcFlumplr06it means that when you are at a different stance than someone else and their conduct makes you annoyed or irritated, it takes a good deal to be able to accept that their views and perspectives are just as valid as yours
@@avidhahaldar8599 Thanks!
@@MarkyMcFlumplr06For Murdoch, true love comes with the sublime - the fear, awe, recognition of the otherness of things/ppl, how they are different from what you thought, and that your worldview and perception of them is not the final, and yet also the respect of this otherness.
Murdoch calls this a tragedy because it is a painful process to realise you dont actually understand something and you have to shift your paradigm and renavigate, but as tragedies are, ppl come out better at the end of it. But it is also a tragedy because this is a never ending cycle to unlearn and relearn. Yet humans have the tragic freedom to persist in doing so rather than stay in their own limited worldview (if you know the allegory of Plato's cave)
She conceptualised this process called "Unselfing", (which is the paying attention part in the video) meaning to look beyond your own views, challenge them, and realise that you and your brain are always imposing a familiar image (like a stereotype or concept) onto someone or something, and you are not truly understanding and seeing the person as they are, and likely, you will tragically never truly understand, yet you will respect them despite that fear and non-control -- that is true love, as well as moral good. Because when you realise you dont understand, you actually thus understand a little better, and moral good can be better done.
Ex: some colonisers thought they had to save those "uncivilised" so they colonised more, even though no one asked for that, but that's what those colonisers saw- a group of "pitiful low-lives" "needing to be saved" - that's the image imposed onto them rather than true understanding and respect of another civilisation, and true good thus wasn't done, only this self-imposed deluded idea of it.
If you want another example that's more on the individual scale, and if you like a good novel, try our Iris Murdoch's _The Sea The Sea_
It's a novel on a retired famous theatre director moving to a town by the sea, and you quickly realise he has a huge ego, and how he sees those around him as well as treats them, particularly, his ex-coworkers, his cousin/family, and most importantly this lady in a bad marriage who was his first and lost crush and with whom he wants to restart a love story (if it'll hook you, spoiler: he kidnaps her. But that's not even the biggest twist)
But yeah, to Murdoch, (true) love is supposed to be difficult because reality never fits your comfortable perception
Something I practice when I’m feeling selfish is to remind myself that that the only difference between me and the less fortunate people is that I was luckier in life and that I could have been very much in their place if I was any less lucky and if I was in their place I would love them to share a little of what they have.
For me this really helps because comparing myself to the more fortunate people only makes me more selfish.
The problem with this line of thinking is that what you perceive as ideal is not often reality, hypothetical questions gives hypothetical answers and hypothetical answers are never practical
This is yet another conundrum.
If you are in a much luckier position than others, you are sympathetic towards the less lucky and want to give, by that point of view.
In a case you could find yourself less fortunate too, or less lucky than others. This indirectly also establishes that the more luckier/fortunate is sympathetic towards the less and thus is "supposed" to give to less.
We end up making a "supposed-position".
This means this will lead to a "selfishness" path at the end when the more-lucky becomes the less-lucky.
It's bit hard to understand the conundrum without saying it outloud.
Take yourself as a kid which has so much resources that you can overeat every single day of your life and still you could end up wasting a lot of food. Compared to yourself, kids in Africa who are starving can just live off of 10% of your whole year's diet.
But what if you are relatively in the situation of "starving African kid"? Just not in the case of food...
Would you keep living by the expectation that the food has to come from someone else? Would you form "any" expectations because you want to be selfless? You might say, "I'll grow my own crops rather than expecting from others".
We end up creating a double-standard situation by the virtue of "generosity".
@@IDMYM8 The OP was saying that the fortunate should help the unfortunate more, and not that the unfortunate should expect aid from the fortunate.
If that is what he meant, then your extrapolation makes sense.
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I can tell you are extremely educated person with bright insights.
Personally, it's bad to be selfish, but I want to make the distinction that self-care is NOT selfishness
Could you clarify what self-care and self-love means in contrast to selfishness?
@@josephpostma1787 I feel like self-love means you love yourself enough not to let others treat you any kind of way, you respect your boundaries and let other people know your boundaries, and have a general realistic yet content opinion of yourself accepting your strengths, weaknesses, and looks.
Self-care is taking some time away to focus on your mental health or simply just alone time. It can be reading, doing laundry, or anything that brings you peace of mind.
Selfishness is doing things only considering yourself in mind. Being inconsiderate and unempathetic. Not caring if your decisions negatively harm others. Some characters who are known for their selfishness can be Scarlet O'Hara from Gone With the Wind, or how Tony Stark was in the first Iron Man and Avengers movie.
@@paigewhitfield3624 Thank you for your explanations.
@@josephpostma1787 You're welcome 😊
@paigewhitfield3624 I don’t think the quality of those characters can be described as simply “selfish”. Rather, they are selfish in the short-term. They only care about the immediate consequences of their actions. A point can be made that short-term selflessness can also be damaging. Long-term selfishness, though, can recognize the value of relationships in further gains.
The problem with the cupcake example is that no one actually cares if you take the last cupcake. It’s not selfish at all, but just perceived to be for no practical reason. I see it more like a problem of managing anxiety than moral responsibility. My depression makes me anxious about all sorts of silly unreasonable things like that, which I should really just ignore. Just eat the cupcake!
I do so you are wrong
Someone's got to... or it'll spoil 😋
yeah i agree because when you see someone else taking the last cupcake you probably wont even care
The donor class warped our minds to perceive that. I personally think they're projecting themselves in this case because they were never taught about sharing. Why'd you think they hate PBS shows like Sesame Street that teaches such egalitarian values?
My sister would complain and call me selfish whenever I took the last cupcake or whatever last food there was so someone does certainly care lol
Take the last cupcake… if you don’t, someone will. But if while you’re taking the last cupcake someone(s) comes along wanting a cupcake, share with them. Who knows, you may even make a friend in the process.
And whether it’s the last cupcake, the first cupcake, or the next to last, or the last cupcake but shared, once you’ve taken it - don’t look back even once - just enjoy the cupcake!
During my childhood, I was basically supported by my mother alone. My father did provide some support, but it didn't compare to my mother's. Because of that, I didn't have many things growing up, and, whenever I got something, primarily toys, I would guard them zealously. If I were told to share, I would argue why should I share the very few things that I could call mine. To this day, I still behave like that in regards that I tend to be extremely protective of my personal property.
I see why being protective of your possetions when you have little may be a good strategy, but presumably as you have grown you have more; might it be good to be less protective if that is the case? Do you wish you were more generous with your belongings?
@@josephpostma1787
"Do you wish you were more generous with your belongings?"
This is such a nuanced question, I asked it to myself and I really don't know the answer I will ask more people
@@brojakmate9872 I wouldn’t be so quick to pass judgement based on such a short anecdote from Caleb or even question his parentage.
You don’t know him, nor his story. It’s not our place to come to such conclusions. I don’t think you’d feel great if I assumed that you were adopted and/or came from a single parent family simply because your comment seems to imply that you might perhaps have been in a similar situation in your childhood.
@@samueltanjw Sorry to tell you that I have a happy childhood and can afford DNA test so your projection is wrong
I don't make baseless assumption.
Read his comment again and look at his name and his profile picture and you can make some speculation about his mother and his origin
Maybe he make up the story so he can gain sympathy judging by how he didn't even feel the need to defend himself
@@brojakmate9872 Not that it would in any way discredit Caleb, but why would you think he was adopted? All we can tell is that his dad was distant (emotionally, physically, financially or all of those).
I feel like every human being is indeed selfish and that isn't a bad thing. Because i believe even a selfless act is, in fact, a selfish act. Being of help to others, sacrificing things and oppurtunities for others or even just donating to a charity(in an anonymous manner) usually gives us mental and emotional satisfaction and a sense of belonging, that we did something that might have made that person's day better even if no one esle knows about it. The thought of recieving one's appreciation for doing something significantly small in comparison for you, makes us happy and makes ourselves feel like a better person, which is necessary.
Additionally, being selfish and understanding that putting yourself first before others in certain situations is much more healthy for the person, than not speaking your mind.
What about when you do something without looking for appreciation, but you do it because you know, in your heart that it`s the right thing to do?
Well even if in both cases we are getting satisfaction, even then it's the choice of the individual what to choose, stomach satisfaction or emotional satisfaction. You can't blame a person of trying to achieve satisfaction. Satisfaction of bodily needs is animalistic, and necessary till some level. After which comes sharing and caring. And being long selfish after the necessary level can even lead to seven deadly sins.
Sorry for a convoluted statement, but you get the point.
Honestly feels like you've just defined every single action we could possibly do as selfish then said we were all therefore selfish.
I think the distinction lies in how much we actually care the needs of others that makes us selfish on not selfish, how much "satisfaction" we allow ourselves when we do an act that will not benefit us.
@@hashirrana3030 Well people can debate what 'benefitting' means.
I think it isn't a question of rather or not we feel emotional satisfaction from doing good things, but rather or not this was our motivation.
After all, our action helped someone else at least as much as it made us feel good for doing so, if we are only considering the results we could argue just as much that this was selfless.
The real question is what motivates you, valuing the sake of others or feeling good about helping them.
I’ve been told I was selfish since I was young by my family. It always hurt my feelings. I’m just protective over my belongings…but now I feel selfish bc I struggle so much inside and don’t want to deal with outside chaos
In my opinion, one should always prioritize his own needs and wants but without hurting others because each person is responsible for his own happiness but this doesn't mean that you should not be kind or generous far from that. In fact, it's this form of selflessness that makes you the most fulfilled as a person. But to sum it up I'd say what I always said : "the best way to be selfish is to be selfless"
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Your insights on selfishness resonate deeply. Acknowledging one's privilege and practicing empathy are powerful tools for personal growth. Sharing your personal journey adds a relatable touch to the discussion. Thanks for fostering reflection and understanding!
Selfishness to me is doing or not doing something that harm others. Not sharing doesn't make you selfish.
Listen: Even if we WERE inherently selfish, then the fact that we are capable of consciously overcoming it, and sharing and being HAPPY to do so, that making someone else happy makes us feel good, says al lot about us as humans versus us just acting on animal instinct. People who act based on the assumption that "humans were born to act this way or that way" don't seem to quite get that we'd not have evolved any form of true consciousness and senses of Self, independent of instinct, if this had been the case!
Your point is so good. Imma gonna steal
On the opposite side of arguments, I can try to say: "Maybe, just maybe, not all of us have gained true consciousness?"
What if people who believe in instinctual-rightiousness are not self conscious, or even self-aware?
What if we are conscious but not conscious enough to know to answer whether we are truly conscious or not?
What if the people who believe in inherent-selfishness are right on their stance because they really are, and the others who don't believe in that are simply different?
Is there exist a difference among us?
@@IDMYM8 I believe the fact that you can have such thoughts and questions to begin with answers your own question.
i agree!!
As a person born with Asperger's syndrome, I've been labeled selfish and egocentric for many years. It was only after becoming self-aware of my own condition in my mid 20s that I realized that a combination of both theory of mind and group hierarchy marks the boundary between positive selfishness and negative selfishness.
Let's start with a straightforward example.
If you can't give a beggar money because you're already short on it, it's a no brainer that your selfishness won't be critiziced. If you are rich and give nothing to the poor, you're no longer excused, because even donating 20 euro wouldn’t hit your finances.
Things get difficult when you're in a group where everybody is more or less equal. Theory of mind dictates that you should be able to understand other people's needs automatically, but this is unfortunately the moment when neurodivergents fail to realize that even a thing as simple as eating a cupcake is set by unwritten rules of interaction. Have you already eaten one? Then let somebody else take it, because you're not the only one to be hungry. There are three on the table? Wait until somebody picks one, so that you won't be noticed that much. One left? By my experience, it's wise to wait until the end of the party to ask if I can bring it home or share it with somebody else. While some basics rules are understandable by applying common sense, others are so tricky that the only way to learn them is to breach them and be called selfish.
Real selfishness is when you have the means to make the lives of people around you better, but you end up doing nothing for them despite being aware that you can afford that loss.
Avoiding your definition of selfishness is nigh-impossible because you'd have to follow Jesus' teachings in Mathew 19:21 to the letter and in spirit, selling all that you have and working very long shifts so that you can buy even more mosquito nets to prevent malaria. You would need to live the hardest possible life imaginable.
@@josephpostma1787who said it would be easy? True selflessness is almost impossible to attain
@@hashirrana3030 No one. Indeed
There's only so much that you can justify as taking what's yours before it isn't yours to take anymore
Actually this video made me go on a judgement call. Thank you Teded for making us realise the simple phenomena of our day today life.❤❤❤
Hey, this video totally changed how I see things! Big thanks to the TED-Ed crew for breaking down such complex ideas in a way that's easy to understand. I'm really grateful for the lessons I've learned here. Looking forward to exploring more! Awesome job!
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Great insights! Really enjoyed the video.
Thank you for this gem!!! ❤
I try to be generous and kind for purely selfish reasons: I don’t want to be in the company of people in need, nor do I wish to limit my company to those beyond it. (Superb animation, BTW!)
I’ve spent the last 4 years of my life trying to save someone I love. It’s destroyed my life but I’m still trying and can see the light at the end of the tunnel
I'm glad you can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I wish you the best of luck, and may that journey bring you to an excellent destination very soon. :)
This reminded me of a Friends episdoe where Phoebe argued with Joey that there's no such thing as selfless deed. Everyone does something good just to feel good and although it was portratyed in a comical way it really made me think of every selfless acts I have did or seen and now this video. Wow...
Ted's videos always slap!
A quality video as always.
Since no one wants to eat the last cupcake from the fear of appearing selfish, it could be argued that it is quite selfless to eat it.
Lol makes sense. There are also people who simply do not care about how they appear to be, especially at such little things.
One philosopher that was not mentioned in the video is Max Stirner. He wrote a whole book on egoism which I found very interesting, Der Einzige und sein Eigenthum (The Ego and Its Own).
Sorry der Einzige Is not the ego. It's "The unique". Quite important to understand such differences because the quotation is a good one. And... Murdoch with Aristotle and Kant...please don't.
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We all want our own things. But if we can help others and they feel better, we feel better too. I make goodies every Christmas for management in my apartment building. They go through a lot from other tenants and it's my way of saying "Good job!" I love seeing their faces when they see all the wonderful goodies and I feel pride in doing a good job. I know pride is a sin, but a job well done is worth a smile. Best part is I don't expect anything except their smiles. The goodies are on a dollar tray, I don't care what happens to it. If they enjoy the goodies, I'm happy!
It's good to remember that feeling proud of what you do is different than being prideful.
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Being selfish helped us survive for so long and whether we know it or not, we are practising it on a daily basis... but too much of it and too less of it is equally harmful.
Balance, Balance is the key... know when it is important to let go of others and be there for yourselves and, know when you can serve others with no expectation of getting anything in return. Life is all about balancing the two extremes in life.
Choose for yourself, and choose wisely because it is 'YOU' who has to pay at the end.
It all depends on the situation and what you seek to do actually but one thing's clear, everything you do is in order to achieve your state of comfort and inner peace which makes us all inherently selfish and you simply cannot avoid that selfishness no matter what. Now it would be great if you could stop obsessing with "balance"
Figuring out that living my own life and being who I want to be wasn’t being selfish changed my life for the better.
there isn't 'nothing' that one gets when we're being selfless. Knowing that by giving your 'cupcake' to someone more needy instead of eating it yourself, we are also giving ourselves happiness. We feel proud of being able to help when we could by seeing them happy. you being the reason of their happiness is almost more rewarding that eating the 'cupcake' yourself.
When I was 3 or 4, my father put some coin in pauper's container and explained to me that although we are not rich, we can help others who are less fortunate. I grow up with that in mind.
Cool video, would you make a next one with topic being "Is war/conflict inevitable?"
Love it whenever this animator gets the spotlight!
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Kudos to the animator. Very funny, witty, and visually pleasing animations.
Friends did an episode on this philosophy, with Phoebe struggling to prove to Joey that there exists some unselfish good deeds. Her solution was to sacrifice for someone she dislikes, so she hates that she is losing something and hates that they are gaining something, so she gets no joy from the act of giving (this being a comedy, it had to backfire and wind up making her feel good via an unintended consequence, but we can ignore that aspect). This situation specifically, however, does not seem to me to satisfy the unselfish good deed as it is put forth. The only reason she did something so disagreeable to herself was to prove Joey wrong, thus it would have worked to her favor regardless of the backfiring.
So, to truly be unselfish, you must work entirely to benefit things that are antithetical to you, which would be an absolutely moronic way to live. Is there a person you despise? You must serve them. Is there a cause you find detestable? You must promote it endlessly. Even after all of that, it can still be argued that you gain some pleasure from being able to recognize yourself as the least selfish person ever, so you must be doing the entirety of it without a sense of self-awareness. Thus, it is either impossible to achieve or is the activity of someone (or something) mentally deficient.
I tend to be generous with food sharing because there are times my eyes are bigger than my dinner plate and I can't eat another bite. When covid hit, I now share with family members, but try to not overindulge in the first place by having breakfast the moment I feel hungry after waking up. Not easy to do when one has ADHD/ASD 😖
Im only selfish when it comes to sharing my stuff with my siblings. My family describes me as a selfish person but honestly its because I chose to be that way around them. 😂
Oh dude, same! And if it's with my friends, it's just the opposite😂
Those who self-reflect on potential selfishness likely possess empathy. However, those lacking self-awareness and concern for others will probably not pursue opportunities for growth like this video.
Yes, ı m selfish
It says something that humanity is relatively averse to the idea that there can be no unselfish acts as we ultimately pursue the gratification we obtain by performing supposedly selfless acts. That we desperately want their to be genuine altruism. I don't know what it says. But it says something.
If you do something 'selfless', it is because it makes you feel like a good person, i.e. you are only doing it for yourself. Doing things for others makes you feel good FOR yourself. I remember thinking about this at the age of 6, and I wish I could have explained it properly to my family.
wow, you're right. this changed ny pov.
Wdym by this? What's an example of a selfless act in your opinion then? And whats an example of doing things for others?
For example, giving someone a gift is doing something for them. You do it because it makes you feel good to feel like you're doing something for others. So you are doing it to make yourself feel good. Even if it costs you money, the positive feeling you get from giving a gift is still an overall benefit for you. This can be applied to literally any 'selfless' act
I have a few questions.
Have I already had a cupcake? Did everyone who wanted a cupcake get one? Is that cupcake being saved for someone else? Is there anything else there I might want to eat instead? How long has that cupcake been there?
I do think that, in a given moment, a person will always only be able to do the thing they most want to do (with the exception of accidents, when someone does something they didn't want or choose to do because a few nerves misfired for a moment). That doesn't mean they won't regret having done a particular thing later, of course, even within moments.
So in that sense, motivation is always selfish, because we're doing a thing because we'd prefer the results of doing the thing to the results of not doing that thing. But even if our motivation for doing the right thing or a good thing does ultimately come down to our desire to feel good ourselves, that doesn't mean that doing good things for others or wanting to do good things for others isn't valuable or shouldn't be admired.
I'm one such philosopher who supports this😁 and also the innermeaning of what was shown at the end🙂
Much ado about a cupcake 😂
It teaches a lot though. The trivial things are just as important.
Loved the video ❤
Thank you!
Even Batman agreed we all deserve to be a little selfish once in a while. Also that jaywalking is never acceptable and to always fasten your seatbelt
You do know Batman is not real?
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@@IBTUhe is real bro
@@IBTUwhat do you mean he is not real? I saw him two days ago!
as inspired by Veritasium's video about the prison dilemma, I think that all human's have a tendency to act for their own gain, but in the social world, cooperation would bring more benefits in the long term...
Humans are both generous and selfish, the concept that all humans are all selfish or generous all the time is a flawed concept as it doesn't take into account how well off each individual is.
You can't help anyone if you need help yourself, when well off most people like to help others.
Selfishness is often a form of self preservation.
The fun thing about these schools of thoughts is that many times they can be put together to form a whole. I mean sure, morality is about showing virtue, but how do you differentiate virtue from vice? Well, virtues are the qualities a person have that tend to lead to the most happiness for the most people.
Thanks, Murdoch. You really do understand the plight of- WHERE'D THE CUPCAKE GO?!
Selflessly selfish is a best way that i find more comfortable for me and others also
Means my joy is not dependent on any material or any worldly thing
Because I'm joyful on my own
I am become able to see other with empathy and love rather than using them for my benifit
There are no selfless acts. An act requires an actor, a self, to will it and commit it. The very gratification from enacting ones will inserts self interest into the action inextricably. It’s shocking to me that people are still debating this when the truth is so inherent in the language we use to describe it.
To do things not because they feel good but because it's out of necessity is hard for living beings such as us humans.
Perfect example is that the walking dumpsters who are unbothered by their filth may not even wash their hands for months at a time.
Truly good people, those who even go out of their way to help others, do so because it feels good for them.
By evolution such feeling is greatly advantageous for the survival AND WELL BEING of the group.
To the question "are humans selfish" the answer is 100% yes and 100% no at the same time, because yes, we do things for others voluntarily if we want to, if it feels good OR if it then turns out to help us, and no because we're not all narcissistic monsters who see other people as objects to be used for our own satisfaction.
It's an age-old (as in, the beginning of man) problem being selfish. Pride, covetousness, wrongful personal gains, adulteries with someone else's spouses, not sharing/exchanging with others are few of such examples.
I'[ve always dealt with the issue of wondering whether or not I do good acts because I'm a good person or because I want to be seen as a good person who does goods but I feel like I'm being manipulative in the end.
I consider myself not a selfish person. But I have to admit acting so selfish from time to time for my own wishes and desires.
When the word “selfish” comes to mind, it often sparks negative connotations at first. We think self-centered, self-serving, self-involved.🧚
Selfishness disappears when everyone needs and desires are fulfilled.... we become selfish when we lack something.... if all humans have their needs fulfilled and they reach satisfaction in all aspects no one will be selfish, we will become all generous and good...
The problem is that there are some things where a person may never achieve satisfaction. Most people would be able to achieve satisfaction in terms of enough sleep and food, for example. But there are other things, like money, status, power, and even excitement that we need in some amount, but even when by any reasonable standards someone has enough of those, it is entirely possible for them to never stop wanting more no matter how much they have. Think of billionaires, for example. And there are some people (albeit a small part of the population) who just genuinely don't care about anyone else; if you don't care about anyone else, how can you be good?
But for the vast majority of people, they do care, and if they had full satisfaction plus something to share, I agree they would be happy to do that. But for even one person to reach full satisfaction is uncommon at best, and for everyone to do that is probably impossible, sadly.
I love these videos, thank you for making them!
3:44 No, not THAT kind of love
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I find it ironic that I faced a similar dilemma of taking the last cupcake yesterday. I wind up not taking it because I thought someone else would enjoy it since I already had one, hours prior.
insightful :)
Sometimes I think I'm selfish because I stay away from things for fear of not being able to do them or losing them.
In terms of food? Yes
I think this video is going to be very popular because everyone wants to know whether they are selfish or not even if they are selfish or not.😅😅
5:15 should say "un"
I like the idea on greed. Greed isn’t that bad, everyone wants something they don’t have.
Sweet video
Judging by the fact that if you don't have human interaction you go insane, we probably don't only care about ourselves. Actually imthink the main reason we help lther people is just because we want to stay friends with them, not because we want to help them, and im very unsure weather thats being selfish or selfless.
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Came simply to enjoy some animation from Avi.
I don't like the word "selfish" at all. Your emotional state essentially determines your priorities. When you are in a calm, healthy state where all your basic needs are met, you can easily look outward and gain satisfaction from helping others and building relationships. When you are traumatized and live in a hostile environment, you are likely to do self-serving behaviors to keep yourself alive. When you believe that your needs do not matter and not always helping others first makes you "bad", then your "generosity" is actually an anxiety symptom, and brings no lasting happiness. There is no scientific basis for categorizing good, bad, or selfish, but there is for anxious, dissociated, depressed, angry, and emotionally regulated.
Reminds me a lot of the Good Place!
I think the only solution to reduce selfishness is acceptance,accept the thing as it without changing or having strict opinion about something...
2:21 Rousseau was Genevan (swiss), not French.
To be clear, I will eat the last cupcake
What happened to the cupcake eventually, I was invested 😞
You can't just supress your own desires and act all kind and cool to others everytime. It is also important to act selfish sometimes so that no one take advantage out of you. Sometimes people have a habit of pleasing everyone to please their inner self but at the same time they are just self destrusting their own selves.
"Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less." - C.S. Lewis
What a massive pity that Ayn Rand is not mentioned in this video. One of the more notable books on this very topic is The Virtue of Selfishness.
Whatever happens at last human always remains selfish
At last it is a nature of a human character
Yes, we all are
Stuff like this should be taught in school
It's a wrong take on selfishness.
The reason humans are inherently selfish is because everything they do is to achieve their state of comfort and inner peace, the definition of which varies for each individual. For some people, helping and making others happy is what makes THEM hoapy. If these individuals don't help others, they will feel BAD about THEMSELVES. We're all chasing our definitions of happiness, comfort and inner peace which makes all of us inherently selfish.
I understand that if we want to get rid of our selfishness we have to focus on things beyond our self, for example meditation or learn languages like me im here to learn english and do shadowing😂and drawing too is good but we will still selfish in some points in the end!
Nuh uh, that cupcake is mine
Not if I take it away from you 🙂
Just ate it 😄
@@Luckycharm754 Nooo ....u my friend are a Selfish person lol 😂
It is weird Max Stirner wasn't mentioned at all in this video.
Acknowledgement....... by others ... lot if people pretend to do good or do good
Personally I find psychological egoism as the perfect explanation for everything. No-one ever does anything if there isn't something in it for them. It doesn't have to be material. If you give to charity, sure you lose money, but you feel better about yourself, which is a reward to you. True selflessness would be if you gave to charity and you got no satisfaction from it. No matter what you do, you're either giving yourself emotional or material gain/pleasure
Here's the thing, if your happiness comes from seeing other happy and you choose to not do the act that makes them happy, You will feel bad about yourselves and none of us want that. There's no such thing called selflessness. There's always something in there for the person who's being "selfless". If he's not gaining anything, he's preventing himself from loosing something and that something in most cases is your inner peace whose definition varies for everyone
I feel like, if people really are motivated by entirely selfish reasons, that isn't an inherently bad thing. For example: I don't want to be bothered in my daily life by seeing the suffering of others. I would much rather see people help other people whenever they can. Therefore, by helping other people whenever I can, I am serving my own desires. Don't assume that the things we want always come at the expense of others. Sometimes the things we want will benefit others if we have our way. Altruism can be selfish and I see nothing wrong with that.
You don't have to like others in order to love them. 🙂
We are designed to give, and not to get. The more we give, the less we need. Giving *is* receiving.
We're not designed by anyone to do anything.
Yes!