4 Reasons Highly Intelligent People Tend To Be Depressed
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- čas přidán 20. 08. 2024
- Have you ever wondered why some of the most intelligent people you know struggle with depression? In this video, we explore some of the possible reasons why highly intelligent individuals may be more susceptible to depression.
There are many factors that can contribute to depression in people with high intelligence. We'll dive into these reasons and provide some tips for managing depression if you or someone you know is struggling.
If you're looking to understand why highly intelligent people tend to be depressed and how to overcome it, this video is for you. Be sure to like and subscribe for more insightful content!
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I'm not commenting on this video to say "I'm highly intelligent, and depressed" but just want to agree that for us people who think we're right, and surrounded by people we think are wrong, is hard... It is depressing.
That's totally true and even though it still sounds arrogant... Guess we simply cannot scape arrogance at all
if you set up your reasoning and argumentation clear and consistent enough. you can go up to people who are up for a debate and try to convince them. or at least have a discussion about it. your family or friends might not be interested but you can find people who are.
@@oudgrieksgerecht7530 Highly intelligent people often have issues communicating with people who disagree with them, particularly when they actually are right, because the way high IQ and average IQ minds work are different. People with high IQ are known for having trouble articulating their logic very well anyway because the communication center of the brain is different than the logic and reasoning center, so "dumbing it down" can just make them come off as being dumb, and *not* dumbing it down can make it seem to others that we had to use such complicated mental gymnastics to come to conclusions that we wanted to agree with our narratives instead of actually being right. My IQ's been tested at 147 three times in my life and I can't hold "intelligent" conversations with hardly anyone.
It's a really nice thought you have but the OP is right. The closer to genius level you get, the more you either tend to look like an arrogant narcissist, or a chronic manipulator to those who can't follow your logic, no matter what you do. It pretty much takes masters+ degrees being on display for people to actually take your intelligence into account when debating anything with them, because if you can't convince someone that you're right, they tend to automatically invalidate you by coming to the conclusion that your IQ must be lower than theirs, just by the habit of human nature. Depressing indeed.
Sounds like you should look up the dunning-Kruger effect.
@@Veldrusara @DavinaDavidson highly intelligent or not. verbal communication skills and the verbalizing of logic (on both a more complex and more generally accessible level) are trainable. inherent ‘IQ’ (in how far IQ can be taken as a tool to point out intelligence) is only what you’re given. i used to stumble over my words trying to ‘prove’ my points in any discussion. since actively working on it, because i know with the philosophical tools i’ve been gaining rapidly lately (a lot of it comes naturally with gaining knowledge), i’ve been so much more articulate and clear in my speech. this doesn’t take away from the fact that my family or friends don’t level with me on it, but i actively try to bring up what i find interesting in more intellectual climates. (having conversations with professors and university students.) now it is true that not every university student or professor has an extremely high IQ but it’s about leveling as much as possible. or at least having someone that’s willing to listen and give somewhat useful insight.
i used to underestimate everyone who didn’t fit my standards of a near genius. i’ve asked around and talked to people in climates where they very well could’ve been. since then i changed my definition and accepted that inherent intelligence is merely a cognitive talent and, just like someone born with a beautiful voice, it still needs training. i’m 19 now and this gave me room to accept i had to develop skills and i wasn’t born with them. this is why i know how to talk to people now on nearly any level. it takes a ton of energy so i try to avoid it. but it’s far from impossible. if you can reason, you can somewhat logically construct social algorithms and in that way social skills that progressively feel more natural.
also highly intelligent people being ‘right’ or coming closer to ‘truth’ as opposed to people who inherited a relatively lower intelligence is not nearly always the case. first off in philosophy it’s highly controversial that there is an absolute truth and for a logically constructed argument to reduce or rule out its chances of being contradictory it’s best to reason with approximate truth. secondly, a lot of highly intelligent people are prone to jumping from idea to idea because the one seems more well thought out than the other. skepticalism is just as trainable. now yes, people with average intelligence or below are more prone to being influenced by arguments with little to no ground. but don’t be fooled. knowledge is essential.
If you want a summary of the video, here you go, everyone!
1. Overthinking and Overanalyzing 0:59
2. High Expectations 2:30
3. Too accustomed to success 3:01
4. Difficulty in making friendships 4:00
High expectations hits me harder than having low grades
@@marchellokristywijaya4489 too much truth ☠️
This is very true for me 😢
Thank you!
its good to overthink and overanalyze because it fully prepares for the task one is about to do so not very intelligent for that, unless they are wasting too much time and thats really not intelligent lol, its good to have the highest expectation possible in order to be the best version of oneself so its not intelligent to have any expectations besides the highest, not very intelligent to procrastinate when one can do it regardless of how they feel, no one needs friends nowadays so not very intelligent to get depressed over that little issue
keep making excuses you "intelligent" people out there
I have all these issues, the over thinking and philosophical thinking gets me down the most, though all of them definitely hurt me. On top of this I have social anxiety, zero emotional connections, and I overthink about how people will react if I tell them I'm depressed. This makes talking to someone impossible
I too show the exact symptoms. But I can't really get to any conclusion. Can you suggest some activities/practices that bought some change to it?
I have all the symptoms, but I dun think I'm that smart ☻️ God bless me
Hey thats been me lately. I mean i was always awkward around others but like been texting this girl and then when i see here talking to other dudes its not jealousy really, really more disappointment in myself that i cant cant be better at small talk or flirty or even just friendly all the time
Yk sometimes it's hard to distinguish between people who actually have these problems and narcissists trying to pretend they're smart by bragging about how they overthink and are depressed.
Oh my god, I can relate to all of what you just said, I also always have philosophical thoughts and I sometimes think about the meaning of life, or why was a human born and what or who created the whole universe, I never really overthink things, but I always think without a pause on what I will or want to do next and I mostly avoid contact with people
I don't want to believe I'm intelligent or whatever but it sucks to be the one who understands many but not even one to understand me!💙
Man... Why is that so relatable
This is my issue as well. I can get along with people. But I'm not looking for love. I just want to be with people who can understand me!
@@barbs8851 Same. I wish someone could understand me. Except I also do wish I could eventually find love. Ya know, wouldn't hurt to someday become less rational and get drowned in madness of love a little
@@maxmanchik bruh, can we be good online friends tho?😅 You seem like my type.
@@dharshansenthilkumar9492 Yeah, sure. I don't mind. Having online friends is better than having no friends
Timestamps
1). Overthinking and overanalyzing 0:58
2). High expectations 2:30
3). Too accustomed to success 3:01
4). Difficulty in making friendships 4:00
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Thanks. But why do they call it OVERthinking and OVERanalysing? Just because everyone else is too dumb/distracted to bother understanding or caring what’s going on?
I actually looked at this comment to see if you timestamped the fart at 3:51 . Maybe I'm not as intelligent as I thought
I'm having most of these problems. It was the time I'm very successful in school. I always at the top of the class, yet having problem managing my feelings and having hard time fitting with others as they mostly don't understand what I'm doing. And the harshest one was my abysmal level of socializing which drags me down hard. Luckily I fought back with my own hands and the help of my friends. Now even I doing worse in school than before, I feels much better as I grew stronger from that time. I may not be the best but I'm doing great enough for me.
Edit : Grammar fix
THAT is the _FIXED_ version? I instead of I'm? Sentences like: "I once having"?
@@NextWorldVR Sorry for that, my grammar wasn't the best at that time. Thanks for reminding me about that.
One of the topics that touched me was having it easy and not being trained in perseverance. I think I'm average but I definitely second that, perhaps the most important lesson that people like this need to learn is how to fail. Intelligent people might be so scared of failing because they never learned that failing itself and leaning from it is an achievement by itself. Maybe this is what leads people to anxiety and worse, suicide
it's a bloody curse, being a gifted kid. being gifted just means that the point until which everything is easy comes much later and thus hits harder, and that the reason you've done so well in the first place isn't even something you have control over. and so, when something isn't easy, it feels like a wall you can't move.
Yeah the school's grading system totally doesn't help especially when it literally half of the youth is using AI to cheat at this point and all they care about is seeing a good grade then they get out and have no idea what the f*** they're doing and then we get a world that we live in right now that's why everything is exactly the way it is it makes sense because the dumbass is taught dumbasses how to be dumbasses instead of productive humans.
I think a very difficult thing to deal with when you are an over-achiever is the fact it becomes "the norm". When you share things that you've done, people seem dismissive of it. "Of course you did." becomes a painful statement after a while, especially when you're particularly proud of something. The expectation that you are perfect highlights all of your mistakes and makes your achievements forgetful.
Also, people do not see the hard work that is put into the things you do and do not understand your hardship, you're expected to act "normal" although you're constantly working.
Racing thoughts, over-analysing and perfectionism are also annoying. I constantly feel exhausted and it's hard to turn your brain off. And, if you do switch off, people wonder why you're being unresponsive or confused, compared to the usual, and either get worried or find you weird.
I recognize this.. 😢
Pretty much sums it up!
I relate a lot with having high expectation problems. It is awful when everyone is used to you being "perfect" and every time you make a mistake, even if it is insignificant, they are going to be surprised or worried for you.
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All 4 points apply to me. I just had a hard time with a new friendship and it's a pattern. I overanalayzed scenarios and went into a spiral of depression, I also have extremely high expectations of myself and others around me as well. I also have a hard time learning new skill and I have definitely been a target of easy success according to our schooling system and when you grow up you realize success in not only based on intelligence. Thanks for this video, it just gives me an insight
I don't want to claim that I'm overly intelligent or speak of "them" and "us", but I relate with most of these points.
I'm in midst of Highschool and feel pretty disappointed by the German school system.
I often find myself misunderstood by even teachers, when trying to convey my points which mostly results in me skipping entire school weeks.
With this much free time and no one to waste it with (since all my friends are at school) I tend to work on ambitious programing projects of mine, which became my hobby at this point and realize that Id need to put way to much work into one of them to actually finish anything.
This results in me being demotivated, being in a bad mood and constantly going down a spiral of overthinking and asking myself WTF LIFE IS ABOUT.
All of our existence's are so pointless that the thought became depressing.
I resonate with that
@@snipergaming2639 MeeM
Relatable. :3 I dropped out to focus on a personal passion project. I even am currently a freshman in college for programming too!
0:00 intro
0:58 1. Overthinking and Overanalyzing
2:30 2. High Expectations
3:01 3. Too accustomed to success
3:59 4. Difficulty in making friendships
4:50 outro
I think the most common one is high expectations, every single gifted kid that has talked to me about their experience have told me about the burn out they feel because of the impossibly high expectations them and their loved ones has set for them, then when they fail they suffer from imposter syndrome and it sucks, it really does, school and society isnt built for smart kids or for kids with less than average intelligence
Oh, this hit me like a truck. I had a massive burnout and still haven't fully recovered. I rose to meet all expectations of family and teachers, and once things started to get hard, I fell, and none of those teachers or family that "cared" were there to help ot support. Really sad to hear that it happens to so many. It is a feeling I cannot stand.
This is soo true...
When you can't reach your expectations, others expectations. This just sucks..
Many a times I think this world is just full of EXPECTATIONS .
I'm having exams right now and.. I'm scared that I'll disappoint everyone. :(
I feel the same way, I’m always trying to do things as best I can with no errors, then I have burnout for a few days, Rinse and repeat, when people expect things from high intellect people, they seem to forget that we are still very much people and it sucks
@@shay_3859had this to an extend that I got a very ill feeling, extremely bad sleep and my stomach feeling super bad before and during exams. I never had problems getting great grades for assignments I did but the time limited exams put a huge toll on my wellbeing. I have a lot of trouble with the easier tasks because I sometimes think the solution needs to be harder and then it spirals a bit into overthinking. Not in uni anymore and it feels like a relief.
Man you just made me remember the time I got burned out for like 4 straight months in my first year of high school, I remember wishing I had sandbagged like all the “smart kids” did in elementary and middle school books, although I don’t remember the specific ones. Now I need to keep my batshit insane psat score within the same range to get scholarship money
I think that another part of it is that you have high expectations for yourself, but also for other people. Personally, I've found that I am constantly disappointed with other people, because I'm so used to having high standards for myself, and I automatically apply them to other people.
Great Viedo
1. Overthinking and Overanalyzing - you can see all the angles, the good and bad. its the opposite of ignorance is bliss
2. High Expecations - unable to settle for less. and constantly holding out for better
3. Too accustomed to success - difficulty not being able to achieve and move forward
4. Difficulty making friends - other people cant keep up with you and this makes life lonely
*normal people dont like feeling dumb, or bad, or unattractive so they dont like being around people who are better then them at these categories. bc then they feel like they are dumb, bad, or unattractive.
A year ago I was constantly overthinking every single thing that happened in my life. It made me depressed and I couldn’t handle it anymore. I literally had to force myself to just stop thinking. I’m a lot happier now even though my friends who also have a high IQ make fun of me because it looks like my head is completely empty.
Your videos are so comforting and make me feel less alone, thank you
Honestly, all of this apply to me. I always had and still have it easy in school, so I have hard time actually trying. But I probably can't get any friends because I can't commit to any kind of relationship. Uhhhh. Why do I always feel like I'm a bad person? I have good intentions, but I end up doing always getting cast away by others saying that I'm egoistic. I wish I just could think less
Bruh I feel you and I relate to every point here as well. I like to have friends and all, but I always find more comfort in my own company so I don’t put much effort in relationships. Then I wonder why I’m lonely. Sigh. I guess we will always be somewhat misunderstood…
Also you’re not a bad person trust me❤️
@@ronaldbeason4566 Thanks, means a lot to me dude. I wish that you're right
everyone saying they wish they could think less need to pick up a damn book. the reason you’re overthinking about everyday things unnecessarily is because your brain needs stuff to think about. so give it something to think about. learn!
@@oudgrieksgerecht7530 Yes and school isn't f ing enough. I do homework, get great grades. I watch CZcams and play a lot of strategy games, yet I still THINK TOO MUCH
My brain knows no end to curiosity and willingness to learn
Well thenkys
I relate to this video so many ways reaching high expectations and this makes me depressed and have anxiety I’ve managed my overthinking by mindfulness and breathing I’m still a working progress but once I get there I’ll know I’ll be a very well rounded person with a extra bonus of being intelligent 😊 love n light to all of you 🌸
Depression and anxiety, yeah the wombo combo 😎
XD
Jokes aside, same 🥲
Bro got the Depression & Anxiety, with exam fries and stress combo 🔥🔥🔥🗣️🗣️
😂😂😂
@@Torilol_ that makes us difficult to focus and concentrate on studies🥲
It's du*b yeah..
One is past, and the other is in the future ~
And, They're trapped.
I’ve gotten better about managing my mental chatter/negative self-talk! Also, my father and Aunt are both Mensa members so if/when I take the test I probably wouldn’t be surprised to learn that I’d have High Intelligence (IQ is such a bleh tag, especially when you look at its origins).
I think it is very important for Highly intelligent person learn to connect with others around with heart, and realize your mind is a tool. Critical thinking, analyzing, insight, pattern recognization, big picture thinking… use them for your benifit and people’s benifits. Having an outlet for your mind (fulfills the need to complex thinking). Find your people along the way.
And, learn to take action - this is the only thing that counts.
Also, the need to be right. Learn to accept that people wont get your point, and you dont need to win, to prove yourself. Learn communication skill. This will solve a lot of problems.
I don't think I'm intelligent, at least not academically, but I relate to a few of these. Honestly, a lot of my self hatred surrounds my struggle to connect with others and really speak my mind. My inarticulation only makes me more self-conscious, especially in job interviews or situations where I have to prove my worth. But something I've noticed, especially in younger generations, is that a lot of people can confuse unintelligence with a lack of confidence. Our self-confidence could be rock bottom, making us unable to think clearly bc we're too self-conscious or depressed. But that doesn't mean we don't have our moments of incredible brainpower or creativity
As someone who struggles with mental health, I can relate to all of these. Especially the maintaining friendships part.
We have to invest in our friendships for having a good future next to our dream's life. That's what make it worthy, don't you think
Anyone can become intelligent. You just have to open your heart to the truth. No one is greater than another. It matters how deep you dive. And some swim faster than others but those who swim slower pay attention to detail.
The questions I ask people around me often surprise them, half the time I get an "Oh I´ve never thought of that", or "Why would you worry about that". I made my peace with the possibility of me dying at any moment due to undiagnosed tumors or someone running me over etc at the age of 17. Now I´m 21 and still most people I know haven´t wasted a thought on death and what happens to the world around them when they die. I just constantly thought and learned about the world from a young age, but the more you learn, the more you worry, because everywhere you look, something shady is going on, and the future doesn´t look good either.
You will get depressed if you just look far enough into the abyss
very True!
I had a very hard time in school because I couldn't focus because I got very tired and bored. Mathematics in uni (engineering) was the first time I cared for the subject because it got way more interesting once it got more theoretical. Loved it and had 0 problems staying focused for 1,5 hrs. I relate with the points in the video and it's annoying because the pressure I create for myself is very hard to overcome. I'm work on it constantly and it got better but it's still a long way.
I also get along very well with someone who is probably autistic but I didn't realise until someone pointed it out because to me this person's thought patterns just made a lot of sense to me.
i have so many things i want to say, my mind's on overdrive with endless thoughts to want to voice out after being silenced and neglected for as long as I can remember:
but realizing that the comments section is filled with people who feel the same way, just scrolling down and seeing everyone voice out my thoughts will do it for me 😊thank you
I use to come here atleast once per week to see if there's anybody new around, and since there's indeed, that makes me happy :D.
Edit: Well, I made a little mistake there, seems like you're the most recent comment and the other one is far away from you 😅
I just wanna say, I really love your videos. Even after a few year trying to understand why I'm the way I am, you explain clearly with words, that now I have a better way to understand my situation.
Love from a struggling, but better, intelligent and depressed person. Keep up the good work.
I've always considered myself to be of reasonable intelligence, although this is by no means derogatory nor arrogant as humility is a very respectable trait and I would hate for this to come across that way. Growing up, especially during adolescence, I always felt different, like an outsider looking in. I never felt a sense of belonging and I felt like a spectator within society. School was for the most part unchallenging and I was repeatedly disinterested in much of the content taught. My peers were hard to get along with as I often had to consciously make an effort to to connect with them, sometimes dumbing myself down in order to. When i left school i was confused and directionless and i spent far to long pondering about the scope of possibilities, and this coupled with my natural indecisive inclination led to stagnation and eventually depression as i had no idea what i wanted to do with my life. I started philosophizing and delved into the depths of consciousness, often over-analyzing and overthinking which certainly didn't help my anxiety. It quite literally caused paralysis by analysis. I've always been a relatively sensitive person and i've experienced a great deal of trauma throught my life, so maybe this was also a trigger of my depression. Either way i feel worthless right now because I am an underachiever and i've always had great expectations from both myself and life. When these high expectations and standards that i've set for myself aren't met, I become very disappointed in myself and that perpetuates the feeling of worthlessness. Maybe i'm just too damn hard on myself sometimes.
Damn I feel you.
I could be you if I had already finished school.
I feel ya. It's almost like people have closer people to talk to when ya do want a friend. And the IQ doesn't help because you feel like ya don't belong. But at the very least, I used my IQ to look into humility and learning some emotional type stuff. So I'm here for ya if ya could use somebody to vent.
I can relate to all of these problems. Me, my dad and his dad are all generally very melancholic and our default happiness is lower that most people‘s. My mom though is also pretty gifted, but she is a very optimistic and happy person. There’s definitely more complexity to a personality than only intelligence.
But you’re not that smart. You would’ve figure it out
Love your videos. They help me feel less alone.
The 3rd reason is hitting especially hard in my current circumstance, this video came out at the right time, and I’ve been up all night just out of it because I thought I did enough, tried my hardest, but now I cannot stop thinking about what I did wrong, and how I’ve failed those around me…
I can relate with some of them and espacially the communication one
people are often unable to understand me and end up giving
many people often takes my thoughts , my statements , what i do in the wrong way and think that i am dumb
and now i feel lonely, sad 24/7 and now i have social anxiety too
once i was the most expressable and friendly but now i have the fear of being judged
She just described my entire life in a goddamn CZcams video, down to every last detail. It’s hard talking to others about what you’re going through, because you’re afraid of sounding full of yourself and selfish. I am in elementary school, and I qualify for the Mensa. Everyone thinks I’m an idiot.
Everyone who clicked on this video "omg i knew it!!"
Thank you for telling us these problems/why our feelings, problems, hormones etc are being this specific way! My God bless you! 🙏🏼😇😊
I hope I'm not considered 'intelligent,' but I can relate to a lot of these points. Mainly, I tend to engage in philosophical thinking, struggle with friendships, experience anxiety, and have high expectations. I feel very anxious when I think about the future because I worry about the potential political, economic, and personal outcomes that could negatively impact my life. especially when I fail in Literature, debate, and speech.
The one high expectations, difficulty making friends, overthink over analysing and accustomed to easy success
Honestly been wanting to take an iq test to see my results. Both scared it could be high and that I'm more intelligent I give myself credit for which would further my self disappointment or that I'm average or below average and that I now am just disappointed in my intelligence as it is currently.
This is so relatable. I prefer to leave that question unanswered for the same reason you explained, although I feel curious about the results I'd get. It's a clash in my head, and even more now that this channel's videos keep popping up in my recommended. Not complaining, it's nice content, but it makes me think about myself, maybe even overthink...
The IQ is not that importend.
The real intelegence can not be measured, or just mit yet.
Because it is to complex.
I had to do a test when I was in school and I had very high results. I will definitely not redo it. I think I'm pretty smart and a lot of people tell me so but I have trouble believing it truly. Feels like an imposter but once I have a bit of freedom (no pressure) to solve tasks at work I am very good at it and I can understand almost everything extremely fast. It's just very hard to communicate the chaos in my head . ____.
@@alexanderh2715 Like minded it seems
I'm always asking myself too many questions deep down in my mind, and it only makes me feel even worse when I can't meet highly unrealistic standards set by myself and/or others. The problem for me is I can't find people who understand these same conflicting emotions.
The 4th one I agree with. People may not wanna be friends with highly intelligent people cause they might be jealous of them and feel stupid compared to them, which is how I feel about my highly intelligent classmate Brady Wing. He knows so many things that I don’t know, and he’s not depressed at all.
A lot of people pretend they are not depressed, not saying this is the case but it could be.
"As we get older life because more painful" some times I just want to give up😢 only the love my family has for me keeping me going❤
Pile 1... I think all the time and every second
You are able to see the whole picture and most of the times the picture is not pleasant
But I opt to focus on the nice things and to trick myself to find solutions instead of dwelling in what is perceived as problems and difficulties
This video touches on so many good points! I think this applies to a lot of people regardless if they think they are intelligent or not
ive often thought how easy life would be if i didnt think deeply and didnt care/know about anything
IQ saya 141, jujur saya susah untuk tidur, karena setiap ingin tidur selalu ada ide-ide yang muncul di fikiran saya.
Setiap hari saya tidur diatas jam 2 malam
I dont why i feel like this video is not for intelligent people but to confirm our self opinion that we are intelligent. So that we no longer feel depressed
In the long run, if you're truly brilliant, you may just find it best to construct an environment around yourself free from accountability. This includes social and economic autonomy. No easy task. Once this is accomplished, you may pick and choose to whom and how you interact. You can never escape mortality, as every human culture has struggled with this, but once you realize that your journey was always the destination, peace will come.
Finally I came into the right video I was waiting for. Well, I experienced overthinking during school and I often get angry at my classmates for no reason. Also I've been secretly depressed while I was in school, and I don't know why this is happening to me. I also have social anxiety and my parents don't know that
Whoever the artist is makes ✨Stunning✨ illustrations, I LOVE IT!!! You guys must feel so good to have such a wonderful artist to help illustrate each one of your discussed topics of mental health! ☺️
I feel every single point made but the overthinking and being harder to make friends with my peers hit me so deep i feel it.
Nobody understands why we’re depressed and we can’t tell them why they don’t understand because it would hurt their ego.
The only path forward is to just distract yourself and try to ignore that fact. Just do something without thinking about why.
This is why I found learning realistic art & human anatomy helped me so much, physics and maths come automatically, turning me into a lazy slob. But in art you need to work, you can’t just think your way to a beautiful realistic artwork, you have to try and fail, learn, try and fail again and again until you get it.
I can relate to this. School was so easy for me that now I get frustrated when I can’t grasp something immediately, so I either give up or blow up. I’m constantly anxious because my mind won’t turn off. It seems like it’s a bane rather than a boon to be intelligent. Maybe ignorance is bliss! Not so great for humanity as a whole though, ha. Actually, it’s not funny. Thank you for this video. 💕
I can relate. My mind is always ON. I’ve learned to put on background noise to calm it so I can sleep. Or, like tonight, I turned on a gal reading “Anne of Avonley”. I know the story well and like it, and don’t have to pay attention. I just needed something pleasant to occupy my active mind.
@@gsimonin1 I have the same problem. (Me again!) I used to construct fantasies in my mind and then I’d realize that I had been in them for a couple of hours instead of sleeping, so I trick myself now. I fantasize that I’m in bed with someone who’s got their arm around me and I have to pretend that I’m asleep; that way I fall asleep instead of constantly pretending I’m doing some fun thing somewhere else.
@@whitebirchtarot Interesting technique. Another technique I use is to write down what's swirling around in my mind during the night. Seems this takes it out of my mind, put on paper that I can review in the morning. Often helps. The benefit of having a mind which is constantly working, evaluating, and looking for connections is that I find I'm pretty in tune with most people. It's helped me be more compassionate, more caring, and more understanding. Ever since I was a young teenager, I've had people come to me to tell me their life stories and struggles. Often I've felt like a mother confessor. I pray my willingness to listen and encourage has helped people. We each have our Story. Most people like to share theirs. May you be given the opportunity to bless another person in this way.
I feel like I relate to every one of those. I feel like the reason I failed out of college is because I got used to being able to finish ALL of my homework in class and I never had to study. Then, when I went to college, I was not prepared or disciplined enough to achieve success. Then, in my last semester, I learned that I have a learning disability related to reading... something I never did in high school.
"wisdom increaseth sorrow"
I agree with all of the ideas presented and would add that the challenges in communication go beyond the realm of friendships. Since highly intelligent people tend to synthesize and integrate information more quickly, it can be frustrating when communicating with more typical intelligenced people. It can take a great deal of time to bring others along in the thinking process until they understand. Again, this is often interpreted as arrogance.
Mensa memberships greatest advantage isnt about a way to boldly display high intelligence, it is about providing a forum for social dialogue between people with the same difficulties described in the video.
I have this at work where I need to understand concepts fast and also present my own ideas oh a topic. It's very hard to get my message across properly sometimes because I take some things for granted and logical. I now have a new approach and structure things differently and it got a lot better. Still frustrating sometimes
I'm easily annoyed by people because most of them seem so shallow and/or fake. I'm 50 yrs. old so I've had a long time to observe people.
If you can see how terrible the world is, isbeing run, how terrible evil people are, and how little you can change it, its depressing.
Even when I try to recycle, eat less or even spend less water I know that I'll make no difference by myself, is heattbreaking, but I guess i'll be always heartbreaked if I don't do nothing.
3:35 NO WAY, THE PICTURES ON THE SCREEN! That’s literally just me when my parents took me to a soccer practice to try it out the first time to see if I’d like it, back when I was like… 7!😱 This video’s way too accurate! Lol
I have depression and anxiety and alot of the time i think i am dumb i never had a good grade at school and i always chased the easy way possible but want thing that i learned is that its hard to be normal than being smart or dumb so be urself and nothing else really matters at all.
Since watching some of your videos discussing depression, I spoke to my doctor and we determined I'm not at risk, but he knows to keep an eye on it, and all because of you explaining
Constantly being aware of the significant biases and prejudices that 99,99% of people possess in everyday conversations creates an extremely painful barrier when you are the only one employing spotless logical reasoning.
Pile 1. I used to think every second i was in pain. Now i want to stop
Now my life has a lot more sense. My only friends are people that are way older then me ( I’m 15 and they’re 20) I’ve been with this group for years during summer and it’s the only place where I feel free to express myself without any issues whatsoever.
It’s hard. It’s really really hard. Everyone sees me as a walking brain and nothing more. I don’t want to be ‘the smart one’ and I end up depressed, anxious, withdrawn and left with Anhedonia. I think, because of it, no one pays compliments at all. They use me to ‘help’ with work; it’s happened so much that I’ve beaten people to the punch when they start conversation with me. And when I do open up it puts people off because they were wrong and they leave.
It's easy...Smart people are frustrated with all of the stupid people and there's nothing we can do about it. It gets depressing 😓
I heard a math teacher say once that she coasted easily through math classes in primary school and high school. It was not until she took advanced math classes in graduate school that she had to slow down, struggle, and really work. hard on the homework before her.
Me watching this knowing I'm not highly intelligent OR depressed
But if you are, i feel for you, i really do, and i hope it gets better for you
i can relate to it, i'm constantly getting asked 'oh, you think you're so smart right you said all of them stupid' but the mistakes they make is actually stupid. although i may sound arrogant it's my way of expressing myself. Through school life i also found it very hard to make friends as they think i'm too bossy but i just want to take the lead and complete the project to focus on others
Bro... I just found this channel and they uploaded half a minute ago?
A lot of people used to think I was a smart dude. Their words. Not mine. However, as soon as I started speaking out against mainstream narratives that seemed off I was quickly labeled dumb, ignorant, a conspiracy theorist. To go from the high of good social standing, to the the low of being a pariah has been quite an experience. I have lost my mind, but thankfully I lost a lot of the poisonous programming along the way, and I’m slowly able to rebuild my brain. Best wishes to you all. 🫂❤️🙏🏽
Had this happened to me awhile back. There was one guy in my class that's leftwing, and the only times where he wasn't calling me dumb and making a fool out of me to the whole class (they bought into it) for what I believed in, was when I was saying something he agreed with.. 🤦🤦
Yeah I relate to all of these and pairing it with being ASP, I feel the communication struggle. Even though that's a huge struggle for me I hate dealing with the expectations part. I'm already hard on myself, I don't need a multitude of pressures
"Harder to make friends with people their own age.'
That problem never goes away and the real problem with it as one grows older is that all the older people kick the bucket it first.
I have the worst time, trying to communicate with people. I keep thinking that they’re smarter than they are, and they’re just not. I have to hide away from society to keep from being destroyed by them. And on top of it all I’m so totally disappointed, and all my achievements, love to all and to all a good day.
Whenever i am not appreciated for the efforts i put in ..i tend to be hard on myself but even then when it doesn't work i feel very disappointed 😞
I think this is the issue i have the hardest time with ..
Pile 1 i think every second. I was feeling pain all the time. Now i want to stop
Me too have all this issues..i am trying to correct it after accepting myself as what i am ...but still this is a real struggle 🥺
This video makes you smarter
Ironic aint it?
If you are a highly intelligent person who is also considerate of other people's feelings, you would be careful not to come across as an arrogant and condescending know it all.
Meh, I think the last time I took an I.Q. test I got like a 70. I suffer from most of these things though, but then again, I suffer from just about everything, perhaps that disorder where you think you suffer from everything you hear. Negative attention seeking or something. I remember being frustrated at the test as a kid because I felt really inferior about it, and had to spend a ton of time trying to get over it. I think the worst thing I suffer from is the one with the soccer ball, being unable or unwilling to do something difficult due to being inexperienced with failure... But I fail a lot, and I lose a lot, so I dunno, perhaps boredom? I just find it really hard to stick with things and learn new skills if I'm not immediately good at them. Like talking less or more responsibly or something.
I kinda doubt that given that 70 is litteral mental retardation.
Do more intelligent people tend to be more depressed?
My own belief, based on personal experience is that there is a tendency. My attempt to explain why I feel low at times, not full depression thank goodness, led me to create this thought experiment.
Suppose you are a sheep that has been blessed/cursed with human level awareness. You look around and realize all the others that look like you are definitely not like you under the surface. They go about their days mindlessly eating and defecating and mating while you ponder the nature of your existence.
You have a very limited ability to interact with your environment due to a lack of opposable digits. There is no one to communicate with - all your people do is go baaaaaaa… you identify your human keepers as being more intelligent but they don't recognize your intelligence. And then you make the awful discovery that you and your people are being kept for your wool! You are rudely manhandled every year and left shivering after you are stopped naked. The indignity!
But then you notice that some of your people disappear never to be seen again… only to discover they are being taken as food! Your cries fall on deaf ears as they take more of your people away…
Horrifying? Absolutely! One of the surest ways to make a person of any gender or age or intelligence depressed is to make them aware of a tragedy or injustice that affects them emotionally while they are powerless to change it. It just so happens that more intelligent people tend to see more of these injustices around us yet we can't do much to change them. I still feel sadness when I see racism in action.
So it is possible that it's not computational intelligence that tends towards depression but rather a kind of social intelligence. To see beneath the surface of human interactions to understand the darker motivations that drive many of us, without being able to change it, that is quite possibly the burden that leads to depression.
Very well said. My version goes like this --> You acknowledge the world's generally full of greed and darkness, you understand there's a little light in all of it but to see that light and get to it ( an analogy for being content or happy with life) you need to physically and mentally distract yourself from everything going on in life. All around us there's corruption, bad people, traps meant to manipulate, sheep being farmed for wool, wolves eagles and bears keeping us in check... so your mood becomes affected and you start to lose hope. You identify the standards set to become successful but soon realize they're only set that high because most individuals aren't willing to go that far because in a sense it's just self torture and a game seeing how far you'll push yourself to be miserable. Then there's random sheep chosen out of the blue, one in millions gifted with specific traits that allow them to skyrocket to success, or mabye it wasnt any traits and they stepped on a specific patch of grass and fell into a money pit... meanwhile you get to watch it all happen and go nowhere. Self discipline ultimately becomes your number one focus, so you continue that path and you either burn out and give up or keep going strong.
Combine those thoughts with modern day issues involving politics, woke culture and the ongoing gender war as a young man just trying to survive... well let's just say if our species had less morality specifically enough to have a machine that slaughters you instantly like a blender I'd walk in and push the button after spending all my money and living great for a week.
It doesn't matter what you do, the eagles wolves and bears are always tracking you, whether you have wool or not they will find a way to force you to grow it. If not they'll make you miserable and full of regret for the rest of your existence. So you either give into society's standards or live a life of regret and loneliness.
The last one is the most relatable. I am not saying im some Albert Einstein however I do well in school and my projects at home. My supposed best friends adopted some anti-school and pro entrepreneur crap. Now when I hang out with them it feels like I am unwanted but they keep me for the ride just because I'm their old friend.
For example, they don't respect my decision to continue school and still study. They keep calling me a nerd and impaling I'm waisting my life, even tho I always make room for hanging out with them.
Sometimes they imply that they are smarter and more capable than me so they will critique me for the smallest things they don't follow. Adding anything to the conversation just results in them calling me a smart-ass, nerd or a geek. I told them that I'll cut them out if they continue like this and they said they'll change, it lasted for 2 weeks.
I still don't know if they're just a reflection of my actions, because I act almost the same with my other friends, who aren't like them, and they seem to have no problem with me (I even asked them).
Conclusion:
Anybody with slight intelligence should stay away from "energy vampires" and should surround themselves with people they're comfortable talking with.
It saddens me that I'm not highly intelligent, just above average, yet still experience a lot of the downsides of being highly intelligent
Having someone question me on my decisions. Still not understanding that every aspect you question me on has already been shredded, analyzed and found to be prudent. You will very rarely find an aspect I've missed.
i can relate to all of them, but i found a way to deal with number 4: find joy in non-intellectual things and adjust your definition of intelligence.
finding joy in non-intellectual things is something i'm pretty sure everyone, no matter how intelligent, can do and is doing in one way or another. you don't need high-concept media or elaborate puzzles to have fun. and just because you enjoy something because you can analyze it to death, doesn't mean you can't connect with those who "just" enjoy it because it's cool. and some stuff just isn't intellectual at all but still one hell of a fun time. and a lot of those things are great to connect with people all across the spectrum of intelligence.
adjusting your definition of intelligence sounds tricky and like cheating, but it's not that hard (still feels like a nice little cheat for life, though). if you just go by raw intelligence, you can find yourself separated or above others because of some number, which can be quite isolating and harmful. a definition that works better for me is based on curiosity, open-mindedness and not needing to always be correct. you can have the highest IQ in the world, but if you don't doubt yourself, you're still dumber than someone who's willing to reevaluate their thoughts and opinions. defining people's intelligence by this instead of some ultimately arbitrary measure of intelligence gets you way better intellectual stimulation and allows for a great exchange of ideas. and if you're highly intelligent, you're probably gonna have a lot of fun in that.
Worst is my problem with not making friends and my high expectations !
Think about it as a treassure quest where the true friends will be that one treassure. Surely you'll find some, don't worry :)!
"the more you understand certain things ,the more you wish you didn't understand them". charles bukowski
I'm experiencing all of these problems at a time. I don't know why, but sometimes I feel my friends r jealous of my achievements and they tend to cut me off at times. When they need help in anything, I don't even miss the slightest detail and I make sure they understand everything. But when it comes to me? Well, it's completely the opposite. They don't help me in anything. And when I score better than someone, it's always those "friendly" taunts that hurt me. I'm a very sensitive person. And despite knowing that, they still tend to hurt me. And I was literally blaming myself for the way they treated me. But now, I'm starting to realize that it's not the problem with me... they just don't want to see me succeed. Kinda hurts after realizing everything :/
Interesting. I have been a piano teacher for many years and I have noticed that there are some very clever students who give up after about Grade 1, when the learning process requires more muscle training (ie practising) than brain work. They are too accustomed to their brains giving them easy success and have never learned how to slog.
I was just watching another video of yours! Glad to see a new video!
Physical movement skills are different than communication and reading skills. Yes, I agree with you that the bookworm or the chemistry lab whiz may be mystified and bewildered when trying to play that game with the round black and white ball [ called either football or soccer ].
IQ is not intelligence, it is a measure for intellect. Intelligence is more than just intellect…
I feel like there are diffrent levels of consciousness making you more aware and more depressed
I tend to notice inconsistencies other miss. (As kid I was often expected not to notice certain details).
Simplifications being acceptable inconsistencies were particular struggle for me.
At least 3 out of the 4, because I don't really feel too accustomed to success(although maybe that's related to how I had to repeat my senior year) &my high expectation, that I'll finally get responses to my deviantart posts/almost any random post that I make,
this video should be renamed to : Calling out Cole for 6 Minutes
this video basically called me out on every way possible 💀